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Narcissistic Personality Disorder
They don't respect you but demand you respect them. Cold hearted people.
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I agree. My 29 year old says I dint care about him cause I set boundaries with him.
Yes! True then add schizophrenia tendencies and it never stops even using grey rock method. It then becomes a challenge to destroy you by continual bizarre behaviors to conjuring up imaginations. The combo on Histrionic, Grandiose and plagiarism narcissism means deluded behaviors while portraying to the world they are real good people. They never stop trying to break you even if you never showed interest. DOJ doesn’t mean anything when being told there’s an open file especially when bragging how they can get away with their behavior even with DOJ. They are ruthless in trying to break you under this umbrella. Sadly, a landlord where I’m trying to get financially free from love bombs, word bombing and it’s bizarre. Mark Twain has a quote about never arguing with stupid people, they will beat you with experience. Obsession to control is all covered in this segment.
So true
Right? They have boundaries made of steel, but everybody else? Rage/emotional dysregulated on a regular day. My sister is basic Amber Heard. I love how we are all educating ourselves.
The best way to deal with narcissists is to never deal with them again.
What about when the narcissist ydo something wrong to their boyfriend's parents and then turn their son against them with their lies and delusions?
@@terrydonahue1679 try to convince the son logically, and if he does not listen then thats his problems to be honest.
Thank u. I knew this since 2013, now i want nobody at all. Im better alone if im gonna be miserable w/a pitiful mean selfish person
How when the system is run by them
@@lonepheasant3489 well, that is true it's run by them but to solve something big like this you should also have a bunch of good people who are willing to unite to demolish them, because obviously there are things that you cannot run away from.
Narcissists hate people who have compassion ... BECAUSE THEY WILL NEVER HAVE COMPASSION FOR ANYONE
🌬📢He admitted it after yrs of kn🤔wing him & refusing to see him. It wz a ploy to suck me in. He disappeared w/ the plans I projected for our life but w/another woman. Still thought many yrs later I'd be w/him & attend the same church his ex-wife d🤣es.
Wow. That hurts. My family has no compassion for me
That explains why my 29 year old son said to me he wouldn't treat like he treats me , he sId he would be nicer to a dog than to me but he respects his dad and when He talks to he is always angry enraged and refuses to help when he is the 1 who physcially slammed doors on my leg when he felt like it. Last time he did that he got reported and was investigated and the i Investigator said he wasn't guilty And then there was another investigation opened up the 2nd one since October And then there was another investigation opened up a second one since October of 2022 As that 1 came to an end another one started it was gonna last till February.. Seems like a lot of people even professionals that are supposedly out there trying to protect a vulnerable like the older people And the children Have no clue what mental disorders are like it's a mental disorder to me and narcissist the way he treats people they don't live in the real world Yes some counselors/psychologists just say their jerks They're more than jerks they're dangerous people And with the investigators he shouldn't really be on my case because we had a previous positive experience with my son and
But he should know what a narcissist is if hes gonna be investigating somebody that's possibly gonna be that way I shouldn't be puzzled because it does the same case this year and is mystified why my son was nice to them. I even knew before I found out what a narcissist was like that somebody that acts that way is not gonna show it when they go get investigated So I understand why hes an investigator if he doesn't know isn't up-to-date with current mental health issues how is it gonna know what they are when somebody shares how to be intrigued cause it felt really horrible after I shared everything about what was going on with my son and how I felt he goes wow he was so nice last year because I understand why hes not well maybe it's because you're close to him like cause you're his mom. Didn't really need somebody to analyze it and make it me feel like I mean sure I'll let overwhelmed more Are you supposed to be there for the person that's the victim like slamming doors on my leg twice a month and may be out of September 21 to October 221 or 2 months he stopped doing it It's a bit stunning he had a hard time separating his experience from last year to now.
The fact is that Compassionate narcissism is going to be a real threat to humanity after AI in near future.
Even having qualities such as empathy, compassion, or even having the ability to genuinely love someone else would be a reason for the narcissist to be jealous and want to destroy you
they really do it’s so sad
That is so true!
SCARY! But True! #Narcissisticbehaviors
Listen to THIS. Content is SPOT ON in an easy way.
Believe it or
Eva Evan’si
I didn’t realize I was with a narcissist till I got away from him earlier this year. Sad & sorry for these type of people.
This is how the government responds when they cannot control you.
My ex- NARC told me:
"You were the worst relationship I've ever had."
I felt awesome when he said that.
They absolutely HATE being found out! They only get worse with age. You my dear, dodged a bullet. ♥️
Thats a compliment!
@@AwakenedAvocado Hell yeah! I gave myself a high 5! What he really meant was " you cannot be controlled and become my slave."
@@linda6987 I did somewhat, but the trauma bond was so strong with him. He is PURE EVIL. I am glad I was able to get out. But next week I'm filing a restraining order.
@@theRelentlessWarrior77 The trauma bond is hell. Good job.!!! Prayer up.
Just keep calm and ignore The shit out of them
I got involved with a malignant narcissist, it took me almost 20 years to get her out of my life. It was a nightmare, the tricks they pull, their lies, the culture encourages this behavior.
