Nurse Bullying Really Sucks
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 30 ม.ค. 2023
- I swear working in the hospital as a nurse is like being back in high school. Theres drama, gossip and bullying. These are just my experiences as a nurse and some tips so hopefully you never experience this!
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It should be mandatory that nurses have an annual exorcism.
A few wards in the hospital I work at were depleted during Covid during ward changes ect..alot of the old toxic nurses left and there was just a whole pile of new nurses which has started a much better culture. The unchanged wards are just that, unchanged
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Yes!!
True
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What's unfortunate is some nurse bullies will watch this....and not believe they're the bully
Exactly....
Narcissism 🌈
Seen it...
LOL!
You’re probably that nurse bully 😳
Nurses are either angels or literal mean girls, no in between. It's crazy and such a gamble.
Or addicts
@@daniellekaeufer981this one,,, can’t tell you how many registered nurses ask me to come by the hospital with ❄️ during their shift,, (usually nights, but theres some day ones too lol)
I sure was at the hospital a lot but it wasn’t because I was sick XD 🤣
Yeahh… i don’t trust a single nurse, most of them especially the women to do cocaine all the time
I’ve met more that were certifiably psychotic. Found out my roommate was dating a janitor (that’s what they were called decades ago) who had access to the hospital pharmacy. They were stealing narcotics from the main pharmacy. She was short medicating patients & when patients were discharged or died she was pocketing drugs. I moved out reported it to the hospital. They promptly fired me for reporting. Go figure.
@@Practicalinvestments*doesn’t trust nurses*
*talks about dealing cocaine online*
Get your priorities straight my dude 😂
@@Practicalinvestmentsbro your gonna be tracked for this if you comment stuff like this 💀💀 but also then agian if you have an addiction nurse atleast yk their gonna have no difficulty with inserting mediation
Nurse here of 10 years and I have zero tolerance when I see nurses bullying other nurses. I shut that shit down right away. I love new nurses and love being a preceptor. We all were new at some point. I know they are timid and scared exactly how I felt. Makes me sad.
The nursing field needs people like you! You're appreciated!
Love this 👏👏👏
So...are you the problem...Or the solution?
Justice is always violence to the party accused, everyman is innocent in their own eyes
Daniel Defoe
Also 10 years into nursing. Majority of my experience is in critical care/ ICU + cath lab. I will never forget feeling timid and afraid when I started out. If you do it right, new nurses (or nurses new to a speciality) will thrive if you teach them with enthusiasm and remind self that we've all been "the new kid on the block." Be kind. Be compassionate. Correct when needed... but do that kindly. No reason to tear an already nervous nurse down. Teach nurses to notice this or that, what to focus on, and explain the how's and why's. Set an example: no tolerance for bullying. Protect your preceptees. All in all just don't be a dick when training a nurse, ever.
Those senior nurses acting as if they weren't a baby nurse before. Karma is on their way.
I worked registration in the ER whilst studying to be a nurse. Let me say. This was enough experience to change my career path. Those nurses were vicious
Oh no!!! Don’t change your career path. Our profession needs good kind people. 😌💚 older RN here
DOnt let those cows deter your dreams. Be a Nurse and work in a school or private practice.
I’m in the ER so we have headsets so we can communicate, and another nurse (not any sort of charge or management of any kind) who had NO interaction with my patient in bed 12, tries to call me out over the radio saying “can you explain to me why bed 12 has their door closed?” And I was transporting a patient to the ICU so I just replied “huh” and as I was coming back to my section, I saw her leaving his room and closing the door! And he was neutropenic and wanted to sleep while waiting for his room to become available in oncology, so closing the door just made sense. That was the second to final straw that is about to break this camels back. I used to work in correctional nursing and I swear to you-the respect is so much better there I think I’m going back to
@@CaptainSpalding72 Cows are nice. The right word for them would be miserable monsters . Or evil witch
What are you doing now?
Nursing school doesn't talk about bullying because some instructors are bullies too
i don't understand how the nurse that reported you for tapping your foot didn't get reprimanded for wasting your boss' time, especially in a work setting where lives are at stake
Right like why would you as a boss even bring that to his attention. I wouldn’t even bother my staff member with something so minimal. Like wtf
@@yonursecoko5229it worst a nurse lied on me 3 times knowing she was just trying to get me fired
@@yonursecoko5229 by exaggerating the tapping. when you are unwelcomed there bullies can go to the extreme.
@@ayuanabradford3206 how did you handle the situation?
Because many times the bosses and charge nurse themselves are in the bully click too.
I myself have experienced it as an ED Tech oh...yea their is a massive click within my dept.
I am not a nurse, but I am a unit clerk. I have seen so much cliquey behaviour and bullying from many of the younger nurses. It is crazy how you can watch the "in crowd" be in charge and the new hires be outcasted, and then eventually the outcasts all befriend each other due to the trauma bonding of being an outcast, and then the "in crowd" all either quit or move to another department, and then those nurses who were the outcasts who were creating their friendships with each other due to feeling excluded then become the new "in crowd" and then exclude everyone else. It's so fascinating to watch this happen over and over.
Figures. All of the most vicious female bullies at my school became "oh so caring and kind" nurses.
Unfortunately , Bullies tended to be attracted to caring professions to cover up their ugly insides. I’m still surprised how many people are fooled by appearance.
a lot of prostitutes end up in nursing too
Omg that's so true
One of my bullies went to nursing.
She had a money and like being narcissistic.
"Nurses eat their young."
