"Do not deprive one another except perhaps by agreement for a set time, to devote yourselves to prayer, and then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." - 1 Cor. 7:5
@@katBerk In other passages of the Bible we are called to be open to life and be fruitful in marriage. I would encourage looking at videos about natural family planning. The vast majority of Catholic women I know, who don’t use birth control pills or condoms, have pretty regular sex with their husbands, and have NOT been “constantly pregnant.” Most of them don’t have more than 3 children. For one thing, while breastfeeding most women can’t get pregnant for at least 6 months, because of the lactation hormones and the menstrual cycle re-regulating itself. For a second thing, you are only ovulating ONE day out of an on-average 28 day cycle for most women. You are not at high risk for getting pregnant about 99% of your cycle. Ask women who have struggled for years to get pregnant even when they know when their fertile day is- it’s a struggle, because not every copulation during fertile days ends up in pregnancy, because the sperm and egg have to also be in healthy condition, and the slightest thing can throw that off, from diet, to medicine, to a variety of factors. Given how statistically anomalous a pregnancy is compared to non-pregnancy when having unprotected sex, I’m convinced of two things. People who get pregnant when they’re being frivolous with casual sexual, get pregnant as a lesson from God in responsibility and consequences. People who get pregnant who are actively trying to in marriage are blessed by God to procreate, and people who are not blessed with high fertility are being called by God to do one of two things, either detox their body from unhealthy environmental factors so they can bring a baby into a healthier environment, or, they’re being called to adopt a child in need of a home first. I can’t tell you how many women I’ve talked to who struggled for YEARS to get pregnant, only to adopt a child and end up getting pregnant a year or two later without even trying, I think because God wanted them to adopt before blessing them with creating a child. God really is at the wheel in these decisions, that truth may make people uncomfortable but it’s still the truth.
@@ryanav96 once you marrry...unless there's a health issue ...why not have the family size you want? I realize it's been a tough economic environment since 2008...but...
I'm a convert to Catholicism and I recently had to break off my engagement to my fiancée. We could not see eye to eye on issues like contraception, being open to life, abortion and same sex marriage. I tried to get her to watch these videos with me to help her understand where the Church comes from on these issues but she flat out refused. It's been tough for me. I think she is a wonderful person but I also feel that these issues are important to me and I can't compromise on what I believe is right and true. Please pray for her and myself.
You did good...Im already married with 2 kids and my husband and I dont agree on this issue...it is hard...we are not happy...Find someone you can talk to and agree with!
I was talking to a girl, but I had to break off the relationship since she believed in the pill, abortion, and not being open to life. It hurts, but it was the right thing to do. Pray for conversion 🙏🏻
@@CathyKitson If that’s the case, why does God command husband and wife to enjoy sex together? We have to be responsible people to only bring a life into this world if we have the means to take care of that life. Condoms are made so that we can make love to our spouse in a responsible manner. Although I don’t deny the fact that it feels much better making love without a condom.
My husband's completely secular physiology professor told all the men in his class to NOT let their wives or girlfriends be on hormonal contraception because of all the risks associated with it (some of what you mentioned).
For some women, like me, who have PCOS, hormonal contraceptives are a life saver because they decrease the chance of getting endometrial or ovarian cancer. Only hormonal contraceptives make our period regular. When I'm not on them I can go a full year without getting a period. So it depends on the woman. I take contraceptives but I'm not sexually active, they're medicine for me.
@P K I would rather not be experimenting with plants until I find what if any of it works for me. It could be years...my pills are part of my life, that's just how it is.
@@dunnotck1 I’m no theologian, but I’m fairly certain that using hormone medication to treat a hormonal issue not only is permissible, but makes a lot of sense. Taking medicine for its health benefits (niche as they may be) because the symptoms of what it treats are worse is waaaaaay different than damaging yourself for pleasure. Good on you for making informed decisions about your health!
@@dunnotck1 I also have PCOS and I would strongly encourage you to look into natural advice for correcting hormonal problems. The pill doesn't fix PCOS, it just masks the symptoms. Your condition could be getting worse and you will have no idea until you come off the pill. The pill itself has longer term impacts on hormonal health. There are many great books and websites on improving female hormonal health if you do a bit of googling. God bless.
what do men have to do with allowing their wives or girlfriends to take hormonal contraception? this is totally the woman's decision whether or not to take it and for what reason's she's taking it
Thank you so much for this mini series! So insightful and beautiful knowing the Catholic Church has the correct teaching that will fulfill us and bring us peace.
As a married man, the problem I have with this is that it makes it seems like sex is not for enjoyment between two married people. Treating sex as this act that's only meant for bonding or reproducing can place a strain on the marriage if it's taught in the manner that it's not for enjoyment.
exactly. If you want to enjoy your intimacy at times that you don't want to worry about pregnancy, you have the right to do that without these people guilting you with their abstract, arbitrary "moral" arguments.
Enjoyment is secondary but not unimportant. Think of eating, for instance. We enjoy a lot of foods but if we were starving we would eat something we didn’t like because the primary purpose of eating is for nutrition. With sex, the primary purpose is bonding of the couple as well as procreation. If you believe God created us, I’d guess he decided sex should be enjoyable so that people want to engage in it and hence, bring more children into the world. Of course, the enjoyment aspect would also strengthen the bond of the married couple.
I wonder how many marriages end out of boredom of each other if you built a marriage out of self control and living the faith it would truly be a sacred marriage , the western world has to import people in because of population decline sad !
As a Catholic with 5 kids, I can say that NFP has only brought tension and insecurity to my marriage. I hate having to choose between my health and my marriage. I could die if I get pregnant again, and yet there is no exception made for women like me. I also have a 25 day cycle with 12 days of fertility and a heavy 7 day period. This gives me approximately SIX days a month I can have sex with my husband. It’s terrible.
And there are always exceptions to the rule, I would think. Talk to a good priest. Who knows maybe he would allow you to use an anti conceptivo that doesn’t cause abortion.
Glad you were open in your thoughts. It is a difficult cross to bear. But, God knows this struggle and give you the grace to carry the cross. At one point in our marriage my husband I felt the same as you are expressing. Then, we began to give our cross to Christ. We prayed together and sacrificed together. We carried the cross first out of obedience, but then out of joy. Our marriage blossomed. Prayers for you and your family.
Wow! I’m beyond amazed at how informative, honest and just plain awesome this video was. Great job you guys!!!! Like you Jackie this video just made me love the Catholic Church more!!!!!!
Another awesome video!!! My husband and I just started being “marriage mentors” to engaged couples and this video would be wonderful to reference. Thank you so much!!
I am a non-denominational Christian, who has always been fine with birth control. In fact, I just stopped taking the pill after 2 and a half year of being on it. Lately I've felt a conviction about it. It's not natural, and I'm trying to stop my body from what it was made to do.
Your videos have inspired me to rededicate myself to my marriage. Please consider more content about married life and loving your spouse while life makes it difficult and distracts you from your family. I could really use more help and guidance, and I think lots of married people out there need it.
My grandma never used contraception...she had 8 children. My mom never used contraception...she had ten children ( I am the oldest ) I could not use contraception because it made me sicked of my stomach I tried to take it but, I couldn't...it gave me nausea, stomachache, vomiting. I have a daughter, and a son. God bless you both for the topic 🙏🙏♥️♥️💪💪
Also your grandma and mom probably had a healthy uterus.I am totally against the pill,I regret taking it last year and I'm getting off it in a few weeks.
I never took the pill. I learned after having 3 miscarriages that I have a factor in my blood that makes me prone to blood clots, which is why I miscarried (i.e., the blood clots in the placenta). I have three kids: I had to take blood thinners during pregnancy. If I had been on the pill, my chances of deep vein thrombosis would have been elevated. Not taking the pill very likely may have saved my life. Oh yeah, and NFP worked for us: I am 54 years old and every pregnancy has been planned and we only have three kids.
I came into the Church this past Easter and contraception has been my biggest struggle. I don't use the pill, but I do use other forms of contraception. I want to be a true Catholic, though, and have been looking up more about NFP. I'll appreciate any prayers for guidance!
Welcome to the Church! But why do you use other forms of contraception? Why not stay completely away from it? Only reason one would need contraception is if one is sexually active. If you're married it is a sin to use contraception and if not you would commit sin by fornication. Both of these scenarios are mortally sinful and may cost you your soul. Don't be discouraged by my harsh words, we are all sinners, but all can be forgiven and we can all change. I will pray for your guidance!
