Mark my words: when this little girl grows up, she and her Mum are going to gang up on Dad and make him feel insignificant thus making his life miserable.
@@pwatson5766 shee meant feelings tho, cause he wouldn't tell them why he's angry but then he is angry and yells at the mom to shut up when he asks her
"we know you work very hard. Who doesn't? Doesn't mom work hard too?" I'm so glad she reminded him of that, and he actually listen instead of yelling at her too.
This is doesn't make any sense. Women are created by Allah to obey their husbands, satisfy their needs and bear their children "Your wives are your tilth; go, then, into your tilth as you wish"
@@AbdulMalik-lq9vj yeah nice bait. everyone reading the above message, its clearly a non-muslim dude pretending to be muslim and spreading negative sides to the Quran that majority of Muslims (from what ive seen and personally experienced) do not agree with. they leave these comments to foster hate, so just ignore them
Women are created by Allah to obey their husbands, satisfy their needs and bear their children "Your wives are your tilth; go, then, into your tilth as you wish"
As a Chinese, I would NEVER have the guts to speak out against my father. So seeing a little girl do that makes me feel so happy and definitely made my day.
@@yunyung Very true, so I really try my best not to get on their nerves but I often forget. Thank you for also writing in Chinese, I'm born in America but I was able to read it still.
This girl is so emotionally intelligent. And I am glad that her father was actually listening and wasn't yelling at her to shut up, too. I bet he felt ashamed. And the way that she is so kind and clear. This little girl is so intelligent beyond her time. She is a gift to humankind.
@@justagenzontheinternet808 well if someone was poking around the corner with a camera while they were in the middle of speaking it makes sense for them to look at it, but im assuming that if it isnt staged, she thought she had more important things to say at the moment
@@justagenzontheinternet808It’s clearly the mother who recorded it though. Seems plausible honestly speaking. The only time she looked at the cam was when she was done speaking. It’s just this video repeated that scene 2-3x
Sadly, the fathers who struggle with this have probably had bad examples of communicating from their parents. So they fear communication as a trauma response.
She's right. Sometimes people take my father's side whenever he gets angry at me or when my mom was still alive by saying that he is just stressed from a lot of work issues but we always tried to speak to him but he never trusted me and my late mum
@@fauzianalwoga As the saying goes, "Hurt people hurt people." It's no excuse for abusers to abuse. But it is a helpful awareness to forgive them. It's also very important to understand this in order to prevent the next generation from developing abusive behaviors. (Note: Forgiveness doesn't equal allowing it to keep happening.)
A well-endowed daughter... Not only tell the dad's fault, but also empathized with him. "We are not enemies" is one clear thought she conveyed to the father.
Sad part is she’s being used by her parents for internet fame, she had to practice and memorize this speech written by her mom and act it out on cue when mom starts filming.
Growing up, I saw my father doing the same. Back then, I just wasn't smart enough like her to calmly talk some sense into her dad. Little girl, I give you two thumbs up.
It's the bare minimum. If your child looks you dead in the eyes and tell you these things, and you can only respond with more anger, then you are not a parent but an abuser. This was a valuable lesson he needed.
I think mom used to reduce her stress by having a rational talk with the daughter. Her daughter is so clever that she asked all these on behalf of her mother.
I am shook. Every single word that came out of this baby’s mouth was more mature and emotionally intelligent than anything I’ve ever heard from any adult regarding these kinda matters. And the way she’s clearly wary and upset bout her dad’s actions but still voices everything to him unwaveringly and politely
Underrated comment without any likes yet. let me be the one to give you the 1st like 👍🏼 coz that's exactly what i felt too as i was reading the translation of her words. Wow❤
@@Mr.Patrick_Hung In this age. Let her grow up and then speak. Men's struggles are no reason for them to shout at their wives, I agree. But suddenly society is perfectly fine when a woman in her periods shouts at her husband and gets angry? Double standards.
I'm glad the father actually listened. When I was around her age, my (jobless) father would berate and yell at my mom for not making enough money, despite being the breadwinner in a highly stessful job. I opened my mouth to say the same things this child said, except the outcome was that my dad interrupted me mid-sentence with a punch to my face 😢 His justification: "I can't hit your mom, but I can certainly hit you."
@@irritatedanglosaxon1705says a crynese MSS troll farm worker, who is desperate for a better life as 600 million of his fellow crynese live in abject poverty
@@jeonghoonchoi5046My mom’s answer to everything is yelling and criticizing everyone around her and I constantly remind her that she was in their shoes before.
Yelling and fights of parents highly disturb children, we in our childhood maybe have witnessed that, so, just stop yelling and behaving insensitive with your family and I don't think our daughters would have to say that to us then😅
I want to commend her dad too who in humility listened. He probably has a hand in creating a safe space where his daughter can speak to him. Applauds to the entire family.
Now he just has to learn how to ignore his wives provocations and they can be a happy family. Alternatively he could learn how to pretend the talks about feelings help him unwind so the wife will stop dumping her fears on him and escalating the situation. Too bad it is always one way street with those situations and somebody has to be mature for the entire family.
Not only wise, compassionate, full of empathy, fair, brave n so expressive in a calm manner. A valuable human being for any age. Amazing actually this child.
She’s only a child, but she is so mature beyond her years, and the fact she can voice out her feelings and can articulate in such a manner is incredible !!!!!