They cry about accepting double shifts for days in a row (they can't say no to management), then bully & back-stab new hires there to help them... Honest to God, I hope they miss out on their children's childhood/ I hope their children grow up to hate them. Kharma!
lmfao i love this
If you wish that how does karma affect you?
i repeated this sentiment 11mos after you .. nice to see i wasnt just being to sensitive or a insecure .. thanks
💯 agree with this statement! I’m not a nurse, but first responder and have seen this crap for 16 years now!! Makes my blood boil!!!
I dont understand why majority of nurses do this?? Like we have a nationwide shortage of healthcare workers. Everyone is over worked and load of responsibility. Why not just be respectful to eachother and do your best at work? How do these people find time to even bully working 12 hours shift with 100 patients-!!???? As an RT after a 12 hour shift im ready to knock out. I dont have time gossipping, fighting, bullying, etc etc. These people need Therapy
I’m sorry you work in an environment in which this is the norm. I’d change my work place if able. To stay Sounds horrible.
This is because people love to bring their personal ego's and problems to the workplace and impact others to equal out the field in their mind. I am completely unemotional to anyone thinking ill of me, works like a charm.
Strange I didn’t have that experience most places I worked. Yeah certain hospitals some nurses were petty but generally we were too busy to be petty. But now days I have noticed a lot of petty and sensitive nurses in private duty. I don’t understand it.
It starts in nursing school as part of the culture.
@@MNP208 you know in my school there only student in school that was a hater cause she thought she was smarter than everyone. And some nursing teachers that were so out of touch it was sad. Instead of helping their desperate students by being good teachers and examples they were petty ( narcissistic I should say)Loved most of the students but nursing school was an unnecessary nightmare
My bullying started IN nursing school typically by people like 10 years older than me. I was almost SA’d by one of them too. Since I got away, she began to make my life hell in and out of the classroom/hospital. Luckily my classmates caught on. Why do so many evil vicious humans go into nursing?? SO weird. Has to be some kind of phenomenon. Narcissism???
Time to leave
Power and control!
It exists in most areas of healthcare.
Facts
@inusocials6295That’s a whole other level of creepy.
Yep I just quit my new grad job as an Trauma nurse because of bullying from my preceptor and charge nurse. They would go out of their way to humiliate me in front of everybody. I was cussed out and called stupid on a daily basis for asking questions…
That is terrible. Sorry you had to experience that.
Me too! I was in high intensity rehab for my final placement and my preceptor was the exact same! When i saw another student get cussed out on my last day that was the last straw and i let them have it.
No one starts off knowing everything and being an expert in their job, we need to build each other up instead of tearing each other down
I’m so sorry. So very wrong !!!
These nurses and the hospitals need to be reported to their state boards and then maybe change could happen. This is a National problem in critical areas and they need to talk about it in nursing school. Many nursing instructors are bullies and that is ridiculous. These issues in critical areas are where they are always in need of nurses. It’s not just because of the nature of this work. It’s the coworkers. Wonder how much this shit happens in countries outside USA. Good luck in your career it’s a great one overall. I have nurses for 30+ ❤
but please dont quit the profession...in ED I worked alongside some of the kindest and smartest nurses in my opinion...in my 6 years working as a nurse only had an Altercation with a resident and ED doctor... which I got immediate support from my charge nurse...YES bullying is real not trying to deny your experience..but thats not the reality in every department at every hospital....my suggestion is to leave a paper trail..meaning if it happens again..GO to HR address the matter..even if they dont do anything is ON record that YOU reached out and your complain felt on deaf ears..
Thanks for talking about this. A person can feel so alone when they're bullied, but in reality it happens to so many people.
Yep it's happening to me but I'm not a nurse. Any job has the potential to have bullies.
You are not alone
@@sixteen.candles.4644 I'm sorry it's happening to you. I hate them so much.
@jeanettemills8646 thank you.
It’s even more isolating if you’re neurodivergent bc then you feel like it’s a you problem when in reality it happens to literally everyone neurodivergent or not. We just happen to be easier targets for these sick individuals
Imagine how they treat their patients. Nurses that bully need to be written up and action needs to be taken against them. My friend experience that in the hospital, when she when from a CNA to a R.N. They complain and got her fire. she didn't stop going to school, she's now a nurse Practitioner and still going to school.
In my personal experience as a consolidation student, my preceptor lied countless times- told me I had to lie or I would fail… had a questionable safety incident- I questioned the pt’s safety at the beginning of the shift - I was ignored… an incident happened, she tried to blame me🤦🏽♀️. When that didn’t work she sat over my shoulder telling
me what to write regarding the incident report- imo she wanted to make sure I didn’t add that this safety concern was mentioned by the writer to her preceptor and could have been avoided. She was a horrible human being. I lodged a complaint with my school- I was removed and placed elsewhere- nothing happened to the preceptor. I have worked in the same hospital as her for years, and refuse to cover that unit when they are short.
No one cares!!
Male nurse here- suspended after 6wks on my 1st gig for an allegation of abuse, perpetuated by my trainer. I wasn't told anything except to leave the facility immediately mid-shift, pending an investigation. They called me 2wks later to come in to discuss. I told them I'm not going to remember anything after 2wks in the dark & quit over the phone. Now work in a different field. F_ them!!!
So true. Most complaints are frivolous but it goes on your record, anyway
Ridiculous
@@user-ht8by4yg5m Can't put a $amount on spirit, soul, or mental health.
I am so sorry.
They called me in 7 weeks later for an interview at 1100, the letter arrived at 1500.. I scheduled the interview for in 7 weeks time.
