Hey everyone just wanted to say thank you so much for watching my video and thank you very much to everyone who left such encouraging and thoughtful comments. It has been a goal of mine for a long time to make a coming out video and it makes me so happy to see others actually gaining from it. I am thinking about posting another video soon about dating, what you should watch out for, and what to keep away from if you are looking for a possible relationship online. So keep on the look out if you are interested in something like that? -Thanks to everyone, Nathan Henderson
I'm glad everything turned out good in the end for you. You should do update videos , you have good presence on cam & you think out what you want to say. You could really help others close to your age, I bet
Nathan Henderson Bro, i'll be really thankful if you could look your Inbox, in the section of others, I really hope your answer, greetings to you from mexico
Nathan Henderson Indeed Nathan........you were very, very, very *Brave!* I am wishing only the very best life has to offer you...... you're a *Strong* Jedi Knight! =D
Anyone knows how Nathan is doing nowadays? I would be so proud to have a child like Nathan. Such a brave young guy that knew who he is and didn't want to hide himself just because of other people's feelings and thoughts. At the end, their feelings don't matter. Brave guy. I hope his life is awesome.
Sadly a lot of people back they wer'e in the same position, so sad it was bad enough 20+years ago here in the Uk things are now so much better and easier thankfully and rightly so !
It's not too late...i came out...to myself..and a handful of trusted people... Including one of my daughter's... I met and fell in love with the perfect young man... he gave to me, for 2 years! what I denied myself when I was his age.. so it was a chance to sort of go back in time almost. because he was so young... in his 20s ..it allowed me to sort of pretend I was in my twenties also... he agreed to be that person ..understanding that we were living in a fantasy of sorts.. the only problem is we both fell in love with each other ..and because of the age difference it obviously doesn't work out.. And my heart is broken..because I live him so much..and him me..but now that we are separated... I don't regret a minute of it.. without him, I'd still be like you in the closet full of regrets .. now I'm free ...and looking for a more closer in age partner to play with. and enjoy myself.. it is so the best thing I ever did in my life ..I'm going to turn 53 so quite a bit younger than you.. but hell, ll I say go for it still.. you never know who the universe might throw in your path .even if it's just a little while..GO FOR IT!!
You are a gorgeous young man. I bet you still are these five years later. I wish you would do an update and let everyone know how you're doing now. Thanks for telling this very thoughtful personal story.
When I came out to my best friend a couple weeks ago she said she was supportive but she's been cutting ties and asked me to stop seeing her and her family. She ended up writing a letter that told me she was in love with me and that she hopes she can turn me straight and that me being gay was just a problem that I'll get over with time. It really hurt a lot. I now have my first boyfriend. We are both super happy together. It isn't a problem or disorder. It doesn't change who I am, I've always been gay...
Yes Nathan is cute, yes he's attractive but, most of all, he is brave, yes he's lucky but, if other young gays get a chance to view this vlog and recognize his honesty, his courage, his approach which is so relatable to others of his age, then he has achieved what most people, twice his age, have failed to convey. Totally Awesome. Thank you!
Hey Nate, thanks for making this video. I am 25, soon to be 26, and just came out to my family and friends over the last month. I expected my friends to be supportive which they were more than supportive. I was not, however, anticipating the same from my parents so I started seeing a counselor. Apparently my mom picked up on the hints I had been dropping over the last year and so when I finally came out to them they were prepared. I was absolutely stunned and blown away by how supportive they BOTH were. I was expecting my mom to come around some day and thought my dad would have a hard time dealing with it. It was for this reason I decided to wait until I was done with college and completely independent before telling them. To hear both parents say they are concerned about my well being, that I am a great person, they understand I am still the same person, and they will always love me was probably the most uplifting thing I could ever hear. It's amazing how coming out is probably something no gay person will ever forget. I know I won't. So I went from a really dark depressed state to the most peaceful yet excited person. I was and am SO happy to have my friends and family in my life. Not only are they ALL supportive but not a single one has treated me any differently or even been slightly awkward in my presence. I am glad all has worked out well for you. I come from a Catholic family and know what it's like to have the strong roots that go against homosexuality. I don't consider myself very religious, yet I always ask myself about God's message. How can it be said that homosexuality is a sin, thus we are sinners, but God loves all and says no one should be looked down upon. It's contradictory and has made me question my religion. I would rather live in a world where acceptance of all people is human nature rather than worrying about religious laws and ideals. Anyway, I digress. Thanks for sharing your story, I hope to share mine soon as well! :)
I am very happy for you Dan! It's great to have such a supporting friend group and family and I wish that was the normal for everyone. Thank you for sharing a little bit of your story!
Nathan, First off, I can already tell that you have reached your goal and have already inspired many. Congrats. Second, coming out stories are my favorite kind of video to watch because not everyone's story is the same. Every story is different in their own unique way and the fact that you were strong enough to not let your parents control you (in the sense of making you go to counseling and such) and rely on your friends is so wise of you and that makes me so proud (despite not knowing you personally). Lastly, i'd just like to say that i'm glad that in the end everything turned out nicely and that you aren't having many troubles since. P.S. Are you going to be making any more videos? Alright that's it, stay tight man! Peace. -Ross
I agree, I still love watching coming out stories because they are so diverse and unique. Thanks so much for everything and yes I am hoping to record another video soon!
Hey Nathan, Wanted to tell you I think you're brave coming out. I'm training for the priesthood, and can tell you I accept you for who you are, even the pope accepts you for who you are. In the parish where I will be, all people are welcome. Yesterday I had met a gay-couple, at the presbytery, and they were great people. The Church won't judge you, and God won't either. He loves you, and I love you for whom you are. Greetings, Anton
Lol yeah that's why he says in his text that being gay is an abomination. Keep in mind, this is a one god that drowned the world because he didn't like them. I would sooner bow down and worship Azazel before kissing the ass of a one god (that's his first 4 commandments).
@@philipzanoni ...serious estimates by well regarded researchers are that 20-40% of Catholic priests are gay. The Church is so hypocritical!! You can only laugh at them.
I recently came out to my family and this is exactly how I experienced it. I’m still going through the process of them opening up, but so far it’s going good. I’m proud of you sharing your story Nathan! ❤️
Hey Nathan- What an amazingly thoughtful guy you are. Definitely wise beyond your years. You have a great future ahead and all those who have you in their life are blessed by your presence in their lives. Thanks for putting yourself out there and sharing your inspiring story. I have a favorite saying that I repeat often - "Trust the process". Clearly you embody that saying. I wish you the very best always! Ben
Nathan, I completely feel your relief to finally open up and share your heart to the world in this manner. I too suffered since I was a boy, and now almost 52 with serious health issues, including depression, STDS and I came out to my family members after my loving mother in August 2014finally lost her battle with cancer after 20 years of chemotherapy and radiation and feeding tubes and she literally dwindled down to 88 pounds. We could see her skeleton frame and hugging her was scary as I was always afraid I would hurt her! I was living about 20 miles from her and my sad father said that her beloved Hospice Caregiver said that her time is today August 14 and I lived in an apartment with my then live-in partner of 10 years who unfortunately was dependant on strong drugs and alcohol and clung to me because I was the only real "stable" personal in his whole life. I was divorced from my wife and dragged my son Matthew into my secret life and accepted me unconditionally. And just 7months after Mom passed I suffered a very debilitating stroke and my recovery has been slow, painful and exhausting through extensive physical and occupational therapy and through the good will and support of my remaining family I was afforded gracious Ryan White funding right here in the Dallas-Fort Worth area utilizing the amazing group of professional doctors and charitable foundations associated with the Parkland Hospital System, a current international leader in HIV research and taxpayer's generosity to allow me access to very expensive medicines. I have witnessed death not only in my caregiver "cottage" but also at the Parkland Wish Clinic and extremely busy Level One Trauma ER in this city of unimaginable crimes and unpopular police relations with the constantly growing unemployment issues and having safe reliable public transportation for indigent groups of people from all corners of the world. I too was brought up in a strict Christian home and lived through generations of heavy smokers that of course I started smoking in my early 20's and finally quit as of July 2017 thanks to an eye opening seizure that put me back in the hospital for almost 2 months and then aftershocks of learning my status and the huge stigma of shame and guilt that only professionals in a community of caring, compassionate souls that had transformed my life as a child of God and born again Christian. So please continue to update your subscribers as your life progresses. As far as Love is concerned I finally found it in my inner self and am quietly and painfully learning to be and say who I am. I'm Michael and I'm gay🌈💪😕
Nathan you are a child of the universe; no less than the tress and the stars; you have a right to be here. I am a gay man now in my 70's. I came out back in the 1960's when things were different. I am so happy to see video's like yours because I can see that it is easier now for you to be you. It makes me happy that all your friends are supporting you. I hope I and the others who came before you helped pave the way for you. All the best to you. .
