top 5 things that fuel the narcissist 1-adoration 2-appearance (superficial charm) 3-the way that you presented yourself to them 4-getting addicted to the narcissist 5-abuse cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
He sounds like a toxic narcissist. Are you single, if yes, are you single because you are a narcissist? Do you like adoration? Do you care about your appearance? Do you use makeup? Is that a superficial charm? He sounds crazy. 🙂
I'm trying to be nice to myself every day. For me, narcissist abuse has unfortunately made me feel lesser than everyone, I'm trying to change this. I want to reinvent myself and become a happy, beautiful woman.
That charm or allure you are speaking of is very real, and it’s demonic. That’s the Jezebel spirit in these people. That’s why people can’t place the attraction-it’s not human!
So true. At the end, when he was so blasted on drugs. The emptiness in the eyes. He was no longer there. And the laugh when I expressed my hurt. I will never be able to get that laugh out of my head.
Andrew was fired up today! Love these videos. I’ve been describing why I kept going back even though I knew we would just break up again or knew she was using me because it was an addiction. I was addicted to her and I would wait for her to call or text. Even now I wait for her 2nd hoover attempt. The addiction is wearing off slowly and I am becoming the 3rd version of myself. Stay strong everyone!
Keep going. When you go through so many cycles of devaluation and discard then coming back together you will realize one of it was real. Just like cutting out carbs or drugs or smoking, or anything else you know is nothing but harmful to you, you can overcome the addiction.
I am originally from Costa Rica. I just got out from 28 years of hell relationship with a sucker psychopath narcissist american. I just started my process of divorce and a great walk back to the best person one day I was. I'm not a victim. Instead, I'm a Victorious and dignified woman. I am and I will be better person than ever this sucker of my energy, time, ❤️ will get. Amen brother 🙌. Keep doing your information to educate us.
Thank you for your regular videos. I listen to them during the day, to remind me why I am no-contact. @17:55 is really profound. That rabbit hole is real. I can see the trail of narcissists in my life, and it began with my mother who was so cruel to me, she didn't even call me when my dad died. I found the needle in the haystack well before my dad died, but after he died, I found a will in which he cut her out entirely, which confirmed my theories that she is a malignant narcissist. She broke my dad. I'm glad you got away from the narc in your life. I am no-contact with my mother now. Not even a will can make me break no-contact. My life is peaceful and yes, I am always first, second, and third in my life now.
I’m going to take a stab at this before watching: 1. Bullying and engaging flying monkeys despite the ultimate destruction of themselves. 2. Gaining false adulation and attention 3. Bringing down those around them because it’s the only thing that can temporarily ease their self-hatred (dopamine hit) 4. Fooling, duping,, scheming and conning people. 5. Destroying peoples empathy and compassion because they can’t experience these feelings genuinely. Let’s watch, hope I got one! 😌
They demanded that we 'attach' ourselves completely on to them....Losing our own identity in the process...And 'Attachment' is the root of all our suffering...
This video has been watched multiple times..sent to another and now I am posting on it. What you offer in this is not just advice for those who are currently dealing with a narcissist and are clueless...not just those of us who literally almost physically died from intense abuse and are now healed...but FOR ANY PERSON SEEKING OR IN ANY TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP. Red flags are often overlooked because your supposed knight and shining armor has come to say all the right things and do all the right "stuff" As a single woman with a higher standard..your videos keep me encouraged that I am never alone as I am my own best partner! Maybe one day I will be given the chance to love and honor again...but for now...I just want to encourage and pray for all of you who are in a lockdown of yourself.
A-bsolutely everything😂 Andrew I need tips. Feeling sick, exhausted and fearful because I had to have the narc arrested for domestic assault. Have a restraining order. Flying monkeys trying to blame me for calling the cops. I feel sick.
😢I hon, you got this! Take care of yourself, it'll pass, do you know that in Canada a woman is killed every second day! I called cops on mine 20 yrs ago, he'd pulled my hair to get my head out of dishwasher as I was unloading the thing, bothering drunk idiot as he didn't want supper I'd made and I was disturbing him, after I called he called them saying I'd pulled his hair, sssuuurrreee, cops came said what you want lady, I said tell him he touches me his ass goes in the slammer, done, he never touched me again! K, those aren't your friends, ditch and no contact! Stay safe, cut your losses count your blessings, keep watching and learning, try Rebecca Zung the lawyer narc slayer, you got this, no contact for sure, let him know you're not his to take his frustrations out on, cops aren't refs... Do you know it wasn't until '79 that a woman could charge her husband with rape! Keep your eyes open, don't be a stat be part of the woman's liberation movement!
I am 2and a half years post narc. Much has happened in that time. My narc mom and brother died after I took care of them. I had heart surgery and survived. I am just now getting around to finding Andrew's videos and on the healing path. Never thought I would make it but I had forgotten how to take care of myself. I'm so much better and my spiritual and physical health are back. Thank you Andrew and thank you Jesus
Even when you know what narcissism is, it's easy to be fooled by them, if you are a codependent empathic. We may understand what's going on earlier than most people, but often they hide the real them until after the " I do's" .
I remember back then and it was so hard to get through it. But I prayed harder than I ever have in my life and God helped me out of the trauma bond.. when you are around a Narcissist you stop praying..I noticed that. He or she wants you away from God. He tried so hard to break me down. But I did wake up and God helped me to wake up. Now I'm on my healing journey and I don't think or care about the Narc anymore. I'm a super empath..I have work to do for the Lord. I don't have time for that bs. It took me 3 years. It's not easy but if I can then you can too. Please continue Andrew. It's great to see how far I've come.
I have ALWAYS been too trusting, and I have been I a vulnerable. EVERY time I met the narcissist in my life. My vulnerability started early in my life and I have healed from the original childhood trauma, and I realized this week that I had a traumatic experiences when I was 13,and I have revisited this memory this week and for the first time, I didn't come unglued and become emotional about it. I had a few pangs of sadness, but I was able to calmly file the memory away and focus on other things that are important to me. It feels really good... Whooo-hooooo! TY Andrew and thank God. I think this was a great video. 🙏✌️❤️✝️😊
Wow,,I always wonder how people are able to (almost )completely obliterate a bad memory, and suddenly, it pops up,years later ,triggered by a situation.a scene,a person,a smell .like a deja vue. 😮
Mr Freud said “Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and they will come forth later in uglier ways.” Underneath the anger is *deep* sadness. Try to let yourself cry.
