During the recent Seek Father Mike said it's not just communication that we need. We communicate. It's more sacrifice that we really need. It was a beautiful talk
My wife and I argue. Sometimes, I'm wrong, and in that case I say so. Sometimes she's wrong, and in that case she says so. I think both of us hate admitting that we're wrong, but we don't let that drive us to never admit as such. We have a daughter, and we want her to see us argue. We believe that will teach her that it's OK to speak up if something seems like it's wrong, or doesn't make sense.
Its nice that Jackie recognises if/when Bobby is being melancholy. It's understandable if Bobby struggles to speak at times, i can be like that (26 year old male here) so it's great when the partner is able to find the words and speak the thoughts/feelings that are shared :)
I don't think it's so much that he was "being melancholy" as much as it is that she has determined that he has the "melancholy" personality type ... but I could be wrong.
@@robonymous4620 Yeah, I think they were referring to the four Greek temperament classifications (choleric, sanguine, phlegmatic, melancholic), and suggesting that in that schema, Bobby is a melancholic (with all the positive, neutral, and negative attribute that includes), not saying that Bobby experiences "melancholy" in the common language sense of "sad/withdrawn/depressed".
A book that really helped my wife an me with communication is, "Hold Me Tight", by Dr. Sue Johnson. We found it created a breakthrough by seeing patterns about how we related, being able to name it, and being able to move beyond the behavior to communicate real feelings, and realize that we both want -- are starving for -- the same things: to be heard and understood. The book helped us to step out in faith and trust, and to grow in being vulnerable enough to do that.
You can't "under-communicate" but you shouldn't over communicate either. When one spends over an hour to make a simple point, basically repeating the point which you understand and acknowledge in the first five minutes, it could feel like torture.
I've known people to do that. Something we must understand is to communicate to understand NOT to respond. Sometimes people will over communicate because they have had to tell them (other times) the same thing and it never changes. I guess at that point a relationship should be evaluated and should come to a conclusion whether you should continue wasting energy, or not.
Hey y’all should make a video about immasculating men and downgrading women. I’m in college right now and people do this all the time though I don’t really want to. And families need this talk
Your little rap/rhyme was my favorite part of this entire thing....and how you sang at the end 😁 glad I'm not the only one 😆 and I'm loving these videos! Thank you!
Great video. It really talks more about good communication rather than just how to fight fair. Appreciate what you both do for faithful couples. God Bless.
Any tips for what to do during a fight when your temper gets the better of you? I've heard of taking a break when your emotions get to you, but my emotions can get to me so easily. I can go from calm to angry in an instant.
What if you are already married? And you argue all the time and the kids see it. I have friends that do a lot of good things go to church, pray. But they are always fighting.
I liked everything that you guys said, except ... I really can't stand it when people give other people advice like "just get out of that relationship" accompanied with a bunch of assumptions. What if the person listening to what Jackie said is just a really insecure person who avoids any and all conflict like the plague, and the person thay're dating is actually a really sweet, awesome man / woman of God, but they feel too scared to say anything because they've had bad past experiences or they themselves are just overly insecure that the other person will leave them? Should that person "just get out of that relationship" because they feel like they're "walking on eggshells" around the person they're dating??? I know what you meant, Jackie, and I know that wasn't your intention, but you could totally have just given really bad advice to all the very insecure people out there and ruined what might otherwise have turned into beautiful relationships in Christ ... Just realize that your audience is extremely varied and don't make assumptions, or at least express any assumptions that you do make before giving that type of advice. That's all I'm saying. Everything else was awesome though. You guys seem like a beautiful couple. God bless. 🕆📿👍💖
I understand what you mean in the scenario that you have given, but that means that the person watching isn't ready for a relationship at all. You cannot search for your other half, if you are not a complete half yourself. The person should work on themselves more than that relationship because, if they are as insecure as you outlined, then they are the hurtful person in that relationship and may really need to break up, if not momentarily. It's more possible to get back together after they're done.
@@amokay746 I don't think being insecure should automatically disqualify you from being in a relationship, especially since I've seen a number of people become much more secure as a result of positive influences stemming from that relationship. People can help each other out and often even complement each other in terms of each other's strengths and weaknesses. We can build each other and help our better half to grow stronger.
@@robonymous4620 you're right, being insecure does not automatically disqualify you from a relationship, relationships are meant to build us up. Each person should step back once in while and always make sure we take those positive influences to build ourselves, strengthening the relationship. If not, then personal work is necessary. I like what you said, however it's true that relationships between very well individuals do end, sometimes for no reason at all. I think that's important too.
