I also, however, believe it might be an example of the background she grew up in. One of my main issues with Brett is that while she's intelligent and beautiful she's also pretty far removed from the regular American experience... as is Pearl. They both have a sort of luxury to make these decisions to follow these ideologies because they inherently benefit from that right winged upper middle/high class pipeline. I find a lot of her ideologies relatable to a younger version of myself that hadn't experienced the world and the system for what it is quite yet. I hadn't experienced the oppression of the poverty/low income/working class because I'd grown up away from it. Having not only experienced it as a homeless youth and a young adult (I'm actually the same age as Brett I think, I'm 21 so..) but also seeing it around me in my public school experience I can understand the perspective these women and men have that Brett and it seems to be most of her followers couldn't understand because they're removed from the oppression of the systems our ancestors built. We live in a society and a time of abundance, evolution, and technology. It's not really impossible for us to start breaking free of some of our more primal ideologies to adapt to the demands our abundance from hard work has brought us to share with millions. White Americans have a serious privilege and responsibility because of that privilege to educate themselves and learn empathy for others who have less than you. Brett is no angel. She's directly profiting off of impressionable people who either relate to her or aspire to be more like her. She's not aware of a lot of complex realities that her growing platform is going to question her about because of some of the messages she promotes now. We are not animals. We are humans. We're not primal, we're evolved. We will continue to evolve everyday and outgrow these old systems that don't promote equality for all humans. Just "people" who fit a very narrow line of "person".
@@vipweaths What you say makes so much sense, I also think that she simplifies relationships a lot, although I like her point of view on several things, it is undeniable to recognize the position from which she speaks
One thing that I learned in a leadership class was self respect. Our instructor was in his 60s and said, “people are going to judge you. Deal with it. Take it to your advantage.” We talked about how people will have more respect for you if you treat yourself with respect. Have good posture and walk with a purpose. Smile. Act like you want to be there. Be confident because showing confidence in yourself will allow you team to trust you.
Dominate the situation by removing clothing and occupying as much space as possible. Upon them giving ground make sure to press the advantage, by baring your teeth and chasing after them.
I've noticed humour, even one aimed at self is good way to go. people wont just think you are full of shit and are willing to approach easier than some one who appears to sit in ivory tower. Granted I got promoted from the "ranks" so older hands know I know my business. But with new people, Humour has worked for me the best.
Exactly. My dad taught me the same thing once I was old enough to understand these concepts. A good leader, and a naturally good leader is extremely rare in the current state of the US. Keep at it, and good luck to you!!
A high value woman for me is someone who can carry intellectual conversations about a variety of subjects as well as have useless, ridiculous banter. Someone who respects themselves and respects others. Someone who is confident. She doesn't have to be the most beautiful woman in the world but she should have enough self-respect and self awareness to know that it is good to take care of herself. Also a woman with a good sense of humour. I might be alone on this one but I also have nothing but respect for a woman is willing and able to call me out and put me in my place if I do or say stupid.
Thanks Brett for being the voice of reason. I got married when I was 21 and my wife was 20 we were high school sweethearts since Sophomore year. Biggest thing that attracted me to her are her similar values to mine, her strong drive to succeed, her kindness etc. She definitely helped me become a better person. So glad I got married when I did. Don't think I could go through the cesspool of dating right now. Feel for everyone who are looking for marriage. Wish everyone all the best!
I trudged through the dating pool till 27 and all I can say is you missed absolutely nothing. I wish my husband and I met earlier in life because dating sucks. Especially in the age of primarily online dating. I thankfully didn’t have to go through dating in my 30’s which I am assuming it only gets worse with each passing year.
My 27yo son who is searching ....has said it's nearly impossible to find a woman who is not obsessed with WOKE/SOCIAL MEDIA ACCEPTANCE/CONSERVATIVE HATE....The woman pool for God believing/family structure and discipline is.....As he puts it "A UNICORN"
For me a high value woman is someone who treats her man right and is caring and nurturing who shares your values. I married my wife because she always makes me feel good about myself and always tries to take care of me and my family. My wife is also very self sufficient which is a great thing because I know she can handle herself without needing me to do everything for her. But she doesn't have an ego that feels like she has to do everything herself. We're a team and always work together to do our best for our family.
@@aliciabell6688 I always say things like this about her. I know in one way I am truly blessed in my life and it's my family (wife and daughter). I couldn't possibly ask for anything more. My wife is from Honduras where she grew up with nothing so she's always so grateful for everything she has. It's one of my favorite qualities she has that has definitely rubbed off on me.
Exactly, I don’t get this men vs women things it should be men + women. We are 2 halves of a coin or our Ying to our Yang so to speak. We cannot have the human race without both sexes and if you go to any tribes that are still for any intensive purposes in the Stone Age even though men are the leaders women are still considered vital and respected members of the community and everyone works as a team in order to survive and raise the next generation.
I tell my husband, besides the initial physical attraction that I had for him, as I got to know him I realized how SAFE I felt. Emotionally, physically, and even financially. Financial in the sense that I knew he handled his finances well and was wise with his money. We are not rich by any means. Just your typical middle class American. That’s one of the things I love about my life with my husband. We both seem to balance each other out with enjoying the simplicities of life, but also realizing that we shouldn’t settle for less. Always set goals and work hard to achieve them….together, as a team! Love your channel Brett 😊
Recently, I read "Don'ts for wives" and "Don'ts for husbands" by Blanche Ebbutt written in 1914 and I was astounded by just how alien it sounded compared to today. These days relationship advice is basically how to manipulate men or how to protect yourself from women. Back then, the goal was a happy, healthy relationship. Very helpful little books, highly recommend.
I'd say a high value woman is protected by her family, has high morals, a really bubbly positive attitude but is very pure at heart. She's also very kind and empathetic towards humanity and animals and eagerly wants to make people happy, especially the people closest to her. She is something that must be earned not bought. And of course very loyal to whoever gets to be with her in the end. She doesn't have any number of body counts, she's just patiently waiting for the right one to marry. Understanding that short-term satisfaction will end up only to be a devastating loss.
@@cooliipie you are living in a fantasy good sir. Not every woman has to be a virgin till marriage (25-30) to be valued, that is demeaning. Imagine a girl falls in love at 18 and the relationship is great but then they brake up for some reason or other. You would say she's low value simply because she didn't wait around for you. Also also no-one man or woman can be bubbly and happy all the time. Life is not a fairly tale. And yes we should strive to make ppl we are close to happy but it is not our job and their happiness is not our responsibility, we can only support and help them.
@Cool 🏳️🌈⃠ do you expect the same for men to be high value? Cause to me, a man who thinks that he gets to have a body count and expects his woman not to have one immediately drops his value. Because that means you value YOUR sexuality and pleasure over mine. Also, in your eyes does that mean a woman in her 30s and above is lesser value because she's already been married and had children? Even if she's perfect in every other sense and was loyal etc? Maybe her spouse died? Who knows. Just saying, relying on body counts for man or woman is just outdated trash. Your body count doesn't place value or determine value. Your body count can be above 10, but haven't had relations in 5+ Years. Should 30+ year Olds be considered less valued for crap they did at 15? Again. There's so many things to factor in.
I personally think a high value woman is a sweet, trust worthy, wise, intellectual woman, with a huge caring heart, and who loves and respects herself as well as others, and she doesn't necessarily have to be successful, but definitely someone to look up to
I'd say a high value woman is protected by her family, has high morals, a really bubbly positive attitude but is very pure at heart. She's also very kind and empathetic towards humanity and animals and eagerly wants to make people happy, especially the people closest to her. She is something that must be earned not bought. And of course very loyal to whoever gets to be with her in the end. She doesn't have any number of body counts, she's just patiently waiting for the right one to marry. Understanding that short-term satisfaction will end up only to be a devastating loss.
Think that’s the crux: nobody wants to be taken advantage of, men or women (and while most of society is much more equal now, some people still hold a hard line to one side or the other and will totally take advantage of a partner)
What women don't understand about men is, we love to see your half naked picts on social media, but we would never take that girl home to meet the family as a prospect for marriage. At least a real man will not. So choose the woman you want ti be and act accordingly. A woman can be as wild as she likes, it's her right. But it's a man's right to marry who he chooses also. A woman of any real value to a man must first know her value, and act it out.
@@KatieLHall-fy1hw the equality you mentioned does not help women at all when it comes to finding a man that meets their standards. That is is you mean things like a woman having a career, money, or alot of sexual partners. Are you impressed by a man's shoe collection? Are you like, I will not date him unless he has alot of shoes. That is how men feel about your money and carreer, they could care less. They have there own, and if a woman is useing that to try to attract a "high value man" she may have better luck with a bum. But it will not help her find the man she wants. Lol Take having alot of sexual partners for example. First, the most important thing to a man is respect. Its why they choose to die on the feild of battle instead of running to safety, they couldn't live with the disrespect they would get from other men. And it starts at a young age, it's in men. Boys will dare each other to do dangerous things, if you succeed you win there respect. WITH MEN ITS ALL ABOUT RESPECT. Now imagine you are a girl who has a high body count. You and him walk down the street and you pass his freinds and other guys you slept with. He looks at them, they look at him and grin. hE knows they know he knows they slept with you.The amount of disrespect he gets from that will make him never call you again. With us, it is all about respect. And if you want a traditional man, yet you are a modern women with no traditional values, you will fail miserably at the Long term relationship game. The feminist movement is destroying women'srelationships. Women have the right to live as they please, but don't forget, men have the right to marry who they please. Women control the sex, you decide who sleeps with you, but men control the relationship, they decide who they want to marry and spend their life with. So, the best thing a woman can do is find out what the man she is after desires, and become that. Because if not, he will find one who is. And we all desire respect. It's all about respect for us. Women need to stop projecting a woman's point of view on to men. For example, most women value a man with alot of money and a good job. And these women, because they value that, will go and get a good job as I said b4, thinking it makes them more valuable to men. But in reality that's a woman's point of view. Sure , a bum will love your money, but the man you want will not. Doesn't mean you shouldn't work or have money to help make it in the world. It just means that is not what your husband values about you. If you quit, it would not change the way he feels about you at all. Yet most women will leave a man who is jobless and doesn't want to work. That's a females view of value, not a man's and they project it onto men as if a man should be impressed with your education, job ect.
For me personally, the first thing I look for in a man is that he shares my faith and has the same values as me. I don’t want to go through life constantly arguing about my values with my husband, and I want to be able to raise my future children with the same love of my church that I have, and I think that would be a lot easier if their dad has just as strong of a faith as their mom. After that, I look for a man who takes care of himself physically because I know if he doesn’t take care of himself, he surely won’t take care of anyone else. Lastly I would love to have some common interests with my future husband, but at the same time, I think “common interests” is often too highly valued in the modern day. I think a lot of people are looking for this common love of some movie or video game in a partner to fill the space of common values and faith. I believe that a lot of the interests my husband has, I will naturally find to be my interests over time as well, and visa versa. When you love someone, you naturally come to love what they love.
You are 100% about Tate! I think, a truly valuable man, would fight to be with one woman, not sleeping around. If you are a high value man or woman, you know you are valuable, and sex is WAY too intimate to do it with anyone, so you wait for a valuable person, because you know it is not about Sex, IT IS ABOUT A REAL CONNECTION, LOVE, CARING FOR EACH OTHER, AND YOUR FAMILIES
The way I see it, a man who has the easy option to sleep around but chooses not to is significantly higher value than a man who just slings it into any hole that presents itself. Its like supply and demand, he's in high demand but not available to the general public lol.
@@Audentior_Itomy boyfriend is my best friend. Honestly friend first and boyfriend second. Because we don't kiss 24/7 but we do spend all that time together watching things we like, playing games and going places we both enjoy. The most important is being on the same page about your core values like family, religion, children and so on. Other stuff can change
I think more than shareable hobbies people look for having fun or laughing together. Me and my husband we don't have common hobbies , but we have the same sense of humor, I think that is what makes you have fun with somebody
As I've gotten older I've realized that all beauty fades eventually. Now while I still naturally seek out attractive women I've started putting far more value in a wonderful personality, that's the real person after all, their thoughts, hopes and dreams. Outer beauty may fade with age, but for a good person inner beauty just shines brighter and brighter.
A woman's physical attractiveness is variable, though. Very few are so gorgeous that a viper personality is overlooked. Most women are of average looks & personality raises or lowers our physical appearance. In the book "Gone With the Wind", Scarlet is introduced as "Not beautiful, but no man who was caught in the web of her charms noticed." When I read that, I wondered if this happens in real life. So I started to watch. Yes, I noticed lots of very plain women who had an entourage of men. She was charming, so they didn't notice her plain looks. But, the Bible tells us that charm can be deceptive.
@@dominick6131 And if you are in a serious relationship, this woman is still goint to hit 50 and looks old. Stop being so superficial or else you will end up alone
God gave us these answers in Ephesians. A high-value woman is one who respects and honors her husband, and a high-value man is one who loves his wife self-sacrificially. I'm an engineer and I make way more than my husband, but because I am a Christian and I try to conduct myself as a Godly wife, we enjoy a happy and peaceful marriage-despite the fact that he's agnostic! We've been married ten years and counting.
My husband became a believer 11 years after our marriage. Christian men, prayer, the evangelical church I chose because of him, and Lee Strobel’s book “The Cast for Christ” all helped. Of course, the Holy Spirit must call him, too. God bless you. I remember being where you’re at. Never give up hope!
A High value woman is one who has a noble character, works vigorously, opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy, she is clothed with strength and dignity, she speaks with wisdom and faithful instruction is on her tongue. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
I thought you weren’t supposed to “fear the lord”. he doesn’t want you to fear him, right?. Unless it’s a metaphor. I never understood that phrase, can you explain it? :)
I can't with you people, I am sorry, I don't want to offend, but you guys live in la la land. People are flawed, for you to be noble and dignified as you have described, you will need some life experiences, made some mistakes, learned from them. Have you ever been really challenged to claim you are wise, dignified and noble at heart? You will only know if you got high value partner next to you when you both have been challenged and life, thrown all sorts of pain and difficulties and came out of it stronger.
@@Soggycigarettesss fear in this sense would be the same way one would fear their parents or boss. A healthy respect and understanding of their power and authority.
I see a high-valued woman who is willing to understand. Self respect, kindness and someone who can take care of herself. Self-awareness is also important and a grand part of being high-valued because it shows more than anything from the jump.
“Men biologically want to be caretakers.” As a man (high value, if I may say so myself) this statement both rang true AND was eye opening. I’ve always thought that a high-value woman would want to be a caretaker, and the man a provider. However, hearing Brett’s comment, I have to say that both want to be caretakers, just in different ways.
