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  • @VegasAceVII
    @VegasAceVII 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +639

    Anxiety is real. Laziness is real as well. They can both co-exist at once too.

    • @joimumu
      @joimumu 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

      Agree I bet if she gets back to the workplace her anxiety will go away as soon as they start paying off their debt, like as soon as they pay 2.000 of every year it will feel better

    • @tgaynorugoods
      @tgaynorugoods 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      Agreed 💯, there are online jobs that does not require ongoing contact. I’m not accepting what she’s selling 🫤

    • @TahitianTreatt
      @TahitianTreatt 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Yeah. Not every job requires u to be around tons of people, so I'm leaning more toward laziness

    • @rajsel8761
      @rajsel8761 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      Anxiety only in the first wirld westenr nation!
      Never see ppl woth anxiety in 3rd world or poor countries! They get up and work to survive!

    • @dcheng4248
      @dcheng4248 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      She's a lazy ass 1000%. Get off her ass and go make some 💰 for the family ffs.

  • @AC-qo8oq
    @AC-qo8oq 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4952

    The more you stay at home, dwell on thoughts, isolate yourself the more anxiety you get, at least that was the case for me.

    • @nazarenecaffeine
      @nazarenecaffeine 3 ปีที่แล้ว +177

      My experience, as well. I have been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, so it isn't entirely under my control. However, there are things that make it worse, and staying at home and not doing anything is one of those things.

    • @charliethomlin6434
      @charliethomlin6434 3 ปีที่แล้ว +123

      i agree. i have a few anxiety disorder (gad, ocd, panic disorder) and the ONLY thing that helps is keeping myself busy. the hard part is convincing yourself to do that. anxiety overrules logic.

    • @AtotheZ7
      @AtotheZ7 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      That's what my counselor tells me.

    • @michaeltren4910
      @michaeltren4910 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      @@nazarenecaffeine no one cares about your anxiety disorder, I’ve seen you blabbing about it in other comments

    • @nazarenecaffeine
      @nazarenecaffeine 3 ปีที่แล้ว +90

      @@michaeltren4910 My point was simply to give the perspective that I am coming from. I can relate with the caller because of this. If you dont care about that, then you dont have to listen to me. The fact is that many who have not experienced this type of disorder often misunderstand it.

  • @RyanAnthonyDigitalMedia
    @RyanAnthonyDigitalMedia 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3590

    Imagine having $100k in student loans but no degrees to show for it

    • @Silidons91
      @Silidons91 3 ปีที่แล้ว +101

      @@LemonDropYum What school follows that made up rule? All college-level courses are transferable...

    • @robertbell525
      @robertbell525 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

      It would be frightening

    • @kwaviddong7875
      @kwaviddong7875 3 ปีที่แล้ว +120

      @@LemonDropYum yup. That’s literally they rule at all Universities. In order to get a degree at a University you typically MUST have at MINIMUM 45 credits from the University you want the degree from. That’s why generally you can only take Gen Eds at a CC.

    • @emdub954
      @emdub954 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      The thought gives me anxiety...

    • @jeep19
      @jeep19 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      LoL 😅 I know, right...

  • @fenomfangx
    @fenomfangx 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +291

    Spent $100,000 on a degree she never got AND doesn't work. I think we found the problem. Husband chose poorly.

    • @edwinortiz1262
      @edwinortiz1262 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

      Doesn't sound like she did either

    • @GangsterNerd1
      @GangsterNerd1 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

      Yeah, cause he’s such a prize.

    • @fenomfangx
      @fenomfangx 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@GangsterNerd1 Yea he is 100% supporting her and his daughter while all she's done is put them is debt. His hours dropped because of Covid, she is just lazy.

    • @asnmdnss
      @asnmdnss 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@GangsterNerd1he is for marrying her

    • @user-cq5gl1ri7q
      @user-cq5gl1ri7q 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      The stereotype that women only care about money gets funnier every time I see males basing a woman's worth on her money lmao the husband makes less than 30 000 a year, I think they're actually a perfect match

  • @gp3012
    @gp3012 3 ปีที่แล้ว +773

    That was brutal. She doesn’t want to work Dave. You know what else brings anxiety? Being in poverty and 100K debt.

    • @dcg590
      @dcg590 ปีที่แล้ว +72

      It’s her fault. I dont feel bad.

    • @deezelfairy
      @deezelfairy ปีที่แล้ว +83

      ​​@@dcg590 100% She ain't got anxiety, she's lazy.
      Can't work because of anxiety, dropped out her degree because it was hard, blah blah blah 😂

    • @boostedbadboyzx12r31
      @boostedbadboyzx12r31 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ​@@deezelfairybingo, hit the nail on the head

    • @mezza_ph
      @mezza_ph ปีที่แล้ว +17

      @@deezelfairyfull of excuses sorry she’s just lazy. I get panic attacks sometimes at work I still show up 😅

    • @nchen09
      @nchen09 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Yep. People use the anxiety and mental health stuff as excuses way too much.

  • @lc9493
    @lc9493 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2142

    Callers anxiety started after she stopped working. Maybe her anxiety was triggered by her financial situation.

    • @vickieclark5931
      @vickieclark5931 3 ปีที่แล้ว +174

      Yeah, having 145k in debt with a 28k income would give me anxiety also.

    • @princesslamour1985
      @princesslamour1985 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      There's a thought

    • @jamesrichey2434
      @jamesrichey2434 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Well said! I was thinking the same thing, because i have anxiety issues as well. During my unemployment period a few years ago for a couple months, i have to say it did get worse for me.

    • @kelseymarbach5731
      @kelseymarbach5731 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Agree. When I am working more, I'm healthy and happy. When I'm not working it appears thats when I stress eat, gain weight, and have random anxiety/panic attacks

    • @violetsabrewing7938
      @violetsabrewing7938 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@vickieclark5931 I’m pretty sure I’ll hang myself with that much debt😬

  • @aba1791
    @aba1791 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1155

    $28k a year in Seattle? They ARE starving to DEATH.

    • @gritsnwavy3059
      @gritsnwavy3059 3 ปีที่แล้ว +52

      Yes, something is weird here. She must live somewhere that’s rent free.

    • @-MOYST-
      @-MOYST- 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      I’m 20 min outside of Seattle. A basic 1500 sq ft rambler is 500k.

    • @dasmesser1
      @dasmesser1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Correct. 28k in Seattle would barely cover for rent + food, and even then you'd probably have to skip meals.

