Thanks for watching! Remember, these signs are not set in stone! Everyone is different, so interpreting their appearance, words and actions may or may not always be accurate, and there are always exceptions. Please keep this in mind when reading people!
Maybe you should have started with that dude!!! Sarcasm is culturally conditioned, and crossed arm or legs, is a relaxing position for many. The baby thing is just fucking stupid, unless you know, what hand they prefer to use in general. Furthermore, is there no scientific evidence on what you are suggesting at the beginning of the video - the percentages doesn’t match the reality. Otherwise, it was informative, unless the obvious parts, you should have been left out.. 😇
The fact that many people think folding your arms means you are uncomfortable means folding my arms to make me comfortable now makes me uncomfortable knowing others think I'm uncomfortable. ;)
@@jamesnw 😂😂😂😂😂 😂😂😂 This only means a person would actually have to know a person in order to know that particular person body language style😂😂😂😂OH NO😂😂
It is a myth that crossing arms and legs is creating a barrier. This actually suggests the person is self soothing because they may be uncomfortable mentally or physically (it's cold). In either case, it's about them.... not you.
For mostly healthy, “normal” people, these signs are quite relevant, though you have to be wary of the D personalities who tend to mirror everything you do. It would be good to note that many of these tips are not always applicable to those with disabilities, particularly chronic pain and fatigue or other unseen injuries, who have to move or sit in certain positions for comfort, wear certain types of shoes to walk, or have limitations on their range of movement, etc.
People with Autism and other learning disabilities will display different body language than what most people are accustomed to. Avoiding eye contact and fidgeting are common among high-energy and tense people -- ADHD, Autism, and chronic-PTSD for example.
Sometimes I think we get more concerned with the fact that someone likes us that we forget how important it is to be valued. Being liked is good, but being valued is so much better.
I have this "gift", being able to read people so easily. It's not something they do, their facial expression or body language, I just know what they're really feeling and can sometimes say what they're thinking as well. My advice is; always trust your gut feeling/first instinct. ALWAYS. Never, ever overthink.
Exactly. I have the same gift. Right about 95% of the time. Maybe higher. Some are very good at being deceitful. So, I may not recognize it right off. But I eventually see.
I feel you I'm actually able to read their emotions depending on the person I'm able to tell right away how they are feeling and what there next move is
Palmina D'Alessandro I agree. That person could also be an introvert who finds the direct eye contact of strangers disturbing. They could also be on the autism spectrum.
@Su!c!de Surv!vor HUH? was that supposed to be a joke or sarcastic or something? I don't understand. Please don't use suicide as a joke or to get reaction, your user name is "Suicide Survivor" so I would think that you'd be sensitive about the subject... My nephew committed suicide and there's absolutely nothing at all remotely funny or even sarcastically funny or fake funny or anything, as a matter of fact your comment wasn't even relevant to what's on the video! I pray that you're ok and that you chose to live. I also pray that you're not just tryin to get attention, cause suicide is not funny and it in no way should be used as a joke. In whatever you were tryin to say or do. Stay safe... ✌️🙏🏼
Me: *Talking and having Eye Contact with my friend* Friend Thoughts: I got to be brave but... His eyes are like laser daggers ready to penetrate deep into my soul
The first thing I notice about someone is their tone and what they are saying when their speaking. Also, I notice how attentive they are to the conversation. That tells me so much about a person.
What does it mean when a guy is just standing there looking at you and you ask him “ are you analysing me ? “ and he says “ yes kind off “ what does that mean someone help ?
@@kudatamaas someone who consistently gets cut off , I go into conversations PREPARED to listen ..believe it or not, A LOT of people enjoy talking {not necessarily a bad thing} or at least, enjoy talking when they’ve found an active listener. Not only are you the one gathering SO much information from people by constantly being the listener than the speaker but it also provides the opportunity to read body language, tone inflections & facial expressions ..my advice?? go into conversations PREPARED to listen & ONLY speak when you know for sure they’re done talking
Number 18 it’s a sign that your building rapport. So if you wanna see if your really communicating as well as you think you are with someone ask them questions about themselves while subtly moving your body to different stances or positions and if they follow suit then that’s a good indication your building a relationship with a good rapport and understanding of each other.
Hello Gamer! I know, that for sensitive people, is difficult to make eye contact. Depends on the culture too-you can do some self-studies about that... Being well put together, can give you some boost of confidence, and even create a "security blanket". But, an introvert, is feeling so much better, in its own company):
I'm often reminded to take people at their word but... Are you sure you're not just unsociable? I'm not a pro but I think there can be a huge difference. Anti-social folks don't always avoid people. It's no fun if you like making people suffer! You might have problems processing some things that seem common to folks you'd otherwise like to meet. If you'd rather be a hero than a bad guy, you probably aren't really anti-social.; maybe just wanting revenge on persons unknown. Just ease yourself into life if you can. You don't have to be anyone just because people act like you're supposed to be. Just try to find folks temperate zone and learn to have fun.
I avoid it because I feel like my eyes make people interested in me n I don’t wanna give random people the wrong impression like I want them.. is that weird?
From what ive read... it could mean you have a weak personality.. tho it sounds fucked up i wouldnt take offense... you probably get nervous easily and walk the same way, nervous, quickly and avoiding eye contact looking down mainly
You can change that, be more brave and look them straight in the eyes don’t care about what they would think about you, that will give you a stronger attitude
I know I am the same way. Plus I have a lazy eye it always looks away I've had that since 5 yrs old it's never going to get better so when I look at someone they look behind them because my eye looks away.
I Notice Everything, Shoes Definitely, Style, Cleaniness, Side Eye 👀, Eye Contact...Im A Great Listener & Ask Alot Of Questions Because Im Truly Intrested In Understanding Where He Or She Is Coming From & Their Intentions
When it comes to eye contact, I was taught/forced to stare adults in the eye from beginning to end of conversation. I got so used to it that it became a competition, so almost rather than paying attention to what they were saying, I would be thinking "I bet you break first". It became a dominance challenge of sorts. As an adult myself, I intentionally break eye contact because I consciously consider whether or not I'm trying to psychologically dominate a person. As I do not want to dominate anyone that I respect, I find constant eye contact to be borderline arrogant and domineering. Making sure that I'm maintaining eye contact during key parts of conversation where you want to make sure that the points are understood on both sides, is far more important to me than a staring contest.
I love reading people , body language , mood , the way the express their thoughts , how close the are to you, I can sense when people feeling uncomfortable, or lie to me or trying to cover up something , this page is for me ❤️
Wrote this to an attractive girl, "You know that place between sleep and awake that place where you can still remember dreaming that's where I'll always love you that's where I'll be waiting " keep me in your heart for a while"
Then, you might want to watch these videos of this guy named Shayan wahedi. He studies and identifies body language. Also makes references to the book (48 laws of power.) It’s really good, you’ll love it. I promise
I have a major psychology degree I absolutely love psychology and the study of human behaviour it's the most fascinating subject for me psych and has always been a huge passion of mine and a subject of great interest and fascination.For myself Psych is more than just a subject or a study it is a way of life and it provides us with so many different and exciting facts and theories reseaarch
Plus a gut feeling. Always listen to what your instincts tell you. Don't ever question it. Edit: the brain can sense a change in the electromagnetic energy in the atmosphere and your mind will send you warnings in the form of a "gut" feeling. Their are a TON of TH-cam videos on this subject if you don't like reading and doing actual research.
My gut tells me when I'm hungry, going to vomit or need to drop a mongo deuce .... My instincts come from wisdom acquired through experience. Just to be safe I suggest you seek a mental health facility ASAP. 👍
Very true. Did you know that when you get butterflies in your tummy it is your bodies way of warning u? All this time i thought it was a romantic thing but psychologists have recently expressed that the opposite is true. It is your guts way of saying get away from this person.
people who are elderly, or have some illnesses, such as arthritis, may wear unattractive shoes from necessity, but may be longing to wear pretty shoes.
I always pay attention to what they are saying. People reveal their interest by their thinking strategies and words. Once I figure out what they're really intrested in. I act accordingly and present myself as a favorable person to his interest and that's how I make new friends. If I find that person being too nuisance I get rid of him. And hold on to those who I really feel significant
Totally correct! Doesn’t mean we’re nervous or duplicitous. We know the game and often just can’t be bothered engaging. Prolonged contact of any kind is also regarded as disrespectful in many cultures . Handshakes are often distasteful too. Give me space and I’m just fine - for a while !
I've always been one to sit back quietly when meeting new people. To see what type of person they are. If someone I's negative and they are one to bring me down I'll avoid then. See how someone acts in a group setting also is a good way to read a person's character.
