Paranoid Personality Disorder: A Day In the Life
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Discover a day in the life of someone with paranoid personality disorder (PPD).
In this educational video, Dr. Ramani Durvasula and MedCircle host Kyle Kittleson discuss...
- A walk-through of a day in the life of someone with paranoid personality disorder
- What behaviors of paranoia look like
- Whether someone with paranoid personality disorder is likely to have an intimate relationship
- What the home / environment of someone with PPD looks like & why
- When a "normal" level of paranoia becomes a personality disorder
- Whether someone with paranoid personality disorder recognizes their behavior is above and beyond a normal level of paranoia.
You can watch full series on each personality disorder (featuring Dr. Ramani) HERE: bit.ly/3gJsBFu
The personality disorders & mental health conditions covered include:
narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)
borderline personality disorder (BPD)
avoidant personality disorder (APD)
histrionic personality disorder (HPD)
schizoid personality disorder (SPD)
schizotypal personality disorder (STPD)
antisocial personality disorder (ASPD)
dependent personality disorder (DPD)
obsessive compulsive personality disorder (OCPD)
and more.
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Watch the rest of this video series on paranoid personality disorder (featuring Dr. Ramani) instantly HERE: bit.ly/3iTPSGX
Thank You so much Kyle! I discovered her through you...Dr Ramani is brilliant!
Many Blessings
Could you make a video about hppd and visual snow explaining the differences? I think it’s a very misunderstood topic and it would help a lot of people out there. Also it would raise awareness for doctors and researchers to find a treatment.
Satanic women. Mejbe Real obused....
My son believes with all his heart that he's been targeted to be assassinated as some kind of culling for population control. Other than that he's pretty high functioning even though he hasn't been able to hold a job for very long (most recently lost his due to having his license revoked). Still he runs side jobs of a technical nature, but his thought is completely entrenched in his mind and he refuses to seek treatment except in a single residential treatment facility that's currently beyond our means. How can I manage this?
Hi, can you please put the link of the series in the video itself.
The worst part is when you finally trust someone and then they do betray you, and it makes it all the worse especially after multiple cases
Agree
If I could like this 100 times I would
My fakeass ex "bestfriend" in a nutshell.. that mofo scarred me
@@NotAnAstronaut2k people will disappoint you.
@vivimanchester2541 i guess it is what it is, i learned the hard way, in a very terrible way that it actually scarred me until now.
I have PPD and I am 25 years old.
I don’t harm anybody and mostly my PPD gives me a lot of anxieties everyday. I have it way too often. Like every 15 to 20 mins.
It’s very tiring. Nobody know this but I stalk everyone from my office because sometime I can’t stop believing that these people are not the people they said they are.
It’s not like I think everything is about me and being self centred.
It’s more like believing I am hated and everyone is out to get me. Life is extremely tiring with PPD.
Is there a way I could help my relative understand they may have PPD?
But thinking everyone is out to get you IS being self-centered. It's like you believe that people spend an inordinate amount of time thinking of you and wondering how best to hurt you. I know that's not easy to see from where you stand because your anxiety doesn't allow you to go about your daily life like most people can, but if you knew how many things everyone has to deal with in a day, you would realize that trying to mess with you on purpose is really not something people care much for. Of course, if you isolate yourself because of the anxiety and the hypersensitivity (I can't blame you for that), you are much less in touch with people and can't know that they really don't care about messing with you as much as you seem to believe.
Same here .. I’m 20 and it’s every single minute, I never get a break :(
@@Gomba13 I think the context is important. I've known people that have bad pasts and so they carry paranoia in certain places and it's understandable. And one of my relatives is a weirdo that alienates people and she has psychotic tendencies so in some cases she is self centered but sometimes it's just being sensitive and overly negative outlook on the world. Must be hard to live with. Without her medication she can't function at any level that isn't completely batshit nuts.
That’s so spot on to how it is, it sucks so much. You constantly feel like people around you are secretly speaking about you behind your back, and you want to dive deeper in to find out if it’s true and the more you don’t find out anything backing that up you just go more and more nuts and paranoid.
When you've been outcasted, bullied, abandoned, never fit in, never good enough, being told you need to change, since you were 4 years old. And it's still ongoing. You become very weary and distrustful. Your fault? No, imho society is pretty fucked up :/ if you'd ask me.
yes i dont understand how people can be so relaxed these days.
It's not about who's at fault. I had a roommate who I suspect was PPD, and I was the last friend he had but eventually the daily accusations were so unbearable I had to throw him out.
I'm so sorry about your experiences! All of that taken together is repeatedly traumatic.
I know someone who seems to have this PD and his experience is exactly what you describe. I can't be mad at him for being the way he is: his PD is a normal reaction to the abnormal and unjustified experiences he had. If you get betrayed repeatedly during years, how are you supposed not to suspect that it will happen again? Maybe those fears are irrational, but you can't blame that person for having them.
The sad part is that if someone has too much of that kind of experience, especially if they are being blamed for the way they reacted to them as though they were the problem and the bullies weren't the problem, they end up creating for themselves more of those kinds of experiences, making them worse over time. For example, they will imagine someone is going to hurt them, so they hurt that person before the other person can hurt them. And that of course then backfires and only confirms to the person with PPD that they are right to fear people hurting them. It's horrible! I can't hold it against him.
@@jackalope2302 I can understand that at some point it gets to be too much, but I am really not convinced you were in good faith. You said your roommate WAS PPD, not that he HAD PPD. The moment you se a person as being a problem rather than having a problem, you can't possible be in good faith.
@@Gomba13 To clarify, I didn't know what PPD was whilst sharing the pad with him and only suspect he has PPD. There's no official diagnosis, and I doubt he'd submit to professional examination
We're friends again, btw. Now that I think he has PPD, I am much more tolerant to his verbal outbursts, conspiracy theories and irritability. Sometimes, I am able to talk him out of his rages, show him that there's nothing in the shadows plotting his ruin.
Some of my parnoia from mild to horrid
-therye taking about me
-they hate me
-they just want be out
-the teacher is trying to fail me
-someoje is watching
-theres a killer out to get me
-theres a camera somewhere watching me
Don't let these control you
Last one's true. Edward Snowden pointed it out.
I feel like this except some of them!! But my mindset on them is more of "What if _____?"
I hide my phone, gadgets somewhere that no one can notice cause of the fear of what if someone will steal it.
The cameras on the electronics also need to have a blockage on them- Like a piece of paper with tape or something.
Someone I'm close to is sabotaging my relationships........yep...its me...
This is all BS. There’s actual real people that have this disorder and y’all sittin here like y’all have it too or some shit. Man y’all ain’t got The PPD !
Those aren’t bad things, because the government, society, and bad actors are often predatory toward those without regard for the other person.
My mom has it. We are still trying to help her but it’s going worse. She often get away from the house saying that people doesn’t want her there, and once my brother and I went to check where she would be out alone, seeing her shouting and sobbing in public, I couldn’t help it I cried because I was tired especially my dad who is trying his best. She doesn’t want to get medication putting the blame on us for making her crazy, She doubts everyone, and in this period she doubts us saying we are her enemies… till she got no friends, nearly no family but us. No one wants to visit nor talk to us. The house is a complete negative energy. We don’t know what to do anymore. I can’t tell anyone about her, so they don’t feel sorry for us. I miss my old beautiful mom, we all do.
😔
This is where we are at with my Mom. I'm trying to make her go to her Dr to get on SOME TYPE of mood stabilizer. No one wants to be around her.
