I worked for two different toxic workplaces. I would say a clear sign of a toxic work environment is when workplace bullies are kept on staff because they are deemed "superstars." In one workplace, a junior employee verbally abused her newly-hired senior manager to the point of calling him an *sshole to his face and faced no repercussions because she was considered such a "productive" employee. I myself was repeatedly undermined by a co-worker who refused to provide me with important materials I needed for a job and then turned around and barraged me with emails one after the other within the course of a single hour asking me for a document she needed for a job. I complained repeatedly about this behavior but, again, she was deemed to be a "star" on the team and crucial to the organization.
True story: I once had a dream that my office of my former job had transformed into a super-villain's lair and I was one of the underlings. Needless to say, the part of me that longed to go back there greatly diminished!
Nepotism and rewarding the same people with amazing work incentives only when the incentives are available. The same people don't show up for work, and don't get in trouble, and they are still rewarded. I been a group achiever only when nothing is offered or it's something small like a candy bar. But when there is an incentive like money or a very nice prize like a TV I'm given impossible work loads that result in failure.
When I moved from freight (since my body hurt to much to do the job anymore) back to cashiering (I had wanted to become a sales associate but was recommended my old position by HR and other piers including managers). I had turned in my new availability sheet which was approved before I moved to the new position and was suddenly getting my hours cut and conflicting with said availability. After I started demanding documentation of our discussions I haven't heard from my store manager and the issues are still happening.
Also there have been several signs throughout my career at this establishment but didn't really hit me that it wasn't just the one manager/team but the head of everything that was probably the main reason why these types of issues kept coming up.
1. Lack of professional maturity 2. Work-Life Boundaries Don’t Exist 3. A Revolving Door of employees 4. No psychological safety 5. Your job is impacting your well-being
I’ve just hit a point where I’m so sad all the time and feel anxiety every time I wake up to go to work. I’ve put in job applications to try and escape. I hope I get the chance to leave.
Been there and can understand. Its been a year I left my toxic job and I am in a much better place now but still dealing with the low confidence and health issues that toxic job gave me. I wish I came across this video before. I hope you are taking care of yourself.
I totally get you!! I am leaving a toxic job after 2 and a half years. I pray that you find the strength to deal with your current situation and exit to a great new job that will make you forget your current workplace.
Hi MrBritishguyESQ. It is two months after you commented. I really hope you have been able to get out of your job and have found something else that you like. I totally related to your comment because I too feel sad and filled with anxiety every time I wake up to go to work. I’ve put in a couple of applications too, but positions in my field in my state are few and far between. And the jobs that are available don’t pay anywhere close to what I make now. I am senior management and make decent money. The jobs that have been posted pay 20-25k less than what I’m making. So, I’m feeling really stuck at the moment. I really hope you managed to escape and that you’re happy now! 🙏🏻
Sometimes it's better to just quit to save your sanity, and to deal with looking for another position when you are out from under that stressful situation (the "life's too short" adage). This is something I may be doing shortly myself. Seeking another job while at a toxic job may be just another level of unneeded stress, and who needs that?
Well, just that title Human Resource, says everything about what you truly are, not just to business, but to governments too. Something to think about before sacrificing your life for them.
When your immediate supervisor stops communicating with you, you have been "fired" without actually being fired. Time to move on and never let it happen again.
Anyone that uses their job as a part of their social identity are just people i can’t be around. I don’t care what anyone does for a living when out at a bar or ski mountain or dinner with friends. People need to stop asking people what they do for a living. It’s as inappropriate as asking their credit score or weight.
I love this line, "When concerns have been raised, and it's a decision not to do anything about them, it's a decision of the company that that is how it wants to function." I believe this is an irrefutable life truth.
I couldn't agree more.. that's the culture of a former candy company in Illinois I used to work for.. their whole system feels dedicated to keep everything status quo, but want us to be "RoCkStArz" in all we do dealing with subpar everything that does more harm to us than good be
This is what I'm dealing with right now. I work for a kids program and brought up some serious concerns. They are not going to do anything about them. Planning my exit.
Exactly. I got 51/50 by Thursday and was in the hospital until Saturday. The cops literally had to take me away. When I get back to work on Monday they kiss my ass go figure. I just want them to leave me alone
@@patriciahunt3663yeah they won’t I’m sorry you’re going thru that. My bosses boss tried but I’m over it at this point I’m just trying not to off myself it sucks
I once had a job so toxic that they forced me to cancel my honeymoon & work several weeks of overtime back to back instead... "because it was an emergency." Four months later a similar emergency happened, but another employee was on the schedule to cover it. They called me in to cover the other employee's work so they could go on a scheduled vacation. And the kicker: got docked on my performance evaluation that year for "not being flexible with my schedule." Some jobs do cause PTSD.
Wow I was just watching an old Jimmy Stewart movie from the 1930s where his boss sent a crony to remove him from an ocean liner to come back to work, he was about to embark on his honeymoon. 1939 got nothin' on today apparently! Wow. That is brutal. Sorry you had to endure that.
Whenever I hear "we're like a family" I'm this close to asking "oh, so toxic and without any reasonable boundaries?" lol. Also employers who literally want to take screenshots of a work from home employee for "assurance" or track them with team viewer to see they're working should seriously get fined. That's a severe violation of privacy.
I totally agree. Spying on employees to make sure they are "being productive" should really just show leaders that they are not doing their jobs. If they were, the trust and the results would be there.
@@JenniferBrick Well said. I also believe it stems from this micromanagement tendency that also borders on "butt in chair" mentality - meaning that work from home is LESSER work in these dinosaurs' minds just cause they can't see your butt in a chair. If an employee wants to slack off, he'll do it from anywhere, it's not an accurate assessment, results and output are. I'd love to see a video from you talking about toxic phrases from job ads, such as "work hard, play hard", could help people know what phrases to avoid or what signals a toxic culture. Love your channel. :)
Yeh and when your manager tries to get you to do non work tasks after hours and weekends . I knew it would get worse so I just shut it down after falling for it once. I just said I have my own things I’m working on and don’t have the time. It was almost like this person was offended!?! Excuse me, I’m pretty sure I can decide what I do with my time and am not serving to you on my time off. Stupid! 😑 Fool me once…
@@cristinat.8639 What about 'the joke' - if you can't take a joke than you shouldn't work here is what I heard at a job and I live in very small rural town yes there is toxic people everywhere, in fact there is more of them in the country, I say its not what you know, its who you know.
Honestly I'm in that situation where there's favoritism, rude behavior, no respect anywhere especially for your peers, gossip all the time, and bearly any communication.
Not bad companies. Bad management. Many times the directors don't have a clue what the management below them are up to. Sometimes those directors don't care.
My husband left a company after being there for 16 years due to the father handing the company over to his son. My husband trained his boss! His boss hired two people, a married couple, and a friend he went to school with, which led to a toxic work environment. My husband had several talks with his old boss and the son. Things would calm down for a week then literally go back as usual. I was impressed how long he stayed but after 2 more years and talking with another company, he finally left and they are so much more professional and appreciate my husband a tons more.
I have noticed, for myself personally, that nepotism is a common cause for toxicity especially if the person is incompetent. Maybe it's because they feel they're untouchable if they behave badly.
Almost this exact thing is happening to me. I needed to read this. The sunken cost of 7 years at a gym versus 16 years at a company. I’m quitting this week.
Yikes! And I thought it was bad when, after complaining about some unprofessional behavior I saw in a teammate and we watched some videos, his takeaway is that he recognized the actors in the film
One morning my ex-boss had a 1on1 regarding a complaint of me not saying “Good morning” to a particular individual. Claimed that I greeted everyone else.
After having a talk with my toxic boss who went back behind my back to ask my coworkers about my performance, saying people in another dept are mad at me even tbought they are not, saying I'm not really doing my job, and even asking me if I'm happy with my job, i decided I needed some guidance. So I watched this video and decided to put in a transfer yesterday. I am the 10th person who decided to leave.
I'm working with my company that keeps brain washing the employees that 'we are like a family's. I actually believe that my boss is a psychopath that delights when the workers are losing their marbles.
I experienced all of those bullying issues at my last job. It got SO unbelievably dirty that I quit. Stalking, spying, bullying, favoritism, triangulation, thrown in a toxic office, and overlooked or taken away responsibilities (illegally) …how low they go! The whole environment is influenced by the bosses lying and secretive (behind closed doors) bullying. After 25 plus years of excellent performance, I quit! There’s not enough money in the world to put up with that crap! Thanks for your post!
Thanks to many managers 'management styles', the company ends up with 'useless, lazy, incompetent' employees. Sometimes spineless managers allow the 'useless, lazy, incompetent, jealous' employees to chase away 'skilled, hard-working employees'
The family one really threw me, I trusted them too much and now I regret it. Don't fall for this one, it's a trap. Thank you for this video, it has really helped put things in perspective.
Just left a toxic workplace that was ...surprise! A yoga studio. I was roped in to cleaning once a week and running their instagram for a staff pass-which was basically $150 per month. I ended up working 30 hours a week, I had my stuff stolen by the owner and was lied to and gaslit about it. If I had any concerns, the owner jumped down my throat every time. No accountability, and no leadership. I was treated like a piece of gum on the bottom of their shoe. When I finally had enough I quit and the owner sent me a really unprofessional nasty little text basically making me wrong and continuing to guilt trip and gaslight me. Blocked that psychopath and never looked back.
Can a toxic work place make you feel indecisive? I plan to leave my job because getting up to do the work has become a burden. My heart literally drops every morning. I will get up one day and say maybe i can hold out for a little longer but as you start you are greeted with persons pushing you to do 10 things at once. I work as a claims handler and it is the worst job i have ever had. I would never recommend it to anyone. I have gotten a skill and doing it part time. Your videos are so helpful. It reminds me i am not crazy. Getting my joy back one step at a time.
I am sorry..yes it can . As with any other toxic relationships. Intimate/professional . Toxic is toxic and it mostly follows the same patterns. As love bombing/devaluation/discard. Please take a look into this and I think you'll find a lot of answers to your questions. ❤️❤️🤗
Fully understand!!! This is prevalent in nursing it's a terrible feeling. I hold my head up, do my job & do it correctly not cutting corners at anytime. Stay away from talking about it with anyone at work or when return it's like everyone knows. Co-workers are not friends, it's a job to perform using EBP & I stay away from all the clicks. Sorry, I've experienced it.
Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top worker for 38 years never been suspended. Jealousy and miserable. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if i transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again i don't know all the mangers ect like in every departments like now. So best to not change hospital. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.
Having all of this stuff in my workplace ..... Narcissistic workmate , gossipers.... But I’m still committed on 3year contract as a foreign worker here in Canada but I’m halfway around on my contract... Everyday’s work is a very challenging and struggling one and I’m always on a survival mode where is no one to be trusted around....
Several years ago I was in a work environment that was so full of gossip, undermining, and other toxic behaviors that one of my coworkers went home and took his own life. Listen to me, people. NO job is worth staying at if it is ultra toxic. Your well being is worth something.
I got bullied in my last job by a very toxic manager who thinks the world revolves around him and his sheep. First I ignored it but this just made the bullying worse and worse everyday. After 4 months of constant insults, chicaneries and sabotage of my work I officially complained about those people. The bullies explained that I'm anti social and don't communicate with anyone and that it is my own fault that nobody likes me because I'm weird so they got away with it. In the end the bullying got less but nobody was punished and everyone just ignored me from that point so I left the company for good.
Jennifer I am OBSESSED with your channel. My mental health has been deteriorating due to toxic management/coworkers in my office job and your videos help confirm that I am in fact not crazy or too weak to handle being in the workforce. Thank you so much for all of your videos.
One very noticeable sign IMO is how new people are treated. If they are treated like a freshman in high school or a pledge at a frat then it is a very toxic work environment where frustrated and unhappy workers take out their anger on easy targets like new people. I only had to deal with that a couple of times but have seen that happen in almost every work place I was in. It really disgusted me, and I went out of my way to train or at least help new people when possible so they wouldn't have to experience that too.
So true. So not ignore these signs and GTFO. Made the mistake of staying too long at a toxic job run by a highly immature, unprofessional nightmare manager after multiple red flags came up in succession. Quit but had my confidence ruined and got CPTSD as a result that requires a lot of healing.
@Helena GG Sooo true, this happened to my sister even after she left a job. Manager stalked her on Face book and Instagram, soooo freaking weird!!! There are a lot of people out there who are just plain crazy.
I let a toxic work environment literally destroy me. Don't stay around like I did. Trust me, your mental health is a lot more important because once you've lost your mental health its going to take a lot more than another job to fix it. Like a cocktail of meds and multiple involuntary psych ward visits.
my workplace thinks, if you voluntary quit, your doing them a favor, and if you speak up about the problems, they also don't really care because the turn over rate is soo dam high, = 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
I was once told I was a toxic employee while being written up by HR after my boss was reading my im’s between me and my co-workers. Her spying speaks more to her toxic character than my swearing.
I see signs all the time: My boss is doing multitasking. In some meetings she does other works at the same time. Also this is alarming:”I am going to holidays but you can call me if you need…” (this is whoever says it, not only my boss). And indeed: I also do not want my workplace to be my ”family”. I really dislike all those events ”together” after the work.
feel like this is happening to me, to the point where I'm beginning to doubt whether if it's really me not being good at what i do, or whether they just have an issue with me (or rather, an issue with themself, when they constantly undermine what i do).
Do not ever doubt yourself...people discredit your work because they know that you know your work and you are a threat to them. I have experienced it with myself....people are afraid when you are good and that is why they team up to make your life miserable... Keep doing you but in the process get yourself a new job... I am in the process as well and I cannot wait...
If you do your job badly, and after several warnings you continue doing it badly, and management treats you badly, you can understand that. But if there is no issues with your job and management treat you badly, then there is a hidden agenda (corruption - wanna replace you with family/friend OR they can't afford you OR they are racist).
Thanks for the video! One more to add: hostile work environment claims are common. I actually had mine substantiated, by HR nonetheless. Nothing happened of course, aside from providing additional "training" to the offending parties. Yeah, run like your ass is on 🔥.
I worked for a manger who fired a person every two years to keep the fear of God in the rest of us. He also came to department meetings with a binder of resumes he had collected to remind us we were replaceable. Somehow I out lived him
I once had a job where they’d undermine and criticize your ideas in meetings, sometimes even laugh at you, especially if you were new like I was. But then in my first performance review I got dinged because I didn’t “show enough confidence” and “didn’t bring fresh ideas”. 💀
I never thought I'd have to detox from such toxic workplace. From lack of support, no accountability, or follow-up from top-down. Accepted an offer letter to start the week after. Resigned day after, at will employment, not to mention my check was shorted 20 hours, while my clinical director make 4x more than I as an hourly employee. He has 14 patients on Monday with no break to breathe, and no other staff he failed to hire.
What about working for a company, for years, and having brand new employees start off at more $$$ than you're making after the years of service put into the company? That's also a sign you're not valued as an employee there.
@@ForgottenKnight1 how about you go into an extremely toxic workplace, get severe trauma and ptsd from the abuse you will receive working there, and then come back and explain how you asked for a raised and successfully got it 🤭
@@acedaking6026 Let me explain how I got it: I didn't, so the next minute I started looking for another job and replaced it as soon as I could. There are also other environments where people don't get raises simply because managers are too comfy, ignorant or stupid to do their job, which is management, so a little nudge on the shoulder from time to time is required. In those environments, you will probably get a raise, but it will still be small. If you want to hike your salary, the best way to do so is changing jobs.
I have watched this video maybe 10 times over the past year and still haven’t resigned. I actually work in HR, so there’s no one to complain to 😅. I don’t blame people for leaving. I saw the writing on the wall during my interview but still accepted the offer and remained optimistic on my experience and how I could help change the organization for the better. Thing is, you can only change an organization that wants to be changed. The executive leadership is used to the chaos and are so distant from what’s going on in the field that they don’t care. If a job has high turnover in HR and Finance as well, run the other way.
I work for federal government and my red flag was lack of accountability. Also my coworker joking that they hit their spouse and throw things at them. I’ve worked at some unprofessional places but this one takes the cake. Oh and did I mention my boss calling another coworkers child a future raging b-word? Yup.
One of the top 3 in my organization was talking about sex toys and threesomes with my subordinate and I felt so nervous and uncomfortable that I came up with an excuse to leave the room. I could've gotten him in trouble for so openly discussing those matters, but I don't want to be seen as the snitch and get smacked on the wrist/silent fired
Excellent video thank you. Wish I had listened to this years ago. People get caught in a toxic workplace and then find it hard to leave. Yes psychological damage is very damaging going forward.
I wish I had come across your video years ago. At my first job, my superior was very capricious and rude towards me no matter how respectful I was. In fact, it was common to hear her shouting at her subordinates over any mistakes. She even used to send emails to me in capital letters in an attempt to "scold" me. Sadly, the worst part was that my colleagues accepted being treated like that. They used to tell me that "all workplaces are the same, just endure it". I highlighted this to my head of department but he was too meek to do anything about it. I finally left after 2 years of tolerating her bad behavior,. Now when I look back, I wish I had thrown the letter earlier instead of biting the bullet. The ugliest people I ever met are in the corporate world.
@@YZFMANIAC08 This is not easy when you have no other source of income apart from the job. For other people, getting out of a toxic workplace would mean becoming homeless or something like that. And hence staying in the toxic job is better.
I was treated like a dog for 15 years by coworkers along the way as an assistant in a dental office - the only way I survived was by having a wise boss with very strong leadership skills who saw through this and saw I was doing my job and defended me against toxic coworkers. He retired and a new doctor came in and was literally the most aloof manager I could have ever imagined. I always did enough work for two employees (literally was given the additional job duties of another employee who left) Despite the weight on me - I kept it all going- yet the new doctor would PRAISE the employees who were screwing off yet every step I took was analyzed. I finally blew and quit. Unfortunately it took too long for me to give up and I was literally on the verge of a mental breakdown by the time I quit. Learn the signs and leave with your dignity in tact!!!!! A pathological workplace is NO JOKE when it comes to your mental (and physical!) health!!!
i feel everything rn im anxious and nervous a little scared. My manager talked bad about me last night while i was standing not even 5 feet away from saying something about not like me not that i care but its just toxic worst part is that she said it while all my other coworkers were there and some of them even laughed now im not the type that likes to mess with anyone bcs i dont like conflict at work but its sad that even being nice can get you in trouble
You have to nip it in the bud. That was a short, concise and direct violation of ethics done infront of co-workers which is doubly bad. They're setting their boundaries inside your's for the sake of elevating themselves at your expense. Very unprofessional. I would find your manager's supervisor and make a verbal report of the event as soon as you're cool enough to present the event calmly and concisely. Often abusive managers are not liked by their own supervisor due to being 'a particular individual' so you will find support where you have not built it or expect it. That person is insecure by you not 'playing along' with their antics. They need a No Trespassing warning.
Don't ever stop being nice. When being nice and being treated as shit in return, most of the time you're dealing with toxic snakes . Never lose your authenticity for no one !! It's a treasure that you've got ❤️
@@drewodessa2483 I agree with you. But there are cases where the manager's supervisor is equally if not more narcissistic than the manager. In that case, the better thing to do is leave.
I recently got fired from a company that: 1) Sent incomplete documents to clients on purpose in order to "save time and get in the race"; 2) Developed HVAC plants that weren't under any rulebook because "Nobody is checking on us"; 3) Cleaned its ass with OSHA regulations because "Environment is more important!"; 4) When I escalated (for three different incidents) the complaint to HR the CEO in person scolded me publically because "You're being a troublemaker, too severe on the rules and nobody wants to work with you"; 5) Wanted me to sign some obviously incomplete legal documents (that I wasn't allowed to sign by law) by using someone else's signature just to speed things up; 6) It was severely late on payments (Month X was usually paid on the end of month after that, instead of at the start), and when people complained, it was never the company's fault; 7) They genuinely indoctrinate every single new employee with training videos that are more akin to Jehovah's Witness teaching material than a corporate intro. And when you quit for another job, the remaining employees start calling you "traitor" and "just a number on 's spreadsheet, while we're a family" every minute of the last week you're there. I got fired, but I don't give a flying fuck. I don't want to go to the clink because of morons that think they need to save the world.
