@@brebitzer2066 but HOW you navigate through them should be a sign to you whether you should be together or call it off. you will always have challenges in life , but do you work together or do you compete or place blame?
Not having problems but voicing your problems early in a relationship. It's the key to making it work. Always br engaging even in the negative things you dont want to talk about. Blowing something off just because you love someone or think you will hurt them will just create massive pressure till eventually it boils over later on.
I feel like everyone is completely missing one of the biggest issues in the relationship that was stated at the start that they have by their own admission, irreconcilable political, lifestyle, career differences. Just shooting a shot in the dark based on what they said but he seems like someone ready to settle down, have a good career, a family, etc, and she wants to be like a political activist, doesnt mind being poor, doesnt have tine for kids and a house. Its pretty clear at least his dad is likely very conservative, so he is likely at best 'apathetic' to her political causes. He dodged a bullet tbh
@@shemmy95 that’s not what it at all. When they brought up money she said he’s very money focused and I’m not. And that’s okay. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to help financially. That just means that one of his main goals is gaining money and that’s not the case for her. She would help it just wouldn’t be a main goal. And there were way more reasons they weren’t compatible than that. They were both very mature about it
They slept with each other just over a week before filming, they sleep in the same bed and are incredibly similar at face value. They may as well be a couple, but they are planning a separation. Very strange set of circumstances.
I disagree. I think they’re being pleasant, but I don’t think they’re being honest. They’re separated but they live in the same place? Seems like one of many red flags.
@@GabrieleMBest00 they couldn't have gone to either of their parents spaces? friends? how are they living together but separated? Doesn't seem healthy. Would you want to be in that situation?
@@lucaspoles3251 sorry to see you cant be friends with the person you once lived, me n my ex are close friends. we hang out one on one all the time. so no, I wouldnt care. not every separation ends in a huge fight
When you've experienced life enough, had relationships enough AND you're EQ and IQ is high enough, you can have a fairly accurate grasp of a person's character, their feelings even if it was just for 7 mins. Armed with all that I've said previously, it's just a matter of observation and common sense.
@@sl1gh i disagree. i know people like to pretend they know everything and are smarter than they actually are, but i will never believe you can truly understand someone’s character in a 7 minute Cut video. no matter how “experienced” in “life” you are.
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It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
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@@bomboospaghetti4121 rude for no reason, you know how common arranged marriages still are? Also plenty of people get married because they accidentally had a kid. Some people get married for green cards, some get shotgun weddings bc they're young and stupid, etc. I would bet my life on the fact that most people in the world were not in love when they got married. LUST is very different
He was unusually self-critical for a guy his age, but maybe to the extent of seeming a mush to his soon to be ex-wife, who I suspect could be more strident than we see here.
Him admitting that (in his words), “scarred the relationship early on” was really mature. They both really healthy and mature and insightful about their relationship.
@@darkhorse381 i mean it shouldnt be anything above the norm that makes someone make a specific comment about it how really mature it was. im saying im sorry to the person who wrote that comment because apparently they dont have many half decent people in their life.
@@dirtrider88 Thank you for empathising with OP, I can already tell you’re really insightful and caring. You would be a great friend to have. Also to OP, when the guy said that line about his actions scarring the relationship thereafter was also something that stood out to me as well and was almost foreign to hear someone take accountability for their wrongdoings.
My parents divorced a decade ago and have lived together happily ever since. I was in high school when it happened and the only thing that changed after the divorce was that they stopped screaming at each other. I still don’t know why they divorced but I think it had to do with my dad being irresponsible with money.
Jo Beiafuq I’m not saying they should expose themselves. I’m saying there are always internal issues behind a divorce, as healthy as it could be on the surface
@@trailblazers9491 Both said they knew it had been over for months before it happened and that there were both aware there were problems for a while. Did you even watch the video or did you just jump straight to blaming women for everything?
@@mossking2815 Knowing it is over and being over the grieving is two different things. If YOU had watched the video, you would clearly see the woman is a lot farther along their journey than the man is.
Philipp Kühn, maybe Hannah is saying it’s toxic bc it’s a divorce, so there had to be some historical toxicity underlying their relationship. There’s also this new term called ‘toxic positivity’, where ppl only say positive things bc they feel the requirement to be positive or healthy even if it’s suppressing their real dark feelings about something, which is ok to feel
They are still so sweet to each other. You can really see the love between them. I am sad that it didn’t work out. I really wish they both find happiness because they seem so incredibly sweet
Because this generation think both partners need to agree with each other on absolutely everything. Also he definitely needs someone who's more work and future driven.
“we were that close to having ‘forever love’ which is sad” that got me. I don’t know why people are saying this is depressing, i loved this, two people being completely honest about their relationship and admitting they are not meant. not many are honest with themselves about this, let alone with each other.
@@redfishswimming Usually they do have an upgrade. But she seems really unambitious and not financially motivated. I think he actually will move on first.
really funny how he said that considering how he almost cheated on her. the relationship was doomed after that. even if they didn’t have the incompatibility issues they talked about, the lack of trust on her part would have driven them apart.
Is it just a guy thing? My husband jokes that if anything were to happen he knows we couldn’t be friends because I’m too nice and he’s a grudge holder.
Healthy? How? Why do people think that a breakup can be healthy? There is no such a thing. Clearly they know it too... as they confessed having sex with each other still...but also talking to other people. Like how is it healthy that the guy who she is talking to online probably just found out that these guys still have sex with each other. Who the fuck is this healthy for?
Breakups CAN be "healthy". People change over time. If your interests, goals and views on life vastly change it might be best to communicate that. If it's not working out even though you've tried then it's fine to separate. No reason to be toxic about that because that's just part of being a human I guess.
@@stojo33 instead of staying together where it could have turned very toxic they decided to part ways which can be seen as healthy. we all have different opinions on certain matters.
By the time a woman breaks up with her partner, she has already gone through most if not all the stages of grief. He is just starting that process which is clear why he is struggling way more than her.
I'm glad they realized a divorce was the option, rather than miserably being together for another 20 years just for the sake of it. Just to resent and hate that person over "time lost", like my parents do.
I recently think abt my past marriage and ex husband, then this popped up. It really hit somehow. When I got the divorce, I only see the pain and all the uncomfortable stuffs that made me want to quit. After a while of healing, I realized things were also sweet and warm sometimes. We tried, but it didn't work. But it was still something to remember in our lives and we'll have to live with it
I don’t think any one here is *against* it so much as they’re lamenting the end of this relationship which seems like a pretty mature, aware and respectful one. I’m sure everyone here is aware that it is their decision and for the best. Sometimes it’s sad to see a good (or at least once-good) relationship ending, even if it’s for the best and even if it’s not yours.
when she talked about him almost cheating on her, it almost hit me how hard she mustve tried to keep it together cause i wouldve left such a relationship immediately, it shows she mustve loved him a lot to want to make things work out even though she would, after that moment have a constant thought of him cheating on her in the back of her head
You sound so immature and condescending. Unlike this couple who in my opinion is extremely mature and are at peace with themselves. You don't know them but still judge them by implying that haven't sacrificed enough so that is why their relationship failed. This is such a toxic and gaslighting opinion. Sometimes you make sacrifices like marrying a man who's father obviously hates you and it still doesn't work. Humans have to be compatible to work well together. Don't judge relationships you know not about. It's really not your place.
@@randomgal Your ignorance proceeds your stupidity? Love IS SACRAFICE, but am betting you are not a religious person, or know little of biblical stories? Extremely mature to get married and not have shared goals as part of your relationship?, she said she wasn't going to support him in his job... wonder if that is why dad distanced himself... but hey...let's ask you, you seem to know all the answers, except the very ones, THAT MEAN THE MOST
I don't even get why they married. They seem mature enough to end a relationship in this manner and yet, decided to move so fast while apparently not knowing each other well enough to forsee problems in a relationship that could not be solved. Probably not too mature after all. Then again, who is...
This comment section made me laugh so hard everyone is siding with their gender and making assumptions about the relationship based on their previous experiences I love it 😂😂😂
I know right? I keep reading comments from guys saying that the guy is hurting but I don't see it? 😅 From what I saw in the video he was less invested in the relationship that the girl was but even here in this video I don't think he's all that sad, but I'm not a guy so I wouldn't know for sure.
@@MonochromaticBananaBread Feel like the guy is only just starting to process the breakup and the girl has already moved on in a way, if that makes sense. Might be completely wrong though..
@@MonochromaticBananaBread from a guy’s perspective we can easily tell the pain behind his body language and the way he speaks about their past. He’s hurt but it still hasn’t registered completely for him.
Damn these two have a better relationship than 90% of the couples that are still together that come on the show. You can tell they really care for and understand each other, they just both envisioned a future that was different from the other. Nice to see.
@@musicgal9830 sure but they change over time and even if they were going in the same direction at the start of the relationship, it doesn’t mean that will always be the case. They definitely seem mature, and even if they weren’t mature at the start the fact that the relationship matured them is a good sign
@@furahamwamba8999 she is talking about women in general, not this particular couple. So it's rather about people, because me as a man get affected the same way as a woman, we are all human
@@trappart9209 They were talking about women specifically. If you want to talk about men, make your own post instead of crying "what about men" under posts like that. Nobody says "what about women" under posts about men.
They live in a trailer, she doesn’t want a career and money isn’t important to her. AKA she’s lazy, doesn’t want to sacrifice her laziness for the sake of her marriage, and she’s selfish. No wonder his dad doesn’t like her. He knows his son can do so much better. It’s actually kind of scary how much she doesn’t care that his dad doesn’t like her.
@@xanderallen5687 doubt it, she seemed very certain and you don't forget stuff like that, the man definitely felt guilty so he would have wanted to make what he did sound less bad
@@xanderallen5687 nah bro girls are scary accurate with that stuff while as a guy we most certainly are not😂😂😂 my gf would be like you remember when you called me annoying at 3:04 Sunday afternoon March 18, 2012
I sense he probably took her for granted in the beginning. Later on she found herself and moved on emotionally and now it’s all hitting him but it too late
Not at all. 2:40 he focused on his career - for both of their sakes, (and avoided getting involved in disputes he had no influence over) whilst she was disinterested in helping him with his career. She's as toxic as they get. Poor chap, deserves someone decent. She's likely to learn the life lesson the hard way, after taking a ride on the carousel.
