I could have this.. after a marriage to an abusive narcissist.....it took a long time to get away from him. Now if a person shows any tendency to control me or control my thinking...or talk mean to me..I'm done..I look rite through them if I encounter them in public..kind of like blocking them..and nothing can convince me to unblock them...nothing...they become non-existent to me..😎
Could you make a video about hppd and visual snow explaining the differences? I think it’s a very misunderstood topic and it would help a lot of people out there. Also it would raise awareness for doctors and researchers to find a treatment.
Can you please make a video on Temporal Lobe Epilepsy and the difference between TLE and Schizophrenia, and what would they do if both are in a single person. I mean their individual effects and mixed effects on a single person??? Please make a video on this.
Hey if your moma brings you to this country in her shopping bag and you got to rely on SNAP you’ll see how good of an expert you become on any subject because you don’t wanna have your kid growing up on snap Watch how I’ll get attacked for this comment
1. Suspect other people are harming or deceiving them with no real evidence 2. Preoccupied with the devotion and loyal of the people around them 3. Reluctant to confide in other people because they are convinced it will be used against them 4. Read into a hidden or threatening meaning in messages that aren't truly there 5. Unforgiving and consistently bear grudges 6. Perceive people are attacking their character and others don't see it 7. Recurrent suspicion about their partner's fidelity.
I feel like everyone is lying. Even if they maybe telling truth but I feel they are lying. And I have been lied by someone many times so maybe it is the cause of that. I don't know if I do have this disorder! I am so unsure.
So basically over cautious and over suspicious? That's just a malfunction of one or two brain regions. Could've easily said over firing of neurons in parts of brain which are responsible for maintaining your ego and self worth. This is the reason we shouldn't be making a pseudo science out of bible. You just took two simple traits and blew them into 7 motherfuckin traits lmao. It's almost like ten commandments, all of which say the same thing, treat others the way you wanna be treated and treat me special cuz I'm your god bitches. Why tf are you people obsessed with over complicating things?
@@samyangworld5703 it's not a disorder lmao it's just being over cautious cuz of being hurt in past. Find a loyal partner and it'll go away like it never existed. Stop over thinking lol
@@samyangworld5703 The fact that you worry you have this likely means you don't, so don't worry ^^ While Milf Raider is a bit disrespectful, they are right
I have PPD, yes there can actually be a certain level of self awareness in it. What she didn't mention is that the paranoia seeps into EVERY aspect of your perspective and daily life, in any given situation your paranoia can run wild. Literally anyone or anything in existence can be seen as evil or threatening towards you; ANYTHING. The most random things can trigger my paranoia and make me angry and threatened. For a while I was convinced many people were pure evil and treating me harshly. I had a grudge against every single person I knew in my entire life, which were all my family and friends and I felt the constant need to fight back against everyone. But however I'm not always wrong, people can be complete shit and they can intentionally hurt you for little reason, sometimes to control you or assert dominance. I've been able to spot mistreatment and stand my ground against it so that's a plus
@@XPrincess30 Yes it can be, I believe certain aspects of it are a part of BPD. But the full disorder can also be co-morbid with BPD, I think it's quite common
I suffer from paranoia. I used to just categorize it as anxiety, but I am also extremely self aware. So I’m aware of how irrational I am, but I can’t stop myself from going there. I can relate to the damage on familiar relationships, I’m a very lonely person. I would so much rather be this way without any awareness
@@michelleschoen4275 Unfortunately not much has helped, it's one of those things thats always there. But I've found there are ways of easing it a bit, if I have control in a situation I'm not as suspicious about other peoples intentions. That's what I'd suggest with your daughter, let her take more control when you interact with her as in she's the one talking more or initiating most interactions. Also be careful with your comments around her because she could read the wrong messages very easy, never straight-up insult or criticize her because that would be detrimental to your relationship as she'll hold a big grudge. It's a tricky thing honestly because a paranoid easily finds any way to get mad or hold something small against a person. Hope this helps
Omg I just can't stop watching these videos with them! She's so intelligent and the chemistry of their conversation is so nice, It just flows. Really, It's amazing to just watch it.
thats nice. its hell when youre slipping into a psychosis, even though you know these thoghts are irratiinal, your brain just keeps convincing you its real and its really exhausting to fight against these thoughts with yout rational thinking when youre starting to depersonalize. fuck man, it was scary
@@alexoswald932 I've been going through that for a few years. Only recently became aware once I had one of my paranoid delusions proven impossible to me even after spending more than a year obsessing to an extreme extent over. Even now sometimes my mind would try to slip back into that paranoia. Now I'm dealing with a new one. My paranoias are pretty specific and always revolve around people who are close to me and not being able to be trusted because of their sinful actions. This one might be the most damaging because it literally and figuratively hits close to home. Every single creek and thud sets of a chain of racing thoughts that mentally burns. Unfortunately I think I found evidence for this paranoia or at least my brain perceived it to be evidence and it just makes it so much harder to deal with. Snapping back and forwards between delusion and reality. Can't even tell if I'm having auditory hallucinations or i just obsess about the tiniest sounds in the house. If this specific paranoid delusion turns out to be true, someone is gonna die
Yeah and crime and theft is on the rise. I’m scared someone is going to harm me or my family. My car was stolen …and now my dad is receiving phone calls, “give us money or we will harm you”
Ive had this disorder since around 10 yrs old. I consider myself moderately intelligent but in a class room enviroment I was worthless because of this. I would sit and pretend to melt into the situation but in reality I was almost paralyzed with the fear that the whole class was watching my every move .Every second in a classroom was agony and nothing could be absorbed.I would never ever ask a question as I know it would be my down fall .My father was abusive and would do anything to destroy my confidence in any situation. I now know this was the trigger for this. Im glad I finally know the name for it .
Had a covert narc at home with severe paranoid tendencies. It _is_ exhausting, especially when you're constantly blamed by the person you love to be up to something evil. Asking for the reason you're "trying to distract" them or plain "lying". Or the narc jumps in and I'm not after her because she's "not important enough" to me. Recently (long after breakup) she told me to stop trying to hack into her email. She "knew" I'm trying because she often had a bad internet connection when she was trying to read mails on her phone. It's a pity to see.
I'm 12 and I cant be alone especially at night I hate people I feel like they are all out to kill me rape me torture me and I feel a lot less masculine from this and I am Indeed alone rn and I'm writing this to cope with the fear
@Jeff Peate right after I wrote that I heard shuffling noises and scratches outside my room I freaked out and froze I really wanted to move and get a weapon but I couldn't then I just got angry because of the wasted time I could've spent with my mom the wasted hours just sitting in my room fearing the unknown I love my mom and felt bad I could go outside and spend time with her and these memorys just fueled my anger. I screamed and raged and just started venting loudly and got up shaking a bit with a water bottle thinking I was about to be murdered I didn't even say my last goodbyes or called the cops. I turned to the corner it was dark and I chucked the water like a fucking idiot and you know what I saw. It was just my cat. It was just my fucking cat I didn't Chuck the water at her just near her and I was still mad but mad at myself for being such a dissapointment. She is laying with me now and I feel a lot less scared and better now knowing I'm safe. Her name is Luna btw. I feel like I have a lot less fear about being alone now but I don't think I can handle the dark still heh. I cleaned up the water don't worry
This is definitely true! I deal with that on a daily basis. It’s very draining and very confusing. It’s a serious mental issue. It destroys everything around them. Thank you for sharing your knowledge
I’m paranoid schizophrenic and it’s so bad. You feel like everyone is watching you no matter where you go. You can be having fun with your friends one minute then something unrelated to you triggers it and you feel like everyone is making a joke out of you. Everyone’s plotting against you and you think they’re all in on it. Be with a group of family or friends then feel like they’re all getting closer to you and feeling suffocated. This guy I just recently dated and I started talking again a few days ago after I moved a town over, blocked him from everything and changed my number a month ago. Told me the way I’m living is unhealthy and you know what I thought? I thought he was recording me and told him he was probably planning plotting to make a joke out of me again. That’s when I realized how paranoid I was. What’s the difference between how I perceive the world and those around me as opposed to someone who suffers from agoraphobia?
I wonder if bring consistently "gaslighted" by someone with narcissistic personality disorder, can lead to developing PPD? I would think it's not unreasonable if you've had your reality challenged constantly in this way.
Its what happened to me. Paranoia isnt paranoia if the situation is actually happening. I refuse to be labeled as paranoid when I know I've been dealing with gaslighting my entire life. The gaslighter will never say they've been gaslighting so it isnt something we will ever have answers to. A diagnosis is slapped on someone being gaslighted and manipulated but the narcissist gets a pass? Um, no. My solution is just to find things that make me happy and take it day by day.
@@iamloveabundance4102That is exactly how to handle it. Be defiant in your own reality. Once a narcissist discovers they can screw with your head they will do it for as long as they can get away with it. Stay strong.
My family member displays all of these traits, and she is constantly gaslighting anyone who doesn't agree & apologize for their perceived wrong doings. It seems that there's some obvious overlap with PPD & narcissism
I believe so. My mother was manipulative, paranoid and narcissistic. We moved around all the time, usually never staying longer 2-3 in one place. I could go on but I've never has a stable home and she always blamed me for her faults, projected, called me abnormal and bad luck and months after breaking free she died. I've been spiralling out if control and even though I'm in a stable place I can't relax. My OCD and paranoia is on high alert looking for everything wrong and obsessing and it's all because of her. I'm trying to heal but I'm literally spending every day in fear wasting my life yet I can't stop ruminating and being afraid of the intrusive thoughts and reacting like they're real
@@yelyahfan88x94 I totally understand. Have you been to therapy? It sounds like you feel that you have a monkey on your shoulder constantly criticizing you, even though your mom is no longer here. I understand that that constantly level of control and lying can cause someone to feel paranoid. It’s like you need a detox from it. Maybe you can practice journaling all of the positive things that people say to you, and practice challenging the OCD thoughts. Like take a risk and don’t follow through with the compulsion one day, and accept that what happens, happens, and it has nothing to do with whether or not you followed through with a ritual. This is what I am learning to do. In some ways, being in a controlled and manipulated environment is comforting in a weird and toxic way, so you have to slowly start believing in yourself. Be very careful who you let into your inner circle too and try to keep interactions as positive as possible while you are healing! Maybe this will help you? This is what I am working on for now! I am also trying to express myself if something concerns me and not just bury it - learning to trust my instincts more. God bless you!! 🙏
I have this. I was convinced my ex wife was having an affair with HER BROTHER!! Looking back it’s madness. ’m not going to lie to you guys, it’s very hard. Very lonely. You see the world in a complete flip to the way the masses see the world. I succumb to horrendous trauma as a kid as well as being mistreated by the authorities as well as being accused of something I didn’t do (the justice system and the police). Basically, my limbic system is hyper-aroused to keep me alive. Great videos! Thank you :)
So much improvement with the production quality of this channel, the set, the lighting, the sound. Dr. Ramani consistenlty rocks and her clarity is like a fine diamond. I am glad she has her own channel.
This must be difficult for the paranoid person as well as everyone involved. The fact that there are people wanting to help is very comforting and even quite emotional because of the guilt that comes with “counter attacks”, it’s very confusing to be told that your reality is false all of the time. How can a person with PPD continue to be self-aware and not seesaw into paranoia to the point where it is damaging? For example, how exactly can a person control their suspicions that others are trying to hurt them? Any advice or other comments are welcome, no suspicions attached
I also do the same. Sorry but your profile pic is very disturbing. Dont get me wrong it has nothing to do with bicycle but somehow it feels like when some makes a strong screeching noise by using a chalk on a black board.