    • @tonyahenry4167
      @tonyahenry4167 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      They probably live with family

    • @ZoSkiLuv
      @ZoSkiLuv 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Something is weird for sure. She's answering questions but there must be something like a criminal past or something that's keeping them broke besides anxiety.

  • @BrandonMinguez
    @BrandonMinguez 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2801

    Less debt will most likely help reduce your anxiety.

    • @a-a-ronbrowser1486
      @a-a-ronbrowser1486 3 ปีที่แล้ว +60

      Debt free=care free

    • @BrandonMinguez
      @BrandonMinguez 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@a-a-ronbrowser1486 Great saying A-A-Ron!

    • @illbet4589
      @illbet4589 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Or smoking some of the devils lettuce

    • @Dial_J_for_Josh
      @Dial_J_for_Josh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      It really does! I paid off all of my debt, have some cash saved and feel liberated!

    • @BrandonMinguez
      @BrandonMinguez 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@Dial_J_for_Josh Woohoo!

  • @wildmikefilms
    @wildmikefilms ปีที่แล้ว +68

    Not being mean but she sounds to me like a professional victim

  • @FraYooo
    @FraYooo 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    He only works 33 hours and doesn't have a second job at a restaurant or coffee shop? Not to mention she doesn't work. This is ridiculous

  • @fortyseventhronin
    @fortyseventhronin 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1924

    I admire the way Dave handled this call. Really modelled the right way to talk to someone with anxiety issues

    • @FourWheelFinance
      @FourWheelFinance 3 ปีที่แล้ว +103

      I think the addition of John Deloney has made Dave look at these calls a little differently, he definitely tries to get an understanding of the mental health before telling them to sell the kids

    • @olivevideogames
      @olivevideogames 3 ปีที่แล้ว +111

      I'm pretty sick and tired of hearing these people use "anxiety" as a reason not to have a job. Especially now when everyone is hiring. Anxiety is the new lazy.

    • @And1one757
      @And1one757 3 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      @@olivevideogames i think your right sone of these cases may be real but im going to go 90% lazy with execuses 10% actual clinical anxiety problems

    • @kTorres007
      @kTorres007 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Right. It was a beautifully handled call. Even put me at ease. I pray for her family. And all of you reading this comment, May God Bless all those in need of the Mercy. Amen.

    • @EarlyBirdCraft
      @EarlyBirdCraft 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      You mean “laziness issues?”

  • @bcuriel2010
    @bcuriel2010 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2749

    “Your husband needs to get six more jobs” NO DAVE! SHE NEEDS TO GET A JOB

    • @bonbons525
      @bonbons525 3 ปีที่แล้ว +356

      That is what he is trying to say, he was extra kind to her.

    • @NoNegotiations
      @NoNegotiations 3 ปีที่แล้ว +187

      @@bonbons525 well, instead of telling her like it is, he's pampering her.

    • @OfftoShambala
      @OfftoShambala 3 ปีที่แล้ว +107

      @@NoNegotiations well the goal is to get her to see the light, and he doesn’t want to alienate her... because that might not help... but sometimes it needs to be said to people

    • @rollingacresfarmstead206
      @rollingacresfarmstead206 3 ปีที่แล้ว +77

      dave doesnt want to upset the women folk now

    • @ca6360
      @ca6360 3 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      No they need to ask their parents to watch their daughter during day and she needs a full time, he needs better full time, and a side hustle or second part time

  • @sXePunkV2
    @sXePunkV2 3 ปีที่แล้ว +625

    My anxiety and depression was at it's worst when I was unemployed. She needs to get back out there and DO something. Her mentally health will improve

    • @mariejones7136
      @mariejones7136 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      that is a double edged sword..She needs help to get rid of her anxity...and then she can work..

    • @wesleygriffiths8496
      @wesleygriffiths8496 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Mine was at my worst when I wasn't out in the world doing things either

    • @B20C0
      @B20C0 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Oh, you're a therapist now? I've had severe depression and anxiety while being "out there", being debt free and making really good money. How do you explain that?

    • @Joangelis
      @Joangelis 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@B20C0 she literally said "My anxiety came after I stopped working"

    • @lilbit9332
      @lilbit9332 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Yes, I totally agree.

  • @LuhRen
    @LuhRen 2 ปีที่แล้ว +336

    Its crazy how debt makes a huge difference. I make 28000 a year but I don't have any debt of any kind, no kids,, and I live quite comfortably in my state. It's not always about how much you make, its what you do with what you make. 💯

    • @doublezeroisourhero
      @doublezeroisourhero ปีที่แล้ว +31

      28k a year is still broke

    • @doublezeroisourhero
      @doublezeroisourhero ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Please get ur income up no one deserves to work and make 28k a year

    • @Dividendsmattertoo
      @Dividendsmattertoo ปีที่แล้ว +21

      @@doublezeroisourhero if you have no kids or wife or car payments and live at home 28000take home can be a lot of money especially if you invest 50% of it

    • @slammedc2003
      @slammedc2003 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      @@doublezeroisourhero 28K a year is only "broke" if you are unhappy and struggling. The OP stated they are living quite comfortably without debt and seem to be happy, they are far from "broke". However, I would be "broke" if I made 28K a year due to debt and other items I choose to spend my money on. Luckily, I make a little more than 28K and am living a comfortable/happy lifestyle albeit paying down debt responsibly utilizing Dave's technique that I accrued as a youngster. Just because a number appears low to you does not mean it is low to someone else.

    • @doublezeroisourhero
      @doublezeroisourhero ปีที่แล้ว

      @@slammedc2003 I get where you're coming from but that's slave money imo I've never made less than 100k a year even at like 14-16 years old

  • @sharishines99
    @sharishines99 3 ปีที่แล้ว +461

    I almost threw my phone when she said no one has degrees after 100k in student loan debt. 😳 I hope they were able to get more income

    • @lifeisbeautiful9455
      @lifeisbeautiful9455 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      I closed the iPad lol 😐😳😳…… 🤔😂😂😂😂😂

    • @aisha-3857
      @aisha-3857 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      How they’re struggling

    • @icestationzebraassociates2460
      @icestationzebraassociates2460 2 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      Right? I have two and only spent 30k

    • @kbanghart
      @kbanghart 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@icestationzebraassociates2460 so? You're better than they are, right?

    • @icestationzebraassociates2460
      @icestationzebraassociates2460 2 ปีที่แล้ว +38

      @@kbanghart Did I say that? I don't think so. I'm pretty sure I only said I have less debt. Sounds like you're projecting a bit.