What happens when you resign with notice and then start getting made feel by the others that you’re the problem- gas lighting etc. Because they feel you’re not happy with the environment so make the rest your time difficult.
If you already gave notice, and the manager or employees start playing games, go straight to HR and mention issue - state that you are willing to work your notice period, but if they continue then you will have no option but leave immediately, notice period cancelled. If the issue continues go back to HR and notify, if HR says nothing they can do about it, then leave immediately). It's your choice (you can either stay and take abuse, or leave).
I’m 21 and just started working at a clinic, I appreciate these videos . I like my job but thankfully your videos have helped me float and even navigate the work place :) great help
My last manager said the company was “family” and started making outings after work on the weekends as “mandatory “! She was overt narcissistic and was offended when I turned in my two weeks notice. She had favorites, was back stabbing, shaming and gaslighting. She said she had done nothing but “ mother me” but was not supportive and treated those who were different as problematic. Or treated us like babies. So glad I finally left!
My manager went behind my back and reported my concerns to HR after I specifically told her not to because they would fire me...now I'm on a ridiculous PIP and being even more degraded than before I said anything. I think my manager is fed up with me and wants me to quit so they don't have to fire me. I only realized there was a problem when I didn't get the promotion I had been expecting. Turns out by that time they had already decided to push me out. I don't even know what I did that was so bad. They didn't offer me any training or professional development. They just said I'm performing poorly and that this PIP, which is set up for me to fail, is my last chance. I thought I had most of the professional qualities needed to keep a good corporate job. I have areas where I can improve but I didn’t think being human was an unacceptable professional quality.
Let them fire you. You will receive unemployment benefits. If they kept you after 90 days, then you must have been OK for awhile. You get benefits if you cannot do the job to the employer's specifications. even before or after 90 days.... get paid to find a better job. Enjoy.
I got a negative review/our form of write up because last Tuesday I was rear ended during my lunch break and sustained injuries. I brought in all the documentation (medical and police report) and still got in trouble for not returning to work. One more bad review and I will be terminated. I'm fairly sure I'm gonna put in my notice today or tomorrow because it was added stress to a stressful situation that I had zero control over. This is how companies lose good employees.
@@RasheedahNizam yes. You get 2 points for absences and 1 for leaving early. If you get 6 points in 6 months, you are terminated. I had an absence in early December because my son broke his arm in school (requiring a bone to be reset), which put me at 2 points. The car accident happened on my lunch break, giving me 1 point for leaving early and I missed my next shift with the doctors note, giving me 2 more points. I'm at 5 points but I put my notice in yesterday.
@@Had_A_DAT good for you. I'm always surprised that companies put themselves into positions that make the whole operation fall apart if one person doesn't come in for one day. They never seem to pay that person appropriately. And if it's way more than one person calling off all the time, there are systematic problems that could probably be identified in exit interviews which they will never do.
I worked at a job for over 5 years (I left over a year ago) and it was the absolute worst job I have ever had. It just gradually got worse and worse. My supervisor was completely inept, a control freak but completely out of touch. She kept me back and promised me promotion opportunities that never materialized. The manager didn’t want anything to do with anyone and would hide from people. Everyone hated everyone. My ex-supervisor texts me every now to see how I am and I feel like she’s doing it bc other people are probably asking her about me (bc there’s no other reason). I’ve thought about it and that’s all I can gather. There’s no professional reason and she never liked me. I actually never want to go back to work ever again because of it.
Three weeks after being wrongfully terminated, I not only won a case against them and received a small termination payout. I was even more outraged that the manager, who bullied me at work got away with it and got to keep his job because the owner likes him. This has been going on for years and nothing has changed. What should I do? Should I take the whole story to Reddit or leave a review on my former employers indeed page? I just want everyone to know what bullying bosses need to be held accountable for their actions, and regardless if I paid out a small termination pay this doesn't correct this.
The worse case of professional immaturity was when my co-worker, who was on the same bus as I was, was on her phone bad mouthing another co-worker, in a really loud voice. That co-worker had offered the immature one a place to stay temporarily. The conversation included some very personal details and racial overtones. This same person constantly also bad mouthed the center director, kids in the center and their parents.
@@joeycooper6223 Hi Joey...yes, the right approach is to focus on yourself and your accomplishments...this job will not be forever...but the healthy opinion of yourself you develop will help you no matter your are working. Best wishes, hang in there. God bless. It will work out to your advantage. (old lady speaking from experience).
If HR is taking photos of me through my work laptop then I’m going to sue them period. Nowhere in my company paperwork when signing on is this allowed nor would I consent to it.
One thing is for sure: in my current job, my UAQ is being very under utilised. Don’t get me started on the toxicity. Nepotism and favouritism as well as personal gossip and threats and intimidation as well as blaming each other are all prevalent in my current job. Anyway, I’ve found something that seems to utilise my UAQ and the culture seems much better, accommodating me by doing interviews at 7:30 am. I got the offer :)
Question: 1. is tip-toeing around 'alpha male' manager (insults, outbursts, etc.) worth keeping the job. 2. is tip-toeing around 'alpha male' employees who are pals with manager (walking with your back against the wall the whole day - to not get stabbed in back) worth keeping the job.
Can you make a video about the DO's and DONT's of being a professional in the corporate world? So far I have: Don't be late Don't take breaks Don't talk Don't make mistakes Don't get confused Don't be happy Don't be enthusiastic Don't take initiative Don't be creative Don't be innovative Don't be passionate Don't be honest Don't be interested Don't be funny Don't be friendly Don't be concerned Don't be offended Don't trust anyone ever Don't get comfortable Don't think Don't defend yourself Don't believe in yourself Don't do anything by yourself Don't do anything without help Don't care Don't try Don't feel Don't hope Don't plan Don't organize Don't work fast Don't learn Don't disagree Don't have an opinion Don't expect a good manager Don't collaborate Don't work hard ... anything else?
Uh... Don't speak unless spoken to Don't speak up when someone harasses you Don't speak up when you see harassment Don't expect to be heard when you are asked to speak Don't expect actual mirth at company birthday parties
Another big sign is if they reward and/or promote bad employees over good ones. This recently happened to me at my work place. All the good employees started leaving months within each other, and bad employees kept getting promoted and moved to higher positions or given more responsabilities, even though that resulted in mistakes and affecting the quality of work of everybody else. The boss just couldn't care less! And when I brought this up to her she built a grudge against me and made sure a training I had asked for to do a better job was given to someone else and not me, basically setting me up for failure.
I’m fresh out of college (as a slightly older student), and I’m working a job that is VERY simple just to pay the bills. It’s a huge corporation and you’d THINK it would be a great place to get your foot in the door-but ooooooof. I’m VERY mature and direct, while my new coworkers allllll gossip constantly. So much so I had to announce that if anyone is looking to gossip, LEAVE ME OUT. There’s lots of complaints, lots of subpar leadership, LOTS if gossiping EVEN AT the leadership level, but I’m really trying to stick it out for a few months until I move on. I’m just telling myself I’m accomplished, smart, funny, and there’s a great company out there waiting to use my skills. It’s too bad it’s not this one bc I had really high hopes of networking/growing, but at this point, I just want out. Too bad, really.
I resigned my workplace after 5 months because everyone was talking bad about each other. Even though they were talking to me about other people, it still didn't sit well with me especially when technically I was still new. Even though i had already resigned i ended up staying another 6 months to help the company. What made me leave was when one of my teammates were slacking off and my other teammate went to management about his concerns, he told me that they just gave him a pay rise to deal with it. That scenario worried me more that the gossiping because i was scared i might end up being locked down at the company due to money. And I've heard managers shouting at their employees degrading and belittling them in a different department. I worked in a boys club company and that's how they talk and operate with each other but coming from a long line of workplaces where it's more pleasant and managers didn't talk to their staff like that or people didn't talk about each other unless they were really frustrated at someone in the workplace made me feel that I might end up being bitter in the long run but also I'm a friendly and caring person and I felt that if I stayed that caring person would disappear
if Congress outlawed bullying today, the American economy would grind to an abrupt halt tomorrow. Americans tolerate all kinds of unacceptable workplace conditions because so many of us have given trade unions the heave-ho. And from childhood American kids are taught to do anything to get ahead.
As a UK worker, I hear stuff my counterparts in the US endure and I pity them. Mandatory unpaid overtime? Being able to sack your employees on the spot? No legally protected breaks, days off or maternity leave? They’re being treated one rung above slavery and don’t even know it. And yet are brainwashed to believe that the US is the best country in the world. “Home of the brave, land of the free” I think not. Poor brainwashed souls.
The way employees perform as well as who stays and who goes, in and out of the company is 100% on the boss! A bad boss micromanages and a good boss will motivate and/or tell you not to work too hard.
Having a work phone that you're supposed to answer, reply emails, msgs 24/7....also the little phone allowance that you get is suddenly taxable....net earnings becomes less.
Thank you for another interesting video Jennifer. I watched your previous video on toxic workplaces and it gave me the final push I needed to take action and leave my job. I just started my new job and it is the best decision I have ever made! My new workspace is way more in line with my personality and I feel safe and accepted for who I am. Keep it up! ❤
Same concept can apply to schools. The post secondary I attended was toxic. Boundaries is difficult to maintain with failing, so much work in so little time, taking less courses comes with complications but adding a course is no problem, a feeling of burn out and misery, and a lack of genuine learning experience. It's different to leave a college when you put student loans in and a contract the school gave you to sign. However, being in a situation like that offers you an experience of what kind of work environment you don't want to work in so you can look out when you land a job
Just realised the place I left just before Christmas displays every single one of these red flags. Nice... I don't know how people like them stay in business...
@@JenniferBrick I wish I would have found your channel meanwhile I was still working there..but glad that I did it now. So I'll be more prepared for the future ☺️ thank you so much for all you're doing for us Jennifer ❤️
HR is there to spot and eliminate ANY employee that could be a liability to the company. NEVER EVER think they are there for YOU. It is risk management, if you could be a potential risk, you are toast. NEVER confide in them, NEVER believe they are on your side.