I've often wondered if my mom has paranoid personality disorder. The majority of any friends she makes will cease to be her friends after a short time. One time she cut a friendship short because they said "Your new haircut looks great!" but she perceived it with a tone of ingenuity. The friend was literally just complimenting her hair (I was there and witnessed the conversation) but she perceived some sort of alterior meaning in there and literally decided she never wanted anything to do with them ever again. Can you imagine? That is just one example that's easy to explain but I can think of endless amounts of instances with all different people, some of our dearest family friends, as well as her husband, my father. But the confusing thing is, my sibling and I seem to be the only two people in the world that she isn't paranoid about- so does that mean she couldn't possibly have this personality disorder since it has to be pervasive across all of her interactions? Or do they ever have one or two individuals that they don't get that way with? Could it possibly be that because we are her own children, the unconditional love overrides any paranoia?
If it’s clear it’s clear. My 82-yr old mom has had obvious (tho undiagnosed, as far as I know) PPD for many yrs. She’s been in hospital a couple of times. She’s been awful to me (feels also like narcissism) but now she needs me, so now I have to be available as I’m the only one she trusts. It’s pretty maddening. So yes, a mother can have PPD and yet still be nice to her kids, and even trust them. If your sibling is helpful, be glad you have a sibling!
@@Maya-dc8cb Love is an interesting word here. As a mom I certainly hope/imagine my (adult) kids love me. But the love of a narcissist and PPD mom is super relative. The feeling of getting something back depends on the day, and the patience I have to put into our relationship. There’s no deep well of love and acceptance there the way you might generally think about love. In fact she’s been known to be truly mean and damaging to all of us. Sad I left my kids on the phone with her too long when they were young. We’re all ok now, but I have so many regrets. One of my kids can’t call her any more, and that’s very tough for her, she really doesn’t understand the damage she has caused and can cause.
Sadly, sometimes what you're feeling is true, and if you go to those people and ask them if they want you to leave, will they really tell you the truth? Possibly not. So it's a difficult situation to be in, especiall in a world where integrity and sincerity are at an all time low.
I've heard that paranoid personality disorder is often misdiagnosed as covert narcissism/borderline. Can you go into detail about how similar and how different they are?
I know someone who has ppd. I also know people who are borderline. It is very different than borderline. I would personality describe it as a general distrust of others and being very suspicious or have a heightened distrust. It is different than borderline. I can see why someone might confuse the two but I think with firsthand experience you will see a HUGE difference. PPD can get bad or suddenly announce itself under a bout of severe anxiety and lack of sleep. It is not consistent.
@Don Kapsalon the BPD is a bit more than the oh I can't trust you and testing. For example, I have symptoms of both but I do trust people a lot yet I sometimes don't because of my fear of abandonment. The fear of abandonment which for me triggers the PPD symptoms. I'm not sure if this clear but I tried to explain how it can be, as much as I could haha
This is so interesting. I sent a letter to my narc mother saying it was her turn to ring, but I wanted to hear something happy (did this as every phone call was 'woe is me') I actually asked friends to read it so I could be sure my message was clear and respectful. Anyway she's interpreted that i said she was never to ring me again. She always put words in my mouth when I was a child, but I was astounded and devastated that she could misconstrue the written word. But this post has helped me. Thank you.
@@andrewhaywood3853 Depending on how severe it is , this is probably the best advice. I don't agree with most people who feel shared blood lines means automatic loyalty and you have to put up with them. I say if anybody is psychologicaly abusing you, you have every right to cut them out.
My poor mom had this, but was not diagnosed until just months before her death. This discussion exactly describes her behavior. It was difficult for our whole family.
I don’t wanna diagnose myself, but DAMN ...I really, really resonated with every single one of these. Every single one. I waited for even one that I didn’t understand but.. damn :/
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Don't mix up paranoia with common sense. Nothing is wrong with being cautious and staying alert when dealing with other people. There really are too many of those willing to take advantage of others. People need to deserve to be trusted.
I think people forget that you can have some symptoms without having a personality disorder. I'm really not a fan of people self-diagnosing and speaking for the group they think they belong to since I imagine it only makes it more difficult for those that have been diagnosed by a professional. It reminds me of getting sick, scrolling on webmd & thinking I have cancer or something simply because I meet some of the symptoms. Even if you dont have the disorder though, theres still a lot of great advice in these videos. I really enjoy the comments on these videos too, they can be incredibly comforting to know you arent alone in your struggles as well as allowing us to look deeper into ourselves or allow people to better understand their loved one that have been diagnosed. I know that if I was dealing with all of the mental health problems I currently have except in the 1920s, I'd probably be in a much darker place.
Thats true but people who grew up n were raised around good people assume this is a disorder until u grow up n are raised n surrounded by liars thieves addicts immoral ppl.
Caution is different than paranoia. If you’ve ever been with someone like this you may not know what it is, but it feels like toxic suspiciousness. They are always accusing you of being untruthful. In fact they don’t only accuse you of deceit but they assuming it of you. You find yourself trapped in a vortex defending yourself against something you didn’t even know you didn’t do that they insist you did. If your head is spinning, trust me, that’s what it feels like.
my mother was in a severe car accident in 2009 which left her unable to work. She is not diagnosed with this, but this list was somewhat comforting. Now she’s at the point where she is convinced that her own family and friends have become perpetrators and “flying monkeys”. She’s constantly throwing out psychology terms and is convinced that we have a role in hacking her computer. We aren’t supposed to have our phones on around her because she’s convinced they are hacked. She thinks this will continue until she dies. She tries to show us evidence but feels like she can’t trust us with it most of the time. She’s now not letting any of my sisters friends and boyfriend come over. I love my mom but these false accusations that she fully believes in has torn me up inside. I feel for my mother deeply and I wish I was a better daughter.
My parents are like this a lot, and I am too. It’s ruining my life. The fear and paranoia. I’m trying to feel more free while staying safe and following my dreams.
im a v paranoid person but i think its due to growing up with a history of child sexual abuse, watching my parents have affairs while insisting they werent, being in a horrific abusive relationship when i was 14-16, and repeatedly being wronged by people i grew so fond of. its so hard for me to trust and im always aware of red flags.
@@lucasessman1910 well... i was distrusting of some people in my life last year and it turns out i was more than right. i got rid of them and my life has been a lot more peaceful and quiet. trust your gut
How closely similar this is the exact events of my life makes me feel like I'm in the matrix. Always trust your gut. Being right on 100 predictions and thinking you're crazy to believe in your intuition is what's crazy. Is it really a mental disorder when people are actually proving your predictions even when you give them the benefit of the doubt?
This is something people with ppd do too. You have to be EXTREMELY careful about what you say, because if you say the wrong words, the people around you will use that and on a future attack on the base of that ONE time you did something wrong. When you have ppd, you just assume everyone is as paranoid as you are, so every single step and every single word you say is calculated to ensure that it can't be used as dangerous. Having ppd is a tiring asf disorder, not saying it isn't tiring to know someone with ppd, sure it is, but it's way more tiring to actually HAVE the disorder
Dr. Ramani is absolutely exceptional! To think she has cptsd and deals with self loathing is stunning given she is a genius. I suppose that’s what makes her compassionate and humble, relatable and lovable. Adore her!
the way this doctor talks about people with personality disorders is so completely crushing for ppl who actually have them to listen to, she sounds mocking and continually talks about how we won't ever get therapy, the focus is always on how we hurt others and never on how that is a huge generalisation and the suffering that ppl with personality disorders go through. every person i know with or without a pd has hurt someone close to them before it's part of life yes these disorders make ppl struggle with healthy relationships but that doesn't always mean hurting others constantly completely unaware of our behaviour this channel has made me feel broken and unworthy of help despite being in therapy working through all my behaviours and trying to be better please concider changing the way you talk about these issues and the harm you cause because when ppl search for information on their own disorders all that comes up is you talking about all the ways we hurt people and don't want to be helped
I agree, im glad i saw your comment bc i just posted one with similar feelings about the video. The HUGE difference and impact these videos could make, is to include the causes and reasons for these mental health issues/disorders, anx to express and UNDERSTANDING. The causes are the most important thing to highlight, only then can you treat the actual problem i hope youre doing well and i wish you the best. Here if you need to talk ❤❤
I thought I might have this. But if someone at work confronted me about the behavior I'm displaying, my response would be: let's go talk to HR and sort this out with a third-party present. NOT to deny and hold a grudge. Watching this has made me realize that I've lived with people who have this.
No one wants to be with a person like this. I know by experience. They make your life miserable if you put up with them and give them chances without realizing they actually have a serious problem. They'll deny it if you finally confront them, of course. But the moment you do understand what's going on, it's both liberating and infuriating.
it is true i know what it is like being in relationship with them they would accuse you of the worst thing in the world you get abused all the time because of imagined insults or threats a covert narc i was friends with was paranoid one of the reasons i cut them of was the paranoia
Maybe it would be nicer to refer to the person you had bad experiences with as opposed to bashing a whole group of people based on your individual experience
It's true, it's tough to be around people with mental illnesses. Hopefully, in your liberation and infuration, you'll have some compassion towards the person now that you realize they're struggling with a mental illness, and perhaps not aware that they have one. It sucks to be on the receiving end. It's challenging to hold empathy for people when they've hurt us. However, if I knew someone had a mental illness, I would of course distance myself to protect myself, but still hold compassion for them. I'd hope the'dy get treatment, therapy, and if needed, medication so that they could heal or at least manage their symptoms.
I was just thinking about the fact that I don't hear Japanese say the word 'social anxiety'. I think hikikomori and tokokyohi are types of social anxiety...
Doctor is spot on!! She really knows her stuff. I would LOVE for her to be my therapist. I’ve accepted (finally ) that I’m paranoid, the reason for this is it can’t be coincidental that I think and am certain that some people are out to make my life harder than it is…… I love children animals and the elderly as I feel they are no threat and I can be myself. Men are a big no no for me because of past childhood traumas. I just feel safer when men aren’t around really. Sharing this has just added to food for thought. I’ve been seeing a very good therapist every week for over a year now, I’m learning things I should of learned as a child. Sorry babbling on lol must needed to talk. If you’ve got to the end of my message, thanks for listening x from 38 meds per day to now 15!
Welcome to my world. 4 years ago my wife decided I was having an affair. I wasn’t. For 4 years I have pleaded and done everything in my power to convince her. Nothing works. The person concerned who I worked with ended up complaining to HR about being harassed by my wife and eventually my job became impossible and I left. She has tried to turn all 3 children against me. Now she has hit me with divorce. After 29 years for something that didn’t happen. I recognise all these traits but doesn’t help cope with the senseless loss of my life with her.
After suffering domestic violence I’m paranoid and I move a lot, it ruined my life and my children’s life. I fear everything I’m tired of living like this it’s so painful. I don’t even trust my judgment anymore
sorry to hear of your pain, but what has your situation got to do with PPD? Yours is a life experience and your paranoia has kept you and your family alive! Diagnosing or relating yourself to symptoms of PPD is idiotic!!