@MattyNelson-rs3ik I have spent countless years working through these past experiences/memories. It hasn't been easy, but I did not want to spend the rest of my life grieving and emotionally paralyzed. The devalue moments no longer have the power to crush me. By the grace of God and my willingness to put in the work to heal 🙏 ✨️
@julianterris Mr Freud was correct, and I have spent many years digging up and exposing the memories, releasing the emotions... I have no more secrets... I have allowed my tears to flow freely like a flooded river. Very cleansing... TY ✌️ 😊 🙏
On chatting to my grandson (16) ….I was amazed to hear him say that…..you’ll never get a narcissist who is not stunningly beautiful…….He seems to be aware of narcissism of which I’m very grateful… Looking forward to the series….everything is so beneficial… Thank You Andrew 🙏❤️
They all can't be stunning,many are not,but stunning beauty can cause someone to become a narcissist..like many actors and actresses.I worked with a doctor who is Mr. GQ. he was clueless, and his wife was no beauty,married many years. ..I wish I was a photographer .Looking back at my younger photos now that I am older I realized I was a really good looking,attractive woman,,I was clueless..
It's great that he has an understanding, and while the majority of them *are* "beautiful", some are physically unremarkable -the coverts and vulnerable narcissists are often more average. What is a handy "rule of thumb" is that they will (generally) be *outstanding in a coveted quality.* They are probably "leading the pack" in some regard. It might be money, it might be intellect, it might be athletic prowess, it might be gaming, or power (for example) -but if they are *overt* they will almost invariably have a "prized attribute" of some description. I hope that helps -and that I'm not off target.
Narcissists are often zealots for some cause, and consider themselves the zenith, the top pinnacle of all humanity, even though they’re total zeros. The way they try and keep us zippered-up by zapping our beautiful bright energy with their constant zig-zagging! 😂 great series idea Andrew!
Biggest lesson: you don’t need anything or anybody else. God has given us all we need in ourselves and with Him. Take the time to heal at your pace, stay in your peace, slow down. God bless. Life is good. For anybody going through the darkness, the pain, the torment. Keep going through it, the light and love and peace and abundance in life will follow. You got this
During the love bombing stage I was like “omg I can’t believe she’s single! I’m the luckiest guy in the three worlds!” I later found out why she was single and why she never got along with her exes and everyone in our religious organization and basically EVERYONE.
The narc friend I had actually showed me the red flags pretty early on, but I didnt want to see. One day i received a message and didnt answer right back because I was busy at the time. Shortly after i received 3 back to back emoji messages of 👍, and thought thats an odd way to communicate. Anyway, next thing I get unfriended on SM. So I messaged him and said why did you unfriend me. I received a response of, I don't kiss nobody's @$$ to talk! (Yea, thats the ego of a true narcissist). I apologized for not getting right back 😥. That was the day I became both addicted and abused. I had little to no self worth from years of abuse from another one. To look back, and to the present, I see how much I've healed and what I will and will not tolerate from anyone.
Sherry you are precious , and genuine, and of great value, never forget,,Blessed also because your an Empath,lots love and encouragement sent,,,🌟🌺🦋💖💖💖💖🙏🏻
Hey Sherry!!! Been a TOUGH day today and I just wanna eat a meal and chat with friends on here. ❤❤❤❤❤ Also, KUDOS to you! NEVER EVER tolerate ANY abusive behavior whether it’s at home or on the internet!
@jennifernewton4637 Hi beautiful. Sorry to hear you're having a rough day. Sometimes you just have to go through all the emotions, allow them to flow, and soon the sun shines again. I love your warmth, authenticity and shine.✨️ We're all here for you, always remember that! Love you. ❤️❤️🌻🌹☀️✨️
@flowerpower4944 awe, thank you flower. You have such a beautiful aura, and I appreciate you and all the friends I've met on this channel. Keep shining, my friend. 🌻🌹☀️✨️
Hey Flower and Emily!!! 🙌🙌😁🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗🌹🌹😇. OMG you guys! I just watched an ENORMOUSLY satisfying video of a judge up in Michigan who, in AWARD-WINNING fashion, cut a narc down to size!!! She was acting up in the courtroom, shouting at the judge and the bailiff, talking OVER them, accusing the judge of not caring about HER safety (narc’s) and the judge ULTIMATELY threatening to hold her in contempt and toss her in jail for 93 days! 😁👏😁👏😁 That is the ONLY way to handle an INSUFFERABLE narcissist who FALSELY believes what THEY have to say is more important than what ANYONE else has to say. 😂😂😂 Is there a Judge E. Lynise Bryant School of REAL World Etiquette that we can SEND these negative IQ, entitled individuals to?! I imagine failure just would NOT be an option! You don’t pass, you don’t leave! 😂😂😂
Great teaching video, Andrew! Love the beautiful background. Interesting and truthful way your narrative transitions into the Addiiction Stage or “gotcha” stage where you are trapped and without consciously realizing it, you have dropped your allegiance to yourself and become consumed with reporting to, allegiance to the narc. You illustrate this transition so well, at the same time, so scary to see how easily it happens. How quickly we give ourselves over to them, not knowing what we have just entered into. The illusion they are portraying is something that our inner self so desperately wants. We need to examine that and guard ourselves to keep that from happening again. Still healing, still on the quest to find the path to the best version of me. May each one experience healing to their optimum health, happiness, peace and joy of life. Let us put this behind us and move forward to our best selves. God bless every one. ✝️🙏🏻🕊️☀️🦋🌿🌳🌲🌷🌎❤️
It is truly incredible that for all the words and content here Andrew really doesn't repeat himself and that the topic is so insidious that there really is a different facet to study every day! I think back over the decades of people I had known and encountered and many are mentioned here frequently and it explains a lot of behaviors. Watching every day I have heard nothing false, nothing inaccurate and nothing really embellished. Remarkable insight here! All that is said is a great watch out and remember when. Grateful for the knowledge. Thank you
I was snared by an old man. 84 years old. He was kind and considerate. 4 moths in, I see the monster really is. He broke every agreement and he’s a bully. I can ignore him but he just never stops with the mind games. Truely evil.