Hi Jennifer, my job made me feel like I was in fight or flight mode and by boss always insulted me and told me im not good enough to pursue my career goals and also broke my confidence. I felt like I was emotionally, and psychologigically affected in my workplace. I also think I was in a better emotional and mental position before the job and that my confidence was higher. Yes I just quit and I feel so great.
I should've left when my manager and her direct manager confronted me and showed me all the shit they were tracking me do and say. She maintained a list of those things under the guidance of her manager who was the real asshole. (I'm giving her a free pass because she's younger than me and was taken under his wing.) I'll never forget how "sick" was in quotes (I'd called in sick one time). From those points on I started getting terrible performance reviews. Yeah it's almost like it's demoralizing or something to be treated like a problem child when you're not one. Fast forward to this January and I found out the asshole wrote a script to "pull in data" to demonstrate our "velocity" at work. The data he had was absolutely misleading; there were JIRA tickets that weren't marked done because I was STILL waiting for someone else to do their job. Explaining this to him did nothing btw lol. I was already planning on leaving this summer, but that forced me to go on the hunt sooner rather than later. A few weeks later, I accepted an offer from a significantly better place that offered me a higher salary and a better title and quit the shitty job. I didn't bother giving 2 weeks notice because I couldn't take another day of being gaslit and being told I'm less capable than I am. That asshole was affecting my mental health. And wouldn't you know it, my mental health significantly improved after I left lol
Thank you for this: I've opted for GTFO. + 30 years of work experience and I am in the worst most toxic job I've ever experienced. Almost everybody is new as the turnover is very fast. The manager is a very nice person but has no managerial skills and the team is just horrible.
So true with the work culture thing "taste" vs "toxic". Like work parties or sharing....at my work they always have snacks in the back for us to share. If it's your birthday, you get a cake. Now some people are gonna be like I just came here to do my job, get out of my face, while others are like "yay! I love this!!" Maybe you could do a Taste vs Toxic video. I dunno
What do I do if I feel stuck, like I can't leave? Because- I'm a widowed/single mom, job has good health insurance for us, the pay is decent (though, with my lengthy experience, I should be getting paid more but my requests are denied) and the hours are OK enough that I can watch my grandbaby often. I should have left long ago, maybe even on Day 2. I knew, I knew then but it's not that easy to just quit. I've been in an abusive intimate relationship before, this job is the same. I'm scared to stay, I'm scared to leave.
When I was a Manufacturing Engineer Planner and COVID hit, I got way more work done at home than I ever did at work. I literally ran out every day. They had to find stuff for me to do. Sadly I was laid off 9 months later but I have a new job now that actually requires me to be there because it's physical. I was recently hire at my current company to be a Technical Designer and a lot of my team are still working at home. =o)
Much as I hate to say it, I’m three shifts in at the job I’ve just joined and I already have doubts about it. I’ve had three very different experiences so far. First day was good, second day just pushed me beyond my physical limits though most of the team seemed to understand that you can’t go from inactivity due to illness to twelve hours of brutal physical labour with barely legal minimums and not struggle to do anything for the final few hours. Third day wasn’t so bad but the physical damage from the previous day meant that I had to max out my painkillers to get through. And that’s okay, I expected a bit of a rough re entry into work but the culture there has put me on the alert. There’s bickering and politics but I might have just had the bad timing of having my first day be audit day and the other team effed it up badly so the big boss came in and delivered a scathing bollocking to the entire workforce in during that shift. It was borderline unprofessional in my opinion but then he openly admitted that he’d just been reamed by his bosses and I quickly realised that this was just typical manager shit rolling down hill behaviour that I could safely ignore. Yet I still caught myself resentfully thinking “This is my second shift, half of us are less than a month in. I don’t deserve this. Why are you bitching at us when we’re still training? Maybe the problem you have is that you just hired a ton of new people and it takes people a month or two to really settle in and know what they’re doing.” Then I had to catch myself with the reminder that it was a group bollocking and likely not directed at me. But I still didn’t like the impression it left. But the other problem is that there is a lot of bickering and whining going on. One guy was driving the company van and telling us about how he slept with a colleague and his wife found out and kicked him out and I learned a ton of stuff about a couple other colleagues of similar detail. None of the above is a particular problem. I don’t involve myself with gossip and I very much keep my work and home life separate. Anything that I happen to hear, I don’t repeat. I’m a bit of an introvert so I keep to myself for the most part though after years of self training I can engage in small talk enough to keep my colleagues happy. The only snag is that my partner works at a different company within the same general industry ecosystem and we have a good chance of encountering each other at work…. After a discussion about it, we’ve agreed simply to pretend to not recognise each other if it happens. 🤣 Neither of us wants the gossip and chaos that would inevitably result if we did. But I don’t know. It’s probably too early to tell. Give it a few weeks and I can get out of dodge thanks to the probation period if I find it toxic.
My supervisor yelled at me for helping a client. Even though the client was happy . All I could think was “ this is Highschool “. Plus my manager will message me on my days off !! Smh
You are terrific!! Thanks for your insight and professional presentation! (so refreshing to get right to the meat of the subject without all the fluff)
Day 3 we had a candidate who we flown in for an interview. He wasn't able to use our rental car account so he asked us to reimburse him. Typical. Right? Well my boss set in front of me and said ...... if anyone is reliant on their. Last paycheck. (Living paycheck to paycheck) we don't want those kind of people. 😬😬😬 Heck I am one of those people. I have not had a paycheck for 4 weeks! Btw. My boss is the director of HR!
This is very helpful. The last part regarding the revolving door smacked me upside the head. We've lost a lot of people in my department and in a branch that I work with they have lost 7 engineers in the space of 4 years - none of these people have been replaced yet. Also, one really sharp manager got hired 6 months ago, I liked the guy he seemed very talented and had great efficiency related ideas that he brought from Amazon. Sure enough - he quit a month ago. One of my favorite Project Managers, only at the company for 3 years just quit without having job due to frustrations with a lack of career path. Thank you for this video as it is helping me make a change.
What sign made you realize you're are in (or were in) a toxic work environment?
I worked for two different toxic workplaces. I would say a clear sign of a toxic work environment is when workplace bullies are kept on staff because they are deemed "superstars." In one workplace, a junior employee verbally abused her newly-hired senior manager to the point of calling him an *sshole to his face and faced no repercussions because she was considered such a "productive" employee. I myself was repeatedly undermined by a co-worker who refused to provide me with important materials I needed for a job and then turned around and barraged me with emails one after the other within the course of a single hour asking me for a document she needed for a job. I complained repeatedly about this behavior but, again, she was deemed to be a "star" on the team and crucial to the organization.
True story: I once had a dream that my office of my former job had transformed into a super-villain's lair and I was one of the underlings.
Needless to say, the part of me that longed to go back there greatly diminished!
Nepotism and rewarding the same people with amazing work incentives only when the incentives are available. The same people don't show up for work, and don't get in trouble, and they are still rewarded. I been a group achiever only when nothing is offered or it's something small like a candy bar. But when there is an incentive like money or a very nice prize like a TV I'm given impossible work loads that result in failure.
When I moved from freight (since my body hurt to much to do the job anymore) back to cashiering (I had wanted to become a sales associate but was recommended my old position by HR and other piers including managers). I had turned in my new availability sheet which was approved before I moved to the new position and was suddenly getting my hours cut and conflicting with said availability. After I started demanding documentation of our discussions I haven't heard from my store manager and the issues are still happening.
Also there have been several signs throughout my career at this establishment but didn't really hit me that it wasn't just the one manager/team but the head of everything that was probably the main reason why these types of issues kept coming up.
1. Lack of professional maturity 2. Work-Life Boundaries Don’t Exist 3. A Revolving Door of employees 4. No psychological safety 5. Your job is impacting your well-being
I work there right now! It's a shit show in a dumpster fire 🔥 😤 😩 🤧
@@brownb1959 we must work for the same company! 😑
Yes 1 billion percent
😔😔😔😔 exhausted mentally.
All spot on, the no.5 is quite painful. Lose sense of who you are
I’ve just hit a point where I’m so sad all the time and feel anxiety every time I wake up to go to work. I’ve put in job applications to try and escape. I hope I get the chance to leave.
I've been there, I am about to start a new job, leaving the other after 12 years.
I hope the best for you, and for ne too!
Been there and can understand. Its been a year I left my toxic job and I am in a much better place now but still dealing with the low confidence and health issues that toxic job gave me. I wish I came across this video before.
I hope you are taking care of yourself.
I totally get you!! I am leaving a toxic job after 2 and a half years. I pray that you find the strength to deal with your current situation and exit to a great new job that will make you forget your current workplace.
Hi MrBritishguyESQ. It is two months after you commented. I really hope you have been able to get out of your job and have found something else that you like. I totally related to your comment because I too feel sad and filled with anxiety every time I wake up to go to work. I’ve put in a couple of applications too, but positions in my field in my state are few and far between. And the jobs that are available don’t pay anywhere close to what I make now. I am senior management and make decent money. The jobs that have been posted pay 20-25k less than what I’m making. So, I’m feeling really stuck at the moment. I really hope you managed to escape and that you’re happy now! 🙏🏻
Sometimes it's better to just quit to save your sanity, and to deal with looking for another position when you are out from under that stressful situation (the "life's too short" adage). This is something I may be doing shortly myself. Seeking another job while at a toxic job may be just another level of unneeded stress, and who needs that?
I read somewhere that HR is neither human nor a resource 🙃
The latter holds up in most cases.
So, big deal and Drive the F on.
Very true
Well, just that title Human Resource, says everything about what you truly are, not just to business, but to governments too. Something to think about before sacrificing your life for them.
HR is there to represent the companies best interest. Not yours
When your immediate supervisor stops communicating with you, you have been "fired" without actually being fired. Time to move on and never let it happen again.
True
They're so childish and ridiculous that they even stop greeting you. How unprofessional. 🤮
Ong this is happening to me right now
I just declined recruiter outreach from a big tech company with "family-like" culture. Coworkers are not family.
Family like means they expect you to work like it was YOUR biz and do everything ALL the time with ZERO help.
