Job-Search is terrifying, and a little anger making. It's such a judgemental thing on many levels, especially when your self esteem is around your ankles.
As someone with a masters degree, being a polyglot I was sure I would land a high paying job in no time. However, rejection letter after rejection letter destroyed whatever ego I had inside me. To the folks out there who are like me, remember, there is always light at the end of the tunnel. Dont give up. I am not giving up.
I am in the same boat as you. But I also have a disability. My TH-cam channel that I created a while ago has helped me a bit to deal with it. I love books and I want to share that with others.
When I was a young man many many years ago, I graduated with my Master's Degree. It was stressed toe that Education was Key to being successful. Further, after graduating from Graduate School I had to forego any hopes of job hunting due to taking care of BOTH of my maternal grandparents, and eventually my mother. She passed recently and I have been looking for any kind of work, including full and part time. I have NOT been successful so far. HOPEFULLY, something will turn out. I guess GOD is testing my patience and resolve.
The struggle is real. I am so depressed from job hunting,and being unemployed. I have lost all my personal motivation to enjoy life or have any more goals.
I am sorry to hear that. Is there anything you can do in between your job searches that gives you some pleasure. Have you sought out resources that help people find jobs. There's something in United States called vocational rehabilitation. It is run by each state
I totally feel your pain - I obtained an online certificate and thought I'd have my foot in the door to a great career, but after applying to hundreds of jobs, I have only scored a couple of interviews. Don't give up! Take a break from job searching once in a while (so that it doesn't define your life) and do some intense soul-searching to figure out who you are aside from your job prospects. Then, when you're up to it, try the search again and keep your expectations as realistic as possible. Either way, you'll learn lots about yourself and every little move you make will be a stepping stone to a better tomorrow. Easier said than done (I'm still working through my depression as I write this), but it's well worth the effort! Love and hugs from Canada
Staying motivated is even harder when you consider that many, If not most of us are forced to work pretty demeaning jobs while At the same time, the jobs we've worked or even studied for keep getting further & further away... Don't know what ta tell ya, but thanks for posting?? Thanks for your honesty, that takes courage. Maybe it will help someone. Thank you also Dr. Bloch, will be watching for more!
one of the things I hate the most is pretending to be fine to family, friends… bc a lot of people want to be with you when you’re up, when you have money…, it’s very few people that actually want to be with you in your lows.
I'm looking for a job for 3 years now. My relationship ended because of it, I stopped going to places that I like due lack of money but I believe that I'll make it through the rain. It's hard but I must go on.
I am recent university graduate from South Africa and I have been job hunting for 1 year and 7 months. I never thought I would see myself falling into a depressive state.
The rejection letter after rejection letter isn't the worst part for me. The worst part is feeling isolated. I don't have family and I have few friends. When I do see my friends I can't relax around them because I feel so awful about myself so I just end up avoiding social situations.
Are you seeing a therapist? He or she could help you process your feelings. In my memoir when going through hell don’t stop I talk about feeling bad about myself when I was on Social Security and met Woman who had just gotten her PhD in math. But my therapist told me not to worry because on the inside my essential worth was no different from hers.
Im in the exact situation. No family and isolated. I left a company I had been with 10 years because I thought I could do better. Everything is falling apart including me.
@@DouglasBloch Pro tip. Unemployed people with no jobs can't afford therapists. I get so tired of people saying, go to a therapist, get acupuncture, it's like these people come from a place of unlimited resources. It's quite insensitive.
It's not only I find no job. I also dont really feel up to apply one because Im too inferior for every job. I stuggle with social anxiety, poor comunication skills, low intelligence, when I have even graduated in bachelor degree for years.
Just looking for any job is depressing ! Not getting the job you want is killing ! Having diverse experiences is a handicap nowadays ! Employers want only bio robot slaves that are willing to do only one job for all their life ! Honnestly when I was a kid or when I was a student I had no clue how real life is : a depressing HELL ! I call it the sad ring of hell
I'm sorry you are struggling. There is some places that offer coaching for writing resumes and looking for jobs. You might wanna see if any are in your area
@@DouglasBloch those places are garbage and show you the same jobs you see online lol sure they help with a resume but employers dont even look at them anyways lol useless info
sad ring of hell is so right! freelancing can help w some of being a mindless robot servent but you can't make enough to live on. I've gotten fired or laid off from all my non-student jobs that aren't underpaid freelancing. The hierarchical social dynamics of work and constant criticism beat me down and make me want to die. I have been a failure since I graduated undergrad. I'm finishing a useless grad degree which is not helping me find a job either.
Boy that’s so true!! If you aren’t a specialist in one particular thing, ur worthless....never mind u take on multiple roles, handle ridiculous amounts of work and do the jobs of 4 people. All HR wants to see is one ‘job title’.
Havent had a job for almost 3 years now and I feel like I no longer has any emotions, I feel completely numb and worthless to the point that I dont even wanna wake up.
I experienced redundancy and the resulting unemployment during a particularly nasty period of depression. One thing I found helped (not a cure!) for me was to volunteer at a museum. It was an aviation museum. It got me up and out of the house, it gave me purpose and focus, it gave me light exercise, it boosted my confidence because I was appreciated there, I learned new things which stimulated my mind, I met people who I would never have met if I'd stayed at home and it looked good on my Curriculum Vitae when I went for job interviews. Many charities desperately need volunteers.
It's this feeling of failure that completely destroys you. Someone having 9 years of work experience, then taking a break to pursue master's and getting good grades, and yet unable to land an interview, is absolutely soul crushing.
I lost my job two months ago and have been stuck in Portland’s unemployment adjudication waiting game. No source of income, no government support, no interviews coming in…it’s deflating. I still struggle with losing a job I loved of 7 years-not because I was a bad employee but because my position was no longer financially meeting the needs of the business. It’s a constant limbo of waking up and saying, “yes! I’m going to exercise, eat something good for me, and apply for more jobs.” When other days, I can barely get myself out of bed by noon and the self loathing starts in right when I wake up. Trying to appreciate my self worth and hoping for a clear mind to carry on to rebuild a better future.
I'm actually going to steal that one when they say tell me about yourself in an interview "i'm a diverse personality with many different experiences, intrests and values"
This is the problem. Not having job is what depresses me. No contribution or having a sense of purpose is a very shitty feeling. Which lowers the self esteem. So now if I ever do get a chance at an interview, I already feel defeated and less than. Which is not a good way to feel in an interview. Faking it feels disingenuous and is not who I am. They would see right through the facade and pass for a more confident prospect. The end.
There are some places that offer interview coaching. I know that vocational rehabilitation used to have workshops and interviewing for a job. If you have the time you could also volunteer somewhere which gives one a sense of contribution
I graduated 6 months ago and been 6 months I am hunting for a job. Never thought on the day of graduation that I will see this kind of videos on TH-cam.
I hope you find a job soon good I think they were job coaches to help you write a good résumé and give you some good strategies. Have you ever heard of informational interviewing? This means going to businesses and interviewing someone just to learn learn about how The organization works. Sometimes the person you interviewed will remember you and call you about an opening.
Roman, am I missing sth, or why should u get disability if you are able to work? I was put on disability against my will, hahaha! I said no, you are only going to forget me, and I want treatment and rehabilitation. They did forget about me.
I’m going through this right now. I lost a good job with a good company from layoff. I can tell you this, you have to get out of the house and you have to make yourself do things and get involved in things and people. And pay attention to what interests you. Do not waste your time with things that don’t interest you. Try to apply for jobs the unconventional way like making a phone call or trying to set up a meeting with the hiring manager. I find applying online is not enough. But also go easy on yourself. ASK for help too. I am crying right now as I write this and I’m about to watch this video over again just know that you must be happy with what you choose to do whatever it is. It does not have to be a high-paying, high end, career job.
It's been about 5 years for me. One rejection over another. Trying to find something in your 60's is like an act of congress when mostly 20 somethings have most of it. Social Security doesn't pay the bills or rent, creditors are calling & harassing every day. They don't care what your problem is, they want their money.
I am probably older than most who’ve commented. I have had a couple years of job hell because I tried to change careers. I hope we all find what we’re looking for. I’m so tired of the whole process.
Job searching can be very depressing...my challenges of job hunting: -Applying for jobs which have 100+ applicants, and not getting a response even though I meet all the qualifications -Entry-level jobs requiring 2-5 years of experience -My network in the same situation and looking for jobs -The pandemic affecting jobs
I can't deal with the constant rejection. I have dysmathia when I'm better and major depression when I'm worse. The rejection really triggers it for me. I can't manage to not take it personally because they are judging you personally!
There is a book called “what do you think of me is none of my business.“ Perhaps you could work with a therapist to adopt this philosophy. I know it is easier said than done
Right now this is even more relevant. I've been struggling for a couple months now with this myself. The isolation factor is worse now than before, but it's always bad anyway from being embarrassed to be out of work.
It’s not embarrassing, I lost my job from layoff. Not embarrassing at all. It happens to millions of people and please know that companies let go of employees all the time. Not your fault. Keep looking. Get help
@gmar7836 I'm thankful to say that since then I got a job fairly quickly and am still there today. The most beneficial thing I did was keep busy with constructive and useful things at home --built gardens and made a hoosier pole for my truck-- and constantly cranked out job apps and resumes while reading Extreme Ownership and other similar stuff.
