20 Stoic Tips for Dealing with DISRESPECT.
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0:00 Introduction
1:41 Keep Your Calm
4:03 Self-Reflection
5:57 Pause and Breathe
7:52 Empathize
9:54 Focus on Virtue
11:48 Acceptance
13:49 Use Humour
15:40 Set Boundaries
17:31 Forgiveness
19:26 Change Perspective
21:20 Maintain Self-Control
23:02 Focus on What Matters
25:00 Practice Active Listening
26:59 Avoid Escalation
28:47 Educate Others
30:35 Seek Mediation
32:33 Maintain Confidence
34:12 Keep Your Focus
35:57 Practice Gratitude
37:22 Learn from Disrespect
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The power we hold within ourselves is stronger than that if opposition. Controll you emotions
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Who said for no reason ...plenty to go round...apologies for taking it down to such a low vibration...just wasn't Necessary....never ever again...4/13/24😪🤐
People are accountable for their own actions.When someone disrespects me for no reason, it says more about them than about me.I respond by denying them any futher access to my personal space.Empathy and kindness might work in certain situations with certain people but, many will take it as weakness and a free pass to disrespect you even more.
Agreed. We must care to choose our battles wisely.
Disagree. You’re torturing yourself and not having any boundaries bro
I do love this! Deny them any further access to my personal space. Very well said! 😊
I agree, war and empire building is different to the petty non life threatening crap we deal with in a workplace. You deal with disrespect in that moment and if you need to pull that person apart in front of others you must do it with some interest on top. Otherwise they own you and you know it. Never fear confrontation it's the best way to test the courage of your own convictions. If you are not prepared to do this, enjoy living for someone else's convictions. Fuck that.
Very well said and that is the right way to handle it, especially with someone who does not know you well and you don't have history with. They have shown who they are and if you continue to give them access they will do it again and again, expecting you to eventually allow their nonsense.
"It’s silly to try to escape other people’s faults. They are inescapable. Just try to escape your own." - Marcus Aurelius
Love this saying!
This is very good video may help some people
Where people display their rough edges by being disrespectful - I walk away. I have come a long way in my 70 yrs. And will not associate with such people at all.
Is walking away vengeance?
@@ohenebaboahene3789 It's self protection, empathic people don't deserve to be yelled at or sworn at.
Walking away is not vengeance, but peace of mind for any future encounters coz it is not once that I received disrespectful attitude but countless times n the final blow is just walking away n moving away!
"We cannot control everything, but we can control how we react." - Epictetus
@@James-gp5cwSo you have bad intention but pretend to be good. This is different from what Jesus said, "Blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy." (Matthew 5 verse 7, NIV)
I went through this in a one-sided relationship. After six months I decided my self-respect and inner peace were worth more than this empty relationship, I ended it and feel better for it
YES!
Good for you 😊
Yes I had to walk away from both of my adult children in order to preserve my peace, dignity and self-respect. The hardest thing I ever had to do.
My sweet sweeeeeet STEPMOM passed away from Cancer, bacterial meningitis, lungs infection, kidney failure, fits,strokes internal bleeding and finally heart failure. She was only 48 year old ,but I know she’s in Heaven!!! She wasn’t just my mom, but my best friend. Please pray for her.
I always utilize this philosophy 1st; but w/life experience, I've found it's ineffective on a total narcissist.
Simply, listening this to this, when feeling defeated, or tested in life, is very healing, even if you've heard all these sorts of things before. Thank you SLL 🥳🥳🥳❤❤❤❤❤❤
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As long as it's constructive and not personal about ones nationality for instance😂😊
I have been walking the path of stoicism for a while now. I have held up in many ways the principles I've learned. Today I felt disrespected and I lost my composure and exploded. I apologized for my behavior and reaction and from that realization and personal recognition I returned to this lesson to help myself handle it better in the future. I'm thankful for the opportunity to check my growth and continue moving forward in a positive way. Thank you for the video and I'll keep moving forward in a more controlled way. Refreshing stoic
I used to take it personally when someone was disrespectful to me out of nowhere. I didn't understand why I was being attacked totally unprovoked.
I was often stunned silent. Not addressing disrespectful behavior isn't ok.
Now I understand there are people who simply enjoy pushing people around.
It's important to discern their intent in that moment of contemplation before responding.
If someone is being a bully it's important to immediately, strongly let them know you wont tolerate disrespect. Calmly, assertively putting them in their place.
Developing the ability to respond effectively in difficult situations is a very important skill.
Same here and people from work 💯 % for me.
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What Hypocritical god are you talking about there's so many
Agreed completrly
@@danlee7376There is only one Yah (God is a title, not a name) as all the rest are false.
All good in theory, but not always practical.
As my extended family lives scattered over a large country, meeting ùp for reunions takes a lot of organising.
