Things go sideways in the relationship when the Narcissist senses that you are beginning to question that maybe there is something wrong with them and that It will be just a matter of time before you discover their True nature..
One night he wouldn't get off his phone...tried to give a lame excuse why he had to stay glued to his phone when I wanted to spend time with him. But I called him out on his stupid lies...whew boy...he went into a full rage. Then the silent treatment, games, gaslighting and the cycles went into high gear. I kicked him to the curb as I got tired of the BS.
Let them fade into the background - they are the architects of their own downfall in the end. We deserve better and we know that now. We are all moving forward on the healing path. God is good! Thanks Andrew for another great lesson and for braving the rainy Carolinas! ☔🌧️
Amen to THAT!! Even from my own sister …i can’t even believe we were raised in the same family; I would never treat ANYone the way she treats people (sister or not, it’s just plain WRONG!!).Don’t even TRY to tell me (as many flying monkeys have tried to do …) that she has no idea what she did. Of course she knows. Lying about it to others is just more of the mask, feigning innocence more of the cruelty. Good riddance, no one gets to bring that shit into my life!! ❤️🙏🏻
The narcissist changed me FOREVER! One year on the healing path its amazing. Some days are great , some days not so much......all days narcissist free....I'll take it💞
Good for you, I am in a similar place celebrating one year of no contact, I swear it feels like my new birthday! I don't wake up ruminating but I do have a lot of pain and am exhausted most of the time with auto immune disease and decades of toxicity stored up inside me that needs to get released.
"They can't have stability, they can't have tranquillity, they can't just be." It's like they're chasing an uncatchable dragon of chaos, drama, and supply, not understanding that they could potentially solve their inner turmoil by lookin inward!
They project, throw everything back at us thus is the life of a liar, who could keep track of all those lies, easier to keep denying anything they've been accused of...
narcissists are always the common denominator as to why they destroy relationships, and yet they have the ultimate lack of self-awareness as to why it happens. the icing on the cake lol, is that the narcissist is unwilling and unable to reflect and learn from past mistakes. cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
they really don’t wake up: they don’t have ability to understand their part in the destruction of their personal relationships….it is always someone else’s doing.
When you are in the narcissistic fog, you lie to yourself, and you believe the narcissistic lies that they tell you because you want to believe them because the alternative is, for a time, too painful to accept. You find yourself in a horrible situation. You made a terrible mistake getting involved with this toxic person, and somehow, you must find the strength to get away from them. I am thankful that I found the strength and got away from the narcissists in my life. It has been a long journey, and it hasn't always been easy, but I am better now. I have good days and bad days, but I no longer have to live in the narcissistic suck zone. Thank God, and thank you, Andrew, for teaching about narcissism. 😊
Aren't you wonderful! One step at a time and with each step further away from them, air is for breathing/replenishing ourselves, not for having it sucked out of us, they leave you feeling like a fish 🐟 in a tank running out of oxygen!
I was stunned at how my ex-narc’s friends treated me-especially a female. Looking back, I now realize he was probably telling them terrible things about me (so he’d be the victim when our relationship blew up and he discarded me) and he was stringing this woman along to get supply and some romantic attention on the side. And this was the guy whom I thought was the love of my life. ☠️
Things go sideways for the narc all the time. But would never take responsibility for anything. They just blame the first person available. They don't care about anything or anyone. Blessings!❤
This is the worst part of the relationship IMO. They never show their struggle in life in a genuine way, and over time it makes it seem like they live a perfect life, making you think you're doing something wrong. This is BS
Yes the more people as Supply,,the quicker they can discard and Jump Ship to other supplies,,,But it does Catch up on Them,,they're time line runs out,,,They Bring it on Themselves by the Toxic Behavior...they can fool some people some of the time,,But they cant.fool all of the people all of the time,,They Reap What They Sow,,💡👍🏻❤️❤️t.y. Andrew,,
Any time I tried to have an adult discussion with the narc ex husband about his repeated poor behaviours, the narcs response was always "Why are you trying to start an arguement?" I'd then be trying to explain myself, that I wasn't looking to argue, I was looking to discuss recurring issues and try work on a resolve. He'd then throw a age fit on how he couldn't believe I was trying to argue with him. I became so drained and beaten down by it that I got to the point of not saying anything. Having now got the wisdom though, looking back I can see so clearly how he manipulated me with the same cycles of poor behaviour and the second I would raise it, BOOM, blame shifted onto me that I was starting an arguement with him. On reflection, he would have known his days were numbered on when his mask slipped for the final time as I was clocking on to his repeat cycles of nonsense. Life's too short to be merely existing in these toxic relationships. When you recognise patterns of poor behaviour, you're not crazy or imagining it, it's happening and it's not acceptable - get out in a safe manner when you can and go no contact, it's the only way to help move forward from the abuse.
I don't get on many of these channels because there's so many people talking about narcissism that the misinformation is just too compelling. I know you know because you describe specifically the inside of the relationship in all its nuances. Example. My narc would invite people over on occasion who I never heard about, never met or knew and he was saying how close they were. Some of these people were the worst people we knew in our marriage! One left the house one day after the outsider sat and insulted me and my sober, Christian lifestyle right in my own kitchen. The narc left the room and let this guy rip me apart. But trust me, that man never came back after I confronted him and what he was really about. I put him in his place bigtime and he never dared walk back into my home. The narc was full of surprise people from the past. There was always these weird, creepy, strange people who were such outliers of anyone normal you would meet. Narc had no friends except these dudes!
They've gotten away with it because "that's just the way they are." I'm grateful I am out. If only I had known about narcissism, it would have saved me a lot of grief. You are doing a lot to educate people on the deadly behavior of narcissists. They'll never change and that's why things always go sideways for them. Most people learn from their mistakes, or they realize at some point maybe they shouldn't be doing the same things over and over because it ends up in grief. It took me a long time, years, to overcome I was programmed to take narcissistic abuse. By having been programmed, I mean growing up with accepting narcissism as a way of life. It doesn't have to be the way narcissists say it should be.
The narcissist needs constant supply of feeling dominant or he will psychologically implode. He is dependent on the other, he cannot exist alone. He needs a victim to feel like he exist. When people discover these strange patterns, they withdraw from the narcissist and things go sideways for him. ....but my life and fate are more important to me. Great video, Andrew( in the rain) Thank you!☔🍃🙌🍃❤
I love how you repeat cerain phrases which helps embed these concepts in my brain. I found myself saying "i come 1st, 2nd and 3rd" to myself recently 😂. It really does help
-- WOW!!! You are so correct. - My ex-wife used so many people (including me) for their money that she *"went on the run"* and moved to another state where no one knew of her trail of narcissistic destruction.