  • @taahdaah3813
    @taahdaah3813 3 ปีที่แล้ว +366

    It sounds like her anxiety comes from her being unemployed and feeling powerless. When she gets a job and feels she has some kind of control over her debt, life and future, her anxiety will disappear.

    • @peartfaldo
      @peartfaldo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      yep. hers is situational not clinical......

    • @happilysmpl
      @happilysmpl 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      absolutely feels that way!

    • @TheMooseCaboose
      @TheMooseCaboose 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I mean... it won't just "disappear". But it definitely will be at a point where she can independently manage it without it being out of control.

  • @melgonz.6962
    @melgonz.6962 3 ปีที่แล้ว +589

    "My anxiety came after I stopped working"...well, there's your answer. Go back to work, and that will help a lot of the anxiety. I would be anxious too if I was sitting at home in debt doing nothing about it.

    • @finemd5403
      @finemd5403 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Well Obamacare works when you don't.

    • @decimated550
      @decimated550 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      She is a scaredy cat

    • @Thurgor_Supreme
      @Thurgor_Supreme 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      It's hard for both parents to have a job when schools won't babysit your kids anymore

    • @artemisofthemoonandhunt1486
      @artemisofthemoonandhunt1486 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Once you start spiraling, it is very much not that simple.

    • @mlovespring7892
      @mlovespring7892 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Totally agreed! Wish we all have financial freedom, and never need to worry about money again.
      That is my long term goal I am working toward. But, my stupidity kicked in big time and lost my high paying job. Still hurts till today!

  • @ThisisDaniel
    @ThisisDaniel 3 ปีที่แล้ว +585

    I love Dave's adaptability with vulnerable callers - he is firm, fair and tactful.

    • @milesmeralis5334
      @milesmeralis5334 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      He's a simp if it was a male caller saying the same thing I bet it would be different

    • @JoseMora-wc5zz
      @JoseMora-wc5zz 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@milesmeralis5334 it would be different. He’s a man, not a simp. Old ways women can actually stay home, but times have changed. So he’s lenient on women. Men are the food bringers.

    • @emzywillrich7243
      @emzywillrich7243 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Daniel, as you well know, Black people know all about these struggles due to grotesque discrimination in hiring.

    • @epr1
      @epr1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      He was extremely kind to her. Extremely sympathetic and understanding. What a man. Icing on the cake was the Ramsey plus for a year for free.

    • @Albert12893
      @Albert12893 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@epr1 he should be knighted.what a man

  • @robertdepesci3418
    @robertdepesci3418 3 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    I struggled making 26k a year as a single person. I can't imagine having a wife and kid with all that debt.

    • @Dan16673
      @Dan16673 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      How? Costco pays more starting

    • @robertdepesci3418
      @robertdepesci3418 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Dan16673 that was 12 years ago. and costco was very hard to get into back then. probably still is now.

  • @diegorodriguez5855
    @diegorodriguez5855 ปีที่แล้ว +211

    The more i hear these calls the more i am blessed with my 50k job, no college and no debt, i cant imagine the amount of constant stress that must be

    • @bryankovar2930
      @bryankovar2930 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      Are you blessed or do you have a good work ethic, hard working or have common sense?

    • @AT-kt4wy
      @AT-kt4wy ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@bryankovar2930 agreed, it’s mind boggling how irresponsible people are.

    • @SmashingUrMom
      @SmashingUrMom ปีที่แล้ว

      @@AT-kt4wyhow’s it shocking? Most of the world is financially illiterate. It’s been this way

    • @jennifer3551
      @jennifer3551 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Me too, except I don't make quiet as much. I consider it a blessing and making good choices.

    • @garbanzo_bean
      @garbanzo_bean ปีที่แล้ว

      @@bryankovar2930 some people are lucky to be born motivated

  • @Nemo00013
    @Nemo00013 3 ปีที่แล้ว +375

    100K in Student loans and she's not working, and her husband "drives" for a dealership? What they go to school for? 🤦🏻‍♂️

    • @Irene94087
      @Irene94087 3 ปีที่แล้ว +138

      Gender Studies

    • @EarlyBirdCraft
      @EarlyBirdCraft 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      @@Irene94087 🤣🤣🤣

    • @mwashi401
      @mwashi401 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Who knows?! I was thinking the same thing

    • @danielalonzo7445
      @danielalonzo7445 3 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      She neeeeds a job!

    • @pamemarald3601
      @pamemarald3601 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      she went for accounting

  • @SStesta90
    @SStesta90 3 ปีที่แล้ว +753

    This was a good call. Dave was direct but still very kind.

    • @josephmatthews7999
      @josephmatthews7999 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      .

    • @josephmatthews7999
      @josephmatthews7999 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      T

    • @michaelb.8953
      @michaelb.8953 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I could see that he was holding back, but Dave did good.

    • @midnitespecialist4872
      @midnitespecialist4872 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@djokovic1747 oh please dave giving away Ramsey Plus, is like you giving a duck the crust of your sandwich. I’m not saying it wasn’t kind, but to him it’s nothing

    • @overcomer4226
      @overcomer4226 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Kinder than I would have been I would have told her to stop making excuses get off Her lazy rear end and go get a job

  • @kuryanthomas1438
    @kuryanthomas1438 3 ปีที่แล้ว +904

    i always admire the courage of the people who are not doing as well as the people who call in to flex and pour their heart out about their financial troubles with dave

    • @clarifyingquestions
      @clarifyingquestions 3 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Who calls to flex? Are hard working intelligent people not allowed to grow and prosper and get advice. What you call flexing, I call proactive.

    • @abc.2924
      @abc.2924 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@clarifyingquestions Flexing doesnt always mean bragging

    • @clarifyingquestions
      @clarifyingquestions 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@abc.2924 gotcha, but what is the other definition of the word.

    • @abc.2924
      @abc.2924 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@clarifyingquestions Expand in this case

    • @n.e.g.u.s
      @n.e.g.u.s 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @donald johnson well thats a good thing considering most of his callers would be better off if they were millionaires instead of knee deep in debt

  • @daneprep5702
    @daneprep5702 ปีที่แล้ว +48

    Respect to Dave for treating this lady with the utmost respect. I understand anxiety, but to be in your 40's and seeing your family struggle with money and not work? I hope she's in a better place now.

    • @OShackHennessy
      @OShackHennessy 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      She won’t be, these people are perpetual train wrecks. Your tax dollars will continue to support them.

