Security Guard Confesses Decades After Horrible Party Set Up Murder | Janet Chandler Case Analysis

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  • @bt4582
    @bt4582 ปีที่แล้ว +360

    It is so horrible that there were so many evil people willing to commit murder in one place, and all because her female roommate was jealous of her. I am so sorry Janet.

    • @MontyRoyal963
      @MontyRoyal963 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      wtf is wrong with humans???

    • @hangryturtle9006
      @hangryturtle9006 ปีที่แล้ว +25

      Human depravity is real , that’s why it cost Christ his life to pay for us, because we’re ALL way worse than we can see. We’re blind to ourselves

    • @bthomson
      @bthomson ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Partly alcohol.

    • @BeavisBomer-vo9yx
      @BeavisBomer-vo9yx ปีที่แล้ว +10

      I’ve met scum like this. Upon seeing her pictures I could immediately tell it was caused by her roommate, Laurie has a look of permanent contempt on her face.

    • @anarcho-communist11
      @anarcho-communist11 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@hangryturtle9006 Humans are born to be empathetic and kind but bad parents can create monsters - that's what is usually is, not always.

  • @mikehoben7341
    @mikehoben7341 ปีที่แล้ว +134

    It’s actually incredible that so many conspirators managed to stay silent for all those years

    • @andreabennington
      @andreabennington 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      Yes! I don't think I have EVER seen, read or heard anything like this before and I watch True Crime on YT, Netflix and other places, read books every day and listen to True Crime podcasts when falling asleep. No one keeps a secret like these people have.
      They are an exception to the old saying, "Three may keep a secret if two of them are dead."

    • @Lily-wk8kv
      @Lily-wk8kv 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@andreabenningtonhappens all the time you must not listen to as much true crime as you say lmfao

    • @TheTERMlNAT0R
      @TheTERMlNAT0R หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      I think the fear of imprisonment is a major motivator

  • @rgwernert
    @rgwernert ปีที่แล้ว +98

    May the ones that didn't get caught suffer eternally.

    • @Sleepparalysisdemon2
      @Sleepparalysisdemon2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Exactly. I believe karma will be especially creative for the ones that committed this atrocious act.

    • @mgaeeeee9150
      @mgaeeeee9150 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      ​@@Sleepparalysisdemon2"karma"... no such thing. That's why we need vigilantes

    • @paulnorris5592
      @paulnorris5592 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hmm vigilantes, yes, definitely the types of people who are ideally placed to consider things in a balanced and appropriate way, definitely not motivated by drives to commit their own acts of violence. So what is the manner in which such people are vetted and deemed fit? Oh, that’s right.

    • @rgwernert
      @rgwernert ปีที่แล้ว

      @@mgaeeeee9150 It won't be long till AI is solving crimes, ALL crimes ever committed. Criminals be warned.

  • @sunilmenon6344
    @sunilmenon6344 ปีที่แล้ว +76

    This was truly horrific. I am in a state of shock just from reading the news articles. And rage because Laurie Swank is completely free today. She is not even on parole

    • @CashCowz962
      @CashCowz962 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yes ..she started the whole thing

    • @anarcho-communist11
      @anarcho-communist11 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Yes I don't think murderers or torturers should be allowed back out, mainly for the safety of other people, not necessarily punishment. Why does this happen so often??

    • @CashCowz962
      @CashCowz962 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@anarcho-communist11 civilians aka future victims of crime marching for criminal justice reform😆😆😆

    • @mariacirillo3486
      @mariacirillo3486 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Laurie Skank

  • @dlc5166
    @dlc5166 ปีที่แล้ว +161

    Sadly, she stepped into a deadly hornet's nest with no street smarts. Prayers for Janet's soul. I've been in a few situations that made me feel wary when traveling and, if there's a parking lot full of work trucks, I keep moving until I find another hotel. What you said is true - when groups all get together it seems like all the regular societal rules change and you could be targeted just for being at the wrong place at the right time.

    • @jc9716
      @jc9716 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      No good to pray for her soul. Once to die, then judgement. She's already in Heaven or Hell. If she was born again, she's in Heaven.

    • @melissadavis225
      @melissadavis225 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      I have street smarts and have came close to sadistic people was just enough to outsmart these kind of half wits .. poor girl 😢.. I could have a been a victim..but escaped people like this a couple times..

    • @dlc5166
      @dlc5166 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@melissadavis225 So glad you did - just can't teach street smarts though.

    • @dlc5166
      @dlc5166 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@jc9716 Thank you - well, it did my heart and soul good to pray for her anyway

    • @CashCowz962
      @CashCowz962 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ​​@@dlc5166ell that's the thing...parents need to try their best to do so...or allow the kids to pick up these skills. My mom was a strict religious person....and being holier than thou was her obssession...that upbringing has ruined the lives of me and my brother in many ways...so many ways....😢

  • @colettithekid
    @colettithekid ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Look at how rough every individual looks. Holding a secret like that really ages you.

  • @michelleshephard9690
    @michelleshephard9690 ปีที่แล้ว +111

    I quit smoking through feeling shame. I happened to be watching on TV: An obese person.
    They needed the fire brigade to remove them from their home for hospital treatment. The obese person was distressed and wanted to eat a cream cake before being moved... 'that's ridiculous, how selfish' I thought.
    At the same time I glanced and observed I had put my antibiotics for a chest infection with my cigarettes for the next day at work.
    I felt shame at myself being so judgemental.
    I knew me smoking worried my loved ones I have asthma.
    I haven't smoked another cigarette since, this was 18 months ago.

    • @nataliep501
      @nataliep501 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Good for you 🎉

    • @meanmommy77
      @meanmommy77 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Congrats! I think we've all had a hard lesson or 2 to learn ourselves!