The one who discarded me was an old codger too. By what he said, etc tho ..... as this was only online (and across many states) so far, you could just see the level of immaturity. He was almost 70 in actual years!
I married a Narc (unknown to me) at 18. He lied about his age, turned out to be 20 yrs older than me (was handsome as can be and he knew it, didn’t look his age), never said he’d just gotten out of a 2nd divorce before me. One yr into marriage he said he never intended to marry me. What a shock, thought he was kidding. I took wedding vows serious he never did. Then his narc games started and lasted 54 yrs. They are fake and bullies, lie, cheat and steal from you and retaliate by destroying things that don’t belong to them. Yes truly evil actions. He passed away a month ago. My dogs and I have peace and quiet now. Am healing.
I love this channel. You keep me motivated everyday. I didn't know about the narcissistic fog until I was 29 and I didn't have the education or awareness about it .I took a psychology course in highschool and some in college and thought I knew everything. I dropped out of college. I think I might have some narcissistic traits but I wasn't diagnosed. My narcissistic community discarded me pretty badly during the last 4 years after the pandemic.
Yes i was addicted, now im recovering. Having no contact for coming up to 6 weeks has given me time to process, when i was in contact i was so caught up in it, since no contact i have had a very strange experience. The last time i saw him i told him about when i was a kid id pick roses for my mum. That since my mum passed id had signs that shes around. Anyway, he knows i am out and about on a certain night and what bus stop i go to and the number bus i get well, that night there were red rose petals scattered around the bus shelter. When my bus came along, there were rose petals on the floor of the bus. I no it sounds nuts, but i thought did he do it? So that id call him to tell him about it. I didnt but thats nuts.
The narcs might have really thought that I needed a lot of time to heal from this, but I don't. That's the shocker. They severely underestimated my 'control panel'.
Please continue this series… learning so much!! At times, what I hear in one video, when reiterated another day, hits totally different…thanks for sharing your knowledge!
Love the A-Z structure 😊 Helps me to learn…I say keep it coming. Curious what you can do with “Z” Adoration, Appearance, Assimilation, Addiction & Abuse When you broke down each category and give examples it really helps to illustrate (and I’m sure we’re all nodding in agreement since they have some narc education they go through too because it all seems to resonate 🙄) Have a beautiful evening. Thank you 🙏 ❤️
The verbal abuse was so much worse than the physical. You are right, it takes a lot of work. It takes continued strength to stick to your boundaries. It is such freedom letting go and not looking back.
My husbands new supply has been groomed since 2019 to be his new supply . Thats why it was so easy for him to leave and come back every few weeks for the last 2 years. Now his last rage fit earned him a ticket out!!!. And he dont cate because hebhas hi supply linned up and lives with her. She pays for his car insurance and cell phone and 2600. In late car payments because my husband lost his job. I THINK HIS BOSS CAUGHT ON to him pretending to work.
Thank you, Andrew, for always educating us with the TRUTH, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth! Please continue the series, A-Z. Thank you. NAMASTE
I was able to break out of the relationship very fast. In fact, before I was able to fall in love. Because he became physically violent before he got me in his bag. The problems for me started AFTER the discard. I left, but because he left me no choice. So I still see it as a discard HE initiated. After we were done with each other, that’s when the verbal abuse and threats started.
@@Arcturus549 I already filed a police report. Since he knows about it it’s quiet . But that was just before Christmas. A lot can still happen. I got a tazer and pepper spray. Mind you, he went straight back to his ex. She became one of his flying monkeys and harassed me as well, full of glee that this POS returned to her. He now puts his hands around her throat. She told me about it, but she decided to stay with him, convinced that she is the better woman and that her love can change him. He told her that I am a w and eff any man that crosses my path. His smear campaign works.
I was in the middle of a recovery program, and I had a relapse, and I looked for an international bride because of my relapse. I found her from Brazil. She did everything that you’re saying for five months. That last month of our six month relationship she became someone else. She disappeared. She was very absent. We used to video call every couple of days for two or more hours. Holiday season, three or four weeks, 2023 we had all of two or three real video calls, and two of them were the night I dumped her on New Year’s Eve.. otherwise we fought in text . I was available. She was not . that’s not even counting, what used to be constant contact on WhatsApp, every 10 to 15 minutes. That last month she would read my comment and not respond for an hour or two and she would be on WhatsApp on weird off hours she was autistic, and according to her, had no friends. Yeah I dodged a bullet with that one.
I still will never know if her traditional Christian background allowed her to “make other friends”. This happened on New Year’s Eve of 2023. I’m still hurting a lot, but I’m on the path of healing.
Yup I just had gotten out of of a another narcissist relationship only 3 months before this other narc swooped in..but this last narc I had seen or known about since I was a kid and he use to be my brothers best friend ..so we had that in common and he knew talking about my brother ..who’s currently doing 40 yrs in prison ..and music would bond me to him ..that’s why it’s harder for me with this last relationship then the other narc relationship. I’m healing different with this last one.
This is soooo spot on! I have broke free of the narcissist grasp, but I made a mistake! I didn't listen to what I saw in other videos. I called her out upon departure and now things are getting ugly. Her family who at one point sided with me. They knew she had some issues, but now they are defending her and attacking me! People listen to the videos! Bight your tongue one more time, just say goodbye, block, go no contact! I wish I would have ! Ugh!
