Get LEVERAGE Over the Narcissist
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GET LEVERAGE OVER THE NARCISSIST//Is there a narcissist in your life that you’re having trouble dealing with? Have you heard about leverage and want to know more about what it is, how to get it, and how to use it? Watch this video to learn about leverage in negotiation and how to use that leverage to defeat a narcissist- especially in court or in divorce or any kind of negotiations. If you are dealing with a narcissist, you're in for the fight of your life, and the only way out unscathed is to build leverage. Watch this video to find out what it is, and how to get it.
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Let’s do this !!
Hold the narcissists accountable for their horrible acts.
…good luck with that.
One I knew, was his own 1-household cult leader.
Over a couple years’ time, I learned one of his kids was dead because of him; multiple of his kids were pedophiled by him; & far more…yet he was able to talk his way out of the lawsuits, the court cases against him….& he didn’t even have that much money…just really very clever (@ bombastic) at debate, sowing doubt on evidence, etc.
I got us away from him, by pretty much using the same games he used, but, that didn’t prevent him stalking me for over 10 years….& again, I used some of his tricks, to evade him.
Learn their tricks & fears. Use similar tricks to disengage & gat away.
Be “beige” to everything a narcissist tries to trigger emotions in you…it bores them & worries them, when their target becomes emotionally opaque.
There are many good videos about getting quit of pathological narcissists on here, & other online sites.
A narcissist will never admit to their faults or ever apologize. They are sociopaths that don't think they are doing anything wrong to you. Best thing to do is to go no contact AT ALL. I have dealt with a narcissistic father all of my life. And have believed the gaslighting for most of my life until I come to my epiphany and realized, it wasn't me who was wrong and had the problem.
Rebecca I used your videos to get equal footing against a Narcissist Supervisor. You have helped me soooooo much. That Supervisor was fired last Friday. Due to Covid-19 and working remotely from home, HR was able to monitor how the Supervisor was behaving with our Team. All of the issues that she created and I had documented over a 4 year period were revealed. I and my colleagues want to thank you profusely. Your methods work. 😇👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💯👍🏼❣
Lyndora Burroughs -Robinson wow that’s wonderful!! Thank you for sharing your story too! I’ve learned sooo much from Rebecca & I personally think she’s one of the best of the best out there. It’s clear she’s very smart & would not take any crap in the courtroom. Beautiful smart yet seems very compassionate & humble.
Rebecca Zung ❤️❤️❤️🙏🏼🙏🏼
@@beverlyrembold8516 Yes,Agreed. Rebecca needs to get a Talent Agent and Develop her own Television talk show. Her Advocacy ,voice and talented Legal skills are absolutely essential in today's world. Oprah and Dr.Phil have nothing on this wonderful and Gifted Attorney. I was at my wits end. Rebecca's advice on Narcissist from the Legal aspect saved the Careers of my entire Team. We are so thankful
Lyndora Burroughs -Robinson I couldn’t have said that better!!! She’s absolutely outstanding!!!
Sounds like a long, exhausting battle but I'm so proud and relieved to know you held your ground like a true amazon warrior.
I went through a 23 yr. Marriage to a narcissist and what the Bible refers to as " In want of heart ". This refers to someone who is never satisfied . No matter how much they have , they want more. Thank you for doing this great work. Appreciate you ! 🙏
You Are So Kind to Help Us Who have been Abused by Narcissists. A Lot of Us Never knew We were Being Used in this manner until The Discard or We had to leave the Narcissist because We became so Tired, Sick & Mentally Worn Out. Truly not Understanding what We were letting Ourselves Tolerate. Thank You For You... Your a True Blessing to All You Help❣️
So
True! I am so happy to have found this channel!
Well said! Ditto!!! She is a blessing and a support system for so many of us who almost lost ourselves completely!
ABSOLUTELY TRUE!!! A DEVINE WARRIOR 4 HUMANITY!! TY- 🙏🔮💯🎯💯🔮🙏
Hi Rebecca! Can you do a video that helps people for being questioned/cross examined by a narcissist's attorney while in court? Thank you for all your videos and advice!
@@RebeccaZungEsq yes! please do this! all her attorney is going on is the narcissists lies... and I suspect the attorney herself has numerous NPD traits from my observations to this point... Her attorney has made the statement that she "can't wait to get me on the stand to tear me apart". While I'm not too worried, as I have an abundance of documentation to refute any of the slanderous lies she has been told through the smear campaign, I could still use some advice on how to handle the attacks that are pretty much inevitable at this point.
