S8 EP3 | LOVE IN THE 254 PART 3
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ธ.ค. 2021
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In this episode, Eli and Oscar give us their take on love and relationships and how their past relationships molded them into the men they are today.
You'll get to see an inside look on what they really think about the impact that the women in their lives have had on their lives and their different views on building a life together.
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Looking at those books so meticulously arranged, same size, color-coordinated and all is so satisfying? Almost therapeutic... Anyone? Okay...is it just me?
My OCD enjoyed it too
Loved the arrangement too
It's tough to be vulnerable about the emptiness that comes with being single. Single life for me is peaceful and there's freedom to be myself- selfish, independent, timeless(if that makes sense)- but I also want to be all these things with someone.
Nobody :
Eli : Beauty doesn't flatter me, I've been around beautiful ladies since my childhood.
Daaamn! We're sorry Eli 😂😂
Self work is my take away from this episode.
That swept me off my feet😂.. but sometimes beauty blinds us to fall for the wrong people
i think that no matter the level of success, there is chance, opportunity and choice to get a woman who isn't just impressed by your wealth and who gravitates more to you as a person. i am a believer that with growth comes separation of chaff from grains, so yes the window might be small and the women limited but think!!!! by the time you are building , there is women who are also building, when you are growing self there are those who are doing the same. so from where i am sat we can also say that if you don't build as a man , don't grow there wont be any women to be impressed by the said wealth and success because they will also have held down their own fort. thats the beauty of breaking away from the norms. so its in order to say both your opinions are valid, however you choose to approach life, LIVE !! if you choose building with your significant other do so , do not ,however ,romanticise struggle while at it though, if you choose growing self first ENJOY being single. find yours later, life is beautiful!
Spot on!!!building just like you are building....and not about to settle for less-
Wisdom!!!
You said it so correctly!!! Love it
The way Oscar came for Eli when he mentioned loneliness 😂 but low-key, don't attack a guy for admitting something so vulnerable. In fact, that can be another part to this conversation.
Eli: "I don't want you to be impressed with me."
Me: God damn. this is just so powerful.
DON’T BE A HERO.. I knew Oscar was talking to me directly 🤦♂️🤣
I am a 43 year old lady. The unfortunate thing is top or bottom there will be good people and bad ones. Understand yourself and you will be able to determine who's who in your environment.
The amount of times Oscar & Eli picked up water LOL. This topic seems to be a difficult one for you both, but I love the vulnerability and realness. I think the theme that I have really heard is how important it is to form real PLATONIC female & male friendships, I think these teach both men and women how to navigate relationships (romantic or otherwise in the future). Its very difficult as a woman to find men who (in my experience) want to be friends without extra additives, especially in Kenya, when I visit or even just friends from my past so I really value the male friendships I have found in my life that are purely platonic.
Men subconsciously look for their mothers in their wives and ladies subconsciously look for their fathers in their husbands... we tend to be more inclined to what we've been exposed to. Great conversations Oscar and Eli 👌🏿👏🏿
From the conversation I can guess that ELI is a dismissive avoidant and OSCAR is an anxious preoccupied but I love the self work and all your journeys to became the men you want to be.
I agree
Eli is sooo grounded
Oscar I like that you said "Enjoy and get to know yourself". That's Very Valuable to every human being.
You (Oscar) have a really strong instinct and it’s pretty good...
Oh Koome you are a funny guy. 😂😂
1. A big behind will not raise your children....👏 kabisa
2. Let the sugarcane ripen in the sun
As usual, great content, gents.
Take home: Work on yourself. Date yourself before you bring someone else into your space!! Very transformative!
Letting go of a specific perspective of what life looks like and allowing yourself to transform your mindset is the hardest yet bravest thing you can ever do. The beauty of life is the continuous learning curve. The results are fascinating especially when things start falling into place as you hoped for.
Oscar, who did you wrong?
The shield you put in your words can tell me if you're a hurt man.
I enjoyed the episode... Also, Eli exudes dad vibes in the way he expresses himself.
" Always account for disappointment!" the one-liners Oscar! Am all ears.
You two are very different,your perspectives are so diverse ..and that makes these conversations so meaningful.
Thank you for being who you are guys.. you are like catnip to me and it is the values you embody, the vulnerability, the honesty. #thankful Eli you spoke about your experience and it healed a part of me, because we have such a similar experience!!
I find that you both actually have the same perspective when it comes to the " (Oscar)build yourself before meeting someone or building together (Eli)." the only difference in your opinions is time. The seven years Eli has been single could have been the period he did most of the self-work, and now he has achieved personal independence; he's at peace with the idea of interdependence with someone to build an empire( for lack of a better word). Whereas it appears to me, Oscar is on the journey of self-awareness. He's yet to achieve personal independence. Maybe that's why he's not of the idea of codependency now. It is a matter of time before he arrives at the same space as Eli has.
I also think it is important to contextualize your upbringing. It seems like Eli has had a high caliber of women within his environment, which could have shaped his idea on what, when, and how to navigate relationships with women. Oscar did not share much about the women in his life; this could have shaped his mindset.
As for identity, I agree with both of you; beauty transcends what you look like (physical appearances); it is more of who you are as a person(self-defined values and beliefs). The former is bound to change with respect to time and space, but the latter is inbuilt irrespective of plights.
I enjoy your videos!! Nice work!!
For sure there is a time for everything! All will fall in place simply ,smoothly and with ease
This episode had me smiling from ear to ear. Besides you guys being sooo freakin cute, the convo was so insightful. Thanks for being yourselves and love the vulnerability.
I love how ya'll have grown into your own. The vibe/aura has definitely elevated and I can't wait to see the growth! I know you will experience exponential growth from now going forward. I am loving it!