I’ve been a nurse for 26 years. I’ve been combatting nurse bullying!! “Nurses eat their young!” WTF??? That’s is NOT okay! Destroying their confidence is not conducive to success. My friend and I spent many mornings crying in the car after a 12 hour shift. SMH! Nurses should uplift other nurses!!!!!
I don’t get bullied. I bully the bully. #MaleNurse
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how? how do you make sure they wont mess with your job? them bullies can be dangerous.
@@voceeeuuu True. Just find another job. Management will figure it out and fire them.
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@@Melons-vg8dqOr fire you if they prefer the bullying due to longevity. That’s been my experience. They knew them better and trusted the lies they told her over me asking for help with bullying. I was the one targeted and ultimately quit.
It’s baffling how an ICU nurse even has the time to report a complain about something so insignificant.
Karens be crazy
Crazy KaReN😂
EVERYONE BEING BULLIED. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. YES YOU CAN. TELL THEM, "Stop talking to me disrespectfully because I'm not talking disrespectfully to you. Here to take care of people."
That charge nurse was threatened by you!!!!
You are assuming these people will be respectful of boundaries. That is not always the case.
I stand up for myself cause I noticed they only do it if they can, and I’m not even a nurse I’m just an aide.
I left nursing school when the clinical instructors bullied the students. There were students crying in the parking lot at the end of the day. I used to wake up in the morning for clinical with a sense of dread that made me sick to my stomach. High school was an absolute cake walk by comparison.
As a nursing student, I made a med error. I felt ashamed and it was reported. My clinical instructor pulled me aside to talk to me and made me feel worse for making a mistake. I asked her if she ever made a med error? her reply? "no, never" LOL what the fuck....bitch was lying.
As a recent medicine residency graduate, I feel blessed after watching this; I never experienced toxicity or bullying during my 3 years of training (but I certainly did hear of others experiencing this). But the one time I did experience bullying was when a nurse called my handset at 2am complaining that I was late picking up a patient. She said something like “where the f*ck are you, the patient has been waiting 15 minutes for transport”. Turns out she thought I was her MA or CNA. When I informed her that I was the doctor on call, and that I didn’t know what the hell she was talking about, she apologized profusely. It was this experience that made me realize how toxic nurses can really be behind the scenes. Sorry that you experienced it as well
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I’m an icu nurse an I agree with everything you said Alex. ICU nurses can be really mean some think they are the only ones that know how to think critically and everyone else is stupid
I’m new to ICU for 5 months and they kept judging me on my critical thinking and escalation of care, with occasionally one or two time didn’t perform well, and they made it like a super big mistake 😮
@@wingsumlam8405I blamed nursing school for all of this as well. We are 90% focused on books and how to pass the exam more than the hands-on clinical and simulation. My classmates know how to memorize meds etc but couldn’t handle stressful situations like we practiced during simulation. Others were had an ok grades but hold excellence on clinical and simulation (these two aren’t even part of the grade) just pass or fail but didn’t matter that much.
I was a new grad that got run out of an ICU by a Nurse that didn’t think new grads ever should be in ICU (her words). This was at the height of Covid where hospitals were desperate. The bullying was bad enough (publicly and loudly denouncing minor mistakes, backhanded compliments, general rudeness, isolating me from the rest of the unit, shit-talking me to other RN’s where I could hear her) but when management sent out an email that tapped her as an official “rising star” of the unit I requested a transfer out to another critical care unit the same day. I had no problems at all there. Management is completely blind to bullies.
@lasvegasnevada7514 I work in the Cath Lab as a CVT and I definitely noticed a lot of new ICU nurses freezing when they come down for a code. I think you hit the nail on the head
I was a new nurse in 1984. My first hospital job was in a big hospital outside the Washington DC beltway. I worked on a CCU step down unit. My hiring supervisor told me “Just remember…There is no such thing as a stupid question, so don’t ever worry about asking questions.” It was a trap. I was a very confident nurse going into that job, but if I was at all unsure of something, or unsure of a policy or protocol, I’d ask rather than risk making an error. This came back to me as “seems to lack fundamental knowledge”….and “appears to lack confidence and problem-solving skills.” Worse than that, I worked night shift and loved those hours, so I went to work with a really good attitude. For that I was suspected of use of drugs “uppers/amphetamines” and had to prove I had no drugs in my system on a few occasions.
My next job (after staying in the DC area only 8 months) was across the country and as a per diem nurse. I never asked questions (if I had one I’d look it up and never let on that I had), and I never let the staff see me too thrilled to be there (although my patients got the best I could give them). My hospital evaluations were stellar…..You’d think I could walk on water. One hospital even bought out my contract and hired me from my agency as their new med/surg unit manager, less than one year after leaving my first nursing job where my periodic evaluations were shit.
Word to the wise: Keep your own records of disagreements (or bullying) with co-workers, especially those in supervisory roles. At that first job of mine I had a couple of serious issues with my supervisor and I started recording the details of those and filing them with my attorney. When it came to asking her for a written recommendation for my next place of employment, she tried to say she wouldn’t be able to give me a very favorable recommendation. That’s when I told her I had been keeping a record of our discussions, disagreements, and the bogus drug suspicions, and I, with my attorney who had these records, would be happy to go in front of a Board of Inquiry at the hospital and see what they had to say. She turned her tune a 180, and gave me an unbelievably glowing recommendation. Hmmmm…..🤔 I wonder what made her change her mind? Seems some things never change or may be worse, so protect yourselves…..keep records of your own, especially if there are one person’s word against another issues. Your written words will hold more weight than their spoken ones.
