It’s still hard for me to believe that this was done to me. Somehow I’m still standing. Thank you for educating survivors like myself so that we can protect ourselves.
I had almost everyone in my social and professional circles infiltrated by the narcissist. And I have lost all those relationships within a couple of years. It’s absolutely overwhelming and the grief I have felt is heartbreaking. It’s indescribable.
I was the target at my workplace in a State agency in Alabama, and experienced most of these evils. The Narcissist used her Allies gained at my expense to climb up the ladder of professional success.
Stay as far away from them as is humanly possible. Toxicity has no place in a human being's life, EVER. Get educated, be watchful, know what signs to look out for.
My covert malignant narc parent has done all of these things in my other parent's life and my life. Even though the narc is no longer in our lives, they have severely isolated us from people. My narc parent is still able to manipulate our social circles perceptions of us because they are considered so 'trustworthy and dependable' to our circles. It is shocking how calculated they are under the guise of kindness and helpfulness! And it is so difficult to get your life back after they've infiltrated and broken you down!
I just went down this list and checked off nearly every single one of these as how she acted. I was only with her for half of last year before I walked away. She was in the process of trying to isolate me from friends and family when I did finally see her for who she really was and get out of that relationship. It was really hard to do that, and on top of it, I had to see her every day at work (she was a coworker), which allowed her to try and manipulate me back into a relationship.. I'm still healing.
Thanks again. Clear teaching for us all. You're a life changer. Yes the over the top sudden gifts/presents out of nowhere?? Usually means something else. When I was told I seemed ungrateful. I replied 'that's not sorry!' Or you taking responsibility or changing anything.
min 15:43 Infiltrating social circles - mother perfectly used this against my father. Primary with fathers RELATIVES - sisters and wide range of relatives. Dont let them do it - dominate relations with your people. Your spouse has their own relatives and friends - no need to sneak in and dominate contacts with all your friends and relatives. If it is not possible - get rid of such a dominating partner. I witnessed it and there is something repelling and abnormal in such behavior.
My narc neighbor manufactured a crisis (break-in) in my apartment by a homeless guy, after I cut off contact with him, stopped speaking and interacting with him due to his vicious and abhorrent behavior. His goal was that I reached out to him for help when the homeless guy was banging on my door trying to break-in my apartment. I didn't and handled it on my own. I threatened the homeless guy that I was going to call the police and called 911, and he left. My narc neighbor was witnessing this incident the entire time and lives less than 10 ft from me. However, I have no proof that my narc neighbor manufactured this incident, my gut instinct believes he did. It was like a scene out of the Twilight Zone. You can't make this up. Great Video!
I believe you. I've dealt with a narc neighbor in addition to the ones in my family/divorce. Neighbors aren't discussed as often, but WOW! They can really cause chaos in your life! Each narc will create their own personal brand of it, so I haven't had this exact experience, of course. I simply wanted to support you. It's SO unnerving knowing someone wishes you ill and lives so close. 🙏💜
What can you do when the damage is done? When your mind is damaged and you can’t think anymore. I don’t want to live anymore. In the end they think your ignorance is your fault. They are doing you a favor- teaching you a lesson. FTW
You pray for strength! I have been through these peeks and valleys myself. I’ve been stuck for over a year and can’t get out financially. The tactics I’ve had to withstand from him are horrible but I keep praying for strength and have educated myself into a powerful mindset. Knowing how pathetic he is and has to work to try to keep me in line makes me smile because I know my escape is coming one day I’ll be mentally free of him
fear not. you can overcome this. look up and study neuro plasticity. you can rewrite your programming. all those suicidal thoughts are not yours. They were forced on you and into your mind. fight back. do not let evil win. probably, your parents and others hated you and wanted you dead. don't' agree with them.
So incredibly accurate. I often find myself questioning if my judgement has been correct or fair. But then I re-watch some videos and realse that yes, I am right, he is dangerous, he has been doing all these things to me since the very get-go. Thanks for putting these videos out, you are really doing a service to the world 🙏🙏🙏
This accurately describes how one of my siblings infiltrated my life, beginning with manufacturing a crisis in which she could appear to be the savior.
Yes, I've lost many, very high level, high paying, jobs because of my spouse demanding I do something for her that interferes with my work. It's so covert that you don't see it because you don't know you're married to a demon.
Yeah the new acquaintance who likes their own voice ,trys to invite you to stuff,trys to give you stuff,and not even asking you,boringly obvious when you know 👍 thanks though,one of your best .
