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Thanks for this! Assuming a baby under 3 months is considered newborn? Also are you able to give us tips to link sleep cycles for babies 3+ months? I’m petrified of the 4 months sleep regression. My bubs is 15 weeks old and I don’t know how to link his sleep cycles
My baby is now 3 months old...I wish I had seen this sooner 😭😭😭. Every single point is 100% correct. I wish they would teach u this at the hospital before u take baby home. Thank you for the information
I have 1yo daughter .. she is allways at 19:00-20:00 in the Bett . But , she wakes up every night about 1:00 or 2:00 and she is restless and won't sleep and I have to hold her in my hands about half hour or one hour . Sometimes few times in the night and I am very tired .. where ist my mistake ? She is not hungry , because I give to her every time a milk , she eat that but ist not better . Whats wrong ? She needs to go so early in Bett because she wakes up every day at 06:00 or 07:00 . She needs to go in Kindergarten . And sleep just one time , at 12:00 .
In my neuroscience class we were taught that white noise isn't good for the brain, especially at night. During the day it may be ok but definitely not at night because the brain needs quiet to clear it's clutter and white noise blocks this process.
First time mama here with a 2 week old, and I just wanted to say that all of you are doing great and the fact that you’re watching this video proves that! Try everything you can until something works, and if that changes, just try something else until that works too! PLEASE remember to take care of YOUR needs as often as possible. If there are dishes in the sink but you can sneak in a 20 minute nap while your baby sleeps, please do that! Take a hot shower, massage your feet, lay in silence, listen to music… come back to a place of neutrality and peace within yourself. We will never get these moments back and the next chapters will always have their adjustments. Trust yourself and great advice like this video. You are doing great!!
Im literally watching this at 2am in the morning after our 5 day old first time child has kept us up every night since last week. I have been making all of these mistakes, but got to try your solutions on her this morning and they instantly worked. I really can't thank you enough, from the bottom of my heart.
Thanks for sharing! Off topic… your monstera looks like it needs more light and less water. Try moving her to a slightly sunnier spot (nothing too direct) and waiting a bit longer between waterings. 😊
First time dad here…Such a great video! For me, I dont use a white noise or anything while baby sleeps so I can hear baby breathing. Granted, I am always quiet when baby sleeps. This may not be the case for everyone. But great tips!!!
Thanks for taking the time to make this video. My only observation is I kept hearing you say to put them down to sleep. What about the ones that refused to be put down to sleep when in fact you know they are tired?
My wife just asked me to search for this topic and this is just posted. How timely. I think we're making just about all of the new parent mistakes mentioned in this video. 🙃
Learning about active sleep versus deep sleep changed how well my son slept. I used to run to hold him as soon as he made any noise at all. Now I give it a minute to see if he's actually waking up. He is a much happier baby lately.
Omg my mother in law kept waking the baby up when she came over because she thought the baby needed to get fed and wanted to play with the baby. I told her she shouldn't wake the baby up forcefully but she still went on and woke her up... Of course that night became a nightmare. Baby was fussy the entire night because she was awake for so long throughout the day 😐 Like I just don't understand why people wouldn't listen to the baby's parents. It's not like they're going to be responsible for the baby during the difficult moments.
This! Thank you! I thought I was crazy because I hear other moms talk about a 7/8pm bedtime and my son won't go to bed until 11/11:30pm, then he gives me a 4.5-5 hour stretch! So happy to hear this is normal.
Hi @Danielle G yep a late bedtime is very normal! So great he is having a long stretch at night - it makes the late bedtimes tolerable. Good news is the late bedtime will start to become earlier over the next few months.
@@jenniferreynolds1537 It's so hard! I did follow my son's lead and he naturally moved up his bedtime as he got older. He now goes to bed at 8pm at 9.5 months.
My 1st child I did so many of these mistakes. She was horrible at sleeping and I was extremely sleep deprived. My 2nd baby I have avoided almost all of these. And he is 100% better of a sleeper! These are life saving tips.
I guess I'm doing something right. My 15 week old has been sleeping through the night, for the most part. We get ready and are in bed around 10:30. The earliest he wakes is 6 but often doesn't wake until 7 or 8. He has very clear sleep cues and he goes for naps in his crib, in close to the same environment as at night. It's very dark and we have an air purifier that makes great white noise. I got very lucky, he's such a good sleeper!
@@larissatorres8624 I let him sleep. He eats right before we go to sleep and then when he wakes up. Today he woke up at 6:30. He's a super happy baby so a lot of the time he'll let out a cute little scream like I'm ready for food now Mom! He eats every 2.5 - 3 hours during the day. When he was a newborn he would wake up every few hours but it got longer and longer as he got older. I double checked with the pediatrician at his last appointment and he said as long as he's gaining weight, let him sleep. 😀
I was figuring the same thing when my son was about that age and sleeping about 9-10 hours straight. (Score! Good sleeper!) Lately I've hit the 8-9 month regression. Oh boy! I hope things went better for you.
Exactly, I thought this. She just falls asleep when I nurse her lol. Then she wakes, I change her, and it’s time to nurse again, then she sleeps again 🙃
Some of these vary from baby to baby. Concerning early bedtime: without forcing him to sleep, after the first month I started giving him regular baths at 8:30 pm, then a feed and then bedtime. He would immediately fall asleep afterwards and sleep for at least 4 hours, followed by a quick feed and change and another 4 hour sleep. Worked out pretty good at night. Around 2 months he started sleeping for 5-6 hours after bath time, followed by 2-3 hours after that.
My son is doing the exact cycle right now and is 9 week old, goes to sleep at around 2030 sleep for 4 to 6 hours, up for 30 then back to sleep until between 0500 and 0700
Is it okay during winter season .because my baby just sleep for 5 minutes than starts crying .should I give bath to baby of 7 months during winter season
Agree with all of these except the last one. My baby consistently has gone to bed for the night between 6.30 and 7.30 and wakes up for the day around 7 the next morning. She is 6weeks
Ok but what if every time you put your baby down to sleep, they sleep for 5 min and wake up screaming that we aren’t holding them? You didn’t really address that
@@jerrianne9885 Probably something else going on? Soiled diaper, hungry, needs comforting, etc. Ours does this and after some white noise and arm swinging she's usually out. Good luck.
Thanks for the video, unfortunately some of the these points including the ‘tiredness’ phase’ or tiredness signs stuff doesn’t really resolve a lot of the issues we’re facing. They also seem to conflict with advice around babies hungry signs. We recognise yawns, playing with ears and rubbing eyes etc as signs of tiredness, that and being super quiet and disinterested, but as soon as we put him down and within 2-5 mins later he’s fussy again. We let him wriggle around in the hope he’ll drop off to sleep, but he gets himself into such a tizzy. The cycle repeats
@@JennytheHamster We established that he was actually just hungry in the end. We switched to bottle feeding as unfortunately Mum wasn't producing enough milk. Once we moved to bottle feeds/formula it made a huge difference.
This is ALL so ACCURATE! Unfortunately I had to learn the hard way 😅 my baby is now 5 weeks and I had to learn to not do all these things in order to get her to sleep 2-3 hours through the night without staying up for 4 hours at a time crying and waking herself up. Definitely take this advice
Your video is really helpful. Would you do one video about the sleep cycle of babies who are 6-12 mths? My son is 8 mo old, would love some sleeping tips.
This was very good and it’s still true even after 4 months. My baby still has her sleepy cues and as soon as I see her rubbing her eyes I start preparing her for bed.