This was my entire childhood. It took my whole life, but I finally wore my father down a bit and educated him on how to express emotions. I went on to become a therapist because this is all I've known to do my entire life.
As a future therapist, I couldn’t work with immature adults because I’d get too angry at them for the harm they unknowingly cause their children. How do you do it? I’m planning to only work with kids, personally, cos I’d get too angry at the incompetent parents.
As a chinese person who never had the courage to stand up to my parents, I feel so relieved knowing that there are children like her who can do this. Some parents really need this kind of talk
my parents never let me speak because they insisted on being right and even if i was right they would brush it off playfully or will desperately insist on leaving it in the past to save face.
Thank you for these insights. Kindly share your native-speaker's impressions of this recording: would you say it is definitely authentic? Might it have been staged?
This is doesn't make any sense. Women are created by Allah to obey their husbands, satisfy their needs and bear their children "Your wives are your tilth; go, then, into your tilth as you wish"
The parents raise their child well, and the fact that she's brave enough to speak up that means there is no violence at home. I'm pretty sure Dad was having a bad day and still frustrated about it, like all humans do. I love how she's like the reminder, pointing what's wrong but still understanding. Bless their family.
Learn to think clearly! We dont know is any father around. Which mother with a loving heart stand up in a real conversation like that...Films it and Puts it online for fathers blame!? Wake up...dont believe everything.
Her mom is parentifying her by not being able to stand up for herself as an adult. Adults are supposed to protect kids, not the other way around. Kids like that grow up empathetic and mature, but also experience all kinds of issues because they bore the cost of their parents’ immaturity.
I'd love for my daughter to be able to talk this openly with me. Sometimes parents deal with so many things and need a child's perspective to take the horse blinders off
She has a wisdom at a very young age. Emotionally intelligent beyond her years. She's scared but she did not hold back to protect her mom from verbal abuse by dad. A lesson learned from this young girl. Family is family through rough times we are here together and home is the place to rest and unwind and be comforted. Not a place to be violent.
This brought me to tears. If I ever had a child say such things to me I would be overwhelmed. Proud of her courage and ability to express herself but so ashamed that I'd have led her to that point. She's speaking from the heart, which is why it sounds wise. I hope they were all able to come to an understanding with one another.
It's amazing she has that kind of awareness of adult problems. Or maybe most kids do but just don't have the courage or words to express it like she did.
@@anonymous-zn2iv Coming back to this some 7 months later, I can't speak for most children but I can say that I was aware of more than most adults outside my immediate family gave me credit for. It was a child's understanding, so lacked depth in some ways, but I used my intuition and imagination to fill in the blanks. I could grasp the essence of things most of the time. I was, however, fortunate enough to have a much better home situation until I was about 13, so I never had to deal with these types of issues. I'm also not sure how I feel about having it filmed/recorded, it raises so many questions to me especially if this is genuine and the girl is sincere.
And here comes the question we will ask ourselves eventually. If we are living in abusive or strained families and we have the means to go back in time would we do it for the sakes of our parents even if it means a beating is waiting for us. I think most of us would choose yes.
I mean he could always use the excuse is that it is not her place to tell him that. She needs to know her place. So there's always a way for the father to turn it around that you did something wrong.
@@greensss6922parents are human. We all make mistakes. More likely dad had a very bad day and snapped. If dad was an abusive husband, he wouldn't let the kid talk peacefully like that.
I was doubting that this was maybe staged or a remake of a real situation. But once I heard the mom crying behind her phone, i had no more doubts. This is such a heartbreaking moment. Sad how many of us can relate to it...
The second comment is so true, this young girl has high EQ and understanding of her situation, she also makes sure to tell the other party calmly and without any hostility, even going as far as to ask them to share their feelings or if not then don't bring their anger home. With her communication skills and understanding she will reach far into the future.
@@Emmanuel-ws3qo no matter the full context, yelling and telling someone to shut up is not a solution. It only exacerbate a bad situation. If your wife yell at you to shut up, I hope you will remember that you don't know the full context and swallow your own words and opinion. Man or woman, it doesn't matter.
Everyone should have a place to speak up at their own home. You don't have to earn it. If the most mischievous kid is being teased at home, the kid has the right to speak up. Likewise, if the kid feels afraid at home, she should speak up! I think it's a right given to anyone in any relationship. Whether the people in the relationship agree to go forth with the suggestions is another issue. Seriously. Anyone who subscribes to this 'earn your place to speak up' bs needs a mindset change in communication. It's unproductive and lacks accountability. I speak from experience with my own family.
She is intelligent and empathetic beyond her age. For tiny girl, she sure has some profound questions and advices for her dad as well as for the rest of us. If you don't wanna talk about what makes you upset, don't bring your anger home. We should be able to talk to each other in a family and solve it without yelling and shouting.
Glad to see she's being raised in a household that lets her speak to her parents in adult manner; giving criticism and not being interrupted, scolded, yelled at, or punished for it. :)
This little girl is more mature than most adults and can communicate calmly and intelligently. I am so impressed by her understanding and compassion for her family.
Was that the actual translation of what she said? She's so wise. Even adults couldn't talk like that. Raising a child teaches a person so many things. I hope the father learned from her. She's so right about everything - seeing your parent yell at the other parent is so scary, especially for little kids. Kids should not witness something like that. And what she said about bringing home your frustration at work and venting it out on your family. We give so much to our work but leave crumbs to our family. We control our emotions more when in the presence of friends and colleagues but not so much with our family. That girl is so precious.