  • @curiouscat3384
    @curiouscat3384 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    There are so many people stuck at the bottom rung of the socioeconomic scale who don't have motivation because they just don't know what to do or how to lift themselves up. The emotional toll that poverty takes is defeating them. That's one reason Dave is so great - he counsels people to get up and just do SOMETHING and that gets momentum going.

    • @SidraAdele
      @SidraAdele 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Spot on take

  • @thepeeve
    @thepeeve 3 ปีที่แล้ว +356

    Honestly can we appreciate how Dave handled this call? Not raising his voice or calling them out or anything, but was looking for true understanding to give sound advice and sounded like he felt for them

    • @vickieclark5931
      @vickieclark5931 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Yeah, I'm glad he was gentle with her. Although I think she needs to get out and get a job, you can tell that she is not making up her anxiety. She really has it. She just needs to do something to help pay this debt off and then her anxiety will at least lesson without all the worries of the debt.

    • @And1one757
      @And1one757 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@vickieclark5931 its no way you can tell if its legit or shes making it up not but there is nothing wrong with giving her the benefit of the doubt

    • @aightm8
      @aightm8 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Treating people with respect shouldn't be appreciated. It's the bare minimum

    • @kbanghart
      @kbanghart 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@aightm8 Amen

  • @lionessrising
    @lionessrising 3 ปีที่แล้ว +973

    People like this take little to no responsibility for their situation.

    • @peartfaldo
      @peartfaldo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +98

      yep. and our wonderful govt is telling them its ok. all because of inequality

    • @powersdmc
      @powersdmc 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      I guarantee you that they’re living rent free with this moratorium too. Hope they can make it out.

    • @stephanier1000
      @stephanier1000 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Excalty. What was her point of calling.

    • @WISHBONEL7
      @WISHBONEL7 3 ปีที่แล้ว +48

      No , because she obviously realizes that the family has problems , that is why she made the call .

    • @marlynel2335
      @marlynel2335 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Facts smh

  • @ErrorPagenotFound-ig1cy
    @ErrorPagenotFound-ig1cy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +299

    Lol can’t make these calls up.. cant work because of anxiety. Work gives us anxiety. I’d rather get anxiety and get paid for it.

    • @grantarmbruster6591
      @grantarmbruster6591 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      I get anxiety buying things. I hate to buy things. So they don't have any anxiety buying things see cc debt... I bets she counts shopping as therapy.

    • @MrTmenzo
      @MrTmenzo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Sucks for her rather be in poverty because of anxiety

    • @randyh801
      @randyh801 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I am on the fence on this. Anxiety is very real. For some people, they literally cannot move because their body is responding as if they’re in the middle of a mass shooting, even though nothing is going on.
      However if your anxiety is so bad that you can’t work, you should be able to collect disability. If it’s not, then I’d suggest more therapy and medication. I have tons of family with anxiety, some are on a daily pill and some take them as needed. All respond very well to the meds.

    • @CosmoMakeupgurl
      @CosmoMakeupgurl 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sadly your right😔

    • @CrystalNicole13
      @CrystalNicole13 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      👏💯

  • @evanmunden2414
    @evanmunden2414 2 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    dave is good at telling who needs shouting at, and who needs to be calmly informed that they need to change what they are doing immediately.

  • @BrewedCoffeeBean
    @BrewedCoffeeBean 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    staying home all the time is probably the worst possible thing for anxiety

  • @ASQ1Fan
    @ASQ1Fan 3 ปีที่แล้ว +362

    I like these formats where Dave is by himself.

    • @robertbell525
      @robertbell525 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      Agree, I get tired of "honoring" everyone and "loving" everything. Cold hard truth is needed.

    • @PInk77W1
      @PInk77W1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Way better

    • @algonquin7187
      @algonquin7187 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      yeah way better. i hate when he jas other people in there...they always have something to say

    • @honeyvoss1477
      @honeyvoss1477 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I disagree. I like Anthony.

    • @mwashi401
      @mwashi401 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Me too

  • @livingunashamed4869
    @livingunashamed4869 3 ปีที่แล้ว +309

    Just adding a part time job changes their life. Go from 28 to 40k would be huge.

    • @jaypence332
      @jaypence332 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      It's not the pay is low. It's the greedy Goverment sticking their hands out.

    • @darinherrick9224
      @darinherrick9224 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Dude is already working. You saying he needs a second job?

    • @nazarenecaffeine
      @nazarenecaffeine 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      @@darinherrick9224 One of them can find something part time. This would help greatly, and would be better for her anxiety in the long run.

    • @PInk77W1
      @PInk77W1 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Only if they actually paid down debt.

    • @PurpleOcarina
      @PurpleOcarina 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @A M it is a massive change you cannot convince me otherwise. When i was at 40k a year and quit one job to go back to 27k a year it was absolutely life changing.

  • @jellybeans9283
    @jellybeans9283 3 ปีที่แล้ว +57

    My anxiety is the reason I AVOID debt. I would never sleep again if I had debt

  • @MegaIluvmj
    @MegaIluvmj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +78

    I honestly believe students loans is a huge reason for this generations anxiety and depression issues

    • @dcg590
      @dcg590 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      So? They signed. They weren’t forced, pay. it back.

    • @CoCo-yv3hl
      @CoCo-yv3hl ปีที่แล้ว

      @@dcg590at 17 & 18 years old… you haven’t made a bad mistake? You never heard of how they were predatory & incurred more interest than borrowed

    • @kind2423
      @kind2423 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@dcg590 Really, you think at 18 -25 when you make these decisions how it will affect your life? These banks and higher institutions profit off of naive individuals.

    • @BLoafX
      @BLoafX ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Especially when the college doesn't live up to the hype!

    • @thedeels7522
      @thedeels7522 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@dcg590 when you’re 18 and never had parents teach you about financial responsibility to say “they weren’t forced” is just a false statement. Some of us feel like we were influenced and ignorant and did not know the impact it would have on us. Have a little more empathy for some people. Thank God you had someone who kept you from making a stupid mistake.

  • @HalfwayJac
    @HalfwayJac ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have suffered awful, debilitating anxiety since I was 15. I’m 42 now. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. I’ve been let go from jobs in the past because of it. I see a therapist, and do my best. It’s always there, but I get periods where it comes on so bad for 3 or 4 months where I just can’t function. I work, but everyone at work notices it. I hate it. I always try to save money just incase I lose my job again from it. It was probably 10 years ago since I lost my job because of it and ever since then I’m really paranoid of losing another one. Anxiety is real people. And it’s a living hell. My heart goes out to this woman.