@gmar7836 It's a book by Jocko Willink on leadership, organizational culture, personal accountability and development, teamwork, planning, and adaptation. Probably the single most important book written so far this century.
i can't eat ,sleep, I'm alone my family doesnt know I lost job. I worked so hard to get this job it was the best job ill ever get 100k a year and it all went away over one night of a bad mistake on my part. I'm so lost , have know unemployment, can't use them as a reference. I'm ashamed and embarrased . im walking into walls everyday , I have rent for 1 more month that's it. 😔
I get furious at the requirements now for job applications. Researching companies, making videos, and doing tasks, it's so time consuming and unfair. You can pour a whole weekend into it and the companies can simply click decline. So much work is heaped onto the applicant.
Thank you, thank you, thank you for this! It's seriously perfect timing that this video came out because I've been job searching for months now and I'm feeling like I hit rock bottom. Your video just picked me up off that floor. Thank you for taking the time to film this, it's so very appreciated.
I have a master's degree and 6 years of public sector administrative and finance experience, I have been out of work for 6 months and I am running out of money and hope.
The job market is very tough right now and a lot of qualified job seekers are going through the same things you are. There are a lot of fake jobs out there (taking applications but no intention of hiring) and companies are making candidates jump through hoops. But hang in there because things always turn around.
Love your work and resilience Doug! You’re videos helped me through a very rough couple years. I stumbled upon this video ‘coincidentally’ while job hunting this week - but, I got hired on the spot today after my first interview with the company. Have a great summer Doug and all! Also a book that helped me was one called Hope and Help for Your Nerves... forget author. God bless. -Zach
As a recruiter that hasn't found work for several months I am barely able to do anything each day. I do less and less....sleep is all over the place. Definitely in a downward spiral.
I don’t understand some parts of this video… “go out with friends” or “eat a healthy diet”.My financial situation is a disaster because I can’t find a job in my profession. I can’t afford go to a trip or eat healthy diet. I eat sometimes expired food that some churches donate me… in my case I don’t even have friends because I’m immigrant and I just know few people in America. The struggle is real, today I woke up thinking that I wish not to live anymore… sorry for being honest… but I don’t understand why find a job should be so complicated and how this is impacting my mental health.
I'm sorry that has been difficult to find work. Not having enough money is a stressor, both physically and emotionally. Have you tried calling your local social service agency in applying for food stamps. That's what my wife did. You would certainly qualify. Also, most cities have something called a food bank, an organization that gives food away to people who are not able to buy their own. You can tell the number 211 to find out about other social services
Its been months since I was laid off due to covid. Yet still I have not found anything. Applying to 20-40 jobs per day on indeed. Time is running out and it has taken huge toll on me. I no longer can even pay bills. On top of the depression now I am feeling worthless.. This is gotten bad
I’m sorry for your economic troubles. You are not worthless because you’re worth is based on something far more spiritual than your income. Nonetheless financial stress is real. I hope you can find some work or maybe even start a Go fund me site to get some extra money from your friends and relatives
I've just completed my MBA, thank God that my friend offered me freelance job to provide consultancy to her company. But still I have to find a decent job. The killer about not having a decent job is that the painful comparison that I am making with others (friends, family), plus the fact that, hey, I'm not getting younger, reaching 30 in a couple of years. I've worked before but resigned for my studies. Sometimes the dreaded thought of, you could have taken or stayed at the workplace that kills me (but staying was not much of a good decision either due to other factors at the time I was resigning). Alas, life moves on. Another day to survive. But with the movement restrictions between states and now I'm in the countryside of the country have proven to be challenging to get jobs in the bigger cities. But, thank you for your talk, and may everyone including myself find a decent job soon.
You're welcome. I find it funny that you said I'm not getting older because I'm reaching 30 in a few years. I just turned 72. 30 years old seems like another lifetime. You're very young and you have your whole life ahead of you
I’m taking one day at a time. Concentrating on my hobby. I make origami, reduces my anxiety for sure. Can’t take another rejection. Maybe working for someone else isn’t for me.... 🌷
Thank you. I've been struggling to find full-time employment for the past two-three years, and I am living with family, who are pressing me to get a full-time job. Currently working part-time, but it's loathing. I have been doing what I love, though, as of yet, it is not paying the bills, unfortunately, as of yet. It requires more money. The thought of doing anything else is a tough pill to swallow.
It´s a useless job invented for neoliberal times. Just look at the terms: "Job MARKET", "Human RESOURCE", gimme a fucking break. It's pathetic, attracts horrible types of humans
I got a college degree in Engineering Technology and haven't found a job. I feel depressed, I have been searching for almost a year now. It is not the lack of education, but experience holding me back. I just need an opportunity to show I am a great worker.
Keep persevering and affirm that that job opportunity is right around the corner. If you'd like some prayer support you can call Silent Unity at 1-816-969-2000. It is free.
It's the oldest catch-22 in the working world, bro, it sucks, and it's not your fault: if you want a job, you need experience but to get experience, you need a job. I'm in the same boat right now and I'm probably a lot older than you (I'm 41). In my case, it's because I'm switching careers from the legal profession to the teaching profession. Nobody is telling me anything (because soulless HR people generally don't), but I'm not stupid and know that at least some of the time, I'm getting passed over for "safer" options who have been in the profession longer (and assuming somebody will be a better employee because they've been around longer is totally fallacious, but that's a topic for another discussion). Anyway, unless something happens in the next few weeks, I've resigned to the fact that I might just have to work for peanuts subbing for awhile to show I am a great worker, as you put it. And that's more or less what I would do if I were you: as someone else, here, suggested, volunteer to work for free or for peanuts at an entry-level position for awhile to show employers what you can do and get them comfortable with you. I'm not saying do it forever, but just give them, say, a 1 - 2 month test drive. Bare minimum, you'll make some good contacts and God-knows those are as valuable as anything when you're trying to land a job. Good luck!
Ive been really getting depressed sometimes. Being a UX designer is hard but finding a position is insanely difficult. I feel like almost 8 months or so. But good advice here.
I’m 26 left college 2 years ago and having to resort to writing a book on reflecting on what I learned on my life just to hopefully promote myself. Sadly it’s still in progress but it’s truly even a more massive struggle when you have learning difficulties like mine. The frustrating thing is I have so many educational grades/certificates with my most recent an A level distinction after being told years I would never get an A level. Once finished college I realised employers don’t bother with grades and only care about experience and the thing is I do have some experience working in retail etc but as soon as they see I have learning difficulties they turn away.
I just want an interview for a job that isn't crap or where the boss doesn't treat me like a slave. I guess that is too much to ask because it is taking a long time for something to appear 🥺😫
It's been 2 years and I feel terrible. I've gotten certifications, built a following on LinkedIn, done multiple interviews, applied to over 1600 jobs, ect.. it's depressing. Financial pressures make it hard too.
I was a tour guide. Because of pandémic i lost my job. Almost 1 year i am looking for a job but no results. So hard especially if you live in a country where you should have good network rather than good knowledge if you need a job. But I still have hope.
I got fired in August 2022 and I still have yet to find a job.. the last two potential positions ghosted me despite the initial interview. Luckily, I have someone to take care of me in the meantime, but it feels awful being college-educated, 2 years of work experience, and still not being able to contribute.
I graduated in early july still no job. Sitting in home, depended financially on parents. Everyday I hear their taunts. Only god knows what will happen to me😢
I decided to resign from my previous job last May due to my depression and anxiety. everyday of me being at job was like a hell i could never escape. thats when i noticed i can not bear any sort of mental pressure situation anymore. fast forward until now on December, i still am job hunting. i have degree in management field with good cgpa and pretty balance job skills, but still unemployed. i think being unemployed literally brain damaging for me, it worsen my depression. at one point, i just blame myself for everything that happened and think i shouldnt hand in the letter on last May. i really need words of encouragement.
How are you doing my friend? Know that God loves you, please let us pray for each other, It may be hard to wait but I know God will come through for you. Please do deep breathing, look at nature and read the Bible. I love you.
The key is that we are not human in this process. We are just a number and expandable tool for the company. No matter how hard we try, no one will give a damn about what we have done what we can do who we are because employers simply don't care and don't have time to think about us.
I lost my Job because of the pandemic… it’s been 3 years of unemployment now. Job hunting has break my heart more than any other experience in my life. I’m medicated with antidepressants but I feel like they won’t work till I have a work because every day I feel worthless.
I’ve been looking for work for 3 months now. I finally got a job offer with great salary, like I’ve never made before. Sadly the offer was rescinded. I felt sick after hearing the news. I’m looking for another job now…even thinking of changing careers
Sorry I came so close. But also believe in the idea that when one door closes another door opens. Keep affirming that you will find the right and perfect job for you.
I'm 24 yrs old, and I still don't have a job, had got 2 job offers an year ago, but I screwed up by not responding on time, and now I'm not getting any opportunities. I feel ashamed of myself that being an adult I'm still sitting on my ass, surviving on dad's money. It hurts my ego that I'm not independant yet, feels like a spoiled brat who enjoys life on dad's money and does no work, thats very shameful experience for me. What shall I do if I feel like this over a period of time till I get a job?
Because of today's economic realities, I know many 24-year-olds who are dependent on their parents. My parents supported me and I was 35 because my depression made it difficult for me to hold a job. Yes I felt shame but I was also trying my best to become independent. The key is to do your best. You might want to see a counselor who can help you to process and release the shame.
Looking for a job in the current landscape where the thought is "nobody wants to work, everyone is lazy" is rather disheartening. I'm not sure how many apps ive put in. No luck yet, and it's really starting to eat at me.