You said right word which was told to me that i am at that time addicted to that person it didnt serve me in institutions couse my word didnt mean nothing
I wasn't physically attracted to the narcissist. I did fall for the charm, his genlemanly compliments and words, is statement of knowing I want a serious relationship and not one to play games. What??? I was definitely fooled because that's all he did was play mind games. Slick beyond measure! I am so grateful to now have the education and awareness of their tactics.. Thank gou Andrew! ❤️
I’m here!! I identify! You have some great humour thrown in. Luv that. It’s horrible to be caught out with the narcissist. Brilliant x continue please. X
That video summed up my relationship 💯 especially about getting texts and dropping everything to answer, it didn’t matter what I was doing I’d text back within secs otherwise I’d get a phone call with him raging so you jump through hoops and he always wanted to know where you were, what you were doing, who you were with.. the list is endless. It was mentally exhausting. I’m free now & zero contact. Thank you Andrew
This video helped me understand how the relationship went on smoothly in my mind! I really liked it✨ Yes, they need to be adored and have the flying monkeys around them and his new supply. And assimilation…we experienced the loss of our spouses. When I look back…he started asking me how to get over the sadness he was going through…😞 Thank you always for the encouraging videos, Andrew❤️🤗🙏
Yes Altruistic,,first thing I experienced ,,,But it was a very far Cry from what I experienced later on,,It Was All Completely False,,,t.y. Andrew,💡👍🏻💖🌺🌟
@@flowerpower4944 yes. We made it. If not for Andrew, can only imagine I would have cycled back to old patterns and fallen for more narcissistic warfare. It’s clear to me Flower that you passionately appreciate this education 🌸🩷💞🙏
Made me laugh. "Almost too good to be true". 22 years ago and sadly thats what i believed. Yes! Very charming. Oh my gosh. Not a bad thing to be able to laugh now right? You are always right on. I was not drawn to my almost former narc husband by physical attraction, was just charmed. Sigh... thank you Andrew for your help.
True. It has been nearly two years since I found out about her infidelity and hidden games and not until now I'm back to considering dating. Healing takes time. In a large part thanks to you Andrew and the community.
Andrew this video is so true and by the way I made it to the other side and I know I’m healed because I ran into the Narc and the new supply at a restaurant and I paid for the Narc and the new supply food and walked out feeling 10 times stronger and confident in myself because he has no idea what he signed up for.
Towards the end, for reasons I can't really say because of what I did for her, I started putting my wallet where she had to ask for it on paydays. I think that sent the message that I was tired of being taken for granted. I was so overwhelmed with stress because of what I did for her only for her to turn everything around on me. Let's just say that there wasn't much she wouldn't do for a few extra dollars as long as she didn't have to get a job and used bedroom blackmail, which took well over a year to wear me down with the nagging and everything else on top of the blackmail. It was game over for me afterwards.
Yes something about him I adored. I found his deadpan face and stoic facade hilarious because that's not me at all. I was attracted to that, when I got the discard I saw it as a toddler. Destroying the shared fantasy though was very painful for me. Now again healing with even more narcissism around me, it seems like an accelerated sequence of people that I trigger to show themselves evil
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top 5 things that fuel the narcissist
1-adoration
2-appearance (superficial charm)
3-the way that you presented yourself to them
4-getting addicted to the narcissist
5-abuse
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
He sounds like a toxic narcissist. Are you single, if yes, are you single because you are a narcissist?
Do you like adoration? Do you care about your appearance? Do you use makeup? Is that a superficial charm? He sounds crazy.
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Yes I really was addicted, the discard force you in withdrawal.
number 3 is Attitude
Detachment is Mentally Tough because We are Empaths and We Cannot Understand the Heartless Narcs@@SoulForce_
Thanks for this!
Fuel to the narcissist is like a vampire needing blood to live off of.
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Sooo accurate! ❤
Absolutely TRUE 💯👍🏻
I'm trying to be nice to myself every day. For me, narcissist abuse has unfortunately made me feel lesser than everyone, I'm trying to change this. I want to reinvent myself and become a happy, beautiful woman.
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Your not alone!
I’m with you! 💕
JUST STAY AWAY FROM ME !!!! JUST STAY AWAY FROM ME !!!!
I was always "on the clock" with the narc even when I was on the clock at work 😵💫. My life came 2nd until I had no life at all.
That charm or allure you are speaking of is very real, and it’s demonic. That’s the Jezebel spirit in these people. That’s why people can’t place the attraction-it’s not human!
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So true. At the end, when he was so blasted on drugs. The emptiness in the eyes. He was no longer there. And the laugh when I expressed my hurt. I will never be able to get that laugh out of my head.
@@ronnie-lynnOh my goodness 💚
You’re exactly right
"Thanks. Have a good life. I'll talk to you never." LOL
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Andrew was fired up today! Love these videos. I’ve been describing why I kept going back even though I knew we would just break up again or knew she was using me because it was an addiction. I was addicted to her and I would wait for her to call or text. Even now I wait for her 2nd hoover attempt. The addiction is wearing off slowly and I am becoming the 3rd version of myself. Stay strong everyone!
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Same here...
It's very hard to resist that temptation to get the toxic person back.
But we are in it together.
We can do it 💪
Keep going. When you go through so many cycles of devaluation and discard then coming back together you will realize one of it was real. Just like cutting out carbs or drugs or smoking, or anything else you know is nothing but harmful to you, you can overcome the addiction.
I am originally from Costa Rica. I just got out from 28 years of hell relationship with a sucker psychopath narcissist american. I just started my process of divorce and a great walk back to the best person one day I was. I'm not a victim. Instead, I'm a Victorious and dignified woman. I am and I will be better person than ever this sucker of my energy, time, ❤️ will get. Amen brother 🙌. Keep doing your information to educate us.
Being a victim is not a crime.it's nothing to be ashamed of. A victim means an innocent person who was exploited.
Thank you for your regular videos. I listen to them during the day, to remind me why I am no-contact. @17:55 is really profound. That rabbit hole is real. I can see the trail of narcissists in my life, and it began with my mother who was so cruel to me, she didn't even call me when my dad died. I found the needle in the haystack well before my dad died, but after he died, I found a will in which he cut her out entirely, which confirmed my theories that she is a malignant narcissist. She broke my dad. I'm glad you got away from the narc in your life. I am no-contact with my mother now. Not even a will can make me break no-contact. My life is peaceful and yes, I am always first, second, and third in my life now.