@@savannahsmiles1797 Spot on!!💖
Like family means, working all hours
@@matthewsmith2787 Very strange work ethics indeed.👏🏽
I disagree work is just like a family. The MANSON FAMILY
Anyone that uses their job as a part of their social identity are just people i can’t be around. I don’t care what anyone does for a living when out at a bar or ski mountain or dinner with friends. People need to stop asking people what they do for a living. It’s as inappropriate as asking their credit score or weight.
I love this line, "When concerns have been raised, and it's a decision not to do anything about them, it's a decision of the company that that is how it wants to function." I believe this is an irrefutable life truth.
I couldn't agree more.. that's the culture of a former candy company in Illinois I used to work for.. their whole system feels dedicated to keep everything status quo, but want us to be "RoCkStArz" in all we do dealing with subpar everything that does more harm to us than good be
This is what I'm dealing with right now. I work for a kids program and brought up some serious concerns. They are not going to do anything about them. Planning my exit.
Exactly. I got 51/50 by Thursday and was in the hospital until Saturday. The cops literally had to take me away. When I get back to work on Monday they kiss my ass go figure. I just want them to leave me alone
@@patriciahunt3663yeah they won’t I’m sorry you’re going thru that. My bosses boss tried but I’m over it at this point I’m just trying not to off myself it sucks
This is 150% correct!!
I once had a job so toxic that they forced me to cancel my honeymoon & work several weeks of overtime back to back instead... "because it was an emergency."
Four months later a similar emergency happened, but another employee was on the schedule to cover it.
They called me in to cover the other employee's work so they could go on a scheduled vacation.
And the kicker: got docked on my performance evaluation that year for "not being flexible with my schedule."
Some jobs do cause PTSD.
Unbelievable I had a deadline on the day of my partners funeral I got the work done in time one day leave for the funeral
Yea this is fucked holy crap.
@@alisonmcmillan4537 fuck that sucks wow
Yes, and some jobs are better to be quit. Better say, we don't quit jobs but s...... bosses 😅
Wow I was just watching an old Jimmy Stewart movie from the 1930s where his boss sent a crony to remove him from an ocean liner to come back to work, he was about to embark on his honeymoon. 1939 got nothin' on today apparently! Wow. That is brutal. Sorry you had to endure that.
Whenever I hear "we're like a family" I'm this close to asking "oh, so toxic and without any reasonable boundaries?" lol. Also employers who literally want to take screenshots of a work from home employee for "assurance" or track them with team viewer to see they're working should seriously get fined. That's a severe violation of privacy.
I totally agree. Spying on employees to make sure they are "being productive" should really just show leaders that they are not doing their jobs. If they were, the trust and the results would be there.
@@JenniferBrick Well said. I also believe it stems from this micromanagement tendency that also borders on "butt in chair" mentality - meaning that work from home is LESSER work in these dinosaurs' minds just cause they can't see your butt in a chair. If an employee wants to slack off, he'll do it from anywhere, it's not an accurate assessment, results and output are. I'd love to see a video from you talking about toxic phrases from job ads, such as "work hard, play hard", could help people know what phrases to avoid or what signals a toxic culture. Love your channel. :)
I hate the world, we are like family
Yeh and when your manager tries to get you to do non work tasks after hours and weekends . I knew it would get worse so I just shut it down after falling for it once. I just said I have my own things I’m working on and don’t have the time. It was almost like this person was offended!?! Excuse me, I’m pretty sure I can decide what I do with my time and am not serving to you on my time off. Stupid! 😑
Fool me once…
@@cristinat.8639 What about 'the joke' - if you can't take a joke than you shouldn't work here is what I heard at a job and I live in very small rural town yes there is toxic people everywhere, in fact there is more of them in the country, I say its not what you know, its who you know.
When the boss says “we’re a bit different here” you better believe it’s not in a good way either.
Most companies are toxic, and it’s not always obvious either it’s usually when you have a problem it comes to light
This is true💯
Honestly I'm in that situation where there's favoritism, rude behavior, no respect anywhere especially for your peers, gossip all the time, and bearly any communication.
So many bad companies out there. One in particular nearly cost me my sanity. 😔
Not bad companies. Bad management. Many times the directors don't have a clue what the management below them are up to. Sometimes those directors don't care.
Omg!! The part about the coworkers and everyone else being happy! Feeling so out of place with my dissatisfaction!
My husband left a company after being there for 16 years due to the father handing the company over to his son. My husband trained his boss! His boss hired two people, a married couple, and a friend he went to school with, which led to a toxic work environment. My husband had several talks with his old boss and the son. Things would calm down for a week then literally go back as usual. I was impressed how long he stayed but after 2 more years and talking with another company, he finally left and they are so much more professional and appreciate my husband a tons more.
usually in family based companies the 2nd gen doesn't handle it that well but there are few exceptions here and there
I have noticed, for myself personally, that nepotism is a common cause for toxicity especially if the person is incompetent. Maybe it's because they feel they're untouchable if they behave badly.
Almost this exact thing is happening to me. I needed to read this. The sunken cost of 7 years at a gym versus 16 years at a company. I’m quitting this week.
This just shows me I made the right decision to quit. I’m nervous because I don’t have a job to go to, but this job is killing me.
You've done the right thing, no matter what ❤️I hope you're in a better situation right now 🤗
You need to release to allow the good things to come in. You will land a job sooner than you think. Good luck!
Then they have the nerve to make everyone go through a bullying at the workplace training for 10 hrs...I can't
Yikes! And I thought it was bad when, after complaining about some unprofessional behavior I saw in a teammate and we watched some videos, his takeaway is that he recognized the actors in the film
I swear, they watch those things for ideas on how to terrorize their coworkers.
One morning my ex-boss had a 1on1 regarding a complaint of me not saying “Good morning” to a particular individual. Claimed that I greeted everyone else.
God, I had a boss (and coworkers) like that. It was such a relief to be out.
After having a talk with my toxic boss who went back behind my back to ask my coworkers about my performance, saying people in another dept are mad at me even tbought they are not, saying I'm not really doing my job, and even asking me if I'm happy with my job, i decided I needed some guidance. So I watched this video and decided to put in a transfer yesterday. I am the 10th person who decided to leave.
I'm working with my company that keeps brain washing the employees that 'we are like a family's. I actually believe that my boss is a psychopath that delights when the workers are losing their marbles.
Seems like that boss wants to hire family / friends, otherwise he thinks the more employees leave the bigger paycheck he will get.
I experienced all of those bullying issues at my last job. It got SO unbelievably dirty that I quit. Stalking, spying, bullying, favoritism, triangulation, thrown in a toxic office, and overlooked or taken away responsibilities (illegally) …how low they go! The whole environment is influenced by the bosses lying and secretive (behind closed doors) bullying. After 25 plus years of excellent performance, I quit! There’s not enough money in the world to put up with that crap! Thanks for your post!
Do we work for the same company? 🤔
Thanks to many managers 'management styles', the company ends up with 'useless, lazy, incompetent' employees. Sometimes spineless managers allow the 'useless, lazy, incompetent, jealous' employees to chase away 'skilled, hard-working employees'
@@nicolec.5352 I 2nd that emotion
The family one really threw me, I trusted them too much and now I regret it. Don't fall for this one, it's a trap. Thank you for this video, it has really helped put things in perspective.
I can relate, so sorry you experienced that
Just left a toxic workplace that was ...surprise! A yoga studio. I was roped in to cleaning once a week and running their instagram for a staff pass-which was basically $150 per month. I ended up working 30 hours a week, I had my stuff stolen by the owner and was lied to and gaslit about it. If I had any concerns, the owner jumped down my throat every time. No accountability, and no leadership. I was treated like a piece of gum on the bottom of their shoe. When I finally had enough I quit and the owner sent me a really unprofessional nasty little text basically making me wrong and continuing to guilt trip and gaslight me. Blocked that psychopath and never looked back.
If I find myself being unkind or harsh to cope with workplace stress, I consider I'm in toxic environment.
Can a toxic work place make you feel indecisive? I plan to leave my job because getting up to do the work has become a burden. My heart literally drops every morning. I will get up one day and say maybe i can hold out for a little longer but as you start you are greeted with persons pushing you to do 10 things at once. I work as a claims handler and it is the worst job i have ever had. I would never recommend it to anyone. I have gotten a skill and doing it part time. Your videos are so helpful. It reminds me i am not crazy. Getting my joy back one step at a time.
I can see that being true.. I've thought about it on my situation also
yes!!
I quit my job due to this about 4 years ago and haven't looked back. My mental health has improved tremendously. I hope you find a career you enjoy!
This is exactly how I’m feeling 😩
I am sorry..yes it can . As with any other toxic relationships. Intimate/professional . Toxic is toxic and it mostly follows the same patterns. As love bombing/devaluation/discard. Please take a look into this and I think you'll find a lot of answers to your questions. ❤️❤️🤗
I get gaslighted at every nursing job I work.
Fully understand!!! This is prevalent in nursing it's a terrible feeling. I hold my head up, do my job & do it correctly not cutting corners at anytime. Stay away from talking about it with anyone at work or when return it's like everyone knows. Co-workers are not friends, it's a job to perform using EBP & I stay away from all the clicks. Sorry, I've experienced it.
Same here... Professional Woman CPA in Public Accounting.... different scene... same toxic environment.
Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for 12 years. Top worker for 38 years never been suspended. Jealousy and miserable. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, i dink, i'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if i transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again i don't know all the mangers ect like in every departments like now. So best to not change hospital. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.
Think it's healthcare in general ;c Medical lab, it's also common for us
@@veronicalagor4771yeah, red flags are mostly present in healthcare industry
Having all of this stuff in my workplace ..... Narcissistic workmate , gossipers.... But I’m still committed on 3year contract as a foreign worker here in Canada but I’m halfway around on my contract... Everyday’s work is a very challenging and struggling one and I’m always on a survival mode where is no one to be trusted around....
Several years ago I was in a work environment that was so full of gossip, undermining, and other toxic behaviors that one of my coworkers went home and took his own life. Listen to me, people. NO job is worth staying at if it is ultra toxic. Your well being is worth something.
I got bullied in my last job by a very toxic manager who thinks the world revolves around him and his sheep. First I ignored it but this just made the bullying worse and worse everyday.
After 4 months of constant insults, chicaneries and sabotage of my work I officially complained about those people.