Thanks for the education you provide, Andrew. I can't even imagine how many narcs have been dumped on their head because of the information you deliver on the daily, much respect to you.
Your videos are quite literally saving my life right now. It was so foggy in there, but the sun is shining on the other side of the thicket I am in now. In the middle of leaving ( can't go no contact because kid, but I've already shut it down on my end) and it is everything I have been preparing myself for thanks to this channel. The rage is at full fury and I still move swiftly and silently toward the prize. Tons of self care and peaceful walks and education and Journaling and meditating. Forever grateful for this valuable resource. Literally Life-Saving!
No matter their chronological age, they are like a man child emotionally. One I know was much older than me, the other one was much younger, yet both are unemotionally available...no empathy or compassion...loveless, empty vessels. You have the rain down south, and we're getting the snow in the northeast. 💙❄️✨️
Hey Sherry!!! 🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗 Ugh! I’m sorry about that snow! We got a NASTY snow/ice storm a few years back here in TX. We’re good. We’ve hit our quota for at LEAST the next 10 years!!! 😛 That was some CRAZY… hybrid… I don’t even KNOW what! I just don’t ever wanna see it AGAIN!
@jennifernewton4637 Texas! Wow! The snow is so pretty, but I tend to agree that's enough! I loved it as a kid, but now growing older, I don't enjoy all the shoveling that comes along with it. 😉
@@Divinely_Guided444Haha EXACTLY! And when you get to be an adult, you worry about FALLING on the ice and of course car accidents! It gets HOT here in TX, but I’ll turn on a fan and deal with that ANY day over the headaches that snow can cause 😬😬😬
@jennifernewton4637 just as you say this, a tow truck passes by my house with a wrecked car. I won't drive in it, unless I absolutely have to. Ice is a definite no no! 😬😬 Enjoy your evening my soul siStar! 😉❤️🥰🌹
I’ve been binge watching your videos over the past few days. Currently 8 months narc free, initiated when I walked away from my marriage of only 6 months. The mask came off as soon as he got the ring on my finger. 😣 I’m much happier in my own energy.
I don't know where my ex narcissist Is living as 3 mths ago I caught him out with new supply then the next day he was living with her 2 weeks after that they left town and i don't know where they are and don't care the new supply he has the is his friends girl friend they are horrible people the way he discarded me was so cruel thank you Andrew for all your good videos
Wow ! Wow ! Wow ! Nailed it again my ex narcissistic wife moved only a couple blocks away !!! I see her time to time at the gym - ekks! It is the most challenging- married ,,, in the same house ,,,, drip drip drip of toxicity … headache…headache headache… abuse … using my love for my daughter against me… endless to do list … stance new friends - she used them and tossed them !! She was a covert Narc
Mind blowing video. Point after point you made is what happened to mine after the discard. Once the fog lifted, I realized I was thrown off the Titanic at her last stop before she sank.
Some narcissists have their own homes and used that to abuse their partners, some narcissists has money so it’s not all of them are homeless though. The ones that has money or homes are more evil
I just moved out of my sisters, or I should say escaped. She owns her home and has money, I needed surgery that’s why I moved there, we’re both in our 60s, she treated me like a servant. There’s no cure, thank god it was minor surgery ❤
My ex who is a Narcissist refused to get a another job after her was fired and he had moved in with me before he was fired. Our agreement before he moved in was we shared all expenses. He refused to pay for anything. Then every time I sat him down to have a talk with him about this he would tell me he would kill himself, also if he had to pay for any expenses/ contribute he would rather live by himself. However refuses to leave when I asked him too. Because he got his mail at my home it is a very long process to get him removed. I finally did. However he made my life a living hell. I was so depleted after I finally got him to move out I could barely function and it took me years to find myself again. He put me down every single day, spread lies about me and blamed me that he had to live at a motel for nearly 1 year after I got him out because he never even paid his bills and has bad credit. He owes so many companies and people money. I grew up with a Narcissistic Mother, Father, sister and Grandma. Back then I had no idea what Narcissism was. It has taken me years on my journey to healing. There is still so much to process, learn and heal from. Thank you for all your videos.
When I married the narcissist he was only 21 years old. When we divorced, he was 54 years old. But, he still acted like he was in his twenties at the end of our marriage. He never grew up. He actually became more immature as the years went by. They regress as they age in my humble opinion. They refuse to grow up, and face reality. They can't cope with life.
Reactive abuse is super confusing unless you get the message. Some type of sadistic game where they want you to hurt them, but you don’t want to, and they know that, but they want you to hurt them anyway. Most likely so they can put you in jail and have that built in supply. No matter how bad it gets don’t react. Don’t give them a reaction. You can do this! Andrew did it I did it and there are countless others who are doing very well because of no contact!
Dude, so accurate. She went , homeless, multiple roomates, single apt. , worker housing now and minimum wage at ...55 yrs old. No retirement, no savings, she has nothing. Thank you.
He said I’m a weak minded person and I don’t party enough for him. Excuse me for not being a bar fly and wanting to spend my time acting like a 20 year old.
I have watched many of these kinds of videos since my relationship died. Your video is the only one that made complete sense. Every one of your examples were exactly what I went thru. 6 years of my life were lost trying to please my wife. Nothing helped. Being "the best" means nothing to a narcissist.
We moved seven times in ten years, not because i wanted to or our kids, she knows i like to renovate and build stuff to a degree, every place ended with her fighting people around us, calling someone a whore, drama, intrigues and so on. The seventh time i said stop and thats when everything started going sideways. Long story short i have been living at the same place four years now, she has had seven men, living whit men that she uses until they get fed up or she ghost them, kids tell me about all the fighting, arguing... Crazy
Wow Andrew . Once again amazing insight . When I met my narcissist ex she was 48, divorced twice , no money , no friends , living at home with her parents !!!!! I offered her everything and only after a few months I asked her to simply do what she said she was going to do. She said she couldn’t agree to that and quickly devalued me to the point I had to end it , only to realise she had someone lined up to replace me . I have gone ‘no contact’ for 4 months and know she will be back at her parents again !!! Utter loser
Narcissists never learn. They are unteachable and are emotionally stuck as a bratty child. Narcissists never get better. What is she going to do when she out lives her parents? Don’t answer the phone when she calls.
I’m learning more everyday. The wife stole meds. Discarded me. And is nice when she thinks that she still has power. They truly do not care about anyone but themselves.
Narc-husband was aloof and secretive. You couldn't count on his words or when we made plans. Once he drove me to the ER- I had a kidney stone and in crucial pain. He left me there alone, said he'd be right back. When I got out, I was standing alone outside in the front of the hospital for over an hour. He drove up with no explanation, no care for the pain I was in.... enough said.