I retired after thirty years in nursing in 2012. I’d like to think my staff, and visiting staff, found me kind, helpful, knowledgeable and respectful. I didn’t suffer bullies myself, and I tried to protect my nursing and unit staff from them as best I could…..even if they were MY superiors. If you are a nurse, be the best nurse and HUMAN you can be, but don’t be a pushover (at least not a known one!😜)
You learned to swim real quick thrown to the sharks like that. Respect!
Who the hell would want to work in the nursing field. This bullying should be grounds for reprimand and or penalties. I have heard this for years.
Nurse bullies are *masters* of being horrendously uncivil and rude while being technically within the letter of policy. I’ve run into it several times in just a few years in this field. It really is like High School all over again, and a good number of the popular mean girls got their RN licenses.
Unfortunately some of the administration support the bullies
@@maamebroni6142 why?
I hate to make this a race thing. But I'm gonna be the person that makes this a race thing. & I do bottom of the barrel stuff, mind you. Still, I see the scramble of the climbing the ladders & egos & it still drives me crazy. & I don't state that bc I feel low about it. I still think it's something meaningful. Like I pretty much tuck in all my residents... like they're burritos/egg rolls just like I do my baby 🥰🤗. No I don't. Ok, somexs I do. It's just, at least I am grateful I got my foot in the door. & Maybe I should stick my foot where my mouth is... & This creates a chance for doors at escalating myself. Depending on how dedicated I am & or become. But good gah, some of these ppl. I really don't understand how co workers can create so much misery out of thin air & yet be so full of themselves. Like we work w/ each other on the daily. None of us really want to leave if we actually like our lively hood. But do u just not like peace or what. Do u just wake up & choose violence or what? Bc if there was ever a time to accurately call someone stupid... legitimately, STFU. To be some image of the kind, compassionate, nurturing, understanding, patient, yada yada, they rnt always def not that. Some r good at faking it. Some aren't even good at that. Like you'll prob get to world star quicker than u will climbing the ladder.
That's not racist. I am speaking on the experienceS I've encountered... Get ppl by themselves is 1 thing. Them as a group? ....... Ehhhh! & They will gaslight everything to the max, pestering u w/ small things, blowing them up bigger than what they're not, then try to play it like it's you
While coming down on u like an army & idk how the hell some ppl don't even see themselves. That really must be took some courage standing on ur complete own & everything. Must've been tough. But idkw there's so many of em.... either. Other than they're a huge population but it's questionable or it's just in my realm of things. Aside from that, ironically, it's stuff like this that makes me embarrassed to be a female in general... Why don't we get along? Idk either but I'm not the antagonizer & I'm not joining no group just so I'm not the out casted. I'd rather not make my life, work... :/ I told my gay guy co worker that he was my favoritest. & The few dudes I do come across in these things r somexs the coolest.... Preferably tho., I do want them to be gay... But I told him :/ :/ it was bc he "wasn't like the other girls." Also that we must drive him/ them absolutely crazy
We're here because we choose to be....you might need one, one day.
This is why I loved being a hospice nurse. You work in the field in patient’s homes and living facilities. You are on your own but it is liberating. Even though you run into people in the office and at meetings you are not “sucked” into the toxicity. And the patients/families are great
Hospice nurses are angels !!
Hospice yes😊
Same. Home health RN here
Yes!! I’m in community health too and it is soooo liberating
Hospice chaplain here. Thank you for your service to humanity !
It’s sad. They forgot where they came from and how they started as a nurse.
Healthcare is sooo toxic the bullying is insane !
It’s crazy toxic. I wouldn’t encourage even my dog to do it.
And if you want to be quiet soul and just do your job and go home, oh how you will be hated. You will face RAGE.
I’ve been an RN for 7 years, and have experienced bullying in every place I’ve been by at least one nurse, all of them 15-20+ years older than me. One of them mocked me in front of me (pretending I wasn’t there) over my wound care experience. I had started wound care nursing right out of nursing school when I worked in a SNF. Then I worked at a hospital in med-surg and on the wound team, and obtained my WCCN while working there. This older nurse was saying things like, “seems like they’ll just let anyone do wound care”. I was shocked, to say the least.
Now I work in a hospice facility, and even the older nurses and our manager come to me for input on our patients with complex wounds. 😊 I am a preceptor and I love to teach! I feel so proud when the nurses I’ve worked with and trained blossom and flourish!
If your coworkers are treating you badly, there are places where your skills will be appreciated and your colleagues will respect you. There are amazing nurses and preceptors out there! Every nurse has particular skill sets and something to contribute to the profession. Don’t give up ❤
My sister was a phlebotomist for many years. She frequently told me that the nurses in the various departments were very cliquish. If you didn't "fit in" where they hired you, you didn't last long. The baby floor was especially notorious for mistreating new nurses. One of the housekeepers told her that she overheard the nurses making fun of her looks, it made her cry. Such pathetic cruelty from people who went to school to be nurses is inexcusable!!!
Health care is like high school all over again
thanks for talking about this alex!! seriously hardly any nurses talk about this, they just glamorize nursing. i dont get why people make the job miserable if its already hard. the stupid highschool mentality is sooooooo annoying.
Very true...!! Healthcare is not an easy job and I dont understand how these people even have time?
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One of the reasons I would never return to mental health nursing. I know I am generalising, but bullying really broke my heart and passion for this field.
It took me time. I worked 5 years in mental health too. I RELIZE that co workers are the issue. Not the patients and their issues
I'm going to be the new nurse to *professionally* clap back at the rude RNs that try to talk down to me. There really should be no place for nurse bullying.
Agree with you but remember those bullies had many years of experience while you are just beginning with little experience as a nurse.
Sometimes the bullying not only you may get from those *season nurses but also from *assistant nurses as well.