Sounds like beginning of Alzheimer’s 😢 I’m sorry this sounds very sad.
Dude i feel So bad for you. my family is facing the same with my sister but she is on medication and it seems to temporarily help but she acts the same once i a while .hope everything goes well for you brother
I'm going through something similar, can I get in touch with you to know how to handle the situation better
I have a paranoid personality but I generally care about people. Having a paranoid personality doesn't change how you feel about people. Yes I have mistrust but I always want to get better. I have always been medicine compliant. Yes I have mistrust but I generally care about people and I did have delusions before.
Take care :)
I have had this for 20 years I have been in a abusive relationship all of my life I wasn't like this before. I have a really hard time working with others especially at work I always feel that people don't like me and are talking behind my back. I took time off work for mental stress leave and I am afraid to go back because I don't think people would understand and talk about me
Be careful out there there's a lot of evil out there
Same, i (ironically) felt attacked the way she was describing it with such hostile intent until I paused and realized everyone is different and it’s likely there are a lot of hostile cases. But like with everything there is variety. I too enjoy people but I do have a distrust of them, that they’ll hurt me in some way
Same here
My mother was diagnosed with this when I, as next of kin, had her held for 72 hour observation in the Fall of 2002. She has a second diagnosis of borderline personality disorder. My sister and I have found it absolutely impossible to have a relationship with her, and we've both tried. I talked to her for a few minutes a couple of days ago, and she started sobbing about when my father left her with no food in the house and no working car...FIFTY YEARS AGO! 😑
My mom has to have this
Man, I feel you.
I get it, my wife is impossible. No amount of love, kindness, material wealth/support, or truth can get through to her. It is a horrific illness with little support available, because they refuse it. The psychiatrist explained to me it is a cluster of mental illnesses and said that schizophrenia is far better, because they will admit the problem, get help, and take medication, while often going off meds thinking they are ok, but realize they aren’t and seek the psychiatrist for their medications.
@@lovefaith1856 I’m so sorry for you to hear that.
my mom does that too but she won’t cry. if i tell her it’s too much she’ll stop and she’ll try not to say too much to begin with. i do find constant sob stories very annoying though
I have a few paranoid traits because I have been hurt by people in the past. I think if you are empathetic person and been hurt by people. Its easy to be distrustful of people. I use to walk around thinking everyone one was bad or rude. It's not true alot of people are inconsiderate because they are too full of their own lifes. Or have less time for people. That's why don't expect much from people. Keep it polite and do the right thing. When I was paranoid I had self absorbed tendencies . And would blame other people for how I was feeling. Which attracted drama and people enjoyed putting me in my place . I learned dont take people seriously if they are being rude. They are showing their true self. If people show disrespect they lack respect. It's their problem. I just have a rule to keep communication and my behaviour respectful and dont expect much from people. Because you will never be disappointed.
I am very empathetic. I'm not paranoid people are out to get me or the law is coming for me. My main thing is thinking every girlfriend I have has cheated on me or lying to me or fucking me over. Right now I am super duper into this girl we haven't been together long but have know each other for 20 years and I've always liked her. But I don't know if she's lying or cheating or shady or looks at me like a mark. She went after me heavy and once I was like ok ya got me.... I dunno either she's a sociopath and i am guillible or I'm paranoid and sick and crazy and might as well try to OD e en though I Can't apparently...
True but if someones rude maybe you just caught them at a bad time in there lifes?? And others are probably just rude... Yes
Turns out just because you're paranoid,don't mean they're not after you. So she was fucking me over and just mean
@@aldorfc220 every time?
Im 14 years old and my paranoia started when someone attempted to break into our house one night they faked saying they were the police and that we should open up i was going to open up but thank god my parents stopped me and we hid in the house bathroom where no one can see us cause they tried shinning light to see if they saw a shadow in the house and ever since that happened i think someone is trying to kill me and my family and every little thing scares me and i think my head is just playing mind tricks but im still not over it even me writing this now im still terrefied and scared and i want to ask someone or an adult on here that went through the same thing that can help me please 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
im actually diagnosed a lot of this depends on the day and most people have no idea how paranoid and how bad the ideation is at any given time. it can be anywhere from mild feelings to full on the worlds against me.
My psychiatrist was telling me that I had some symptoms of this disorder. I'm fairly reflective.. so I can see why I don't fit into the diagnosis completely. Months later I can look back at what I was fearing and say.. "I see where I was missing the intuitive "essence" of what was happening. What I have found is that it helps to "check in" with people and talk. To tell my self centered fears, if I feel I can confide in the person, and then to meditate on what they have told me. If I don't do this "check in" if I keep getting triggered by the person I tend to attach delusional motives to the person. I find that talking about this with someone I can confide in stops the snowflake to snowball, to avalanche.. internal catastrophe from happening. I usually direct it inwards, when I have been psychotic I would direct this outwardly, and that wasn't at all safe. Now.. my method is, 1) pinpoint the trigger "why am I feeling this way" 2) what happened in the present that is resonating my feelings so 3) does it have any resonance with the past and things that have happened with me? 4) before going farther talk to someone I trust about it.. someone whose reasoning I trust, and or talk to the person, not in an accusatory manner, but in a neutral information gathering manner. Oddly enough I was better at this when I was younger. There was a dean in my school who constantly had a negative look on his face. I thought it might have to do with me, but before I made that assumption I decided how invested I would be in the response. I decided that in my process his "negative look" kept coming up for me as a quandary. I asked him about it, and he told me that his son had cancer in his bone marrow. That took a weight off my shoulders in thinking I was the reason for his "negative look" I also felt sad for his grief and was glad that he shared it with me. This helped me to tell him some of my own grief when it arose, and we developed a trust in one another. Now a days I find my intuition can sometimes be far from the truth if I am triggered by someone, and my negative self talk is more like a Jerry Springer show than an actual real life scenario. I was really shocked to find this about myself where once my intuition was more on point. So checking in with someone I trust about it, or the person themselves is what I do, before I keep adding the energy of my psyche to it and it feels like an avalanche of emotion is going to take place that isn't grounded in reality. Sometimes just noticing my trigger and letting go of it through meditation, and noticing that the anvil didn't come down over that issue.. the simple passage of time.. is enough. I also have Tom the cameraman to thank for is insight on this issue. I think that this poor intuitive judgment happened because I would listen to my mother for hours of her saying negative things, and me zoning out.. to then be prompted or scolded to be a better listener.. this suffering affected my internal process and destroyed what had once been a quite good one. Realizing this connection with my mother reminds me of her "Jerry Springer" behavior that would sometimes get physical, and also her lack of depth of insight that I endured. I do not have contact with this person who gave birth to me that has toxic behavior. This really helps. I no longer have to try to be seen as other than the warped perception she has of me, or of how dialogue should be.
Thank you for sharing all this, John! It was very insightful and relatable and I'm glad to hear how much progress you've made.
Thank you for sharing this. You are very courageous.
@@mariesoto569 anyone who is alive is courageous.. thank you for sharing that with me.. it lifts my spirit when I felt very heavy .. thank you for that and best to you
Thank you for sharing this, I'm going to make a presentation about this in school and you really helped give an insight on how it feels to live with PPD. Thanks a lot!
@@johnoprendek2620 "anyone who is alive is courageous" that is true. Thank you for reminding me that today
Give this woman a noble peace prize
@none of the nones i better not argue with you, you obviously got your degree in your mother's basement.
This is just a taste of what it’s like to be a person like that, it’s true torture and terrifying to exist.