Now, imagine this: it'd been a few years since I'd seen a certain cousin, and I greeted her joyfully. Her venomous reply was so shocking that I stopped dead in my tracks.
All through that event, held in a large restaurant, she was turning on the charm to everyone except me. Very puzzling. When it came to say our farewells, I complimented her on how well she looked, and she bit my head off.
Now, given the circumstances, I'm sure you can imagine how impossible it'd be to start a confrontation in such a public place.
Next reunion, 2 years later, was at an aunt's place, and this particular cousin was even more horribly rude. Now, when I'm a guest in someone's home, I cannot start an argument or accusation. I cannot and will not. I was shocked at the hate and contempt my cousin displayed, but only to me, but I kept my dignity and behaved as though nothing were amiss.
I said no goodbyes to her, but resolved NEVER, ever to speak to her again. That's 12 years ago. She still rings up, expecting me to grovel all over her. I just hang up.
Best decision, as far as I'm concerned. No use trying to reason with someone so arrogant and insensitive. Besides, her behaviour was so extreme, so loud and uncalled-for, it'd just give her an excuse to further abuse and humiliate me. Ain't gonna happen
Instead of work relationships, some of these situations are family. Often times, I’ve calmly brought up the disrespect of their actions. The response is an “OMG”, or maybe a “oh mom”. I have been building on my inner peace for years. I’m proud of how far I’ve come. Being of a quiet nature has its challenges……I have a keen sense of intuition and discernment….
Exactly!! I have more problems with my adult children . Often my calmness gave them the wrong message that is not such big issue what they did. Im very calm and yes took lots of work, its not easy to just switch and keep focusing on my own life
I'm on a personal journey of self improvement. I find certain of these very thought provoking and enlightening.
Our grandparents did all this…right!
Being that stoicism started around 300 B.C.E It’s amazing that even through technological advancements, We as humans always suffer from the same problems of our own emotions as did those from the Roman Empire. Even today that such old knowledge is still able to be used to help us understand ourselves.
I read that Stoic philosophy began w/Heraclitus, 500 B.C.
GREAT comment! Thanks Monk! ✝🕎🛡⚔🩸🪔⚖👑👑👑🕊
Technology has changed. Human nature has not.
this Video has been a game-changer! These tips aren't just strategies, they're wisdom for maintaining dignity and composure. Who else feels better equipped to handle disrespect with grace and strength?
Nice comment I am learning
THE QUALITY OF YOUR THOUGHTS...SHAPED THE QUALITY OF YOUR LIFE 💯
My view has always been…”As if your opinion of me matters…I like me just fine” I started doing this when I was a kid with my bullies…I would laugh at them when they flew insults at me for what ever reason that their simple minds were choosing to be disgusting human beings on any given day. I had so much disapproval of their actions and enough confidence in myself to realize that they had the problem, not me, because “I liked me just fine.” I always knew that they were in the wrong. I would even seek them out and ask them if they had any other dumb things to say today and mock them for their ignorant stupidity.
Yes..I got the crap kicked out me from time to time, but, most of the time when they saw that they couldn’t bother me and that I thought less of them than they thought of me…it wasn’t fun for them anymore, so these weak minded people would usually give up…and..I would still like me just fine. Be well.
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@@StoicLifeLessons. Well look at that, I got two replies. I might be on to something. Be well.
To be able to think like that when young was a gift - and you used it. Well done.
@@SIERRATREES Oh, I don’t know about it being a gift, it was more anger in the sense of “Who the feck do you think you are!!?” kind of attitude if anything.
They were losers in my view, so I didn’t think that I should have to put up with losers. It took me a few beatings by my bullies to get angry enough to tell them what I thought of them in front of the other people. I just learned how to make them look stupid, which wasn’t hard, and make the bystanders laugh at them and and agree with me.
Bullies aren’t usually that bright and most of them are insecure so, it’s pretty easy to make them look like the fools that they are.
Be well.
@@maxxwellbeing9449I'll never forget the look on my bullies face when he had the audacity... Long story short dudes 2 decades older than me and acts like a middle schooler. You know how in cartoons old fucks really be beefing with teenagers? Like wtf dude pick on someone your own size.
1. Stay in calm
2. Self reflection and correction if needed. Value constructive criticisms
3. Pause and collect your thoughts. Don't be panic
4. Empathize and be kind
5. Focus on virtue
6. Acceptance
7. Use humour
8. Set boundaries
9. Forgiveness (It gives u more inner peace)
10. Change perspective
11. Maintain self control
12. Focus on what matters
13. Practice active listening
14. Avoid escalation
15. Educate others
16. Seek mediation
17. Maintain confidence
18. Keep your focus
19. Practice gratitude
20. Learn from disrespect
Thank you didn’t have to listen to the whole video
The nuclear power of gratitude ❤.
Yes.