True, but greeting others is an instant way to find out more or less what types they are, because if they don’t answer or only scowl, they’re not nice/warm/friendly, or just don’t want to be bothered. If they reciprocate with a genuine smile or a friendly tone of voice then they’re more approachable, but obviously it takes time to really know what someone’s true personality is. Some can pretend/are good actors/mislead others easily/hide their true feelings
How do I read people : - observe their caracther - there style of clothing might help u sometimes to read that person - try to be friends with her but don’t fully trust her until she shows their real faces
if i read you with all the information showing... You like Powerpuff girls means you are a lil childish but age is 14-16 girl. The way you talk means you are an higher average in grades also a little proud.
1. My character is random:Always an honest guy,Always a Liar, A Dick, A kind person, Impatient, Patient, Determined, Lazy 2. For clothing though... I just wear what I have to be honest 🤣 3. well yes but technically I don't know
You're absolutely right. This factor should have been taken into consideration in the preparation of this video. I have lived in two other countries where the culture is very different from my own. Although English-speaking societies see making direct eye contact as a a sign of trustworthiness, making direct eye contact in other societies can be seen as aggressive or disrespectful. The meaning of a gesture can be vastly different from one culture to another. An innocent gesture in one culture may be extremely vulgar in another. There are countless examples.
@@kathleenstress no not really. More like my left arm is severely damaged and it helps keep the pressure off of bad joints with it supported like that. I'm very conscious of any and all issues I have in life and have no problem talking with others about them. Sorry but you simply just dont have to be defensive to cross your arms and find it comfortable. Are crossed arms a sign of discomfort or a barrier for some? Absolutely. However, that just doesn't apply to everyone. Unlike most people, I welcome others to be aware of any problems or fears I may have. It helps them know me deeper and as well it helps me address them. I sometimes use a sling for the same purpose of crossing my arms and when I do use it, guess what....I dont try to cross my left with the other arm. If yours was damaged as mine, it would make perfect sense to you why I do it and find it comfortable. You do have a sound theory there in why some people may do it and I'd say you're correct far as some people go but not everybody. 😊
@@fromashestoangels378 I can identify with that! A long time ago I was crossing my arms in public after a surgery because it helped relieve pain. This led to me getting a lecture in front of a lot of people for being "closed off" from what others are saying. It seems almost ironic that I can never remember if I emailed that acquaintance to explain (I didn't have a chance to explain at the time). If I did email them, I never got a response :). Now I have newer injuries in both arms and crossing them helps to keep them warm which relieves discomfort. Btw, your mention of joints reminded me that I may need to go back to using glucosamine capsules. They've done wonders for my knees in the past and may help with my elbows.
I really don't interact with people often, I'm kind of an introvert and I love being who I am, I don't give eye contact and I don't smile often but that doesn't mean am not genuine
@@mikeb8638 lol. Actually they meant, " I know that you think that me staring at you means I really care and I'm a decent human being but hahaha what they Really mean is, you'd better watch out or I'll make sure the rest of your life is unimaginably terrible"
I will say sometimes when someone is describing someone as nasty, or manipulative it could just be that they were really hurt by that person. Also sometimes there really is not anything nice to say about someone. Unfortunately not everyone is a good person.
When I meet someone, the first thing I notice is their smile and teeth. Teeth are very important to me. Then it's the face. These points are very interesting and well taken. Thanks for sharing!
I don't know about this... I am extremely motivated, so many things I have going done and busy doing.... but cow I am lazy... always looking for the shortest way to get it done... And if i procrastinate for.... hours... days... months... Great! I had nothing better to do.... but I have so much I want to get done... and will get done... I will do it! But maybe later... or tomorrow... I ain't in the mood right now... lmao.
When you do something for;or tell someone you will do something for them, always do it, and do it in a timely manner, and do it to the best of your abilityEven if you know you can’t do it as fast as someone else might, take the time you need, To go above and beyond average, just because you value the person,, and don’t want to disappoint them. Don”t expect , or explain how hard you worked , just accept praise with dignity. If they don’t acknowledge Your work, don’ feel, or show disappointment. Believe in yourself: think about what you did; see if maybe you missed something , or maybe went to far with something. Learn from it, and avoid making same mistake next time.
I can't over express how important these kind of videos are to me because I'm an idiot. And even though they won't fix that, they can help a lot when it comes to just getting along with people better. Thanks.
I dont know who u are but u are not an idiot. Maybe u can't read body language like alot of us. Usually people that can read body language are psychologists, profilers, and creepy people. So don't call yourself an idiot.
I once met this man who was extremely nice but after a while he realised I wasn’t someone he could dominate when I held differing views on some matters and he changed to a different person altogether. If u really want to know what a person is like test them by challenging what they think or believe and see how they react.
Emily Emmons it was obvious he was never interested in knowing me but to make use of me. What happened between us was between us but it is a lesson we should all learn from.
When meeting strangers convo should be kept as small talk. Small building blocks of micro-development... It takes many years to immerse into a deep opinionated discussion w/ someone and ask them what they "think" about an issue, then review their response based upon intrinsic value or moral... I think it is much too short of time for probing "life stances" thru initial human relations w/ a potential new friend. And the focus for me is can i have a simple natural down to earth dialogue w/ this person on an even wave-length.
@@MannyCalderari Depends on age. Your way is fine for teens & early twenties, but not for those who have begun to value time. With experience, you can learn how to read a person very quickly by introducing certain topics.
Well, I think I just have the ability to do it. When I ask someone I look at him in the eyes and they tell me everything. Or when I am mad I look bad at him and start to ask me to stop it. But they also told me that I have strong gaze so I think that is the reason. But when someone is smiling I look at his eyes and sometimes I see sadness and things happen.
Take a person has you find them has no one is perfeckt and if dont jell just leave well a lone and you carnt please every one,every one has there own tast,
Same same; I kinda giggled to my self when I read your comment because I am doing the same thing. I have always felt like a "spork" in a drawer for spoons... It's always nice to meet another spork.😁
Hello, fellow female on the spectrum! I find this video questionable, as it doesn't mention people like us not doing this. It's really tough when you social cues are not like everybody else's.
As a personality type often mistaken for being on the autism spectrum, I think all handshaking should stopped. It is germy and far too much contact. Southerners, Italians, and others who hug - nooooooooo.
I fit in with most of these. I was taught that crossing my legs was lady like. I have over active sweat gland and antiperspirant/deodorant literally does nothing after a few hours. I've had some bad experiences and have panic attacks any and everytime somebody is behind me, to the point the I hold a mirror when I can't prevent it. I have tremors due to a side effect of a medication i take and my neck, arms, hands and legs frequently shake. I look down every few seconds when I walk because I trip over air. Other than people being behind me, I'm a very confident person, the rest of the things that are on this list have to do with medical stuff.
A lot of these non-verbal cues are straight up signs of introversion or social anxiety, and NOT signs of lying or bad personality. This is a video that is telling people to "judge a book by the cover" and reject someone before you even give them a chance, just because they are nervous or shy around new people. That doesn't make them unfriendly or worthy of your scorn. Shame on you.
Yes...people with social anxiety are usual very soft/gentle warm-hearted. . (but get into their shelll/self-preservation mode. .by crossing arms. ..In general fear...but you have to have talked to them one-on-one. .to see whether. .they behave relaxed. .in a room of 2 people
When you are a balanced personality you can see the good in others when it is there as well as when there is manipulative evil behaviors, you don't have to be extremist to have a sane personality.
Body language is important but not always accurate depending on the situation, individual and the overall difference between the two people while you might get good vibes from someone in reality only time will show the true meaning of your relationship and the selfpreservation of the people you are dealing with! So keep your guard up at all times .
The mommy holding baby thing is BS. A left-handed mom will hold her baby in her right arm to free up her dominant hand to do all the other things she has to do. Also, babies get heavy after awhile, so switching arms is necessary to give the arms a rest. Also, crossed arms might mean that the person is cold.
The 1st thing i take notice of is how they "feel" to be near them and i do it on an intuitive level so i'm often not aware of what i've picked up til i think about it later. But sometimes something about them is so "loud" that it hits me on a conscious level straight away too...
Whenever I meet a person or pass a person in the the airport, if they nod up, they are either too friendly or they know me well, if they nod down it's a respectful greeting. I would rather be respected than liked.
I tend to read people's facial expression, body language, and their attire -depending on the context. Then I try to ask about them -unless they're already relaxed."Being interested in others is interesting" -to most people. If they're rude or disinterested I generally move on ~maybe they're having a bad day.
agreed! genuine and sincere and honest win with me! If we are genuine and another is not then we may not connect at all and miss out on getting to know the real bitty gritty in someone. How unfortunate because I'm sure we can all relate somehow to each. Only 1% of our DNA makes each of us unique and different from each at mos. We at most share the same make up. so let's unite in our flaws and imperfections as well as with our more positive qualities! We are all perfect in our imperfection. Love, Tricia
I like paying attention to these because in a way it gives us a heads up so we could observe and consider what someone else may be going through at the moment just not so much that they're not interested in what we're saying simply have issues to take care of
Crossing your arms can mean different things to various people the reason we do it, is maybe just like what you said or maybe because of something else or he/she is just feeling chilly the reason may vary so dont act like your reason is the real deal
When I meet someone for the first time I watch their eyes. I see if they shift away or blink or stare excessively. Staring without blinking is normally a sign of domination or intimidation. I found narcissists do the aforementioned frequently to dominate.