I quit my job three years ago that I was at for 6 and a half years. I was confident in my job and did it well. I was so tired of the unfairness of how people were treated. I got called out on using foul language one day that everyone else does same. I literally walked out. I regret it even since. I am on my 7th job in two and a half years. I do not like to be bored and express this at interviews. Each interview I am told we are so busy! I have left each one of these jobs because I have nothing to do and hardly any training. I have depression and anxiety and going through this is making it worse. I feel hopeless in my job search. 😢
This is such a hard concept. When there is no money no savings dilly dallying spending time with family makes you feel guilty but then you need it to stay sane from financial fear. Not to mention employers are no longer reasonable. This system is brutal. People shouldn’t have to feel this way. You really have to lower your standards for work and this year grocery stores are even being extremely selective.
Thank you for this video i thought I was abstract going through all of this. Reading the commentaries i réalisé it's an every day situation. I have been looking for jobs since 6months now to no avail. But as you said you are more than your job. Will follow your advices.
I'm afraid. I've been depressed all my life, and for many years I have not worked - though I always managed to work. Now I just wake up and cry about life and try to sleep till the day is done. I am stuck and after all it has done I still haven't had any real help and my family doesn't even call and never did.
@@louiseandresinawithresina2402 I appreciate your reading and responding. I have done alot of research on my own. I have been admitted to the psychiatric ward in my hometown where I currently reside, but my first admittance was ten years after I was first diagnosed and given medication at 15 years old (although I stabbed my wrist 6 times with a tiny paring knife at 16 and though it bled enough for some attention, which is what I hoped for, but the hospital turned me away for the first of many times, even as the attempts gradually get bolder still. I took 95 blood pressure pills and 20 nerve pills last January. I ended up in the ER and drinking 1.5 litres of charcoal drink etc. since the pills were absorbed and they couldn't pump my stomach. A Doctor came down from psych to talk and he suggested I stay..I convinced him I had been scared and newly enlightened by this scary experience and he let me go. I didn't want help I thought then) I didn't like the thought I was on pills so I didn't stick with it for a long time being 15 amd immature but I had a few good years for the most part(although family issues and normal things still existed - I was happy after I had a growth spurt and grew to appear strong and healthy). I have had melencholy since I was very young - my mother said she couldn't remember I time when I wasn't depressed, when I asked her if she remembered when it began. I am 40 now. Time is relentless. There is a song I heard that is slow and beautiful, I think a singer of Sinatra's ilk sings it...I have only heard it once or twice and I remember crying. He laments, "when I was 17-it was a very good year...and then 26, 35 and so on. I could hum the tune into my phone later to find it I suppose. I had my best experience with the caring staff at the Peter Lougheed Hospital in Calgary: from admittance to getting my bed upstairs they were kind, compassionate, professional, knowledgeable, and I didn't feel judged. I went there on a whim after a 6 hour flight to be with lifelong friends after a traumatic event happened here at home that I won't get into as I am embarrassed with this long reply. By then I was a struggling addict as well. I began with my Dad's pain pills when he was diagnosed with neck cancer. When it returned after besting it for a year and a half, if took its toll and he went through terrible things and kept coming out alive. He was beloved by all. I took it hard and went from popping thr odd pill to injecting within a few months by learning online. The problem many of us have; and if anyone is reading this who is an addicted or poly - addicted person, and have a mental illness, it can be hard to get help as the system thinks it all to be the drugs and alcohol et cetera, and once you stop those you will not have the other mental problems or vice versa. My depression greatly preceded my addictions. I lack coping skills, as in my case of living with a man you love slowly die while you are just getting serious about who I want to be in spite of it all because I thought I would best it one day. Although, where I live it is general practitioners and daily doctors who are one's only source of help in medical terms. I have only seen a true psychological specialist when I was 16 and saveable I suppose. They didn't charge me any money. I worked my first job at age 15 pumping gas afterschool and overnights on weekends and then all different hours in the summer. At 17, Blockbuster video was the popular place to work because all the teens wanted free rentals, it was near lots of neighborhoods, and they had some cute supervisors ha ha. So I applied and charmed them and got one of 3 jobs out of 100 I had to beat at a mass interview at a Travelodge which I worked many years later. I had potential as a teenager and early 20s. We all do. Some things aren't to be. Anyways sorry this is long-winded. I have been officially diagnosed by a psychiatrist, but other than Major Depressive Disorder, I don't often share other things I struggle with mentally and which I have been diagnosed with. There are 80 year olds, many many of them, who have more vigor than I. Low energy, sadness, heightened empathy for others, regret, self-loathing and self-pity, and a big one for me is procrastination. I had a publisher tell me they were interested in working with me after I sent them snippets of my half-finished rough draft. I never finished it. I lost the written copy of which I worked off of and told them the truth- at the time I just couldn't do it. The title was down to 2 choices: • Clichè: Another Junky's Tale .The Never Ending Beginning (Kinda like this post ha. Be good to each other, everyone. We are all struggling in our own way. We all laugh cry and love and are loved.)
Thanks for your post. You have a lot to say. Perhaps you should start your manuscript again and this time save it on my computer. I didn’t write my book healing from depression until I was 49. If you provide your email address I will send you my chart of self-care activities to improve your mood which I think you would find helpful.
@@DouglasBloch Thank you. I appreciate your reading it. I also thank you for your offer. I will send my email address via inbox soon. I watch your videos often. Have a good day. Tim
More and more people and less work for every year. A situation who demands a new way of thinking when whole factories are runned by robots and computers. The problem is that robots dont buy the products they make but humans do but have no money when they dont have work. I have seen much work gone being around from the 60s up to present date and i sometimes feel sad for the younger generations who sometimes strugle in a time when this change in this future wheel are spinning faster and faster and society only looks to be wondering ... What to do about it !?.
Thank you, you speak the truth. Something seems really off, like an automatic system that has been firing faster and faster, quit serving its purpose a long time ago but now we seem stuck to
What if you are just not that good. In January 2018 I began my Master's program, I wanted to go back to school in the hopes of never losing my job. Too bad that has happened 3 times by way of job elimination. I have been unemployed for almost a year. I pretty much want to jump off a cliff. All I have left is 2 credits left, the thesis, but I'm not sure if I want to complete it. Going back to school at 39 hasn't helped. I've done everything right, gone through a series of statistics, honed in on my skills, read books, had a career coach, but yet, here I sit at home hitting the apply button. I hate myself, I hate my career, I wish I could go back and start over and get out of this mess.
I'm sorry the funny of job has been so difficult. Please try not to blame yourself. There are forces that are working outside of your control. I have a video called forgive yourself for your mistakes that might be helpful. Are you talking with a counselor therapist about how to cope with the stress that you are dealing with?
Every job I applied for never got back to me. I've only had one successful interview but didn't get the job because I can't work weekends. Unfortunately I have already applied at all the jobs that I'm interested in but I don't want to become desperate and work someplace that I'm not interested in. It's tough.
I came to a study abroad and I have been searching for a job long before graduation. Now I have my Master's diploma and my job search has passed 1 year mark. I have a great relationship with my man, and I feel dreadful about the possibility of losing him if I can't get a job and work visa. Getting rejected for not being born in this country and not being "native speaker" (although having fluency in the language) is killing me.
I'm going through this atm. Been trying for almost a year now, and being rejected all the time is really hard. I stopped hanging out, stopped seeing other friends, my relationship with my gf is suffering because of this
Thank you for this. Trying to get and keep a job feels like the cruel workings of natural selection for me 😔 I have a shortcoming with not being able to at least do mental math...which closes a lot of doors for me. I do have a certification for a career...but other than that not much else I could do...which can be hard during emergencies like this pandemic. I guess I just gotta keep looking and remember im not the only person feeling like this.
I'm Brazilian, and the job market here is very competitive. I've been unemployed for 2 months now, and I'm having a lot of difficulties during interviews, perhaps because I'm anxious, I end up expressing myself poorly, and I'm evaluated negatively by recruiters, and unfortunately I'm not approved. I don't want to victimize myself, but I also suffer prejudice due to my appearance, I have tattoos on my arms and ear plugs, I notice that recruiters look at me from top to bottom, and the impression that they are not evaluating my potential but rather my experience. Anyway, I'm super responsible, I live alone and study a lot, I'm sure I'll overcome this situation, like everyone here.
I feel like my dad doesn’t love me anymore because I am jobless ie. worthless. My cousins could give him money and I couldn’t so he spends more time with them and does things for them he wouldn’t do for me. :’) I feel like he even gets annoyed now whenever I cry to him. He used to be the first one to come to me and let me cry while hugging me. Now... my cousins get all that. :’) My heart is truly broken.
I'm sorry you're having this experience. Have you talked with your dad about your feelings? I would definitely talk to a therapist or counselor about what's going on and see what tools and strategies they can give you to cope with the situation.
I am 61 years old; I have two master's degree and I am fluent in 5 languages. I've applied for more 10,000 jobs in the last 6 years. A top recruiter told me that there is a lot of age discrimination in companies, but it is hard to prove. I had two guys around 30 years old making fun of me on an interview. When you lose your job you lose your honor, your dignity, your respect and your friends. I've been in church a few times but when you tell you are unemployed, they never talk to you again. Unemployment is like leprosy in the biblical times. A while ago a friend's son was being disrespectful to me, and the parents didn't say anything. They didn't even care about keeping the friendship. I do volunteer work and the supervisor don't value me. The other day I had a problem at my volunteer work, and everyone sided with the other person, who has a nice job, even if was clear that was not my fault. I am a Christian and I pray every morning. I quote many God's promises every day. I've memorized many of them. The other day I was looking at the computer monitor for almost 4 hours and couldn't do anything. Depression freezes you. No one can self-defrost. We need external help. Lots of people send sermons and TH-cam videos, but only one so far contacted her company trying to get me an interview. Try to get any government help it makes depression even worst. You can tell that most of those people hate their jobs. I wish I had a real solution. You Tube videos don't help much.
