When A Narcissist Realizes You Refuse To Be Controlled
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If you're in a relationship with a narcissist, there's a good chance you've experienced this moment: the moment they realize they can't control you. It's a scary realization for them, because their whole world revolves around having control over others. Watch this video to see what happens when a narcissist realizes they can't control you.
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Thank you Ms. Zung.
The longer your in a toxic relationship, you can see things for what they are and not what they want you to see.
No contact is truly the best nothing nada! Nothing let them live in their delusional world lol
@Shelley S. yes it gets hard some days but I roll a blunt watch me some married with children lol or my other tv shows
Rebecca- I decided 15 years ago to stop all contact wi/ my sister. I don't have to figure out how to deal with her. But I watch your videos because they validate what I went through and it helps with my healing. Thank you.
I've cut myserlf off from my sister a few times over the years, but gave her some 2nd, 3rd, 4th, chances, etc., hoping that I could manage a state of minimal contact. This last time seems like it will have to be final, and the latent feelings of guilt aren't fun. It's definitely helpful to get validation. In my experience, it can't be found anywhere else, except spaces like this,
Same here ! I went no contact with my ex-brother since 2017 . He still tries to find ways to reach me via layers etc , to steal my heritage and create mess as usually. I had tried everything but he finds a problem to every solution . So I gave up and I keep my precious no contact no matter what. Take care
Glad that worked out! Keep SLAYing!! ❤🙌
I also stopped talking to my sister 19 years ago and never looked back. So liberating
One of two things happen . They will either realize the game is over and disappear. The bad ones will fly into a rage. If you refuse to give in, it could get dangerous, especially if you try to leave.
Mine decided to disappear. Thank God! I got lucky!
True! So how long have you been dealing with this person?
Mine tried to destroy me. Turned my kid against me. Everyone she had contact with. Destroyed herself in the process.
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@@RebeccaZungEsq unfortunately I left 17 years ago. My son is now 30 and met/married a woman just like Mom. I moved on and have been in a healthy, happy, supportive relationship that stared 16 years ago (10 years living together). I refuse to have all that in my life. Hopefully, someday my son will smarten up. Until then, I'm out.
The worst part, is when you're in an environment where you're SURROUNDED by narcissists . . . like in school. That's when they all go off-the-rails towards you at once, because you dared to show some individuality or self-determination, and that's how bullying starts.
That's true! What was your favorite part of the video?
On a second viewing (it’s been almost a week, so I had to go back and re-watch), it was the section on “empty threats” and shortly after, about how they WANT you to feel ganged-up-on. (I’ve experienced both of these.)
Perfect analogy of them baiting you in like a fish and then taking you down like quick sand. The toddler throwing a tantrum as well.
Just cut your losses and move on. Break all contact. There are millions of other people on the planet.
Yes totally especially family that constantly put down smear and Gaslight....
People get stuck from the "sunk cost fallacy". Cut your losses is great advice.
It’s hard as you know.
I don’t even want to be in a relationship-
Good luck to you. Heal strong and don’t look back
That's true! Keep SLAYing!! ❤🙌
Ive seen it, Ive lived it.
mine is being nice past week because as he bitched about food budget i finally said well if you want the budget this tight then live alone and fulfill your stingy budget that way. Not a word ... now nice , waiting for shoe to drop
leave them dumbfounded, after they test you, the highroad is the only road.
That's just the thing I was never an enemy to any of the narcissus like I was just being kind I might have been setting some boundaries and saying no for once but they are the ones who made me enemy I was never enemy
If you are in school, the teacher might send your classmates after you as flying monkeys to force you back into submission, in order to reestablish total control over the class.
This is spot on, been through every step of this.
It's soul destroying ❤
I've seen it, I'm seeing it....
I love the comment threads on the videos :) it's really helpful seeing people digest the information, share their understanding and experiences, Slay community.
I’ve Seen It & I’m Slaying It!!
I'VE SEEN IT! Everything you mentioned in this video and one of your others "I'VE SEEN IT!" is the theme of the point, 1 or 5, she does them all. I must add that we e been together for 33 years. I'm 9 1/2 years older than she is and she has the right to find fun and halpiness and travel. I'm 67 years old next week to she thinks at 57 that she us going to find real love, because she doesn't think she ever loved me, lol.
This is what you're talking about, thank you for being here, I'd be completely lost without videos like yours. God bless you!
