The Sociopaths Smear Campaign Top 7 Lies They Spread About You
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 13 ม.ค. 2025
- In today's video Jill is talking about the Malignant Narcissist and Sociopath and the Smear Campaigns the launch against anyone they feel threatened by or are jealous of. Jill explains the most common lies they will tell about you and gives advice on how to deal with a Smear Campaign if you are at the receiving end of one. #narcissist #sociopath #malignantnarcissist #smearcampaign #narcissisticabuseawareness #jillwise #theenlightenedtarget
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I was blackmailed for years because my abuser stole my password and committed financial crimes in my name. I was physically attacked and then my abuser called the police and brought charges against me claiming that I was the attacker. I was accused of being homosexual. My adult children were told I was a violent abuser and they rejected me. They were told that I would fly into insane violent rages. All of the things I was accused of were the things my abuser did to me.
I'm so sorry! May you be blessed on your healing journey!
Hugs 🤗
I am so sorry to hear this 😢. Sending love to you ❤
My brother and his wife have pressed financial abuse charges against me after they make slandarous lies against me. Claimed I threatened them, all slandarous lies. Filed fake charges against me. Of course all these are lies. Has incolved all of my extended family. Just completely false. Yes, we are in court, placed my father in a nursing home after I lived with him for 5 years, caring for him without 1 minute if help from them, only received criticism constantly. Now my brothers daughter and her meth head boyfriend have moved into my fathers house. Have cleaned out family heirlooms selling them at a yard sale. Jill it is as if you read my mind knowing exactly the hell I have neen through for the passed 4 years. My older brother filed guardianship for my father in 2020. The younger brother grew a conscious and withdrew, forcing a dismissal by the judge.
Awful. These ppl have no conscience. My own mother stole my identity and then my college money from the VA bc we had the same name. Here I am 35 years later still have never been able to work a legal job or get a college education. Then I unexpectedly became disabled and have to survive on the bare minimum bc I never worked a legal job. Had 2 jobs at the same time my entire life, had to work 2x as hard. She destroyed my life and right after I found out it was her she died. Still to this day my life is in shambles bc of her. These ppl are pure evil.
Family is the most toxic.
You got that right
Actually tho…I just dealt with this myself with a cousin of mine
My sister did a 3 year smear campaign to my entire family. Unbeknownst to me I was always the topic and a biword. They believed her and treated me accordingly. Even after they found out it was all bs they still don't talk to me out of....I dunno embarrassment? I thought they knew me better than what they were sold. Lasting damage for sure. Thou shall not bear false witness against thy neighbor. Its pure evil.
My boyfriend of 10 years cheated on me with my narcissist cousin that I was there for after my entire family dropped her out of their lives because of her history of lies and disrespect…once my boyfriend admitted to the cheating, I confronted her and her response was that he was lying and he is only making it all up to make HER look bad and actually got some people to believe her somehow…at that point I discovered that narcissists are actual dementors
As a substitute pianist at my church, my Narcissistic Mother began saying bad things about me to the members of my life-long church. The last time I was there the members of the church looked at me as though I was disgusting. I dissociated during the service. I had an "undiagnosed" breakdown and haven't returned to my church or any church for six years. These are vicious people. My hands are trembling just watching this video. Thank you The Enlightened Target!
my mother was this way too
Sometimes, they are the one that make the victim mentally sick , then tell everybody.
Yes. I have a daughter in law married to my stepson that's told everyone that I'm neurotic. After living with my narcissistic sociopath husband for 39 years, is it any wonder my nerves are shot. Even so, she hasn't been around me enough to know much about me other than I don't like her and have no intention of taking any of her abusive behavior. Fortunately for me my own son who is now nearly 40 saw first hand my husband's abusive behavior, constant drunkenness, sexual escapades with both men and women, financial thievery, and listened to his father confess to scary criminal acts that my ex is actually proud of. My son does not think I'm perfect, but he sees pretty clearly what a low life his father is. It's my stepson and his wife and my husband's extended family that believe he is the victim and I'm the bad guy. Won't there be big surprises on judgement day!
@joannbates8037 sorry to hear your story but you know you are not alone , I hope you surrounded yourself by good people who understand where you come from and possibly have , same experiences .
Sometimes?? It’s their M.O…it’s what they do, right?
My mother's narcissism mandates that she take no responsibility for my lifelong care after GSW 🧠❗️❗️❗️ I refuse to elaborate on a public forum any further WICKED NARCISSISTIC NONSENSE🤯
I appreciate your authenticity and so much more!!!!
It blows my mind how concepts like perjury, falsifying a police a report, or slander don’t even register with narcissists.
It blows my mind that anyone believes them! It takes me 2 weeks to a month to figure out if someone is a narcissist. You can tell because they slander everyone with outrageous accusations and constantly play the victim but can't prove anything. They also constantly change their story if you question them further. They're pathological liars.