@theenlightenedtarget thank you for the comment. This is how he meet unassuming people when on duty..its how we met & my guard was down. The discard was one of the most terrifying times I've ever experienced. He drives around looking for girls while on duty that are vulnerable to infiltrate.
4:03 That made me think about this differently. You know those circumstances where the obvious just gets missed? You know when, you see one character going all out for everybody, being the solid advisor for people, lending money, giving help, time, almost bending over backwards to help them. But when a problem pops up in the family/marriage/union, we sometimes see the very cheap gas light narrative come into play. So now, a situation where family/friends are supposed to be supportive in every sense of the word, but instead all you get is doubt, stress, confusion, and panic. All because nobody noticed all the good qualities of the victim. So as the abuser attempts to make the victim look insane, nobody fixes it or supports the person, because they only noticed your flaws n fears. They know what gets to you. 🤢🧠💯so I see that as being positively disturbing.” 😬🙏💯”of course on the bright side bad feelings aren’t a state of being, but they do stink. I really relate to that kind of story. Meaning, the instant real time cues from the abuser hurt, but the bad attitude from people you thought you could trust is worse in a way.” 😌
One could teach for weeks, months, yrs on end everything to know about the narc creature, but what is needed, is knowledge of how to deal with these monsters, effective countermeasures!!!
Depends upon whom the "Targets" are & whether they've not a history of Courtesies? Strangers whom are concerned about this are merely against the subjects communicating. Success Saboteurs are arguing that the victims are ambitious; this argument is no longer valid once the victims become content...
Pure hell my ex-wife a covert narcissist found out my phone number after I had changed she's text message me header children leave voicemails I'm changing my number again hopefully this will do it I know what they're a covert narcissist don't ever try to expose them
Min.9 chaos. - Could it also be demand to sell co-owned properties? Several at the same time. Mother has no need for money she is soon 80. But as a co-owner she feels troubled that I use f.ex. families summerhouse. So I literarly have to sell the existing and buy another nearby instead so I hope to win peace. But there are other properties where she tries to cultivate the same feeling. She is 80 but she still tries to play the captain of a ship, where she is a guest same as me. Dad earned them. I have a feeling that it is a never ending principal - just not to let live in peace. So I hope such acts of separation - sell and buy a new one - will help.
My narc parent constantly complains to me how they are embarrassed by me!! They cycle through their long list of predictable personal attacks, anything from hair to clothes, etc….
My ex-fiancée was constantly creating manufactured crises, which I realized fairly straight away. It sucked up time and resources that needed to be applied elsewhere. When I cut ties with her the artificial drama ceased.
nice one Jill - you'll make a bad video one day but it's a while off...😃 I had to laugh earlier this year when I found that thousands of e-mails had been trawled through by a resident narcopath in my life - the aim was actually to manufacture a 'trouble situation' they could then 'rescue' me from. Unfortunately for him they found nothing incriminating - and then the guy he got to do the trawl coughed when we ran into each other in a bar (guilty conscience I suspect). These ghouls will literally engineer a crisis they can then 'help you out of' to induce gratitude. Sinister is not the word...
I did that for three years till I realized that was a game …. That phucker wasted my time. … and then tried to get me not to return to Los Angeles where my life was… the day he found out I was trying to leave he nearly beat me to death strangled me and smothered me with a pillow…coverts are very very very dangerous… I was “his”
Do you think they would go as far as to set you up to get hurt like for insurance money or something like that some weird stuff been happening situations but I've been blowing it off
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Devious creatures. Possessed by something unnatural
It’s still hard for me to believe that this was done to me. Somehow I’m still standing. Thank you for educating survivors like myself so that we can protect ourselves.
I had almost everyone in my social and professional circles infiltrated by the narcissist. And I have lost all those relationships within a couple of years. It’s absolutely overwhelming and the grief I have felt is heartbreaking. It’s indescribable.
SAME
I was the target at my workplace in a State agency in Alabama, and experienced most of these evils. The Narcissist used her Allies gained at my expense to climb up the ladder of professional success.
It is. You are not alone.
Stay as far away from them as is humanly possible. Toxicity has no place in a human being's life, EVER. Get educated, be watchful, know what signs to look out for.
My covert malignant narc parent has done all of these things in my other parent's life and my life. Even though the narc is no longer in our lives, they have severely isolated us from people. My narc parent is still able to manipulate our social circles perceptions of us because they are considered so 'trustworthy and dependable' to our circles. It is shocking how calculated they are under the guise of kindness and helpfulness! And it is so difficult to get your life back after they've infiltrated and broken you down!
Same with me. My dad and I were her targets
Thank you so much, Jill Wise.
Thank you for providing the DETAILED "why's" and "how's" of the narcissist's impact and aftermath of devestation.
