Thank you all for the kind comments. I’m glad I’m not the only one with experiences with this, and yes, I’m aware that in hindsight this was a stupid idea. I’m taking the advice I’ve been given here to heart, and I appreciate you all for it. You guys are great, and I hope you all have a good life. Have a cookie 🍪
Dude he's not worth it move on and its his lose you seem like a great guy and kind and caring. Keep the hope and believe you will find someone that's your soul mate. Best wishes ...
I watched till the end. Hang in there honey. You will find that special one. The one you deserve. Anytime you want to talk, let me know. You are one of the people who are special. You are able to see things for what it truly should be. 💙
Honey, don't be hard on yourself, it's on him. Just focus on working on yourself, the pain will pass with time and you will do much better. It is very rare to find someone real and worthwhile in gay community, but if you look for it, you'll find him.
Baby boy, I appreciate your values and your mind and your intelligence! If it makes any consolation, I watched your entire video and believe that this person in the activities that you mentioned are beneath you. You are so much better off. This will make you an even stronger and better person. Never sacrifice your values and your character for anyone or anything and you’ll do just fine. You deserve better than this and only as long as you keep commitment to loving yourself better. Things truly come to those who deserve them. And everyone will always get what they give and will reap what they sow. Get it out and release the darkness from this and then pick your head up in strength and determination knowing that you are better than this and be grateful for being you! It’s the same as it was when I came out in 1995 at 16 years old and ever since. I trust that you’re smart enough that you’ll figure out what’s going on here and wish you good blessings and greatness for your future. Never join the crowd!
Yeah trying to fix people rarely goes well. They do what they do and you do what you do. Especially with addictions involved and sometimes that can turn to violence. Its just better not to by yourself. They have ro want it and want to seek treatment and stick with it.
When you're young, and really want love and intimacy, it's easy to mold yourself to fit others in an attempt to receive that love as quickly as possible. But that doesn't work. One day you will look back and question why you ever gave this guy a chance in the first place because he's so clearly not a good match for you. Until then you just have to remember that the vast majority of people you meet will not have similar values to you and will not have the right chemistry with you, and that just because it feels emotionally exciting does not mean it's the right match. Keep looking for that match, and let the wrong ones roll off your back as best as you can.
There are many more fish in the ocean my guy. Caden will probably end up living a short life with all his addictions. So find someone who will love you back. You are young and good looking. So move on. I know it hurts at first but you’ll find someone to make you forget him. Best wishes!
You lost me at **I could fix him**. You are not family. Seldom is it a good idea to intervene. I've done it quite a few times and it's exhausting and mostly unproductive.
Sorry for the book. You’re gonna meet a lot of shitty gay people at your age. Lots of them are going to party nonstop, lots of those kinds are also very deeply unhappy with themselves and only know how turn to dick & drugs to feel like they’re worth it. Hard to avoid in this community unfortunately, but you WILL find someone that is cut from your cloth, and the right person will make you forget about all that hopeless searching and all the fear that comes with being alone in our world. You’ll know it when you’re BOTH inspired to be better for each other and each other alone. It’ll be you two against the world, and neither of you will have to turn to TH-cam to know how you’re feeling because you’ll feel comfortable enough to tell each other anything directly without fear of judgement. You shouldn’t have to be the only one contributing when the other is so clearly about themselves and always will be. You deserve better and you will get that life changing happiness with someone who values you equally highly and wants to truly know you. Don’t give up on it, it’s one of the most amazing things you could ever experience in life and it’s out there waiting for you somewhere. I went out with guys for years, and definitely partied alongside those types too because like so many others, that’s what I thought I had to do to get anywhere. That’s until I found my person who made me look at myself deeply and I realized that I didn’t need to do that. You give me hope actually, that people are finally feeling confident enough in themselves that they don’t need to stoop to partying or anything else that makes them unhappy just to have a basic shot at finding love. You absolutely don’t have to. You are enough and you’re going to find someone who treats you like a king because you’re beautiful and will always be more than enough. Fuck Caden, sounds like a lifetime of credit card debt awaits him anyways. Find peace brother, stay strong and stay you 🤘🏻
Already done counseling, and I don’t believe it’s necessary for me at this point. Despite the more somber video, and the long vent, I’m actually a pretty happy person. Although all this shit with Caden has weighed me down, I think I have a pretty great life. I have a roof over my head, food, hobbies that I enjoy, three of the greatest younger brothers a guy could ask for, and a stable job. Despite the hurt from poor relationships, the 7 day work weeks, and the impending Titan that is college, I have a pretty positive outlook, and look forward to moving on, and seeing what life throws at me next.