Yes, I get bullied from them too that it demoralized and crippled ALL. MY. INSPIRATIONS.
*NOT all of them though, many of them were nice and friendly too.
Exactly. It's unhealthy
@@Melons-vg8dqit is. I need to work on my clap back.
@@a.sontoloyo6887it doesn’t matter if ur more experienced or not. that doesn’t excuse bullying? u seriously think that okay just bc they’re older?
@@nekesa6429 Nobody is saying it's ok, but you better know what you are doing.
I was eaten alive when I first started ...it was hell on earth...terrible vicious people
The rise of bullying is usually the general barometer for the decline of an organization / civilization. The writing’s on the wall, people.
How very true this is!
I experienced the worst bullying as a student nurse, some of them were just vicious! Then I went to medical school, & had a vastly different, mostly positive experience. But I still see so much bullying amongst my nurse colleagues, and it baffles me why these women enter a supposedly ‘caring’ profession.
Somexs i feel like im too sensitive even in this field & its like wth. I def think ppl get creative in their ways of acting out & seeking attention. But i know they need help, so, i try to over look over alot of stuff. Somexs i just gotta laugh it off. Other xs, im just entertaining their -egos. Theyre just lonely ppl... & Co workers will still make it about them. Stop percieving me. Im just trying to make it through my day, hoping that my enviornment as well, ... Is pleasant. Not that i think ppl make it any easier on me in all their conditions. but i dont think my co workers unnecessary nagging & nit picking helps either. G i wish i could overly criticize others over things not really there & have all the right answers too. Id never hafta actually interact w/ residents as much. Somexs kitchen staffs will even get into it w/ me & im like no not u too 🤦🏻♀️. I mean, granted its gotta be way harder on them w/ their whole entire 1 role 😒...
Who isnt getting a big ego? wth. That when i start venting it sounds so ridiculous. I know this. Believe me. But i walk into my reality on the daily.. & u too? Who else?.. Bc shut up! Also also im not that dedicated tho. Im trying to do short courses. Liveable, sustainable wages. & Im happy
Wow that’s so funny that’s u say that! I really wanted to go to med school but I have a little son no other family just a boyfriend whose mom helps me some when she feels like it ( rightfully so she doesn’t owe me anything.) I couldn’t see myself quitting work and maybe moving across the country multiple times as essentially a broke single mom. I started to nursing school masters instead and I’m terrified of working as a nurse because as a CNA, the other aides and nurses were so toxic. I’m going to go right for the post masters ARNP certification.
Remember to put a workers compensation claim if you suffer mental or physical trauma at work.. never resign.
I encourage everyone to NOT allow it! Don’t keep accepting the excuses they make for them. Please don’t let them push you away from what you want to do in your career.. Fight back in a professional way but sometimes you literally have to check them RIGHT THEN when it happens let them know you see it and you will not stand for it.
Worse thing is when the manager encourage bad behaviors and do not take any actions. I have seen it all. Nurse and manager bullies both. Just imagine, if they can treat their colleagues like this, what they are doing to patients especially those who cannot talk and advocate for themselves. It's a shame. I believe in karma and i am sure they will get their share when they become old.
Nursing is toxic. I was bullied and harassed by group of nurses who did not like me. They went as far as falsifying information about me to HR. I am still fighting it.
The worst bullying is when you are experienced and competent and a new manager sees you as a threat.
They dig through your file searching for dirt then begin filling your file with negative feedback in preparation for a manufactured disciplinary action.
Nurses can be the worst bosses.
I quit nursing school because I saw so much bullying. Now I’m a healthcare chaplain and I’m still afraid of nurses! As an ER patient I was also bullied by a nurse when I was mentally altered from a severe tick borne illness (acute babesiosis) nurse accused me of drug seeking. Nurses are out of control.
Simply, those monsters have a wrong job. They don't belong there and mostly, they are narcissists. There are tons of narcissists in health care.
Every job u go to. The world is filled with them u can move no were. All Facts
@@rahkeembattiste5854 For real.
Honestly the only job where I was actually appreciated and treated well was at a fast food place. Even when I was slow, they encouraged me and had my back. Managers were cool and Supervisor was too. Once I started working at different places, literally started getting harassed by either coworkers or managers. Mainly because I can’t learn the same as others and I’m pretty sure I have undiagnosed ADHD and anxiety.
I’ve had this issue since elementary school til now…
For me as a patient, emergency room visits and hospital stays are very scary these days due to some of the nursing staff attitudes.
I witness a nurse refuse to cover her new grad’s lunch because that’s “what real nursing is like, she needs to find someone else” like omg let her eat!
You are correct. Some nurses make a mountain out of the molehill to get you into trouble. I am a black RN and face lots of bullying.
My bf is asian and we started med surg together. She said she was treated badly and bullied. She also was nonconfrontational which made it worse. She left because if racism and cultural differences, miss her ever day at work! Your experiences are valid
There are a few good ones. Yet, the ones from rehab are so bad. I am not a nurse. All of sudden they in force of a policy. Not to have their cell phone or ear buds. This was really directed at me. Because I don't want to listen to anyone conversations.
I was helping a patient and right out in the open I was told by the charge nurse, "now would be a time to use your outdoor voice". I just looked at her like wtf is your problem. I never knew a career where I wanted to help people could be so nasty. I also got called out in a board room full of nurses. I got called "Ms. Assertive ". The passive aggressiveness is disgusting. The manager was too immature to give me constructive feedback, to this day I still have no idea what she was referring to or what was up her butt.
I believe you. They're afraid of being exposed.