I'd be surprised if that were the case, it sounds like he was career oriented and she wasn't so they're just not right for eachother. He even said he tried to change/they tried to change. Out of curiosity tho what gives you that vibe?
@@amkolar They're married, living in a trailer, he's working hard at securing their (financial) future like a typical male, and she doesn't want to help him out, bearing in mind this is probably a typical hypergamous relationship, that doesn't sound like she's a nice person. Like the saying goes: women don't care about your struggles, they wait at the finish line and pick the winners. (Marriage is team work, especially if you're not wealthy and can't afford to loaf and maintain a decent lifestyle) - she was so bitter about helping him out that she had to divorce him. He came clean about considering tag-n-releasing when they were dating prior to their marriage, but she has not forgiven him about it, and goes on about having high virtues. She forgets that the chap declined the fling because he felt horrible, meaning he passed the litmus test, but she still grinds him about it, as if he did mess around. She 'had it in her mind that he was going to cheat on him at some stage in their relationship' - well, he didn't, yet she held him in contempt for it just in case he did do it. He was guilty of cheating in her mind, she was just waiting for confirmation which never came. She loved him more in the beginning, when he tried to break up a few times... There is something wrong/incompatible in their relationship for him to want to break up - we don't know what it is, but must be significant, even his dad dislikes her. She comes across as chirpy and easy to laugh, but that would be judging a book by its cover - she grew up, believed she could be independent and went for divorce, yet sleeps with him occasionally. Something not right about the whole process there. He still speaks endearingly about her, so I think if they saw a pro about their problems, they would find a way to stay together, as most couple do. Divorce seems over the top from the short clip.
the biggest takeaway here is if you're already thinking of cheating on your partner even though nothing came of it you should probably hold off on marrying them.
@@Rascon5 nothing wrong with being emotional. Weak people are the ones that don’t show emotion. Also it seems like she still wants to be together just doesn’t show it because of how he wanted it to end.
Very different circumstances but the feel of this conversation hit close to home. My ex and I got along famously but I was always the one more invested in our relationship, doing what was needed to make it work. 8 years in, married, he hit rock bottom in his struggle with depression and things got real honest. He told me straight up that I loved him more than he loved me, but that he needed me more than I needed him. I really did love him though and we got past it. 12 years in, doing a lot better with his mental health, he told me that he'd fallen in love with a friend of his. That it was a done deal and they were going to start a relationship... but he still wanted me to stay anyways. Say what? I asked for a few days to think it over, but finally decided that although I wished him well I couldn't stay. Too many lies, too many secrets, too many years of trying that ultimately counted for nothing. So I let him go. Four months later things fell through with his new love and he wanted me back. He missed me. His life was empty now. But although I still wished him well I just had nothing left to give anymore. My love was exhausted. Four years later and I'm doing alright with my own life now, but I don't think he's ever really moved on. And it's sad. Tldr - value what you have (and who you have) when you have it. I don't regret my marriage, and I don't regret my choice to leave it when he no longer valued me the way I valued myself. But still, having loved and lost is a bittersweet thing. Update, 2023: Been 6 years now since my marriage ended and I remembered this post. Thanks to anyone who replied or showed interest in how I was doing. So here it is - left to my own devices for the first time in my adult life, I stayed single for several years and chased dreams that I had always had. I grew a beautiful garden, I traveled internationally, I finally learned how to ride a motorcycle... and loved it so much that I sold my car in favor of riding full time, lol. Eventually I dated a little but finally decided to just live my best life and meet someone naturally. And I did. One day I happened to meet an incredibly lovely, caring, smart man, and we've been together now for over a year, and it's been really real and special. Life is good, and I'm just appreciating every minute.
You can visibly see her pain when they discuss the close-to-cheating. I've been there: I cheated on my ex gf. We tried damn hard after to make it work, but it was impossible. We said we'd try and get over it. So weeks turned into months, months into years. But it was always there. Like a dull pain in the back of your head, or a hairline crack on a screen. Ultimately I'd ruined it. And all the laughs, cries, holidays, work, rest and play couldn't help. The worst part? It's long over, we've moved on. But I've never forgiven myself for it. I'm in a happy relationship, so is she. But I can't say to myself I am truly a good person anymore. (Tl;dr - never cheat)
I think subconsciously men are made to believe by society that they are independent and they can do whatever they want in a relationship. I think this can’t really even be recognized until after it ruins a part of your life.
You're already better than your past self ever was, let that shadow go by doing what's right. You'll never lose yourself ever again, make that a promise and move on.
@@redflower4315 Almost cheating isnt cheating and stopping yourself from cheating is incredibly difficult when you are in the moment. His choice was to stay faithful to her and she gave him 0 credit just like you are doing.
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@@levinericky8584 this is absolutely made up. No woman is compassionate enough to sacrifice that much of her pride and get back together with a man that she begged to stay.
He seems he is chasing money and selfish ambitions and she wants to rally for the underdogs in a way. I'm sure there is more to it than that but I do think too much self focus leads to depression. You feel better helping others, even if it's tiny. It's better to thinking helping someone a little bit is better than a nihilistic approach of "it will never matter."
@@captainkielbasa5471 the big fucking deal is he was planning to, so close to doing so. whether or not he proceeded to do it, just thinking of cheating on someone you've fully committed to is wrong. people make mistakes, yeah, and those mistakes should be recognized and everyone should be held accountable for them. even he unhesitantly admitted he did wrong, so why are you angry? are you a cheater?
Shakes his legs when they talk about what it would take to get back together. Probably something he wants to do but can't make himself say it out aloud.
Yeah he probably still loves her and does want to get back together, but their priorities and life goals are so different that separating is probably for the better
I sensed deep pain when she said he almost cheated, a woman should feel confident that her marriage is built on trust... and she didn't. She deserves to feel that.
I don’t see how u almost cheat either way if the thought crosses your mind you cheated, if you really In love you don’t think of other people like that ( edited for the idiots in the comments)
Unfortunately, trust takes years upon years to rebuild once there's been a breach. Don't do it, don't come close if you care about your relationship and don't want to deal with the consequences of broken trust for years or even decades.
Yep and also he deserves to be forgiven for something he didnt do but confessed 🤷🏾♀️ also she talks to the worldcraft guy in front of him knowing it hurts him 🤧
sometimes a relationship needs work and what is broken CAN be fixed. hard to do when one goes to work and pushes the career while the other plays videogames... Man - take action - delete her wow account and book a nice vacation to a destination she ALWAYS wanted to go.... then show her what she is going to be missing!
@@Mel7eds I can understand that, but in general I feel most people break up for such small reasons, if they say back down and chatted about it, they could be civil again. Idk, I definitely get what you’re saying though.
@@halifaxdarkrecords1548 for me it‘s not about being hurt but still loving that person even though they have moved on. Thats why i can‘t be friends although i‘d want to, but it just wouldn‘t be healthy. Maybe someday in the future...
Still sharing the same bed and house, i get it. But having s*x still just makes things really complicated. You're going to have to explain that to the next person, and it just doesn't sound honorable to me. Especially since they are both trying to move on.
“Why does she seem so fine” probably because he almost cheated on her, and since then she’s been mentally preparing to leave. If you can get that close to cheating - for a lot of people that’s too far for them. I don’t think you can fault someone for how they deal with stress and the stages of grief.
THANK YOU! I’ve been looking for this comment and was about to comment this myself. I mean I FULLY empathize with the man and as is the case with over two thirds of divorces, the woman probably initiated the divorce when the man clearly still wanted to put in the work to at least try and salvage the relationship and a relationship needs both persons to put in the work, but I think both acknowledge that the man had the intention of cheating on her and then proceeded to betray her trust for MONTHS as he didn’t tell her that. She started the grieving process right then and there and was prepared to leave him. The man was trying to fix their problems by focusing on money, career, and superficial happiness but the huge dent in the relationship, he just couldn’t confront.
Tf u 2 on about?? Even tho true ur both missing the fact that they said it was " early in the relationship " prior to their marriage, also we don't know how many yrs they were together prior to marriage etc if she genuinely held on to that even thru marriage then they should have not gotten married in the 1st place i also abhor the fact that she would be talking to another guy virtually after they had a quarrel & in front of him.......I'm probably bias tho bc i experienced the same thing.....
@@Alex_Aramayo You’re right about the marriage thing. But think about it, would you marry a girl/guy that fully had the intention to cheat on you at the beginning of the relationship? I didn’t really feel that much remorse from the guy in the video and he openly acknowledged that the relationship was permanently scarred after that. It’s a weight they bore on their shoulders until their inevitable separation. They knew it wasn’t going to work, but they tried to anyway. That’s why the marriage was a recipe for disaster from the get-go. The girlfriend never let go of the fact that the man she loved wasn’t faithful enough to love her the same. Now, the fact that they got married is more complex. To paraphrase a Simpsons quote, most people don’t get married to someone they love, but because they’re too scared to be alone. When you’re an adult and you just want to stop looking, you just want to be in a relationship, you just want to not be alone. A lot of people might spend their whole life not getting married because they never found the person they love. And most people see those people as a perfect example of a robbed life. Getting married, having kids, having a home, seeing your kids grow up. Grow old with your partner are all things people (especially in their late 20s that suddenly feel the need to settle and have kids) want to experience. I’m sure the guy and girl in this video did love each other, and I’m sure it took a lot of time to find each other and trust each other. I’m sure they have a lot of great memories together and neither of them were emotionally ready to go through that rollercoaster all over again with someone else while completely letting go of the other person. Love is a complex thing. You never completely stop loving someone despite what they’ve done, and you never completely forgive someone for something irréparable they have done to the relationship, like showing the intent to cheat. The couple just settled because they didn’t want to be alone while looking for a partner and they couldn’t summon up the courage to let go of the past. That’s why the divorce rate is so high, people are not courageous and strong enough to be honest with their partners and with themselves. The man didn’t just almost cheat, he lied about it (through omission) for MONTHS. The girl talking with other guys is probably just revenge, doing it out of spite and the guy just kinda let it happen because she has leverage over the almost-cheating incident. Maybe that’s why he said « he’ll be good for you » with a broken voice because he knows that if she can learn to love again, then she can get what she deserves (to be with a man who loves her unconditionally and who hasn’t cheated on her). I could write about the psychological nuances of love and marriage all day but the comment is getting long lol and I’m sure you get my point.
its not just that he almost cheated on her, that's one thing like she said. but he kept it secret. thats what broke her trust and, with that, emotional bond.
