Dr Clark, I once had this Deut 6:6-7 Scripture up on my walls by the kettle where we made tea, by the basin where we washed hands... it was my vision to raise our small children that way. I thought it was my husband's vision too. I thought the man who professed to be a Christian would be happy and work with me. Eventually I took that Scripture off the wall and another one never went up as was supposed to be. Instead I found myself surviving and crying and hanging on to life and only making the kinds of prayer Peter said when he sank in the water. I didn't know what was happening to me. I didn't have knowledge of abuse or narcissism then, I just knew life hurt all the time and went nowhere. I wish I'd had resources like your videos earlier, I don't know why it was this way, but I am thankful that the Lord did give His light later on now in my life both through His Word and through resources like your videos so that I could see. Thank you for the work you do. God bless you for seeing the suffering of abused Christian women in their own homes which I think is a blemish on the church in these days and caring to say the truth about it. So many don't.
My kids have not been fooled. I left and all my kids came with me. My son has health problems bc of him and is in counselling with a Christian counsellor. He has family that are good male models. They are aware of his unhealthy, narcissistic behaviour. We are protected by the Lord Almighty and that is all that matters 🙏🏻♥️
My ex and his narc dad are functioning alcoholics, it runs in the family and my ex tried to give both of our boys alcohol when they were minors ( It's what his dad did with him) while I was not present. Both of them were under the age of 10 at the time, on 2 separate occassions, they are 11 yrs apart. He lied at first, saying he never did it, but when asked again, he blamed our son by saying...."he asked for it"....And completely denies ever giving the youngest son any at all!!! Now our oldest struggles with Alcohol Addiction just like him.... Narcs are horrible parents..
This video is a must for anyone living with a malignant narcissist! Everything Dr. Clarke says is the absolute truth! I lived with one for 26 years, & suffered from ulcers, gastritis, IBS, thinning hair, PTSD, chronic back pain & muscle spasms, etc. I nearly died in 2014 because I could hardly eat anything. One Sunday night, I felt inspired to have my church pray for me, & I gained enough strength to escape 2 years later. The first counselor I saw after my escape told me that if I would get out for good, that I would be healed; & she was right. I am 8 years free, & doing better than I have in years, & still healing. It is a long slow process, but worth it. God cares, & He will help you to get free & heal, if you will trust Him & follow Him.
P.S. Once I filed for divorce, my narc-husband suddenly started supporting our one young adult son's transition process. That, of course, is totally against our religious beliefs, but I believe he's doing this just to get another person on his "team". The only team should be our family, of course, but that's not possible with these agents of chaos. And I could make a case that my husband is emotionally incestuous with two of our young adult sons. It's disgusting.
My oldest identifies as he/she they or whatever…I’m so confused. He was kicked out because he refused to stop taking hormone pills. He suffers so much because of his narcissistic father. I wish I left long ago I’m so stuck
@@chickenmama4670. Matthew 22:30. The soul is genderless-or at least freed from the constraints of it! Let him know that is God’s plan for everyone, but we have genders in the fallen world.
I wanted so badly to have a child- little did I realize what a monster I married. I too, thank the Lord Almighty (that) we never had children. So sad to say that. It sounds terrible. The Lord knew better. The Almighty has always been my Savior and protector! Alleluia! The narc is gone- along with any chance of having a child...this is my path and I am OK with it! I am alive and free...
I wish I left right after my daughter was born (3 children) I look back with so much regret over listening to pastors and staying Wives submit wives submit wives submit If the wife submits everything will be just fine over and over
What is even more disappointing and disturbing is Pastor's WIVES counseling a woman to stay unless the husband is beating her or the kids. While THEY THEMSELVES have an obviously doting wonderful husband. Satan has twisted the church doctrine to try to keep EVERYONE enslaved and he is just laughing his butt off when he gets to use Christians to twist the knife in other Christian's backs. I never will try to go to that arena for help again unless the Holy Spirit comes over me. 😢
There are a LOT of narcissists in religion…..and it’s been said that ‘religious’ narcissists are some of the worst-if not THE worst! Like the devil, they will quote scriptures to guilt you into doing thus-n-such. They are manipulative. DON’T fall for this ploy.