  • @trickyrickygmail
    @trickyrickygmail 3 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    Dave is logical, gentle and kind. For someone with Dave's wealth he is very empathetic whilst being clear. 'To be unclear is to be unkind"

  • @tyndni
    @tyndni 3 ปีที่แล้ว +720

    This is sad but sometimes people have to help themselves even if it's $10 an hour job

    • @susanarsoniadou3588
      @susanarsoniadou3588 3 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      That is slavery.

    • @triple_gem_shining
      @triple_gem_shining 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@susanarsoniadou3588 true but you have to value your time and not sell yourself short. Which a lot of people do

    • @larissagonzales6075
      @larissagonzales6075 3 ปีที่แล้ว +141

      @@susanarsoniadou3588 slavery is being held against your will. Any income will help and it could motivate you to do better. These jobs are not meant to be held forever.

    • @maxhendryx6171
      @maxhendryx6171 3 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      @@susanarsoniadou3588 no it’s called no skill

    • @nazarenecaffeine
      @nazarenecaffeine 3 ปีที่แล้ว +66

      @@larissagonzales6075 Agreed. It is better to have a job making 10 per hour (I have held jobs making far less than this) than to have no income at all. Sometimes you just have to be grateful for what you have.

  • @BlightBreedOfficial
    @BlightBreedOfficial 3 ปีที่แล้ว +138

    Anxiety is no excuse. I’ve been living with “high levels of generalised anxiety disorder” since I was 16 (28 now) yes it can be crippling, yes it’s unfair, blah blah blah. It’s no excuse. You can get all the therapy and medication that you desire, but the only person that can change that, is you. People that have anxiety can become lazy and blame their life’s problems on it, but it’s only detrimental to you and nobody else. Once you realise that, doors begin to open.

    • @BlightBreedOfficial
      @BlightBreedOfficial 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      @@saulgoodman2018 No it’s not. But when you’re in a slump as this person clearly is and you’re using anxiety as your main contributing factor to poverty, something needs to change. Success is never built in your comfort zone.

    • @whyme7862
      @whyme7862 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Perhaps a better approach would steer them to get help rather than insult them and say if I can do it you can do it. Maybe she can start off small once she and her therapist begins to make progress all the while severely minimizing her lifestyle.

    • @BlightBreedOfficial
      @BlightBreedOfficial 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@whyme7862 I never insulted her. When did I insult her? Because I said “people with anxiety can become lazy and blame their life’s problems on it?” That’s the truth, not an insult. It wasn’t directed specifically at her. I also never said not to get help. So, I’m not sure what point you’re trying to argue.

    • @whyme7862
      @whyme7862 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@BlightBreedOfficial I guess you don't understand the nuances of tone. Clearly she and her husband have problems and are trying to get help by calling in and seeing a therapist. They made some poor choices and seem to be making an actual effort to repair the situation.

    • @BlightBreedOfficial
      @BlightBreedOfficial 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@whyme7862 Sure, but that doesn’t change the fact that she put anxiety down as a main contributing factor for their current situation. Everyone goes through a slump, even rich and successful people. The reason for my comment was to point out that blaming anxiety for your problems, won’t get you very far. There’s nothing more to it.
      It may have come across as harsh, and I’m very sympathetic, but I won’t apologies for what I said. She seems to be struggling and that’s perfectly fine, we all struggle - Everyone, but what are you going to do about it?

  • @miloodidi
    @miloodidi 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    His face when she said “my anxiety came after I stopped working” like she quit because she is lazy jaaa

    • @joimumu
      @joimumu 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Agree and she doesn’t care the stress she is causing her husband

  • @TheMusicscotty
    @TheMusicscotty 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I love that Dave changed tactics on a dime here. He's usually Mr gruff State the facts. With this lady he dropped his tone way down, did not come across as overbearing, and actually engaged in a conversation that was helpful for this gal. That was gentlemanly.

  • @CaseyBurnsInvesting
    @CaseyBurnsInvesting 3 ปีที่แล้ว +235

    Getting the financial stress out of your life can’t hurt your anxiety.

    • @markplymale
      @markplymale 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Exactly man. I’d have crippling anxiety in that situation too

    • @ScotianBlooded
      @ScotianBlooded 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      isolating yourself away from people will hurt your anxiety

    • @jeffc1347
      @jeffc1347 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Do you comment on every finance related video on youtube?

  • @esonon5210
    @esonon5210 3 ปีที่แล้ว +254

    Margie needs a J-O-B. She can't afford to be a SAHM.

    • @marktheshark2569
      @marktheshark2569 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @Jay I will agree her husband needs to get a better paying job, but she absolutely needs to get a job

    • @bradleygunther5722
      @bradleygunther5722 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      What a load. Anxiety is just another label for Crazy. Guys stay away from women like this

    • @erictrejo4439
      @erictrejo4439 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Or the husband needs a better job and a second job in top of that

  • @sdot3358
    @sdot3358 3 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    Just listening to this call was raising my anxiety 🙄

  • @nyancoin4146
    @nyancoin4146 3 ปีที่แล้ว +71

    When I feel like i have been taking terrible financial decisions i just look at this kind of videos, it makes me feel better

  • @richardople
    @richardople 3 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    Dave: "Hi Margie, how are you?"
    Margie: "I'm good, I'm $145K in debt"
    Dave & Everyone: "You're not good, not even close"

  • @jorasparents
    @jorasparents 3 ปีที่แล้ว +90

    I love watching this guy work a problem. Just the way he asks questions and moves from one point to another. Really amazing to watch.

  • @yamamancha
    @yamamancha 3 ปีที่แล้ว +364

    My lie detector exploded when she said she was getting help for her "anxiety".

    • @toxicrengar7572
      @toxicrengar7572 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

      her "therapy" probably is some neighbor witch, telling her which tea's to drink

    • @Maxim.Teleguz
      @Maxim.Teleguz 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      @@toxicrengar7572 lots of assumptions

    • @grantarmbruster6591
      @grantarmbruster6591 3 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      @@toxicrengar7572 or shopping therapy with the cc.

    • @illbet4589
      @illbet4589 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Good thing those things are inaccurate

    • @libafried5840
      @libafried5840 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      She doesn't need "help", she needs a job.