Lololl, and yet another example of the ego at work! Sorry that fella rained on ur parade, I agree that her peace prize ought to be noble tho (srry buddy, I couldn’t toss the second part to this without a zinger, so bear with me lololol)
And the other feller on this, if it mattered whether or not she was reading off a damn HUD in her eyeballs, we certainly wouldn’t see these traits so clearly as much as we do. Tbh, if you’ve experienced these types of toxic individuals, it should not matter in the slightest as to what is best for someone else, it just feels freeing to be heard at all, whether or not they’re just memorizing words or speaking to the heart.
Comparing between sources is only useful to yourself, don’t try to throw a wrench in other folks’ approach to figuring this out, there’s so much cognitive dissonance that it takes everything in a person’s being to even click on a video like this.
If you’re here for that reason as well @none of the nones, we’ve literally only got each other here bud, pls don’t toss it in other survivors’ faces, and pls just be proud that they’re engaging with SOME form of support, cuz it requires someone move a mountain of denial to get to that point, ya kno?
Over time they’ll filter themselves to the “right” thing for them, and that’s ok, no matter where that lands (okaayyy, with some exceptions, but for this let’s just say nah, they can’t be wrong lol)!
Going off the assumption that you’re here to learn about some nasty folks in your life, I really hope it goes well with the ending bits of Covid on the horizon. Thinking back to the transition point itself at the start of Covid, that was some tough shit, so I’m wishing you well on your way out of the woodwork buddies, @none of the nones and @daithi molloy ❤️
stay safe, and much love toward your goals in finding your way thru the turbulence 🥺 ❤️
and you deserve an ignorance chaotic prize for supporting someone so gossip-y. she is so unproductive and pseudo-sophisticated. she operates under a subtle guise of superiority. she has little empathy and loves to watch herself. she's damn ironic in her career. psychiatrists can be narcs, and "empaths," and at least in this video it was obvious that she enjoyed shitting on the persons behaviors because of PPD. If she truly believed it was a disorder then she wouldn't of been so callous. I feel like i'm watching two popular kids talk about someone in their class who; they both hate but wont expose their name. It makes me want to throw up to be straightforward with you.
ABSOLUTELY
This video helps so much I’ve been dealing with this for years and it makes me isolate myself more. I have so many broken relationships because of it. I’ve been in therapy about it, tried to ignore the paranoia but back in therapy and more meds. I never got this paranoid this bad until my mid twenties
How did you overcome? My mom going through same thing so it will be much help if u can give me some suggestions
@@purpleworld9759 Lower environmental stress will help. Try taking some of the responsibilities off her plate for her but also don't do anything to imply that she is somehow not capable of doing those things without your help.
@@fumyeah5867 thankyou 💗.
I’ve been in a relationship for 10 years with somebody who has PPD. He reads threats into totally innocent statements, is extremely mistrusting. Always thinks people are out to get him even me. It’s very tiring.
it gets fun when they start to accuse you of stuff and even justify cheating because they didnt trust you to be loyal.. just waiting for her to leave, im tired as well... every fight was worse than the one before.. she even hit me.. its hard to stay calm and i feel as there is not much i can do... just sit it out
My dad also have PPD for the last ten years but it only gets worse now. Yes, it's very tiring for all of us. Another issue is that there's a huge generation gap between me and my older siblings. My older siblings treat PPD as something that is made up and not serious. They have this like 'theres no one plotting againts him', 'just get over it' and 'he bring this upon himself, he's creating nonexistent problem'.
How do you deal with your partner, do you just listen to all his rant or do you try to make him realise he has PPD ? I heard somewhere that acceptance is the first step to healing for disorders 🤔
@@uathrhsalim i tried to tell my ex girlfriend and gave her examples for when she was being paranoid. i think she had a little insight but not as much as somebody around her.. but i think it made her think.. sorry i cant help more, i dont see her again..
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My mom had this, and it evidently was always there, but it started to really take off when I was a young kid. I remember sleeping in the hall listening to her yelling like a madwoman at my dad telling him she would take us away. They separated when I was a teen, and she would make me feel guilty about not going to live with her. When I knew I needed to go do my duty to see her, I was taught to respect parents and adults, so I just had to sit there for hours and watch her sob about some conspiracy or hear about sitting in the yard so the sniper could go ahead and make his move. It was truly horrible, and I still don't know why there would be a god that would allow that innocent suffering. I've battled depression my whole life, and now we are just thinking maybe I am more like a PTSD person or bi-polar. She got worse and worse to where a relationship it was impossible because you would get sucked into being a character in a paranoid narrative. I find PPD people need someone to project onto and listen to them talk and talk (not with outsiders) So after college, she moved within a couple hours drive, I got her 3X weekly help to clean and stuff (boy, that took a saint of a young woman to do that) and got her a car and would check on her every few months. Last time I got a call from there, she would be alive for two additional weeks. She was in the hospital riddled with lung cancer. I stayed there as long as I could and had to move her closer to me, so transported her to a care facility near where I lived. Around 9pm, had her in a bed... they had doped her up pretty good for the ride, so she wasn't conscious. Kissed her forehead and got a call at 3am that she died. PPD is a tragic condition that affects everyone around the person. When I was younger, she purposely taught kindergarten in the poorest school and was so giving. But the other side kept taking over more and more until she ended up alone with this disorder for 10-20 of the last years of her life.
She’s talking about people who are suffering. Why is she smiling when describing the worst of their symptoms?
Because she probably has NPD herself. Atleast that’s what I think
She is talking about mental illness as a health professional as if it was their fault and doesn’t seem to understand the first thing about the word disorder. I can’t imagine what could be more counterproductive in the field of healing than actually making fun of those who are sick and then wondering why they will never seek help. Absolutely no empathy nor any sign of insight what she does to others with this type of behavior. Totally NPD imo.
I don't trust many people cause of being forked over by my narc father & neighbors. I know I am not paranoid but I know my narc abusers are very paranoid.
Life as a parent of a teen with PPD is as exhausting as having it. Probably more cuz they lean on you and distrust you at the same time
Someone I love very much suffers from this paranoia. This is very helpful.
My paranoid common though's:
A. The world is out to get me
B. My friends haven't replied to my texts that means they're out to get me
C. My friend is homophobic, racist.. blah blah blah
D. My family members or close relatives may molest me.
E. The people outside my window are staring at me(know I'm there)
F. I may have mental illness 1 2 3 or 4
G. I may have to defend myself from a hate crime today in public(like just a normal esq fear)
H. That person on the street wants to rape, kill, assault etc me
I am not diagnosed with anything other than depression, how the did I develop this?
I think the topic "religious Trauma" could be awesome
An attempt for light humour often gets grossly devaluated as the worst of sneer remarks.
i swearrrrrrr
He kept paranoidly verbally attacking me, accusing me of things that weren't true. I tried to defend myself but he never let me, he just kept attacking me. Until I said he had the attention span of a hamster, to try to get him to see that he was jumping from one accusation to the next without letting me even react. Yeah, I think that was the moment he started hating me, and he still does, two years later.
The more of these severe cases I hear, the more I think I don't have PPD. I mean, I know better than that, but dear god, is everyone else's brain a f777ing sledge hammer? Mine's more like a finely tuned car. Tons of nuances.
This is another reason I don't have too many friends. I can't stand brick heads, and that's at least half the population.