Welcome 😌💯🙏
1 seek adoration towards them
2 their appearance
3 assimilate with you
4 addicted to them
5 abuse from them
Love ❤ the message in this video 👍👍👍
I’m going to take a stab at this before watching:
1. Bullying and engaging flying monkeys despite the ultimate destruction of themselves.
2. Gaining false adulation and attention
3. Bringing down those around them because it’s the only thing that can temporarily ease their self-hatred (dopamine hit)
4. Fooling, duping,, scheming and conning people.
5. Destroying peoples empathy and compassion because they can’t experience these feelings genuinely.
Let’s watch, hope I got one! 😌
You did..😌🙏💯🙌❤️
They demanded that we 'attach' ourselves completely on to them....Losing our own identity in the process...And 'Attachment' is the root of all our suffering...
Yes the Emesh with us,,but it's Suffocating,,🏃♀️🏃♀️🏃♀️run
This video has been watched multiple times..sent to another and now I am posting on it.
What you offer in this is not just advice for those who are currently dealing with a narcissist and are clueless...not just those of us who literally almost physically died from intense abuse and are now healed...but FOR ANY PERSON SEEKING OR IN ANY TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP.
Red flags are often overlooked because your supposed knight and shining armor has come to say all the right things and do all the right "stuff"
As a single woman with a higher standard..your videos keep me encouraged that I am never alone as I am my own best partner!
Maybe one day I will be given the chance to love and honor again...but for now...I just want to encourage and pray for all of you who are in a lockdown of yourself.
Thank you for sharing this..🙏😌💯
A-bsolutely everything😂 Andrew I need tips. Feeling sick, exhausted and fearful because I had to have the narc arrested for domestic assault. Have a restraining order. Flying monkeys trying to blame me for calling the cops. I feel sick.
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Avoid contact and consult a legal support
Stay strong. You know you did the right thing. ❤❤❤❤
😢I hon, you got this! Take care of yourself, it'll pass, do you know that in Canada a woman is killed every second day! I called cops on mine 20 yrs ago, he'd pulled my hair to get my head out of dishwasher as I was unloading the thing, bothering drunk idiot as he didn't want supper I'd made and I was disturbing him, after I called he called them saying I'd pulled his hair, sssuuurrreee, cops came said what you want lady, I said tell him he touches me his ass goes in the slammer, done, he never touched me again! K, those aren't your friends, ditch and no contact! Stay safe, cut your losses count your blessings, keep watching and learning, try Rebecca Zung the lawyer narc slayer, you got this, no contact for sure, let him know you're not his to take his frustrations out on, cops aren't refs... Do you know it wasn't until '79 that a woman could charge her husband with rape! Keep your eyes open, don't be a stat be part of the woman's liberation movement!
You go, girl!🎉💥💪🏻
You absolutely did the right thing and are a very strong person. We are behind you all the way!❤
I am 2and a half years post narc. Much has happened in that time. My narc mom and brother died after I took care of them. I had heart surgery and survived. I am just now getting around to finding Andrew's videos and on the healing path. Never thought I would make it but I had forgotten how to take care of myself. I'm so much better and my spiritual and physical health are back. Thank you Andrew and thank you Jesus
Even when you know what narcissism is, it's easy to be fooled by them, if you are a codependent empathic. We may understand what's going on earlier than most people, but often they hide the real them until after the " I do's" .
Yes please, more alpahbet ones Andrew 🥰
I remember back then and it was so hard to get through it. But I prayed harder than I ever have in my life and God helped me out of the trauma bond.. when you are around a Narcissist you stop praying..I noticed that. He or she wants you away from God. He tried so hard to break me down. But I did wake up and God helped me to wake up. Now I'm on my healing journey and I don't think or care about the Narc anymore. I'm a super empath..I have work to do for the Lord. I don't have time for that bs. It took me 3 years. It's not easy but if I can then you can too. Please continue Andrew. It's great to see how far I've come.
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My Narc tried to get me back into the church and accept Jesus as my Lord and savior, that was a trap.
I am so disgusted with how you were treated, Andrew! I know that is what had to happen to get to this point, but it makes me so mad!!!
Emilyyyyy!!! 🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗
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Hey Jennifer!❤
I have ALWAYS been too trusting, and I have been I a vulnerable. EVERY time I met the narcissist in my life. My vulnerability started early in my life and I have healed from the original childhood trauma, and I realized this week that I had a traumatic experiences when I was 13,and I have revisited this memory this week and for the first time, I didn't come unglued and become emotional about it. I had a few pangs of sadness, but I was able to calmly file the memory away and focus on other things that are important to me. It feels really good... Whooo-hooooo! TY Andrew and thank God. I think
this was a great video. 🙏✌️❤️✝️😊
Wow,,I always wonder how people are able to (almost )completely obliterate a bad memory, and suddenly, it pops up,years later ,triggered by a situation.a scene,a person,a smell .like a deja vue. 😮
Mr Freud said “Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and they will come forth later in uglier ways.” Underneath the anger is *deep* sadness. Try to let yourself cry.
@MattyNelson-rs3ik I have spent countless years working through these past experiences/memories. It hasn't been easy, but I did not want to spend the rest of my life grieving and emotionally paralyzed. The devalue moments no longer have the power to crush me. By the grace of God and my willingness to put in the work to heal 🙏 ✨️
@julianterris Mr Freud was correct, and I have spent many years digging up and exposing the memories, releasing the emotions... I have no more secrets... I have allowed my tears to flow freely like a flooded river. Very cleansing... TY ✌️ 😊 🙏
All human beings are vulnerable.
On chatting to my grandson (16) ….I was amazed to hear him say that…..you’ll never get a narcissist who is not stunningly beautiful…….He seems to be aware of narcissism of which I’m very grateful…
Looking forward to the series….everything is so beneficial…
Thank You Andrew 🙏❤️
They all can't be stunning,many are not,but stunning beauty can cause someone to become a narcissist..like many actors and actresses.I worked with a doctor who is Mr. GQ. he was clueless, and his wife was no beauty,married many years. ..I wish I was a photographer .Looking back at my younger photos now that I am older I realized I was a really good looking,attractive woman,,I was clueless..