These are all fair perspectives but I think it's important to remember how complex a human life/psyche is. With regards to people's shoes, I must be aggressive lol People emulate a lot of my traits and techniques but it's not until they've known me for a while. It sometimes used to annoy me when I was younger but I now I find it sorta comforting . When one considers how much we all emulate those who they respect, such as a parent, it's actually quite amazing on the whole.
I use to look down a lot. But doing exercise can make you more confident I believe. Everyone is different. And it also depends how long you know the person.
Great video EXCEPT 18 MAYDAY!! Almost all Narcassistic intimate relationships begin this way. They imitate/mirror/copy you in every way. You technically end up falling in love with yourself. In time you see who they really are but then you've been trama bonded. I could go on and on with what they're going to do because they're so predictable. Once recognizing the red flags you'll see how they copied/mirrored you. Just be careful if they seem too good to be true. PS: love your channel...Thanks!
I've always had a problem with leaning away from people when they get relatively close to me. It's not like I mean to or feel uncomfortable; it just happens.
I’m not a psychologist but I study it and these are all pretty basic “not always true” things. Like these aren’t bad to go off of but they do help for a start
Lean into them back and see what happens . When you feed them back their meds they start acting up/weird. It’s a true hidden weakness of theirs they try to mask
I dont like too much eye contact makes me anxious but then i do have social anxiety thats why im watching videos like this to help me work on being better again :) xxxx
@@leaholson33 then reduce people down to energy and mind. A body isn't a person. That's not who they are, but merely a reflection of the real entity contained inside. This stops a lot of deception for me because looks are deceptive, they keep changing directions and leaving your heart in a daze/mind in a maze.
@@xxxod I said mental disorders. Even if I reduce them to mind, the mental disorders will still be there. People with narcissistic personality disorder are hard to read. Psychopaths I think are even harder to read as they lack empathy, and thus a lot of emotion and tone in voice.
If I cross my legs it’s probably because I’m not ready to leave and I’m interested in the conversation. If I rub my hands it’s because I’m anxious. I do it as soon as I feel anxiety, which is on a regular basis for me. If I’m excited I’ll silently clap my hands aha I love wearing ankle boots, but I’m really soft. If I talk fast and move a lot it’s mostly because I’m interested in what we’re talking about. I could be rubbing my hands a lot more too. I think most of these can be true, but there are exceptions that’s what I’m trying to say! ^_^
Thankyou for noting that due to individuality, interpretation of signs can vary. For example, less eye contact could mean a person is a bit introverted rather than hiding something.
A lot of this needs to take into account culture. i.e it’s very rude in my culture to look someone in the eyes for a long period of time. it’s considered very aggressive- you look into someone’s eyes when you are about to fight/ make a strong point; verbally, emotionally or indeed...physically.
I usually notice teeth and mouth first when meeting a new person and really dislike a soft limp handshake as it makes me think they are being disrespectful. I enjoyed your video
Some great tips. Not only does this video give us some pointers about how to read and understand people better, but it also, without explicitly saying it, teaches us how to conduct ourselves while in others' company. Using the branch of science that deals with human behavior, mind and thought processes - psychology - the content creator is letting us in on some amazing techniques on how to understand those around us. The tips offered in the video are hinging on a person's power of observation, and though some people may not have an observant eye, now that they know about these tips, they'll always be on the lookout for these signs, as these points will always be at the back of their minds and unconsciously they'll notice a lot more about people around them, all thanks to the unconscious mind!
Awesome video! one thing that stood out though is that the crossing of the arms doesn't always come up as a blocking behaviour, it's rather more of a self hug commonly seen if people are stressed and anxious etc. Its a soothing behavior
One needs to BEGIN seeing what is right in front of them and that means not only word choices but the entire package. The more you see and understand the better one gets at bodylanguage...oh my goodness how fantastic this can BE! Watch the series, Lie To Me. Excellent introduction to reading bodylanguage. Hasn't everyone wondered what it would be like if one could read minds? Same powerful thing. Not as easy as an eyebrow lift indicates surprise! It takes a number of issues to do this correctly. Lie To Me is the BEST series that deals with body language. I've watched it over and over again to see the details. I feel I am getting rather good at seeing and understanding far more than I used to.
I wear ankle boots because they are the type that is proportionate to my body type and height. Selection of outfits, accessories as well as footwear must enhance one's physical features and conceal some imperfections. If one has a little knowledge of harmony, balance, and proportion, we choose items to wear that is becoming to us. Things that bring out our best feature and conceal some flaws. It is all about illusions. So, being labeled as 'aggressive' because one is wearing ankle boots is highly debatable. Sorry, just saying. Nothing personal. Cheers.
Yeah, and everyone (that's millions of people watching hundreds of these videos) watching these starts faking their bodylanguage. Plus they only work in western culture because cultural, or even professional, differences affect how we use our bodies. For example, women are often expected or even required to wear short skirts, so they cross their legs for modesty. Likewise, certain jobs expect you wear high heeled shoes whereas in others it is a no-no. In eastern cultures eyebrows do not help reading body language. Not only it is a cultural feature not showing strong emotions, I remember watching a Korean show that explained there is a difference between the facial muscles of westerners and Asians, which makes raising eyebrows naturally harder for some and which makes them look grumpy even when they are not.
I nod my head almost all the time if I am interested or in agreement with the person or topic. I could be described as a bobble head if I am really agreeing. I noticed if I am not in full agreement my head will move at a much slower pace with a raised eyebrow or eyes looking up as I am processing the suggestions, ideas or thoughts ❤️❤️❤️
This is interesting. I have found from my experiences, that when you are being patronized you will find the other person nod excessively. That is to say that "I may be listening but I don't care what you're saying". Also I am not the type to be rude to people but I'm a very busy person and so when somebody goes on and on with everything that goes on in their world and the drama I have a tendency to to sigh. I mean to do it silently but it doesn't always come out that way. Lol these are pretty good signs of the natural reaction people have but like you said they're not set in stone because we humans are the most unpredictable creatures on the face of this Earth!
I can also feel people's energy wherever I go and it gets frustrated sometimes to take all their negative energy to myself. I have to back off a bit and left behind or spend some time for my own and then get back with them. It is all about energy and every word and tone of the voice tell you about people's character and personality. Also it takes time to get to know all these things and most of us don't pay attention to it and they say it is all in our mind.
Informative, and interesting. Some of these things I am a little “ unsure “ about . I had to learn how to read people, my dad was a police officer, and he gave me a lot of “ pointers “ , to be able to “ read “ people. I’m actually pretty good at it , and also the “ lying “ thing . Body language is definitely necessary for reading people.
@@kiana8228 if they can’t concentrate. If they’re fidgety, they’re eyes are darting all over the place and not on you . If they talk in double negatives , or keep repeating themselves. Ya know you got them if you get them to break . Try observing someone interrogating a criminal sometime , you’ll see what I mean . Whether it’s a criminal or a crazy ex , or a husband who just likes lying to you… you’ll totally understand
Hmmm. Not trying to say your dad wasn't good at spotting liars or guilt, but statistics say, in general, police officers are actually no better than the general public at spotting lies or other any other "psychological tendencies" and actually come out worse in some studies. (Just look up "are police better than the general public at spotting liars" and you can find the results of more than one study.) Most of the "tips" in this video should be taken with several large grains of salt, as any of them by themselves, should not to be used as a judgement of others' feelings or motivations. There are countless reasons why any / of of these tips will give you false "readings" and should only be considered as mild entertainment. @@makeupboss3568
In some cultures looking straight into the eyes of another person is considered improper. It does not mean that they are not honest. Also, some people are shy by nature , so they avoid direct gaze . It does not mean that they are telling a lie.
My husband is the most loving and most trustworthy person I know, and he just feels uncomfortable to look anyone in the eyes for more than a minute, even me. That said, he is a shy person, but his words and the rest of his body language shows that he is hiding nothing and is interrested in me and what I'm saying. Constant eye contact is uncomfortable for most people. Nothing to hide, just weird looking someone in the eyes the whole time!