    • @brainwithani5693
      @brainwithani5693 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Nice story but what does that have to do with this video?

    • @stephanieparker1250
      @stephanieparker1250 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ❤❤❤❤❤

    • @tkdb317
      @tkdb317 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      ​@brainwithani5693 Ummm, "Shame" was literally in the TITLE and the closing theme.

  • @azulgaia7782
    @azulgaia7782 ปีที่แล้ว +126

    It’s a shame these rapists don’t get punished enough to relieve their shame.

  • @elizabethhamm5320
    @elizabethhamm5320 ปีที่แล้ว +112

    Thank goodness, there were filmmakers dedicated to giving Janet justice. The poor woman died a horrifying Jess and her perpetrators deserved significant jail time . Great video as usual Dr. G.

    • @tron.44
      @tron.44 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      What's a horrifying jess?

    • @higgaroc
      @higgaroc ปีที่แล้ว +4

      It’s when a really ill tempered and scary-ugly person named Jess ends your life.

    • @elizabethhamm5320
      @elizabethhamm5320 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Death. Auto correct

    • @anarcho-communist11
      @anarcho-communist11 ปีที่แล้ว

      They deserved life long jail time

    • @mrhead6856
      @mrhead6856 ปีที่แล้ว

      I hope my Jess is painless when she happens

  • @MartineH1
    @MartineH1 ปีที่แล้ว +117

    I heard an entire video with the details of this crime. I was shocked. This woman was raped for many many hours, she was sodomised and tortured. Many men doing it, many people in that party knowing it, nobody helped, no empathy, no women to say stop, knowing that there was a woman suffering. Feel so pity for her unlucky, having the worse roomate ever and having her sexlife with men that didn't care for life. Even they didn't care for her, some regard for life they could have had. I was feeling bad efter knowing the whole history, for days and days.

    • @dr.patrickkingsboroughmart8050
      @dr.patrickkingsboroughmart8050 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Thank you for sharing this. Your comment reveals just how absolutely horrific this crime really was.

    • @kathykay6602
      @kathykay6602 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      no man to say stop.....

  • @AaronVriesman
    @AaronVriesman ปีที่แล้ว +90

    Thank you for covering this disturbing crime that happened in my area. I think of her every time I drive by that motel. She and I were both born in Muskegon and raised in deeply religious households from the same Christian tradition. She went to my wife's college and the film WHO KILLED JANET CHANDLER was released while we lived in Holland.

    • @saphinam.2866
      @saphinam.2866 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Did you enjoy Kikkerland?

    • @eden_aumakua
      @eden_aumakua ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I find her religion to be irrelevant.

    • @juulbrie
      @juulbrie ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Think not. The restrictions made her vulnerable for the dangers in the real world.

    • @lostandfound5145
      @lostandfound5145 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@eden_aumakuait’s not the religion so much as the failure of her parents and other mentors in her life to educate her properly. She was manipulated instead of educated and that can have dire consequences, as we see here.

    • @juulbrie
      @juulbrie ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@lostandfound5145 religious motivated restrictions can't be untied from religion ;)

  • @bobslate7231
    @bobslate7231 ปีที่แล้ว +314

    You can run from a lot of things but you can't run from a guilty conscience.

    • @IMSITTINGONTHETOILET
      @IMSITTINGONTHETOILET ปีที่แล้ว +11

      SO TRUE. I'VE DONE UNSPEAKABLE EVIL VILE THINGS THAT I CAN'T OUTRUN.

    • @moonstruck562
      @moonstruck562 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      That's if you have one!

    • @cybermandan1960
      @cybermandan1960 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      You can if you're a true sociopath.

    • @bryanshort4422
      @bryanshort4422 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Challenge accepted

    • @TheCraydee
      @TheCraydee ปีที่แล้ว

      @@cybermandan1960psychopath* sociopaths are nurture as opposed to nature (genetics) do they most definitely feel empathy and guilt just like the rest of us

  • @cptjockitch
    @cptjockitch ปีที่แล้ว +218

    This is probably the foulest case I’ve ever heard of. It shows how gross humans can be. Non of the people involved got anything out of this and still they killed a woman. Shows how little you can give someone and they will kill someone for you. Not one person in that party was a decent person. The odds of that are pretty amazing.

    • @dlc5166
      @dlc5166 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      And worst yet, people in the security field, giving people a false sense of security.

    • @BohoAstronaut22
      @BohoAstronaut22 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      It's terrible but I wouldn't even put it in the top 10 of the worst cases ive ever heard of.

    • @patricewashere
      @patricewashere ปีที่แล้ว +16

      I also wondered if her friend exaggerated the number of men she was dating ? And if not , how horrifying that was for the group of men , including ones she had been intimate with , to gang up and attack her.
      Her last moments were not met with anyone to protect her.

    • @Dr.Pancho.Tortilla
      @Dr.Pancho.Tortilla ปีที่แล้ว +37

      "The more one comes to know men, the more one comes to admire the dog,"

    • @edunlap6594
      @edunlap6594 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      ​@@patricewashereI think she did to appease to the men. Some women are desperate enough to throw other women to the beasts.

  • @hangryturtle9006
    @hangryturtle9006 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    Honestly, I really have my doubts about these killers’ story. I’m wondering if Janet never had sex with ANYBODY, but they all WANTED her really bad, and her roommate/boss’s jealousy mixed with depraved men’s desires all came together into a morbid twisted plan so that everybody got what they wanted. And also, how do they claim it wasn’t their goal to kill her from the beginning??? That’s such a lie! Were they going to gang rape and beat her and then let her go so she could have them all arrested and in jail the next day??? I don’t think so

    • @NatBKyiv
      @NatBKyiv 10 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Why is it so important for you that she had or had not sex with them? All those men enjoyed casual sex. Was it a big problem that Janet did the same thing? I don’t think so. Victim does not have to be a virgin

    • @talkingthetalk3640
      @talkingthetalk3640 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I think you and Janet have the same problem. Extreme conservative upbringing by parents.