It was done to me, and I agree with you 100 % !!
I am on disability for panic attacks. I am being smeared on social media and the mentally unstable landlord served me with an eviction notice and Restraining Order? I am being abused and was assaulted! She has enablers who lie to the cops for her!!! I am so stressed out I can't take it anymore. My health is failing, as I am weak and stuck in bed. Unable to work part time anymore. I am physically ill. I don't have thousands of dollars to fight the online smear campaigns and assault. The cops don't care either 😢
@@Wendy-lb6doit seems that landlords/housing managers are the most vile of Satan's bitches. Spying and assaulting their tensnts, partaking in witchcraft etc is crimes on humanity. They hate Jesus and life itself. Can I pray for you please? May you find him thru all this, Jesus is REAL.
Can you move? I was very fortunate - I went through much of what you went through, as well - panick attacks, etc. However, a couple of the police, who DID believe me, and were doing their jobs - and a nurse in the emergency room who also called the police ( when i had several panick attacks - including a Takotsubo cardiomyopathy), called Behavioral Health Network (in MA.). I went through the divorce and moved - then the Network labeled me as a victim of Domestic Violence - of extreme psychological and emotional abuse. That Network, then went to bat for me to get me into subsidized housing.
I admit - I got extremely fortunate.
Perhaps, there is a Domestic Violence support organization who can help you get moved to somewhere else. Don't give up! Keep looking for support and help! Esp. with Domestic Violence support organizations
Fortunately for me, my ex narc broke my "give a sh!t button" so his "smear campaign" is completely useless!!! 🤣
Good for ya!
Thank you so much. Needed that right now.
So have you been groomed to be okay with his raping and torturing you while framing you the threat to society for others to join in on the violent abuse against you, is your "give a shit" button broken on that level that you can let them do whatever they want with you and just not care? I mean, they basically expect me to be happy about being raped and there's no representation to stop the abuse, continues to this day, has been going on for years, wont even let me have my meds while they give them to their buddies that aren't even suffering in PTSD.
@@TheREALLibertyOrDeath I second that.
I know! What else can you do?
"Anyone who actually believes the smear campaign against you usually isn't someone you want in your life anyway."
Including your kids!
Exactly...you would think anyone with common sense would beable to read between the lines.
I’m not who you say I am… you are who you say I am” is a quote that always comes to mind when dealing with these people
If someone blindly believes the lies a narcissist says about you then that person is not worth your time, energy and love.
Yes however the majority outwit the bullied scapegoat
Say something enough times and eventually people will start to believe it though. I was never in a relationship with a narcissist but I had a close friend for 25 years who did all these things at a friend level. Single handedly dissolved an entire group of childhood buddies. Played us against one another, whenever someone accomplished something, he turned his focus on that person to devalue him. We all severed ties with the narcissist but still have no contact with each other
Most people will believe them if the narc tells them you're a rapist/child molester, and if it gets to your job your days there are numbered. Not that one or more narcissists at work wouldn't get you fired or fire you cause they can't stand the fact you exist ect.
True, but isolation from the community can be dangerous.
Sometimes the people who believe their lies are police, judges, GALs, therapists, etc
Don't know what's worst the Sociopath , Psychopath or the Narcissist ? They're all really dangerous Jill .
My oldest son is a mix of all three!
Have you heard about the dark empath yet? 😳
@@octoberdawn1087What is that?
@@kerrytaggart8206The worst kind. They actually have empathy and use it for evil. Very Machiavellian.
@@lc4972 Born and not made. I would bet these disorders are in the family tree on one or both sides.
I have a male neighbor who has a history of stalking , terrorizing, and harassing single women. He's a misogynistic, malignant narcissistic, sociopathic, pathological liar, and everything disgusting. He can't control me, so he's turned everyone, including the police, against me. If they can't control you, they have to control what others think of you. I'm now a "targeted individual" because of him. I'm being gang stalked/mobbed, my house and car are being destroyed, my security cameras along with all my electronics, are hacked, and the police won't help because they're a part of all the abuse. This crazy, sick neighbor has connections to the city and thinks he owns our neighborhood. Thanks for posting this; you're right on point! They project everything onto others that they're guilty of.
I am also going through this. Single mum here and it's sick how people behave entitled to access my peace. My ex said I should leave town, that I'd never be safe here if I stayed. My son beaten by 3 guys. I'm isolated with this here. Thank you for sharing your message 😊
I'm sorry you're going through this. If you are being gang stalked and you're a part of the Cointelpro program, it follows you for life. Leaving town will only put you in a unfamiliar location with the same set of circumstances.
I try to figure out what's the least of the evils, because I don't want to go from bad to worse. Good luck
We must live on the same street.