The value of someone is never external, but internal. What's on the inside reflects the outside. High value woman: She's not lazy. She's disciplined. Very astute and discerning. Gracious. Can light up the room with her presence. She's honest with her shortcomings and blind spots and perhaps laughs at herself. She's encouraging. She make sure that you're okay more so than herself. Even if she's well to do, she doesn't brag about it, but shares in good things. She may not carry physical strength, but she is very strong for the voiceless and the weak. When she is weak, she goes to good people of wisdom and strength. No double standards, but stands on good principles and convictions. So much more to say, but I'll state this last thing, a high value woman is when she does not signal virtue, but virtue signals her.
As a woman looking for a high-value man, I want someone who's respectful. And not in the sense that society defines respect (i.e. letting me do whatever I want, etc.) but in the sense that I want to be physically, emotionally, and financially respected. Physically respected in the sense that I am not just a way of satiating my husband's desires. Emotionally respected in the sense that I am treated (and vice versa) as a human being with emotional needs that should be recognized as deserving mature, productive disagreements and communication. Financially respected in the sense that while I want to be provided for, I also don't want to be shut out of household financial decisions. I want a *partner* who is capable of taking care of me and our family, not just a man who makes money and that's it. To me, high-value means finding a man that is capable of having a mutual and loving relationship, as well as fulfilling his natural role as a provider and giving an equal amount of support to our family. Equal does not mean the same kind of support - it should be different, just in a way that compliments each other as husband and wife. There are things only a mother can provide and some things only a father can provide. Neither of these things should be seen as an attack on the personal value of each on their own.
@Jason Bourne this is a good question, thank you! Now, all of what I said in my original comment aside, I don’t want to be a wife that just sits there and lets her husband do all of the work. That would be taking advantage of him and in and of itself, disrespectful to him. Given that it should be a partnership, I want to give him the same respect and support that he gives me. When he’s too tired to take care of other things, or even himself, I’ll step in and help him as well. I think when people say “50/50” I personally take that to mean a give and take situation which is not how it should be. If my husband is doing his best, and on any given day his best is 20%, I as the wife should give 80%, and vice versa, yknow? It should be a mutually supportive relationship. I won’t sit there and insist my husband do everything. I’ll cook, clean, learn how to do things that I might have to do without solely relying on him, find a job to help with finances if he needs more support there too. Essentially I guess what I’m getting at is that I’ll take care of what is necessary to also provide a home for him too. I don’t ever want it to be one-sided.
You're 100% correct about the double-standard. A man who hasn't slept around a lot before marriage is also more likely to be a better partner in marriage. It goes both ways.
But most women prefer a man who can get multiple women instead of a virgin so that’s why the double standards exist. Men n women don’t cherish the same things
I constantly see men call themselves "alpha" because they sleep with a lot of women. An Alpha is the head of the family who guides them and protects them not someone who sleeps around then runs away.
A high value women has a deep respect for herself, and her choices. She isn't easy or quick to jump into a relationship. It takes a lot of effort and love to be with her. She shows love, peace, patience, kindness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control. On top of that, she has respect for the man she wants to be with, and I love her with the kind of love, in that, I would lay down my life to protect her.
Hey, Brett! Just wanted to say a huge thank you for all of your content because it gives me hope in humanity. i'm russian, who has lived in US for about a year 7 years ago. I loved the country back then, made a lot of friends and had a great time, and I still find america very cool in some aspects. But I was continuously watching the country go insane (at least it looked like that on the internet) for the past few years and it just feels SO GOOD to see such intelligent and realistic people like you who are not afraid to fight the insanity. It makes me think that there is still hope for the best future. wish you all the best
@@crazychase98 Nah, I feel like the internet portrayal has been pretty accurate to how far everything here has fallen into insanity. (At least in my corner of the world.) Absolute chaos, and near impossible to even have a conversation about *anything* (in real life) without risking your job, relationships... Everything.
@@crazychase98 we live in a propaganda state run by corporations like big pharma and the military industrial complex. and the fbi is running social media. to say its not so bad is very ignorant
I found my high value woman, she's my wife. We don't always agree, we discuss and get heated. But love covers over a great many things. She was just a normal woman, but she gave our relationship a chance. She's not just some woman anymore, she's become more to me than life. I love that she pushes me to be a better man, I love being needed by her. Because of that I push her to be a better person, I show her ways to live without me. I try to cherish this gift that it is to share life with another. That is the thought I bring to mind when things get hard. Life will come to an end before I know it, what a blessing it is to find happiness in it.
For both: God-fearing and centered, extremely loyal, dedicatedly monogamous, family-oriented, excellent communicator, fiscally responsible, and a solid partner especially when life is hard. Bonus points for cooking, cleaning, and car fix-it capabilities. Everything else is icing on the cake.
@@johnconnor2753 No the "life is hard and complicated, but each of us supports and helps and loves the other unconditionally no matter what because that's what marriage means" type. Lean into one another's strengths, make up for one another's weaknesses, and keep God at the center of it all to finish the race well.
personally I think its different between men and women..women want to have a high value man as a partner but thats not the case with men..to me the high value woman is the mother and the grandmother the woman with the wisdom and life experience..but who I want to f is mostly the pretty dumb young little girl who isnt wise or experienced....which is not a high value woman
I think everyone knows what a high value person is. The people who get mad at the question most likely don’t want to do what it takes to become one. Everyone values loyalty, discipline, virtue, ambition, and compassion. Some people want a partner that is held to that standard but don’t want to do it themselves.
I can agree with many of those but I don't care how ambitious my partner is. I want a relaxed comfortable life not one where we push ourselves and work overly hard. Work hard enough to support ourselves but there is no need for a lavish lifestyle.
I have done so much to feel so devalued, along with guilt and shame unfortunately. But since I have started watching you and other creators like you, I have started to change the way I think and act. I have started to think and act like the things I do value. Keep doing these videos in positive light because there are girls, as well as women who are watching. ❤
Jesus was stripped naked in front of hundreds of roman soldiers. He was mocked, spit on and tortured. He voluntarily subjected himself to this shame and humiliation to take away your shame and your guilt. He conquered it all at the cross. He took away all your sins and offers the free gift of his righteousness in return. As impossible as it seems, you are totally and completely forgiven. ❤
Great comment. And well done. You do matter. What you say & do does matter. Keep working on yourself, so you can inspire others to improve themselves too. Not now, if u don't feel ready, but in the future.
Thanks for the breakdown video, Brett! Love your work. 🤝🏻 As for what makes a high-value partner, I think they’re fundamentally supportive of you and your vision for the future. But… Having said that, men and women tend to have different strengths (e.g. nurture vs provide-protect) that stem from biological roots and they also tend to like being supported in different ways (e.g. my girlfriend likes me paying for things and being aggressively protective when necessary, whereas I like being cooked for). In that sense, there is a general difference between what men and women select for in a long-term partner and that means the answer to ‘what is a high-value man’ and ‘what is a high-value woman’ (within the sexual marketplace) is different. If you’re interested in unpacking this in more depth and understanding how it ties in with our biology (namely, women’s ability to be pregnant and give birth), I run through it in the intro to the full episode (th-cam.com/video/eN20WC0BRHs/w-d-xo.html).
Honestly, my self-image was so low that my standard was anyone who would give me positive attention. I wasn't a bad looking guy, but I just never got that kind of attention. When I eventually met my wife, we had very similar upbringings, had very similar values, and just 'got' each other. Her body type wasn't one that I would have normally chased after, but our connection was undeniable. We compliment each other's lifestyles in that we each have roles we play in our household. Sure I find younger women attractive, but I have no desire to go for that. Also, I know that I wouldn't find that same connection with a 20-something.
For a high valued woman for me are 3 things Personality, Loyalty and Self respect for the relationship and themselves. Being able to laugh with each other and have good long sometimes meaningful conversations are key factors to a healthy relationship with bith sides. Looks fade, Personality is forever.
@@libelinhaa2079 not true. I have been working several years as a make up artist for models, so I know many incredibly beautifull models who had so much problems with man, being used or not being able to have a long term healthy relationship. And I know woman not so good looking who got great husbands. How do you explain this if all that matters are the looks? Then all models would be in happy relationships. I can tell you many many of them are single and emotionally struggling. If you think its all about the meat you have a very poor understanding of human beings. I am not saying looks doesn't matter but there are a tome of psychological aspects involved on it, when a man likes a woman. To start with , some man marry woman who have psychological qualities similar to their mothers. So if it was all about the meat and it was that simply, psychologist and therapist wouldn't find any correlation between the parents a man has and the woman he chooses. But there is. Also as a woman who has 4 brothers, I have seen their girlfriends, and the one they ended up crazy in love with or ended up marrying haven't been necessarily the most good looking one. Some man they use the excuse that " woman just go for rich guys" to explain why their love life is not going well. Some woman do the same just they say for man its all about the looks.. The truth is, the reasons are always much deeper and if you honestly look around you will see it. Also, being single doesn't't invalidate you as a person. You can be the best person ever and be single. But if you don't address the deeper reasons why, and keep thinking that it is just the other gender's fault because they are shallow... Then you may miss having an awesome love story, just because you didn't address the psychological blockages coming from your childhood which may be the real blockage for not having love in your life, and which can be easily removable. This is just a friendly advice. I wish you happiness
@@Yulia.chandrika that's why so many man seek woman on Instagram because they can see all of their philological traits. Obviously I'm not saying all man are the same but a large percentage will go for young girls who all look very similar
@@libelinhaa2079 I don't know what country you live in maybe it is like that in America but in my country, I never ever met a guy through instagram or know anyone who met somebody in this way. Also again this may be something from my culture but few woman I know show their full body on instagram. Also, you completely missed my point.
High-value woman: mentally strong/tough, refuses to be controlled by her emotions (instead controls her emotions), is not desperate for a man, but wants one to start a family with, doesn't sleep w/ anything that moves (low/no body count), caring, nurturing, supportive, industrious High-value man: mentally strong/tough, recognizes that his wife/gf is the "weaker vessel" and takes care of her, doesn't lord over her but leads by example, doesn't sleep w/ anything that moves (low/no body count), protective, good provider, selfless (low ego), kind Some apply to both (other than the ones I listed in both), but I partially selected based on tendencies (men tend to be more concerned w/ ego, women tend to be more emotional, etc.).
Someone who is Emotionally mature and willing to work on themselves regardless of their personal flaws and don't try to mask insecurities with excuses, I can work with that. We all have our own personal problems and no one wants to get hurt but the best relationships take the most work.
So glad you included Rich in this segment!! His videos are super informational and approaches the situation with tons of facts!!! Love Common Ground Conversations
A High-Value Woman to me is one that synergies with me in completing objectives. She knows her strengths and weaknesses and selects roles in the relationship that she's good at that works alongside my best roles. We learn from each other and she eventually figures out how I would handle a problem, without me being involved and i trust she did what i would've done or did her best to handle any problem. We work as a TEAM to fight the world and not each other.
This! Thats why I cant mess with that Andrew Tate stuff relationships are are a partnerships and there places where i lack and she makes up for it and vice versa. For example my gf is better than me at budgeting so thats an example of something she would take the lead in or be able to teach me something about.
@@ihateanimebutonlywhenitiso7227 Yah, i also understand that my example of a High-Value women is rare and Tate highlights examples of those who have different understandings of what is a high value partner to them. I especially feel said for those that think all their value to the relationship is sex.
A high value woman is confident but not arrogant. She doesn’t need to dress scantily but not a prude. Cares about her appearance but not vain. She is supportive and caring of her spouse but not a doormat. She is nurturing, kind and loving but not suffocating. Her strengths compliment those of her spouse. They help each other to be better people. She is someone with whom you can build a life together.
As a fat 35 year old woman who can’t have children and has baggage….I know I would be considered “low value” by most men today. That absolutely holds me back from finding love. The thought that I’d be someone’s second or even last option is so off putting. I’d rather be on my own and keep improving my own situation and growing in my career than be someone a man just settles for.
Hello. I came across your comment cuz I was feeling a little beat myself and the way I look. One thing I remember is that we all can have those moments. I know I'm just some random dude on the internet and it may not mean much, but you are actually quite pretty. If you desire it, you can change your weight. It's not easy and can take time but it's quite possible. I know a lot of videos online today connect a lot of a woman's value to her ability to have children. There is so much more that women bring to men, to relationships, to other women and to society than that. You will absolutely find a man that does not need or want kids. Baggage? Well, don't we all. I know i do! haha. I believe that's life. The challenge is how well we manage and pack our bags. I hope I did not come off insensitive with any of the above. Of course I have no idea what your life is like, but from the little window in to your life that I saw from your comment, I just want some positive vibes your way. Wishing you the best.
@@ItsAZbaby I have actually lost 30kg (70lb) but I’m still larger. I will never be skinny, I’m not built like that, and I have PCOS and I’m on a medication that’s horrible for weight gain. But I can’t not take it. I’m doing my best though. I’ve been single for 12 years because dating is just too upsetting. I’ve only ever dated one guy that treated me well. The rest would be nasty to me, and one even outright abused me and tried to unalive me twice. Guys would want to sleep with me, but refused to introduce me to their friends or family because of my weight. It’s just too hard and too depressing. I’m sure there some amazing men out there…but they don’t go for me. Why would they, when they can have a skinny healthy girl without medical issues or baggage? No, it’s best that I stay on my own.
I’ve got to disagree. I believe that it’s your constructs that could also be contributing to holding you back from love…because everyone wants to date people who focus on them, are caring and nurturing, and frankly, interested in the relationship vs career only. And if these are the clear reasons why you know you don’t have love in your life then (age aside), the solution is to work on them, not avoid them by spending your time and efforts elsewhere. Unless this is how you like your life…in which case, I don’t understand why you would say you’re being held back-that implies that it’s something you want, on the other side.
@@lindseymiller8165stop lying to her. if she lost weight and work on herself physically then her chances will increase. her baggage nothing will change if she holds on to them. come to terms with it and don't burden other people with it. get a psychiatrist if its difficult. love will you when you take care of yourself.
Mutual respect, loyalty and affection for each other, male and female. If you DON'T have those things first and foremost, the rest literally does NOT matter. That's how I see things at least. Also it is so VERY important to first respect and love yourself before being able to truly give that love and respect to someone else.
I'd say a high value woman is protected by her family, has high morals, a really bubbly positive attitude but is very pure at heart. She's also very kind and empathetic towards humanity and animals and eagerly wants to make people happy, especially the people closest to her. She is something that must be earned not bought. And of course very loyal to whoever gets to be with her in the end. She doesn't have any number of body counts, she's just patiently waiting for the right one to marry. Understanding that short-term satisfaction will end up only to be a devastating loss.