I think I deff have this disorder but the thing is me as a person I’ve been through really horrible betrayals in my life, I think you develop this disorder because of extremely negative life experiences over and over to the point you’re just over it. Sort of like if you burned your hand touching the stove 25 times what would make you think your hand won’t get burned touching it a 26th time, which is why people with this disorder don’t buy into things. If you spent your whole life living on a farm with a loving family and pets odds are you won’t have any disorders, but put that same person in NYC in the hood where people are backstabbing 24/7 and you’re around sociopaths and psychopaths all day long you develop into a very different person. It just is what it is unfortunately, the best you can do is hit the pause button when your mind starts over shooting shit and look at it again and make sure you’re not having a delusional episode and get solid facts before jumping the gun.
thank you for speaking my mind finally imma get some rest
Facts growing up in poverty and strife destroys your body and Changes you forever. It changes you on a molecular level. You have to rebuild yourself from scratch it's insane.
I think my f-ing brother has it. It was totally unbearable. he's like 34+ yr old, doesn't work, did not graduate, needs to be fed and taken care of and just plays video game all day. And every day, he blames his life on his parents for bringing him to this world that he doesn't want to live, blame the school bullying where he held grudges of every words said by his ex classmates and blame his sister, me, because of my controlling personality when he refused to say anything abt it for so long so many yrs when we asked him what happened. He would actually remember grudges over trivial things bc i forced him to eat leftover food, bc i took control of the TV as a kid, bc i did not buy water for him on time when he was super thirsty, bc i forced him to eat brocoli. Basically, he blamed the entire world about how he ended up like this and he would hold grudges to a point that he rather now hides in his gaming world and continues to blame us for what is happening to him. He would roar at us whenever he feels like it and always accuses us of treating him badly despite we funded him, cooked for him, fed him and still needed to take his BS. If this was a husband, i would have already divorced him many years ago. But he was a blood related f-ing brother that our family did not walk away despite we're super sick of it. And because of him, i felt like i'm good being alone as a single woman instead of bringing up bad tempered children whom i would be stuck with for the rest of my life just like being stuck with him and taking this bad treatment from him.
Everything this woman said is absolutely true as I live that life.After awile you are looking for yourself but you never find you again.You dont exist anymore. Dust
Can we ever be free from this? If yes, how?
Seriously it consumes u the real you the u you held so proudly gets ripped into disgusting hatred
There is loads of videos on TH-cam about dbt or cbt or paranoid behaviour .
I know how it feels to get so paranoid, but I don't have the disorder. I have others, but I know when I'm falling into it. Is hard to go through life with such fear. When I'm in my paranoid thoughts, I get so drained.
Im having a really hard time trusting people as I approach my 30s, I always feel like my coworkers and my friends are plotting on me, I know it's nonsense but sometimes you aren't paranoid and people really are trying to fuck with you makes it really hard to tell the difference
Yes for me paranoia always works in my benefit , but I think it only works for mentally healthy people
Boyfriend has it. Somehow he ended up trusting me but oh how much talking and trying to convince him he needs to get him back into reality when his paranoid thoughts are getting stronger... And the low insight thing is so true. Won't be honest to therapists because they could use the information to harm him 🤦🏻♀️ don't try to date a paranoid person it is a lost battle if they don't work hard on their disorder
He will eventually turn on you. I have a family member with this. We were best friends for decades and he trusted me almost exclusively. Then one day, he stopped talking to me. When I called him, he said he had to go. He wrote me out of his life six years ago and hates me now. I have no idea why. These people can break your heart. Please find someone who is mentally healthy to love. You will always suffer with a person like this and it won't turn out well. Plus, you do not want to have children with them! Please please don't.
I agree. You cannot save them, and they don't get better, but they can live a relatively better life if they don't have a focus for their paranoia to project on
Why should we work on our ppd if most People are untrustworthy?
My boyfriend has this I believe…it’s extremely tiresome and I’m feeling hopeless… he always tries to catch me lies, and he breaks up with me based on weird assumptions, but then ends up coming back to me. I’m so depressed bc I love him and want to help him
@@jagosevatarion8822 yourself included? No one is perfect…
It certainly is unpleasant. The worst thing is meeting some that is nice and the height of suspicion is scary. I know I have this but never been diagnosed. I was seeing a psychologist. I was depressed and he suggested this. I stopped going because I was convinced that he would go to social services and have my kids taken off me. It's absolutely horrible.
I have a family member with this. I have to say that the way this video portrays PPD seems as if they're making fun of this disorder. A huge lack of compassion was demonstrated from these two.
I have the same disorder & yeah you’re right she doesn’t seem to be empathetic or have compassion towards it
of course!!!!!!
it is hard to have empathy for them they hurt people badly
I really enjoy it when people from the MedCircle team join in with their insight and questions. Every time this happens it sticks out to me as food for thought, like the Bridget (sp?) about "Pattern", and Hektor's (not sure on spelling) question here. Those behind the scenes moments are incredible. Thank you for sharing your insight MedCircle team! Hoorah!
So appreciate all of Dr Ramani's videos... I would really appreciate seeing a video that talks about CONVERSATIONAL NARCISSISM and how to deal with people who monopolize conversations and rarely show interest in you, or give you an opportunity to talk. PLEASE
Great suggestion! We will add this to our list of topics to cover.
@@MedCircle Thank you so much! I struggle with this issue when I am around certain types of people. I do not know how to handle it and use appropriate words to kindly have it stop.
Is that topic covered yet?
@@rasinshuriken Nope, not that I am aware.
@@jaclynh9343 It's the scourge of the modern age. You're not alone. I know people who are masters at keeping the conversation on themselves. And, when you want to talk about something that happened to you for once, the very next line out of their mouths is how they, their family, or a friend of theirs had the exact same experience. It's tiresome and the conversation feels so one way.
A day with avoidant personality disorder would be great.
Great suggestion! We'll add this to our list of topics to cover.
@@MedCircle Omg, thanks!!
I feel one of the other side of paranoia personality disorder is they become very nosy about other people's privacy. I think we also need to put focus on the people who are the victims of these people. How do we keep our sanity and not becoming them.
Dr. R looks so pretty.
No wonder some people behave this way given the society we live in. It's not a very compassionate one.
I've just realised this week at age 30 that this is me. I'm not just a bit paranoid, I'm EXTREMELY paranoid. I'm only realising now the FULL extent of my paranoia... I haven't been formerly diagnosed but damn.
Examples: Thinking people are watching me all the time indoors and outside, listening to my conversations with others, following me, stalking me, I constantly checking my online presence to see if anyone can find me, thinking there's a voice recorder and/or a secret camera in my house, hypervigilance outdoors and hostility towards certain strangers. Thinking people are talking sh*t about me, thinking my boss is trying to get rid of me, Thinking people are taking photos of me. Hating people being too interested in me. I keep my curtains closed if I see or hear people outside, lights off, windows closed so no one can hear me, hate being outside, thinking people will turn up at my door uninvited, thinking my ex will try to find me and hurt me. The list goes on....
damn boy weed did this to me so I had to quit hope you can chill a bit just remember that no one give a fuck about you man there is no chance in hell that some one will go out of their way to hurt you if you are a nobody.
It is just the same chances as winning the lotto.
and if that doesn't work just know that google apple Facebook and your government have anyway tons of data on you so what the hell.