The bullies explained that I'm anti social and don't communicate with anyone and that it is my own fault that nobody likes me because I'm weird so they got away with it.
In the end the bullying got less but nobody was punished and everyone just ignored me from that point so I left the company for good.
Jennifer I am OBSESSED with your channel. My mental health has been deteriorating due to toxic management/coworkers in my office job and your videos help confirm that I am in fact not crazy or too weak to handle being in the workforce. Thank you so much for all of your videos.
Omg me too
Guys, as soon as you can leave . But first create your safety plan, I didn't. But still don't regret it ❤️❤️stay strong 💪
One very noticeable sign IMO is how new people are treated. If they are treated like a freshman in high school or a pledge at a frat then it is a very toxic work environment where frustrated and unhappy workers take out their anger on easy targets like new people. I only had to deal with that a couple of times but have seen that happen in almost every work place I was in. It really disgusted me, and I went out of my way to train or at least help new people when possible so they wouldn't have to experience that too.
Another toxic environment you should leave immediately is if the company is engaging in unethical and/or illegal activity.
So true. So not ignore these signs and GTFO. Made the mistake of staying too long at a toxic job run by a highly immature, unprofessional nightmare manager after multiple red flags came up in succession. Quit but had my confidence ruined and got CPTSD as a result that requires a lot of healing.
@Helena GG Sooo true, this happened to my sister even after she left a job. Manager stalked her on Face book and Instagram, soooo freaking weird!!! There are a lot of people out there who are just plain crazy.
I let a toxic work environment literally destroy me. Don't stay around like I did. Trust me, your mental health is a lot more important because once you've lost your mental health its going to take a lot more than another job to fix it. Like a cocktail of meds and multiple involuntary psych ward visits.
my workplace thinks, if you voluntary quit, your doing them a favor, and if you speak up about the problems, they also don't really care because the turn over rate is soo dam high, = 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
They'd have to pay for your unemployment if they fired you
@@Beantastrophe not true , depends on how long you worked there
They don't pay unemployment and they save money not ever giving annual pay raises with all quitting
I was once told I was a toxic employee while being written up by HR after my boss was reading my im’s between me and my co-workers. Her spying speaks more to her toxic character than my swearing.
anyone who gives you advice at work gives it because they wouldn't take ot themselves.
Hi just an advice: Please don’t talk smack through the companies computer. Just text. They are always watching ☠️☠️
ohhh mine did that. new boss. now trying to fire me. toxic 27 yrs old idiot. good riddance .
Swearing in company communications is a huge no no.
@@dougn2350 yes, agreed.
I see signs all the time: My boss is doing multitasking. In some meetings she does other works at the same time. Also this is alarming:”I am going to holidays but you can call me if you need…” (this is whoever says it, not only my boss).
And indeed: I also do not want my workplace to be my ”family”. I really dislike all those events ”together” after the work.
Wish there were a Yelp like review for toxic managers. Why do companies keep them even when they know the retention rate is so low
Nepotism.
Review on Glassdoor and Indeed.
Companies often confuse arrogance vs confidence.
Sometimes the narcissist is "involved" with the toxic office management..... running the office via His Johnson.
feel like this is happening to me, to the point where I'm beginning to doubt whether if it's really me not being good at what i do, or whether they just have an issue with me (or rather, an issue with themself, when they constantly undermine what i do).
Its not you. Quit because there are better bosses out there that value us
This is me in my head every day
Do not ever doubt yourself...people discredit your work because they know that you know your work and you are a threat to them.
I have experienced it with myself....people are afraid when you are good and that is why they team up to make your life miserable...
Keep doing you but in the process get yourself a new job...
I am in the process as well and I cannot wait...
If you do your job badly, and after several warnings you continue doing it badly, and management treats you badly, you can understand that. But if there is no issues with your job and management treat you badly, then there is a hidden agenda (corruption - wanna replace you with family/friend OR they can't afford you OR they are racist).
You’re not alone im here dealing with it rn
I don't know which is worse, big, multinational companies or small privately owned businesses......
All of them
Same thing
How about a big multi national company that is privately owned?
I'd choose big corporate. Small business is too risky and intimate. That opens a Pandora's box of personnel issues in my mind.
The tracking of an employee's personal devices is a well constructed road to a massive Law Sue, a group Law Sue.
I was once told by my micromanaging toxic boss “I did some checking.. you don’t have to be there for your sons birth”
thats fucked up
Disgusting 🤮and illegal!
Hope you don't work there anymore..
Thanks for the video! One more to add: hostile work environment claims are common. I actually had mine substantiated, by HR nonetheless. Nothing happened of course, aside from providing additional "training" to the offending parties. Yeah, run like your ass is on 🔥.
I'm a believer in training, but it does not solve problems like those.
When the manager's takeaway from those videos is he recognizes the actors, you know nothing will change for the better. True story...
@@megabyte01 one of the employees with the most HR complaints was IN our training video. 🤦
@@courtneyz4015 Whoa! My condolences
I worked for a manger who fired a person every two years to keep the fear of God in the rest of us. He also came to department meetings with a binder of resumes he had collected to remind us we were replaceable. Somehow I out lived him
What a horrible creature, I cannot even call it human.
I once had a job where they’d undermine and criticize your ideas in meetings, sometimes even laugh at you, especially if you were new like I was. But then in my first performance review I got dinged because I didn’t “show enough confidence” and “didn’t bring fresh ideas”. 💀
I never thought I'd have to detox from such toxic workplace. From lack of support, no accountability, or follow-up from top-down. Accepted an offer letter to start the week after. Resigned day after, at will employment, not to mention my check was shorted 20 hours, while my clinical director make 4x more than I as an hourly employee. He has 14 patients on Monday with no break to breathe, and no other staff he failed to hire.
What about working for a company, for years, and having brand new employees start off at more $$$ than you're making after the years of service put into the company? That's also a sign you're not valued as an employee there.
Agreed unless perhaps you get certain perks they don't to make it up
If you think you're worth more why don't you ask for more?
@@ForgottenKnight1 how about you go into an extremely toxic workplace, get severe trauma and ptsd from the abuse you will receive working there, and then come back and explain how you asked for a raised and successfully got it 🤭
@@acedaking6026 Let me explain how I got it: I didn't, so the next minute I started looking for another job and replaced it as soon as I could. There are also other environments where people don't get raises simply because managers are too comfy, ignorant or stupid to do their job, which is management, so a little nudge on the shoulder from time to time is required. In those environments, you will probably get a raise, but it will still be small. If you want to hike your salary, the best way to do so is changing jobs.
@@ForgottenKnight1 Oh 😭 well ok
I have watched this video maybe 10 times over the past year and still haven’t resigned. I actually work in HR, so there’s no one to complain to 😅. I don’t blame people for leaving. I saw the writing on the wall during my interview but still accepted the offer and remained optimistic on my experience and how I could help change the organization for the better. Thing is, you can only change an organization that wants to be changed. The executive leadership is used to the chaos and are so distant from what’s going on in the field that they don’t care. If a job has high turnover in HR and Finance as well, run the other way.
I work for federal government and my red flag was lack of accountability. Also my coworker joking that they hit their spouse and throw things at them. I’ve worked at some unprofessional places but this one takes the cake. Oh and did I mention my boss calling another coworkers child a future raging b-word? Yup.
One of the top 3 in my company was talking about sex toys and threesomes with my subordinate. I felt so nervous and had to leave the room. I cannot
One of the top 3 in my organization was talking about sex toys and threesomes with my subordinate and I felt so nervous and uncomfortable that I came up with an excuse to leave the room. I could've gotten him in trouble for so openly discussing those matters, but I don't want to be seen as the snitch and get smacked on the wrist/silent fired
Excellent video thank you. Wish I had listened to this years ago. People get caught in a toxic workplace and then find it hard to leave. Yes psychological damage is very damaging going forward.
I wish I had come across your video years ago. At my first job, my superior was very capricious and rude towards me no matter how respectful I was. In fact, it was common to hear her shouting at her subordinates over any mistakes. She even used to send emails to me in capital letters in an attempt to "scold" me. Sadly, the worst part was that my colleagues accepted being treated like that. They used to tell me that "all workplaces are the same, just endure it". I highlighted this to my head of department but he was too meek to do anything about it. I finally left after 2 years of tolerating her bad behavior,. Now when I look back, I wish I had thrown the letter earlier instead of biting the bullet. The ugliest people I ever met are in the corporate world.
Good to know about the corporate world. I think I might need to change field.. hope you're doing better now ❤️
I’m in a VERY toxic work environment but I feel stuck :(
Get out or you’ll burn-out
@@YZFMANIAC08 This is not easy when you have no other source of income apart from the job. For other people, getting out of a toxic workplace would mean becoming homeless or something like that. And hence staying in the toxic job is better.
I was treated like a dog for 15 years by coworkers along the way as an assistant in a dental office - the only way I survived was by having a wise boss with very strong leadership skills who saw through this and saw I was doing my job and defended me against toxic coworkers. He retired and a new doctor came in and was literally the most aloof manager I could have ever imagined. I always did enough work for two employees (literally was given the additional job duties of another employee who left) Despite the weight on me - I kept it all going- yet the new doctor would PRAISE the employees who were screwing off yet every step I took was analyzed. I finally blew and quit. Unfortunately it took too long for me to give up and I was literally on the verge of a mental breakdown by the time I quit. Learn the signs and leave with your dignity in tact!!!!! A pathological workplace is NO JOKE when it comes to your mental (and physical!) health!!!
i feel everything rn im anxious and nervous a little scared. My manager talked bad about me last night while i was standing not even 5 feet away from saying something about not like me not that i care but its just toxic worst part is that she said it while all my other coworkers were there and some of them even laughed now im not the type that likes to mess with anyone bcs i dont like conflict at work but its sad that even being nice can get you in trouble
You have to nip it in the bud. That was a short, concise and direct violation of ethics done infront of co-workers which is doubly bad. They're setting their boundaries inside your's for the sake of elevating themselves at your expense. Very unprofessional. I would find your manager's supervisor and make a verbal report of the event as soon as you're cool enough to present the event calmly and concisely. Often abusive managers are not liked by their own supervisor due to being 'a particular individual' so you will find support where you have not built it or expect it. That person is insecure by you not 'playing along' with their antics. They need a No Trespassing warning.
