I love how Ludwig goes from "I had an indoor pool" to, "my dad died", and then to "3.0 GPA" as if it's not at all important to know that he had an indoor pool.
With the way his cadence he seems like he always wants to be in funny/charismatic streamer mode ready to tell the next joke. For most of it he seems strangely positive and un-relatable
That’s the whole point though right? As Dr.K put it , coming up for air. A simple laugh to cool the tension and release some emotion. It’s there to make you more comfortable
I'm not even halfway through the video, but it's so fascinating to see Dr.K slowly disarm Ludwig, even when Ludwig started giving involuntary reflexes to guard himself. Dr.K was able to do so in a way that could point Ludwig to what he was doing without being insulting. Kudos to him for being able to maneuver so efficiently, but doing so with empathy. And kudos to Ludwig for being open and allowing himself to be vulnerable.
@@AstonCulf That’s my life…John’s literally everywhere, throughout high school / college / work - mainly just results in lots of confusing interactions (thinking someone’s talking to you, but another John). Although that said, I do like the name, am used to it and couldn’t imagine changing it. Just a little insight into the world of ‘John’s 🤗
This video is actually really interesting. As a person who goes to therapy, this is a real eye opening experience. It's not often that you'll see another person open up about their problems. I do really like this.
I recommend watching the full thing on healthy gamers yt there is a lot that got cutout that is really cool that they talked about. Dr k had some interesting ideas when Ludwig asked him about death
Honestly, I talk like that with my therapist, and it's extremely freeing. I'm not into twitch culture, I talk like a stoner hippie a lot, and being able to just speak freely with my therapist and let them ask whenever they need clarification means I don't have to pre-emptively "translate" my emotions.
@@-VexyRS haha me too. I'm 20, my therapist is a few years older than me. We kind of exist within the same generational culture so i can speak like an idiot to her and she'll get it
Lmao I'm just laughing that at the beginning of the video he was like "yeah, QT actually needs to see you, but I'm fine." after watching this I think the difference might just be that QT has more self-awareness about her problems.
"When someone dies, it's a constant war to keep them in your lives for as long as you can, and you can't because you will lose to time every time." Uh, damn, did not expect Lud to be able to whip out some deep ass shit like that on the fly wtf
I feel that people who can make jokes in an instant and lighten up the mood usually think a lot more about things than they show, and this most likely wasn't the first time he thought about this.
@@cmd0113 i consider myself a fairly funny person, ive been through some really shitty things tho. But its made me understand what jokes people are comfortable with, and what i should say. Offensive jokes are fine sometimes but being edgy isn’t that funny to everyone so i think being funny is more about saying the appropriate thing at the appropriate time to lighten the mood. Something i think Lud does perfectly and what makes me look up to him
My father passed away a couple months ago due to cancer. For context, I’m 20 years old so definitely more developed and capable to handle trauma than a ten year old, but still it sucked. Actually, today his obituary was posted in the newspaper in his hometown. Anyways I found this conversation between you and Dr. K extremely relatable and that we both had a very similar coping experience with the situation that we were dealt with. It was easy to close my eyes and superimpose myself into the discussion and pretend that I was the patient. Honestly, this conversation helped me a bunch and helped ease some of my pent up sadness. I already planned to go see a therapist at my uni because its free and why not, but after watching this, it solidified my decision and gave me some urgency to make an appointment. Thank you! **Edit** Thank you for everyone’s support and good will towards this post. I also want to thank those who were brave enough to share their stories and experiences too. On a final note, I want everyone to know that there is always someone who cares about them no matter how sad or depressed they are feeling.
Lost my dad when I was 14 so I understand the middle ground. Being a teenager losing such an important figure in my life destroyed me. So now I’ve been talking to psychologists for 8-9 years at this point. I love it when others are comfortable talking about the difficulties of life, it helps. You’ll hear this a lot. But it does get better.
I lost my father at 17 and It's just always hard. But I completely agree, I was able to think of my own responses to his questions regarding his dads death and I've kinda played with the idea of going to a psychologist but this just really cemented my decision. I'm 22 now but haven't realised how much pent up feeling I have about the whole thing. Really great video for everyone and especially those who have experienced grief.
I love how at one point Dr. K is like "so you think people with anxiety are more deserving of therapy than someone who's dad died tragically of alchoholism when they were very young" and lud just agrees with him
@@seeksolace2059 Oh god you just hit a spot deep in my soul. I think a lot of people have it a lot worse than I do. I'm a bit like Lud where I feel like I don't necessarily have the right to complain about my life being "hard" when I actually have it a lot easier than other people. It's a habit I'm trying to break but it's still tough, you know?
@@pleng5178 I agree with you because I tend to get into that mindset myself. I often wonder If its a defense mechanism for suppressing my emotions. I'm not afraid to admit that I was dealing with some personal stuff a few days ago, and I had to go take a shower to cry for a bit. It felt good to not bottle my emotions
@@seeksolace2059 It's really great that you're acknowledging your emotions and letting yourself be sad. Crying is honestly the best way to just get everything out of your system. I'm proud of you!
Normalize sure however I think a lot of people make a large deal about therapy when in cases, well therapy isn't for everyone and also affordability is a large factor
All jokes aside, it breaks my heart that guys like Ludwig carry this kind of "I don't deserve taking up a therapist's time" sentiment with them. It's not a matter how who has it worse-- everybody deserves therapy. Ludwig's problems are just as important as someone severely depressed; he would deserve therapy even without his heavy history, and so would all of us.
It's definitely a masculinity thing, because a lot of men, including me, struggle with feeling weak for accepting help. It also sounds like that pattern from his dad rubbed off on him.
@@lauridscm1 Same. Also because of this we tend to unload a lot of our shit to our female partners which is unfair cause then they then have to be our therapist and take care of our mental health, which is not only simply not their job but also they are going through pretty similar problems themselves. Being conscious of this puts you in a very tricky position as well where you're too "scared" to take therapy and too careful to not put the burden of therapy on your significant other. I just wish we all men could be emotional around each other at least sometimes. I think that would solve so many of our problems.
Thank you for saying this. This video made me heavily reflect on how minimizing I’ve been with myself. I’ve always felt like a burden to therapists but I have slowly realized I’m deserving of it like anyone is.
I haven't watched the whole video, but it just hit me that it possibly is a reflection of an unconcious belief that he didn't deserve having more time with his dad, or that he wasn't good enough to have more time with him... I also thought that maybe he became the "funny guy" as that was what his dad would have liked.
Jeez says he's not deserving of therapy or having a session yet then tells us a childhood of having a dead alcoholic father, I think he deserved to talk about it and figure out some past stuff with Dr. K. Very good episode.
I found it really interesting since i did the same thing for a long time. I had some trauma growing up, but kinda got through to a point were it didnt affect my mental health anymore. So for a long time, i thought that i wouldnt go to therapy since there were so many people having it way worse and needing the help more. But the fact is that even though there might be many having it way worse, it is perfectly fine to go to theraphy and work on your problems, big or small.
The only reason he thinks he doesn't deserve it is because he was strong enough to keep walking, if he met someone who had the exact same upbringing but wasn't able to progress after that he'd immediately say they deserved therapy. It's sound logic if you look at it from surface level but no matter how well you grow from a tragic situation like that there's always gonna be a little mess in the corner of your mind you didn't clean and if that goes unchecked it can become dangerous. This is why nearly everyone should go to therapy if they can.
This is pretty amazing and brave to basically get into the underbelly of your life live on stream. I'm a 21 y/o college kid and Lud this stream is for sure your most impactful for me. If you can broadcast a therapy session to 20k people and upload it to 1.26M people I can do therapy too.
I concur with your statement and I feel as if I need a complete life revamp, and I feel like I've wasted 21 years of my life already. I dont wanna waste any more time.
@@Juan-xn8ef that's literally makes no sense. I was just talking about how time is precious and I need to work harder and do things differently. How does that suggest to you that I need therapy?
@@seeksolace2059 If you feel like you ''need a complete life revamp'', it's very hard to do that on your own. If you can learn to do things differently on your own, great! But most of the time that turns out to be very hard for people because of habbits they built up in life. A therapist's job is to help you figure out who you are (=what habbits you built up), what life you want to have, and how you can change habbits to get closer to the life you want.
