I'm Overwhelmed and I Don't Know Where To Start!
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- I'm Overwhelmed and I Don't Know Where To Start!
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Great job lifting her up guys. Y’all stopped her in her tracks and gave her praise and she never hears that. Way to go!
Yup! That was really nice of the them, and as nice was you picking up on that.
Single mom, going to school for my BSN, and I'm 42. I got this
Good job, don't let a bad man ruin your life.
You go girl! God bless you and stay strong!
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I’m a single working parent and finishing up my sign language ( slowly going fully deaf so need sign personally plus for my currrnt job I’m working in is in sign language) earning more than I do in healthcare and savings behind me while saving still 👊🏻 Plan to back college to go into social care degree as pays more healthcare and I’m 34 ! Never give up 👊🏻👊🏻👊🏻 Iv no support system as my family died mam and grandparents when I was young (17/18) I use it to better myself and my son life 👊🏻
When I was in college years ago I noticed a lot of people were either 18 and starting out or in their 40s and just finished raising their kids. It’s never too late. Go after your dreams!
That’s so great! I finished college young too but sometimes you have a better sense of what you want when you have more life experience.
@trish221985 if nursing was your dream job then why didn’t u start with that. If u don’t mind me asking.
This encouraged me so much!! I’m going back to college at 38 yrs old for nursing.
You can do it, beloved. God bless you and you will succeed!
You can do it!!!
Excellent choice. Go get it.
Go get it! 🙏
I’m going back at 35 because healthcare Ireland doesn’t pay at all . But my social degree will be free as paid through my work and get up the next step to little bit more income per year in social care work 👊🏻
Every mother who raised kids by her own is a hero. :)
Depends on circumstances. Its unfair to the kids when these women become single moms by choice and the stats back it up. Any women who had a kid on her own is a villain who is helping to wreck society. Widows on the other hand, those who raise kids while dealing with the unexpected loss of the other parent deserve a medal, and are inspirations to us all.
Child support is not optional... she got some help along the way. In 3rd world countries, a single mother DOES indeed raise kids on her own.
“Dave is old and he keeps going” dead 💀
$40-45k in CA is like poverty
Not like, but is
Serve poverty
She said take home, so it’s her net pay, not gross. I don’t know what the exact tax rate is in California but I’m guessing she’s making close to $60k a year gross. Still not the best for California I’m sure.
She would make an incredible nurse, coming from a daughter of a mother with a similar story who has been a nurse for over 30 years.
Life is exhausting sometimes. Give yourself a break.
I feel like giving up. It feels like all I do is work and I don't even have kids. I have no life outside of work and I'm just sad and depressed
@@leadnsteel1428 keep going, you’re stronger than you know!
People need to understand that school is a standing offer. As excited as they are to take your money at 18, they will be just as excited with you're 30, 45, 50, or 60... You can go back to school whenever.
I graduated hair school with an 80 year old. No kidding.
I’m overwhelmed listening to this call and her taking so long to get to her question.
Right! She's exhausting to listen to.
Sadly, this is why she can't get anywhere.
Gosh it’s like people just live in slavery. This call depressed me because it’s all about survival.
People never get a chance to breathe or discover higher parts of themselves. Sad to me. Our lives scratching like rats to get basic needs met.
I couldn’t have agreed with you more
The challenge is that people come in and show us that sometimes we SELF IMPOSE our own bondage.
Mindset is the first key to making changes in our own reality. And these guys just modeled that for her. For all of us. 👍🙏
Sister, I am 46 and just getting started. Go get 'em girl! We will do it together.
Omg the talking over each other in this call is driving me crazy.
I feel this woman's pain. I don't have kids, but I had a husband that was very sick and I took care of him for a long time before he passed away. I never received any support or relief from his family and I just about had a nervous breakdown. But, by the grace of God, I survived, but still have trauma, watching him die in our home, after paramedics worked on him for 25 minutes. I had to file bankruptcy afterwards because of medical bills and other messiness. I'm struggling to get my feet under me after everything that's happened. I'm about to start the 1st Baby step and looking forward to having a much less stressful financial life. God bless Dave Ramsey and the whole TRS team.