The girls would falsely accuse me of having raped them after i would turn them down for sex, all while i was still in blackout to my being the rape victim, the abuse of targeted individuals is beyond asinine, i found myself completely surrounded by them after my memories of abuse were given back via mkultra hypnotic trigger or guru touch, and they're all mostly psyoped to turn on each other
This is horrible.. I'm sorry you are going through this..
This is exactly why I have no social life and no one talks to me. Smear campaign waged war against me.
I’m with you 😢
I hope you aré okey and happy
I am ok not to worry. GOD is always with me, he is always with us.
@@andrearyel5971 The only thing that saved me
my mother did this to me with her friends and my mother in law too!
Their accusations are actually confessions. So sick of gossipy,unkind judgrmental people. I may not be perfect but i am bullied everywhere i go. And yes they are HUGE deflectors!!! Don't react whatever you do!!! That's what they want!! They'll use it against you. But don't worry, their past will follow them and word gets around eventually. As far as addressing the lies and stuff , people still didn't listen 😢. Guess i found out who.my real friends are!
100%….Crazy spot on! My ex of 26 years did this to me….My children won’t speak to me at all. And it seems irrelevant to confront them with facts. My ex has said horrible, horrible things about me. Filed for divorce, tried to steal everything. Then drag divorce out for 31/2 years!
What’s funny, is that years earlier, she accused me of being mentally unstable and told me I needed to get diagnosed from a professional. So I did and was diagnosed with no mental disorder, but I continued seeing my therapist. To find ways not to urge as much with my then wife. Once I started deescalating fights. Not buying into circular reasoning. This turbo charged her attacks….She said my therapist was crazy and demanded I stop seeing him.
So to keep the peace with underaged children in the house at that time I stopped. 2 years later….I’m a narcissist. She kept telling me to look it up, even had my children saying the same thing. The light bulb moment…I looked it up and what is nuts, the top 10 things narcissists do….Ding,ding,ding was her! So I went back to my therapist and even ask him if I was a narcissist? Just to be sure…I was assured, that fact I was there asking, is not characteristic of one.
Sorry to go on….You hit the mail on the head. .
10.5 years into a custody battle with a sociopath, I can say you're spot on. So sorry for your loss and the children. How are the kids today?
@@ericgavidia291 Still will not speak to me. They are all adults. I though for sure when my daughter attended the trial she would wake-up….My ex was caught in lie after lie, but no impact at all!
I call it living in the upside down!
" she accused me of being mentally unstable and told me I needed to get diagnosed from a professional"... mine did this, in front of our GP, after I accused her of being NPD, she countered with me being delusional, hearing voices, etc..."I" ended up getting an MRI of my head! I did free myself later, but omg, these psycho's are vampires.
My in-laws do all of the above
1. I was supposedly cooking, selling and smoking meth 😅
2. I was accused of cheating, stealing and my entire pregnancy, claims that my spouse wasn't the father.
3. I'm supposedly psychotic and "unwell."
4. Again, I was always labeled a cheater and user. They forgot to mention how I was left at home, unable to even drive my own car (with a baby, no less), for months on end.
5. I'm abusive and neglectful, won't "allow" my child to go to church or see that family.
6. I'm accused of having a spending problem (that would be my spouse), undeducated, irresponsible and incapable of basic things.
7. They accused and still accuse me of being an addict-saying things like I shoot up between my toes so nobody will see, had a drug problem before I met them...
Had almost all of those happen to me. Thanks be to God I am free and now know who my real friends are.
This just makes me sick. It's hard to listen to - I had older siblings do this ti me. They turned our own parents against me, and all of our relatives with their lies. It was all about keeping me away - because I was a voice of reason, and isolating our daad - coercing, and forcing, him unto changing his will. It was all about money, land, property, and oil rights.
Please excuse the typos, everyone. I was listening to this in bed, in the middle of yet another sleepless night, and trying to type on my side, propped up on an elbow.
Lay up your treasures in heaven, the ones of this world are temporary and useless
This is exactly what I’ve gone through with my sister. Once the mask slipped and she was called out for her criminal activity, the smear campaign was on. Friends I’ve known for decades stopped talking to me for almost a year. I just ignored and minded my own business living life. Eventually the mask slipped with them too and now she’s left with no supply to get back at me with. I think she’s in narcissist collapse finally.
Time always reveals true character
You were a lot smarter than me. All I did was react to the point I criticized how bad the low-grade narcs were at their “job” which only made them better at it. I gave them everything they needed in this video, no joke-every single thing mentioned…I gave. I thought if I showed them they weren’t good at it, they would realize they were idiots. But that’s how normal people respond to truth…not abnormal people.
When my mom died, my narcisistic father told everyone that I "went off the deep end".
Because of their lack of empathy, they can’t imagine when someone dies that someone may have strong emotions.