I had just started crying and then Dr K went for a tissue... The thing with "having gone trough some rough times as a kid but overall having had a good childhood and much to be grateful for, and thus not feeling deserving of attention or help" really hit home. I mean, it was a major theme in my 3 years of therapy and still... Everyone deserves mental health, get help sooner rather than later, friends.
This should show everyone that people are complicated. It's obvious once someone says it, but it's often very hard to imagine the trouble that most people have throughout their life.
@@Anthony-Viincent it doesnt, what you just said might be considered a protagonist syndrome, a very interesting and common problem that i didnt even think about until i saw a video from vsauce
@@panz.564 But I understand this too, isn't it just being able to be in someone elses shoes? For me though it can be a problem because I can feel so bad for someone I can start to feel how they feel.
@@ryanbarros7583 If Among Us has taught us anything it's that empaths aren't real. You can have a high amount of empathy and imagination of experience based on what you've been presented but no one really actually feels what another person feels
I’m a therapist myself, not a psychologist (though I have a degree in psychology) but an occupational therapist. For whatever reason I have these sorts of discussions a lot and it’s so affirming to see that Dr. K went down almost all the same roads that I identified I would go down. I really hope Lud uses his strategies and learns to live with the uncomfortable in between.
Do you think Lud is focused on parasocial relationships because he fears his relationship with his dead father is also a parasocial relationship in that it is one way and unreciprocated?
I can't begin to say how valuable I found this stream. I have been struggling with this idea to get into therapy, I'm 35 and after watching this, I am now the most comfortable with that idea then I have ever been
therapy is so worth the shot. it helps so much. i really hope that someday, hopefully someday soon, you try it out :) therapy is normal and it’s a really respectable thing!
My dad died when I was 15. Im 18 now and this video made me realize a lot. If you ever need someone to talk to thats not a ✨ Parasocial Relationship ✨ Don't hesitate to reach out bro.
Hey man, I am so glad you were able to find help, it sounds so painful to go through something like that, if you need any help just tell me and I'm down to talk. I hope it gets better from here man.
Those moments like when Ludwig notices he became a class clown after his dad died or when the parasocial relationship increases when he didn't "come up for air"/light-hearted banter is one of the reasons I like being a trainee counsellor. When you let clients realise big connections about themselves that was unconscious before is quite freeing.
This was a genuinely fantastic video, I'm 25 too and my dad passed away from cancer a couple of years ago. I feel the same, the whole 'I'm not allowed to complain' thing cause I know others have had it worse, I had more than 20 years with my dad and grew up in a middle class, 2 parent family too. I guess it was refreshing to hear that it's valid to feel thankful for the time but also upset/angry that the time was cut short. Thanks man.
@@thatsquintnoisefromspongeb5119 Super sorry to hear, hope you're doing okay, as I'm sure you're aware it doesn't get 'easier' but you learn to live with it. Keep on keeping on. :)
my aunt passed away a bit over a year ago from her third time with cancer and it fucking sucks but i still feel like im not allowed to complain becuase my life is fine.
This was a great watch. I've always known that you're a pretty strong willed, intelligent guy, but hearing how you articulate certain feelings and the comfort you have to talk about your past with some levity was refreshing and even a little inspiring. Thank you for sharing this with us!
This was a lovely chat. His energy is infectious when he does come up for air, but I must say, he is quite insightful and equally as charming when he stays underwater.
already watched the vod on twitch, it was a very interesting discussion although, difficult to listen to at times, because i also lost my dad at a very young age i can imagine how hard it was for ludwig to talk about it, especially since he wants to keep his streamer persona separate from his personal life nevertheless, it just made me appreciate lud even more thank you for this 🖤
omg you replied! are we... friends now? 👉👈 but seriously, i'm surprised you're actually reading the comments, especially since there's so much spam today please don't mind them, this stream was very well received judging by the comments under dr k's video, your viewers will appreciate it as well!
This stream made me realise how much I want to at least look into being a therapist in college. Also good shit Lud for being brave enough to livestream a therapy session like that
I'm 26, lost my dad to alcohol when i was 10. It's weird, time flies.. But we see the world in a completely different way than others, we sadly learned from a young age what life is and what it does. Idk, keep on keeping on
It’s amazing after what he went through, how he’s is such a good spirited person. Thankful for all the laughs lud. I’m grateful that you didn’t go down a darker path.
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This was great. An odd thing that occurred to me was that the kind of relationship we might form with a deceased loved one would technically be a "parasocial" one.
Hmm I dont think so. Because you had a relationship with a deceased loved one. Where a parasocial relationship is more forming a 1 way relationship for someone you dont really know and specifically from a audience perspective to mass media. So it's not really accurate to say that but there would be overlap in some of the behaviour perhaps
Oh ive absolutely had this thought before. My Chinese relatives even encourage me to frequently talk to her spirit. I feel like its inevitable that if im emotionally hurting the first thing i reach for is a fictional character because we'd "talk" in the same way.
This made me see therapy and therapists in a whole new light. I went to a therapist for a little while when my parents divorced but it was court ordered and I didn't want to go. I wasn't in the right headspace for it then and wasn't cooperative. I guess what I'm saying is that I had a really unhealthy childhood and I'm finally ready to talk to a therapist if it will help me. I genuinely think I need it
actually really appreciate when streamers do this stuff, watching xQc and then now watching Lud actually sit down and take something like this seriously is pretty important for a lot of people who feel weird about seeking help, i've always felt really uncomfortable asking for help with stuff like this, but it helps when it's normalised by people with big platforms, not as much stigma
"someone else had it worse" is really telling, i feel that with my own depression so to hear it from another is something else, its always "someone else had it worse"
Never have I ever realized how much a Therapist can help until this video. I have always been scared to reach out because even though I have had moments in my life that I haven't felt okay, I never really thought I deserved one. As in there are people who are struggling more than I am, so therapists time should be available for those people. But seeing Ludwig who said he was happy get so deep in life in such of a comforting way makes me realize that therapy isn't only helpful to people who are in the worst condition. This can be life changing for literally anyone!
but my thing is this isn’t literally anyone. this is someone who literally watched his dad coughing up blood for his entire childhood and die.. Like i guess i can see where you’re coming from but he had a very short childhood. when something like that happens i feel like it opens your mind up reaaallly quick and your childhood is over. I feel personally like he definitely is someone that should be in therapy. I still feel the way you say you used to feel because in a way I do think I have had issues in the past which affect me even today but I just don’t see the need for me to talk to a therapist… but then again, here I am. Not sure how I feel actually.
"It's a constant war when someone dies to keep them as much as you can in your life and you can't because you'll lose to time every time." Man.. that made me cry pretty hard pretty quick.
"I'm guessing you don't drink-" "I do a classy once a week" "You do a what?" "A classy once a week." "...What's a classy" "Like a classy once a week drink" "Wha-What does that mean?" "Like, You know! Just like a classy one. It's not early and often. I'll just do like once a week. Just have my classy drinks and move on with the rest of my week" "..............ok....." that was a beautiful clip 50:05
@@elliottheredd To me it's about our mortality and how our abilities along with other things degrade through time. In the context of Lud it's about how some of his memories with his dad were lost because that's just what happens through time. Another example is how you can do a lot of things normally now, but eventually you will past to a point where you slowly lose everything you can do as time pass by.
Dr. K is really good at his job, the way he makes you explain everything is a tactic, it is not only to actually understand what you are saying but it also gets you to speak your thoughts which will help yourself understand. Sometimes you have the answers right in front of you, you just haven't thought it through and pieced it together, he literally just pushes you to put it together. Good video.
I don’t want to offend people, but I think that possibly people dm him the same way that they might pray to god or send a letter to Santa. They really want something and they know that they probably won’t get a response, but they’ll still say it just because I think it kinda feels good to say something and feel like maybe someone will listen or someone might see it. You don’t really want a response you just want to get it out there.
I entirely agree with this statement. I have never done anything like this (probably because I don't have any social media besides youtube) but I think that if I was to do it that would be the mindset I would be in.