+Robert Worth I know i am 3 years late but i just wanted to say unfortunately where i live coming out is just as hard as it was in the 1960's of the West if not harder. I live in Turkey and since most people in Turkey is very religious (muslim) there is a huge social stigma and more than half of the population is homophobic. Even my biology teacher in my high-school is so uneducated on this topic that she said "you shouldn't be mad at gay people because they are sick." And since i am currently in the closet (except some of my best friends) i couldn't say anything it was horrible. So, yeah i just wanted to say that. I'm sorry that it's too long but i had to say it. Thanks for being patient and reading it! 🤗
I love Desiderata. "And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the Universe is unfolding as it should. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy." Desiderata, Max Ehrmann, c. 1920.
I'm a closeted teen at school and I've been worried about coming out to some of my friends and family. After watching your video and hearing your experience it hit home to me. I'm out to very few people, but they all support and love me for me. In your description, it says that you're from Kansas. I also live in Kansas and just hearing the experiences that you have had with people in this state made me feel so much better. Thank you!
I hope when you wake up in the morning and look in the mirror, you see a reflection of an angel. You are wonderful. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! You made many people cry with this video. I wish you the best eveything life can offer you.
Nathan, congratulations on coming out and making this video. I'm sure it will help others who see it and will be encouraged to come out on their own. Glad your parents are more accepting and supportive. Good luck
I know this is serious and unfortunate the way his parents acted but god damn you're cute. I thought at first my dad would be against it and my brothers would be because comments they would make about things on tv and such, But it took me being gay for them to change the way they think about the lgbtq community and what they said because they now had someone they love be directly effected by them. You seem like a very strong and very well rounded individual and you made a difference in someone's life by telling your story.
Wow.....I am almost 44 years old now, and this brought back memories of my life when I was 17 & coming out to friends and my very religious family. I'm proud of you and a beautiful life is ahead of you. Thank you for making this video
How about you comment on the content of the video and his story rather than his looks? People in youtube comments suck. Always just look at their face smh
Going to a solid Catholic school, it does give you grounding, depth, because you study Latin, some Classical history, and humanities, and don't get politically-correct things beaten into you like public schools. Plus, God is a major factor. God loves you Nathan, and I am also a devout Catholic also. Your Faith will sustain you, as you are loved. Your Faith will be there for you when everyone else leaves you. Being gay is okay-we are all in the same boat, as far as being children of God. I wish you the very best.
@@BigBingFan you are very kind to reply. so what if you are gay? more likely that you are far more sensitive to others and thus have a bigger heart. that is what being here is all about. God bless you
Hi Nathan, I've watched your video, and I realised we have very similar story. I just came out to my parents a few days ago. It was very harsh at first, my mom was crying, my dad was very mad. My family is a traditional asian family, so LGBT problem is something very exotic and bizarre. But after watching your video, I can relate so much. My mom and dad are trying to understand, which is a good progress considering they are very traditional. They said they still love me, so I hope everything will be ok at the end. You gave me hope to believe, so thank you.
Great video - props on your courage, and thanks for making it. The part about your friends/classmates speaking up to support you brought tears to my eyes.
I hope you are still happy, enthusiastic, and feeling blessed now that four years have passed. You are a fine young man and clearly of an honest, noble character. God bless you!
I hate it when people say that being gay is against God's Law. We are born gay and so it's God who made us this way. I am very inspired with your story. You are the Face Of Bravery. Stay strong Nathan
Hey there, you don't know me but your video had the greatest impact on me. Immediately after watching your video I went onto Instagram and messaged my friend and told her I was gay. She was very accepting of this fact and I have been telling more and more people ever since. This happened last month in August, but I never really came around to thanking you for giving me the courage to be myself and not worry about what other people think. So here I am thanking you for being the kind of person that we need more of in this world.
Nathan , I wish I were as strong as you were. I admire you and hope you are doing well today 😊. In 1975 it wouldn't have been that easy. Thanks for sharing your story. Your very inspiring. 2023!. From Connecticut ❤️.
Thank you for making this. It's wonderful you got so much initial support. I'm sorry your parents reacted that way, but glad you were there helping them change. It can be really hard to be patient -- like you say, you have to give them time.
Why do you say you probably always be in the closet. I would recommend to come out as it is a freedom you will never experience before. If friends don't except you, they are not friends. I thought the worse when I came out, but none of it came true. Please ask me any questions as I am willing to help people in their struggles in coming out. BTW - how old are you.
I was so touched by your coming out story. It actually brought tears to my eyes. Mostly tears of happiness for how supportive all your friends were. You are a very intelligent and sensible person and know who you truly are by not accepting all the religious crap that people throw at you. Religion should be about love not hate or discrimination. When will these religious fanatics finally realize this? I'm gay... and it first sunk in when I was 14. I cried my eyes out. I fought those feelings all through my teen years being heavily closeted. I forced myself to date girls and pretended to be straight. Deflecting attention toward me by going along with my friends when they made fun of gay people. I felt horrible doing it. In doing so I deprived myself of being who I really was for so many years. I finally came out to friends and family when I was 34. To my surprise, they were all very supportive. Although a few were not for whatever reasons they had but I consider it their loss. I have no ill will towards them. I only wish I had done it so much earlier. I felt like I missed the better part of my life by being someone I was not. Thank you Nate for one of the best coming out stories I've ever heard. You were so sincere and well versed with your delivery. I wish you much happiness in life! BTW you should consider an acting career. You were quite good and animated at impersonating the people that opposed you. :)
The saddest part of these "Coming out" stories is that they had to "Come Out" in the first place. I long for the day where humans can be who they want to be, without conforming to the ridiculous expectations of morons who think that they already know what life is about. Brave lad. Stay strong dude. As long as you do not hurt others, then you are golden.
Knowledge is power! If family, religion, or culture makes coming out difficult for someone, the following blog post about homosexuality may provide valuable help: “Homophobia: To the Community” homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
Christians are taught or should be taught to be discerning, to exercise judgement about people or situations. Most seem to follow the pack and not think for themselves. God is the judge of morality, not you or me. Our job is to discern for ourselves as God leads us. We may have to avoid persons or situations and do so without acrimony. We are to draw people to faith in JESUS by setting a loving example, a godly example,a loving example. People should be excepted as people.whethet we agree with any or all aspects of who they are or not. God is the only judge. .