I found my leverage and used it this morning He tucked tails d Ran forgot his keys had to come back knocking went to work to have to turn around a hour later he forgot all the material for his Job - Ratteled that Demon then served him Divorce papers thru an email, it’s been over 12 hrs he never came back home - Threaten to expose his back 8 yrs of Taxes and He gave me a STD l found his pills before I had the symptoms … Thank You Rebeca with out that leverage he was not going to negotiate
Yes. I think my ex Marc has a narc for an attorney and this would be awesome!
This is one of the few things I did well. The lawyer will LIE. Just say NO to every question. They will not have proof. Any proof will be falsified, altered, spoken of but never be presented. Dont give in!!!!!!!!!! F_(k them!
Great request! I'm about to go into the same... & his lawyer also is a narcissist
She gets to the point around 10:18
thank you.
After watching your videos I'm starting to realize my ex husband is a covert narcissist. Can you do a video on how to talk to your children when they hear conflicting things from the other house hold? My ex has a grip on my son and I know he tells him things to get at me.
She has a video on parental alienation with Dr Ramani. It's excellent.
Drama, Trauma and Chaos....This is so true.🙏
I used the best leverage on my ex bf. I took a loan out for 5k, he does make the monthly payment. I want him to pay the rest off which is about 2400. He continuously spends, recently spent 3k on a grand piano but won't pay me off. So my leverage to him in a text was, if he doesn't pay me in full or continue payments(because we had a falling out recently) I will report to to IRS for tax evasion and reminded him that is prison time....Well today I received a text with a reference # to pic up a payment. So yes having a form of leverage definitely will rattle the cage!!!
Let’s do this. I love this concept of leverage
I love you Rebecca ♥️ you saved my life, I went no contact for a while now but I still did not break free mentally, my anger is eating me up, knowing that I ll never get justice is frustrating.
I have the same, very large justice button on my chest. Have to accept that there is no justice and find peace in radical acceptance of my circumstances.
It might not seem like you will get justice but they do suffer and karma does come to bite them. Just keep your head up and live your best life ❤️
How are you now?
This is exactly on point! Thank YOU for your devotion to advocating for victims of this insanity!
Hi Rebecca. I just want to say i just came across your videos over the last 2 months and my ex husband is exactly everything you’ve described as a genuine narcissist. And i finally feel that after watching your videos it gives me the tools to finally prove this. I’ve been battle child custody for 3 years with him. And he does everything you say about supply. The seam campaign, the lies, the using the courts non stops. Even violationing PFA’s that I’ve had against him. So thank you so much and now I’m preparing for a court case in March 2023. And i feel so much better than i have in a long time. So thank you for putting these videos out. I finally don’t feel alone.
One of your best. We need to hear more about specific types of leverage. Thanks.
LETS DO THIS! GOD BLESS YOU!
Omg.... I can’t believe that u just said what I needed to hear... how many times I tried to come to an agreement amicably... after 13 years, and after the humiliation, betrayal, pain, wasted time, thinking about hurting him back( such I tried but felt HORRIBLE after I tried what he does to me to him) EVERYTHING u said is what I’m going thru to the letter.... all the years I took care of him and myself and then when it was my hour of need I was shocked at how he changed and then became cruel when I started to call him out or bring back the reality that he is always trying to distort....our house is a disaster all the time it’s imposssible to keep up on, he’s ALWAYS been a savage but all the sudden, I’m the one who’s a scumbag and he can’t bare the mess of the house anymore.... and he is jerking me around
Let's do this. Gave me a lot of insight for when I have to go to court to deal with family member over will. "You are going to pay" is treat repeated often. I am getting stronger and have cut that person off for a long time now and it is great!
Wanted to let you know i take notes in all the classes you make. I am thinking of pursuing more in this field of work atleast for my spiritual work to. I feel moved to learn more in this field or atleast apply in some of things i do. Maybe thats what God is asking me to move torwards. Some of the things im doing now that might be on hold or not working. Its fun. Feels like in back in school or training in the military. Thankyou for sharing. Your a true lightworker. Thats what most empaths are anyways. Chosen workers of God. Be blessed
Let's do this...I'm here
God bless from Honolulu. Binging on you, Drs. Carter & Bryant last 36 hrs. Divorce soon. No property or children.🙏
Prayers for you. Blessing that no children. I have seen my narcissistic sister destroy her two sons lives, marriage, and children.