As a 13 year old male (born and raised) who has been raised around a lot of adults and I haven’t dated someone, I think that a high value female is someone who is kind and decently attractive but mainly just caring
You’re wise beyond your years. My advice as a 31 year old man… don’t look just on the surface, because beauty disappears, but love, care, nurturing, support, understanding, loyalty, respect, etc. last forever
Yes, but please go live your life and experience real interactions in the real world. Don’t let the internet affect how you see the opposite gender at such a young age. I’m concerned you’re even here😭
I think this is a topic that needs to be framed carefully in order for everyone to remain on the same page during the discussion. I got the sense that most people were understanding the question to be about the worth of an individual in society, rather than the desired traits of a long term partner. So then everyone was taking things too personally and missing the point of his question. It was honestly fascinating to see how the discussions played out because of that.
then just ask what are your " desired traits of a long term partner" instead of making it sound like you are picking a woman out of a catalog. I'd like the "High value one please"
@@SerenaHung Hindsight is 20/20. There were times where he tried to clarify(ie he talked about what men look for in a long term partner), but I'm not sure he was fully understanding where the miscommunication was occurring, so he struggled to get past that. He got a little better at framing it near the end of his video, which he does acknowledge. Doesn't really help that the more precise question is rather long to be putting on the sign he's wearing.
@@allisk8001 Well "What women do men tend to choose" is exactly one word or 5 letters longer than "What is a high value woman"? So, no, I think this is not about hindsight (evaluating the value of someone by the way the opposite gender wants them to be tells you a lot about this persons views) but about trying to be click-baity bt then screwing up because of it.
@@Smiuley Did you even watch his video? It is absolutely a hindsight issue. Poster design isn't just about phrase length, but also phrase readability and recognition. People take shortcuts when reading and clump words together, generally prioritizing familiar phrases, nouns, and verbs. People are already familiar with "High value man/woman" and "What is a woman" so putting the two together is easy to read and the important part is easy to spot. (fyi, the back of his sign says "What is a high value man" too). "What women do men tend to choose" is a messy sentence and is not as "iconic". Where is the important part? It's harder to find the emphasis. "Women men choose" is not a concise collection of words. Therefore, people won't bother to address it. It doesn't help him in the goal to spark a discussion and find common ground. (You also managed to completely misunderstand his point too. It's more about the values a partner should hold(loyalty, honesty, work ethic), and less about an evaluation or measurement of worth.) I understand why he would choose what he did for the sign, but it was poor wording to set up this particular discussion with.
@@allisk8001 Then he could have gone with "What women do you like?" or sth. Obviously, being a "high value women/man" isn't as common of phrase as you make it out to be. Otherwise it would have been understood by everyone. But it wasn't.
Thank you for highlighting this phrase!! And High Value Man. So many content creators are using these words in pursuading our young people on a standard that's based on worldly and venal values only. A high value man should be allowed to cheat? A high value woman should allow her man to cheat? I hardly ever hear words like faith, moral or spiritual integrity
it's called evolutionary biology dude its not cheating--a man spreads his speed a woman gets the best seed from the best man hence stronger kids----dont fight evolutionary biology as the leftist progressive feminists are trying to do.
@@Hatrimn I'm not defined by no women .. I can't agree with that. Because her values maybe less than my own. There no such thing as an expectational man or women ,concidering we are all flawed. That doesn't come with a high cost but unrealistic expectation.
@@deliriouswhome1 You can believe whatever you want about yourself but if you don't have more dating options than the average man, then you are not a high value man. Women pursue certain types of men over the rest, therefore they determine who is high value.
alright. but that could be like every woman. all women are naturally nurturing and love to love so i dont necessarily get this. Why would YOU choose the one woman out of the 4billion on the planet. What's so special about her, if there's nothing than reconsider why you chose her in the first place? Was it because of looks? Because that doesn't make you a very high-value man if you think that's gonna make you love her or make you happy for the rest of your life. You don't have to be a mother to be high-value, or a wife, or a daughter, or a friend. You can just be a good person and be high-value. That's really all that matters.
I married my husband because he is very classy. He has a great personality, is unique and honest. He usually keeps to himself, but as we hung out I found that we actually have same views. We didn’t have much common interests, but as time passed by we grew to like what each other likes. He is a very compassionate human being. Coming from a problematic household, I learned to always put myself first. So I didn’t really believe I can spend my whole life with one person, and can love them selflessly. I still don’t know if my love to him is 100% selfless(it’s also very scary to me to do that) but I can’t think of myself sharing my life with someone else. I’ve healed a lot after being with him, maybe one day I will find confidence in my love to him.
9:30 is absolutely true. when boys become men, we get the sudden urge to want to protect, serve and provide for women and children. its just in our nature and you cant take that way from us.
@@MrCool144 You are the type of dude that would have everything you could ever have emotionally, mentally and physically, and still find something to b!tch about.
Honesty, loyalty, and communication is what makes a high-value woman. Those are the most important parts of any relationship. Good luck and be safe out there. God bless you all.
When women bash men… or when men feel like they aren’t doing enough… it just makes me wanna give all these poor guys a hug. Guys, you don’t deserve all this. Please, find yourself a nice girl who truly does value you because you DESERVE that. They ARE out there, and they’d love to spend their lives with a nice man like you
“Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.” Proverbs 31:25-26 ESV
One thing that frustrates me while trying to find a romantic partner is the fact that I am a little older than most single people. I'm in my late 30's, never married or even engaged. I was in 2 long term relationships that I thought were headed towards marriage, in hindsight I should have ended them sooner and knew I did deserve better than emotional abuse, I was not my most confident self back then. I have a good job, work out, I have my own production company, I love to cook, I'm a Christian so some pretty great qualities that I hear men look for. However, I find a LOT of conservative men I speak to or who comment on women over a certain age being single, I feel lumped in with the loud, blue haired feminists who have 10 cats and hooked up with everything that moved. Which is NOT me at all. I'm nervous about putting myself out there now :( I know my value, but what do you do if the world is not seeing it?
I am in the same boat as you. 39, never married or have kids, few bad relationships. To echo to what you mentioned, the lack of self confidence and also, the high pressure from society to be married by a certain age as a female, with the constant reminder of the biological clock ticking. I also cross "conservative " men who have the same opinions. But what I often ask myself if, what makes his conservative. Is it just the typical adjectives that describe someone as a conservative. A real man will not look at a woman for her age, rather he will get to know her for who she is, and vice versa. He will be a man of God. Many of these conservative men think that if they have a little more masculinity in them , that identifies them as a conservative. Use your discernment wisely. The right will notice your value, and fight for you (and vice versa). it doesnt go one way
Go passport bro. Grab someone out of country. There’s a very low probability you’ll get anyone around here that’s gonna work out nowadays, sadly. Between all the “traditional dating” with low success rate. Just get that money and retire early or similar or just grab someone out of country and come back
My auntie had grown up children at 45 and got a divorce. She decided that she doesn't what to be alone and found a wonderful husband a few years older, who is very generous, they got a dog, she retired early started painting and is happy. There will be someone for you, you just have to keep looking
Here's my advice to take or leave as you see fit, in case it helps at all: If you aren't having luck meeting someone organically in your everyday life, don't be afraid to try dating apps. I tried just waiting for something to happen in my life for a while because I thought that would be better than ending up on a dating site, but after a while decided that wasn't working. Obviously avoid the sleazy hookup apps, but maybe try to look for one that's geared more toward people wanting something lasting. I met my husband on one a few years ago and can't imagine finding someone more suited to build my life with. If you make an honest profile that states who you are and what you're looking for, there are still good people looking for other good people in the world. I was upfront on my profile about wanting to find someone to settle down with, I listed my religious beliefs and my political leaning because I knew I wouldn't settle for someone I'd have to disagree with on fundamental things. I was also worried about putting myself out there, but I think finding the right person was worth being rejected a few times. Don't abandon your convictions and the person who is drawn to those convictions will find you even if the rest of the world isn't seeing you. Other than that, you are already doing the right thing by knowing your value, that seems to be half the battle for a lot of people.
Yep. Men my age want 20 year olds. But if I date an older man I’m looking at having to care for a sick and dying husband by the time I hit late 40’s/early 50’s. I’ve never been married and I don’t have kids. I work hard as a nurse, I invest a lot of money into my appearance, I volunteer, I’m funny and cheeky and full of life. But I’m considered low value because I’m fat and 35.
hi! this was actually talked about in my church, a good thing to look for in a women is someone who will care for children, the house, and the husband, i forgot the word that he said. and a good thing to look for in a husband is someone who will be protective for children, house, and the wife. and both ways, they should love each other the way that the lord loves them.
Respect to Brett for criticizing Andrew Tate. While I think he’s a very important figure for young men, his views on men being able to cheat and be promiscuous are definitely worth criticism to say the least…
I'll be honest. In high-school I was the "player" after high-school I did a complete 180 and now am proud of who I turned into. I'm not ashamed of who I was. I regret the way I treated girls but my past and what I overcame made me who I am today
For me the quality of a high value woman is when she's her authentic, weird, and best version of herself. She respects people and herself and doesn't allow anyone who disrespects her and her people. She appreciates and cherishes every single person in her life for who they are and support them to become the best version of themselves as well. A high value woman is honest but also kind. She knows her worth and value.
Self-respect, compassion, modesty, a good sense of humor, intelligence and loyalty are some of the qualities I find to be high value. You can't build a relationship on looks alone (at least not a healthy one).
Hi Brett! Mark Barry from South Africa. Just watched this and as a teacher one of my greatest challenges is getting learners to think for themselves. I teach high schoolers and very often they cannot do this. In this video, with the exception of the one gentleman, those being interviewed could not answer a simple question without being triggered in some way. Keep up the good work.
If you listen to Jordan Peterson talking about teaching people to think for themselves he says they have done studies and you cannot teach people to think for themselves. They either can do it or they cannot.
@stormmiller4886. Totally disagree. Thinking is a skill, and like any skill it can be learnt. Sure, some are better at it than others, but you can develop your thinking skills. As much as I love Jordan Peterson, he is not the only authority on thinking. As a psychologist I am sure he will tell you that if you change your thinking, you can change your behavior.
@@Justsomenerd69 Everyone can think for themselves, many just choose not too. Jordan Peterson is right about some things but he can still be flat out wrong as well.
I understand that. Everyone is right sometimes and wrong sometimes. I just sourced him as the one I had heard it from and he said that there was research to back it. I don't know how much I believe it but I wouldn't be all that surprised it there were people that aren't all that capable of it as I see them everywhere. Most people that I see are very hive minded and only do things other people tell them are okay to do and only think the way others tell them is okay to think. I see plenty of people that don't think for themselves. @@Kitsuragi556
children cannot think for themselves sometimes, which is why it's so important to train their problem-solving abilities. We never stop growing and learning, and if it's possible for children to learn to think for themselves, of course we can too!@@Justsomenerd69
Maslow's hierarchy of needs pretty well nails it in terms of evaluation of 'value' by humans based on their needs in any given situation as demonstrated in the first four minutes of the video where the apparently mentally disturbed individual went with the trained/institutionalized answer while the seemingly well adjusted individual considered the question and formulated his own interpretation/answer and presented it free of currently socially acceptable terms/buzzwords.
you can pretty much boil it down to three/four things that men care about. #1. be loyal and don't have an insane body count #2. don't be argumentative for no reason, men like their peace #3. perform the role you both agreed upon aka both working / full time mom depending on if you have kids
The thing I admire most about my husband is the fact that he feels the need to protect me and my dogs and one day our child. He makes jokes about our big dogs “job” is to protect me and the smaller dogs from an intruder or larger animal and it makes me feel warm inside and it makes me excited to see him as a father some day
This isn’t the only thing I love about him obviously but this is one of the big things he does subconsciously and subtly that I notice and it makes me happy
I asked my husband this question. He says that he sees me as a "high value" woman. I keep up the house, make sure he is taken care of, and that I show him loyalty, love, and adoration. The bonus is that I cook a lot of things homemade and that I do work part-time. I do not have to. I choose to because I do not want to rely 100% on him. I have my own $$ to contribute to the house. Also the fact that we are a team, and I act accordingly.
@@BeastGotClipped I'm already married babe but hell I'm glad that I'm lesbian and didn't marry a man baby who can't do anything on his own and make the women do everything. Creatures like that are the worst next to incels 😆 And if he let's his women do absolutely everything including working than he can't care that much 🤣
My wife is high value, and it’s the greatest thing in the world. I look at other relationships and every day I thank the heavens I found her. Smart, sweet, pretty, thin, kinky, hard working, cooks, cleans, cares for me, supports me in every way, is happy to just be around me if I’m doing something else. She does so much sometimes all I can do in return is provide protecting and show her my undying love and affection every day. I see all these women and just cringe. I got 100% lucky as all hell.
"Let me tell you that I as a WOMAN decide what is a woman of high value for YOU MEN." What a nice person, he takes the weight off me of having my own opinion and mind. Again, why is it that fewer and fewer men want to date and have relationships?
My guy friends, and I, ask ourselves the same thing about women. Seems like most nowadays aren't looking for commitment, due to the major shifts in our cultural focus.
Couldnt tell if the question was rhetorical or not, I don't want a relationship because the next one I want to be my last. And a quality, SINGLE girl hasnt presented themselves to me in over 3 years. Im not going to try and take someone else's girlfriend. She's out their somewhere, and i will find her eventually. Best i can do is to keep working on myself. Im tired of the games, im tired of the trash. It isnt worth it
It never comes down to one thing, for me, it's loyalty, respect, being able to lean on each other during hard times and having someone you can open up to, taking care of each other mentally and physically, commitment and building a life together. Men and women working together for a future. This is all based on a relationship.
I am a high value woman married to a high value man. I am pregnant with our 4th child and I homeschool our children. I started out as a terrible cook, but I have worked very hard at it and now I cook quite well (I'm very proud of that 😊). My heart is for nurturing and serving my family. My husband is strong, courageous, honest, hard working and steady. He has always provided for us, even when times have been tough. He doesn't care at all what people think of him and he does what he sees as being right and good. He lives to serve and care for our family and people in need. We work together as a team, with equally important but different roles. We both put each other first. To me that is what high value means.
I new society went down hill but without Brett, I wouldn´t know how bad. We all should thank Brett and her team for searching for these kinda videos without loosing their minds and stay sane. I binge watched today this channel....I can´t believe people like that exist
I was recently listening to a podcast by a sweet Christian couple, and they talked about how things had gotten out of hand with the wife helping in the family business and she had to step back and let him take over more and they said this, “Men are like semi trucks - they drive better with a heavy load.” Interesting way to think about it.
how someone treats others is definitely an indicator of someone’s ‘value’. that’s definitely one of the first things you should pay attention to when you meet someone.