    • @hangryturtle9006
      @hangryturtle9006 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@talkingthetalk3640 nope, I was raised liberal, what Jesus Christ did for me and reading God’s Word changed my life. And I know first hand how much sexually immoral people can’t stand God’s people, especially when we’re remaining sexually pure. The spirit in them HATES the spirit in us.

    • @Amanda-kd1zr
      @Amanda-kd1zr 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @NatBKiev @talkingthetalk3640 A lot of assumptions and accusations in the replies just for someone questioning whether or not she even had sex with all those guys--fair question, she likely did but also people will make up extreme things to justify their twisted actions. Why does this person asking that question automatically means they were raised on extreme conservative values? You don't know this random commenter, so where does that come from? Also, "why is it so important for you that she didn't have sex?" You act like they went on and on and insisted there was no way she could have. They didn't say that, they just said they wouldn't be surprised if she didn't and these sickos made it up. Nobody said victim=virgin. You're jumping to say "don't victim-blame," basically, when that isn't what they were doing.

    • @melfreemans
      @melfreemans 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@NatBKyivI think you missed the point entirely

  • @mothernaturesapothecary
    @mothernaturesapothecary ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Disgusting. How can any one of those monsters be released from jail for such a heinous crime… premeditated at that!

  • @Rasputin443556
    @Rasputin443556 ปีที่แล้ว +56

    Thank you for covering this case. I'm still more than a little muddled at what Paivo intended to do with Chandler after the gangbang if he did not intend to kill her. If he intended to release her, Paivo must have had incredible confidence in his intimidating powers since Chandler obviously would have known who kidnapped and assaulted her. She would have been an absolute shell of a person afterwards, and the police would have had to have known something awful had happened to her.

    • @buttercup3094
      @buttercup3094 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      A lot of it has to do with how women and women's sexuality was regarded, and still is to a large extent, in the 70's in conservative communities. Janice Chandler was having casual sex with multiple men, who all lived and worked together, many of whom had wives and girlfriends. She was sexually aggressive (as suggested by the cowboy boots story). This was interpreted as she was sexually fair game, and would enjoy or she deserved to be punished by a 'gang bang' for breaking the sexual rules for women. Choking is also part of some peoples sexual repertoire, especially people who enjoy violent or "rough sex", both as the aggressor and as the recipient. It was not an intentional homicide. It would be a crime that was hard for Chandler to report since the details of her behavior would become public, and this would make her feel more ashamed and she would likely experience further ostracism from her community. It would have been hard to convince a jury, let alone the local police department that she had been an unwilling participant.

  • @MyDyerMaker
    @MyDyerMaker ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Hard to believe so many people would be that evil.

    • @anarcho-communist11
      @anarcho-communist11 ปีที่แล้ว

      I must be pretty jaded these days - I'm disgusted but it didn't shock me.

  • @janemiettinen5176
    @janemiettinen5176 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    When a group comes together and decides to murder someone for seemingly insignificant reasons, it blows my mind. Like how didnt even one person caught how crazy this is, how extreme measure it was? Is it just young men and machoism, saving face and being as tough as the next guy? Im having so much trouble understanding how things go too far.

    • @madalfromuk4729
      @madalfromuk4729 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Don't forget that there a few women there that were involved some married so don't blame just the men

    • @Jaguarkralle1
      @Jaguarkralle1 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      ​@@madalfromuk4729Which is even more wild to me as a woman. How could they just let this happen?

    • @Reclaim-the-Rainbow
      @Reclaim-the-Rainbow ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Seriously? Have you heard about the group that tortured and killed a young woman (over absolutely nothing) and made her listen to a song that says, “Hi, I’m Chucky. Wanna play?” on repeat for hours a day?

    • @janemiettinen5176
      @janemiettinen5176 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Reclaim-the-Rainbow I have no recollection of that, do you remember where it happened?

    • @superflygirl
      @superflygirl 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You mean Sadism?

  • @penelopehughes-jones5265
    @penelopehughes-jones5265 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Thank you, Dr Grande, fascinating analysis of a truly horrific, heartbreaking story. In my humble opinion there is one last sliver of shame, it seems to me that a girl from such a background as Janet would feel devastated at the loss of virginity, after that was lost, wasted on a man who took advantage of her, it’s not so much that she felt free but that she no longer mattered. The men she focused on were just desperate moments of confusion within the anguish of her self deprecation. If she moved on to feeling liberated it was only in moments of intoxication, her last agonising hours were, in her mind, what she deserved. We know differently, I wish she had.

    • @roringusanda2837
      @roringusanda2837 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      🎯👈

    • @craigfinnegan8534
      @craigfinnegan8534 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      My guess is that Janet's sudden promiscuity was motivated by a heavy dose of rebellious revenge against her parent's oppressiveness.

    • @nanettevantriesteharder2469
      @nanettevantriesteharder2469 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@craigfinnegan8534 Genesis 2:25 says, "Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame." But, once you willingly taste of the forbidden fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, you have no one to blame except yourself (Genesis 3). Honoring one's parents is a wise thing to do (Exodus 20). However, authoritarian parents, not authoritative parents, may push their children away, once the child is exposed to adolescent peer pressure and cognitive dissonance. Having sex is a very powerful motivator.

  • @moonstruck562
    @moonstruck562 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    No one deserves to die this way 😔💔

  • @renee1961
    @renee1961 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    My heart is breaking for Janet! So much suffering!