  • @MB-gz1ji
    @MB-gz1ji 3 ปีที่แล้ว +264

    Gotta call bs on the anxiety thing. Not that she doesn’t have it; a lot of people do. I was diagnosed with PTSD after my year long trip to Iraq (2003-2004.) I have insomnia, anxiety, nightmares, etc. I still go to work everyday. Some days it’s really hard. But I and millions of other people do it. This lady needs a job. Fast food, janitorial, drive for Uber, Uber eats, mechanical Turk, etc. Lots of options.

    • @jeffkline9191
      @jeffkline9191 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      Thank you for your service and sacrifice!

    • @hornetguy9063
      @hornetguy9063 3 ปีที่แล้ว +35

      Yes. It's not that mental health issues aren't a serious problem. But society can't be patting people on the head and absolving them of any responsibility because of these issues. It's like people forget that the world doesn't owe us anything. I live in Boston. It's probably a global top 25 city, and would probably be the 5th most important economic hub in the USA, behind NYC, SF, LA, and Chicago. So, big magnet city for immigrants. Strangely, I don't encounter people from Africa, South Asia, East Asia, Eastern Europe, Latin America, etc, with anxiety issues too crippling to go work. Seems pretty unique to people born here.

    • @terriesmith2616
      @terriesmith2616 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      My older brother is legally blind yet he still works full time.
      This lady needs to stop with her B's excuse and go out and get a job.
      Doing nothing, taking no actions is what's causing her "anxiety".

    • @terriesmith2616
      @terriesmith2616 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@telegramatblain_2479
      Get the F outta here you scammer.

    • @MB-gz1ji
      @MB-gz1ji 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@user56gghtf The key thing I keep going back to is the fact that she said her anxiety started after she stopped working. Granted I don’t know her but my gut feeling is she’s making excuses. I know people who have been through nightmare situations and still find legal ways to earn a living. But it is entirely possible I’m being too judgmental and pessimistic.

  • @mattgeiger9988
    @mattgeiger9988 3 ปีที่แล้ว +66

    I'd rather be stressed out about working too much vs being stressed out about being broke!

  • @kirkmaxwellofficial
    @kirkmaxwellofficial 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You’re in your 40s with so much debt that you’re considering bankruptcy and one of you isn’t working and the other is working part time ? Some people are so dumb it hurts

  • @richthepup
    @richthepup 3 ปีที่แล้ว +89

    "Mkay, who's not working? Why?" Lol gotta love dave

    • @Yugiboii
      @Yugiboii 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Straight to the point and gathering facts that people don’t want to hear, good stuff

  • @wtDrake
    @wtDrake 3 ปีที่แล้ว +97

    Can't work cus of anxiety? Give me a break. She doesn't want to work.

    • @neneali3969
      @neneali3969 3 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Right but anxiety doesn’t stop her from racking up debt? Yea ok!

    • @TheTruth-lx7et
      @TheTruth-lx7et 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Exactly!

    • @markplymale
      @markplymale 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Yep exactly. Best cure to anxiety is to not be $150K in debt and make poverty level income

    • @JaneDoe-dg4pq
      @JaneDoe-dg4pq 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I deal with anxiety and work in customer service. I am trying to change careers.

    • @dannyk847
      @dannyk847 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@JaneDoe-dg4pq most jobs are hard and stressful, otherwise it would not be a job.

  • @forresthodge1024
    @forresthodge1024 3 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    40+ years old, $100k+ in debt and no job. Margie can't afford not have an income. I get the feeling the her husband isn't qualified for much either if being lot porter is considered a step up from his previous job.

    • @jairoherrera4040
      @jairoherrera4040 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      I wonder what she majored in? I hope it wasnt gender studies bc that is not in demand.

    • @Sophie-ge7ti
      @Sophie-ge7ti 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@jairoherrera4040 I thought she said accounting.

    • @jairoherrera4040
      @jairoherrera4040 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Sophie-ge7ti I might have missed it but she needs to find a better pay

    • @alextogo8367
      @alextogo8367 3 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@jairoherrera4040 that's the problem she's has no pay. No job. Weren't you listening

    • @jairoherrera4040
      @jairoherrera4040 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@alextogo8367 I have a hearing disability so quit being rude here.

  • @wildmikefilms
    @wildmikefilms ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I'm always a little skeptical when people start talking about anxiety. Like don't we all live with a baseline of stress and worry? But you just go out and face it. Every day. Every day.

    • @MorganFreemansFavoriteFreckle
      @MorganFreemansFavoriteFreckle 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Well, we all do not face the same baseline level of anxiety. It is a bell curve. There are people whose sympathetic nervous systems are genetically predisposed to go off the rails easier. Every body is unique and has different highs and lows

    • @joimumu
      @joimumu 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@MorganFreemansFavoriteFrecklesure hut 90% of them are faking it

    • @drea409
      @drea409 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@GFitz172 and those people who are more sensitive are *precisely* the ones who would tend to benefit the most from confronting their problem and facing their anxiety and fear.
      A panic attack feels like a heart attack and can make people go to the er fully believing they need help. Not everyone who simply has "anxiety" is dealing with something like that. A lot of people are just nervous or scared and they let that take over, they refuse to fight or confront or think through the feeling to do what they should be doing

  • @usmankhan2840
    @usmankhan2840 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    This is honestly the only show that helps me understand the concepts of saving money.

  • @bettysmith4527
    @bettysmith4527 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    Her getting a job, or two, and her husband getting a second job will help her anxiety for sure!! They both need to grow up a bit and work on getting actual careers, so they can better care for the needs of their child

  • @mandyprice5735
    @mandyprice5735 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    This just sounds like neither of them are trying at all..

  • @jeanlenor1858
    @jeanlenor1858 3 ปีที่แล้ว +353

    If I was her anxiety doctor. My first prescription for her would be to get a job now and come see me after 10 years.

    • @manucletejanota5137
      @manucletejanota5137 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Pretty much😂😂😂

    • @concernedcitizen4579
      @concernedcitizen4579 3 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      And if that don't work, get two jobs! Increase the dose.

    • @TrevForPresident
      @TrevForPresident 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      And then you as the anxiety doctor would be looking for work.

    • @nazarenecaffeine
      @nazarenecaffeine 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      With all due respect, as someone who suffers from an anxiety disorder, this kind of thinking often does more harm than good. It's also highly offensive to those of us who require medication to control the anxiety disorder. Anxiety disorders are not easily managed. I think that getting out of the house for work and getting her finances under control will help, but it wont eliminate it.

    • @nazarenecaffeine
      @nazarenecaffeine 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@TrevForPresident I suffer from an anxiety disorder that is beyond my control. Thank you for saying this. I appreciate someone recognizing that anxiety disorders are actual medical conditions that can be managed, but rarely ever eliminated.