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I and countless other Ramsey listeners will be praying for you. You got this.
@@MCgrease08 Thank you. God bless you for your kind words.
U guys are so amazing. Thank u for acknowledging her for being a single mom raising two kids. Its alot of work. Thank u for supporting and cheering her on…i’m a single mom of two kids as well and it get so overwhelmed that sometimes its hard to breathe. Thank u for being so thoughtful and so intune with people emotional side even thru a phone conversation. Thank u so much for this show. 😭🥺😍♥️
I felt like a failure for getting my bachelors at 26. The social media pressure is no joke.
What is social media ?
I’m 26 & going back now to finish my bachelors at 30. I’m proud you pushed through & graduated at all! That isn’t easy especially working full/part-time. You are still young and have so much ahead of you!
Get off social media 😲😱
I wish Dave didn't always tell people it's so easy to just become a PA. It doesn't sound like this woman has a bachelor's degree, which she needs, and then 2+ years of full time masters work where you cannot hold a job. What's she going to eat on for 2+ years? And most hospitals pay a small amount of tuition reimbursement, not the entire bill. Plus, she can't work there while she's in PA school! Ay, he needs to get a grip with reality.
He has never worked a proper job, he was a real estate agent. He has no idea how competitive it is just to get a basic entry level job.
Getting into med school is much easier than getting into a PA program, Dave wouldn't know that. His advice is usually pretty hi-level, but the devil is in the details. He makes a great point in saying figure out what needs to be true to reach the target/goal, then get at it.
Getting a spot in a PA school is almost impossible. Applicants have an impressive background. She should go tha nurse route. She can get her associates in nursing in a community college; start working in a hospital and they would pay for her to finish her bachelors. Then, if she wants she can go for nurse practitioner (master's degree).
Becoming an Nurse Practitioner would be a more practical goal that she can do in steps.
The college part of her plan concerns me since a lot of people who go to college and major in a health care career while trying to support themselves end up dropping out. I would avoid the for profit colleges and save up some money.
I’m really happy with the encouragement they gave her. 💕 She is a hero.
I'm encouraged listening to this and I'm doing ok! John's mom is incredible.
Single mother.....of a 24 year old
AKA a victim mentality.
She will be a grandma in 1-2 years and have to watch those precious babies. The CYCLE CONTINUES!!!
@E KL - It doesn’t matter whose fault it is. The cycle will always continue.
@@ddfamf88 the cycle doesn’t always continue!
Why does Dave constantly not let people talk. He just gets louder and starts the sentence over lol
Because if he did they would keep on rambling. He has a certain amount of time per call he needs to keep it under so they don’t go over the time
@@dr.bradshaw makes a lot of sense. Thank you for the insight!
I highly doubt the tuition reimbursement is anywhere near what the program will cost.
Still, her company will give her free money for schooling. Typically they give you money to take classes towards a related degree to to you're doing. So it could pay a huge portion.
Exactly- Everton I know that has Tyrion reimbursement has it for under $3 k per yeah and the cheapest tuition at Sacramento State university is $8,500 per year....
*everyone that I know that has tuition reimbursement....
@@layessi810 that's Cali, there's lots of public 2/4 year places for under 5k a year and some places have better tuition reimbursement .
Right. I worked for a school district and the tuition reimbursement was like $50 per course. My courses cost nearly $500.
Kara you are a great mom to your kids! You sound motivated and want to keep going and just remember God will always be with you!
Reality is so much better than living in delusion. I am taking in how Dave (and others on his panel) sees the reality of a situation and brings it out into the light. The Ramsey vids are helping me face my own reality and recoginise how I got 'here'. Okay, rather than freezing in fear, I need to forgive myself for past idiocy and make some changes.
Y’all are so freaking awesome! All it takes is someone to believe in her!
"Can I just talk to you every day to cheer me up?" - moral support is the most important part in sticking with anything
Sometimes talking it out makes things way better! Glad they were able to ease her mind a bit.
OMG this was not MY call, but they were totally talking to me. I needed this. Thank you so much.