I've seen it! My toxic ex-boss future-faked when I declined to be manipulated. I got stuck in the boring job because I took what he said seriously. Nothing he promised happened.
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In it right now, and it's gotten so bad that I've had to call the police several times. He's super upset, saying that I've been manipulating our kids and that I'm putting up walls been them and him. But the thing is, my kids see his behavior because it's affected them too, and they want nothing to do with their dad. So now he's escalating and getting nasty. I can't get him out of the house. The court system is so slow. He is dangerous for al of us mentally, and potentially physically, but he hasn't crossed any lines yet so I can't make him leave and I can't leave. It's just very stressful and frustrating and scary.
Sorry to hear about what you've been through. You got this! Keep SLAYing!
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Restraining order
Thank you for your great videos, Rebecca. I watch them constantly and appreciate them a lot. They really helped me to see the light in the tunnel. I was thinking about one of your videos when I was watching a scene in Tell All of 90 days fiancee where Bilal gave Shaeeda a baby tee with Will you have a baby with me. The whole audience were just "adored" with his behavior including a supply Shaeeda but I personally had goose bumps. I saw his attempt of "building an army of flying monkeys" so to speak and winning them with a cheesy act with a motive of isolate a victim and therefore establishing control over her while silencing her completely. Thank you again for your amazing videos, without them I would not be able to see through the gaslighting.
Awesome!! Happy to help! 😊
After Christmas of last year 2022 when my sister and brother-in-law stormed out of my house I haven't spoken to either of them, my older sister she's 71 told him that he needs to apologize to me, he told her that he will, it's been three months and not a word, as far as I'm concerned I have no reason or desire to speak to him ever again or my sister for that matter, thank God they live 2000 miles away in Colorado I'm in New Jersey.
I've seen it all!
Thank you Rebecca!
Great!! Happy to help! 😊
I thank GOODNESS for you! This explains soooo much for me in both my self and in my narcissistic father and in our relationship. It makes it so much easier to begin to think of a solution. 😂 My crying is out of relief of some clarity in my life. I did not know he was (or who was) a toddler, and you explained it in such explicit terms. Many thanks.
This is exactly correct. They know EXACTLY what they are doing.
Yeah baby! What’s one thing you can feel grateful for today?
I’ve seen it all! Thanks for all you do. So helpful
Refuse to be controlled,don't take it personal,is it your fault their a narcissist.Dont give in to their evil mind games,be aware of their words and actions,if it doesn't seem right,don't comply to their wishes 🚩✔️💲❌🆘
Glad you found them helpful! Keep SLAYing! ❤
"I've seen it!"
OMG, This is so true...Hard not to laugh at the tantrums.
I've seen it. Mine said that I was being watched by the police and social services would take my children away from me, even though the youngest was 15.
I will break all contact after he finishes paying me my divorce settlement. Lol
You got this! Keep SLAYing! ❤
I've seen this before - Thank You for what you do --- so amazingly accurate.
Thank you so much! What’s one win you had this week?
Rebecca alot of love for you ❤😘. And bundles of thanks also😢
I've seen it
What if it’s your own dad though? And family? I’m the only sane in a Narc cult
I just tried to resolve things with my dad @Red Lobster right now... And he literally put his gum in my food... I call my mom's side a "clan" and my dad's was all "friendly fire is ok..."
Hope you're doing ok~! I ended my narcs abuse cycles of 35 years on 1.9.23... My whole family was fake actors the whole time... wearing narcs masks the whole time...
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Step back. Cut down contact to bare minimum. Learn to recognise the behaviours objectively. If that doesn’t work - ruthlessly go “no contact”.
I've not just seen it... I'm going through it right now!!!
"I have seen it"
Saw it today
i have seen everything you talk about starting from when i was a kid living with my narc parents right up until now.
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"I've seen it."
They lose their s**t
Ive seen them
Have seen it!
I have seen it. And Rebecca, you are spot on. Now add BPD and you got yourself a real cocktail.
Glad you found them helpful! Keep SLAYing! 🙌
I've seen it all , the reason I decided to go no contact and allow my lawyer to meditate all . Thank you Rebecca you have really helped me 😘👍
Glad you found them helpful! Keep SLAYing! ❤
My spouse just tells me if you aren’t happy get out and file for a divorce. He won’t do it himself.
saw this yesterday
So I am awesome!
Defamation of character accusations of substance abuse accusations of being any kind of addict but the narc supply is totally avoided and denial is intact
I'VE SEEN IT!!!!