In the end, getting a divorce was good for me because I got away from my ex and can clearly see that after 30 years, he not only hold grudges for things that I never did, but he now has a new love interest who is worst than he is. I will never marry again. He is about to marry for the 3rd time! Our adult child must now deal with the constant verbal abuse and false accusations coming from both of them. She got herself into Therapy just to cope with the new drama. It's sad what these people do to their own blood relatives!
what the fuck does your sad story have to do with PPD and this video??? Verbal abuse, your divorce, holding grudges, blah blah blah? How the hell is that PPD???So over idiots diagnosing themselves or others. It's attention seeking, ignorant and abuses the help of those who really need it. Maybe find yourself a mahjong group, or better still, go volunteer somewhere.
She’s very well spoken like my fellow commentators are saying, but it’s been a very long while since I’ve heard someone this intelligent speak honestly watching doctors and police men and the other true heroes of the country work reall gives me joy and I mean that because they just make you feel better about wherever you are in life because they made it to becoming heroes and that means so can you.
Ive met this person. A friend from childhood I'll call T. She fits all of this, and has since she was a little kid. At least since 8 years old. I was friends with T, and she was incredibly toxic. One time, I asked T not to interrupt another friend, and to please wait until she was done sharing her idea to give her own idea for the choreography, and T told our entire grade that I was racist. I walked into the lunchroom, and every single person shot daggers at me, and I had no idea why until people started scolding me. I hid in the bathroom crying all of lunch and through the next period because of it. Parents had to be called. It was bad. This wasnt the first time T had done stuff like this, and her mother is just as bad, so the school asked me to apologize just so we could all move on with our lives. 🙄 I feel very resentful about that, even 21 years later. T is even worse today than she was back then. Thank God she lives thousands of miles away from me now. T is a poisonous person, and hurts everyone she interacts with.
I think our hearts go out to dear "T". Calling a person who is struggling (according to you) with PPD "poisonous" "incredibly toxic" etc really does expose who YOU really are! Your incredibly boring, LONG winded, choreographed and narcissistic version of what happened with you and "T" really paints a picture. You try to convince us that you yourself are the victim, while exposing the manipulative and entitled bully you really are. Maybe you could do with viewing a few of Dr Ramani's videos on Narcissistic Personality Disorder. And yes, THANK GOD our dear "T" lives thousands of miles away from you!!!! xx
Down to the frozen food section Dr. Ramani, over the brand of orange juice I chose. I grabbed minute maid. He wanted Tropicana. Cussed me out and made me feel like a three-year-old in the juice aisle. You can’t make this stuff up.
I just can't get over how accurate she is. Thank you SO MUCH for the advice about not texting. We have had WARS because of texting so the other day when he sent a text, I called him back and said, I'm not texting you anymore because they said it was a big No-No for PPD. Ever since he saw your other video, I think he sees himself in what you said and it has really helped. I know there is no cure right now but I seriously have faith that you are coming close to some form of treatment. OMG. Even when you just talked about the compliments! WOW! He hates when I say kind things to him. Now, I know why. It's mind-blowing.
I believe a person in my apartment building has this in addition to schizophrenia. As far as I can tell she has no awareness of it. she is convinced that everyone is trying to ruin her life. She has a daughter and it clearly affects her daughters wellbeing in addition to hurting other people because she is constantly trying to retaliate against nothing. She believes she's fighting back but she is just being the aggressor. Waking us in the middle of the night and calling the police on people for nothing. What can we do? I'm honestly afraid of what she may do.
Omg, I just finished watching this segment and my husband has all 7. Yes ALL 7 of them he is constantly doing. I’m at my wits end with him. I started watching you when I started researching why my husband acts the way he does. So first it was narcissistic behaviors and gaslighting. It felt like he was intentionally making you life hell. Then I just continued to watch. One video after another and some of the traits of so many different problems are spot on to my husbands behavior. But this video he hit every single one. All 7 he will cover almost every day.
my father is like this he doesn't trust my mom at all loves to control me and my mom. it really annoys me he mostly trusts only his friends makes me the reason why I don't want to be married because I believe history repeats it self
Yes to all. The last one especially. My ex always always thought I was cheating or I somehow planned random encounters with people. The loyalty factor means so much to him....as he would say you are for me or against me
Dr. Ramani & Kyle, you both totally rock!! The content from this channel is always delivered with crystal clear clarity!! Thank you for keeping us informed & providing us with the tools necessary to live well!!
I was married to a PPD person. It was hell. Thinking everyone was out to get him, including me. Thinking he was being followed, even in his work place. A stranger was taking to him, admired his truck, said good luck with your truck. He took that a a threat! So many insane stories I could tell.
Also, you can't use logic and reason to show them what they are perceiving is inaccurate because that makes you part of it. If you say let's go to the authorities to investigate it they refuse because they'll claim three authorities are in on it or will be fooled so it's impossible to deal with.
I wish she would talk about how PTSD can be related to this. I understand why is important to list signs of each disorder but human beings are very complex. I used to be very paranoid, and over the years (after a lot of therapy, meditation and yoga practice), I have become less and less preoccupied on how people respond to me. I think that not feeling safe as a child (shame, guilt, abandonment, and neglect ) has a lot to do with paranoid personality. However, I think genetics play a role in it as well. I also believe that there are degrees of paranoia.
I'm not paranoid I can feel people when they dislike me but I'm delusional whatever I'm so sick of labels defend yourself one x and they throw the dsm book at ya ...people are shit that is reality unfortunately.
I worked with a paranoid man. He created a very unpleasant work place. He kept dossiers on his coworkers, i.e., what time they left work. He would also do calculations to determine how much money everyone made, amount of their mortgages, car notes, etc. It was mind boggling.
I had a friend who had PPD (although she didn't know). So, so sad. In the end, she started to question me and if I was also after her in this group (bare in mind I have never met any of her friends). She would bring it up each time, but forget that she had already asked me a million times. In the end I she became so paranoid, she closed her blinds shut worried people were coming into her house. She asked if I saw them 😬. I always wondered where her paranoia stemmed from, like did she have a traumatic past etc.
You just nailed it. I was dealing with a paranoid partner, my girlfriend..my soul..I still love her..but she started suspecting me, everytime my phone is busy or I'm online. She blocked me 'n' number of times. 2 days back she just blasted at me & changed her age old number & took a new sim. Now I've no idea where she is. I really wanted to help her. But I couldn't convince her that she's paranoid. Now I'm totally broken down .I know she too is. But I'm helpless..😪
You described my day yesterday. Now it's Easter, took her a basket and left it. She came out in a shroud and sunglasses. I love her and wanna save her, and feel like I do and can, until things go south every few days. A vicious cycle. How are you a year later? Plz hit me back!
I was partnered with a PPD sufferer 30 years ago. It was years before I accepted that I was not in the wrong! 24-7-365, "Youre cheating on me. Stealing from me. Taking advantage if me. Lying to me. You dont love me." Apply lather rinse repeat.
My sister was very paranoid when she was young. I couldn’t understand why. I dug a little deeper and I found that she was being verbally abused by a teacher. The teacher caused the whole class to mistreat my sister. Finally another teacher saw what was going on and put a stop to it. It did a lot of damage to her psyche. It still makes me very angry.
This has been eye opening. My family has been suffering greatly in dealing with my sister who, apparently based on this video, has PPD - We need more content on this disorder. How do we deal with these types of people. What does treatment look like? Thank you again Dr. Ramani 🙏
@@joyofjess my brother has it and i feel the same, it has destroyed the family. we are all angry and we don't talk to each other nicely because we are frustrated.
Can you please make a video about bipolar disorder? I feel like the videos that are already out there only focus on type 1. I have recently been diagnosed with type 2, and it's hard for me to understand more about the disorder, when I feel like type 1 may not apply to me, since I have not been diagnosed with it. Thank you for continuously helping us learn more about really important topics.
I have PPD and I get what you are saying . but it's not that simple. I also feel really bad for my partner for having to deal with my shit everyday . but I'll end up accusing him or picking a fight with them the next time I misunderstand something.
@@MirrorMirror666 Yeah, I realize that it's not completely the person's fault... but that doesn't mean I have to put up with it. If someone keeps running me over with his car, it makes little difference whether it's intentional or not. I'm not going to keep standing in front of his car.
I've always thought that people who are always accusing people of cheating are actually cheaters (projection). There's an expression: "One doesn't look behind the door unless he has stood there himself."
My wife had Paranoid Personality Disorder. We had a relationship for 20 years. Everything I did me and everyone else it was always wrong. Those people are impossible to satisfy.
It’s valid that your wife wasn’t good to you and others around her, but do not bring people with PPD down as a whole just because of one person you experienced. It causes immense damage and makes you seem like a close minded person. You cannot just say ‘those people are impossible to satisfy’, you don’t know every person with PPD, and not every person with PPD is going to be toxic to those around them.
My wife had these. She's 32 when we married and divorced quickly...we rushed into marriage, and I hope you would get to know your partner better. Before, I told her to seek help for her anxiety, but I could not convince her. I just researched online and assumed she had GAD. She even said she would not trust counselors of similar race as me and certain races. She said I was the one who needed anger management. I never swore as bad as this in my life. I had called police about 3 times just so they can help me get in our apartment and get her out of the apartment. She had called police on me twice. I got arrested once and she had no idea what's going on during our days in court. She loved me a lot she said. Even when divorced, she constantly reminds me that she loved me and she says it was my fault I "ruined her life." There's a really strong guilt I have, because she was still not aware she has this condition and there's nothing I could do to help her. There are times she just seem so nice and cute as if we had never fought. Then if I ever mention a certain word or phrase, that triggers her, it just turns our wonderful day to hell. Before, she had hidden a retractable disposable cutter beside her bed. She also kept a big knife in her backpack. She was genuinely sweet and I considered her my soulmate. We were so good together. This disorder was just something I hope would have a cure for. There are times I feel really sad for giving up on our relationship. I always thought it could become worse as she gets older, and I wouldn't be able to handle it. 1. Suspect other people are harming or deceiving them with no real evidence = constantly confides in me that her coworkers are listening in her phone, stalking her in public 4. Read into a hidden or threatening meaning in messages that aren't truly there 5. Unforgiving and consistently bear grudges = reminds me it was my fault 6. Perceive people are attacking their character and others don't see it = from her stories that she always get assigned to do the least desirable tasks, not given promotion 7. Recurrent suspicion about their partner's fidelity = accuses me of cheating; unlocked my phone; asks who i am with when i am out
You did the right thing by leaving her, otherwise you would start having PPD symptoms, I went through the same thing , but in my case she was lying left and right , did you experience the same thing ?
@@alank4223 She soaked my GoPro video camera in water to destroy it. She was not able to get the memory card, so she tried to destroy the camera instead. I saw a piece of her fingernail (with matching nail polish to her nails that she had polished a few days earlier) stuck within a tiny gap on the exterior body of the GoPro. When I confronted her about my video camera, she denied tampering with it and denied destroying it in water. She was more secretive, though. She would keep silent when I questioned her about various things. Sometimes, she would just act clueless, as if she couldn't recall an event. Sometimes she pretends she couldn't understand my question. Now that I am lonely, I begin speaking to myself, and I am so aware of it. I even tell myself outloud to stop speaking to myself, hahaha.
@@alank4223 I'm so sorry to you guys, I am going through the same thing, my gf lies so much and argues agressively, calls police and had me arrested once, and it's all my fault! Really a sad conditiion, it really is, hope you guys are okay
It feels like you're walking in a minefield with people like this. I live with someone who decided to gaslight me for a year because I didn't accept his daughter's friend request on Facebook! I don't even use facebook.
May well be some narcissistic tendencies then. Often heard but only recently really learned they're interconnected, especially the covert narcissism it seems.