If anything, the Chinese sounds even more impressive. The translation "We have to look at your face. We remain silent. We are just kids, this scares us." The "look at your face" in Chinese meant something more along "we have to pay attention to your face/expressions to gauge your mood". Also the "we are just kids" she actually said it more like "little kids would be scared by this" almost like she is speaking as a neutral party, and not from the point of view of a kid. She's hella mature it's crazy.
Yeah, as someone who knows basic Chinese, she's not only saying it better than the translation, she's using proverbs in her speech as well. I actually started wondering if she's reading from a script but it's impossible because of how young she is and how she's conveying herself. She sounds scared. So does her sister. Very impressive. Her parents might fight but their daughters were taught well.
You go girl!!!! That's exactly right , if you had a bad day that stinks but don't come home and take it out on us. What courage and i think she did it in a respectful way
I wish I had the same courage and intelligence to protect my mom when I was a kid. I'm so amazed and proud of her, she did something not many kids could do... Especially when you're from an Asian family
Anger is a legitimate emotion. It just happens that men are way more likely to feel anger than sadness in comparison to women for example even in the same situations. Why is anger so taboo. Do you hold it against your mom when she feels sad and cries ? If you could come home only twice a year wouldn't you get angry ?
WOW! what a wonderful little girl - kind, patient, compassionate and wise beyond her years. in many ways children are and remain our teachers. lots of love and prayers for a wonderful life for her and her family. 🙏
This little girl is amazing to confront her dad like to not behave like that, but what is also amazing her dad did not shout back to tell the children to stop talking. In most Chinese families if a child talks like that to the parents, they immediately bang the tables and yell at them with threats to tell them stop talking and they use their authoritative behavior to control everyone and telling people how they should feel and how they should not feel.
His young daughter talks sense and the father regretted shouting at her mother because he was frustrated by something outside. I think it would be a life-changing lesson for him
She could not understand why the father was angry or why he blew up or how to help him. All she knew was angry = bad and you should do whatever mom feels like you should do or shut up. It is the opposite of mature but I wouldn't hold it against her seeing how most people in the world struggle with understanding that just because someone is angry it does not mean they are evil aggressors that cannot be right about anything.
We always hear don’t bring your problems to work, I think we should also avoid bringing our problems home too. This little girl is so right! What an Angel. 🌸😇
Not only Yuanyuan was brave and clever, but also let's talk about her mom, because I am sure she learnt that way of communication from her mother...so applause for both of them!❤
Sounds like she’s just repeating what her mom complains about when her husband isn’t home. Seems very staged. Especially how she doesn’t look at the obvious camera until the very end. Like she was waiting for the scene to be over.
I hope he never forgets this moment with his daughters and wife. I hope other families take away this important lesson even when it’s been a very rough day. ❤ She reminds me of a few moments as a child growing up when I knew I needed to speak up even when I was scared. The person was in the wrong and needed to hear it.
This little girl is brave and emotionally smart,as someone who grew up in a south Asian household,I was the oldest child yet never had the sense nor guts to confront my father when he physically and verbally abused our mother....it's because we were raised to believe that the father had the right to treat the family whatever way he wanted.....many of these dads later complain their adult kids have gone no contact but they never wonder why
I think it normal not to confront an abusive father. the built of a father and also his abusive nature would naturally cause his own kid to turn away/ back off. I think her dad is not a very authoritative type toward her and could have spoken to her nicely. that where her courage come fr. otherwise, a shout of father would just simply send the shock to the child. It's her family setting that's works for her. For abusive cases, retaliation comes only the little children has grown into a big strong young adults. the abusive father is too absorbed into their own unhappiness and also self-imposed logic. they will never understand. they never will. My heart goes out to you.
@@chippychip2153 Forgoing the fact that there is like 99% chance the video was staged the reason why the little girl could have the courage to speak up could be that in fact the father was the one being abused and yet because he couldn't hold his anger back to the very end it automatically makes him a villain.
@Mytelefe I don't understand the purpose or staging a camera? to capture her bravery act or capture her father response? to be popular? or having an evident when if the father turns abusive suddenly? she did look at camera to have acknowledgement. could the father being having a bad time and also been long suppressing the anger and resulted in black face and harsh word? why would the father not sharing? how could one not share? or he is having a miscommunication with his wife, and then he started to been in anger.
Only calm and sensible words from an innocent child like her can bring her father to his senses. He should be very proud to have such a great daughter like her. I wish her family all the best. I am sure her wisdom will not fall on deaf ears. What a blessing to her family!
Wow! That was powerful! The girl had more insight and bravery than most adults . And she truly speaks from her heart. The child has the potential to accomplish great things throughout her life. Her wisdom and common sense exceeds that of most adults 10 times her age.