My narc father used me to pick up one-night stands with when I was a child, sighting me as an excuse, “I’m gonna take him to the park” and nonsuch. He also openly had girlie magazines in the house while married, and openly showed such magazines to me. What’s worse is the enabling from my mother (also a narc) with regard to his behavior, even with witness accounts of this behavior from me. I refuse to have ANYTHING to do with him these days.
I’m going to be 76 yrs old and my 53 year old son is a clone of his father. When I divorced the narc, my son took over for his father and treated me exactly like my ex treated me. He became my ex’s personal ‘hitman’! Very abusive to me. Does not care about me in the smallest way. Believes I owe him my property and that I should outright give it to him now. I am afraid of him!!
My ex narc always denied pornography use, and said he had put the necessary blockers on our home internet. Yet our son stumbled upon pornography at age 10, at home. That was 11 years ago. I no longer believe my ex . . . at all. My son actually saw the truth about his father for most of his life, but was convinced to turn his back on me a year ago. May God reopen his eyes. 🙏🏻
Unfortunately, this is absolutely true. I raised my son to be a good young man. I did everything to compensate for what his dad did. But his dad was extremely abusive. He was the tyrant in the house and everyone bowed to him. When my son was 12, his dad was taken to jail by the police. After that, I got 3 restraining orders against him, and I cut him out of our lives. We went on, and I kept raising my son with love, teaching him respect, kindness, conscientiousness, and respect. All was well. However, after my son turned 18, I started to see behaviors in him which shocked me. On several occasions, it was like deja vu. Just like his dad, he talked down to me, yelling, cutting me off, not allowing me to speak, and accused me of things that he himself was doing. I was alarmed and devastated. And I realized that he had learned this terrible behavior from his dad during his childhood. He internalized it, it became his default program. Now, he is doing better, but it's something we are still working on. If you have children with a narcissist, please, leave the perpetrator as soon as you can. If you don't, every moment you spend with te criminal will sink into your children's subconscious mind and reflect in their behavior sooner or later.
Yep. That piece of work told my kids that I was cheating on him as well, when I had never, and my daughter physically attacked me for it. His fragile ego couldn't handle anyone seeing him for the awful person he is, as he was cheating and he chose to reveal it to everyone, so he needed to fabricate stories to diminish my perceived character.
Can you do one about the narc using financials as a means to alienate the children from the mother who was a stay at home mom? Like telling the children that he provides or that the mom is stealing their money in the divorce etc?
I have always wondered why some men become better than their fathers, others become their father, meaning if the father is no good, the son falls into step with that. I have not been able to figure out why those who follow in a bad father's footsteps have decided to be like HIM! It boggles me!
My soon-to-be ex-husband narc has 4 out of 5 of our sons under his control. He's like Jim Jones and they are freely drinking the Kool aid. He has alienated those 4 from me. It's a horrible situation, especially for my youngest.
I left too late and one son is kind and empathic, other misogynistic, ghosts me as his father used to..All four kids got some type of emotional trauma. Wish I had known Dr Clarke 20 years ago!
I left my ex- Husband the Christian Covert Narcissist when my son was 15 months old. I didn’t want my son growing up and seeing his father’s behavior and repeating the same behavior. My Mom stayed with my Christian Covert Narcissist Dad for 32 years until I graduated high school and helped her leave and divorce him. I was NOT Going to put my son what I went through!
This applies so much. He tried to turn my children against me.he abused us constantly and his family help him do it. He is trying to continue the cycle his father and his father's father perpetrated with our children and i refuse. I left early enough. Thankfully. And I refuse to allow our children to idealise him. They will know exactly who he is and they will know that's not the way to be. I hope he eventually just disappears and leaves us alone. That's what i pray for. For him to just disappear from our lives. Children deserve to grow up happy, healthy, with healthy positive role models and guidance. All the things you stated here the narc can continue to do even after yiu divorce them. They don't stop. We csn all hope they just go away and stay away while thr children are small and vulnerable and impressionable.
@@renarich4942 yes, but I’m so weary after 20 years of this I can hardly stand to be alive-no love, no care, no concern, laughing, mocking at me, they act like this narc father.
@@faithcooke4231Matthew 11:28 Jesus said, “Come to Me all you who are weary and heavy laden and I will give you rest.” He means it! I promise. He has given me peace I never thought I could have. He can do it for you too! Don’t let evil win!! 🙏🏽
Doctor there is narcs like the one I am divorcing that do sexual abuse their daughters . That is fact ! You helping so many woman globally thank you, I am one of them !
