How Narcissists Hide Affairs From You
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They get violent when you ask them about it and say you’re stupid or you’re crazy and they go into a fit of rage and say that you’re always accusing them or questioning them and they kind of turn it back onto you or at least that’s been my experience.
Yes, when I acussed/questioned my son's mother (who won't admit it) she got violent- started pushing me/hit pushing as hard as she could, throwing stuff/knocking stuff over, just went wild like I was the POS.
Yup! Guilty as sin when that defensive rage flares up.
EXACTLY! That's how it ended. I asked him why he said he was going out to get something from the store and I felt weird. So I got up and looked and we already had it. WTF? When he got home, he ran into the shower & acted overly happy. I just looked at him. I told him, Listen, we already have what you said you needed from the store so where did you go? Automatically, he started saying I was always getting jealous &( no, I should have gotten way more proactive) then he's starts babbling about how he was doing what he always does and that's taking care of me. Making sure I have everything for work. Like I'm a child. We work together so that day he started drinking. And didn't stop for 3 days. The 3rd day at work, he was so drunk he was acting strange to everyone. Then he slid his finger over his throat like in the movies, when nobody was looking. I thought he was going to hurt me bad. And he did. On the way home, he was cursing me and threatening my life!!! Repetitively and kept it up. Then I sat in the back yard to give him time to calm down & sleep. He woke up more angry & still drunk. I walked to the store and got my first beer because I was scared, tired from work, but too nervous to drink it. So I sat in the yard. He came out raging loud and forget the neighbors. I stood up and he grabbed my hair pulling it out as he drug me to the back door. I'm in shock and scalp bleeding he went inside the house real quick & came back with the coat rack board. He ripped it off the wall!!! He started talking slow and his eyes were demonic. He said you know what id do to you if I didn't have court? I said yes, you'd kill me he said yes and proceeded to beat me with that 2x4!!! Cracked my front tooth, bruised legs and arms and back. As he swung back again, I ran. I was so frightened I hid in a tree. Trying to think of someone to call. But the Narc had taken care of All friends that could have helped me. So I took a chance and called a stranger from work. He drove by 2 times looking for me & I was so scared. I got a ride & help from strangers. My family got me a ticket and I stayed at some strangers house overnight. The next day I was home in the evening. Guess what was waiting for me?? Open arms, trust, love & mostly respect. I'm praying for us All. Blessed 🐝💜🙏🏽 Oh, thank you for this valuable information 🙏🏽❤️💜❤️💐
@@OptimisticSaturnPlanet-yz8mc wow, I just got done reading your comment. That is absolutely beyond insane. Clearly, he is a very dangerous person. I hope you are OK please give an update.
I swear this was my same experience. I caught her cheating so I broke up w her and moved away, but we have a 2 year old so now she tries to punish me be only letting me see our child once a week. It’s insane
You question it, you’re suddenly insecure, jealous, insane, crazy. Nothing more than a distraction to mask their guilt.
So true.
It’s all true though unfortunately!! Insecurity in a wife is really ugly. Sometimes to the point where a man is accused of cheating, he possibly might go through with it!!
PHONE PHONE PHONE PHONE PHONE. Without a cell phone, a cheater is powerless.
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I just blocked one. . she lie lie lie
Worst invention ever cell phone, cheaters love them .
They'll still cheat. They was cheating centuries ago when no phone had ever been thought about
The cell phone is just the main tool cheaters use in today's world
A cheater is just a cheater
It is what it is
The dating sites are full of them, as well as friends of my child’s father’s friends gang stalking and triangulating me for years now. Best to stay off those sites.
Turning the phone away when you walk up on them or turn it over on table ..
Or freaking out why you looking over my shoulder?🤣🤣on laptop or phone
Of turning volume off, stating it's been like that since I got off work, I'm supposed to have volume off and I forgot to turn it back on, or I hate all all those spam notifications all day or those spam calla, ao I turned off volume and incoming calla
All this happened to me. I caught my covert narcissist wife right after the first date she had with her coworker last month. I noticed a sudden change in her behavior and that she is speaking about this coworker constantly. I spied on her and recorded their conversation. They took a half day off went into a hotel room and spent 4 hours. I also heard them say that they have had the best sex ever. This is so evil and sad, especially when you realize that you fully trusted and fell in love with someone who stabbed you in the back. I confronted her that same night and now we are filing for divorce. I just discovered she is a narcissist last week. I need to save my 6 year old daughter from that demon, she is my angel. I pray for my daughter everyday and I hope that our divorce and crazy so-called mother will not affect her life really hard
I wish you good luck im in the same situation but don't know how to do this 😢I'm glad you're doing the right thing.