Not really... But I understand where you are coming from. The reason most people pray is mostly because they want something out from it. They wouldn't pray just because. Of course there are some exception, but hey everything has one right?
Venting into the void can be very liberating, so that makes a lot of sense. Knowing that he won't actually listen, but still using him as a catalyst to talk would explain why people would DM him. Or just shooting your shot yknow, that makes sense too.
I kinda feel like this gives a lot of insight into the "i'm not your friend" video. You see yourself more as a comedian and character than a streamer. Probably has to do with your audience being SO large too compared to other steamers that can really get to know certain usernames in their chat to some degree. Makes a lot of sense to me now that I am seeing it that way.
Great vid Lud, you make all of our lives so much better just from a livestream/video, idc about the whole parasocial thing bc your honestly my inspiration for being the person I am to this day. I really appreciate the things you’ve done and hopefully succeed a lot more than you’ve have already. Thanks for the daily vids man, honestly man, thanks
this is making me miss therapy. as hard as it is to say that I did therapy "wrong," I really did. I expected to go and get "fixed." I never really opened up as myself, and listening to this is night and day from my experiences. I was in such a bad headspace then, I had the wrong expectations of myself and kinda still do now, and I wanna take another shot at opening up to a professional.
Thank you both for this. It’s very interesting to see someone else in a therapy session, I like ludwigs outlook; about death and the past. It’s something I’ve struggled with all of my life, the dwelling on the past which has stopped me moving forward in times of my life. It’s interesting to see how someone else copes with life and death.
Ludwig I think it’s awesome that you’re putting this on your TH-cam. Being able to be so personal in front of a ton of people really sets a great example for people being open about their mental health. 👏👏👏
As a person with somewhat of a great childhood and other issues, this type of session made me realize some stuff that maybe I forgot to recognize. I think Lud needs a session off-stream, having chat right there affect how you interact and open up towards other people. But overall was a Pog video, thanks for normalizing therapy.
I say this with complete sincerity, and I don't believe that I'm alone: I would love for content involving this side of Ludwig to become more regular. This is really cool, and not an easy thing to do. Pog
This video broke my heart. You’re deserving of this place Lud, you always will be, as much as you deserve to be sad and deserve to be happy. I hope you can recognise this someday. We love you.
The topic of death really resonated with me, thank you for opening up about that as it's something that definitely haunts me and I try not to think about too much but I feel much better personally thinking about it to myself and even going over it with my own friends and family. Hope this stream/video was comfortable and helpful for you. Thanks Lud!
I personally think it shows how empathetic Ludwig is because he is worried that he's not capable of reaching out to his audience in the way that a good friend can. It's impossible for him to read all DMs, and to really solve anyone's problems, of course, but it's nice that he cares at all.
My dad is getting on in years and listening to Ludwig talk about his dad dying in such a nonchalant way almost made me cry. Really educational video, thanks for posting.
Hello comment section, and Ludwig if you happen to see this. My dad got cancer 5 years ago and is still hanging on, but it’s been a tough fight. I want everyone to know that shit will happen, and the world will keep spinning. Ludwig shows us that. I can’t imagine what he went through after his dad passed away, and yet he has grown into a successful adult. No matter what happens, you can get through it. To anybody reading this, don’t give up, whether it’s COVID, cancer, addiction, or anything else. Stay safe, and stay well.
I could relate to a lot of the experiences I've had in therapy with just the short amount you spent with this. Like him pointing out you making a joke to lighten the mood or if you felt uncomfortable. I remember feeling the exact same emotion I saw on you when he pointed it out. Was kind of refreshing to see others not being so different when barriers get dropped.
Omg I can’t believe of all vids this is the one that’s gonna get spammed with “it is truly disgusting, that some “people” would do this horrible thing”
@@aarni4819 they were super prominent when the video first came out and it was top comment with 100+ likes for a while, hence the comments (including mine).
@@MrBestinhalo yeah but that was when it first came out, the first comments are never the best bruv you gotta wait for that shit to filter out over like an hour or 2 and then if you still see those comments then you can complain tf
I watched the VOD of the whole session and this really helped me. The talk about death really helped me deal with the fear of death. Thanks Dr. k and thanks Ludwig for opening up! This should be normalized ❤️
for everyone wondering the jschlatt joke is this whole truly disgusting thing, just wasted like half of my life trying to figure out what this fucking meme text was
i don’t understand what the copy pasta is even in reference to, i get that it’s from a jshlatt video, but what’s the significance of commenting it on this video? it’s just not funny.
@@gx_soloman6691 Nah it’s not about Carson, it’s about how schlatt is against wiping standing up. Someone commented it on his video and it took off from there.
I’d like to say thank you to Ludwig for this video. This actually has made me realize that seeing a therapist is something I really need. It’s great to see one of my favorite content creators making this more normalized since I don’t really see this. Again, thanks Lud. WidepeepoHappy
This made me realize how much I "need" to go to a therapist or someone like that to talk to. Thank you, Lud & Dr. K. I really appreciate this video (in a platonic way, dw Lud)! :)
i am the same age as ludwig and have been watching youtube and streams for a bit of time; and i’ll tell you that no other streamer or youtuber has been able to make a connection with the audience (me) then lud. i genuinely think it’s ludwigs charismatic persona and himself as a person that makes people think that there is some sort of relationship.
i think the reason we come to you is that you're a twitch streamer, not just a youtuber. when youtubers post content, its usually 20 min a week and we don't feel like we know them personally. so regarding youtubers, we view them as entertainers. but with you and other streamers, when we're watching you unedited for 10 hours straight a day, we feel like we actually know you guys. i didnt used to watch twitch before quarantine, but its currently my gap year and have nothing better to do, and i feel like i know u personally now and way more than other youtubers whom ive been following for years now. and right now during quarantine especially, when social interaction in real life is way less, people are resorting to forming close relationships with those streamers they watch as a form of escape from this sucky year in which our real life relationships are less prominent.
As a 42 years old gamer and also hobbyist streamer and mother of a 5 year old, I hope my son will have the same maturity as Ludwig at 25. And of course I understand after that show, that he went through a big life event but still. Ludwig, you will do great in life 🤟
Hey so I really just needed this today I think. My brother has passed away 5 years ago and during these days I try to remember him a lot. Found out yesterday I couldn't recollect his voice, and it frustrated me so much. That piece about fighting against time, and losing them more and more piece by piece really resonated with me. Thanks Ludwig
Ludwig’s minimizing of his past trauma made me think of my own minimizing of my own problems. I also heavily use humor to deflect and minimize. This video was so insightful for me. Ludwig your problems are real and valid. And they don’t conflict with your gratitude. Balance is appreciating what we have but also how what we didn’t have hurt us.
This past year made me attend therapy for the first time in my life. My Dad passed away when I was 12, and I only recently learned that he was an alcoholic. It was post-operative sepsis that he never got treated for, thanks to negligence from both him and the nurses. I never knew as a kid. So that dredged up a lot of feelings I haven’t felt for a while. I think this video sends a powerful message about how therapy is something normal, and it doesn’t make you weak or lesser. I think you’ve done a great thing Ludwig.
Am currently 21 my dad also passed away a couple months ago from a sudden intense heart attack. I ended up doing CPR for 25 minutes straight till the parametics arrived, but he was already gone I think by the time I found him, only could have been 10 minutes it really sucks. I didn't even get to say goodbye or spend some last moments with him shit breaks me down. no one should have to lose their parents and it's such a shitty thing to go through. Am still in a very rough spot atm already doing therepy myself to help deal with it. Currently dealing with with some minor PTSD, depression, and alot of emotional stuff to work through. Not sure when am supposed to get better and not sure if I ever will, I got a few things keeping me going atm and not getting stuck in bed with depression. To make my dad proud, my friends, to see my mom and my sister happy, and video games for the distraction or escape from thoughts. I just wanted to share and I wish you the best and am very sorry for everyone who had to go through losing a parent at any age, shit is the toughest thing to go through. Wishing everyone to find Hope and a bright future. And to seek help when needed.