@@paulwisdom1090 The sickest part is I still stayed with him after that... pretty sad right? We were married for 10 years. He turned the love 💣 on our first date building me up (I was shy), l fell for it and within 6mos we married. Then came control, wanting to manage my money (he had none), leaving somewhere for hours & lying about it, I gave him & to start a business, he spent & behind my back, then the control.. put downs, he would say horrible things making me cry and if I was upset he'd put me down more. It got so bad in t he end, he would straddle me and poor a bottle in my face. I left him. He stalked me. I divorced him. Went to Alaska for 2 years to get away from flying monkeys everyone. Came back and started over at home. It's been 4 years on on my healing journey and my life is safe and happy now. Sorry so long! I tried to shorten it a lot. 🙂
My mother, who is now deceased, made my dad’s life such a living hell that he died of cancer. Everyone in her life did not want anything to do with her. Her own family did not come to her funeral. I barely survived her mental abuse. The next narc I have to deal with is my vampire husband. I can barely stand to be in the same room as him. We do not sleep in the same bed anymore. He knows I know what he is and is crapping his pants wondering what to do about it. I will be leaving him as soon as I can get it done.
My mother is a narcissist. Awful women caused so much pain. She abused my brothers and me (physically & emotionally). My poor father fell victim of my mother and commented suicide when I was 13 years old he was only 37yo the same age I am now. I’ve been trying to understand his death for so long. She tied him like a knot, cheating on him. She only got crazier after his death. Everything you describe is what my father had endured being married to her and I endured as her daughter. She would throw him out of the house and as he walked away she would chase after him asking him to come back for the kids and I remember him always saying, this isn’t right, this pain is debilitating. She would call him every name in the book, blame him for all of her problems and convinced him that he was the abuser. I am now finally no contact with her and focusing on healing myself.
Very sad story and shows me how dangerous to the soul, being in the presence of a Malignant Narcissist, especially a parent can be. Your father left you a gift- You! Make the best Life out of a horrendous upbringing.🙏✊
Go you! That's a very valid reason to stay ❤ I did 24 years unfortunately. We are strong, we are good, and we are always 'we' that's just how we think, we ought to be really grateful for how we think. Much love and power to you! Great mum!
I feel for you, 23 for me, but 12 years out now, found a lovely lady that went through similar so we get each other and great for healing too, good luck 🤙🦘
I was with the narc/addict 24 yrs Took him back multiple times. My lesson!!! I just counted how many moves he made in that time…..7….. Ty Andrew for bringing this up , it gave me more insight into my healing. When the mask fell the last time I was ready👍🏻🎆 he just didn’t know it💪🏻
My wife said to me the other day - you should have gone no contact with your family when they got you on meds and lied to a doctor trying to get you committed to a mental hospital. I was like, yeah I tried for about a month, but mom kept coming over acting like everything was normal and I had to get her to stop so I started talking to her again. Then I moved 13 time zones away from them to Siberia. The happiest times in my life are when I am geographically as far away as possible. Like now, I am in Florida and they are in Montana and I am OK with that, it feels better.
Blocking her disgusting hoovers as I watch this video 🙋🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤣 . They are relentless and only later in the healing journey you can put them in their spot. Mahalo Andrew
👍👍👏 Makes me feel so much better listening to what you say about the narc. Its true the ex narc was always moving around the world and i thought it was strange when normal people seeks stability. He was always fidgeting or on the phone. Prioritises on the way he looks and trying to relive his youth. Karma will bite their a** one day.
You have made me think about and realize so much about a few past romantic relationships as well as friendships. My goodness these people mess things up. I ALMOST have empathy for some of them. But bottom line, whatever made them who they are, does not matter. We have to think of ourselves and our sanity. ❤thank you so much !
Oh man, the reactive abuse thing hit home here. I was laughing out loud as you explained this, because it was so identifiable. Thank you for taking the time to make these videos and giving us your honest thoughts. This is great.
Awwww 🥰🥰🥰 So do I!!! There for a while he used to try to stifle his laugh, maybe thinking it inappropriate to laugh while discussing the topic of narcissism. It certainly isn’t… the laughter helps people heal ☺️ the sound of Andrew’s laughter is such a beautiful sound to me, because it means he’s happy 🥰😁😁😁
Andrew, you spoke about so many points related to my Narc mom. She was a wedger in my family. She divorced my father and broke up our family. I have so many bad memories of her and don't have anything to do with her now. She is now in a retirement home seeking out her next prey. Thank you so much.
Being from a small town...This is just a big eye opener and a reminder to heal childhood wounds. It started with my dad who is a narcissist he manipulated most of my family/community into believing things about my mom and I. From a young age on, I don't think I've ever had a strong truthful social circle. I hurt people too.. I am NOT proud of it! but I feel that I excused most peoples behaviors (I didn't have the wisdom and we were still being abused) because instead of the narcissists moving around in my life (some of them have my, my dad moved right next door to us after our protection order was up) but mostly it's been my mom and I being discarded or moving away from these people.
Andrew like i said it before ! you are the BEST! i have come a long way just from watching your VIDEOS. its been 4 month since i removed my X from my house. no contact with her. thank you.
I am dealing with a narcissistic raging sister right now. It's been very cruel. Your words are helping me get through it. When you talk about the empaths shining beautiful light, that just warmed my heart.
I saw the narcissist!. With the new supply 😅 the best part was . I asked him is that your girlfriend?. She said yes .and he said no ..😅😅😅. And she called him another name. . That
THANKYOU for touching on “ reactive abuse”! Please do a video on this if you would sometime! I’m learning so much from you Andrew! God bless you and keep up the great teachings& your brilliant wisdom on this topic!🎉🙏🎉🙏
i have more assertive communication with a dog or cat pets, really, and so more inconditional trust love n respect. Thats the vile infrahumane condition of narcs.
13:20 the fact that the narcissist has alienated their family makes it harder to leave them, at least at first when you are still going back and forth between denial and acceptance, because you worry what would happen to someone with no support network. and subconsciously you know they need way more support (or supply) than a regular person!
This is like a trauma bond,, they need to stand on they're own 2feet,,they will manipulate people,into making them feel responsible,don't fall for their games,,,❤️❤️❤️
Oh the joy of witnessing things going sideways for the narcissist...like them slipping and falling ass first on a non-lubricated sideways pineapple...or the sideways look when they know you saw.