Yup, accused me of cheating with his best friend( we disliked each other as he was keeping us apart with 2 polar narratives) while my kids " mom" is his GF who he was with behind me while i was pregnant with the son that I don't see and she does every day. Not to mention they were both strung out on crack. It's a nitemare!!
I have spent most of my years since my divorce not ratting my ex out for his perverted sexual sins because I was told I shouldn’t make it more difficult for them to forgive him… my kids are now 15, 17, 19… And sure enough, just as you have said, their dad has admitted alcoholism and sex addiction… even told them he cheated on current fiancée by drinking to black out and then going to a porn site for live chat session… When is it time to tell the kids?
I agree, my narcs son from another mother is a pedophile and was in prison for it before that occurred he was living with us and I had five daughters under age of 17, he was 25 and he mishandled my daughters didn’t rape them but enough to where when I was told by my youngest what had happened which was inappropriate he was immediately kicked out. My husband his father believed that he could see his son doing stuff like that. But then fast forward when his son discarded his dad for believing my daughter he then began saying allegedly he did this or that she was lying and totally devalued her experience as an 8 year old! My husband later was found to be deep in porn during our marriage got caught and lied through his teeth denouncing that act! I showed him his spare work phone and pages and pages and websites full of stuff he had been doing and live sites too. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree it’s a spirit tempting on a persons weaknesses. My husband all the while was a regular church a tender, best friends with the pastor and also preaching sermons when pastor was out of town! I said why did you lie the response is I didn’t want you to know and he was ashamed! I felt like it’s not all about him I was betrayed! I began to share responsibility as an empath that perhaps my distance caused this ad through his verbal abuse I gained weight and was not as appealing and so also distant due to the abuse, his face was relieved, days later when I saw more clearly and pondered that what’s in him has no basis to use me as a simple Excuse to sin and I renounced my support of taking partial blame and he became enraged and verbally tore me a new one! Funny thing is his son told me directly before I married his dad that his dad was a con, the man he was showing me before marriage is not the man he is or what I will get after I marry him. I dismissed that thinking his son is just being jealous of the relationship, but his son was telling truth. His son was abused by him too which was a court battle with the son’s mom in their divorce. Needless to say when I realized the heart of the man I married and when he let the mask slip I disallowed him to be part of raising my daughters and it was a bitter fight with him till the last one graduated. He wanted to be the boss thinking him doing a better job than I and he had no love for them and no experience with daughters. He raised a son who turns to drugs theft breaking and pedophilia, why would I want him to have any voice over my daughters. He doesn’t operate with love, grace or mercy nor leading by example! Though his fight was he’s the leader he’s the boss and we are disobedient and un submissive! I say give us someone worth following. The Lord is our head and leader period!
Yes my father was an alcoholic but my mother had 5 brothers that were unlike my father thankfully my mother divorced my father and I hated him until I learned to become my own person #1.Boundaries 2.Emotional Health 3.Spiritual maturity
Aw ! Lord ! This tittle is so important! I have a son and and ex narcissist husband! Should I show this video to my son ? He’s almost 15 . Please help!🙏🙏🙏❤️🩹
I would say don’t show him. It will be so easy for him to shrug you off and say mum stop watching those silly TH-camrs . Explain the behaviour in your words simple enough for him to understand. Don’t go too deep and make him your confidante . Get a therapist/counsellor.
I would say that it all depends on the maturity of your son and the kind of relationship you have with him. If he’s mature enough to understand this, it could be helpful. I understand that some will advise not to but your narcissist ex will definitely behave badly in front of him and poison his mind.
I would say explain in your own words. These demons are very evil in poisoning childrens minds against other parent. So to avoid any big loss it’s better to explain him some issues.
It is NEVER too late. Pray without ceasing and keep letting your light shine. Don’t let them see you withered and depressed. Model an abundant life of Christ to make Christianity attractive. Believe me I know. I’m in the middle of divorcing one and have 7 kids. God be with you.
