My Wife Wants To Be A Stay-At-Home Mom
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- My Wife Wants To Be A Stay-At-Home Mom
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My friend left her teaching job and now earns her income by helping other parents homeschool if they need to work or if they just need some help in navigating their new way of schooling. Great things happen when moms come together! Not easy, but WORTH IT!
If she is a full time teacher and their combined income is around $80k it sounds like his photography gig is more of a hobby than a business.
He's going to need to step up and make some extra money too.
Exactly. And being she is in northern VA, where the cost of living is nuts, she is probably making 70k at least. He is a scrub
Bingo.
Absolutely
He needs a real job.
He sounds like a whimp.
Sounds like she's the main breadwinner. I'm surprised Dave didn't help the man figure out how to provide more.
Fefail empowerment? I thought you liked it this way.
@@wewhoareabouttodiesaluteyo9303 other women don't speak for the whole gender. Don't be sexist. With your logic because some men are pedophiles then all must be.
I agree with Dave. Start planning and get things in motion. But realistically most women can't work from home uninterrupted with very young children. I can't tell you how many meetings my son has interrupted meetings and such. You also risk kids getting hurt if you're not watching them 24/7. It only takes seconds for them to do something. Now CPS is on your case and stuff. Being a SAHM and working from home is a great idea in theory but hard in practice. Her best bet will be to take students in the evening or on weekends when her husband can watch the baby.
Easy: Put the kids in the microwave during work hours
I have to agree with you. Having kids is the ultimate in distractions.
It's not fair to paying customers to be distracted by a baby. I'm saying this as a mom myself. If my kids tutor showed up to a session whether online or in person with a baby in tow it would be a hard no from me. Realistically, it will involve outside childcare or both parents going down to part time which isn't the same thing as being a full time SAHM.
@@kara2162 Yea. She could just store the brats in the microwave during business hours. Solves all her problems
A photographer is typically not a job that you can have a stay at home wife and be comfortable unless he is one of the best.
Not necessarily. Lets say you charge $1500 for a wedding, most of it is profit once you own the equipment. If you get a wedding once a week, that's $6k a month. Now, you have the rest of your time to do other photography jobs.
If she is teaching full time it's likely she provides the medical insurance for the family. Loss of job = loss of insurance and 401K match. This might not be a good idea.
Dave and the husband have this lady still working! 😆 RARE for Dave!
I totally agree there is side money to be earned to help her husband. I wanted to stay home with my babies so badly that I was willing to watch other peoples kids so I could. I always thought even if my time was divided between my kids and the children I was caring for at least I was able to give them a little more than a 9-5 mom and I knew my kids needs were met.
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I think its really smart because you also will have something to do when the kids become teens which isn't that far away. So many women suddenly find themselves bored and trapped because they have no work when the kids get older.
If you do your role and she does hers and you are both financially reponsible and want it I don't see the problem.
Daycare is expensive. You may have a job where you pay the amount you get in on daycare. You should be financial stable before you have kids.
How do they only make $80k a year? Many teachers in Northern Virginia make over $100k a year, so even as a newish teacher she should be making at least $70k, is he making any money? Something is not adding up here.
@@iamnotgonnagiveyoumyname1373 You miss the point. Her not working isn't missing out on a little income, it's literally 80% or so of their household income in one of the most expensive areas in the country. There is no way she cannot work unless they are independently wealthy outside of their income.
@@ozzyngcsu your post is rubbish. The TOP range for an elementary school teacher in VA is around $70k. Assuming the husband makes around 40K would mean at most she's making 30K. Point is even in the best care scenario you're wrong that she's making 100k that's what university professors make.
They take home $80K/year. So their gross income would be above $100K.
@@billvigus3719 Teacher salary is not determined by the state, it is paid based on the county. Assuming she works in the largest county (Fairfax) in her area (Arlington and Loudoun pay 10-20% more), a first year teacher starts at between $51-61k a year.
No way he makes more than her as a photographer.@@billvigus3719
As usual, a subject that SHOULD have been discussed PRE-wedding and PRE-baby. But what do I know. . . .
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This happens to a lot of women after having a baby. I was full-on career girl, had a baby, and suddenly wanted to stay home. Didn’t happen, but the desire was there. Also, it’s exhausting to do the wife, mom, demanding full-time job gig. Obviously not impossible but it’s not for everyone.
Tutors can make great money especially if its a math tutor and they can do it from home.
Be careful tutoring from home. There can be liability issues. Also, in a home environment it can be more difficult ending sessions with parents wanting to stay around and talk. If you're going to tutor, check out study space at a local library.
@@user-rk1ie8lh4l Get insurance. It wouldn’t be much. Don’t let the parents come in and talk. Boundaries enforce respect.
Virtual tutoring would work as well.
If she quits her teachet job...who wil pay the bills????😷😷😷😷😷
You never know how well those children are being taken care of in daycare. People should either stay home and raise their own children or not have them. Instead of buying large homes and newer cars, put your kids first.
You think this would work for every couple? Imagine two doctors trying to do this. Get out of here with this absolutely awful take.
Pretty ignorant comment. When you put your kids in public school from 7-3 are you a bad parent because you're not raising your kid 24/7? What ignorance
@@billvigus3719 from a non parent, you?
@@billvigus3719 Older children can tell their parents what happened at school. A one year old can’t, Brainiac.
@@kathyann9643 what an absurd remark. That's why you vet the daycare where you're going to send your kids. You put your kids in the cheapest shadiest daycare you get what you pay for. Smart comment though 👍
I love Dave but he is giving advice that he didn't use for his own family. Follow what Dave did-not the advice he's giving. He didn't tell Sharon this when they were in debt. Sharon stayed home and raised his kids and he took care of the finances.