For you have trusted in wickedness. You have said, "no one sees me.". Your wisdom and your knowledge led you astray, and you said in your heart and mind, "I am, and there is no one besides me." Therefore shall evil come upon you; you shall not know from wince it came. And disaster and evil shall fall upon you. You shall not be able to put it off, and desolation shall come upon you suddenly, and you shall not be able to avert it. Isaiah 47:10-11 That sounds like 'going sideways' to me....... Thanks Andrew
Like I say, just stay out of their way and sooner than later they will overplay their hand in some way or with someone, and will self destruct. I'm having to rebuild my life at 65. Lost 4 narc family members died from different forms of cancer, in the past 2 years! I think they knew their time was short, and is why they move so fast. Jump from relationship to relationship. Use all kind of vices trying to numb their pain they try to outwardly hide....but every dark plan will eventually come to light.
Yes. Apparently, my x has been burning more bridges. His old friends are trying to drop away from him. I just told one of them that he is just to damaged to change and grow. Thank you Andrew as always for the insights.
Omg yes...the narcissist(my ex husband) had said he was going to move out of state but he lives within 15 minutes of me which I hate. He's not is the best neighborhood either but that's his problem. Thankfully he hasn't stopped by to pull a hoover although if he does, I'm not home.
Andrew, you have much beauty around you in the Carolinas. I likewise am grateful for the abundant Nature here in Poland. I am from Scotland originally and there is abundant Nature there as well. When you slow your life down, hush up your mind and feel the Oneness with that around you, you are already ahead. Proper breathwork leads to serenity. Just sitting on a bench and taking in what's 'inside' and 'outside' can enhance your life immeasurably. I believe it to be the greatest gift, to have one's mind in neutral gear and experiencing true harmony/tranquility. Granted, the impact of the narc can infiltrate deep within us like a Trojan virus but once you are free, the ball is in your court. Certain song lyrics then become meaningful. 'You cannot reach me now, no matter how you try' (Pink Floyd, The Wall, Waiting for the Worms) or 'I got away from you, I never thought I would' (Madonna, Oh Father) .. we become more galvanised and we find our feet again. Life is a journey and some insights/experiences, as much as our egos tell us otherwise, are meant to be. God knows best :) (I am not strictly religious, I am a panentheist) Peace, bro!
@@jackiepowell7513 I'm guessing you read pantheist and not panentheist, which is what I wrote. Nature is to be respected as it is 'of Him' .. His manifestation.
I agree & resonate with your video. The narcissist goes through friends, work acquaintances & relatives the same way they go through romantic relationships. Eventually they are on rocky ground with everyone. If they do have a long term friend, dig deep. You will find that relationship has been off & on at various times over the years. And/or that person is toxic or a narcissist themselves. What you said, "I was in a relationship with an enemy". That is a shock & a game changer when you realize that. Love your background & love that you're filming in the rain 🙂. The sounds of the raindrops💧are calming🙂. But oh no😲, downpour at the end of the video😲! Hopefully you're warm & dry now🙂. Great video. God bless 🙂☀️☀️☀️
There's no going back. I'm almost 4 months no contact from a 4yr relationship. He's an empty vessel. There's nothing that will ever change that. He tried to take me down for the count & then gave me a final message hoping we can be friends one day. Delusional. I'm worth more than being shelved. It's been a painful journey getting out, but worth every second of it.
6:30 every "no" or boundary became a fight, you want to avoid fights, so you stop saying no or having boundaries. also, anger builds at having to compromise yourself and seeing no compromise back. the person I had the problems with would use OTHER mental illness they claim to have to make any boundary I set seem like a cruel attack on the disabled, filling me with guilt.
All true. Loved the part about how they wear clothes from 20 years ago. In my case, the female narc was wearing a tight dress to find her next male victim to manipulate and destroy. She already has two ex-husbands, a grown daughter who replaced her with the step mom, and a teen son who she co-sleeps with.
So true, my covert soon ex husband has been shacked up 5 miles away from my home with his bimbo coworker for the past 8 months. I'm still not divorced because he's NOT turning over proper discovery. These creatures are so destructive, they are Nothing but Chaos. Thanks Andrew
I fought for a year to divorce and be free.. he stalled months at a time to assemble paper work, then provided one page statement and hide the rest. truly it was no surprise. I kept walking forward. and it finally came to an end. I am praying for you and resolve. they are petty and vicious and destructive beyond words.
Better to lose a lover than to love a loser
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ex was never even a lover
@@nicolemurphy2629was going to say that also ….
Things go sideways in the relationship when the Narcissist senses that you are beginning to question that maybe there is something wrong with them and that It will be just a matter of time before you discover their True nature..
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That's very true,I called him out few times,,,then the silent treatment kicked in,,,also projecting on me what he was,👍🏻💡❤️🌲🕊️
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There are a bunch of losers who are users
One night he wouldn't get off his phone...tried to give a lame excuse why he had to stay glued to his phone when I wanted to spend time with him. But I called him out on his stupid lies...whew boy...he went into a full rage. Then the silent treatment, games, gaslighting and the cycles went into high gear. I kicked him to the curb as I got tired of the BS.
Really scary people.
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Scary and insane.
Dissappear like a cockroach at midnight when you turn the light on. 😂
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Let them fade into the background - they are the architects of their own downfall in the end. We deserve better and we know that now. We are all moving forward on the healing path. God is good! Thanks Andrew for another great lesson and for braving the rainy Carolinas! ☔🌧️
Hardest to deal with...The Cruelty
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Amen to THAT!! Even from my own sister …i can’t even believe we were raised in the same family; I would never treat ANYone the way she treats people (sister or not, it’s just plain WRONG!!).Don’t even TRY to tell me (as many flying monkeys have tried to do …) that she has no idea what she did. Of course she knows. Lying about it to others is just more of the mask, feigning innocence more of the cruelty. Good riddance, no one gets to bring that shit into my life!! ❤️🙏🏻
The narcissist changed me FOREVER! One year on the healing path its amazing. Some days are great , some days not so much......all days narcissist free....I'll take it💞
Good for you, I am in a similar place celebrating one year of no contact, I swear it feels like my new birthday! I don't wake up ruminating but I do have a lot of pain and am exhausted most of the time with auto immune disease and decades of toxicity stored up inside me that needs to get released.
I am free from the narc for almost 6 years and the healing process is not easy. some days beautiful but sometimes dark days. It’s a roller coaster…
Absolutely Susan! Stay strong.❣️
"They can't have stability, they can't have tranquillity, they can't just be." It's like they're chasing an uncatchable dragon of chaos, drama, and supply, not understanding that they could potentially solve their inner turmoil by lookin inward!
narcissist's are CRAZY, CRAZY, CRAZY !!!
"What a tangled web they weave, when they seek to deceive"...🌲🙏🌲
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They project, throw everything back at us thus is the life of a liar, who could keep track of all those lies, easier to keep denying anything they've been accused of...
