Coming out to your friends (how I did it, at least) | FTM transgender
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- I'm not bald. My hair is just really ugly.
Also, I say "uhm" and "yeah" wayy too much.
I hope you found this video helpful! Stay tuned for part 2 and 3 where I talk about how I came out at school and how I came out to my family (parents and brother) ;)
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Dog: foods? Can I has foods? Maybe if I stare at foods and look hungry friend will give me foods.
Kovu: do you want a treat?
Dog: PLS FOODS.
Omg this is so cute i can't
Isabella Rose I was like oh boi that doggo is so well trained
Hahahaaaaa that’s like my cat actually... 😅
That’s me normally... I might have a problem.
Kovu, your voice sounds beautiful and masculine.
Leah Cash thank you, lovely 💕
Leah Cash I know right? His voice is seriously in my top 10. That's really weird I'm sorry.
Isabella Rose Nothing weird about it. Not that being weird is a bad thing tho.
Leah Cash I just didn't want to creep Kovu out 😂
Isabella Rose Oh, OK 😂
Kovu. If your dog ever goes missing. It was me. I stole your dog.
Emily Alex we should all join forces to steal kovus dog and give them all the treats in the world
Rory Botelho yes
Rory Botelho can I join? I will bring dog toys.
No, me
Omg I'm loving these replies.. Can I join?
Kovu, I know you feel dysphoric about your voice, but you don't need to. You don't sound very feminine. You pass SO WELL!! You notice it more than others because it's not as bad as you think it is. Ily and you are vvv masculine x
YOUR DOG IS ADORABLE
don't worry man, you're voice sounds amazing!
People, be careful okay? Be careful who you open yourself to. Only a few people actually care, the rest just wants something to gossip about. I came out to two of my closest friends before high school. I've known them in about nine years! They said they were going to be there for me, support me. But completely turned their backs to me once school started. And now I'm all alone. Take care people. Please
imactuallylegit I'm sorry to hear that! >_< people suck, man
Wrennen Thorn Yeah, they do. Thanks tho :)
Ugh, I can relate. I had friends who were so supportive of me being trans, but once I opened up about my political views they turned their backs on me and started harassing me and triggering my already extreme gender dysphoria. It sucks but at least my medical transition is going well.
leopard how are you now? Are things better?
leopard I be your friend
I laughed when the automatic subtitles wrote « gender food » instead of gender fluid :)
Btw, I’m 13 and in this confused phase in which I identify as gender fluid cause I don’t feel like a girl, but not completely as a boy either, and I’m no sure if I feel like both or neither so yeah, I can relate to what you’re saying ;-;
Also, I only realized not long ago that I didn’t feel comfortable with being called a girl since at least two or three years now that I think about it, even though I didn’t consider the possibility of being transgender at the time.
I feel like I look and sound more feminine to my family because that’s how they’ve always seen me (and how I’ve seen myself too during my childhood) and I feel less and less comfortable with it as time passes.
However, even though I know my parents would probably be cool with it, I still prefer to wait till I’m more sure about my gender before making a coming out :]
Apart from that, love you Kovu and your voice sounds amazing :)
Yeah, I did the same thing, I waited to be like 100% sure about my identity
And my mother still being wrong about that, like saying '' how matter how you try to be a boy, you'll always be my little girl''. And it' s hard. Did you come out to your parents?
hey, how are you now? did you figure it out? how did everything go? what is your life like now?
:D Lmaoo i forgot I even wrote that
I actually sorta came out to my family recently even though I'm still not sure about stuff because, well, they were kinda prying? Like I wasn't being subtle (pretty voluntarily, I'm lucky I wasn't afraid they were gonna kick me out or something like that) so they had doubts something was up for a while now. Told my sister first and she was cool with it, but it was a bit harder with my parents (mostly my mom) even though they're overall pretty accepting. I only told one of my friends.
Now I'm still confused but I don't think I'm gender fluid anymore like maybe more trans guy but really idk. I tend to avoid the subject with my parents because it makes me uncomfortable lmao.
@@JC-ij9ul that's like weirdly reassuring that even after two years youre still not 100% sure, I've been really worried for the past few years that I'm not actually trans because 'if I was, shouldn't I be sure of myself'? and idk that just kinda helped ty
:D Yeah I get that feeling too a lot. At this point I try to tell myself that I just need to give it time since I'm not actively in distress or anything and that I'll know eventually, but I think about it literally everyday and most of the uncertainty is kinda about having to make a choice, if that makes sense? Like not "choosing if I'm trans or nah" just like choosing if I wanna go by another name or medically transition and such because either that demands seeing a therapist and being much more certain, or I'm just scared it won't feel right after all or smth so I just don't try 'until I'm sure'. Ranting a bit sorry but I actually forgot I wrote that comment and it felt interesting to come back to it after two years.