It's great that he has an understanding, and while the majority of them *are* "beautiful", some are physically unremarkable -the coverts and vulnerable narcissists are often more average. What is a handy "rule of thumb" is that they will (generally) be *outstanding in a coveted quality.* They are probably "leading the pack" in some regard. It might be money, it might be intellect, it might be athletic prowess, it might be gaming, or power (for example) -but if they are *overt* they will almost invariably have a "prized attribute" of some description. I hope that helps -and that I'm not off target.
Thanks for helping de-program us after years of hearing these stilted messages that were no good for anybody but the narcissist.
Brilliant Andrew. Best yet...
Narcissists are often zealots for some cause, and consider themselves the zenith, the top pinnacle of all humanity, even though they’re total zeros. The way they try and keep us zippered-up by zapping our beautiful bright energy with their constant zig-zagging! 😂 great series idea Andrew!
Andrew you absolutely destroyed it !!! Let’s go with the 5 B’s
Great work buddy
Thank you..😌🙏🙌
Biggest lesson: you don’t need anything or anybody else. God has given us all we need in ourselves and with Him. Take the time to heal at your pace, stay in your peace, slow down. God bless. Life is good. For anybody going through the darkness, the pain, the torment. Keep going through it, the light and love and peace and abundance in life will follow. You got this
During the love bombing stage I was like “omg I can’t believe she’s single! I’m the luckiest guy in the three worlds!”
I later found out why she was single and why she never got along with her exes and everyone in our religious organization and basically EVERYONE.
Oh Andrew i like the new location. Very nice 😉❤
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you are a human Soul and I love you brother !
Excellent video.
Thank you..😌🙏🙌
The narc friend I had actually showed me the red flags pretty early on, but I didnt want to see. One day i received a message and didnt answer right back because I was busy at the time. Shortly after i received 3 back to back emoji messages of 👍, and thought thats an odd way to communicate. Anyway, next thing I get unfriended on SM. So I messaged him and said why did you unfriend me. I received a response of, I don't kiss nobody's @$$ to talk! (Yea, thats the ego of a true narcissist). I apologized for not getting right back 😥. That was the day I became both addicted and abused. I had little to no self worth from years of abuse from another one. To look back, and to the present, I see how much I've healed and what I will and will not tolerate from anyone.
Sherry you are precious , and genuine, and of great value, never forget,,Blessed also because your an Empath,lots love and encouragement sent,,,🌟🌺🦋💖💖💖💖🙏🏻
Hey Sherry!!! Been a TOUGH day today and I just wanna eat a meal and chat with friends on here. ❤❤❤❤❤
Also, KUDOS to you! NEVER EVER tolerate ANY abusive behavior whether it’s at home or on the internet!
@jennifernewton4637 Hi beautiful. Sorry to hear you're having a rough day. Sometimes you just have to go through all the emotions, allow them to flow, and soon the sun shines again. I love your warmth, authenticity and shine.✨️ We're all here for you, always remember that! Love you. ❤️❤️🌻🌹☀️✨️
@flowerpower4944 awe, thank you flower. You have such a beautiful aura, and I appreciate you and all the friends I've met on this channel. Keep shining, my friend. 🌻🌹☀️✨️
@@Divinely_Guided444Thank you Sherry!!! 🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗🙏🙏🙏🙏
Hello Andrew and friends! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
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Hi Jennifer 😊💖🌺🌟💖❤️
Hi Jennifer!😊
@@emilywilson7308hi Emily👍🏻💖🌟🌺💖
Hey Flower and Emily!!! 🙌🙌😁🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗🌹🌹😇. OMG you guys! I just watched an ENORMOUSLY satisfying video of a judge up in Michigan who, in AWARD-WINNING fashion, cut a narc down to size!!! She was acting up in the courtroom, shouting at the judge and the bailiff, talking OVER them, accusing the judge of not caring about HER safety (narc’s) and the judge ULTIMATELY threatening to hold her in contempt and toss her in jail for 93 days! 😁👏😁👏😁 That is the ONLY way to handle an INSUFFERABLE narcissist who FALSELY believes what THEY have to say is more important than what ANYONE else has to say. 😂😂😂 Is there a Judge E. Lynise Bryant School of REAL World Etiquette that we can SEND these negative IQ, entitled individuals to?! I imagine failure just would NOT be an option! You don’t pass, you don’t leave! 😂😂😂
Thankyou Andrew! Another day closer to complete healing. Appreciate you ❤️
Our PAIN is The Narc's Fuel to Thrive On....We Must Walk Away Silent or Become Part of their Web of Deceit....
Great teaching video, Andrew! Love the beautiful background.
Interesting and truthful way your narrative transitions into the Addiiction Stage or “gotcha”
stage where you are trapped and without consciously realizing it, you have dropped your allegiance to yourself and become consumed with reporting to, allegiance to the narc. You illustrate this transition so well, at the same time, so scary to see how easily it happens. How quickly we give ourselves over to them, not knowing what we have just entered into. The illusion they are portraying is something that our inner self so desperately wants. We need to examine that and guard ourselves to keep that from happening again. Still healing, still on the quest to find the path to the best version of me. May each one experience healing to their optimum health, happiness, peace and joy of life. Let us put this behind us and move forward to our best selves. God bless every one. ✝️🙏🏻🕊️☀️🦋🌿🌳🌲🌷🌎❤️
Beautifully written! Thank you and wish the very best and full healing for you also. We have this! We deserve this!!!
It is truly incredible that for all the words and content here Andrew really doesn't repeat himself and that the topic is so insidious that there really is a different facet to study every day!
I think back over the decades of people I had known and encountered and many are mentioned here frequently and it explains a lot of behaviors.
Watching every day I have heard nothing false, nothing inaccurate and nothing really embellished.
Remarkable insight here!
All that is said is a great watch out and remember when.