If you are paranoid someones foloowing you and you spk out paranoia can get worse and lead to delutions
I had to leave the woman I’d been with for 24 years when she accused me of; hacking her cell phone, computer, our wifi, her email and the landline. She ended up getting her own wifi and indoctrinated our daughter to help set it up and she has her believing I’ve done these horrible things. I’m completely devastated and heartbroken. I can’t believe my daughter, who’s almost 18 but is slightly on the autism spectrum, could be so completely manipulated. My daughter even sent me a text saying ‘I saw you staring at me. We already knew you were in that house. Stay away from me. You’re sick.’ I’ve only responded to these type of messages with kindness. I miss my daughter so much I’m crushed. I haven’t seen her in 6 months. I prided myself on being an impeccable father. I’m still in shock and I cry a lot. I miss the woman I knew 24 years ago too. I realize looking back that this had been growing. 😢
Hello, please please be strong. I know loneliness is terrible. Don't let the bad things get you. You are a good man. Things will get better.
@@amritapuri2964 Thank you.
@@baccaratfitness2360 i hope you heal and find happpyness i was friends with someone who have this ilness and she accused me of terrible thing that is why i am watching this video
I wonder if cPTSD can look like paranoid personality disorder
I think it does, cptsd can look like ither disorders too
I know it looks like borderline personality disorder and I have been diagnosed with it
cPTSD can be comorbid with most personality disorders, and there are those who think cPTSD is a likely cause of many or most personality disorders
Now THAT is the question. PTSD can have you acting out some of these behaviors. Yet, I think Dr. Ramani is proclaiming that the paranoia (PPD) behavior is extreme and constant.
No. Only if the person with cptsd also has a paranoid disorder
Something about the way this is portrayed feels very bleak and hostile, idk.
I can only describe it as meeting a person and extending your hand and before you know it, you are being hit with the flame from their personal blow torch and there is no way to get close enough to them to finish the greeting! Toxic does not begin to describe how these people operate in real life! Some call them "demon possessed"!
I wonder if they all are scorching or only waiting for the chance to smite all in their wake with hellfire...
@@sherrydee7880 I've unfortunately been with several toxic partners over my lifetime, now over 50. I'd say my ex PPD was worse then the narcissists and worse than the sociopath to be with and committed to. At least the narcissistic and sociopathic exes faked good days to set me up for the falls. The PPD ex was literally a string of constant misperception and retaliatory punishment he believed I deserved once i became the target of his never ending paranoia.
like any disorder there are both good days and bad days.. if you keep up with being mindful it really helps
You are just having a typical PPD reaction to this video, thinking the people educating the masses about your PD are out to hurt you.
I ♥️ Dr Ramani. She is probably one of my favourite professionals who appear on this channel.
shhh she sucks
Easily the best and #1. My opinion of her hasn’t changed for over 11 years.
I'm not paranoid ... but I know you all think I am.
That’s not funny I have paranoia and that’s not what it’s like
@@jp-ev3zz yes it is. People think that about me
@@jp-ev3zz Everyone is different, and so every person with PPD is also different.
What the OP says rings true for many people with PPD, especially the second part, the assumption that you know what's on other people's minds when you really don't.
@@jp-ev3zz
Yeah, no, it was funny.
Gomba13 - Damn! You just described my former husband! His lack of trust in me destroyed our shitty marriage and he absolutely believes he can read the thoughts of others - and it's always NEGATIVE.
It was so emotionally exhausting to be around him.
This is my husband… so hard to live with. They live on high alert and in fight mode
You might stay away from him he probably could do something to you
I don't need an education on what it is. I deal with this shit on a daily basis. What I need to know is HOW IN THE HELL to go about actually HELPING THEM!
@قناة منال Thanks, at least someone is using their brain.
@قناة منال So what do you suggest I do then? I mean it's not like he's going to accept help because he doesn't feel he needs any help. What do you literally do with this condition? Wish upon a star?
A woman I know is suffering from PPD. She is constantly suing people, doctors, lawyers and authorities for misconduct, defarmation, bullying and so on.
She has been out of work for decades, never been able to complete a job or an education, because she is not able to concentrate on a job. (she is always occupied with complaints about her colleagues)
She already lost her appartments twice and is about to lose the current one in January, because she continously blames her neighbours of harrassing her. (which is complete bullsh..)
Her defense tactics go from writing multiple emails daily to complain, calling social services on the family with kids next door, because she feels threatened by pre school kids), to simply calling police to punish people, who are being arrogant.
The list goes on and on. She projects her negative traits onto others and endlessly seeks for evidence of foul play among her neighbours. It is impossible to help her. I have tried countless times.
She has already damaged multiple people's reputations. Her appartment is dark, the windows are covered and she constantly runs a noisy fan, to make sure the neighbours cannot spy on her. (nobody has ever tried though)
On the other hand, she is suffering from full blown anxiety and seems to have psychotic episodes. She states, she is not sick. Others are to blame for her situation. To "punish" them is her form of justice. She can hold a grudge for life.
A part of me feels very very sorry for her, another part is angry, when she is about to defame an innocent person.
Thank you for these videos and the excellent explaination!
She literally sounds like she's hating on people who have this disorder
She practically gives a negitive, stereotypical or hateful explanation towards any pd expect BPD.
My dad has Paranoid personality disorder I’m pretty sure because I’ve seen the symptoms and he meets and relates to all of them but he doesn’t know he has it, he’s moved my family across the country in belief that my mom was cheating with him and now we’re finally moving back to where we left 4 years ago
Hi sorry to hear that mate I really feel it for u
Can I ask u something please people with PPD, do they misinterprete their own partners face expression?
I've recently taken a break from my boyfriend because things have gotten totally out of control. I don't know if he has this or schizophrenia. I'm trying to learn more about all of this. He would be ok at times and then out of nowhere he would think I was working with the police and conspiring against him. He thinks everyone conspires against him with no valid reasoning. He would accuse me of cheating, again, with no valid reasoning and it was so exhausting constantly defending myself when I've done none of these things. Then every time he doesn't feel well he thinks I poisoned his food or if he eats out he thinks they are poisoning his food. Then it gets really bad if he has alcohol. Alcohol completely triggers an episode and he will go on these rants that are always about the same topics but only when he drinks. He will talk about Zionism, communism, Rothschild's, police, CIA and FBI. Then when he snaps out of it he doesn't remember or will look back at his posts on Facebook about all of these things and just delete them and pretend like it never happened. He is a really great guy at times, but I was constantly living in fear and walking on eggshells for when he would snap again and I started not to feel safe so I took a break. He refused to get any type of help he thinks the doctors all lie and refuses to believe that anything is wrong. I'm heartbroken but I have to also put boundaries and my own well-being first. Just trying to figure out what it could be but he has a lot of the traits of PPD and also some of schizophrenia.
That sounds so much like PDD.
I was in your same exact situation and decided this week to take a break as well...my partner is like yours was/is.
I hope you are doing better after 1 year posting this comment 🌻.
Reading that is like a mirror image of what I'm going through. Please update us and say you left him for good, because staying with someone who has PPD will only cause you misery, stress,fear, an isolated life and being controlled. Your words about how they are and the accusations they hurl at you is frightening and heartbreaking. It's so viscious you think, what can they think to accuse you of anything which you have never done. I'm trying to secretly find somewhere else to move to, because the mood swings and the stress is affecting my mental and physical health. They seem to have poor memory with PPD and you tell them no, you didn't say that right after they were wrong, but no, you are the liar and want to make "them look dumb". The flip side is they can be kind, loving and caring for a few dsys or even a week or so, but then the PPD is triggered even by a normal look which they say is a smirk etc. It's bloody exhausting and your life is living on egg shells. I hope you left him tor good, because the worst choice is to stay. I left once and came back. Big mistake. He's worse and calls me names, verbally abusive and his health is getting bad becquse he won't see a dr or take any meds. I am done and hopefully leaving asap.