Mother Mary was chaste through out eternity and her whole life. As a Catholic, you have a direct line to her. Use it! Nuns are also called to this ministry for life. Use them.
You're a true Catholic, even if you use contraception. You may be commiting a sin (as all catholics do) but that doesn't make you less of a Catholic. Not that I've succeeded in quitting sin for good, and I probably never will, but instead of trying to avoid sin and putting your attention on it, try to grow in love for God and for everyone. I think that tends to destroy sin automatically ☺️ I hope this helps.I'll pray for you! Pray for me too!
@@pedroparamo891 ok define "sin". Every woman has right to decide over her own body. NOT a bunch of religious rules. ALL of them made up by men. You are brainwashed by organized religion!!!
when i was married...( i am now a widow...we were able to concieve just 2 children...) i was very watchful of my body and eventhough my periods were not regular we were able to know when i would be fertile... its extra work but its safer and worth it...
I have a Catholic friend who uses contraception and she knows it's against Church teaching but she just can't afford to have any more children, financially and emotionally. And to be honest, I can't in good conscience tell her she is wrong. She tried to use NFP so she could plan her children and it did not work. She has four children, her husband mentally not well, and they are constantly broke. She even had to ask for money for food for her family. She is got help once from friends and that was it. The Church, who wants her to not use contraception, is not helping. At all. Not even when she couldn't feed her family!! She said that if she has any more children, it will kill her. In face of that, how could anyone tell her to stop using contraception!
Adriana Zea-Smith Your friend should contact her local St. Vincent de Paul helpline phone number to receive assistance with the material needs of her family. Then she should consult her spiritual advisor to speak about her concerns about contraception.
Loved the video! But what about all the illnesses that come through sex. VIH, papiloma, etc. Condoms are not just to NOT GET PREGNANT but to not get infections. Which most times go undetected.
Thank you Jackie and Bobby for this. Jackie, thank you for sharing Bobby with us. It really is encouraging to see and hear a Catholic man actively committed to God and loving his wife well.
yes. which is why its really just another method of birth control, yet one that is arbitrarily considered morally acceptable for morally irrelevant reasons.
@@Unclenate1000 You can still get pregnant pretty much anytime of the month except active period time. It's less likely but still possible. It isn't completely wrong but it shouldn't be used for avoiding pregnancy for extended periods of time without circumstances that call you away from raising a child.
With NFP the "contraceptive " part is literally Abstinence! So chosing to not have sex for a few days isn't preventing a sperm meeting an egg because you aren't partaking in sex
NFP is designed not to work. It will space pregnancies apart a little bit, so you get kids maybe a year and a half apart, instead of nine and a half months apart. If you are trying not to have a kid, period, well, the efficacy for that is very low, which is precisely why it's allowed.
So this is a commonly misunderstood thing even amongst well-meaning Catholics. NFP is only meant to be used in circumstances where there is a serious reason to avoid pregnancy, i.e. a major health concern, money struggles, etc. It’s not meant to be used all the time. The issue is not just the method of birth control (artificial vs NFP) but also the mentality. When people use NFP all the time, they’re also guilty of sin (although the culpability is less if they don’t know that it’s a sin) because one of the very first commands God ever gives is to be fruitful and multiply. I think so many Catholics think that because the Church approves NFP that they approve it all the time which is not true.
I spent 22 years with my parents ranting about why contraceptives should be ok. They made me an agnostic with that lie I converted at 22 Now I'm against it of course
Great content! This is very helpful as a parent. I pray that this content hit millions. God is Good. To him will the glory be always! I love Ascension Presents. Learned so much from all of you my brother's. God bless your channel more! 🙏
The purpose of sex is procreation and pleasure. There are certain parts of the body that are there solely for pleasure. Song of Solomon isn’t about making children, it’s about having sex solely for pleasure. I don’t see your argument holding water biblically. It’s not out of fear that a husband uses a condom, it’s out of being responsible. Besides this I agree that birth control is bad for a woman’s body.
So, what you're saying is that in the Song of Solomon, it's about having infertile sex? Solely for pleasure means not open to the transmission of life. Song of Solomon is about desire, but I guarantee that does not mean desire that is devoid of fertility.
I saw a comment underneath a video on the calendar method. The commetor said [something like] that he and his wife had been using the calendar method for contraception for over 3 years and that their relationship was as strong as ever.
My parents had 11 children. They used natural family planning and tried to avoid pregnancy with it , my mom was at her wits end. Didn’t love us . NFP doesn’t work. I don’t believe we’re meant to be distracted from God. Having too many kids distracts you. I have 2 and I have an amazing time bringing them Gods love . Imagine I was pregnant constantly due to how fertile I am… my relationship with my husband would suffer because both pregnancies I was placed on pelvic rest. , my relationship with my kids suffer, etc. my vocation is my family and showing my children Gods love . Don’t forget , in the Bible we are instructed to not deny each other our bodies … Jesus wants us to have sex with our spouses to keep us bonded .
13:22 “Natural family planning” is a method of contraception. So why do you say you don’t use contraception? You say that NFP is “totally different” yet it does the exact same thing that you said was the problem with contraception. Please explain. Thank you.
It doesn't. With other forms of contraception you are putting something in your body whether in your venous system or genital parts to prevent a sperm from fertilizing with an egg. With NFP, you just don't have sex some days, ABSTINENCE. When you have sex using NFP there is no barrier protection or anything you just do not have sex every single day! Hope this helps a little. I would suggest researching natural family planning.
Totally agree. It makes sense and it's based on God's Will. Is there a chance your videos have Spanish subtitles?... to share them with the Spanish speaking world. Thank you. Your work is very meaningful and enlightning.
@@teenherofilms God's will is that His sons and daugthers be happy and for that reason He has revealed himself through his son Jesus to reconcile us with Him, since our human condition and relationship with Him was broken because of our sins. I know there is a God because my life is in its hands from the moment He created us and also because the universe and nature show that there is a God who is pretty smart, wondeful, full love, merciful and graceful.
@@robertocarlosrangelalvarez7893 There is no evidence for any sort of God. No at all. Human being came about via Evolution which is taught in every University in the world and is accepted as fact by the pope and the archbishop of Canturbury. This is whacko.
@@teenherofilms Yes, the Pope and scholars accept evolution as a fact and that´s ok. Just think, who was in charge of that evolution? It wasn´t by itself. You an me, Gary are some of the many evidences that God is real. My heart doesn't beat just because I want it. Who gives me the air I breath, and all the blessings around. Who but God. Greetings.
Protestant/evangelical here. How do you feel about vasectomies or sex for married couples that comes after their children have grown up? It’s dangerous to inseminate older women because their wombs are no longer able to bear children, but consistent sex between a couple brings fidelity and unity even at older ages. Most dads get vasectomies for that reason, including mine. How does the Church approach this?
Using it out of fear is actually a good point that other commenters and theologians had never said before. It sounds to me like many of the reasons for using CC are based in potential dangers of pregnancy (which seems to go against the below argument that contraception is based in selfishness - could it be a way to ensure that we can still enjoy the unity and closeness that sex brings without putting the other person in danger?) But then one must decide whether, if we are making a choice (sex) that could potentially lead to a life-threatening pregnancy, whether being “open to life” is something like not wearing a seatbelt and expecting God to keep us safe in a car crash. If there was a way to reduce or eliminate the probability of a crash, why would we not take it (contraception) so that we can keep driving, rather than just not driving at all (I.e. not get married)? But also we often find that the chance of pregnancy isn’t necessarily reduced by CC?
Can you include links or screenshots of the points brought up about governments pushing contraceptives, historical figures'comments and scientific references please. It would help us have a tangible backing when needing to make these claims ourselves to others.
Here's a scientific reference: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11635262 This article discusses the rise in contraceptive methods in Europe and how they played a crucial role in a type of anxiety that partially gave rise to the science of psychoanalysis. You can look up China's "one child" policy.
Also the lack of knowledge of women as sexual beings. Women have used contraception because they WANT/NEED SEX. This idea that women are "used" is typical of many Christians, it's a naive way of thinking.
@@200991602 Women have used contraception for less than 100 years. You claim you know what women crave while ignoring the vast history of womanhood for thousands of years. Perhaps women lust for sex today because of the damages contraceptives have caused socially.