@@LifeDIY sorry you have to deal with that! Definitely sounds like he is trying to control you/the situation by having you apologize then not accepting... just games to manipulate and control.
It's exhausting, absolutely anything can be read into which is totally unrelated in context. It's almost verging on delusional. Walking on eggshells all the time.
I piss someone off, I'm insensitive. They piss me off, hey, I'm hypersensitive. Glad to know I need someone else to evaluate how I feel as they (not I) are the gold standard for what is too much or not enough. When someone tells me the criteria is normalcy, and I travel somewhere (other country) and find the standards are vastly different, my conclusion is that normal is a measure of culture, not people per se. You might find if you touch a stranger in Brazil (gently) you get a smile. Same touch in the USA and you get a scowl. The older I get, the less important the judgement of normal becomes, as it has become obvious to me it is entirely arbitrary and varies from place to place and time to time.
So true. About sensitive people. If someone says to me - be careful, I'm sensitive - it feels weird, cause often these people are sensitive only when it comes to their feelings but not feelings of others. They can easily hurt other people but others are not allowed to hurt them back, cause they are "sensitive", aha
thank god. i have paranoid ideation (ptsd related) and i was scared i had this but i don’t. i’m not this defensive at all but my mom is narcissistic and my dad has a ton of socioptahic traits. i grew up in a horrible household state and i was bullied until 9th grade so now i’m extremely paranoid but i’m not this extreme at all. thank god and i’m so sorry to people who suffer from PPD or who’s partner does
My father was diagnosed with this many years ago. He thought he was being watched by the government. He sold his farm and his marriage degenerated quickly because my Mom couldn't tolerate his behavior. (This was in the early/mid sixties when Tim Leary and Ram Dass were living just to the south in Millbrook and G. Gordon Liddy was the county prosecutor.) The rift in their marriage was the story of me and my siblings' childhood. My Mom fought to get a divorce and my father's brother hired lawyers to stall and prevent her from doing so. Years later I would learn that Dad's engineer brother had a certain job with the government that none of us including my father knew about. Back in the cold war it was of course common for the government to watch the families of their "asset" so they could be used as bargaining chips to make sure their asset stayed on the straight and narrow. So yes, odds were our family was watched as he feared. He didn't know why and he developed paranoid conspiracies on his own. So it makes sense to me now why my uncle championed my father in trying to prevent the divorce. I learned from my Grandmother that they fought all the time as children and were very different politically. My uncle knew my father was watched and why and felt partly responsible for the failing marriage. I don't blame the government for what happened to my father, I believe his mental health was probably already on a slippery slope. Just another cold war casualty.
Not trying to diagnose anyone especially my husband but I think he has quite the list of narcissistic traits and paranoid traits. It's exhausting to deal with....
I lived exactly the frozen food aisle trauma and alike episodes including texts, co workers, calls, Facebook etc with a partner for three years! Unimaginable hurt, pain, and broken heart I suffered. He refused to seek help because was living in denial. It was others having issues but him. I wish if I knew about this disorder sooner. I feel sorry for him. Knowing what he was suffering breaks my heart.
I have the same issue going on right now and we are now separated and feel so bad for him. But he is in super denial. Smh so hard and I would of exhausted every effort for him. What do you do just pray for them.
I had a neighbor like this. This woman was angry all of the time and was so hung up on everyone breaching her version etiquette. I heard a lot of "how dare you" and slamming of doors and windows.
I'm glad it's a common trait for people with this condition to want to escape everyone and live in isolation. I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. I feel at peace when I'm by myself and being around people puts me on edge so often that it becomes exhausting
My girlfriend has been in isolation due to this fof a decade. It done her no service. Now she constsntly tslks in hef house while alone and "hears clairaudidnt
I hate it but men trigger me just looking at me cuz I am a dude you even look at me longer than a second I'm willing too break arms but I miss women but now that I'm older they look hateful too so now public just makes me suicidal so many miserable looking human bags of trash .
I came here because I'm currently watching my aunt and uncle's house and their dogs while their family is away on a cruise. Last night, I was writing on my laptop next to a window and closed blinds and I heard a "helllloooo~" outside the window, almost like it was in a yodel or a drunk man. It was a very clear voice and I could literally feel my heart sink into my stomach. Adrenaline was kicking and I froze in place for about 2 hours. I couldn't move from that spot in fear of my own life because I thought someone was outside and wanted to get in. I couldn't remember if I had locked the back door or not. I also heard whispering between two people a few times as well. I had a full on panic attack in that recliner and didn't sleep that night at all. I freaked out in my group chat of friends and the next morning, a friend DM'd me and mentioned this so now I'm doing research. Edit: Some context, I've been having similar things like this for years ever since I was little. Always in the middle of the night. This wasn't just a one time thing but this specific time was the most intense I've had it. I also have severe trust issues. I believe everyone is lying to me when they talk to me and I don't trust anyone in my life, even my closest friends, so I keep things bottled up.
I will say we don't take compliments well because we feel there's something sarcastic or mean or vindictive behind people's kindness there's always something hiding and creeping around behind someone's kindness they always have an agenda basically..
How about a series on differences between psychiatric illness versus stress related symptoms caused by poverty. Those in poverty get diagnosed at high rates for psychiatric illness because they exhibit symptoms. However they may not actually have the same internal issues with those diagnosed with mental health illnesses. They may in fact just be dealing with extreme stressors that there are little to no solutions for. Should there be a difference in treatment for this group? Such as helping them with acceptance of a difficult situation or with resiliency with in the stressful system constraints. I believe those in poverty are being retramatized by misdiagnosis or by inappropriate treatment. Acknowleding that a person's internal mechanisms, such as cognition and perception, are in fact intact gives a person confidence. Often those in poverty get treated in a way that invalidates the reality that their lives are in fact quite chaotic and that most cannot escape that reality for a multitude of reasons beyond their control. Dealing with this fact instead of brushing it aside or saying it isn't true would help those in difficult situations to stop pathologizing themselves and for others to stop doing it as well.
What if the paranoid is right? What if they really are out to get him? That part about texting. You might just totally do away with cell phones in the factory.
It's still paranoia unless there's some basis for the knowledge. Mental health professionals have no network of spies to verify that the suspicion really is unreasonable or not. In practice, if it's justified suspicion, evidence does show up eventually and there's usually signs that can be pointed to as to why the patient is feeling like that.
Its not paranoia if its actually happening. It cant be. We cannot administer diagnosis to victims of narcissistic, invisible crimes only to just wait and see what happens.
That's true. Our Intuition gives us valid fears which does not have immediate evidence to show. I also feel sometimes even the fear of some ppd person or psychotic is valid.
I believe human instincts are powerful. We are animals. We are all well built with this. The fears and not trusting , some threats felt yet there is no evidence is based on intuition and our instincts way of warning us about danger. They say listen to the inner voice. #SelfListeners
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I could have this.. after a marriage to an abusive narcissist.....it took a long time to get away from him. Now if a person shows any tendency to control me or control my thinking...or talk mean to me..I'm done..I look rite through them if I encounter them in public..kind of like blocking them..and nothing can convince me to unblock them...nothing...they become non-existent to me..😎
Can u pls upload the way to handle a person with ppd.
Could you make a video about hppd and visual snow explaining the differences? I think it’s a very misunderstood topic and it would help a lot of people out there. Also it would raise awareness for doctors and researchers to find a treatment.
How can I overcome being a paranoid individual. I need some tips on how to manage my intense paranoid emotions. Thank you
Can you please make a video on Temporal Lobe Epilepsy and the difference between TLE and Schizophrenia, and what would they do if both are in a single person. I mean their individual effects and mixed effects on a single person???
Please make a video on this.
She’s so well spoken and intelligent it’s actually mesmerising. She doesn’t even stutter, doesn’t need time to think. Wow.
Probably been doing public speaking her entire life
Shes very confident because she really knows her stuff! I just love listening to her!
Hey if your moma brings you to this country in her shopping bag and you got to rely on SNAP you’ll see how good of an expert you become on any subject because you don’t wanna have your kid growing up on snap
Watch how I’ll get attacked for this comment
@@rasul407 OK I can’t wait
@@debbiorvis9305 😆
1. Suspect other people are harming or deceiving them with no real evidence
2. Preoccupied with the devotion and loyal of the people around them
3. Reluctant to confide in other people because they are convinced it will be used against them
4. Read into a hidden or threatening meaning in messages that aren't truly there
5. Unforgiving and consistently bear grudges
6. Perceive people are attacking their character and others don't see it
7. Recurrent suspicion about their partner's fidelity.
Sunset, ok now I think my parents are gonna kill me in my sleep, shit. I do have this disorder...
I feel like everyone is lying. Even if they maybe telling truth but I feel they are lying. And I have been lied by someone many times so maybe it is the cause of that. I don't know if I do have this disorder! I am so unsure.
So basically over cautious and over suspicious? That's just a malfunction of one or two brain regions. Could've easily said over firing of neurons in parts of brain which are responsible for maintaining your ego and self worth. This is the reason we shouldn't be making a pseudo science out of bible. You just took two simple traits and blew them into 7 motherfuckin traits lmao. It's almost like ten commandments, all of which say the same thing, treat others the way you wanna be treated and treat me special cuz I'm your god bitches. Why tf are you people obsessed with over complicating things?
@@samyangworld5703 it's not a disorder lmao it's just being over cautious cuz of being hurt in past. Find a loyal partner and it'll go away like it never existed. Stop over thinking lol
@@samyangworld5703 The fact that you worry you have this likely means you don't, so don't worry ^^ While Milf Raider is a bit disrespectful, they are right
I have PPD, yes there can actually be a certain level of self awareness in it. What she didn't mention is that the paranoia seeps into EVERY aspect of your perspective and daily life, in any given situation your paranoia can run wild. Literally anyone or anything in existence can be seen as evil or threatening towards you; ANYTHING. The most random things can trigger my paranoia and make me angry and threatened. For a while I was convinced many people were pure evil and treating me harshly. I had a grudge against every single person I knew in my entire life, which were all my family and friends and I felt the constant need to fight back against everyone. But however I'm not always wrong, people can be complete shit and they can intentionally hurt you for little reason, sometimes to control you or assert dominance. I've been able to spot mistreatment and stand my ground against it so that's a plus
Hey, this sounds like me, but don't you think it's a bit related to BPD?
@@XPrincess30 Yes it can be, I believe certain aspects of it are a part of BPD. But the full disorder can also be co-morbid with BPD, I think it's quite common
I suffer from paranoia. I used to just categorize it as anxiety, but I am also extremely self aware. So I’m aware of how irrational I am, but I can’t stop myself from going there. I can relate to the damage on familiar relationships, I’m a very lonely person. I would so much rather be this way without any awareness
My daughter sounds just like you. We are looking for treatment. Has anything helped you?
@@michelleschoen4275 Unfortunately not much has helped, it's one of those things thats always there. But I've found there are ways of easing it a bit, if I have control in a situation I'm not as suspicious about other peoples intentions. That's what I'd suggest with your daughter, let her take more control when you interact with her as in she's the one talking more or initiating most interactions. Also be careful with your comments around her because she could read the wrong messages very easy, never straight-up insult or criticize her because that would be detrimental to your relationship as she'll hold a big grudge. It's a tricky thing honestly because a paranoid easily finds any way to get mad or hold something small against a person. Hope this helps
I've been betrayed a lot, so I had this developed in me over the years.
Same I’m struggling with it
Or maybe they didnt really betrayed you.. its just your paranoia?
how did you get over it and how long did it take you?