I’m so sad to hear that. Thank you for still being a nurse… hopefully there are things that can be changed to help prevent these sorts of situations in the future. I will keep that in mind as I seek to enter the medical field
I’m not a nurse but i work in neuro, i wish a my would try to bully me. I keep seeing these videos about nurse bullying. Y’all better speak up and start making a paper trail!!!
Nurses have caused me unbelievable medical PTSD.
I had a nurse physically assault me with the needle.
Any unit i go to where drama and gossiping and bullying is present,i’m out!
I can only assume those kinds of nurses are like that outside of work too. Maybe more subtle but still there. I loved having students and new grads/young nurses. My biggest thrill was watching them bloom with my help. Who doesn’t ❤ that?
Nothing has changed. When I graduated in 2001, I went through the same bullying. I promised myself that I would never treat another human being the way I was treated.
I have been a preceptor many times and I have kept that promise.
New nurses need positive support and room to expand their own skills. 12 hour shift can be easy if the staff works together.
just don't be that nurse. You scar ppl for life. I hope this changes. Hang in there if you can. Love you all!
Some of these nurses should NEVER be allowed to teach and should be over seen by a facility nurse Educator
As a patient I’ve dealt with nurse bullying specifically when I thought I was going to die after a car wreck that left me with two broken ankles hairline fractures and a broken wrist. I told them ahead of time I’m clinically diagnosed with a genetic anxiety disorder and that I take lexapro and have been diagnosed by a psychiatrist. But besides that any normal person would have been anxious in a car wreck thinking they had internal bleeding of some sort and were going to die at the hospital. I was only 21 and the wreck wasn’t my fault I was a passenger. They shoved Xanax down my throat and got annoyed with me and bullied me. I’ve always wondered why they go into fields that are supposed to be for empathetic people. I’m thankful for the nurses that care but I’ll never understand the ones that bully others. It’s even more difficult going to the hospital for mental issues such as psychosis, mental disorders, or self harm related issues cause they’ll make your life a living hell and blame you for something out of your control. These kinds of nurses should stay far away from health care. I’m so sorry you had this experience
I’m an RRT (registered respiratory therapist) and will retire soon. The thing I’ll enjoy most about retirement is that I’ll never have to work around nurses again! It’s just high school all over again!
It literally makes me want to quit nursing 3 years in. 🙃 But I am really thankful for kind nurses that take time to educate.
Don't quit, just become indifferent towards anyone thinking negatively of you or verbalizing things of that nature. They feed off of impacting you and the only way anything negative stops is if you keep your head straight, be a good team player and make that paycheck with a goal (you MUST have a goal to be there!) At some point other good nurses will value you and love to work with you, and the b**ches will ween off because their efforts do not phase you. Bullies love to pick on those that look like they can be bullied. Got to look like you dgaf and there for your personal goal (whatever that may be).
I quit hospital nursing because of this very issue. I thought "If this is what nursing is like, I want no part of it." I decided to try home health nursing and love it. Other than the amazing patients, the best part of the job is not having to work in close contact with other nurses. Sad.
I agree 100% with you Julie!
I was bullied all the time by nurses my age but also younger nurses.
In hindsight, I wish I'd never gone into nursing but home health has been rewarding.
I work in home health, it really is a gem. Also the medical professionals that are in home health are always chill and genuinely want what’s best for the patient.
The crazy thing is, none of this bullying is actually about whether or not they like you- it’s about ACCOUNTABILITY!! It’s about simple respect and professionalism that they lack due to pride and being self-absorbed. People with INTEGRITY can dislike someone AND STILL treat them with dignity and RESPECT!!!
Nursing, like any profession with power, will attract arrogant self-serving, power-tripping, status-climbing reputation-seekers- IF NOT people who genuinely just want to help people and survive.
I talked about this in one of my videos! This is the main reason why I dropped nursing school, I strongly disliked most of the students and the professors. I knew how they were acting, being mean and condescending was a precursor of what I’d be dealing with in the field! As I’m already a medical assistant and I get a little taste of it now. People were tearing me apart in the comments, I’m glad more people are talking about this now!!
YOu NEED to always record and report this! Take it to HR And have these little girls dismissed!
I was in nursing leadership and being bullied by the nurses in a position under me. So it is not always just lateral or from the top bullying. Bullying generally occurs because someone sees something in you they do not possess. Those nurses were merciless. They kept information from me, spread lies to my boss about me, and looked for ways to make my job harder. It’s very sad that nurses participate in this kind of behavior. I went to HR and told them everything. From being told I wasn’t liked by one of them to my manager being angry because she had to work in staffing when I called in sick with a migraine. They investigated and I know they could see that I was being targeted. My boss straight lied about me and I believe HR knew it was all lies and made up, but my manager made it clear she didn’t want me in my role. I made it clear, I did not want to be in that role anymore due to how I was treated. I knew it wouldn’t help me to file a complaint, but I also knew it was the best thing I could do for anyone else coming in there. When they literally said they didn’t want me in that role, they told HR I was a great nurse so they’d be fine with me being in staffing. HA! The fact they thought for even a second I wanted to work under that toxic of an environment is insane. I’m good!!! No thanks!!! Moral of the story is it doesn’t matter what position you are in, if a bully decides to be a bully, they won’t quit until they get what they want. By the time I left, my confidence was wrecked, I was depressed, anxious, and burned out. I wasn’t fired, but was asked to resign. I did and then HR gaslighted about helping me find a job in the organization because they made it clear I was a great nurse. I took it in my own hands and found a staffing job somewhere else. Good riddance! I am still in limbo with them and trying to gracefully tell them I’m out. I start my new job next week and they seriously think I want to stay and work for them. I have an offer from them for another department but I don’t think I want to take it at. I just want out. My new job is 2 hours away, but I’m willing to drive that just so I don’t have to deal with that hospital anymore. I wouldn’t wish what I have been through on my worst enemy.
