Why I Chose to Leave Bedside Nursing as a New Grad Nurse | + Tips to Actually Leave

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  • m here to share my journey from being a new graduate nurse to leaving my first inpatient/bedside nursing position. I also wanted to share some tips on how I finally left bedside nursing.
    Let’s continue the conversation in the comment section below. I would love to hear about your personal nursing experience, whether you are a nursing student, new grad, novice nurse, experienced nurse, etc.
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  • @TheAverageFisherman99
    @TheAverageFisherman99 18 วันที่ผ่านมา +4

    As a nurse myself for the past 22 years, this is 100% accurate.

  • @kind2423
    @kind2423 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +47

    I’m so sorry dear you went through all of that dear. I understand what you are saying. As a black nurse, I went through hell at the bedside. Wouldn’t wish it on anyone.

  • @gingerandspice1209
    @gingerandspice1209 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    New grads ! You have more options out of school than just the hospital. You can do Homehealth, Hospice, peds, skilled nursing facility, and even IV therapy. There is so much.

  • @mcemaryngcobobusisiwe8857
    @mcemaryngcobobusisiwe8857 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +15

    nurses need to be kind to each other cause the job nurses do is not easy team work is important,thank you for sharing your story

  • @natural3378
    @natural3378 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    I can hear the pain and frustration in your voice, almost made me cry because I’m going through the same thing now. Thought something was wrong with me, thought I was stupid, thought I was in over my head. So I left bedside too. I start my dialysis job at fresenus next month. Wish me luck!! And good luck to u sweet mama

    • @KAMROXX2K11
      @KAMROXX2K11 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      How is it going? I recently left my medsurg job after 7 months as a newgrad

    • @natural3378
      @natural3378 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@KAMROXX2K11 so far so good . I love it. Much better than bedside

  • @bribella_xo7083
    @bribella_xo7083 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +23

    Your video was very relatable! 💗 I’ve been a Nurse for almost 7 years and I’m looking to transition into a remote nursing role… possibly Utilization Management. I’m done with the bedside. I’ve given it 6+ years and needless to say it has cost me my mental health.

  • @kaydiangeddes2023
    @kaydiangeddes2023 25 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Well done! It's hard being in an environment where your values, whether it be surrounding health care or life in general, are not shared. That was my experience, and so I've made the leap myself. 10 more shifts to go then outpatient here I come. Never been happier even with the loss of stipend and differential pay 😊

  • @nalaamour
    @nalaamour 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Exactly!!! 💯 People need to stop gaslighting the real reasons why places are short staffed. They BEEN leaving and left BEFORE covid! They want so much from you with all of the unrealistic expectations on top of the treatment and lousy pay. Everybody talking about each other, then smiling in their face is crazy. Management is terrible, ans they need to stop thinking they're doing something with buying pizza! Who wants pizza smh?! I cant stand this profession forreal. You spoke ALL FACTS!!!

  • @akaliapace9428
    @akaliapace9428 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Girl, this was my experience as a tech. The nurses were definitely bullies, especially some of the ones who had.a little authority. Our DON acted like he was afraid of the nurses so every time a tech complained, he would call a meeting to call us out for our "whining" when we would most times work with 1 or 2 techs to 25 patients. Our patients were also patients that required a lot of care, most recovering from hip or knee surgeries, trachs, completely bed bound, etc. I'm in nursing school now and that experience is one of the main reasons why I am against bedside nursing for me. I'm also at a school where they advocate and help you get jobs in specialties that you want. No one is pushing med-surg.

  • @marys3738
    @marys3738 24 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I wanted to be a nurse but when I was doing my research, I came across “nurses eat their young” phrase. I asked nurses and everyone would say “that’s so true!!!” I was like oh hell no! I’m not going into a stressful career to be bullied.

  • @smh2tvb
    @smh2tvb 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    OMG, everything you said I’m experiencing now! 2 months in and ready to go, I’m actually speaking with my unit manager on tomorrow about seeking other opportunities! I would love to speak with the charge nurse, however they’re all friends…. And honestly even if I did have another preceptor I’m over the whole vibe of the floor and can’t imagine working there full time. Everything you said is so spot on. It goes beyond my new grad learning deficits it so much more going on. I find my self unusually nervous, anxious about the next shifts that’s a few days away 😢it’s just a feeling that’s not healthy and not right! I know it will not be easy as a new grad BUT this is just not it !!! Thank you for this it lets me know I’m not crazy ❤😊

    • @loviebills6546
      @loviebills6546 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Wow..this is my exact experience..6 months in and I know this shouldn't be..this could never be right..I already put in my application for another role..I just can't anymore.