In my case, I became desensitized to betrayal and could care less.
I lost all my friends just because of this
Omg I just can't stop watching these videos with them! She's so intelligent and the chemistry of their conversation is so nice, It just flows. Really, It's amazing to just watch it.
it is i have it
Once I became self aware I immediately became calm and peaceful and avoided over thinking things...
thats nice. its hell when youre slipping into a psychosis, even though you know these thoghts are irratiinal, your brain just keeps convincing you its real and its really exhausting to fight against these thoughts with yout rational thinking when youre starting to depersonalize. fuck man, it was scary
Man I hate overthinking shit it’s draining
@@alexoswald932 I've been going through that for a few years. Only recently became aware once I had one of my paranoid delusions proven impossible to me even after spending more than a year obsessing to an extreme extent over. Even now sometimes my mind would try to slip back into that paranoia. Now I'm dealing with a new one. My paranoias are pretty specific and always revolve around people who are close to me and not being able to be trusted because of their sinful actions. This one might be the most damaging because it literally and figuratively hits close to home. Every single creek and thud sets of a chain of racing thoughts that mentally burns. Unfortunately I think I found evidence for this paranoia or at least my brain perceived it to be evidence and it just makes it so much harder to deal with. Snapping back and forwards between delusion and reality. Can't even tell if I'm having auditory hallucinations or i just obsess about the tiniest sounds in the house. If this specific paranoid delusion turns out to be true, someone is gonna die
I have autism and also over think things often.
Yeah and crime and theft is on the rise. I’m scared someone is going to harm me or my family. My car was stolen …and now my dad is receiving phone calls, “give us money or we will harm you”
Ive had this disorder since around 10 yrs old. I consider myself moderately intelligent but in a class room enviroment I was worthless because of this. I would sit and pretend to melt into the situation but in reality I was almost paralyzed with the fear that the whole class was watching my every move .Every second in a classroom was agony and nothing could be absorbed.I would never ever ask a question as I know it would be my down fall .My father was abusive and would do anything to destroy my confidence in any situation. I now know this was the trigger for this. Im glad I finally know the name for it .
How did you overcome the disorder
@@manilamerkgamingNever did !
@@tobysirus4996maybe not yet. But you can do it! You’re stronger than your disorder even if you don’t realize it
There really are watching your every move because there are a bunch of insecure bullies And they have to do that to feel better about themselves
This sounds like someone with trauma from being raised by narcissists
Nvm i got to the wedding table part
I was
yep 😭
@@nora_8080 that is what i was thinking
Yes
That disorder sounds exhausting to have or live with.
Had a covert narc at home with severe paranoid tendencies. It _is_ exhausting, especially when you're constantly blamed by the person you love to be up to something evil. Asking for the reason you're "trying to distract" them or plain "lying". Or the narc jumps in and I'm not after her because she's "not important enough" to me.
Recently (long after breakup) she told me to stop trying to hack into her email. She "knew" I'm trying because she often had a bad internet connection when she was trying to read mails on her phone. It's a pity to see.
It is i can barly sleep at night
I'm 12 and I cant be alone especially at night I hate people I feel like they are all out to kill me rape me torture me and I feel a lot less masculine from this and I am Indeed alone rn and I'm writing this to cope with the fear
@Jeff Peate right after I wrote that I heard shuffling noises and scratches outside my room I freaked out and froze I really wanted to move and get a weapon but I couldn't then I just got angry because of the wasted time I could've spent with my mom the wasted hours just sitting in my room fearing the unknown I love my mom and felt bad I could go outside and spend time with her and these memorys just fueled my anger. I screamed and raged and just started venting loudly and got up shaking a bit with a water bottle thinking I was about to be murdered I didn't even say my last goodbyes or called the cops. I turned to the corner it was dark and I chucked the water like a fucking idiot and you know what I saw.
It was just my cat. It was just my fucking cat I didn't Chuck the water at her just near her and I was still mad but mad at myself for being such a dissapointment. She is laying with me now and I feel a lot less scared and better now knowing I'm safe.
Her name is Luna btw.
I feel like I have a lot less fear about being alone now but I don't think I can handle the dark still heh.
I cleaned up the water don't worry
@Jeff Peate and thanks for the recommendation I shall try it
This is definitely true! I deal with that on a daily basis. It’s very draining and very confusing. It’s a serious mental issue. It destroys everything around them. Thank you for sharing your knowledge
Yes it is!! But at least is awesome if you can have some insight into this behaviour!! Its a game changer :)
Yes, I am currently dealing with a person like this daily. Exhausting. Very... At first I couldn't figure out what was wrong with them.
@@pismobiics825bro I m having same issue with my father
Whole home is a negative energy ..
I’m paranoid schizophrenic and it’s so bad. You feel like everyone is watching you no matter where you go. You can be having fun with your friends one minute then something unrelated to you triggers it and you feel like everyone is making a joke out of you. Everyone’s plotting against you and you think they’re all in on it. Be with a group of family or friends then feel like they’re all getting closer to you and feeling suffocated. This guy I just recently dated and I started talking again a few days ago after I moved a town over, blocked him from everything and changed my number a month ago. Told me the way I’m living is unhealthy and you know what I thought? I thought he was recording me and told him he was probably planning plotting to make a joke out of me again. That’s when I realized how paranoid I was. What’s the difference between how I perceive the world and those around me as opposed to someone who suffers from agoraphobia?
I love that Kyle always brings his own issues, it's actually kind of funny. I wish you the best Kyle.
I wonder if bring consistently "gaslighted" by someone with narcissistic personality disorder, can lead to developing PPD? I would think it's not unreasonable if you've had your reality challenged constantly in this way.
Its what happened to me. Paranoia isnt paranoia if the situation is actually happening. I refuse to be labeled as paranoid when I know I've been dealing with gaslighting my entire life. The gaslighter will never say they've been gaslighting so it isnt something we will ever have answers to. A diagnosis is slapped on someone being gaslighted and manipulated but the narcissist gets a pass? Um, no. My solution is just to find things that make me happy and take it day by day.
@@iamloveabundance4102That is exactly how to handle it. Be defiant in your own reality. Once a narcissist discovers they can screw with your head they will do it for as long as they can get away with it. Stay strong.
My family member displays all of these traits, and she is constantly gaslighting anyone who doesn't agree & apologize for their perceived wrong doings. It seems that there's some obvious overlap with PPD & narcissism
I believe so. My mother was manipulative, paranoid and narcissistic. We moved around all the time, usually never staying longer 2-3 in one place. I could go on but I've never has a stable home and she always blamed me for her faults, projected, called me abnormal and bad luck and months after breaking free she died. I've been spiralling out if control and even though I'm in a stable place I can't relax. My OCD and paranoia is on high alert looking for everything wrong and obsessing and it's all because of her. I'm trying to heal but I'm literally spending every day in fear wasting my life yet I can't stop ruminating and being afraid of the intrusive thoughts and reacting like they're real
@@yelyahfan88x94 I totally understand. Have you been to therapy? It sounds like you feel that you have a monkey on your shoulder constantly criticizing you, even though your mom is no longer here. I understand that that constantly level of control and lying can cause someone to feel paranoid. It’s like you need a detox from it. Maybe you can practice journaling all of the positive things that people say to you, and practice challenging the OCD thoughts. Like take a risk and don’t follow through with the compulsion one day, and accept that what happens, happens, and it has nothing to do with whether or not you followed through with a ritual. This is what I am learning to do. In some ways, being in a controlled and manipulated environment is comforting in a weird and toxic way, so you have to slowly start believing in yourself. Be very careful who you let into your inner circle too and try to keep interactions as positive as possible while you are healing! Maybe this will help you? This is what I am working on for now! I am also trying to express myself if something concerns me and not just bury it - learning to trust my instincts more. God bless you!! 🙏
I have this. I was convinced my ex wife was having an affair with HER BROTHER!! Looking back it’s madness. ’m not going to lie to you guys, it’s very hard. Very lonely. You see the world in a complete flip to the way the masses see the world.
I succumb to horrendous trauma as a kid as well as being mistreated by the authorities as well as being accused of something I didn’t do (the justice system and the police).
Basically, my limbic system is hyper-aroused to keep me alive.
Great videos! Thank you :)
I am happy you are ok and on the road to recovery. I wish I can help my husband but he is in complete denial. Smh
Are you really paranoid if people are actually out to get you?
my condolences to your ex.
How did u recover? My mother suffers from this but she refuses to acknowledge it and seek treatment. Please give me advice
How did you get help ?
So much improvement with the production quality of this channel, the set, the lighting, the sound.
Dr. Ramani consistenlty rocks and her clarity is like a fine diamond. I am glad she has her own channel.
She really knows how to help you understand
This ain't her channel though.
It's 3:52AM and I'm feeling paranoid about having paranoid personality disorder. Hope all is well in your lives
This must be difficult for the paranoid person as well as everyone involved. The fact that there are people wanting to help is very comforting and even quite emotional because of the guilt that comes with “counter attacks”, it’s very confusing to be told that your reality is false all of the time. How can a person with PPD continue to be self-aware and not seesaw into paranoia to the point where it is damaging? For example, how exactly can a person control their suspicions that others are trying to hurt them? Any advice or other comments are welcome, no suspicions attached
Dr. R seems like a motherly figure. She seems really genuine too I’m happy that she’s willing to help and not demonise others. Thank you Dr R
I'm literally getting so anxious watching these videos
She proves you can be a genius and very kind at the same time, amazing! Her clients are so blessed!
This is my mother. Holy cow! Finally. I understand.
I feel you!
Sadly this is my mother as well 😔
@lilmil shut up
My mom too...
When you find out, it allllll makes sense. Why they are so odd. And do and say the darndest things.
I auto like Dr Ramani vids. Blessings to all
I also do the same. Sorry but your profile pic is very disturbing. Dont get me wrong it has nothing to do with bicycle but somehow it feels like when some makes a strong screeching noise by using a chalk on a black board.
@lilmil huh huh?
I've often wondered if my mom has paranoid personality disorder. The majority of any friends she makes will cease to be her friends after a short time. One time she cut a friendship short because they said "Your new haircut looks great!" but she perceived it with a tone of ingenuity. The friend was literally just complimenting her hair (I was there and witnessed the conversation) but she perceived some sort of alterior meaning in there and literally decided she never wanted anything to do with them ever again. Can you imagine?
That is just one example that's easy to explain but I can think of endless amounts of instances with all different people, some of our dearest family friends, as well as her husband, my father. But the confusing thing is, my sibling and I seem to be the only two people in the world that she isn't paranoid about- so does that mean she couldn't possibly have this personality disorder since it has to be pervasive across all of her interactions? Or do they ever have one or two individuals that they don't get that way with? Could it possibly be that because we are her own children, the unconditional love overrides any paranoia?
I don't think someone needs to have every symptom listed for them to have the disorder.
If it’s clear it’s clear. My 82-yr old mom has had obvious (tho undiagnosed, as far as I know) PPD for many yrs. She’s been in hospital a couple of times. She’s been awful to me (feels also like narcissism) but now she needs me, so now I have to be available as I’m the only one she trusts. It’s pretty maddening. So yes, a mother can have PPD and yet still be nice to her kids, and even trust them. If your sibling is helpful, be glad you have a sibling!