I agree that when we neglect to look others in the eye it may signal nervousness. I don't usual look others in the eye unless I feel comfy. Everyone is unique and we all at times feel nervous, unless you a proud son of a bitch and and want to invade another space. Love, Tricia
I have always been able to read a person just from an introduction and what/how they are thinking or feeling right away! I was taught to have eye contact with someone your speaking with, active listening, & to keep a conversation equal, responding with respect. And be comfortable with being straight forward, bc that is just honesty!
Personally, I think that body language is too dependent on many factors. You have to take into cosideration the circumstances and the people involved. In my case for example; I've noticed that I tend to cross my arms when I want to comfort myself as well as when I feel insecure or nervous about something, most likely related to the conversation at hand. I could be very interested in the person talking but vulnerable over my opinion or personal experience on the topic, or even just be intimidated by the person.
I look down when I walk or else I would trip over EVERYTHING, lol. And I lean forward because I CAN'T HEAR much, lol. Every one of those items should be taken with several grains of salt; there are alternate and plausible reasons for most, if not all, that have nothing to do with what they say it means.
I always seek tone of voice, facial and body expressions! Whether they align with conversations or reason for meeting vs running into one another. Then emphasis or none about topic
The walk pattern (dynamics of the steps, shoulder movement) is telling a lot. How they sit down, how they stand up. How they position themselves in public spaces like an elevator, escalator, corridor, how they occupy the space around them with their body parts and belongings, how they give space to other people in a situation like going towards each other on the street. How they look around, how they react to noises, there are a lot of telltale signs.
Something I have noticed like when I met my boss for the first a month ago! I could tell that he is laid back and knows what he is doing and why he is there as a dinning room manager!! And that was all just by a handshake pretty amazing!! I was also nervous when I met him because I didn't know what to expect and I laughed afterwards because I didn't need to be that way at all
Thanks for watching! Remember, these signs are not set in stone! Everyone is different, so interpreting their appearance, words and actions may or may not always be accurate, and there are always exceptions. Please keep this in mind when reading people!
Feet, hand, eye brow, corners of mouth, specifically if one side is curled up....
I loved the video v informative, can the music be less busy next time. Appreciate it :))
rocket 1 very good and the good ones good and great way of good luck
L. .
This video is Racist.
Maybe you should have started with that dude!!! Sarcasm is culturally conditioned, and crossed arm or legs, is a relaxing position for many. The baby thing is just fucking stupid, unless you know, what hand they prefer to use in general. Furthermore, is there no scientific evidence on what you are suggesting at the beginning of the video - the percentages doesn’t match the reality. Otherwise, it was informative, unless the obvious parts, you should have been left out.. 😇
Taking sunglasses off, when speaking with someone you first meet, I believe, is a sign of respect and maturity.
BABE, YOU'RE ON THE SPOT!!!!!
I HATE TALKING TO SUNGLASSED FACES!!!!!
IT IS SO RUDELY HAUGHTY OF THEM....
@@demetriusstavrinos1909 Thanks, Babes.
It's true, right?! Take those shades off when you're introducing yourself. 😎😉
I Do The Same Thing Even If In A Light Exchange..
@@ericbonaparte9790, yeah, right?! It's just a quick delivery of respect, and also, pure confidence. 😎😉
I agree w/you totally Heather
it's kinda crazy how nobody's talking about the forbidden ebook called the manipulation enigma
I cross my legs and arms all the time. It's not a barrier. Its comfortable.
The fact that many people think folding your arms means you are uncomfortable means folding my arms to make me comfortable now makes me uncomfortable knowing others think I'm uncomfortable. ;)
@@jamesnw 😂😂😂😂😂 😂😂😂 This only means a person would actually have to know a person in order to know that particular person body language style😂😂😂😂OH NO😂😂
It is a myth that crossing arms and legs is creating a barrier. This actually suggests the person is self soothing because they may be uncomfortable mentally or physically (it's cold). In either case, it's about them.... not you.
Same
It's a barrier
For mostly healthy, “normal” people, these signs are quite relevant, though you have to be wary of the D personalities who tend to mirror everything you do. It would be good to note that many of these tips are not always applicable to those with disabilities, particularly chronic pain and fatigue or other unseen injuries, who have to move or sit in certain positions for comfort, wear certain types of shoes to walk, or have limitations on their range of movement, etc.
YES
Correct and I agree 👍
Well said
What is a D personality?
@@yourfriendlyneighbourhoodl6206 “Dark” personalities; dark triad, tetrad, and pentad.
People with Autism and other learning disabilities will display different body language than what most people are accustomed to. Avoiding eye contact and fidgeting are common among high-energy and tense people -- ADHD, Autism, and chronic-PTSD for example.
Sometimes I think we get more concerned with the fact that someone likes us that we forget how important it is to be valued. Being liked is good, but being valued is so much better.
so true
Amen!! Cause there is a difference
Totally agree 🙏
👏
Value your self and others will follow.
I have this "gift", being able to read people so easily. It's not something they do, their facial expression or body language, I just know what they're really feeling and can sometimes say what they're thinking as well. My advice is; always trust your gut feeling/first instinct. ALWAYS. Never, ever overthink.
Exactly. I have the same gift. Right about 95% of the time. Maybe higher. Some are very good at being deceitful. So, I may not recognize it right off. But I eventually see.
I wish some of my friends have this trait
Discernment look it up you don't have to agree with me
I feel you I'm actually able to read their emotions depending on the person I'm able to tell right away how they are feeling and what there next move is
You’re just reading body language subconsciously like all people who aren’t autistic...
Not making eye contact ALSO can say they are intimidated and/or shy! Lacking confidence.
Palmina D'Alessandro I agree. That person could also be an introvert who finds the direct eye contact of strangers disturbing. They could also be on the autism spectrum.
@Su!c!de Surv!vor HUH? was that supposed to be a joke or sarcastic or something? I don't understand. Please don't use suicide as a joke or to get reaction, your user name is "Suicide Survivor" so I would think that you'd be sensitive about the subject... My nephew committed suicide and there's absolutely nothing at all remotely funny or even sarcastically funny or fake funny or anything, as a matter of fact your comment wasn't even relevant to what's on the video! I pray that you're ok and that you chose to live. I also pray that you're not just tryin to get attention, cause suicide is not funny and it in no way should be used as a joke. In whatever you were tryin to say or do. Stay safe... ✌️🙏🏼
Yes agreed, eye contact isn't easy to categorize. People are just complex IMHO.
Me: *Talking and having Eye Contact with my friend*
Friend Thoughts: I got to be brave but... His eyes are like laser daggers ready to penetrate deep into my soul
This was mentioned there like wtf..
The first thing I notice about someone is their tone and what they are saying when their speaking. Also, I notice how attentive they are to the conversation. That tells me so much about a person.
If you're around and Italian, that's going to be moot. I'm speaking as an Italian being asked why I'm yelling all the time🤣
@@amandatomaino1409 There's always exceptions. I live in the rural south so I am not around many Italians but I understand.
@@amandatomaino1409 I am referring more to attitude and my gut instinct.
Same
Someone maybe hard of hearing also so I
Learning to also take this into consideration
Crossing arms isn’t a barrier...it’s comforting. It’s like a self hug
exactly, it’s self soothing which usually links to subconscious discomfort or anxiety
precisely... its a subconscious action and you are generating a barrier. So when you are not crossing arms, you became uncomfortable.
You are self comforting, thus making a barrier from the uncomfortable thing.
I cross my arms because it's more comfortable than my arms swinging around by my sides
What does it mean when a guy is just standing there looking at you and you ask him “ are you analysing me ? “ and he says “ yes kind off “ what does that mean someone help ?
Active listening is an important skill. Just be honest & sincerely empathetic. I learned this skill as a student nurse over forty years ago. 👍😊
😊 Therapeutic communication
rigorous honesty: difficult.
Yes Lester you’re so right and I agree with you! Honesty and sincerity are very paramount and good integrity matters to me also.
how do you develop that skill?
@@kudatamaas someone who consistently gets cut off , I go into conversations PREPARED to listen ..believe it or not, A LOT of people enjoy talking {not necessarily a bad thing} or at least, enjoy talking when they’ve found an active listener. Not only are you the one gathering SO much information from people by constantly being the listener than the speaker but it also provides the opportunity to read body language, tone inflections & facial expressions ..my advice?? go into conversations PREPARED to listen & ONLY speak when you know for
sure they’re done talking
"There's a difference
between being liked
and being valued.
A lot of people like you.
Not many value you.
Be valued."
Ahmed Andalous Brilliant assessment
Well said & spot on!
I would rather be alone
@reeves. reeves😗🙂😗😉😎👍🏿
Sooo you play poker?
Number 18 it’s a sign that your building rapport. So if you wanna see if your really communicating as well as you think you are with someone ask them questions about themselves while subtly moving your body to different stances or positions and if they follow suit then that’s a good indication your building a relationship with a good rapport and understanding of each other.