I’ve done a lot of research on this and I think I fully agree with the catholic church teachings on birth control even tho I’m dutch reformed. I really like how you also pointed out the protestant reformers on contraception. There’s basically no church father or reformer up until the 20th century that supported contraception. Crazy to see how many protestants and probably also catholics don’t give it much thought.
I didn't know. Having surgery from my wife who doesn't get pregnant was a mortal sin. Because we have 3 children, we can afford more. The reason I did not know i'm a convert . So I had to go to Confession for for having That surgery . Even though I had was classes for the Catholic church I don't remember them talking about that. I wish I was more aware of That .
I don’t think going against the “purpose” of something is evil unless it harms someone else. I don’t think two consenting adults deciding to use contraceptives harms anyone else.
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. - 1 Corinthians 6:18 You are correct in saying that it does not harm those outside of the sexual union. It can, however, put people to the path to using one another instead of loving one another.
August Jiang Yes. It’s their bodies and they can do what they want with them. We can, however, have systems in place to help people who are harming themselves, for them to consider *if they choose* In any case, two consenting adults deciding to use contraceptives doesn’t harm the two adults either so your point is moot.
Also, what about the Bible verse that's says not to withhold dex, apart from for a time of prayer? Isn't family planning withholding in a sense every month for some time. I'm single anyways. I don't know if I will ever find someone special and something strong.
Thanks for this great video ! I'm a bit confused that you just address the immorality of contraception and don't talk about birth regulation methods and it's fruits. By the way, I'm totally agree with what you said about contraception. With my wife we use the fertility care method, which is really effective and compatible with the church's teachings. But as a husband, I feel the abstinence periods quite hard sometime. Especially when we are not open to accommodate a new baby. How do you deal personally with these periods ? Thank you
Waldemar what??? This doesn’t make any sense. I have a lot of health problems, and do not want my own biological children due to harming/killing myself and or my baby, or giving my baby the diseases. So am I not supposed to have sex with my husband??
Waldemar I’m not entirely sure what you mean by this, but it sounds like you’re saying I can’t prevent a pregnancy for reasons such as wanting a healthy baby?? If that’s what you mean that logically doesn’t make sense. I would NEVER not want my own baby (if I got pregnant) and I would never get an abortion (unless the baby was in my Fallopian tube) But there is nothing wrong with preventing a pregnancy so that you can have sex with your husband without having to worry about creating a baby that could kill you and have health issues.
That's definitely not how the conversation goes for most marriage couples, trust me. From a catholic with 3 children and a protestant husband, it's a much harder conversation to have and its not one where my husband says anything in that way to me. It's very delicate and hard
Natural family planning is still contraception no matter how technical you want to make it seem so calling contraception evil is a very weird angle to take
51 year old protestant here, father of three. I never understood the Catholic view on contraception... until recently. Pope J.P. II's Theology of body opened my understanding, and I think the Catholic teaching on sex is beautiful. I wish I had got this teaching when I met my wife 30 yrs ago... I probably would have treated her better over the years... still faithfully married though. The worlds view on sex is so damaging . What you two are teaching is so important for the younger generation. (well obviously for the older gen. too). Thank you.
I adore Saint John Paul II (I live in Poland but I'm not Polish), I'm familiar with the Theology of the Body, but reading it and understanding it, in terms of contraception it only applies to people younger than 45. When people are older than 50, marriages must think seriously about not getting pregnant.
I want to be good in the eyes of god, I want to be good in general. I watch these videos but stuff like this makes it seem frustratingly strict. I’ll admit I’ve had sex before marriage and I’ve used condoms, but I don’t want to be defined by things of that nature. The way I interpret this is that we should wait to have sex and show love to our partner until we are financially stable, ready and want a child… I wasn’t raised in Catholic or Christian views, I’ve just always had a perception of God and I’ve always had thoughts of what we are and why we are so different to other life forms and our relationship to him, but researching and reading about actual Catholic religion I see all of these rules as stepping on eggshells. It tears down the “normal” way of life, it says to me to forget everything you’ve ever known and start over. I’ve never been a terrible person, I try to bring joy to others, I try to live in my own lane. Sure I get angry, sad, say things I shouldn’t. Then I started to have a rough time with recent events of the last couple of years. I always thought of god protecting us, guiding us, and I want to make him happy the best I can in return, but I see the scripture and while some of it I can easily do, but other parts I get frustrated with, it makes me perceive being a modern human and being at one with the world we live in, that we were raised to be a part of is a bad thing. I have so many thoughts and emotions about this.
I wish the Church would more actively and compellingly catechize on Humanae Vitae and Theology of the Body. It's only by the grace of God that found me in college (not my mass- and religious education-going upbringing or Jesuit high schooling) that I didn't forever stick with the opinion that contraception and premarital sex are morally right as long as you're "in love." In my experience, more Catholics than not share this viewpoint. It strikes me that perhaps the Church sometimes avoids addressing these topics to avoid controversy. But now there's a whole generation of Catholics who can't even imagine that anything could be wrong with condoms or the pill. How can we change this? The Church's teachings on sexuality are really the most beautiful transcendent call I could image.
I love you guys and your work so much. And it helps me to love more and more the truth and beauty of God and His Church, the whole body and spirit of others and the whole body and spirit of myself.
the church subscribed back in the 2nd century that a married couple would have so many kids and then the couple should refrain from having sex for remainder of the marriage b/c sex wasn't meant for pleasure. or you could only have sex on certain days of the week ( no holy days or the sabbath, God forbid ) of the and times of the day . so is this what your proposing? I think the church has enough problems with church participation.
I'm not on the pill now but my periods are excruciatingly painful when I get them because of how abnormal they are. I don't get them for months at a time. I'm wondering how I can regulate my cycle without using BC? 😥
Iam 29 and had my first child at 17 got married at 21 with my then boyfriend he became my husband had a baby right away , my second child tried NFP and after 6 months I got pregnant again all my life I been pregnant I do love my 3 beautiful children and my husband but am finally back at college trying to get my BA in teaching ❤️ I’m finally feeling like iam going to do somthing for my career …… I have been having trouble with my IUD it’s been 5yrs now and my body’s reacting badly to it but now I don’t know what to do Iam Catholic and my heart aches I love God but iam going to be realistic we’re not in position to have another baby now, :( iam scared of NFP i got pregnant using before it I don’t know what to do . Pray for me please 🙏🏼❤️
Hello ❤️I came back to this video 1 year later because lately God had been speaking to me about my birth control iam looking into the issue and praying to God his will in my marriage it’s hard but God will help me and my family Thank you for the comment blessings
How can we truly say with any form of certainty that every single person who is using contraception is doing it because they are trying to use their spouse for sex? I feel like I could say that it would be a way to make a marriage stronger, and to have the ability to GIVE my spouse that pleasure rather than to receive it. That doesn’t seem to me to be selfish, can you explain more?
Could you also pls explain what should a catholic woman who has irregular periods, already has two children and has barely any funds to manage more do? Will be grateful if you could answer.
Not every family can afford to grow and educate a lot of children, contraception pill is not the most common method to avoid pregnancy, everybodt knows which is the most common one. You are ignoring the reasons why contraception is used.
Great catholic loving responsibilty. Reminds me of the excellent book of St Pope John Paul 11, Theology of the Body. I love listening to your programme.
Where could I find advice or a testimony from a couple who want to respect the church's teachings, but at the same time, cannot risk pregnancy *at all* because of a rare medical condition where pregnancy would seriously jeopardize the woman's health or even life... and obviously would rather not abstain from sex for life?
Jennifer Fullwiler talks about this in her books, but I don't remember how in-depth she went on the topic. She did have a bunch of kids, but has a blood clotting disorder that became increasingly more dangerous, and so I'm pretty sure she will not have more kids.
Talk to a nice, understanding and modern priest about the subject. If you don’t find one, keep looking until you find one that tell you what you need to hear yo be in peace.
If you want to see a shocking contrast, check out a study that was done comparing the prevalence of contracepting couples among the congregants in Novus Ordo vs TLM parishes.
Serious question here - do Catholics believe it's okay to use condoms or "pulling out"? Is it okay to have sex in marriage and just pull out before ejaculating? If not, are Catholics only supposed to have sex when the woman isn't likely to get pregnant based on her cycle? How else does a married Catholic couple have sex when they are not ready to have a child yet?
just to clarify, a group 1 carcinogen means there is a lot of strong data indicating it causes SOME level of cancer. it doesn't mean it is a main cancer causing agent, just that its evidence of causing SOME cancer is the same quality as the other agents in group 1.