You make me laugh 😅, same here 20 years, with a 20 years older woman 👵. The magic 🎩and the hate Ole F,
I got rod of mine after one year of marriage- but literally changed continents, and I knew he would not be able to leave his job! I often thought about it and how lucky I was to get out before more damage was done…
Fck back. It's fun... just be careful. Long-game draw. At least it's not a loss
I am sorry you had to go through this
now that you have found a way out
find your own passion a hobby of sort
and you may find someone who has the
same passion as you and you may deem trustworthy T.
Am born to one.
Married to one for the past 21 years and I'm finally done!! My biggest regret is staying in his nightmare for so long. Took me so many years to realize what I'm living with. I have lost myself from the constant mental and emotional attacks/ abuse. Not staying in this and will do everything to keep my kids out of relationships and friendships like this!
Same here.
They destroy anyone, who's good and shiny and happy.
Been there and done that. Beware the narcissist don’t take no for an answer. 8 years after I left him I got a letter wondering why have I been gone so long, don’t you know I love you?? No thank you!
Very painful, my mother is a narcasist determined to destroy me, I never knew about this horrible mental disorder until I became an adult. It's horrible and painful the fact I no longer have no trust. She is 88, and it gets worse. It's very sad to know your own blood wants to harm you she also put my family against me, with lies, I will never feel the same with her.
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@Pixie_damsel So so sorry to see the amount of pain your mother has inflicted on you. I have been in the same situation with my mother, narcissist to the extreme although not extrovert. She passed away a few years ago so it has been some kind of a relief that I shared with no one except one person as people who haven’t gone through that nefarious experience couldn’t relate to, and in the end, you’ll get blamed. However, the damage done is so deep that it is hard to heal.
@madeline colon. I feel for you. I just responded to a comment; I should have responded to you first as the original comment on this thread. Like the other person, “Pixie damsel,” I so much empathize with you. My own mother had been so harmful until the end. And, when every once in a while, I would stand up for myself, she’d become more cruel and vicious. Then she proceeded into slandering me to family members. My former General Practicioner for whom family is a sacred thing, was even suggesting that I stop talking to her. I should have followed his advice. The amount of harm she had done is abhorrent.
I hope you can find some solace somewhere.
My monster finally died at 88 after chain smoking since age 15. Her last dying words to my brother were telling him a lie about me. He knew she was lying because my brother and I had a tight bond, despite her trying to separate us our whole lives by making him the golden child. She had turned the entire extended family against me and my poor sister. The two of us spent a lifetime of her destroying our lives.
Right there with you.
Narcissists are the worst thing to happen to people!
I totally agree...!!
Hmm
And animals !!😢
Being with him makes me aggressive because I’m always on guard. He tells me to let it down. Hell NO
Best you leave
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Yup exit plan engaged.
Why would you want a relationship where you’re always on guard? Trust your instincts, if you have that “feeling” in your stomach - trust it. ♥️
My ex is delusional, he thinks he's royalty, he said we would've gotten along better if I would've just bowed down to him. What a loser. I told him I don't bow down to shit. Don't like the smell 🤣
Dated a narcissist years ago. He pretended to be a “nice guy” looking for a true connection. But within a few months he showed his true ugly face: extremely jealous, possessive, demeaning, cruel, downright sadistic. He told me he gets “tired of the same woman fast” and he’ll “go find someone else “ and has “other women on the side”. I was shocked. Had to ghost him and all his pitiful attempts to come back.
Im so glad for u. I was with a narc ex years ago and back then i did not know what that evil spirit was but i learned by doing reading & research alone so i could stay away from these pathetic types of men & women
The ironic thing is, the narcissist COULD actually be successful if they didn't waste their time away being obsessed with you, creating fake profiles to spy on you, stalking you, calling from various numbers, and trying to turn your friends and family against you. If they put that same energy into something productive, they would actually be wildly successful. But the fact that they're so fixated on you instead of improving themselves is what causes them to be unsuccessful in the first place. Direct your focus and energy somewhere else, rather than trying to ruin the life of someone who does not want you. They might not have peace in their own lives, but you're for darn sure not interfering with mine!
That IS how they measure success!
I have a security guard in a tower in Manhattan at Columbus circle. He bears false witness, he sexually verbally assaults employees, he harasses female tenants with sexually abuse. And if you speak against this workplace abuser. They target you for defending yourself and others. Keep this note in your phone. To refer to later. I'm going to get justice 1 way or another. You got 1st scoop on my fight against workplace narcissism and sexual harassment abuse.
they fooled themselves in the end and yet had the audacity to thinks theyre smarter than others mean while already exposed naked. Delusion at the top chart.
They have different “survival” tactics! Very different n it’s ALL about CONTROL!!!
If you love the truth- no narc will like you! If you know the truth… especially about them it are even getting close to knowing the truth about them it’s like “ you know too much- now I have to kill you” n they WILL set out to DESTROY you!!!
Confront a Narc n you’re dead meat!!!
