Update - Relatives, Moving, Trichotillomania and Confidence

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  • @catrinskagerfalt6015
    @catrinskagerfalt6015 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You are so strong, you go through problems after problems and in the end you have surpassed yourself 💖 You are such a beautiful woman with or without eyebrows 💖💖
    I long for your coloring videos, will wait patiently until you are ready. Lots of love and hugs 💖🤗

  • @CassidyMayRolfeYates
    @CassidyMayRolfeYates 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are worth so much more than a thumbs up. You are priceless to be honest you really are because you share the reality of colouring and mental health and how they impact on each other too.

  • @Kinarr.
    @Kinarr. 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thank you for the video, it was enjoyable to watch.
    If you get the chance, please give S & T my love and thoughts next time you visit.
    Suggestion: Edit in snapshots/videos of what your talking about.
    Car, new home at this point in time, Brighton Station, a train, Tony, Sue, Amanda, Isle Wight, Amandas new town, Joe,
    The old you with eyebrows you referred to, your hobbies, these were examples for this video, but just an idea example for next video.
    The occasional glance at "us" thru the lens, looking at us directly but not staring, is SO natural, it makes you a great enjoyable presenter.
    That, and the fact you dont cut after every sentence, which even famous bloggers do, makes it an enjoyable conversation.

    • @ColouringInTheMidstOfMadness
      @ColouringInTheMidstOfMadness  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thanks so much for watching Mark, and for the comment and great ideas. I had actually intended to add a couple of photos to this video as you've suggested but I can't do it directly on TH-cam and as yet, I've not found a video editing software that doesn't make the file take ages longer to upload once it's been processed. This 32 min video took 9 hours to upload and would have taken even longer had it been edited in any way. Once we've moved and settled I'll look back into editing options and see if I can start adding in snippets and images etc as you've suggested because I'd definitely like to be able to. I'm really glad you enjoyed the video and that it seems as natural as it is, my videos will never be polished, I don't have the time or energy for that so raw and honest will always be what you get from me! Much love to all of you in Aus. xxx

  • @natford8271
    @natford8271 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    It’s so good to hear from you! Yes they say bereavement, divorce and moving (buying or renting) are the three most stressful times in life.

    • @ColouringInTheMidstOfMadness
      @ColouringInTheMidstOfMadness  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ah thank you Nat! I've always found moving alright so I vastly underestimated how stressful buying would be in comparison. I've moved a lot over the last 10 years so I thought this wouldn't be too bad but buying is something else! Thankfully I'm good at packing and I love unpacking and organising so that will all be fine, it's just the money and buying bit that's horrible and I'm very nervous about the decorating but I'm hoping we'll do well with that and enjoy it! :)

  • @dees3179
    @dees3179 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Oh totally relate to this. I have to go to business meetings in London periodically. I do lots of planning, (plans A-Z to cover all eventualities) and although it is awful I have confidence that I can do it. Then a few months ago I had a journey where loads of stuff happened that wasn't on my list of alternate plans and I completely freaked out. Amazed I wasn't arrested as I wandered around a train station for ages trying to figure out how to leave. Eventually I had to give up and go home cos I couldn't leave the train station! So now I've got another set of possibilities to add to my planning list. Yay. But I've been managing and have been back to London since. My therapist was actually very excited that I managed to get myself home and had a plan for going back.

    • @ColouringInTheMidstOfMadness
      @ColouringInTheMidstOfMadness  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Oh my goodness! That sounds so stressful and worrying but well done you for getting through it and still getting up and going back, that's amazing! I'm not surprised your therapist was pleased, that's huge progress, you should be really proud! Having confidence in yourself is so important and I'm glad you believe in yourself! :)