Thank you all for the kind comments. I’m glad I’m not the only one with experiences with this, and yes, I’m aware that in hindsight this was a stupid idea. I’m taking the advice I’ve been given here to heart, and I appreciate you all for it. You guys are great, and I hope you all have a good life. Have a cookie 🍪
Dude he's not worth it move on and its his lose you seem like a great guy and kind and caring. Keep the hope and believe you will find someone that's your soul mate. Best wishes ...
I watched till the end. Hang in there honey. You will find that special one. The one you deserve. Anytime you want to talk, let me know. You are one of the people who are special. You are able to see things for what it truly should be. 💙
He sounded like an asshole. His loss. You can do much better than him!
Honey, don't be hard on yourself, it's on him. Just focus on working on yourself, the pain will pass with time and you will do much better. It is very rare to find someone real and worthwhile in gay community, but if you look for it, you'll find him.
Baby boy, I appreciate your values and your mind and your intelligence! If it makes any consolation, I watched your entire video and believe that this person in the activities that you mentioned are beneath you. You are so much better off. This will make you an even stronger and better person. Never sacrifice your values and your character for anyone or anything and you’ll do just fine. You deserve better than this and only as long as you keep commitment to loving yourself better. Things truly come to those who deserve them. And everyone will always get what they give and will reap what they sow. Get it out and release the darkness from this and then pick your head up in strength and determination knowing that you are better than this and be grateful for being you!
It’s the same as it was when I came out in 1995 at 16 years old and ever since. I trust that you’re smart enough that you’ll figure out what’s going on here and wish you good blessings and greatness for your future. Never join the crowd!
Yeah trying to fix people rarely goes well. They do what they do and you do what you do. Especially with addictions involved and sometimes that can turn to violence. Its just better not to by yourself. They have ro want it and want to seek treatment and stick with it.
When you're young, and really want love and intimacy, it's easy to mold yourself to fit others in an attempt to receive that love as quickly as possible. But that doesn't work. One day you will look back and question why you ever gave this guy a chance in the first place because he's so clearly not a good match for you. Until then you just have to remember that the vast majority of people you meet will not have similar values to you and will not have the right chemistry with you, and that just because it feels emotionally exciting does not mean it's the right match. Keep looking for that match, and let the wrong ones roll off your back as best as you can.
Yeah 100% be with someone who has similar values. It wouldn't have worked in the long term x feel for you x❤
There are many more fish in the ocean my guy. Caden will probably end up living a short life with all his addictions. So find someone who will love you back. You are young and good looking. So move on. I know it hurts at first but you’ll find someone to make you forget him. Best wishes!
Bro! Let go of the poison and don't let it eat you up ❤
It’s his loss. I sure wouldn’t have walked away from a guy like you
He was never yours. It was just your turn. Don't look back.
You lost me at **I could fix him**. You are not family. Seldom is it a good idea to intervene. I've done it quite a few times and it's exhausting and mostly unproductive.
Sorry for the book. You’re gonna meet a lot of shitty gay people at your age. Lots of them are going to party nonstop, lots of those kinds are also very deeply unhappy with themselves and only know how turn to dick & drugs to feel like they’re worth it. Hard to avoid in this community unfortunately, but you WILL find someone that is cut from your cloth, and the right person will make you forget about all that hopeless searching and all the fear that comes with being alone in our world. You’ll know it when you’re BOTH inspired to be better for each other and each other alone. It’ll be you two against the world, and neither of you will have to turn to TH-cam to know how you’re feeling because you’ll feel comfortable enough to tell each other anything directly without fear of judgement. You shouldn’t have to be the only one contributing when the other is so clearly about themselves and always will be. You deserve better and you will get that life changing happiness with someone who values you equally highly and wants to truly know you. Don’t give up on it, it’s one of the most amazing things you could ever experience in life and it’s out there waiting for you somewhere. I went out with guys for years, and definitely partied alongside those types too because like so many others, that’s what I thought I had to do to get anywhere. That’s until I found my person who made me look at myself deeply and I realized that I didn’t need to do that. You give me hope actually, that people are finally feeling confident enough in themselves that they don’t need to stoop to partying or anything else that makes them unhappy just to have a basic shot at finding love. You absolutely don’t have to. You are enough and you’re going to find someone who treats you like a king because you’re beautiful and will always be more than enough. Fuck Caden, sounds like a lifetime of credit card debt awaits him anyways. Find peace brother, stay strong and stay you 🤘🏻
It would be good for you to get some counseling.
Already done counseling, and I don’t believe it’s necessary for me at this point. Despite the more somber video, and the long vent, I’m actually a pretty happy person. Although all this shit with Caden has weighed me down, I think I have a pretty great life. I have a roof over my head, food, hobbies that I enjoy, three of the greatest younger brothers a guy could ask for, and a stable job. Despite the hurt from poor relationships, the 7 day work weeks, and the impending Titan that is college, I have a pretty positive outlook, and look forward to moving on, and seeing what life throws at me next.