My father was the worst narc on the planet . Never paid attention unless he wanted something . Blamed me for everyhing and yet my mother always kissed his ass . When I was about 16 stood up to him and of course when you do that to a narc they ignore you forever
Sick and wicked 👺The Holy Spirit took over and had me rebuke my now ex husband of 19 yrs in front of the church. 🌈God is Faithful to His Word ❤️🔥💐 #ForeverGrateful
I have disagreements with Dr Clarke but making light of sex and treating it flippantly is literally a criminal act in my opinion. ESPECIALLY so is teaching young people to do this.
Father God expose these fathers , everything in darkness comes to light. Protect our children in Jesus name Amen
Amen!
Amen...in the mighty name of Jesus Christ.
Amen 🦁
Yes 🙏🙏
Dr Clark, I once had this Deut 6:6-7 Scripture up on my walls by the kettle where we made tea, by the basin where we washed hands... it was my vision to raise our small children that way. I thought it was my husband's vision too. I thought the man who professed to be a Christian would be happy and work with me. Eventually I took that Scripture off the wall and another one never went up as was supposed to be. Instead I found myself surviving and crying and hanging on to life and only making the kinds of prayer Peter said when he sank in the water. I didn't know what was happening to me. I didn't have knowledge of abuse or narcissism then, I just knew life hurt all the time and went nowhere. I wish I'd had resources like your videos earlier, I don't know why it was this way, but I am thankful that the Lord did give His light later on now in my life both through His Word and through resources like your videos so that I could see. Thank you for the work you do. God bless you for seeing the suffering of abused Christian women in their own homes which I think is a blemish on the church in these days and caring to say the truth about it. So many don't.
I wish I could give you a hug 😢
@@renarich4942 Thanks for your caring. It is lonely. Wishing the best for you too.
Too many have put up with so much! How am I only hearing this now! Could have saved years and years of women suffering in the church.
Nailed it
I have this exact problem. If I knew what was in my future, I would have run like a house was on fire when I met him.
God cover our children...Amen!!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Amen 🙏
@@JesuisLord 🙏🏽🙏🏽🔥🔥🔥
Thank you for mentioning Emotional Incest. It is a serious bizarre twisted issue!
5 years of not seeing my son and daughter from parental alienation. 😢.
Extremely grateful I am out. Now my children are in Gods 🙏🏻
Same here ❤
Indeed 🙏💕
@Selah1141🙏💕
@@LookUpYourRedemptionDrawsNigh thank you ❤
Same.❤
they teach the son to be misogynistic
💯
Misogynists are narcissists
My kids have not been fooled. I left and all my kids came with me. My son has health problems bc of him and is in counselling with a Christian counsellor. He has family that are good male models. They are aware of his unhealthy, narcissistic behaviour. We are protected by the Lord Almighty and that is all that matters 🙏🏻♥️
My ex and his narc dad are functioning alcoholics, it runs in the family and my ex tried to give both of our boys alcohol when they were minors ( It's what his dad did with him) while I was not present. Both of them were under the age of 10 at the time, on 2 separate occassions, they are 11 yrs apart. He lied at first, saying he never did it, but
when asked again, he blamed our son by saying...."he asked for it"....And completely denies ever giving the youngest son any at all!!! Now our oldest struggles with Alcohol Addiction just like him....
Narcs are horrible parents..
This video is a must for anyone living with a malignant narcissist! Everything Dr. Clarke says is the absolute truth! I lived with one for 26 years, & suffered from ulcers, gastritis, IBS, thinning hair, PTSD, chronic back pain & muscle spasms, etc. I nearly died in 2014 because I could hardly eat anything. One Sunday night, I felt inspired to have my church pray for me, & I gained enough strength to escape 2 years later. The first counselor I saw after my escape told me that if I would get out for good, that I would be healed; & she was right. I am 8 years free, & doing better than I have in years, & still healing. It is a long slow process, but worth it. God cares, & He will help you to get free & heal, if you will trust Him & follow Him.
P.S. Once I filed for divorce, my narc-husband suddenly started supporting our one young adult son's transition process. That, of course, is totally against our religious beliefs, but I believe he's doing this just to get another person on his "team". The only team should be our family, of course, but that's not possible with these agents of chaos. And I could make a case that my husband is emotionally incestuous with two of our young adult sons. It's disgusting.