You've nailed on the head regarding narcs. Thanks a lot
God bless you
This was very helpful in my dealings with my husband of 10 yrs. I am learning how to disconnect from him and how to now be aware of his signs, love bombing, combatting behavior, over inflated ego, childish behavior and so on. I REFUSE TO BE CONTROLLED and HE KNOWS IT!! I feel like this relationship has taken a toll on my health as I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis after we were married at 54 yrs old. MY NERVES WERE SHOT AFTER A YEAR!! I now take from this relationship the bare minimum of what I WANT and disregard the rest. I’m running this show now only don’t tell him👍
Wendi
You worded this perfectly for me today....
There is so much empowerment in detachment from their games.
Yesterday he was sweet as pie....You've reminded me to be aware that it might be love-bombing and not a true change on his part.
Sigh
(I think that is a last straw for me....I've tended to fall for that trick my whole life, with several Narcissists)
I'm a hopeless believer in the best for others....Then I get pulled in for another chapter of abuse.
I've been with this guy for 9 yrs.
Thanks for reminding me of that.
Is it wrong to show mercy to others?
I think I need council.
Help me Lord.
Amen
@@lesliekupchanko5001 plan your exit,it'll just cycle again.Its so hard.Peace be with you.
@@countrygirl4213
Isn't it good though, Country Girl, that we have each other to talk to?.
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I find myself isolating because none of our friends get it.
He's very tricky.
A Magician as well.
Anyways; this is one good thing about TH-cam.
My escape is in order.
I'm just waiting for a phone call.
@@countrygirl4213
Thanks Countrygirl.
I understand just went through a love bomb then cold. Crazy! Say a prayer to break the soul tie. Breaking the soul tie frees your mind. Crazy it’s people out there like this. It’s heartbreaking people can be this evil
I had a bad experienced with this Unfortunately, people with narcissistic personality disorder can't handle taking the blame themselves, so they accuse other people in their lives instead, usually because they are not feeling secure. Because narcissists' inner guiding voice is so critical and harsh, narcissists try to avoid all responsibility for anything that goes wrong. In order to avoid self-hatred, they project the blame onto someone else. If they are lying, then they will accuse others of lying. If they are cruel, they will say that others are cruel. If they are stealing and scamming, then they will accuse others of stealing and scamming. They never take responsibility, and it's always someone else's fault.
So true. I just exsprienced this with a new person. They’re hot and cold. Mental disorder. WOW!!
@@beachlife8168 Yes mental disorder symptoms they have it since the Childhood Trauma period!
Absolutely. If only you knew what I just went through...
@@publicserviceannouncement4777 I understood this stage because in this stage many people play mind games and that's completely wickedly but God will will see it..Trust on the Lord Jesus Christ 🙏
So this apply to daughters accusing their Mum of being a narcissist like in these comments?
I can not believe how easy it can be to manipulate a whole community by using lies. Is there not one person that at some point might question the validity of these accusations or stories. Clearly they see that the actions & routines don't seem to match whatever accusations or negative stories that have been spread about them. No one questions any part of the stories or accusations?? Unbelievable and sad!!
That was exactly what I dealt with. All of the accusations and lies they said about me. LIES!!! They had my parents believing them. Then my Dad was wise enough to have a family meeting. THEY ALL LOOKED BAD!! My hubby and I smelled like roses. I have a hard time forgetting how they ruined my parent's retirement with all of the lies/drama. Up until they both passed. I even stayed away from burial in cemetery because that was too much evil for me! (All in one place) Life is much better since I cut my ties. 😀🥳. I went to cemetery after burial.🙏🙏
They make their story very convincing in a way that even your own mother or your child (adult) will question who you are.
@@onlygod3939 - these people are wicked. A lot of which hold positions of leadership and/or authority so people naturally “trust” them because of their “titles” (of entitlement- i.e. pastors, parents, etc..)
@@thinkaboutit9162 I am praying for everyone walking this road as a victim/survivor, myself including.
How this fits mmarkle precisely. Sad that so many people don't or refuse to see it.
Powerful message, please listen to the whole video. It’s true living with a spouse narcissist personality and didn’t know how to deal with it. But I’m so thankful that my prayer partner came together with me in prayer and God answered my prayers. He moved out peacefully and I am happy to have my mental health restored. 🙏🏽
Praise God ! 🙏
I am so happy for you and Praise the Lord that you got out! I've been praying for just over 12.5 years. It took nine years to confirm that my husband is a Narc. With prayer he is much less explosive. However, he is not at all emotionally connected to me. I guess it was all that love bombing 12.5 years ago that he has no more to give. I am praying for relief! The Lord is good, He knows what he is doing and I pray Jesus returns and takes me with him to get out of this horrible situation. I will keep praying!
Amen!
The ONLY reason I was able to escape my tormentor is because of God’s merciful love💝
They always move out without telling u and they steal some of your belongings. Sick individuals
How do I get help I am the spouse.
Walk with God..that who helps me and He helps me more than I have ever been💛God Bless Everyone out there dealing with a person like this my heart is with you and Prayers!!!
My daughter can be good for awhile but snap in an instant, leaving you to fear for your safety. It’s like walking on egg shells knowing it’s just a matter of time. The family decided that we had had enough and cut off all communications with her.