Ludwig, this video is honestly SO COOL and felt like a privilege to watch. I have my own massive issues regarding parental death, so it’s incredibly reassuring to know what you have gone through but to also see that you’re still okay. Big respect to you
I'm REALLY late to this party... a year late, in fact. I am a therapist (since 2013), and I found this conversation heartwarming. You are a good guy, Ludwig. You don't owe anyone anything. Learning to sit in the uncomfortable inbetween is so valuable. I really like that Dr. K used his wisdom to demonstrate the idea of "both AND" rather than "this OR that." Brilliant, insightful discussion. Thanks for being vulnerable and real, Ludwig. I'll keep watching you, especially on Mogul Mail. You're da man bro.
My aunt died recently. I’m scared that I’ll lose what little time I spent with her, and those small moments that I’ve treasured for so long. I don’t have any items from her except for a couple pictures here and there, but it still hurt when she died, because she made such an impact on my life, I don’t want to lose the small memories that I have of her.
Even if you lose the memories the impact she has had on you as a person will never be lost. Who you are and who you become will always be there and that will be the piece you carry with you forever.
one thing that might help is writing. you can try to write, if you can remember that much. you can try and write down your feelings at the time and describe scenes as best as you can, where the memory happened, who was there, what was the weather like that day, etc. after writing it, keep the letter in a safe place. i do this sometimes when i'm having a hard time, and reading and looking back on things is very grounding and sparks a reflection on who i was and who i am today.
Wow this was amazing. It’s awesome to see someone that seems to have everything going for them still be able to learn. I’ve always felt like therapy isn’t for me because I’m not “broken” enough, but this showed that anyone can benefit from professional help. Thank you for doing this Lud you’re awesome ❤️
“Focusing on the positive doesn’t actually make the negative go away” Focusing on the positive is great, but this is right. Dwelling on the negative is not the same thing as immersing yourself in your sadness, grief, or pain in order to process it. Maybe Lud has already done that enough. But I think what Dr. K was trying to get to was that immersing yourself in how you feel about negative things, even things you can’t change, is not a waste of energy, like Lud said it was. The only way forward is through those feelings, so you’re going to have to be a downer sometimes in your life. You accept those feelings, and let your sadness and grief make you kinder and more empathetic on the other side. Lud saying he’s less deserving because it wasn’t that bad I think could indicate that he hasn’t let himself experience and process those feelings as much as he thinks. I can understand that, because how could he have felt allowed to when his mom and sister were going through the same thing as him? I would’ve felt like I have to stay positive and carry the people I care about through that. I would’ve felt like me being sad will make them even more sad, and they’re going to have to take care of me, then. Same thing with always trying to come up for air and keep it fun. He does it to take care of how others feel, rather than bring them down with his own heavy stuff. But Dr. K just wanted him to know he’s allowed to experience and process emotions, even if they’re “negative” and “nothing can change what already happened”.
This is the longest he has gone without saying “Twitch prime”
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Just imagine if he was like "one sec dr. K BOYs just check and see if you have a sup prime"
i think because he's not live when the interview?
@@scoradian Dr. K is a streamer though
@@ripjuicetoyoung9747 he did at the end of the interview
It’s okay Ludwig, I talk about our friendship with my psychiatrist weekly.
Ludwig loves me and always gives the best advice!
Me and Ludwig have a fun game where i count to ten, chase him, and he calls the police. I haven't won yet, but ill get him eventually!
Hes been my best bud since Highschool!
@@Christopher-ct1dw keep trying
@@Christopher-ct1dw laughing so hard at that
I love how Ludwig goes from "I had an indoor pool" to, "my dad died", and then to "3.0 GPA" as if it's not at all important to know that he had an indoor pool.
Yeah he jumped that pool thing WAY too quickly
They had us in the first half ngl.
This comment is the comment.
@@gregoryolenovich6440 Sure is a comment.
Damn it, my dad died and I didn't get a pool >:[
You gotta appreciate Lud’s positivity and his openness to talking about his issues. What a trooper
TriHard 7
Thanks
With the way his cadence he seems like he always wants to be in funny/charismatic streamer mode ready to tell the next joke.
For most of it he seems strangely positive and un-relatable
@@tyunpeters3170 for you maybe, i personally can relate a lot to it
@@tyunpeters3170 i relate to it a lot
"Dad died, high school was great"
I laughed more than I should have.
That’s the whole point though right? As Dr.K put it , coming up for air. A simple laugh to cool the tension and release some emotion. It’s there to make you more comfortable
@@80mbeats 😂 😂
I actually thought that was just sounds to fill space while thinking, like "da daaa"
Dark humor done well is the best humor.
Time stamp pls
I'm not even halfway through the video, but it's so fascinating to see Dr.K slowly disarm Ludwig, even when Ludwig started giving involuntary reflexes to guard himself. Dr.K was able to do so in a way that could point Ludwig to what he was doing without being insulting. Kudos to him for being able to maneuver so efficiently, but doing so with empathy. And kudos to Ludwig for being open and allowing himself to be vulnerable.
Yo, sick name dude, I wonder how it is for the Johns out there who see their name everywhere because this totally caught me off guard
@@AstonCulf That’s my life…John’s literally everywhere, throughout high school / college / work - mainly just results in lots of confusing interactions (thinking someone’s talking to you, but another John). Although that said, I do like the name, am used to it and couldn’t imagine changing it. Just a little insight into the world of ‘John’s 🤗
Yeah I was expecting him to point out how he copes in a polite way but he actually slowly guided him, that so much better
Damn you right, almost like he's a doctor or something
This video is actually really interesting. As a person who goes to therapy, this is a real eye opening experience. It's not often that you'll see another person open up about their problems. I do really like this.
Especially someone who doesn't recognize how things actually affected him
Dr.K has a whole channel like this. It's really good, recommend it.
Especially under the scrutiny of thousands of viewers
I recommend watching the full thing on healthy gamers yt there is a lot that got cutout that is really cool that they talked about. Dr k had some interesting ideas when Ludwig asked him about death
i was the 1000th like... your welcome :D
he’s been speedrunning since the shower races what a legend
the beginning of his speedrunning career
@@buffalobill7016 historians say he was the first ever speedrunner
@@Sadstr shower races are a speed run older than time. So old, most gamers have forgotten about them
We hope it wasn't an any% speedrun...
Lowkey 7 year old me did speedrun showering. I had a sub 1:00 100% run back in the day
Imagine being in actual therapy and telling your therapist: Yeah bro let's explore that, it'd be hype. Twitch makes everything so strange lmao
"And how does that make you feel?"
"Pretty poggers not gonna lie."
Honestly, I talk like that with my therapist, and it's extremely freeing. I'm not into twitch culture, I talk like a stoner hippie a lot, and being able to just speak freely with my therapist and let them ask whenever they need clarification means I don't have to pre-emptively "translate" my emotions.
@@-VexyRS haha me too. I'm 20, my therapist is a few years older than me. We kind of exist within the same generational culture so i can speak like an idiot to her and she'll get it
@@tinyybiceps oh that's cool
Lmao I'm just laughing that at the beginning of the video he was like "yeah, QT actually needs to see you, but I'm fine." after watching this I think the difference might just be that QT has more self-awareness about her problems.
"When someone dies, it's a constant war to keep them in your lives for as long as you can, and you can't because you will lose to time every time." Uh, damn, did not expect Lud to be able to whip out some deep ass shit like that on the fly wtf
that made me cry
I feel that people who can make jokes in an instant and lighten up the mood usually think a lot more about things than they show, and this most likely wasn't the first time he thought about this.
@@cmd0113 i consider myself a fairly funny person, ive been through some really shitty things tho. But its made me understand what jokes people are comfortable with, and what i should say. Offensive jokes are fine sometimes but being edgy isn’t that funny to everyone so i think being funny is more about saying the appropriate thing at the appropriate time to lighten the mood. Something i think Lud does perfectly and what makes me look up to him
That's the english major peaking through haha
@@theshosher Stop
My father passed away a couple months ago due to cancer. For context, I’m 20 years old so definitely more developed and capable to handle trauma than a ten year old, but still it sucked. Actually, today his obituary was posted in the newspaper in his hometown. Anyways I found this conversation between you and Dr. K extremely relatable and that we both had a very similar coping experience with the situation that we were dealt with. It was easy to close my eyes and superimpose myself into the discussion and pretend that I was the patient. Honestly, this conversation helped me a bunch and helped ease some of my pent up sadness. I already planned to go see a therapist at my uni because its free and why not, but after watching this, it solidified my decision and gave me some urgency to make an appointment. Thank you!