  • @user-qy1pg7dl8v
    @user-qy1pg7dl8v 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I agree 💯. Im a new nurse, 9 months now, I switched to pediatric private duty nursing and I absolutely love it 🙏💖🤗. I went from 55 patients bedside to 1 patient. Amen. Also you have great and kind energy, please post more videos! God bless

  • @catherineamanda1034
    @catherineamanda1034 22 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I just came across your channel, and i can relate to everything you said. Ive been going back and forth with the decisions if i should leave my current employment.

  • @sqd8
    @sqd8 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    You hit it on the head with all your points. I am 1.5 year out of school and at the bedside and you said it all. Patient safety only matters when convenient yet the nurse is still liable for the total care of too many acute patients. I too am leaving bedside nursing cause I am not able to be the nurse I know I am supposed to be. I have conviction about that and that's enough.

  • @rosepainting1
    @rosepainting1 20 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    I’m an old nurse, 45 years. I am very sorry. Some of what you explain has been there forever unfortunately. Some of us older nurses have been through it too. Some of us remember and try not to pass the nastiness we can control on.

  • @Sashi96
    @Sashi96 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Girl l could relate to everything you said. It is so sad that these things happen to us new nurses💯 Thank you so much for sharing...I look forward to your other videos❤

    • @nursingwithashley
      @nursingwithashley  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yes, girl!!❤️❤️ Thanks so much for watching!

  • @o.7373
    @o.7373 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Im sorry for your bad experience, i think generally that's the culture in the US!
    Im from Canada and i can tell you from my experience as s new nurse, to every unit i go to as an NRT nurse, everyone was very welcoming, super nice, always willing to help and to teach. Every unit has an educator nurse, amazing team work, amazing managers. Everyone wants you to succeed. I love nursing, i do most medicine units sometimes ED and mental health.
    I think it really depends on the environment as you mentioned and it sounds like you got PTSD from bedside nursing. I jad that kind of experience when i used to work at Walmart back in the day....
    Im glad you found something better!

  • @brianaadamu7160
    @brianaadamu7160 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I’m so sorry that this happened in your experience! I too went through something similar and was bullied when I first started working as a new grad RN and this was when COVID first started. I had no support from my manager at that time but I was able to get in with another preceptor. I made it out of training got my first year done and quit after that. I’ve now been a nurse for four years and become a Charge Nurse. I ended up leaving bedside just because of the toxicity, management pretty much everything you discussed in your video and now I work Dialysis outpatient as a Nurse. It’s definitely a better work life balance.

  • @thosecrazyarkwrights
    @thosecrazyarkwrights 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Nurses eat the young is so true! Also nurse to nurse bulling is horrible!

    • @fnuphurbuchoezom620
      @fnuphurbuchoezom620 6 วันที่ผ่านมา

      very true shouldnt mean to their team,feeling overwelmed

  • @lovejoy4465
    @lovejoy4465 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    You know what I’ve noticed there is a lot of “Gaslighting & Gatekeeping “ in the nursing field which then leads to nurses just kind of figuring things out for themselves only to be corrected and proven to be wrong in the future when a new nurse comes around to question how something is done and that now experienced nurse can’t actually tell them how to do it because they’ve been gaslit & gate-kept so then they repeat the cycle …..and so on and so forth …
    Creating toxic work environments which just gets more toxic with time because there will always be additional “DUTIES/TASKS” thrown upon nurse on a regular bases to add to the already overwhelming job duties

  • @ollyalea7453
    @ollyalea7453 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I am not a new nurse by any means I’ve been a nurse for almost 9 years but this spoke to me so hard. I recently went from being a charge nurse in long term care to the hospital bedside for the experience and girl when I say catty doesn’t begin to describe what I’ve been going through. The bedside is killing me I think I’m going to put in two apps when I get off tonight because this video was my sign. Thank you❤

  • @fatimadiallo6947
    @fatimadiallo6947 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Same here when I was a pct I didn’t see the toxicity and the cattiness but now I’m a nurse I see it all.