My husband and I just had to do the same with one of his daughters. Once the mask falls, it’s scary! We just had enough and refused to be taken advantage of.
Good for you.
I'm so sorry for you. Daughter that's awful😢
How do I get help for me the spouse?
@@bettyramirez9267 educate you with videos on youtube (hg tudor (video/podcasts) is a great one to understand narcisissm...as well as Dr. Carter´s here on youtube. There are others) and seek help with therapists who know about the subject. Some of the youtubers also offer this help. There are quite a few! And: Read as much as possible on the Internet and inform yourself. You are not alone. Good luck
Funny thing, I was raised by one. I was the scapegoat. My youngest brother was the golden child. Then as it turns out my (who I thought) best friend was one too. I’ve been surrounded my whole life! My mom died and my so called “friend” and younger brother are thousands of miles away. I ALWAYS thought this was normal behavior! One by one over years the masks slipped. No contact. It’s the best thing EVER! I can spot them in 10 paces - narcdar. Apparently I’m a lot stronger than I thought....
Yes I was in a relationship with one, which showed me how I was surrounded by them my whole life. 🤦🏾♀️
You are strong and you don't have to put up with them. Keep living free, do what you like. They don't exist.
narcdar 😂
Thanks for these insights. Since having cut off contact with the most extreme narcissist in my family I am much happier! Hot
Tip for others: if you feel tempted to reach out and see if anything has changed, it hasn't.
Nice :) Stay strong!
Yes. Im SO strong and SO steadfast... my confidence is so high I just LOVE watching videos about narcissists who have zero power over me.
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Well said dear 1 they have absolutely nothing on us they really are so weak n scared n only vibrating to solar plexus n lower chakras sometimes auric field is brown with is said to be evil x love n lught to all my ex is a reptilian elite narcasistic world leader n I'm a free spiritual warrior of light here to bust the corrupt system n help create new worlds for humanity n her planE.T Earth xxx our beautiful mother earth n all it's inhabitance dear one's. I'm heyoke empath (opposite of covert narcasistic) who I recently broke with ! Pure EVIL no joke but I learnt loads n made me stronger xxx
@@debbiesiddall3452 I dont think Heyoké typically go around calling people evil. That is pretty negative for a self-proclaimed 'super empath'. Please be more open to seeing that everyone has had trauma. Narcissist's are created through trauma as well. They are not evil.
@@colletteprops8708 Narcs ARE E.V.I.L.
And if you don't believe so, then you don't understand Narcs fully.
Everything and thought Narcs do and think, is to twist someone's life. By using that person's own heart against them.
And that is pure EVIL.
And I am a SUPER EMPATH also.
@@colletteprops8708 but they cannot change. I believe they are evil more so than not.
@@colletteprops8708 true. they’re not evil. they are EXTREMELY evil to the core.
They are also restless demons who don't sleep at night because they are obsessed with having their way. They are truly relentless, and will even use people, like family members to try to gain some control over you. That's why I have distanced and detached myself from them, and as far as I'm concerned, they don't exist.
Narcissists have no boundaries. This makes them dangerous. They can and will justify anything they do. Get away and stay away as soon and as fast as you can. If you can't get away, go grey rock. Keep all interactions short and dull. Life is too short to suffer the foolish and cruel behavior inherent in narcissistic abuse.
I had most of the positive traits.
That's why the covert narcissist chose me.
We knew each other for a year and a half before we became a couple.
He's an excellent actor, a liar, and he's stolen from me a lot. Apparently he enjoyed coming up with particularly creative ways of doing gaslighting and the like.
I finally broke up over a year ago.
Now I'm working on myself, have a trauma therapist. I now see what I have experienced as an opportunity to get to know myself from scratch, to change my own patterns, to recognize and live true, deep self-love.
Nonetheless:
Malignant narcissists consciously seek out strong people because they find sadistic pleasure in destroying them.
Greetings from Northern-Germany 🧜♀️
tot!lly relate
This was me and my late husband. It took years to realize what he was and why we fought so much. I am a very strong minded forward person and he had me his match!!
My mother is a narcissist. She ruled my life for a very long time. I got to my lowest point, and had to get away from her. I finally stopped being manipulated, and moved out, and then she stopped talking to me altogether. My brother will go over there, and get me to come over to visit him. She's polite when I come over, but will not text, or call me. So I see her once every few months. It's strange having someone rule your life for so long, and then have them treat you like a stranger. It makes you wonder if they ever actually cared to begin with.
Observation is important in your recovery, if you can observe without them knowing you can be healing, eventually they realise you know. But atleast you were able to process it. Letting go will be your next step in recovery, reduce the amount of contact bit by bit. You have to put yourself first.
She doesn't give a shit about you ; it's about them , and whst you can do for her ,
Thank GOd got me out that situation six months into the relationship. Owe GOD everything
You are so lucky you didn’t stay for years and got your life ruined for ever..
God saved me from Mine as well. I am so happy now
She was so evil, she took $12,500 and an engagement Ring 💍 and brought a king size bed and she just wanted me to do everything for her but she couldn’t be bothered to do anything to the relationship..