The Cathilic church never cared about women's health when they were having babies every nine moinths. Their alleged concern for womeb using the Pill is just a pretence. Condoms have no health concerns yet they are against them too.
As a non catholic, this is insane. This makes absolutly no sense to me. Very basic contraception, like condoms, are meant to prevent stds. Sure in a perfect world without stds then condoms wouldnt be neccecery but we dont live in a perfect world. Sure, some types of contraception, like the pill, can cause health problems, but outsting all contraception is not the way to go. The only reason im here is because I am being forced to do an assignment on why they are right and I want my time back.
I know I don't want kids. Does this mean I can't be married because technically I wouldn't be able to consumate my marriage. You can live in a marriage without sex? So basically I'll have to be single forever even though I want a partner and the aspects of marriage? I understand that it's not just about you and your husband/wife and your love has to extend outward and I'm like that anyway, so much love to give to the world, just not for giving birth or looking after a kid. Funnily enough I'm studying youth work and believe i can make a different there.. Maybe that's my calling instead of being pregnant. I still want to share my life with someone though
Lydia the Catholic Church believes that all marriages should result in children, if called to do so. I believe that if you certainly do not want children and could not be open to life if you got pregnant, then the church sees that you should not be married
@@1224erday I don't think I've heard specifically that it absolutely HAS to result in children, but it's the likely option and you should at least have children in your life. Adoption, nieces/nephews, working with them etc especially as some people can't have kids soo idk I've heard different things and it's all just confusing
Lydia it doesn’t “have to” but it kinda should. Sex is an integral component of marriage as Catholics believe. They believe that if two people cannot have sex (say a malformation of one of the people’s genitals), they cannot get married because the marriage cannot be consummated. Infertility is okay in marriage, but impotence is not. This is something I struggle to agree with (as a Catholic), but I am obedient to my church. Here is a link where you can read about it further. www.osvnews.com/2017/10/11/can-catholic-couples-choose-childlessness/
Lydia I also at one point 100% did not want children, but God sent me my current boyfriend and everything changed. I saw him as the father of my children right away, and now I’m a teacher and love kids lol. Things can change, but I definitely understand your viewpoint and perspective ❤️❤️❤️❤️
tabatha Fehrmann it is a mortal sin to be on birth control in a catholic marriage. So you’d have to confess before taking Communion and cease to take birth control... that is, if you wish to live by catholic beliefs
So what do you advise for someone who got a tubal ligation before they became a Christian because they were scared of having to go through another miscarriage, and now deeply regrets making that decision out of fear? I've repented to God for submitting to fear instead of his will, but do I need to do something else as well? Do I need to get the surgery to reverse it? Because we are very low income and the surgery is very expensive.
Hi Ashley. I think you should talk about this with a spiritual director and a counselor, because you cannot change the past and it is okay. There are other ways to be fruitful in a marriage (some even go beyond having biological children or having children at all). No one here can answer your question, it is something you and your partner need to figure out for yourself and with specialized help. God bless!
Ashley Hammack I feel for your pain of miscarrying. You can’t change the past, and therefore you don’t have to change it. God meets you where you are right now. He loves you so very much.
Is contraceptive valid at any point? My husband didn't have a job for a while and we were dependent on my family to pay our bills and buy us food. Are we in the wrong for choosing not to conceive at this time? The situation has since changed, as in he has a job, but we're low income and depend welfare. Of course we strive to change this but aren't sure if/when he'll get promoted. Personally, I want 12 children if I could, but is it wrong to bring children into the world when you are impoverished? Also my husband might be infertile for reasons I don't wish to share. We have been trying for a while and no success. This is the longest it's taken to get pregnant so it does worry me. Please pray for me and my husband Taylor. I appreciate it thanks. Also pray we quit smoking. We're both addicted and it's very frustrating to quit. I'm more committed to quit than him, but when he smokes around me I have a very hard resisting.
If you guys just stopped having sex when you (the woman) were fertile, that isn't contraceptive. So no foul play. If you used the pill or a condom, then that was wrong because you engaged in the act without being OPEN to children.
God knows what is best for you. If you were to get pregnant He will provide. Ofc you’re going to have to even be more vulnerable for help for your baby but I’m sure He will provide.♥️❤️
Keep working on quitting smoking too. It destroys your body plus it's bad for babies and children. If you quit you can save the money you spent on cigarettes and you will have money for baby instead. I will keep you in my prayers.
Do what makes you happy and at the same time protects the well being of your family and marriage; that may mean using what contraceptive method you feel most comfortable with, whether that's NFP or other methods (since logically speaking they are all morally equal). Obviously you are not open to life at this point because of your situation and that's okay. Don't let people try to guilt you into thinking otherwise.
I would say, if you are in this situation look for a good, but modern priest. Find one that tells you what you need to hear to be in peace. If you don’t find him, keep looking.
This makes me realize how truly awesome Catholicism is and I am so proud to be Catholic!!! Thank you and God bless you 💖
Catholicism is awesome. Marriage is horrible though.
So proud and glad to be Catholic too
"Do not deprive one another except perhaps by agreement for a set time, to devote yourselves to prayer, and then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control." - 1 Cor. 7:5
Thank you. I have never seen this passage before.
Yeah we’re called to enjoy sex with our spouse but I do not beleive we’re called to be constantly pregnant
@@katBerk In other passages of the Bible we are called to be open to life and be fruitful in marriage. I would encourage looking at videos about natural family planning. The vast majority of Catholic women I know, who don’t use birth control pills or condoms, have pretty regular sex with their husbands, and have NOT been “constantly pregnant.” Most of them don’t have more than 3 children. For one thing, while breastfeeding most women can’t get pregnant for at least 6 months, because of the lactation hormones and the menstrual cycle re-regulating itself. For a second thing, you are only ovulating ONE day out of an on-average 28 day cycle for most women. You are not at high risk for getting pregnant about 99% of your cycle. Ask women who have struggled for years to get pregnant even when they know when their fertile day is- it’s a struggle, because not every copulation during fertile days ends up in pregnancy, because the sperm and egg have to also be in healthy condition, and the slightest thing can throw that off, from diet, to medicine, to a variety of factors. Given how statistically anomalous a pregnancy is compared to non-pregnancy when having unprotected sex, I’m convinced of two things. People who get pregnant when they’re being frivolous with casual sexual, get pregnant as a lesson from God in responsibility and consequences. People who get pregnant who are actively trying to in marriage are blessed by God to procreate, and people who are not blessed with high fertility are being called by God to do one of two things, either detox their body from unhealthy environmental factors so they can bring a baby into a healthier environment, or, they’re being called to adopt a child in need of a home first. I can’t tell you how many women I’ve talked to who struggled for YEARS to get pregnant, only to adopt a child and end up getting pregnant a year or two later without even trying, I think because God wanted them to adopt before blessing them with creating a child. God really is at the wheel in these decisions, that truth may make people uncomfortable but it’s still the truth.
Free, total, fruitful & faithful = authentic, life giving love 👏🏼👏🏼❤️
Freedom being the #goal
@@ryanav96 once you marrry...unless there's a health issue ...why not have the family size you want? I realize it's been a tough economic environment since 2008...but...
@@ryanav96 not necessarily. ..did you come from a large family?
...I see nothing wrong with having a 3-5 kid family..is that a clearer explaination?
@@ryanav96 do you have children?
I'm a convert to Catholicism and I recently had to break off my engagement to my fiancée. We could not see eye to eye on issues like contraception, being open to life, abortion and same sex marriage. I tried to get her to watch these videos with me to help her understand where the Church comes from on these issues but she flat out refused. It's been tough for me. I think she is a wonderful person but I also feel that these issues are important to me and I can't compromise on what I believe is right and true. Please pray for her and myself.
yep, you cannot compromise on your beliefs. God is above all.
You did good...Im already married with 2 kids and my husband and I dont agree on this issue...it is hard...we are not happy...Find someone you can talk to and agree with!