Church, god, jesus and praying wont help. For me it made my life worse. I can assure you there is no jesus, there is a creator but he doesnt care about us. This life is a waiting line for the slaughter house. I finally realized this after praying my heart out for a solid year, and sermons,devotionals,church, etc. Dont waste precious time on your knees praying to a made up deity or a cruel, sadistic creator.
@@anthonyharmon9265 There are lots of university studies on how prayer improves your brain. Many other studies on how people that have some kind of faith heals faster. Read " Switch your Brain" by Dr. Caroline Leaf.
I'm so fried. I work at a grocery store and I'm exhausted, and I don't have the energy to put into a job search. I need a different environment, and I've put the effort into a few applications and interviews. I can't afford to take unpaid time off, but I don't feel I'll ever have the ability to successfully job search doing what I am now. My mental and physical health are suffering, and dealing with people in any customer service position is getting harder and harder by the week.
@@DouglasBloch I do, but nothing seems like enough without changing some of the situations that are causing extra stress. I'm very aware of the fact that I've made a lot of progress, but the last year has been a massive setback.
Naiipon nalang talaga yung galit ko, everytime di ako makahanap ng work at pupursigihin nila ako sa ganto, sa ganyan nakaka frustrate isipin na mauulit lang ulit, nakaka depress, nakaka lala ng anger issue. Itatago mo nalang talaga para ipakitang malakas at masaya ka kahit puro dissapointment and stress isipin ung wala kang mahanap paulit ulit.
Una hinde ko alam circumstances mo. Just for perspective, 51 ako this year. Single and living alone. Nawalan ako ng trabaho September lang this year. Not the first time na ma lay off. Nawalan din ako ng work nung nag lock down. 14 years ako dun. Itong huli 3 years. Nagsimula ako mag apply apply ulit last October. No luck so far. Pero hinde na ako masyado umaasa kase feeling ko gurang na ko. Pero sige lang. I'm giving myself a few more months. Baka makachamba. May naipon ako na kaunti. So nakakahinga hinga pa. Importante trabaho. Pero mas importante pera. Pinaka importante oras. Nakakarelate ako sa sinasabi mo. Sa tingin ko nakatira ka pa sa bahay ng magulang mo. Pilitin mo na mag sarile kung makakaya mo. Ag importante, mabawasan ang gastos at yung expectations na ikaw ang aako sa lahat ng responsibilidad. Bread winner sa madaling salita.
The only video that I cannot really apply Mr Bloch's recommendations therein. Looks like I am running out of time. Thank you for trying to help anyway, Mr Bloch.
It's not the job search that's terrifying, it's the passing of technical exams that's making it difficult. Even if I pass all the interviews, the technical exams fit for newly grads are the deal-breakers. darn.
@@DouglasBloch Not if the company has that exam in place and is part of their hiring process. The recruiter will ask if the candidate would like to proceed with the application by taking the exam, then interviews. There's no getting around it, and it only benefits mostly newly grads that have been taught in college about binary trees, algorithms, data structure, etc. Old applicants who have lives after work, don't have the luxury of time to refresh their skills with those BS, so would probably fail, unless in their day-to-day jobs they use those sorts of thing.
My industry is crashing more by the day, I was laid off 2 months ago because the company I worked for couldn't afford the fuel in the trucks and parked all of them, and it seems to be a theme for a lot of the small and mid-sized companies, I refuse to go to work for a big mega carrier because they treat you like garbage and you will never see home time when you want it, I have to say if it wasn't for my dogs I probably wouldn't survive this, they keep me from completely giving up on life, I have gone to searching other states for work because in my city there just aren't any jobs in my industry hiring, I thought about just changing career status, but that's a struggle in its own... I post my resume on multiple job sites and get no responses, it's been like this for almost 2 months, very depressing, very draining, barely enough energy to move some days, I just want all this pain to go away at some point
I’m sorry that things have been so difficult. I’m glad you have your dogs as a reason to keep on living. Many people feel that way about their pets. I have a friend who drives Uber and Lyft to make money while he’s looking for work. Seems to be working out. Are you able to talk to a counselor therapist?
@@DouglasBloch Talk to a counselor or a therapist? That's a luxury I definitely can't afford at this point, I haven't had insurance on myself in over 20 years, I'm trying to observe as much self-help videos as I can... When you live in a world by yourself that's a different kind of struggle, that's the bad thing about Trucking, you're isolated from everyone, you're always on the road, there's no time to make friends or even hang out with them... My goal is to someday break away from the chain of trucking, this is one job that can destroy relationships quickly, it would be nice to have a local job and make friends again, but this economy is so horrible and the industry that I'm in is changing for the worst daily
@@DouglasBloch In my area lyft and Uber doesn't do so well, you would have to work 7 days a week 12 hour shift just to make about half of what I generally make on the road, however I am looking into the limousine business, they generally do well when they do weddings,funerals, and parties, they get hourly plus 20% and tips
That is depressing what other people are more successful than you with less talent. On the other hand my counselor told me that I should "run my own race." Just pay attention to what I'm doing and not compare myself to anybody else
Job-Search is terrifying, and a little anger making. It's such a judgemental thing on many levels, especially when your self esteem is around your ankles.
Yep. Job search and love search alike. Most searches actually...
@@sna3934 google search is less stressful 😁
@@youcefmoussouni4838 haha... I hear you
@@tdsmhd4529 😁
@Love Yourself what does "Fr" mean?
As someone with a masters degree, being a polyglot I was sure I would land a high paying job in no time. However, rejection letter after rejection letter destroyed whatever ego I had inside me. To the folks out there who are like me, remember, there is always light at the end of the tunnel. Dont give up. I am not giving up.
Thank you for these words. It's a struggle.
I am in the same boat as you. But I also have a disability. My TH-cam channel that I created a while ago has helped me a bit to deal with it. I love books and I want to share that with others.
Same. A masters doesn't mean anything anymore. I was so naive 3 months ago but I'm in exactly the same situation I was then :(
@@kingofmemes5017 but then you have people that keep jobs that don’t deserve them because some managers don’t like conflict. I’ve seen that before.
How’s everything going rn?
It’s when a week turns into a month , then another month and unfortunately another . The longer it goes the harder to grasp any form of positivity .
This has brought tears to my eyes. Yes, every day that goes by is consuming and defeating me.
When I was a young man many many years ago, I graduated with my Master's Degree. It was stressed toe that Education was Key to being successful.
Further, after graduating from Graduate School I had to forego any hopes of job hunting due to taking care of BOTH of my maternal grandparents, and eventually my mother.
She passed recently and I have been looking for any kind of work, including full and part time. I have NOT been successful so far. HOPEFULLY, something will turn out. I guess GOD is testing my patience and resolve.
You are so right. I'm going through it now and it's hard to even feel any motivation anymore
did you find a job? I need some hope as well
The struggle is real. I am so depressed from job hunting,and being unemployed. I have lost all my personal motivation to enjoy life or have any more goals.
I am sorry to hear that. Is there anything you can do in between your job searches that gives you some pleasure. Have you sought out resources that help people find jobs. There's something in United States called vocational rehabilitation. It is run by each state
I totally feel your pain - I obtained an online certificate and thought I'd have my foot in the door to a great career, but after applying to hundreds of jobs, I have only scored a couple of interviews. Don't give up! Take a break from job searching once in a while (so that it doesn't define your life) and do some intense soul-searching to figure out who you are aside from your job prospects. Then, when you're up to it, try the search again and keep your expectations as realistic as possible. Either way, you'll learn lots about yourself and every little move you make will be a stepping stone to a better tomorrow. Easier said than done (I'm still working through my depression as I write this), but it's well worth the effort! Love and hugs from Canada
Staying motivated is even harder when you consider that many,
If not most of us are forced to work pretty demeaning jobs while
At the same time, the jobs we've worked or even studied for keep
getting further & further away... Don't know what ta tell ya, but
thanks for posting?? Thanks for your honesty, that takes courage.
Maybe it will help someone.
Thank you also Dr. Bloch, will be watching for more!
So am I. It has been 6 months of job search for me.
You’re not alone bro. I feel ya.
one of the things I hate the most is pretending to be fine to family, friends… bc a lot of people want to be with you when you’re up, when you have money…, it’s very few people that actually want to be with you in your lows.
I'm looking for a job for 3 years now. My relationship ended because of it, I stopped going to places that I like due lack of money but I believe that I'll make it through the rain. It's hard but I must go on.
Keep persevering. I am holding for you that you will find your job
Great attitude I am going trough the same.
hope things are better now 🤞
Hey I believe in you! Keep it updated! I hope things got better
You're strong and amazing
I am recent university graduate from South Africa and I have been job hunting for 1 year and 7 months. I never thought I would see myself falling into a depressive state.
Keep persevering. Eventually something may open up
What are you doing now?
South Africa... You are white... Complicated. Apartheid 2.0!
The rejection letter after rejection letter isn't the worst part for me. The worst part is feeling isolated. I don't have family and I have few friends. When I do see my friends I can't relax around them because I feel so awful about myself so I just end up avoiding social situations.
Are you seeing a therapist? He or she could help you process your feelings. In my memoir when going through hell don’t stop I talk about feeling bad about myself when I was on Social Security and met Woman who had just gotten her PhD in math. But my therapist told me not to worry because on the inside my essential worth was no different from hers.