I was so sad and broken heart by her evil deeds on me.
Anyways I Have
Forgiven her but will never forget what she has done to me in that last 6 months of relationship absolutely horrible...
I am healing and recovering from it now 🙏🙏🙏🕊
@@iamchristian5735 I’m so sorry I feel so sorry for that innocent baby they just had. Both parents are truly unfit to care for a dog let alone a precious baby, that baby going to need a lifetime of therapy because who his parents are
So glad youre free, took me 14 yrs. May GODs grace cover you always.
In a narc's world everyone is a lier and thief, so they are obsessed with control.
Because they are liar n theif
Iiar and thief..sorry couldn't help it
In their world your evil and you can’t do right in their eyes. Yup.
I wish more people could hear this message
I had a narcissistic mother. I am still healing from the trauma.
I walked away from her and refused to be controlled. Best thing I ever did.
Me too
I wish I had of, you can't get your life back and they do destroy your health in the end.
This was an EXCELLENT and on point, detailed description of these people! From my experience, this is EXACTLY what and how they are. Thanx for posting!
It is amazing how many posts in this comment thread are "Spot On"! Thanks Sheba, wish you well.
The awareness about narcissistic behaviour should be taught in college s
Did The man who invented college go to college?
The awareness about narcissistic behavior should be taught in elementary school.
This should be taught from infancy but i digress. I believe narcisstic people have narcisstic children cuz its inherited thru the bloodline. Im glad i never had children w/no one after 2000s. I think i would have jumped from a tall bridge to get rid of myself and the pain of being w/a narcissist and giving birth to another narcissist. Its not worth it, at all and this world is already hell for me as a bw, so why would i endanger an innocent child to be in this cruel & hateful life. Im going thru enough just trying to stay sane and keep my solitude and depend on my Higher Power again who i felt had left me for my enemies but He did not. He never left me. Honestly i left Him when i believed that an imperfect god-less guy could/would treat me better than i could treat myself. Thats when i was highly & forever disappointed and was looking for any escape to get away from the mistake i made but nothing helped. Things got worse & worse. My mothers son believed the lies and started having him over his house omg it was horrible, embarrassing & im so glad i dont live in that hell anymore.
Great insights and defense against these creeps 💪
I really appreciate you you have taught me so much in my journey throughout my life basically I was married to narcissistic for 20 years being abused verbally emotionally spiritually. 🙏 But I believe in higher power of them myself that is the most high and he has been protecting me from day one and nobody gets my blessings but me and I love myself and I love God unconditionally like he loves me and his name I pray May everybody stay safe and well healing ✍️🙏🙏🙏👑🌍😇
🙌🏾💪🏾🦋🦅💃🏾
What was your journey like with recovery ✨️
I’m a medical astrologer and the narcissist I’m dealing with not dealt with, just left me, I’m hospice, I’ve confronted him about glorifying becoming a widow, I didn’t die fast enough for him, now he is unfolding financial threats and tricks, can’t wait for justice, 🌈
And surely, justice shall be!!!❤️💪✨🔥
He’ll get served what he deserves which is heavy karmic justice⚡️⚖️.I’m sending you lots of love and light.❤
Spend all the money you can and leave him in debt lol then come back to haunt him and get the last laugh
Thank you😢
I am a victim of this narcissist
madness for decades
I am trying to free myself but it’s not easy😢
It takes forever to get free I don't even want a relationship eney more like ever !!
Took me 14 yrs to realize I wasnt crazy, rebuild my self esteem and get free. Run!!! Just go. Im praying for you ❤
One of my closest friend is a narcissist and it took me 11 years to break off our friend relationship but what is hard is she lives right next door to me. She watches me, watches who comes and goes from my house, video tapes me, looks out her bathroom window if I am in your yard. The final straw was she never acknowledged the death of my Dad who this person knew my Dad was my best friend!
Everyone PRAY TO BREAK THE SOUL TIE THAT IS WHAT FREES YOU. Yt it keep saying this prayer and prayer to break witchcraft. It will get easier and easier TRUST ME
You don't have to do it alone! U may want to join a church or temple and pursue a closer relationship with your higher power.
Thank you for your video. I meet an individual exactly like this and because I have the type of personality that you described they don't like, he showed his true nature quick and I got out quick
This video shows the core of my struggle with my most powerful personal challenge in my battle for a future. My narcissist oppressors are the worst people they ever could have been in the first place in light of their expected role in my life in the first place.
They now know they are dangerously close to their defeat. This will make them go down in flames to put it mildly.
That’s why I now see what measures they are willing to stop me. Right now I have all I need to break free from them. However, they use every dirty trick in the book to stop it far more deceptively then I ever knew they ever were capable of.
This is where this video is just what I need to beat them at their own game long enough to get them out of my life permanently.
Key word is choosing the right battles in the right order.
Thank you for all these lifesaving insights. The only way I really can lose if I do stay the course is if the mental health care system itself is fundamentally broken in Norway. Then every Norwegian citizen should be deeply worried.
I’m dealing with a narcissist right now! I’m playing her at her own game. Eventually she will get frustrated!