You are a great person for sharing this.
Feeling like being stuck in rut for a long time, then this video comes along. Thank you.
Same! A great video!
Both of you can do this! I mean it! I’m not saying it to just make you happy, I truly believe in you both and I know that you can succeed with anything! Visualise your goals, and then visualise how you would feel about your goals being finished. Do this everyday and soon you will believe it, and live it! Seriously, try it!
Have a good day and an awesome lives☺️
@@leolarsson8749 thank you so much!! 😊
Thank you Dave!! 🥰🥰🥰
I love Dave Ramsey!!!
As a practicing PA for 12 years, I wish her the best of luck.
I think I'm going to watch this once a day!
this is so sweet :( my mom has listened to dave for years so i figured i’d watch some of his videos on youtube tonight and this episode made me emotional bc i wanna be a pa one day also. i’m really rotting for this woman! we can do it!
I love the advise. She is a warrior. And to break the cycle, I hope her daughters will be able to establish good relationships and get married before they get pregnant
Statistically near impossible. They didn't see an example of a functioning relationship growing up.
@@ellencox8415 I know, but who knows right?
@@MT-yx5cu "I'm" not negative, this is the statistically probable outcome. The more people come to terms with the fact that they have created the negative outcomes in their lives and their children's futures, the more likely others won't follow the same fate.
@@MT-yx5cu it's true. Children due worse or about the same as their parents and a few go above and beyond. Pray these kids are in the few numbers.
She has a daughter and a son. Not two daughters. Young men deserve sympathy too.
6:20
Awesome story! Yay, mom!
She raised a family and _then_ went to school!?! That's the order it's supposed to be done.
Bravo.
I didn't hear you help her figure out how to come up with tuition when she's trying to figure out rent and retirement. Tuition reimbursement means she has to come up with big bucks to get that free education.
Loved this so much! ❤️❤️❤️
oh John, it was nice knowing you....RIP
she had a recent bankruptcy and now she is overwhelmed? they never got to that part.
YOU Can do IT!
You can feel the shift in energy after they compliment her and start talking about HER wants and hopes for the future. You can get lost in survival mode. Now, can I get a encore? Do you want more? Yes 👏
Im a PA.
If you don't have the prerequisites then you've got at least two years of pre req courses. At the same time she's got to be working and getting clinical experience and saving.
PA school is competitive so you want to get good grades.
Assuming that she can get all of her prerequisites done within a 2-year period and get accepted on her first shot which is certainly not a guarantee when it comes to PA School she's got about a minimum of 5-year plan before she's actually practicing. But any hitch in the road is going to make that a 6-7year or even more plan.
I don't say this to discourage her and hopefully she's reading this comment.
But nursing has to be a serious consideration because it's easier to work through nursing school and not lose ground financially and there's a lot of things you can do as a nurse to get to a pretty good income.
And also with PA school there's no guarantees of getting in so it's a little bit logistically easier to become a nurse.
This was terribly heartwrenching to listen to.
....and painfull.
Dang! I want to partner with this lady! She can help me with all my business fears and I can help her learn to enjoy life! We could help each other find balance and meet our goals. ...purpose!
We are all struggling you dont want face the truth
I’m glad I stopped here, very encouraging🙏🏽💗
Congratulations to John’s Mother. 🔥🔥🔥
Way to go👍🏽 John's Mom 👏🏽 gr8 story 🤸🏾♀️
Start with Jesus
She an amazing Mom, feeling overwhelmed ❤️
no she isn't
Dr John is one of a kind god bless him
Breathe. You can do this!
if 10% is bumping her out of being able to pay rent, she lives in a place that she cannot afford
In many places, housing is becoming unaffordable for low income people. House prices are skyrocketing, and rents are going up.
@@deanalbertson7203 true
Not to mention she lives in Cali
Dave would of fired her if he found out she pregnant and living with her bf
Haha.
And your point…??
@@Zer0Burn4r That he is calling her a hero on the phone, but would fire her for her lifestyle choices (it is in the contract) if she worked for him.
exactly what I was thinking. That sounded so fake coming from him.