Im in the exact situation. No family and isolated. I left a company I had been with 10 years because I thought I could do better. Everything is falling apart including me.
@@DouglasBloch Pro tip. Unemployed people with no jobs can't afford therapists. I get so tired of people saying, go to a therapist, get acupuncture, it's like these people come from a place of unlimited resources. It's quite insensitive.
And being the only unemployed one in the friend groups is embarrassing as hell. It makes me not wanna hang out anymore
how are you now?
It's not only I find no job. I also dont really feel up to apply one because Im too inferior for every job. I stuggle with social anxiety, poor comunication skills, low intelligence, when I have even graduated in bachelor degree for years.
I feel you 😔
That's what i feel like, a lot of the jobs i look at ask way too much of you for what they pay.
Me too but I don't have any paper no degree cause l dropped out of school due to severe anxiety and low self esteem. it's more hard for me
You're clearly intelligent, believe that! 🙌
Wish you the best
Just looking for any job is depressing ! Not getting the job you want is killing ! Having diverse experiences is a handicap nowadays ! Employers want only bio robot slaves that are willing to do only one job for all their life ! Honnestly when I was a kid or when I was a student I had no clue how real life is : a depressing HELL ! I call it the sad ring of hell
I'm sorry you are struggling. There is some places that offer coaching for writing resumes and looking for jobs. You might wanna see if any are in your area
@@DouglasBloch those places are garbage and show you the same jobs you see online lol sure they help with a resume but employers dont even look at them anyways lol useless info
sad ring of hell is so right! freelancing can help w some of being a mindless robot servent but you can't make enough to live on. I've gotten fired or laid off from all my non-student jobs that aren't underpaid freelancing. The hierarchical social dynamics of work and constant criticism beat me down and make me want to die. I have been a failure since I graduated undergrad. I'm finishing a useless grad degree which is not helping me find a job either.
Boy that’s so true!! If you aren’t a specialist in one particular thing, ur worthless....never mind u take on multiple roles, handle ridiculous amounts of work and do the jobs of 4 people. All HR wants to see is one ‘job title’.
This world is HELL..
Havent had a job for almost 3 years now and I feel like I no longer has any emotions, I feel completely numb and worthless to the point that I dont even wanna wake up.
Have you reached out for mental health counseling?
Exactly same it's killing me l feel like shit inside. Everyone in my family already moved on and found good jobs.
@@DouglasBloch counseling is a waste of time it does not solve the issue
Yeah you'll have that. Hang in there
😢😢 thats me right now; my family is fallin apart due to tht
Telling me to spend time with friends when i don't have any really stings...
I experienced redundancy and the resulting unemployment during a particularly nasty period of depression.
One thing I found helped (not a cure!) for me was to volunteer at a museum.
It was an aviation museum.
It got me up and out of the house, it gave me purpose and focus, it gave me light exercise, it boosted my confidence because I was appreciated there, I learned new things which stimulated my mind, I met people who I would never have met if I'd stayed at home and it looked good on my Curriculum Vitae when I went for job interviews.
Many charities desperately need volunteers.
Thank you for your excellent suggestion. I tell my group members to do volunteer work also
I too ,you imagine loosing your job 2 months to Christmas
Veritas Vincit great advice
It's this feeling of failure that completely destroys you. Someone having 9 years of work experience, then taking a break to pursue master's and getting good grades, and yet unable to land an interview, is absolutely soul crushing.
I lost my job two months ago and have been stuck in Portland’s unemployment adjudication waiting game. No source of income, no government support, no interviews coming in…it’s deflating. I still struggle with losing a job I loved of 7 years-not because I was a bad employee but because my position was no longer financially meeting the needs of the business.
It’s a constant limbo of waking up and saying, “yes! I’m going to exercise, eat something good for me, and apply for more jobs.” When other days, I can barely get myself out of bed by noon and the self loathing starts in right when I wake up. Trying to appreciate my self worth and hoping for a clear mind to carry on to rebuild a better future.
Do you have any savings?
I'm actually going to steal that one when they say tell me about yourself in an interview "i'm a diverse personality with many different experiences, intrests and values"
This is the problem.
Not having job is what depresses me. No contribution or having a sense of purpose is a very shitty feeling. Which lowers the self esteem. So now if I ever do get a chance at an interview, I already feel defeated and less than. Which is not a good way to feel in an interview.
Faking it feels disingenuous and is not who I am. They would see right through the facade and pass for a more confident prospect.
The end.
There are some places that offer interview coaching. I know that vocational rehabilitation used to have workshops and interviewing for a job. If you have the time you could also volunteer somewhere which gives one a sense of contribution
I graduated 6 months ago and been 6 months I am hunting for a job. Never thought on the day of graduation that I will see this kind of videos on TH-cam.
I hope you find a job soon good I think they were job coaches to help you write a good résumé and give you some good strategies. Have you ever heard of informational interviewing? This means going to businesses and interviewing someone just to learn learn about how The organization works. Sometimes the person you interviewed will remember you and call you about an opening.
I'm 30 yrs and still job hunting
🙏✨ all good luck and best wishes 🍀
Dude i’m 60 am looking
@Sandy Smellin' It Like it Is contact me i will give u 100%
Brother dont look for job now , create it
Laid off Sept 2023. I'm 51. Searching but with very little expectations of even getting employed again. SS benefits is still far.
I started rowing. Might not be able to find a job but dam i'm finally starting to look good.
Wow! I'm actually going through this right now after being denied disability for the fifth time. Thank you so much sir! Love your book 🙏
Roman, am I missing sth, or why should u get disability if you are able to work? I was put on disability against my will, hahaha! I said no, you are only going to forget me, and I want treatment and rehabilitation. They did forget about me.
Stay strong
I’m going through this right now. I lost a good job with a good company from layoff. I can tell you this, you have to get out of the house and you have to make yourself do things and get involved in things and people. And pay attention to what interests you. Do not waste your time with things that don’t interest you. Try to apply for jobs the unconventional way like making a phone call or trying to set up a meeting with the hiring manager. I find applying online is not enough. But also go easy on yourself. ASK for help too. I am crying right now as I write this and I’m about to watch this video over again just know that you must be happy with what you choose to do whatever it is. It does not have to be a high-paying, high end, career job.
job depression is one thing , other thing being dealing with people who are trying to ruin your life by depriving you from your opportunities
Why is this such a real constant thing for employees
It's been about 5 years for me. One rejection over another. Trying to find something in your 60's is like an act of congress when mostly 20 somethings have most of it. Social Security doesn't pay the bills or rent, creditors are calling & harassing every day. They don't care what your problem is, they want their money.
I am probably older than most who’ve commented. I have had a couple years of job hell because I tried to change careers. I hope we all find what we’re looking for. I’m so tired of the whole process.
I wish you the best in finding what you are looking for.
I am in the same boat….I’ll hang in there if you do!
@@brightspacebabe Will do. You, as well.
Job searching can be very depressing...my challenges of job hunting:
-Applying for jobs which have 100+ applicants, and not getting a response even though I meet all the qualifications
-Entry-level jobs requiring 2-5 years of experience
-My network in the same situation and looking for jobs
-The pandemic affecting jobs
Are correct. I hope things change for the better.
I really understand
I can't deal with the constant rejection. I have dysmathia when I'm better and major depression when I'm worse. The rejection really triggers it for me. I can't manage to not take it personally because they are judging you personally!
There is a book called “what do you think of me is none of my business.“ Perhaps you could work with a therapist to adopt this philosophy. I know it is easier said than done
Right now this is even more relevant. I've been struggling for a couple months now with this myself. The isolation factor is worse now than before, but it's always bad anyway from being embarrassed to be out of work.
Keep persevering. Ask others to hold a vision for you of getting a job
It’s not embarrassing, I lost my job from layoff. Not embarrassing at all. It happens to millions of people and please know that companies let go of employees all the time. Not your fault. Keep looking. Get help
@gmar7836 I'm thankful to say that since then I got a job fairly quickly and am still there today. The most beneficial thing I did was keep busy with constructive and useful things at home --built gardens and made a hoosier pole for my truck-- and constantly cranked out job apps and resumes while reading Extreme Ownership and other similar stuff.
@@billmcyrus well done. May I ask you what is extreme ownership?
@gmar7836 It's a book by Jocko Willink on leadership, organizational culture, personal accountability and development, teamwork, planning, and adaptation. Probably the single most important book written so far this century.
i can't eat ,sleep, I'm alone my family doesnt know I lost job. I worked so hard to get this job it was the best job ill ever get 100k a year and it all went away over one night of a bad mistake on my part. I'm so lost , have know unemployment, can't use them as a reference. I'm ashamed and embarrased . im walking into walls everyday , I have rent for 1 more month that's it. 😔
I hope you can forgive yourself. Can you reach out to a counselor who will help you navigate this difficult time?
@@DouglasBloch they won't speak to you unless you have money.
@mindbodyandsoul604 I hope that you read this and that you are in a much better space. I'm rooting for you.
I get furious at the requirements now for job applications. Researching companies, making videos, and doing tasks, it's so time consuming and unfair. You can pour a whole weekend into it and the companies can simply click decline. So much work is heaped onto the applicant.
Thank you, thank you, thank you for this! It's seriously perfect timing that this video came out because I've been job searching for months now and I'm feeling like I hit rock bottom. Your video just picked me up off that floor. Thank you for taking the time to film this, it's so very appreciated.
You’re welcome. I hope your persistence pays off.
I have a master's degree and 6 years of public sector administrative and finance experience, I have been out of work for 6 months and I am running out of money and hope.