  • @katarina1852
    @katarina1852 ปีที่แล้ว +379

    Geez, I’m shocked there was so many homicidal security security guards in one area. That’s scary.

    • @JBplumbing12
      @JBplumbing12 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      Even by chance such clusters happen. Shake a jar of M&Ms or Smarties and you will see clusters form of particular colours. This phenomenon happens even more readily with humans where people choose their own company and can also influence each other.

    • @GODDESS1966
      @GODDESS1966 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@JBplumbing12 I have a high IQ yet I'm having a hard time wrapping my brain around what it is your trying to explain. Please enlighten me.

    • @danpro4519
      @danpro4519 ปีที่แล้ว

      Well,
      1. There was alcohol (and more?) involved and there was *technically* only one killer. So, while many in this group of conspirators were very malicious, it's hard to say how many were actually homicidal.
      2. Subcultures form where everyone in the group gets dragged down and responsibility is diffused. Clearly, a very toxic subculture was formed within these security guards where they felt some kind of social immunity with each other. With scum-bag ring leaders (like Carl) running the show, nobody with high moral standards would stick around.
      3. This happened during a strike and the guards were only "passing by", which further added to the sense of there being no long term consequences.

    • @pamcroft844
      @pamcroft844 ปีที่แล้ว

      Don't think of modern day security guards here. 80 is an army. They are a goon squad hired by the chemical company to break the strike.

    • @Puglover130
      @Puglover130 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      @@GODDESS1966which part?
      First they remark that in “random” bags of candy you may often see an uneven ratio, like triple the brown m&m than of blue.
      The second just means it’s like that but even more likely when people associate w others who are like them. So not that out of the realm that out of 85 guards, the 3 who participated were all ok with murder. They were somewhat alike..
      birds of a feather flock together.

  • @bfdidc6604
    @bfdidc6604 ปีที่แล้ว +149

    The sadism of the crime is not really explored in this video, but it was a harrowing gang-rape/torture/murder, with the perpetrators and onlookers mocking her. Shame and guilt may have played a role in the ringleader's ultimate confessions, but note he still did the "I wasn't trying to kill her" story. He may have done some re-writing of events in his head over the years.

    • @goblin-night
      @goblin-night ปีที่แล้ว +5

      You're right about his lying, but I must object to the part where you implied he believes his own lies due to "rewriting over the years".
      I consider that "some liars convince themselves their own lies" stuff to be non-falsifiable at best, and pop psychology pap that ignores any reason to find that claim unconvincing at its worst.

    • @mjanny6330
      @mjanny6330 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Sounds similar to the killing of that couple in Knoxville.

    • @patricewashere
      @patricewashere ปีที่แล้ว +6

      ​@@mjanny6330 Channon Christian and Christopher Newsom? I think I saw something about them recently. It made me physically sick

    • @tron.44
      @tron.44 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I'm surprised your comment exists. TH-cam must have skipped over it.

    • @tessaducek5601
      @tessaducek5601 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      The details are gruesome for sure.
      I just can't believe not one person stepped out to call police. And the roommate/friend was a B . I just can't fathom joining in the torture of a animal let alone another human being.
      She was not an angel but she didn't deserve that horrible attack.
      I believe she was making up for many experiences she missed out on. Albeit too much too quickly.
      But i don't blame her it was probably exciting all around.

  • @renee1961
    @renee1961 ปีที่แล้ว +132

    How could a woman be involved in doing that to another woman?? I'll never understand!

    • @chaserofthelight1737
      @chaserofthelight1737 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      I’ll never understand this woman hate woman myself. We should be lifting each other up, not tearing each other apart.

    • @lisamh9037
      @lisamh9037 ปีที่แล้ว

      Wonder if it was a happy fairytale ending for her jealous trashcan roommate, Lori? Did she get her man? Prob not - cuz she's garbage, and young Janet wasn't the problem.

    • @trace9657
      @trace9657 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Nor I.

    • @dlc5166
      @dlc5166 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      Here's the story I read: Laurie Swank was Janet's boss and Janet is reported to have slept with Laurie's BF, the head security guy, so it was a set up to teach Janet a lesson, basically revenge.

    • @skycloud4802
      @skycloud4802 ปีที่แล้ว

      Women are just as capable of harming other women as any man would. Don't ever allow cognitive biases to distort your thinking.

  • @dicedrice7216
    @dicedrice7216 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    So sad this happened to such a lovely and talented young woman.
    Often when parents overprotect their children they actually put their children in more danger.

    • @MimiRAM0NE
      @MimiRAM0NE ปีที่แล้ว +8

      A lot of terrible things happen to the children of underprotective and average parents too, I hate to say.

    • @nanettevantriesteharder2469
      @nanettevantriesteharder2469 ปีที่แล้ว

      Trees grow stronger with strong roots, good soil, regular watering, fertilization, and flexibility with the occasional gusts of wind. We live in a totally depraved world, which children should be prepared for in having a ongoing prayerful relationship with the all-powerful, all-present, and all-knowing Creator God in His 3-in-1 persons of Father, Son, and Spirit. Even when human beings (e.g., parents, children, and spouses) try to be good and have the best intentions, they will let other people down. Lord help us!

    • @anarcho-communist11
      @anarcho-communist11 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Bad parenting is probably the story behind the rapists here as well. The world will change when society takes child rearing more seriously.

  • @ArtemisUnderscoreJ
    @ArtemisUnderscoreJ ปีที่แล้ว +146

    Cases like this is why I’m pro-capital punishment. I don’t want to live in the same community as people who could allow and encourage such demonic behavior. They ALL need to be under the jail.