Ok, so what is up with you posting videos perfectly relevant to what I need to see every week?! Sitting, walking, sleeping, etc. Alway clutch with the perfectly timed videos haha.
Thank you for that one. Now everything clicked and it makes perfect sense, I clearly know we let our daughter enter the overtiredness state. We'll be more watchful from now on, thanks to this knowledge.
We have a 10 week old and been sleep training her for over a week. In just a few days we saw huge improvements. She sleeps 8-9 hours straight at night and wakes up for a feed and then goes back to sleep. We don’t rock her for hours anymore so my husband and I got our nights back. Naps are still tricky but its gotten so much easier putting her down. I just try to follow her wake windows and keep notes on her naps. I always put her to bed drowsy while awake. We share a room but it’s not a problem since we use blackout curtains and a sound machine.
How are you training her. My boy is two months since he past the Covid. He wakes up every half hour. Crying. Befor he wakes up two times. And now is every a half hour
Well doje for getting to this point. I have a newborn and want to sleep train as my 1st born has been a sleep challenge. What sleep training method did you use?
I am so glad I've watch your video it help me a lot to settle my 6 weeks old baby. I was having difficulties to sleep most of the time. If he sleeps, he wakes most of the time.
Your channel is saving my life quite literally lol thank you so much for making these videos I’m a new mom and my baby is 2 weeks and it has been so hard! Thank you
New Dad over here and wow this was very helpful hahaha. Good luck to all parents out there. Please do not get overwhelmed with 0-8months babies. That doesn’t defined their future as toddlers
All of your videos are amazing but this one…THIS ONE is the ONE. people don’t tell you this before having a child. I was a nanny for 6 years with 5 kids and never even knew about awake windows!Life changing revelation. Thank you.
Woohoo! This video just made me feel so confident! I finally started to ignore all the advice I was getting from family and friends about helping babies sleep & just went with my instincts/what I thought my baby boy wanted to do and it worked! Little did I know I was doing everything you mentioned in this video! :P (but only after he hit 3 months lol)
Omg this video is super helpful...my newborn just turned one month and sleeps well throughout the night but in the day has a hard time going to sleep everytime I put him down he just shoots up after like 10 or 15 minutes. Any tips on how to prevent a newborn from wanting to be held during sleep or fall asleep on the boob?
Hey Bella! You just described my newborn too lol We found out that my newborn falls/stays asleep when we place him on his belly during the day. Maybe your baby will like it too. ☺️
Hi Bella, my newborn also wanted to be held at all times. At some point I started breastfeeding him while lying down. I waited untill he fell asleep to leave the room.
@@wendyliu1570 for me a baby carrier works best. baby sleeps close to my chest snd i have both arms free to do whatever needs to be done around the house :)
hi emma, have always found your videos so helpful. please can you do a video for toddler sleep. my lo wakes up every two hours asking to feed throughout the night. Many thanks xx
Hello Emma! Such great information thank you so much 🙂 Do you have a recommendation for how long we should wait when baby starts fussing and crying before we pick them up if after a while they are not going back to sleep?
I LOVE how spot on your video is. I had to figure all of this out WITHOUT guidance, or a heads up lol but I made it through! This is very helpful to new mommy’s
Thank you! Struggling to figure this all out with my 3 week old!! 😬 Question - what is the difference between their daytime sleep and nightime sleep cycle? Should night sleeps be longer? But the baby doesn't know it's night, so why would he sleep longer? During the day, I weave in some "play" time between sleeps which I don't do at night. Is that really it? At night are we trying to just sleep-nurse-sleep-nurse?
Congratulations on the arrival of your little one! I have made a video on newborn sleep (th-cam.com/video/PCh1xWs9G-s/w-d-xo.html) and one on 7 newborn sleep tips (th-cam.com/video/SfCxUG1nE84/w-d-xo.html) which I think answers your questions. Hope that helps!
Any chance I can get some more information on the noisy sleeping? My baby is not a newborn anymore, 4 months now, but cries often in his sleep, especially night time sleep. Some times he will cry 6 times in one night. I have the feeling he's not awake but am never 100% sure. He doesn't respond to my voice, face or me stroking him at that point and he never seems to get to a fully awake state or settle on his own again. Is there a time limit to the waiting? I've tried waiting it out a few times but as I said he doesn't wake or stop crying and I start getting the feeling that I need to do something.
Great video. Would love a video on getting a six plus babies to sleep better at night in their cot in a seperate room. Unfortunately I think my daughter has inherited my chronotype (I’m a NightOwl) 🤦🏻♀️
Yes please. My 10month old daughter doesn't sleep during night even if i make her sleep around 11pm she wakes up around 2am or 3am and doesn't sleep until 7am in the morning
@@nizwakhan2180 right!! Such a struggle for us parents staying up all night w backwards schedules lol. I have tried to change his schedule countless times now and still working on it!
2nd comment. The late bed time too. I just started realizing this last night. Was analyzing my baby tracker to get an idea for wake times and nap times. My baby girl is still averaging 30-40 minutes wake time(7 weeks but born 10 days early). And her naps get shorter until about 11oclock. Then it's 4 -5 hours of sleep then 3-3.5 hrs. Thanks for confirming that I wasn't going crazy.
My 3 month old only takes 45 minute naps and wakes up every 2 hours at night still. So when you say to leave them for a bit when they start to fuss, how long do you suggest? How long will he cry for before I know he is just up and needs me versus him just fussing between sleep cycles?
For me ( my son is 9 weeks old ) i was picking him up as soon as i heard something and i decided to change that about 3 weeks ago, i will put him to bed at around 20h30 and if i hear him cry i will let him cry for about 5 minutes, if he is still crying after 5 minutes i will pick him up and try to sooth him back to sleep for another 5 minutes ( wich usually he does go back to sleep for another 2 hours ) if he is still crying at this point then i will go and change his diaper, feed him but he will rarely stay awake more than 40 minutes at night. I try not to stimulate him at night ( keep light turned off, try not to talk to him as much as i would during the day, do not attemp to play with him ). I concider myself very lucky because as soon as i started doing this he is sleeping more and more at night he now sleeps from 20h30 or 21h until 0030 and goes back to sleep from 01h00 until around 5 and 7.
Followed your advice, I helped my baby go to sleep whenever he looks tired during the day, however, I got different result.. he had shallow sleep during the night.. the past few days he had a very restful sleep except on that day..
Thank you for that last comment! With my first baby I stressed out so much because he wouldn't sleep before 10pm. Over time I saw that as he was awake longer during the the day, he went to sleep earlier at night. It was like every extra 15 minutes awake lead to a bed time that was 15mins earlier. Finally at around 5 months he started sleeping at around 6pm, it was like a light switch, boom, asleep. But no one ever said that it was normal! I needed to hear it was normal
Love your PDF! My little Eevee(evelynn) is 7 weeks old and it's peace of mind to know she's on track. I expected to much at the 1 month mark. Your videos have helped and taught me so much. So much anecdotal advice I've been given was wrong. My baby fusses less and smiles more. ^_^
Congratulations on the arrival of Eevee! It's so nice to hear that she is a happy little bub- you are doing a great job. Enjoy the smiles - they are the best 💕
It all depends on their movements and their call outs. If they start to call out frequently and it increases in volume and they are moving around then they need your help. But if they call out then pause or it stays the same and then gradually reduces then they are just needing some time. Hope that makes a bit more sense
You saved my life! FIRST TIME MOM HERE, and I was rushing to put my 1 month old to sleep not understanding why she wanted to "stay up so late" lol. Now I know I've been doing everything backwards, so I'll be putting this to the test TONIGHT!! Thank you so much!