That's what I told my Dad one day too. He was not shouting at my mum, but he was acting as he would be the boss... She was also working hard, so he had no right to do that. He educated me to go to university and make a career, so why would he think that women have to put back? That was 40yrs ago - he never did it again
Who else thinks mother gets treated like that every day and she told her daughters to tell this because she thinks he'll listen to them but not her, his wife? 🙄
I tried to speak up when a situation like this occurred at our house. I was told to shut up and even got almost beaten up by him. I'm happy that she could say it on their face. I hope she lives without dealing with adults emotions and tranquility
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Mark my words: when this little girl grows up, she and her Mum are going to gang up on Dad and make him feel insignificant thus making his life miserable.
bless her
@@SaultoPaul thats the world for u
"If you don't want to share your feelings, then don't bring your anger home" - The wise little girl.
"If you don't want to share your emotions then don't bring your anger home"
Wise beyond her years
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@@SaltdCaramel
The father was sharing his emotions(anger), but not in a wise or respectful way.
@@pwatson5766 shee meant feelings tho, cause he wouldn't tell them why he's angry but then he is angry and yells at the mom to shut up when he asks her
maybe he shouldn't have to bring his money home either..
Exactly
If she continues, she can raise better parents
Right 😅
yess like what young people want
Lol😂
😂😂😂
Exactly 😂if parents won't raise kids properly, this kid will definitely raise the parents properly
"we know you work very hard. Who doesn't? Doesn't mom work hard too?" I'm so glad she reminded him of that, and he actually listen instead of yelling at her too.
yeah except its fake
@@ダンバダンバ just like your face
This is doesn't make any sense. Women are created by Allah to obey their husbands, satisfy their needs and bear their children
"Your wives are your tilth; go, then, into your tilth as you wish"
Quran 2;223
@@AbdulMalik-lq9vj yeah nice bait. everyone reading the above message, its clearly a non-muslim dude pretending to be muslim and spreading negative sides to the Quran that majority of Muslims (from what ive seen and personally experienced) do not agree with. they leave these comments to foster hate, so just ignore them
I got the same thought @@tabor5
“If you don’t want to share your feelings,
Then don’t bring your anger home.”
-wise little girl
Best thing I ever heard from a toddler
She's definitely not a toddler that would make her like 2 years old but yes
She's at least 8 years old. But still very smart girl
yeah except its fake
@@ダンバダンバKeep assuming that everything on the internet is fake
Women are created by Allah to obey their husbands, satisfy their needs and bear their children
"Your wives are your tilth; go, then, into your tilth as you wish"
Quran 2;223
As a Chinese, I would NEVER have the guts to speak out against my father. So seeing a little girl do that makes me feel so happy and definitely made my day.
Yes and this video is fake
@@Romy--- Yep it is obviously staged because who would stand behind a corner and film, but it made me feel better in a way.
I feel like it's because our parents are much older. Therefore, more traditional and much much stricter
如果我这样对我父母说话 直接被惩罚了 哈哈哈哈
@@yunyung Very true, so I really try my best not to get on their nerves but I often forget. Thank you for also writing in Chinese, I'm born in America but I was able to read it still.
Same here.. I wished I was as brave as her.. ❤
This girl is so emotionally intelligent. And I am glad that her father was actually listening and wasn't yelling at her to shut up, too. I bet he felt ashamed. And the way that she is so kind and clear. This little girl is so intelligent beyond her time. She is a gift to humankind.
she's being told to say that for views on douyin. shame on you.
@@NoChinaforever17really? If so then how do you expect us to know? Smth
@@squid5882the cam is the proof. The girl looks at it multiple times and nobody gets a random clip like this.
@@justagenzontheinternet808 well if someone was poking around the corner with a camera while they were in the middle of speaking it makes sense for them to look at it, but im assuming that if it isnt staged, she thought she had more important things to say at the moment
@@justagenzontheinternet808It’s clearly the mother who recorded it though. Seems plausible honestly speaking. The only time she looked at the cam was when she was done speaking. It’s just this video repeated that scene 2-3x
"If you don't want to share your feelings, then don't bring your anger home." A quote every father should live by.
Sadly, the fathers who struggle with this have probably had bad examples of communicating from their parents. So they fear communication as a trauma response.
Not just fathers, we all have tge capacity for misplaced anger.
@@lighthouselaura4324 True. A solution for most fathers but applicable to everyone.
She's right. Sometimes people take my father's side whenever he gets angry at me or when my mom was still alive by saying that he is just stressed from a lot of work issues but we always tried to speak to him but he never trusted me and my late mum
@@fauzianalwoga As the saying goes, "Hurt people hurt people." It's no excuse for abusers to abuse. But it is a helpful awareness to forgive them. It's also very important to understand this in order to prevent the next generation from developing abusive behaviors.
(Note: Forgiveness doesn't equal allowing it to keep happening.)
"We are not enemy, we are family, we can talk properly " very wise words 👏🏼
The fact that she is five years old and articulates herself extremely well actually shocks me. What an intelligent angel
A well-endowed daughter... Not only tell the dad's fault, but also empathized with him. "We are not enemies" is one clear thought she conveyed to the father.
Sad part is she’s being used by her parents for internet fame, she had to practice and memorize this speech written by her mom and act it out on cue when mom starts filming.
It's clearly a staged video
We don’t see the dad, probably went to get milk.
@@szbxait isn't like that
She has a big one? I could have sworn it was a girl.
When this girl was born she immediately thanked and tipped the doctor and congratulate her parents
Nahhhhh, I bet she gave instructions to the OBGYN on how to do their job!!!! 😂❤
Oh *😳 thank you for making me laugh .