Trust me as a gay guy when i came out to friends and family it was the happiest moment of my entire life!They don't ask me if i have a gf anymore or expect me to have one and now i can definitely be myself and find me a nice bf instead and stop suppressing my feelings about other boys! The feeling of coming out is irreplaceable,if others are supportive like my case! However this heteronormativity really destroys us because it makes us feel like "the odd one out" and weird about ourselves just because we like the same sex,so i think that we should tackle heteronormativity and let people be themselves and love whoever they wanna love without getting bullied for it
This just came up on my TH-cam and I see this was 2 years ago so you must be starting college? All's I want to say is that you're a brave young man Nate. I am a Christian but unfortunately didn't come out until 50. The Bible does not condemn the nature of homosexuality or acting on your God-given feelings. Best wishes. Your's is one of the finest coming out stories. You need to be, as I finally discovered, honest and ethical on who you really are. God bless you.
I’m glad you’re holding your ground and not letting anyone push you into counseling you don’t want. When you become an adult you’ll be able to live your life freely, and I wish you all the happiness in the world. Just pick good people to be in your life.
Gr8 video......I'm so glad you came out at such a young age. I am 43 with a wife and kids. I am in a complicated situation and don't recommend it to anyone. I have always known, but denied that I am gay. However, my generation was a lot different. There was no internet and homophobia was really strong in my area and within my family. At a high school of 5k I thought I was the only one that had those feelings. I remember seeing 2 people get beat up for being suspected. That scared the shit out of me. I also had an uncle scare me pretty bad too when I was a teenager. This past year I have been doing a lot of research about guys in my situation and I found this book that has been really helpful. The book is titled, "Frankly My Dear, I'm Gay: A late bloomer's guide to coming out" by Rick Clemons. It has helped tremendously. I also contacted the author and he is a coming out coach. He has helped me so much. I am very thankful. I just came out to my best friend yesterday (100% supportive) and am slowly going in the direction of letting my wife and kids know (honestly, I feel my kids will be the easiest to come out to because I know they are very accepting of gay people). I do not regret having waited so long because I did get my kids (the most precious things in the world to me). Seeing your video is helpful in building the courage I need to come out to my family some day soon........so thank you!
Great video Nathan. It's great to see strong young people like yourself accepting who you are and moving forward with your life. Hopefully you will be an inspiration for other younger (and some older) people who have still not dealt with this important aspect of their life. Best wishes and good luck. Stay healthy.
Did you not read the second sentence in Stormageddon101's post or was it lost on you? The two sentences together make the point that religious homophobia is not aceptable.
This is honestly the best coming out video on youtube I've seen so far (and I've seen a lot)! I grew up in a religious environment too. Watching your video makes me optimistic and gives me hope. I wish my friends and family are going to be so accepting as yours... You're a big inspiration! Thanks for sharing your story!
I grew up in Kansas during the bad old days when it was illegal to sleep with another man, and homosexuality was "the love that dare not speak its name." Things have changed a lot since then, thank goodness. Needless to say, I feel it's absolutely GREAT that at least some Kansas LBGTQ kids can enjoy the opportunity to experience acceptance, self-respect, and a relatively "normal" life--the opportunity to date while in High School, for example, and get married if they choose. Of course, it still takes guts, careful planning, and great patience in most cases to "gently" break the news about being gay to friends and family. But it sounds like you did a very good job of that, and thankfully your support system proved relatively open to "the news." Hope all is going well in your life, Nathan!
How very wise you are, young man. Not just regarding what you should do to further yourself, coming to terms with your sexuality, but also when you respond to challenges in your social world. You are so mature to be able to recognize that people who are negative about you now because of your being gay, might just need time to process what that news means about you and their relationship to you. Knowing not to immediately push back against your parents' attempts to fix/control/change you, but allowing them to make these attempts and then pushing back when the situation has quieted down is very smart. As you have discovered, the people who really love you, might react negatively at first due to the shock of knowing something for the first time about you, which you took several years to get comfortable with. But almost to a person, they will come around once they know: that you're okay, that you're going to be safe, that this is just more information that they know about you as a person. Being gay does not make you a different person from the one you were BEFORE you came out. Live a long happy successful life Nate, and love the people you want to love.
Wow, 5 years ago & your coming out video pops up in my notifications. Nothing much to say since a lot of viewers had said them! 😊 But nothing short of saying you had done the right thing & your religion had blessed you all the way! Lots of praises, from Asia. 👍👍
you may be lucky to have good friends & family but they are the lucky ones to such a fine young man with such courage to speAk his truth with such conviction & inner strength congrats to your parents on raising such a great guy
I am SO HAPPY for you....I don't even know you...and I love you and accept you!!!! Keep moving forward regardless of what others say...BE YOU AND BE PROUD OF YOURSELF!!!!!!
That is awesome, it’s hard for most kids to come out. My son came out to me last year and I told him I loved him and that nothing would change. That now I will have a son in law instead of daughter in law in the future. I love my son and admire him for knowing who he is. I am glad your parents came around cause you deserve to be supported and loved. You deserve to have a partner and be able to bring him home to meet your parents and have a normal relationship just like anyone else. Good luck with everything young man.
Thank you so much. In my situation and the situation of many others, these videos are sometimes all that we have. I've watched a lot of coming out stories, but this one touched me. Congrats and good luck for the rest !
You are a very brave young man. I realize this video is over a year old, I wish I had seen it sooner. I myself have suffered for roughly 31 years with having to live a double life. Pretending to be someone I'm not, lying to friends just to keep their friendship, and a lot more. I am from a whole different time than you. My teen years were the 80's, and when AIDS became an epidemic, I was maybe 15 years old, and I was gay and I didn't understand what being gay meant or how to deal with it. Then when they kept saying AIDS was only a "Gay disease", it made me scared and ashamed that I was attracted to men. Bottom line - this is a whole new time for us, young men and women who are gay can step up and be who they are. Very proud of you!!! I wish you all the best.
Thanks so much Nathan for sharing your story!! You are awesome, brave and incredibly self-aware!! You'll go far in life. Your are caring, loving, loyal and authentic!! Stay strong my friend!! 🌈
Wow . . that was quite a thorough blow-by-blow account, with the whole family thing ! Religion in the mix, can definitely stir things up !! But what great peer support you had !! . . . It makes all the difference !!
Nate, your story is so inspiring on so many levels. I'm 10 years older than you but can relate to most of your struggles extremely well. I wish I was in a similar spot when I was 18. You clearly have a good head on your shoulders and I'm extremely envious of your self confidence. I'm very glad your good with your parents too. That's very important. On a side note, watching your video, I was reminded of Mark Miller. Your speech patters are similar. If you don't know, Mark is a TH-cam personality that posts very high quality videos of his life...most of which include his boyfriend Ethan. They are a very inspiring couple and have helped me immensely.
Hi Nathan. Wow. Well done my brave young brother. I am so glad to see my younger brothers and sisters being proactive in such a cool and positive way. I am 50 this year and came out in my teens. It is hard but the more open and real and natural we are around it all the easier it is for future generations to just be what they were born to be. Christs message was about love, compassion and none judgement. You are loved and held by him always. Much love to you bro. xxx
Hi Nathan. Hope you are well and growing. I was also born into a Roman Catholic family (many years ago) and was blessed at a young age with a sturdy sense of my own authority. I started coming out about forty years ago - had one bad experience, but many, many good ones. One in particular still warms my heart whenever I think of it. I told a friend who was in the throes of raising four young children that I was gay. He leaned a little closer toward me and asked "Jer, what does that feel like?" i've never had such a wonderful reaction since. *** I think you were wise enough to realize at a very young age that it wasn't being gay that was stressing you out - it was trying to live in denial about who you are because of society's ignorance and prejudice. I'm so very proud of you, Nathan. Honesty is what the mind, heart and soul need the most to be healthy. The destructive and therapeutic elements of religion are all mixed up together. My favorite philosopher, Alfred North Whitehead once wrote that the "fact of the religious vision is our one ground for optimism and the last bastion of human savagery." *** Unfortunately, we have to do the work of sorting all that stuff out for ourselves. By now I hope you have a sturdy sense of how good and how loveable you are. I started teaching college part-time late in life and there is still much to be done to free our ourselves and our brothers and sisters. I wish you love and all the best in life. Jerome
I liked your video who's awesome that you came out you had complete confidence in everybody including your friends at school and you pretty much knew your parents would come around this is just absolutely brilliant I am watching this on January 1st 2018 it's like 4:30 in the morning and I came across this and I had to watch it I can't say congratulations enough anyway take care of yourself and anybody who seems to come into your life take care.