Would love to have a video about sleeping tips for 4 months plus. Or even your thoughts on sleep training? My little one is almost 5 months old and i am just confused about the right sleeping for her.
Your video is very helpful. I was too quick to pick up my baby in REM sleep. She sleeps through the night but during day time she does short duration naps and wakes ups between 30 to 40min sleep cycle. She cries a lot between sleep cycle . I am using pacifier to sooth her if she doesn't settle within 10min. She cries with close eyes which assures she is sleepy. Not sure if I am doing the right thing offering pacifier. Regardless she Doesn't fall asleep. She is 7 weeks old and having more awake hours every day between 12.00 pm to 9.00 pm. Can you help with any tips/changes to make her fall asleep during day time? Thank you
Oh thank you!!! I’m currently trying to calm my overtired 2 week old. I do keep getting mixed advice on wether babies should be put in a dark room or stay out in a loud bright environment during the day. Also my baby nurses for 30 minutes so basically he has a 15 minute wake window before he needs to go back to sleep?
in my experience, they need warmth and touch ... Listening to mother's heartbeat also helps .after changing n feeding.. used to swaddle the baby , hold her and just hum softly and swing slightly or pat gently until she falls asleep fully and then put her on the crib .
Our problem has been that when our 8 week old starts showing sleep cues, he gets mad when we take him to bed. We have to hold him and hope he goes to sleep, but too often he just keeps himself awake until the point of being overtired. Any advice on how to get him to be ok with being put down?
Omg this video is such a great help..all my family members were suggesting me to keep my baby awake all day so that she would sleep in night..somehow I knew that waking awake my daughter for whole day would definitely make her upset but didnt know that medical logic behind that ..now I know it..and before I used to think turning lights on while my baby sleep would not let her scared but now I know turning light dim would make her sleep more peacefully..thanks
I find a consistent bedtime routine makes a huge difference and when we break it that's when we have issues. All babys are different though and i feel for you parents that are struggling with sleep.
Having a half Thai baby and also living in Thailand, the crazy things I’ve heard from my wife’s parents say for home remedies is um... Well, let’s just say as an American they are a bit odd... To say the least. Thank god for TH-cam and your channel, I’ve watched a few of your videos and it’s nice to know I’ve picked up on a few things just on trial and error, but the sleep cues you mentioned make a whole lot of sense especially the staring off into the distance and pulling their ears/scratching their face as I’ve just fought getting my 6 week old daughter to bed for the better part of an hour. I thought the scratching her ears meant she was hungry or gassy, but now I know that it probably means she is tired. Thank you again
When we see the tired signs and ‘put them to bed’ are we just talking about overnight here? Should newborns always sleep in a designated place at all times (day naps/night sleeps), or can they have their naps on mama during the day? Thanks!
Hi what you said all is right. I want to ask that my baby doesn't have a good sleep at night. He is 2 years old now but from starting, he has a same issue. Can you please help me.
I had my first overtired baby experience today. He just turned 2 weeks old and despite keeping the same routine, he refused to sleep for about 6 hours straight. He wakes up from his sleep, we change his diaper, give him milk, burp him, then hold/cradle in a few different ways until he is nearly asleep. Then we put him to bed and up until now he has stayed asleep in bed until the next waking time (3 hours later). We have no TV on or any distracting things in the crib. Today he just kept staring at me when I was trying to get him to sleep and then after 15 minutes of him finally appearing asleep, I put him in bed and he immediately started crying and kicking wildly. After that he was miserable until about 8:30pm (he woke up about 2:30pm)
Sorry but 2 weeks old? There is no routine or they do whatever they want. Every day is different. Just try to follow your child these weeks instead of forcing something or expecting
Seriously this is exactly the list i was discussing with my friend and then my husband of what i did not do with my first daughter and this time idk i think all this experience has helped me also being a bit busy with the toddler now has given my baby more time to rest without me interrupting. Having a routine with my toddler has helped so much. I think i learned everything here so late but now i have been doing Montessori i for the benefit of implementing it from the beginning
Oh man 😂 my parents told me to keep the baby up during the day to fix her internal clock…. Man, those days were rough. Over tired babies don’t sleep well. 😂 I go off of her cues now. She used to wake up every 30 minutes-2 hours. When I switched to just going off of her cues it slowly improved… Started with 3-5 hour stretches. Now it’s around 7 hour stretches. Last night she had her first 11 hour night! She’s gonna be 3 months old on the 13th :)
@@Dokas80s No, I don’t. But I feel okay doing that because she is a good weight. She’s also just about 3 months now. When she wakes up she’s in a good mood and she has a big 7 oz bottle. And that’s good for her and it works for us so your baby might be different! But also during the first month I was definitely waking up every two or three hours with her to make sure she ate. Also my baby was/is very vocal when she has a need. When in doubt, you can totally check with the pediatrician 😄
Pro tip: for parents who use pure white noise for their babies, I highly recommend you listen to an episode of The Huberman Lab podcast called “The Science of Hearing, Balance, and Accelerated Learning” by Dr. Andrew Huberman. There is research showing how pure white noise can be detrimental to infants’ vestibular (inner ear/balance) development. He cites the research so I’m not going to but he does recommend that brown or pink noise (or sounds like a fan/air purifier) are better alternatives than white noise. This is essentially because white noise (like white light) is a combination of all the different sound waves and can cause sorting confusion for an infant’s undeveloped inner ear. Anything that has minor modulations (like rain or running water sounds) will still mask peripheral noise and help your infant sleep better without causing potential detriment to their vestibular system! Better sleep for all! (And p.s. - white noise is safe for teenagers and adults and can actually be used to help hone focus!)
Emma Hubbard can you make a video on techniques on *how to lay a baby* into their cot! So many parents, including me, struggle to get the baby down as they cry immediately when they know their going onto thier back and in.
This is a very important topic. Often parents think babys have tummy pain (colic). But mostly they are tired. White noise: there are also good apps available. A really quiet enviroment scares many babies. In mums belly it was loud as hell. all the time.
In your second last reason you mentioned not to rush and carry your baby. Wait and monitor. Im struggling with this issue, for how long one should wait?
Thank you so much for this video and all of your other content! Do you have additional layers of tips for babies struggling with reflux after feeds/during sleep? ❤
We have reflux problem with our little one (4 weeks old). You can tilt her crib or elevate the mattress by 2-3 inches. Some of the cribs can be adjusted else put a paper folder (ordner) under mattress. That helped our baby. Also if you breast feed then please watch what you eat, as this also causes baby to have reflux issues. I hope that helps. And for better sleep - you can try white noise, my baby like this car noise th-cam.com/video/NOucdEMbhIk/w-d-xo.htmlsi=sRP5FipP8IL0m66X
Great video! We now have a 10 month old and learned a lot of this the hard way. One thing we did ‘right’ though was the late bedtime. People were surprised our son didn’t go to sleep ‘for the night’ until 10/11 but we knew that was right for him because his evening nap was maybe just 30min then back awake. It was that 10ish sleep that got longer and longer (3 to 4 to 5 hours…)
Oh and I want to add, I love the video comment that there is no sleep schedule at this age. I wish i never looked up a 2 month old sleep schedule which made me feel bad we just couldn’t get there. They would say things like 2 hour naps a few times a day when our son never napped more than 40min in those first months. We didn’t get nap consolidation until closer to 4/5 months I believe.