I was talking to a girl, but I had to break off the relationship since she believed in the pill, abortion, and not being open to life. It hurts, but it was the right thing to do. Pray for conversion 🙏🏻
Proud of your decision❤️
God bless you
Sex is a Gift of God, Therefore it must be treated like a precious treasure. We worship God with this precious gifts. Blessed be God forever!!
@Cardboard Cape I suppose that's what you'd have to do - not to have sex at all - if you didn't want children.
@Cardboard Cape the difference is abstinence
@@CathyKitson If that’s the case, why does God command husband and wife to enjoy sex together? We have to be responsible people to only bring a life into this world if we have the means to take care of that life. Condoms are made so that we can make love to our spouse in a responsible manner. Although I don’t deny the fact that it feels much better making love without a condom.
The Catholic faith view on contraception is what brought me to the church!
Jackie Klumper So, according to you some religious ideas have more importance that a woman over her own body
@@teenherofilms
True. But a woman doesn't lose control over her body by... controlling her body. So your rhetoric is just fear programming.
The Catholic faith teaching, not view, on contraception is what drove millions from the Church.
My husband's completely secular physiology professor told all the men in his class to NOT let their wives or girlfriends be on hormonal contraception because of all the risks associated with it (some of what you mentioned).
For some women, like me, who have PCOS, hormonal contraceptives are a life saver because they decrease the chance of getting endometrial or ovarian cancer. Only hormonal contraceptives make our period regular. When I'm not on them I can go a full year without getting a period. So it depends on the woman.
I take contraceptives but I'm not sexually active, they're medicine for me.
@P K I would rather not be experimenting with plants until I find what if any of it works for me. It could be years...my pills are part of my life, that's just how it is.
@@dunnotck1
I’m no theologian, but I’m fairly certain that using hormone medication to treat a hormonal issue not only is permissible, but makes a lot of sense. Taking medicine for its health benefits (niche as they may be) because the symptoms of what it treats are worse is waaaaaay different than damaging yourself for pleasure.
Good on you for making informed decisions about your health!
@@dunnotck1 I also have PCOS and I would strongly encourage you to look into natural advice for correcting hormonal problems. The pill doesn't fix PCOS, it just masks the symptoms. Your condition could be getting worse and you will have no idea until you come off the pill. The pill itself has longer term impacts on hormonal health. There are many great books and websites on improving female hormonal health if you do a bit of googling. God bless.
what do men have to do with allowing their wives or girlfriends to take hormonal contraception? this is totally the woman's decision whether or not to take it and for what reason's she's taking it
Free, total, fruitful, and faithful, YESSS!!! Love the Angels! I pray to someday find a husband as wonderful as Bobby!
I'm Muslim, and I agree with what they say.
Thank you so much for this mini series! So insightful and beautiful knowing the Catholic Church has the correct teaching that will fulfill us and bring us peace.
Thank you Jackie and Bobby! Insightful honest and much needed!😊🙏🏾❤️
The twins show This is just creed and man made dogma
As a married man, the problem I have with this is that it makes it seems like sex is not for enjoyment between two married people. Treating sex as this act that's only meant for bonding or reproducing can place a strain on the marriage if it's taught in the manner that it's not for enjoyment.
exactly. If you want to enjoy your intimacy at times that you don't want to worry about pregnancy, you have the right to do that without these people guilting you with their abstract, arbitrary "moral" arguments.
Their guilt tripping is insane. The narrow mindedness is astonishing! Also their lack of seeing women as a sexual being.
Enjoyment is secondary but not unimportant. Think of eating, for instance. We enjoy a lot of foods but if we were starving we would eat something we didn’t like because the primary purpose of eating is for nutrition. With sex, the primary purpose is bonding of the couple as well as procreation. If you believe God created us, I’d guess he decided sex should be enjoyable so that people want to engage in it and hence, bring more children into the world. Of course, the enjoyment aspect would also strengthen the bond of the married couple.
I wonder how many marriages end out of boredom of each other if you built a marriage out of self control and living the faith it would truly be a sacred marriage , the western world has to import people in because of population decline sad !
@@opencurtin very true I am catholic from india.feeling sad of plight of Europe in this aspect
As a Catholic with 5 kids, I can say that NFP has only brought tension and insecurity to my marriage. I hate having to choose between my health and my marriage. I could die if I get pregnant again, and yet there is no exception made for women like me. I also have a 25 day cycle with 12 days of fertility and a heavy 7 day period. This gives me approximately SIX days a month I can have sex with my husband. It’s terrible.
And there are always exceptions to the rule, I would think. Talk to a good priest. Who knows maybe he would allow you to use an anti conceptivo that doesn’t cause abortion.
thank you for speaking up
Glad you were open in your thoughts. It is a difficult cross to bear. But, God knows this struggle and give you the grace to carry the cross. At one point in our marriage my husband I felt the same as you are expressing. Then, we began to give our cross to Christ. We prayed together and sacrificed together. We carried the cross first out of obedience, but then out of joy. Our marriage blossomed. Prayers for you and your family.
Yeah this is where their arguments fall apart
Pray pray pray !! The family of prays together stays together, Fr Peyton ..
Wow! I’m beyond amazed at how informative, honest and just plain awesome this video was. Great job you guys!!!! Like you Jackie this video just made me love the Catholic Church more!!!!!!
So grateful to The Church for holding fast to the truth when the culture moved counter to it
Another awesome video!!! My husband and I just started being “marriage mentors” to engaged couples and this video would be wonderful to reference. Thank you so much!!
I hope you’re telling them not to do it. Marriage is nothing but a mistake!
I am a non-denominational Christian, who has always been fine with birth control. In fact, I just stopped taking the pill after 2 and a half year of being on it. Lately I've felt a conviction about it. It's not natural, and I'm trying to stop my body from what it was made to do.
You are helping me in English listening. My English is a work in progress. Thanks.
these videos are the best. Thank you, Jackie and Bobby!!
im a protestant with problems with catholic faith and i 100% agree with y'all and what the catholic faith teaches about contraception
Husband and I have a loving physical relationship in our 47 year old marriage and 2 grown responsible adult kids
Birth control helped us achieve this
Your videos have inspired me to rededicate myself to my marriage. Please consider more content about married life and loving your spouse while life makes it difficult and distracts you from your family. I could really use more help and guidance, and I think lots of married people out there need it.
My grandma never used contraception...she had 8 children. My mom never used contraception...she had ten children ( I am the oldest ) I could not use contraception because it made me sicked of my stomach I tried to take it but, I couldn't...it gave me nausea, stomachache, vomiting. I have a daughter, and a son. God bless you both for the topic 🙏🙏♥️♥️💪💪
Also your grandma and mom probably had a healthy uterus.I am totally against the pill,I regret taking it last year and I'm getting off it in a few weeks.
Only two? You've hardly gotten started.
You've just gotten started, then. The church expects 8-14 kids per couple.
@@christinebutler7630 It's easier to convert them if they're brainwashed from birth.
I never took the pill. I learned after having 3 miscarriages that I have a factor in my blood that makes me prone to blood clots, which is why I miscarried (i.e., the blood clots in the placenta). I have three kids: I had to take blood thinners during pregnancy. If I had been on the pill, my chances of deep vein thrombosis would have been elevated. Not taking the pill very likely may have saved my life. Oh yeah, and NFP worked for us: I am 54 years old and every pregnancy has been planned and we only have three kids.
Fantastic explanation. Thank you so much!
I came into the Church this past Easter and contraception has been my biggest struggle. I don't use the pill, but I do use other forms of contraception. I want to be a true Catholic, though, and have been looking up more about NFP. I'll appreciate any prayers for guidance!
Welcome to the Church! But why do you use other forms of contraception? Why not stay completely away from it? Only reason one would need contraception is if one is sexually active. If you're married it is a sin to use contraception and if not you would commit sin by fornication. Both of these scenarios are mortally sinful and may cost you your soul.
Don't be discouraged by my harsh words, we are all sinners, but all can be forgiven and we can all change. I will pray for your guidance!
Mother Mary was chaste through out eternity and her whole life. As a Catholic, you have a direct line to her. Use it!
Nuns are also called to this ministry for life. Use them.
Rachel an, so...why do you want to be a "true Catholic" The RC church is man-made and all the creeds and dogmas are man-made
You're a true Catholic, even if you use contraception. You may be commiting a sin (as all catholics do) but that doesn't make you less of a Catholic. Not that I've succeeded in quitting sin for good, and I probably never will, but instead of trying to avoid sin and putting your attention on it, try to grow in love for God and for everyone. I think that tends to destroy sin automatically ☺️ I hope this helps.I'll pray for you! Pray for me too!