Narcs are so jealous of our strength and that people really like us. God bless you all.❣️
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@@dustinmiller2775 True true...but "we don't practice to decieve"...the raggedy ass evil narcs do !! Hahaha
narcissists are always the common denominator as to why they destroy relationships, and yet they have the ultimate lack of self-awareness as to why it happens.
the icing on the cake lol, is that the narcissist is unwilling and unable to reflect and learn from past mistakes.
cheers from southern ontario, canada 🍁
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@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thanks andrew for your hard work. keep putting the idiot narcissists on blast!
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they really don’t wake up: they don’t have ability to understand their part in the destruction of their personal relationships….it is always someone else’s doing.
When you are in the narcissistic fog, you lie to yourself, and you believe the narcissistic lies that they tell you because you want to believe them because the alternative is, for a time, too painful to accept. You find yourself in a horrible situation. You made a terrible mistake getting involved with this toxic person, and somehow, you must find the strength to get away from them. I am thankful that I found the strength and got away from the narcissists in my life. It has been a long journey, and it hasn't always been easy, but I am better now. I have good days and bad days, but I no longer have to live in the narcissistic suck zone. Thank God, and thank you, Andrew, for teaching about narcissism. 😊
Aren't you wonderful! One step at a time and with each step further away from them, air is for breathing/replenishing ourselves, not for having it sucked out of us, they leave you feeling like a fish 🐟 in a tank running out of oxygen!
Mary, perfectly said!❣️
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@joseenoel8093 exactly 💯 like your analogy. Thank you 😊
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I was stunned at how my ex-narc’s friends treated me-especially a female. Looking back, I now realize he was probably telling them terrible things about me (so he’d be the victim when our relationship blew up and he discarded me) and he was stringing this woman along to get supply and some romantic attention on the side. And this was the guy whom I thought was the love of my life. ☠️
Things go sideways for the narc all the time. But would never take responsibility for anything. They just blame the first person available. They don't care about anything or anyone. Blessings!❤
This is the worst part of the relationship IMO. They never show their struggle in life in a genuine way, and over time it makes it seem like they live a perfect life, making you think you're doing something wrong. This is BS
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Yes the more people as Supply,,the quicker they can discard and Jump Ship to other supplies,,,But it does Catch up on Them,,they're time line runs out,,,They Bring it on Themselves by the Toxic Behavior...they can fool some people some of the time,,But they cant.fool all of the people all of the time,,They Reap What They Sow,,💡👍🏻❤️❤️t.y. Andrew,,
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Any time I tried to have an adult discussion with the narc ex husband about his repeated poor behaviours, the narcs response was always "Why are you trying to start an arguement?" I'd then be trying to explain myself, that I wasn't looking to argue, I was looking to discuss recurring issues and try work on a resolve. He'd then throw a age fit on how he couldn't believe I was trying to argue with him. I became so drained and beaten down by it that I got to the point of not saying anything. Having now got the wisdom though, looking back I can see so clearly how he manipulated me with the same cycles of poor behaviour and the second I would raise it, BOOM, blame shifted onto me that I was starting an arguement with him. On reflection, he would have known his days were numbered on when his mask slipped for the final time as I was clocking on to his repeat cycles of nonsense. Life's too short to be merely existing in these toxic relationships. When you recognise patterns of poor behaviour, you're not crazy or imagining it, it's happening and it's not acceptable - get out in a safe manner when you can and go no contact, it's the only way to help move forward from the abuse.
I don't get on many of these channels because there's so many people talking about narcissism that the misinformation is just too compelling. I know you know because you describe specifically the inside of the relationship in all its nuances. Example. My narc would invite people over on occasion who I never heard about, never met or knew and he was saying how close they were. Some of these people were the worst people we knew in our marriage! One left the house one day after the outsider sat and insulted me and my sober, Christian lifestyle right in my own kitchen. The narc left the room and let this guy rip me apart. But trust me, that man never came back after I confronted him and what he was really about. I put him in his place bigtime and he never dared walk back into my home. The narc was full of surprise people from the past. There was always these weird, creepy, strange people who were such outliers of anyone normal you would meet. Narc had no friends except these dudes!
They've gotten away with it because "that's just the way they are." I'm grateful I am out. If only I had known about narcissism, it would have saved me a lot of grief. You are doing a lot to educate people on the deadly behavior of narcissists. They'll never change and that's why things always go sideways for them. Most people learn from their mistakes, or they realize at some point maybe they shouldn't be doing the same things over and over because it ends up in grief. It took me a long time, years, to overcome I was programmed to take narcissistic abuse. By having been programmed, I mean growing up with accepting narcissism as a way of life. It doesn't have to be the way narcissists say it should be.
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The narcissist needs constant supply of feeling dominant or he will psychologically implode. He is dependent on the other, he cannot exist alone. He needs a victim to feel like he exist.
When people discover these strange patterns, they withdraw from the narcissist and things go sideways for him.
....but my life and fate are more important to me.
Great video, Andrew( in the rain)
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All narcs I know are living great,n everything goes left for me so maybe am the narcissist
That’s just the MALE SPECIES.
There are very much narcissistic women, trust me.
The fact these monsters ALL follow the same script is just crazy, great work on the videos
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I love how you repeat cerain phrases which helps embed these concepts in my brain. I found myself saying "i come 1st, 2nd and 3rd" to myself recently 😂. It really does help
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De-programming?
Loved the rain.
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-- WOW!!! You are so correct. - My ex-wife used so many people (including me) for their money that she *"went on the run"* and moved to another state where no one knew of her trail of narcissistic destruction.
Thanks for the education you provide, Andrew. I can't even imagine how many narcs have been dumped on their head because of the information you deliver on the daily, much respect to you.
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God willing!
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I moved cross country to get away from her , she better never show up
Your videos are quite literally saving my life right now. It was so foggy in there, but the sun is shining on the other side of the thicket I am in now. In the middle of leaving ( can't go no contact because kid, but I've already shut it down on my end) and it is everything I have been preparing myself for thanks to this channel. The rage is at full fury and I still move swiftly and silently toward the prize. Tons of self care and peaceful walks and education and Journaling and meditating. Forever grateful for this valuable resource. Literally Life-Saving!
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God bless your every step on the healing path!😊
Stay close to the channel & community for support.
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No matter their chronological age, they are like a man child emotionally. One I know was much older than me, the other one was much younger, yet both are unemotionally available...no empathy or compassion...loveless, empty vessels.
You have the rain down south, and we're getting the snow in the northeast. 💙❄️✨️
Hey Sherry!!! 🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗 Ugh! I’m sorry about that snow! We got a NASTY snow/ice storm a few years back here in TX. We’re good. We’ve hit our quota for at LEAST the next 10 years!!! 😛 That was some CRAZY… hybrid… I don’t even KNOW what! I just don’t ever wanna see it AGAIN!