Hell hath no fury and hostility than a nurse who is "off the clock" after work. My mother and sister were nurses, they come home and are hostile to every one in their family. My mother would say horrible things when she was tired. Complaining and "all those patients are just lazy". Nurses are nice to the patients but as soon as they punch the card "out".... watch out!
Im a new nurse at this hospital and is still on training. It was my first time doing the hand over and my senior nurse yelled and insulted at me instead of teaching me how to do the right thing. Now im afraid to do hand overs and im even more anxious to go to work.
I'm sorry that is happening to you. Same has happened to me during report. Makes me anxious, too.
That just means you are doing it right. She’s jealous
Quit or change preceptors
@@yonursecoko5229 how can you change preceptors?
I learned at a very young age, I prefer being and working around mostly men. Not any of that drama,chaos, bitching, back biting bullying
I'm not sure why this popped up on my feed 9 months later after the video was initially posted, but yes, I definitely experienced terrible bullying as a new grad nurse in the ICU at a regional hospital in LA. First day, my "preceptor" scanned me from top to bottom and spoke in her own native language to her colleague and rolled her eyes at me. For 12 hours, she did not speak a single word to me, and I had to ask her a question for her to acknowledge that I existed. I have been told that I was too stupid to be in the ICU, got yelled at for bringing in most up-to-date evidence based practice because I was a new grad and not their ethnicity. I quit when my director ignored my plea for addressing nurse bullying in the unit (honestly the culture is toxic because the director doesn't give a shit). I am now at a much reputable hospital with better culture now (and happier), but nowhere is perfect. Like what you shared, I have my 4-5 nurses I trust and have my back and it has helped me even though my current workplace is not perfect either. Thank you for sharing! I am VERY passionate about raising awareness about this bullying issue.
I just want to send a huge shoutout to all of the good nurses out there! Thank you for ALL you do!!!
Healthcare in general. I had to stand up for myself couple of times after crying. Once I cried, it was up from there, I stopped being bullied and give them a taste of their own medicine
Tips to all nurses! Be mean back to your co workers! What’s the worst that happens - how long your license is fine! 👏 clap back! You will be place on PAID investigation and keep fighting it- make it last 4 months via grievances from
Your union. And boom. A pseudo paid vacation
Been a nurse 25 yrs. Returning to my field of speciality. Have a young nurse who is TOXIC. Her duties include scheduling and training. I need to be trained on the computer only. She left me short multiple times alone without training. I trained myself, and figured it out at my age I can DO. I have the foundation to figure it out.
This young woman who I am old enough to be her mother, has repeatedly and habitually called out, yelled at me, scolded me over the computer and in pts charts. Using enter office text to scold and I have gotten vocal over the last 3 weeks.
I decided to ask a couple of people to help me figure out 3 items of documentation I need to nail down. She lost her mind, screamed and yelled again at me infront of all the staff and docs. Then called the clinical manager and removed me and sent me to another assignment. While she was yelling at me, making the entire office ( meant to be my retirement job) uncomfortable. I apologized to the other nurses and staff for her behavior. She is immature, unreliable with chronic abscesses, now proving to be volatile. However the behavior is tolerated so I spent this week/weekend peppering my CV all over. Phone interviews etc. It is horrific. She is TOXIC.
Unfortunately because of the good pay, nursing is getting filled with people who don't care about people, have no interest in medicine, and have no bed side manner. They come for the money Unfortunately
I went to ICU from ER last year. ICU nurses are the WORST. A year in and it’s still terrible. They jump on any weakness they can find and run with it. And God forbid you aren’t willing to “play the game” by talking about everyone and playing into the drama lol.
There are kind and mature people there, but unfortunately the toxicity is far stronger there than the positivity.
How was er?
@@erinnorwood6124 Much more accepting in general but I imagine it heavily depends on where you go. I worked in several and the all were pretty open to new nurses and those without experience. I think it just has to do with the nature of the job. Things are fast paced and chaotic. You need your teammates and don't have time to sit around and gossip. I imagine there's some smaller ERs where gossip and gatekeeping could still occur, but much less than an ICU in general.
@JasmineS_12 you'll have in rehab
Even management will play shifty games.
Whoever ignores this video, that toxic person is a nurse bully in disguise
I asked a guy I work with about this as I hear it a lot and as someone who is always interested in the nursing field, I like to pick the brains of nurses in my own career field , and since he was a registered nurse of many many years I brought up this topic to him to get his real life perspective. When I tell you he got so defensive, I immediately thought hmmm, I probably struck a nerve. I'm sure it's real and very true.
Ugh yes! The first nurse who trained me was HORRIBLE and a complete jerk who was always trying to find a way to make me look stupid even though I was just out of nursing school.
HOW DARE YOU TAP YOUR FOOT!!!! I am so shocked that a trusted healthcare worker would do such a normal thing and am clutching my pearls.
I just retired because of an office Bully. I am a very experienced RN and the office bully was a CMA
I’m so sorry! I’m a CMA and would never! I don’t understand why people have to project their misery onto others Lordy.
I'm an ICU nurse (25 years old), have a Bachelor of Science degree (this is not mandatory in Germany unlike other countries), I am also a mentor for new nurses. I keep getting bullied, screamed at and false things are being spread about me. I am always interested about learning more, I never sit still and always work hard but these witches keep bullying me and now I'm about to quit and transfer to NICU. I've had enough! One year of dealing with this and I go to work crying all the time, feeling sick and like absolute shit!