  • @emeliag.kolleh828
    @emeliag.kolleh828 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I resonate with this video sis like I’m literally going through similar situation and just going back and forth with the decision although I keep telling myself to just do it and maybe it’ll get better with time but I know it won’t.

  • @jingleinthepalace5083
    @jingleinthepalace5083 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I got you thats what happened to me the preceptor was so mean she didnt want to help me as a graduate nurse and the management left me alone for the first tine i didnt know the ward and patients which was the knew that thats my first duty in the ward that gave so stressed and anxiety every day thats i know i made the right decision to quit last week and now i can smile even i dont have job now il mental health is so important

  • @alastraattisha2970
    @alastraattisha2970 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    The most relatable video!!!!

  • @AD_2314
    @AD_2314 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I wholeheartedly agree with everything you’ve said in this video! 100%! 👏🏼 good for you for listening to your gut and getting out. Nothing is worth your mental health and peace of mind. ❤

  • @irish.7564
    @irish.7564 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    I’m glad you were able escape the toxicity sis! You made all great points, I had the same experience and anxiety. I left bedside about 2 years ago after doing med surg night shift for 5 years for these exact reasons.I too am BSN, RN and it’s sad that you don’t know the behind the scenes issues you may endure as a new grad until you’re in the midst of it. I switched to outpatient office nursing and has been great for me, so many options available. Thank you for sharing! 🤎

  • @TheJoker1716
    @TheJoker1716 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    Girl you might wanna seek therapy cause once you said panic attack that made me nervous. Work shouldn’t make you feel like that and I’ve heard that from many nurses

  • @jeordanchavannes5239
    @jeordanchavannes5239 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Bullying doesn't happen if management doesn't allow it. Co-workers will bully others because they know they will get away with it. The person being bullied usually the ones to go, and the bully stays to attack the next person. I notice bullies usually are friends with the managers.

  • @KandyGTV
    @KandyGTV 19 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Not one lie told. I'm already back in school and I've only been a nurse for a year. I'm giving it one more year and then I'm going PRN until I graduate with my PMHNP.

  • @myimperfectdiary890
    @myimperfectdiary890 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I love having these types of conversations. I had to leave my nursing job in North Carolina due to bullying and discrimination, which took a toll on my mental health.

  • @domj1804
    @domj1804 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Yes!!! Pushed you need atleast 1 year of medsurg. Graduate in May as a bridger but I’m positive I’m not starting out there unless I go through a residency program.

  • @gingerquartimon
    @gingerquartimon 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for sharing!

  • @kaylahood1000
    @kaylahood1000 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I don’t have the flexibility to switch jobs like that. I’m a teacher and I want to be a pediatric nurse or even a school nurse. My intro to anatomy and physiology class had me stressed out and I felt like I wasn’t smart enough. As a teacher I don’t have the flexibility to work from home or working in a clinic. I’m barely making it as a teacher and I am in debt I am barely making enough. Getting into nursing school isn’t easy. I’m not in nursing school. I’m really trying to create a better life for myself. Any job is stressful. Even teaching is stressful. I want to be a nurse though. Sorry that happen to you. Glad you’re at a job that brings you peace.

  • @shantaeevans9471
    @shantaeevans9471 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    oh my gosh lol I usually don't comment on videos I remember you its been so long you were always nice and sweet! I remember working with you. Yes that unit was tough!

  • @mckennatopp4069
    @mckennatopp4069 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Going through the same thing as a new grad, two months in and only a few days off of orientation and I’m struggling hardcore. Thank you for this video 🩷

  • @nalaamour
    @nalaamour 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Yes please share what you do and how you got the job! Im looking for a work from home position.

  • @ayanachapman7171
    @ayanachapman7171 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    I could relate to everything you said and unfortunately wether people want to admit it being a minority you get treated differently and if your not part of the clicks you might as well be a minority. And I agree with every point you had on that damn paper lol 😂

  • @myakinney7138
    @myakinney7138 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Everything u have been saying to you self on if you should leave or not is what I’m doing now. I’m on orientation and I hate it some days are better than other but I can’t. I keep saying maybe after orientation it’ll get better or let me wait another month. I’m looking at videos, articles and all the above about leaving. I’m almost two months in and I feel like crying every time I’m here because I don’t like.