**Edit**
Thank you for everyone’s support and good will towards this post. I also want to thank those who were brave enough to share their stories and experiences too. On a final note, I want everyone to know that there is always someone who cares about them no matter how sad or depressed they are feeling.
Lost my dad when I was 14 so I understand the middle ground. Being a teenager losing such an important figure in my life destroyed me. So now I’ve been talking to psychologists for 8-9 years at this point. I love it when others are comfortable talking about the difficulties of life, it helps. You’ll hear this a lot. But it does get better.
💙
Me too dude but when I was 18, it only hit me when I was 21 though 1 day at uni
Loss is very difficult- I lost my brother a few years ago. I wish you well in finding your way. It sounds like you are halfway there already.
I lost my father at 17 and It's just always hard. But I completely agree, I was able to think of my own responses to his questions regarding his dads death and I've kinda played with the idea of going to a psychologist but this just really cemented my decision. I'm 22 now but haven't realised how much pent up feeling I have about the whole thing. Really great video for everyone and especially those who have experienced grief.
I love how at one point Dr. K is like "so you think people with anxiety are more deserving of therapy than someone who's dad died tragically of alchoholism when they were very young" and lud just agrees with him
I mean, "Ludwig's dad died tragically of alcoholism" is a classic good one, so
Jesus christ
I just need a clip of Dr. K saying "You are just as deserving as everyone else" to cry myself to sleep to.
Why do you feel like your aren't as deserving as other people pleng? Sorry if thats too personal?
@@seeksolace2059 Oh god you just hit a spot deep in my soul. I think a lot of people have it a lot worse than I do. I'm a bit like Lud where I feel like I don't necessarily have the right to complain about my life being "hard" when I actually have it a lot easier than other people. It's a habit I'm trying to break but it's still tough, you know?
@@pleng5178 I agree with you because I tend to get into that mindset myself. I often wonder If its a defense mechanism for suppressing my emotions. I'm not afraid to admit that I was dealing with some personal stuff a few days ago, and I had to go take a shower to cry for a bit. It felt good to not bottle my emotions
both of you are deserving of someone’s attention and love. I wish the best for you guys.
@@seeksolace2059 It's really great that you're acknowledging your emotions and letting yourself be sad. Crying is honestly the best way to just get everything out of your system. I'm proud of you!
Random comments aside, talking to a counselor, therapist should be normalized because you can understand yourself and others better
This was an amazing video, but I wish I could read more comments like this that are about the video and not whatever that “copy paste” comment is
It is truly disgusting, that some “people” would do this horrible thing.
@@SneakyPil yeah its cause jschlatt released a video about it and now people just want to be annoying
@@SneakyPil yeah this video is def not the place to spam this
Normalize sure however I think a lot of people make a large deal about therapy when in cases, well therapy isn't for everyone and also affordability is a large factor
All jokes aside, it breaks my heart that guys like Ludwig carry this kind of "I don't deserve taking up a therapist's time" sentiment with them. It's not a matter how who has it worse-- everybody deserves therapy. Ludwig's problems are just as important as someone severely depressed; he would deserve therapy even without his heavy history, and so would all of us.
It's definitely a masculinity thing, because a lot of men, including me, struggle with feeling weak for accepting help. It also sounds like that pattern from his dad rubbed off on him.
@@lauridscm1 I am dealing with a similar issue for me it was because I had to be strong for my mother and my sister.
@@lauridscm1 Same. Also because of this we tend to unload a lot of our shit to our female partners which is unfair cause then they then have to be our therapist and take care of our mental health, which is not only simply not their job but also they are going through pretty similar problems themselves.
Being conscious of this puts you in a very tricky position as well where you're too "scared" to take therapy and too careful to not put the burden of therapy on your significant other.
I just wish we all men could be emotional around each other at least sometimes. I think that would solve so many of our problems.
Thank you for saying this. This video made me heavily reflect on how minimizing I’ve been with myself. I’ve always felt like a burden to therapists but I have slowly realized I’m deserving of it like anyone is.
I haven't watched the whole video, but it just hit me that it possibly is a reflection of an unconcious belief that he didn't deserve having more time with his dad, or that he wasn't good enough to have more time with him...
I also thought that maybe he became the "funny guy" as that was what his dad would have liked.
Jeez says he's not deserving of therapy or having a session yet then tells us a childhood of having a dead alcoholic father, I think he deserved to talk about it and figure out some past stuff with Dr. K. Very good episode.
it hit me hard when dr K needed to take a moment after this
I found it really interesting since i did the same thing for a long time. I had some trauma growing up, but kinda got through to a point were it didnt affect my mental health anymore. So for a long time, i thought that i wouldnt go to therapy since there were so many people having it way worse and needing the help more. But the fact is that even though there might be many having it way worse, it is perfectly fine to go to theraphy and work on your problems, big or small.
The only reason he thinks he doesn't deserve it is because he was strong enough to keep walking, if he met someone who had the exact same upbringing but wasn't able to progress after that he'd immediately say they deserved therapy. It's sound logic if you look at it from surface level but no matter how well you grow from a tragic situation like that there's always gonna be a little mess in the corner of your mind you didn't clean and if that goes unchecked it can become dangerous. This is why nearly everyone should go to therapy if they can.
This is pretty amazing and brave to basically get into the underbelly of your life live on stream. I'm a 21 y/o college kid and Lud this stream is for sure your most impactful for me. If you can broadcast a therapy session to 20k people and upload it to 1.26M people I can do therapy too.
I concur with your statement and I feel as if I need a complete life revamp, and I feel like I've wasted 21 years of my life already. I dont wanna waste any more time.
Ludwig sets a great example for his viewers, I can't respect this man enough
@@seeksolace2059 that sounds like what you need to say to a therapist bro
@@Juan-xn8ef that's literally makes no sense. I was just talking about how time is precious and I need to work harder and do things differently. How does that suggest to you that I need therapy?
@@seeksolace2059 If you feel like you ''need a complete life revamp'', it's very hard to do that on your own. If you can learn to do things differently on your own, great! But most of the time that turns out to be very hard for people because of habbits they built up in life. A therapist's job is to help you figure out who you are (=what habbits you built up), what life you want to have, and how you can change habbits to get closer to the life you want.
I lost my brother a little over a year ago. This video helped me realize i need to go back go therapy to process this. Thank you Lud and Dr. K.
hope you are able to find some peace🖤
Sending love
u make me cry
@@Coffeeisnecessarynowpepper true
I hope you've found peace.
I had just started crying and then Dr K went for a tissue... The thing with "having gone trough some rough times as a kid but overall having had a good childhood and much to be grateful for, and thus not feeling deserving of attention or help" really hit home. I mean, it was a major theme in my 3 years of therapy and still... Everyone deserves mental health, get help sooner rather than later, friends.
Yes! Man that part was heartbreaking 😭
Everyone deserves mental health? Every single human on the planet has mental health lol is it good mental health? Bad mental health?
Ludwig: "One of those nerdy degrees"
Also Ludwig: *Has an english degree*
Great meme.
Let’s be real, what degree isn’t nerdy?
@@sohan8933 I've never seen an artsy person that isn't a nerd
even though they definitely exist I feel like art is still nerdy
@@internetguy7319 agreed
@@sohan8933 wouldn't agree. the humanities are within arts which includes translation study and linguistics and deconstructing language.
Amazing and insightful chat between two of the best on here
Hey its the funny retired man
Bro I am finding you everywhere now.
This should show everyone that people are complicated. It's obvious once someone says it, but it's often very hard to imagine the trouble that most people have throughout their life.