See this is the thing, today's era cannot support relationships let alone marriage, everyone is too independent not to make some personal sacrifices and giving up on some dreams or the other for your partner to continue the love and commitment, as a feminist slapped hard with red pill blue pill analogy, I still feel beyond everything, loneliness is the future.
@@haventchangedmypfpsince2009 he knows he needs to leave her but he's not cause people get emotionally attached to someone they spend a long time living with. basically he doesn't have the balls to leave her
Dying inside? Not really. It's just an intimate emotional connection so of course in these situation you would feel a bit of sadness, but he was the one that was pushing away from the relationship so how does that make sense?
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Everyone is talking about how perfect they are and blah blahhh... Did y'all miss the part where he said he wanted to cheat on her? And then he lied about it for months? Yeah, it wasn't going to workout.
I’m going to be a basic psych major here, analyzing the relationship. for everyone saying that they seem extremely respectful and mature about the situation, I think that’s partially true but also that they do live together and they are trying to keep from it blowing up in their face more than anything. I do think it was her that brought up a divorce because she seems to be extremely upset about the almost cheating. It definitely seems like it was a case of I loved you more, you didn’t love me enough. She was definitely more hurt in the beginning but as of right now, and he is the one struggling with the situation. It was hard to notice but he made some slide, weird dagger jokes about things, which I think is him just showing his resentment thru. overall, it seems like they had just been friends inside their relationship really well and that’s why it translated outside of their divorce. however, I believe that once they do get a finalized divorce and stop living together, that they will likely not be this amicable.
Almost cheating. I almost give af. That was some corny BS to hold a grudge over. I'm glad his father had his "wise" goggles on. This one is a problem waiting to happen. HENCE!
I had the same thought. First they seemed really cool about it but even though she claims and he agrees, that she was more in love with him, I personally think that it's the other way around and maybe that's why the situation with his Dad came along? Not sure. When they talked about cheating, he seems to have learned his lessons while she seems still super upset about it (which I can understand although he technically didn't cheat if I understood correctly) BUT when I heard in what situation they are living right now AND how she is already "talking" to a friend (we all know where this usually leads to during break up time), I felt bad for him. While he says, he looked into dating apps but doesn't find it to be right to go for girls in his situation, she causally admitted that "there's somebody". Feels kinda inappropriate to me. My perspective maybe a bit biased towards her tho.
@@IxAmxOlek no I actually really agree with you. There’s definitely get some communication issues I think the only reason that she felt comfortable finding a partner so soon already after the separation, it’s because she was already mentally checked out of the relationship due to the almost cheating and definite issues that they had about finances and politics. I feel like that combined with his dad‘s resentment towards her, it just seemed like she was already half out of the relationship, actually that both of them were half out of the relationship. So it’s really difficult to see it from like an outsider perspective since they seem so friendly. because if you notice he also seems like he saw the divorce coming but didn’t have the balls to do it himself. So it seems like they were already treating each other as friends instead of a relationship. That’s what makes this entire thing more interesting
@@lindz7038 Almost cheating is the dumbest excuse to do anything I've ever heard. Who cares what someone almost did? We all think about doing any number of things. If she's weak enough to have her MARRIAGE thrown off tracks cause buddy tells her he almost cheated, I dare say she wasn't ready to get married at all. People look. People wonder. Who cares. Its when you take that next step that matters.
@@randohuy9446 while it might not of been physical cheating, it’s emotional cheating. I’m looking at this from a purely third point standpoint, taking neither one side. But your partner emotionally cheating on you can be just as traumatizing as physically cheating. And yeah maybe she wasn’t ready to get married, but how was she supposed to know that before she got into a marriage? I’m not saying either one of them were perfect, it seems like neither one of them are. they both clearly were not made to be in that relationship with each other, especially from a legal standpoint. However, she’s allowed to be upset that he thought about cheating on her. Well that might be okay for you or your partner, maybe for her that’s not something she felt comfortable with. Everyone has their limits
He was planning to skin her and dump the rest of her corpse in the water and ride off in her skin suit but then she started talking about her level 60 wizard and he felt sorry for her.
4:27 bruh don’t argue with a girl about things like that they will remember that forever, if you liked her and didn’t cheat on her ever since that one time you almost did. I would of kept it to myself bro somethings are best left unsaid
The only thing it thought me is that you shouldn't get married when you are not compatible. Opposites work when they support each other through strengths. They are exciting when they are opposite to you as well but the problem is that if they are unable to find a working compromise, their relationships fail. Equals make for good partners but while having the same abilities aso. is relaxed, solving certain issues is far harder. So when you look for a serious long-term relationship, mark these words and mark them well: Get to know them almost as good as you know yourself and then ask yourself if you could work together as a relationship in 10 years from now.
Separating knowing that you don’t want to hurt each other and waste each other’s time and being an adult about it is also a form of love.. This looks so healthy.. and real..
Yes. This is how my ex and I separated. I am really proud of how we decided to love and care about each other through it all, even though we were both hurt. We helped each other heal by being each other's friend.
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@@danieladelapaz8244 hey love i sense you have some problem with women wanting equality and i really don’t have time to explain why calling someone a feminist isn’t an insult i shared my opinion if you look back at my comment i said think as in its my personal opinion :)))
I think your right, she says at the start that she wasn't able to support him in his career goals....hints how she could feel underbenefited when maybe he wasn't supporting her how she envisioned
Whether he cheated or almost cheated, the relationship after that just isn’t the same anymore. Everything changes. We can’t simply forget even if you were remorseful. So glad I didn’t give my ex another chance after he cheated on me. Because if I did I would’ve been living miserably thinking when he would cheat on me again.
@@firstlast9916considering women cheat emotionally almost everyday with all of the attention seeking on social media…at least every man who has been in a relationship with a woman has been cheated on.
@@jlehm cheating and jealousy are based on a premise of stealing resources and time away from a married woman by engaging in sex with her husband. The biggest time and resource waster would be when the mistress get pregnant. There is no chance of a mistress getting pregnant by thinking about the mistress. You have to have sex.
Nah I disagree.. It may take a little time to get that trust back going, but most women don't leave due to cheating or "possible cheating". She found someone that she deems stronger, and its obvious that she's getting more enjoyment from this while the guy is clearly in pain. So, whether a man cheats or not is mostly irrelevant when it cones to longterm. It isn't until a woman sees her man as weak that her feelings change..
Anyone else love watching a man be so willing to communicate like this, even with someone whose about to become an ex? Men should be encouraged to be expressive, honest, and open like this sooooooo much more. It’s also a sign that they both must have really tried. They’re both so communicative like that. So, that makes me happy for them in a way. That they’ve reached the same conclusions together.
Nope. Didn't care. What good would that serve? Who does that help? Diagnosing a car crash after the fact doesn't change the fact that there is a car crash. Pick up your shit and get moving. What is the point in standing there and examining this and that and blah blah. Zero.
Some breakups can be depressing and emotional. Such talks will definitely help in understanding the breakup and coping with it in a better way and moving forward( not suggestive with very toxic patners tho)
I honestly did the same thing he did. Like I didn’t physically cheat on my ex but I did emotionally? By thinking of my other ex while I was with her and not mentioning it for months just like the guy in the vid Is there no coming back from that fr?
I don't think the mistrust / almost cheating was the fatal issue. Sounded more like ideology/politics; conservativism/self-interest versus progressiveness/solidarity was the problem
Wow! The fact that they are in the middle of a divorce and yet they are able to sit down, answer questions and have a discussion about their relationship shows how mature they are and how splits can be amicable and not always dirty. I wish those two the best🙌🏽
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They're different politically and have different definition of success. That's huge. Try to find someone that aligns with you on those two factors before marriage.
@@pbug867 They can but it's rare. If I were to go on Facebook right now, everyone from high school who was a republican then will most likely still be one now. And it has nothing to do with trying. You shouldn't try to change someone's political beliefs. It's exhausting. There are billions of other human beings who will agree with you, no debate needed.
@Ashley pretty much agreed. The goals can be different only when those goals can actually support each other. Sounds like he’s trying to build a career and be financially successful and she’s trying to play WoW and emotionally cheat on him throughout the relationship while using his resources (as limited as they may be since they live in a van lol).
I don't even get why they got married honestly. He thought about cheating on her before they got married and he tried to break up with her several times and she was holding on. All I see are red flags
If those are instant red flags / no gos id doubt barely anyone would get married. The guy confessing about his thoughts and intentions but actively deciding against it is a big obstacle to overcome and he did his part in trying to get this relationship to work. If he werent invested he couldve cheated and/or broke up with her. I stand by his side since we only know so much of their story and she didnt commit to any "Mistakes" on her part, however minor they may be, blaming him for the majority of their failed relationship. Who knows what she (almost) did and never told him since she might not have had the guts to let it out. This also begs the question what lead him to even come close to cheating on her? Sure it might be because hes a truly bad person or he was bored or whatever. Not trying to "victim blame" herr but therr are 2 sides to every coin.
@@DreamCheesex3 I don’t think anyone was putting all the blame on him, but how could you wanting to cheat on your partner or your partner wanting to cheat on you NOT be a red flag? It clearly signals that something is wrong in the relationship/wrong with the person that was tempted to cheat. Personally I don’t think I could ever be with someone if I know they wanted to cheat on me, I’d be absolutely heartbroken and probably develop trust issues (and trust is crucial in a healthy relationship)
I feel like the producer was more invested in this than anyone ever and i love it.