My morning company during my commute ..it’s the tone for my day 😊
Love that!
Finally! I found an audiobook/video about respect. And how to handle disrespectful people. Thank you! Very helpful video.
Am glad to have this opportunity to learn this important matter.
Is hatred alongside disrespect? I have seen disrespect that seems to carry grudge and hatred.
This video has all the tools and dignity to handle any challenge that comes with disrespect and the kind.
Thank you.
Acceptance is a part of the personal development process and makes one stronger.💪💪💪
Honestly that been one of the best self improvement videos I've ever listened to. Thanks for that
" Know that nothing is bad if we don't think it's bad ". - Marcus Aurelius
What bothers me is when adults decide not to take responsibility for themselves and they don't act like adults and I give them their freedom but they just take advantage and then it just shows me they're not adults. They don't need to be around me. I don't need to be around them
This is who I am, I’m an introvert and also a solitude person, I luv being alone.
I’m content, self control, patience, discipline, empathy, compassion, honest, truthful, quiet,respect and kindness
Excellent message. Thanks for sharing. You are appreciated.
This is the best advice hands down about respect. I learned so much!
After the burn-out, stoicim is for a mentor. Wisom
Apparently, stoicism imparts super muscularity.
I appreciate the focus on setting boundaries assertively yet respectfully. By clearly communicating our expectations for respectful treatment, we uphold our own dignity while fostering a positive environment for constructive interactions. This practice reinforces the Stoic notion of recognizing what is within our control and acting accordingly.
Brothers thank you for your help, I Love the way you talking about your wisdom is amazing.
I love your work .....so empowering and such a big influence for a better self education! Thanks and God Bless You!
This is my personal weakness. I appreciate this video. My years of military service is a disadvantage in this weakness. I must work on overcoming this. SHALAM
Over the years, I have had to learn manythings, as I been wathing some of these different videos, it seems that I have been learning the stoic principals witout knowing it , as well as growth in mauy forms from within my soul and the subconsciuos. Real reflections of ones self, taking full responsiblities really do makes a difference in ones life.
LIFE CHANGING! VERY ENLIGHTENING, GREAT PERSPECTIVE
Very Well Stated: Be Blessed / Stay Focus > AMEN >
Thank you my creator blessing up.
Thanks for listening
Disrespectful peoples shall be punished, love ❤️ one another's as my Heaven Father's love ❤️ you......
This is a heartening, enlightening series. I feel grateful to have found it. Thank you.
Utterly game changing
Thank you, awesome music to go with the great content. All teachers should have your accent, makes the world feel more wisdom refined 🙏
I deal with an older Insecure man at work on a daily. He is rude disrespectful and grumpy. This is a great video to help me understand how to deal with him.
Don’t have to worry about him anymore he got fired for costing the company to much money 💴
Excellent lessons. Deeply appreciated
What a beautiful guide to handle difficulties and critic’s blissfully.🙏
Alot of these principals I already have put into practice and have been for awhile.Most of these are convictions that are used by me already Thank you for helping me define myself.
This has been very helpful for me in understanding better how to navigate disrespect. Thank you for creating this content! Im extremely grateful for it! ❤️
Gratitude💚
The many choices offered are a wealth of options I will immediately adopt.❤ Thank you😊
My sister, told me today that God told her all my crops will dry out. She said I need to learn to talk to God before I make decisions. She told me this is what God told her to tell me. & I just quit my job to start a business, & it was discouraging to hear her say that to me. Mind you I just lend my sister money the other day, I take her son to school and her to work every morning because she doesn’t drive. She even told me to lower my standards. She doesn’t drive, she’s living paycheck to paycheck, and her boyfriend is living with her rent-free. She spent her Mother’s Day at work, and I came over this morning to drive my nephew to school and to drop off a Mother’s Day gift, and fell into a discouraging conversation with her. Ima pray about this but it’s difficult knowing she said that.
I'm on a personal journey of self improvement. thanks a lot
Had to hear this video 3 times so it can sink in, I'm tired of putting up with disrespectful people, I'm very kind and nice but I'm done, time for a better change to have a peace of mind.
I find myself at a crossroads of my life. Honestly evaluating myself and my associations. I’m finding immense satisfaction in learning how to approach various situations from a different perspective. It’s enlightening and empowering to learn new approaches to difficult people and situations.
When I am disrespected, I can’t really keep my cool. Before all of that, I’m very giving and loving, but sometimes people just don’t get the fact that you have boundaries.
I appreciate these videos so much. Thank you thank you for making this content. It’s saving my soul.