She probably trusts you both because you are her kids. She loves you
@@Maya-dc8cb Love is an interesting word here. As a mom I certainly hope/imagine my (adult) kids love me. But the love of a narcissist and PPD mom is super relative. The feeling of getting something back depends on the day, and the patience I have to put into our relationship. There’s no deep well of love and acceptance there the way you might generally think about love. In fact she’s been known to be truly mean and damaging to all of us. Sad I left my kids on the phone with her too long when they were young. We’re all ok now, but I have so many regrets. One of my kids can’t call her any more, and that’s very tough for her, she really doesn’t understand the damage she has caused and can cause.
@@lcflngnMy mom is 87 doesn’t trust anyone and I think has schizophrenia too. I don’t have anyone to help me with her and it’s very hard.
This is me. I struggle to trust people and always think my colleagues and boss want me to leave. I can't work out if its true or not
You are not a lone! As a veteran had bad experience while in the military. Now always feel like someone is out to get me.
Sadly, sometimes what you're feeling is true, and if you go to those people and ask them if they want you to leave, will they really tell you the truth? Possibly not. So it's a difficult situation to be in, especiall in a world where integrity and sincerity are at an all time low.
I've heard that paranoid personality disorder is often misdiagnosed as covert narcissism/borderline. Can you go into detail about how similar and how different they are?
They do sound very similar.
I know someone who has ppd. I also know people who are borderline. It is very different than borderline. I would personality describe it as a general distrust of others and being very suspicious or have a heightened distrust. It is different than borderline. I can see why someone might confuse the two but I think with firsthand experience you will see a HUGE difference. PPD can get bad or suddenly announce itself under a bout of severe anxiety and lack of sleep. It is not consistent.
@Don Kapsalon the BPD is a bit more than the oh I can't trust you and testing. For example, I have symptoms of both but I do trust people a lot yet I sometimes don't because of my fear of abandonment. The fear of abandonment which for me triggers the PPD symptoms. I'm not sure if this clear but I tried to explain how it can be, as much as I could haha
Helen K
The moment you ignore these suspicions, that’s when people fuck you over/betray you.
They are often co-morbid. There is a school of thought that they are sort of a collection of symptoms of PTSD and should be treated as such.
This is so interesting. I sent a letter to my narc mother saying it was her turn to ring, but I wanted to hear something happy (did this as every phone call was 'woe is me') I actually asked friends to read it so I could be sure my message was clear and respectful. Anyway she's interpreted that i said she was never to ring me again. She always put words in my mouth when I was a child, but I was astounded and devastated that she could misconstrue the written word. But this post has helped me. Thank you.
Jenny P let her think it means to never ring you again. And don’t ring her. You have a narc mother - do yourself a favour and go no contact.
@@andrewhaywood3853 Depending on how severe it is , this is probably the best advice. I don't agree with most people who feel shared blood lines means automatic loyalty and you have to put up with them. I say if anybody is psychologicaly abusing you, you have every right to cut them out.
@@bobbiellison4315 Yes, because if you don't then it ruins your whole life, and they think it's ok to act like that. (Even though they are family).
A lot of my family members think that my mom has NPD but I never really felt like that was her. This hits the nail on the head.
There can be a lot of crossover with cluster B disorders.
My poor mom had this, but was not diagnosed until just months before her death. This discussion exactly describes her behavior. It was difficult for our whole family.
forgive her it is not her fault its mental illness
Sorry to hear that about your mom. I lost my mom April 2020. I miss her terribly.
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I don’t wanna diagnose myself, but DAMN ...I really, really resonated with every single one of these. Every single one. I waited for even one that I didn’t understand but.. damn :/
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@@darrylnelson2399 wtf?
I resonate with like 5
Don't mix up paranoia with common sense. Nothing is wrong with being cautious and staying alert when dealing with other people. There really are too many of those willing to take advantage of others. People need to deserve to be trusted.
I think people forget that you can have some symptoms without having a personality disorder. I'm really not a fan of people self-diagnosing and speaking for the group they think they belong to since I imagine it only makes it more difficult for those that have been diagnosed by a professional.
It reminds me of getting sick, scrolling on webmd & thinking I have cancer or something simply because I meet some of the symptoms.
Even if you dont have the disorder though, theres still a lot of great advice in these videos.
I really enjoy the comments on these videos too, they can be incredibly comforting to know you arent alone in your struggles as well as allowing us to look deeper into ourselves or allow people to better understand their loved one that have been diagnosed. I know that if I was dealing with all of the mental health problems I currently have except in the 1920s, I'd probably be in a much darker place.
And if they're innocent you're paranoid. Even if it isn't common for you to be its still showing the trait of being paranoid.
Thats true but people who grew up n were raised around good people assume this is a disorder until u grow up n are raised n surrounded by liars thieves addicts immoral ppl.
It's honestly difficult not to be "paranoid" in this day and age
Caution is different than paranoia. If you’ve ever been with someone like this you may not know what it is, but it feels like toxic suspiciousness. They are always accusing you of being untruthful.
In fact they don’t only accuse you of deceit but they assuming it of you. You find yourself trapped in a vortex defending yourself against something you didn’t even know you didn’t do that they insist you did. If your head is spinning, trust me, that’s what it feels like.
my mother was in a severe car accident in 2009 which left her unable to work. She is not diagnosed with this, but this list was somewhat comforting. Now she’s at the point where she is convinced that her own family and friends have become perpetrators and “flying monkeys”. She’s constantly throwing out psychology terms and is convinced that we have a role in hacking her computer. We aren’t supposed to have our phones on around her because she’s convinced they are hacked. She thinks this will continue until she dies. She tries to show us evidence but feels like she can’t trust us with it most of the time. She’s now not letting any of my sisters friends and boyfriend come over. I love my mom but these false accusations that she fully believes in has torn me up inside. I feel for my mother deeply and I wish I was a better daughter.
My parents are like this a lot, and I am too. It’s ruining my life. The fear and paranoia. I’m trying to feel more free while staying safe and following my dreams.
im a v paranoid person but i think its due to growing up with a history of child sexual abuse, watching my parents have affairs while insisting they werent, being in a horrific abusive relationship when i was 14-16, and repeatedly being wronged by people i grew so fond of. its so hard for me to trust and im always aware of red flags.
Felt this
Do u feel better a year later
@@lucasessman1910 well... i was distrusting of some people in my life last year and it turns out i was more than right. i got rid of them and my life has been a lot more peaceful and quiet. trust your gut
How closely similar this is the exact events of my life makes me feel like I'm in the matrix. Always trust your gut. Being right on 100 predictions and thinking you're crazy to believe in your intuition is what's crazy. Is it really a mental disorder when people are actually proving your predictions even when you give them the benefit of the doubt?
You have to measure every single word you say or you type, because they take everything as personal.
Walking on eggshells through a minefield. Exhausting.
That’s so wrong...you have no idea what it’s like to live with this disorder..you are watching this video for the wrong reasons
This is something people with ppd do too. You have to be EXTREMELY careful about what you say, because if you say the wrong words, the people around you will use that and on a future attack on the base of that ONE time you did something wrong. When you have ppd, you just assume everyone is as paranoid as you are, so every single step and every single word you say is calculated to ensure that it can't be used as dangerous. Having ppd is a tiring asf disorder, not saying it isn't tiring to know someone with ppd, sure it is, but it's way more tiring to actually HAVE the disorder
Dr. Ramani is absolutely exceptional! To think she has cptsd and deals with self loathing is stunning given she is a genius. I suppose that’s what makes her compassionate and humble, relatable and lovable. Adore her!
the way this doctor talks about people with personality disorders is so completely crushing for ppl who actually have them to listen to, she sounds mocking and continually talks about how we won't ever get therapy, the focus is always on how we hurt others and never on how that is a huge generalisation and the suffering that ppl with personality disorders go through.
every person i know with or without a pd has hurt someone close to them before it's part of life
yes these disorders make ppl struggle with healthy relationships but that doesn't always mean hurting others constantly completely unaware of our behaviour
this channel has made me feel broken and unworthy of help despite being in therapy working through all my behaviours and trying to be better
please concider changing the way you talk about these issues and the harm you cause because when ppl search for information on their own disorders all that comes up is you talking about all the ways we hurt people and don't want to be helped
I agree, im glad i saw your comment bc i just posted one with similar feelings about the video. The HUGE difference and impact these videos could make, is to include the causes and reasons for these mental health issues/disorders, anx to express and UNDERSTANDING. The causes are the most important thing to highlight, only then can you treat the actual problem
i hope youre doing well and i wish you the best. Here if you need to talk ❤❤
I thought I might have this.
But if someone at work confronted me about the behavior I'm displaying, my response would be: let's go talk to HR and sort this out with a third-party present. NOT to deny and hold a grudge.
Watching this has made me realize that I've lived with people who have this.
No one wants to be with a person like this. I know by experience. They make your life miserable if you put up with them and give them chances without realizing they actually have a serious problem. They'll deny it if you finally confront them, of course. But the moment you do understand what's going on, it's both liberating and infuriating.
it is true i know what it is like being in relationship with them they would accuse you of the worst thing in the world you get abused all the time because of imagined insults or threats a covert narc i was friends with was paranoid one of the reasons i cut them of was the paranoia
Maybe it would be nicer to refer to the person you had bad experiences with as opposed to bashing a whole group of people based on your individual experience
It's true, it's tough to be around people with mental illnesses. Hopefully, in your liberation and infuration, you'll have some compassion towards the person now that you realize they're struggling with a mental illness, and perhaps not aware that they have one. It sucks to be on the receiving end. It's challenging to hold empathy for people when they've hurt us. However, if I knew someone had a mental illness, I would of course distance myself to protect myself, but still hold compassion for them. I'd hope the'dy get treatment, therapy, and if needed, medication so that they could heal or at least manage their symptoms.
Is this disease same as diesosheation disease and PTSD. I enjoy listening to her she has a pleasant voice and soothing calmness.
Mental issues in Japan are still not talked about as often as they should. I wish there was a doctor like this near where I live.
I was just thinking about the fact that I don't hear Japanese say the word 'social anxiety'. I think hikikomori and tokokyohi are types of social anxiety...
Doctor is spot on!! She really knows her stuff. I would LOVE for her to be my therapist. I’ve accepted (finally ) that I’m paranoid, the reason for this is it can’t be coincidental that I think and am certain that some people are out to make my life harder than it is…… I love children animals and the elderly as I feel they are no threat and I can be myself. Men are a big no no for me because of past childhood traumas. I just feel safer when men aren’t around really. Sharing this has just added to food for thought.
I’ve been seeing a very good therapist every week for over a year now, I’m learning things I should of learned as a child. Sorry babbling on lol must needed to talk. If you’ve got to the end of my message, thanks for listening x from 38 meds per day to now 15!
38 meds per day?
Jesus. Sounds like a miserable existence. I'm sorry. Grouping men in one big bad genre is a seriously fked up paranoia. Hope you get better.
Welcome to my world. 4 years ago my wife decided I was having an affair. I wasn’t. For 4 years I have pleaded and done everything in my power to convince her. Nothing works. The person concerned who I worked with ended up complaining to HR about being harassed by my wife and eventually my job became impossible and I left. She has tried to turn all 3 children against me. Now she has hit me with divorce. After 29 years for something that didn’t happen. I recognise all these traits but doesn’t help cope with the senseless loss of my life with her.
How did the children cope with her condition?
After suffering domestic violence I’m paranoid and I move a lot, it ruined my life and my children’s life. I fear everything I’m tired of living like this it’s so painful. I don’t even trust my judgment anymore
sorry to hear of your pain, but what has your situation got to do with PPD? Yours is a life experience and your paranoia has kept you and your family alive! Diagnosing or relating yourself to symptoms of PPD is idiotic!!