WOW! I would be so proud to be either your parent or your friend. Not only are you quite brave but, you're so amazingly mature. Your parents should be proud of you - and themselves - for that. Listening to your story, I realize how times - and society - have, thankfully, changed for the better. When I look back, I now recognize that I had feelings for other boys as early as third grade. By the time I was 18 I was already living on my own and, although I had been having "non-mutual" sex with adult men since I was about 14, I didn't fully come out - even to myself - until this point and began meeting and making friends with other gay guys my age. I wish you a lifetime of happiness, sweet Nate, and hope you find someone to share it with! You are the living proof that "It Gets Better!" I hope every gay or questioning young boy or girl listens to your story and is heartened by it! The world will be better with you all in it!!! Love to you all!
Nathan Saw this video just now, I realize you put this out back in 2014, but I really liked the video and I thought you expressed yourself really well. I think it takes a lot of courage to step out there and be who you are especially when being gay is still not popular with everyone! There is a lot of homophobia in the world and I have heard about how some people who came out were brutalized! Your right, you are lucky that you have supportive friends and a supportive family. We are only on this earth for a short time, you have to live your life for you and not others. I want to thank you for doing the video, I am sure it will inspire others to come out. I hope you find a kind and loving partner to share your life with and that you are happy. God Bless Mark
Nate, the support that you got from your friends, then later your family, is because of the person that you have always been to them. One who is kind, thoughtful, listens to others’ opinions will enjoy that same support. Without even knowing you, I can tell you that that’s the type of person you are and the support that you have found in “coming out” has been earned by you in your younger years. Well done, Nate, I’m very proud of you as a person and delighted to hear your story. 🇨🇦
I live in Kansas too! I love that you show not all Kansan's are stereotypical farmers and homophobes. I am really impressed by this video, thanks for telling your story and helping others.
Takes a lot of courage and determination to remain steadfast in your resolve to be comfortable with your sexual orientation, especially against those that use religion as a reason not to like you. You are well-spoken, and seem like a decent young man. Your video surely has helped others gain confidence in accepting, then informing others of who they truly are. Hopefully, these videos will not be needed in the near future, and people can make a notation of who they are attracted to as casually as noting how the weather was that day. All the best to you, Nate.
Hey I came out 2 days ago to my parents. They took it absolutely amazingly and I was so happy and they told me they loved me and when my father said 'why didn't u tell us sooner', I was over the moon. I am actually only 12 (nearly 13 but) and I was wondering what to do next. I am so happy my parents understand and they have told me I should tell my close friends in college and after high school and my younger sister I know I want to wait a bit. However, about the friends, what should I do? How long shall I wait? When will I know? With my parents I got that moment when I went downstairs and came out with it but I need advice on the friend part please :) oh and amazing story one of my favorites :)
Great job Nate.. I did the same in 2014. Hard to believe 2 yrs have passed and I'm glad to say I didn't loose any friends and family in the process. If anything, the relationships were strengthened. Feels great to breathe freer. Hope life has been treating you well man.. Ciao.
Nate that was a beautiful story. You are very courageous. I'm glad that your story had a happy ending and that you have family and friends that love you and accept you for who you are, no matter what 👍
This is a beautiful video. I think it will help many people struggling through their issues. Thank you for putting yourself out there. This video speaks for so many that are, or will be going through the same process.
I am so glad that your parents have accepted this beautiful blessing God has given to you all. The world may not accept you at times, but God does continuously.
...I lived in Kansas, and I know people over are good and wonderful mostly, but very conservative !... congratulations for being so brave. Thank for shareing this beautiful story, I know God will be on your side 'cos you're so HONEST
I really enjoyed watching this video of yours, Nathan, and you did a great job. You were very brave and you did the right thing and now you can live your true life and be your true self out in the open and have nothing to hide and nothing to apologize for to anyone. Congratulations to you! ♥️
What an inspiring story, Nate. I can only imagine how difficult that must have been. Good for you and for others that are in the same situation to know that they're not alone. I appreciate you honesty, integrity, bravery and patience. It's so important to be true to oneself. As well, I know that it must have been difficult for some people of the older generation and Catholic as well. Sometimes it just takes us, the older Catholic generation, a life lesson from a wise young person like yourself. All the best!
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Hey everyone just wanted to say thank you so much for watching my video and thank you very much to everyone who left such encouraging and thoughtful comments. It has been a goal of mine for a long time to make a coming out video and it makes me so happy to see others actually gaining from it.
I am thinking about posting another video soon about dating, what you should watch out for, and what to keep away from if you are looking for a possible relationship online. So keep on the look out if you are interested in something like that?
-Thanks to everyone, Nathan Henderson
OMG! I am gay and live in KANSAS too!! That is so cool! And your video was inspiring and I'm here for ya if you ever need somebody to talk to!
I'm glad everything turned out good in the end for you. You should do update videos , you have good presence on cam & you think out what you want to say. You could really help others close to your age, I bet
MAKE MORE VIDEOS!! 8)
Nathan Henderson Bro, i'll be really thankful if you could look your Inbox, in the section of others, I really hope your answer, greetings to you from mexico
Nathan Henderson Indeed Nathan........you were very, very, very *Brave!* I am wishing only the very best life has to offer you...... you're a *Strong* Jedi Knight! =D
Anyone knows how Nathan is doing nowadays? I would be so proud to have a child like Nathan. Such a brave young guy that knew who he is and didn't want to hide himself just because of other people's feelings and thoughts. At the end, their feelings don't matter. Brave guy. I hope his life is awesome.
I'm hoping he's somewhere thriving and doing okay, this video made me cry.
I agree I would like to know how he is doing also
He’s doing great and is dating a great guy named Jack! 🎉 and he’s very happy!
@@ZachSkagenthat would be awesome, thank you so much.
I'm 76 y. o. and had tears in my eyes. Never had the courage of Nathan 2 come out,!
Not that you did not have courage, it was a different time! God Bless!
Sadly a lot of people back they wer'e in the same position, so sad it was bad enough 20+years ago here in the Uk things are now so much better and easier thankfully and rightly so !
It's not too late...i came out...to myself..and a handful of trusted people...
Including one of my daughter's...
I met and fell in love with the perfect young man... he gave to me, for 2 years!
what I denied myself when I was his age..
so it was a chance to sort of go back in time almost. because he was so young... in his 20s ..it allowed me to sort of pretend I was in my twenties also... he agreed to be that person ..understanding that we were living in a fantasy of sorts.. the only problem is we both fell in love with each other ..and because of the age difference it obviously doesn't work out..
And my heart is broken..because I live him so much..and him me..but now that we are separated... I don't regret a minute of it.. without him, I'd still be like you in the closet full of regrets ..
now I'm free ...and looking for a more closer in age partner to play with.
and enjoy myself.. it is so the best thing I ever did in my life
..I'm going to turn 53 so quite a bit younger than you.. but hell, ll I say go for it still.. you never know who the universe might throw in your path .even if it's just a little while..GO FOR IT!!
Different times.
@@philipzanonisorry your since ur gay how come u have a daughter
You are a gorgeous young man. I bet you still are these five years later. I wish you would do an update and let everyone know how you're doing now. Thanks for telling this very thoughtful personal story.