😢
I am living through this. Almost word for word, but worse. What is made worse is when your narcissist hides their crazy well. Speaks well, dresses well, and owns a business in the community. Not to mention, there is no policing social media. People almost always believe what is printed. Very little fact checking is going on. I was a happy person, completely unprepared for the damage a person like this could do. I hope that with awareness, other people see the signs and can avoid getting involved with a narcissist.
First, I would like to say sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and your family. Secondly, thank you for existing. You’ve been extremely helpful .
Thank you so much 🙏
@@theenlightenedtarget I will definitely be in contact. I’ve been dealing with a narcissist for a long time now and it’s been hard. Any and all of your help is much appreciated.
Their main aim = character assasination (Merriam Webster Dictionary): "the slandering of a person usually with the intention of destroying public confidence in that person" sad but true. Very painful to endure. Please please whomever reads this, please do not ever go back if youv'e been no contact. 17 years of n/c here. Biggest mistake of my life was breaking that, thinking perhaps they really changed or had grown.
They could also be so worried about you and send people to your door, smearing disguised as concern. Or say to everybody that you are such a sensitive person, in other words weak. In that way they can smear you and look good at the same time. Especially goes for mothers with adult children trying to break from them.
At some point, we have to be ok with being the villain in someone's story. I know it's hard, but know the truth and leave them to themselves.
That’s all we can do really. They don’t leave us any other choice but to try and forget it ever happened an move on
@@GhOs7-Operator I know, it really is easier said than done...I've grown to the point though, where I know the truth, and no amount of gaslighting, manipulation, or other behaviors will work on me. Hang in there!!
If their Mouth is Open, they are manipulating and Lying about You til they find a new Supply... Leave the room and do not argue with Crazy... This will drive them crazy... They always try to trick you into doing what They want.....Evil beings.....Demons .
Yes, it IS very hard, but, hang in there - it gets easier. Took me ~ 4 years, and no contact.
But, I was also, extremely fortunate that SOME of the authorities realized I wasn't "the one", and got me help and housing.
Not everyone is as fortunate.
Agree
Never defend, never explain, only your silence will cause them to expose themselves.
For 50 years my husband told lies about me to family members, all his friends, neighbors and even our children. He bragged constantly about how well he could lie and make people believe him. After his death I was horrified to hear some of the things he'd said about me. He had nearly everyone convinced that I was the abusive liar. He had my own mother and sister sympathizing with him and telling him he was too good for me. Those who believe me now are still in my life, but I have cut the rest out of my life completely. I could never, ever trust another man.
I'm so sorry, that is truly horrifying to learn, and all while you are supposed to be grieving too. How sad, it's like you've been denied the grieving process and family and friends' support system that normally happens when a spouse dies.*hugs*
@@jeant7361 thank you for your kind words.
It took me years to overcome these kinda twisted tatics.
I think my christian psychiatrist was definitely a sociopath!!!! Let that sink in
Not so hard to believe.
psychiatry and feminism ruined the church Christians leave their own to starve while funding African communism via Charity donations
I'm so sorry. But, you realized how damaging that narcissist was, and went somewhere else for support, I hope.
A lot of covert narcissists hide behind religious facades and many take jobs where they have the veneer of decency and respectability and also have power over others. Medical professionals, people who work with children and with elderly and vulnerable people, police officers, etc. etc.
Doesn’t surprise me deeply. There are more psychopaths among doctors than in the general population, and Christians….well…that’s the perfect cover for some shady characters.
Superb video as always, Thank you for raising the point that people should not believe everything they hear. It is sad if someone with lots of interpersonal power starts a smear campaign against you. For example in a family where the matriarch fools everyone against you.
The biggest problem actually isn't the sociopath, it's the Family Court. As crazy as it sounds, I've said many times that I can actually deal with the sociopath but it is the Family Court that not only empowers but rewards the Narc at the cost of the children's future and in many cases even lives.
The legal system is bound by its own laws. After several years of smear campaign from MIL, which her son (my ex) believed, and thousands of dollars getting it all sorted (custody of our child, and property settled), when the judge finished sorting it all out, and gave his pronouncement, *I was totally surprised to see every official in the court, including the judge, smile at me; even the stenographer turned and gave me a smile; I was shocked actually.* Except for Judge Judy's televised court, I've never seen any people in official positions in court smile at the person who had won. They knew I'd been put through the wringer, but they could only go within the tracks that the legal system sets down, and have to disregard the emotional cost to the victim (unless I'd brought a separate case, which I could not afford).
This is what happened to me. I can’t believe the gullibility of the social workers to believe this crap. My ex wife planned this for almost ten years. Lying to our children and the courts. Lying to me for years and trying to trigger me with the evil things she would do to me including sexual assault and blaming me for it. I’m so glad I divorced her but it was too late for our kids. They believe everything she says.