She's right about everything. My ex boyfriend has this and I try to stay friends with him but it so hard on me. It impacts my mental well being. I feel like I'm giving up on him but I have to distance myself from him. The closer you are to them, the more they distrust you. The things they say to you are so hurtful because you think you are so close to them and then the accusations start...I just try to remember that to them they are real, these things they think ,no matter how ludacris , they truly believe them. There's really no way of having a relationship with them, romantic or otherwise, unless you like the abuse. You have to take breaks and stay away because they start to pull you into their crazy world and it messes with your head. I believe they know that they have a problem, not all the time but they can hide it more with people they aren't so close to because they know it causes problems. So they still distrust these people but can keep their thoughts quite for awhile anyways.Anyways good luck to anyone who is dealing with this. I'd love to talk to others who are going through the same thing because I hate to just give up on him but I also have to look out for myself.
Is anybody else really paranoid about heart attacks and sudden cardiac arrest even though your perfectly healthy
Could you make a video about hppd and visual snow explaining the differences? I think it’s a very misunderstood topic and it would help a lot of people out there. Also it would raise awareness for doctors and researchers to find a treatment.
We have a full series on HPD here! watch.medcircle.com/histrionic-personality-disorder
Is it possible that maybe a person was repeatedly victimised, and thus ends up with this disorder later? Or, is this mainly organic? I'll have to read the research, if much exists. Thanks for the video!
I think many people who develop this disorder have been victimized many times and it's kind of a defense mechanism, combined with drugs and alcohol abuse it becomes a mental illness, most of these people have been victimized.
My neighbour is paranoid, I feel really sorry for her, but she is super mean :/
She probably smokes a lot of weed that's what she's paranoid😂😂😂😂😂😂
I have Paranoid pd and Scizoid Pd. Honestly it's so terrible... I've been misdiagnosed with schizophrenia because of my paranoia. I really wanna manage it.
Yeah bro I been misdiagnosed with schizophrenia but I got actually diagnosed with paranoid personality disorder.
I was told once years ago I had PPD and I feel a comfort if you will sitting in a tree stand, hunting during deer season. I manage on my own, mainly because after i was told, i had no assistance... I still feel the PPD daily, so it's a norm in a way that I do things out of habit without realizing it's for safety or whatever ..
my ex filed so many false police reports - one a month for over a year straight with no contact from me at all- against me for stalking him- that i was arrested, jailed, spent a year in court, and finally on the stand my lawyer showed he was delusional. what a traumatic and expensive ride. i may never date again.
charlottehammond8975 - I am so sorry. I understand and empathize with you. You have described my former husband.
@@DonnaMayStanishhugs. so much darkness.
The moment she started talking she was spot on
I honestly understand these people. I heard of girls in high school being set up by their jealous friend to get raped through friends and apparently one girl got poisoned at 15 because she was the best student in her class. These incidents happen in different countries and need to be taken seriously.
We live in an age of extreme envy where taking appropriate measures is needed and people underestimate the situation. 1% psychopaths, 5 % sociopaths and a rising number of narcissists (malignant, covert etc.) all over the world? 100k children go missing every year. The world is one whole trauma.
damn where the hell do you live
@@riba69 Europe
@@aliacampbell7227 which country in europe has people that messed up
@Penderyn Yes but we didn’t have Social media. That’s something else.
@@riba69I think he lives in the forest 😂😂😂😂 I think he's too scared to go outside
Watched this while being aware I’m not paranoid as i used to due drugs but then this thought came across my mind telling me, just because you did drugs doesnt mean you have paranoia and you just overthink it. So i left the vid, but minutes later i realized it and got back here to say. It can be really hard sometimes. Getting people confused about you . Cause you can be really paranoid, and i was like this even before, almost my whole life.. if i would give money to organize something. Like a present or a party. I will investigate it fully to see if they’re not taking advantage of me and taking any more money, and once i did drugs(6months recovering) it got really worse. How worse? I wouldn’t leave my home for months and if so. Only for small short tasks. Its really used to make me so tired. But i got better. Today I’m much better. I’m doing things with confidence, and much more. Saying it as a person who were getting advantage. Was people pleaser and shy. With no confidence to say something to defend ur self. But i really worked on it. And i still do. My last case of paranoia was when i was in the park training and a family approached by. I got really paranoid. I thought to myself. Why are they here? They prob thinks about me or talks about me. It would be few times without even realizing its the paranoia taking over. But now i really feel better but who knows. Till next time.
“Till next time” 5 days later, I’m sitting rn in the park and constantly thinking I should change the way I’m sitting cause ppl may look at me and think about me something. Realized it after 10m that I’m just trippin , its really hard to live like that. I think i should look for therapy. Seeing it it could somehow benefit me
I feel like that for a disease that needs to be handled with empathy, this video series has very little. Like, at one point the dude was like "how terrible it must be to live like that....." and then the rest is describing how terrible they are to be around. For someone just learning this about themselves, this is not a good resource. Like, I know what I'm like, lady. Maybe making people who think everyone is out to hurt them have to listen to their faults on end in order to locate any sort of help or resources seems pretty counter-productive.
I recently diagnosed with this disorder by a professional and I came hear to see how can I improve on myself but I feel betrayed a little now
I am diagnosed paranoid and yayyy for that! My family, my partners, friends, coalegues everybody betrayed me for their own benefit. Thats why I love my dogs the best!
I am also having similar issues.unfortunately I haven't checked with any doctor and situation is very worst .I am unable to convince myself that there is no treat to me. All the problems are inside my head. After each episode I will show tantrum and felt relieved after a cry. But I will suffer alone since noone will sympathize with me
I lost everything and everyone in my life.I know God is with me. I also have a beloved brother who is supportive for me. I think we all should fight with ourselves and face the problems. If we try to hide from problem it will create chaos.We should accept ourselves.Even on small doubts we should acknowledge the fact that we are suffering from paranoid behaviour.Acccept ourselves and don't be hard on ourselves.Everyday is a second chance for us. Face the problems without fear or judgement and stay positive.When our brain tricks you into believing something or someone is trying to harm you , acknowledge it and smile"dear brain, no need to worry, I have already over thinked a thousand possibilities you are safe here". Look forward to positive scenarios because once we are above 18 we are adults we need to take responsibility for our actions. If we behave like this people may treat your behaviour as childish. yes it is childish if you are still not capable of taking responsibility for each chapter of your life. Nobody is going to do that for you my love.First of all STOP OVER THINKING. LOVE YOURSELF AND STAY POSITIVE.
Positivity! You sound like you are healing.
Because of how I’ve been hurt in the past, my paranoia extends into my relationship and makes me controlling and mean whenever my girlfriend doesn’t do what I expect her to do to help me control it. But my expectations like her not having friends or talking to anyone without me around are wearing her down. We have a baby on the way and I don’t want to lose her or my kid. What do I do?
acknowledging you have a problem is half the battle. Be open to help and whatever it takes to be good to her and the baby.
If you wondering how my daily is with this disorder, here's a sneak peek : when going outside I put a pen in my pocket or at least put a pen where i can reach it fast in my bag. In bigger bag i bring small bugs spray or disinfectant spray. All just in case someone attack me on the street. In my bedroom i have disinfectant spray and many protection items that i kept within reach in case burglar barging in. I have plans of what i should do step by step and what ifs. In my house i have lots of items that i give mental mark that i can use as a weapon like the scissors inside cabinet, hammer below the tv table, sharp stationery on my desk.
My child won’t sleep with a weapon.