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he was definitely thinking in his head “but they look so perfect”
@vaibhav agarwal because someone held a gun to their head and forced them to show up lmao
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@vaibhav agarwal yea i agree
They didn't even drink cause they were just too honest
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@ptube1 1 why would it be
They did drink to the “last time you had sex” question
@@Random12246 it’s a possibility
@@celesbianmegastar and they practically answered that one too
Its a darn shame they're getting divorced they are gonna have decide who gets which clothes cause they dress almost the same
This is so funny omg I cant😭😭
Wow.☠
YOOO 😭😭😭😭
😂😂
These are the real problems
They should bring them back in 6 months to a year to see how they’re doing. I’m invested.
Ikr I hope they do too
Yeah, this would be good to see. Even with some of the same questions that could still apply.
yes
I’d definitely watch. LOL 😂
Yessss
This wasn't even truth or drink. This was a great therapy session with the couple and the producer.
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Fr tho
FACTS
FACTS !!!
Them: *Sleeps in the same bed*
Producer: “Put a partition between them to prevent COVID-19 spread”
I didn't even notice that lmfaaooo!!!
haha ikr
LoL 😂
Doesn’t matter who they are, if they didn’t they could still potentially be fined. Not saying it makes sense, just how it be
I believe they used this setup on more than one couple that day
this is an example of why you shouldn't get married when you still have problems in a relationship. marriage doesn't fix already existing problems.
Everyone is going to have their problems it’s how you navigate through them with each other
There will always be problems in a relationship
@@brebitzer2066 but HOW you navigate through them should be a sign to you whether you should be together or call it off.
you will always have challenges in life , but do you work together or do you compete or place blame?
Not having problems but voicing your problems early in a relationship. It's the key to making it work. Always br engaging even in the negative things you dont want to talk about. Blowing something off just because you love someone or think you will hurt them will just create massive pressure till eventually it boils over later on.
I feel like everyone is completely missing one of the biggest issues in the relationship that was stated at the start that they have by their own admission, irreconcilable political, lifestyle, career differences. Just shooting a shot in the dark based on what they said but he seems like someone ready to settle down, have a good career, a family, etc, and she wants to be like a political activist, doesnt mind being poor, doesnt have tine for kids and a house. Its pretty clear at least his dad is likely very conservative, so he is likely at best 'apathetic' to her political causes.
He dodged a bullet tbh
This was probably one of the most mature and transparent conversations shown on Truth or Drink.
Also the one with the 2 bulgarian girls!
Especially at 5:30
She is not mature at all. She separated because she doesn't want to be financially responsible and think about the future?
their communication is so good
@@shemmy95 that’s not what it at all. When they brought up money she said he’s very money focused and I’m not. And that’s okay. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to help financially. That just means that one of his main goals is gaining money and that’s not the case for her. She would help it just wouldn’t be a main goal. And there were way more reasons they weren’t compatible than that. They were both very mature about it
"we're separated"...*wears almost matching outfits*
Nothing about what they have on matches😂 it’s not even “almost matching”💀
They live in a trailer and share the same bed so I wouldn’t put it behind them to do that
@@savvy4272 not matching but they look like a couple from a catalog
@@savvy4272 they both have beanies, both wearing stripe shirts both wearing kachkis
They slept with each other just over a week before filming, they sleep in the same bed and are incredibly similar at face value.
They may as well be a couple, but they are planning a separation.
Very strange set of circumstances.
I’m so glad they can just sit down and talk about this stuff. Really down to earth.
I disagree. I think they’re being pleasant, but I don’t think they’re being honest. They’re separated but they live in the same place? Seems like one of many red flags.
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@@lucaspoles3251 houses arent cheap lol it's a red flag that they cant afford a second living space?
@@GabrieleMBest00 they couldn't have gone to either of their parents spaces? friends? how are they living together but separated? Doesn't seem healthy. Would you want to be in that situation?
@@lucaspoles3251 sorry to see you cant be friends with the person you once lived, me n my ex are close friends. we hang out one on one all the time. so no, I wouldnt care. not every separation ends in a huge fight
"We played World or Warcraft together..."
bro my guy is never gonna recover
I feel this in my fawking core.
😂
God damn, that is a tough one. Even if you don't want to be with her.
Yes, he will recover. Time heals all wounds. There’s someone out there for all of us. Think positive about life.
She’s a wow player? Dude dodged a giant bullet.
Guess its too early for the relationship psychology majors to tune in, gonna check in a few hours
Edit: This blew up? Cool.
Was looking for that too ! Guess i'll do that too
LMFAOO
He is an avoident partner and she is the anxious one.just tell me if I am right
😂😂😂
LOOOOOOOOOOOOL dead
i find it so interesting how people can decide someone’s entire character, feelings, and future based off a 7 minute video.
true. people come to conclude as fast as the videos end.
Literally everyone is just making assumptions based on their own past relationships 😂😂😂
They can be oblivious to it too
When you've experienced life enough, had relationships enough AND you're EQ and IQ is high enough, you can have a fairly accurate grasp of a person's character, their feelings even if it was just for 7 mins. Armed with all that I've said previously, it's just a matter of observation and common sense.
@@sl1gh i disagree. i know people like to pretend they know everything and are smarter than they actually are, but i will never believe you can truly understand someone’s character in a 7 minute Cut video. no matter how “experienced” in “life” you are.
I love how they can sit down and talk regardless of their situation. Very mature.
First I guess
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i mean they live together
@@MissBlushingFox that doesn't mean anything
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This is an example of “sometimes, love is not enough”
Exactly. Still hurts to admit that love sometimes just isn‘t enough
it is. they just want things to be 💯 but guess what human relationships dont work like that.
love doesn't pay the bills
and the road gets tough, I don't know why
I think their sexual chemistry is a big reason they held on too.
Watching this captivating video stirs up painful memories of the recent end of my 4 year relationship. My beloved partner chose to depart, leaving me with an unyielding ache. Despite my relentless efforts to reconcile, I find myself grappling with frustration and an inability to envision a future without him. Despite attempts to purge him from my mind, I remain haunted by his absence, feeling compelled to express my longing here.
It's hard to let go of someone you love; I went through a similar experience when my 12-year relationship ended. I tried everything to get him back, and eventually I had to turn to a spiritual counselor for assistance.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him?
His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤
“We still sleep in the same bed” *plastic divider in between them*
Lmao I thought the same thing
Correct word is condom
yeah that was on my mind too . its so stupid xd
@@soeradjchotkan4199 😂😂
@@soeradjchotkan4199 stopppp😭😭
Make no mistake about it, he's DYING inside.
my man is hurting hurting.
@@michaelasaurus5669 nah i commented 3 hours ago, catch up
It's so evident
I bet, having to end the relationship because she just didnt want to chase after success.
Man , you really got eyes
It is so sad to think that most divorced people started out madly in love.
.. yep, agree... i think about that a lot...
Divorced= once married. I hope they were in love.. dumbass.
@@bomboospaghetti4121 rude for no reason, you know how common arranged marriages still are? Also plenty of people get married because they accidentally had a kid. Some people get married for green cards, some get shotgun weddings bc they're young and stupid, etc. I would bet my life on the fact that most people in the world were not in love when they got married. LUST is very different
*madly in lust
Honestly marriage isn't worth it anymore.
He was definitely hurting, but he was very mature with his answers.
He was unusually self-critical for a guy his age, but maybe to the extent of seeming a mush to his soon to be ex-wife, who I suspect could be more strident than we see here.
I’m twice their age and couldn’t muster half their maturity in a similar situation
absolutely
Him admitting that (in his words), “scarred the relationship early on” was really mature. They both really healthy and mature and insightful about their relationship.
True but everyone’s knows they went for another round of breakup sex after this 😂
im sorry for every pathetic man in your life that has caused to to think that was really mature.
@@dirtrider88 Taking responsibility for your mistakes is mature in any context what do you mean?
@@darkhorse381 i mean it shouldnt be anything above the norm that makes someone make a specific comment about it how really mature it was. im saying im sorry to the person who wrote that comment because apparently they dont have many half decent people in their life.
@@dirtrider88 Thank you for empathising with OP, I can already tell you’re really insightful and caring. You would be a great friend to have.
Also to OP, when the guy said that line about his actions scarring the relationship thereafter was also something that stood out to me as well and was almost foreign to hear someone take accountability for their wrongdoings.
This looks like the heathiest divorce I have ever seen jesus christ
On the surface I’m sure. There’s always something lying underneath!
My parents divorced a decade ago and have lived together happily ever since. I was in high school when it happened and the only thing that changed after the divorce was that they stopped screaming at each other. I still don’t know why they divorced but I think it had to do with my dad being irresponsible with money.
Jo Beiafuq I’m not saying they should expose themselves. I’m saying there are always internal issues behind a divorce, as healthy as it could be on the surface
I can tell they're seething under it
@@basedbritannian9916 severed their finances. Also my dad has dated like a million women since then
i feel like she’s been getting over the end for a while now, while he’s just realizing that it’s really over.
thats usually how it goes
Yup, almost always how it goes
He is still grieving. She, like most women, had checked out months or a year before he ever knew there was a problem.
@@trailblazers9491 Both said they knew it had been over for months before it happened and that there were both aware there were problems for a while. Did you even watch the video or did you just jump straight to blaming women for everything?
@@mossking2815 Knowing it is over and being over the grieving is two different things. If YOU had watched the video, you would clearly see the woman is a lot farther along their journey than the man is.
Every time I hear "we are separated" and "we still live/sleep together", all orifices in my body contract into an asterisk.
This is the best comment I've ever read
they look like they’re in an ll bean catalogue
So truuuuue
I love it hahaha it looks so comfy
sry what does 'll bean catalogue' mean?
@@Kindapple LL Bean is like a outdoor clothing brand
bluegill oh I had no idea thx
“I think you two would be good together” I know that was fucking rough but props man.
That hurt me hearing him say that. Thats the most manliness of manly things
Bless his soul holy shit
He didn't really mean but hes trying to be supportive, but you can sense his pain
One of those statements where in his head he was crying
@@combatcarl well obviously that was his wife , but the fact he told it is so good.
Why was this so healthy and so toxic at the same time
What about this was toxic?