@jennifernewton4637 Texas! Wow! The snow is so pretty, but I tend to agree that's enough! I loved it as a kid, but now growing older, I don't enjoy all the shoveling that comes along with it. 😉
@@Divinely_Guided444Haha EXACTLY! And when you get to be an adult, you worry about FALLING on the ice and of course car accidents! It gets HOT here in TX, but I’ll turn on a fan and deal with that ANY day over the headaches that snow can cause 😬😬😬
@jennifernewton4637 just as you say this, a tow truck passes by my house with a wrecked car. I won't drive in it, unless I absolutely have to. Ice is a definite no no! 😬😬
Enjoy your evening my soul siStar! 😉❤️🥰🌹
Oh wow! I hope everyone is okay!!! You have a WONDERFUL evening as well! 🤗❤️🤗❤️🤗☀️🌹
I’ve been binge watching your videos over the past few days. Currently 8 months narc free, initiated when I walked away from my marriage of only 6 months. The mask came off as soon as he got the ring on my finger. 😣 I’m much happier in my own energy.
I don't know where my ex narcissist Is living as 3 mths ago I caught him out with new supply then the next day he was living with her 2 weeks after that they left town and i don't know where they are and don't care the new supply he has the is his friends girl friend they are horrible people the way he discarded me was so cruel thank you Andrew for all your good videos
Wow ! Wow ! Wow ! Nailed it again my ex narcissistic wife moved only a couple blocks away !!! I see her time to time at the gym - ekks! It is the most challenging- married ,,, in the same house ,,,, drip drip drip of toxicity … headache…headache headache… abuse … using my love for my daughter against me… endless to do list … stance new friends - she used them and tossed them !! She was a covert Narc
I remember when a certain friend used to come to our house and would say Kevin isn’t yelling that’s just the way he talks. Dude Kevin was yelling.
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Mind blowing video. Point after point you made is what happened to mine after the discard. Once the fog lifted, I realized I was thrown off the Titanic at her last stop before she sank.
Reactive abuse, yes. OMG! So glad it has a name.
Thank you so much Andrew for all of your support. I couldn't have done it without you. Bless you.
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All so true and pertinent. It happened to me . I let go . And the narcissist, ruined it's mask . I'm seeing toxic people and I am keeping to myself. ❤
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Same.. me too
Some narcissists have their own homes and used that to abuse their partners, some narcissists has money so it’s not all of them are homeless though. The ones that has money or homes are more evil
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You are sooooo on point with this!!!
They have “more” to loose!
@Durhamcricket543 Yep!!!
I just moved out of my sisters, or I should say escaped. She owns her home and has money, I needed surgery that’s why I moved there, we’re both in our 60s, she treated me like a servant. There’s no cure, thank god it was minor surgery ❤
My ex who is a Narcissist refused to get a another job after her was fired and he had moved in with me before he was fired. Our agreement before he moved in was we shared all expenses. He refused to pay for anything. Then every time I sat him down to have a talk with him about this he would tell me he would kill himself, also if he had to pay for any expenses/ contribute he would rather live by himself. However refuses to leave when I asked him too. Because he got his mail at my home it is a very long process to get him removed. I finally did. However he made my life a living hell. I was so depleted after I finally got him to move out I could barely function and it took me years to find myself again. He put me down every single day, spread lies about me and blamed me that he had to live at a motel for nearly 1 year after I got him out because he never even paid his bills and has bad credit. He owes so many companies and people money. I grew up with a Narcissistic Mother, Father, sister and Grandma. Back then I had no idea what Narcissism was. It has taken me years on my journey to healing. There is still so much to process, learn and heal from. Thank you for all your videos.
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On point as usual Andrew!! That’s why I’m no contact. Door is slammed shut boarded up!!
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Sister is where mine went for over 2 yrs now
When I married the narcissist he was only 21 years old. When we divorced, he was 54 years old. But, he still acted like he was in his twenties at the end of our marriage. He never grew up. He actually became more immature as the years went by. They regress as they age in my humble opinion. They refuse to grow up, and face reality. They can't cope with life.
Reactive abuse is super confusing unless you get the message. Some type of sadistic game where they want you to hurt them, but you don’t want to, and they know that, but they want you to hurt them anyway. Most likely so they can put you in jail and have that built in supply. No matter how bad it gets don’t react. Don’t give them a reaction. You can do this! Andrew did it I did it and there are countless others who are doing very well because of no contact!
Different levels levels of their mind games. All of it mind games, including baiting you
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Dude, so accurate. She went , homeless, multiple roomates, single apt. , worker housing now and minimum wage at ...55 yrs old.
No retirement, no savings, she has nothing. Thank you.
He said I’m a weak minded person and I don’t party enough for him. Excuse me for not being a bar fly and wanting to spend my time acting like a 20 year old.
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Wow! Spot on again! I feel like you know my wife!
I have watched many of these kinds of videos since my relationship died.
Your video is the only one that made complete sense. Every one of your examples were exactly what I went thru. 6 years of my life were lost trying to please my wife. Nothing helped. Being "the best" means nothing to a narcissist.
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My brother Andrew!! A man of light and love 🙏 thank you!
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It's apparent I'm going to have to go all the way back to your first video and start from the beginning...
« You can’t unsee what you have seen “
Thank you for the reminder!
We moved seven times in ten years, not because i wanted to or our kids, she knows i like to renovate and build stuff to a degree, every place ended with her fighting people around us, calling someone a whore, drama, intrigues and so on. The seventh time i said stop and thats when everything started going sideways. Long story short i have been living at the same place four years now, she has had seven men, living whit men that she uses until they get fed up or she ghost them, kids tell me about all the fighting, arguing... Crazy
I do believe there are Narcissists who live at the same place for 20 plus years. They do not all move around. And they are not born that way
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My daughter has gone no contact with her father and even mailed his Christmas present back to him.
Please don't stop these videos
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Wow Andrew . Once again amazing insight . When I met my narcissist ex she was 48, divorced twice , no money , no friends , living at home with her parents !!!!! I offered her everything and only after a few months I asked her to simply do what she said she was going to do. She said she couldn’t agree to that and quickly devalued me to the point I had to end it , only to realise she had someone lined up to replace me . I have gone ‘no contact’ for 4 months and know she will be back at her parents again !!! Utter loser
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Narcissists never learn. They are unteachable and are emotionally stuck as a bratty child. Narcissists never get better. What is she going to do when she out lives her parents? Don’t answer the phone when she calls.
I’m learning more everyday. The wife stole meds. Discarded me. And is nice when she thinks that she still has power. They truly do not care about anyone but themselves.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone she moved back in with her parents. It’s killing her dad, but they truly don’t care about anyone.