My oldest identifies as he/she they or whatever…I’m so confused. He was kicked out because he refused to stop taking hormone pills. He suffers so much because of his narcissistic father. I wish I left long ago
I’m so stuck
@chickenmama4670 Keep close to God and He will make a straight path for you🙏💗🙏🙌👊🤗🤗🤗
@@chickenmama4670. Matthew 22:30. The soul is genderless-or at least freed from the constraints of it! Let him know that is God’s plan for everyone, but we have genders in the fallen world.
So grateful to God I didn't have kids with my narc late husband.
I wanted so badly to have a child- little did I realize what a monster I married. I too, thank the Lord Almighty (that) we never had children. So sad to say that. It sounds terrible. The Lord knew better. The Almighty has always been my Savior and protector! Alleluia! The narc is gone- along with any chance of having a child...this is my path and I am OK with it! I am alive and free...
@yhwhzmyking.4🎉❤243
I wish I left right after my daughter was born (3 children)
I look back with so much regret over listening to pastors and staying
Wives submit wives submit wives submit
If the wife submits everything will be just fine over and over
Me too!
@@dunamis9313
Exactly.
Same. Had 7 beautiful children with mine and now in the middle of divorce. Heart breaking advice from corrupt pastors
What is even more disappointing and disturbing is Pastor's WIVES counseling a woman to stay unless the husband is beating her or the kids. While THEY THEMSELVES have an obviously doting wonderful husband. Satan has twisted the church doctrine to try to keep EVERYONE enslaved and he is just laughing his butt off when he gets to use Christians to twist the knife in other Christian's backs. I never will try to go to that arena for help again unless the Holy Spirit comes over me. 😢
There are a LOT of narcissists in religion…..and it’s been said that ‘religious’ narcissists are some of the worst-if not THE worst! Like the devil, they will quote scriptures to guilt you into doing thus-n-such. They are manipulative. DON’T fall for this ploy.
My narc father used me to pick up one-night stands with when I was a child, sighting me as an excuse, “I’m gonna take him to the park” and nonsuch.
He also openly had girlie magazines in the house while married, and openly showed such magazines to me.
What’s worse is the enabling from my mother (also a narc) with regard to his behavior, even with witness accounts of this behavior from me.
I refuse to have ANYTHING to do with him these days.
You would be justified having nothing to do with Mom as well. So sorry
"He also openly had girlie magazines in the house while married" Sorry, but this is not a reason to hate him or think he is narcissistic.
@@SuperReyand that's your opinion
They have a right to theirs
@@LookUpYourRedemptionDrawsNighexactly. So!?
@@LookUpYourRedemptionDrawsNigh exactly. So?
My son will be nothing like him... Our son loves his mom, my son knows the damage done ...
Yes, same …. Thank you and Amen ♥️🙏🏻
Yes, same with me too. My sons know what’s wrong and shameful.
I’m going to be 76 yrs old and my 53 year old son is a clone of his father. When I divorced the narc, my son took over for his father and treated me exactly like my ex treated me. He became my ex’s personal ‘hitman’! Very abusive to me. Does not care about me in the smallest way. Believes I owe him my property and that I should outright give it to him now. I am afraid of him!!
My ex narc always denied pornography use, and said he had put the necessary blockers on our home internet. Yet our son stumbled upon pornography at age 10, at home. That was 11 years ago. I no longer believe my ex . . . at all.
My son actually saw the truth about his father for most of his life, but was convinced to turn his back on me a year ago. May God reopen his eyes. 🙏🏻
Unfortunately, this is absolutely true. I raised my son to be a good young man. I did everything to compensate for what his dad did. But his dad was extremely abusive. He was the tyrant in the house and everyone bowed to him. When my son was 12, his dad was taken to jail by the police. After that, I got 3 restraining orders against him, and I cut him out of our lives. We went on, and I kept raising my son with love, teaching him respect, kindness, conscientiousness, and respect. All was well. However, after my son turned 18, I started to see behaviors in him which shocked me. On several occasions, it was like deja vu. Just like his dad, he talked down to me, yelling, cutting me off, not allowing me to speak, and accused me of things that he himself was doing. I was alarmed and devastated. And I realized that he had learned this terrible behavior from his dad during his childhood. He internalized it, it became his default program. Now, he is doing better, but it's something we are still working on. If you have children with a narcissist, please, leave the perpetrator as soon as you can. If you don't, every moment you spend with te criminal will sink into your children's subconscious mind and reflect in their behavior sooner or later.