Philipp Kühn, maybe Hannah is saying it’s toxic bc it’s a divorce, so there had to be some historical toxicity underlying their relationship. There’s also this new term called ‘toxic positivity’, where ppl only say positive things bc they feel the requirement to be positive or healthy even if it’s suppressing their real dark feelings about something, which is ok to feel
Ikr
@@philippkuhn2515 the breakup sex for me 😂
right 😂😂
They are still so sweet to each other. You can really see the love between them. I am sad that it didn’t work out. I really wish they both find happiness because they seem so incredibly sweet
This hurts in the most healthy way ever
The feeling is contentment I think. I’ve always hated it
This this is what I was trying to think
@@kenxd585 yea me too and he said it perfectly
Yep....😕
This is not healthy lol
it's gonna be awkward when they run into eachother at a seaside coffee brew vintage trailer that happens to sell quinoa in oregan
Oregon*
Lmfao
Ahahahaaaa the specificity loooool
LmfaOOOOO omg yes! 😂
hahahahaahahahahahahahahahahaahahaha
I know that It's for the good... But I just feel sad about The End of people's story. Oh booy
Maybe it's the beginning of something even better🙂
@@daisytheislandgirl7877 yes! For sure!
@@daisytheislandgirl7877 awww that’s a good glass half full attitude
Stories have an end
i feel the same about story's ends :(
it’s so sad cause they like so compatible, the way they talk, their energy, THE WAY THEY DRESS, idk… guess u never know
Yeah my dad got divorced a long time ago and he can't stand his ex wife. This is not how I would think a soon to be divorced couple would act together
I suspect they both may regret this divorce when they hit their thirties if still single. Seems a divorce born of idealism.
Because this generation think both partners need to agree with each other on absolutely everything. Also he definitely needs someone who's more work and future driven.
“we were that close to having ‘forever love’ which is sad” that got me. I don’t know why people are saying this is depressing, i loved this, two people being completely honest about their relationship and admitting they are not meant. not many are honest with themselves about this, let alone with each other.
Its almost better than a love story because it’s so genuine.
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@Ashley there can be, but it should always be healthy. They weren’t healthy for each other anymore and that’s the point you split up😕
@@redfishswimming Usually they do have an upgrade. But she seems really unambitious and not financially motivated. I think he actually will move on first.
really funny how he said that considering how he almost cheated on her. the relationship was doomed after that. even if they didn’t have the incompatibility issues they talked about, the lack of trust on her part would have driven them apart.
I wish my ex husband would sit down and talk to me like this. He was my best friend and now he treats me like a complete stranger.
I feel the same way with my ex boyfriend...just dumped me and decided not to talk things out...
Is it just a guy thing? My husband jokes that if anything were to happen he knows we couldn’t be friends because I’m too nice and he’s a grudge holder.
@@ashleyb420 it's a person thing.
How'd you wrong him?
I’m sure they will treat each other like strangers off camera
Ladies and gentlemen this is what we call "Healthy breakup"
Healthy? How? Why do people think that a breakup can be healthy? There is no such a thing. Clearly they know it too... as they confessed having sex with each other still...but also talking to other people. Like how is it healthy that the guy who she is talking to online probably just found out that these guys still have sex with each other. Who the fuck is this healthy for?
Breakups CAN be "healthy". People change over time. If your interests, goals and views on life vastly change it might be best to communicate that. If it's not working out even though you've tried then it's fine to separate. No reason to be toxic about that because that's just part of being a human I guess.
@@OzTheWizardOfPorn Just because you are not toxic it does not mean its healthy...
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@@stojo33 instead of staying together where it could have turned very toxic they decided to part ways which can be seen as healthy. we all have different opinions on certain matters.
Everybody saying it looks healthy but guys... Living together, sleeping together while not being together is not healthy
Yeah that is not healthy. Marriage over. These 2 don't know what the hell they are doing.
OK, expert on all humans.
By the time a woman breaks up with her partner, she has already gone through most if not all the stages of grief. He is just starting that process which is clear why he is struggling way more than her.
True. Women typically leave emotionally and mentally long before we leave physically.
@@shelocsher2396 That's actually so true, I didn't realize that.
You can see that happen in Marriage Story....
@@thechurchofsolange58 Thank you for commenting that! I now have a new movie to watch ☺️
This is 100% true!
Imagine making one of the most iconic piece of music and 200 years later it ends up in a CUT video.
Lmfao
Lmaaaoooooooo
lmaoo i never thought of this 😭
Yeah, but max fosh is also using this , so its ok
It is actually everywhere, so that is actually nice. But for certain it is become boring. People make it so easy to saturate some pieces
I'm glad they realized a divorce was the option, rather than miserably being together for another 20 years just for the sake of it. Just to resent and hate that person over "time lost", like my parents do.
This, exactly this! The quiet resentment that's in the air rather than openess about the past and leaving stuff behind
sunk cost fallacy isn't it
EXACTLY
Shit like my grandparents
exactly, eventually every little thing becomes an argument.
I recently think abt my past marriage and ex husband, then this popped up. It really hit somehow. When I got the divorce, I only see the pain and all the uncomfortable stuffs that made me want to quit. After a while of healing, I realized things were also sweet and warm sometimes. We tried, but it didn't work. But it was still something to remember in our lives and we'll have to live with it
Why tf are so many people here at least somewhat against their brake up. They made a mature decision bc they knew it wouldn't work in the long run
cause they're immature and live in a fairytale?
I don’t think any one here is *against* it so much as they’re lamenting the end of this relationship which seems like a pretty mature, aware and respectful one. I’m sure everyone here is aware that it is their decision and for the best. Sometimes it’s sad to see a good (or at least once-good) relationship ending, even if it’s for the best and even if it’s not yours.
People think they know the entirety of this relationship from a 6 minute video.
I didn’t see them in a car?
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"We play World of Warcraft together."
Say no more.
no more
I... I don’t get it
@@nateg.6187 damn
There's raid night... Then there's "raid" night
I can’t believe you’ve done this
If autumn was a couple
lmaoo
Oh indeed
I don't understand this :)
@@efreitorkjelberg1646 they just look mad cozy and just chill in general idk
So underrated
when she talked about him almost cheating on her, it almost hit me how hard she mustve tried to keep it together cause i wouldve left such a relationship immediately, it shows she mustve loved him a lot to want to make things work out even though she would, after that moment have a constant thought of him cheating on her in the back of her head
Relationships take sacrifice and when those sacrifices aren't being made, the only thing left to sacrifice is the relationship.
I'm copying that
@@woodssteak366 semmmm im copying dat too
EXACTLY, if both aren't willing to give 100% and put their partner first.... no way can even claim it is "love" in my opinion.
You sound so immature and condescending. Unlike this couple who in my opinion is extremely mature and are at peace with themselves. You don't know them but still judge them by implying that haven't sacrificed enough so that is why their relationship failed. This is such a toxic and gaslighting opinion. Sometimes you make sacrifices like marrying a man who's father obviously hates you and it still doesn't work. Humans have to be compatible to work well together. Don't judge relationships you know not about. It's really not your place.
@@randomgal Your ignorance proceeds your stupidity? Love IS SACRAFICE, but am betting you are not a religious person, or know little of biblical stories? Extremely mature to get married and not have shared goals as part of your relationship?, she said she wasn't going to support him in his job... wonder if that is why dad distanced himself... but hey...let's ask you, you seem to know all the answers, except the very ones, THAT MEAN THE MOST
Why do y’all seem to think they fit each other ? They literally said they don’t
the worse part they say they 'should' be together
Cause people like conspiracy theories and drama
I dont see it. At all.
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I don't even get why they married. They seem mature enough to end a relationship in this manner and yet, decided to move so fast while apparently not knowing each other well enough to forsee problems in a relationship that could not be solved. Probably not too mature after all. Then again, who is...
i don't want them to separate. but at the same time don't want forced reln to ruin what they really have
Just because they seem easy-going with each other doesn't mean they're happy and compatible.
We know NOTHING about their relationship
@@BubbaMaraj7241 darwin in your pfp 😭
@@moonlight4780 yes. That. Is. True
@@moonlight4780 but. A. Guy. Ca. Dream
@@mihirmishra4481 a guy can dream? seems a bit weird to me bc you literally don’t know these people one bit
This comment section made me laugh so hard everyone is siding with their gender and making assumptions about the relationship based on their previous experiences I love it 😂😂😂
You again, I love it.
I know right? I keep reading comments from guys saying that the guy is hurting but I don't see it? 😅 From what I saw in the video he was less invested in the relationship that the girl was but even here in this video I don't think he's all that sad, but I'm not a guy so I wouldn't know for sure.
@@MonochromaticBananaBread Feel like the guy is only just starting to process the breakup and the girl has already moved on in a way, if that makes sense. Might be completely wrong though..
@@MonochromaticBananaBread from a guy’s perspective we can easily tell the pain behind his body language and the way he speaks about their past. He’s hurt but it still hasn’t registered completely for him.
@@MonochromaticBananaBread You're just proving his point.
No lie this producer should be a marriage therapist
bro he’s creepy
He’s a fucking creep. Next thing you know, he’s gonna be asking if they like to collect each other’s childhood teeth.
Wtf are u talking about his form of counciling will involve him hiding in a closet to observe "performance". Yeah im good.
"Do you still see her butt"
I might change this comment so when people look at the replies it makes all of u look like some horny ppl
Damn these two have a better relationship than 90% of the couples that are still together that come on the show. You can tell they really care for and understand each other, they just both envisioned a future that was different from the other. Nice to see.
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g Maturity would be talking about all this important topics at the start of the relationship 😂
@@musicgal9830 sure but they change over time and even if they were going in the same direction at the start of the relationship, it doesn’t mean that will always be the case. They definitely seem mature, and even if they weren’t mature at the start the fact that the relationship matured them is a good sign
After a women finds out their mans cheated or got close to it or thought abt it everything changes. It’s not normal again.
Why woman and not "person"? It's same for man.
@@trappart9209 bc the dude cheated on her and men cheat on women more
@@furahamwamba8999 she is talking about women in general, not this particular couple. So it's rather about people, because me as a man get affected the same way as a woman, we are all human
@@trappart9209 They were talking about women specifically. If you want to talk about men, make your own post instead of crying "what about men" under posts like that. Nobody says "what about women" under posts about men.