In the end, getting a divorce was good for me because I got away from my ex and can clearly see that after 30 years, he not only hold grudges for things that I never did, but he now has a new love interest who is worst than he is. I will never marry again. He is about to marry for the 3rd time! Our adult child must now deal with the constant verbal abuse and false accusations coming from both of them. She got herself into Therapy just to cope with the new drama. It's sad what these people do to their own blood relatives!
what the fuck does your sad story have to do with PPD and this video??? Verbal abuse, your divorce, holding grudges, blah blah blah? How the hell is that PPD???So over idiots diagnosing themselves or others. It's attention seeking, ignorant and abuses the help of those who really need it. Maybe find yourself a mahjong group, or better still, go volunteer somewhere.
She’s very well spoken like my fellow commentators are saying, but it’s been a very long while since I’ve heard someone this intelligent speak honestly watching doctors and police men and the other true heroes of the country work reall gives me joy and I mean that because they just make you feel better about wherever you are in life because they made it to becoming heroes and that means so can you.
Ive met this person. A friend from childhood I'll call T. She fits all of this, and has since she was a little kid. At least since 8 years old. I was friends with T, and she was incredibly toxic. One time, I asked T not to interrupt another friend, and to please wait until she was done sharing her idea to give her own idea for the choreography, and T told our entire grade that I was racist. I walked into the lunchroom, and every single person shot daggers at me, and I had no idea why until people started scolding me. I hid in the bathroom crying all of lunch and through the next period because of it. Parents had to be called. It was bad. This wasnt the first time T had done stuff like this, and her mother is just as bad, so the school asked me to apologize just so we could all move on with our lives. 🙄 I feel very resentful about that, even 21 years later.
T is even worse today than she was back then. Thank God she lives thousands of miles away from me now. T is a poisonous person, and hurts everyone she interacts with.
Who are you taking about? Dr Ramani ?
@@eart5657 No no no! I edited my post to make that clearer.
I love Dr. Ramani. ❤
I think our hearts go out to dear "T". Calling a person who is struggling (according to you) with PPD "poisonous" "incredibly toxic" etc really does expose who YOU really are! Your incredibly boring, LONG winded, choreographed and narcissistic version of what happened with you and "T" really paints a picture. You try to convince us that you yourself are the victim, while exposing the manipulative and entitled bully you really are. Maybe you could do with viewing a few of Dr Ramani's videos on Narcissistic Personality Disorder. And yes, THANK GOD our dear "T" lives thousands of miles away from you!!!! xx
I think there are so many people like this around you ..everywhere..
Down to the frozen food section Dr. Ramani, over the brand of orange juice I chose. I grabbed minute maid. He wanted Tropicana. Cussed me out and made me feel like a three-year-old in the juice aisle.
You can’t make this stuff up.
I just can't get over how accurate she is. Thank you SO MUCH for the advice about not texting. We have had WARS because of texting so the other day when he sent a text, I called him back and said, I'm not texting you anymore because they said it was a big No-No for PPD. Ever since he saw your other video, I think he sees himself in what you said and it has really helped. I know there is no cure right now but I seriously have faith that you are coming close to some form of treatment. OMG. Even when you just talked about the compliments! WOW! He hates when I say kind things to him. Now, I know why. It's mind-blowing.
I believe a person in my apartment building has this in addition to schizophrenia. As far as I can tell she has no awareness of it. she is convinced that everyone is trying to ruin her life. She has a daughter and it clearly affects her daughters wellbeing in addition to hurting other people because she is constantly trying to retaliate against nothing. She believes she's fighting back but she is just being the aggressor. Waking us in the middle of the night and calling the police on people for nothing. What can we do? I'm honestly afraid of what she may do.
She's right to be paranoid your posting about her online.
@@shan5193 yes!👍👍
@@Mangobaby-sz7pz bro what she’s just stating on something she can relate to within the video as well in real life.
@@DuFromThe7 reply to the one wrote that comment, not to me who just agreed with them😂
Get her some help??
I watch You Dr. Ramani extremely informative, knowledgeable Psychology tools, basically "Emotional Intelligence" and more.
Thank you
Both of your humor really shines here. The levity is useful for such a sensitive topic
Omg, I just finished watching this segment and my husband has all 7. Yes ALL 7 of them he is constantly doing. I’m at my wits end with him. I started watching you when I started researching why my husband acts the way he does. So first it was narcissistic behaviors and gaslighting. It felt like he was intentionally making you life hell. Then I just continued to watch. One video after another and some of the traits of so many different problems are spot on to my husbands behavior. But this video he hit every single one. All 7 he will cover almost every day.
Literally same thing with my husband. Its terrible 😥😥😥
my father is like this he doesn't trust my mom at all loves to control me and my mom. it really annoys me he mostly trusts only his friends makes me the reason why I don't want to be married because I believe history repeats it self
Same my husband also..living with him is so stressful..i think i am developing mental issues,because of him😪😪😪
😢 my husband too. I had to leave with the kids. I don’t know if we will make it
please try to get him to go to a therapist because if you leave him its just gonna make his disorder even worse and make him even more paranoid
I was diagnosed with BPD, PPD and persistent depressive disorder, and these videos are just soo refreshing and reassuring
9:50 The reaction to this story got me. Not getting a divorce for not getting seated at the right table!!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Yes to all. The last one especially. My ex always always thought I was cheating or I somehow planned random encounters with people. The loyalty factor means so much to him....as he would say you are for me or against me
Dr. Ramani & Kyle, you both totally rock!! The content from this channel is always delivered with crystal clear clarity!! Thank you for keeping us informed & providing us with the tools necessary to live well!!
This has been my life since 2016, I just started therapy 3 months ago, it feels like I'm learning to walk again.
Am kindah afraid to tell my dad.. Idk how will he react if I tell him that I need therapy.. being like this killing me alot
I wish you healing, and positive experiences from now on.
Ohhh this is her, this is so her! She hits 6 of the 7 very strongly! Wow, so much clarity!
I was married to a PPD person. It was hell. Thinking everyone was out to get him, including me. Thinking he was being followed, even in his work place. A stranger was taking to him, admired his truck, said good luck with your truck. He took that a a threat! So many insane stories I could tell.
Also, you can't use logic and reason to show them what they are perceiving is inaccurate because that makes you part of it. If you say let's go to the authorities to investigate it they refuse because they'll claim three authorities are in on it or will be fooled so it's impossible to deal with.
It’s the most insane feeling watching these videos and realizing someone in your life has a personality disorder.
I wish she would talk about how PTSD can be related to this. I understand why is important to list signs of each disorder but human beings are very complex. I used to be very paranoid, and over the years (after a lot of therapy, meditation and yoga practice), I have become less and less preoccupied on how people respond to me. I think that not feeling safe as a child (shame, guilt, abandonment, and neglect ) has a lot to do with paranoid personality. However, I think genetics play a role in it as well. I also believe that there are degrees of paranoia.
I'm not paranoid I can feel people when they dislike me but I'm delusional whatever I'm so sick of labels defend yourself one x and they throw the dsm book at ya ...people are shit that is reality unfortunately.
Well said
This channel has a whole series on PPD. This video is only meant to go over the diagnostic criteria, not the causes.
I worked with a paranoid man. He created a very unpleasant work place. He kept dossiers on his coworkers, i.e., what time they left work. He would also do calculations to determine how much money everyone made, amount of their mortgages, car notes, etc. It was mind boggling.
I think I've been misdiagnosed Paranoid Schizophrenic when I really have PPD...Holy shit man ..This is Heavy...She knows exactly who I am...
I had a friend who had PPD (although she didn't know). So, so sad. In the end, she started to question me and if I was also after her in this group (bare in mind I have never met any of her friends). She would bring it up each time, but forget that she had already asked me a million times. In the end I she became so paranoid, she closed her blinds shut worried people were coming into her house. She asked if I saw them 😬. I always wondered where her paranoia stemmed from, like did she have a traumatic past etc.
You just nailed it. I was dealing with a paranoid partner, my girlfriend..my soul..I still love her..but she started suspecting me, everytime my phone is busy or I'm online. She blocked me 'n' number of times. 2 days back she just blasted at me & changed her age old number & took a new sim. Now I've no idea where she is. I really wanted to help her. But I couldn't convince her that she's paranoid. Now I'm totally broken down .I know she too is. But I'm helpless..😪
Warning signs.
You described my day yesterday. Now it's Easter, took her a basket and left it. She came out in a shroud and sunglasses. I love her and wanna save her, and feel like I do and can, until things go south every few days. A vicious cycle. How are you a year later? Plz hit me back!
I was partnered with a PPD sufferer 30 years ago. It was years before I accepted that I was not in the wrong! 24-7-365, "Youre cheating on me. Stealing from me. Taking advantage if me. Lying to me. You dont love me." Apply lather rinse repeat.
My sister was very paranoid when she was young. I couldn’t understand why. I dug a little deeper and I found that she was being verbally abused by a teacher. The teacher caused the whole class to mistreat my sister. Finally another teacher saw what was going on and put a stop to it. It did a lot of damage to her psyche. It still makes me very angry.
This has been eye opening. My family has been suffering greatly in dealing with my sister who, apparently based on this video, has PPD - We need more content on this disorder. How do we deal with these types of people. What does treatment look like?
Thank you again Dr. Ramani 🙏
My sister seems to have this disorder too. She has destroyed our family. 😭
the reason i'm watching this video is because i think my sister has this disorder.
@@joyofjess😢 it’s very hard
@@joyofjess my brother has it and i feel the same, it has destroyed the family. we are all angry and we don't talk to each other nicely because we are frustrated.
Can you please make a video about bipolar disorder? I feel like the videos that are already out there only focus on type 1. I have recently been diagnosed with type 2, and it's hard for me to understand more about the disorder, when I feel like type 1 may not apply to me, since I have not been diagnosed with it. Thank you for continuously helping us learn more about really important topics.
I typed “I’m too paranoid” and found this video and all she said is true
Very Eye 👀 opening discussion.
Anyone who would divorce someone over the table seating at a wedding is someone I wouldn't want to be married to anyway. Jesus.
Bro it’s a disorder they can’t control it
@@randomspectator2580 Doesn't mean you have to marry them lol
I have PPD and I get what you are saying . but it's not that simple. I also feel really bad for my partner for having to deal with my shit everyday . but I'll end up accusing him or picking a fight with them the next time I misunderstand something.
@@MirrorMirror666 Yeah, I realize that it's not completely the person's fault... but that doesn't mean I have to put up with it. If someone keeps running me over with his car, it makes little difference whether it's intentional or not. I'm not going to keep standing in front of his car.
So true. Can this be comorbid with NPD?
I've always thought that people who are always accusing people of cheating are actually cheaters (projection). There's an expression: "One doesn't look behind the door unless he has stood there himself."
I love someone like this. We can't live together anymore. 20 years 💚
Sounds like we all have a paranoid personality at some level… :/ especially when texting someone.
No, I feel like our generation communicates differently.
My wife had Paranoid Personality Disorder. We had a relationship for 20 years. Everything I did me and everyone else it was always wrong. Those people are impossible to satisfy.
It’s valid that your wife wasn’t good to you and others around her, but do not bring people with PPD down as a whole just because of one person you experienced. It causes immense damage and makes you seem like a close minded person. You cannot just say ‘those people are impossible to satisfy’, you don’t know every person with PPD, and not every person with PPD is going to be toxic to those around them.