    • @GnosticAtheist
      @GnosticAtheist ปีที่แล้ว

      Never give the government power to kill citizens, no matter how much those people deserve it. For one, it can be used to remove "problems", but more importantly it the fact that you become serial murderer. 190 people on death row where released due to new findings. How many have been executed that where not guilty? Only 1 is enough to make those that support it a murderer, so that's not odds I can accept.
      Don't get me wrong, I am not against people getting killed when they have done certain acts, but I will never trust a government to get anything completely right, and on this topic they need to be VERY right.

    • @DoubtingThomas333
      @DoubtingThomas333 ปีที่แล้ว

      If you understand the scientific theory of free will, you will understand why most states in the USA and most places around the world have abolished it (capital punishment).

    • @nhmooytis7058
      @nhmooytis7058 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      I don’t want to live on the same planet with them.

    • @brother-calm
      @brother-calm ปีที่แล้ว

      you were living in the same community as these guys?

    • @dxcSOUL
      @dxcSOUL 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      What about ppl who were incorrectly incarcerated..... You'd be murdering an innocent.

  • @bthomson
    @bthomson ปีที่แล้ว +8

    A dull afternoon with 100 degree heat on the way! The only cool thing is a Dr. Grande video! Thanks Dr. G!

  • @h.a.d.e.y.a.h
    @h.a.d.e.y.a.h ปีที่แล้ว +7

    I watched this story on an episode of Betrayed. This story gives me nightmares till today and I cry every time I think about it.

  • @gonefishing167
    @gonefishing167 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    I’m sorry but that woman from the motel should have received at least the same time as those guys did! Not a good friend at all! Are we supposed to take anything that woman said about Janet at face value! Or was she demeaning a ‘friend’ to try to appease her own bad conscience! Vile woman 🙏🙏🙏👵🇦🇺

    • @sciencenotsrigma
      @sciencenotsrigma 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Why am I not surprised that Lori was the “most effective witness?” The gossip who started the whole plot! I don’t trust her word, either!

    • @lollytavares178
      @lollytavares178 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I agree. Where is the evidence that the victim was sleeping around And since when is that reason for a victim ‘s life to be taken?

  • @cleopatra444
    @cleopatra444 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Finally a story even though 20 years later some of these idiots paid for this horrible crime , i hope whoever else was involved gets the karma they deserve 😠
    when you said 80 security guards were gonna be staying at the hotel i already knew nothing good was up for this poor woman 😩
    r i p Janneth Ch
    🌹

  • @penny2093
    @penny2093 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This is SO HORRIBLE! What animals!

  • @gotahgemini6415
    @gotahgemini6415 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Everyone involved should get a piece of their own medicine. Such horrific crimes are not that uncommon in the rest of the world - the perpetrators should be punished harshly and capital punishment should be added. It's sickening. RIP Janet and everyone wronged like you.

  • @jenniferashley99
    @jenniferashley99 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    This is a sick, horrific case. Lamont at Large visited her grave and went in details of what really happened that night. I pray she is at peace.

    • @tron.44
      @tron.44 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Are any dead people not at peace?

    • @marthacarson7561
      @marthacarson7561 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Lamont covers some disturbing cases. Certainly this is one of them.

  • @mjanny6330
    @mjanny6330 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Shame was the first stitch in the fabric of civilized society to be pulled out.

  • @sophiaisabelle01
    @sophiaisabelle01 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    We will always support Dr Grande. He's practically the connoisseur of great analysis videos.

  • @blkcat93
    @blkcat93 ปีที่แล้ว +31

    Crimes like this are so appalling and horrible they really make me question the death penalty as being justified.

    • @SerendipityChild
      @SerendipityChild 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      When the state has custody of a person, they are that person's guardian.
      A guardian that would deliberately kill their ward, who is in custody, against the ward's consent .. no. There are very good reasons to not allow the state to murder civilians.
      Among them: at different times people have been condemned and killed for things that aren't crime now.
      For example, having politics that are communist. Having sexual orientation that is homosexual.
      As much as you hate someone for violent murder: don't allow your state to legalise murder.
      It devalues life. If parents beat their children, you don't expect to get well adjusted children growing up. If a state torture and kills its civilians you don't expect to have a kind and gentle populous.

  • @sallykins3800
    @sallykins3800 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Umm . This sounds like someone I know close to me with Aspergers whom grew up isolated, Christian and coddled , conservative, low self esteem, no boyfriend like peers when left home flattered by male attention and used and promiscuous but no idea being used or how to handle emotions or negotiate situations because not socialised like peers normally ending in disastrous relationships . Sad story for Janet

  • @RL-hl1re
    @RL-hl1re ปีที่แล้ว +6

    The horrible high irony of this story is that she had such a belief about fire and brimstone in hell when she first had sex… And then the way that she was murdered and tortured must’ve brought it all back around full circle and she was probably truly felt that she was in hell and being punished for the fact that she ever did there to be free and sexual.

  • @69adrummer
    @69adrummer ปีที่แล้ว +4

    I'll bet she was NOT "sleeping around".
    I'll bet she WAS invited to a party, and when she saw what WAS going on, she wanted to leave and THEN they killed her!!
    She wanted NO PART in the debauchery

  • @zenawarrior7442
    @zenawarrior7442 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    What a terrible & sad case. Great analysis again of ego, sex, narcissism. Excellent thinking points, jokes, detail. Thanks Dr G😊💓💓

  • @gregorymoats4007
    @gregorymoats4007 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    I knew Lynch’s son Sean, and used to cross paths with his father in Sawyer, mi when this all went down. Sean ran a business running a back hoe for foundation drains and landscaping. Good guy. Crushed the family when this hideous and horrific secret came out..always figured the old man would die in prison as he was NOT young.