High value(With regard to relationships): Wants to be around me, is loyal, is honest, has integrity, loves herself, is a GIVER, and doesn't give up when life becomes difficult. It's amazing how hard it is to find someone with even ONE of those qualities.
I'd say typically you'll find people who have most, if not all of these qualities, or none at all, and very few in-betweens, because all of those qualities stem from the same roots ; the traditions and duties we as a society have tragically abandoned. The qualities or lack thereof also build on one another. Somebody who has integrity and a sense of self-worth is unlikely to be disloyal or give up when the going gets rough, and vice-versa.
I have 3 women that loved and protect me, My mom, my grandma, and my sister, they are the ones that always on my side no matter what happens to me, love me at my lowest, cheer me at my highest, so a good and value women are capable of loving, simple as that.
High Value (independent of gender): - Kind - Dedicated to the faith - Anti-abortion - Highly intelligent - Bilingual or trilingual - Empathetic - Tenacious - Does not smoke/drink/vape/use drugs/chew tabacco. - Funny - Musically talented - Volunteers (especially in a church leadership capacity) - Respectful - Is waiting for marriage (even if they haven't in their past, but are now). - Honest - Exercises regularly (but not obessively) - Great with kids and animals - Communicative - Does their own dishes and laundry
what do you mean Brett "protects her value?" Like Hailee Steinfield protecting her value? And how does a Man "protect his value'? Or is there a double standard with whose value is "protected"?
How to stop being an Incel. Step 1: don't call a woman you like "high value," because that implies that she could lose that "high value." She's not a steak.
I'd say a high value woman is protected by her family, has high morals, a really bubbly positive attitude but is very pure at heart. She's also very kind and empathetic towards humanity and animals and eagerly wants to make people happy, especially the people closest to her. She is something that must be earned not bought. And of course very loyal to whoever gets to be with her in the end. She doesn't have any number of body counts, she's just patiently waiting for the right one to marry. Understanding that short-term satisfaction will end up only to be a devastating loss.
@@cooliipie just tell her she has these things but don't tell she's a "high value woman" and what kind of body count are you allowed to get away with, since she apparently can only have a zero count, good luck finding that in anyone over 12 in 2023
You say “i don’t want to do it” They hear “that’s not good enough for you, and so you’re judging me for doing it.” You stated a preference They got offended
I'd say a high value woman is protected by her family, has high morals, a really bubbly positive attitude but is very pure at heart. She's also very kind and empathetic towards humanity and animals and eagerly wants to make people happy, especially the people closest to her. She is something that must be earned not bought. And of course very loyal to whoever gets to be with her in the end. She doesn't have any number of body counts, she's just patiently waiting for the right one to marry. Understanding that short-term satisfaction will end up only to be a devastating loss.
For me, from this description you want some naive woman. I don't think, it's a good way. If mother is primary care giver and if she is, then she is installing values in children. You don't want somebody naive, because you don't want your children to be naive. Caring and nice is not enough.
I think a low body count is a giant factor in attractiveness, especially for men. I've heard of men breaking up with with their otherwise perfect girlfriend, because she had a high body count.
Haha I know! hard work. She writes her shows at night and then she records multiple in a day so they can get edited by a large team of editors to then get posted.
A high value partner, I think is someone who compliments and shares your personal values, but also challenges you to be a better person and make changes in your life for the better.
You should check out Chris Williamson’s recent interviews about female competition and friendship. It explains why women might be reacting to the question about “high value females” so defensively - because most women have a strong instinct to pretend like women are all equal. Same reason a lot of women have a hard time accepting compliments. Very interesting and explains so much!
Love your content Brett!! Speaking as a former ‘girl boss,’ I’m finding what I appreciate most now is someone who gives me the opportunity to be feminine and a lot less masculine. I know that I /can/ be masculine and fight the ‘good’ fight, but as I soldier on, I’m looking for that person (that I can trust, align values with, connect with, etc.) to be masculine so that I don’t have to. Interesting convo!
@dlairdiablo Haha, well, I guess there’s no pulled punches on the internet: yes, I now get that guys prefer that I be myself as a woman rather than being ‘a man’
@dlairdiablo Thanks for the follow up. I’m genuinely sorry to hear that you have been through all that. CA is a tough place to be right now for many reasons… To share, (and I will preface that I was a more mild girl boss) I genuinely thought I was trying to take care of myself and other women (a few women I hold dear were screwed over by their man pretty hard and left in financial ruin) and I mistakenly lent my energy to the wrong cause and felt (years later) manipulated as a result. Its not right that the newest trend is to emasculate men and shame women for embracing motherhood and their femininity (myself included). I honestly didn’t see the forest for the trees for a long time. That’s not to dismiss or excuse. Just to share. Only way is to move forward, as none can change the past, and for me, I’m grateful to say that I embraced my femininity before I lost my humanity. My hope, in sharing all this, is that you are able to find some strength, peace and healing (even if only a little) in a former (mild) girl boss waking up and denouncing her former shell, and that it means there’s hope for more women to do the same.
@dlairdiablo For some context,I haven’t been what’s considered a girl boss for several years (and it wasn’t called that then). Reflecting on things, no, I can’t say it was stupid. It was ill informed and misguided, but not stupid. I do not deny my agency or apathy during that time, but I do think that hurt and angry people can be impressionable, and, that I was. I think the tendency is to want to fight fire with fire not caring if the whole world burns, and that’s what drew me in. Add to the mix that I knew I was smart and strong, and there being a large absence of cultural willingness to pair femininity with either of those traits, and I honestly thought in order to be myself, I had to choose not to be feminine. It’s (or at least was) unfortunately a radical idea to be a smart, strong, feminine woman, and those who are seem to be hidden from the role-model lime light to inspire others. It’s interesting you bring up girls night, because harassment on said night was part of my formation as a girl boss. My friends and I were saying we weren’t there (at a club in Boston) to pick up guys and we were consistent (I.e. we weren’t making exceptions for more attractive men), and a couple of guys got really REALLY upset. I honestly promise you that we weren’t rude or mean, just a polite “sorry dude, it’s an honest girls only night.” That paired with Weinstein actually being a terrible human being, and Epstein in there too, and throw in a dash of working in a male dominated industry and suffering first hand from a boss that thinks what you did is lesser because he struggles with his own self confidence, and you get women who listen to the wrong message: that we would be better off without men altogether. I think what is interesting, looking back, is all those times that “toxic masculinity” was called out, not once was there a grasp what either masculinity and femininity actually consisted of. There are terrible people, and some of them men, but that doesn’t mean we are better off without men or masculinity, as is sold then and today. As for Amber Heard, I can’t say I think even the feminists were happy about what she did. The only thing those folks hate more than red is a woman who lied about being sexually assaulted. Finally, I think you are right to be careful who you help. And as the saying goes, no pearls before swine. For what it’s worth, whenever a guy chooses to go out of his way for me, I genuinely thank him and recognize the rarity, and am careful to not take it for granted. Knowledge is power. Experience is golden. And healthy growth from pain seems to be the only way to heal and instigate necessary change. That’s all for me. All the best to you @dlairdiablo
In my opinion, a "high value" human is someone who works to improve not only themself, but also the world around them. If you give a little more than you take and extend kindness where possible, you add value.
The only thing "capitalistic" about the question is that when the question is asked, the knee-jerk response is to immediately start talking or thinking about money. If your value is derived by how much money you're bringing to the relationship...... that's a YOU problem. Not capitalism.
It's really not difficult. A high-value woman is someone intelligent, caring, has self-respect, is loyal, has passions or hobbies, looks after her health & is a humble & genuine person. Basically the same as a high-value guy.
A "partner" be it husband or wife, ought to be valued by just how much they care about the other persons wellbeing. Period. It should be reciprocated in equal parts. That, my friend, is what a 50/50 relationship should be in my opinion.
While true, there is a good saying that needs to be remembered here. If you come into a relationship expecting 50/50, you'll get angry whenever you feel that "fairness" isn't being exactly met. You need to find a good, kind partner who you trust, then after marriage, you both go into it in a 100/0 mindset. If you both of you are trying to give 100 and don't expect a perfect 50 from the other, you'll both be respected and happy. (When we expect things from others, we don't feel as willing to give.)
100% agree. High body counts are gross in both men and women. My wife and I met in our mid 20's we've been together 15 years. Started out we were living off my modest income and my wife stayed home with our daughter. We've supported each other now I'm clearing 6 figures and she just graduated with her M.S. RN so she is also bringing in 6 figures. We are 100% a team. We've almost 10x our starting income.. Our relationship is based on honesty and trust. We are going to be debt free except our mortgage this year. I'm going to start using our massive cash flow to build houses on the side.
Brett is high-value woman imo cause she has good values, natural beauty, dont be afraid to say what needed to say and she is making all of us smile when throw jokes. One thing is also that you can see in her eyes when she talks about something what she cares and is dear and near to her heart x) keep going!!!
@@mathematicalgeek8657 if thats only value for u to miss suck to be you. If you hv diff values u should/can work those out so you both are happy. Talking about things in relationships and understanding others probs or "faults" is pretty important imo. Thats how you can make it work. :)
What makes a high value Woman depends on what one is looking for in a Woman. For me beautiful,kind,decent,loyal,faithful and of course a low body count.
What about hypothetical body count? A man who really wants to be promiscuous but can't get as many women as he'd like. How would you categorize that? I'm asking seriously, because finding a man who doesn't like promiscuity and pornography is like finding a unicorn nowadays.
You could be broke, work minimum wage, and be physically average. But if you lack narcissism, aren't on TikTok 24/7, aren't playing the victim card, don't waste your money on "designer brands" and work on yourself mentally and physically. You're a dream. The ultimate potential value.
Ha, you just described the lady my nephew married this past December 👍They're both struggling to get by on their own. I do think she's cute, but I know her heart and mindset also... so I may be biased 😂Wish I could 👍your comment twice.
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Loyalty should be the primary concern for men and women
Loyalty,
loving god more than anyone eveb yourself
And a promise to love each other forever till the say you die
True. When loyalty applies you are not only loyal to your partner but your being loyal to yourself.
More like responsibility
Loyalty doesn't exist you made it up.
Men should have multiple women, but women shouldnt lol😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Brett, You Nailed it when you said, "Some people will find a problem with everything. That's why they are miserable and sad."
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I also, however, believe it might be an example of the background she grew up in.
One of my main issues with Brett is that while she's intelligent and beautiful she's also pretty far removed from the regular American experience... as is Pearl. They both have a sort of luxury to make these decisions to follow these ideologies because they inherently benefit from that right winged upper middle/high class pipeline.
I find a lot of her ideologies relatable to a younger version of myself that hadn't experienced the world and the system for what it is quite yet. I hadn't experienced the oppression of the poverty/low income/working class because I'd grown up away from it.
Having not only experienced it as a homeless youth and a young adult (I'm actually the same age as Brett I think, I'm 21 so..) but also seeing it around me in my public school experience I can understand the perspective these women and men have that Brett and it seems to be most of her followers couldn't understand because they're removed from the oppression of the systems our ancestors built.
We live in a society and a time of abundance, evolution, and technology. It's not really impossible for us to start breaking free of some of our more primal ideologies to adapt to the demands our abundance from hard work has brought us to share with millions.
White Americans have a serious privilege and responsibility because of that privilege to educate themselves and learn empathy for others who have less than you.
Brett is no angel. She's directly profiting off of impressionable people who either relate to her or aspire to be more like her. She's not aware of a lot of complex realities that her growing platform is going to question her about because of some of the messages she promotes now.
We are not animals. We are humans. We're not primal, we're evolved. We will continue to evolve everyday and outgrow these old systems that don't promote equality for all humans. Just "people" who fit a very narrow line of "person".
@vipwilms You sound insufferable.
usually very negative peiople with low self esteem.
@@vipweaths What you say makes so much sense, I also think that she simplifies relationships a lot, although I like her point of view on several things, it is undeniable to recognize the position from which she speaks
One thing that I learned in a leadership class was self respect. Our instructor was in his 60s and said, “people are going to judge you. Deal with it. Take it to your advantage.” We talked about how people will have more respect for you if you treat yourself with respect. Have good posture and walk with a purpose. Smile. Act like you want to be there. Be confident because showing confidence in yourself will allow you team to trust you.
Dominate the situation by removing clothing and occupying as much space as possible. Upon them giving ground make sure to press the advantage, by baring your teeth and chasing after them.
Absolutely, an incredibly good point
"You might as well like yourself. Just look at all the time you have to spend with you." - Jerry Lewis, The Nutty Professor.
I've noticed humour, even one aimed at self is good way to go. people wont just think you are full of shit and are willing to approach easier than some one who appears to sit in ivory tower. Granted I got promoted from the "ranks" so older hands know I know my business. But with new people, Humour has worked for me the best.
Exactly. My dad taught me the same thing once I was old enough to understand these concepts. A good leader, and a naturally good leader is extremely rare in the current state of the US. Keep at it, and good luck to you!!
A high value woman for me is someone who can carry intellectual conversations about a variety of subjects as well as have useless, ridiculous banter. Someone who respects themselves and respects others. Someone who is confident. She doesn't have to be the most beautiful woman in the world but she should have enough self-respect and self awareness to know that it is good to take care of herself. Also a woman with a good sense of humour.
I might be alone on this one but I also have nothing but respect for a woman is willing and able to call me out and put me in my place if I do or say stupid.
LOL, sounds like you are looking for a man based on your description!
That or a unicorn
@sanyagoel2069yes in a nutshell or a unicorn!
agreed, except the last one.
As a woman myself, I agree with those traits.
@@floriandc5695 or me, or so many women you haven't had the chance to meet apparently
Brett is a high value woman
Agreed
Precisely my thoughts 😎
Based
She also strays away from the hive mindset most women have.
nah she seems combative and very opinionated which are masculine traits. High value women are submissive and give their opinions only when asked.
Thanks Brett for being the voice of reason. I got married when I was 21 and my wife was 20 we were high school sweethearts since Sophomore year. Biggest thing that attracted me to her are her similar values to mine, her strong drive to succeed, her kindness etc. She definitely helped me become a better person. So glad I got married when I did. Don't think I could go through the cesspool of dating right now. Feel for everyone who are looking for marriage. Wish everyone all the best!
Good luck to you guys! I'm 22, met my 'high school sweetheart' at 17. Started hinting at rings now 😄
@@megalegsx that's so exciting! God's blessings to you! We are celebrating our tenth year together in May!
I trudged through the dating pool till 27 and all I can say is you missed absolutely nothing. I wish my husband and I met earlier in life because dating sucks. Especially in the age of primarily online dating. I thankfully didn’t have to go through dating in my 30’s which I am assuming it only gets worse with each passing year.