This is so right on, direct, and amazingly to the point. No guessing what a narcissist and covert narcissist actions, responses and all the games they play and how to grow stronger to understand to recognize. A narcissist will make you codependent if you stay long enough.. I know 47 yr marriage to covert and being raised by female narcissists mother/older sister/s. Going to shout out a Hallelujah for this video. I will erase all my other narcissist educational videos and just keep this one… This says it all. No guessing…. Great job…
So far this is the best description , exactly where I am 💯 % now . Free spirit and refused to be controlled.
What I want is respect, work as a team or nothing? Although I do need affection, but he is not capable.
They will do anything to hold you hostage, attempt to make you seem like the abuser when they rely on abusing you to make them feel empowered, in some cases the only excitement they can manifest is by trying to destroy whoever they cannot manipulate or have control over. They will harass your family, they will justify criminal behavior or attacks against you then portray themselves as the victim . It’s so sad how they target empathy and exploit kindness as weakness.
Spot on. Exactly what a narcissist is. Everything im trying to battle through at present, with the horrendous behaviour and actions put on me, going through a divorce after a domestically abusing marriage.
I told the truth too much for a narcissist, and he told me I didn't have to do that too well. He was busy gaming his daughter or they were in cahoots to game me. In any event I didn't fall for it.
My father and sister are narcissists. And then throughout life its been quite a few along the way...
You will be lucky if they do loose interest in you. Run away quickly and quietly, your a lucky one. 😢😢😢
I love the subtitles as a way to make your message very clear. THANK YOU for very clear messages that really make your points about narisssists.
I am glad I have stumbled into this. I think narcissist NPD is such a serious problem and there is not nearly enough awareness, which makes the world a very big targeting range. My experience is that people develop this awareness (if at all), when it's too late and damage is already done.
I think it is important to note that there are certain personalities that are their preferable target. Empathic, compassionate and agreeable people are their preferred target. It's the perfect target audience for playing the victim role as they usually take what others say for granted, unaware of the grand deception stage the narcissist is building around them. Even strong willed people may fall due to this lack of awareness. It's like cooking a lobster, slowly heating the water until it boils them completely. The narcissist peels away, little by little, all their layers of identity and self worth, in a way that it is hard to notice (gaslighting being heavily used here). The narcissist also will try to isolate the victims from their support group, namely friends and family. It's a good idea to notice if all of your friends are also her friends, if it becomes increasingly difficult to spend time with your own family and friends. They can do a very good job on creating an apparent legitimate reason to avoid being around them. But it is fundamental that the victim can see through it and don't fall for their fictional narrative. Trusting your gut feeling is an invaluable tool of self defense. Lastly but not least, whatever phase of abuse the victim finds itself in, it needs to know it is possible to break free and recover its identity. And trust that it will raise again, stronger, on the other side. I hope this content spreads and helps other break free from an apparent unbreakable trap. Thank you. As a survivor, I thank you, the author of this video, for your service to humanity.
So true.I am a survivor too. Wasted so much time, energy, endured so much lost and grief because the narc in my life. Thank you for your sharing your insight.
Thank you so very much.
Listening to this, I have made a narcissist ANGRY and I’m very very pleased with that
Omg rage yes you are right yup. When you caught them out on their bs they get so upset and so dangerous and so mean and they will say get out of my way and leave. They don’t responsibility for their actions, but make you take responsibility for your actions. They will make you say your sorry but when you ask them to apologise they will not
I'm glad that you have this venue to let us know what kind of person that we are dealing with. I'm glad I'm away from this type of person.
I deal with that in my family my mother and father and for 62 years pretty hell the god came and rescued me.
To the extent of sending fraudulent Social Security mail. Telling me I Had to accept a call 9am February 5th or my benefits were at risk...February 5th was a SATURDAY!! These folks are ruthless, an unknown locksmith in a Senior building was paid by me to tumble my locks. We have a reputable, licensed and certified locksmith. Property management knew not why this new guy...and now Law Enforcement are the only folks that can retrieve name & number of unknown locksmith? His gang of devotees are my neighbors; and their tongues have been purchased. Saw him (my narcissistic Stalker) again 3 weeks in local market, he is getting bolder! I wouldn't wish this nightmare on anyone... not even his devotees/enablers. Maybe they know who & what he truly is by now...sad, sad, sad!
Much love ALL..NAMASTE
I am just too successful to let someone validate me but it has to be said, narcissism is widespread out there and my response to the risks has been to fully transactionalise my life. It keeps life clean and tidy and time efficiently utilised.
I live with 2 narcissists. One grandiose, the other vulnerable. I am exactly what your video describes. I have a “happy go lucky” persona & I’m always looking for a solution as opposed to dwelling on an issue. Children know me as a “fixer”!!!
So now that I’m older & have had lots of time to observe the behavior of others. Somewhere my mind notates things & I’ve become brave enough to voice my true opinion. What was once seen as “outright bitchy” is now realized as truth or facts. They’re facts that I would’ve brushed under a rug to keep the peace. Now, I just want to enjoy EVERY single day of life I have left.
I found your vlog interesting, so thank you!!!