The job market is very tough right now and a lot of qualified job seekers are going through the same things you are. There are a lot of fake jobs out there (taking applications but no intention of hiring) and companies are making candidates jump through hoops. But hang in there because things always turn around.
😢😢😢
Good video! A video on how to deal with stress of starting a new job and learning a new skill set in new environment would be great!
I hate it when companies hire the laziness people and they hired them because of favoritism.
Good comments and useful advice. I have been out of work for a while.the depression creeps in over time. You start to doubt yourself.
Love your work and resilience Doug! You’re videos helped me through a very rough couple years. I stumbled upon this video ‘coincidentally’ while job hunting this week - but, I got hired on the spot today after my first interview with the company.
Have a great summer Doug and all!
Also a book that helped me was one called Hope and Help for Your Nerves... forget author.
God bless.
-Zach
This is how I feel sadly, as a stay at home mom. It’s been 13 years now.
Is there a time when you might be able to look for work
As a recruiter that hasn't found work for several months I am barely able to do anything each day. I do less and less....sleep is all over the place. Definitely in a downward spiral.
I don’t understand some parts of this video… “go out with friends” or “eat a healthy diet”.My financial situation is a disaster because I can’t find a job in my profession. I can’t afford go to a trip or eat healthy diet. I eat sometimes expired food that some churches donate me… in my case I don’t even have friends because I’m immigrant and I just know few people in America. The struggle is real, today I woke up thinking that I wish not to live anymore… sorry for being honest… but I don’t understand why find a job should be so complicated and how this is impacting my mental health.
I'm sorry that has been difficult to find work. Not having enough money is a stressor, both physically and emotionally. Have you tried calling your local social service agency in applying for food stamps. That's what my wife did. You would certainly qualify. Also, most cities have something called a food bank, an organization that gives food away to people who are not able to buy their own. You can tell the number 211 to find out about other social services
Its been months since I was laid off due to covid. Yet still I have not found anything. Applying to 20-40 jobs per day on indeed. Time is running out and it has taken huge toll on me. I no longer can even pay bills. On top of the depression now I am feeling worthless.. This is gotten bad
I’m sorry for your economic troubles. You are not worthless because you’re worth is based on something far more spiritual than your income. Nonetheless financial stress is real. I hope you can find some work or maybe even start a Go fund me site to get some extra money from your friends and relatives
Dermes, how are you today?
I've just completed my MBA, thank God that my friend offered me freelance job to provide consultancy to her company. But still I have to find a decent job. The killer about not having a decent job is that the painful comparison that I am making with others (friends, family), plus the fact that, hey, I'm not getting younger, reaching 30 in a couple of years. I've worked before but resigned for my studies.
Sometimes the dreaded thought of, you could have taken or stayed at the workplace that kills me (but staying was not much of a good decision either due to other factors at the time I was resigning).
Alas, life moves on. Another day to survive. But with the movement restrictions between states and now I'm in the countryside of the country have proven to be challenging to get jobs in the bigger cities.
But, thank you for your talk, and may everyone including myself find a decent job soon.
You're welcome. I find it funny that you said I'm not getting older because I'm reaching 30 in a few years. I just turned 72. 30 years old seems like another lifetime. You're very young and you have your whole life ahead of you
I’m taking one day at a time. Concentrating on my hobby. I make origami, reduces my anxiety for sure. Can’t take another rejection. Maybe working for someone else isn’t for me.... 🌷
Try to keep focusing on your hobby as much as you can
Thank you. I've been struggling to find full-time employment for the past two-three years, and I am living with family, who are pressing me to get a full-time job. Currently working part-time, but it's loathing. I have been doing what I love, though, as of yet, it is not paying the bills, unfortunately, as of yet. It requires more money. The thought of doing anything else is a tough pill to swallow.
What is the work that you were doing that you love
@@DouglasBloch I love trading stocks and writing.
Why are hiring managers and HR people who interact with job seekers so shitty?
Because most are narcissistic and don't have empathy for people!! It's just a job for most so they don't really care!!
HR is and never will be FOR the employees. It is not about being friendly or helpful. They are parasites
It´s a useless job invented for neoliberal times. Just look at the terms: "Job MARKET", "Human RESOURCE", gimme a fucking break. It's pathetic, attracts horrible types of humans
This video made me more depressed
Sorry to hear that. What is your current situation
I got a college degree in Engineering Technology and haven't found a job. I feel depressed, I have been searching for almost a year now. It is not the lack of education, but experience holding me back. I just need an opportunity to show I am a great worker.
Keep persevering and affirm that that job opportunity is right around the corner. If you'd like some prayer support you can call Silent Unity at 1-816-969-2000. It is free.
@@DouglasBloch Thank You, I appreciate the support!
It's the oldest catch-22 in the working world, bro, it sucks, and it's not your fault: if you want a job, you need experience but to get experience, you need a job. I'm in the same boat right now and I'm probably a lot older than you (I'm 41). In my case, it's because I'm switching careers from the legal profession to the teaching profession. Nobody is telling me anything (because soulless HR people generally don't), but I'm not stupid and know that at least some of the time, I'm getting passed over for "safer" options who have been in the profession longer (and assuming somebody will be a better employee because they've been around longer is totally fallacious, but that's a topic for another discussion).
Anyway, unless something happens in the next few weeks, I've resigned to the fact that I might just have to work for peanuts subbing for awhile to show I am a great worker, as you put it. And that's more or less what I would do if I were you: as someone else, here, suggested, volunteer to work for free or for peanuts at an entry-level position for awhile to show employers what you can do and get them comfortable with you. I'm not saying do it forever, but just give them, say, a 1 - 2 month test drive. Bare minimum, you'll make some good contacts and God-knows those are as valuable as anything when you're trying to land a job. Good luck!
Ive been really getting depressed sometimes. Being a UX designer is hard but finding a position is insanely difficult. I feel like almost 8 months or so. But good advice here.
You're welcome. What is a UX designer
@@DouglasBloch someone that designs, websites, apps and dashboards etc
I'm a UX designer too I totally understand. I had to resort to creating fake companies in order to land a role 🙈
I’m 26 left college 2 years ago and having to resort to writing a book on reflecting on what I learned on my life just to hopefully promote myself. Sadly it’s still in progress but it’s truly even a more massive struggle when you have learning difficulties like mine.
The frustrating thing is I have so many educational grades/certificates with my most recent an A level distinction after being told years I would never get an A level. Once finished college I realised employers don’t bother with grades and only care about experience and the thing is I do have some experience working in retail etc but as soon as they see I have learning difficulties they turn away.
Perhaps you can find an employer is more understanding of your situation.
Doug, looking sharp! Have a good week!
I just want an interview for a job that isn't crap or where the boss doesn't treat me like a slave. I guess that is too much to ask because it is taking a long time for something to appear 🥺😫
Timely to say the least.
Thanks Douglas. Iam into 9 to 4 job.manages with great difficulty with meds exercise and ur motivational vedioes
It's been 2 years and I feel terrible. I've gotten certifications, built a following on LinkedIn, done multiple interviews, applied to over 1600 jobs, ect.. it's depressing. Financial pressures make it hard too.
I'm sorry to hear that. Perhaps you could work with a job counselor to come up with new job-search strategies.
Yes! I agree 100%, connecting with others while unemployed is so important. It might stave off the depression.
Libraries are free.
I was a tour guide. Because of pandémic i lost my job. Almost 1 year i am looking for a job but no results. So hard especially if you live in a country where you should have good network rather than good knowledge if you need a job. But I still have hope.
Keep persevering
I got fired in August 2022 and I still have yet to find a job.. the last two potential positions ghosted me despite the initial interview. Luckily, I have someone to take care of me in the meantime, but it feels awful being college-educated, 2 years of work experience, and still not being able to contribute.
That's not your fault, visualize exactly what you want, and keep on persevering.
To find a job.. This is the only solution for job search depression 😎
Thank you Douglas this is the advice I’ve needed for a while keep doing what you’re doing legend!
You're welcome.
Even my social circle is judging me for not having a job ☺️
Despite their judgment you can still have compassion for yourself
I graduated in early july still no job. Sitting in home, depended financially on parents. Everyday I hear their taunts. Only god knows what will happen to me😢
I graduate late june. Know you are not alone in this process
Job search makes me suicidal.
It is very stressful.
I'm 30, quit the post office after 5 years, been job hunting for around 2 months, I hate this.
Thanks for this video, great advice. My depression never fails to go away when I am in meaningful employment but I always take it for granted.
I decided to resign from my previous job last May due to my depression and anxiety. everyday of me being at job was like a hell i could never escape. thats when i noticed i can not bear any sort of mental pressure situation anymore. fast forward until now on December, i still am job hunting. i have degree in management field with good cgpa and pretty balance job skills, but still unemployed. i think being unemployed literally brain damaging for me, it worsen my depression. at one point, i just blame myself for everything that happened and think i shouldnt hand in the letter on last May. i really need words of encouragement.
How are you doing my friend? Know that God loves you, please let us pray for each other, It may be hard to wait but I know God will come through for you.
Please do deep breathing, look at nature and read the Bible. I love you.
The key is that we are not human in this process. We are just a number and expandable tool for the company. No matter how hard we try, no one will give a damn about what we have done what we can do who we are because employers simply don't care and don't have time to think about us.
Sometimes working for a small company can bring a different experience.
I lost my Job because of the pandemic… it’s been 3 years of unemployment now. Job hunting has break my heart more than any other experience in my life. I’m medicated with antidepressants but I feel like they won’t work till I have a work because every day I feel worthless.