Don't ever stop being nice. When being nice and being treated as shit in return, most of the time you're dealing with toxic snakes . Never lose your authenticity for no one !! It's a treasure that you've got ❤️
@@drewodessa2483 I agree with you. But there are cases where the manager's supervisor is equally if not more narcissistic than the manager. In that case, the better thing to do is leave.
I recently got fired from a company that:
1) Sent incomplete documents to clients on purpose in order to "save time and get in the race";
2) Developed HVAC plants that weren't under any rulebook because "Nobody is checking on us";
3) Cleaned its ass with OSHA regulations because "Environment is more important!";
4) When I escalated (for three different incidents) the complaint to HR the CEO in person scolded me publically because "You're being a troublemaker, too severe on the rules and nobody wants to work with you";
5) Wanted me to sign some obviously incomplete legal documents (that I wasn't allowed to sign by law) by using someone else's signature just to speed things up;
6) It was severely late on payments (Month X was usually paid on the end of month after that, instead of at the start), and when people complained, it was never the company's fault;
7) They genuinely indoctrinate every single new employee with training videos that are more akin to Jehovah's Witness teaching material than a corporate intro. And when you quit for another job, the remaining employees start calling you "traitor" and "just a number on 's spreadsheet, while we're a family" every minute of the last week you're there.
I got fired, but I don't give a flying fuck. I don't want to go to the clink because of morons that think they need to save the world.
What happens when you resign with notice and then start getting made feel by the others that you’re the problem- gas lighting etc. Because they feel you’re not happy with the environment so make the rest your time difficult.
If you already gave notice, and the manager or employees start playing games, go straight to HR and mention issue - state that you are willing to work your notice period, but if they continue then you will have no option but leave immediately, notice period cancelled. If the issue continues go back to HR and notify, if HR says nothing they can do about it, then leave immediately). It's your choice (you can either stay and take abuse, or leave).
Document, warn others to avoid said company.
I’m 21 and just started working at a clinic, I appreciate these videos . I like my job but thankfully your videos have helped me float and even navigate the work place :) great help
My last manager said the company was “family” and started making outings after work on the weekends as “mandatory “! She was overt narcissistic and was offended when I turned in my two weeks notice. She had favorites, was back stabbing, shaming and gaslighting. She said she had done nothing but “ mother me” but was not supportive and treated those who were different as problematic. Or treated us like babies. So glad I finally left!
My manager went behind my back and reported my concerns to HR after I specifically told her not to because they would fire me...now I'm on a ridiculous PIP and being even more degraded than before I said anything. I think my manager is fed up with me and wants me to quit so they don't have to fire me. I only realized there was a problem when I didn't get the promotion I had been expecting. Turns out by that time they had already decided to push me out. I don't even know what I did that was so bad. They didn't offer me any training or professional development. They just said I'm performing poorly and that this PIP, which is set up for me to fail, is my last chance. I thought I had most of the professional qualities needed to keep a good corporate job. I have areas where I can improve but I didn’t think being human was an unacceptable professional quality.
Sounds like a ‘Narcissistic boss’ and work culture.
My boss did the same. I raised a concern I had, just to that he is aware that it exist. And he ran straight to HR....
My boss did the same thing
PIP means get out or your gone. Happened to me, dumb things,
Let them fire you. You will receive unemployment benefits. If they kept you after 90 days, then you must have been OK for awhile. You get benefits if you cannot do the job to the employer's specifications. even before or after 90 days.... get paid to find a better job. Enjoy.
I got a negative review/our form of write up because last Tuesday I was rear ended during my lunch break and sustained injuries. I brought in all the documentation (medical and police report) and still got in trouble for not returning to work. One more bad review and I will be terminated. I'm fairly sure I'm gonna put in my notice today or tomorrow because it was added stress to a stressful situation that I had zero control over. This is how companies lose good employees.
So it only takes two bad reviews to get fired at your company?
@@RasheedahNizam yes. You get 2 points for absences and 1 for leaving early. If you get 6 points in 6 months, you are terminated. I had an absence in early December because my son broke his arm in school (requiring a bone to be reset), which put me at 2 points. The car accident happened on my lunch break, giving me 1 point for leaving early and I missed my next shift with the doctors note, giving me 2 more points. I'm at 5 points but I put my notice in yesterday.
@@Had_A_DAT good for you. I'm always surprised that companies put themselves into positions that make the whole operation fall apart if one person doesn't come in for one day. They never seem to pay that person appropriately. And if it's way more than one person calling off all the time, there are systematic problems that could probably be identified in exit interviews which they will never do.
Let them fire you and appeal the decision..... pretty sure the car wreck at lunch can't really be used against you, in a fair court of law.
this is so needed in the world! the revolving door and psychological safety are the things that I deal with constantly
I worked at a job for over 5 years (I left over a year ago) and it was the absolute worst job I have ever had. It just gradually got worse and worse. My supervisor was completely inept, a control
freak but completely out of touch. She kept me back and promised me promotion opportunities that never materialized. The manager didn’t want anything to do with anyone and would hide from people. Everyone hated everyone. My ex-supervisor texts me every now to see how I am and I feel like she’s doing it bc other people are probably asking her about me (bc there’s no other reason). I’ve thought about it and that’s all I can gather. There’s no professional reason and she never liked me. I actually never want to go back to work ever again because of it.
Three weeks after being wrongfully terminated, I not only won a case against them and received a small termination payout. I was even more outraged that the manager, who bullied me at work got away with it and got to keep his job because the owner likes him. This has been going on for years and nothing has changed. What should I do? Should I take the whole story to Reddit or leave a review on my former employers indeed page? I just want everyone to know what bullying bosses need to be held accountable for their actions, and regardless if I paid out a small termination pay this doesn't correct this.
Do both‼️
@@user-of9bx1uk3u what if this gets back to me for harassment tho? Not every employer will accept negative feedback.
@@pennsylvanianrrfoamer mmh that’s true, unless your able to do it anonymously.
@@user-of9bx1uk3u they'll know it's me because it's a small business.
Uh, 3 weeks? did the Offenders settle Out Of Court which had to be petitioned?
The worse case of professional immaturity was when my co-worker, who was on the same bus as I was, was on her phone bad mouthing another co-worker, in a really loud voice. That co-worker had offered the immature one a place to stay temporarily. The conversation included some very personal details and racial overtones. This same person constantly also bad mouthed the center director, kids in the center and their parents.
I needed this so much!! I feel like I'm alone!.
you're not alone...there are 1000s in the same situation. Don't let the bastards get you down!
@@kelseymathias3881 thank you ..everyday my heart races ..I just try to focus on myself.
@@joeycooper6223 Hi Joey...yes, the right approach is to focus on yourself and your accomplishments...this job will not be forever...but the healthy opinion of yourself you develop will help you no matter your are working. Best wishes, hang in there. God bless. It will work out to your advantage. (old lady speaking from experience).
I thought it was just me overthinking on how people can be , everything you explained is accurate
If HR is taking photos of me through my work laptop then I’m going to sue them period. Nowhere in my company paperwork when signing on is this allowed nor would I consent to it.
The place I work has lack of boundary’s and sometime the boss expects you to work overtime. I’m happy I made the right decision to leave.
One thing is for sure: in my current job, my UAQ is being very under utilised. Don’t get me started on the toxicity. Nepotism and favouritism as well as personal gossip and threats and intimidation as well as blaming each other are all prevalent in my current job. Anyway, I’ve found something that seems to utilise my UAQ and the culture seems much better, accommodating me by doing interviews at 7:30 am. I got the offer :)
Knowing one's boundaries: essential. Great advices. Thanks
Question:
1. is tip-toeing around 'alpha male' manager (insults, outbursts, etc.) worth keeping the job.
2. is tip-toeing around 'alpha male' employees who are pals with manager (walking with your back against the wall the whole day - to not get stabbed in back) worth keeping the job.
It's been my experience that those who say "yes" to every sign is probably the MOST toxic person!
Can you make a video about the DO's and DONT's of being a professional in the corporate world?
So far I have:
Don't be late
Don't take breaks
Don't talk
Don't make mistakes
Don't get confused
Don't be happy
Don't be enthusiastic
Don't take initiative
Don't be creative
Don't be innovative
Don't be passionate
Don't be honest
Don't be interested
Don't be funny
Don't be friendly
Don't be concerned
Don't be offended
Don't trust anyone ever
Don't get comfortable
Don't think
Don't defend yourself
Don't believe in yourself
Don't do anything by yourself
Don't do anything without help
Don't care
Don't try
Don't feel
Don't hope
Don't plan
Don't organize
Don't work fast
Don't learn
Don't disagree
Don't have an opinion
Don't expect a good manager
Don't collaborate
Don't work hard
... anything else?
Uh...
Don't speak unless spoken to
Don't speak up when someone harasses you
Don't speak up when you see harassment
Don't expect to be heard when you are asked to speak
Don't expect actual mirth at company birthday parties
Yes and essentially, “Don’t ever trust your coworkers or line management”. Snake 🐍 in the grass. 🤮🤢
Those are so good. Don't refuse bribe or guilt gifts
Speak your mind (professionally & carefully) and pick & choose your battles.
Another big sign is if they reward and/or promote bad employees over good ones. This recently happened to me at my work place. All the good employees started leaving months within each other, and bad employees kept getting promoted and moved to higher positions or given more responsabilities, even though that resulted in mistakes and affecting the quality of work of everybody else. The boss just couldn't care less! And when I brought this up to her she built a grudge against me and made sure a training I had asked for to do a better job was given to someone else and not me, basically setting me up for failure.
I’m fresh out of college (as a slightly older student), and I’m working a job that is VERY simple just to pay the bills. It’s a huge corporation and you’d THINK it would be a great place to get your foot in the door-but ooooooof.
I’m VERY mature and direct, while my new coworkers allllll gossip constantly. So much so I had to announce that if anyone is looking to gossip, LEAVE ME OUT.
There’s lots of complaints, lots of subpar leadership, LOTS if gossiping EVEN AT the leadership level, but I’m really trying to stick it out for a few months until I move on.