Remember zero contact if possible stay away never take her back. May God be with you and your daughter
@@javieraguinaga6041 Thank you Javier. God delivers, trust him, forgive her, repent and keep praying. You will become a much better person ❤
Would you mind sharing how you learned what she was up to? Is it an app you can download to record phone calls? I think I've seen this somewhere online. God bless your new, peaceful life! I'm sure it's difficult though. I can imagine how hurt you feel. I wish you the best.
@@lisap3628 I had that gut feeling telling me this isn’t just a relationship between coworkers. My wife wanted to invite him and his wife to our house for dinner and drinks the weekend before, so I thought this would be a perfect chance for me to know more and I was right. The next day I told her that she was flirtatious with him, she denied my accusations saying that we were all a bit drunk and just having fun…
I became more suspicious and wanted to know what is going on, so I took quick actions and searched for professional spying recorders, I bought one and put it in her car. That day, they drove together to the hotel in that car and I heard him saying that he is so excited for their first time together. And that is how I became her nightmare.
Unmasking a covert narcissist is terrible as she became so aggressive and vindictive ever since and especially after I created strict boundaries around our interactions and financial support. I also stopped going altogether with our daughter or meeting together common friends.
The first few weeks were very difficult for me. But I am a righteous and faithful man and I keep praying for God’s help and guidance. I even pray for her to become a better person…
God’s burden is light. He is taking up my pain and he is bearing my suffering. Surely he is the way, the truth and the life
Fight to save your daughter. Even if you fail initially your daughter will realise one day you had her back which will help her cope with the emotional problems she will have to deal with. All power to you brother.
Exhausting, and draining especially when they work with the other one.
They do it right in your face and behind your back at the same time. They want you to feel insecure and unsure but it’s impossible to be THAT fake and hypocritical.
Mine likes the bitter word .
@@EvilTink1_then he shouldn’t be yours, unless you like it too.
@@angelhernandez9550 no I’ve been married to this guy since I was 16 and was used ..I do not like to and I’m leaving as soon as I can
I understand. So cool to finally be done with it. You’ve probably acquired a lot of wisdom from your experience. Make sure you share it. If you do, I’m sure you will save many. I didn’t know anything about this until I was out.
My ex narc built his cheating into his work day. He’d leave uber early and met his flings on the way to work. I also believe that he took days off without my knowledge. He was just gross.
So did mine my husband worked at a community college as a maintenance worker surrounded himself with the young girls and the women that worked there got paid to do it
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They commit to cheating on people and cheating in life's game but they're never committed to life itself
Nope never
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Phone face down, on silent, not even a light. She has a conniption fit if I touch it. ALL text conversations and numbers called deleted all the time, no history. Disappears for hours or days unaccounted for, If you ask about this, it's abuse.
There are multiple women in our circle who have almost destroyed their partners by having affairs and then cried wolf and gas lighting coupled with psychological abuse and made their partners look like they are mentally unstable and watching them break apart and become suicidal was something you wouldn’t wish even on your enemy and putting their children against their dads omg how sad and how heart breaking 😮
Power and control, diminishing our mental status keeps the attention off of them. It’s all about hiding behind their mask and their public image to the world. If they have to make you look insane to do that, they will. It’s all due to their huge egos and their persona that they portray to the world.
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There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without her, I love her so much. wish I can get her back I can do anything to have her back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
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This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks.
You wont regret it
So you forgave her adventures? Her self-finding escapades? I’m proud.
My ex of 3 years did same things .out of town work . Always told me I was over thinkn ..
I have mediation tomorrow and he is in contempt of court again ! He didn’t care about the court order
I suspected and confronted her about it and she made me believe that it was all in my head and that if I didn't get help I could get out. 4 months later find all the text messages and pictures. Confronted her again and her response was,"good for you, get over it"
Well I hope you told her that you had already got over it cause you she's not worth it since she couldn't admit it when asked. That's as bad as it gets when they are ask and they lie straight to your face
@@sandyyoung-boling9336 For whatever reason I have stayed and tried to put the past behind me, but,two years later,I still get triggered and she tells me I'm living in the past. I hate to quit on 40 years together, but I am at my limit. I'm going to have to leave before I end up hating her.