I watched the last video on a stoic life .. the content affirming and real… aligning w my values …good for maintaining peace under the pressure of these days…
Brilliant ! Helpful and enlightening !!! These are the very things we all should learn .. very brilliant
It's hard sometimes, I can't shake that I feel worthless a lot. Perhaps I'm just too hard on myself? I've created a lot of problems for myself, it's affecting myself and those I exist with. It's going to be a long road. Don't mind me just journaling. 👀
Hang in there - you’re not alone in those feelings and action. Others have been their own worst enemy and receive disrespect as a result also, it takes time and concentration to fix, but by recognising your circumstances you have accomplished step one. So just keep going. I wish you strength along the way 👊
Family and disrespected is tough. Weddings & funerals and text animations. Take it light.
This is again, a beautiful teaching, love our creator and nature and yourself set boundaries that maintains your love, life and light
Very enlightening ! Thank you so much!!!!
@@James-gp5cw very True! God bless you !
A soulful messeage, will take heed forever...🙏
Yrs ago, ccupied an extremely respectful, lucrative position, but for the safety of our Police Officers i resigned...(Attempted all methods for rational)---co-worker, henrete, refused to respond to my requests for info for many yrs...This was ignored by officials as "it" was a political hire 4 eoe & not score standards...Truth known, i maintained sanity & dignity by exiting...(apologuze for rambling)...
Wonderful!❤ Thank you! 😍
I love it! Great channel. Respect❤
This is flower friend the post we have seen is not true there is no truth to it there is no box mike no friend involve.what you are listening to it's pure fine gold.
A gift that is gifted with love
Life changing
WOW! A different path. Already are embracing it.
I definitely needed to see this as a reminder today. I thank my friend for sharing this with me. It's like they know me.
Thank you for sharing needed information ,I will use them to improve my life
Valuable insights😊
"I've found Stoic philosophy to be an invaluable guide in times of uncertainty."
Lovely family you got all the more reason you should pay attention to what is in front of you
People with faith are strong; People who doubt a lot are weak. Strong belief surpasses great actions.
its a ++ for my learning!!!!! its so practical and i can use it evryday
Thank you so much about all these lessons of wisdoms
I’m am learning it is very much so I have used these and had been called weak for me not giving equal disrespect. But my soul is the righteous one that told me maybe they were underestimated by the fact most people endured their behavior and much less not gave the same energy to then not knowing what to do with themselves. I thank you for your education ❤️🙏
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Thanks for the hard work and Emotional Support
Some of this I find hard to swallow (maybe pointing to my insecurities). This type of contemplation is not valued in the modern world. If we take the example of a work colleague belittling you. It doesn't infer that person isn't more secure than you, just that they have learned the skill of using others as stepping stones. They don't necessarily promote themselves, just demote all those around them by undermining them. These people have developed this skill. In a meeting nobody cares if you go and reflect. You'll have one chance to respond but the expectation is you demoralise the attacker. If you don't your going to be viewed as weak. If you allow the attacker the floor when your talking or presenting, your done, your owned, pack up your kit and go home. This is the Corporate Ladder, kiss the ass above you, step on the head below you. Show empathy for those below you and you have hit the bottom rung by your own design. This is why I quit Corporate life, it's nothing but shit and I'm too empathetic, so I prefer to help others now, it's much more rewarding and I've never felt more wanted, loved and needed I'm my life. Love to you all.❤
This right here is where my heart keeps sending me. Workplace culture is draining my empath energy. Thank you for commenting on this.
Wonderful content and thank you for your wise words. ❤
Stumbled on this, and i am so happy! I tend to be emotional and am working my way up the corporate ladder and the disrespect I have encountered has left me floored and frankly unsure how to handle it. Except responding in a negative manner. I usually get them back. You have a new follower, as I appreciate your content in this video. The explanations made sense. I will start putting it into practice today. Ty
So, so helpful!
Yes sir I have look ing for you I thank you sir sis Linda
Outstanding!!
Thanks ❤
Thank you and thank you ❤❤❤
Very valuable information for learning.
She is your first lady she is your q respect.
I work in a blue-collar environment with plenty of "shop talk." Guys joke, but sometimes there's a negative, mean-spirited undertone. This video was very helpful.
All my life i don't have family issues like disrespecting me or friends. Only from work. I've been a doormat for many years afraid of getting fire and just except the disrespect and rudeness behaviors from colleagues and just close my eyes and ears. Not anymore i defend myself and tell them as it is. Or i just ghosted them.Works for me. But this philosophy provided me how to REALLY handle the situations in the correct manner ( professionally) i will utilize some of the content on here whomever disrespect me at work. I hope it works lol. Great video! Thank you
Go to Humane Resources. And get counseling
Thanks!
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Love the message I learned something daily
Thanks for the info + the important information. Needed to know & learn.
Thank you 🙏
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If you are a giver It is important that you know your limits Because the takers have none
Valuable talk 👍👍👍
Love the statues!
… Seeking & Understanding the High Road! 👏🏽
I sweat this really resent my mind sn though thank mush love an light
Very good advice.
Very informative!! Ty !