When I came out to my best friend a couple weeks ago she said she was supportive but she's been cutting ties and asked me to stop seeing her and her family. She ended up writing a letter that told me she was in love with me and that she hopes she can turn me straight and that me being gay was just a problem that I'll get over with time. It really hurt a lot.
I now have my first boyfriend. We are both super happy together. It isn't a problem or disorder. It doesn't change who I am, I've always been gay...
Yes Nathan is cute, yes he's attractive but, most of all, he is brave, yes he's lucky but, if other young gays get a chance to view this vlog and recognize his honesty, his courage, his approach which is so relatable to others of his age, then he has achieved what most people, twice his age, have failed to convey. Totally Awesome. Thank you!
yes, Nathan WILL inspire other young men to accept themselves and for that you have my respect. thank you from my heart to yours. God bless you.
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You should do a follow up video, just an update or something. Would be really cool!
Austin Parrent I agree.
I'd love to see that
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Hey Nate, thanks for making this video. I am 25, soon to be 26, and just came out to my family and friends over the last month. I expected my friends to be supportive which they were more than supportive. I was not, however, anticipating the same from my parents so I started seeing a counselor. Apparently my mom picked up on the hints I had been dropping over the last year and so when I finally came out to them they were prepared. I was absolutely stunned and blown away by how supportive they BOTH were. I was expecting my mom to come around some day and thought my dad would have a hard time dealing with it. It was for this reason I decided to wait until I was done with college and completely independent before telling them.
To hear both parents say they are concerned about my well being, that I am a great person, they understand I am still the same person, and they will always love me was probably the most uplifting thing I could ever hear. It's amazing how coming out is probably something no gay person will ever forget. I know I won't.
So I went from a really dark depressed state to the most peaceful yet excited person. I was and am SO happy to have my friends and family in my life. Not only are they ALL supportive but not a single one has treated me any differently or even been slightly awkward in my presence.
I am glad all has worked out well for you. I come from a Catholic family and know what it's like to have the strong roots that go against homosexuality. I don't consider myself very religious, yet I always ask myself about God's message. How can it be said that homosexuality is a sin, thus we are sinners, but God loves all and says no one should be looked down upon. It's contradictory and has made me question my religion. I would rather live in a world where acceptance of all people is human nature rather than worrying about religious laws and ideals. Anyway, I digress. Thanks for sharing your story, I hope to share mine soon as well! :)
I am very happy for you Dan! It's great to have such a supporting friend group and family and I wish that was the normal for everyone. Thank you for sharing a little bit of your story!
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Nathan Henderson can I ask you for advice
Nathan,
First off, I can already tell that you have reached your goal and have already inspired many. Congrats. Second, coming out stories are my favorite kind of video to watch because not everyone's story is the same. Every story is different in their own unique way and the fact that you were strong enough to not let your parents control you (in the sense of making you go to counseling and such) and rely on your friends is so wise of you and that makes me so proud (despite not knowing you personally). Lastly, i'd just like to say that i'm glad that in the end everything turned out nicely and that you aren't having many troubles since.
P.S. Are you going to be making any more videos? Alright that's it, stay tight man! Peace.
-Ross
I agree, I still love watching coming out stories because they are so diverse and unique. Thanks so much for everything and yes I am hoping to record another video soon!
Nathan Henderson Great video man, your an inspiration to young people dealing with this issue, very wise words, stay focused, best wishes from the UK
Nathan Henderson I never saw that you replied but they truly are. Still waiting on that video :) haha hope to see one soon! Hope all is well! -Ross
black puta ok but you dont need to say that i could deal with myself you dont need to sy that ok😡😡😡
Nathan Henderson when that soon is ?? waiting :) 👀😍
Hey Nathan,
Wanted to tell you I think you're brave coming out. I'm training for the priesthood, and can tell you I accept you for who you are, even the pope accepts you for who you are. In the parish where I will be, all people are welcome. Yesterday I had met a gay-couple, at the presbytery, and they were great people. The Church won't judge you, and God won't either. He loves you, and I love you for whom you are. Greetings, Anton
Lol yeah that's why he says in his text that being gay is an abomination. Keep in mind, this is a one god that drowned the world because he didn't like them.
I would sooner bow down and worship Azazel before kissing the ass of a one god (that's his first 4 commandments).
Why is a priest watching some gay boy's coming out story this is creepy and disturbing
@@philipzanoni ...serious estimates by well regarded researchers are that 20-40% of Catholic priests are gay. The Church is so hypocritical!! You can only laugh at them.
Are you training to be a priest for Satan worshiping cult.
@@h5u7p5gt9 you people are awful it's got to take a lot of courage to do what he did by the way God does not hate anyone
I recently came out to my family and this is exactly how I experienced it. I’m still going through the process of them opening up, but so far it’s going good. I’m proud of you sharing your story Nathan! ❤️
You are a very good example for boys like you who strugling with their feelings. Much of courage to do this. Great video, you are a good person!
Hey Nathan- What an amazingly thoughtful guy you are. Definitely wise beyond your years. You have a great future ahead and all those who have you in their life are blessed by your presence in their lives. Thanks for putting yourself out there and sharing your inspiring story. I have a favorite saying that I repeat often - "Trust the process". Clearly you embody that saying. I wish you the very best always!
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Nathan, I completely feel your relief to finally open up and share your heart to the world in this manner. I too suffered since I was a boy, and now almost 52 with serious health issues, including depression, STDS and I came out to my family members after my loving mother in August 2014finally lost her battle with cancer after 20 years of chemotherapy and radiation and feeding tubes and she literally dwindled down to 88 pounds. We could see her skeleton frame and hugging her was scary as I was always afraid I would hurt her! I was living about 20 miles from her and my sad father said that her beloved Hospice Caregiver said that her time is today August 14 and I lived in an apartment with my then live-in partner of 10 years who unfortunately was dependant on strong drugs and alcohol and clung to me because I was the only real "stable" personal in his whole life. I was divorced from my wife and dragged my son Matthew into my secret life and accepted me unconditionally. And just 7months after Mom passed I suffered a very debilitating stroke and my recovery has been slow, painful and exhausting through extensive physical and occupational therapy and through the good will and support of my remaining family I was afforded gracious Ryan White funding right here in the Dallas-Fort Worth area utilizing the amazing group of professional doctors and charitable foundations associated with the Parkland Hospital System, a current international leader in HIV research and taxpayer's generosity to allow me access to very expensive medicines. I have witnessed death not only in my caregiver "cottage" but also at the Parkland Wish Clinic and extremely busy Level One Trauma ER in this city of unimaginable crimes and unpopular police relations with the constantly growing unemployment issues and having safe reliable public transportation for indigent groups of people from all corners of the world. I too was brought up in a strict Christian home and lived through generations of heavy smokers that of course I started smoking in my early 20's and finally quit as of July 2017 thanks to an eye opening seizure that put me back in the hospital for almost 2 months and then aftershocks of learning my status and the huge stigma of shame and guilt that only professionals in a community of caring, compassionate souls that had transformed my life as a child of God and born again Christian. So please continue to update your subscribers as your life progresses. As far as Love is concerned I finally found it in my inner self and am quietly and painfully learning to be and say who I am. I'm Michael and I'm gay🌈💪😕
GOD BLESS
Great video. You are so confident and self assured. I am extremely happy that things worked out for you. Truly inspirational story and great advice.
That's awesome Nathan. I'm gay and It was difficult to come out to my family and friends also. Best of luck Nathan. I support you.