Same thing happened to me, except her excuse was “we weren’t together”. Starting to find out she’s been doing it for years. As soon as me and get in a fight or have martial problems she goes and has unprotected sex.
@@jakelee7657 I've been told the same thing that I'm living in the past and I went through 5years of multiple changes in his behaviors that all pointed to infidelity. Idk i don't have solid proof plenty of things that led me to my gut instinct telling me that something was going on in some way & that he was keeping it from me. We are still married but live apart due to a long story, when I said the hell with this roommate bs and started walking THEN he started scrambling to get me to move forward and just forget all about the broken marriage and lets be us again. 😂yea bc that'll work 🙄thats been 4years ago I see no real effort being put in to us other than words but no actions no respect for our home yet I've never let go.
Yes, my ex said she was going to her sister's house. Watch a movie. Have some wine and talk, she lived a mile away, so I see her on social media (on her cousins page) he videos her and her sister walking into a bar, 90 miles away, in their old neighborhood. I text her, what are you doing in Maywood? She texted back, "There you go, being delusional again!" While im watching her 🤷♂️
Straight gaslighting
I know one thing they do is hide their numbers under the opposite sexes name or even under a business. Other times they may get a 2nd phone while leaving the other one out.
Another thing their behavior changes. They may spend extra time making themselves look better, start more arguments to leave, his friends start to call more
Yes, I experienced all of these! Unfortunately, the flying monkeys were our own kids. To this day, they still just think I just had mental health issues and have gone through estrangement with 2 out of 5. I never put down their dad or told them to truth, because i thought I was imagining things. Fortunately I am divorced and it’s behind me.
So sorry Lauren. Good be with you 🙏🏽❤️
God
Good for you! Leaving is harder than staying.
Oh my goodness thankyou so much for this comment. Yes unfortunately they slowly brainwash the kids right under your nose. Not just kids but the friends you share with them. They will manipulate your family too.
God help and be near you. I also have been Thur it all it’s rough my divorce has been over for decades but still I have trouble but God does help me
Without the phone, he has no life. Text/Calls at night. Text/Calls on vacation. Text/Calls during dinner etc. Not sure how many but its growing
What about asking that person a question, but they answer without even answering the stated question? Or quickly make you the villain! But still never answer the original question?
@@carlosfant5421 EXACTLY 🎯
My ex used to time my trips to the grocery store! If I took too long (by his perceptions), he accused me of having an affair! One time, I was so pissed I replied, “Yes! You caught me. Somehow, I managed to have a wild sexual encounter with the store manager in the dairy aisle, I managed to return home with a car full of groceries, and I did it all in 45 minutes!” Get real! Oh, and yes, he was cheating on me - with several women. The good news is that one of his ladies snapped, gave me all the evidence I needed, and HE LOST EVERYTHING! It’s been five wonderful years since our divorce, and my life is wonderful! If you are with a narcissist, get away ASAP! Life gets much better.
We are our worst enemies...my ex wife was a whole who slept around got pregnant by her boss while we were married....
I saw a physiologist she told me the cheater will always blame the partner for cheating which in my case was true...I could never have been truer...
When they cheat they will ALWAYS accuse the partner.....
Yes, he can’t lie to me! I can see right thru him & people he knows BS! I wasn’t wrong, I am spirituality gifted!! 😢😮❤
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I was married 17 years always suspected my ex over the years all the above happened regularly my goodness you mentioned it all! but at the end all the signs of betrayal slapped me - the Triple A’s the gaslighting the quick trip to the hardware store. I was Done! He had an affair over a year but i couldn’t catch him then he got violent with me again and then had a second affair one month later and that was it!!! I busted his hand with a cell phone bill. I’ve been divorced 21 years never met a good guy thereafter it’s been hard but better than the 17 years of living with narcissist , he married the Second Lady in 2007 claims she is perfect the love of his life. Thank you for all your support
Feels almost like me I was married 18 years then divorced stayed as friends then 3 years after divorce he left me for his friends girlfriend I had a feeling he cheated on me with her and she is a very nasty person Then he said to me she has showed him nothing but love and he loves her after 21 years and she does this. Very hurt full
Everything with the narc is over the top. Using words like this or that is THE best ( my ex had his “dream job” at least three times). Barf.