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Nooo she looked around and decided she's in charge and stated screaming
LOL
Growing up, I saw my father doing the same. Back then, I just wasn't smart enough like her to calmly talk some sense into her dad. Little girl, I give you two thumbs up.
Same here! Especially when my dad would get migraines. I could feel the energy when he'd walk through the door sometimes.
I did 40yrs ago
exactly, thats why this sounds scripted
@@dracolnyte i did answer like that when I was about 10
like the most of us.
I pray for her safety and well being, hope this will somewhat knock some sense into her selfish father
Respect to the dad sitting there patiently listening and accepting his mistake.
It's the bare minimum. If your child looks you dead in the eyes and tell you these things, and you can only respond with more anger, then you are not a parent but an abuser. This was a valuable lesson he needed.
.... while the mom was filming everything. 😅
Typical giving dad respect for the bare minimum
@@noodlepoodleoddle I understand where you are coming from, but in reality, accepting mistake is harder than you thought.
@@darryn6268yes especially adults in front of kids. The Ego always comes out. Not everyone can do it
I think mom used to reduce her stress by having a rational talk with the daughter. Her daughter is so clever that she asked all these on behalf of her mother.
I am shook. Every single word that came out of this baby’s mouth was more mature and emotionally intelligent than anything I’ve ever heard from any adult regarding these kinda matters. And the way she’s clearly wary and upset bout her dad’s actions but still voices everything to him unwaveringly and politely
Underrated comment without any likes yet. let me be the one to give you the 1st like 👍🏼 coz that's exactly what i felt too as i was reading the translation of her words. Wow❤
@@angiemon2797 aw thanks beautiful 🫶
@@unknown_8588 🫶
@@angiemon2797why do you all care about likes and comments that's just really really sad.
Yes, she leaned the lines very well. Practice makes perfect.
“We are not enemies, we can talk right?”
that line hit so hard 😣
She is half her father, but better controlled.
@@Mr.Patrick_Hung In this age. Let her grow up and then speak. Men's struggles are no reason for them to shout at their wives, I agree. But suddenly society is perfectly fine when a woman in her periods shouts at her husband and gets angry? Double standards.
@@harshk9342 Shouting within a family is very bad. However both girls and boys need to be able to speak up and stand up for themselves.
I'm glad the father actually listened. When I was around her age, my (jobless) father would berate and yell at my mom for not making enough money, despite being the breadwinner in a highly stessful job. I opened my mouth to say the same things this child said, except the outcome was that my dad interrupted me mid-sentence with a punch to my face 😢 His justification: "I can't hit your mom, but I can certainly hit you."
thanks for sharing 😢 that must be hard. so many parents are mentally unready to become parents
Id ask my mom to Divorce him and never again speak to him in my life if that ever happens to me…
...and then people who act like that wonder why they end up in a nursing home and their family never calls.
So many men out there are terrible abusive partners that take their anger out on women and children. They are cowards.
@@mayuko7042and who pay bills of those nursing homes??
I am just curious
Being scared yet doing the right thing: this little girl. Respect my beautiful girl.
How can you not tear up and be ashame for having such a smart yet so young daughter telling you all of those advices?
This girl has more sense than 99% adults in the US
she is on her way to sounding like a true know it all outspoken american. she needs to be careful and tow the line
And only 20% who had passports, whom easily bound to brainwashed by Anglosaxon medias
Man, look at the numbers of crynese bots here, 70 upvotes in an hour and only 2 comments
@@irritatedanglosaxon1705says a crynese MSS troll farm worker, who is desperate for a better life as 600 million of his fellow crynese live in abject poverty
@@irritatedanglosaxon1705 600 million live on $4.5 per day, they don't afford to buy a ticket to America.
If my daughter said that to me I would feel like the worst parent ever 😂
u should feel happy abt your daughter.
If your daughter is able to articulate like this, you’ve definitely done something right . This was probably a rare event for the father
@@jeonghoonchoi5046My mom’s answer to everything is yelling and criticizing everyone around her and I constantly remind her that she was in their shoes before.
You should be
Yelling and fights of parents highly disturb children, we in our childhood maybe have witnessed that, so, just stop yelling and behaving insensitive with your family and I don't think our daughters would have to say that to us then😅
I want to commend her dad too who in humility listened. He probably has a hand in creating a safe space where his daughter can speak to him. Applauds to the entire family.
Now he just has to learn how to ignore his wives provocations and they can be a happy family. Alternatively he could learn how to pretend the talks about feelings help him unwind so the wife will stop dumping her fears on him and escalating the situation. Too bad it is always one way street with those situations and somebody has to be mature for the entire family.
@@Mytelefe wdym by the wive's provocation and dumbing her fears on him?
@@Mytelefe so the wife provoked him by asking what was wrong? You sound like a real winner
@@Mytelefeprojecting much there, chief?
Not only wise, compassionate, full of empathy, fair, brave n so expressive in a calm manner. A valuable human being for any age. Amazing actually this child.
She’s going to be a great leader someday. Helping the voiceless, the helpless, etc..
She’s only a child, but she is so mature beyond her years, and the fact she can voice out her feelings and can articulate in such a manner is incredible !!!!!
Not an only child lol can literally see her sister pony tail sitting across from her lol
This was my entire childhood. It took my whole life, but I finally wore my father down a bit and educated him on how to express emotions. I went on to become a therapist because this is all I've known to do my entire life.