My 27yo son who is searching ....has said it's nearly impossible to find a woman who is not obsessed with WOKE/SOCIAL MEDIA ACCEPTANCE/CONSERVATIVE HATE....The woman pool for God believing/family structure and discipline is.....As he puts it "A UNICORN"
I’m considering taking up church to find someone. Sigh
For me a high value woman is someone who treats her man right and is caring and nurturing who shares your values. I married my wife because she always makes me feel good about myself and always tries to take care of me and my family. My wife is also very self sufficient which is a great thing because I know she can handle herself without needing me to do everything for her. But she doesn't have an ego that feels like she has to do everything herself. We're a team and always work together to do our best for our family.
Amen
Exactly!
Aww, I hope my sweetheart would say this about me. So romantic!
@@aliciabell6688 I always say things like this about her. I know in one way I am truly blessed in my life and it's my family (wife and daughter). I couldn't possibly ask for anything more. My wife is from Honduras where she grew up with nothing so she's always so grateful for everything she has. It's one of my favorite qualities she has that has definitely rubbed off on me.
Exactly, I don’t get this men vs women things it should be men + women. We are 2 halves of a coin or our Ying to our Yang so to speak. We cannot have the human race without both sexes and if you go to any tribes that are still for any intensive purposes in the Stone Age even though men are the leaders women are still considered vital and respected members of the community and everyone works as a team in order to survive and raise the next generation.
I tell my husband, besides the initial physical attraction that I had for him, as I got to know him I realized how SAFE I felt. Emotionally, physically, and even financially. Financial in the sense that I knew he handled his finances well and was wise with his money. We are not rich by any means. Just your typical middle class American. That’s one of the things I love about my life with my husband. We both seem to balance each other out with enjoying the simplicities of life, but also realizing that we shouldn’t settle for less. Always set goals and work hard to achieve them….together, as a team! Love your channel Brett 😊
Recently, I read "Don'ts for wives" and "Don'ts for husbands" by Blanche Ebbutt written in 1914 and I was astounded by just how alien it sounded compared to today. These days relationship advice is basically how to manipulate men or how to protect yourself from women. Back then, the goal was a happy, healthy relationship. Very helpful little books, highly recommend.
Ooo I am gonna look into this book! Thanks!
I'd say a high value woman is protected by her family, has high morals, a really bubbly positive attitude but is very pure at heart. She's also very kind and empathetic towards humanity and animals and eagerly wants to make people happy, especially the people closest to her. She is something that must be earned not bought. And of course very loyal to whoever gets to be with her in the end. She doesn't have any number of body counts, she's just patiently waiting for the right one to marry. Understanding that short-term satisfaction will end up only to be a devastating loss.
@@cooliipie you are living in a fantasy good sir. Not every woman has to be a virgin till marriage (25-30) to be valued, that is demeaning. Imagine a girl falls in love at 18 and the relationship is great but then they brake up for some reason or other. You would say she's low value simply because she didn't wait around for you. Also also no-one man or woman can be bubbly and happy all the time. Life is not a fairly tale. And yes we should strive to make ppl we are close to happy but it is not our job and their happiness is not our responsibility, we can only support and help them.
Thanks I'm going to check this book out 😀
@Cool 🏳️🌈⃠ do you expect the same for men to be high value? Cause to me, a man who thinks that he gets to have a body count and expects his woman not to have one immediately drops his value. Because that means you value YOUR sexuality and pleasure over mine.
Also, in your eyes does that mean a woman in her 30s and above is lesser value because she's already been married and had children? Even if she's perfect in every other sense and was loyal etc? Maybe her spouse died? Who knows.
Just saying, relying on body counts for man or woman is just outdated trash. Your body count doesn't place value or determine value.
Your body count can be above 10, but haven't had relations in 5+ Years. Should 30+ year Olds be considered less valued for crap they did at 15? Again. There's so many things to factor in.
I personally think a high value woman is a sweet, trust worthy, wise, intellectual woman, with a huge caring heart, and who loves and respects herself as well as others, and she doesn't necessarily have to be successful, but definitely someone to look up to
I'd say a high value woman is protected by her family, has high morals, a really bubbly positive attitude but is very pure at heart. She's also very kind and empathetic towards humanity and animals and eagerly wants to make people happy, especially the people closest to her. She is something that must be earned not bought. And of course very loyal to whoever gets to be with her in the end. She doesn't have any number of body counts, she's just patiently waiting for the right one to marry. Understanding that short-term satisfaction will end up only to be a devastating loss.
Thank you we are so undervalued lol
Basically, the woman of excellence ( also translated "valor" ) written of in Proverbs 31.
That is true actually ! I think this is what most of mens are searching for
"Definitely someone to look up to" good point
My mother taught me that if I respect myself, in turn, the world would respect me. She was a very wise and high value woman herself.
You're blessed, my Mother is a broken woman. 💔
Think that’s the crux: nobody wants to be taken advantage of, men or women (and while most of society is much more equal now, some people still hold a hard line to one side or the other and will totally take advantage of a partner)
What women don't understand about men is, we love to see your half naked picts on social media, but we would never take that girl home to meet the family as a prospect for marriage. At least a real man will not. So choose the woman you want ti be and act accordingly. A woman can be as wild as she likes, it's her right. But it's a man's right to marry who he chooses also. A woman of any real value to a man must first know her value, and act it out.
@@KatieLHall-fy1hw the equality you mentioned does not help women at all when it comes to finding a man that meets their standards. That is is you mean things like a woman having a career, money, or alot of sexual partners.
Are you impressed by a man's shoe collection? Are you like, I will not date him unless he has alot of shoes. That is how men feel about your money and carreer, they could care less. They have there own, and if a woman is useing that to try to attract a "high value man" she may have better luck with a bum. But it will not help her find the man she wants. Lol
Take having alot of sexual partners for example. First, the most important thing to a man is respect. Its why they choose to die on the feild of battle instead of running to safety, they couldn't live with the disrespect they would get from other men. And it starts at a young age, it's in men. Boys will dare each other to do dangerous things, if you succeed you win there respect. WITH MEN ITS ALL ABOUT RESPECT.
Now imagine you are a girl who has a high body count. You and him walk down the street and you pass his freinds and other guys you slept with. He looks at them, they look at him and grin. hE knows they know he knows they slept with you.The amount of disrespect he gets from that will make him never call you again.
With us, it is all about respect. And if you want a traditional man, yet you are a modern women with no traditional values, you will fail miserably at the Long term relationship game. The feminist movement is destroying women'srelationships. Women have the right to live as they please, but don't forget, men have the right to marry who they please. Women control the sex, you decide who sleeps with you, but men control the relationship, they decide who they want to marry and spend their life with.
So, the best thing a woman can do is find out what the man she is after desires, and become that. Because if not, he will find one who is. And we all desire respect.
It's all about respect for us. Women need to stop projecting a woman's point of view on to men. For example, most women value a man with alot of money and a good job. And these women, because they value that, will go and get a good job as I said b4, thinking it makes them more valuable to men. But in reality that's a woman's point of view. Sure , a bum will love your money, but the man you want will not. Doesn't mean you shouldn't work or have money to help make it in the world. It just means that is not what your husband values about you. If you quit, it would not change the way he feels about you at all. Yet most women will leave a man who is jobless and doesn't want to work. That's a females view of value, not a man's and they project it onto men as if a man should be impressed with your education, job ect.
Cis Chinese man here, who else is gonna think about Brett in the bath tub 2nite?
For me personally, the first thing I look for in a man is that he shares my faith and has the same values as me. I don’t want to go through life constantly arguing about my values with my husband, and I want to be able to raise my future children with the same love of my church that I have, and I think that would be a lot easier if their dad has just as strong of a faith as their mom. After that, I look for a man who takes care of himself physically because I know if he doesn’t take care of himself, he surely won’t take care of anyone else. Lastly I would love to have some common interests with my future husband, but at the same time, I think “common interests” is often too highly valued in the modern day. I think a lot of people are looking for this common love of some movie or video game in a partner to fill the space of common values and faith. I believe that a lot of the interests my husband has, I will naturally find to be my interests over time as well, and visa versa. When you love someone, you naturally come to love what they love.
I think the same 🙌🏼🙌🏼
Love this! I married a man who is almost my opposite but we have common ground on Christ, who is the foundation. Happily married five years
The Bible does say to be evenly yoked
You are 100% about Tate! I think, a truly valuable man, would fight to be with one woman, not sleeping around. If you are a high value man or woman, you know you are valuable, and sex is WAY too intimate to do it with anyone, so you wait for a valuable person, because you know it is not about Sex, IT IS ABOUT A REAL CONNECTION, LOVE, CARING FOR EACH OTHER, AND YOUR FAMILIES
why would a man not fook many women
And trying to build each other up! Not trampling your partner down to make yourself above them!
The way I see it, a man who has the easy option to sleep around but chooses not to is significantly higher value than a man who just slings it into any hole that presents itself. Its like supply and demand, he's in high demand but not available to the general public lol.
Real men don’t like Andrew Tate. He’s a clown
@@adamwieser why
I think each gender looks for the same things.
1. Trustworthy
2. Reliable
3. Fun/shareable hobbies
All 5,372 of them?
Great traits for a friend.
Not necessarily top of the list for a husband/wife...
@@Audentior_Itomy boyfriend is my best friend. Honestly friend first and boyfriend second. Because we don't kiss 24/7 but we do spend all that time together watching things we like, playing games and going places we both enjoy. The most important is being on the same page about your core values like family, religion, children and so on. Other stuff can change
you sound like a woman, because both sexes do NOT look for the same thing at all. maybe beta males
I think more than shareable hobbies people look for having fun or laughing together. Me and my husband we don't have common hobbies , but we have the same sense of humor, I think that is what makes you have fun with somebody
As I've gotten older I've realized that all beauty fades eventually. Now while I still naturally seek out attractive women I've started putting far more value in a wonderful personality, that's the real person after all, their thoughts, hopes and dreams. Outer beauty may fade with age, but for a good person inner beauty just shines brighter and brighter.
A woman's physical attractiveness is variable, though. Very few are so gorgeous that a viper personality is overlooked. Most women are of average looks & personality raises or lowers our physical appearance.
In the book "Gone With the Wind", Scarlet is introduced as "Not beautiful, but no man who was caught in the web of her charms noticed." When I read that, I wondered if this happens in real life. So I started to watch. Yes, I noticed lots of very plain women who had an entourage of men. She was charming, so they didn't notice her plain looks.
But, the Bible tells us that charm can be deceptive.
Yeah. Beauty fades. That’s the sad truth. A great personality, however, doesn’t fade with age.
Which is why you date younger. So you don't worry about beauty fading. If I was single At age 50, I would still date under 30.
@@dominick6131 And if you are in a serious relationship, this woman is still goint to hit 50 and looks old. Stop being so superficial or else you will end up alone
Someone who is responsible, respectful, kind, intelligent and has good morals is a high value PERSON
God gave us these answers in Ephesians. A high-value woman is one who respects and honors her husband, and a high-value man is one who loves his wife self-sacrificially. I'm an engineer and I make way more than my husband, but because I am a Christian and I try to conduct myself as a Godly wife, we enjoy a happy and peaceful marriage-despite the fact that he's agnostic! We've been married ten years and counting.
As a good Christian....i think its time for him to Convert lmao.
You know whats your Job Agent.
The Bible said we shouldn’t be unequally yoked: believer and unbeliever. Praying for your husband to find Christ!
My husband became a believer 11 years after our marriage. Christian men, prayer, the evangelical church I chose because of him, and Lee Strobel’s book “The Cast for Christ” all helped. Of course, the Holy Spirit must call him, too.
God bless you. I remember being where you’re at. Never give up hope!
@@lisareiter5368 Thank you, Sister!
A High value woman is one who has a noble character, works vigorously, opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy, she is clothed with strength and dignity, she speaks with wisdom and faithful instruction is on her tongue. Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.
Agreed!
I thought you weren’t supposed to “fear the lord”. he doesn’t want you to fear him, right?. Unless it’s a metaphor. I never understood that phrase, can you explain it? :)
I can't with you people, I am sorry, I don't want to offend, but you guys live in la la land. People are flawed, for you to be noble and dignified as you have described, you will need some life experiences, made some mistakes, learned from them. Have you ever been really challenged to claim you are wise, dignified and noble at heart? You will only know if you got high value partner next to you when you both have been challenged and life, thrown all sorts of pain and difficulties and came out of it stronger.
@@Soggycigarettesss fear in this sense would be the same way one would fear their parents or boss. A healthy respect and understanding of their power and authority.
@@Soggycigarettesss fear of the Lord interpretation means "to have (beginning of) wisdom" or "understanding"
I see a high-valued woman who is willing to understand. Self respect, kindness and someone who can take care of herself. Self-awareness is also important and a grand part of being high-valued because it shows more than anything from the jump.
“Men biologically want to be caretakers.” As a man (high value, if I may say so myself) this statement both rang true AND was eye opening.
I’ve always thought that a high-value woman would want to be a caretaker, and the man a provider. However, hearing Brett’s comment, I have to say that both want to be caretakers, just in different ways.
The value of someone is never external, but internal. What's on the inside reflects the outside.
High value woman:
She's not lazy. She's disciplined. Very astute and discerning. Gracious. Can light up the room with her presence. She's honest with her shortcomings and blind spots and perhaps laughs at herself. She's encouraging. She make sure that you're okay more so than herself. Even if she's well to do, she doesn't brag about it, but shares in good things. She may not carry physical strength, but she is very strong for the voiceless and the weak. When she is weak, she goes to good people of wisdom and strength. No double standards, but stands on good principles and convictions. So much more to say, but I'll state this last thing, a high value woman is when she does not signal virtue, but virtue signals her.
That was nice.
I found better answers in the comment sections than what was featured on the video! ❤
As a woman looking for a high-value man, I want someone who's respectful. And not in the sense that society defines respect (i.e. letting me do whatever I want, etc.) but in the sense that I want to be physically, emotionally, and financially respected. Physically respected in the sense that I am not just a way of satiating my husband's desires. Emotionally respected in the sense that I am treated (and vice versa) as a human being with emotional needs that should be recognized as deserving mature, productive disagreements and communication. Financially respected in the sense that while I want to be provided for, I also don't want to be shut out of household financial decisions. I want a *partner* who is capable of taking care of me and our family, not just a man who makes money and that's it.
To me, high-value means finding a man that is capable of having a mutual and loving relationship, as well as fulfilling his natural role as a provider and giving an equal amount of support to our family. Equal does not mean the same kind of support - it should be different, just in a way that compliments each other as husband and wife. There are things only a mother can provide and some things only a father can provide. Neither of these things should be seen as an attack on the personal value of each on their own.
Respect does not mean obedience it is earned.
And men are not your father
@@johnconnor2753 correct.