I just went down this list and checked off nearly every single one of these as how she acted. I was only with her for half of last year before I walked away. She was in the process of trying to isolate me from friends and family when I did finally see her for who she really was and get out of that relationship. It was really hard to do that, and on top of it, I had to see her every day at work (she was a coworker), which allowed her to try and manipulate me back into a relationship..
I'm still healing.
Well done!
Oh my, do I recognise all this shit too well. I think this was one of the best videos you've ever made. Thank you so much!💖 You are gold!💛
Thank you! 🙏
Thank you Jill and everyone here❤
These are all where the toxicity of a narcissistic relationship stems from. Thank you for helping us recognize theses patterns.
They are very sneaky manuplitave little creatures thats for sure. Great video Jill thank you so much for sharing😋🎯💞
Thanks again. Clear teaching for us all. You're a life changer. Yes the over the top sudden gifts/presents out of nowhere?? Usually means something else. When I was told I seemed ungrateful. I replied 'that's not sorry!' Or you taking responsibility or changing anything.
min 15:43 Infiltrating social circles - mother perfectly used this against my father. Primary with fathers RELATIVES - sisters and wide range of relatives.
Dont let them do it - dominate relations with your people. Your spouse has their own relatives and friends - no need to sneak in and dominate contacts with all your friends and relatives. If it is not possible - get rid of such a dominating partner. I witnessed it and there is something repelling and abnormal in such behavior.
Spot on accuracy here. Great explanation all around.
My narc neighbor manufactured a crisis (break-in) in my apartment by a homeless guy, after I cut off contact with him, stopped speaking and interacting with him due to his vicious and abhorrent behavior. His goal was that I reached out to him for help when the homeless guy was banging on my door trying to break-in my apartment. I didn't and handled it on my own.
I threatened the homeless guy that I was going to call the police and called 911, and he left. My narc neighbor was witnessing this incident the entire time and lives less than 10 ft from me.
However, I have no proof that my narc neighbor manufactured this incident, my gut instinct believes he did. It was like a scene out of the Twilight Zone.
You can't make this up.
Great Video!
I believe you. I've dealt with a narc neighbor in addition to the ones in my family/divorce. Neighbors aren't discussed as often, but WOW! They can really cause chaos in your life! Each narc will create their own personal brand of it, so I haven't had this exact experience, of course. I simply wanted to support you. It's SO unnerving knowing someone wishes you ill and lives so close. 🙏💜
@@sage_forensics_2261 thanks, appreciate the suppprt
@@sage_forensics_2261 thanks
Got me on all points !🎉 what real. Trusting person I am….. 🎉🎉wake up.. time to come back to living “LIFE” 🎉🎉. You are worthy!! 🎉🎉 1 peter2:8-9-10🎉🎉
yes, we are genuinely good, and it takes so much to see them as the evil they are.
What can you do when the damage is done? When your mind is damaged and you can’t think anymore.
I don’t want to live anymore.
In the end they think your ignorance is your fault. They are doing you a favor- teaching you a lesson. FTW
Don't give up on yourself...👌🏼 There is a new life ahead of you.
You pray for strength! I have been through these peeks and valleys myself. I’ve been stuck for over a year and can’t get out financially. The tactics I’ve had to withstand from him are horrible but I keep praying for strength and have educated myself into a powerful mindset. Knowing how pathetic he is and has to work to try to keep me in line makes me smile because I know my escape is coming one day I’ll be mentally free of him
fear not. you can overcome this. look up and study neuro plasticity. you can rewrite your programming. all those suicidal thoughts are not yours. They were forced on you and into your mind. fight back. do not let evil win. probably, your parents and others hated you and wanted you dead. don't' agree with them.
@@rascallyrabbit - Hello. The world is full of evil.
This is all really hard. And didn’t need to happen.
So incredibly accurate. I often find myself questioning if my judgement has been correct or fair. But then I re-watch some videos and realse that yes, I am right, he is dangerous, he has been doing all these things to me since the very get-go. Thanks for putting these videos out, you are really doing a service to the world 🙏🙏🙏
Gosh, I should write a book
EXACTLY 100% !!!!
This accurately describes how one of my siblings infiltrated my life, beginning with manufacturing a crisis in which she could appear to be the savior.
60 years of my life, the narc mother influenced my existence. So glad she is no more.
Thank you, Jill❤
my wife does it all
Yes, I've lost many, very high level, high paying, jobs because of my spouse demanding I do something for her that interferes with my work. It's so covert that you don't see it because you don't know you're married to a demon.