@@Anthony-Viincent it doesnt, what you just said might be considered a protagonist syndrome, a very interesting and common problem that i didnt even think about until i saw a video from vsauce
@@panz.564 But I understand this too, isn't it just being able to be in someone elses shoes? For me though it can be a problem because I can feel so bad for someone I can start to feel how they feel.
especially when talking about politics and people just sort of naturally go into a tribal mindset nowadays
@@fredrikaKH That sounds like the issues of an empath. Good luck, it’s tough to be an empath.
@@ryanbarros7583 If Among Us has taught us anything it's that empaths aren't real. You can have a high amount of empathy and imagination of experience based on what you've been presented but no one really actually feels what another person feels
I’m a therapist myself, not a psychologist (though I have a degree in psychology) but an occupational therapist. For whatever reason I have these sorts of discussions a lot and it’s so affirming to see that Dr. K went down almost all the same roads that I identified I would go down. I really hope Lud uses his strategies and learns to live with the uncomfortable in between.
Do you think Lud is focused on parasocial relationships because he fears his relationship with his dead father is also a parasocial relationship in that it is one way and unreciprocated?
I can't begin to say how valuable I found this stream. I have been struggling with this idea to get into therapy, I'm 35 and after watching this, I am now the most comfortable with that idea then I have ever been
therapy is so worth the shot. it helps so much. i really hope that someday, hopefully someday soon, you try it out :) therapy is normal and it’s a really respectable thing!
I don't know where to put this msg but my father died 2 years ago and seeing Ludwig talk with Dr.K helped me alot. Thank you.
My dad died when I was 15. Im 18 now and this video made me realize a lot. If you ever need someone to talk to thats not a
✨ Parasocial Relationship ✨ Don't hesitate to reach out bro.
Hey man hope all’s well
Hey man, I am so glad you were able to find help, it sounds so painful to go through something like that, if you need any help just tell me and I'm down to talk. I hope it gets better from here man.
@@ludwig wassup luddd
@@ludwig Thank you Lud
healthy gamers next video...
"I am not your therapist"
Thank god a comment that isn't talking about how truly disgusting some people are
@@blairwarner6702 It is truly disgusting, that some "people" would do this horrible thing.
@@madbov6106 stfu
@@madbov6106 Noooo, Noooo, Nooooooooooooo
Damn bro, I was wanting to see peoples opinions on this and its just a bunch of jschlatt memes, I love jschlatt but this ain't the place for it
Those moments like when Ludwig notices he became a class clown after his dad died or when the parasocial relationship increases when he didn't "come up for air"/light-hearted banter is one of the reasons I like being a trainee counsellor. When you let clients realise big connections about themselves that was unconscious before is quite freeing.
This was a genuinely fantastic video, I'm 25 too and my dad passed away from cancer a couple of years ago. I feel the same, the whole 'I'm not allowed to complain' thing cause I know others have had it worse, I had more than 20 years with my dad and grew up in a middle class, 2 parent family too. I guess it was refreshing to hear that it's valid to feel thankful for the time but also upset/angry that the time was cut short. Thanks man.
My dad passed away when I was 15 so I completely feel you. Being 18 now I see how true all of Lud and Dr.K's words really are. Hang in there dude.
@@thatsquintnoisefromspongeb5119 Super sorry to hear, hope you're doing okay, as I'm sure you're aware it doesn't get 'easier' but you learn to live with it. Keep on keeping on. :)
my aunt passed away a bit over a year ago from her third time with cancer and it fucking sucks but i still feel like im not allowed to complain becuase my life is fine.
This was a great watch. I've always known that you're a pretty strong willed, intelligent guy, but hearing how you articulate certain feelings and the comfort you have to talk about your past with some levity was refreshing and even a little inspiring. Thank you for sharing this with us!
This was a lovely chat. His energy is infectious when he does come up for air, but I must say, he is quite insightful and equally as charming when he stays underwater.
Loved the vid didn’t think I’d make it through the vid but it was actually really interesting
already watched the vod on twitch, it was a very interesting discussion
although, difficult to listen to at times, because i also lost my dad at a very young age
i can imagine how hard it was for ludwig to talk about it, especially since he wants to keep his streamer persona separate from his personal life
nevertheless, it just made me appreciate lud even more
thank you for this 🖤
Dead dad gang
omg you replied! are we... friends now? 👉👈
but seriously, i'm surprised you're actually reading the comments, especially since there's so much spam today
please don't mind them, this stream was very well received judging by the comments under dr k's video, your viewers will appreciate it as well!
👀
Tf did he just say dead dad gang...
@@davidd944 yeah Ludwig takes it very light hearted that his dad died. Probably to not let his personal life consume his streamer work
This stream made me realise how much I want to at least look into being a therapist in college. Also good shit Lud for being brave enough to livestream a therapy session like that
Do it! It gets more complex the older you get. Many colleges have free counseling!
You can do it, follow your dream. ^^
I lost my dad when I was 11 and I’m 21 now, when lud and dr k started talking about losing him piece by piece it made me burst into tears.
Im 14 now and my dad passed away when I was 9. It makes me so sad that it has only been 5 years and alot of memories of him are slowly going away.
I hope you are doing better now, keep strong.
I'm 26, lost my dad to alcohol when i was 10. It's weird, time flies.. But we see the world in a completely different way than others, we sadly learned from a young age what life is and what it does. Idk, keep on keeping on
It’s amazing after what he went through, how he’s is such a good spirited person. Thankful for all the laughs lud. I’m grateful that you didn’t go down a darker path.
This was great. An odd thing that occurred to me was that the kind of relationship we might form with a deceased loved one would technically be a "parasocial" one.
This is such an insightful thought. Memories are sometimes as much fiction as they are fact.
That is an amazing thought. After reading that I feel like it's very obvious and I'm wondering why that didn't occur to me. Great pattern recognition!
Hmm I dont think so.
Because you had a relationship with a deceased loved one.
Where a parasocial relationship is more forming a 1 way relationship for someone you dont really know and specifically from a audience perspective to mass media.
So it's not really accurate to say that but there would be overlap in some of the behaviour perhaps
Oh ive absolutely had this thought before. My Chinese relatives even encourage me to frequently talk to her spirit. I feel like its inevitable that if im emotionally hurting the first thing i reach for is a fictional character because we'd "talk" in the same way.
A lot of respect to Lud, that kind of thing isn't easy to open up about at any time. Big props
Smallwig asking "how many lives do we get it?" is the saddest image in my head
When is it
@@aravindramesh7869 34:30 :')
Dang man, I appreciate you being vulnerable. This was really cool to see from a third person perspective. More Journalism like this appreciated. XD
damn
“Is it okay to not go for the bars?”
honestly the way Dr. K keeps it comfortable and accessible is amazing.
This made me see therapy and therapists in a whole new light. I went to a therapist for a little while when my parents divorced but it was court ordered and I didn't want to go. I wasn't in the right headspace for it then and wasn't cooperative. I guess what I'm saying is that I had a really unhealthy childhood and I'm finally ready to talk to a therapist if it will help me. I genuinely think I need it
it's great that you're ready now, and going for it could really help. go for it and good luck!
actually really appreciate when streamers do this stuff, watching xQc and then now watching Lud actually sit down and take something like this seriously is pretty important for a lot of people who feel weird about seeking help, i've always felt really uncomfortable asking for help with stuff like this, but it helps when it's normalised by people with big platforms, not as much stigma
"someone else had it worse" is really telling, i feel that with my own depression so to hear it from another is something else, its always "someone else had it worse"
Never have I ever realized how much a Therapist can help until this video. I have always been scared to reach out because even though I have had moments in my life that I haven't felt okay, I never really thought I deserved one. As in there are people who are struggling more than I am, so therapists time should be available for those people. But seeing Ludwig who said he was happy get so deep in life in such of a comforting way makes me realize that therapy isn't only helpful to people who are in the worst condition. This can be life changing for literally anyone!
but my thing is this isn’t literally anyone. this is someone who literally watched his dad coughing up blood for his entire childhood and die.. Like i guess i can see where you’re coming from but he had a very short childhood. when something like that happens i feel like it opens your mind up reaaallly quick and your childhood is over. I feel personally like he definitely is someone that should be in therapy. I still feel the way you say you used to feel because in a way I do think I have had issues in the past which affect me even today but I just don’t see the need for me to talk to a therapist… but then again, here I am. Not sure how I feel actually.