@Jason Bourne you are so not educated it hurts
i agree(with rizz)(btw, im over 6 foot(with rizz))
@Jason Bourne this is a good question, thank you! Now, all of what I said in my original comment aside, I don’t want to be a wife that just sits there and lets her husband do all of the work. That would be taking advantage of him and in and of itself, disrespectful to him. Given that it should be a partnership, I want to give him the same respect and support that he gives me. When he’s too tired to take care of other things, or even himself, I’ll step in and help him as well. I think when people say “50/50” I personally take that to mean a give and take situation which is not how it should be. If my husband is doing his best, and on any given day his best is 20%, I as the wife should give 80%, and vice versa, yknow? It should be a mutually supportive relationship. I won’t sit there and insist my husband do everything. I’ll cook, clean, learn how to do things that I might have to do without solely relying on him, find a job to help with finances if he needs more support there too. Essentially I guess what I’m getting at is that I’ll take care of what is necessary to also provide a home for him too. I don’t ever want it to be one-sided.
You're 100% correct about the double-standard. A man who hasn't slept around a lot before marriage is also more likely to be a better partner in marriage. It goes both ways.
But most women prefer a man who can get multiple women instead of a virgin so that’s why the double standards exist. Men n women don’t cherish the same things
I constantly see men call themselves "alpha" because they sleep with a lot of women. An Alpha is the head of the family who guides them and protects them not someone who sleeps around then runs away.
A high value women has a deep respect for herself, and her choices. She isn't easy or quick to jump into a relationship. It takes a lot of effort and love to be with her. She shows love, peace, patience, kindness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control. On top of that, she has respect for the man she wants to be with, and I love her with the kind of love, in that, I would lay down my life to protect her.
Hey, Brett! Just wanted to say a huge thank you for all of your content because it gives me hope in humanity. i'm russian, who has lived in US for about a year 7 years ago. I loved the country back then, made a lot of friends and had a great time, and I still find america very cool in some aspects. But I was continuously watching the country go insane (at least it looked like that on the internet) for the past few years and it just feels SO GOOD to see such intelligent and realistic people like you who are not afraid to fight the insanity. It makes me think that there is still hope for the best future. wish you all the best
If you turn it off and go out side its not so bad
@@crazychase98 Nah, I feel like the internet portrayal has been pretty accurate to how far everything here has fallen into insanity. (At least in my corner of the world.) Absolute chaos, and near impossible to even have a conversation about *anything* (in real life) without risking your job, relationships... Everything.
@@crazychase98 we live in a propaganda state run by corporations like big pharma and the military industrial complex. and the fbi is running social media. to say its not so bad is very ignorant
Thank you! God bless your home country! May peace, justice, and prosperity reign!
I found my high value woman, she's my wife. We don't always agree, we discuss and get heated. But love covers over a great many things.
She was just a normal woman, but she gave our relationship a chance. She's not just some woman anymore, she's become more to me than life. I love that she pushes me to be a better man, I love being needed by her. Because of that I push her to be a better person, I show her ways to live without me.
I try to cherish this gift that it is to share life with another. That is the thought I bring to mind when things get hard. Life will come to an end before I know it, what a blessing it is to find happiness in it.
do you guys have a traditional household or nah?
This is the most wholesome thing I’ve ever read in a comment
Hmm did you get married when she was 28 or so?
i want my husband to describe me like this ❤
future*
For both: God-fearing and centered, extremely loyal, dedicatedly monogamous, family-oriented, excellent communicator, fiscally responsible, and a solid partner especially when life is hard. Bonus points for cooking, cleaning, and car fix-it capabilities. Everything else is icing on the cake.
So a what have you done for me lately type.
@@johnconnor2753 No the "life is hard and complicated, but each of us supports and helps and loves the other unconditionally no matter what because that's what marriage means" type. Lean into one another's strengths, make up for one another's weaknesses, and keep God at the center of it all to finish the race well.
personally I think its different between men and women..women want to have a high value man as a partner but thats not the case with men..to me the high value woman is the mother and the grandmother the woman with the wisdom and life experience..but who I want to f is mostly the pretty dumb young little girl who isnt wise or experienced....which is not a high value woman
saying "i want a devoted woman" is deemed a domestic abuse crime by feminists. it is considered controlling behaviour.
Failed on 1st point lol, but solid answer.
I think everyone knows what a high value person is. The people who get mad at the question most likely don’t want to do what it takes to become one. Everyone values loyalty, discipline, virtue, ambition, and compassion. Some people want a partner that is held to that standard but don’t want to do it themselves.
I can agree with many of those but I don't care how ambitious my partner is. I want a relaxed comfortable life not one where we push ourselves and work overly hard. Work hard enough to support ourselves but there is no need for a lavish lifestyle.
Respectful, honest, gracious, humble, compassionate, agreeable, and physically fit.
So brett
@@michaelhenar 👌
@@michaelhenar how is Brett agreeable?
loyal
Has morals
I have done so much to feel so devalued, along with guilt and shame unfortunately. But since I have started watching you and other creators like you, I have started to change the way I think and act. I have started to think and act like the things I do value. Keep doing these videos in positive light because there are girls, as well as women who are watching. ❤
Jesus was stripped naked in front of hundreds of roman soldiers. He was mocked, spit on and tortured. He voluntarily subjected himself to this shame and humiliation to take away your shame and your guilt. He conquered it all at the cross. He took away all your sins and offers the free gift of his righteousness in return. As impossible as it seems, you are totally and completely forgiven. ❤
@@eltyo340 ugh shut up
Great comment.
And well done. You do matter. What you say & do does matter.
Keep working on yourself, so you can inspire others to improve themselves too. Not now, if u don't feel ready, but in the future.
Sorry there are so many "sl*t shamers out there who want women with an unblemished past, yet they themselves are not Virgins.
I'm right there with you. When we know better we do better.
Thanks for the breakdown video, Brett! Love your work. 🤝🏻
As for what makes a high-value partner, I think they’re fundamentally supportive of you and your vision for the future.
But…
Having said that, men and women tend to have different strengths (e.g. nurture vs provide-protect) that stem from biological roots and they also tend to like being supported in different ways (e.g. my girlfriend likes me paying for things and being aggressively protective when necessary, whereas I like being cooked for).
In that sense, there is a general difference between what men and women select for in a long-term partner and that means the answer to ‘what is a high-value man’ and ‘what is a high-value woman’ (within the sexual marketplace) is different.
If you’re interested in unpacking this in more depth and understanding how it ties in with our biology (namely, women’s ability to be pregnant and give birth), I run through it in the intro to the full episode (th-cam.com/video/eN20WC0BRHs/w-d-xo.html).
I love the concept of the channel. Discovered it recently and instantly subscribed.
Brett cooper, will you marry me?
Honestly, my self-image was so low that my standard was anyone who would give me positive attention. I wasn't a bad looking guy, but I just never got that kind of attention. When I eventually met my wife, we had very similar upbringings, had very similar values, and just 'got' each other. Her body type wasn't one that I would have normally chased after, but our connection was undeniable. We compliment each other's lifestyles in that we each have roles we play in our household. Sure I find younger women attractive, but I have no desire to go for that. Also, I know that I wouldn't find that same connection with a 20-something.
For a high valued woman for me are 3 things Personality, Loyalty and Self respect for the relationship and themselves. Being able to laugh with each other and have good long sometimes meaningful conversations are key factors to a healthy relationship with bith sides. Looks fade, Personality is forever.
Can I ask you, are you a man or a woman? I am curious about it. I agree with your opinion
Except man keep going for looks
@@libelinhaa2079 not true. I have been working several years as a make up artist for models, so I know many incredibly beautifull models who had so much problems with man, being used or not being able to have a long term healthy relationship.
And I know woman not so good looking who got great husbands.
How do you explain this if all that matters are the looks? Then all models would be in happy relationships.
I can tell you many many of them are single and emotionally struggling.
If you think its all about the meat you have a very poor understanding of human beings.
I am not saying looks doesn't matter but there are a tome of psychological aspects involved on it, when a man likes a woman.
To start with , some man marry woman who have psychological qualities similar to their mothers.
So if it was all about the meat and it was that simply, psychologist and therapist wouldn't find any correlation between the parents a man has and the woman he chooses.
But there is.
Also as a woman who has 4 brothers, I have seen their girlfriends, and the one they ended up crazy in love with or ended up marrying haven't been necessarily the most good looking one.
Some man they use the excuse that " woman just go for rich guys" to explain why their love life is not going well.
Some woman do the same just they say for man its all about the looks..
The truth is, the reasons are always much deeper and if you honestly look around you will see it.
Also, being single doesn't't invalidate you as a person. You can be the best person ever and be single.
But if you don't address the deeper reasons why, and keep thinking that it is just the other gender's fault because they are shallow...
Then you may miss having an awesome love story, just because you didn't address the psychological blockages coming from your childhood which may be the real blockage for not having love in your life, and which can be easily removable.
This is just a friendly advice.
I wish you happiness
@@Yulia.chandrika that's why so many man seek woman on Instagram because they can see all of their philological traits. Obviously I'm not saying all man are the same but a large percentage will go for young girls who all look very similar
@@libelinhaa2079 I don't know what country you live in maybe it is like that in America but in my country, I never ever met a guy through instagram or know anyone who met somebody in this way.
Also again this may be something from my culture but few woman I know show their full body on instagram.
Also, you completely missed my point.
High-value woman: mentally strong/tough, refuses to be controlled by her emotions (instead controls her emotions), is not desperate for a man, but wants one to start a family with, doesn't sleep w/ anything that moves (low/no body count), caring, nurturing, supportive, industrious
High-value man: mentally strong/tough, recognizes that his wife/gf is the "weaker vessel" and takes care of her, doesn't lord over her but leads by example, doesn't sleep w/ anything that moves (low/no body count), protective, good provider, selfless (low ego), kind
Some apply to both (other than the ones I listed in both), but I partially selected based on tendencies (men tend to be more concerned w/ ego, women tend to be more emotional, etc.).
weaker vessel? wtf
Kind, respectful, loyal, loving, and takes care of themselves both mentally and physically. What I look for
Someone who is Emotionally mature and willing to work on themselves regardless of their personal flaws and don't try to mask insecurities with excuses, I can work with that. We all have our own personal problems and no one wants to get hurt but the best relationships take the most work.
So glad you included Rich in this segment!! His videos are super informational and approaches the situation with tons of facts!!! Love Common Ground Conversations
A High-Value Woman to me is one that synergies with me in completing objectives. She knows her strengths and weaknesses and selects roles in the relationship that she's good at that works alongside my best roles. We learn from each other and she eventually figures out how I would handle a problem, without me being involved and i trust she did what i would've done or did her best to handle any problem. We work as a TEAM to fight the world and not each other.
This! Thats why I cant mess with that Andrew Tate stuff relationships are are a partnerships and there places where i lack and she makes up for it and vice versa. For example my gf is better than me at budgeting so thats an example of something she would take the lead in or be able to teach me something about.
@@ihateanimebutonlywhenitiso7227 Yah, i also understand that my example of a High-Value women is rare and Tate highlights examples of those who have different understandings of what is a high value partner to them. I especially feel said for those that think all their value to the relationship is sex.
Cis Chinese man here, who else is gonna think about Brett in the bath tub 2nite?
@@ihateanimebutonlywhenitiso7227 you let yo gurl dominate you oh hellw nag
but are you guys traditional in dynamics or nah?
A high value woman is confident but not arrogant. She doesn’t need to dress scantily but not a prude. Cares about her appearance but not vain. She is supportive and caring of her spouse but not a doormat. She is nurturing, kind and loving but not suffocating. Her strengths compliment those of her spouse. They help each other to be better people. She is someone with whom you can build a life together.
As a fat 35 year old woman who can’t have children and has baggage….I know I would be considered “low value” by most men today. That absolutely holds me back from finding love. The thought that I’d be someone’s second or even last option is so off putting. I’d rather be on my own and keep improving my own situation and growing in my career than be someone a man just settles for.
Hello. I came across your comment cuz I was feeling a little beat myself and the way I look. One thing I remember is that we all can have those moments. I know I'm just some random dude on the internet and it may not mean much, but you are actually quite pretty. If you desire it, you can change your weight. It's not easy and can take time but it's quite possible.
I know a lot of videos online today connect a lot of a woman's value to her ability to have children. There is so much more that women bring to men, to relationships, to other women and to society than that. You will absolutely find a man that does not need or want kids.
Baggage? Well, don't we all. I know i do! haha. I believe that's life. The challenge is how well we manage and pack our bags.
I hope I did not come off insensitive with any of the above. Of course I have no idea what your life is like, but from the little window in to your life that I saw from your comment, I just want some positive vibes your way. Wishing you the best.
@@ItsAZbaby I have actually lost 30kg (70lb) but I’m still larger. I will never be skinny, I’m not built like that, and I have PCOS and I’m on a medication that’s horrible for weight gain. But I can’t not take it. I’m doing my best though.
I’ve been single for 12 years because dating is just too upsetting. I’ve only ever dated one guy that treated me well. The rest would be nasty to me, and one even outright abused me and tried to unalive me twice. Guys would want to sleep with me, but refused to introduce me to their friends or family because of my weight. It’s just too hard and too depressing. I’m sure there some amazing men out there…but they don’t go for me. Why would they, when they can have a skinny healthy girl without medical issues or baggage? No, it’s best that I stay on my own.
Your size doesn't affect your value. Be confident, respect yourself,ove yourself and becoming healthier will come naturally and so will relationships.
I’ve got to disagree. I believe that it’s your constructs that could also be contributing to holding you back from love…because everyone wants to date people who focus on them, are caring and nurturing, and frankly, interested in the relationship vs career only. And if these are the clear reasons why you know you don’t have love in your life then (age aside), the solution is to work on them, not avoid them by spending your time and efforts elsewhere.
Unless this is how you like your life…in which case, I don’t understand why you would say you’re being held back-that implies that it’s something you want, on the other side.
@@lindseymiller8165stop lying to her. if she lost weight and work on herself physically then her chances will increase. her baggage nothing will change if she holds on to them. come to terms with it and don't burden other people with it. get a psychiatrist if its difficult. love will you when you take care of yourself.
Mutual respect, loyalty and affection for each other, male and female. If you DON'T have those things first and foremost, the rest literally does NOT matter. That's how I see things at least. Also it is so VERY important to first respect and love yourself before being able to truly give that love and respect to someone else.
I'd say a high value woman is protected by her family, has high morals, a really bubbly positive attitude but is very pure at heart. She's also very kind and empathetic towards humanity and animals and eagerly wants to make people happy, especially the people closest to her. She is something that must be earned not bought. And of course very loyal to whoever gets to be with her in the end. She doesn't have any number of body counts, she's just patiently waiting for the right one to marry. Understanding that short-term satisfaction will end up only to be a devastating loss.