🙏🙏🙏🙏
KARYN SMITH-ROBERTS google Dr. Ramani. She is a highly qualified psychologist. Another truth teller.
I have a lot of work to do on myself before getting into the battlefield. One thing I learned is this. What I want is my 50 percent of time with my daughter, at least, full custody if I could, but 50 would do for now. Nothing else. But I'm going to go for winner takes all. Houses, custody, money, spousal support, child support, dog support is there was one...then, she will take on a great victory; I get only 50 percent of my daughter's time with me, and vice versa. Anything additional I take from this marriage will be a sweet little extra for me. Money comes and goes, mostly goes, unless you're a lawyer LOL... Thank you Rebecca, I'm glad I came across your channel after one year of learning, fighting depression, getting back to who I was and slowly I've bee gaining ground while she believes I'm doing what she wanted me to do.
These videos are extremely helpful when dealing with my husband's ex. She is constantly calling him a narcissist but is the MOST narcissistic person I have ever come into contact with. Thank You!
God bless from a very small town in Virginia!!! Going through a crappy divorce not that any are pleasant and watching you Dr.Ramoni (sp) & other experts like yourself and I couldn’t have gotten much better without you guys. And yep that’s exactly how my soon to be ex husband was with me & his attorney bullying me and I finally got myself an attorney & I did NOT want to take him for everything, I just wanted back what I put into our marital home & he thought he would screw me over yet again but nah I ended up getting quadruple what he & his attorney claimed was “fair”. My lawyer reminds me of you! She was amazing & she didn’t try to rob me blind, I spent MAYBE a quarter of what the ex paid just in retainer fees & like I said I got almost quadruple the amount. We were married 11yrs and his attorney said that “with such a short length of marriage” I’m not due alimony, hahahaha thankfully my amazing lawyer most definitely begged to differ as I know you would have had a FIELD DAY with him & his lawyer lol. You’re amazing!!!
Dr. Ramani. Rebecca Zung, has collaborated with her, on some videos.☺
Anne Booyse aren’t they just wonderful together?! I love them!
It really sucks this even needs done just to deal ..
Let's do this!!!
Let's do this. Thank you for your words if encouragement. It does help me have courage and focus. I feel so discombobulated after dealing with years of abuse from family freaks most of them are cut off now. Just three stinkers left.
The narc i was involved with actually sent me leverage.
What a gift!
He sent me a video!
If he contacts me ever again
Its going to cost him dearly to disturb me.
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The narc put us into subordinated positions at work, in business, in romance. Even if you 'beat' the narc with leverage you will have to confront the issue of being able to 'stand on your own two feet' in your new life. this is difficult for codependents but possible.
You need to give yourself more credit than you do. You can do it.
Hi Rebecca, you are absolutely right on all the things you are saying.
You are correct my live in mother in law is the narc. She knows I have her figured out. Anything she needs done or any critical comments come thru my wife who she controls with her anger. To bad the marriage is not good at all. I’ve been way too nice.
Hi, I’m dealing with a narcissist, he comes to see his son everyday sense we broke up and bring my 4 years old around 1-2 am in the morning, we don’t have no mediation yet but thanks for all you advices to prepare myself.
I'd say is hold on to that Leverage for as long as you can, don't reveal your hand too early, its like a poker game where you've got a royal flush and you don't even let it show on your face. Also the best time to start collecting what you think might be leverage is when you start seeing red flags, weird or aggressive emails or texts, weird or aggressive voicemails, Instagram posts or facebook posts you can screenshot, even better is if they realize it reveals their true character and delete it but now you've still got a copy, just collect and don't say a word to them. Lastly, knowing if your state is a one party or two party state which means you may have to tell them if you decide to record a phone call or you may not have to tell them if you are the one recording. Doing these things doesn't make you a person like them, but it will help you to feel more prepared and in control of yourself cause they want you to feel off balance, anxious and crazy.
How to use leverage without looking like you’re blackmailing them?
Bless you Madame Zung! You're an Angel and my Hero. Thank you kindly for sharing your wisdom and experience. Your book, Negotiate Like You Matter, is an invaluable treasure. Keep up the good work. You're changing the world, demonstrating that sometimes the Light wins over the Darkness. Big Love.
I am so amazed at your insight and advice! Please keep doing what you are doing! You are empowering me to be able to help someone else. Thank you, Thank you!
you nailed ,that`s exactly my life torture for 6 years already I am tired and my health start to get bad.
I am soooo ready to do this!!!