"It's a constant war when someone dies to keep them as much as you can in your life and you can't because you'll lose to time every time." Man.. that made me cry pretty hard pretty quick.
"I'm guessing you don't drink-" "I do a classy once a week" "You do a what?" "A classy once a week." "...What's a classy" "Like a classy once a week drink" "Wha-What does that mean?" "Like, You know! Just like a classy one. It's not early and often. I'll just do like once a week. Just have my classy drinks and move on with the rest of my week" "..............ok....." that was a beautiful clip 50:05
Yeah, I was like "You're not really explaining anything, Ludwig" Lol
This was very Lul :)
"cause you will lose to time, everytime." holy fuck lud that stings.
How does that sting?
@@elliottheredd To me it's about our mortality and how our abilities along with other things degrade through time. In the context of Lud it's about how some of his memories with his dad were lost because that's just what happens through time.
Another example is how you can do a lot of things normally now, but eventually you will past to a point where you slowly lose everything you can do as time pass by.
@@Ohmemes Starting from 22:50
Dr. K is really good at his job, the way he makes you explain everything is a tactic, it is not only to actually understand what you are saying but it also gets you to speak your thoughts which will help yourself understand. Sometimes you have the answers right in front of you, you just haven't thought it through and pieced it together, he literally just pushes you to put it together. Good video.
I don’t want to offend people, but I think that possibly people dm him the same way that they might pray to god or send a letter to Santa. They really want something and they know that they probably won’t get a response, but they’ll still say it just because I think it kinda feels good to say something and feel like maybe someone will listen or someone might see it. You don’t really want a response you just want to get it out there.
I entirely agree with this statement. I have never done anything like this (probably because I don't have any social media besides youtube) but I think that if I was to do it that would be the mindset I would be in.
santawig
Not really...
But I understand where you are coming from.
The reason most people pray is mostly because they want something out from it.
They wouldn't pray just because.
Of course there are some exception, but hey everything has one right?
Dude he is a English professor, this is a run on sentence
Venting into the void can be very liberating, so that makes a lot of sense. Knowing that he won't actually listen, but still using him as a catalyst to talk would explain why people would DM him. Or just shooting your shot yknow, that makes sense too.
Ludwig asked Dr. K what a word means. Dr. K is now the english major
Does that mean Ludwig is a Dr
@@ybjtya4366 not anymore
Brother it was beholden to cmon man im a year 10 highschool drop-out and I know that
He wanted to know the context he was using it in.
I kinda feel like this gives a lot of insight into the "i'm not your friend" video. You see yourself more as a comedian and character than a streamer. Probably has to do with your audience being SO large too compared to other steamers that can really get to know certain usernames in their chat to some degree. Makes a lot of sense to me now that I am seeing it that way.
Great vid Lud, you make all of our lives so much better just from a livestream/video, idc about the whole parasocial thing bc your honestly my inspiration for being the person I am to this day. I really appreciate the things you’ve done and hopefully succeed a lot more than you’ve have already. Thanks for the daily vids man, honestly man, thanks
Whoah new comment, hello I haven’t read the comment yet but u seem cool
Hey bud I believe in you
@@ludwig this is poggers right lud?
@@ludwig are you his friend now?
i swear this is bouta blow up
"Wait ..I was 10 Doctor K"
This was sad and hilarious at the same time.
Yeah, copium is a hell of a drug.
this is making me miss therapy. as hard as it is to say that I did therapy "wrong," I really did. I expected to go and get "fixed." I never really opened up as myself, and listening to this is night and day from my experiences. I was in such a bad headspace then, I had the wrong expectations of myself and kinda still do now, and I wanna take another shot at opening up to a professional.
This was great. I love when Lud gets more serious. Dude is smart as fuck. Would be great if you had another talk
Really respect Ludwig for doing this, can tell he’s doing solid but it’s still healthy to have these conversations.
Thank you both for this. It’s very interesting to see someone else in a therapy session, I like ludwigs outlook; about death and the past. It’s something I’ve struggled with all of my life, the dwelling on the past which has stopped me moving forward in times of my life. It’s interesting to see how someone else copes with life and death.
Of course y'all choose a serious discussion video to start spamming
Ludwig I think it’s awesome that you’re putting this on your TH-cam. Being able to be so personal in front of a ton of people really sets a great example for people being open about their mental health. 👏👏👏
That was a hilarious and touching moment when Lud added 2 and 2 together regarding his father and interest in comedy.
As a person with somewhat of a great childhood and other issues, this type of session made me realize some stuff that maybe I forgot to recognize. I think Lud needs a session off-stream, having chat right there affect how you interact and open up towards other people. But overall was a Pog video, thanks for normalizing therapy.
I say this with complete sincerity, and I don't believe that I'm alone: I would love for content involving this side of Ludwig to become more regular. This is really cool, and not an easy thing to do. Pog
100%agree
@@yono1407 we'll have to see the community response to this kind of upload 👁️👄👁️
I agree
@@8oden well as far as I can see all the comments agree that they enjoyed this video
This video broke my heart.
You’re deserving of this place Lud, you always will be, as much as you deserve to be sad and deserve to be happy.
I hope you can recognise this someday.
We love you.
The topic of death really resonated with me, thank you for opening up about that as it's something that definitely haunts me and I try not to think about too much but I feel much better personally thinking about it to myself and even going over it with my own friends and family. Hope this stream/video was comfortable and helpful for you. Thanks Lud!
I personally think it shows how empathetic Ludwig is because he is worried that he's not capable of reaching out to his audience in the way that a good friend can. It's impossible for him to read all DMs, and to really solve anyone's problems, of course, but it's nice that he cares at all.
My dad is getting on in years and listening to Ludwig talk about his dad dying in such a nonchalant way almost made me cry. Really educational video, thanks for posting.
This was awesome to watch, meme comments aside Ludwig, I think this is your best video
Low key proud of my boi for talking about his problems that live, im scared just to talk to myself about my problems
Make it high key
Huge respect for Lud🔥
Tbh, this is an uncomfortable mix between wholesome and depressing, but, in the end, I absolutely loved this. Thank you so much for this, Lud.
Hello comment section, and Ludwig if you happen to see this. My dad got cancer 5 years ago and is still hanging on, but it’s been a tough fight. I want everyone to know that shit will happen, and the world will keep spinning. Ludwig shows us that. I can’t imagine what he went through after his dad passed away, and yet he has grown into a successful adult. No matter what happens, you can get through it. To anybody reading this, don’t give up, whether it’s COVID, cancer, addiction, or anything else.
Stay safe, and stay well.
Ludwig vents and tries to open up..
The whole comment section: “It is truly disgusting, that some “people” would do this horrible thing”
yeah wtf are these comments...
@@mattes4009 It's from schlatt's video
People need to now when to meme and when to not
@@justsomepleb4969 yeah, tbh Ive watched Ludwig for about 1-2 years and it was kinda cool to learn more about him
@@justsomepleb4969 yep bit of a weird time to meme
As someone going to therapy currently, mad props for BOTH talking about this kind of stuff live, and putting it on youtube.
I could relate to a lot of the experiences I've had in therapy with just the short amount you spent with this. Like him pointing out you making a joke to lighten the mood or if you felt uncomfortable. I remember feeling the exact same emotion I saw on you when he pointed it out. Was kind of refreshing to see others not being so different when barriers get dropped.
God I love therapy. It's so satisfying seeing people realize things about themselves. Thanks for being so vulnerable publicly Ludwig!
17:33 out of nowhere and *immediately* moving on. That cut to Dr. K was awesome
Omg I can’t believe of all vids this is the one that’s gonna get spammed with “it is truly disgusting, that some “people” would do this horrible thing”
I dont think everyone wants the stupid jshlatt comment on their videos especially as this is a more serious video.
I still havent seen one copypasta comment. I’ve only seen ppl complaining about them.