That first interaction was a literal "Twitter the only place where well articulated sentences get misinterpreted" moment
That blond guy just wanted to be confrontational.
My respect for Brett increased immeasurably after that aside about Andrew Tate.
As a 13 year old male (born and raised) who has been raised around a lot of adults and I haven’t dated someone, I think that a high value female is someone who is kind and decently attractive but mainly just caring
You’re wise beyond your years. My advice as a 31 year old man… don’t look just on the surface, because beauty disappears, but love, care, nurturing, support, understanding, loyalty, respect, etc. last forever
Yes, but please go live your life and experience real interactions in the real world. Don’t let the internet affect how you see the opposite gender at such a young age. I’m concerned you’re even here😭
Thx you guys I’ve dated someone now and then read these comments and you both are right
To me a High valute woman Is the opposite of woman Who cheats
You are smarter than most of the people on here. Keep thinking that. You are correct
I think this is a topic that needs to be framed carefully in order for everyone to remain on the same page during the discussion. I got the sense that most people were understanding the question to be about the worth of an individual in society, rather than the desired traits of a long term partner. So then everyone was taking things too personally and missing the point of his question. It was honestly fascinating to see how the discussions played out because of that.
then just ask what are your " desired traits of a long term partner" instead of making it sound like you are picking a woman out of a catalog. I'd like the "High value one please"
@@SerenaHung Hindsight is 20/20.
There were times where he tried to clarify(ie he talked about what men look for in a long term partner), but I'm not sure he was fully understanding where the miscommunication was occurring, so he struggled to get past that. He got a little better at framing it near the end of his video, which he does acknowledge.
Doesn't really help that the more precise question is rather long to be putting on the sign he's wearing.
@@allisk8001 Well "What women do men tend to choose" is exactly one word or 5 letters longer than "What is a high value woman"? So, no, I think this is not about hindsight (evaluating the value of someone by the way the opposite gender wants them to be tells you a lot about this persons views) but about trying to be click-baity bt then screwing up because of it.
@@Smiuley Did you even watch his video? It is absolutely a hindsight issue.
Poster design isn't just about phrase length, but also phrase readability and recognition. People take shortcuts when reading and clump words together, generally prioritizing familiar phrases, nouns, and verbs. People are already familiar with "High value man/woman" and "What is a woman" so putting the two together is easy to read and the important part is easy to spot. (fyi, the back of his sign says "What is a high value man" too).
"What women do men tend to choose" is a messy sentence and is not as "iconic". Where is the important part? It's harder to find the emphasis. "Women men choose" is not a concise collection of words. Therefore, people won't bother to address it. It doesn't help him in the goal to spark a discussion and find common ground.
(You also managed to completely misunderstand his point too. It's more about the values a partner should hold(loyalty, honesty, work ethic), and less about an evaluation or measurement of worth.)
I understand why he would choose what he did for the sign, but it was poor wording to set up this particular discussion with.
@@allisk8001 Then he could have gone with "What women do you like?" or sth. Obviously, being a "high value women/man" isn't as common of phrase as you make it out to be. Otherwise it would have been understood by everyone. But it wasn't.
Thank you for highlighting this phrase!! And High Value Man. So many content creators are using these words in pursuading our young people on a standard that's based on worldly and venal values only. A high value man should be allowed to cheat? A high value woman should allow her man to cheat? I hardly ever hear words like faith, moral or spiritual integrity
Till women quite cheating at higher rates then men. I will not take women seriously in anyway. Cheating or not so its doesn't matter
it's called evolutionary biology dude its not cheating--a man spreads his speed a woman gets the best seed from the best man hence stronger kids----dont fight evolutionary biology as the leftist progressive feminists are trying to do.
High value man is defined by women, they determine who is most desirable. Women want exceptional men, but that comes at a cost.
@@Hatrimn I'm not defined by no women .. I can't agree with that.
Because her values maybe less than my own.
There no such thing as an expectational man or women ,concidering we are all flawed.
That doesn't come with a high cost but unrealistic expectation.
@@deliriouswhome1 You can believe whatever you want about yourself but if you don't have more dating options than the average man, then you are not a high value man. Women pursue certain types of men over the rest, therefore they determine who is high value.
A high value woman is one who loves. A mother, wife, daughter, or friend.
Wrong. A high value woman isn't necessarily those things.
Nah even a sl*t will love you if you pay money, doesn't make her high value
Nah, all those women’s are high value, but not all high value women are
alright. but that could be like every woman. all women are naturally nurturing and love to love so i dont necessarily get this. Why would YOU choose the one woman out of the 4billion on the planet. What's so special about her, if there's nothing than reconsider why you chose her in the first place? Was it because of looks? Because that doesn't make you a very high-value man if you think that's gonna make you love her or make you happy for the rest of your life. You don't have to be a mother to be high-value, or a wife, or a daughter, or a friend. You can just be a good person and be high-value. That's really all that matters.
Definitely not.
I married my husband because he is very classy. He has a great personality, is unique and honest. He usually keeps to himself, but as we hung out I found that we actually have same views. We didn’t have much common interests, but as time passed by we grew to like what each other likes. He is a very compassionate human being.
Coming from a problematic household, I learned to always put myself first. So I didn’t really believe I can spend my whole life with one person, and can love them selflessly. I still don’t know if my love to him is 100% selfless(it’s also very scary to me to do that) but I can’t think of myself sharing my life with someone else. I’ve healed a lot after being with him, maybe one day I will find confidence in my love to him.
9:30 is absolutely true. when boys become men, we get the sudden urge to want to protect, serve and provide for women and children. its just in our nature and you cant take that way from us.
I love how real Brett is with us 😂❤
edit: I didn’t mean to spark a war in the replies 👁️ 👄 👁️
y’all need to chill FR-
She isn’t as real as you think.
@@MrCool144 You are the type of dude that would have everything you could ever have emotionally, mentally and physically, and still find something to b!tch about.
@@FabulosoSpray prove it
@@MrCool144 look at your channel, that says everything about you without speaking a word. Maybe you'll find a pair beyond the ice wall. Good luck
@@FabulosoSpray so ice means I complain? Your profile pic is a branch. I’m pretty sure your a bot aren’t you?
Honesty, loyalty, and communication is what makes a high-value woman. Those are the most important parts of any relationship. Good luck and be safe out there. God bless you all.
When women bash men… or when men feel like they aren’t doing enough… it just makes me wanna give all these poor guys a hug. Guys, you don’t deserve all this. Please, find yourself a nice girl who truly does value you because you DESERVE that. They ARE out there, and they’d love to spend their lives with a nice man like you
"I'm already upset!"
me opening Twitter every morning lol
@Олена буличева with that color of hair I'm skeptical
“Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.”
Proverbs 31:25-26 ESV
I was hoping someone else thought of this as well.
PREACH IT! Amen
Eve and Delilah
@@johnconnor2753 why come on here and be a demon?
@@chu123TIN why perpetrate a lie?
One thing that frustrates me while trying to find a romantic partner is the fact that I am a little older than most single people. I'm in my late 30's, never married or even engaged. I was in 2 long term relationships that I thought were headed towards marriage, in hindsight I should have ended them sooner and knew I did deserve better than emotional abuse, I was not my most confident self back then.
I have a good job, work out, I have my own production company, I love to cook, I'm a Christian so some pretty great qualities that I hear men look for. However, I find a LOT of conservative men I speak to or who comment on women over a certain age being single, I feel lumped in with the loud, blue haired feminists who have 10 cats and hooked up with everything that moved. Which is NOT me at all. I'm nervous about putting myself out there now :(
I know my value, but what do you do if the world is not seeing it?
I am in the same boat as you. 39, never married or have kids, few bad relationships. To echo to what you mentioned, the lack of self confidence and also, the high pressure from society to be married by a certain age as a female, with the constant reminder of the biological clock ticking.
I also cross "conservative " men who have the same opinions. But what I often ask myself if, what makes his conservative. Is it just the typical adjectives that describe someone as a conservative. A real man will not look at a woman for her age, rather he will get to know her for who she is, and vice versa. He will be a man of God. Many of these conservative men think that if they have a little more masculinity in them , that identifies them as a conservative. Use your discernment wisely. The right will notice your value, and fight for you (and vice versa). it doesnt go one way
Go passport bro. Grab someone out of country. There’s a very low probability you’ll get anyone around here that’s gonna work out nowadays, sadly.
Between all the “traditional dating” with low success rate. Just get that money and retire early or similar or just grab someone out of country and come back
My auntie had grown up children at 45 and got a divorce. She decided that she doesn't what to be alone and found a wonderful husband a few years older, who is very generous, they got a dog, she retired early started painting and is happy. There will be someone for you, you just have to keep looking
Here's my advice to take or leave as you see fit, in case it helps at all:
If you aren't having luck meeting someone organically in your everyday life, don't be afraid to try dating apps. I tried just waiting for something to happen in my life for a while because I thought that would be better than ending up on a dating site, but after a while decided that wasn't working. Obviously avoid the sleazy hookup apps, but maybe try to look for one that's geared more toward people wanting something lasting. I met my husband on one a few years ago and can't imagine finding someone more suited to build my life with.
If you make an honest profile that states who you are and what you're looking for, there are still good people looking for other good people in the world. I was upfront on my profile about wanting to find someone to settle down with, I listed my religious beliefs and my political leaning because I knew I wouldn't settle for someone I'd have to disagree with on fundamental things. I was also worried about putting myself out there, but I think finding the right person was worth being rejected a few times.
Don't abandon your convictions and the person who is drawn to those convictions will find you even if the rest of the world isn't seeing you. Other than that, you are already doing the right thing by knowing your value, that seems to be half the battle for a lot of people.
Yep. Men my age want 20 year olds. But if I date an older man I’m looking at having to care for a sick and dying husband by the time I hit late 40’s/early 50’s. I’ve never been married and I don’t have kids. I work hard as a nurse, I invest a lot of money into my appearance, I volunteer, I’m funny and cheeky and full of life. But I’m considered low value because I’m fat and 35.
"The sin that has the greatest hold on your life is the one you are most defensive about." I feel like that quote sums up this video perfectly.
hi! this was actually talked about in my church, a good thing to look for in a women is someone who will care for children, the house, and the husband, i forgot the word that he said. and a good thing to look for in a husband is someone who will be protective for children, house, and the wife. and both ways, they should love each other the way that the lord loves them.
Respect to Brett for criticizing Andrew Tate. While I think he’s a very important figure for young men, his views on men being able to cheat and be promiscuous are definitely worth criticism to say the least…
I'll be honest. In high-school I was the "player" after high-school I did a complete 180 and now am proud of who I turned into. I'm not ashamed of who I was. I regret the way I treated girls but my past and what I overcame made me who I am today
For me the quality of a high value woman is when she's her authentic, weird, and best version of herself. She respects people and herself and doesn't allow anyone who disrespects her and her people. She appreciates and cherishes every single person in her life for who they are and support them to become the best version of themselves as well. A high value woman is honest but also kind. She knows her worth and value.
It’s pretty simple. Loyalty, honesty, and faithfulness. That’s by far the biggest part of it.
Self-respect, compassion, modesty, a good sense of humor, intelligence and loyalty are some of the qualities I find to be high value. You can't build a relationship on looks alone (at least not a healthy one).
Hi Brett! Mark Barry from South Africa. Just watched this and as a teacher one of my greatest challenges is getting learners to think for themselves. I teach high schoolers and very often they cannot do this. In this video, with the exception of the one gentleman, those being interviewed could not answer a simple question without being triggered in some way. Keep up the good work.
If you listen to Jordan Peterson talking about teaching people to think for themselves he says they have done studies and you cannot teach people to think for themselves. They either can do it or they cannot.
@stormmiller4886. Totally disagree. Thinking is a skill, and like any skill it can be learnt. Sure, some are better at it than others, but you can develop your thinking skills. As much as I love Jordan Peterson, he is not the only authority on thinking. As a psychologist I am sure he will tell you that if you change your thinking, you can change your behavior.
@@Justsomenerd69 Everyone can think for themselves, many just choose not too. Jordan Peterson is right about some things but he can still be flat out wrong as well.
I understand that. Everyone is right sometimes and wrong sometimes. I just sourced him as the one I had heard it from and he said that there was research to back it. I don't know how much I believe it but I wouldn't be all that surprised it there were people that aren't all that capable of it as I see them everywhere. Most people that I see are very hive minded and only do things other people tell them are okay to do and only think the way others tell them is okay to think. I see plenty of people that don't think for themselves. @@Kitsuragi556
children cannot think for themselves sometimes, which is why it's so important to train their problem-solving abilities. We never stop growing and learning, and if it's possible for children to learn to think for themselves, of course we can too!@@Justsomenerd69
Maslow's hierarchy of needs pretty well nails it in terms of evaluation of 'value' by humans based on their needs in any given situation as demonstrated in the first four minutes of the video where the apparently mentally disturbed individual went with the trained/institutionalized answer while the seemingly well adjusted individual considered the question and formulated his own interpretation/answer and presented it free of currently socially acceptable terms/buzzwords.
Bwahahahaha _“my disappointment is immeasurable and my day is ruined”_ @ReporterOfTheWeek clip was priceless 🤣🤣🤣 2:54
you can pretty much boil it down to three/four things that men care about.
#1. be loyal and don't have an insane body count
#2. don't be argumentative for no reason, men like their peace
#3. perform the role you both agreed upon aka both working / full time mom depending on if you have kids
The thing I admire most about my husband is the fact that he feels the need to protect me and my dogs and one day our child. He makes jokes about our big dogs “job” is to protect me and the smaller dogs from an intruder or larger animal and it makes me feel warm inside and it makes me excited to see him as a father some day
This isn’t the only thing I love about him obviously but this is one of the big things he does subconsciously and subtly that I notice and it makes me happy
Aww❤
I asked my husband this question. He says that he sees me as a "high value" woman. I keep up the house, make sure he is taken care of, and that I show him loyalty, love, and adoration. The bonus is that I cook a lot of things homemade and that I do work part-time. I do not have to. I choose to because I do not want to rely 100% on him. I have my own $$ to contribute to the house. Also the fact that we are a team, and I act accordingly.
where have all the cowboys gone? They certainly aren't on college campuses
I'm glad you think of your relationship as a team rather than a competition.
And what does he do? 😂😂😂😂 Just work and be lazy? You work, do every chore imaginable and take care of him. Sounds like you have a man baby 😂😂
@@asshole_by_nature sounds like ur a bit salty that u will never have a caring partner
@@BeastGotClipped I'm already married babe but hell I'm glad that I'm lesbian and didn't marry a man baby who can't do anything on his own and make the women do everything. Creatures like that are the worst next to incels 😆 And if he let's his women do absolutely everything including working than he can't care that much 🤣
That first guy is exactly why these Discussions are SO HARD to maintain.