Encourage you to continue to go to work. Have you contacted job searching programs like indeed?
I’ve been looking for work for 3 months now. I finally got a job offer with great salary, like I’ve never made before. Sadly the offer was rescinded. I felt sick after hearing the news. I’m looking for another job now…even thinking of changing careers
Sorry I came so close. But also believe in the idea that when one door closes another door opens. Keep affirming that you will find the right and perfect job for you.
I'm 24 yrs old, and I still don't have a job, had got 2 job offers an year ago, but I screwed up by not responding on time, and now I'm not getting any opportunities. I feel ashamed of myself that being an adult I'm still sitting on my ass, surviving on dad's money. It hurts my ego that I'm not independant yet, feels like a spoiled brat who enjoys life on dad's money and does no work, thats very shameful experience for me. What shall I do if I feel like this over a period of time till I get a job?
Because of today's economic realities, I know many 24-year-olds who are dependent on their parents. My parents supported me and I was 35 because my depression made it difficult for me to hold a job. Yes I felt shame but I was also trying my best to become independent. The key is to do your best. You might want to see a counselor who can help you to process and release the shame.
@@DouglasBloch thankyou so much for understanding and supporting.🙏❤❤🌸💯💯✨
Thank you for your video I’ve been dealing with this for months,it’s really hard doing your best and searching without any luck.
Keep persevering. Sometimes state employment agencies have workshops on resume writing and other helpful job search tools.
Looking for a job in the current landscape where the thought is "nobody wants to work, everyone is lazy" is rather disheartening. I'm not sure how many apps ive put in. No luck yet, and it's really starting to eat at me.
Keep persevering. I have friends in Portland who have been able to find jobs as there are many people looking for employees.
I left my job and now I’m regretting. Been jobless since one month and I’m having depression
I quit my job three years ago that I was at for 6 and a half years. I was confident in my job and did it well. I was so tired of the unfairness of how people were treated. I got called out on using foul language one day that everyone else does same. I literally walked out. I regret it even since. I am on my 7th job in two and a half years. I do not like to be bored and express this at interviews. Each interview I am told we are so busy! I have left each one of these jobs because I have nothing to do and hardly any training. I have depression and anxiety and going through this is making it worse. I feel hopeless in my job search. 😢
This is such a hard concept. When there is no money no savings dilly dallying spending time with family makes you feel guilty but then you need it to stay sane from financial fear. Not to mention employers are no longer reasonable. This system is brutal. People shouldn’t have to feel this way. You really have to lower your standards for work and this year grocery stores are even being extremely selective.
Thank you for this video i thought I was abstract going through all of this. Reading the commentaries i réalisé it's an every day situation. I have been looking for jobs since 6months now to no avail. But as you said you are more than your job. Will follow your advices.
I'm afraid. I've been depressed all my life, and for many years I have not worked - though I always managed to work. Now I just wake up and cry about life and try to sleep till the day is done. I am stuck and after all it has done I still haven't had any real help and my family doesn't even call and never did.
Havnt you found a solution..thats really sad. Blessings
@@louiseandresinawithresina2402 I appreciate your reading and responding. I have done alot of research on my own. I have been admitted to the psychiatric ward in my hometown where I currently reside, but my first admittance was ten years after I was first diagnosed and given medication at 15 years old (although I stabbed my wrist 6 times with a tiny paring knife at 16 and though it bled enough for some attention, which is what I hoped for, but the hospital turned me away for the first of many times, even as the attempts gradually get bolder still. I took 95 blood pressure pills and 20 nerve pills last January. I ended up in the ER and drinking 1.5 litres of charcoal drink etc. since the pills were absorbed and they couldn't pump my stomach. A Doctor came down from psych to talk and he suggested I stay..I convinced him I had been scared and newly enlightened by this scary experience and he let me go. I didn't want help I thought then)
I didn't like the thought I was on pills so I didn't stick with it for a long time being 15 amd immature but I had a few good years for the most part(although family issues and normal things still existed - I was happy after I had a growth spurt and grew to appear strong and healthy).
I have had melencholy since I was very young - my mother said she couldn't remember I time when I wasn't depressed, when I asked her if she remembered when it began. I am 40 now. Time is relentless.
There is a song I heard that is slow and beautiful, I think a singer of Sinatra's ilk sings it...I have only heard it once or twice and I remember crying. He laments, "when I was 17-it was a very good year...and then 26, 35 and so on. I could hum the tune into my phone later to find it I suppose.
I had my best experience with the caring staff at the Peter Lougheed Hospital in Calgary: from admittance to getting my bed upstairs they were kind, compassionate, professional, knowledgeable, and I didn't feel judged. I went there on a whim after a 6 hour flight to be with lifelong friends after a traumatic event happened here at home that I won't get into as I am embarrassed with this long reply. By then I was a struggling addict as well. I began with my Dad's pain pills when he was diagnosed with neck cancer. When it returned after besting it for a year and a half, if took its toll and he went through terrible things and kept coming out alive. He was beloved by all. I took it hard and went from popping thr odd pill to injecting within a few months by learning online. The problem many of us have; and if anyone is reading this who is an addicted or poly - addicted person, and have a mental illness, it can be hard to get help as the system thinks it all to be the drugs and alcohol et cetera, and once you stop those you will not have the other mental problems or vice versa. My depression greatly preceded my addictions. I lack coping skills, as in my case of living with a man you love slowly die while you are just getting serious about who I want to be in spite of it all because I thought I would best it one day. Although, where I live it is general practitioners and daily doctors who are one's only source of help in medical terms. I have only seen a true psychological specialist when I was 16 and saveable I suppose. They didn't charge me any money.
I worked my first job at age 15 pumping gas afterschool and overnights on weekends and then all different hours in the summer. At 17, Blockbuster video was the popular place to work because all the teens wanted free rentals, it was near lots of neighborhoods, and they had some cute supervisors ha ha. So I applied and charmed them and got one of 3 jobs out of 100 I had to beat at a mass interview at a Travelodge which I worked many years later. I had potential as a teenager and early 20s. We all do. Some things aren't to be. Anyways sorry this is long-winded. I have been officially diagnosed by a psychiatrist, but other than Major Depressive Disorder, I don't often share other things I struggle with mentally and which I have been diagnosed with. There are 80 year olds, many many of them, who have more vigor than I. Low energy, sadness, heightened empathy for others, regret, self-loathing and self-pity, and a big one for me is procrastination. I had a publisher tell me they were interested in working with me after I sent them snippets of my half-finished rough draft. I never finished it. I lost the written copy of which I worked off of and told them the truth- at the time I just couldn't do it. The title was down to 2 choices:
• Clichè: Another Junky's Tale
.The Never Ending Beginning
(Kinda like this post ha. Be good to each other, everyone. We are all struggling in our own way. We all laugh cry and love and are loved.)
Thanks for your post. You have a lot to say. Perhaps you should start your manuscript again and this time save it on my computer. I didn’t write my book healing from depression until I was 49. If you provide your email address I will send you my chart of self-care activities to improve your mood which I think you would find helpful.
@@DouglasBloch Thank you. I appreciate your reading it. I also thank you for your offer. I will send my email address via inbox soon. I watch your videos often. Have a good day.
Tim
Same here, all alone and suffering. Closing in on the end
More and more people and less work for every year. A situation who demands a new way of thinking when whole factories are runned by robots and computers. The problem is that robots dont buy the products they make but humans do but have no money when they dont have work. I have seen much work gone being around from the 60s up to present date and i sometimes feel sad for the younger generations who sometimes strugle in a time when this change in this future wheel are spinning faster and faster and society only looks to be wondering ... What to do about it !?.
Thank you, you speak the truth. Something seems really off, like an automatic system that has been firing faster and faster, quit serving its purpose a long time ago but now we seem stuck to
What if you are just not that good. In January 2018 I began my Master's program, I wanted to go back to school in the hopes of never losing my job. Too bad that has happened 3 times by way of job elimination. I have been unemployed for almost a year. I pretty much want to jump off a cliff. All I have left is 2 credits left, the thesis, but I'm not sure if I want to complete it. Going back to school at 39 hasn't helped. I've done everything right, gone through a series of statistics, honed in on my skills, read books, had a career coach, but yet, here I sit at home hitting the apply button. I hate myself, I hate my career, I wish I could go back and start over and get out of this mess.
I'm sorry the funny of job has been so difficult. Please try not to blame yourself. There are forces that are working outside of your control. I have a video called forgive yourself for your mistakes that might be helpful. Are you talking with a counselor therapist about how to cope with the stress that you are dealing with?
I am feeling this right now. Been job hunting for months.I get to mark 99 almost everytime but don't get final 100.its been tough time.
Keep persevering. As one motivational trainer said, "the big shot is just a little shot who kept on shooting."
@@DouglasBloch Thanks for beautiful words !!
You are welcome
Every job I applied for never got back to me. I've only had one successful interview but didn't get the job because I can't work weekends. Unfortunately I have already applied at all the jobs that I'm interested in but I don't want to become desperate and work someplace that I'm not interested in. It's tough.
This is how I feel
I came to a study abroad and I have been searching for a job long before graduation. Now I have my Master's diploma and my job search has passed 1 year mark. I have a great relationship with my man, and I feel dreadful about the possibility of losing him if I can't get a job and work visa. Getting rejected for not being born in this country and not being "native speaker" (although having fluency in the language) is killing me.