I’m just telling myself I’m accomplished, smart, funny, and there’s a great company out there waiting to use my skills. It’s too bad it’s not this one bc I had really high hopes of networking/growing, but at this point, I just want out.
Too bad, really.
I resigned my workplace after 5 months because everyone was talking bad about each other. Even though they were talking to me about other people, it still didn't sit well with me especially when technically I was still new. Even though i had already resigned i ended up staying another 6 months to help the company. What made me leave was when one of my teammates were slacking off and my other teammate went to management about his concerns, he told me that they just gave him a pay rise to deal with it. That scenario worried me more that the gossiping because i was scared i might end up being locked down at the company due to money. And I've heard managers shouting at their employees degrading and belittling them in a different department. I worked in a boys club company and that's how they talk and operate with each other but coming from a long line of workplaces where it's more pleasant and managers didn't talk to their staff like that or people didn't talk about each other unless they were really frustrated at someone in the workplace made me feel that I might end up being bitter in the long run but also I'm a friendly and caring person and I felt that if I stayed that caring person would disappear
if Congress outlawed bullying today, the American economy would grind to an abrupt halt tomorrow. Americans tolerate all kinds of unacceptable workplace conditions because so many of us have given trade unions the heave-ho. And from childhood American kids are taught to do anything to get ahead.
Labor unions ARE bullying in its most evil, sinister form.
As a UK worker, I hear stuff my counterparts in the US endure and I pity them. Mandatory unpaid overtime? Being able to sack your employees on the spot? No legally protected breaks, days off or maternity leave? They’re being treated one rung above slavery and don’t even know it. And yet are brainwashed to believe that the US is the best country in the world. “Home of the brave, land of the free” I think not. Poor brainwashed souls.
The way employees perform as well as who stays and who goes, in and out of the company is 100% on the boss! A bad boss micromanages and a good boss will motivate and/or tell you not to work too hard.
Having a work phone that you're supposed to answer, reply emails, msgs 24/7....also the little phone allowance that you get is suddenly taxable....net earnings becomes less.
Thank you for another interesting video Jennifer. I watched your previous video on toxic workplaces and it gave me the final push I needed to take action and leave my job. I just started my new job and it is the best decision I have ever made! My new workspace is way more in line with my personality and I feel safe and accepted for who I am.
Keep it up! ❤
I'm so happy you're in a better spot now!!
I'm so happy for you 🤗😌 is it in the same field ?
Same concept can apply to schools. The post secondary I attended was toxic. Boundaries is difficult to maintain with failing, so much work in so little time, taking less courses comes with complications but adding a course is no problem, a feeling of burn out and misery, and a lack of genuine learning experience. It's different to leave a college when you put student loans in and a contract the school gave you to sign. However, being in a situation like that offers you an experience of what kind of work environment you don't want to work in so you can look out when you land a job
Just realised the place I left just before Christmas displays every single one of these red flags. Nice... I don't know how people like them stay in business...
Always come back here to your channel when I feel like it might just be me.
Thank you, Jennifer!
Glad it's here for you, David!
@@JenniferBrick I wish I would have found your channel meanwhile I was still working there..but glad that I did it now. So I'll be more prepared for the future ☺️ thank you so much for all you're doing for us Jennifer ❤️
hr is usually trying to back the boss up...
Absolutely. Most HR teams focus on the real job of human resources: to protect the company.
HR is there to spot and eliminate ANY employee that could be a liability to the company. NEVER EVER think they are there for YOU. It is risk management, if you could be a potential risk, you are toast. NEVER confide in them, NEVER believe they are on your side.
@@savannahsmiles1797 Well Miss Sav, "Trust No One" Ben Franklin, Versailles France (circa 1783).
@@HighSpeedNoDrag Devildriver said the same
I had a problem, I went to HR they were friendly enough and understood my concerns but had no power
Hi Jennifer, my job made me feel like I was in fight or flight mode and by boss always insulted me and told me im not good enough to pursue my career goals and also broke my confidence. I felt like I was emotionally, and psychologigically affected in my workplace. I also think I was in a better emotional and mental position before the job and that my confidence was higher. Yes I just quit and I feel so great.
I should've left when my manager and her direct manager confronted me and showed me all the shit they were tracking me do and say. She maintained a list of those things under the guidance of her manager who was the real asshole. (I'm giving her a free pass because she's younger than me and was taken under his wing.) I'll never forget how "sick" was in quotes (I'd called in sick one time).
From those points on I started getting terrible performance reviews. Yeah it's almost like it's demoralizing or something to be treated like a problem child when you're not one.
Fast forward to this January and I found out the asshole wrote a script to "pull in data" to demonstrate our "velocity" at work. The data he had was absolutely misleading; there were JIRA tickets that weren't marked done because I was STILL waiting for someone else to do their job. Explaining this to him did nothing btw lol.
I was already planning on leaving this summer, but that forced me to go on the hunt sooner rather than later. A few weeks later, I accepted an offer from a significantly better place that offered me a higher salary and a better title and quit the shitty job. I didn't bother giving 2 weeks notice because I couldn't take another day of being gaslit and being told I'm less capable than I am.
That asshole was affecting my mental health. And wouldn't you know it, my mental health significantly improved after I left lol
Thank you for this: I've opted for GTFO. + 30 years of work experience and I am in the worst most toxic job I've ever experienced. Almost everybody is new as the turnover is very fast. The manager is a very nice person but has no managerial skills and the team is just horrible.
This is great content and thank you, once again, for confirming to me that I'm not crazy and that I actually do work in a super toxic company.
So true with the work culture thing "taste" vs "toxic". Like work parties or sharing....at my work they always have snacks in the back for us to share. If it's your birthday, you get a cake. Now some people are gonna be like I just came here to do my job, get out of my face, while others are like "yay! I love this!!" Maybe you could do a Taste vs Toxic video. I dunno
JENNIFER you CARE about us more than HR!!!!!
LOL hard @ "low professional maturity" love that phrase!
im so scared to complain to HR about my manager because they seem to know each other
Don't do it. It's a trap
What do I do if I feel stuck, like I can't leave? Because- I'm a widowed/single mom, job has good health insurance for us, the pay is decent (though, with my lengthy experience, I should be getting paid more but my requests are denied) and the hours are OK enough that I can watch my grandbaby often. I should have left long ago, maybe even on Day 2. I knew, I knew then but it's not that easy to just quit. I've been in an abusive intimate relationship before, this job is the same. I'm scared to stay, I'm scared to leave.
When I was a Manufacturing Engineer Planner and COVID hit, I got way more work done at home than I ever did at work. I literally ran out every day. They had to find stuff for me to do. Sadly I was laid off 9 months later but I have a new job now that actually requires me to be there because it's physical. I was recently hire at my current company to be a Technical Designer and a lot of my team are still working at home. =o)
Much as I hate to say it, I’m three shifts in at the job I’ve just joined and I already have doubts about it. I’ve had three very different experiences so far. First day was good, second day just pushed me beyond my physical limits though most of the team seemed to understand that you can’t go from inactivity due to illness to twelve hours of brutal physical labour with barely legal minimums and not struggle to do anything for the final few hours. Third day wasn’t so bad but the physical damage from the previous day meant that I had to max out my painkillers to get through.
And that’s okay, I expected a bit of a rough re entry into work but the culture there has put me on the alert. There’s bickering and politics but I might have just had the bad timing of having my first day be audit day and the other team effed it up badly so the big boss came in and delivered a scathing bollocking to the entire workforce in during that shift. It was borderline unprofessional in my opinion but then he openly admitted that he’d just been reamed by his bosses and I quickly realised that this was just typical manager shit rolling down hill behaviour that I could safely ignore.
Yet I still caught myself resentfully thinking “This is my second shift, half of us are less than a month in. I don’t deserve this. Why are you bitching at us when we’re still training? Maybe the problem you have is that you just hired a ton of new people and it takes people a month or two to really settle in and know what they’re doing.” Then I had to catch myself with the reminder that it was a group bollocking and likely not directed at me. But I still didn’t like the impression it left. But the other problem is that there is a lot of bickering and whining going on. One guy was driving the company van and telling us about how he slept with a colleague and his wife found out and kicked him out and I learned a ton of stuff about a couple other colleagues of similar detail.
None of the above is a particular problem. I don’t involve myself with gossip and I very much keep my work and home life separate. Anything that I happen to hear, I don’t repeat. I’m a bit of an introvert so I keep to myself for the most part though after years of self training I can engage in small talk enough to keep my colleagues happy. The only snag is that my partner works at a different company within the same general industry ecosystem and we have a good chance of encountering each other at work…. After a discussion about it, we’ve agreed simply to pretend to not recognise each other if it happens. 🤣 Neither of us wants the gossip and chaos that would inevitably result if we did.
But I don’t know. It’s probably too early to tell. Give it a few weeks and I can get out of dodge thanks to the probation period if I find it toxic.
My supervisor yelled at me for helping a client. Even though the client was happy . All I could think was “ this is Highschool “. Plus my manager will message me on my days off !! Smh
Lol sounds like the dump I'm in. Every one is a joke in management and in the office, in fact it goes all the way to the top.
You are terrific!! Thanks for your insight and professional presentation! (so refreshing to get right to the meat of the subject without all the fluff)
Day 3 we had a candidate who we flown in for an interview. He wasn't able to use our rental car account so he asked us to reimburse him. Typical. Right?
Well my boss set in front of me and said ...... if anyone is reliant on their. Last paycheck. (Living paycheck to paycheck) we don't want those kind of people. 😬😬😬
Heck I am one of those people. I have not had a paycheck for 4 weeks!
Btw. My boss is the director of HR!
This is very helpful. The last part regarding the revolving door smacked me upside the head. We've lost a lot of people in my department and in a branch that I work with they have lost 7 engineers in the space of 4 years - none of these people have been replaced yet. Also, one really sharp manager got hired 6 months ago, I liked the guy he seemed very talented and had great efficiency related ideas that he brought from Amazon. Sure enough - he quit a month ago. One of my favorite Project Managers, only at the company for 3 years just quit without having job due to frustrations with a lack of career path. Thank you for this video as it is helping me make a change.
When a company misspells your name tag refuses to fix it, GTFO immediately. It may be toxic.