Thanks so much! 😁 Sounds like you read your little one perfectly. You're right it is the first sleep at night which gets long (consolidates first) and the bedtime shifts earlier at around 3 months. I also found it so much better when the bedtime shifted earlier.😂
Our baby is 3.5 months old and he ONLY sleeps in our arms. We try putting him down to sleep but gets really fussy and won't stop crying. He's very clingy and even wants to be held when he's awake. Any advice on getting our baby to sleep in the bassinet?
Thank you so much for this! Can I be putting my 9 week old down in his own room for naps with a baby monitor? Or should he still be napping in the room I’m in for a little longer? We are achieving on average 3 hours of day time naps so I definitely think I’m missing some cues!
No worries at all 😁Glad you found it helpful! Your bub is going to sleep better when they are sleeping in their cot in a dark, quit room. So it would be best to let them sleep in this room for their day naps and use the baby monitor. At night time it is recommended that you sleep in the same room as your little one. Hope that helps!
I needed this! My baby would here alot even dyring feeding and it concerned me but thrn i realized she would only do it when she was half asleep and tired. The rem sleep makes more sense to me mow thank you ! I was too quick to pick up my baby too and then wondered why she'd only nap for 10-20 mins and sleep for 2-3.5 hrs. Hopefully ill have a happier more well rested baby after this. Also is there anything you can share aout babies sleeping with their eyes partially open ? Im sure its because shes tired too but iñl be mich better about letting her sleep now that i know all of this ! Thank you for debunking those old wives tales too
I bed shared in the beginning of my baby’s life and everytime he would fuss, I’d nurse him. Now I’ve created a bad habit of baby always needing to nurse to sleep even when not needed. I am having difficulties figuring out what the best approach is to get rid of their need for nursing to sleep (at least at every waking window of the night). I am more than willing to feed him if necessary when he does need. How would I go about weaning him off those extra nighttime feeds without tears?
Sounds like your little one might be using nursing as a sleep association/aid. I will try and do a video on this soon. But if you want something now, I have found this webinar by Baby Sleep Science really helpful. www.freeconferencecall.com/wall/recorded_audio?audioRecordingId=NjYzODcwMzI0fDg0NTQzMzU%3D%0AaC%25NDEyNjc0NTF8ODQ1NDMzNQ%3D%3D%0A
Hopefully you or someone can reply, im a Dad, helping my wife as much as much as possible, any advice if my baby wakes up and just cries? Not every time, some times he wakes up like an adult, and just lays there contemplating getting up. I should mention he just turned one month today. I will practice the tips given on this video, like not rushing to him asap, and letting him sleep during the day as much as he wants and see where that goes, but back to my problem, he wakes up crying and always wants to eat, but sometimes we over feed him and spits out milk and if he doesn't sleep while eating it becomes almost impossible to put him asleep. Any tips will help thank you 🙏 in advance
I guess i have good instinct. My twins have separate beds, nothing in them do they are not distracted, we turn off the light late in the evening, we dont pick them up as soon as they open their mouth to cry, just stay beside the bed and wait to see if there is such a need, they sleep very well at night since they were 4 weeks old. :)
From my experience, babies will sleep in any condition* if they are sleepy enough and it's comfy... As long as you aren't beaming lights directly into their face of course. 🐥 *However, I do think babies do have preferences, too... I think my son likes to have a night light on.
Thanks great info. Could you do a piece on dummies/soothers? My 9 month old often drops the dummy during the night and we wake often to clumsily try and find the dummy in the dark and give to our baby. I am wondering if we made a mistake from the beginning by giving to dummy to our baby when she was a newborn. All advice welcome.
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Thanks for this! Assuming a baby under 3 months is considered newborn? Also are you able to give us tips to link sleep cycles for babies 3+ months? I’m petrified of the 4 months sleep regression. My bubs is 15 weeks old and I don’t know how to link his sleep cycles
My baby is now 3 months old...I wish I had seen this sooner 😭😭😭. Every single point is 100% correct. I wish they would teach u this at the hospital before u take baby home. Thank you for the information
Emma Hubbard my first born was a breeze For the first month so my question is important for my second born son. How long does a baby breastfeed for?
I have 1yo daughter .. she is allways at 19:00-20:00 in the Bett . But , she wakes up every night about 1:00 or 2:00 and she is restless and won't sleep and I have to hold her in my hands about half hour or one hour . Sometimes few times in the night and I am very tired .. where ist my mistake ? She is not hungry , because I give to her every time a milk , she eat that but ist not better . Whats wrong ? She needs to go so early in Bett because she wakes up every day at 06:00 or 07:00 . She needs to go in Kindergarten . And sleep just one time , at 12:00 .
In my neuroscience class we were taught that white noise isn't good for the brain, especially at night. During the day it may be ok but definitely not at night because
the brain needs quiet to clear it's clutter and white noise blocks this process.
First time mama here with a 2 week old, and I just wanted to say that all of you are doing great and the fact that you’re watching this video proves that! Try everything you can until something works, and if that changes, just try something else until that works too!
PLEASE remember to take care of YOUR needs as often as possible. If there are dishes in the sink but you can sneak in a 20 minute nap while your baby sleeps, please do that! Take a hot shower, massage your feet, lay in silence, listen to music… come back to a place of neutrality and peace within yourself. We will never get these moments back and the next chapters will always have their adjustments.
Trust yourself and great advice like this video. You are doing great!!
That showering comment is so underrated
Congrats! 👶🏻👣🍼 I also have a new baby, she's 3.5 weeks old
@@MandiMomOf9Channel is ur baby sleeping thru the night already?
I been struggling 😭 with my two week old and my postpartum can’t take it 😭 but me and his dad has been trying but it will all get better ❤️❤️❤️
Lol I stay trynna do chores instead of getting sleep😂😂😂 I needa heal from the c section
Im literally watching this at 2am in the morning after our 5 day old first time child has kept us up every night since last week. I have been making all of these mistakes, but got to try your solutions on her this morning and they instantly worked. I really can't thank you enough, from the bottom of my heart.
I'm at 2am watching this with a 14 day old 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Thanks for sharing!
Off topic… your monstera looks like it needs more light and less water. Try moving her to a slightly sunnier spot (nothing too direct) and waiting a bit longer between waterings. 😊
And probably a repotting into a slightly bigger pot with fresh compost. lol plant babies!
First time dad here…Such a great video! For me, I dont use a white noise or anything while baby sleeps so I can hear baby breathing. Granted, I am always quiet when baby sleeps. This may not be the case for everyone. But great tips!!!
Thanks for taking the time to make this video. My only observation is I kept hearing you say to put them down to sleep. What about the ones that refused to be put down to sleep when in fact you know they are tired?
My wife just asked me to search for this topic and this is just posted. How timely. I think we're making just about all of the new parent mistakes mentioned in this video. 🙃
Learning about active sleep versus deep sleep changed how well my son slept. I used to run to hold him as soon as he made any noise at all. Now I give it a minute to see if he's actually waking up. He is a much happier baby lately.