I guess they got lost in the comments
@@aarni4819 they were super prominent when the video first came out and it was top comment with 100+ likes for a while, hence the comments (including mine).
@@MrBestinhalo Ye that’s what I guessed
@@MrBestinhalo yeah but that was when it first came out, the first comments are never the best bruv you gotta wait for that shit to filter out over like an hour or 2 and then if you still see those comments then you can complain tf
I watched the VOD of the whole session and this really helped me. The talk about death really helped me deal with the fear of death. Thanks Dr. k and thanks Ludwig for opening up! This should be normalized ❤️
The schlatt joke is kinda funny but it feels odd when people are commenting it on this pretty serious video.
for everyone wondering the jschlatt joke is this whole truly disgusting thing, just wasted like half of my life trying to figure out what this fucking meme text was
joke isnt even funny
i don’t understand what the copy pasta is even in reference to, i get that it’s from a jshlatt video, but what’s the significance of commenting it on this video? it’s just not funny.
@@cb.on.yt22 i think it's a reply ab call me carson idk i remember watchin him play cod whislt talkin bout it
@@gx_soloman6691 Nah it’s not about Carson, it’s about how schlatt is against wiping standing up. Someone commented it on his video and it took off from there.
I love Ludwig's content. Incredibly funny and personable. This hands down has been the most entertaining watch yet.
Funniest moment ever: "Dad died. High School was great!" - Lud
And Dr K's visible shock
I’d like to say thank you to Ludwig for this video. This actually has made me realize that seeing a therapist is something I really need. It’s great to see one of my favorite content creators making this more normalized since I don’t really see this. Again, thanks Lud. WidepeepoHappy
This made me realize how much I "need" to go to a therapist or someone like that to talk to. Thank you, Lud & Dr. K. I really appreciate this video (in a platonic way, dw Lud)! :)
i am the same age as ludwig and have been watching youtube and streams for a bit of time; and i’ll tell you that no other streamer or youtuber has been able to make a connection with the audience (me) then lud. i genuinely think it’s ludwigs charismatic persona and himself as a person that makes people think that there is some sort of relationship.
i think the reason we come to you is that you're a twitch streamer, not just a youtuber. when youtubers post content, its usually 20 min a week and we don't feel like we know them personally. so regarding youtubers, we view them as entertainers. but with you and other streamers, when we're watching you unedited for 10 hours straight a day, we feel like we actually know you guys. i didnt used to watch twitch before quarantine, but its currently my gap year and have nothing better to do, and i feel like i know u personally now and way more than other youtubers whom ive been following for years now. and right now during quarantine especially, when social interaction in real life is way less, people are resorting to forming close relationships with those streamers they watch as a form of escape from this sucky year in which our real life relationships are less prominent.
As a 42 years old gamer and also hobbyist streamer and mother of a 5 year old, I hope my son will have the same maturity as Ludwig at 25. And of course I understand after that show, that he went through a big life event but still. Ludwig, you will do great in life 🤟
Hey so I really just needed this today I think. My brother has passed away 5 years ago and during these days I try to remember him a lot. Found out yesterday I couldn't recollect his voice, and it frustrated me so much. That piece about fighting against time, and losing them more and more piece by piece really resonated with me. Thanks Ludwig
Ludwig’s minimizing of his past trauma made me think of my own minimizing of my own problems. I also heavily use humor to deflect and minimize. This video was so insightful for me. Ludwig your problems are real and valid. And they don’t conflict with your gratitude. Balance is appreciating what we have but also how what we didn’t have hurt us.
i actually really like this it was nice to see a more personal side of lud
TriHard 7
This past year made me attend therapy for the first time in my life. My Dad passed away when I was 12, and I only recently learned that he was an alcoholic. It was post-operative sepsis that he never got treated for, thanks to negligence from both him and the nurses. I never knew as a kid. So that dredged up a lot of feelings I haven’t felt for a while. I think this video sends a powerful message about how therapy is something normal, and it doesn’t make you weak or lesser. I think you’ve done a great thing Ludwig.
psychologist: “Have you ever said I love you to a TH-camr”
Lud: no
Uh oh what about qt...
Long story short, lud’s still not our friend
But we need to accept that he is not beholden to our needs
You did it. Crazy sob
Am currently 21 my dad also passed away a couple months ago from a sudden intense heart attack. I ended up doing CPR for 25 minutes straight till the parametics arrived, but he was already gone I think by the time I found him, only could have been 10 minutes it really sucks. I didn't even get to say goodbye or spend some last moments with him shit breaks me down. no one should have to lose their parents and it's such a shitty thing to go through. Am still in a very rough spot atm already doing therepy myself to help deal with it. Currently dealing with with some minor PTSD, depression, and alot of emotional stuff to work through. Not sure when am supposed to get better and not sure if I ever will, I got a few things keeping me going atm and not getting stuck in bed with depression. To make my dad proud, my friends, to see my mom and my sister happy, and video games for the distraction or escape from thoughts.
I just wanted to share and I wish you the best and am very sorry for everyone who had to go through losing a parent at any age, shit is the toughest thing to go through. Wishing everyone to find Hope and a bright future. And to seek help when needed.
Ludwig, this video is honestly SO COOL and felt like a privilege to watch. I have my own massive issues regarding parental death, so it’s incredibly reassuring to know what you have gone through but to also see that you’re still okay. Big respect to you
i'll give him props, i definitely would of cried when he brought up that deserving thing.
I'm REALLY late to this party... a year late, in fact. I am a therapist (since 2013), and I found this conversation heartwarming. You are a good guy, Ludwig. You don't owe anyone anything. Learning to sit in the uncomfortable inbetween is so valuable. I really like that Dr. K used his wisdom to demonstrate the idea of "both AND" rather than "this OR that." Brilliant, insightful discussion. Thanks for being vulnerable and real, Ludwig. I'll keep watching you, especially on Mogul Mail. You're da man bro.
My aunt died recently. I’m scared that I’ll lose what little time I spent with her, and those small moments that I’ve treasured for so long. I don’t have any items from her except for a couple pictures here and there, but it still hurt when she died, because she made such an impact on my life, I don’t want to lose the small memories that I have of her.
Even if you lose the memories the impact she has had on you as a person will never be lost. Who you are and who you become will always be there and that will be the piece you carry with you forever.
one thing that might help is writing. you can try to write, if you can remember that much. you can try and write down your feelings at the time and describe scenes as best as you can, where the memory happened, who was there, what was the weather like that day, etc. after writing it, keep the letter in a safe place. i do this sometimes when i'm having a hard time, and reading and looking back on things is very grounding and sparks a reflection on who i was and who i am today.
Thank you guys very much. I really appreciate it (ToT)
Wow this was amazing. It’s awesome to see someone that seems to have everything going for them still be able to learn. I’ve always felt like therapy isn’t for me because I’m not “broken” enough, but this showed that anyone can benefit from professional help. Thank you for doing this Lud you’re awesome ❤️
“Focusing on the positive doesn’t actually make the negative go away”
Focusing on the positive is great, but this is right. Dwelling on the negative is not the same thing as immersing yourself in your sadness, grief, or pain in order to process it. Maybe Lud has already done that enough. But I think what Dr. K was trying to get to was that immersing yourself in how you feel about negative things, even things you can’t change, is not a waste of energy, like Lud said it was. The only way forward is through those feelings, so you’re going to have to be a downer sometimes in your life. You accept those feelings, and let your sadness and grief make you kinder and more empathetic on the other side.
Lud saying he’s less deserving because it wasn’t that bad I think could indicate that he hasn’t let himself experience and process those feelings as much as he thinks. I can understand that, because how could he have felt allowed to when his mom and sister were going through the same thing as him? I would’ve felt like I have to stay positive and carry the people I care about through that. I would’ve felt like me being sad will make them even more sad, and they’re going to have to take care of me, then. Same thing with always trying to come up for air and keep it fun. He does it to take care of how others feel, rather than bring them down with his own heavy stuff. But Dr. K just wanted him to know he’s allowed to experience and process emotions, even if they’re “negative” and “nothing can change what already happened”.
“Called him a pimple butt... should have seen him after that one” 😂