Perhaps it is more the nature of the work that you are doing. High stress , high stakes job where lives are being looked after . ❤❤❤
Unfortunately when people are under stress these things will happen.
@Carnationblue77 not an excuse. Everyone has bad days but it's not normal and ok to act like this on a daily basis without apologizing.
@Carnationblue77 I know that because I work there too. However if I react badly to others I apologize and try to improve my behavior. Screaming at others DAILY, spreading misinformation and bullying is not okay and there is no excuse for that. If stress makes someone act that way, they aren't suitable for ICU
I feel like you’ve told me about myself. I dont understand bullies
I’ve experienced this as a student on icu. Had a hypothermic patient and was asked to look for a heating blanket for them so I was panicking looking around the store cupboard. I went back not able to find it asking for help and got soo told off and shouted at even tho I’d barely been in there. They were like this patient is hypothermic! And about how dangerous it is and that I need to hurry up because I’m too slow. but it was in an unlabelled box in the store room so I’d never have found it and it was on purpose. Honestly the way I’ve dealt with this is not showing a reaction to their face. It’s like a strength test😅 it should never happen tho an
I was straight abused while working in LTC and subacute- screamed at so badly that spit was hitting my face, being called inept, being guilt tripped, being physically threatened. It can be a disgusting work environment
I am so so sorry you were treated this way.
It's crazy because it seems like nurses being mean is a global epidemic, I'm kenyan and someone from Chile said it's the same there
I got beat up once, like punched in the face over 30 times. The nurses were laughing at me, the sheriff put his feet up in my face while literally suffering the worst pain of my life. Nurses are callous many times. Don't expect anything but prejudice.😢😢
How did a nurse show up 2 hours late? That’s really late, especially when you’re precepting someone. How was she not fired?
These women get away with anything they want pretty much
It is wild. Some of them are a terrible B for no reason! It's unbelievable.
Am I the only one who originally thought we’d all be on the same team? Just there to help the patients?
Yeah, our nursing school teacher just laughs at us when we ask her what we need to study and talks down to us all the time.
I’m an ICU nurse and have been for over 5 years. It’s funny you say PICU nurses have been the ones bullying you because I have experienced it as well. We sometimes get floated there if there are kids on ECMO, and the nerve of some of these nurses are just unbelievable. So sorry you have to deal with these people.
Me too..
NICU nurse here, it is ruthless. Been here 18months and been bullied more times then I can count. Even a doctor made fun of an inconsequential error I made to another doctor OUTSIDE MY PATIENTS ROOM.
Sad, I wanted to do picu or nicu 😢
I had no clue this type of behavior was even a thing.. Mental evaluations should be given in a majority of occupations now days, it’s absolutely ridiculous that anyone should be having to deal with bullying in the work place.
Yes I can relate to this even though I'm a dental nurse in the UK 🇬🇧. I'm a very private person, keep to myself, but remain professional at all time. Overall I just go to work get my stuff done then go home. I don't gossip nor treat anyone unfairly as I believe we are all a team.
My colleagues are so noisy, rude to me and have made racist remarks that I have to sadly overlook cause I only work a few days there. But I just feel like they don't respect who I am and it is mentally draining. Its like they want to forcelly expose my personal life and gossip about others which is not in my nature. So from now on I've decided to not have lunch with them anymore. Nursing is a toxic environment you just have to be the best version of yourself and ignore mean comments as well as noisy people.
Healthcare janitorial are the true Healthcare providers. They have always shown more true care towards patients and other often abusive staff, than anyone else.
This bullying stuff sounds more like elementary school than high school to me. I was an outcast in elementary school, but by the time I got to high school, the kids had grown up and stopped all of that nonsense by then.
As crazy as it sounds, this is all true and it's sad. I have been a nurse now for 3 years, all of which have been ICU. Luckily, I have not been bullied but I have seen it and I do not get it. Work as nurse is already stressful, so I do not get why people feel the need to make it more stressful. It fosters a place for bullying and tattling. I come in treating everyone kindly and with open arms to the newer nurses. I want to come in, have fun, lift the mood of the unit, take care of my patients and go home. All that extra stuff from negative and miserable nurses can stay away from me. I had to get someone in check for trying to speak down to a new nurse once. We have all been new at some point and didn't know what we know now, give people some slack. Thank you for making this video and speaking on this, Alex :)!
I'd work for you
Going into my last semester as a nursing student in Australia and wow I can definitely confirm it’s like high school. It’s so refreshing to hear some down to earth advice about nursing. Love your vids!!
i love you alex!! to be honest i wasn’t even shocked by your stories because i’ve experienced it myself. in my experience i notice the generational bias that exists in nursing. i’ve come to find that older nurses are NOT fond of us younger new grads. i understand we have our differences but it’s really sad that they choose to repeat history and generational patterns such as shaming you for your lack of knowledge rather than lending a hand and providing education. gossiping behind your back (or sometimes in front of your face) rather than realizing they were once in your shoes and making you feel welcomed. and trying to sabotage you for whatever reason… jealousy? who knows. but for all the new nurses out there, don’t let their lousy attitude tear down yours. they can choose to be bitter and tear others down to make themselves feel better but i will never stoop to that level.
I experienced all of it for being a male new hire, and so did my brother. They sent back to Day 1 to redo training. How ridiculously degrading! They tried that on me and I didn't show the nxt day.
I almost left in my 1st year of nursing. Alot of toxic nurse's in the profession. Appreciate your honesty. It's good to know I am not alone. Really hope the bullies can change.