Antony the Muscle car nut You're still the same person at the end of the day
Antony the Muscle car nut I am gay too
Antony the Muscle car nut I support you
Nathan you are a child of the universe; no less than the tress and the stars; you have a right to be here. I am a gay man now in my 70's. I came out back in the 1960's when things were different. I am so happy to see video's like yours because I can see that it is easier now for you to be you. It makes me happy that all your friends are supporting you. I hope I and the others who came before you helped pave the way for you. All the best to you.
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+Robert Worth "You are a child of the universe, no less than the tress and the stars". That's so nice, I love that
+Plum Bit thanks I'm glad that you do. it is from a poem called Desiderata.... check it out
***** Thanks, I will :)
+Robert Worth I know i am 3 years late but i just wanted to say unfortunately where i live coming out is just as hard as it was in the 1960's of the West if not harder. I live in Turkey and since most people in Turkey is very religious (muslim) there is a huge social stigma and more than half of the population is homophobic. Even my biology teacher in my high-school is so uneducated on this topic that she said "you shouldn't be mad at gay people because they are sick." And since i am currently in the closet (except some of my best friends) i couldn't say anything it was horrible. So, yeah i just wanted to say that. I'm sorry that it's too long but i had to say it. Thanks for being patient and reading it! 🤗
I love Desiderata. "And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the Universe is unfolding as it should. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy." Desiderata, Max Ehrmann, c. 1920.
I'm a closeted teen at school and I've been worried about coming out to some of my friends and family. After watching your video and hearing your experience it hit home to me. I'm out to very few people, but they all support and love me for me. In your description, it says that you're from Kansas. I also live in Kansas and just hearing the experiences that you have had with people in this state made me feel so much better. Thank you!
How are you doing now?
Nicely done Nathan, I am super proud of you.
I hope when you wake up in the morning and look in the mirror, you see a reflection of an angel. You are wonderful. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! You made many people cry with this video. I wish you the best eveything life can offer you.
Nathan, congratulations on coming out and making this video. I'm sure it will help others who see it and will be encouraged to come out on their own. Glad your parents are more accepting and supportive. Good luck
I know this is serious and unfortunate the way his parents acted but god damn you're cute.
I thought at first my dad would be against it and my brothers would be because comments they would make about things on tv and such, But it took me being gay for them to change the way they think about the lgbtq community and what they said because they now had someone they love be directly effected by them.
You seem like a very strong and very well rounded individual and you made a difference in someone's life by telling your story.
Wow, you are amazing! Smart, confident, kind and handsome.
Wow.....I am almost 44 years old now, and this brought back memories of my life when I was 17 & coming out to friends and my very religious family. I'm proud of you and a beautiful life is ahead of you. Thank you for making this video
Holy crap you're cute
Jordan Noir i think he's cute too
Winston Charles fuck off
Winston Charles That is got nothing to do with you at all so fuck off you homophobic son of a bitch
Winston Charles, anymore slanderous comments from you, I will be reporting you to TH-cam
How about you comment on the content of the video and his story rather than his looks? People in youtube comments suck. Always just look at their face smh
You come across as very mature and smart throughout the whole thing, it's impressive. A good video for people to see. Congrats!
smart and mature for sure and brave to take that hard first step/ thank you
Going to a solid Catholic school, it does give you grounding, depth, because you study Latin, some Classical history, and humanities, and don't get politically-correct things beaten into you like public schools. Plus, God is a major factor. God loves you Nathan, and I am also a devout Catholic also. Your Faith will sustain you, as you are loved. Your Faith will be there for you when everyone else leaves you. Being gay is okay-we are all in the same boat, as far as being children of God. I wish you the very best.
@@BigBingFan you are very kind to reply. so what if you are gay? more likely that you are far more sensitive to others and thus have a bigger heart. that is what being here is all about. God bless you
Hi Nathan,
I've watched your video, and I realised we have very similar story. I just came out to my parents a few days ago. It was very harsh at first, my mom was crying, my dad was very mad. My family is a traditional asian family, so LGBT problem is something very exotic and bizarre. But after watching your video, I can relate so much. My mom and dad are trying to understand, which is a good progress considering they are very traditional. They said they still love me, so I hope everything will be ok at the end. You gave me hope to believe, so thank you.
Great video - props on your courage, and thanks for making it. The part about your friends/classmates speaking up to support you brought tears to my eyes.
One of the best coming out videos on YT
I agree
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I hope you are still happy, enthusiastic, and feeling blessed now that four years have passed. You are a fine young man and clearly of an honest, noble character. God bless you!
I hate it when people say that being gay is against God's Law. We are born gay and so it's God who made us this way. I am very inspired with your story. You are the Face Of Bravery. Stay strong Nathan
Hey there, you don't know me but your video had the greatest impact on me. Immediately after watching your video I went onto Instagram and messaged my friend and told her I was gay. She was very accepting of this fact and I have been telling more and more people ever since. This happened last month in August, but I never really came around to thanking you for giving me the courage to be myself and not worry about what other people think. So here I am thanking you for being the kind of person that we need more of in this world.
Thank you for sharing your story. I'm glad things went well. Best of luck!
Nathan , I wish I were as strong as you were. I admire you and hope you are doing well today 😊. In 1975 it wouldn't have been that easy. Thanks for sharing your story. Your very inspiring. 2023!. From Connecticut ❤️.
Great video! It's important to tell coming out stories, thank you. Best of luck for the future.
Thank you for making this. It's wonderful you got so much initial support. I'm sorry your parents reacted that way, but glad you were there helping them change. It can be really hard to be patient -- like you say, you have to give them time.
Nate, thank you for sharing. I'm glad people accepted you when you came out. I wish I had your courage. I'm closeted and probably always will be.
Why do you say you probably always be in the closet. I would recommend to come out as it is a freedom you will never experience before. If friends don't except you, they are not friends. I thought the worse when I came out, but none of it came true. Please ask me any questions as I am willing to help people in their struggles in coming out. BTW - how old are you.
It’s never too late to come out. I did last year at 67. Be true to yourself. There is still time.
I was so touched by your coming out story. It actually brought tears to my eyes. Mostly tears of happiness for how supportive all your friends were. You are a very intelligent and sensible person and know who you truly are by not accepting all the religious crap that people throw at you. Religion should be about love not hate or discrimination. When will these religious fanatics finally realize this? I'm gay... and it first sunk in when I was 14. I cried my eyes out. I fought those feelings all through my teen years being heavily closeted. I forced myself to date girls and pretended to be straight. Deflecting attention toward me by going along with my friends when they made fun of gay people. I felt horrible doing it. In doing so I deprived myself of being who I really was for so many years. I finally came out to friends and family when I was 34. To my surprise, they were all very supportive. Although a few were not for whatever reasons they had but I consider it their loss. I have no ill will towards them. I only wish I had done it so much earlier. I felt like I missed the better part of my life by being someone I was not. Thank you Nate for one of the best coming out stories I've ever heard. You were so sincere and well versed with your delivery. I wish you much happiness in life! BTW you should consider an acting career. You were quite good and animated at impersonating the people that opposed you. :)
The saddest part of these "Coming out" stories is that they had to "Come Out" in the first place. I long for the day where humans can be who they want to be, without conforming to the ridiculous expectations of morons who think that they already know what life is about. Brave lad. Stay strong dude. As long as you do not hurt others, then you are golden.
Agreed. Hopefully the day will come when being gay is viewed by straight people the way we view being straight - no judgement, just "it's not for me"
Knowledge is power! If family, religion, or culture makes coming out difficult for someone, the following blog post about homosexuality may provide valuable help: “Homophobia: To the Community” homoeroticpoems.blogspot.com/2014/04/to-community.html
Christians are taught or should be taught to be discerning, to exercise judgement about people or situations. Most seem to follow the pack and not think for themselves. God is the judge of morality, not you or me. Our job is to discern for ourselves as God leads us. We may have to avoid persons or situations and do so without acrimony. We are to draw people to faith in JESUS by setting a loving example, a godly example,a loving example. People should be excepted as people.whethet we agree with any or all aspects of who they are or not. God is the only judge.