When coming out,
*puts on sunglasses*
Safety is number one priority
The very first person I ever came out to was my best friend at the time via a text message rant. I also came out to my therapist by writing a looong note on my phone that I had her read in my office that talked about my experience with gender identity stuff. I was possibly gonna come out to my parents in 5 days, but I think I'll wait longer. I would be safe technically, but I don't think they'd believe or support me. I just wanted to come out because I think they're already suspecting me, and I'd rather tell them with my therapist than accidentally come out during an argument (we get in fights about how I dress). I don't wanna come out in school because I graduate this year and I feel like it'd be easier to start off college with a new name than to change it now.
When I came ut to my mom as pan, she said "oh so you're in that phase now"... yeah!
You actually described the exact process i went through being ftm
Meme trash SAME BRO
Non-gender specific flap I'm just Inside of this process rn
Same dude right now im identifying as a trans demiboy im not even out to my friends im actually spooked it may be because my relationships and mental health is in an odd place
SAME
S a m e
okay so you know whats really really annoying? I can't wear a sports bra or binder or anything for longer than an hour or I literally can't breath. which is incredibly frustrating because I hate having to wear proper bras because I look too frickin feminine
allegra I'd recommend talking to a doctor to check if you have asthma? I take an inhaler and now I'm fine as long as I don't run. You could just say you can't wear sports bras or tight clothes and a doctor won't ask more questions. Or maybe you're wearing one that's way to tight?
allegra also! Button ups hide curves or chests very well!
Wrennen Thorn thank you!
layer ur clothes my dude
You could try wearing a cami or tank top under a loose shirt.
the whole thinking you're genderfuild thing happened with me and i'm still a bit insecure about being a feminine trans guy so thank you for existing you make me feel so much more comfortable with myself
My coming out story is pretty long, even though theres only a small handful of people who know. When I was younger, I didn't know why but I wanted to be a guy. I tried wrapping my breasts in ace bandages before I even knew what binding was or what transgender was. I had no idea what I was doing but I wasn't comfortable living as a girl. Even hearing my own birth name made me flinch because I hated it. I also hated feminine pronouns. The ace bandage thing happened when I was 11 or 12. After that, I decided I wanted to just look really dykey and just look like a dude but not get surgery, although during the time I strongly considered breast reduction surgery. This summer, in late June or early July, I honestly can't remember, I had a friend over. I told her about how I wanted to look when I was older and she suggested that I may be trans. I had, at this time, known what it was and stuff but her suggestion scared me and confused me because I didn't want to be different. I always thought I was one of the boys and I had always done things associated with masculinity. And in April, the 16th to be exact, I got my hair cut even though my female relatives strongly advised against it. My aunt especially didn't want me to get the haircut. It was I guess the general guy haircut. The picture I showed the hairdresser was a picture of Brendon Urie and it turned out a lot like the picture. My aunt even tried convincing the hairdresser not to give me the haircut before I arrived at her barber shop. I was really hurt but if my aunt wouldn't let me get my hair cut, my dad was going to do it. A few months prior to the haircut, I realized I was bisexual, or pan or what have you. I'll date anyone. Back to realizing I was trans. After my friend left, I kept thinking: What if she's right, what if she's right? And I was really scared. A few weeks later I came to the conclusion that I was a transgender male. She was obviously the first person I told and she was ecstatic. I then told my cousin and my closest few friends, and my two transgender friends, both also trans males. Then, my sister. She was my only trustable family member at the time and I knew she would have a good reaction. When I told her over text, I cried. Then I told my dad and we upgraded my wardrobe with masculine clothing. I eventually told my sister and my mom, who lives away, and I told one of my teachers and two school counselors, who call me Adrien, and my teacher does in class. The next step is to come out to my older brother and my transphobic aunt, who can fuck off if she won't accept me. I'm actually going to see my brother within the hour and I'm going to order my first binder tonight! I'm really excited. I'm probably not going to tell my brother quite yet because knowing him, he'll either be super supportive and great, or he won't take me seriously, so I need more time to think it over. Wish me luck, and thank you, Kovu, for helping me along the way in more ways than I can count. ❤❤❤ (I came out to a relatively new friend yesterday, are you proud? lol)
Too Bad You'll Never Be RadTM I'm proud
this is like 8 months old but I'm really proud of you and I plan to come out this summer (probably the worst idea ever and I should wait until school starts again but that's too long haha) also I love how the haircut you got was like forehead urie. that just made my inner fanboy smile :)
spicy boy Are you my clone..? Cause I feel like you're my clone 😂 But I'd if I'm trans or not..