    • @dees3179
      @dees3179 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@ColouringInTheMidstOfMadness Thanks for the support. I'm not sure that it is entirely healthy because I am more forcing myself to do things that really having the ability to do them. Rather like you were saying about fooling yourself because in your safe space things are kind of ok, and you forget how bad it is when you actually have to go outside that. So I was fooling myself that I had a grip because I did all the planning (and isn't that exhausting!) and then as soon as there were no appropriate plans I lost it. At least I didn't have to be rescued I suppose. No idea who I'd even call.
      Congratulations on the car by the way. Very exciting for you and Joe. The thing about it not really being a safe place yet, can you take an item from your existing safe place with you in the car? Such as a familiar cushion or a little bag with some pencils and a small colouring book in. Maybe it will expand the safety more quickly.
      Good luck with the house buying. I've bought and sold twice, once very recently. Only managed it because the sale manager/pusher at the vendors estate agent was excellent. She even started liaising with my solicitor for me when they were refusing to do what I wanted them to do. They were creating a big fuss over a conservatory which didn't have papers (it's 25 years old, leaky, and being removed shortly) and wouldn't listen when I said I didn't want that. It was nothing to do with the mortgage, they were just being a pain. They also couldn't figure out property boundaries and the estate agent went out and took loads of photos and sent them to the solicitor. And this was my solicitor! Total sympathy. Talk to the estate agent if they are any good. I think I'd still be waiting. They are not working for you but they don't get paid until the sale goes through.

    • @ColouringInTheMidstOfMadness
      @ColouringInTheMidstOfMadness  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@dees3179 So sorry for not replying til now! I totally get what you mean about forcing yourself to do things and then having no idea what to do when it doesn't go to plan, it's terrifying and can get you in some really sticky situations. Well done for not needing to be rescued and I hope nothing like that happens to you again!
      Thank you so much for the congratulations. It all feels so surreal currently, I've dreamed of all of these things happening for such a long time but them actually happening is very strange! Great ideas for the car, I'll definitely try and do something. We went on a long trip to see my Nana on Thursday and it's not being in the car that's making me anxious, it's worrying about where I'm going and being far from home. I'm glad we've done a long journey now because I feel very comfortable with Joe driving, it's just the anxiety about being away and not at home that's causing issues and I felt really poorly in the car which wasn't helping. We had a lovely visit though and the painkillers finally kicked in partway through the visit so by the time we were coming home I felt loads better.
      Thanks for the moving tips! We've finally had a breakthrough and yesterday were given an exchange and completion date so in 2 weeks we'll own the flat! It's absolutely bizarre and so stressful but knowing there's an official end point now is quite a relief, I've just got to get there. The estate agent is currently trying to get us access to keys after exchange which the sellers solicitor has refused but he's trying to persuade the sellers directly to let us get in ahead of time and start stripping wallpaper etc. We shall see what happens, I'm not holding my breath about any of it. I still can't believe that it's going to have taken 5 months to buy when both parties were chain-free. We're nearly there though and I cannot wait and I hope you'll all like how I've decorated, I'm going very bright, colourful and vibrant, I'm so excited! :D

  • @KarenBrusina
    @KarenBrusina 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Congratulations on the new car and home. My husband and I bought a home last spring. I have severe anxiety issues, so I completely understand what you are going through. Best of luck to you both! 😊 Sounds like you have some nice decorating ideas planned!

    • @ColouringInTheMidstOfMadness
      @ColouringInTheMidstOfMadness  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Thank you so much! It's good to know that other people have done this in a similar situation to me and have got through it. It often doesn't feel like I will but I know that's not true. The decorating planning is one of the only things getting me through, I'm sure it'll all be worth it in the end!

  • @gailducrest8851
    @gailducrest8851 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Oh honey, I hear nothing but you. Don’t worry about extraneous noises; we all know no one lives in a soundproof booth. AND buying your first place is the HUGEST of HUGE stresses. I don’t have anxiety issues yet I wanted to throw up at times. Yay for you.

    • @ColouringInTheMidstOfMadness
      @ColouringInTheMidstOfMadness  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ah you're so lovely, thank you! I try very hard to be "professional" in these videos, despite having no fancy equipment or editing skills to speak of so I get quite bothered about background noise but I'm so glad it's not noticeable. It's very comforting knowing that other people find moving hugely stressful. I keep feeling like I'm a bit alien but it's good to know that almost everyone hates moving until after it's done!

    • @gailducrest5285
      @gailducrest5285 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      :Yes, Lucy; moving stresses all but perhaps the vagabond. I had forgotten what one of your other subscribers mentioned: that moving house is one of life's biggest stresses. And buying on top of that. I'd be eying my meds to make sure I have what I need.