I avoid eye contact because I'm awkward and anti social!👍🏽👌🏾
Hello Gamer! I know, that for sensitive people, is difficult to make eye contact. Depends on the culture too-you can do some self-studies about that... Being well put together, can give you some boost of confidence, and even create a "security blanket". But, an introvert, is feeling so much better, in its own company):
I use to😂 but then i finally stopped giving a fuck. I now don't give a shit what people see or think of me😅
I'm often reminded to take people at their word but... Are you sure you're not just unsociable? I'm not a pro but I think there can be a huge difference. Anti-social folks don't always avoid people. It's no fun if you like making people suffer! You might have problems processing some things that seem common to folks you'd otherwise like to meet. If you'd rather be a hero than a bad guy, you probably aren't really anti-social.; maybe just wanting revenge on persons unknown. Just ease yourself into life if you can. You don't have to be anyone just because people act like you're supposed to be. Just try to find folks temperate zone and learn to have fun.
I avoid it because I feel like my eyes make people interested in me n I don’t wanna give random people the wrong impression like I want them.. is that weird?
@@openmind2truth I'm a big fan of sunglasses myself. Ever hear how they were invented?
I feel uncomfortable looking people in the eyes for long periods of time
Same here lol
From what ive read... it could mean you have a weak personality.. tho it sounds fucked up i wouldnt take offense... you probably get nervous easily and walk the same way, nervous, quickly and avoiding eye contact looking down mainly
You can change that, be more brave and look them straight in the eyes don’t care about what they would think about you, that will give you a stronger attitude
Erebma Dammahom i struggle with it but just don’t even worry about it, just be confident and trust me it makes you look so much professional!
I know I am the same way. Plus I have a lazy eye it always looks away I've had that since 5 yrs old it's never going to get better so when I look at someone they look behind them because my eye looks away.
Me after watching this: Trying to understand every single people I meet
Haha me too
@@citizendrakeI gotta learn more about it. It's interesting though I am not a psychology student...I am a science student
@@L_Ryuzaki911
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*person
Yep.. right there with you!!
I Notice Everything, Shoes Definitely, Style, Cleaniness, Side Eye 👀, Eye Contact...Im A Great Listener & Ask Alot Of Questions Because Im Truly Intrested In Understanding Where He Or She Is Coming From & Their Intentions
When it comes to eye contact, I was taught/forced to stare adults in the eye from beginning to end of conversation. I got so used to it that it became a competition, so almost rather than paying attention to what they were saying, I would be thinking "I bet you break first". It became a dominance challenge of sorts.
As an adult myself, I intentionally break eye contact because I consciously consider whether or not I'm trying to psychologically dominate a person. As I do not want to dominate anyone that I respect, I find constant eye contact to be borderline arrogant and domineering.
Making sure that I'm maintaining eye contact during key parts of conversation where you want to make sure that the points are understood on both sides, is far more important to me than a staring contest.
To me, your 2nd paragraph defines at least one thing eye contact should be about...
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CodyDean,
Yes absolutely you stated it on target
I feel the same toward this subject.
Excellent
Well said
I love reading people , body language , mood , the way the express their thoughts , how close the are to you, I can sense when people feeling uncomfortable, or lie to me or trying to cover up something , this page is for me ❤️
We are exactly the same
Wrote this to an attractive girl, "You know that place between sleep and awake that place where you can still remember dreaming that's where I'll always love you that's where I'll be waiting " keep me in your heart for a while"
me too was born this way
I always know when someone is lying 🙂
Then, you might want to watch these videos of this guy named Shayan wahedi. He studies and identifies body language. Also makes references to the book (48 laws of power.) It’s really good, you’ll love it. I promise
"No one walks around copying people,"...except sociopaths, psychopaths and narcissists.
🤣😫🤣🤣🤣😫😫😫
@Kaylie xoxo High functioning sociopaths do.
@@AllFather-TheStoicGod narcissist s have high social intelligence!!!!!
@Kaylie xoxo you do know narcissist is a hard thing to live with right ? It’s a personality disorder
@Kaylie xoxo it is also called mirroring and can be used to let someone know you identify with them / make them feel comfortable.
I have a major psychology degree I absolutely love psychology and the study of human behaviour it's the most fascinating subject for me psych and has always been a huge passion of mine and a subject of great interest and fascination.For myself Psych is more than just a subject or a study it is a way of life and it provides us with so many different and exciting facts and theories reseaarch
Plus a gut feeling. Always listen to what your instincts tell you. Don't ever question it.
Edit: the brain can sense a change in the electromagnetic energy in the atmosphere and your mind will send you warnings in the form of a "gut" feeling. Their are a TON of TH-cam videos on this subject if you don't like reading and doing actual research.
But what about people with a brain, who are also well-informed and somewhat rational? Do you have any advice for them?
Yes
Silver Solver your gut feeling is your brain telling you stuff in an easier way (subconsciously)
My gut tells me when I'm hungry, going to vomit or need to drop a mongo deuce .... My instincts come from wisdom acquired through experience.
Just to be safe I suggest you seek a mental health facility ASAP. 👍
Very true. Did you know that when you get butterflies in your tummy it is your bodies way of warning u? All this time i thought it was a romantic thing but psychologists have recently expressed that the opposite is true. It is your guts way of saying get away from this person.
Seeing someone attractive makes your eyebrows raise as well: it's very brief but happens nonetheless.
Not just fear, worry and surprise.
And confusion
Fully true
Seeing someone attractive falls under being surprised because you're caught off guard by their amazing looks. So its definently just those 3
Unless you have botox...
@@chrisyoung109 LOL!
I love how this says, "Calm people wear comfortable shoes" and then shows a woman in 6" heels
people who are elderly, or have some illnesses, such as arthritis, may wear unattractive shoes from necessity, but may be longing to wear pretty shoes.
I thought he said calm people have an affinity for uncomfortable shoes.. Did I hear wrong?
@@kittiperry1 me too!
@@kittiperry1 no your right.
kirti rana no, you’re right
I always pay attention to what they are saying. People reveal their interest by their thinking strategies and words. Once I figure out what they're really intrested in. I act accordingly and present myself as a favorable person to his interest and that's how I make new friends. If I find that person being too nuisance I get rid of him. And hold on to those who I really feel significant
I look down on the ground because I don't want to trip on anything LOL😀
I would like to like this truthful comment 1000 times
How are you going to TRIP? Wife still wears her 4 inch heels & Does not trip.But she cant walk in them tennis shoes.
Me too because I don't want to step in shit.
@@geothompson9866 I live in San Francisco!! You must look down before stepping..
@@geothompson9866 moo knitting women's vest pattern
I disagree with a lot of this. It’s all extrovert knowledge and will cause one to jump to wrong conclusions on introverts
I agree with you totally.
Ball Magnetic cannot agree more
Yah especially the lips one wtf is that
Even frauds use these body language to deceive
Totally correct! Doesn’t mean we’re nervous or duplicitous. We know the game and often just can’t be bothered engaging. Prolonged contact of any kind is also regarded as disrespectful in many cultures . Handshakes are often distasteful too. Give me space and I’m just fine - for a while !
Im not a social person. Im more into books and music. Usually, I try to keep away from people. Theyre depressing
and unsettling.
That's completely true I do agree with you
@Carolann Cannuli-Denton I'd rather live with animals than some people in this world. No one wonder dogs are man's best friend!
Paul Alvez relate.
TRUE
SAME!
I've always been one to sit back quietly when meeting new people. To see what type of person they are. If someone I's negative and they are one to bring me down I'll avoid then. See how someone acts in a group setting also is a good way to read a person's character.
True, but greeting others is an instant way to find out more or less what types they are, because if they don’t answer or only scowl, they’re not nice/warm/friendly, or just don’t want to be bothered. If they reciprocate with a genuine smile or a friendly tone of voice then they’re more approachable, but obviously it takes time to really know what someone’s true personality is. Some can pretend/are good actors/mislead others easily/hide their true feelings
How do I read people :
- observe their caracther
- there style of clothing might help u sometimes to read that person
- try to be friends with her but don’t fully trust her until she shows their real faces
Yes but I would rather take advice from someone who can cpell properly.
if i read you with all the information showing... You like Powerpuff girls means you are a lil childish but age is 14-16 girl. The way you talk means you are an higher average in grades also a little proud.
1. My character is random:Always an honest guy,Always a Liar, A Dick, A kind person, Impatient, Patient, Determined, Lazy
2. For clothing though... I just wear what I have to be honest 🤣
3. well yes but technically I don't know
Which one?
@@archeishere1 same, guys like us are unreadable 😏
How To read someone:
1 observe
2 assume
3 observe
It's a skill.
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Yeah 😂🤣
All an opinion
Ssm
Hi
Cultural differences can change this considerably....
I look in the eyes of someone too long if i am angry.. Or trying to put something across.. Or just simply thinking what the other is thinking?