I'm a FTM trans kid, I'm only 13 and have recently figured out my gender, and I want to go by Alex not my birth name. I still don't know how to come out to my parents and my dad is Transphobic. I'm afraid ill get kicked out, but anyway, Kovu you have helped me so much, ily:)
heyy you left this comment like a million years ago but like i'm in pretty much the exact same situation. My emails mayhavelostamillionmen@gmail.com (i'm 13 too, my names Sebastian)
Savani Yeah you totally can, i remember it would have been so much better if i had someone trans and who had been through the same thing when i was figuring it out.
Elizabeth Nicholson I know I'm super late lol but I kinda feel the same. I came out to one of my friends and she supported me for what, 3 minutes? Then when she saw me she said " You're not transgender, you're a girl and always will be a girl and your name is [enter birth name here]." I felt so depressed and I wanted to cry so much but I just laughed it off.
I hope you figure it out btw lover your profile picture
Rudy Lynn Can I email you too? I'm not too worried about people not being accepting, but I still want someone to talk to.
i've identified as non-binary but i've started questioning again because i feel like a boy. I really want to cut my hair but i'm scared it won't look good on me, i always but my hair up in a bun when i get home but i'm really self conscious about my head shape and i also have really crappy hair so i'm afraid of how i'm going to look.
I'm really curvy so i feel like shit in all of my clothes because i have such a "female" body.. i don't really have anyone to talk to about this stuff so i have it all inside which makes me feel even worse
Omg i felt 90% of those at least once, the head shape thing and curvy hit me right in the feelings lol, u just have to do what you think works best for you. At some point i really began hating my long hair, and ended searching everynight for short haircuts. My friend was really supportive (and mom) so i went and cut it. I received 99% possitive and neutral feedback, many told me it defines and suits me better :) so yeah do exactly what you think works best for you and dont let other people decide for you. And remember, if you really dont like it, it's just hair, it will grow back eventually. LOVE❤️❤️!!
Charlie Ekström if you feel your body is to feminine, you could try wearing baggy hoodies and jackets like I do, it might not always work but maybe give it a thought?
Do it! It fits most people
Eow, this comment was wrote years ago and I just have exact the same feelings right now and go through the same stuff. Thanks, this comment helps a lot.
Came out to my best friend as pansexual, and she was like, that's great, I'm pansexual too. It was today too! Not making anything up either....lol
Same, only my bff came out as bi and that's how I figured out that I might be bi.
when i came out to one of my friends as pansexual she was like "what is that?" lololol
i'm Genderfluid and i'm really hate it when people call me by my full name. Most of the time i feel like a men but i can't come out 'cause they wouldn't accept me...
But anyway: thank you for your Videos. i love to watch it! great work!
Jellyton it your choice if you are belive it or not. I was just here to watch another video from kovu. A little bit of happyness for the day. Well you and some other people destroy my day anyway. It's more than feeling just masculin. I could explain it for you but that would take to long. Anyway I wish you good luck for your Transition. Have a happy day.
Jellyton Replying to : There are only two genders everything else is fake.( It's like saying there is only one religion everything else is fake. )So yes there are two genders humans have biologically. Maybe there is someone out there who feels like something else. Just because he feels that way he/she/it isn't fake. Let everyone be themselves. Not everything has to be labeled. You can't change how you feel. So let people live how they want to.
Jellyton its ok to have your own appinion but please dont be rude about i know it maybe feels like "how else Would i say it" but maybe Then you just shouldnt have Said it. And btw i fully support your transition
Jellyton Coming from a trans guy, stop making trans people look like assholes kthxbye.
Well, I use non-binary as a way to at least not be called a girl all the time. It's like a safety while I'm trying to work up the courage to come out to everyone. Also,I can understand why you are angry, but if the person is happy to be non-binary, just let them be happy. It doesn't really affect you. That's all.
I relate to you so much, I identified as gender fluid for a while but I started to question my gender even more and then I felt great as a boy and when I came out to my friends it was so great I'm comfortable with who I am now. I came out to my sisters but they didn't take it well but it's okay I had amazing friends to support me and people like you to make me laugh everyday
I go to a christian school and all my friends and teachers are christian so I don't think I can tell them about me being a transgender or pansexual, and I'm not ready to tell my parents yet. All I've got is the internet.