Thease people will leave u broke and not help u
Thank you a lot for thuis teaching.
I have been in relationships with a narcissistic one for 1 year and I make a mistake to take him back after 4years and now I’m suffering for it!
But that’s the lesson and I will get out even it’s destroying me and my life!
I have seen all this behaviors that you destribe here to him.
Good work and STAY BLESSED 😉😉🙏🏿🙏🏿♥️
I am totally agree with you!!
With the power of 🙏✝️🙏 , U can protect yourself from these people,,,, and hope that they and those being affected, receive a big Healing from GOD,,,,, keep🕯️ 🙏🙏🙏✝️🙏🙏🙏🕊️
I’m watching this to give me more insight on the people I’ve dealt with in life. I’m not a perfect man, but I was raised to be respectful and caring. I’ve always noticed that every now n then I’ll run into an individual that dislikes me for no legitimate reason. About half of those instances were a direct result of certain mfs thinking they had authority over or thinking they could talk to me any kinda way and expect me to just cool wit it. Lmao I did overtime come to the conclusion of jealousy with sum of these instances, but I never considered the fact certain individuals are narcissistic. Hindsight 20/20 clears up a lil confusion on motives for certain situations, and even how my own actions/habits influence this. I take everything I hear wit a grain of salt, and anybody who knows me personally knows I have a strong sense of self💯💯
My last boyfriend educated me on what it’s like to be victimized by a narcissistic. I truly felt I was crazy and living in a non ending Twilight Zone episode.
Praise God I was able to extract myself from that living nightmare.
As horrible as that time in my life was, I am a stronger person because of it.
Evedently many of the people I knew were narcissistic. I have always been a open minded free spirit. My siblings hate me, but each one of then is as you described a narcissist.
Indeed ! When I knew he was one I walked out he begged cried I did not care he already had cheated and lied
One of the hardest things about dealing with a Narcissist, is most around us do not understand and do not see what's really going on.
It's ignorance on their part.
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These youtube channels and the testimony from viewers help SO much.
Mainly because I know I have a place-to-go if I need to be understood.
Otherwise, I just keep my mouth shut with the others around me.
It seems hopeless to try to explain the deceit and manipulation.
Most importantly, the abuse.
Thanks youtube and you.
Yes! Nobody will believe what youre going thru because they act great around others and treat u like crap in private. They talk bad about u to others and make u seem crazy.
Others don't understand the Narc, because they are not with the Narc. So no, other people can't understand what they have never experienced.
So, please, don't be upset with them.
What are YOU going to do about your abusive situation.
This should be first and foremost thoughts. Not looking at others and feeling different kinds of ways of their non-understandings.
You, understand what you are dealing with. Try to get out of it while you still have strength. Now, you have to be strong. For yourself. Goodluck to you. There maybe some big hurdles that you will need to get over. But with self-focus and planning it's possible to be successful in escaping misery. 🙋♀️😊💙 Blue Heart for healing.
@@weekendersline5141 Yes.
Thanks for the advice, Weekenders
When they can't control you, they will try to control how others see you.
U can be friends with narcissists U just have to have a strong ego, have your own money, and don't try to lean on that person. Always be independent. Never put all your eggs in one basket. Protect yourself.Dont be victim
Thank you for your facts and knowledge about narcissism. It made me realize how unknowingly I became a victim of a narcissist. In the future I will be aware of their behavior and avoid them.
The only way to deal with a narcissist is to fully understand their capabilities and the fact there is no limit as to what they are prepared to do to achieve evil. I was under that control (mother) until about 5 years ago, bearing in mind I’m 60 now. To date I have lost contact with son and daughter from first marriage plus 4 grand children, all down to lies. My first wife was controlling also. It was only when my brother won the lottery in 2015 and his controlling behaviour that followed, tempted me to take a look at why. What I found was frightening, all the pieces of my childhood, teenage years even adulthood all of a sudden made sense.
Now due to understanding, I am in full control of my life and am fully prepared for any untruths. A lie will always be a lie.
Just remember that there is no limit to what they will do to achieve their goal.
Thank you so much for this video it's so helpful to me! I wish the narcissist who is alienating me from my family, Judi Sharon Barrett, would see this and no I see her for what she is I just wish the family that she has turned away from me would see her for the snake that she is
Sounds like my ex, link
I hope you get the justice and honor you deserve. F all narcissists.
💯💯💯 Real Truth ! 💯👍
My wife's aunt was like that. When we lived with her she was a total control freak to the point to where she wanted to control our finances, and I'm not talking about helping pay for the bills, she wanted TOTAL control of our finances.
My god, she threw a total fit when we moved out, said we should have done it on her terms and her time line. Imagine an old lady freaking out if you kicked her cat, that's how she was.
Imagine if u didnt kick her cat but she accused u of that. I can honestly say, i ran tf out of her house and havent been back since.
At least u moved out her house no matter what she thinks or says that is the best thing for u to do, i think. Being traumatized by narcisstic men & women also in past. I am so determined to be, live & stay alone now that idc about being w/anyone but God. Alone so He can heal me completely. I want to feel safe again
I am so glad to be a free spirit! Now that I learned to have my power, I hope I repelled all the narcs around😄.