Yep. That piece of work told my kids that I was cheating on him as well, when I had never, and my daughter physically attacked me for it. His fragile ego couldn't handle anyone seeing him for the awful person he is, as he was cheating and he chose to reveal it to everyone, so he needed to fabricate stories to diminish my perceived character.
Same.
Can you do one about the narc using financials as a means to alienate the children from the mother who was a stay at home mom? Like telling the children that he provides or that the mom is stealing their money in the divorce etc?
I have always wondered why some men become better than their fathers, others become their father, meaning if the father is no good, the son falls into step with that. I have not been able to figure out why those who follow in a bad father's footsteps have decided to be like HIM! It boggles me!
My soon-to-be ex-husband narc has 4 out of 5 of our sons under his control. He's like Jim Jones and they are freely drinking the Kool aid. He has alienated those 4 from me. It's a horrible situation, especially for my youngest.
Same
@faithcooke4231 I'm sorry 🤗 It's like they're dead but they aren't 💔 I'll be praying for you.
@@lorrainem8234 I’d really appreciate that. I don’t know how much more I can take
God help you and me too.
I left too late and one son is kind and empathic, other misogynistic, ghosts me as his father used to..All four kids got some type of emotional trauma. Wish I had known Dr Clarke 20 years ago!
I left my ex- Husband the Christian Covert Narcissist when my son was 15 months old. I didn’t want my son growing up and seeing his father’s behavior and repeating the same behavior. My Mom stayed with my Christian Covert Narcissist Dad for 32 years until I graduated high school and helped her leave and divorce him. I was NOT Going to put my son what I went through!
So, so true! Love the reference to Proverbs!
My brother was damaged by our narc father but he chose to be kind & take care of me & our dog
Wow!!!!!!! My husband has this relationship with his daughter and it’s ALWAYS creeped me out! It’s so disgusting!
At last a video that explains what the hell is going on 👹
This applies so much. He tried to turn my children against me.he abused us constantly and his family help him do it.
He is trying to continue the cycle his father and his father's father perpetrated with our children and i refuse. I left early enough. Thankfully. And I refuse to allow our children to idealise him. They will know exactly who he is and they will know that's not the way to be. I hope he eventually just disappears and leaves us alone. That's what i pray for. For him to just disappear from our lives. Children deserve to grow up happy, healthy, with healthy positive role models and guidance. All the things you stated here the narc can continue to do even after yiu divorce them. They don't stop. We csn all hope they just go away and stay away while thr children are small and vulnerable and impressionable.
I could write a book, 3 sons, all evil and confused-2 are heavy alcoholics and still following my wicked ex.
Where there is life there is hope
@@renarich4942 yes, but I’m so weary after 20 years of this I can hardly stand to be alive-no love, no care, no concern, laughing, mocking at me, they act like this narc father.
@@faithcooke4231 🫂
@@faithcooke4231Matthew 11:28 Jesus said, “Come to Me all you who are weary and heavy laden and I will give you rest.” He means it! I promise. He has given me peace I never thought I could have. He can do it for you too! Don’t let evil win!! 🙏🏽
Ephesians 6:12 Our fight is not against flesh and blood…
Wow wow wow! Thi is good stuff, prasie God!!
Doctor there is narcs like the one I am divorcing that do sexual abuse their daughters . That is fact !
You helping so many woman globally thank you, I am one of them !
Yup, accused me of cheating with his best friend( we disliked each other as he was keeping us apart with 2 polar narratives) while my kids " mom" is his GF who he was with behind me while i was pregnant with the son that I don't see and she does every day. Not to mention they were both strung out on crack.
It's a nitemare!!
I have spent most of my years since my divorce not ratting my ex out for his perverted sexual sins because I was told I shouldn’t make it more difficult for them to forgive him… my kids are now 15, 17, 19…
And sure enough, just as you have said, their dad has admitted alcoholism and sex addiction… even told them he cheated on current fiancée by drinking to black out and then going to a porn site for live chat session…
When is it time to tell the kids?
