How to Support and Comfort Someone Going Through Grief | Carolyn Moor | TEDxOaklandStudio

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  • @xo_akiko2755
    @xo_akiko2755 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    Thank you. My boyfriend’s cousin unfortunately took his own life, and this is a huge help in learning how I can support him through this

  • @cheerfulbutterflies1025
    @cheerfulbutterflies1025 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    All I say is “ your _____ misses you too”. I learned that from my son, when I lost my best friend. My pain enormous, and I did not know what to do. This made me realize my pain was valid. I still cry for her, this means she cries for me. I will always miss her… always…

  • @FineAfter30
    @FineAfter30 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    This journey is like no other! 😭💜 but if you're going through some level of grief right now we're going to make it through this! Just hold on! 💜

  • @sauchengng8539
    @sauchengng8539 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    The actual thing starts from 2:50 onwards

  • @lwwarfel5090
    @lwwarfel5090 3 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    So insightful! Thanks to Carolyn from a widow who knows.

  • @juniordesiree8908
    @juniordesiree8908 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    It couldn’t have be said more beautifully , thank you for sharing ✨

  • @vtdiaries
    @vtdiaries 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    So beautifully expressed, I lost my brother few days back and I was sharing my emotions in similar way to my friend who can listen and I was becoming comforter to my father, Sister-In_ Law and kids. I was behaving normally helping them to pass their emotions.

  • @tyleeur3810
    @tyleeur3810 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My neighbor is losing his dad and broke down crying when speaking I was lost of words, thank u for this.

  • @DustinPerezano-ne3dn
    @DustinPerezano-ne3dn 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks for this video. Things and times are very difficult rite now. So, this is helpful. I will pray for you and fammmm...

  • @jadeitejunkie
    @jadeitejunkie ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for making this video.

  • @NevaonnaAlfred
    @NevaonnaAlfred ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you for this...

  • @gkbone8366
    @gkbone8366 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Excellent. Thank You

  • @pennylane2854
    @pennylane2854 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Thank you ❤️

  • @shweshwe_k8177
    @shweshwe_k8177 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My bf lost his cousin who killed himself. I went to his place to provide comfort and support. His family is in another province so he isnt around them. He told me to pack and leave this was during a work day I made a suggestion if I could instead leave on Friday afternoon and that it would also be beneficial for him because he wont drive at night to another province (5hr drive)
    He snapped called me selfish, unrealistic, doesnt understand why i even came. Hates me and wants nothing to do with me.
    I left crying and he further texted that i only care about my feelings and what is good for me and not his family.
    Im just numb 😢

    • @adamannanni
      @adamannanni 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      My bf lost his mom…

    • @adamannanni
      @adamannanni 15 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I’m so sorry

  • @Towjowmojo
    @Towjowmojo 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Very helpful

  • @BeeZerinMou
    @BeeZerinMou 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    it's really hard to reach the acceptance stage. really struggling

  • @katherineb362
    @katherineb362 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    What do you say to a friend when it's the birthday of a loved one that has passed

    • @cosmenherst
      @cosmenherst 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      My late husband died a month before his birthday. I loved it when people wrote something simple like “remembering your husband and thinking of you on this day. Sending so much love!”
      And I always love something a lil sassy like “I can imagine your husband having a heckuva celestial celebration today!”

    • @Lavender_sunshine
      @Lavender_sunshine ปีที่แล้ว +1

      My husbands mother shared the same birthday as our daughter and it’s awful 😢 always the best and worst day for him…

  • @leolynesimon1253
    @leolynesimon1253 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    How can I help my friend grief his wife and he’s taking it very hard

    • @MrJakePaddy
      @MrJakePaddy ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Be there for him dude. Listen to him talk, aid his grief and help keep her memory alive.
      Being here and asking that question obviously shows that you care for him deeply, so just keep being that awesome friend that you already know you are.

  • @sielukettu
    @sielukettu ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thank you 🙏🏼💚

  • @carolmc9183
    @carolmc9183 ปีที่แล้ว +1

  • @Majesticblue
    @Majesticblue ปีที่แล้ว +2

    What do u do when your loved one loses a family member and doesn’t want to see anyone or even talk to you. I wanna be there but she doesn’t want to do anything or see or talk

    • @josepha21_
      @josepha21_ ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yeah man, I’m in the same predicament! My girlfriend lost a family member and I told her that I was going to be there for her, I even try calling her but she never picks up and I’m worried about her

    • @shesageorgiapeach
      @shesageorgiapeach ปีที่แล้ว +4

      PRAY!

    • @kandlrex
      @kandlrex 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Don't fight with her about it. Give her some alone time to process her grief, but you may have to reach out to her, let her know that you're thinking of her and acknowledge her feelings that she is going through, bring her some dinner or snacks that remind her of better days or even something as a tribute to the person that passed such as their favorite drink or food they liked.
      Don't touch her straight away unless she goes in for a hug, let her do most of the talking and don't say anything insensitive to her. You can hold her hand when she is talking to you, If she gets really upset and eyes go glassy or starts crying, then give her a hug.

  • @LifewithBawseNancy
    @LifewithBawseNancy 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    He won’t talk to me 😢 he won’t open up he’s lacking answers and the only way he’s going to start grieving is if he gets answers

  • @mrspoon6742
    @mrspoon6742 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    That opening..., trust a woman to make this about herself.

  • @PokEtiquette
    @PokEtiquette 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I watch 2 hour long TH-cam videos on a regular basis I don’t watch tv but I couldn’t stay focus on this for even 20 secs

    • @xyz1087
      @xyz1087 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      that's on you I'm afraid. this is a very helpful and insightful video

    • @topramen7431
      @topramen7431 ปีที่แล้ว

      Your attention span is bad ig

    • @melindarathke851
      @melindarathke851 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I often put my finger on videos to speed them up. I needed every word of her advice today. She was very helpful!

    • @melindarathke851
      @melindarathke851 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I often put my finger on videos to speed them up. I needed every word of her advice today. She was very helpful!

    • @j_lynsation
      @j_lynsation 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Skill issue

  • @TimDaly-k3c
    @TimDaly-k3c 27 วันที่ผ่านมา

    3 mins of waffle at the start

  • @PokEtiquette
    @PokEtiquette 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The reason it doesn’t have more view is because it to wordy and progression is to slow

    • @keithb_3
      @keithb_3 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      lol i think she made it for other reasons besides views. also makes sense you think it’s too wordy, the way you type makes it seem as if you don’t know too many 6 letter words

    • @topramen7431
      @topramen7431 ปีที่แล้ว

      Maybe you attention span sucks.