Grateful for the knowledge.
Thank you
I was snared by an old man. 84 years old. He was kind and considerate. 4 moths in, I see the monster really is. He broke every agreement and he’s a bully.
I can ignore him but he just never stops with the mind games. Truely evil.
The one who discarded me was an old codger too.
By what he said, etc tho ..... as this was only online (and across many states) so far, you could just see the level of immaturity. He was almost 70 in actual years!
I married a Narc (unknown to me) at 18. He lied about his age, turned out to be 20 yrs older than me (was handsome as can be and he knew it, didn’t look his age), never said he’d just gotten out of a 2nd divorce before me. One yr into marriage he said he never intended to marry me. What a shock, thought he was kidding. I took wedding vows serious he never did. Then his narc games started and lasted 54 yrs. They are fake and bullies, lie, cheat and steal from you and retaliate by destroying things that don’t belong to them. Yes truly evil actions. He passed away a month ago. My dogs and I have peace and quiet now. Am healing.
I was nearly destroyed by my x husband who abused of me in the worse way possible, but I survived and now in peace!!
I love this channel. You keep me motivated everyday. I didn't know about the narcissistic fog until I was 29 and I didn't have the education or awareness about it .I took a psychology course in highschool and some in college and thought I knew everything. I dropped out of college. I think I might have some narcissistic traits but I wasn't diagnosed. My narcissistic community discarded me pretty badly during the last 4 years after the pandemic.
I was discarded by narcs during the pandemic as well. It’s real.
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Awesome as usual. Yes, would love an alphabet series like this. Thank you, Andrew!
He was charismatic witty funny confident. Or so I thought 🤦♀️😞
Excellent video thank you Andrew 😎🙏
Yes i was addicted, now im recovering. Having no contact for coming up to 6 weeks has given me time to process, when i was in contact i was so caught up in it, since no contact i have had a very strange experience. The last time i saw him i told him about when i was a kid id pick roses for my mum. That since my mum passed id had signs that shes around. Anyway, he knows i am out and about on a certain night and what bus stop i go to and the number bus i get well, that night there were red rose petals scattered around the bus shelter. When my bus came along, there were rose petals on the floor of the bus. I no it sounds nuts, but i thought did he do it? So that id call him to tell him about it. I didnt but thats nuts.
That is a very real thing about the signs. Glad you are noticing them.
Very scary. :/
Don't call him-period.
The narcs might have really thought that I needed a lot of time to heal from this, but I don't. That's the shocker. They severely underestimated my 'control panel'.
Please continue this series… learning so much!! At times, what I hear in one video, when reiterated another day, hits totally different…thanks for sharing your knowledge!
There's only ONE way to fuel a narcissist that's to say the word NO to anything.
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Gosh I love that look you give at the beginning. That really brightens my day!!! 😂❤😅❤
Love the A-Z structure 😊
Helps me to learn…I say keep it coming. Curious what you can do with “Z”
Adoration, Appearance, Assimilation, Addiction & Abuse
When you broke down each category and give examples it really helps to illustrate (and I’m sure we’re all nodding in agreement since they have some narc education they go through too because it all seems to resonate 🙄)
Have a beautiful evening. Thank you 🙏 ❤️
zombielike, crazy, maze, puzzle, fizzle, lazy, zigzag
@@kathleencondit1660 very good!!! May I add… bizarro world 🙃
@@gratefultobehere Love that description...bizarro world! Thanks.
@@kathleencondit1660 haha that’s not my description. It’s the creator of the channel who coined that one 😉
The verbal abuse was so much worse than the physical. You are right, it takes a lot of work. It takes continued strength to stick to your boundaries. It is such freedom letting go and not looking back.
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The narcissist also likes to play the victim and often times does this through the smear campaign
Yes please, woooow
Just because someone is always alone doesn't mean they're a narcissist. I'm alone for years because everyone is a narc.
Thank you Andrew for the support, it keeps me going. The alphabetical order is interesting. Go for it.
My husbands new supply has been groomed since 2019 to be his new supply . Thats why it was so easy for him to leave and come back every few weeks for the last 2 years. Now his last rage fit earned him a ticket out!!!. And he dont cate because hebhas hi supply linned up and lives with her. She pays for his car insurance and cell phone and 2600. In late car payments because my husband lost his job. I THINK HIS BOSS CAUGHT ON to him pretending to work.
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Thank you, Andrew, for always educating us with the TRUTH, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth!
Please continue the series, A-Z. Thank you. NAMASTE
Time after Time -Brother !
I was able to break out of the relationship very fast. In fact, before I was able to fall in love. Because he became physically violent before he got me in his bag. The problems for me started AFTER the discard. I left, but because he left me no choice. So I still see it as a discard HE initiated. After we were done with each other, that’s when the verbal abuse and threats started.
Please be cautious, he sounds dangerous 💚
@@Arcturus549 I already filed a police report. Since he knows about it it’s quiet . But that was just before Christmas. A lot can still happen. I got a tazer and pepper spray. Mind you, he went straight back to his ex. She became one of his flying monkeys and harassed me as well, full of glee that this POS returned to her. He now puts his hands around her throat. She told me about it, but she decided to stay with him, convinced that she is the better woman and that her love can change him. He told her that I am a w and eff any man that crosses my path. His smear campaign works.
Thank you so much for your video. I would Love you to make more videos, but if you need to take a break then do that. Look after yourself too! 🌞♥️
It’s so easy to be blinded by good looks especially when you are young and naive..hopefully we have learned our lesson and see the red flags..👀👍
I was in the middle of a recovery program, and I had a relapse, and I looked for an international bride because of my relapse. I found her from Brazil. She did everything that you’re saying for five months. That last month of our six month relationship she became someone else. She disappeared. She was very absent. We used to video call every couple of days for two or more hours. Holiday season, three or four weeks, 2023 we had all of two or three real video calls, and two of them were the night I dumped her on New Year’s Eve.. otherwise we fought in text . I was available. She was not . that’s not even counting, what used to be constant contact on WhatsApp, every 10 to 15 minutes. That last month she would read my comment and not respond for an hour or two and she would be on WhatsApp on weird off hours she was autistic, and according to her, had no friends. Yeah I dodged a bullet with that one.