@@pedroparamo891 ok define "sin". Every woman has right to decide over her own body. NOT a bunch of religious rules. ALL of them made up by men. You are brainwashed by organized religion!!!
when i was married...( i am now a widow...we were able to concieve just 2 children...) i was very watchful of my body and eventhough my periods were not regular we were able to know when i would be fertile... its extra work but its safer and worth it...
You two really shine! God bless you and your family.
Thank you for your awesome and informative videos. I love watching and learning.
I have a Catholic friend who uses contraception and she knows it's against Church teaching but she just can't afford to have any more children, financially and emotionally. And to be honest, I can't in good conscience tell her she is wrong. She tried to use NFP so she could plan her children and it did not work. She has four children, her husband mentally not well, and they are constantly broke. She even had to ask for money for food for her family. She is got help once from friends and that was it. The Church, who wants her to not use contraception, is not helping. At all. Not even when she couldn't feed her family!! She said that if she has any more children, it will kill her. In face of that, how could anyone tell her to stop using contraception!
Adriana Zea-Smith Your friend should contact her local St. Vincent de Paul helpline phone number to receive assistance with the material needs of her family. Then she should consult her spiritual advisor to speak about her concerns about contraception.
Loved the video! But what about all the illnesses that come through sex. VIH, papiloma, etc. Condoms are not just to NOT GET PREGNANT but to not get infections. Which most times go undetected.
Just had my IUD removed to try and conceive again. I never had a child vaginally, 3 c sections. I never will. For me BC is saving my life.
Thank you Jackie and Bobby for this. Jackie, thank you for sharing Bobby with us. It really is encouraging to see and hear a Catholic man actively committed to God and loving his wife well.
This makes me so glad I left the church.
But aren’t we trying to be in control with NFP...?
yes. which is why its really just another method of birth control, yet one that is arbitrarily considered morally acceptable for morally irrelevant reasons.
@@Unclenate1000 You can still get pregnant pretty much anytime of the month except active period time. It's less likely but still possible. It isn't completely wrong but it shouldn't be used for avoiding pregnancy for extended periods of time without circumstances that call you away from raising a child.
With NFP the "contraceptive " part is literally Abstinence! So chosing to not have sex for a few days isn't preventing a sperm meeting an egg because you aren't partaking in sex
NFP is designed not to work. It will space pregnancies apart a little bit, so you get kids maybe a year and a half apart, instead of nine and a half months apart. If you are trying not to have a kid, period, well, the efficacy for that is very low, which is precisely why it's allowed.
So this is a commonly misunderstood thing even amongst well-meaning Catholics. NFP is only meant to be used in circumstances where there is a serious reason to avoid pregnancy, i.e. a major health concern, money struggles, etc. It’s not meant to be used all the time. The issue is not just the method of birth control (artificial vs NFP) but also the mentality. When people use NFP all the time, they’re also guilty of sin (although the culpability is less if they don’t know that it’s a sin) because one of the very first commands God ever gives is to be fruitful and multiply. I think so many Catholics think that because the Church approves NFP that they approve it all the time which is not true.
I spent 22 years with my parents ranting about why contraceptives should be ok. They made me an agnostic with that lie
I converted at 22
Now I'm against it of course
Wishing every man & woman could hear and share this beautiful explanation. Such a great way to present to young people or engaged couples.
Great content! This is very helpful as a parent. I pray that this content hit millions. God is Good. To him will the glory be always! I love Ascension Presents. Learned so much from all of you my brother's. God bless your channel more! 🙏
The purpose of sex is procreation and pleasure. There are certain parts of the body that are there solely for pleasure. Song of Solomon isn’t about making children, it’s about having sex solely for pleasure. I don’t see your argument holding water biblically. It’s not out of fear that a husband uses a condom, it’s out of being responsible. Besides this I agree that birth control is bad for a woman’s body.
You summed it up perfectly!! I completely agree with you!
So, what you're saying is that in the Song of Solomon, it's about having infertile sex? Solely for pleasure means not open to the transmission of life. Song of Solomon is about desire, but I guarantee that does not mean desire that is devoid of fertility.
@@lorrainesekera4100 I agree with you.
I saw a comment underneath a video on the calendar method.
The commetor said [something like]
that he and his wife had been using the calendar method for contraception for over 3 years and that their relationship was as strong as ever.
They do come with an increased risk for certain cancers, but they also decrease the chances of some cancers as well.
TheCodFather which cancers do they decrease the chances of? Never heard of it
I have read that it can cause cancer and it can also decrease other cancers. If something is so good,why is it dangerous.
Fabrícia Pinheiro ovarian clear cell cancer
Thank you for your witness and spreading the truth! I pray your message reaches all hearts!
This makes a lot of sense and I see why the catholic church is not on board with contraception
My parents had 11 children. They used natural family planning and tried to avoid pregnancy with it , my mom was at her wits end. Didn’t love us . NFP doesn’t work. I don’t believe we’re meant to be distracted from God. Having too many kids distracts you. I have 2 and I have an amazing time bringing them Gods love . Imagine I was pregnant constantly due to how fertile I am… my relationship with my husband would suffer because both pregnancies I was placed on pelvic rest. , my relationship with my kids suffer, etc. my vocation is my family and showing my children Gods love . Don’t forget , in the Bible we are instructed to not deny each other our bodies … Jesus wants us to have sex with our spouses to keep us bonded .
13:22 “Natural family planning” is a method of contraception. So why do you say you don’t use contraception? You say that NFP is “totally different” yet it does the exact same thing that you said was the problem with contraception. Please explain. Thank you.
It doesn't. With other forms of contraception you are putting something in your body whether in your venous system or genital parts to prevent a sperm from fertilizing with an egg. With NFP, you just don't have sex some days, ABSTINENCE. When you have sex using NFP there is no barrier protection or anything you just do not have sex every single day! Hope this helps a little. I would suggest researching natural family planning.
Totally agree. It makes sense and it's based on God's Will. Is there a chance your videos have Spanish subtitles?... to share them with the Spanish speaking world. Thank you. Your work is very meaningful and enlightning.
Roberto Rangel So...how do you know what is "God´s will"? In fact, how do you know there is a God.???????
@@teenherofilms God's will is that His sons and daugthers be happy and for that reason He has revealed himself through his son Jesus to reconcile us with Him, since our human condition and relationship with Him was broken because of our sins. I know there is a God because my life is in its hands from the moment He created us and also because the universe and nature show that there is a God who is pretty smart, wondeful, full love, merciful and graceful.
@@robertocarlosrangelalvarez7893 There is no evidence for any sort of God. No at all. Human being came about via Evolution which is taught in every University in the world and is accepted as fact by the pope and the archbishop of Canturbury. This is whacko.
@@teenherofilms Yes, the Pope and scholars accept evolution as a fact and that´s ok. Just think, who was in charge of that evolution? It wasn´t by itself. You an me, Gary are some of the many evidences that God is real. My heart doesn't beat just because I want it. Who gives me the air I breath, and all the blessings around. Who but God. Greetings.
Protestant/evangelical here. How do you feel about vasectomies or sex for married couples that comes after their children have grown up? It’s dangerous to inseminate older women because their wombs are no longer able to bear children, but consistent sex between a couple brings fidelity and unity even at older ages. Most dads get vasectomies for that reason, including mine. How does the Church approach this?
Using it out of fear is actually a good point that other commenters and theologians had never said before. It sounds to me like many of the reasons for using CC are based in potential dangers of pregnancy (which seems to go against the below argument that contraception is based in selfishness - could it be a way to ensure that we can still enjoy the unity and closeness that sex brings without putting the other person in danger?) But then one must decide whether, if we are making a choice (sex) that could potentially lead to a life-threatening pregnancy, whether being “open to life” is something like not wearing a seatbelt and expecting God to keep us safe in a car crash. If there was a way to reduce or eliminate the probability of a crash, why would we not take it (contraception) so that we can keep driving, rather than just not driving at all (I.e. not get married)?
But also we often find that the chance of pregnancy isn’t necessarily reduced by CC?
At 7:50! So powerful, so enlightening, so true! God bless you guys for sharing your wisdom🙏🏽🙌🏽💕
These videos are so needed! Thank you for sharing truth!