You know that to be a fact ?
Or are u gossiping ?
I got my master's degree at 50. My work paid for most of it. You can do it!!
Amazing
Tara is not doing better than she deserves.
Kara 😊
I grew up on a farm, I'm a veteran, and currently a mechanical engineer. None of those come close to how hard being a single mother is.
Lol. Pop out some kids, get some section 8 and SNAP and send the kids off to the government school to be indoctrinated? Thats not too hard. Its hard, almost impossible to raise children RIGHT as a single parent.
Pay no mind to other people’s opinion about what is the right age to get a college degree. Remember, it’s just their opinion not yours.
Bring home about 41 hundred and kids all grown up financially stable.
Why are you stress? You are alright!
A sigle mom with two young kids only making 50k a yr.
I am 43 and want to go back to school, but thought I was too old.
Thanks for this call....❤🙏
It would be wonderful if the caller comes to Harding University for Nursing or Physician Assistant studies. It is a great school.
You start at the bottom unless your the grave digger.
She needs to move to the suburbs of Sacramento. Cheaper on the outer edges. Sacramento is overpriced and not worth it. There are plenty of big hospitals in the area, especially up 80, that she should try to go to and probably get paid more. She just seems tired and doesn’t know what to do right now. She needs someone in the area to really help her out and guide her in the area.
Outer edges like Elk Grove nope Roseville nope. Maybe north highlands or certain parts of rancho but other than that the actual city of Sacramento is cheaper
How did Dave Ramsey become Dr. Phill.
Amen
He added relationships counselors to the show and thinks that makes him a relationship counselor.
Get to IT MA'MA!!!! Blah, Blah, Blah. Blah........COME ON!!!!
Once you get the math down on paper and on a plan prosperity is only a matter of time.
Hey, it’s the Spammer! Dude, you are everywhere!
I commented on a video yesterday that Dave always coddles women. Apparently this lady is a hero just for being a parent. Anyone can be a parent.
Life can I general be more difficult for women sometimes. Sexism is real in different places in society and as a man for example you don’t need to worry as much at all if you are safe or not while outside, and many people can professionally take you more serious if you are a man instead of a woman etc. There are different factors and I think that Dave wants to encourage women more because they maybe experience sexism in some ways. And many times when he talks to women and he compliments them a lot, they are single moms. And being a single parent is really really hard. And I’ve never heard a single dad talk to Dave, only single moms. So I think that that is a big reason as well. And also I disagree with you, everyone can be a biological parent yes, but many can’t be a physiological parent, a loving parent. Many people shouldn’t be qualified for parenthood, many kids get traumatised if their parent is a psycho or maybe just a bad person that doesn’t give enough love.
I’m just sharing my thoughts and analyzing what I myself believe in, I’m not trying to go against you or be mean❤️
Have a good day
@@leolarsson8749 true.
@@leolarsson8749 Stop making excuses. Anything can happen to anyone. Only children deserve to be coddled and she’s a grown woman. She needs to mature and realize that life isn’t fair. It doesn’t help when you make poor decisions that will impact the rest of your life either, like being a single mother with multiple baby daddies. I wouldn’t call her a hero.
You don’t just “BECOME A PA!” Does Dave realize the school has to accept you? That PA class has about 20 seats available and most schools have thousands of applicants…
It’s probably easier to get into medschool than PA school.
Does P.A. mean public administration or physician assistant? I am SO confused at this point.
@@redvelvetcakeYUM He's talking about a Physician Assistant. I'm basing that on context since she's in the medical field and has nursing as another option.
Good morning.
Good morning, one day late
I am unsure why this brought tears to my eyes but listening to them speak really moved me.
My city!
Round of applause to her!!
If you can't control your emotions, you can't control your money.
Now that’s a very stupid thing to say!
@@tennysoneffie6943 You really think that's not a fact???
@@tennysoneffie6943 You really think that's not a fact???
@@tennysoneffie6943 You really think that's not a fact???
What is the name of the outro song in this?
"you're dead John,..."
Watch out for the hillbillies.