I still will never know if her traditional Christian background allowed her to “make other friends”. This happened on New Year’s Eve of 2023. I’m still hurting a lot, but I’m on the path of healing.
Yup I just had gotten out of of a another narcissist relationship only 3 months before this other narc swooped in..but this last narc I had seen or known about since I was a kid and he use to be my brothers best friend ..so we had that in common and he knew talking about my brother ..who’s currently doing 40 yrs in prison ..and music would bond me to him ..that’s why it’s harder for me with this last relationship then the other narc relationship. I’m healing different with this last one.
This is soooo spot on!
I have broke free of the narcissist grasp, but I made a mistake! I didn't listen to what I saw in other videos. I called her out upon departure and now things are getting ugly. Her family who at one point sided with me. They knew she had some issues, but now they are defending her and attacking me!
People listen to the videos! Bight your tongue one more time, just say goodbye, block, go no contact!
I wish I would have !
Ugh!
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Hi Andrew, I reckon an alphabetic run through would be great ✌❤👍
Thank you 😊🙏
Great A’s . The A I get from this is to keep AWAY from toxic Narcissistic people from now on
YES!! Continue with the series! We need B!
So exhausting.....your cup goes empty so fast!!!! Seems nobody understands!
You said right word which was told to me that i am at that time addicted to that person it didnt serve me in institutions couse my word didnt mean nothing
keep the alphabet going, always insightful
hey andrew 🥹today i went to the asian market had good food nice location today 🫶☺️please continue this series 😄
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I wasn't physically attracted to the narcissist. I did fall for the charm, his genlemanly compliments and words, is statement of knowing I want a serious relationship and not one to play games. What??? I was definitely fooled because that's all he did was play mind games. Slick beyond measure! I am so grateful to now have the education and awareness of their tactics.. Thank gou Andrew! ❤️
Always treat listening to your wisdom
I love your format
Absolutely awesome
Excuses is also their game...aka: lies
I wasn’t attracted to him I felt sorry for him. I was very broken at the time.
Love your videos.
Pamela of SE Oklahoma
I’m here!! I identify! You have some great humour thrown in. Luv that. It’s horrible to be caught out with the narcissist. Brilliant x continue please. X
That video summed up my relationship 💯 especially about getting texts and dropping everything to answer, it didn’t matter what I was doing I’d text back within secs otherwise I’d get a phone call with him raging so you jump through hoops and he always wanted to know where you were, what you were doing, who you were with.. the list is endless. It was mentally exhausting. I’m free now & zero contact. Thank you Andrew
I enjoyed this idea for a video of going through the alphabet and what a great message as well! 👍
This video helped me understand how the relationship went on smoothly in my mind! I really liked it✨
Yes, they need to be adored and have the flying monkeys around them and his new supply.
And assimilation…we experienced the loss of our spouses. When I look back…he started asking me how to get over the sadness he was going through…😞
Thank you always for the encouraging videos, Andrew❤️🤗🙏
This video is great for my list.💖. Thanks, thanks. Thank you.💕😘
Thank-you Andrew.
Yes Altruistic,,first thing I experienced ,,,But it was a very far Cry from what I experienced later on,,It Was All Completely False,,,t.y. Andrew,💡👍🏻💖🌺🌟
Very very good point altruistic narcs heavy experience with this
@@gratefultobehere they are so False,,,it is Spiritual warfare,,🌺💖🙏🏻🙏🏻
@@flowerpower4944 yes. We made it. If not for Andrew, can only imagine I would have cycled back to old patterns and fallen for more narcissistic warfare. It’s clear to me Flower that you passionately appreciate this education 🌸🩷💞🙏
Oh yes A to Z series🎉Checked all boxes 😅 it’s scary!! But more I am over the shock after years of healing smh now to heal the defense tool box 😢🎉
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Wow on point this people are evil.
I really needed this lesson. You rock Andrew and the hairs great!
Made me laugh. "Almost too good to be true". 22 years ago and sadly thats what i believed. Yes! Very charming. Oh my gosh. Not a bad thing to be able to laugh now right? You are always right on. I was not drawn to my almost former narc husband by physical attraction, was just charmed. Sigh... thank you Andrew for your help.
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Thanks again Andrew - I appreciate what you do.
True. It has been nearly two years since I found out about her infidelity and hidden games and not until now I'm back to considering dating. Healing takes time. In a large part thanks to you Andrew and the community.
Thank you Andrew.
Your video's are a great help and inspire me to keep moving forward.
I'm so glad to be away from him!!
Andrew this video is so true and by the way I made it to the other side and I know I’m healed because I ran into the Narc and the new supply at a restaurant and I paid for the Narc and the new supply food and walked out feeling 10 times stronger and confident in myself because he has no idea what he signed up for.
Towards the end, for reasons I can't really say because of what I did for her, I started putting my wallet where she had to ask for it on paydays. I think that sent the message that I was tired of being taken for granted. I was so overwhelmed with stress because of what I did for her only for her to turn everything around on me. Let's just say that there wasn't much she wouldn't do for a few extra dollars as long as she didn't have to get a job and used bedroom blackmail, which took well over a year to wear me down with the nagging and everything else on top of the blackmail. It was game over for me afterwards.
Yes Andrew, I’m still bleeding 😢 Leeching out this sickness endured for decades. Namaste Andrew your truth is strength 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Always such wise words ❤ Thank you xxx
Thank You Andrew❤
Welcome ❤️🙌
Yes something about him I adored. I found his deadpan face and stoic facade hilarious because that's not me at all. I was attracted to that, when I got the discard I saw it as a toddler. Destroying the shared fantasy though was very painful for me. Now again healing with even more narcissism around me, it seems like an accelerated sequence of people that I trigger to show themselves evil
Top comment 👏 Exactly the same here 😮
@@elkebanhart7045thank you❤
Thank you Andrew..! Continue on Good Man.!
Welcome..😌💜🙏