Yeah
Yes true that
@Deanoss Last foreigners
You're absolutely right. This factor should have been taken into consideration in the preparation of this video. I have lived in two other countries where the culture is very different from my own. Although English-speaking societies see making direct eye contact as a a sign of trustworthiness, making direct eye contact in other societies can be seen as aggressive or disrespectful. The meaning of a gesture can be vastly different from one culture to another. An innocent gesture in one culture may be extremely vulgar in another. There are countless examples.
First time meeting everyone, always about eyes and smile, and then how they talk and laugh. That's all. ❤️
How they talk and laugh is such a big thing. Well said.
A firm handshake is a must
Idk why, but I feel discomfort while looking at someone's eye. I can't look at their eyes properly (feel shy or not confident enough to look)
"Nervous people have new or very clean shoes"
I believe that's a myth.
I agree like what if someone just bought a new pair of shoes because they like shoes like does that instantly make then nervous
@@kianagrover1154
I know right😂
Anonymous_yo_mama672 love u to
Yeah this video is pretty shit.
yeah why would that ever corralate lmao, nobody is like dang im nervous all the time i better go get some new shoes or at least clean mine
I cross my arms a lot and its definitely not due to being defensive. I just find it rather comfortable.
Furry
Comfortable because you're subconsciously protecting yourself with a barrier.
@@kathleenstress no not really. More like my left arm is severely damaged and it helps keep the pressure off of bad joints with it supported like that. I'm very conscious of any and all issues I have in life and have no problem talking with others about them. Sorry but you simply just dont have to be defensive to cross your arms and find it comfortable. Are crossed arms a sign of discomfort or a barrier for some? Absolutely. However, that just doesn't apply to everyone. Unlike most people, I welcome others to be aware of any problems or fears I may have. It helps them know me deeper and as well it helps me address them. I sometimes use a sling for the same purpose of crossing my arms and when I do use it, guess what....I dont try to cross my left with the other arm. If yours was damaged as mine, it would make perfect sense to you why I do it and find it comfortable. You do have a sound theory there in why some people may do it and I'd say you're correct far as some people go but not everybody. 😊
@@fromashestoangels378 I can identify with that! A long time ago I was crossing my arms in public after a surgery because it helped relieve pain. This led to me getting a lecture in front of a lot of people for being "closed off" from what others are saying. It seems almost ironic that I can never remember if I emailed that acquaintance to explain (I didn't have a chance to explain at the time). If I did email them, I never got a response :). Now I have newer injuries in both arms and crossing them helps to keep them warm which relieves discomfort. Btw, your mention of joints reminded me that I may need to go back to using glucosamine capsules. They've done wonders for my knees in the past and may help with my elbows.
It's self soothing. Aka I feel comfortable. Nothing to do with defense. But you typically won't do it out of a social situation.
I've been a salesman for 27 years. These things are so true.
I really don't interact with people often, I'm kind of an introvert and I love being who I am, I don't give eye contact and I don't smile often but that doesn't mean am not genuine
Lots of predators stare "meaningfully" at their targets hoping the target will think they are being admired
TheLaura1304 I figured those 3 red light beams coming from their helmet meant “I like You”
@@mikeb8638 lol. Actually they meant, " I know that you think that me staring at you means I really care and I'm a decent human being but hahaha what they Really mean is, you'd better watch out or I'll make sure the rest of your life is unimaginably terrible"
TheLaura1304 Exactly. They are also sizing the potential victim up.
Even they can be read as false.
Heck yeah they do
I will say sometimes when someone is describing someone as nasty, or manipulative it could just be that they were really hurt by that person. Also sometimes there really is not anything nice to say about someone. Unfortunately not everyone is a good person.
When I meet someone, the first thing I notice is their smile and teeth. Teeth are very important to me. Then it's the face. These points are very interesting and well taken. Thanks for sharing!
Eyes are the pathway to the soul or tend to reveal quite a lot, as the popular song by the Eagles group says: You can’t hide your lying eyes!
@@tracymarquez6875Eyes are the windows to the Soul. Not the path way.
There is no such thing as a lazy person, just an unmotivated one.
bravo
@Deanoss Last you mean an uninterested one? I bet you are a parent lmao
agree
I don't know about this... I am extremely motivated, so many things I have going done and busy doing.... but cow I am lazy... always looking for the shortest way to get it done... And if i procrastinate for.... hours... days... months... Great! I had nothing better to do.... but I have so much I want to get done... and will get done... I will do it! But maybe later... or tomorrow... I ain't in the mood right now... lmao.
tomato, tomatoes...
When you do something for;or tell someone you will do something for them, always do it, and do it in a timely manner, and do it to the best of your abilityEven if you know you can’t do it as fast as someone else might, take the time you need, To go above and beyond average, just because you value the person,, and don’t want to disappoint them.
Don”t expect , or explain how hard you worked , just accept praise with dignity. If they don’t acknowledge
Your work, don’ feel, or show disappointment. Believe in yourself: think about what you did; see if maybe you missed something , or maybe went to far with something. Learn from it, and avoid making same mistake next time.
I can't over express how important these kind of videos are to me because I'm an idiot. And even though they won't fix that, they can help a lot when it comes to just getting along with people better. Thanks.
I dont know who u are but u are not an idiot. Maybe u can't read body language like alot of us. Usually people that can read body language are psychologists, profilers, and creepy people. So don't call yourself an idiot.
Bravo for having distance to yourself, it is rare these days but I admire it no matter what 👍🏻👍🏻😀
You're Not an idiot. We ALL have our weird, uncomfortable times.
I once met this man who was extremely nice but after a while he realised I wasn’t someone he could dominate when I held differing views on some matters and he changed to a different person altogether.
If u really want to know what a person is like test them by challenging what they think or believe and see how they react.
Maybe he just realized that he didn't want to know you after he got to know more about you.
Emily Emmons it was obvious he was never interested in knowing me but to make use of me. What happened between us was between us but it is a lesson we should all learn from.
Oh I see! I'm pretty sure that has happened me before.
When meeting strangers convo should be kept as small talk. Small building blocks of micro-development... It takes many years to immerse into a deep opinionated discussion w/ someone and ask them what they "think" about an issue, then review their response based upon intrinsic value or moral... I think it is much too short of time for probing "life stances" thru initial human relations w/ a potential new friend. And the focus for me is can i have a simple natural down to earth dialogue w/ this person on an even wave-length.
@@MannyCalderari Depends on age. Your way is fine for teens & early twenties, but not for those who have begun to value time.
With experience, you can learn how to read a person very quickly by introducing certain topics.
When I meet someone I always look at their eyes. It shows me a lot more than their words
Well, I think I just have the ability to do it. When I ask someone I look at him in the eyes and they tell me everything. Or when I am mad I look bad at him and start to ask me to stop it. But they also told me that I have strong gaze so I think that is the reason. But when someone is smiling I look at his eyes and sometimes I see sadness and things happen.
One of the first things I do is look at people in the eyes because like they said I think it tells you a lot about a person's soul.
It is inherently easy for some people. Like Scorpios. For me, it is completely something I have to learn😔
As an adult female that's on the autism spectrum ..... I find these videos extremely helpful!
Take a person has you find them has no one is perfeckt and if dont jell just leave well a lone and you carnt please every one,every one has there own tast,
Same same; I kinda giggled to my self when I read your comment because I am doing the same thing. I have always felt like a "spork" in a drawer for spoons... It's always nice to meet another spork.😁
Hello, fellow female on the spectrum! I find this video questionable, as it doesn't mention people like us not doing this. It's really tough when you social cues are not like everybody else's.
But you can't rely on it dear friend
As a personality type often mistaken for being on the autism spectrum, I think all handshaking should stopped. It is germy and far too much contact. Southerners, Italians, and others who hug - nooooooooo.
I fit in with most of these. I was taught that crossing my legs was lady like. I have over active sweat gland and antiperspirant/deodorant literally does nothing after a few hours. I've had some bad experiences and have panic attacks any and everytime somebody is behind me, to the point the I hold a mirror when I can't prevent it. I have tremors due to a side effect of a medication i take and my neck, arms, hands and legs frequently shake. I look down every few seconds when I walk because I trip over air. Other than people being behind me, I'm a very confident person, the rest of the things that are on this list have to do with medical stuff.
A lot of these non-verbal cues are straight up signs of introversion or social anxiety, and NOT signs of lying or bad personality. This is a video that is telling people to "judge a book by the cover" and reject someone before you even give them a chance, just because they are nervous or shy around new people. That doesn't make them unfriendly or worthy of your scorn. Shame on you.
Yes...people with social anxiety are usual very soft/gentle warm-hearted. . (but get into their shelll/self-preservation mode. .by crossing arms. ..In general fear...but you have to have talked to them one-on-one. .to see whether. .they behave relaxed. .in a room of 2 people
Or they just might not like people.