It’s so crazy , like they never think there actions will make the wrong decisions
Narc-husband was aloof and secretive. You couldn't count on his words or when we made plans. Once he drove me to the ER- I had a kidney stone and in crucial pain. He left me there alone, said he'd be right back. When I got out, I was standing alone outside in the front of the hospital for over an hour. He drove up with no explanation, no care for the pain I was in.... enough said.
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Wow, the fact that he just left you there speaks volumes. How long were you married to him? Did you discard? What ended up happening Julie?
@@paulwisdom1090 The sickest part is I still stayed with him after that... pretty sad right? We were married for 10 years. He turned the love 💣 on our first date building me up (I was shy), l fell for it and within 6mos we married. Then came control, wanting to manage my money (he had none), leaving somewhere for hours & lying about it, I gave him & to start a business, he spent & behind my back, then the control.. put downs, he would say horrible things making me cry and if I was upset he'd put me down more. It got so bad in t he end, he would straddle me and poor a bottle in my face. I left him. He stalked me. I divorced him. Went to Alaska for 2 years to get away from flying monkeys everyone. Came back and started over at home. It's been 4 years on on my healing journey and my life is safe and happy now. Sorry so long! I tried to shorten it a lot. 🙂
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@@paulwisdom1090 I don't see my original reply to you on here.. I typed all that.. jeez.. My phone is in bizarro mode today
People are getting wise, for sure. 😮
My mother, who is now deceased, made my dad’s life such a living hell that he died of cancer. Everyone in her life did not want anything to do with her. Her own family did not come to her funeral. I barely survived her mental abuse. The next narc I have to deal with is my vampire husband. I can barely stand to be in the same room as him. We do not sleep in the same bed anymore. He knows I know what he is and is crapping his pants wondering what to do about it. I will be leaving him as soon as I can get it done.
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There’s tons of them , that’s the sad thing
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My mother is a narcissist. Awful women caused so much pain. She abused my brothers and me (physically & emotionally). My poor father fell victim of my mother and commented suicide when I was 13 years old he was only 37yo the same age I am now. I’ve been trying to understand his death for so long. She tied him like a knot, cheating on him. She only got crazier after his death. Everything you describe is what my father had endured being married to her and I endured as her daughter. She would throw him out of the house and as he walked away she would chase after him asking him to come back for the kids and I remember him always saying, this isn’t right, this pain is debilitating. She would call him every name in the book, blame him for all of her problems and convinced him that he was the abuser. I am now finally no contact with her and focusing on healing myself.
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Very sad story and shows me how dangerous to the soul, being in the presence of a Malignant
Narcissist, especially a parent can be. Your father left you a gift- You! Make the best Life out of a horrendous upbringing.🙏✊
@@jhavajoe3792 Thank you, yes I am working hard on it and feeling really positive these days! 💪😊✨
I stayed ,33 years to get my younger child through her Bachelors. I deserve this peace now.☮️❣️
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Me too- 33 years!
Go you! That's a very valid reason to stay ❤ I did 24 years unfortunately. We are strong, we are good, and we are always 'we' that's just how we think, we ought to be really grateful for how we think. Much love and power to you! Great mum!
rodatrula...Thank you.❣️
I feel for you, 23 for me, but 12 years out now, found a lovely lady that went through similar so we get each other and great for healing too, good luck 🤙🦘
I was with the narc/addict 24 yrs
Took him back multiple times. My lesson!!! I just counted how many moves he made in that time…..7…..
Ty Andrew for bringing this up , it gave me more insight into my healing.
When the mask fell the last time I was ready👍🏻🎆 he just didn’t know it💪🏻
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My wife said to me the other day - you should have gone no contact with your family when they got you on meds and lied to a doctor trying to get you committed to a mental hospital. I was like, yeah I tried for about a month, but mom kept coming over acting like everything was normal and I had to get her to stop so I started talking to her again. Then I moved 13 time zones away from them to Siberia. The happiest times in my life are when I am geographically as far away as possible. Like now, I am in Florida and they are in Montana and I am OK with that, it feels better.
100 % Facts always in different situations hurting others for fun and when discover running to another part of the world I live this !!!
Blocking her disgusting hoovers as I watch this video 🙋🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤣 . They are relentless and only later in the healing journey you can put them in their spot.
Mahalo Andrew
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👍👍👏 Makes me feel so much better listening to what you say about the narc. Its true the ex narc was always moving around the world and i thought it was strange when normal people seeks stability. He was always fidgeting or on the phone. Prioritises on the way he looks and trying to relive his youth. Karma will bite their a** one day.
"THE Drum Major EFFECT,' Rev. DOC. Martin Luther King 🤴
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Beautiful, inspiring message.👍
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My ex narc husband could sit for hours on the couch and watch TV. He watched me break my back to do everything alone and then laughed at me.
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You have made me think about and realize so much about a few past romantic relationships as well as friendships. My goodness these people mess things up. I ALMOST have empathy for some of them. But bottom line, whatever made them who they are, does not matter. We have to think of ourselves and our sanity. ❤thank you so much !
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I see your rain 🌧 .. We're waiting for snow ❄. Thanks for your message Andrew 😊
Everything you say is true, and I lived with it for 13 years!
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Oh man, the reactive abuse thing hit home here. I was laughing out loud as you explained this, because it was so identifiable. Thank you for taking the time to make these videos and giving us your honest thoughts. This is great.
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I love to hear you laugh!😂
Awwww 🥰🥰🥰 So do I!!! There for a while he used to try to stifle his laugh, maybe thinking it inappropriate to laugh while discussing the topic of narcissism. It certainly isn’t… the laughter helps people heal ☺️ the sound of Andrew’s laughter is such a beautiful sound to me, because it means he’s happy 🥰😁😁😁
Yes, I agree.
Love love love the sound of the rain! 🌧
Your messages are sooo good!
Thank you Andrew! ❤
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Great Explanation‼️
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Andrew, you spoke about so many points related to my Narc mom. She was a wedger in my family. She divorced my father and broke up our family. I have so many bad memories of her and don't have anything to do with her now. She is now in a retirement home seeking out her next prey. Thank you so much.
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My narc aunt actually got booted out of a nursing home because she caused so much trouble!😂
Being from a small town...This is just a big eye opener and a reminder to heal childhood wounds. It started with my dad who is a narcissist he manipulated most of my family/community into believing things about my mom and I. From a young age on, I don't think I've ever had a strong truthful social circle. I hurt people too.. I am NOT proud of it! but I feel that I excused most peoples behaviors (I didn't have the wisdom and we were still being abused) because instead of the narcissists moving around in my life (some of them have my, my dad moved right next door to us after our protection order was up) but mostly it's been my mom and I being discarded or moving away from these people.