@@GR-dw9nm read original comment once again, and I am not crying don't show me your disrespect
They live in a trailer, she doesn’t want a career and money isn’t important to her. AKA she’s lazy, doesn’t want to sacrifice her laziness for the sake of her marriage, and she’s selfish. No wonder his dad doesn’t like her. He knows his son can do so much better. It’s actually kind of scary how much she doesn’t care that his dad doesn’t like her.
4:27: "Yeah, it was months later." She's clearly got that moment seared into her mind.
...and it was probably a week...
@@xanderallen5687 doubt it, she seemed very certain and you don't forget stuff like that, the man definitely felt guilty so he would have wanted to make what he did sound less bad
Lmao up until around that point I thought she was fine. Defo a tiny bit of crazy in her
@@zh2266 nah it's just painful.
@@xanderallen5687 nah bro girls are scary accurate with that stuff while as a guy we most certainly are not😂😂😂 my gf would be like you remember when you called me annoying at 3:04 Sunday afternoon March 18, 2012
She’s so angry you can tell. Especially with the cheating question.
Honestly I find it silly how much she's holding onto that, like it didn't even happen for christ sakes. Literally getting mad over nothing
@@combatcarl it's not nothing. He backed out at last moment but he planned it. It's normal to get hurt as he didn't even shared that instantly.
Really? She was laughing all the time. How can you tell? I didn't notice anything.
@@kos2932 the way she laughed was awkward and if you watch her eyes a lot of squinting and slightly cutting him off
@@bgwhitesauce6948 holy shit I thought we were the only ones
I sense he probably took her for granted in the beginning. Later on she found herself and moved on emotionally and now it’s all hitting him but it too late
You just described my only real relationship
Not at all. 2:40 he focused on his career - for both of their sakes, (and avoided getting involved in disputes he had no influence over) whilst she was disinterested in helping him with his career. She's as toxic as they get. Poor chap, deserves someone decent. She's likely to learn the life lesson the hard way, after taking a ride on the carousel.
I'd be surprised if that were the case, it sounds like he was career oriented and she wasn't so they're just not right for eachother. He even said he tried to change/they tried to change. Out of curiosity tho what gives you that vibe?
@@amkolar They're married, living in a trailer, he's working hard at securing their (financial) future like a typical male, and she doesn't want to help him out, bearing in mind this is probably a typical hypergamous relationship, that doesn't sound like she's a nice person. Like the saying goes: women don't care about your struggles, they wait at the finish line and pick the winners. (Marriage is team work, especially if you're not wealthy and can't afford to loaf and maintain a decent lifestyle) - she was so bitter about helping him out that she had to divorce him. He came clean about considering tag-n-releasing when they were dating prior to their marriage, but she has not forgiven him about it, and goes on about having high virtues. She forgets that the chap declined the fling because he felt horrible, meaning he passed the litmus test, but she still grinds him about it, as if he did mess around. She 'had it in her mind that he was going to cheat on him at some stage in their relationship' - well, he didn't, yet she held him in contempt for it just in case he did do it. He was guilty of cheating in her mind, she was just waiting for confirmation which never came. She loved him more in the beginning, when he tried to break up a few times... There is something wrong/incompatible in their relationship for him to want to break up - we don't know what it is, but must be significant, even his dad dislikes her. She comes across as chirpy and easy to laugh, but that would be judging a book by its cover - she grew up, believed she could be independent and went for divorce, yet sleeps with him occasionally. Something not right about the whole process there. He still speaks endearingly about her, so I think if they saw a pro about their problems, they would find a way to stay together, as most couple do. Divorce seems over the top from the short clip.
@@greighenning9091 Dude this os exactly how i would say it. Spot on!
the biggest takeaway here is if you're already thinking of cheating on your partner even though nothing came of it you should probably hold off on marrying them.
3:13 - Damn, that's hella heartbreaking.
Also this guy (and gal) are crazy mature.
Antoine the goat, love and appreciate all the work you did for JK. You a real one fam
YO ANTOINE i love your videos😩😩
I had to pause because it made me so sad for a good minute.
To see it, and...
Man you can see him crying on the inside when they talk about being separate, and her already moved on.
Exactly man, he's so fuckn emotional it's pretty cringe 😬
@@Rascon5 nothing wrong with being emotional. Weak people are the ones that don’t show emotion. Also it seems like she still wants to be together just doesn’t show it because of how he wanted it to end.
@@Rascon5 tf is wrong with you?
@@Rascon5 boy. . . U cringe
@@Rascon5 aww he isn’t cringe for crying. he’s a hooman hehe, it’s normal to cry when losing what he described as “almost forever love”
Very different circumstances but the feel of this conversation hit close to home. My ex and I got along famously but I was always the one more invested in our relationship, doing what was needed to make it work. 8 years in, married, he hit rock bottom in his struggle with depression and things got real honest. He told me straight up that I loved him more than he loved me, but that he needed me more than I needed him. I really did love him though and we got past it. 12 years in, doing a lot better with his mental health, he told me that he'd fallen in love with a friend of his. That it was a done deal and they were going to start a relationship... but he still wanted me to stay anyways. Say what?
I asked for a few days to think it over, but finally decided that although I wished him well I couldn't stay. Too many lies, too many secrets, too many years of trying that ultimately counted for nothing. So I let him go. Four months later things fell through with his new love and he wanted me back. He missed me. His life was empty now. But although I still wished him well I just had nothing left to give anymore. My love was exhausted. Four years later and I'm doing alright with my own life now, but I don't think he's ever really moved on. And it's sad.
Tldr - value what you have (and who you have) when you have it. I don't regret my marriage, and I don't regret my choice to leave it when he no longer valued me the way I valued myself. But still, having loved and lost is a bittersweet thing.
Update, 2023: Been 6 years now since my marriage ended and I remembered this post. Thanks to anyone who replied or showed interest in how I was doing. So here it is - left to my own devices for the first time in my adult life, I stayed single for several years and chased dreams that I had always had. I grew a beautiful garden, I traveled internationally, I finally learned how to ride a motorcycle... and loved it so much that I sold my car in favor of riding full time, lol. Eventually I dated a little but finally decided to just live my best life and meet someone naturally. And I did. One day I happened to meet an incredibly lovely, caring, smart man, and we've been together now for over a year, and it's been really real and special. Life is good, and I'm just appreciating every minute.
❤
Thanks for sharing, it makes me sad to hear that but I’m glad you made the right decision for your and chose yourself first. Not many can do that
damn never thought i will stumbled upon a movie caliber true story in youtube comment, hats off to you. any updates on your life ?
@@dingidingibang1720 exactly what I thought. Like I would read that book while crying and smiling all at the same time!
He sounds like an enneagram type 4.
You can visibly see her pain when they discuss the close-to-cheating. I've been there: I cheated on my ex gf. We tried damn hard after to make it work, but it was impossible.
We said we'd try and get over it. So weeks turned into months, months into years. But it was always there. Like a dull pain in the back of your head, or a hairline crack on a screen.
Ultimately I'd ruined it. And all the laughs, cries, holidays, work, rest and play couldn't help.
The worst part? It's long over, we've moved on. But I've never forgiven myself for it. I'm in a happy relationship, so is she. But I can't say to myself I am truly a good person anymore.
(Tl;dr - never cheat)
I think subconsciously men are made to believe by society that they are independent and they can do whatever they want in a relationship. I think this can’t really even be recognized until after it ruins a part of your life.
@@Giloaodpjdjwlhjao this is a stupid fucking comment, and it’s completely sexist being based on absolutely no solid reason.
@@Giloaodpjdjwlhjao i think subconsciously you're kinda sexist oh wait my bad you actually are.
You're already better than your past self ever was, let that shadow go by doing what's right. You'll never lose yourself ever again, make that a promise and move on.
This was big of you to admit and you know what? It shows your maturity. Just as someone else said, you are better than your past self. 🙂❤💖
He's a real man for admitting that he cried because the relationship ended.
hes not a real person for almost cheating on her and lying about it for months
@@redflower4315 bitch he ain't cheat and he talked about it
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@@redflower4315 Almost cheating isnt cheating and stopping yourself from cheating is incredibly difficult when you are in the moment. His choice was to stay faithful to her and she gave him 0 credit just like you are doing.
@@InnerMedium hmm weird that you say she gave him zero credit? Almost cheating would give anybody trust issues.
The thing about these videos is that they invite a lot of judgement from people who only see a very small glimpse of the their lives.
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Very true
Thanks for this
@@levinericky8584 this is absolutely made up. No woman is compassionate enough to sacrifice that much of her pride and get back together with a man that she begged to stay.
@@arpitabrahmachari7649 he should have stayed when she wanted to. Not after cheating 💀
She looks so happy and joyful and he seems depressed
it’s probably the case
@Jo Beiafuq no he didn’t, we watching the same video dawg
Yeah because she dodged a bullet
He seems he is chasing money and selfish ambitions and she wants to rally for the underdogs in a way. I'm sure there is more to it than that but I do think too much self focus leads to depression. You feel better helping others, even if it's tiny. It's better to thinking helping someone a little bit is better than a nihilistic approach of "it will never matter."
@@tt5167 nah, money matters if he feels like money is a priority she should make time to get that
This was very heartfelt. They really tried, they knew what their weak points were and they can admit them to each other.
I'm happy they tried.
This comment is somewhat poetic and I really appreciated it. Sometimes trying is all you can do if it’s not meant to mesh
the way he said “was it months later?” and she was like “yeah😃 yeah it was ☺️”
I could feel the rage LOL
Hahaha seriously 🤣
He didn't cheat though so whats the fucking big deal. People make mistakes
@@captainkielbasa5471 the big fucking deal is he was planning to, so close to doing so. whether or not he proceeded to do it, just thinking of cheating on someone you've fully committed to is wrong. people make mistakes, yeah, and those mistakes should be recognized and everyone should be held accountable for them. even he unhesitantly admitted he did wrong, so why are you angry? are you a cheater?