My narcissist was also a recovering addict who was able to leave the house any day of the week and any time of the day, morning,afternoon, or night because he needed a ‘meeting’ His affair went on for 6 years and I didn’t have a clue. He did go to legitimate meetings too because I was friends with a lot of the other addicts and he stayed very active doing service work and staying clean , but it made it so much easier for him to lead his double life
This totally happens my ex narc was a sex addict. He even admitted he stopped going because it was nothing but a hook up market.
Start an argument with you as a means of justification for them taking off for the night, not coming back home and not answering your call. Does that fall under this category???
Sounds like it does to me!
Yes! I've been thru hell and back. Just now discovering how right I was and just how evil he can be. He's addicted to porn, on dating sites talking to strangers when he could be doing those things with me. Very painful but I'm finally awake and on my way to freedom
My ex-husband said after years of being married, I was boring. He was always looking for excitement and something different that I couldn’t offer.
My ex once told me that "Steve" drove her home from work 2-3 times in the last month or so. I very calmly stated that I would prefer if he didn't. She exploded and she that I cannot tell her who her friends are. This was 5 min after I brought home dinner for the whole family on a Friday evening after work. She argued with me for 10-15 minutes about how unreasonable and controlling and insecure I am. Months later she would pick fights with me after I had some beer and she labelled me abusive. 1 week after that she picked more fights and I went to my parents for the night. She never let me back in and emailed me separation papers. She also packed up all my stuff in garbage bags and hid the cats for a goodbye and my step daughter too. 9 years wasted with her. I'm speechless. I never suspected her of cheating but now looking back....
Putting their lovers name as someone elses name in contacts or not putting a name and just remember the person and say I don't know who that is. They might say they don't like someone to throw you off. They will make time for them when you are at work or when they know where you are. Sometimes call to see where you are or get mad when you don't call to tell them you are on the way home. Alot of people cheat with their coworkers or someone they are around alot. They will tell you things to seem as they are honest with you (half truths) Get mad showing guilt when you ask them a simple question.
Yes, good info. Sneakier ones will even use apps to communicate and then delete the app when not using it.
How do they use the apps for talking or texting another person? How does this work?
I had ALWAYS been a faithful wife….so I know that faithful people can exist. However, I am so pissed off after being faithful to my first husband (he died of cancer) for 31 years, only to be gaslit and tolerate his unfaithfulness……and then getting screwed over again in my second marriage (which is still ongoing for nearly 20 years)…..that I don’t hold out any hope for a faithful spouse in my lifetime! I’m not playing this game ever again! When/if I can break free of this marriage, I’ll just remain single. Apparently, my being faithful means nothing to the men I marry.
Single is definitely the way to go !!
The narc I dealt with literally lied about being pulled over by boarder patrol n was detained after going ghost / mute for hours last Labor Day weekend. He also claimed he was going to a friend bday late at night n never came back until the next morning (late morning). He also disappeared last year Memorial Day to go to amusement parks with his supposed Ex who allegedly cheated on him. Again a bunch of BULLSHIT.
YES. I've gotten it all and more for several years now. worse is...Her Bestie Man friend. Always says they fight but will defend him to her last breath. Has her movie nights and dinner dates or lunches. When caught or confronted I'm the one put in the box on the shelf for weeks and told I'm the one in the wrong. EXAMPLE. I had minor heart attack and she didn't come to hospital... He breaks his toe and she rushes to the E.R. to hold his hand.
I’m 62 yrs .Delt with this 50 yrs ..I now know how to handle him thanks to these wonderful people who helped me through..And I love playing back knocks him off his feet at times …stay strong 💪
You aren’t still with him, right?
Yes all of those signs every single one
Marriage & living together is finished, the flying monkey issue is such a big manipulative tool. Insecurity & boredom are the drivers of adultery. When a man commits adultery he is a rat or worse. When a woman commits adultery she is unhappy, tired, lonely etc. Insecurity eats away at her confidence.
2:39 that’s real, one time I had evidence of her talking to another man. I proved to her, and she said, whoever send you that try to separate us. I was like “ 😧😧 how can you be this hypocrite?”