Andrew like i said it before ! you are the BEST! i have come a long way just from watching your VIDEOS.
its been 4 month since i removed my X from my house. no contact with her.
thank you.
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No question. He is the Best.
I am dealing with a narcissistic raging sister right now. It's been very cruel. Your words are helping me get through it. When you talk about the empaths shining beautiful light, that just warmed my heart.
The relationship with my N husband has gone sideways...it is like watching a train wreck in slow motion ... I'm trying to take the high road about it🙂
I saw the narcissist!. With the new supply 😅 the best part was . I asked him is that your girlfriend?. She said yes .and he said no ..😅😅😅. And she called him another name. . That
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THANKYOU for touching on “ reactive abuse”! Please do a video on this if you would sometime!
I’m learning so much from you Andrew! God bless you and keep up the great teachings& your brilliant wisdom on this topic!🎉🙏🎉🙏
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i have more assertive communication with a dog or cat pets, really, and so more inconditional trust love n respect. Thats the vile infrahumane condition of narcs.
13:20 the fact that the narcissist has alienated their family makes it harder to leave them, at least at first when you are still going back and forth between denial and acceptance, because you worry what would happen to someone with no support network. and subconsciously you know they need way more support (or supply) than a regular person!
This is like a trauma bond,, they need to stand on they're own 2feet,,they will manipulate people,into making them feel responsible,don't fall for their games,,,❤️❤️❤️
It's difficult to be an empathic person!
Oh the joy of witnessing things going sideways for the narcissist...like them slipping and falling ass first on a non-lubricated sideways pineapple...or the sideways look when they know you saw.
For you have trusted in wickedness. You have said, "no one sees me.". Your wisdom and your knowledge led you astray, and you said in your heart and mind, "I am, and there is no one besides me."
Therefore shall evil come upon you; you shall not know from wince it came. And disaster and evil shall fall upon you. You shall not be able to put it off, and desolation shall come upon you suddenly, and you shall not be able to avert it.
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That sounds like 'going sideways' to me.......
Thanks Andrew
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Like I say, just stay out of their way and sooner than later they will overplay their hand in some way or with someone, and will self destruct. I'm having to rebuild my life at 65. Lost 4 narc family members died from different forms of cancer, in the past 2 years! I think they knew their time was short, and is why they move so fast. Jump from relationship to relationship. Use all kind of vices trying to numb their pain they try to outwardly hide....but every dark plan will eventually come to light.
Very good Video, danke from Germany 🙌👍🙏
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Yes. Apparently, my x has been burning more bridges. His old friends are trying to drop away from him. I just told one of them that he is just to damaged to change and grow. Thank you Andrew as always for the insights.
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Left an old smelly sock at your house 30 years ago!😂
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Some people need endless affirmation.
Omg yes...the narcissist(my ex husband) had said he was going to move out of state but he lives within 15 minutes of me which I hate. He's not is the best neighborhood either but that's his problem. Thankfully he hasn't stopped by to pull a hoover although if he does, I'm not home.
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Andrew, you have much beauty around you in the Carolinas. I likewise am grateful for the abundant Nature here in Poland. I am from Scotland originally and there is abundant Nature there as well. When you slow your life down, hush up your mind and feel the Oneness with that around you, you are already ahead. Proper breathwork leads to serenity. Just sitting on a bench and taking in what's 'inside' and 'outside' can enhance your life immeasurably. I believe it to be the greatest gift, to have one's mind in neutral gear and experiencing true harmony/tranquility. Granted, the impact of the narc can infiltrate deep within us like a Trojan virus but once you are free, the ball is in your court. Certain song lyrics then become meaningful. 'You cannot reach me now, no matter how you try' (Pink Floyd, The Wall, Waiting for the Worms) or 'I got away from you, I never thought I would' (Madonna, Oh Father) .. we become more galvanised and we find our feet again. Life is a journey and some insights/experiences, as much as our egos tell us otherwise, are meant to be. God knows best :) (I am not strictly religious, I am a panentheist) Peace, bro!
Aah so you worship the creation, not the Creator. Hmmm....kjv
@@jackiepowell7513 I'm guessing you read pantheist and not panentheist, which is what I wrote. Nature is to be respected as it is 'of Him' .. His manifestation.
I agree & resonate with your video. The narcissist goes through friends, work acquaintances & relatives the same way they go through romantic relationships. Eventually they are on rocky ground with everyone. If they do have a long term friend, dig deep. You will find that relationship has been off & on at various times over the years. And/or that person is toxic or a narcissist themselves. What you said, "I was in a relationship with an enemy". That is a shock & a game changer when you realize that. Love your background & love that you're filming in the rain 🙂. The sounds of the raindrops💧are calming🙂. But oh no😲, downpour at the end of the video😲! Hopefully you're warm & dry now🙂. Great video. God bless 🙂☀️☀️☀️
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There's no going back. I'm almost 4 months no contact from a 4yr relationship. He's an empty vessel. There's nothing that will ever change that. He tried to take me down for the count & then gave me a final message hoping we can be friends one day. Delusional. I'm worth more than being shelved. It's been a painful journey getting out, but worth every second of it.
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6:30 every "no" or boundary became a fight, you want to avoid fights, so you stop saying no or having boundaries. also, anger builds at having to compromise yourself and seeing no compromise back.
the person I had the problems with would use OTHER mental illness they claim to have to make any boundary I set seem like a cruel attack on the disabled, filling me with guilt.
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😮 They know all the tricks!
They are spy’s everywhere. He moved one town away. And I’m still stuck with his mother and two sons.
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Thankyou for a great impressive, strong, empowering message. This message really saves people’s lives. 🙏💕🌸
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All true. Loved the part about how they wear clothes from 20 years ago. In my case, the female narc was wearing a tight dress to find her next male victim to manipulate and destroy. She already has two ex-husbands, a grown daughter who replaced her with the step mom, and a teen son who she co-sleeps with.
I knew from the beginning, I was being trauma bond, but thought I could change him.😮
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So true, my covert soon ex husband has been shacked up 5 miles away from my home with his bimbo coworker for the past 8 months. I'm still not divorced because he's NOT turning over proper discovery. These creatures are so destructive, they are Nothing but Chaos. Thanks Andrew
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I pray you are rid of him soon than later
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@BeTheLight624 thanks so much 🙏
I fought for a year to divorce and be free.. he stalled months at a time to assemble paper work, then provided one page statement and hide the rest. truly it was no surprise. I kept walking forward. and it finally came to an end. I am praying for you and resolve. they are petty and vicious and destructive beyond words.
@anitadanforth6995 yes,I've received a very incomplete discovery that doesn't have much on it other Than his word, we all know they are complete liars