Godbless you
As a future therapist, I couldn’t work with immature adults because I’d get too angry at them for the harm they unknowingly cause their children. How do you do it? I’m planning to only work with kids, personally, cos I’d get too angry at the incompetent parents.
@@TofuTeoI’m 19 and I’m quite open-minded
@@TofuTeo you aren't ready to be an therapist, you need to be detached from the patients
@@Gusr404 Well yeah I’m still a student so of course I’m not ready 🙄
As a chinese person who never had the courage to stand up to my parents, I feel so relieved knowing that there are children like her who can do this. Some parents really need this kind of talk
my parents never let me speak because they insisted on being right and even if i was right they would brush it off playfully or will desperately insist on leaving it in the past to save face.
Thank you for these insights. Kindly share your native-speaker's impressions of this recording: would you say it is definitely authentic? Might it have been staged?
@@unreal4good367 Same for me, I agree
yeah except its fake
I think the girl is ''REborn "" and remembers previous actions by a mean father
She was born to be a fair judge.
That is how you raise kids!! Even if Dad is falling short in the moment, He has helped raise a couple of awesome daughters!!
Children often protect their parents without parents realizing how much bravety that means for the children. Bless that little girl.
This is doesn't make any sense. Women are created by Allah to obey their husbands, satisfy their needs and bear their children
"Your wives are your tilth; go, then, into your tilth as you wish"
Quran 2;223
The parents raise their child well, and the fact that she's brave enough to speak up that means there is no violence at home. I'm pretty sure Dad was having a bad day and still frustrated about it, like all humans do. I love how she's like the reminder, pointing what's wrong but still understanding. Bless their family.
This.
haha I think this child a raising the parents better :)
Except it was fake tho. Recording the prove
@@janejaney7210mother recorded that as she was not at dinner table, it's not staged
Learn to think clearly!
We dont know is any father around.
Which mother with a loving heart stand up in a real conversation like that...Films it and Puts it online for fathers blame!?
Wake up...dont believe everything.
her mom must be sooo proud of her
Not just proud. When your kid(s) stand up for you, nothing is unbearable anymore.
Her mom is parentifying her by not being able to stand up for herself as an adult. Adults are supposed to protect kids, not the other way around. Kids like that grow up empathetic and mature, but also experience all kinds of issues because they bore the cost of their parents’ immaturity.
I'd love for my daughter to be able to talk this openly with me. Sometimes parents deal with so many things and need a child's perspective to take the horse blinders off
this girl was able to say what I've taken a lifetime building up the courage to voice out
She has a wisdom at a very young age. Emotionally intelligent beyond her years. She's scared but she did not hold back to protect her mom from verbal abuse by dad. A lesson learned from this young girl. Family is family through rough times we are here together and home is the place to rest and unwind and be comforted. Not a place to be violent.
She’s more communicative and intelligent than most adults
❤
This brought me to tears. If I ever had a child say such things to me I would be overwhelmed. Proud of her courage and ability to express herself but so ashamed that I'd have led her to that point. She's speaking from the heart, which is why it sounds wise. I hope they were all able to come to an understanding with one another.
It's amazing she has that kind of awareness of adult problems. Or maybe most kids do but just don't have the courage or words to express it like she did.
@@anonymous-zn2iv Coming back to this some 7 months later, I can't speak for most children but I can say that I was aware of more than most adults outside my immediate family gave me credit for. It was a child's understanding, so lacked depth in some ways, but I used my intuition and imagination to fill in the blanks. I could grasp the essence of things most of the time.
I was, however, fortunate enough to have a much better home situation until I was about 13, so I never had to deal with these types of issues. I'm also not sure how I feel about having it filmed/recorded, it raises so many questions to me especially if this is genuine and the girl is sincere.
Lucky dad to have such an understanding and brabe daughter! A true diamond in your household
People praise her bravery. But, man, is she wise.
I give her props! If I said that to my dad, he would beat me to shut me up.
And here comes the question we will ask ourselves eventually.
If we are living in abusive or strained families and we have the means to go back in time would we do it for the sakes of our parents even if it means a beating is waiting for us.
I think most of us would choose yes.
I give praise to the father too for not doing exactly that. The gut reaction of most parents would be to yell back at the kid.
I agree with you as someone who has a narcissistic father. If I said that to my father, he would've screamed at me and broke several things at home.
I mean he could always use the excuse is that it is not her place to tell him that. She needs to know her place. So there's always a way for the father to turn it around that you did something wrong.
My guess is he wouldn't... Bcs of the camera present
She has more bravery, understanding, and compassion than most adults I know❤
That’s because those adults have childhood trauma and dump that on their family and don’t know how to handle their issues.
She has more intelligence than our war mongering governments, too.
If she is so matured emotionally for her age, something is wrong with the household. She is so brilliant i admire her
Parents probably tought her well, bat dad is a hypocrite. Do what I say, not what I do type scenario.
@@kassaken6521 if her parents taught her well his dad will not act like that haha
little kids learn about emotional literacy in school
@@kassaken6521or dad probably had a bad day
@@greensss6922parents are human. We all make mistakes. More likely dad had a very bad day and snapped.
If dad was an abusive husband, he wouldn't let the kid talk peacefully like that.