@@winry1890 yo... you sound more angry by the response
Shakes his legs when they talk about what it would take to get back together. Probably something he wants to do but can't make himself say it out aloud.
Yeah he probably still loves her and does want to get back together, but their priorities and life goals are so different that separating is probably for the better
Give up the idea of being wealthy and live on fairytale and dreams
Cause that would involve not living the life hes been working so hard to live
I sensed deep pain when she said he almost cheated, a woman should feel confident that her marriage is built on trust... and she didn't. She deserves to feel that.
Hes clearly in a alot of pain... She seem to be enjoying it... Probably punishment for that time he ALMOST cheated
I don’t see how u almost cheat either way if the thought crosses your mind you cheated, if you really In love you don’t think of other people like that ( edited for the idiots in the comments)
Unfortunately, trust takes years upon years to rebuild once there's been a breach. Don't do it, don't come close if you care about your relationship and don't want to deal with the consequences of broken trust for years or even decades.
@@Ioniam1 "You thought of murdering someone so you murdered"
Yep and also he deserves to be forgiven for something he didnt do but confessed 🤷🏾♀️ also she talks to the worldcraft guy in front of him knowing it hurts him 🤧
You can just feel the pain in his heart.
“We were this close to forever love” 🥺
sometimes a relationship needs work and what is broken CAN be fixed. hard to do when one goes to work and pushes the career while the other plays videogames...
Man - take action - delete her wow account and book a nice vacation to a destination she ALWAYS wanted to go....
then show her what she is going to be missing!
@@kniefi yeah, a wonderful idea. Especially deleting something she probably spent a lot of time on. Without warning or talking beforehand.
@@kniefi What the hell is wrong with you? Deleting her WoW account? For real? How do you know she only wanted to play video games?
If he almost cheated on her before they were married, I don’t think they were close to forever love.
As someone that has been divorced. That guy isn’t comfortable. He is extremely sad. This wasn’t his idea
I got that vibe too yet she said he would always try to break up.
Bro almost cheated on her. If he is sad he is an idiot...
@@KingTaarabt but she's already got a dude lined up and wasn't ever invested in "their" future
Between the World of Warcraft. And her not giving a shit about having a career, or the future. I say good riddance.
@@KingTaarabt almost isnt cheating...
this is proof of "exes can be friends"
Exes with benefits
Never
@@halifaxdarkrecords1548 depends on the situation tbh. If they were toxic or still have extreme feelings I wouldn’t want anything to do with them
@@Mel7eds I can understand that, but in general I feel most people break up for such small reasons, if they say back down and chatted about it, they could be civil again. Idk, I definitely get what you’re saying though.
@@halifaxdarkrecords1548 for me it‘s not about being hurt but still loving that person even though they have moved on. Thats why i can‘t be friends although i‘d want to, but it just wouldn‘t be healthy. Maybe someday in the future...
I respect them both for coming out and being transparent about their relationship. It's been a helpful learning experience.
"we're separated"
"we live together and share a bed"
I feel like that's not separated
Nah, it’s called broke in your 20s living in a trailer.
AMEN brother!!
And still have sex sometimes.
tumblingdown ...sometimes...
Still sharing the same bed and house, i get it. But having s*x still just makes things really complicated. You're going to have to explain that to the next person, and it just doesn't sound honorable to me. Especially since they are both trying to move on.
“Why does she seem so fine” probably because he almost cheated on her, and since then she’s been mentally preparing to leave. If you can get that close to cheating - for a lot of people that’s too far for them. I don’t think you can fault someone for how they deal with stress and the stages of grief.
THANK YOU! I’ve been looking for this comment and was about to comment this myself. I mean I FULLY empathize with the man and as is the case with over two thirds of divorces, the woman probably initiated the divorce when the man clearly still wanted to put in the work to at least try and salvage the relationship and a relationship needs both persons to put in the work, but I think both acknowledge that the man had the intention of cheating on her and then proceeded to betray her trust for MONTHS as he didn’t tell her that. She started the grieving process right then and there and was prepared to leave him. The man was trying to fix their problems by focusing on money, career, and superficial happiness but the huge dent in the relationship, he just couldn’t confront.
Tf u 2 on about?? Even tho true ur both missing the fact that they said it was " early in the relationship " prior to their marriage, also we don't know how many yrs they were together prior to marriage etc if she genuinely held on to that even thru marriage then they should have not gotten married in the 1st place i also abhor the fact that she would be talking to another guy virtually after they had a quarrel & in front of him.......I'm probably bias tho bc i experienced the same thing.....
@@Alex_Aramayo You’re right about the marriage thing. But think about it, would you marry a girl/guy that fully had the intention to cheat on you at the beginning of the relationship? I didn’t really feel that much remorse from the guy in the video and he openly acknowledged that the relationship was permanently scarred after that. It’s a weight they bore on their shoulders until their inevitable separation. They knew it wasn’t going to work, but they tried to anyway. That’s why the marriage was a recipe for disaster from the get-go. The girlfriend never let go of the fact that the man she loved wasn’t faithful enough to love her the same.
Now, the fact that they got married is more complex. To paraphrase a Simpsons quote, most people don’t get married to someone they love, but because they’re too scared to be alone. When you’re an adult and you just want to stop looking, you just want to be in a relationship, you just want to not be alone. A lot of people might spend their whole life not getting married because they never found the person they love. And most people see those people as a perfect example of a robbed life. Getting married, having kids, having a home, seeing your kids grow up. Grow old with your partner are all things people (especially in their late 20s that suddenly feel the need to settle and have kids) want to experience. I’m sure the guy and girl in this video did love each other, and I’m sure it took a lot of time to find each other and trust each other. I’m sure they have a lot of great memories together and neither of them were emotionally ready to go through that rollercoaster all over again with someone else while completely letting go of the other person. Love is a complex thing. You never completely stop loving someone despite what they’ve done, and you never completely forgive someone for something irréparable they have done to the relationship, like showing the intent to cheat. The couple just settled because they didn’t want to be alone while looking for a partner and they couldn’t summon up the courage to let go of the past. That’s why the divorce rate is so high, people are not courageous and strong enough to be honest with their partners and with themselves. The man didn’t just almost cheat, he lied about it (through omission) for MONTHS. The girl talking with other guys is probably just revenge, doing it out of spite and the guy just kinda let it happen because she has leverage over the almost-cheating incident. Maybe that’s why he said « he’ll be good for you » with a broken voice because he knows that if she can learn to love again, then she can get what she deserves (to be with a man who loves her unconditionally and who hasn’t cheated on her). I could write about the psychological nuances of love and marriage all day but the comment is getting long lol and I’m sure you get my point.
Exactly. Don't normalize "almost cheated"
its not just that he almost cheated on her, that's one thing like she said. but he kept it secret. thats what broke her trust and, with that, emotional bond.
I feel like they would be better as friends than actually being in a relationship
See this is the thing, today's era cannot support relationships let alone marriage, everyone is too independent not to make some personal sacrifices and giving up on some dreams or the other for your partner to continue the love and commitment, as a feminist slapped hard with red pill blue pill analogy, I still feel beyond everything, loneliness is the future.
@@stankssmile5865 ??
@@nishthac9454 somebody hurt them
Can't be friends now
@@stankssmile5865 whoa that’s deep I bet you got an essay worth reading in that head of yours
"Is it weird to talk about it?"
"A little bit..."
No, it is totally weird, but still funny...😂😂😂🤙
The guy seems like he's the One that wants to break up the most but is also the One that wants to keep them together
I think he initiated the break up, but after she got over it and moved on he really regretted it.
He just hates the fact that she's a dead end and he knows he needs to leave her cause she's holding him back. But he still loves her
@@haventchangedmypfpsince2009 never said he's not leaving her for her sake. You have trouble reading?
@@haventchangedmypfpsince2009 he knows he needs to leave her but he's not cause people get emotionally attached to someone they spend a long time living with. basically he doesn't have the balls to leave her
Why is there a plastic screen between them? They still sleep in the same bed
In case they laugh while taking a shot, the drink doesn’t spit out into the others face
Im pretty sure it's for COVID, don't hate I'm just guessing
Probably didn’t feel like changing the set up
Legal requirements for covid
And...Covid must be stupid to not know how to go around...am I right? It's so stupid.
i cant even have this conversation with my middle school ex-girlfriends. and im about to turn 30
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂
PAhahaha I feel you 😂😂
Men crack me up. Why do you guys stay stuck on your middle school exes lol
@@ajaqt5 You completely misunderstood the comment.
6:06 holy shi, BOTH of his legs are jumping. I feel so bad for him
Its something i do without realising
When this guy said "you'd be good together" but his eyes looks to the side.. he's dying inside
Dying inside? Not really. It's just an intimate emotional connection so of course in these situation you would feel a bit of sadness, but he was the one that was pushing away from the relationship so how does that make sense?
Love how comfortable and mature they are about their separation. Shows how much respect they have
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She's not mature, she didn't want to think about the future and met a new boyfriend while playing video games
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Everyone is talking about how perfect they are and blah blahhh... Did y'all miss the part where he said he wanted to cheat on her? And then he lied about it for months? Yeah, it wasn't going to workout.
Yeah that shit is wild. I'd never forgive a man for that
Yes. Sad.
@@mahasina.k.5963 You'd have to have one to forgive him first.
yeah exactly wtf why is everyone praising him hes trash lol
@@randohuy9446 bro lmao
*Bring them back we wanna see how their relationship changed*
Give it another year.
I’m going to be a basic psych major here, analyzing the relationship. for everyone saying that they seem extremely respectful and mature about the situation, I think that’s partially true but also that they do live together and they are trying to keep from it blowing up in their face more than anything. I do think it was her that brought up a divorce because she seems to be extremely upset about the almost cheating. It definitely seems like it was a case of I loved you more, you didn’t love me enough. She was definitely more hurt in the beginning but as of right now, and he is the one struggling with the situation. It was hard to notice but he made some slide, weird dagger jokes about things, which I think is him just showing his resentment thru. overall, it seems like they had just been friends inside their relationship really well and that’s why it translated outside of their divorce. however, I believe that once they do get a finalized divorce and stop living together, that they will likely not be this amicable.