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@@larryjones-emery807 ROTFL !!!!!!
Trust me as a gay guy when i came out to friends and family it was the happiest moment of my entire life!They don't ask me if i have a gf anymore or expect me to have one and now i can definitely be myself and find me a nice bf instead and stop suppressing my feelings about other boys! The feeling of coming out is irreplaceable,if others are supportive like my case! However this heteronormativity really destroys us because it makes us feel like "the odd one out" and weird about ourselves just because we like the same sex,so i think that we should tackle heteronormativity and let people be themselves and love whoever they wanna love without getting bullied for it
Nathan has really inspired me to make my coming out video. Im glad you shared your experience ... you helped me a lot.
This just came up on my TH-cam and I see this was 2 years ago so you must be starting college? All's I want to say is that you're a brave young man Nate. I am a Christian but unfortunately didn't come out until 50. The Bible does not condemn the nature of homosexuality or acting on your God-given feelings. Best wishes. Your's is one of the finest coming out stories. You need to be, as I finally discovered, honest and ethical on who you really are. God bless you.
Men like you have made all our lives so much better. Thanks, Man!
Time to start posting more videos updating us on your life!!
I’m glad you’re holding your ground and not letting anyone push you into counseling you don’t want. When you become an adult you’ll be able to live your life freely, and I wish you all the happiness in the world. Just pick good people to be in your life.
Gr8 video......I'm so glad you came out at such a young age. I am 43 with a wife and kids. I am in a complicated situation and don't recommend it to anyone. I have always known, but denied that I am gay. However, my generation was a lot different. There was no internet and homophobia was really strong in my area and within my family. At a high school of 5k I thought I was the only one that had those feelings. I remember seeing 2 people get beat up for being suspected. That scared the shit out of me. I also had an uncle scare me pretty bad too when I was a teenager. This past year I have been doing a lot of research about guys in my situation and I found this book that has been really helpful. The book is titled, "Frankly My Dear, I'm Gay: A late bloomer's guide to coming out" by Rick Clemons. It has helped tremendously. I also contacted the author and he is a coming out coach. He has helped me so much. I am very thankful. I just came out to my best friend yesterday (100% supportive) and am slowly going in the direction of letting my wife and kids know (honestly, I feel my kids will be the easiest to come out to because I know they are very accepting of gay people). I do not regret having waited so long because I did get my kids (the most precious things in the world to me). Seeing your video is helpful in building the courage I need to come out to my family some day soon........so thank you!
Great video Nathan. It's great to see strong young people like yourself accepting who you are and moving forward with your life. Hopefully you will be an inspiration for other younger (and some older) people who have still not dealt with this important aspect of their life. Best wishes and good luck. Stay healthy.
"I can't accept you because of my religion..."
"You can't judge me because of your religion either."
From how you react, I would assume you are as PURE as the snow of the peak of Shasta Mountain...are you really that pure???
Did you not read the second sentence in Stormageddon101's post or was it lost on you? The two sentences together make the point that religious homophobia is not aceptable.
You can fuck of together with your religion
actually they can
Religion is to keep people in check I’m gay I believe there is someone higher then ourselves but be real the bible is a pile of shit
This is honestly the best coming out video on youtube I've seen so far (and I've seen a lot)! I grew up in a religious environment too. Watching your video makes me optimistic and gives me hope. I wish my friends and family are going to be so accepting as yours... You're a big inspiration! Thanks for sharing your story!
I grew up in Kansas during the bad old days when it was illegal to sleep with another man, and homosexuality was "the love that dare not speak its name." Things have changed a lot since then, thank goodness. Needless to say, I feel it's absolutely GREAT that at least some Kansas LBGTQ kids can enjoy the opportunity to experience acceptance, self-respect, and a relatively "normal" life--the opportunity to date while in High School, for example, and get married if they choose. Of course, it still takes guts, careful planning, and great patience in most cases to "gently" break the news about being gay to friends and family. But it sounds like you did a very good job of that, and thankfully your support system proved relatively open to "the news." Hope all is going well in your life, Nathan!
How very wise you are, young man. Not just regarding what you should do to further yourself, coming to terms with your sexuality, but also when you respond to challenges in your social world. You are so mature to be able to recognize that people who are negative about you now because of your being gay, might just need time to process what that news means about you and their relationship to you. Knowing not to immediately push back against your parents' attempts to fix/control/change you, but allowing them to make these attempts and then pushing back when the situation has quieted down is very smart. As you have discovered, the people who really love you, might react negatively at first due to the shock of knowing something for the first time about you, which you took several years to get comfortable with. But almost to a person, they will come around once they know: that you're okay, that you're going to be safe, that this is just more information that they know about you as a person. Being gay does not make you a different person from the one you were BEFORE you came out. Live a long happy successful life Nate, and love the people you want to love.
you are very levelheaded for a 18 year old. stay fabulous, love. xo
Wow, 5 years ago & your coming out video pops up in my notifications. Nothing much to say since a lot of viewers had said them! 😊 But nothing short of saying you had done the right thing & your religion had blessed you all the way! Lots of praises, from Asia. 👍👍
you may be lucky to have good friends & family but they are the lucky ones to such a fine young man with such courage to speAk his truth with such conviction & inner strength congrats to your parents on raising such a great guy
I am SO HAPPY for you....I don't even know you...and I love you and accept you!!!! Keep moving forward regardless of what others say...BE YOU AND BE PROUD OF YOURSELF!!!!!!
Awesome video. Thank you for sharing your story, I'm sure it is going to help others. Stay strong and keep believing in your self.
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That is awesome, it’s hard for most kids to come out. My son came out to me last year and I told him I loved him and that nothing would change. That now I will have a son in law instead of daughter in law in the future. I love my son and admire him for knowing who he is. I am glad your parents came around cause you deserve to be supported and loved. You deserve to have a partner and be able to bring him home to meet your parents and have a normal relationship just like anyone else. Good luck with everything young man.
You're an amazing young man. I would be very proud to have a son like you.
Thank you so much. In my situation and the situation of many others, these videos are sometimes all that we have. I've watched a lot of coming out stories, but this one touched me. Congrats and good luck for the rest !
You are an inspiration.
WOW!! Congradulation on coming OUT. You are so brave to come out in Kansas!!
You are a very brave young man. I realize this video is over a year old, I wish I had seen it sooner. I myself have suffered for roughly 31 years with having to live a double life. Pretending to be someone I'm not, lying to friends just to keep their friendship, and a lot more. I am from a whole different time than you. My teen years were the 80's, and when AIDS became an epidemic, I was maybe 15 years old, and I was gay and I didn't understand what being gay meant or how to deal with it. Then when they kept saying AIDS was only a "Gay disease", it made me scared and ashamed that I was attracted to men. Bottom line - this is a whole new time for us, young men and women who are gay can step up and be who they are. Very proud of you!!! I wish you all the best.
Thanks so much Nathan for sharing your story!! You are awesome, brave and incredibly self-aware!! You'll go far in life. Your are caring, loving, loyal and authentic!! Stay strong my friend!! 🌈
Omg you're so old and creepy!
+black puta so are you!!
Wow . . that was quite a thorough blow-by-blow account, with the whole family thing ! Religion in the mix, can definitely stir things up !!
But what great peer support you had !! . . . It makes all the difference !!
6 years have gone by and this is still one of the very best coming out videos I've seen.
Nate, you are smart way beyond your years. Use that same intelligence when finding a mate.