When she said "we are just kids, this scares us" i teared up actually
I was doubting that this was maybe staged or a remake of a real situation. But once I heard the mom crying behind her phone, i had no more doubts. This is such a heartbreaking moment. Sad how many of us can relate to it...
The second comment is so true, this young girl has high EQ and understanding of her situation, she also makes sure to tell the other party calmly and without any hostility, even going as far as to ask them to share their feelings or if not then don't bring their anger home. With her communication skills and understanding she will reach far into the future.
She’s isfj!!!!!!!
If i were the dad, my face would be so red in shame. I would immediately bow my head and ask for forgiveness to everyone in the family
You don't know the full context.
@@Emmanuel-ws3qo Not my fault, the video didnt show the entire video
@@Emmanuel-ws3qo no matter the full context, yelling and telling someone to shut up is not a solution. It only exacerbate a bad situation. If your wife yell at you to shut up, I hope you will remember that you don't know the full context and swallow your own words and opinion. Man or woman, it doesn't matter.
@@LA-ly1nt 😂😂
@@albertteng1191 but yet your saying you'd be so ashamed and bla bla bla
This articulate little girl just comunicated what so many have experienced. ❤
What a wonderful child. This is what the world needs more of.
"If you don't want to share your emotions then don't bring your anger home" This line alone....
Her mom and dad taught her well. So she has a place to speak up in their home.
No teaching can build such attitude in a young girl, she is an old soul. This is why everyone should rethink about reincarnation.
Not the dad as he was yelling at the misses. It's more like she is teaching her dad.
Everyone should have a place to speak up at their own home. You don't have to earn it. If the most mischievous kid is being teased at home, the kid has the right to speak up. Likewise, if the kid feels afraid at home, she should speak up!
I think it's a right given to anyone in any relationship. Whether the people in the relationship agree to go forth with the suggestions is another issue.
Seriously. Anyone who subscribes to this 'earn your place to speak up' bs needs a mindset change in communication. It's unproductive and lacks accountability. I speak from experience with my own family.
Nah, her mum taught her well.
She taught her father well..
She is intelligent and empathetic beyond her age. For tiny girl, she sure has some profound questions and advices for her dad as well as for the rest of us.
If you don't wanna talk about what makes you upset, don't bring your anger home. We should be able to talk to each other in a family and solve it without yelling and shouting.
Glad to see she's being raised in a household that lets her speak to her parents in adult manner; giving criticism and not being interrupted, scolded, yelled at, or punished for it. :)
I still do not have the guts to confront my father in this way, this little girl is so inspiring
This little girl is more mature than most adults and can communicate calmly and intelligently. I am so impressed by her understanding and compassion for her family.
Wow. Love her wisdom. I hope he learned something from her and will remember it in the future. Beautiful soul.
Was that the actual translation of what she said? She's so wise. Even adults couldn't talk like that. Raising a child teaches a person so many things. I hope the father learned from her. She's so right about everything - seeing your parent yell at the other parent is so scary, especially for little kids. Kids should not witness something like that. And what she said about bringing home your frustration at work and venting it out on your family. We give so much to our work but leave crumbs to our family. We control our emotions more when in the presence of friends and colleagues but not so much with our family. That girl is so precious.
Yes, it is the literal translation
If anything, the Chinese sounds even more impressive. The translation "We have to look at your face. We remain silent. We are just kids, this scares us." The "look at your face" in Chinese meant something more along "we have to pay attention to your face/expressions to gauge your mood".
Also the "we are just kids" she actually said it more like "little kids would be scared by this" almost like she is speaking as a neutral party, and not from the point of view of a kid. She's hella mature it's crazy.
Yeah, as someone who knows basic Chinese, she's not only saying it better than the translation, she's using proverbs in her speech as well. I actually started wondering if she's reading from a script but it's impossible because of how young she is and how she's conveying herself. She sounds scared. So does her sister. Very impressive. Her parents might fight but their daughters were taught well.
You go girl!!!! That's exactly right , if you had a bad day that stinks but don't come home and take it out on us. What courage and i think she did it in a respectful way
money can't buy this daughter's sensibility & understanding
I wish I had the same courage and intelligence to protect my mom when I was a kid.
I'm so amazed and proud of her, she did something not many kids could do... Especially when you're from an Asian family
Such an intelligent and well spoken girl, proud of her, her mother raised a great daughter
She's such a sweetie. I'm don't really ever get angry or cry, but if either of my daughters said something like this time, I'd absolutely melt.
It only took me 50 years to be able to be able to bring this up with my Dad.
A beautiful, beautiful, calm & gentle little girl. I want to hug her😢much love from Australia 🦘🌏💕
What a sweet and compassionate girl. She has more emotional intelligence than a lot of other people I’ve met who are much older. ❤
She's lucky. If I told my dad like that, I'd have a palm straight to my cheek. He only comes home twice a year and yet all he does is get angry.
I can feel you,this girl is able to say this because there is no violence in the house,it there was violence she would have remained silent and cry
Where does he work ?
@@maliha-Tarannum05 nah, it's obviously staged, in reality she would keep quiet!
@@BeautifulDove-i7uwhy? What u gonna do?
Anger is a legitimate emotion. It just happens that men are way more likely to feel anger than sadness in comparison to women for example even in the same situations. Why is anger so taboo. Do you hold it against your mom when she feels sad and cries ? If you could come home only twice a year wouldn't you get angry ?