Almost cheating. I almost give af. That was some corny BS to hold a grudge over. I'm glad his father had his "wise" goggles on. This one is a problem waiting to happen. HENCE!
I had the same thought. First they seemed really cool about it but even though she claims and he agrees, that she was more in love with him, I personally think that it's the other way around and maybe that's why the situation with his Dad came along? Not sure. When they talked about cheating, he seems to have learned his lessons while she seems still super upset about it (which I can understand although he technically didn't cheat if I understood correctly) BUT when I heard in what situation they are living right now AND how she is already "talking" to a friend (we all know where this usually leads to during break up time), I felt bad for him. While he says, he looked into dating apps but doesn't find it to be right to go for girls in his situation, she causally admitted that "there's somebody". Feels kinda inappropriate to me.
My perspective maybe a bit biased towards her tho.
@@IxAmxOlek no I actually really agree with you. There’s definitely get some communication issues I think the only reason that she felt comfortable finding a partner so soon already after the separation, it’s because she was already mentally checked out of the relationship due to the almost cheating and definite issues that they had about finances and politics. I feel like that combined with his dad‘s resentment towards her, it just seemed like she was already half out of the relationship, actually that both of them were half out of the relationship. So it’s really difficult to see it from like an outsider perspective since they seem so friendly. because if you notice he also seems like he saw the divorce coming but didn’t have the balls to do it himself. So it seems like they were already treating each other as friends instead of a relationship. That’s what makes this entire thing more interesting
@@lindz7038 Almost cheating is the dumbest excuse to do anything I've ever heard. Who cares what someone almost did? We all think about doing any number of things. If she's weak enough to have her MARRIAGE thrown off tracks cause buddy tells her he almost cheated, I dare say she wasn't ready to get married at all. People look. People wonder. Who cares. Its when you take that next step that matters.
@@randohuy9446 while it might not of been physical cheating, it’s emotional cheating. I’m looking at this from a purely third point standpoint, taking neither one side. But your partner emotionally cheating on you can be just as traumatizing as physically cheating. And yeah maybe she wasn’t ready to get married, but how was she supposed to know that before she got into a marriage? I’m not saying either one of them were perfect, it seems like neither one of them are. they both clearly were not made to be in that relationship with each other, especially from a legal standpoint. However, she’s allowed to be upset that he thought about cheating on her. Well that might be okay for you or your partner, maybe for her that’s not something she felt comfortable with. Everyone has their limits
"he drove me to an abandoned dock at 2 AM it was so romantic" ???
He was planning to skin her and dump the rest of her corpse in the water and ride off in her skin suit but then she started talking about her level 60 wizard and he felt sorry for her.
🤣🤣🤣
@@motog4221 Meh. WTF
@@motog4221 LMFAOOOO
lmao🤣🤣🤣🤣💀
IF ANYONE FROM CUT SEES THIS I REALLY WANNA SEE A TRUTH OR DRINK WITH EX BEST FRIENDS
4:27 bruh don’t argue with a girl about things like that they will remember that forever, if you liked her and didn’t cheat on her ever since that one time you almost did. I would of kept it to myself bro somethings are best left unsaid
This taught me about relationships more than anything else.
The only thing it thought me is that you shouldn't get married when you are not compatible. Opposites work when they support each other through strengths. They are exciting when they are opposite to you as well but the problem is that if they are unable to find a working compromise, their relationships fail. Equals make for good partners but while having the same abilities aso. is relaxed, solving certain issues is far harder.
So when you look for a serious long-term relationship, mark these words and mark them well:
Get to know them almost as good as you know yourself and then ask yourself if you could work together as a relationship in 10 years from now.
Separating knowing that you don’t want to hurt each other and waste each other’s time and being an adult about it is also a form of love.. This looks so healthy.. and real..
Yes. This is how my ex and I separated. I am really proud of how we decided to love and care about each other through it all, even though we were both hurt. We helped each other heal by being each other's friend.
@@orphansparrow2 That's amazing.. Really happy for you..
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@@levinericky8584 bruh what is this comment sheesh
i don’t think she looks happy i think she just got way too emotionally drained and the relationship benefited the guy more than it did her
I think you are literally talking bs, hegemonic feminist
@@danieladelapaz8244 hey love i sense you have some problem with women wanting equality and i really don’t have time to explain why calling someone a feminist isn’t an insult i shared my opinion if you look back at my comment i said think as in its my personal opinion :)))
@@rebeccayoseph8064 how about you do some research on hegemonic feminist.
I think your right, she says at the start that she wasn't able to support him in his career goals....hints how she could feel underbenefited when maybe he wasn't supporting her how she envisioned
She prob lives in his house because the stills plays world of Warcraft. That girl would be on the streets if it were with me.
Whether he cheated or almost cheated, the relationship after that just isn’t the same anymore. Everything changes. We can’t simply forget even if you were remorseful. So glad I didn’t give my ex another chance after he cheated on me. Because if I did I would’ve been living miserably thinking when he would cheat on me again.
ikr
Thinking about cheating is not cheating. If it where then every single person on planet earth has been cheated on.
@@firstlast9916considering women cheat emotionally almost everyday with all of the attention seeking on social media…at least every man who has been in a relationship with a woman has been cheated on.
@@jlehm cheating and jealousy are based on a premise of stealing resources and time away from a married woman by engaging in sex with her husband. The biggest time and resource waster would be when the mistress get pregnant. There is no chance of a mistress getting pregnant by thinking about the mistress. You have to have sex.
Nah I disagree.. It may take a little time to get that trust back going, but most women don't leave due to cheating or "possible cheating". She found someone that she deems stronger, and its obvious that she's getting more enjoyment from this while the guy is clearly in pain. So, whether a man cheats or not is mostly irrelevant when it cones to longterm. It isn't until a woman sees her man as weak that her feelings change..
Anyone else love watching a man be so willing to communicate like this, even with someone whose about to become an ex? Men should be encouraged to be expressive, honest, and open like this sooooooo much more.
It’s also a sign that they both must have really tried. They’re both so communicative like that. So, that makes me happy for them in a way. That they’ve reached the same conclusions together.
Nope. Didn't care. What good would that serve? Who does that help? Diagnosing a car crash after the fact doesn't change the fact that there is a car crash. Pick up your shit and get moving. What is the point in standing there and examining this and that and blah blah. Zero.
Some breakups can be depressing and emotional. Such talks will definitely help in understanding the breakup and coping with it in a better way and moving forward( not suggestive with very toxic patners tho)
@@randohuy9446 so you don’t get into a car crash again lol
It’s not that easy
@@punchn9001 Sure it is. Armchair psychology bullshit is just that. Bullshit.
At first my impression was that they would be good together, but I can see why she doesn’t trust him. I don’t think they belong together at all
I honestly did the same thing he did. Like I didn’t physically cheat on my ex but I did emotionally? By thinking of my other ex while I was with her and not mentioning it for months just like the guy in the vid
Is there no coming back from that fr?
@@bryansconcha depends on your girlfriend, but it happened to me except he emotionally cheated with my bestfriend. I broke it off immediately
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I don't think the mistrust / almost cheating was the fatal issue.
Sounded more like ideology/politics; conservativism/self-interest versus progressiveness/solidarity was the problem
@@bryansconcha I think once you muddy the waters like that it’s pretty much over.
Why is there a divider in the middle lol they live together
It’s because of the virus I-
@@khusmana715 but they live together
@@shifa444 Legally Cut has to
The LIVE together it's literally just for appearances
State laws, they mentioned it in one of their videos
This is so sad..it’s heartbreaking to know that these two were so invested into each other and were so happy together at one point
that one point could've been like the first month
Wow! The fact that they are in the middle of a divorce and yet they are able to sit down, answer questions and have a discussion about their relationship shows how mature they are and how splits can be amicable and not always dirty. I wish those two the best🙌🏽
They are also young and live in a travel trailer. What assets do they have to fight over? We don't know but it is a rhetorical question.
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They're different politically and have different definition of success. That's huge. Try to find someone that aligns with you on those two factors before marriage.
@@pbug867 They can but it's rare. If I were to go on Facebook right now, everyone from high school who was a republican then will most likely still be one now. And it has nothing to do with trying. You shouldn't try to change someone's political beliefs. It's exhausting. There are billions of other human beings who will agree with you, no debate needed.
@Ashley yeah that's my point, they're not right for each other
@Ashley pretty much agreed. The goals can be different only when those goals can actually support each other. Sounds like he’s trying to build a career and be financially successful and she’s trying to play WoW and emotionally cheat on him throughout the relationship while using his resources (as limited as they may be since they live in a van lol).
What ever happened to opposites attract
@@kietey14 if anyone is emotionally cheating it's him
I don't even get why they got married honestly. He thought about cheating on her before they got married and he tried to break up with her several times and she was holding on. All I see are red flags
Same. At least they seem to be level head and mature now
Sometimes heart > brain, when you’re in love you tend to ignore all the red flags unfortunately
@@ana-maria8350 very true Ana-Maria. So we have to sometimes abstract ourselves and see stuff objectively
If those are instant red flags / no gos id doubt barely anyone would get married.
The guy confessing about his thoughts and intentions but actively deciding against it is a big obstacle to overcome and he did his part in trying to get this relationship to work. If he werent invested he couldve cheated and/or broke up with her. I stand by his side since we only know so much of their story and she didnt commit to any "Mistakes" on her part, however minor they may be, blaming him for the majority of their failed relationship.
Who knows what she (almost) did and never told him since she might not have had the guts to let it out.
This also begs the question what lead him to even come close to cheating on her? Sure it might be because hes a truly bad person or he was bored or whatever.
Not trying to "victim blame" herr but therr are 2 sides to every coin.
@@DreamCheesex3 I don’t think anyone was putting all the blame on him, but how could you wanting to cheat on your partner or your partner wanting to cheat on you NOT be a red flag? It clearly signals that something is wrong in the relationship/wrong with the person that was tempted to cheat. Personally I don’t think I could ever be with someone if I know they wanted to cheat on me, I’d be absolutely heartbroken and probably develop trust issues (and trust is crucial in a healthy relationship)
I can tell he is more right wing she is far left. That'll do it.