After I came out as gay, I never knew why it made me feel uncomfortable when people called me gay. I realized it was because it still means I am a female, but I am not. I identify as male. Also, I kept thinking “am I reeeallly trans?” And then I answered, “well I wanna take T and get top surgery so, yeah I think so.” Idk just a random lil rant
-Tyler ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
omg, when you feel like you've got a loose hair on your face and THERE S NOTHING THERE! enough to turn me into a madman.
this is almost the exact label process i went through
strawberry shoes Same here
same lol
He apologizes for how feminine his voice sounds... Meanwhile I'm praying that my voice will be like that someday..... It just isn't fair that his voice is like that. It isn't feminine at all, how does he do it?
So far, I've come out to three of my friends. Kind of. I joined an LGBT instagram account that one of my other friends was in, and I just told her that who I was on the account. My other friend found out about the account, and saw my picture on it and saw I was trans. She said she supported me which is good. Coming out to my best friend was the worst though. I cane out to her during school because she kept asking me. So I told her, and told her I go by Liam. She said she was okay with it but she still uses she/her with me, calls me woman and by my birth name and it's the worst feeling. I don't get gendered correctly at all actually, except for online and it hurts.
whenthenightfalls does she know how much it hurts you? because if she isn't at least making an effort and she knows how important it is to you, it's really terrible
Wrennen Thorn ya she calls me he now. Yay.
whenthenightfalls Dude same.
whenthenightfalls I'm really late lol, but I feel the same ;-; I came out to 3 of my friends in a group chat and they supported me and called me by my preferred name, Max. Then not even 5 hours later, they came to my house, called me she and said my birth name. I was literally about to strangle all 3 of them XD Ahhh life. Don't you just hate it?
when you said that you identified as a demi-boy, I firstly thought you said demi-god (greek mythology) 😂😂😂 I was totaly confused thinking "Kovu isnt a PJO fan, or is he?" until I rewatched that part...
I love your videos btw, your awesome, and its always interesting listening to your stories and oppinions. Oh, also, stop always stressing about these things like that your voice is to feminine, you do not sound nor look feminine, and when I first started to watch your videos It didnt even cross my mind that you might once have been a girl.
Hi Kovu. I'm new to your channel and I love your videos. Your videos help me a lot and have helped me to figure out more about my sexuality and gender identity. I am beginning to believe that I am transgender (female to male) and also that I'm gay...I am still questioning my gender identity and my sexuality a little bit but I am really now starting to figure myself out. Your videos have helped me so much and have such a positive message. Keep doing what you do. You're great at it. You're really helping a lot of people.
- Jay
i figured when i was like 3-4 years old when i knew i was trans now i'm 13 ;)
me too
Alex Smolovin i find that really adorable
Alex Smolovin omg literally same ages! I knew age 3-4 and I am now 13!
me three, cheers man
I knew at five but always thought it was just me wondering and now I found out I’m actually trans:)
I've come out to two friends so far. They both live a bit away from me, and the way I did it was online. I literally just said, "Yo, so, I may be trans." Only one answered so far, but the other one is terrible at checking her social media, but she's super supportive.
I can't watch this right now as I'm going to my friends house for the first time after coming out to them and I saw the thumbnail and title and just had to comment! Definitely watching when I get home but I literally came out to them as trans this week and they all took it well and I'm really nervous every for today but excited too!
Update, I returned and it kinda sucked :/ only one out of the five people there used my name and pronouns, I know it'll be hard but I really hope they will eventually.
Gothic Rhyan Anything changed?
So I've just come out as FtM transgender on Valentine's day and when I came out I was so stressed out that I was sick (I had the common cold so I was a little sick but mostly just stressed out and anxiety attack) it was so bad I called for an ambulance and went into emergency where I was kept over night because my oxygen levels kept dropping and the doctor's couldn't find an actual problem with me.... I told my Dad that I'm a boy over text while I was freaking out that the hospital had me me in the room a friend of mine had died in.... I was planning on coming out to everyone but not from a hospital bed...
I’m also trans and I was part of the “popular kids” in middle school and I had a group of like 14-15 friends and I lost all of them when I came out as trans FtM except for one person. She’s still my best friend to this day and we’ve been best friends for about 9 years. When I told her I was trans, she literally just said “Mkay” and then we started talking about something else. And I asked a few days ago if she sees me as a boy or girl, she said “I see you as more of a boy to be honest” which was so reassuring.
I have only come out to my mom because I'm so scared to tell my dad. My dad wasn't very accepting of my sister, she's pansexual, so yea. Now I'm going to tell my friends and get the guts to tell my dad.