@@justlookin4450 I can relate.
Unfortunately my son and I know everything about that.. we lost each other 5 years ago.
@@jeszrah5889 Big hugs.
A useful coping tool is to ignore attempts to drag you into traps. Act like you don't hear them. Then walk out. You have better things to do.
My Golden child brother sent me a message last week saying I’m mentally ill. He’s just been released from prison for the 3rd time. In his 20 six years for heroin, in his 30s 10 years for cocaine and in his 40s 14 yrs for cocaine again. I recorded my mother using coercive control blackmailing me with the inheritance for the millionth time. Then recorded her again denying it and swearing down on my life and her grandchildren’s lives that she hadn’t done it and saying I was evil for even making up something like this. I then played the recording to both my parents proving this, no apology, the problem was me singing to loud. Good old blame shifting as usual. Stick it all on the scapegoat. I played the recording to someone who then snitched on me (flying monkey). The text from my brother also said I’m a narcissist, who else purposely starts arguments then records it. Only family scapegoats understand this type of psycho/emotional abuse so you have no one to talk to about the abuse. This is always done covertly with no witnesses and is so sneaky and they done this to me my whole life, it never stops. Now they doing the smear campaign on their own child.
You need to stay away from those people change your phone number and move on.
Definitively, if at all humanly possible, move, leave no forwarding address, go no contact. Change your phone number, drop off the map, leave no trail, keep off social media. Lose the losers.
"Lose the losers" Love that!
That's usually the way - those who have criminal records, or deficient accomplishments, etc. are always the ones who bully others.
"Accuse others of that which you do yourself."
Going no contact with them is the only way, but so hard to do with family😢
Just to isolate and demeanor that person mental health to bring depression and anxiety and stress to make others to believe that the victim is angry and dangerous
My own mother was just like this. She has managed to turn my two daughters against me. I pray a lot, that the lies will eventually be revealed.
Lived through this. Accurate.
my mother to the T! and she had people believing her with absolutely no proof
Have had the cops called on me more than one time by narcissistic father , my sister just for even questioning anything . I've been called crazy or imagining things or bi polar just because I snapped at them for pushing me around and gaslighting me for a very long time also has had my reputation & my support taking away because of their manipulative bullying behavior .
I am sorry that all happened.
Yes it's sad and I think its quite hilarious that they call us crazy when they are the nuts ones.
It’s scary 😧 I know my stalker has manipulated the police against me, because they never did much to protect me.
Majority of police not all. The good ones don't have a job for very long. Most police are narcissist and many are spouse beaters and real messed up. Not all police. The area I am from way back when. The police force was sicko mobs most all the court system infested with corruption and cover ups.
GhOs7-Operator But God knows who they are, what they are doing and what their intentions are.
Another tactic is doing what they can to stress the former partner beyond their limits so they do in fact develop an actual diagnosable mental health condition.
Also anonymous malicious and untrue reports regarding the former partner (and possibly also anyone who supports them) to various authorities including the tax office, council and social services etc.
Nobody will help you clear your name to save your life, even if you pay them obscene amounts of money in total and complete desperation. Gang stalking (organized STALKING-- A REAL CRIME-- and harassment) is a human rights CRIME.
Targeted individuals (TI) 😢 I think I'm one right now and have been gangstalked. By complete strangers- even in my own home. They follow me to my moms house almost an hour away. 😔 it's a major problem because they may employ anyone to effect a TI. It's a losing battle because the abusers by proxy (sometimes called "flying monkeys") or "perps" in the TI world are relentless in their pursuit. At times it really does feel like that. Also a natural narcissistic person in nature (sorry for repetition) will easily join the band wagon to destroy a TI and it is a huge disaster in my opinion! A system that enables these people. Yikes.
@@exlesoes Me too.
@@exlesoessame idk what to do
OMG! You are so on target. My 97 year old narcissistic mother went so far as to switch doctors to the doctor I’ve been with for years, and then told my doctor I was guilty of elder abuse. She has made my life a living hell. She tells lies about me to anyone that knows me, including my adult children.
I have seen her celebrate after upsetting others and myself. They truly thrive on causing and witnessing distress in others, evil.
EXACTLY! You spot on about it ALL!
Yep, my mother-in-law checks all the boxes for a sociopath and is currently doing everything you mentioned. She’s spreading lies about me saying that I cheat on my husband with men online and that I’m an evil person keeping her from seeing her grandkids… It just baffles me at the amount of shamelessness that stews from these hateful people. I mean, I wouldn’t ever go to these lengths against my worst enemy so it just goes to show how heartless and narcissistic they are…
JILL......SO GLAD THAT YOU PUT THIS INFO. OUT FOR THE VICTIMS....I HAVE FOUND THAT MOST OF THESE PEOPLE HAVE NO CLUE AS TO WHAT'S HAPPENING....YOUR INFO IS LIFE SAVING AND YOU SHOULD CONTINUE.....YOU, WITHOUT REALIZING IS SAVING LIVES....GOD SAID HE WOULD BRING SIGHT TO THE BLIND....THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR TURNING THE LIGHT ON FOR THESE PEOPLE THAT ARE SUFFERING.🌹
Yes . They shift it to people that are mentally healthy!