Yes, until we have some background knowledge of a person, we can't infer anything surely about any person.
Good point Amy as a naturally very shy individual I am well aware now of my adverse body language.
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Side glance? That would be because im looking out for the waiter to bring my food😂
When you are a balanced personality you can see the good in others when it is there as well as when there is manipulative evil behaviors, you don't have to be extremist to have a sane personality.
Body language is important but not always accurate depending on the situation, individual and the overall difference between the two people while you might get good vibes from someone in reality only time will show the true meaning of your relationship and the selfpreservation of the people you are dealing with! So keep your guard up at all times .
The mommy holding baby thing is BS. A left-handed mom will hold her baby in her right arm to free up her dominant hand to do all the other things she has to do. Also, babies get heavy after awhile, so switching arms is necessary to give the arms a rest.
Also, crossed arms might mean that the person is cold.
Natasha Mudford jjjjj
Natasha Mudford yea right
You are more in control if your right handed and holding baby in right arm.
I don’t agree with the baby one
Yes.
I totally agree....what study would say this is true? A bunch of guys that have no clue about being a mom!
The 1st thing i take notice of is how they "feel" to be near them and i do it on an intuitive level so i'm often not aware of what i've picked up til i think about it later.
But sometimes something about them is so "loud" that it hits me on a conscious level straight away too...
The eye contact thing , some people suck the good energy right out your body if you look at them to long , so that eye contact thing depends
If I do not respect a person I find it hard to look them in the eye
Yes they do
It really do
@@lm2193 Bravo! Well educated and informed! Good for you!
@@lm2193I lived in Asia and you wrong'
Excellent video my friend! Hadn't seen this one before now! This list is on point & very useful! Always a pleasure to engage your content!👍🤟😎
Awesome, thank you!
Whenever I meet a person or pass a person in the the airport, if they nod up, they are either too friendly or they know me well, if they nod down it's a respectful greeting. I would rather be respected than liked.
Doesn't Donald Trump nod up a lot? I wonder. It is polite to nod down. Love, Tricia
Or simply they are Japanese!
I never noticed that until now. There are people i nod up and down to for different reasons.
Nodding up is what a superior does to acknowledge an underling
I nod up if they do or smile if they smile.
I tend to read people's facial expression, body language, and their attire -depending on the context. Then I try to ask about them -unless they're already relaxed."Being interested in others is interesting" -to most people. If they're rude or disinterested I generally move on ~maybe they're having a bad day.
Always be yourself.
dabprod stupid thing to say, you are always yourself🙄
Just Creepy Some people are fakers or deceptive. Yea, still themselves, but he meant to be authentic. Duuuhhhhhh
I believe Jack the Ripper said the exact same thing.
dabprod I don't know how to be myself cuz lots of people reject me....
agreed! genuine and sincere and honest win with me! If we are genuine and another is not then we may not connect at all and miss out on getting to know the real bitty gritty in someone. How unfortunate because I'm sure we can all relate somehow to each. Only 1% of our DNA makes each of us unique and different from each at mos. We at most share the same make up. so let's unite in our flaws and imperfections as well as with our more positive qualities! We are all perfect in our imperfection. Love, Tricia
I like paying attention to these because in a way it gives us a heads up so we could observe and consider what someone else may be going through at the moment just not so much that they're not interested in what we're saying simply have issues to take care of
The thing about crossed arms is a myth. When your arms are crossed it's like you're hugging yourself. It's self-soothing.
What’s exactly self-soothing if i may ask ?
Wrong lmao whatever you've been thinking is a myth 😂😂
What rubbish 😂 it means you aren't comfortable to open up.
Crossing your arms can mean different things to various people the reason we do it, is maybe just like what you said or maybe because of something else or he/she is just feeling chilly the reason may vary so dont act like your reason is the real deal
Thank you! I was hoping this comment was gonna be somewhere.
When I meet someone for the first time I watch their eyes. I see if they shift away or blink or stare excessively. Staring without blinking is normally a sign of domination or intimidation. I found narcissists do the aforementioned frequently to dominate.
How do you know they do it on purpose?💞
Me: I can fake genuine smile😏
Alys DeCe that's fake iniit
....... teach me
I just realise I can’t. It’s hard
Hahahah sameeeeeee
I think I can.. but I’ve been told that mine comes of bitchy but I genuinely try🥺
These are all fair perspectives but I think it's important to remember how complex a human life/psyche is.
With regards to people's shoes, I must be aggressive lol
People emulate a lot of my traits and techniques but it's not until they've known me for a while. It sometimes used to annoy me when I was younger but I now I find it sorta comforting . When one considers how much we all emulate those who they respect, such as a parent, it's actually quite amazing on the whole.
I fold my arms all the time. Work, church, watching television. It’s just comfortable. I feel fine and interested in the situation or conversation
I use to look down a lot. But doing exercise can make you more confident I believe. Everyone is different. And it also depends how long you know the person.
Great video EXCEPT 18 MAYDAY!! Almost all Narcassistic intimate relationships begin this way. They imitate/mirror/copy you in every way. You technically end up falling in love with yourself. In time you see who they really are but then you've been trama bonded. I could go on and on with what they're going to do because they're so predictable. Once recognizing the red flags you'll see how they copied/mirrored you. Just be careful if they seem too good to be true. PS: love your channel...Thanks!
I've always had a problem with leaning away from people when they get relatively close to me. It's not like I mean to or feel uncomfortable; it just happens.
I’m far from a psychologist but this seems pretty off for the most part.
I’m not a psychologist but I study it and these are all pretty basic “not always true” things. Like these aren’t bad to go off of but they do help for a start
@@bearsneezer1929 yeah I guess so. It would be a beginners class for someone who’s never been in contact with humans lol
@@dsmirnoff8807 yes exactly this is stuff little kids pick up on without even realizing it😅
@@dsmirnoff8807 🤣🤣💀💀
I am rather disappointed with Brainy dose. This video really Sucks!!!
Sometimes when people lean into you it's not because they're interested in what you have to say but because they are trying to intimidate you.
Common sense, use it😉
Or they have hearing problems
You right people know how to hide the real themselves.
Or as drunk as a skunk 🤣
Lean into them back and see what happens . When you feed them back their meds they start acting up/weird. It’s a true hidden weakness of theirs they try to mask
I dont like too much eye contact makes me anxious but then i do have social anxiety thats why im watching videos like this to help me work on being better again :) xxxx
Hm u r hot i think we should know each other better 😁👍
Successful people don't become that way overnight. What most people see at a glance-wealth, a great career, purpose-is the result of hard works
If you want to be successful have the mindset of the rich, spend less and invest More. Don't give up your dreams.
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@@sophiaadams3819 Hello, too you. TakeCare gooddays
Sometimes you will get a comfortable feeling around someone that is of good character. You'll get a cold vibe when they have bad intentions
That's how serial killers lure women into their cars.....lol 👀🦴🥷🔪🍽
I find it harder to read people with mental disorders. They trick you into thinking they are all good.
@@leaholson33 then reduce people down to energy and mind. A body isn't a person. That's not who they are, but merely a reflection of the real entity contained inside. This stops a lot of deception for me because looks are deceptive, they keep changing directions and leaving your heart in a daze/mind in a maze.
@@xxxod I said mental disorders. Even if I reduce them to mind, the mental disorders will still be there. People with narcissistic personality disorder are hard to read. Psychopaths I think are even harder to read as they lack empathy, and thus a lot of emotion and tone in voice.
If I cross my legs it’s probably because I’m not ready to leave and I’m interested in the conversation.
If I rub my hands it’s because I’m anxious. I do it as soon as I feel anxiety, which is on a regular basis for me.
If I’m excited I’ll silently clap my hands aha
I love wearing ankle boots, but I’m really soft.
If I talk fast and move a lot it’s mostly because I’m interested in what we’re talking about. I could be rubbing my hands a lot more too.
I think most of these can be true, but there are exceptions that’s what I’m trying to say! ^_^
My ex husband had thin lips he was a jerk. That's like saying everone with blue eyes are selfish. You need to do more research.
Lol shut up
CurlyFries120 Why are you being fucking rude to her?
LOL that was the dumbest point in this video!! I dated a thin lipped A-hole also!!
Why the hell did i laugh at this so much
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Thankyou for noting that due to individuality, interpretation of signs can vary. For example, less eye contact could mean a person is a bit introverted rather than hiding something.
A lot of this needs to take into account culture. i.e it’s very rude in my culture to look someone in the eyes for a long period of time. it’s considered very aggressive- you look into someone’s eyes when you are about to fight/ make a strong point; verbally, emotionally or indeed...physically.