This video is Great Jill !! Thankyou!! Much needed!
I never wanted to be a "Narc Survivor" . Yet here i am. 💔
Yeah the new acquaintance who likes their own voice ,trys to invite you to stuff,trys to give you stuff,and not even asking you,boringly obvious when you know 👍 thanks though,one of your best .
All of it 💯% he did ALL of this & more. He's also a cop so he's great at this manipulation
So many of these people go into law enforcement. It’s scary.
@theenlightenedtarget thank you for the comment. This is how he meet unassuming people when on duty..its how we met & my guard was down. The discard was one of the most terrifying times I've ever experienced. He drives around looking for girls while on duty that are vulnerable to infiltrate.
Very accurate
Thank you ❤
4:03 That made me think about this differently. You know those circumstances where the obvious just gets missed? You know when, you see one character going all out for everybody, being the solid advisor for people, lending money, giving help, time, almost bending over backwards to help them. But when a problem pops up in the family/marriage/union, we sometimes see the very cheap gas light narrative come into play. So now, a situation where family/friends are supposed to be supportive in every sense of the word, but instead all you get is doubt, stress, confusion, and panic. All because nobody noticed all the good qualities of the victim. So as the abuser attempts to make the victim look insane, nobody fixes it or supports the person, because they only noticed your flaws n fears. They know what gets to you. 🤢🧠💯so I see that as being positively disturbing.” 😬🙏💯”of course on the bright side bad feelings aren’t a state of being, but they do stink. I really relate to that kind of story. Meaning, the instant real time cues from the abuser hurt, but the bad attitude from people you thought you could trust is worse in a way.” 😌
One could teach for weeks, months, yrs on end everything to know about the narc creature, but what is needed, is knowledge of how to deal with these monsters, effective countermeasures!!!
Depends upon whom the "Targets" are & whether they've not a history of Courtesies? Strangers whom are concerned about this are merely against the subjects communicating. Success Saboteurs are arguing that the victims are ambitious; this argument is no longer valid once the victims become content...
Pure hell my ex-wife a covert narcissist found out my phone number after I had changed she's text message me header children leave voicemails I'm changing my number again hopefully this will do it I know what they're a covert narcissist don't ever try to expose them
He told horror stories that when I spoke to the people who did these things they said it was a lie ….
Min.9 chaos. - Could it also be demand to sell co-owned properties? Several at the same time.
Mother has no need for money she is soon 80. But as a co-owner she feels troubled that I use f.ex. families summerhouse. So I literarly have to sell the existing and buy another nearby instead so I hope to win peace. But there are other properties where she tries to cultivate the same feeling. She is 80 but she still tries to play the captain of a ship, where she is a guest same as me. Dad earned them.
I have a feeling that it is a never ending principal - just not to let live in peace. So I hope such acts of separation - sell and buy a new one - will help.
My narc parent constantly complains to me how they are embarrassed by me!! They cycle through their long list of predictable personal attacks, anything from hair to clothes, etc….
My ex-fiancée was constantly creating manufactured crises, which I realized fairly straight away. It sucked up time and resources that needed to be applied elsewhere.
When I cut ties with her the artificial drama ceased.
He did that to me .
They never made me feel appreciated or valued, so I do get a bit lost as to some of the way you explain things.
One thing they do is to move in next door to you at your apartment complex. Sigh! 🤦🏼♀️
Their eyes turn black - the evil comes out….
💯👍
nice one Jill - you'll make a bad video one day but it's a while off...😃
I had to laugh earlier this year when I found that thousands of e-mails had been trawled through by a resident narcopath in my life - the aim was actually to manufacture a 'trouble situation' they could then 'rescue' me from.
Unfortunately for him they found nothing incriminating - and then the guy he got to do the trawl coughed when we ran into each other in a bar (guilty conscience I suspect).
These ghouls will literally engineer a crisis they can then 'help you out of' to induce gratitude. Sinister is not the word...
Fear of sabotage is real and brutal
❤
I did that for three years till I realized that was a game …. That phucker wasted my time. … and then tried to get me not to return to Los Angeles where my life was… the day he found out I was trying to leave he nearly beat me to death strangled me and smothered me with a pillow…coverts are very very very dangerous… I was “his”
I’d love to work something out to where we can do a podcast talk.
Do you think they would go as far as to set you up to get hurt like for insurance money or something like that some weird stuff been happening situations but I've been blowing it off
With a trojan virus and flying evil minions....
One thing they do is to move in next door to you at your apartment complex. Sigh! 🤦🏼♀️
One thing they do is to move in next door to you at your apartment complex. Sigh! 🤦🏼♀️