Yes, they will also say they have to be at work super early like 3am when they actually can't start working construction til 6 am. While I'm sleeping early in the am he would sneak out. He used to come see ME at 3am so I automatically caught on to that. They will also have a lot of females they talk to that are just friends. They also tell on themselves alot because they can't keep all the lies straight. I remember every word he said. I have had 2 narcissist boyfriends in a row. The first one woke me up to it, so I saw the second ones shenanigans right away. I caught the first one red handed with someone else and he told me "no that wasn't me you saw" . I just laughed because that was so ridiculous, of course it was him. He left when he realized he couldn't gaslight me. They also get some kind of kick out of doing things like that right under your nose. Like we would go for a walk and walk right by the other girls apt. The first one used to take my dog with him. Then when I would walk her she would automatically go up to the same door 3 houses down. Come to find out, he had been seeing her for months. Damn I wish my dog could talk to this day! LoL. I'm able to laugh about it now, but then I was so devastated. I had no idea how many real narcissists there are out there! They started praying on me because I'm a really open, honest, and kind person. They mistake my kindness for stupidity!
Yep they sure do only we're not stupid. Good for you for standing up and believing in yourself and not staying with them.
Mine tells me each week he’s going to see her “ mother” then reminds me how this woman took him in during the month I kicked him out. If I confront him that I know he’s using it as an excuse to see her I get the gaslighting then am told I’m just looking for a fight. I actually heard her voice seconds before he hung up the phone on me and he swore it was a kid playing outside 😡😡😡😡
My narcissistic ex-wife always accused me of having affairs whenever I made new friends, whether male or female, but I believe she had a number of affairs when I was with her. Just before I left her, she confirmed my suspicions because I heard her having what seemed to be intimate conversations over her phone and she also was bold enough to tell me our marriage was dead and I was free to have an affair if I wanted to!
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A marriage is over when infidelity occurs..I know some people make it work but with a spoiled brat narcissist who controls you…it’s over…LEAVE!!!
Absolutely!
Indeed
She use to meet up with a guy she met on a hookup app, while I was at work. I thought she was at home taking care of our newborn, as she was on maternity leave. Instead she was meeting up with some stranger in a park at night with our baby in the backseat.
She denied everything for months. Always said they never met in person. Came to find they actually met many times in person. Once she couldn't deny that anymore, she insisted all they did was talk. Later on came to find she was secretly googling paternity testing locations nearby because she found out she was pregnant. All while still claiming they never did anything together.
Very well said. I’m grateful for how you explained it.
You got everything on point! Mine did all of these tactics
Yes...
Just went through all this in the last few weeks. My ex got back together with her still married ex-boyfriend... After all the things I've done for her and she string me along for a year doing the" I need to find myself and I don't even want anything from anybody right now but I love you and I trust you..." treatment on me. There's more to it of course, but this is the comment section on TH-cam and unfortunately I'm not perfect and lost myself a couple of times when arguing with her about certain things. Therapists tell me this was a verbal version of reactive abuse on my end basically because of all the BS and things I should have never had to hear, or deal with, or that she should have ever done if she was a healthy person.
Very sad and enraging stuff after all the confusion and lies... Feeling a lot better now after not talking for almost a week and having blocked her number. Hoping to stay strong I'm hoping I don't run into them, I will be hard because I live like three blocks away.
Oh my goodness this all happened to me. My ex husband contacted his ex while i was pregnant with my second child. He invited her to stay with him in a hotel to " hook her up with his Army buddy". He always accused me of cheating . He also took " business trips". Its amazing how many people he manipulated.
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Narcissists do a ton of projection. Basically they accuse you of what they’re up to. Mine’s poison is parental alienation. She kept accusing me of trying to turn the kids against her. 3 out of 4 won’t talk to me anymore. I’m very obviously totally rubbish at parental alienation 😂 take note of what they accuse you of. They’re expressing both their guilty secret and fear
@@robdegrilla2618 thankyou for this comment now i dont feel so alone. Thid is exactly what happened to me and now my kids will always take his sude because he constantly plays the victim. Sadly in cases like this the kids find out many years down the road who the victim really was. You know what though the way i see it is we both know the truth and we did our best to live life honestly. The narc may be getting away now but not forever.