Aww man... what a sweet little girl. Soft-hearted kids like this are so precious.
WOW! what a wonderful little girl - kind, patient, compassionate and wise beyond her years. in many ways children are and remain our teachers. lots of love and prayers for a wonderful life for her and her family. 🙏
This little girl is amazing to confront her dad like to not behave like that, but what is also amazing her dad did not shout back to tell the children to stop talking. In most Chinese families if a child talks like that to the parents, they immediately bang the tables and yell at them with threats to tell them stop talking and they use their authoritative behavior to control everyone and telling people how they should feel and how they should not feel.
His young daughter talks sense and the father regretted shouting at her mother because he was frustrated by something outside. I think it would be a life-changing lesson for him
Such a smart and intelligent kid. Her empathy is already strong, her mind is already matured compared to some adults.
She could not understand why the father was angry or why he blew up or how to help him. All she knew was angry = bad and you should do whatever mom feels like you should do or shut up. It is the opposite of mature but I wouldn't hold it against her seeing how most people in the world struggle with understanding that just because someone is angry it does not mean they are evil aggressors that cannot be right about anything.
We always hear don’t bring your problems to work, I think we should also avoid bringing our problems home too. This little girl is so right! What an Angel. 🌸😇
Her response doesnt sound like kids. The fact that she say "we're just kids, we're scared" is insane
Wow! I give this precious girl credit for defending her mom and Politely tell her dad what she thinks.
She loves both her parents.
Amazing. How brave and well spoken. Her EQ is astonishing. She surpass most adults with her high level of emotion intelligence. So impressive.
Not only Yuanyuan was brave and clever, but also let's talk about her mom, because I am sure she learnt that way of communication from her mother...so applause for both of them!❤
I have tears falling from my face. Wow how touching so young but the way she communicates
Sounds like she’s just repeating what her mom complains about when her husband isn’t home.
Seems very staged. Especially how she doesn’t look at the obvious camera until the very end. Like she was waiting for the scene to be over.
I hope he never forgets this moment with his daughters and wife. I hope other families take away this important lesson even when it’s been a very rough day. ❤
She reminds me of a few moments as a child growing up when I knew I needed to speak up even when I was scared. The person was in the wrong and needed to hear it.
I love her confidence ❤❤
After listening to the little girl, I just felt as if I just came out of a counseling and therapy session.
This little girl will have a wonderful and bright future. I can tell by her kindness and purity.
The depth of wisdom of this little girl!
This little girl is brave and emotionally smart,as someone who grew up in a south Asian household,I was the oldest child yet never had the sense nor guts to confront my father when he physically and verbally abused our mother....it's because we were raised to believe that the father had the right to treat the family whatever way he wanted.....many of these dads later complain their adult kids have gone no contact but they never wonder why
I think it normal not to confront an abusive father.
the built of a father and also his abusive nature would naturally cause his own kid to turn away/ back off. I think her dad is not a very authoritative type toward her and could have spoken to her nicely. that where her courage come fr. otherwise, a shout of father would just simply send the shock to the child. It's her family setting that's works for her. For abusive cases, retaliation comes only the little children has grown into a big strong young adults. the abusive father is too absorbed into their own unhappiness and also self-imposed logic. they will never understand. they never will.
My heart goes out to you.
They wonder that because they never did go no contact with their "abusive" family.
@@chippychip2153 Forgoing the fact that there is like 99% chance the video was staged the reason why the little girl could have the courage to speak up could be that in fact the father was the one being abused and yet because he couldn't hold his anger back to the very end it automatically makes him a villain.
@Mytelefe I don't understand the purpose or staging a camera? to capture her bravery act or capture her father response? to be popular? or having an evident when if the father turns abusive suddenly? she did look at camera to have acknowledgement. could the father being having a bad time and also been long suppressing the anger and resulted in black face and harsh word? why would the father not sharing? how could one not share? or he is having a miscommunication with his wife, and then he started to been in anger.
Props to the dad too for listening.
Very intelligent young lady! Well educated and spoken
Only calm and sensible words from an innocent child like her can bring her father to his senses. He should be very proud to have such a great daughter like her. I wish her family all the best. I am sure her wisdom will not fall on deaf ears. What a blessing to her family!
Wise beyond her years. ❤ 真的是一个很懂事的小孩儿。
What a wise little cutie ! 😁👍
she is so kind🥺
Wow! That was powerful! The girl had more insight and bravery than most adults . And she truly speaks from her heart. The child has the potential to accomplish great things throughout her life. Her wisdom and common sense exceeds that of most adults 10 times her age.
So moved by this lovely angel.
"If you then don't want to share your feelings, then don't bring your anger at home."
Very well said. 👏
That's what I told my Dad one day too. He was not shouting at my mum, but he was acting as he would be the boss... She was also working hard, so he had no right to do that.
He educated me to go to university and make a career, so why would he think that women have to put back?
That was 40yrs ago - he never did it again
Such a mature girl
Such a cutie-pie and obviously wiser beyond her years.
Who else thinks mother gets treated like that every day and she told her daughters to tell this because she thinks he'll listen to them but not her, his wife? 🙄
I tried to speak up when a situation like this occurred at our house. I was told to shut up and even got almost beaten up by him. I'm happy that she could say it on their face. I hope she lives without dealing with adults emotions and tranquility
she’s gonna make me cry