    • @growingthefamilyfourup9214
      @growingthefamilyfourup9214 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I have 2 weeks left of orientation and contacted HR today about resigning. The environment is too toxic and I refused to let anyone belittle me etc. Great thing about nursing is that it is so many avenues

    • @laydiasay5304
      @laydiasay5304 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I’m in the same boat, 1 and 1/2 month into orientation and I really don’t like it. I’m just praying and trusting God for this next steps

    • @growingthefamilyfourup9214
      @growingthefamilyfourup9214 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@laydiasay5304 How are you hanging in there? I had left my job and have an interview in the morning at a facility I use to work at long ago but a different location. Wish me luck ☺️

  • @malmalm5352
    @malmalm5352 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I soooooooo feel you!!!

    • @malmalm5352
      @malmalm5352 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      And please do make more videos...

  • @eallen1996
    @eallen1996 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You did the right thing sister.

  • @user-yc9uu5rr3n
    @user-yc9uu5rr3n 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Kudos to you hun.

  • @victoriaporsiempre
    @victoriaporsiempre 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Very relatable and spot on! even here in Europe, exactly the same reasons i decided to quit nursing and look for another field that might be better for my mental health 😢

    • @samanthagasmire9508
      @samanthagasmire9508 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Oh no! I’m so sorry, which country are you in? What has your experience been?

  • @kiyyaakuullee8685
    @kiyyaakuullee8685 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Absolutely 💯 💯

  • @AD-wb5eg
    @AD-wb5eg 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Exactly!

  • @jeremyjones5140
    @jeremyjones5140 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Hey Nurse Ashley, I like your video and agree with alot of the points you made. However, I do disagree with one point. The conduct of bedside nursing is beyond toxic at this point which has now turned healthcare into nothing but systemic capitalism. I remember when I was on nursing clinicals when I would be somewhat excited to learn. Then started working as a nurse while having students. Those poor students would come up and think they are going to be the best nurse. Just sad, but kuddos to them.
    I would also say the miscommunication between the physicians and the physicians not showing up to see their patients for sometimes days was also a major hassle.
    The good thing though about bedside nursing (medsurg) is that you do learn alot about medicine, different disease processes, NG tubes, blood draws, blood transfusions, heparin drips, labs, multi -electrolyte drips, jackson-pratt drains, insulin drips, all the types of dressings, central line removals, Picc lines, dialysis permacaths, fistulas, port access, sepsis protocols, lactulose enemas, foley catheters, etc etc lol.
    Alot of the time, the physicians (especially hospitalists) would ask us medsurge nurses what do we feel is an appropriate treatment recommendation for a patient or if we agree with a certain treatment plan. I would say medsurge gives you a good foundation of medical knowledge before switching to a certain specialty.
    Nurse colleagues of mine would say medsurge for nurses is very similar to how internal medicine is for physicians before and if they wanted to specialize. It will suck but your knowledge level is very high compared to many other nurses who have never worked a medsurge floor.

  • @tanyawhite6746
    @tanyawhite6746 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Same on the Cna, MA… level

  • @AdvancedNursesEdConsultant
    @AdvancedNursesEdConsultant 14 วันที่ผ่านมา

    @13:32 well when you have engineers and project managers with no clinical background who were trained on machine operations developing the workflow, this is what you get. We need more clinical folks in the C suite.

  • @fiduwg.3485
    @fiduwg.3485 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I couldn’t agree with you more about the fact that it’s a checklist. We aren’t even able to educate adequately.

  • @gingerandspice1209
    @gingerandspice1209 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is why they should not have taken Lvn 's out of the hospital. this was bound to happen. Now they have LVNs in SNF and got 20-30pts to 1 nurse.

  • @karenandy2943
    @karenandy2943 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    28 years in nursing I see it.

  • @johnstockton9211
    @johnstockton9211 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    5 miles during a shift easy. If I didn't work in healthcare and someone told me they walk 5 mile's during a work shift idk if I would believe them ha.

    • @nursingwithashley
      @nursingwithashley  7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Haha absolutely!! It is crazy to think about!