The wedding table stuff: I'm quite sure it was a: "omg, this is the last straw" kind of a thing.
You know it was more than that, c'mon now. 😉 😉
Yes that's exactly what I thought. It all builds up.
Thank you for all you done!!! I’m more educated on this mental illness and trying to understand people who suffer from it
My wife had these. She's 32 when we married and divorced quickly...we rushed into marriage, and I hope you would get to know your partner better. Before, I told her to seek help for her anxiety, but I could not convince her. I just researched online and assumed she had GAD. She even said she would not trust counselors of similar race as me and certain races. She said I was the one who needed anger management. I never swore as bad as this in my life. I had called police about 3 times just so they can help me get in our apartment and get her out of the apartment. She had called police on me twice. I got arrested once and she had no idea what's going on during our days in court. She loved me a lot she said. Even when divorced, she constantly reminds me that she loved me and she says it was my fault I "ruined her life." There's a really strong guilt I have, because she was still not aware she has this condition and there's nothing I could do to help her. There are times she just seem so nice and cute as if we had never fought. Then if I ever mention a certain word or phrase, that triggers her, it just turns our wonderful day to hell. Before, she had hidden a retractable disposable cutter beside her bed. She also kept a big knife in her backpack. She was genuinely sweet and I considered her my soulmate. We were so good together. This disorder was just something I hope would have a cure for. There are times I feel really sad for giving up on our relationship. I always thought it could become worse as she gets older, and I wouldn't be able to handle it.
1. Suspect other people are harming or deceiving them with no real evidence = constantly confides in me that her coworkers are listening in her phone, stalking her in public
4. Read into a hidden or threatening meaning in messages that aren't truly there
5. Unforgiving and consistently bear grudges = reminds me it was my fault
6. Perceive people are attacking their character and others don't see it = from her stories that she always get assigned to do the least desirable tasks, not given promotion
7. Recurrent suspicion about their partner's fidelity = accuses me of cheating; unlocked my phone; asks who i am with when i am out
You did the right thing by leaving her, otherwise you would start having PPD symptoms, I went through the same thing , but in my case she was lying left and right , did you experience the same thing ?
@@alank4223 She soaked my GoPro video camera in water to destroy it. She was not able to get the memory card, so she tried to destroy the camera instead. I saw a piece of her fingernail (with matching nail polish to her nails that she had polished a few days earlier) stuck within a tiny gap on the exterior body of the GoPro. When I confronted her about my video camera, she denied tampering with it and denied destroying it in water. She was more secretive, though. She would keep silent when I questioned her about various things. Sometimes, she would just act clueless, as if she couldn't recall an event. Sometimes she pretends she couldn't understand my question. Now that I am lonely, I begin speaking to myself, and I am so aware of it. I even tell myself outloud to stop speaking to myself, hahaha.
@@alank4223 I'm so sorry to you guys, I am going through the same thing, my gf lies so much and argues agressively, calls police and had me arrested once, and it's all my fault! Really a sad conditiion, it really is, hope you guys are okay
It feels like you're walking in a minefield with people like this.
I live with someone who decided to gaslight me for a year because I didn't accept his daughter's friend request on Facebook! I don't even use facebook.
May well be some narcissistic tendencies then. Often heard but only recently really learned they're interconnected, especially the covert narcissism it seems.
@@LifeDIY sorry you have to deal with that! Definitely sounds like he is trying to control you/the situation by having you apologize then not accepting... just games to manipulate and control.
Happy to say I'm out of that place and much, much less stressed (for example my hair started regrouping after years of it getting thinner)!
It's exhausting, absolutely anything can be read into which is totally unrelated in context. It's almost verging on delusional. Walking on eggshells all the time.
@@michellewylam people like this should be avoided. They will always read into stuff that isn't there.
I piss someone off, I'm insensitive. They piss me off, hey, I'm hypersensitive. Glad to know I need someone else to evaluate how I feel as they (not I) are the gold standard for what is too much or not enough. When someone tells me the criteria is normalcy, and I travel somewhere (other country) and find the standards are vastly different, my conclusion is that normal is a measure of culture, not people per se. You might find if you touch a stranger in Brazil (gently) you get a smile. Same touch in the USA and you get a scowl. The older I get, the less important the judgement of normal becomes, as it has become obvious to me it is entirely arbitrary and varies from place to place and time to time.
So true. About sensitive people. If someone says to me - be careful, I'm sensitive - it feels weird, cause often these people are sensitive only when it comes to their feelings but not feelings of others. They can easily hurt other people but others are not allowed to hurt them back, cause they are "sensitive", aha
Is it sugar? No, it's salt. Is it salt? No, it's sugar.
Is it cheese? No, it's butter. Is it butter? No, it's cheese.
thank god. i have paranoid ideation (ptsd related) and i was scared i had this but i don’t. i’m not this defensive at all but my mom is narcissistic and my dad has a ton of socioptahic traits. i grew up in a horrible household state and i was bullied until 9th grade so now i’m extremely paranoid but i’m not this extreme at all. thank god and i’m so sorry to people who suffer from PPD or who’s partner does
My father was diagnosed with this many years ago. He thought he was being watched by the government. He sold his farm and his marriage degenerated quickly because my Mom couldn't tolerate his behavior. (This was in the early/mid sixties when Tim Leary and Ram Dass were living just to the south in Millbrook and G. Gordon Liddy was the county prosecutor.) The rift in their marriage was the story of me and my siblings' childhood. My Mom fought to get a divorce and my father's brother hired lawyers to stall and prevent her from doing so.
Years later I would learn that Dad's engineer brother had a certain job with the government that none of us including my father knew about. Back in the cold war it was of course common for the government to watch the families of their "asset" so they could be used as bargaining chips to make sure their asset stayed on the straight and narrow. So yes, odds were our family was watched as he feared. He didn't know why and he developed paranoid conspiracies on his own.
So it makes sense to me now why my uncle championed my father in trying to prevent the divorce. I learned from my Grandmother that they fought all the time as children and were very different politically. My uncle knew my father was watched and why and felt partly responsible for the failing marriage. I don't blame the government for what happened to my father, I believe his mental health was probably already on a slippery slope. Just another cold war casualty.
This explains so much about people I know
Not trying to diagnose anyone especially my husband but I think he has quite the list of narcissistic traits and paranoid traits. It's exhausting to deal with....
I feel your pain.
My dad too, at the moment i still im dependent on him. But my mental health suffers in return.
I'm sorry :(
I lived exactly the frozen food aisle trauma and alike episodes including texts, co workers, calls, Facebook etc with a partner for three years! Unimaginable hurt, pain, and broken heart I suffered. He refused to seek help because was living in denial. It was others having issues but him. I wish if I knew about this disorder sooner. I feel sorry for him. Knowing what he was suffering breaks my heart.
I have the same issue going on right now and we are now separated and feel so bad for him. But he is in super denial. Smh so hard and I would of exhausted every effort for him. What do you do just pray for them.
So I just took a few tests online and all of them says that there's a strong chance I suffer from this.
I had a neighbor like this. This woman was angry all of the time and was so hung up on everyone breaching her version etiquette. I heard a lot of "how dare you" and slamming of doors and windows.
I'm glad it's a common trait for people with this condition to want to escape everyone and live in isolation. I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing. I feel at peace when I'm by myself and being around people puts me on edge so often that it becomes exhausting
I think this feeling goes both ways dealing with someone like this is also draining for the other party.
@@SR77736 I personally don't like having an "other party" to begin with hence the isolation
My girlfriend has been in isolation due to this fof a decade. It done her no service. Now she constsntly tslks in hef house while alone and "hears clairaudidnt
Hears "clair audient fields" and screams in torment about aliens. Isolation is a blessing IF you can handle it.
I hate it but men trigger me just looking at me cuz I am a dude you even look at me longer than a second I'm willing too break arms but I miss women but now that I'm older they look hateful too so now public just makes me suicidal so many miserable looking human bags of trash .
I came here because I'm currently watching my aunt and uncle's house and their dogs while their family is away on a cruise. Last night, I was writing on my laptop next to a window and closed blinds and I heard a "helllloooo~" outside the window, almost like it was in a yodel or a drunk man. It was a very clear voice and I could literally feel my heart sink into my stomach. Adrenaline was kicking and I froze in place for about 2 hours. I couldn't move from that spot in fear of my own life because I thought someone was outside and wanted to get in. I couldn't remember if I had locked the back door or not. I also heard whispering between two people a few times as well. I had a full on panic attack in that recliner and didn't sleep that night at all. I freaked out in my group chat of friends and the next morning, a friend DM'd me and mentioned this so now I'm doing research.
Edit: Some context, I've been having similar things like this for years ever since I was little. Always in the middle of the night. This wasn't just a one time thing but this specific time was the most intense I've had it. I also have severe trust issues. I believe everyone is lying to me when they talk to me and I don't trust anyone in my life, even my closest friends, so I keep things bottled up.
I will say we don't take compliments well because we feel there's something sarcastic or mean or vindictive behind people's kindness there's always something hiding and creeping around behind someone's kindness they always have an agenda basically..
Omg....these people are my entire freakin family,!
Mine to. And I’m not even trolling
I worked with a therapist who had this disorder. It’s very odd to be that mistrustful. It takes too much energy.
damn. how did you find out they had that disorder?
Too much energy but not enough honesty and love
Not really it just becomes normal routine to them
A therapist that needed therapy.
It takes more energy to deal with being screwed over because you didn't assume the potential worst about a situation or a communicated fact.
How about a series on differences between psychiatric illness versus stress related symptoms caused by poverty. Those in poverty get diagnosed at high rates for psychiatric illness because they exhibit symptoms. However they may not actually have the same internal issues with those diagnosed with mental health illnesses. They may in fact just be dealing with extreme stressors that there are little to no solutions for. Should there be a difference in treatment for this group? Such as helping them with acceptance of a difficult situation or with resiliency with in the stressful system constraints.
I believe those in poverty are being retramatized by misdiagnosis or by inappropriate treatment. Acknowleding that a person's internal mechanisms, such as cognition and perception, are in fact intact gives a person confidence. Often those in poverty get treated in a way that invalidates the reality that their lives are in fact quite chaotic and that most cannot escape that reality for a multitude of reasons beyond their control. Dealing with this fact instead of brushing it aside or saying it isn't true would help those in difficult situations to stop pathologizing themselves and for others to stop doing it as well.
This is 100% true. I have been seeing this for long enough
You are amazing, this makes so much sense to me. 🌸
What if the paranoid is right? What if they really are out to get him? That part about texting. You might just totally do away with cell phones in the factory.
Just because you're paranoid, doesn't mean their not after you.
It's still paranoia unless there's some basis for the knowledge. Mental health professionals have no network of spies to verify that the suspicion really is unreasonable or not. In practice, if it's justified suspicion, evidence does show up eventually and there's usually signs that can be pointed to as to why the patient is feeling like that.
Its not paranoia if its actually happening. It cant be. We cannot administer diagnosis to victims of narcissistic, invisible crimes only to just wait and see what happens.
That's true. Our Intuition gives us valid fears which does not have immediate evidence to show. I also feel sometimes even the fear of some ppd person or psychotic is valid.
I believe human instincts are powerful. We are animals. We are all well built with this. The fears and not trusting , some threats felt yet there is no evidence is based on intuition and our instincts way of warning us about danger. They say listen to the inner voice. #SelfListeners
This is my mother 100 100 100%!!!!!!I wish she would get help but unfortunately she won't 😥