Dont know why when i hear calls like this i think of ks show
Guten Morgen
Is your house floating?
Surgical tech making that much!? That’s awful.
When you're running around in circles doing stupid.
Picking the right partner before having kids is the smart thing to do.
@@vladamirkb1 People can seem to be great initially, but show their true colors after a few years, especially when the stress of child rearing comes into play and they have to be adults.
What I'm saying here is that we don't know this woman's love life and we don't know what happened. So rendering judgement one way or the other is just being ignorant.
@E KL imagine thinking that only men are capable of doing what you said.
@@NomastiAfricanWarlord 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 exactly
People partners can die and they end up single 🤷♀️🤷♀️🤷♀️
I graduated cosmetology school with an 80 year old.🤍
Is everyone a hero for dealing with the consequences of their choices?
Perhaps heroes aren’t what they used to be.
They are when they successfully deal with the hand they’re dealt.
@@britneeg dealt? Or chose?
Never understood these single moms. The courts are always on the woman’s side. Why not go after the father for money
She has a 17 year old and a 24 year old. Pretty much no more funds on that part
California.. go figure
Work work work
Maybe I'm old fashioned, but being a single mom (twice over) and declaring bankruptcy doesn't make one a "rock star" in my book. That being said, I hope this woman well in the future and she plans out the second half of her life well.
You're sane. This culture of complementing failures is just harming future generations
I bet if it were a single dad they wouldn't have called him a hero/rock star...sounds like she has MULTIPLE baby daddies who didn't do anything. And somehow that's only the mans fault?
Lots of callers, most of them are single moms. Interesting 🤔
All single moms in the comments, I’m proud of you❤️
Don’t let a bad man you had in your life ruin everything, you can do this! I believe in you! Teach your daughters to be very sceptical about men so that there is a higher chance of them finding a gentleman, and teach your sons to be good men so that they treat their future wife amazingly❤️
And keep going, you can do this, you are capable of everything. You can make your dreams come true despite difficult things happening in your life, I know it❤️
Have a good day!☺️
Teach your daughters to listen to their fathers. Teach your daughters to marry before the CARRY! Teach them to be ACCOUNTABLE for their choices.
@@shawnturner7064 i married before I carried and still ended up divorced single mom with no support- physically or financially. I thought I chose wisely. These deadbeat men need to be held accountable. Everyone has a backstory. You can't judge all single mothers unless you know for a fact they are continously making bad choices.
@@shawnturner7064 Both you, and Leo are correct! We all have to be better parents to our kids. We need to be better examples, and start making better choices.
Tenured and Department chair at almost 70? Must be a really small college because no large public university is going to do that. No where.
Oh no bb girl, please stop talking🤦
Too many details - just give him yr financial info and let him clean it up fast lol
I know this is unpopular, but congratulating single mothers as heros and awsome and wonderful, etc. is not the answer to problems. Single mothers tend to be poor and overwhelmed. The reason the black community is in a crisis is due to the absence of fathers. Single motherhood is not a solution. It is a problem. This woman is a mess, emotionally and financially. How does that make her a hero?
As a Black Man. Thank you for saying and telling the truth!
@E KL I agree, she has taken responsibility for her children.....as she should. And, I most definitely condemn men who fail to care for their children. They should be financially and emotionally supporting them as well.
I think Dave holds the men more responsible in almost all cases. Thats just his perspective. Listening to Kevin Samuels as well as watching Dave Ramsey has given me a more balanced view of these scenarios.
@@maryjones6115 you should have led with that. You don't know her story and most single moms don't choose that life.
@E KL exactly.
No, you had a choosing a male problem or you are the problem.
Dave is kind of disrespectful cutting her off so many times.I get it, it’s his show but c’mon man calm down.
Telling people to work until 70 should be a crime. No one should work past 50 unless you absolutely love what you do.
Why? Who is responsible for paying them past 50 if not themselves?
Dave - stop babying this woman. My niece has three kids with three different dads, she's not married, and is working and doing fine. This lady doesn't have it so bad. I don't understand her problem.
Her unaccountable, excuse-having, victim mentality is the problem.