    • @katrinastevenson352
      @katrinastevenson352 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I work 3 12 hours shifts from 3-3 . Sometimes I hit the 5 miles mark before 12. It's no joke!

    • @kelleycrider1985
      @kelleycrider1985 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So relatable! Thanks for sharing ❤️

  • @blesseddiva1624
    @blesseddiva1624 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Can you please make a video of what you do now, and how you got it? What are the experiences you need for the job? I’m new coming coming into nursing from bank management. I left it because of the anxiety attacks I was getting. I am coming into the health field because it’s more diverse but I don’t want to do bedside nursing. Do you have any suggestions for me? I’m told that I have to have my RN first then specialize into something.

    • @nursingwithashley
      @nursingwithashley  7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Thanks for watching the video. ❤️❤️Yes, I got you, girl, I can definitely do a video on what I do now. There is so much you can do with your nursing degree, so don’t let anyone try to put you into a box. What you are being told is correct that you do need your RN (associate in nursing), LPN ( licensed practical nurse), or BSN (bachelor's in nursing) to work as a nurse. Many nursing specialties hire nurses without much experience and not bedside like behavior health, some clinics, dialysis, home health, home hospice, certain case management positions, corrections nursing, etc. If you don't know what specialty you are interested in (I was in the same boat), my advice is during your clinical rotations in nursing school, soak up all that hands-on experience and pay attention to what patient population you enjoy working with and what type of environment you like. You may be surprised by what specialty you end up liking the most. You can also see if you can find a part-time or pool position in a certain specialty to see if you like it now. For example, if you know you want to work in behavioral health, you can try to find a job as a behavioral health technician or behavioral health clinic receptionist to see if you like the environment and patient population while gaining experience. You would also have your foot in the door and make connections to have a job after graduation. TH-cam, nursing vlogs, Instagram, TikTok, and just talking with other nurses also helped me. So you are off to a great start, by just researching and watching TH-cam videos. Don't let it overwhelm you though. What is meant for you will be for you.❤️Let me know if I answered your question. I can go into more detail in my next video.

    • @blesseddiva1624
      @blesseddiva1624 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@nursingwithashley Thank you so much for taking you time and promptly responding to my question. You’re definitely an assist to nursing. Yes please if you can elaborate more in your next video, that would be great. I took the CNA class and did clinicals , but I was not intrigued by bedside nursing for a number reasons. Do they have nursing jobs that are intellectual, like more trouble shooting and problem solving? Thank you so much for helping me.

    • @blesseddiva1624
      @blesseddiva1624 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@nursingwithashley Also I wanted to make sure that I understood, did you say that you can specialize in a field as LPN?

    • @brittanydoffoney5147
      @brittanydoffoney5147 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      What would be a perfect specialty for an introvert? I'm a pct on medsurg and lost all compassion for finishing nursing school. Everything you said is true. It's not the job that bothers me but it's the ppl. Toxic coworkers, crazy families, rude doctors. Ive seen many of my nurses have breakdowns mid shift. I'm seriously considering becoming a sleep tech, lab tech or anything where I don't have to juggle so many personalities at once. I feel guilty because I've already completed my prereqs for lpn and now I'm ready to back out. Looking forward to more content from you❤

    • @charityalley2271
      @charityalley2271 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@blesseddiva1624hi just to chime in, there is informatics nursing and research you can look into.

  • @5tamika
    @5tamika 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’ve heard that I personally hate medsurg

  • @emmett6605
    @emmett6605 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Promo*SM 💐

  • @taurus-queen8066
    @taurus-queen8066 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    What’s sad about your testimony is that the nurse you experienced KNOWS you didn’t have the knowledge or experience for the blood transfusion. Your whole preceptorship was ‘101 bullying’. It was all a tactic to set you up for failure so that you quite. Even listening to you talk about this, made me anxious. Your voice was shaky. I hope your doing better. Thanks for sharing.

    • @fa5102
      @fa5102 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      It’s sad because I experienced this and still am

    • @taurus-queen8066
      @taurus-queen8066 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@fa5102 your feelings are valid. You can push through and persevere. No weapons formed against you shall prosper!

  • @idalial
    @idalial หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Girl, yes! That is my life now. Dislike it