@@priscillaL83 I believe so. When you’re out of the picture the narc has lost their scape goat to project all their sins onto. It raises the risk that others are subject to the behaviours and inability to self regulate. I also think that narcissists carry their own hell with them. They seem hyper vigilant, as though they think everyone is like them and going to backstab them. Apart from sugar hits from acts of cruelty, I don’t think narcissists can experience happiness
@@robdegrilla2618 thats exactly what it is. I think thats why they get meaner as they age because all the kids left hime and spouse is gone too so they have no one to give them supply. It amazes me how many people they manipulate against you right under your very nose. Due to the lack of resources on this disorder back in the day i wasnt educated earlier on it so i fell victim to narcissist quiet a few times. I am a very empathic person so we can be sniffed out pretty easily. I am so glad that more people are being educated on this.
Me he was a recovering addict and alcoholic and he would get tel nos of other women at his meetings (alcholics anonymous/narcotics, etc) and he constantly told me I was jealous, it was all me. I always felt in my gut he was lying all the time wanting to hook up with someone else. I wish I would have known this, your talk, 20 yrs ago. Yes yes
I’m always being called crazy he brings in everybody else into the issues saying everybody thinks I’m crazy also he will tell me I am Hallucinating that what I seen or heard is crazy that I am insane. Oh my goodness you have no idea what you do but wow.
As humans we are always evolving.
Thanx for sharing on how I should be a better narcissist!
Great information//yeap, I've experienced those
Yes.! Exactly .! you hit it spot on thank you!
Yes, everything you said is scary and accurate as to what I experienced.
Yes, all of this. 30 years of being together and 26 years married .... Can't believe how much I was put down latterly, he acted like a cuckoo in a nest. Am in a much better place now divorced, it hasn't been easy. Onwards and upwards to a much better place 🙂🙏
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Me too
Hi I have seen this my whole marriage thats crazy and they make you feel nuts ive been accused of cheating so many times im just over it thats what I get for being faithful
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You're right again Rebecca..!
You described my prettier half to a tee . Thank-you . Was unsure .
The creative disclosure is good - On top of "building a business"
Yes, I've seen this .I deserve the best loving ❤️ ❤️
Yes the use of all of those
Other ways: play dates for kids , worker coming to the house to repair, deliver , advise, estimate, install or adjust.
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Yesssssssssssssssss all facts... trying to get out of one of four years
yes especially in changing of appearance
and in the dousing of cologne 😅
Yes, you told my story basically word for word, except it was a garage, she locked me out after rushing the neighbor over.
Projection is a very real thing. I'm constantly accused of flirting or staring at other women. Interrogated about what I've been doing, where I've been, who I was with, etc. It's seriously exhausting.
Move away from this type person asap....
How about when they steal your mail, so they have addiction money then blame you that you don't pay bills.
Thank you
Rebecca you have mastery of the narcissist
Anyone who cheats hides it, narcissistic behaviors or not. Cheaters cheat
Cheaters lie and cause damage. Of course it’s intentional. How do you accidentally have a romantic sexual emotional relationship with someone else. ?
They hide it because they don’t want to stop.
Nor are they ready to leave you physically. But in every sense of the word they have already left.
They just don’t want you to know.
@@ramassist2 where'd ya comment go buddy! No crap it's intentionally done and yeah, how can you accidentally have an affair?
Yes . How about they tell you that a guy keeps trying to hang out with her and she kinda puts him down and says she would never hang out but the day you leave he's hanging out with him
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Yes mine hated nights all of a sudden he started working nights YUP HE DID ..
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Absolutely YES you everything correct
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Yes. I was told it was business. He'd yake ideas we'd talk about. My aspirations dreams, then He'd run to other women pretend it was his idea, & lure them in, then pretend it was another business idea the woman had that needed his help implementing. He'd target women with children to pretend he was into helping the yout. Then He'd set up a playdaylte with our child & theirs @ homeboys house, & tell me I needed a Mommy day off & suggest I go to the casino with a friend of mine, he knew she stayed for long hours, & since I was riding with her he knew I wouldn't be back for a while. I didn't catch any of it right off it took me a while to notice our lack of spending time together. He would blame it on video shooting, model photography, and never brought money home, saying he was bartering services in exchange for the experience.