Done it! Would have done much better if my attorney had been halfway decent as a simple divorce attorney. But I did ok. Didn't even know he was a narc until about 6 months AFTER the divorce was final (28 years together and I never knew it, only knew that there was a big problem). Thanks Rebecca for your work for those who know they are dealing with a narc and for those lucky ones who don't know, but you can tell and them fight for them effectively!
SLAY
A good way to file 'Let's do this!', and then again...♥️🤭
Let's do this!
End game ... i just want him to leave me alone. To go away. To stop using the system to abuse me.
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Great video Rebecca! Dealing with a Narcissist is like wrestling with a Pig in the Mud - Pretty soon you realize the Pig likes it! One thing they don't like is exposure, for the world to find out the Truth about them, that can be Great Leverage
I am presently negotiating with my x and his sister( realtor) on the sale of the house. He left me with 3 small children 17 years ago, and put off selling the house for this long. I want to move on with life. They keep making me feel like I am not worth anything. He wants half even though he makes a whole lot and his wife does, too. I have had a hard time all these years and feel its unfair. He lied and said it was "irreconcilable differences" when it was really his infidelity why he divorced me. He gives all his money to his wife and new children. It's not fair at all!!!
I thought being fair, being reasonable, being the bigger person would work in court.
It absolutely did not with a narcissistic abuser.
My narc ex husband made a complete fool of me and my lawyer did nothing.
What kind of justice system is this I thought to myself.
same experience for me. The smear campaigns and lies are horrible. Rebecca Zung and also Tina Swithin have great videos for learning how to deal with this and the court system. You can go back and fight for what is right within this system. Get a better lawyer, and/or use all of these resources on TH-cam. Plus communities you can join. Good luck Natasha!
It’s getting tough walking on eggshells. I lived with this man for 50 yrs He’s getting ready to blow🌋.
Should leverage be used in mediation or is it better to keep the surprises for court? I am wondering how hard to hit in mediation.. and if it may mean that they will abandon mediation and head to court instead, knowing the leverage ahead of time.
This is so true...I have been in divorce proceedings with my husband for 2 YEARS with no end still in sight!!
I have leverage, and plenty of it, but don't know how to best use it without it being turned round and used against ME as "she tried to blackmail me". I have multiple proofs of his fraudulent business activities. My lawyer advised against me using it, on the basis that if I released any of these, a stop would be put on all his assets meaning these proceedings could go on indefinitely....
Please advise us HOW best to use this leverage in order to get a result. Love your videos, they are so helpful to me right now :)
I'm almost at the end of three year divorce process ( I hope at the end since trial ended one year ago and I am still waiting for divorce judgement!). I highly recommend that your thoroughly vet your attorney, or at least get some second opinions. An experienced lawyer will help you find the way to use the information you have legally and at the right time.
Actually new leverage you.
Let’s do this 🎉
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You give great, great, great information.
Im under your wing. Thank you for truly amazing videos.
Let’s do this; great video for our positive futures. THANK YOU!!👍💡🌹👌
Let's do this.
Love this! Very helpful🌹
Excellent! LET’S DO THIS!
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Let's Do this! Currently in the Storm now!
I am exactly in this position..shes an x and a buisness partner that has tormenting me for 3 years now..I hired a lawyer that took my money and did nothing for me..it left me with no resource because she took the buisness phone,all my contact info,changed password on my email..she set up my LLC in away that made her equal and I asked her not to.she recently took out a loan in my name using my social,and I've never even seen the paperwork on it..my lawyer hasn't even got the phone back or even the bill of sale on a piece of equipment that I own..it needs valid tags and I cant do it without a bill of sale..so much more to it..I have no idea where to turn for help at this point..she does exactly what youve said..im selfish,worthless,loser,stupid..etc..I heard these words on a daily basis..I finally moved out but the hell has really started..ive worked so hard to get to this point and have done so much for her and disregards all of it..LETS DO THIS!!! AND THANK YOU FOR GIVING ME SOME HOPE..unfortunately I had a stroke 3 years ago and I get overwhelmed easy then I shut down..she uses this to her advantage
Lets do this!
Let’s do this!!
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YOU ARE ON POINT, REBECCA! TKU.
Thank you so much for your support system.
I can tell that I've missed the boat on the divorce from them mental health problem child , but I think this video is excellent going forward for just how to negotiate in life. I will Take mental health out of the equation and use it for basic business strategy or social acumen. I'll try this I'm sure it will work
Rebecca, can't thank you enough
Rebecca - thank you for your advice. I am wondering could you expand on your definition of "Supply".