  • @VermilionCandles
    @VermilionCandles 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Wow how thoughtful. I had anxiety and was dealing with panic attacks for a while. He handled this with a lot of grace.

  • @danielpineda508
    @danielpineda508 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    It’s actually good to see a call where Dave is kind to the callers dealing with so much! At times it feels that he doesn’t put himself in their shoes. Ppl needs someone to listen to them! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

  • @c976061
    @c976061 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    getting outta financial debt and stress will lessen your anxiety.

  • @emilsisorganizandote2688
    @emilsisorganizandote2688 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I love when Dave is sweet with people that are struggling with mental health situation :)

    • @lionelhuts875
      @lionelhuts875 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sweet with women*. I guarantee everyone would have different advice if the caller were a man.

  • @ProfessorMikee
    @ProfessorMikee 3 ปีที่แล้ว +37

    She can work from home

  • @Ina-v5t
    @Ina-v5t ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Go to work dear. Your anxiety will get better as you pay down your bills

  • @JustAName-it5qp
    @JustAName-it5qp 3 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    Been depressed dealing with military just to pay off debt. Without a debt, my job just feels like fun with the occasional laugh at stress. Debt free is the way to go and I have Dave Ramsey and team to thank for the course of my life.

    • @emzywillrich7243
      @emzywillrich7243 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Debt-free is the way to go and try to stay there once you reach it.

  • @Castellanocreep
    @Castellanocreep 3 ปีที่แล้ว +90

    I think the real thing here is 100k in student loans and no degrees!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    That sucks

    • @jeep19
      @jeep19 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      LoL 😅 I know, right...

    • @telegramatblain_2479
      @telegramatblain_2479 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      *Thanks for your comment*
      *FOR=GUIDANCE=AND=INVESTMENT* *w••h••a••t••s••a••p••p*
      *+••1••9••7••2••9••4••7••6••0••0••1*

    • @clairewillow6475
      @clairewillow6475 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Maybe she should go back and get her degree?

    • @ceesmith
      @ceesmith 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      That part was shocking. I wrongly imagined that people with that kind of student debt have got their degrees.

    • @jhopkins213
      @jhopkins213 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@clairewillow6475 with what? More student loans?

  • @Jon-Jon309
    @Jon-Jon309 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    Hey guys, I was in the SAME situation this lady was in and I could HELP HER ALOT. Pretty much, she's doing the right thing seeing someone about the anxiety issues *(As this was prob triggered during the stresses of collage. This is a very common thing)* and she got great advice from you about needing to get on Dave's plan and CARE LESS about letting people down. Live your own life and when someone isn't happy with you, you smile and tell them that's all you can do. I was 60K in debt making 30K and now I'm debt free, making 80K. Took about 3-4 years.

  • @powerpuff4ever
    @powerpuff4ever ปีที่แล้ว +27

    I like that he doesn’t dismiss the severity of anxiety and the necessity of treatment when giving this woman the advice to try to seek employment. Her situation is one that really doesn’t have many options outside of “increase your income”

  • @bluemouse5039
    @bluemouse5039 2 ปีที่แล้ว +136

    Dave- are you working?
    caller, No, I have anxiety problems
    Dave- are you being treated for it?
    caller- Yes, I stay home, watch TV and eat ice cream all day

    • @kbanghart
      @kbanghart 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Except she didn't say that

    • @Cj-vk9kj
      @Cj-vk9kj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@kbanghart but what else could she be doing? is she just freaking out with anxiety attacks 24/7? She's definitely siting around and chillin

    • @cheapyweepy5651
      @cheapyweepy5651 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Cj-vk9kj anxiety is when you work and you keep getting sick because your body just shuts down and effects everything that you do.

    • @allyglasson8250
      @allyglasson8250 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      @@Cj-vk9kj You have no concept on how crippling anxiety can be.

    • @ep1929
      @ep1929 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@allyglasson8250 the debt is the root cause of the anxiety.

  • @UpstateMan607
    @UpstateMan607 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    This is absolutely insane. Imagine being like a target stock person or McDonald’s cashier and being the sole provider for that family while carrying $145k in bad debt. The weight and stress that person must feel, I can’t even imagine. Good bless and good luck

  • @Je.rone_
    @Je.rone_ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +166

    Debt is a lot like a high school relationship, it could work out, but for most it probably won't

    • @Dan16673
      @Dan16673 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      So true

    • @Winston0Boogie
      @Winston0Boogie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      THE BLACK VITO!!! HEY MAN!! HOPE ALL IS WELL BUDDY

  • @nnyv0040
    @nnyv0040 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Thanks for showing compassion towards someone who has anxiety. People who have not suffered abnormal anxiety will never understand how debilitating it can be.

  • @mikerotch6068
    @mikerotch6068 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    She dont have anxiety, she just hates work

    • @TheIronChainMaster
      @TheIronChainMaster 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      She'll have plenty of anxiety when she's homeless and living on the street

  • @toddlerbookclub2183
    @toddlerbookclub2183 3 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    This situation is impossible. I don’t understand how these folks are living/eating.

  • @James-oc2zb
    @James-oc2zb 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This guy gives the most basic financial advice and every caller seems bewildered. Ive always lived responsibly and within my means and its shocking how many people rack up tons of debt and make bad financial decisions everyday

  • @Aventerra01
    @Aventerra01 3 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I've dealt with major depressive disorder and I dragged myself to therapy once I failed a job interview. People need to want to solve their mental health issues. Using it as an excuse to not do something will get you to rock bottom very quickly. Instead of getting defensive, own up to it and do whatever you can to handle your anxiety because it's going to ruin you.

  • @AlexiusS
    @AlexiusS ปีที่แล้ว +4

    she got anxiety "after" she stopped working..hmmmm interesting

  • @karig1224
    @karig1224 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    I actually started getting anxiety due to the stress of not being a provider in my home. Yes I work and help by being a stay at home mom. But there’s something about not bringing in a paycheck & going from independent to dependent really triggered my anxiety.

  • @Junmalo987
    @Junmalo987 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I’m a full time student and work part time @ Costco where I made 28k last year. I’m baffled at the fact that the caller’s annual household income is what I make working part time…

  • @gojojuice
    @gojojuice 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I work a lot and have a lot of anxiety around my work, but my anxiety was highest when I was jobless.

  • @noppawannitrosesatien9625
    @noppawannitrosesatien9625 3 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    I have an anxiety for not going to work and staying in debts.