Yes yes absolutely right
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Im going through ALL of this but I cant proove it. If i question him, i dont get dinner He uses money to control my behavior ...just all of it I scared to leave
I had a hunch that i dated one that had cheated on me. She lied stating that the guy was gay. The moment i saw the text and confronted her... statin the text said: I love you with all my heart... and I mentioned no too many gay guys that i knew had said this to a female unless they were close friends. So I woke up early one morning and her phone was flashing on and off... so i decided to look and i saw all sorts of text messages. When i look pictures of it and showed her what was said because she couldn't say i was lying... she was caught
Yes. I am going through now
The narcissist family and friends will help them cheat
Hello my 1st time listening
They just start a ridiculous argument break up with you storm out for the night/day and return after the affair to “fix” things in their mind they didn’t cheat if you broke up. had a couple of exes like that. 😂
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My boyfriend denies ever having said something yet it was recorded on his channel while streaming. He has a selektive memory.
They always try to befriend the wife of the giy they are sleeping with
Currently going through this. My bride (which I am divorcing) got caught by her new guys Fiancé. The Fiancé mopped her ass and my wife called the cops and got the fiancé locked up which I believe is weak!! You got caught, own it!! My bride has been back peddling ever since! Fake and ✌
Yes! All of it! She had multiple affairs. I opened our home computer snd she left her email open, she was messaging a coworker explicitly. When confronted, i was a controlling psycho etc- she told me that people she worked with thought there was something going on between them so thats why the joking around. I said let me process that- then i asked “so your coworkers think something is going on, and to get them back you two emailed each other messages like that on your personal emails no one would ever see?” Then said why would they think that? I have been in many womens offices at work over 20 yrs and never once was part of a rumor. Then i was told i dont get it. Whatever!
I'm focused on paying my bills and payments
She went through my phone every morning when I got back from work.
So I returned the favor.
"That's a BETRAYAL!" she screamed.
Then I looked through her journal and her day planner.
Sucks to be her.
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Honestly, still waiting for the divorce to be final.
I keep asking when they r done it and a few snitched on him just tell me sooo I can leave .my youngest is 20 and as soon as I get her independence im out
yes i have seen all of this from my friend
Yes all above 😢
💯 Yes.. support
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All of the above.
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I’m so blown away by your work ma’am. I’m engaged to a woman who is showing every single sign you’ve shared in this video. She works with a guy that she says is gay, but they’re taking pictures together and she says they’re working on various projects together. I have no idea if he’s really gay, but since she’s been working with him we’ve mot had sex. She claimed she was having an issue with her body but never mentioned anything until I brought up our celibacy. I’m exhausted from worrying and concerns over another person. Lies, gaslighting, and when we were having sex it’s like there’s no emotion. She used to be a beast in bed. There’s so much I could share….
Just leave her. Don’t move on, it is a fatal mistake turns crime
its grown stale and predictable thats why. its almost a chore to have sex now. regardless if you want to save the relationship or end it, you need to take time apart. you cant miss someone who is always there. missing someone=attraction, attraction=bomb sex
she needs to worry about you, "am i losing him, is there another women in his life, i wonder what hes up too"? thats all signs of missing someone. if they dont feel like they are losing you? they wont change a bit cause they know youll be waiting there for them when they are finally ready
@@Tra1tors Thank you so very much. I’m exhausted from her toying with my emotions; saying one thing and doing another. Knowingly putting me in situations to try to embarrass me and she plays as if I orchestrated the situation.
@@WilliamWebb66 you have to walk away. results come when you stop caring
It took eight yrs.he told me he loved me and three months to take it back few times in the same bar if a guy comes to talk to me he comes over saying that I'm his girl his phone is locked tighter than any jail
All of them and hundreds more.
Yep all of it.
I've been married to mine for 32 years. I realized he's a narcissist only a little over a year ago. Everything you're saying is everything I've gone through for the whole relationship. What I don't understand is does he know he's doing this? Or has he set out to do this to me? Looking back there have always been signs but I was young and dumb and just ignored them. There's no reason for me to stay but I feel guilty for wanting to go. I don't know what to do
Pray about it ask God make a way
It's almost like I'm afraid to know if it's true and my gut screams YES! HE'S REALLY DOING THIS. Then when reality sets in I have to confront it. 😢
"Yes"
He used to high his phone under his pillow on Silent all the time
The word, "narcissist" has been bastardized. A narcissist has been conflated with a manipulative, self serving, self absorbed, inward thinking, arrogant, egotistical, self righteous person. Simply put, they are not the same. You're entire premise is flawed. Keep up the good work.❤
This is good
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My narc father used me (when I was a child) to hide his affairs, often claiming he was taking me to “play in the park” (he was playing around, all right bur not at the park).
He denies it to this day, even coming up with excuse after excuse to blow it off with.