  • @CCM8817
    @CCM8817 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Just dumped out in the cold like she was nothing , you deserved better baby girl ❤

  • @vidaliasoleil2714
    @vidaliasoleil2714 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    The Blue Mill Inn was certainly not at all a disreputable or dangerous place attracting shady clientel in the late 70's early 80's! My parents would stay there when they visited. In fact calling any place in Holland, Michigan disreputable or dangerous at that time is almost laughable, but I am from Detroit.

    • @craigfinnegan8534
      @craigfinnegan8534 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      So a motel couldn't be shady because your parents stayed there a few times? Why would we believe you when we don't know either you or your parents, but we know there were about a dozen rapists and a few murderers staying there all at the same time? Also, we know that the manager of the motel was a moral bottom feeder. Who are we going to believe - you or the facts?

    • @angelicadarlin8150
      @angelicadarlin8150 ปีที่แล้ว

      ​@@craigfinnegan8534people that try to debate posts with anecdotal "evidence" trip me out. "It's not true! Because I know one or 2 people that had a different experience. 🤡" Like, it was literally fu*kfest 1979 there, with a bunch of homicidal security guards and blood thirsty women. smh.

    • @vidaliasoleil2714
      @vidaliasoleil2714 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@craigfinnegan8534 The individuals involved in this crime certainly committed horrific acts. But that does not mean the hotel itself was a dangerous or disreputable place, or attracted shady clientele. What is most shocking is that most of the defendants in this case seem to have gone on to live lives within the parameters of civil society. As Dr. Grande suggests, something unique went on within this group to induce such terrible violence. Because my parents stayed there, I spent time there myself, so I have first hand knowledge of what the environment was like as well as having lived in town, where I was aware of the "reputation" of various areas around town. Believe me or not. Calling the hotel disreputable or dangerous is overreaching and perhaps a result of people in Holland trying to distance themselves from the people who committed these crimes and the terrible crime itself, although it did attract some deserved notoriety after the crime along the lines of, "Blue Mill Inn, isn't that the place where the girl that was killed used to work?". What you are saying seems like saying the Ambassador Hotel is a disreputable place because assassinations happen there, or Mandalay Bay in Las Vegas is a dangerous place that attracts shady clientele.

    • @nanettevantriesteharder2469
      @nanettevantriesteharder2469 ปีที่แล้ว

      From 1980-1983, I loved the fields of tulips each spring in Holland, MI. I still do. My husband and I used to take our kids there to have fun on the family rides. Tragedy sometimes strikes where you least expect it.

  • @istateyourname4710
    @istateyourname4710 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Dr. G, Could you speculate on the case of Willard Miller~who killed his Spanish teacher over a bad grade?

  • @barbieblue3336
    @barbieblue3336 ปีที่แล้ว +25

    I think more schools need to do more documentaries of cold cases

  • @jonrenton3655
    @jonrenton3655 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I remember this very sad case so well when it was in the news. But I always wanted to know more but was never able to. All the sex, drinking and partying overrode what really happened from the media. Thank you so much for your opinion. It is great to know even so many years now.

  • @kathykaveh1471
    @kathykaveh1471 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Dr. Grande, I always listen to your videos at night before sleeping b/c your voice is so soothing (not great bedtime material though for some people!), so I don't get a chance to comment, though I have a few times. But I specifically came here today to say that in general, you are truly brilliant....and witty! Your analyses and the logic you use on all your cases are perfect. You cover every aspect so clearly and with so much detail. And I know you put at least one of these out everyday, so you have very little time to research, but you do a spectacular job. And I can't tell you how many times I've cracked up at some of your puns or witty remarks that come out when least expected! Just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate all the effort you put into all your videos and the insight with which you cover your topics . I love how you wrapped up this particular case by discussing how shame was a theme all around. A great point that most people wouldn't see. Thank you and keep them coming!

  • @milliewoo337
    @milliewoo337 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Dr. Grande, if it’s not too hot to touch, curious if you would do a video on Chloe Cole or similar case(s). Would love to hear your speculation on the (de)+transition topic

  • @CineMiamParis
    @CineMiamParis ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Brilliant analysis of the shame theme. Dr. Grande, thank you for an intelligent take on this story. Would love it if you came across other cases that provide similar thematic readings.

  • @manewland1
    @manewland1 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    What's really baffling to me is how this entire group (of security guards and others) were all willing to attack and kill her; Janet's grasp of morality, too, is troubling (makes me think of Plato's 𝘙𝘦𝘱𝘶𝘣𝘭𝘪𝘤, and the ring of Gyges: we should behave morally, regardless of the consequences). Thanks, as always, Dr. Grande!

    • @CC-oi9mc
      @CC-oi9mc ปีที่แล้ว +13

      They all knew each other to be antisocial, had probably a long history of violent and misogynistic banter. Malicious degenerates can identify each other and bond pretty easily.

  • @neon_cats
    @neon_cats ปีที่แล้ว +8

    great work, Dr. Grande. thank you for covering this case.

  • @skyedog24
    @skyedog24 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I knew a girl who right after high school decided she was going to go to Las Vegas she was the younger sister of two her older sister was a cheerleader and a partier. Tammy was not she was almost the opposite of her older sister she was shy and reserved was a bookworm . After graduation 1983 we never saw her ever again.

    • @craigfinnegan8534
      @craigfinnegan8534 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I graduated HS in 1983 also, in Upstate NY.
      The Tammy story reminds me of the song by Guns N Roses - "My Michelle."

    • @skyedog24
      @skyedog24 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@craigfinnegan8534 a fellow( be free in 83 )
      Arguably we have lost a lot in social skills since days before cell phone & internet. Are used as a case study a video or several videos entitled "interview at the mall 1983". Being at the mall in those days was a much different experience than being at the mall today It would appear that people are less socially adapt at conversing with complete strangers than we were in those days there is a marked difference in the attitudes that are on display in these now historical videos of the '80s. In my humble opinion.