That's amazing! They do become so much happier when we stop accidentally waking them up.😁
Yea same, I never knew about active sleep it totally changed how I see my baby sleeping
Omg my mother in law kept waking the baby up when she came over because she thought the baby needed to get fed and wanted to play with the baby. I told her she shouldn't wake the baby up forcefully but she still went on and woke her up... Of course that night became a nightmare. Baby was fussy the entire night because she was awake for so long throughout the day 😐 Like I just don't understand why people wouldn't listen to the baby's parents. It's not like they're going to be responsible for the baby during the difficult moments.
This! Thank you! I thought I was crazy because I hear other moms talk about a 7/8pm bedtime and my son won't go to bed until 11/11:30pm, then he gives me a 4.5-5 hour stretch! So happy to hear this is normal.
Hi @Danielle G yep a late bedtime is very normal! So great he is having a long stretch at night - it makes the late bedtimes tolerable. Good news is the late bedtime will start to become earlier over the next few months.
Same! I can sometimes get her to sleep around 10 pm, but she likes the 11 pm sleep time, which is hard when I have to wake up for work at 5:30 am!
@@jenniferreynolds1537 It's so hard! I did follow my son's lead and he naturally moved up his bedtime as he got older. He now goes to bed at 8pm at 9.5 months.
My 1st child I did so many of these mistakes. She was horrible at sleeping and I was extremely sleep deprived. My 2nd baby I have avoided almost all of these. And he is 100% better of a sleeper! These are life saving tips.
Sleep was the most challenging part of becoming a new parent :)
Yes 😢
I wanna cry every night .
This, my baby is 10 weeks and I’m still deprived and I’m not back to work
I guess I'm doing something right. My 15 week old has been sleeping through the night, for the most part. We get ready and are in bed around 10:30. The earliest he wakes is 6 but often doesn't wake until 7 or 8. He has very clear sleep cues and he goes for naps in his crib, in close to the same environment as at night. It's very dark and we have an air purifier that makes great white noise. I got very lucky, he's such a good sleeper!
Do you have to wake up your baby during the night to feed him/her ?
@@larissatorres8624 I let him sleep. He eats right before we go to sleep and then when he wakes up. Today he woke up at 6:30. He's a super happy baby so a lot of the time he'll let out a cute little scream like I'm ready for food now Mom! He eats every 2.5 - 3 hours during the day. When he was a newborn he would wake up every few hours but it got longer and longer as he got older. I double checked with the pediatrician at his last appointment and he said as long as he's gaining weight, let him sleep. 😀
I was figuring the same thing when my son was about that age and sleeping about 9-10 hours straight. (Score! Good sleeper!) Lately I've hit the 8-9 month regression. Oh boy! I hope things went better for you.
Can we talk about the fact that those 45 minutes they’re up literally is feeding, changing, and burping them 😂
Facts lol
Exactly, I thought this. She just falls asleep when I nurse her lol. Then she wakes, I change her, and it’s time to nurse again, then she sleeps again 🙃
YES! YESYES!!! @@asana_awakening
Exactly
Some of these vary from baby to baby. Concerning early bedtime: without forcing him to sleep, after the first month I started giving him regular baths at 8:30 pm, then a feed and then bedtime. He would immediately fall asleep afterwards and sleep for at least 4 hours, followed by a quick feed and change and another 4 hour sleep. Worked out pretty good at night. Around 2 months he started sleeping for 5-6 hours after bath time, followed by 2-3 hours after that.
My son is doing the exact cycle right now and is 9 week old, goes to sleep at around 2030 sleep for 4 to 6 hours, up for 30 then back to sleep until between 0500 and 0700
Did you bathe him everyday after a month ?
Yes. This worked out for me as well.
Is it okay during winter season .because my baby just sleep for 5 minutes than starts crying .should I give bath to baby of 7 months during winter season
Hi... Thanks for sharing this information... How long should i wait before picking the baby up if they start to cry while sleeping?
I was definitely guilty of these mistakes and I didn’t realize until my baby was a few months old 🤦🏻♀️
Agree with all of these except the last one. My baby consistently has gone to bed for the night between 6.30 and 7.30 and wakes up for the day around 7 the next morning. She is 6weeks
My too were similar but by 7 weeks of age.
You’re a rare exception.
Ok but what if every time you put your baby down to sleep, they sleep for 5 min and wake up screaming that we aren’t holding them? You didn’t really address that
I’m having this problem 😩
@@Mommaoz2022 Me too!!! I have a 10 day old and she will only sleep in her bassinet for like 20 minutes at a time
I am also having this issue
@@jerrianne9885 Probably something else going on? Soiled diaper, hungry, needs comforting, etc. Ours does this and after some white noise and arm swinging she's usually out. Good luck.
Does she have gas, mine does that when she needs to be burped again
Thanks for sharing these tips. Will definitely try them with my new born.
- First time mum of a 3 week old struggling to sleep
Thanks for the video, unfortunately some of the these points including the ‘tiredness’ phase’ or tiredness signs stuff doesn’t really resolve a lot of the issues we’re facing. They also seem to conflict with advice around babies hungry signs. We recognise yawns, playing with ears and rubbing eyes etc as signs of tiredness, that and being super quiet and disinterested, but as soon as we put him down and within 2-5 mins later he’s fussy again. We let him wriggle around in the hope he’ll drop off to sleep, but he gets himself into such a tizzy. The cycle repeats
Hey, im facing this exact thing now with my 2 month old... any tips or tricks youve learned in the meantime? 🥲🥲
@@JennytheHamster We established that he was actually just hungry in the end. We switched to bottle feeding as unfortunately Mum wasn't producing enough milk.
Once we moved to bottle feeds/formula it made a huge difference.
This is ALL so ACCURATE! Unfortunately I had to learn the hard way 😅 my baby is now 5 weeks and I had to learn to not do all these things in order to get her to sleep 2-3 hours through the night without staying up for 4 hours at a time crying and waking herself up. Definitely take this advice
Congratulations!
I have a 5 week old too
Your video is really helpful. Would you do one video about the sleep cycle of babies who are 6-12 mths? My son is 8 mo old, would love some sleeping tips.
I second this!!
Yes please!!
Yes!!!
Pleaseee
Same
This was very good and it’s still true even after 4 months. My baby still has her sleepy cues and as soon as I see her rubbing her eyes I start preparing her for bed.
So pleased you liked this video. Also great that you have been able to pick up on your little ones' sleepy cues!
Same here! It is amazing how fast they fall sleep if you are aware of that signs and how difficult is to soothe them if you don’t ☺️
This is the best baby content channel on youtube! Thanks for your Work! Much love, lenny
Going to give these a shot! First baby over here. Currently, just over 1 month old.
Think the lighting with a dark room and white noise is underrated. Made a huge difference to help baby regulate a good schedule.
This is insightfully important for new fathers and mothers including me. I am very thankful for the free service provided here.
It's my pleasure!
Ok, so what is up with you posting videos perfectly relevant to what I need to see every week?! Sitting, walking, sleeping, etc. Alway clutch with the perfectly timed videos haha.
😂 So glad you're finding the videos helpful!
Thank you for that one. Now everything clicked and it makes perfect sense, I clearly know we let our daughter enter the overtiredness state. We'll be more watchful from now on, thanks to this knowledge.
We have a 10 week old and been sleep training her for over a week. In just a few days we saw huge improvements. She sleeps 8-9 hours straight at night and wakes up for a feed and then goes back to sleep. We don’t rock her for hours anymore so my husband and I got our nights back. Naps are still tricky but its gotten so much easier putting her down. I just try to follow her wake windows and keep notes on her naps. I always put her to bed drowsy while awake. We share a room but it’s not a problem since we use blackout curtains and a sound machine.