I have to deal with upcoming narcs and it amuses me that I am very resilient against them, and no matter what they do, they know their behaviour slaps them back in their face
Super empaths are their kryptonite.
Yes very useful that what I am dealing with the narcissist,but I stand strong on my beliefs and words.
"Narcissists have a deep aversion to the truth." They will lie about everything even as you are standing beside them. Mine got upset with me when an officer pulled us over. He blatantly went through a red light and debated with him about it. I said, You're wrong. He got a 🎟ticket. He was furious! He said I should have helped him to get out of it! I said, You mean, to lie. He looked confused. That's because he expected me to lie just like he knows others lie for him. Thank you for this video that clearly shows who they really are...and remember what they will do to hide it from everyone.
This explained my ex fiance almost if it was a script written just for her. She was also a master manipulator of reactive abuse
Your accuracy level is insane...
10:31 that's it. That is the perfect depiction of the narcissist
This is spot on with the narcissist's in my life. Thanks for making me feel good about how I deal with these bizarre people.
-This is so enlightening.
Thank you.
Susan Jesena,You look cute 🥰,Hope you are not with a narcissist….
From my personal experience, you are spot on.
Spot on -100% accurate- presented in an EZ to understand way. Hit on the covert- the sneakiest type- the hardest to spot!!! I thought my son was the Narc- I see now it’s his covert Nar wife. He’s totally sold out to. The sweetie pie!!!! Ugh!!
SPOT ON!!!. I know someone with these behaviors.
narcissist tries to stop others from talking to you, to prevent you telling the truth of them google.
Wow. I am glad I listened to your video today. You explained very good ..God bless you. ☮️💜🦅
Thanks for this. I have had encountered 2 in my life. One my ex husband. 2nd a female friend. You are so on target!
I don’t think I realized how much of a bullet I dodged in my 20’s. Holy smokes! I’m much happier being empathetic and not caring what others think than wealthy.
The “subtle” non grandiose type! Deadly!!!!
I imagine an invisible dome around me that contains a desired energy and my aspirations and goals. I concern myself with what’s going on inside that and nothing else. I ultimately decide whether someone gets to come into that. Others are helping me make that decision through their behavior. We as people have a right to protect our energy and you owe nothing to anybody as far as them being a part of your life or not. You have a right to be with people in alignment with you or not. You can still love people from a distance. One has to remind themselves there are people out there who will like you the way you are and leave well enough alone. Real love will have almost a complete absence of persuasion and/or suggestion.
Our son is engaged to a narcissist. Our family has totally been destroyed because of her, and son that cannot see it. They do everything together.. He cannot visit children, parents or brothers without her. She has lied on me ( his mother) and has denied that to him. He believes her no matter what, and left the church. The only time he alone is at work. They have text messages connected!! Who does that?! Prayers he will see the light before they marry... Thank you for the video
That's exactly what my son married! I saw the red flags before the wedding. It will only get worse if they get married. He is now estranged from his entire family and friends. I even have text messages where she said only my family cares about him. She's made up so many lies and he believes. The gas lighting is unreal. She is far beyond just a narcissist, she is also a sociopath. I have text messages with verbal assaults that I took to the police. The police said she's very careful not to cross the line and threaten me directly. But it's documented there for future. They are dangerous, she is convinced my son that it would be in his best interest to take his entire family out. Her family are convicted drug felons.
Sorry to hear that. My brother married one. She destroyed him. Isolated him from family. I never spent any time with my nieces. She had 2 babies, then stopped intimacy. Cheated on him the entire relationship. Never worked, he made great money. Finally they divorced after 25 years married. He is slowly recovering.
this is a great video and truly exposes the demonic scum that narcissists truly are
What amazed me is, they are everywhere!
They also have a tendency to seek out becoming police. It's one of the secret reasons that you should talk to lawyers but not talk to police.
anyone looking to be a cop is a massive red flag in general imho.
The enlightening part…they project their confusion & deception when they are in fact a one’s being deceived…by themselves…
My advice, repeat this:
I am my own person, this is my life and my body and I decide how to use it. I am responsible for my own life, I have my own needs, I have my own hobbies and interests. I have a right to determine who I allow into my personal life. My family life, my personal life and my private life are all different things.
This is so detailed and truly spot on
Every single word you said. I've experienced it first hand. Now I am relieved to know that I made the right choice. Thanks very much. I wish you all the success. 🙏🏻🙏🏻👍🔥
Quite simply, thanks for the information you are sharing about certain people's that are different from PEOPLE'S like me.
Everything you have said is soo true. I'm the narcissist worst enemy. I met one and didn't realise what a narcissist was, I was just being me. Called him out on he's B......t , he claimed to be intelligent, I showed him intelligence. He got so angry with me. All this was through texts, I think he called me 3× in one year. Everything text tex.. I got bored and just dropped him like a hot cake. That was 2yrs ago. I never blocked him, and did not look on his page for about 1yr, when I did, he was on my page around 20mins b4 that. Occasionally / randomly, I would look at his and he'd be on mine that very hour. I obviously have left a mark on him....