  • @arfriedman4577
    @arfriedman4577 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    We enjoy listening to your soothing voice telling stories and giving insight to the stories.
    Much success and health to all.

  • @lotusflower7597
    @lotusflower7597 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    The woman should have gotten life in prison too

  • @gcham1209
    @gcham1209 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I was dealing with my medical thing when I initially got this notification. But I kept reminding myself to hop on when I woke up. No better way to wake up than with a vid from Dr Grande "only speculating about what could be happening in a situation like this."

  • @Azelia834Heather
    @Azelia834Heather ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for this interesting, albeit sad video.
    Such a lot of cruel wicked people all in one hotel.

  • @gabschasse600
    @gabschasse600 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Janet's story reminded me of Looking For Mr Goodbar

  • @emilycaroline5740
    @emilycaroline5740 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thanks for always giving me an informative commute to work Dr. Grande 👍🏼

  • @shellyharry8189
    @shellyharry8189 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    jealousy that led to kidnapping, rape, murder.... these are some pathetic excuses for human beings

  • @Alice-ui9oy
    @Alice-ui9oy ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This one goes pretty deep... Thank you Dr Grande for going there and shining a light in the tunnel for the rest of us.
    Appreciate that there are no promises made around actually showing what the way out looks like though.

  • @cjmarz
    @cjmarz ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you for your consistent posts, Dr. Grande! Your daily uploads are appreciated.

  • @ghoststarstalk
    @ghoststarstalk ปีที่แล้ว +3

    'You can run on for a long time; sooner or later, God will cut you down.'

  • @TheFoulblood
    @TheFoulblood ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Just because you don't burn in hell immediately after sinning doesn't mean there aren't consequences for those sins

    • @SerendipityChild
      @SerendipityChild 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Are you blaming the victim of the gang rape?

    • @TheFoulblood
      @TheFoulblood 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@SerendipityChild no

  • @DigitalNeb
    @DigitalNeb ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Well, I was NOT expecting that turn of events. It's incredible that so many people would agree to commit murder together. I wonder if had to do with their status as guards? Perhaps that gave them a feeling of being above the law in this specific place and time. What a crazy scenario.

  • @gretchenhughes9652
    @gretchenhughes9652 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    A motive old as time: jealousy.

  • @iyalove9383
    @iyalove9383 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hi Dr. Grande. Thanks for the consistent content.

  • @bunnymad5049
    @bunnymad5049 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Oh, that poor girl. It feels like something was up with her beyond how over protected she was.

    • @mrazik131
      @mrazik131 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      what was up with her beyond? she had a very jealous roommate that caused a lot of evil and this girl had too much sex and head in clouds to notice,... what lust and jealousy can cause...

    • @Seeker0fTruth
      @Seeker0fTruth ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Maybe the OP was alluding to a learning disability or neurodivergence? Regardless, she sounded ill prepared for the real world, even at 22. Very sad case. May she rest in peace and may justice be done.

  • @brushemteeth9159
    @brushemteeth9159 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Reminds me of the movie Wind River.

  • @jademoon5103
    @jademoon5103 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Laurie was just jealous of Janet and wanted her in harms way

  • @ds7900
    @ds7900 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    It took psychological torture and a protracted investigation to give Janet some "justice." Ironically, it turns out time actually solved this case. It took over twenty years for Robert to marinate long enough in his psychologically torturous guilt stew before he finally broke and brought down the whole sh*thouse with him.

    • @shidehhafezi6826
      @shidehhafezi6826 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      From what I have read, it took Robert more than a year and 10s of interviews, to admit to the crime. People who were interviewing him remained persistent and kept going back to get him to talk.

  • @lidbetci
    @lidbetci ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thanks for another interesting case, Dr. Grande can you please give us your thoughts on Leslie Van Houten's parole released?

  • @Kathy-bc5yq
    @Kathy-bc5yq ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I feel so sad for this poor woman with no one to help her, and I feel absolute disgust for the so called human beings who did this to her.

  • @eyueal24
    @eyueal24 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Love all your videos Dr. Todd Grande keep it up👍.

  • @nadanalia3000
    @nadanalia3000 ปีที่แล้ว +38

    Jealous women are the worst. If you’re an attractive woman, be prepared to walk through life friendless

    • @jennbati6277
      @jennbati6277 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      💯

    • @spazmonkey3815
      @spazmonkey3815 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Disagree, my wife when she was younger was very beautiful and had many friends and through her now I have many lifelong friends.

    • @jennbati6277
      @jennbati6277 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@spazmonkey3815 that’s a wonderful case but it often doesn’t pan out like that. What she said is true you spend years trying to be a good friend and realize it never worked because of something as petty as womens jealousy. Jealousy is ugly period and if you’re good looking more reason to watch your friends closer.

    • @betsylaughlin8652
      @betsylaughlin8652 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Unfortunately, patriarchy ultimately plays a major role in toxic dynamics between women. I was fortunate to never feel alone, but if a woman has been conditioned to prioritize make approval above all else. Janet was controlled first by a God the Father, her actual father, and then was taken in by seeking approval from men through sex. The whole situation reeks of misogyny. And as I have said many times, unfortunately some (not most) and of the worst misogynists have *always* been woman. Fortunately, this new generation seems just slightly less tolerant of overt misogyny(at least publicly), thank goodness.

    • @kitrichardson5573
      @kitrichardson5573 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I would say in general women are much more jealous of each other than they are of men or who men hang out with.

  • @scottrogers2831
    @scottrogers2831 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Terrible case. Janet was born in my hometown. Briefly met the perpetrator (Arthur/Carl) too. Drive by the site of the murder from time to time. I never knew this was considered a bad hotel though. Heartbreaking.