I've seen it!!!!!!!
I'm not going to talk to you until you get better, you need help!! The whole family is saying this. This came about after I told her "a few people see that your a drinker. I don't respond to them." That was all, I don't drink alcohol as well. Guess it's ridiculous too much.
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I’ve seen it
I’ve seen this “I’ll take your children away and you’ll never find them”.
I've definitely SEEN far MORE of than I care tolerate or remember! 👺
Hi Rebecca, thank you so much for your work. Could you do a video on how best to support one's child who has fallen under the custody of a narcissist, who is doing everything they can to frustrate contact.
To this day, Iam still paying for his daughter's 'Airline Ticket ' & Alex's 'Airline Ticket ' from Nigeria to Orlando, FL, which both were 'NO SHOWS '! He screwed me over.
He 'ghosted me' in 2015! And, I haven't seen him since. Then, about 4 years ago he showed up stalking me in my home town with his new girlfriend & newborn son next to him.
I’ve seen it and live it….BIG TIME!!
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i have a bpd , narcissistic daughter , she used to be able to make me give in ,, but not now ! she is 38 a nd still trying to make my life hell ,
I'VE SEEN IT!!!
So, I am not sure if I am married or not! He has committed multiple crimes involving money fraud. He used me solely as a "Money Mule"!
I’ve seen it!
The moment I really.put my foot down and made sure she understood that now it's enough was the moment she started to discard me. Nine months later, seven months after our wedding, I filed for divorce after finding out that she tried to get a coworker in bed. She got a shock since she had not seen my dark and adamant side before. That was her epiphany coming.
I've seen it!!!
I will definitely be in need of a lawyer!
I have a surprise for them too
I think I'm going through this right now. My Narcissistic gf is changing tactics. She's being nicer to me. I realize what she's doing. I'm a little slow but as I process it the, light shows through very brightly. I don't have the guts, the courage to withdraw from her. That's my abandonment fears kicking in. I don't want to be left alone. I'm a grown man. I make good money. I take care of my body. Shit. Thanks Mom & Dad. They were messed up too.
She's very good. It all comes from my childhood and hers too. Thanks, Rebecca. Funny thing, that's her first name too. For Real!
That's it. They're Chameleons. Wow. What a trip. I never knew this kind of personality existed. And from what I read, there are more and more incidents of this each year. It's Satan's Minions. She's a Covert Narc too. I'm getting this stuff down.
Dude, to quote the great Reverend X “cut that bitch off!! Next caller”
Satan’s Minions ✅~ SPOT ON
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Never refer to them as "my" they are aliens 👽... 👽
Many of us were right where you are, it took STRENGTH to walk away, one day at a time. Take back your power. Self-love ❤️ loving yourself enough to quit allowing them to hurt you. It is mental abuse. Life gets so wrapped up in their lives, that you lose your life. Quit thinking they will change, someone will change YOU. They dangle just enough bread in front of you to keep you in place. They read your reactions. They study you, and they enjoy every minute of it. They NEVER saw us as people, they saw us as objects, something to use for their convenience. They don't love you, they don't even love themselves. Just a dark pit of a human, with NO empathy. Any empathy they presented was from mirroring you. Get to know yourself, the person you have been sacrificing in this addictionship
But if you are in an addictionship with a Narc you ARE ALONE
Love ved the discard. Literally one person was "on my side". Alienated his step sons (my bio kids) from me. To this day, I have no relationship with my kids. Got out in 2006. So ex spouse is still committing domestic abuse on all three of us.
Stash of cash? I had no access to anything. He controlled the finances.
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I've seen it!
I've seen a thirty-something adult throw a fist-shaking, screaming tantrum. Only got worse (mean, manipulative, destructive to a criminal level) with age. Moral: if you see this, run!
I have seen it! In spades. My story would make a good case study and/book for what living and a divorce with a Covert Narrisist is like.
Here this individual is in town, creeping around stalking me. He is one very Sick Individual. I hope that God hears my prayers 🙏 and answers them!
After long time I thought I should give a call to them...god..they just suck the life out of me....they never change....still my head ache from aftermath...horror even on phone..
I’ve seen it!!!!!