Once you've dealt with this and a pathological liar who like we've both attested you know when they're lying when their lips are moving... It makes you ultra-hypersensitive to any lies on all levels.
Once you've endured the devastating effects of those little lies that destroy your character and reputation you know just how devastating and how much havoc they are capable of wreaking in someone's life. Usually someone who isn't even aware they are being lied about until the situation has already reached a tipping point and point of no return!
Yes all this is what they have done. How sad. But truth will always prevail.
I have met a few sociopaths during my life. It’s incredible how many of them have been in the fields of medicine and religion. 😳
This makes sense. They twist turn and turn upside down and all around. Gossipers, slanderers, wandering stars. The book of Jude. That's right Jill talk is cheap. Thank you Jill
100 truth. I also lived/still am with daughter living through this.
I must admit, I can see these exact reasons could be used against a victim trying to expose the narc. This is why no contact is the only real solution.
Thank you! xxoo I went through exactly all of this and I was very young when it started so didn't know about reactive and narcissistic abuse. I kept my composure because I knew enough to know if I got angry or physical, even when they were physically assaulting me, that they would use it to support their narrative about me. My stalker and his close associates lied to so many people and even tried to convince others that I was stalking him. I'm lucky that he showed his hand early on by calling me and putting me on speakerphone to try create that narrative. I knew not to reach out and that this was not a misunderstanding after that.
I still can't come to terms how people can go out to completely destroy another person....Its actually the hugh plotting and planning that i find highly disturbing ...but their sowing will become their reaping... I still wouldn't want that for anyone but they need stopping!!
If lifelong friends believe outrageous stories from the Narc. It shows what bad judgment they have! Get them out of your life immediately.
Had a few of these types in my life. Bless you
12:16 "Just because they say it doesn't make it true." This fact makes it more devastatingly painful, when it actually does take your life, and the lives of all your unborn children.
Lying under oath and perjury.
This is an EXCELLENT teaching tool to spread awareness and spark intentional action for those who were duped this entire time. Thank you so much for the way you worded everything. This can be used for personal as well as professional experience. Stand up and tell your truth. It's time to heal! They already think you're crazy- there's nothing to lose but your peace and sanity to be gained and restored. 10 years ago I was searching for answers. Now I've come across a NATION of individuals who KNOW what's up. It's soooooo very refreshing. To God be the glory!!!!!!!!! Thank you 🙏🏾
I hate the mind games that narcissists play. To find out that they never loved me that I was just another transaction to them breaks my heart. I have lost every single person that has ever told me that they care about me due to the narcissists smear campaigns against me and I’ve dealt with plenty of them. I literally have nobody including my biggest narc AKA my husband he has totally isolated me from the world. He don’t like it when I work outside of our home. No friends to talk to or go have fun with. I can count on one hand how many vacations that we have been on by ourselves in over 40 years. I raised by one then married one. It’s a really bad roller coaster ride. One day sweet the next week you’re walking on eggshells again never knowing who is going to walk through the front door “Jekyll or Hyde”. Red Flags! Run as fast as you can and don’t look back. Zebras don’t change their stripes. My own kids call me crazy because that is what their father has told them for years. All three of them have cut me out of their lives. I’m left dumbfounded and always trying to figure out what I did wrong to deserve this kind of punishment. Until I found out what Narcissism is and started doing my own research. Ta Da! “It’s not me” A book by Dr. Ramani explains a lot of what you are dealing with. I also listen to Dr. Carter on narcissism. Take care of yourself first then they can have the rest. Stop being a “Yes, OK” person. I’m am a shell of myself and I only have myself to blame for putting up with all of the BS.
I'm so sorry you are having to endure this. Do things for yourself after work or when you are out doing errands, self-care helps with the depression that is caused by the trauma of narcissist. *Hugs*
We are actually the mentally stable parent. They are the nuts ones. Ill definitely let my child know what brainwashing and manipulation is. My son even told me dad i know you love me and yes you are different dad. I told him one day you will see things for yourself. He knows his mom is nuts and that im mentally stable.
If they can’t take it, they try like hell to break it
They tarnish your name in the process and it is so hard to defend yourself to others that don’t even know you
These people who lie so much, I cannot wrap my head around how they even keep track of it all. How can it be worth it?
Exactly when her integrity is compromised and jealousy controls her actions she will stoop to perfidious means try to harm me.