My wife is high value, and it’s the greatest thing in the world. I look at other relationships and every day I thank the heavens I found her. Smart, sweet, pretty, thin, kinky, hard working, cooks, cleans, cares for me, supports me in every way, is happy to just be around me if I’m doing something else. She does so much sometimes all I can do in return is provide protecting and show her my undying love and affection every day. I see all these women and just cringe. I got 100% lucky as all hell.
"Let me tell you that I as a WOMAN decide what is a woman of high value for YOU MEN."
What a nice person, he takes the weight off me of having my own opinion and mind. Again, why is it that fewer and fewer men want to date and have relationships?
My guy friends, and I, ask ourselves the same thing about women. Seems like most nowadays aren't looking for commitment, due to the major shifts in our cultural focus.
Couldnt tell if the question was rhetorical or not, I don't want a relationship because the next one I want to be my last. And a quality, SINGLE girl hasnt presented themselves to me in over 3 years. Im not going to try and take someone else's girlfriend. She's out their somewhere, and i will find her eventually. Best i can do is to keep working on myself. Im tired of the games, im tired of the trash. It isnt worth it
It never comes down to one thing, for me, it's loyalty, respect, being able to lean on each other during hard times and having someone you can open up to, taking care of each other mentally and physically, commitment and building a life together. Men and women working together for a future. This is all based on a relationship.
I am a high value woman married to a high value man. I am pregnant with our 4th child and I homeschool our children. I started out as a terrible cook, but I have worked very hard at it and now I cook quite well (I'm very proud of that 😊). My heart is for nurturing and serving my family.
My husband is strong, courageous, honest, hard working and steady. He has always provided for us, even when times have been tough. He doesn't care at all what people think of him and he does what he sees as being right and good. He lives to serve and care for our family and people in need.
We work together as a team, with equally important but different roles. We both put each other first. To me that is what high value means.
I new society went down hill but without Brett, I wouldn´t know how bad.
We all should thank Brett and her team for searching for these kinda videos without loosing their minds and stay sane.
I binge watched today this channel....I can´t believe people like that exist
4:44 YES! I'm a man, and I agree! Women need to hold us accountable for our body counts as well!
I was recently listening to a podcast by a sweet Christian couple, and they talked about how things had gotten out of hand with the wife helping in the family business and she had to step back and let him take over more and they said this, “Men are like semi trucks - they drive better with a heavy load.” Interesting way to think about it.
Answer: Brett Cooper
how someone treats others is definitely an indicator of someone’s ‘value’. that’s definitely one of the first things you should pay attention to when you meet someone.
I don’t think it’s good for anyone to get around too much. It never ends well in the long run.
Women will never be honest about that
High value(With regard to relationships): Wants to be around me, is loyal, is honest, has integrity, loves herself, is a GIVER, and doesn't give up when life becomes difficult. It's amazing how hard it is to find someone with even ONE of those qualities.
I'd say typically you'll find people who have most, if not all of these qualities, or none at all, and very few in-betweens, because all of those qualities stem from the same roots ; the traditions and duties we as a society have tragically abandoned. The qualities or lack thereof also build on one another. Somebody who has integrity and a sense of self-worth is unlikely to be disloyal or give up when the going gets rough, and vice-versa.
I have 3 women that loved and protect me, My mom, my grandma, and my sister, they are the ones that always on my side no matter what happens to me, love me at my lowest, cheer me at my highest, so a good and value women are capable of loving, simple as that.
Ehh and then there are men that consider your sister low value because they are changing their standards as they speak
@@splendiddox6408 sure, change whatever standard they want, everyone has choices.
High Value (independent of gender):
- Kind
- Dedicated to the faith
- Anti-abortion
- Highly intelligent
- Bilingual or trilingual
- Empathetic
- Tenacious
- Does not smoke/drink/vape/use drugs/chew tabacco.
- Funny
- Musically talented
- Volunteers (especially in a church leadership capacity)
- Respectful
- Is waiting for marriage (even if they haven't in their past, but are now).
- Honest
- Exercises regularly (but not obessively)
- Great with kids and animals
- Communicative
- Does their own dishes and laundry
Brett’s a high value woman. She’s smart, pretty, wise, young and she protects her value. We need more women like Brett.
what do you mean Brett "protects her value?" Like Hailee Steinfield protecting her value? And how does a Man "protect his value'? Or is there a double standard with whose value is "protected"?
so only young women are high value? as soon as you're 30 you're worthless? damn.
How to stop being an Incel. Step 1: don't call a woman you like "high value," because that implies that she could lose that "high value." She's not a steak.
I'd say a high value woman is protected by her family, has high morals, a really bubbly positive attitude but is very pure at heart. She's also very kind and empathetic towards humanity and animals and eagerly wants to make people happy, especially the people closest to her. She is something that must be earned not bought. And of course very loyal to whoever gets to be with her in the end. She doesn't have any number of body counts, she's just patiently waiting for the right one to marry. Understanding that short-term satisfaction will end up only to be a devastating loss.
@@cooliipie just tell her she has these things but don't tell she's a "high value woman" and what kind of body count are you allowed to get away with, since she apparently can only have a zero count, good luck finding that in anyone over 12 in 2023
You say “i don’t want to do it”
They hear “that’s not good enough for you, and so you’re judging me for doing it.”
You stated a preference
They got offended
I'd say a high value woman is protected by her family, has high morals, a really bubbly positive attitude but is very pure at heart. She's also very kind and empathetic towards humanity and animals and eagerly wants to make people happy, especially the people closest to her. She is something that must be earned not bought. And of course very loyal to whoever gets to be with her in the end. She doesn't have any number of body counts, she's just patiently waiting for the right one to marry. Understanding that short-term satisfaction will end up only to be a devastating loss.
Ew...
Aww. You'll find her. Sounds like a princess
For me, from this description you want some naive woman. I don't think, it's a good way. If mother is primary care giver and if she is, then she is installing values in children. You don't want somebody naive, because you don't want your children to be naive. Caring and nice is not enough.
I think a low body count is a giant factor in attractiveness, especially for men. I've heard of men breaking up with with their otherwise perfect girlfriend, because she had a high body count.
I would break up with a man if he had big body count.
That he probably had no problem adding to, which is the ironic part
@@the_rachel_sam No not really. "Adding to the body count" is only about physical attractiveness. Having a relationship is about much more.
@@mima_piedade But you wouldn't date a guy with a low body count. Women generally don't like men with little sexual experience.
@@zerothehero448 Why not? In a lot of cultures and religions, it's normal for men to wait until marriage. I don't really see the issue.
Brett How are you pushing out so much content so fast
I know! I wanna say I miss the fewer videos but these are equally entertaining. Quality is also quantity for Brett haha
Time travel
When turning your hobby into a profession. Think outside the box.
A team of writers
Haha I know! hard work. She writes her shows at night and then she records multiple in a day so they can get edited by a large team of editors to then get posted.
7:45 "anything but losing weight" is the most accurate quote(someone online said it)
A high value partner, I think is someone who compliments and shares your personal values, but also challenges you to be a better person and make changes in your life for the better.
You should check out Chris Williamson’s recent interviews about female competition and friendship. It explains why women might be reacting to the question about “high value females” so defensively - because most women have a strong instinct to pretend like women are all equal. Same reason a lot of women have a hard time accepting compliments. Very interesting and explains so much!
Cis Chinese man here, who else is gonna think about Brett in the bath tub 2nite?
What?!?!
Love your content Brett!!
Speaking as a former ‘girl boss,’ I’m finding what I appreciate most now is someone who gives me the opportunity to be feminine and a lot less masculine. I know that I /can/ be masculine and fight the ‘good’ fight, but as I soldier on, I’m looking for that person (that I can trust, align values with, connect with, etc.) to be masculine so that I don’t have to.
Interesting convo!
@dlairdiablo Haha, well, I guess there’s no pulled punches on the internet: yes, I now get that guys prefer that I be myself as a woman rather than being ‘a man’
@dlairdiablo Thanks for the follow up. I’m genuinely sorry to hear that you have been through all that. CA is a tough place to be right now for many reasons…
To share, (and I will preface that I was a more mild girl boss) I genuinely thought I was trying to take care of myself and other women (a few women I hold dear were screwed over by their man pretty hard and left in financial ruin) and I mistakenly lent my energy to the wrong cause and felt (years later) manipulated as a result. Its not right that the newest trend is to emasculate men and shame women for embracing motherhood and their femininity (myself included). I honestly didn’t see the forest for the trees for a long time. That’s not to dismiss or excuse. Just to share.
Only way is to move forward, as none can change the past, and for me, I’m grateful to say that I embraced my femininity before I lost my humanity.
My hope, in sharing all this, is that you are able to find some strength, peace and healing (even if only a little) in a former (mild) girl boss waking up and denouncing her former shell, and that it means there’s hope for more women to do the same.
@dlairdiablo For some context,I haven’t been what’s considered a girl boss for several years (and it wasn’t called that then).
Reflecting on things, no, I can’t say it was stupid. It was ill informed and misguided, but not stupid. I do not deny my agency or apathy during that time, but I do think that hurt and angry people can be impressionable, and, that I was. I think the tendency is to want to fight fire with fire not caring if the whole world burns, and that’s what drew me in. Add to the mix that I knew I was smart and strong, and there being a large absence of cultural willingness to pair femininity with either of those traits, and I honestly thought in order to be myself, I had to choose not to be feminine. It’s (or at least was) unfortunately a radical idea to be a smart, strong, feminine woman, and those who are seem to be hidden from the role-model lime light to inspire others.
It’s interesting you bring up girls night, because harassment on said night was part of my formation as a girl boss. My friends and I were saying we weren’t there (at a club in Boston) to pick up guys and we were consistent (I.e. we weren’t making exceptions for more attractive men), and a couple of guys got really REALLY upset. I honestly promise you that we weren’t rude or mean, just a polite “sorry dude, it’s an honest girls only night.” That paired with Weinstein actually being a terrible human being, and Epstein in there too, and throw in a dash of working in a male dominated industry and suffering first hand from a boss that thinks what you did is lesser because he struggles with his own self confidence, and you get women who listen to the wrong message: that we would be better off without men altogether.
I think what is interesting, looking back, is all those times that “toxic masculinity” was called out, not once was there a grasp what either masculinity and femininity actually consisted of. There are terrible people, and some of them men, but that doesn’t mean we are better off without men or masculinity, as is sold then and today.
As for Amber Heard, I can’t say I think even the feminists were happy about what she did. The only thing those folks hate more than red is a woman who lied about being sexually assaulted.
Finally, I think you are right to be careful who you help. And as the saying goes, no pearls before swine. For what it’s worth, whenever a guy chooses to go out of his way for me, I genuinely thank him and recognize the rarity, and am careful to not take it for granted.
Knowledge is power. Experience is golden. And healthy growth from pain seems to be the only way to heal and instigate necessary change.
That’s all for me. All the best to you @dlairdiablo
I'm still in my girl boss era 💅
Conditional femininity isn't a thing. You are either feminine or masculine.
In my opinion, a "high value" human is someone who works to improve not only themself, but also the world around them. If you give a little more than you take and extend kindness where possible, you add value.
The only thing "capitalistic" about the question is that when the question is asked, the knee-jerk response is to immediately start talking or thinking about money. If your value is derived by how much money you're bringing to the relationship...... that's a YOU problem. Not capitalism.
It's really not difficult. A high-value woman is someone intelligent, caring, has self-respect, is loyal, has passions or hobbies, looks after her health & is a humble & genuine person. Basically the same as a high-value guy.
I am like that 😎
@@anne6691 😎😎😎😎😎😎😎
@@anne6691 nice👍
A "partner" be it husband or wife, ought to be valued by just how much they care about the other persons wellbeing. Period. It should be reciprocated in equal parts. That, my friend, is what a 50/50 relationship should be in my opinion.
PERIOD.
While true, there is a good saying that needs to be remembered here. If you come into a relationship expecting 50/50, you'll get angry whenever you feel that "fairness" isn't being exactly met. You need to find a good, kind partner who you trust, then after marriage, you both go into it in a 100/0 mindset. If you both of you are trying to give 100 and don't expect a perfect 50 from the other, you'll both be respected and happy. (When we expect things from others, we don't feel as willing to give.)
@@destinyhntr You said it better than I did.
That means my partner and I are in a great relationship :)
Though I already believed that so this might be confirmation bias
Even in Off the Clock, Brett is still technically on the clock.
100% agree. High body counts are gross in both men and women.
My wife and I met in our mid 20's we've been together 15 years. Started out we were living off my modest income and my wife stayed home with our daughter. We've supported each other now I'm clearing 6 figures and she just graduated with her M.S. RN so she is also bringing in 6 figures. We are 100% a team. We've almost 10x our starting income.. Our relationship is based on honesty and trust. We are going to be debt free except our mortgage this year. I'm going to start using our massive cash flow to build houses on the side.
Brett is high-value woman imo cause she has good values, natural beauty, dont be afraid to say what needed to say and she is making all of us smile when throw jokes. One thing is also that you can see in her eyes when she talks about something what she cares and is dear and near to her heart x) keep going!!!
Totally agree with this.
Well, she lacks religious values. Therefore, a pass for me. Though, she would suit a secular conservative.
@@mathematicalgeek8657 if thats only value for u to miss suck to be you. If you hv diff values u should/can work those out so you both are happy. Talking about things in relationships and understanding others probs or "faults" is pretty important imo. Thats how you can make it work. :)
What makes a high value Woman depends on what one is looking for in a Woman. For me beautiful,kind,decent,loyal,faithful and of course a low body count.
What about hypothetical body count? A man who really wants to be promiscuous but can't get as many women as he'd like. How would you categorize that?
I'm asking seriously, because finding a man who doesn't like promiscuity and pornography is like finding a unicorn nowadays.
@@Woo_Woo_Woman how valuable is a virgin to men. Who will only have intimate relations after marriage?
I think most guys agree on the qualities you listed, but may order them differently.
You could be broke, work minimum wage, and be physically average. But if you lack narcissism, aren't on TikTok 24/7, aren't playing the victim card, don't waste your money on "designer brands" and work on yourself mentally and physically. You're a dream. The ultimate potential value.
These days, YES. Absolutely. Which is kinda sad, honestly.
Ha, you just described the lady my nephew married this past December 👍They're both struggling to get by on their own. I do think she's cute, but I know her heart and mindset also... so I may be biased 😂Wish I could 👍your comment twice.
@@ScrappyXFL Your nephew sounds like a HAPPY man. All the luck in the world to you and yours!
@@levigivens Thank you. First wedding I almost cried at... twice 😂I'm a grown man 🤣