I've seen every single aspect of narcissistic behavior you've described. I've been dealing with a whole family of them, so many of these things are happening simultaneously. What I've decided is that I will never allow them to make me feel as miserable as they are. I know I'm not the person they're attempting to make me out to be, so I've found ways to cut as much contact as I can, despite the fact that a court order keeps us unhealthily bound. The court system may think it knows what's best for families, but they don't appear to comprehend the destruction a narcissist (or several) can exact, so it's up to you to protect yourself and your family. Family court won't do that for you. Dr. Phil said it best: Family Court is the worst place for a family to be.
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Could not agree more. There are not many solicitors or judges out there who can see this and know how to navigate narcissistic behaviour.
seen that!
These "unknowing individuals" has certain 'License Plates' letters and numbers that hurt me by torturing me. Nasty very cruel words/slurs.
He also said he had a 'daughter' who attended a private school in Germany, and he had asked me to send him money through Western Union to her.
There children in adult bodies facts
Facts
That's even weirder if they're your parents
TRUE! So what was your favorite part of the video?
@@RebeccaZungEsq They dont liked to be challenged all the narrissists on planet earth
Ive seen it! Im seeing it!!!!
After ten years in an off & on relationship with a narcissist, I broke away 4 months ago. Although this month I went no contact because nothing you do will make a difference with them. You can be nice. You can be mean. You can call them out. They will deny and deflect. You can even present them with a screenshot I've been flirting cheating and they will still deny 🤣
Cut your losses. Remember the badass you were before they got you all messed up. Because if you were not such a badass, they would not have wanted anything to do with you in the first place. So remember you are worthy. You deserve respect. You deserve a full-blown love without tricks lies and games. Keep educating yourself. Knowledge is power
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Later, as things turned out he blocked my email's to him and his 'Elsa' daughter who I spoke to several different times.. then she disappeared.
I have seen it 👍
I've seen it 💯 it's happening to me now with ex. she not letting me see my 4 year old just to hurt me but she's hurting my daughter hard out 🥺. But I've got this now 💯 thank you and 👍🏻 From Christchurch New Zealand 💯🇳🇿
Glad you found them helpful! Keep SLAYing! ❤
Wow !
I got that Covert mood swing today at me ...he got #assertive101 right back atcha‼️
Keep SLAYing! ❤
When his unfaithful new girlfriend cheated on him, he decided to try and win me back apparently. But, it ain't going to happen. He is an evil man who stole a lot of money from me!
He told me that he had a house that he owned in Africa, and that he would sell it, and live together as husband & wife back in the U.S. It never happened! He 'Ghosted me' afterwards.
Thank you. Right or wrong… here’s what I recently (2023) wrote to my (narcissistic?) cousin who has owed me more than $3000 for over 11 years (and has paid-back only a pittance). “I am glad to show you (1) Validation (of your hard work to achieve self-sufficiency) (2) Admiration (of your intellect and healing skills) (3) Recognition (of your humanity and caring) (4) Attention (to your sparkling personality)… AFTER you pay me back.” I may never get an answer back from her but I am now going for BALANCE in our relationship or…. nothing at all. Her re-payment to me could be a sign of her healing. It may not, but at least we will have known BALANCE. My eyes are now open.
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yes
stalking happens
seen it,seen it with a police friend i cut ties with.
I have saw this
i saw this happen two days ago with a wiman who i thought was a friend.shes a bully, control freak, a spoiled brat.
Seen It .. Lived It .. Bought a T-Shirt, Sent A Postcard!
My Ex-Husband, and now my 37 yo Daughter. Unbelievable!!!
I know she’s my daughter, but her delusional lies, hatred towards me followed by Love Bombing for money and empty promises got to be too much. I walked away!
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Harder when it's your kids.
I have seen it 😢
Good day Rebecca. One of the most toxic people that I have worked with for nearly 16 years got in a little trouble at work a month or so ago. His problem could’ve easily been written off with the HR department. But the short end of the story is. His narc boss wrote him up for not using the proper procedure to call in sick. this guy got so stressed out. He was actually checking his blood pressure all shift long for over a week. He then had a massive stroke in a meeting at work. That right up basically blew his mind and he imploded. I am wondering if this is an example of typical behavior? God bless you and everyone here. Smitty.
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OH YES I never had anyone put it out like that before ever
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I've seen it I've experienced it and now we Re in the smear fase how long has this been going on for ?
I am dealing with a cyberbully narcissist. She spreads horrible lies about others too not just me. She has been reported to youTube several times (every video) I started ignoring her but she brought me up again spreading more lies. This woman is 64 years old.
Sorry to hear about what you've been through. How long have you been dealing with this person?