True Eli...there is some empty place...but i would rather have that than fill in with just anything--in fullness of time it will be worth the wait...
👏👏Oscar and Eli being shy I love to see it😂 mmekunywa maji sana this episode
Eli looks so bright in this episode.
The way you have different perspectives yet one breath is amazing! I enjoyed this for real. My take away from as a woman is-Don't be out here doing the most, sliding in dms believing you can change a guy etc ...take that time to work on yourself and let it flow from there.
Thanks for opening up, beautiful beautiful episode.
After yesterday's live 😂😂😂let me just chase the bag love si must btw 😂😂😂😂
Very authentic and the work you guys have done on yourselves, hats off!! It's true, we attract what we are in many ways so the self work is essential. Oscar was free-er expressing himself and that surprised me. Kudos guys, tough topic!
Iam an Eli 😂😂😂
Bt I like the point where Oscar says we need to believe that we can still achieve our goals and dreams without the significant other.
Let's enjoy being single, listening to Oscar makes me feel like I have a lot of work to do on myself before tying myself down.
Great conversation guys. Quite interesting perspectives from the both of you. Keep up the good work.🙏🏻
Deep conversation. You guys are Amazing. Keep up the good work.
Great conversations especially on the topic of beauty. Yes, your talks impact us positively.
I'm so glad I watched this today, I finally know what decision to make. Thank you guys and I really enjoyed the episode.
This was quite a riveting yet impactful episode the take home lessons for me are quite alot!! Especially from the dimension that these two gentlemen have dissected the concept of what should be an "ideal" relationship as opposed to what the society dictates. Especially as men, gone are the days where we could look at a woman from the outside demeanor and the physical appearances, personally I'm now learning to be more inclined towards the inner beauty that's comprised of the intelligence,virtues and substantial values(to look at the bigger picture). I loved it!!! Mad props to these gents!!
Thank you Sir!
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Great talk fellas. Both your perspectives have truth. I say find a balance, no need to be extreme on either side.
This episode was tough we could see you struggling…….. but truth is as men and women we should work on ourselves and know the right person will come someday but we enjoy being single till that sugar ripens… good work guys keep them coming
This was the best 👏👏👏👏😍😍 aww guys you have helped so many people through this conversation. Thank you for the openess and vulnerability 🤗🤗❤️
How you love, allow to be loved, care for another, fear, courage is learned from your parents and also from conditions surrounding your childhood. A child is a seed, how you nurture the said seed determines the quality of the tree. Most of us are operating from that, we don't take time to unlearn and parent ourselves to become better versions of ourselves......this road is to be travelled if you really want to heal and grow as a person.
Great conversation guys
Great conversations!
I tend to believe that theres someone for everyone, if you're a good and polite guy theres a jumpy and all over girl who may be attracted to you, and vice versa, what we need to do is put ourselves out there more, I wish there were good and active dating apps that people like me who are more closed and not outside that much can meet other like minded people, there are people who are privileged enough to be in positions and places where they are able to meet many different people, that for me is a very big privilege if you ask me. New fan here!
Ditto
This episode has been quite a whirlwind. As always the men have delivered the talk. I resonate a lot with what Eli said about having the bandwidth to be emotionally available to other people, especially women who am trying to build something. I agree that self-work has to happen regardless of how long it takes. MEN, SPEND TIME WITH YOU.ENJOY(in Oscar's voice😂😂😂)
Yoo you guys are wise..I am challenged on how Mwendwa and Koome perceive the topic. Handle it so well. Impressive
Watching...
First of all great space😁I agree 💯 with Eli about growing together. Let her see your before and after. It's an amazing place to be at growing together!
Ps:
256 🇺🇬 men need to watch this🤣🤣🤣just saying😂
Great episode guys, really enjoyed it. Thanks for sharing. My take home is work on your trumours and do the self work first and be great at being single before you look for a lasting relationship.
That was too good>>>>>>thanks
Enjoy👌🤣🤣🤣❤️
I'm with Eli...build together
Wow!
2 mins in and loving it already🥳
Oscar, I'm with you!
You guys are intelligent!
Laughing at you both...
Struggling to sip some water as you share your stories 😂
And yes, great conversation👌👌👌
Oh God this was also one of the shortest sessions,compared to the others😅😁
Is Martha Koome..current Chief Justice Oscar's mum?
Welcome to the big boys Oscar 🙂🤣😉
This episode exposes the bald guy's walls and fear. The past doesn't have o dictate your future.
Love over Fear!
I agree with Eli on the loneliness part..
Love the conversation today...Oscar came through with the facts; build first, then find someone.
I’m loving this set up. Hata the colour coordination of the books.
Just focus on your grind, keep your head up and stay away from finessing 🤣Tukutane kule kwa live on Thursday
I totally understand the part of doing self work before entering another relationship because I think it would be selfish for someone to get into another relationship with baggage from the past and put it on their new person.
I feel like men should just be themselves. You don't need to try to be sweet or manly just be yourself and there will be someone out there to like you for who you are. You shouldn't feel pressured to change who you are for love unless the change is positive.
Well honestly speaking I've been finessed a couple of times now...
I didn't understand that concept. Mind telling what it's about?
I'd really want to see the demographics on your videos. It seems ladies really enjoy your videos
Bottom line: Self Work
This is to Eli ….so you say you would like to grow with your partner and not on your own(correct me if I’m wrong )but does it mean when a huge opportunity to be the best version of you arrives,will you postpone till you have a wife ?
42:07... chaps, sorry to be the one to tell you this but, ladies are using your videos like how men used Steve's book in Think Like a Man act like a Lady....A CHEAT SHEET!!😂😂