Your gonna defend yourself by giving someone paper cuts? Lol
My sister has this. Ever-persecuted, ever-suspicious, ever-accusing, ever-hurtful. Like a vicious snake ready to STRIKE with no way to defend yourself. You can only just stay away. She's a good person, and she's very generous and helpful. But, her vigilant defensiveness makes her HOSTILE. I don't deal with her. I'm happiest living out of the country away from her.
My mom for years believes that someone wants her home, now I'm on her list. She covers her windows with towels beneath her curtains. She believes people are looking into her home and watching her through the walls. It's hard to have a relationship with her. She only trusts one child of her six. It's tiresome. Many times I just avoid her.
Same here bro my mom is living alone in house and she don't even trust me I am so helpless I can't understand what to do
my dad also has PPD we dont know what to do its been affecting our entire family bcoz hes indenial, hes accusing our mom of having an affair with more than 5 men, he also has paranoia of people coming to hurt him and plotting something against him, we dont live with him anymore we took our mom with us bcoz we are afraid he gonna hurt her and my mom is crying everyday she felt hopeless, all of my dads accusation against my mom is so ridiculous and i cannot fathom how he ended up with those made up and crazy ideas.
How's your dad rn? We're currently in the same situation. We're all tired of his accusation and we're scared he might have another episode after telling him that "we will leave if you don't change"
Perfect explanation of my ex.
Mine too
Hola
yup
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This is my mom totally and I’m finding this out at 47🤦♀️
My ex boyfriend has Paranoid Personality Disorder...and he is a psychopath too.
I NOW know why he was snooping around on my cellphone....last March.. during a hockey session.... I CAUGHT him doing this on Live Barn!!!!!
HE DELETED our ENTIRE text conversation string!!!! On purpose.
He's very very very Paranoid.
I can't tell you how many times his first words of the day to me were " are you on speakerphone?"
He never eats in public... unless his mommy is with him( he turns 41 this December 7th, 2023.. by the way).. she's 72!!!!! Wtf???
He will never reveal any private personal details of his past... hes terrofied of 5 G...
Worst... hes inot QANON nonsense!!!!!
That's like throwing gasoline on the fire!!!!!
He thinks everyone is a snitch.....he thinks other hockey coaches are kut to get him...
He has made ME his Target of Blame!!!!
And his idiot mother is so brainwashed she believes everything HE says!!!!!
I'm waiting for one or both of them to try to sue me for some imaginary nonsense that they claim I did!!!!
Sooooo glad I broke up with him last April 2023.
I felt like people hated me, but then again I was annoying at times lol so i probably deserved it
Why dont you bring someone in who actually has it? Or are they too anxious
Because you think someone who thinks the whole world is against them and wants to make fun of them, humiliate them and hurt them will show up so that everyone on TH-cam can make fun of them, humiliate them and hurt them?
Maybe try some empathy?
This description fits my boyfriend so we'll. He has accused me of cheating on him most of our relationship and I told him it's not true let's get a lie detector test then. It's the most draining thing ever. The accusations are so off and any little thing you say he flips it around. I've told him I think you have ppd and he doesn't believe it. He says I'm making it up.
It will never get better. It is so draining and you don't want to give up on them but you can't continue being abused, accused of the most insane things. Everyday he would ask if that was c*m on my shirt , any bruise was a bite mark, he would tape the curtains closed, I wasn't allowed to go swimming in our pool because the neighbors were watching me,etc.etc. You think you are close to them and then they accuse you of the most vile things. Do yourself a favor and leave him, I'm sorry but it will only get worse.
A girl I fell in love with always thought I was conspiring against her for no reason at all
Breaks my heart
I tried to do everything I could and was so gentle
I miss her
And had to let go due to this
This is like most people online claiming they have cluster bs in their lives and most homophobes
Dealing with paranoid schizophrenia is tough , no matter how much I show love and compassion and be open they still turn nasty saying I don't trust you etc makes me really sad 😢
Dr Ramani is always describing extremes with every video of her I watch I feel like she puts people with pb in a way that they are extreme and static, like they are not dynamic like other people, like no gradations exists. It always feels so black an white to me.
And she's rude like the condition doesn't matter
I have avoidant pd, and I'm very aware of it. The edges get smoother with age but it still sucks.
Wow I relate to a lot of this but I still socialise and try my best to be level headed but the drawn curtains/door locked is a must for me
What is it called if you have some days that one suddenly starts to question other peoples intentions? How do you know if your intuition is trying to tell you something or when someone is just making up stories that makes you paranoid inside by merely thoughts alone…
I had a boss who seemed to have this. Every working day was hell.
My narcissistic mother is always scheming and gossiping about me, then my narcissistic ex did the same so did work bosses. I’m paranoid as hell about everything and everyone
Can you have half of this? I'm very insightful of myself and I'm overly open with myself and then all of a sudden I shut off and start the overthinking and paranoia
i understand why the girl ghosted me now, thank you.
Prabhubada I was told believed firmly that people were trying to poison him in the end of his life. I wonder if he had this disorder.
Dr Ramini is 🔥
What should I do if I think I might have this? I've thought of therapy but became very uneasy with the idea of cataloguing such intimate details. I am suspicious of almost everything and even though there are realistic threats I feel like it goes way too far.
Is it likely for PPD and BPD to be present in the same individual? How would this interact?
My wife has PPD and she has destroyed my life, her own life, and worst of all, our son’s life. She is the most vicious, hateful, unkind, contentious, hurtful, vile,……need I go on, person I’ve ever known. She claimed domestic violence against me, and has me over a barrel, even going so far as to threaten me if I get legal help. My heart pours out to anyone who has to live with such a person or a person who has such a condition. To them, it is everyone else, not them, that is the problem. It is most evident in relationships within the immediate family. She is hostile to her own mother. When we got married she was not this way. She had a paranoid psychotic breakdown and from there it was nothing but misery and suffering. We were considered wealthy in my state. I am an engineer with graduate degree, and I was quite accomplished. I’ve been reduced to a “criminal”. Lost my high paying job, half million of life insurance, home, cars, retirement, and absolutely everything. Unfortunately the law and courts are not on the side of the real victims…the family. The mental health system is in shambles. I so much wish she could and would get help, but the PPD mind is not conducive to accepting any or accepting help. It is a tragedy for anyone close to a person with this issue.
I’m really sorry man. I too had to leave my wife and daughter after she indoctrinated her and turned her against me. I’m completely heartbroken and devastated. My daughter is in her senior year of high school and I can’t enjoy it with her and I’m completely cutoff from her college decisions. My wife accused me hacking into her cell phone, computer, wifi, landline and email and an old joint checking account. The worst part though is how she just blatantly turned my daughter against me.
You’re not alone man…
@@baccaratfitness2360 I sure hate to hear that. The most difficult undertaking I have had in my life is dealing with my wife on a daily basis. Just waiting for the slow wheels of justice to turn so I can get on with life again. My wife tried to turn my son against me as well, and my parents. He didn’t buy into any of it. He saw for all of his life pretty much how she treats me and he gets much of the same. It is terrible that you can’t have a relationship with your daughter. The “authorities” just don’t seem to understand what we deal with. My saving grace is that she had a stay in the psychiatric unit. She filed for divorce and that backfired on her because I got temp custody, even having current DV charges against me. The judge and the DHR investigator questioned the veracity of the claims she made to the civil court after they saw the med records. DHR obtained them and provided them to the court. She was required to do supervised visits at DHR. Unfortunately DV case is in criminal court with another judge who has no idea about any of this. I am still with her, the divorce was dropped. I am here until I can get the charges dropped, hopefully, but I will take it to a jury if they insist. There is no evidence and there is no history of me being violent in any way with anyone, or an arrest record at all prior to her “get even” call to 911.