  • @gigi_enItalie
    @gigi_enItalie 3 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Thank you, Dave, for acknowledging that what she is going through is real. I am always encouraged by your empathy, while also trying to push for a way forward.

  • @MillionaireMindsetClub
    @MillionaireMindsetClub 3 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    That title gives me anxiety 😬

  • @2legit2Kwit
    @2legit2Kwit 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    As a single mom in my 40’s, this call was painful to listen to. She’s a professional victim. Get out of the house and cultivate a life that you master.

  • @myhappyspace4533
    @myhappyspace4533 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The elephant in the room is; what was the point getting a degree and end up with 100 000 student loan and ending up being a porter. College is such a scam

  • @daveavemian5940
    @daveavemian5940 3 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    I love how Dave makes it seem like 33K in CC debt is nothing. Paying off 33K when you're making below avg income is very hard

    • @richard77231
      @richard77231 3 ปีที่แล้ว +34

      I don't think he felt is was nothing, but it's important to point out that 80% of the debt will still be around after bankruptcy. And he's right that even if ALL the debts were gone, they still have to solve the income problem.

    • @oldtwinsna8347
      @oldtwinsna8347 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yep. They will be in the defaulted interest rate bracket which is like 20% or some crazy figure. At that income level they will be making minimum payments that barely touch any principal.

    • @johnc2438
      @johnc2438 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      But nobody pointed a gun at them and told them, "Sign up for this loan or you will be shot!" They did this of their own free will. And now they find out it wasn't free at all!

    • @allanhood4397
      @allanhood4397 ปีที่แล้ว

      Total head case

    • @chrisrose2690
      @chrisrose2690 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      FACTS 👌!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • @Kazukio77
    @Kazukio77 3 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    I suffer from severe anxiety disorder and severe depression but I go to work every day. I hate when people use it as an excuse to not work. It's not an excuse, they are just lazy.

    • @telegramatblain_2479
      @telegramatblain_2479 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      *Thanks for your comment*
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      *+••1••9••7••2••9••4••7••6••0••0••1*

    • @OfftoShambala
      @OfftoShambala 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      We are living in a victim mentality world nowadays.

    • @Kazukio77
      @Kazukio77 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @mikael englund self pity and sitting idle doesn't help boost confidence or change your mood. It's not a matter of comparison. Get out, work, accomplish things and take pride in it. When you sit idle you put your mind in a dark place and just make yourself feel worse.

    • @valente7436
      @valente7436 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      There’s literally people who can’t leave their house because they have anxiety

  • @catarina81
    @catarina81 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    It's amazing she had the courage to call but honestly in anxiety situations (and I have been there) the best thing you can do it's to go out of the house and try to do your life. It will be so hard at first but in few weeks or months it will feel natural. When you stay at home it's easier to think everything is bad and feel bad for yourself, when you go out and you are busy you have no time to be sad and anxious. Not only work will make her anxiety less severe than she will also have money to enjoy her life better and stop stressing about debt. She needs to get into the cycle, now she is just in a hole.

  • @Ces999919822
    @Ces999919822 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I’m not judging this woman however, I have to imagine the anxiety of facing bankruptcy would be just as bad as the anxiety that comes from having a job.

  • @Zen-colouring
    @Zen-colouring 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Who's not working?
    "Me!"
    😂😂😂😂

  • @naturesoundsofireland1241
    @naturesoundsofireland1241 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Compassionate and real. This man does so much good in the world.

  • @TheAnointedOne90
    @TheAnointedOne90 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    My younger sister sent me in this direction after a convo we had a few days ago. I’ve listened to a few of these types of videos over the past couple days and I must say there are tons of people in far worst situations than my own. That doesn’t make me feel better about myself but encourages me cause things could be far worst. I’m 32 with 55k debit and for some reason this guy makes me feel like tackling that challenge could be a lot easier than I was assuming. Putting his baby steps plan in action asap.

  • @bubbafinch07
    @bubbafinch07 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Dave is a pro. Him taking this caller and giving them the attention and care they needed is truly fantastic.

  • @vnsn_ngyn
    @vnsn_ngyn 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Dave: Hi Margie, how are you?
    Margie: I’m good.
    *she was not in fact, good*

  • @avaceleste
    @avaceleste ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I really appreciate the level of compassion Dave I speaking with here.🦋

  • @spencer4708
    @spencer4708 3 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    I have anxiety just hearing her situation, I can’t imagine what it’s like living that each day. Fix your financial situation and I’m sure your anxiety will go away!

    • @nazarenecaffeine
      @nazarenecaffeine 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Perhaps not completely. I have an anxiety disorder, and dont have complete control over it. However, some things help, but do not eliminate entirely, the anxiety that I have. Agreed that it will help, but I dont think it will entirely eliminate it. It may make it more manageable, though.

    • @vickieclark5931
      @vickieclark5931 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@nazarenecaffeine Agreed! People have anxiety over a lot of different things, but eliminating some of the bad things in their life like toxic relationships or debt can definitely help make it more manageable. The less you have to worry about the more control you can get about the anxiety.

    • @clari5683
      @clari5683 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@nazarenecaffeine so agree! I have GAD and worry about anything, even the weather but having bigger issues like no job or financial problems makes the disease unbearable.

    • @charliethomlin6434
      @charliethomlin6434 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      it depends on her situation. i'm wondering if she has anxiety or an anxiety disorder. if it's just anxiety, you're right, fixing her financial situation will eliminate it. but if it's a disorder, there's not much she can do :(

  • @rtrt2889
    @rtrt2889 3 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    I think her "anxiety" is from the debt. She needs to work. Stop making excuses

    • @michaeltren4910
      @michaeltren4910 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      For real. That seems to be the problem these days with people being lazy and when the time to pay bills come up, they all of a sudden get anxiety and scared. It’s time to take action

    • @BKMaster6
      @BKMaster6 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Exactly I feel bad for that little girl 😞

  • @avagization
    @avagization 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I can’t judge anyone who suffers from any kind of mental illness. I have no idea what’s that like. I hope everything goes well for them.

  • @millertoyal
    @millertoyal ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I was out of work, related to illness for six months and suffered from debilitating anxiety. I would wake up every morning with a sense of "impending doom." No matter what activities I engaged myself, the symptoms persisted until I was capable of returning to work.
    Her anxiety is related to a lack of productivity. She needs to return to work and the anxiety will likely heal itself.

  • @d.b.1176
    @d.b.1176 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    In their 40s making $28k a year? That would give me “anxiety”