I usually notice teeth and mouth first when meeting a new person and really dislike a soft limp handshake as it makes me think they are being disrespectful. I enjoyed your video
Some great tips. Not only does this video give us some pointers about how to read and understand people better, but it also, without explicitly saying it, teaches us how to conduct ourselves while in others' company. Using the branch of science that deals with human behavior, mind and thought processes - psychology - the content creator is letting us in on some amazing techniques on how to understand those around us. The tips offered in the video are hinging on a person's power of observation, and though some people may not have an observant eye, now that they know about these tips, they'll always be on the lookout for these signs, as these points will always be at the back of their minds and unconsciously they'll notice a lot more about people around them, all thanks to the unconscious mind!
Great point. He does a good job
Awesome video! one thing that stood out though is that the crossing of the arms doesn't always come up as a blocking behaviour, it's rather more of a self hug commonly seen if people are stressed and anxious etc. Its a soothing behavior
One needs to BEGIN seeing what is right in front of them and that means not only word choices but the entire package. The more you see and understand the better one gets at bodylanguage...oh my goodness how fantastic this can BE! Watch the series, Lie To Me. Excellent introduction to reading bodylanguage. Hasn't everyone wondered what it would be like if one could read minds? Same powerful thing. Not as easy as an eyebrow lift indicates surprise! It takes a number of issues to do this correctly. Lie To Me is the BEST series that deals with body language. I've watched it over and over again to see the details. I feel I am getting rather good at seeing and understanding far more than I used to.
fly: rubs hands together
me: they must feel good
I was doing this eaailer and do it often, I do feel great when rubbing my hands like birdman xD
I'm almost always slouched over in posture mostly because of scoliosis, lol.
Lol...
Pillows are enemies of scoliosis drs will say use them but they just wanna keep patients
@@cassandraadkison3036 ?
oh my god same lmao
Crossing you arms is not a barrier, is self soothing. We would usually do this When we are watching a movie or waiting for someone
I wear ankle boots because they are the type that is proportionate to my body type and height. Selection of outfits, accessories as well as footwear must enhance one's physical features and conceal some imperfections. If one has a little knowledge of harmony, balance, and proportion, we choose items to wear that is becoming to us. Things that bring out our best feature and conceal some flaws. It is all about illusions. So, being labeled as 'aggressive' because one is wearing ankle boots is highly debatable. Sorry, just saying. Nothing personal. Cheers.
Being able to read someone’s body language is vital to being able to read someone.
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Yeah, and everyone (that's millions of people watching hundreds of these videos) watching these starts faking their bodylanguage. Plus they only work in western culture because cultural, or even professional, differences affect how we use our bodies. For example, women are often expected or even required to wear short skirts, so they cross their legs for modesty. Likewise, certain jobs expect you wear high heeled shoes whereas in others it is a no-no. In eastern cultures eyebrows do not help reading body language. Not only it is a cultural feature not showing strong emotions, I remember watching a Korean show that explained there is a difference between the facial muscles of westerners and Asians, which makes raising eyebrows naturally harder for some and which makes them look grumpy even when they are not.
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I nod my head almost all the time if I am interested or in agreement with the person or topic. I could be described as a bobble head if I am really agreeing.
I noticed if I am not in full agreement my head will move at a much slower pace with a raised eyebrow or eyes looking up as I am processing the suggestions, ideas or thoughts ❤️❤️❤️
This is interesting. I have found from my experiences, that when you are being patronized you will find the other person nod excessively. That is to say that "I may be listening but I don't care what you're saying". Also I am not the type to be rude to people but I'm a very busy person and so when somebody goes on and on with everything that goes on in their world and the drama I have a tendency to to sigh. I mean to do it silently but it doesn't always come out that way. Lol these are pretty good signs of the natural reaction people have but like you said they're not set in stone because we humans are the most unpredictable creatures on the face of this Earth!
To me it’s about your energy you can do all of these things and your energy speaks something else.. energy don’t lie! 😉
The best comment on here because that's the only Truth there is. ✌😁
I can also feel people's energy wherever I go and it gets frustrated sometimes to take all their negative energy to myself. I have to back off a bit and left behind or spend some time for my own and then get back with them. It is all about energy and every word and tone of the voice tell you about people's character and personality. Also it takes time to get to know all these things and most of us don't pay attention to it and they say it is all in our mind.
Try to focus on your own Life force which sits on the left pelvis. Other ppls mental energy enters from there by latching on your Life force. ✌😁
@@Love02Love01 thank you
@@jenniferblohmichael97
No prob. ✋😊
Informative, and interesting. Some of these things I am a little “ unsure “ about . I had to learn how to read people, my dad was a police officer, and he gave me a lot of “ pointers “ , to be able to “ read “ people. I’m actually pretty good at it , and also the “ lying “ thing . Body language is definitely necessary for reading people.
Any tips lol
Tips ?
@@kiana8228 if they can’t concentrate. If they’re fidgety, they’re eyes are darting all over the place and not on you . If they talk in double negatives , or keep repeating themselves. Ya know you got them if you get them to break . Try observing someone interrogating a criminal sometime , you’ll see what I mean . Whether it’s a criminal or a crazy ex , or a husband who just likes lying to you… you’ll totally understand
Hmmm. Not trying to say your dad wasn't good at spotting liars or guilt, but statistics say, in general, police officers are actually no better than the general public at spotting lies or other any other "psychological tendencies" and actually come out worse in some studies. (Just look up "are police better than the general public at spotting liars" and you can find the results of more than one study.)
Most of the "tips" in this video should be taken with several large grains of salt, as any of them by themselves, should not to be used as a judgement of others' feelings or motivations. There are countless reasons why any / of of these tips will give you false "readings" and should only be considered as mild entertainment. @@makeupboss3568
How about people with Autism, most are very honest but can not look anyone in the eyes due to feeling uncomfortable
In some cultures looking straight into the eyes of another person is considered improper. It does not mean that they are not honest. Also, some people are shy by nature , so they avoid direct gaze . It does not mean that they are telling a lie.
My husband is the most loving and most trustworthy person I know, and he just feels uncomfortable to look anyone in the eyes for more than a minute, even me. That said, he is a shy person, but his words and the rest of his body language shows that he is hiding nothing and is interrested in me and what I'm saying. Constant eye contact is uncomfortable for most people. Nothing to hide, just weird looking someone in the eyes the whole time!
And if you've ever been around military people, you got to have eye contact or else you're in big trouble.. that was my dad, bless him. r i p
@@maryoka99 Not only military , but also police and custom officers.
I agree that when we neglect to look others in the eye it may signal nervousness. I don't usual look others in the eye unless I feel comfy. Everyone is unique and we all at times feel nervous, unless you a proud son of a bitch and and want to invade another space. Love, Tricia
I have always been able to read a person just from an introduction and what/how they are thinking or feeling right away! I was taught to have eye contact with someone your speaking with, active listening, & to keep a conversation equal, responding with respect. And be comfortable with being straight forward, bc that is just honesty!
Personally, I think that body language is too dependent on many factors. You have to take into cosideration the circumstances and the people involved. In my case for example; I've noticed that I tend to cross my arms when I want to comfort myself as well as when I feel insecure or nervous about something, most likely related to the conversation at hand. I could be very interested in the person talking but vulnerable over my opinion or personal experience on the topic, or even just be intimidated by the person.
I look down when I walk or else I would trip over EVERYTHING, lol. And I lean forward because I CAN'T HEAR much, lol. Every one of those items should be taken with several grains of salt; there are alternate and plausible reasons for most, if not all, that have nothing to do with what they say it means.
I know what u mean since I’m legally blind in my right eye
Oyeh same here as i m high myopic with high astigmatism. Also i think i damaged my hearing a little with high volume music listening everyday 😝😎
I always seek tone of voice, facial and body expressions! Whether they align with conversations or reason for meeting vs running into one another. Then emphasis or none about topic
Thank you very much for these well-thought tips.
The walk pattern (dynamics of the steps, shoulder movement) is telling a lot. How they sit down, how they stand up. How they position themselves in public spaces like an elevator, escalator, corridor, how they occupy the space around them with their body parts and belongings, how they give space to other people in a situation like going towards each other on the street. How they look around, how they react to noises, there are a lot of telltale signs.
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When you cross your arms it’s actually a sign of self soothing
@Bilal good your own fault
@@sans4124You need to change your name. You are not kind.
Something I have noticed like when I met my boss for the first a month ago! I could tell that he is laid back and knows what he is doing and why he is there as a dinning room manager!! And that was all just by a handshake pretty amazing!! I was also nervous when I met him because I didn't know what to expect and I laughed afterwards because I didn't need to be that way at all
Very comprehensive. This gives me the idea of first impressions or opinions we can get. Very good
What if someone has autism/ASD?
For some people making eye contact whilst talking can make them forget what they are saying.