Life is a total unfair
I'm going through this atm. Been trying for almost a year now, and being rejected all the time is really hard. I stopped hanging out, stopped seeing other friends, my relationship with my gf is suffering because of this
I hope your luck improves
Thank you for this. Trying to get and keep a job feels like the cruel workings of natural selection for me 😔 I have a shortcoming with not being able to at least do mental math...which closes a lot of doors for me. I do have a certification for a career...but other than that not much else I could do...which can be hard during emergencies like this pandemic. I guess I just gotta keep looking and remember im not the only person feeling like this.
Keep persevering. Set the intention that you will get a job and maybe you can write a few positive statements about it
I'm Brazilian, and the job market here is very competitive. I've been unemployed for 2 months now, and I'm having a lot of difficulties during interviews, perhaps because I'm anxious, I end up expressing myself poorly, and I'm evaluated negatively by recruiters, and unfortunately I'm not approved. I don't want to victimize myself, but I also suffer prejudice due to my appearance, I have tattoos on my arms and ear plugs, I notice that recruiters look at me from top to bottom, and the impression that they are not evaluating my potential but rather my experience. Anyway, I'm super responsible, I live alone and study a lot, I'm sure I'll overcome this situation, like everyone here.
I feel like my dad doesn’t love me anymore because I am jobless ie. worthless. My cousins could give him money and I couldn’t so he spends more time with them and does things for them he wouldn’t do for me. :’) I feel like he even gets annoyed now whenever I cry to him. He used to be the first one to come to me and let me cry while hugging me. Now... my cousins get all that. :’) My heart is truly broken.
I'm sorry you're having this experience. Have you talked with your dad about your feelings? I would definitely talk to a therapist or counselor about what's going on and see what tools and strategies they can give you to cope with the situation.
@@DouglasBloch I didn’t expect a reply. Thank you. I do plan on seeing a therapist. Thank you again.
Lets you know people's true colors
I am 61 years old; I have two master's degree and I am fluent in 5 languages. I've applied for more 10,000 jobs in the last 6 years. A top recruiter told me that there is a lot of age discrimination in companies, but it is hard to prove. I had two guys around 30 years old making fun of me on an interview. When you lose your job you lose your honor, your dignity, your respect and your friends. I've been in church a few times but when you tell you are unemployed, they never talk to you again. Unemployment is like leprosy in the biblical times. A while ago a friend's son was being disrespectful to me, and the parents didn't say anything. They didn't even care about keeping the friendship. I do volunteer work and the supervisor don't value me. The other day I had a problem at my volunteer work, and everyone sided with the other person, who has a nice job, even if was clear that was not my fault. I am a Christian and I pray every morning. I quote many God's promises every day. I've memorized many of them. The other day I was looking at the computer monitor for almost 4 hours and couldn't do anything. Depression freezes you. No one can self-defrost. We need external help. Lots of people send sermons and TH-cam videos, but only one so far contacted her company trying to get me an interview. Try to get any government help it makes depression even worst. You can tell that most of those people hate their jobs. I wish I had a real solution. You Tube videos don't help much.
Church, god, jesus and praying wont help. For me it made my life worse. I can assure you there is no jesus, there is a creator but he doesnt care about us. This life is a waiting line for the slaughter house. I finally realized this after praying my heart out for a solid year, and sermons,devotionals,church, etc. Dont waste precious time on your knees praying to a made up deity or a cruel, sadistic creator.
@@anthonyharmon9265 There are lots of university studies on how prayer improves your brain. Many other studies on how people that have some kind of faith heals faster. Read " Switch your Brain" by Dr. Caroline Leaf.
I'm so fried. I work at a grocery store and I'm exhausted, and I don't have the energy to put into a job search. I need a different environment, and I've put the effort into a few applications and interviews. I can't afford to take unpaid time off, but I don't feel I'll ever have the ability to successfully job search doing what I am now. My mental and physical health are suffering, and dealing with people in any customer service position is getting harder and harder by the week.
Sorry to hear this. Do you have a counselor to talk to?
@@DouglasBloch I do, but nothing seems like enough without changing some of the situations that are causing extra stress. I'm very aware of the fact that I've made a lot of progress, but the last year has been a massive setback.
Thank you Douglas for this video. It's right on point.
Glad it was helpful!
Thanx this really helps.
I have applied much of this before watching.
Naiipon nalang talaga yung galit ko, everytime di ako makahanap ng work at pupursigihin nila ako sa ganto, sa ganyan nakaka frustrate isipin na mauulit lang ulit, nakaka depress, nakaka lala ng anger issue. Itatago mo nalang talaga para ipakitang malakas at masaya ka kahit puro dissapointment and stress isipin ung wala kang mahanap paulit ulit.
Una hinde ko alam circumstances mo. Just for perspective, 51 ako this year. Single and living alone. Nawalan ako ng trabaho September lang this year. Not the first time na ma lay off. Nawalan din ako ng work nung nag lock down. 14 years ako dun. Itong huli 3 years. Nagsimula ako mag apply apply ulit last October. No luck so far. Pero hinde na ako masyado umaasa kase feeling ko gurang na ko. Pero sige lang. I'm giving myself a few more months. Baka makachamba. May naipon ako na kaunti. So nakakahinga hinga pa. Importante trabaho. Pero mas importante pera. Pinaka importante oras. Nakakarelate ako sa sinasabi mo. Sa tingin ko nakatira ka pa sa bahay ng magulang mo. Pilitin mo na mag sarile kung makakaya mo. Ag importante, mabawasan ang gastos at yung expectations na ikaw ang aako sa lahat ng responsibilidad. Bread winner sa madaling salita.
The only video that I cannot really apply Mr Bloch's recommendations therein. Looks like I am running out of time. Thank you for trying to help anyway, Mr Bloch.
Have you tried to see a counselor who specializes in career counseling or simply a good therapist? Reaching out for help is always a good thing
It's not the job search that's terrifying, it's the passing of technical exams that's making it difficult. Even if I pass all the interviews, the technical exams fit for newly grads are the deal-breakers. darn.
Is there anyway you can get around the exams?
@@DouglasBloch Not if the company has that exam in place and is part of their hiring process. The recruiter will ask if the candidate would like to proceed with the application by taking the exam, then interviews. There's no getting around it, and it only benefits mostly newly grads that have been taught in college about binary trees, algorithms, data structure, etc. Old applicants who have lives after work, don't have the luxury of time to refresh their skills with those BS, so would probably fail, unless in their day-to-day jobs they use those sorts of thing.
Such a great video for so many of us!
Ironically the way to stop job hunting depression is to stop looking..... but how long can you ride it out for before money says otherwise.
Do you have strategies about sleeping well before going to work- I worry about work at 2 am and can't fall back asleep
Same! I have anxiety
You need to face your fears slowly and calculated. Think like weight lifting, you don’t start with 300 pounds, start with 5
You don’t get less afraid right away - but you become braver. The fears will lessen over time
Try sleeping pills
Buy melatonin and make the room complete dark
It's been one year I have graduated from university on Electric and Electronic Engineering. Still no luck for job and I am so depressed.
I'm sorry to hear that. I wish you the best in finding a job. Keep persevering.
Really appreciate what you’re doing, thank you so much 🙏🏼
You’re welcome
I turned to sports betting which helped. Have a law degree but nobody will hire me for normal jobs because I am 'overqualified'.
My industry is crashing more by the day, I was laid off 2 months ago because the company I worked for couldn't afford the fuel in the trucks and parked all of them, and it seems to be a theme for a lot of the small and mid-sized companies, I refuse to go to work for a big mega carrier because they treat you like garbage and you will never see home time when you want it, I have to say if it wasn't for my dogs I probably wouldn't survive this, they keep me from completely giving up on life, I have gone to searching other states for work because in my city there just aren't any jobs in my industry hiring, I thought about just changing career status, but that's a struggle in its own... I post my resume on multiple job sites and get no responses, it's been like this for almost 2 months, very depressing, very draining, barely enough energy to move some days, I just want all this pain to go away at some point
I’m sorry that things have been so difficult. I’m glad you have your dogs as a reason to keep on living. Many people feel that way about their pets. I have a friend who drives Uber and Lyft to make money while he’s looking for work. Seems to be working out. Are you able to talk to a counselor therapist?
@@DouglasBloch
Talk to a counselor or a therapist?
That's a luxury I definitely can't afford at this point, I haven't had insurance on myself in over 20 years, I'm trying to observe as much self-help videos as I can... When you live in a world by yourself that's a different kind of struggle, that's the bad thing about Trucking, you're isolated from everyone, you're always on the road, there's no time to make friends or even hang out with them... My goal is to someday break away from the chain of trucking, this is one job that can destroy relationships quickly, it would be nice to have a local job and make friends again, but this economy is so horrible and the industry that I'm in is changing for the worst daily
What did you think of my Uber and Lyft idea. One of my young adult students does it and says he makes a decent living
@@DouglasBloch
In my area lyft and Uber doesn't do so well, you would have to work 7 days a week 12 hour shift just to make about half of what I generally make on the road, however I am looking into the limousine business, they generally do well when they do weddings,funerals, and parties, they get hourly plus 20% and tips
Move to where the jobs are.
Tha k you for this video. It gave me strength👍
My self-esteem is dead , it's funny how people make money that are more stupid and untalented than me an still make good money. Am an artist.
That is depressing what other people are more successful than you with less talent. On the other hand my counselor told me that I should "run my own race." Just pay attention to what I'm doing and not compare myself to anybody else
@@DouglasBloch thank you I hear about this concept ,but it's hard for me to truly understand it. But i know is true.
You might want to watch my video called "what happens when you compare his self to others." I think you'll find it helpful
@@DouglasBloch Thank you Mr.Bloch for you and your work