Parker Me how did it go? ? xx
Parker William hey it’s been over a year. I’m just wondering how it went and if you came out to your dad. Lots of love! Xx
Your so adorable!!!💕💕💕😍😍
I LOVE YOUR DOG SO MUCH OH MY GOD SO CUTE
What you talkin bout babe, your voice is so masculine!
i want to come out as trans to my parents and my best friends but im scared
My friends were so supportive! My mum just took it well and just went with it. My class took it like it was normal so YAY :)
I reaaally love the way you express yourself and the knowledge you have etc. it's amazing and your story bought a tear to my eye, so happy for you!!!,
*KOVU THE KING*
I have these 2 close friends in school who I don't really text and I really want to tell them, but I don't know how. I'm already out to 3 others in school. I was going to just bring up that's it's national coming out day but it's a little late for that. one might not be as supportive as the other. they just keep on using the wrong name and ugh
you can ask the school to change your name on the register, then people will take you seriously.
I love this video and it was really helpful but cAN WE TALK ABOUT KOVU'S FOB HAT PLEASE
IM COMING OUT AS AGENDER TOMOROW TO MY FRIENDS! IM SO SCARED AND HAPPY! :D
Thank you Kovu, I really couldn't do it without you. I watched this when it originally came out, and I've been preparing ever since. Because of you, I can be myself. :]
1. your voice sounds wonderfully masculine in this, don't worry. 2. where did you get that beanie (or the patch on it if it was an iron-on)???? i want one so badly now bc Young Volcanos is one of my favorite songs
Everyone in the comments is LGBT 🏳️🌈 and I'm just here like. 🙋🏼 hi cis hetro female here...
Berry Wright allies are super important and amazing! :)
Berry Wright thank you for the support!
As long as you're supportive we all love you :)
Berry Wright same
Allies are an important part of the community💙
Transfemale here: just wanted to say that friend you told about in the beginning sounds like a really good friend.
A male friend of mine (classmate) I told what I had found out by sending him the link to a documentary about a transgender girl that aired on Dutch television in 2007 responded well, but after we lost contact for a couple of years I, in the meantime the contact was re-established, had started hormone treatment and he asked how I was doing (looong story for him at that time :P).
He still responded well, but I found out that my explanation after sending the documentary back in 2007 had not been clear enough, because I got a response like "Wow, that documentary must have really made an impact on you that you've started doing the same!" and I had this feeling "Errrr, that's, not how this works?" and I explained what was up in way more detail than I thought I had to do since the first explanation :P.
11:50, well, I know a couple of women who are not transgender who most definitely have an adams apple, because it's not predominantly something for males to have. Yours is more visible than mine has ever been, and it really spikes people's curiosity how I don't have one while having gone through boy puberty....
I'm getting ready to come out to everyone at school now that I'm out to parents and close friends thanks for all your videos they've always been really helpful :))
Crap Kovu!!!! only like 300 more to go! yay!
OnionWoman _ I know !!!!😱 I'm super stressed about the video I'm gonna post when I reach it, I have very little time omg I want it to be done so that I can post it right away so I'm working really hard on it
Onion woman we have matching usernames
Honestly this video helped me so so much, thank you for making it. I startet figuring out I'm a transguy 3 years ago and it was a very long journey to get to the point I'm at now (I came finally out to my best friend yesterday and she was super supportive). I questioned myself so much over the time, I went back and forth and it was absolutely horrible not knowing who the fuck I am. I actually started out like you, questioning my sexuality, then finding out about genders and I identified as genderfluid first but eventually realized it's not my identity that changes, it's just my expression. So I described myself as Agender and later Non-Binary and eventually just used genderqueer because I had no idea what was going on. I just really wanted a word to express how I felt. Like you, I at some point went further into a masculine direction and just used demiboy until I realized I'm just a boy. To see someone who went through almost exactly the same really helped me because I was never like those trans people you see on TV who've known they're trans their entire life and even after I was confronted with topics like transsexuality it didn't click right away and I needed time to figure it out. And it's true what you said, I also always told myself these things may take their time but I'll eventually figure it out. So thanks again for this video, it really does make me feel better about myself.
Kovu, you are such a person to look up to. I love seeing how happy you are being yourself. Hopefully I can be as happy as you soon!