Is there anything in particular you read/ followed for sleep training? Expecting and would love to start reading about it. thank you!!
How are u training her?
How are you training her. My boy is two months since he past the Covid. He wakes up every half hour. Crying. Befor he wakes up two times. And now is every a half hour
Well doje for getting to this point. I have a newborn and want to sleep train as my 1st born has been a sleep challenge. What sleep training method did you use?
OMGAWD the timing of you releasing this video is such a massive coincidence. Thank you 😊
You're so welcome!
So crazy! I’ve been struggling and even researching for help!
I am so glad I've watch your video it help me a lot to settle my 6 weeks old baby. I was having difficulties to sleep most of the time. If he sleeps, he wakes most of the time.
Your channel is saving my life quite literally lol thank you so much for making these videos I’m a new mom and my baby is 2 weeks and it has been so hard! Thank you
New Dad over here and wow this was very helpful hahaha. Good luck to all parents out there. Please do not get overwhelmed with 0-8months babies. That doesn’t defined their future as toddlers
All of your videos are amazing but this one…THIS ONE is the ONE. people don’t tell you this before having a child. I was a nanny for 6 years with 5 kids and never even knew about awake windows!Life changing revelation. Thank you.
Hello Katelynn
How are you doing today?
Woohoo! This video just made me feel so confident! I finally started to ignore all the advice I was getting from family and friends about helping babies sleep & just went with my instincts/what I thought my baby boy wanted to do and it worked! Little did I know I was doing everything you mentioned in this video! :P (but only after he hit 3 months lol)
Omg this video is super helpful...my newborn just turned one month and sleeps well throughout the night but in the day has a hard time going to sleep everytime I put him down he just shoots up after like 10 or 15 minutes. Any tips on how to prevent a newborn from wanting to be held during sleep or fall asleep on the boob?
Hey Bella! You just described my newborn too lol
We found out that my newborn falls/stays asleep when we place him on his belly during the day. Maybe your baby will like it too. ☺️
what you are describing is completely normal baby-behaviour. they wanna feel safe and near you.
Hi Bella, my newborn also wanted to be held at all times. At some point I started breastfeeding him while lying down. I waited untill he fell asleep to leave the room.
My newborn is exactly like this too, I haven’t found a solution, I’ve been holding her the whole nap a lot during the day
@@wendyliu1570 for me a baby carrier works best. baby sleeps close to my chest snd i have both arms free to do whatever needs to be done around the house :)
hi emma, have always found your videos so helpful. please can you do a video for toddler sleep. my lo wakes up every two hours asking to feed throughout the night. Many thanks xx
Thanks thanks hugely, i have a two weeks baby and now we enjoy sleep at night in peace 🙏
That's so great to hear. Also huge congratulations on the birth of your little one!
Hello Emma!
Such great information thank you so much 🙂
Do you have a recommendation for how long we should wait when baby starts fussing and crying before we pick them up if after a while they are not going back to sleep?
I LOVE how spot on your video is. I had to figure all of this out WITHOUT guidance, or a heads up lol but I made it through! This is very helpful to new mommy’s
Thank you so much!
Same here! For me, it was mommy instincts ☺️
How long do you leave them to fuss/cry before picking them up?
Thank you so much. Even I was following the “ keep the baby awake during day so that she sleeps well in the night “ . Will stop that from tomorrow
Glad it was helpful!
LOL been struggling these past couple weeks with my baby’s sleepingg pattern. This video is what i needed!! 😂🧡
Thank you! Struggling to figure this all out with my 3 week old!! 😬 Question - what is the difference between their daytime sleep and nightime sleep cycle? Should night sleeps be longer? But the baby doesn't know it's night, so why would he sleep longer? During the day, I weave in some "play" time between sleeps which I don't do at night. Is that really it? At night are we trying to just sleep-nurse-sleep-nurse?
Congratulations on the arrival of your little one! I have made a video on newborn sleep (th-cam.com/video/PCh1xWs9G-s/w-d-xo.html) and one on 7 newborn sleep tips (th-cam.com/video/SfCxUG1nE84/w-d-xo.html) which I think answers your questions. Hope that helps!
Any chance I can get some more information on the noisy sleeping? My baby is not a newborn anymore, 4 months now, but cries often in his sleep, especially night time sleep. Some times he will cry 6 times in one night. I have the feeling he's not awake but am never 100% sure. He doesn't respond to my voice, face or me stroking him at that point and he never seems to get to a fully awake state or settle on his own again. Is there a time limit to the waiting? I've tried waiting it out a few times but as I said he doesn't wake or stop crying and I start getting the feeling that I need to do something.
Great video.
Would love a video on getting a six plus babies to sleep better at night in their cot in a seperate room.
Unfortunately I think my daughter has inherited my chronotype (I’m a NightOwl) 🤦🏻♀️
Great suggestion! I will try to do this soon. Hope you get some sleep tonight!
I second this! And thank you for your videos 👍
Yes please. My 10month old daughter doesn't sleep during night even if i make her sleep around 11pm she wakes up around 2am or 3am and doesn't sleep until 7am in the morning
@@nizwakhan2180 right!! Such a struggle for us parents staying up all night w backwards schedules lol. I have tried to change his schedule countless times now and still working on it!
2nd comment. The late bed time too. I just started realizing this last night. Was analyzing my baby tracker to get an idea for wake times and nap times. My baby girl is still averaging 30-40 minutes wake time(7 weeks but born 10 days early). And her naps get shorter until about 11oclock. Then it's 4 -5 hours of sleep then 3-3.5 hrs. Thanks for confirming that I wasn't going crazy.
No worries at all! Glad this video was helpful!
No baby book I ever read mentioned it, my girl is 8 weeks and doing the same.
Great video thank you! Straight forward, to the point and practical steps that are easy to implement. Thanks for helping ease our new parent minds!
It's my pleasure! 😁
Great video indeed. I watched this yesterday and my baby slept better.
Thank you
My 3 month old only takes 45 minute naps and wakes up every 2 hours at night still. So when you say to leave them for a bit when they start to fuss, how long do you suggest? How long will he cry for before I know he is just up and needs me versus him just fussing between sleep cycles?
For me ( my son is 9 weeks old ) i was picking him up as soon as i heard something and i decided to change that about 3 weeks ago, i will put him to bed at around 20h30 and if i hear him cry i will let him cry for about 5 minutes, if he is still crying after 5 minutes i will pick him up and try to sooth him back to sleep for another 5 minutes ( wich usually he does go back to sleep for another 2 hours ) if he is still crying at this point then i will go and change his diaper, feed him but he will rarely stay awake more than 40 minutes at night. I try not to stimulate him at night ( keep light turned off, try not to talk to him as much as i would during the day, do not attemp to play with him ). I concider myself very lucky because as soon as i started doing this he is sleeping more and more at night he now sleeps from 20h30 or 21h until 0030 and goes back to sleep from 01h00 until around 5 and 7.
Followed your advice, I helped my baby go to sleep whenever he looks tired during the day, however, I got different result.. he had shallow sleep during the night.. the past few days he had a very restful sleep except on that day..