I hope things get better for you and I hope that you can re-establish your relationship with your daughter in the future. Hopefully she will figure out what the real deal is with her mother. They have an uncanny ability to act very normal around strangers causing anyone not close enough to the situation to believe it has to be you that is the problem. The one causing the trouble seems to hold all the cards and never pay for the damage they do to their families. We need something to change with all of this. Those who have the power over our freedom should always do a thorough investigation the situation and not just take someone’s word for it. With DV, that’s what they do in my state. It is a cash cow for the county because it is so easy to be arrested for it. It is about revenue, and the bar is set very low to accommodate their revenue generation. Really it is guilty until you prove your innocence.
@@unsearchablethings8167 Thanks for sharing your experience. Looking back on our relationship I realize now that she showed signs of distrust and paranoia early on. I had given up my personal training business to move to Chicago with her to support her (emotionally) while she went to Northwestern law school. It wasn’t an easy decision and I almost backed out but I couldn’t do that to her (at least that’s how I viewed it at the time). Then 5 years into her law career she collapsed at work and was diagnosed with fibromyalgia and later lupus and she was never able to work again and has been on disability since. About 5 years ago she thought her disability insurance had hacked our wifi and she went into a severe paranoid state. And if I was ever skeptical she’d go nuts. It’s gotten so bad lately that she has to sleep with my daughter and has to leave the lights on in the house and the backyard. She got 2 cell phones too. She also accused me of hiding her shoes and convinced my daughter that I had. I could go on and on with the different things she’s said. What finally made me leave and was the last time I was in their presence was she brought her mother out. Her mother was openly hostile from the get go and the last night my wife disconnected my wifi. I came into the living room and my wife comes in with a flashlight and a baseball bat and her mother came in and screamed at me that they were going to call the police and the FBI. And I was so taken aback that my only response was “what did I do?” I left the room and my daughter came out and as I walked by I said ‘oh my God’. Now my daughter has said she heard me threaten her mom and grandmother. 😫 Listening to this doctor has been helpful because when you live with someone who’s paranoid you start to become paranoid yourself.
@@unsearchablethings8167 I want to add that I believe a lot of these mental disorders are caused by improper nutrition. I know that sounds weird but I’ve been studying nutrition for the past 12 years and it seems that our brains don’t thrive on a low fat high carb diet. They’re now calling dementia and Alzheimer’s disease type 3 diabetes. My wife was an anorexic early in life and she had an aversion to any kind of fat. With what I’ve learned, that’s a recipe for inflammation because we aren’t genetically geared to consume dietary glucose at such high levels. There are quite a few doctors that advocate for ketogenic diets because of their anti inflammatory properties. I have no doubt that my wife’s hormones are completely screwed up and that she’s highly inflamed. Just an FYI.
@@baccaratfitness2360 that is entirely plausible, and I have to agree. The food pyramid is upside down. We take in way too many sugars and carbs. My wife’s hormones are definitely out of whack 100%. My son and I call it hell week for the week before the cycle comes. Seems it is now two weeks. I tell you, she gets extremely mean and angry. I have suspected hormone imbalance. Had a friend who’s wife had a hormone imbalance. They were on the verge of divorce. He said that his house was no longer his home. He didn’t feel welcome there and she was combative all the time. She went to the hormone clinic and he said she went from the devil to an angel. Everything got completely better. Later, however, she stopped taking the hormones because breast cancer runs in her family, and I mean her grandmother, mother, and sister all got it. It is believed the estrogen could trigger it I guess, or could make the cancer grow more quickly. So she stopped the hormones out of fear. She immediately went back to the previous state of mind and he said he had no choice but to divorce her.
Also causing major problems for men and women, I believe, are certain plastics, plasticizer chemicals, herbicides, and other plant based and man-made estrogen mimicking compounds….endocrine disruptors. Our bodies are constantly bombarded by all kinds of chemicals in the food, water, and environment. This must have a lot to do with the decreased fertility in men and women. Also men’s testosterone seems to be chronically low, even for younger men. Diet and obesity plays into that as well, I would think. There’s other things I could mention but won’t, other than to mention the “confusion” among young people and adults regarding what body they feel like they should be in, other than the one they were born in. Seems people are suffering mental and physical effects that I believe are related to diet and chemicals mentioned. We need to get back to local food production without all the chemicals. Reading processed food labels is scary, and even more scary is the fact the FDA approves all that junk as additives. All this is really demoralizing. My dad passed away a couple of years ago with Alzheimer’s. He had diabetes, but after losing a lot of weight it went away. But he had it for a number of years.
You know what’s hard? I never show it. I never act or talk as if I’m paranoid. When a friend comes over to play WT - I’m thinking that he came to kill me, but I smile, shake his hand, and we chill. Never. Break. Character.
Dr. Ramani is the only one who understands me.
My dad and my grandad are all like this, pity me.
Ive been in this paranoia stage for years but 2020 made it so worst for me
Im 49 and never been paranoid until recently. I had a breakdown, was in hospital with severe deoression, and i opened up to some people about very personal things, now i sometimes feel that people know the things ive talked about. For example ive just been to the dentists and was thinking what if somehow they say my doctors notes from hospital etc. Its really irrational to think like that and they were friendly dental staff but none the less i felt sligtly paranoid after. Its a really horrible anxious feeling thats for sure
Im 19 years old and my mom is almost 50 she have PPD she doesn’t trust anyone she think everyone is trying to harm her. She stop talking to people she always try to stay alone like she isolated her self completely I dont know how its all happened she is the best mom in the world who always supported my dream always used to be there me her common line was “dont worry mom is here” which used to work like medicine now she is completely a different person it hurts to see her like that idk what to do please if u have any suggestion tell me. I just want her to be okey and happy
I wonder if there are grades of severity with this disorder. I have a coworker who displays some of these traits, but not all. Her issues are compounded by (what seems to me to be) an intellectual disability and other characteristics that nobody could fail to notice. So she goes into situations feeling at (what is probably a correct sense) of disadvantage.
Things like schizophrenia and delusional disorders have to be ruled out. Some with schizophrenia only suffer from delusions without hallucinations playing a role. Anyone technically can have traits associated with a personality disorder and even with having a PD. It's on a spectrum from person to person.
Thank you this really helped understand what I go through, I need to learn how I understand the world and hearing other people struggle with what I struggle with really helps me understand. I don’t think I’ve realised that I’ve been very paranoid ever since I was very young, I’ve always thought people are out to get me, there’s so much that goes on in my head but tbh I thought most people delt with intense anxiety to an extent, I always thought I was just like everyone else so I ignored my struggles because I saw everyone else getting along in life so I thought might as well get through life and see what the big/small picture is
Describing my former husband and our son. It was a hellish marriage and divorce and raising my son since age nine which is when it seems was the onset of his mental illnesses. Not fun at all. 😕 😢
After multiple armed robberies and carjacking in which l was a victim and one huge romantic betrayal , l am a certified paranoid person at this point but she’s actually exaggerating, most paranoid people will be nice to anybody nice to than and not repulsive unless they starting to not understand a person behavior or somebody doing something suspicious around them again
Unfortunately I’m exactly how she described it, I swear people drove me to be this way, my life is filled with the short end of the stick and I’m over humanity trying to play with me and treat me less then I am when I know my value spiritually