I'm planning on coming out to my closest friend in two days and I'm hecking terrified (even though she's the most supportive person ever). Your videos have helped me so much in trying to figure out who I am though, so thank you
Ive come out to a few close friends who are really supportive Im planning to come out to my parents on Friday, im so nervous, i really hope it goes wellAlso u have really nice eyes :)
Nathan Friel how did it go
ahh we followed a very VERY similar path in discovering our identities! (bi, genderfluid, agender, non-binary, trans-masc!) it's brilliant to know that I am not alone. So much love and respect for you Kovu :))
honestly kovu, you've helped me through a lot. I know you're a small channel but you are just such a nice person honestly 🙂🙂 thanks for that. and thanks for being there when no one else was (Sorry I'm getting emotional and stuff 😆😅)
You are litterally making me question my sexuality (I'm Lesbian). You are so cute! I've always had a thing for Norwegian people, girls mostly, and you are so freaking adorable! The first time I found your channel I thought you were actually a boy! You pass so well as male and don't let your dysmorphia get in the way of that! I was forced to come out to my parents because they found my texts to my girlfriend talking about our first kiss. I love you so much and respect you alot!
~Lucy
. This helped me so much. Just be able to see someone who went through the same thing as me, makes me feel so much less alone. For about a year I thought I was gender fluid as well, only now to find out I’m trans. Thank you so much for sharing!
My best friend is actually transphobic so I don't know how to tell her I'm trans and she's like the last person I talk to on a regular basis
I know im 3 years late but if you arent out to her yet know that if she is a real friend that she will support you whoever you are
I also initially identified as gender fluid before I realised I was trans. My best friend came out as gender fluid, and when I found out that was a thing, I started to realise I might be that way too. But eventually I realised that I was happier and felt more comfortable on "guy days," and realised I was probably a bit more binary than I'd thought. Funnily enough, that friend recently decided they were actually cis. But I haven't come out to anybody except my online friends yet. I really want to come out as soon as possible, but I'm afraid because I don't feel like I have any friends I can come out to, and my mum is not transphobic, but she's really sexist against men. She raised me to think that being a guy was bad, and I'm scared she will treat me the same way. I think that's also one of the reasons it took me such a long time to figure out my own gender. Sorry for the rant.
your story sound kinda similar to mine
I’m religious but totally support my friend. Sure, others might think that’s bad but I don’t care. I think it’s awesome that he was able to come out and be comfortable with telling me. He’s great 😉
How far you’ve come, always adore you.😄💛👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 This helps, really, realizing my gender and telling friends, but I need time and to go far away from my family to be more sure, they aren’t going to understand and tell me why I’m choosing that, as if I’m not a boy clearly since I started existing.
I love you so much!! THIS HELPS SO MUCH
Kovu, your voice is lovely and masculine, also I was wondering any opinions I can get I was going to come out to my family on the 11th but I conducted an experiment where I pinned my hair up into a short looking haircut and put a beanie on along with a "boyish" outfit the weekend before and my dad flipped so I didn't tell anyone. So is it safe to come out or no?
Tamsin Unicorn I'd say no. Maybe ease into dressing masculinely an after you're parents are more used to it, maybe come out? if they aren't accepting of how you dress, I assume they won't like you being trans. one thing I did that made me feel way better was looking androgynous-ish instead of fully masculine (shoulder length haircut, clothes from the woman's section that are still kinda neutral looking ect) my parents kinda do a similar thing where they say I'm "trying to look ugly" whenever I dress masculinely and I'm sorry dude, it sucks. best of luck to you though!
I can totally identify with your experiences (aka. I’ve had nearly the exact same): Gender-fluid to Agender to trying hard not to care about all this stuff and trying to avoid the topic at any cost. The last months I kinda figured out, I’m ftm tough. I still have few doubts but they become less every day. Seeing that someone shares my experiences and now is sure about his identity helped me a lot. So I guess, I just wanted to say “thank you”.
1:06 I dont know how but at that moment, that exact moment, I give a like on the video and then you say "thumbs up" and I was like.... HOW DID YOU KNOW? XD idk. I love your videos, they help alot, thanks Kobu 😁 ur the best.
IM SO PROUD OF YOU ILY side note, what camera do you use to film with???
Jack I think he uses a Canon 700 or sth like that...
Omgsh Fall Out Boy beanie!!!
This helped me a lot. I’m coming out as trans male to my friend tomorrow. I’m scared but I’m hoping it will go well
i am questioning myself these times and your videos are REALLY helping me. i saw your video yesterday when you said you just have started T and i'm so happy for you btw! ♡ i wish we were friends :(
0:21 THAT DOG IS GOOOOORGEOUS
i freaking love Kovu. He has to be one of my favorite youtubers! And i legit thought i was genderfluid for months but i figured myself out with help from Kovu's and MilesChronicles' channels.