What do you do when your spouse just keeps doing the same thing over? Like, if you’ve told them that something bothered you, or you’ve given them an expectation and they repeatedly fail to follow it even though they’d said they understood and would do so?
Ashley Racca Some people resist change and only Christ can soften their heart. That takes some prayer and patience... some people never change. How are things for you now?
Hi, thank you so much your this video. Maybe, hopefully you can help me out with one question. I have been trying to help my friend with this but I have come to a point where I don't know how to help her any further. She and her boyfriend have been a couple for 2 years! So, he has a female friend who 2 years ago told him she loved him. But he told her that he is in a relationship with his girlfriend and he loves her very much. So he just wanted to be a normal friend to her. She accepted it. Now 2 weeks ago she again told him she'd still love him and he again told her that he is in a serious relationship with his girlfriend. Now he wants to stay in contact with this lady because they have been friends for many years. But his girlfriend doesn't want him to continue this normal relationship. They had a big fight about it. He clearly doesn't see that this normal relationship risks his relationship with his girlfriend. Hope I could express myself clearly...!? What would you suggest to them? May God bless you Stina
Random internet guy giving my 2 cents here: "Love" is more than just a feeling; it is an act of the Will. If this dude truly loves his girlfriend without reservation, then he would break off the relationship with the previous girl. Right now the guy is actually hurting both woman by stringing along (maybe even unintentionally) the previous girl who still has hope for a future relationship, and his current girlfriend, who is understandably insecure about the situation. At the end of the day, when a man marries a woman, the two become 1 flesh. It is the greatest exclusionary act a person makes by committing to one person for their whole life. At this point, it sounds like the guy isn't ready to make that commitment, either now or in the future, so perhaps the best course would be for your friend to move on.
The problem is that men and women are on different wave lengths. As for women and some men if they are a beta male tend to be emotional therefore they tend to be irrational. As for men and some women if they are a alpha female they tend to show very if any emotion everything is based upon rationality. They have to come part way.
Don’t take this wrong but you should know when you tell someone hurtful things Bad jokes about them knowing them already Racial slurs you should know that already Respect one another man what’s so hard about that Avoid all that and drama free and you ain’t got to worry about that lol
What if those "walking on egg shells" moments show up later in the relationship after years of marriage??? I think you guys are awesome for people in the dating, engaged, and newly wed phase, but it'd be incredible for Ascension Presents to have a couple who has had 25+ years of marriage sharing advice. And I'm not referring to being afraid in your marriage. That's obviously something ya gotta get out of. I'm talking about those moments when you know if you bring something up, they will respond defensively. Ascension Presents, I ask you to seriously consider this. Thank you.
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During the recent Seek Father Mike said it's not just communication that we need. We communicate. It's more sacrifice that we really need.
It was a beautiful talk
My wife and I argue. Sometimes, I'm wrong, and in that case I say so. Sometimes she's wrong, and in that case she says so. I think both of us hate admitting that we're wrong, but we don't let that drive us to never admit as such.
We have a daughter, and we want her to see us argue. We believe that will teach her that it's OK to speak up if something seems like it's wrong, or doesn't make sense.
Must be nice. When My gf and i fight. Sometimes im wrong and i say im wrong. Sometimes shes wrong and i say im wrong
Its nice that Jackie recognises if/when Bobby is being melancholy. It's understandable if Bobby struggles to speak at times, i can be like that (26 year old male here) so it's great when the partner is able to find the words and speak the thoughts/feelings that are shared :)
I don't think it's so much that he was "being melancholy" as much as it is that she has determined that he has the "melancholy" personality type ... but I could be wrong.
@@robonymous4620 Yeah, I think they were referring to the four Greek temperament classifications (choleric, sanguine, phlegmatic, melancholic), and suggesting that in that schema, Bobby is a melancholic (with all the positive, neutral, and negative attribute that includes), not saying that Bobby experiences "melancholy" in the common language sense of "sad/withdrawn/depressed".
A book that really helped my wife an me with communication is, "Hold Me Tight", by Dr. Sue Johnson. We found it created a breakthrough by seeing patterns about how we related, being able to name it, and being able to move beyond the behavior to communicate real feelings, and realize that we both want -- are starving for -- the same things: to be heard and understood. The book helped us to step out in faith and trust, and to grow in being vulnerable enough to do that.