Can you include links or screenshots of the points brought up about governments pushing contraceptives, historical figures'comments and scientific references please. It would help us have a tangible backing when needing to make these claims ourselves to others.
Here's a scientific reference: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/11635262
This article discusses the rise in contraceptive methods in Europe and how they played a crucial role in a type of anxiety that partially gave rise to the science of psychoanalysis. You can look up China's "one child" policy.
So so so glad you both met at TOB institute! May God continue to bless your marriage, your family and your ministry ❤
Freud was not the father of psychosexual psychology but rather psychoanalysis. The lack of knowledge in the sciences is killing me...
Also the lack of knowledge of women as sexual beings. Women have used contraception because they WANT/NEED SEX. This idea that women are "used" is typical of many Christians, it's a naive way of thinking.
@@200991602 Women have used contraception for less than 100 years. You claim you know what women crave while ignoring the vast history of womanhood for thousands of years. Perhaps women lust for sex today because of the damages contraceptives have caused socially.
I’ve done a lot of research on this and I think I fully agree with the catholic church teachings on birth control even tho I’m dutch reformed.
I really like how you also pointed out the protestant reformers on contraception. There’s basically no church father or reformer up until the 20th century that supported contraception.
Crazy to see how many protestants and probably also catholics don’t give it much thought.
I have so much I agree with and disagree with in this very good video. I can’t wait for next week.
Thank You my husband and I enjoyed your video talking about what is the correct way to love .
I didn't know. Having surgery from my wife who doesn't get pregnant was a mortal sin. Because we have 3 children, we can afford more. The reason I did not know i'm a convert . So I had to go to Confession for for having That surgery . Even though I had was classes for the Catholic church I don't remember them talking about that. I wish I was more aware of That .
I don’t think going against the “purpose” of something is evil unless it harms someone else.
I don’t think two consenting adults deciding to use contraceptives harms anyone else.
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. - 1 Corinthians 6:18
You are correct in saying that it does not harm those outside of the sexual union. It can, however, put people to the path to using one another instead of loving one another.
August Jiang
Yes. It’s their bodies and they can do what they want with them.
We can, however, have systems in place to help people who are harming themselves, for them to consider *if they choose*
In any case, two consenting adults deciding to use contraceptives doesn’t harm the two adults either so your point is moot.
Also, what about the Bible verse that's says not to withhold dex, apart from for a time of prayer? Isn't family planning withholding in a sense every month for some time. I'm single anyways. I don't know if I will ever find someone special and something strong.
Thanks for this great video ! I'm a bit confused that you just address the immorality of contraception and don't talk about birth regulation methods and it's fruits. By the way, I'm totally agree with what you said about contraception. With my wife we use the fertility care method, which is really effective and compatible with the church's teachings. But as a husband, I feel the abstinence periods quite hard sometime. Especially when we are not open to accommodate a new baby. How do you deal personally with these periods ? Thank you
Imagine your spouse telling you you're good enough to sleep with, but they don't want to have children with you.
Waldemar what??? This doesn’t make any sense. I have a lot of health problems, and do not want my own biological children due to harming/killing myself and or my baby, or giving my baby the diseases. So am I not supposed to have sex with my husband??
@@melanie7068 you can't contracept for eugenic reasons IIRC.
Waldemar I’m not entirely sure what you mean by this, but it sounds like you’re saying I can’t prevent a pregnancy for reasons such as wanting a healthy baby??
If that’s what you mean that logically doesn’t make sense. I would NEVER not want my own baby (if I got pregnant) and I would never get an abortion (unless the baby was in my Fallopian tube)
But there is nothing wrong with preventing a pregnancy so that you can have sex with your husband without having to worry about creating a baby that could kill you and have health issues.
Imagine taking the life goals and preferences of your spouse personally and thinking it has something to do with you.
That's definitely not how the conversation goes for most marriage couples, trust me. From a catholic with 3 children and a protestant husband, it's a much harder conversation to have and its not one where my husband says anything in that way to me. It's very delicate and hard
Funny enough I've never used any kind of contraceptive methods I just keep an eye on my ovulation dates .it has never failed me
Natural family planning is still contraception no matter how technical you want to make it seem so calling contraception evil is a very weird angle to take
It baffles me how they dont notice the hypocrisy
51 year old protestant here, father of three. I never understood the Catholic view on contraception... until recently. Pope J.P. II's Theology of body opened my understanding, and I think the Catholic teaching on sex is beautiful. I wish I had got this teaching when I met my wife 30 yrs ago... I probably would have treated her better over the years... still faithfully married though. The worlds view on sex is so damaging . What you two are teaching is so important for the younger generation. (well obviously for the older gen. too). Thank you.
Love and responsibility by saint Pope JP 2 is a great book written while he was still a bishop ..
I adore Saint John Paul II (I live in Poland but I'm not Polish), I'm familiar with the Theology of the Body, but reading it and understanding it, in terms of contraception it only applies to people younger than 45. When people are older than 50, marriages must think seriously about not getting pregnant.
I want to be good in the eyes of god, I want to be good in general. I watch these videos but stuff like this makes it seem frustratingly strict. I’ll admit I’ve had sex before marriage and I’ve used condoms, but I don’t want to be defined by things of that nature. The way I interpret this is that we should wait to have sex and show love to our partner until we are financially stable, ready and want a child… I wasn’t raised in Catholic or Christian views, I’ve just always had a perception of God and I’ve always had thoughts of what we are and why we are so different to other life forms and our relationship to him, but researching and reading about actual Catholic religion I see all of these rules as stepping on eggshells. It tears down the “normal” way of life, it says to me to forget everything you’ve ever known and start over. I’ve never been a terrible person, I try to bring joy to others, I try to live in my own lane. Sure I get angry, sad, say things I shouldn’t. Then I started to have a rough time with recent events of the last couple of years. I always thought of god protecting us, guiding us, and I want to make him happy the best I can in return, but I see the scripture and while some of it I can easily do, but other parts I get frustrated with, it makes me perceive being a modern human and being at one with the world we live in, that we were raised to be a part of is a bad thing. I have so many thoughts and emotions about this.
This is such an amazing video and the way they explain everything is great.
Love your video, but what if a wife has serious health issues and her husband still wants to be intimate.
Its very difficult sometimes.
I wish the Church would more actively and compellingly catechize on Humanae Vitae and Theology of the Body. It's only by the grace of God that found me in college (not my mass- and religious education-going upbringing or Jesuit high schooling) that I didn't forever stick with the opinion that contraception and premarital sex are morally right as long as you're "in love." In my experience, more Catholics than not share this viewpoint. It strikes me that perhaps the Church sometimes avoids addressing these topics to avoid controversy. But now there's a whole generation of Catholics who can't even imagine that anything could be wrong with condoms or the pill. How can we change this? The Church's teachings on sexuality are really the most beautiful transcendent call I could image.
You 2 are great , i will be showing my children these videos when the are the right age , God bless
I love you guys and your work so much. And it helps me to love more and more the truth and beauty of God and His Church, the whole body and spirit of others and the whole body and spirit of myself.
the church subscribed back in the 2nd century that a married couple would have so many kids and then the couple should refrain from having sex for remainder of the marriage b/c sex wasn't meant for pleasure. or you could only have sex on certain days of the week ( no holy days or the sabbath, God forbid ) of the and times of the day . so is this what your proposing? I think the church has enough problems with church participation.
I'm not on the pill now but my periods are excruciatingly painful when I get them because of how abnormal they are. I don't get them for months at a time. I'm wondering how I can regulate my cycle without using BC? 😥
Wow! Thank you for this video. It’s clear and straightforward I was hanging on to every word till the end. Thank you and God bless y’all!
This culture has gone astray. God help us
Great video Thank you GOD BLESS 🕇 🌹 😆
Iam 29 and had my first child at 17 got married at 21 with my then boyfriend he became my husband had a baby right away , my second child tried NFP and after 6 months I got pregnant again all my life I been pregnant I do love my 3 beautiful children and my husband but am finally back at college trying to get my BA in teaching ❤️ I’m finally feeling like iam going to do somthing for my career …… I have been having trouble with my IUD it’s been 5yrs now and my body’s reacting badly to it but now I don’t know what to do Iam Catholic and my heart aches I love God but iam going to be realistic we’re not in position to have another baby now, :( iam scared of NFP i got pregnant using before it I don’t know what to do . Pray for me please 🙏🏼❤️
Hello ❤️I came back to this video 1 year later because lately God had been speaking to me about my birth control iam looking into the issue and praying to God his will in my marriage it’s hard but God will help me and my family Thank you for the comment blessings
People look at me weird when i say we dont use contraception.