Omg when he said "doggy!!" It was so adorable haha 😂
No joke, I thought you male, thinking about becoming female when I first started watching your videos. You have nothing to worry about!
an adorable dog and an adorable boy this is too much omg 💕
im religious and I'm ok with transgender people
Last night (Oct 12) I came out to my boyfriend as trans. He was so accepting, which I was really surprised
about. He wasn't angry or judgemental like I feared. I'm really happy I told him. But OMG it was terrifying.
I hope that if others are feeling like I was, that you can find the strength to do this too
Still waiting for the right time to come out. This video was inspirational!
My Pop Pop has them we same treats for his dogs!! And yes, I'll never stop calling him that. Great video as always, my inspiration, keep up the great work. And keep your chin up, yeah? Lots of love: a fan
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when he did the voice message thing in the beginning i thought my screen ad froze lol
Same
omg. I'm watching old videos because I only just discovered this channel and this is the *exact* same thing that happened to me in the exact same way
You don’t have to worry about coming out as trans to your friends when you don’t have friends
Modern problems require modern solutions
I always thought i wasn't "trans enough" because i always heard that transgender people know from a very young age that they are trangender. Now that i heard a very similair story to mine i feel a lot better! Thank you lad
THIS HELPED ME SO MUCH BLESS YOUR AMAZING KIND HEART
coming out to my friends was pretty easy because they already thought I was or something like that and my 3 sisters were like okay so yeh we still love you, my dad doesn't really care and he'll support me no matter what... my mom well she didn't believe me and still doesn't fully but I get it and I'm giving her all the time she needs and I hope that we can continue on this journey together, I'm noticing her support more and more so I'm thinking I might be able to have a normal conversation about it instead of getting in a fight with her.
To all the other transmen and -women you're valid and don't give up on yourself, I know it's hard and I'm not even in the process yet but you just have to think like this: if friends or family are being negative and do not accept you that's their problem and they're not your friends or family and they shouldn't be in your life. You should be surrounded by people that love you for you.
You look perfect always Kovu
I'm glad i'm not the only one who kisses my pets. Animals need love too!
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I love your videos. Your videos give me a sense of hope. You make me feel like a special snowflake and make me feel like I matter.
I dont know why, but I feel like I want to rant.
I have been against dresses and feminine shirts for as long as I can remember. I've always felt comfortable wearing clothes that are normally labeled for men. I refuse to wear dresses or any sort of 'dressy' girl clothes. My mom has told me several times that it makes her sad that I don't dress like a girl anymore. Binding and wearing men's clothes gives me a sense of security.
I don't think I identify as transgender, but I do crush on girls. I haven't been in a relationship because I am afraid of what my family would say. I've had a couple of talks to my mom about the LGBTQ+ community and I've gotten positive and negative results. She says she is fine with LGBTQ+ people, but she thinks that the wide variety of genders and identities are ridiculous. I was very upset by this, but I'm not allowed to talk back to my parents. I asked my grandmother how she felt about the LGBTQ+ community. She giggled a bit and said that she was fine with gay people and said, "They are what they are." I don't know if that was good or bad, but I shouldn't dwell on it.
My family has never really discussed the LGBTQ+ community with me, but my curiosity and questions led me to the internet. I have been wearing a men's shirt weekly and it makes me feel more confident about myself. Several people I know have eyed my outfits or asked me why I wear it and i just respond with, "Why not?" My friends have always thought of me as a girl all this time, but i don't want to upset them by spontaneously showing up to school wearing men's clothes everyday. I've felt that I'd be more comfortable as a boy, but I know that my mother won't accept that.
I'm apologize for the long comment. I felt like this was a safe place to spit it out.
So helpful because im also genderfluid and im trying to tell my friends successfully because they're supportive but its still scary. Thanks for sharing. (also i wish my voice was that deep cri)
I figured out that I was a boy about two years ago. I came out as trans about a year ago to supportive parents. I haven't transitioned yet but now I'm questioning my gender even farther because male pronouns don't make me feel very good. I don't know if it's just because I'm not used to them or if they aren't for me but female and gender neutral pronouns didn't feel good either. I'm just so confused. Also I have been going to the same therapist for about nine months but I still haven't been able to open up to her even though I trust her.
You got to tell the therapist, its pointless not. As they won't know the real problem.
I've been questioning my gender and sexuality since late May and now it's already the middle of July. In 2015 I thought I was just gender fluid but I didn't have the guts to come out. Now in 2017 I questioning whether I'll just stay in the closet and be a girl and be insecure for the rest of my life or transition into a boy, be myself, and be happier than ever. If I do find myself to be FtM transgender I will come out before or on national coming out day (October 11, 2017)
Honestly that’s the cutest doggo ever
Wouw, I have been the exactly the same path!