  • @carriefawcett9990
    @carriefawcett9990 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Hi Dr Grande
    Could you please cover the case of Rain Thaiday, who killed her 8 children in Cairns, Australia on 19th December 2014.? I'd love to hear your opinion. Thanks for covering Cherish Perriwinkle's case, I was really hoping you would and you certainly didn't disappoint. Thanks! 🌼🍰

  • @francislarv3012
    @francislarv3012 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    No matter where you go… there you are.

  • @renee1961
    @renee1961 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Good evening, Dr. Grande! I hope you're doing well! Thank You!

    • @LaniLanilei
      @LaniLanilei ปีที่แล้ว

      He can use a vacation. All he does is work. This can't be good.

  • @sarahd8093
    @sarahd8093 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I avoid doing horrible things because #1 I don't want to and #2 I know the guilt would eat me alive.

  • @BigZebraCom
    @BigZebraCom ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Just a reminder, I''m not diagnosing anybody in this video; only speculating about what could be happening when a guard provides the opposite of security like this.

    • @Moon_Metty
      @Moon_Metty ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Jacques Clouseau of the Sûreté.

  • @ubsy4322
    @ubsy4322 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    They didn’t deserve to get out of prison. They walked around free for 20 years

  • @paladinkraus
    @paladinkraus ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I remember seeing this case on the investigation Discovery channel, can't remember the name of the show but the whole reenactment, in the input from the family's overwhelmed me. That poor girl suffered for no other reason than jealousy

  • @mgaeeeee9150
    @mgaeeeee9150 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    laurie swank says confessing was the "right thing to do" lmao. You confessed because you knew full well the cops were just about ready to arrest you anyway. You should have been tossed away with the others.

  • @SandraLily2
    @SandraLily2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    Regarding "a lack of consequences" from sin; being struck by a lightning bolt immediately after committing a sin is rather showy. Unrepentant sin definitely has consequences, both in this life, and the next 😊.

    • @acgillespie
      @acgillespie ปีที่แล้ว

      absolutely it does

    • @SerendipityChild
      @SerendipityChild 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      There isn't another life

  • @melindadurchholz3738
    @melindadurchholz3738 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Amazing conclusion. Wow.

  • @SunsetGuitarist
    @SunsetGuitarist ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Doctor you really murder these killer cases 😂

  • @anna-rosephipps3132
    @anna-rosephipps3132 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I like your analysis, Dr Grande. Linking shame to the various players. My heart goes out to Janet Chandler. I could relate to where she was coming from which meant she threw caution to the wind, her naivety. Just tragic. The jealous woman. Like evil hyenas

  • @silverhorder1969
    @silverhorder1969 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    No crime goes unrecognized by God..

  • @crystalmaldonado7521
    @crystalmaldonado7521 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Hello Dr. G. Love all ur content!!! Was wondering if you could analyze the story if u have not already of the Texas boarder patrol that murdered his mistress and their baby in Lorado Texas ? It happened in 2015 but the sentenceing phase is happening now. His last name is Burgos Aviles . Thank you!!!

    • @francescawilliams8177
      @francescawilliams8177 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I watched the trial, he could just have said no to her or tell the truth.

    • @moonstruck562
      @moonstruck562 ปีที่แล้ว

      I've been watching non stop

  • @curmidgeon8
    @curmidgeon8 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    My first job being at McDonald’s isn’t so bad looking back…

  • @aminaomar2756
    @aminaomar2756 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    Very sad sorry Janet cannot believe people can be so evil 😢

  • @andreabennington
    @andreabennington 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I work at a federal building (FEMA) in Texas. The guard companies change every year due to a bidding process (Wackenhut, American Global, etc...) but the guards remain the same (only their uniforms change)
    To a man, they are all ex-military. I believe it may have something to do with the fact that they obey commands and rarely question them. They have experience with weapons, they are fairly disciplined, and they are physically fit. To be a guard at this facility, you can not have any criminal record above a Class C misdemeanor.
    I believe ALL armed security guards should have these same qualifications.

  • @abrin5508
    @abrin5508 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    So just to be clear - the people who actually murdered her took plea deals and pointed to someone else and they got life - sounds legit.

  • @LindaPeterson-m8g
    @LindaPeterson-m8g ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I really enjoy your evaluations. Could analyze the Ashley Benefield murder case. She shot her husband. The media has dubbed her case as “The Black Swan” as she was a former ballerina. Thank you.

  • @jeanholmes7976
    @jeanholmes7976 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Hello Dr. Grande, what an awful death for Janet. May she rest in peace 😇💕from Jean.

  • @rubencarmona1531
    @rubencarmona1531 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Damn son, that was deep.

  • @rorylee9626
    @rorylee9626 ปีที่แล้ว

    Watch every single one of your videos by the way. Love so much that you upload every day rly brings some consistency to my life.

  • @jodiearrington
    @jodiearrington ปีที่แล้ว

    Another excellent analysis. I just noticed you have some books out on the market! I'm on it! Thank you Dr. Grande.

  • @karis7649
    @karis7649 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This is the problem with teaching kids : nothing,, nobody, never, nowhere….
    When they start to find that unsustainable in young adulthood, in the real world - they think the alternative is everything, everywhere, everybody & all at once.
    I’m not saying at all that what happened to her is her fault - it’s theirs unequivocally-but if she’d been taught reasonable & realistic boundaries she might’ve known interacting this way with these kids of men was outside the norms of healthy behavior and potentially dangerous

  • @Oudeis000
    @Oudeis000 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    13:34 The "power of separation" and distance that you mention as enabling the burial of guilt and concealment of the crime underlies the popular saying "what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas". I'm glad that in this case, at least some of the perpetrators were punished, but sadly, some perhaps eluded punishment in this life.