Sent you an email. My God this resonated with me..😢😢
I agree, my narcs son from another mother is a pedophile and was in prison for it before that occurred he was living with us and I had five daughters under age of 17, he was 25 and he mishandled my daughters didn’t rape them but enough to where when I was told by my youngest what had happened which was inappropriate he was immediately kicked out. My husband his father believed that he could see his son doing stuff like that. But then fast forward when his son discarded his dad for believing my daughter he then began saying allegedly he did this or that she was lying and totally devalued her experience as an 8 year old! My husband later was found to be deep in porn during our marriage got caught and lied through his teeth denouncing that act! I showed him his spare work phone and pages and pages and websites full of stuff he had been doing and live sites too. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree it’s a spirit tempting on a persons weaknesses. My husband all the while was a regular church a tender, best friends with the pastor and also preaching sermons when pastor was out of town! I said why did you lie the response is I didn’t want you to know and he was ashamed! I felt like it’s not all about him I was betrayed! I began to share responsibility as an empath that perhaps my distance caused this ad through his verbal abuse I gained weight and was not as appealing and so also distant due to the abuse, his face was relieved, days later when I saw more clearly and pondered that what’s in him has no basis to use me as a simple Excuse to sin and I renounced my support of taking partial blame and he became enraged and verbally tore me a new one! Funny thing is his son told me directly before I married his dad that his dad was a con, the man he was showing me before marriage is not the man he is or what I will get after I marry him. I dismissed that thinking his son is just being jealous of the relationship, but his son was telling truth. His son was abused by him too which was a court battle with the son’s mom in their divorce. Needless to say when I realized the heart of the man I married and when he let the mask slip I disallowed him to be part of raising my daughters and it was a bitter fight with him till the last one graduated. He wanted to be the boss thinking him doing a better job than I and he had no love for them and no experience with daughters. He raised a son who turns to drugs theft breaking and pedophilia, why would I want him to have any voice over my daughters. He doesn’t operate with love, grace or mercy nor leading by example! Though his fight was he’s the leader he’s the boss and we are disobedient and un submissive! I say give us someone worth following. The Lord is our head and leader period!
Think Barry Morphew and his two daughters. He killed his wife and his daughters still can’t see it and they stand by him, it’s creepy.
Yes my father was an alcoholic but my mother had 5 brothers that were unlike my father thankfully my mother divorced my father and I hated him until I learned to become my own person #1.Boundaries 2.Emotional Health 3.Spiritual maturity
But I struggled with Honor thy mother and thy father until I learned #Wisdom,Knowledge, understanding
Aw ! Lord ! This tittle is so important! I have a son and and ex narcissist husband!
Should I show this video to my son ? He’s almost 15 .
Please help!🙏🙏🙏❤️🩹
I would say don’t show him. It will be so easy for him to shrug you off and say mum stop watching those silly TH-camrs . Explain the behaviour in your words simple enough for him to understand. Don’t go too deep and make him your confidante . Get a therapist/counsellor.
I would say that it all depends on the maturity of your son and the kind of relationship you have with him. If he’s mature enough to understand this, it could be helpful. I understand that some will advise not to but your narcissist ex will definitely behave badly in front of him and poison his mind.
I would say explain in your own words. These demons are very evil in poisoning childrens minds against other parent. So to avoid any big loss it’s better to explain him some issues.
It's too late he's got my son under his wing
I'm still praying for my sons and all my children
Prayer can change things don’t give up
I am sorry, I know too well how you feel❤
It is NEVER too late. Pray without ceasing and keep letting your light shine. Don’t let them see you withered and depressed. Model an abundant life of Christ to make Christianity attractive. Believe me I know. I’m in the middle of divorcing one and have 7 kids. God be with you.
Lord have mercy😢
What do we do if they actually win the custody? I can’t even be around him because he tried to kill me, but now I don’t have my baby girls
Wow, thank you so much
My father was the worst narc on the planet . Never paid attention unless he wanted something . Blamed me for everyhing and yet my mother always kissed his ass . When I was about 16 stood up to him and of course when you do that to a narc they ignore you forever
Yep my ex boyfriend his dad did
Tnx
Sick and wicked 👺The Holy Spirit took over and had me rebuke my now ex husband of 19 yrs in front of the church.
🌈God is Faithful to His Word ❤️🔥💐
#ForeverGrateful
I have disagreements with Dr Clarke but making light of sex and treating it flippantly is literally a criminal act in my opinion.
ESPECIALLY so is teaching young people to do this.
I have no son or daughter. Nor a husband.
Ug
A set up for daughter for marriage 🦶