The smear campaign has already happened to me .
Good to see you fiercely taking it to their sorry arses. Recently went through it,experiencing everything you just mentioned. So,are they sadist,sociopath,psychopath...in addition to being pure evil? Thanks for this video
Truth spoken here.
The story of my life. Terrible people. Scorched earth left behind.
Responding not reacting. THANK YOURSELF AND THANK YOU for helping me. My Mother-In-Law stopped talking to my partner and she use to call every Sunday for about four months and then stopped. She called almost exactly at either 6-8pm. She stopped calling two months ago. It’s like she’s trying to hurt him. It’s fucked up. Does ANYONE have any advice on how I’m supposed to help him? I can tell he’s a little confused and he’s been acting hurt… I really hate this chick. She’s pathetic in my eyes.
We have a government of sociopaths they need to be identified who they are and know the difference between good and evil thank you many blessings to you and your family and ministry
That's my mother totally the other video you did on narcissistic mothers is just like my mother also I am 48 years old and I didn't learn to love myself until I was 44 and I didn't know what she was doing until I was 44 so I just researched and researched and I'm so glad that you're on TH-cam and explaining stuff because my daughter is brainwashed into thinking I've never loved her and she's 26 and I haven't seen my 5 year old grandson but one time when he was too because they told her I'm crazy
I’m a hot blooded person, they would drive me insane and then act like there was no basis in what I was saying to them.
Look at childhood trauma.
That could be why you get triggered.
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All of your tactical behaviors are correct. Thanks for this informative video. Unfortunately, alot of silly people bandwagon & agrees with the sociopaths lies and fabricated, staged negative information.
This is so sad to read all these testimonies and my terror never ended.
Raised by monsters, added a couple short short marriages to monsters to my resume and more scarey. Witnessed children abused in juvenile center where I briefly worked, govt after me, doctors trying to kill me more than a few times. Its exhausting to see this horror show I endured. I know people say bunches of great people all around.
Where? One out how many? I read testimonies briefly sometimes more extensively in these groups and its alarming what some of us have endured. Compounded compounded pain with a few breaks.
I send my prayers and love to everyone. Jill thank you for being a shining light in so much darkness. ❤😊❤🌅🙋
I found that very true about projection. My late narc husband would say I was " not good with money", which he had told everyone. That way he had total control of the money and credit cards. He would greatly exaggeration my personal expenditures are selfish and un necessary, while he stole and made fake cards, and he had huge shopping sprees and expensive hunting trips and ruined our business. Don't fall for the crap they craft, if you feel it is untrue.
Jill Wise thank you, my ex husband did everything you are talking about. I moved from California to Texas to stop the stalking that never stopped for years. He died while I was there. I’m back home in California again. I always figured not fighting back would work because my children especially would eventually know who I am. It’s been a long haul, but my children, family and friends have figured out what happened. By the way, he almost murdered me in front of my children, said it was all my fault. He turned himself in to the police on Fathers Day and told my children, “see what your Mom is making us go through.”
I found out yesterday that my ex was smearing my name to a friend of mines, she came and told me everything and of course he flipped around on her.
I've lived every word of your post, first as the child of one and then as a (now ex) wife and daughter in law. I echo your sentiment: anyone who actually believes the smear campaign against you is not someone you need in your life anyway. That and educating yourself on reactive abuse solves a lot of issues in short order. They'll think they're winning until time exposes them. Practice acceptance and self reliance for the win.
I had coworkers say Josh its easier to point the finger and i responded with that shows how weak you are when you cant take accountability and yet you label someone else as the bad guy to deflect your behavior and try and project
Jill, thank you for sharing your knowledge and pain. You can't imagine how profoundly you've helped ground me to continue moving forward with truth and dignity.
Excellent video. Thank you so much.
We gain an edge over low vibrational people, when we come from a place of magnanimity.
These insane people all draw from the same playbook? Everything you say is exactly what this person did. Line for line. 😮
Exactly why I only confided in the closest friends and my family because the things I found out about him after the discard made my skin crawl. I didn’t need to look like a lunatic spreading the insane truth on top of everything else
My now deceased husband went through this. The ex got their children to lie to the police (there is a recording of her threatening to do this); she told all his family that he was violent to them all; she lied to them and claimed he wasn't paying the bills, so got them to give her money for bills that he was already paying. She tried to get him put in prison, because there was a clause in their religious marriage certificate that 'if the husband goes to prison for more than five years the wife automatically gets half of all his assets and a divorce'. The family all backed her up and will never apologise. On the contrary, they are trying to stir something up with me maybe to avoid having to take accountability.
Exactly the same things my mother and sisters do. The funny thing is that these are all things that THEY are guilty of/have done. They are telling you who they are!