Thank you for that last comment! With my first baby I stressed out so much because he wouldn't sleep before 10pm. Over time I saw that as he was awake longer during the the day, he went to sleep earlier at night. It was like every extra 15 minutes awake lead to a bed time that was 15mins earlier. Finally at around 5 months he started sleeping at around 6pm, it was like a light switch, boom, asleep. But no one ever said that it was normal! I needed to hear it was normal
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Just woke up from my first night at home with my newborn. It did not go great. Excellent timing with this video! 🙃
Congratulations on the arrival of your little one! I hope this video helps in the first few months!
I made all these mistakes in the beginning 🤦🏾♀️my poor baby was so sleep deprived for the first few months.
Hi @April T honestly don't stress as lots of parents make these mistakes. The beauty is they can be easily fixed.
Love your PDF! My little Eevee(evelynn) is 7 weeks old and it's peace of mind to know she's on track. I expected to much at the 1 month mark. Your videos have helped and taught me so much. So much anecdotal advice I've been given was wrong. My baby fusses less and smiles more. ^_^
Congratulations on the arrival of Eevee! It's so nice to hear that she is a happy little bub- you are doing a great job. Enjoy the smiles - they are the best 💕
Where can i get the pdf one
@@EmmaHubbard Where can I get the pdf please?
I've watched a few of these videos now - and I'm hooked.
Really thankful for ur video. My baby is 2 months old and struggling with sleep issues.
Hope this advice helps and you all get some rest!
How long should you wait to pick them up?
It all depends on their movements and their call outs. If they start to call out frequently and it increases in volume and they are moving around then they need your help. But if they call out then pause or it stays the same and then gradually reduces then they are just needing some time. Hope that makes a bit more sense
Thank you for this. My baby os 3 months old and has erratic sleeping patterns. Sometimes he sleepa at 2am 😪🥺 this is really helpful. God bless.
You saved my life! FIRST TIME MOM HERE, and I was rushing to put my 1 month old to sleep not understanding why she wanted to "stay up so late" lol. Now I know I've been doing everything backwards, so I'll be putting this to the test TONIGHT!! Thank you so much!
Thanks, this is very educating.im a new mom i often make the mistakes of picking up my baby too soon when they are having a REM sleep.
Glad it was helpful!
Would love to have a video about sleeping tips for 4 months plus. Or even your thoughts on sleep training? My little one is almost 5 months old and i am just confused about the right sleeping for her.
I will definitely do a video on this soon! This video I did on catnapping might be helpful th-cam.com/video/v5qQVkOtpX4/w-d-xo.html
Your video is very helpful. I was too quick to pick up my baby in REM sleep. She sleeps through the night but during day time she does short duration naps and wakes ups between 30 to 40min sleep cycle. She cries a lot between sleep cycle . I am using pacifier to sooth her if she doesn't settle within 10min. She cries with close eyes which assures she is sleepy. Not sure if I am doing the right thing offering pacifier. Regardless she Doesn't fall asleep. She is 7 weeks old and having more awake hours every day between 12.00 pm to 9.00 pm. Can you help with any tips/changes to make her fall asleep during day time? Thank you
Oh thank you!!! I’m currently trying to calm my overtired 2 week old. I do keep getting mixed advice on wether babies should be put in a dark room or stay out in a loud bright environment during the day. Also my baby nurses for 30 minutes so basically he has a 15 minute wake window before he needs to go back to sleep?
in my experience, they need warmth and touch ... Listening to mother's heartbeat also helps .after changing n feeding.. used to swaddle the baby , hold her and just hum softly and swing slightly or pat gently until she falls asleep fully and then put her on the crib .
Our problem has been that when our 8 week old starts showing sleep cues, he gets mad when we take him to bed. We have to hold him and hope he goes to sleep, but too often he just keeps himself awake until the point of being overtired. Any advice on how to get him to be ok with being put down?
Omg this video is such a great help..all my family members were suggesting me to keep my baby awake all day so that she would sleep in night..somehow I knew that waking awake my daughter for whole day would definitely make her upset but didnt know that medical logic behind that ..now I know it..and before I used to think turning lights on while my baby sleep would not let her scared but now I know turning light dim would make her sleep more peacefully..thanks
So glad I could help! Sounds like you are reading your little one well.
I find a consistent bedtime routine makes a huge difference and when we break it that's when we have issues. All babys are different though and i feel for you parents that are struggling with sleep.
Can you do a video for preemie baby? Mine is almost 2 months old but is 38weeks gestational age
How long do you wait before picking them up?
Having a half Thai baby and also living in Thailand, the crazy things I’ve heard from my wife’s parents say for home remedies is um... Well, let’s just say as an American they are a bit odd... To say the least. Thank god for TH-cam and your channel, I’ve watched a few of your videos and it’s nice to know I’ve picked up on a few things just on trial and error, but the sleep cues you mentioned make a whole lot of sense especially the staring off into the distance and pulling their ears/scratching their face as I’ve just fought getting my 6 week old daughter to bed for the better part of an hour. I thought the scratching her ears meant she was hungry or gassy, but now I know that it probably means she is tired. Thank you again
Desperate mama over here that never gets sleep 😭🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️… I thank you
Sorry
When we see the tired signs and ‘put them to bed’ are we just talking about overnight here? Should newborns always sleep in a designated place at all times (day naps/night sleeps), or can they have their naps on mama during the day? Thanks!
Hi what you said all is right.
I want to ask that my baby doesn't have a good sleep at night. He is 2 years old now but from starting, he has a same issue. Can you please help me.
I had my first overtired baby experience today. He just turned 2 weeks old and despite keeping the same routine, he refused to sleep for about 6 hours straight. He wakes up from his sleep, we change his diaper, give him milk, burp him, then hold/cradle in a few different ways until he is nearly asleep. Then we put him to bed and up until now he has stayed asleep in bed until the next waking time (3 hours later). We have no TV on or any distracting things in the crib. Today he just kept staring at me when I was trying to get him to sleep and then after 15 minutes of him finally appearing asleep, I put him in bed and he immediately started crying and kicking wildly. After that he was miserable until about 8:30pm (he woke up about 2:30pm)
Sorry but 2 weeks old? There is no routine or they do whatever they want. Every day is different. Just try to follow your child these weeks instead of forcing something or expecting
Seriously this is exactly the list i was discussing with my friend and then my husband of what i did not do with my first daughter and this time idk i think all this experience has helped me also being a bit busy with the toddler now has given my baby more time to rest without me interrupting.
Having a routine with my toddler has helped so much.
I think i learned everything here so late but now i have been doing Montessori i for the benefit of implementing it from the beginning
Oh man 😂 my parents told me to keep the baby up during the day to fix her internal clock…. Man, those days were rough. Over tired babies don’t sleep well. 😂 I go off of her cues now. She used to wake up every 30 minutes-2 hours. When I switched to just going off of her cues it slowly improved… Started with 3-5 hour stretches. Now it’s around 7 hour stretches. Last night she had her first 11 hour night! She’s gonna be 3 months old on the 13th :)
Do you feed her on her 11 hour night? I’m scared my baby is going to starve while sleeping
@@Dokas80s No, I don’t. But I feel okay doing that because she is a good weight. She’s also just about 3 months now. When she wakes up she’s in a good mood and she has a big 7 oz bottle. And that’s good for her and it works for us so your baby might be different!
But also during the first month I was definitely waking up every two or three hours with her to make sure she ate. Also my baby was/is very vocal when she has a need.