How can we truly say with any form of certainty that every single person who is using contraception is doing it because they are trying to use their spouse for sex? I feel like I could say that it would be a way to make a marriage stronger, and to have the ability to GIVE my spouse that pleasure rather than to receive it. That doesn’t seem to me to be selfish, can you explain more?
the real answer is then can't, this is just their best attempt at going back and trying to rationalize why the church says no.
Could you also pls explain what should a catholic woman who has irregular periods, already has two children and has barely any funds to manage more do?
Will be grateful if you could answer.
Talk to a good and understanding priest about your case. If You have irregular periods, it’s very likely that a natural method will not work.
Just amazing videos 🙂 thanks for the good work
Not every family can afford to grow and educate a lot of children, contraception pill is not the most common method to avoid pregnancy, everybodt knows which is the most common one. You are ignoring the reasons why contraception is used.
@Matt Blaise To try what?
Just because it’s the most common way does not mean that it is the most effective, healthy, or good way to avoid pregnancy
If we just have sex and roll the dice, how are we different from animals?
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Great catholic loving responsibilty. Reminds me of the excellent book of St Pope John Paul 11, Theology of the Body. I love listening to your programme.
Where could I find advice or a testimony from a couple who want to respect the church's teachings, but at the same time, cannot risk pregnancy *at all* because of a rare medical condition where pregnancy would seriously jeopardize the woman's health or even life... and obviously would rather not abstain from sex for life?
Jennifer Fullwiler talks about this in her books, but I don't remember how in-depth she went on the topic. She did have a bunch of kids, but has a blood clotting disorder that became increasingly more dangerous, and so I'm pretty sure she will not have more kids.
Talk to a nice, understanding and modern priest about the subject. If you don’t find one, keep looking until you find one that tell you what you need to hear yo be in peace.
If you want to see a shocking contrast, check out a study that was done comparing the prevalence of contracepting couples among the congregants in Novus Ordo vs TLM parishes.
Awesome work Love you guys so much you have to know 😚😚😚😚😚😚
Parabéns ao casal! Belo exemplo para todos os cristãos católicos!
Serious question here - do Catholics believe it's okay to use condoms or "pulling out"? Is it okay to have sex in marriage and just pull out before ejaculating? If not, are Catholics only supposed to have sex when the woman isn't likely to get pregnant based on her cycle? How else does a married Catholic couple have sex when they are not ready to have a child yet?
They should abstain.
yaaaaas!!!! this👏empowers. I wish people would hear this out more....
just to clarify, a group 1 carcinogen means there is a lot of strong data indicating it causes SOME level of cancer. it doesn't mean it is a main cancer causing agent, just that its evidence of causing SOME cancer is the same quality as the other agents in group 1.
The Cathilic church never cared about women's health when they were having babies every nine moinths. Their alleged concern for womeb using the Pill is just a pretence. Condoms have no health concerns yet they are against them too.
Wow! This is such a great video and so approachable to share with others ! Thank you!
Any advice for women who are going through peri-menopause?
You guys worded this so well. Curious, do you guys teach pre-cana classes? If not, you should consider it. You'd be great!
What if your married and you are done having kids or it would be dangerous to get pregnant because of health issues or its just not the right time??
As a non catholic, this is insane. This makes absolutly no sense to me. Very basic contraception, like condoms, are meant to prevent stds. Sure in a perfect world without stds then condoms wouldnt be neccecery but we dont live in a perfect world. Sure, some types of contraception, like the pill, can cause health problems, but outsting all contraception is not the way to go. The only reason im here is because I am being forced to do an assignment on why they are right and I want my time back.
I love this!! God Bless yall!! ❤️🙏🏼
I know I don't want kids. Does this mean I can't be married because technically I wouldn't be able to consumate my marriage. You can live in a marriage without sex? So basically I'll have to be single forever even though I want a partner and the aspects of marriage? I understand that it's not just about you and your husband/wife and your love has to extend outward and I'm like that anyway, so much love to give to the world, just not for giving birth or looking after a kid. Funnily enough I'm studying youth work and believe i can make a different there.. Maybe that's my calling instead of being pregnant. I still want to share my life with someone though
Lydia the Catholic Church believes that all marriages should result in children, if called to do so. I believe that if you certainly do not want children and could not be open to life if you got pregnant, then the church sees that you should not be married
@@1224erday I don't think I've heard specifically that it absolutely HAS to result in children, but it's the likely option and you should at least have children in your life. Adoption, nieces/nephews, working with them etc especially as some people can't have kids soo idk I've heard different things and it's all just confusing
Lydia it doesn’t “have to” but it kinda should. Sex is an integral component of marriage as Catholics believe. They believe that if two people cannot have sex (say a malformation of one of the people’s genitals), they cannot get married because the marriage cannot be consummated. Infertility is okay in marriage, but impotence is not. This is something I struggle to agree with (as a Catholic), but I am obedient to my church. Here is a link where you can read about it further. www.osvnews.com/2017/10/11/can-catholic-couples-choose-childlessness/
Lydia I also at one point 100% did not want children, but God sent me my current boyfriend and everything changed. I saw him as the father of my children right away, and now I’m a teacher and love kids lol. Things can change, but I definitely understand your viewpoint and perspective ❤️❤️❤️❤️
tabatha Fehrmann it is a mortal sin to be on birth control in a catholic marriage. So you’d have to confess before taking Communion and cease to take birth control... that is, if you wish to live by catholic beliefs
Beautiful video!!👏
So what do you advise for someone who got a tubal ligation before they became a Christian because they were scared of having to go through another miscarriage, and now deeply regrets making that decision out of fear? I've repented to God for submitting to fear instead of his will, but do I need to do something else as well? Do I need to get the surgery to reverse it? Because we are very low income and the surgery is very expensive.
Hi Ashley. I think you should talk about this with a spiritual director and a counselor, because you cannot change the past and it is okay. There are other ways to be fruitful in a marriage (some even go beyond having biological children or having children at all). No one here can answer your question, it is something you and your partner need to figure out for yourself and with specialized help. God bless!
Adoption is the loving option ♥️
Ashley Hammack I feel for your pain of miscarrying. You can’t change the past, and therefore you don’t have to change it. God meets you where you are right now. He loves you so very much.
ojiverdeconfleco is adopting an openness to children for a marriage who is physically able to have children but do not believe In procreating?
Is contraceptive valid at any point? My husband didn't have a job for a while and we were dependent on my family to pay our bills and buy us food. Are we in the wrong for choosing not to conceive at this time? The situation has since changed, as in he has a job, but we're low income and depend welfare. Of course we strive to change this but aren't sure if/when he'll get promoted. Personally, I want 12 children if I could, but is it wrong to bring children into the world when you are impoverished? Also my husband might be infertile for reasons I don't wish to share. We have been trying for a while and no success. This is the longest it's taken to get pregnant so it does worry me. Please pray for me and my husband Taylor. I appreciate it thanks. Also pray we quit smoking. We're both addicted and it's very frustrating to quit. I'm more committed to quit than him, but when he smokes around me I have a very hard resisting.
If you guys just stopped having sex when you (the woman) were fertile, that isn't contraceptive. So no foul play. If you used the pill or a condom, then that was wrong because you engaged in the act without being OPEN to children.
God knows what is best for you. If you were to get pregnant He will provide. Ofc you’re going to have to even be more vulnerable for help for your baby but I’m sure He will provide.♥️❤️
Keep working on quitting smoking too. It destroys your body plus it's bad for babies and children. If you quit you can save the money you spent on cigarettes and you will have money for baby instead. I will keep you in my prayers.
Do what makes you happy and at the same time protects the well being of your family and marriage; that may mean using what contraceptive method you feel most comfortable with, whether that's NFP or other methods (since logically speaking they are all morally equal). Obviously you are not open to life at this point because of your situation and that's okay. Don't let people try to guilt you into thinking otherwise.
I would say, if you are in this situation look for a good, but modern priest. Find one that tells you what you need to hear to be in peace. If you don’t find him, keep looking.
An amazing video. Thanks!