They wont let us speak here, yet they make videos as if caring to stop the abuse, please report the account as being involved in promoting terrorism, as well as, child abuse, i think it's because they're "monetized", nobody really explains things, so it's hard to figure out why we're being kept silenced and isolated for more abuse, my reply to you was really no different than the other comment they supposedly let thru, so yeah, idk what's going on, i'm just sick of it
I suspect the narcissist identifies the narrative that will have the greatest impact on individual(s) they are speaking to. So, to the professional it's that you are stupid, incompetent, uneducated, etc. To the religious it's that you are morally bankrupt. To your family and friends it's that you are nasty and hateful to them (victim mentality).
My all time favorite must be that my delightful brother told the realtor for my parents estate sale that he wanted to make sure I was taken care of. I suspect my brother said that I was mentally ill or deficient in some way. When the realtor relayed the message about my brother's concern I laughed and asked if there was another sister we didn't know about because he sure didn't care about me. The realtor wasn't much better than my brother so I guess like minds love the slandering behavior. Worth paying attention to who is listening to the stories too.
My ex-wife is a psychopath. She employed these tactics. I gained sole custody over my son four times in legal battles. In the end, his half-sister by the same mother convinced him when he was nearly 17 to up and leave the country. My ex-wife then propagandized him in the new country and I couldn't get him back because he was 16 or older (in spite of sole custody). I fear he is suffering (he is now 19) but he is clearly manipulated, and having been there some times to try to get him to come home at least for a short holiday, I have so far been unsuccessful. The worst thing is that you start to doubt yourself.
No, the worst thing is if my son is suffering, which he seems to be.
6:46 Right. Exactly coach. In our case the X HUSBAND was ashamed, embarrassed, from acting like a psycho, so he began a campaign against her. Now he was found acting crazy, I don’t have to embarrass him further by giving details. But he did some of the stuff you had mentioned in the video. When it first happened, we were pretty confident because we were being open, honest, on the level, and our actions backed up our reality. We were “Being the good guys”so to speak. In other words, we wouldn’t try to harm her x in any way. We just aggressed his bad behavior and asked him to change it. But once he was off the ranch so to speak, he began controlling the narrative with authorities. Using the kid as a weapon. He did all that stuff. Smearing, lying, manipulation, and it worked to a degree. He started getting visits again. Now he’s looking for custody. So what you have here is a guy who acts like shhhh (antisocial) and attempted to lower his victims status in the town we live in.” 🤢💡😉👈🏻
I have been through all of this, with my own family. All over an inheritance that had already been stolen from me. Lol. Insane. I am just so beyond thankful that I got away, all Glory goes to God for literally saving my life.
You are so very skilled, you really get it. , thanks!! Document everything you can but discreetly, reveal nothing until you have to. If you plan to leave then plan secretly, get your ducks in a row unless safety is in jeopardy then just get out anyway as fast as you can.
My first perpetrator in the decades' long course of conduct crime against my life which will never be adjudicated actually wrote the following on a small slip of paper she gave to me: "Life's little lessons can kick the sh*t out of you." I gave it to a witness and a private investigator who betrayed me, like everyone else including the social contract. I lost decades, and my life, as well as the lives of all my unborn children and any career. The world is utterly evil.
Have suffered and still do all of the tortures mentioned in her video. Was brought to court by my sister currently against false allegations. Lawyers do not know about narcissists.
True! I know now exactly what he has done (guilty of) due to the projections on me, and it is all of the above. And I really do not need the people who believed his lies and acted on his behalf. Sooner or later he and his friends will go to jail. (Sooner, in this case).
Exactly when her integrity is compromised and jealousy controls her actions she will resort to perfidious means try to harm me.
Soo awesome - the best advice ever! It is actually so obvious that a person of real integrity will not go around smearing other people. I was in a situation where a woman told me another woman is mentally ill - and in all my dealings with both ladies I eventfully figured out the "mental" person is one of the most stable and well balanced people I ever came across and she did not say a single bad word about the "gossiper".
Jill ~ When you speak, I believe I'm hearing from a person that's 'been there' and is speaking from experience. There are some very good psychologists out there on TH-cam that have learned the subject very well and speak about it very effectively and I'm certain have helped a lot of people. But I definitely can tell you speak from the heart of someone that's been there, making the information you put out uniquely helpful.
Going through this nightmare for the last 3 years. They tell that I'm a drug addict, an abuser etc etc. Which is of course not true. All the relatives appeared to be morons and supported my crazy mom and my brother (who is the actuall addict, went to jail for 2 times lol). And we also have a war at the same time (Ukraine). But they will not get me anyway, growing stronger and stronger))
I have cut off so many friends and only the ones that came to me confused are the people I consider for the future.
Excellent show
I was accused of stalking, my family were told I was mentally ill and using drugs. She was a scientologist as well as a narcissist. My life was shattered.