When in doubt, you can totally check with the pediatrician 😄
Pro tip: for parents who use pure white noise for their babies, I highly recommend you listen to an episode of The Huberman Lab podcast called “The Science of Hearing, Balance, and Accelerated Learning” by Dr. Andrew Huberman. There is research showing how pure white noise can be detrimental to infants’ vestibular (inner ear/balance) development. He cites the research so I’m not going to but he does recommend that brown or pink noise (or sounds like a fan/air purifier) are better alternatives than white noise. This is essentially because white noise (like white light) is a combination of all the different sound waves and can cause sorting confusion for an infant’s undeveloped inner ear. Anything that has minor modulations (like rain or running water sounds) will still mask peripheral noise and help your infant sleep better without causing potential detriment to their vestibular system!
Better sleep for all! (And p.s. - white noise is safe for teenagers and adults and can actually be used to help hone focus!)
Here is a link to the podcast episode mentioned above: th-cam.com/video/JVRyzYB9JSY/w-d-xo.html
Thanks for sharing!
Emma Hubbard can you make a video on techniques on *how to lay a baby* into their cot! So many parents, including me, struggle to get the baby down as they cry immediately when they know their going onto thier back and in.
This is a very important topic. Often parents think babys have tummy pain (colic). But mostly they are tired.
White noise: there are also good apps available. A really quiet enviroment scares many babies. In mums belly it was loud as hell. all the time.
Thanks for sharing Rob - great advice about the apps!
In your second last reason you mentioned not to rush and carry your baby. Wait and monitor.
Im struggling with this issue, for how long one should wait?
Thank you so much for this video and all of your other content! Do you have additional layers of tips for babies struggling with reflux after feeds/during sleep? ❤
We have reflux problem with our little one (4 weeks old). You can tilt her crib or elevate the mattress by 2-3 inches. Some of the cribs can be adjusted else put a paper folder (ordner) under mattress. That helped our baby.
Also if you breast feed then please watch what you eat, as this also causes baby to have reflux issues. I hope that helps.
And for better sleep - you can try white noise, my baby like this car noise
th-cam.com/video/NOucdEMbhIk/w-d-xo.htmlsi=sRP5FipP8IL0m66X
Great video! We now have a 10 month old and learned a lot of this the hard way. One thing we did ‘right’ though was the late bedtime. People were surprised our son didn’t go to sleep ‘for the night’ until 10/11 but we knew that was right for him because his evening nap was maybe just 30min then back awake. It was that 10ish sleep that got longer and longer (3 to 4 to 5 hours…)
Me too, however now mine is finally going to bed at 8-9 o’clock and mummy is happy again...
Oh and I want to add, I love the video comment that there is no sleep schedule at this age. I wish i never looked up a 2 month old sleep schedule which made me feel bad we just couldn’t get there. They would say things like 2 hour naps a few times a day when our son never napped more than 40min in those first months. We didn’t get nap consolidation until closer to 4/5 months I believe.
Thanks so much! 😁 Sounds like you read your little one perfectly. You're right it is the first sleep at night which gets long (consolidates first) and the bedtime shifts earlier at around 3 months. I also found it so much better when the bedtime shifted earlier.😂
Thank you so much.❤, I am new mom and this video really helps me alot
I'm so glad!
I have picked few mistakes I make. Thanks for helping me correct them
Our baby is 3.5 months old and he ONLY sleeps in our arms. We try putting him down to sleep but gets really fussy and won't stop crying. He's very clingy and even wants to be held when he's awake. Any advice on getting our baby to sleep in the bassinet?
I definitely needed the tip about picking baby up too soon. Approximately how long should I wait to see if baby will go back to sleep?
Thank you so much for this! Can I be putting my 9 week old down in his own room for naps with a baby monitor? Or should he still be napping in the room I’m in for a little longer? We are achieving on average 3 hours of day time naps so I definitely think I’m missing some cues!
I did that with a monitor. It is better because her room was dark and quite and it worked
No worries at all 😁Glad you found it helpful! Your bub is going to sleep better when they are sleeping in their cot in a dark, quit room. So it would be best to let them sleep in this room for their day naps and use the baby monitor. At night time it is recommended that you sleep in the same room as your little one. Hope that helps!
@@EmmaHubbard What do you think about the fourth month regression? It is real?
Parents often miss signs their baby is tired. As a Pediatrician I completely agree.
It can be hard to pick up on because they look so similar to hunger signs and disengagement signs.
I needed this! My baby would here alot even dyring feeding and it concerned me but thrn i realized she would only do it when she was half asleep and tired. The rem sleep makes more sense to me mow thank you ! I was too quick to pick up my baby too and then wondered why she'd only nap for 10-20 mins and sleep for 2-3.5 hrs. Hopefully ill have a happier more well rested baby after this.
Also is there anything you can share aout babies sleeping with their eyes partially open ? Im sure its because shes tired too but iñl be mich better about letting her sleep now that i know all of this ! Thank you for debunking those old wives tales too
No worries at all. Hope the tips help!
I bed shared in the beginning of my baby’s life and everytime he would fuss, I’d nurse him. Now I’ve created a bad habit of baby always needing to nurse to sleep even when not needed. I am having difficulties figuring out what the best approach is to get rid of their need for nursing to sleep (at least at every waking window of the night). I am more than willing to feed him if necessary when he does need. How would I go about weaning him off those extra nighttime feeds without tears?
Sounds like your little one might be using nursing as a sleep association/aid. I will try and do a video on this soon. But if you want something now, I have found this webinar by Baby Sleep Science really helpful. www.freeconferencecall.com/wall/recorded_audio?audioRecordingId=NjYzODcwMzI0fDg0NTQzMzU%3D%0AaC%25NDEyNjc0NTF8ODQ1NDMzNQ%3D%3D%0A
Omg this I'd do helpful i am a first time mom and this tips ate great I'll implement them to my one month old baby
Hope it helps!
Hopefully you or someone can reply, im a Dad, helping my wife as much as much as possible, any advice if my baby wakes up and just cries? Not every time, some times he wakes up like an adult, and just lays there contemplating getting up. I should mention he just turned one month today. I will practice the tips given on this video, like not rushing to him asap, and letting him sleep during the day as much as he wants and see where that goes, but back to my problem, he wakes up crying and always wants to eat, but sometimes we over feed him and spits out milk and if he doesn't sleep while eating it becomes almost impossible to put him asleep. Any tips will help thank you 🙏 in advance
I guess i have good instinct. My twins have separate beds, nothing in them do they are not distracted, we turn off the light late in the evening, we dont pick them up as soon as they open their mouth to cry, just stay beside the bed and wait to see if there is such a need, they sleep very well at night since they were 4 weeks old. :)
Do you have a recommendation for naps in the light and dark for a newborn? We have been finding conflicting information.
From my experience, babies will sleep in any condition* if they are sleepy enough and it's comfy... As long as you aren't beaming lights directly into their face of course. 🐥
*However, I do think babies do have preferences, too... I think my son likes to have a night light on.
Thanks great info. Could you do a piece on dummies/soothers? My 9 month old often drops the dummy during the night and we wake often to clumsily try and find the dummy in the dark and give to our baby. I am wondering if we made a mistake from the beginning by giving to dummy to our baby when she was a newborn. All advice welcome.
Thank you for the video, could u please do a Video for helping 15 mon old to sleep and between nap transitions. Thank u
Thanks so much for ur video just what I was looking for to show his dad bc he wants me to keep him up more durring the day but he's only 3 weeks old
I hope it helps!