HAHAHA THE INTRO.. BLESSINGS ALL THE WAY FROM MONTERREY MEX! :)
Hey! Im here too!
You can't "under-communicate" but you shouldn't over communicate either. When one spends over an hour to make a simple point, basically repeating the point which you understand and acknowledge in the first five minutes, it could feel like torture.
I've known people to do that. Something we must understand is to communicate to understand NOT to respond. Sometimes people will over communicate because they have had to tell them (other times) the same thing and it never changes. I guess at that point a relationship should be evaluated and should come to a conclusion whether you should continue wasting energy, or not.
“You are not in Seminary anymore...” hahaha I can sooooo relate to this.
Hey y’all should make a video about immasculating men and downgrading women. I’m in college right now and people do this all the time though I don’t really want to. And families need this talk
Your little rap/rhyme was my favorite part of this entire thing....and how you sang at the end 😁 glad I'm not the only one 😆 and I'm loving these videos! Thank you!
Thank you so much! Praying for courage
God bless you for having the courage to speak about this. Thank you.
Oh my goodness! Bobby actually went to seminary before! This explains one of your previous videos about finding the one.
That introduction was pure truth 😆
Great video. It really talks more about good communication rather than just how to fight fair. Appreciate what you both do for faithful couples. God Bless.
This video is so practical and realistic😀 Thank you for sharing your wisdom!
My parents way was "It takes two people to argue", so one of them would just not argue. I only heard my parents fight once when I was high school age.
your advice is so valuable. I think it's very applicable to me as a young person in relationship as well. thank you and God bless your family.
Thank you for making this video always looking to better my marriage and you two are great advocates! Bless your marriage!
Off topic...your Marion picture on the mantle? Where did you get it? ❤️❤️❤️
God bless you both and thank you
Great video guys GOD BLESS 🕇 😆
Awesome advice thanks and God Bless
So much better that internet couples lol thx for spreading love and healthy relationships 😅
1:16 Affair.
Reason 2. Finances.
Great talk, Jakie and Bobby. Thank you.
Hey your vids are awesome
Wise words even for year 7!
Bobby: What's wrong?
Jackie: Nothing
Bobby: Sweet, nothing's wrong
Jackie: So you have chosen...death
I love you guys! Jackie is hilarious
Hey Bobby, I feel you man. Women don't appreciate what we do anymore. It's just our duty and that's it lol
A role play scenario would have been helpful.
Don't be to picky (clean freak) Mrs Angel. You're very. Blessed with Bobbie.. 😇
Any tips for what to do during a fight when your temper gets the better of you? I've heard of taking a break when your emotions get to you, but my emotions can get to me so easily. I can go from calm to angry in an instant.
Pray to the Lord's grace to help you. Ask Him to help you grow in the virtues of temperance and gentleness! I'm praying for you :)
Thank you!! 😃🙏🏻
Thanks
Amen
Awesome advice
First! I rarely get I arguments but this is good for some people I know, thanks!
Edit: Is the ship name Jabby or Bockie?
Y'all are hilarious. Jackie has mad rhymes...
What if you are already married? And you argue all the time and the kids see it. I have friends that do a lot of good things go to church, pray. But they are always fighting.
I liked everything that you guys said, except ... I really can't stand it when people give other people advice like "just get out of that relationship" accompanied with a bunch of assumptions. What if the person listening to what Jackie said is just a really insecure person who avoids any and all conflict like the plague, and the person thay're dating is actually a really sweet, awesome man / woman of God, but they feel too scared to say anything because they've had bad past experiences or they themselves are just overly insecure that the other person will leave them? Should that person "just get out of that relationship" because they feel like they're "walking on eggshells" around the person they're dating???
I know what you meant, Jackie, and I know that wasn't your intention, but you could totally have just given really bad advice to all the very insecure people out there and ruined what might otherwise have turned into beautiful relationships in Christ ...
Just realize that your audience is extremely varied and don't make assumptions, or at least express any assumptions that you do make before giving that type of advice. That's all I'm saying. Everything else was awesome though. You guys seem like a beautiful couple.
God bless. 🕆📿👍💖
I understand what you mean in the scenario that you have given, but that means that the person watching isn't ready for a relationship at all. You cannot search for your other half, if you are not a complete half yourself. The person should work on themselves more than that relationship because, if they are as insecure as you outlined, then they are the hurtful person in that relationship and may really need to break up, if not momentarily. It's more possible to get back together after they're done.