Nate, your story is so inspiring on so many levels. I'm 10 years older than you but can relate to most of your struggles extremely well. I wish I was in a similar spot when I was 18. You clearly have a good head on your shoulders and I'm extremely envious of your self confidence. I'm very glad your good with your parents too. That's very important.
On a side note, watching your video, I was reminded of Mark Miller. Your speech patters are similar. If you don't know, Mark is a TH-cam personality that posts very high quality videos of his life...most of which include his boyfriend Ethan. They are a very inspiring couple and have helped me immensely.
I cant believe this kid is 18 years old. He sounds so confident. I guess it helps if you have all-american looks.
what country are you from?
how old are you your picture looks like your 5
Your comment just reduced this amazing video to being all about looks- which makes you seem like a douche. Just saying
Hi Nathan. Wow. Well done my brave young brother. I am so glad to see my younger brothers and sisters being proactive in such a cool and positive way. I am 50 this year and came out in my teens. It is hard but the more open and real and natural we are around it all the easier it is for future generations to just be what they were born to be. Christs message was about love, compassion and none judgement. You are loved and held by him always. Much love to you bro. xxx
Awesome video, and hope everything is going well for you still :)
Hi Nathan. Hope you are well and growing. I was also born into a Roman Catholic family (many years ago) and was blessed at a young age with a sturdy sense of my own authority. I started coming out about forty years ago - had one bad experience, but many, many good ones. One in particular still warms my heart whenever I think of it. I told a friend who was in the throes of raising four young children that I was gay. He leaned a little closer toward me and asked "Jer, what does that feel like?" i've never had such a wonderful reaction since. *** I think you were wise enough to realize at a very young age that it wasn't being gay that was stressing you out - it was trying to live in denial about who you are because of society's ignorance and prejudice. I'm so very proud of you, Nathan. Honesty is what the mind, heart and soul need the most to be healthy. The destructive and therapeutic elements of religion are all mixed up together. My favorite philosopher, Alfred North Whitehead once wrote that the "fact of the religious vision is our one ground for optimism and the last bastion of human savagery." *** Unfortunately, we have to do the work of sorting all that stuff out for ourselves. By now I hope you have a sturdy sense of how good and how loveable you are. I started teaching college part-time late in life and there is still much to be done to free our ourselves and our brothers and sisters. I wish you love and all the best in life. Jerome
I liked your video who's awesome that you came out you had complete confidence in everybody including your friends at school and you pretty much knew your parents would come around this is just absolutely brilliant I am watching this on January 1st 2018 it's like 4:30 in the morning and I came across this and I had to watch it I can't say congratulations enough anyway take care of yourself and anybody who seems to come into your life take care.
WOW! I would be so proud to be either your parent or your friend. Not only are you quite brave but, you're so amazingly mature. Your parents should be proud of you - and themselves - for that. Listening to your story, I realize how times - and society - have, thankfully, changed for the better. When I look back, I now recognize that I had feelings for other boys as early as third grade. By the time I was 18 I was already living on my own and, although I had been having "non-mutual" sex with adult men since I was about 14, I didn't fully come out - even to myself - until this point and began meeting and making friends with other gay guys my age. I wish you a lifetime of happiness, sweet Nate, and hope you find someone to share it with! You are the living proof that "It Gets Better!" I hope every gay or questioning young boy or girl listens to your story and is heartened by it! The world will be better with you all in it!!! Love to you all!
You are awesome your such an inspiration ! (;
Nathan
Saw this video just now, I realize you put this out back in 2014, but I really liked the video and I thought you expressed yourself really well. I think it takes a lot of courage to step out there and be who you are especially when being gay is still not popular with everyone! There is a lot of homophobia in the world and I have heard about how some people who came out were brutalized! Your right, you are lucky that you have supportive friends and a supportive family. We are only on this earth for a short time, you have to live your life for you and not others. I want to thank you for doing the video, I am sure it will inspire others to come out. I hope you find a kind and loving partner to share your life with and that you are happy.
God Bless
Mark
Wow this was amazing, I literally had tears in my eyes; thank you so much for sharing!
A good story. Thank you for sharing! You are very fortunate to be in your generation. Be happy!!
Can i hold you? Lol you are adorable 😊
Nate, the support that you got from your friends, then later your family, is because of the person that you have always been to them. One who is kind, thoughtful, listens to others’ opinions will enjoy that same support. Without even knowing you, I can tell you that that’s the type of person you are and
the support that you have found in “coming out” has been earned by you in your younger years. Well done, Nate, I’m very proud of you as a person and
delighted to hear your story. 🇨🇦
man I love these videos
I live in Kansas too! I love that you show not all Kansan's are stereotypical farmers and homophobes. I am really impressed by this video, thanks for telling your story and helping others.
Also I'd just like to say that you're really attractive haha
Well done, Nathan! I am very happy for you!
Thank you Nath for doing this...what courage. Beautifully done. You're my hero.
Well done....No matter what love is love
Takes a lot of courage and determination to remain steadfast in your resolve to be comfortable with your sexual orientation, especially against those that use religion as a reason not to like you. You are well-spoken, and seem like a decent young man. Your video surely has helped others gain confidence in accepting, then informing others of who they truly are. Hopefully, these videos will not be needed in the near future, and people can make a notation of who they are attracted to as casually as noting how the weather was that day. All the best to you, Nate.
Hey I came out 2 days ago to my parents. They took it absolutely amazingly and I was so happy and they told me they loved me and when my father said 'why didn't u tell us sooner', I was over the moon. I am actually only 12 (nearly 13 but) and I was wondering what to do next. I am so happy my parents understand and they have told me I should tell my close friends in college and after high school and my younger sister I know I want to wait a bit. However, about the friends, what should I do? How long shall I wait? When will I know? With my parents I got that moment when I went downstairs and came out with it but I need advice on the friend part please :) oh and amazing story one of my favorites :)
Great job Nate.. I did the same in 2014. Hard to believe 2 yrs have passed and I'm glad to say I didn't loose any friends and family in the process. If anything, the relationships were strengthened. Feels great to breathe freer. Hope life has been treating you well man.. Ciao.
What a nice guy you are!
Nate that was a beautiful story. You are very courageous. I'm glad that your story had a happy ending and that you have family and friends that love you and accept you for who you are, no matter what 👍
Good video. I hope everything has worked out for you. You seem like a very nice young man .
This is a beautiful video. I think it will help many people struggling through their issues. Thank you for putting yourself out there. This video speaks for so many that are, or will be going through the same process.
Living in Kansas and being gay is not always easy. Great video and always know that you are not alone.
There are things one can DO that are 'wrong', but BEING something can NEVER be.
Amazing video. I give you some props on doing this on the internet. It takes a lot of courage to talk to a camera and posting this on the web.
I am so glad that your parents have accepted this beautiful blessing God has given to you all. The world may not accept you at times, but God does continuously.
Awesome!!! Congratulations 🎁🎉🎊
...I lived in Kansas, and I know people over are good and wonderful mostly, but very conservative !... congratulations for being so brave. Thank for shareing this beautiful story, I know God will be on your side 'cos you're so HONEST
you should make a update Video!
I really enjoyed watching this video of yours, Nathan, and you did a great job. You were very brave and you did the right thing and now you can live your true life and be your true self out in the open and have nothing to hide and nothing to apologize for to anyone. Congratulations to you! ♥️
good for you, you have learned well from those who came before you. paying it forward is your reward too ;)
What an inspiring story, Nate. I can only imagine how difficult that must have been. Good for you and for others that are in the same situation to know that they're not alone. I appreciate you honesty, integrity, bravery and patience. It's so important to be true to oneself. As well, I know that it must have been difficult for some people of the older generation and Catholic as well. Sometimes it just takes us, the older Catholic generation, a life lesson from a wise young person like yourself. All the best!