You can be glad to have supportive friends...
I never came out as gay in my class because they were kind of homophobic and I did not need this kind of people around me (plus I was born with a walking disability).
My family on the other hand was supportive, except for my father. I came out when I almost was 21 y. o. and they all accepted it.
I didn't come out to my father on purpose, but my brother accidently outed me to him. My father wasn't glad about it and we never talked about it to this day because his side of the family is also kind of homophobic. Everytime there is a gay themed topic on TV, my father and his wife react disgusted...
That's why I am glad to have been raised by my mother.
Same
I (after multiple crushes on girls that I didn't knew were possible) I had a big crush on a friend, then discovered the whole lgbtq community, identified as bi for a while, now as pan and also a transboy
Yay I'm early! Btw I love the video :)
I'm bi and your vids have helped me a lot. thanks for all you do. (Ps:i kind of have a crush on you) love you so much your my fav youtuber you helped me come out to my fam and frends. your the best. thanks! :D
I literally just came out to my Friend, we’ve been best friends since nursery. It went brilliantly and she was super supportive and proud of me. what I did was said I wanted to come out to my parents but wanted her reaction first as I was super nervous, so yeah it went perfectly.🙂👍🔵
I relate with this so much! Except i was never gender fluid. The time I found out I was trans was around the end of 8th grade beginning of 9th and i never questioned being a male. I had felt like one my entire life, and when i found out about being trans I became trans immediately. This lasted for about 2 years until I started questioning if i had no gender. Being non-binary never suited me, so I settled on being genderqueer because when I found it it really felt like me. I had known about agender people, and after a while identified with them aswell! I went back to genderqueer shortly after and then began to search for stuff that was me. I started watched trans tiktoks which made me feel trans again but it didn't feel right. I eventually fell upon transmasculine and it suits me perfectly. My sexuality is another question. I too thought I was bisexual, and it probably had something to do with how i was a guy but never understood it. It could be something with my masculinity that made me attracted to girls, but i hadn't been completely sure because i switched to being asexual when i could never find someone i had a crush on. Currently, I'm still asexual, still looking for my sexuality, and the closest i can find to me is Androsexuality. for those who don't know, being androsexual means you're attracted to males and/or masculinity. This means you can be attracted to people who aren't male, but have a lot of masculinity (including females and non-binaries). This would make a lot of sense since before when I first found out i was trans i was actually gay. I even said before I was trans that I wanted to be a gay guy. :] It's kind of fun finding yourself, but it isn't fun when you don't know who you're into.
My coming out was really really unspectacular and when I look back kinda awkward but man, i was pretty young back then.
I'm someone who hates surprises and therefore always wants everyone to be prepared for anything that could happen. When I came to the conclusion I was pansexual I wanted to tell my best friend because there is a high chance i would end up in a hetero romantic relationship and I just didnt want her to be surprised. So one day in school after being incredibly nervous for the first 4 lessons I grabbed her arm and simply pulled her out of the building and in the very last corner of the sports field and I stuttered a lot and at some point mumbled something along the lines "ifeellikeiampansexualiknowyouknowwhatthatmeansijustwantedyoutoknow" and she just looked me, stared and than was like "great, awesome BUT FOR FUCKS SAKE GET YOUR ASS INTO THE BUILDING AGAIN I'M FREEZING ITS FEBRUARY"
* in a NOT hetero romantic relationship
Please make video about questioning gender, I feel like it would help me (and a lot of other people) a lot
To be entirely honest, I still haven't came out as gender fluid to my parents, just because of my older sister's reaction. I had told multiple Internet friends, they all were accepting over that. After 2 months or so my best friend, who I may or may not have a crush on, also came out as gender fluid, for some reasons it just made me ten times more confident. Although my friend did actually friend zone me, we never drifted at all and are still friends now. Anywho, I finally told my younger sister- she's 9- and oh my Lord, she was so accepting. However, when I told my older sister, she basically made fun of me, all she could say was 'what gender are you now?' when we had a deep discussion over it, she chose not to listen- that's her choice. I'm having my hair cut short after my birthday, which is a step closer towards me feeling more comfortable with myself.
I didn't actually come out as Pansexual, it just happened. I wrote this story for a competition, and a letter came through that said I was 'going into the final few'. Obviously my mum read the letter, but she didn't know what the story was about as she hadn't read it. Finally, my mum read the story. It was about a gay person being trapped in society and stuff like that. After finishing the story, my mum turned to me and asked 'do you think your gay?' and I replied with 'well, I like girls and boys' by now, most of my family know, and I couldn't be more proud of who I am.