@@amokay746 I don't think being insecure should automatically disqualify you from being in a relationship, especially since I've seen a number of people become much more secure as a result of positive influences stemming from that relationship. People can help each other out and often even complement each other in terms of each other's strengths and weaknesses. We can build each other and help our better half to grow stronger.
@@robonymous4620 you're right, being insecure does not automatically disqualify you from a relationship, relationships are meant to build us up. Each person should step back once in while and always make sure we take those positive influences to build ourselves, strengthening the relationship. If not, then personal work is necessary. I like what you said, however it's true that relationships between very well individuals do end, sometimes for no reason at all. I think that's important too.
Conflict = resolution
Jackie you should do a rap video on that. 🤗
IMO a lack of communication is a symptom not the cause of low level relationships
What do you do when your spouse just keeps doing the same thing over? Like, if you’ve told them that something bothered you, or you’ve given them an expectation and they repeatedly fail to follow it even though they’d said they understood and would do so?
Matt Blaise I’m not just talking about slipping up. I mean if they’ve never actually done what they said they would?
Ashley Racca Some people resist change and only Christ can soften their heart. That takes some prayer and patience... some people never change.
How are things for you now?
Bobby, when Jackie said she can’t just sit by the phone, you had a look like , Wait, what? Why?
Hi, thank you so much your this video. Maybe, hopefully you can help me out with one question. I have been trying to help my friend with this but I have come to a point where I don't know how to help her any further.
She and her boyfriend have been a couple for 2 years! So, he has a female friend who 2 years ago told him she loved him. But he told her that he is in a relationship with his girlfriend and he loves her very much. So he just wanted to be a normal friend to her.
She accepted it.
Now 2 weeks ago she again told him she'd still love him and he again told her that he is in a serious relationship with his girlfriend.
Now he wants to stay in contact with this lady because they have been friends for many years.
But his girlfriend doesn't want him to continue this normal relationship.
They had a big fight about it.
He clearly doesn't see that this normal relationship risks his relationship with his girlfriend.
Hope I could express myself clearly...!? What would you suggest to them?
May God bless you
Stina
Random internet guy giving my 2 cents here: "Love" is more than just a feeling; it is an act of the Will. If this dude truly loves his girlfriend without reservation, then he would break off the relationship with the previous girl. Right now the guy is actually hurting both woman by stringing along (maybe even unintentionally) the previous girl who still has hope for a future relationship, and his current girlfriend, who is understandably insecure about the situation.
At the end of the day, when a man marries a woman, the two become 1 flesh. It is the greatest exclusionary act a person makes by committing to one person for their whole life. At this point, it sounds like the guy isn't ready to make that commitment, either now or in the future, so perhaps the best course would be for your friend to move on.
@@phoult37 Thank you for your thoughts.
The problem is that men and women are on different wave lengths. As for women and some men if they are a beta male tend to be emotional therefore they tend to be irrational. As for men and some women if they are a alpha female they tend to show very if any emotion everything is based upon rationality. They have to come part way.
Resolving conflict should include wrestling, a kiddie pool and lots of jello😋
I'm allergic to jello 😔
Don’t take this wrong but you should know when you tell someone hurtful things
Bad jokes about them knowing them already
Racial slurs you should know that already
Respect one another man what’s so hard about that
Avoid all that and drama free and you ain’t got to worry about that lol
What if those "walking on egg shells" moments show up later in the relationship after years of marriage??? I think you guys are awesome for people in the dating, engaged, and newly wed phase, but it'd be incredible for Ascension Presents to have a couple who has had 25+ years of marriage sharing advice. And I'm not referring to being afraid in your marriage. That's obviously something ya gotta get out of. I'm talking about those moments when you know if you bring something up, they will respond defensively. Ascension Presents, I ask you to seriously consider this. Thank you.
I was hoping to hear more of the males perspective, but he didn't say much.
Man of few words. Lets the lady do the talking.
@@ihs2021 That's the thing that annoys me about men. They never talk. Lol
@@cheryldahl9192 In my experience, many men will talk if I give them a chance. LOL (I have come a long way, but can always do better with this!)
@@AJoh635 I don't talk much so it's too quiet when my man won't talk either lol
This fears me lol 😂
It will be most wonderful when husband and wife have different hair color
Bobby needs to work on being more assertive. And it's good that Jackie recognizes her dominating tendencies.
Proof that this guy shouldn't share his opinion.
Jackie's a trouble maker. Lol
this lady is so smug.
even the intro.
And that is why I'm NOT getting married.
Thanks.