They 🥫 can get supply from a can of tuna! Smells 🐠 fishy to me 😅
Thank you!
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How do we use leverage without it looking like blackmail? Can it backfire?
Let's do this
I love your videos as I'm just learning about my Ex Narc, in the end l went to his Boss as he was video calling in working hrs & l took photo's, sending violent raping msgs & abusing & smearing me, didn't care what his Boss had to say & l had all msgs & l E-mailed her everything, this was my last resort as his job meant everything.
LETS DO THIS!
Let’s do THIS!
Great info. Do you know whom could assist me pro bono or settlement dependent for a huge civil rights case that includes several abuses? Like you said, I'm apt to leave it be, but my perps might be narcs who enjoy "winning," in which case, I'll have to fight it out. They need to lose me as a source of supply and forget about me. I believe part of my stalking is due to "love intel," a nickname when people who work for intelligence. military, or law enforcement, abuse their access to surveillance tools and brotherhood affiliations.
There are government Courts.. Free.. Attorneys
Let's do this 💪👌
Thank you Rebecca!
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Let’s do this !!!!
lets do this!
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LETS DO THIZ!!!!
I am having family issue with family estate. I believe your steps can help, me.
Let's do this! You are helping many people!
Love this!! 🌹
Am crazy about you Debra!
This is a really interesting way to think about leverage - I’m having a hard time wrapping my head around the idea that you need to offer them a bigger source of supply so you can level the playing field a bit. Am I thinking about that correctly? I’ve had a lot of leverage throughout my case, but my ex seems immune to it - he is a highly manipulative sociopath and not afraid of looking bad to anyone - he comes up with elaborate lies and (from an outsider perspective, seemingly plausible) justifications for violations of all court orders, illegal activity, everything! So, giving in to unreasonable “compromises” allows him to keep jerking me around as a form of supply, but pushing back gets us in front of the judge where he also gets supply. I don’t know which source is greater for him - They always force you into a fight of some kind!
What should be done when the thing that gives them more supply is the very thing you don’t want to give them? (i.e. He wants more time with the kids because they are such a ready source of supply, but more time is what I’m trying to prevent).
AllsWell L Thank you for your replies! That’s absolutely right.
Rebecca i'm not even going thru the abuse phase or any part of my narc's trap anymore. I just want to make sure this never happens to me agn. These videos have a positive affect on me & shud i ever run into my narc agn god 4bid that to happen i will have these tools to help... also i have had other narcs.
Iwant to be able to warn others of these types of ppl anyway.
Let’s do this
LET’S DO THIS! Please!
How does he get away with money moving etc. it is like the game where you pick a shell to see what is under it. I want to fight and win. I am tired of him stealing from me!
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Let's do this.!!!
Let’s do This!
You are fantastic. I wish you can be my lawyer. Thank you for this very helpful information.
Lets do this.
I m with you...
@Rebecca Zung. Thanks for your help in dealing with narcissists. The second line manager where I work is a narcissist. By the way, I subscribed.
Hi, I'm a landlady with a narc roomate at mywits end. She wont leave, citing covid, but her 60 day notice was in Feb, 1 month before shutdown. NOW shes asking to settle for 2000 dollars with 45 more days to live at my home but if she has to go in an ambulance then she gets to stay! Absurd. My lawyer has already billed me over 3000k.
I know information by putting the pieces together on the narc that it has given me the upper hand going to court.
Let’s Do This!!!!
Let's do this!!💜❤💗💙💛💚
let's do this
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My narc sister has gone to a lawyer specialising in wills and estates (elderly) and is trying to take property from our mother. The whole case is based on her lies and complete fabrications. It's unbelievable that a lawyer would fall for this and participate in it. On top of which, sister tried to stop mom going to a lawyer for representation, and bullied her into not signing a representation agreement when she did get to the lawyer. It's just unbelievable that a so called legal professional would engage in this- you would think they would need some proof, not just "mom said", and mom can't understand why she has to pay to defend herself against something that did not happen. This is sister's third lawyer as well- do they not check this stuff?
I have his defamation threats that he would damage my reputation. I don't know how to use it against him.
Always great applicable strategy~
I have a question. Im in Colorado. We are a "No Fault" state. Do i still need leverage?
Don’t try and “be nice”. Get an attorney to advocate for you. Paying the price now for being nice and fair.