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Sounds like they can’t afford for her to stay at home
However parents can organize their work schedules so that they are adequately raising their kids is paramount. They don't need a huge house with lots of fancy clothes and toys/gadgets. They need a stable home, food, water, and unity in the household. Money is good, but it should not be the top priority when it comes to your family.
Agree!!
Money first
Reposting this comment:
It's not about large homes and newer cars. parents are usually working so their kids don't live in poverty or near poverty. things like college education too. I personally would rather have a paid for or mostly paid for education than a stay home parent. So disingenuous to say that working and bringing in an income is not "putting your kids first". In 2021, a bag of groceries cost $50-$60 and two incomes are often necessary unless you want your kids to grow up poor
Agreed. She can start the business now and there is a lot of opportunities for teaching online!
Where’s she gonna store her kids while she’s teaching, in the microwave?
Online with a toddler under tow? Maybe during nap time.
@@kara2162 right. Toddlers still take afternoon naps.
@@kindgritbooks95 . Mine stopped napping at 2,5. Is she supposed to invest in a business that she can run for 2hrs a day? It's a huge reach that Dave told her she can sustain 50k a year. Not without childcare.
@@kindgritbooks95 😂😂😂
Would love to hear a follow-up on this call next year to hear how the business is doing.
Or you downsize and let do whatever it takes to be a stay at home mom and focus on her children. Money ain't everything, your family is.
AMEN. Thank you.
Working parents love and support their kids as much as SAH one's do and also may also provide an extra level of support of safer neighborhoods and opportunities. Amen to that
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@@billvigus3719 negative. It is impossible for a working mother to support her family in the same way a mother that does not work does. Once they are in school, rock and roll but daycare does not offer the same support mom can. Mom wants to stay home and home school? Make it happen.
@@eriknichols4148 please explain the impossibility. Please also explain why once the kid is in school the kid is suddenly able to be perfectly fine without the 24/7 impossible support of the mom. Finally Please explain how millions of children have flourished with two working parents which you said is impossible.
Christie's book might do her well, from the guy's voice sounded like the wife was sick of teaching
Simply reply "I want to be a stay at home dad"
Let women stay home and raise those kids and take care of the home!! It's the way it should be. If her focus is on making money than it's not on her daughter and husband.
Wow lol
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If you want to be a simp, sure
I agree, unless it’s just a couple of hours a week for pin money.
@@ryanschickmusic if she is taking care of the home and kids then that’s not being a simp.
My wife is a stay at home mom. She home schools the kids. I love it. Wasn’t the plan but it’s working great! Best part is taking trips when orther kids are in school!
So happy for you guys! My husband was homeschooled. We will be doing it too
Women want equality, so get to WORK! They get what they asked for.
Never major in photography in school
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Maybe the dude can tutor and keep his side photography job.
My advice to men reading this, don't have kids untill you are 35. Don't get married until you have a career.
@Cookie Food for women, not for men.
@Cookie Food ideally, but that’s not always the case. By then, those kids will be grown and having to watch after the family they created. It’s best to have things set up for your own future. Some kids make bad decisions themselves and some parents end up helping them out in their adult years. So many things can happen, never rely on anyone else for anything.
I respect that you are addressing the men
As a teacher with a decade of experience who is studying engineering so I can leave I can confidently say it had nothing to do with politics. I'm sick of being under paid. The end. Raise the pay for teachers or watch the crisis worsen.
It will never happen. Same as law enforcement.
@@thereelaccountant9246 yeah that’s why I’m leaving.
Raise the quality and get rid of the teacher unions. Then the good teachers can make money.
The caller didn’t even have a chance to ask his question.
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Sell the kids, sell the wife, beans and rice...
Overseas English tutors is a great option. You don't leave your homes, you kids come to you on the computer.:)
Mr. Ramsey is inspirational
Inflation is rapidly rising
Real estate prices are the highest in USA history
Work 80 + hours a week
Live minimalist
The problem of tutoring is it happens after schools and before kids go to bed and sometimes weekends. So basically at your prime hours where you want to be with your kids. So a steady 9-5 is better. Always the same struggle with news parents: need money and have no time. The only solution is to work for a crazy hour rate. If you are a specialist, good for you. But this does happens in one night, it took a good planning since high school and dedication. A co-worker STAH wife told me once at the Christmas party “Oh, lucky you! I didn’t there is woman in this team. You are the only woman engineer here!” I reply “ yes! I’m a pretty lucky girl! I found a diploma inside my cereal boxe a couples years ago!” Lol
That being say, I think the States need to have more families friendly policies to helps work and family life. In Canada, we have 1 year maternity leaves! And as a woman , I will highly recommend to this new mom to keep a active working life, even if she decide to reduice the amount of working hours, because you never know what kind of curl ball life will throw you.
We both worked and had careers AND had kids. It can be done and our kids are grown, happy, and successful.
You're in the wrong comment section. This place only has judgmental christians chomping at the bit to declare how unloving your parenting strategy was
@@billvigus3719 Yeah, I've met a few 🙂
@@billvigus3719 Lol, genius 😉. I’ve done both and I’ve learned that people will be judgmental either way. I used to heat about not being there for my kids when I worked and now it’s an issue to not earn my own income so oh well 🤷🏽♀️
I do enjoy being a housewife but having a job works out fine too. She could always teach virtually too if finances are a concern.
Wow that’s a bold suggestion lol.
I like it. Might consider it myself.
Hope she does well
Do it, I went self employed at the beginning of the lockdown and I ended up making more and I feel more motivated. Its more work but its way more satisfying than when you're employed. Make sure you start doing it on the side first and know you can make some money first though.
@@littleripper312 awesome, congrats! And thanks for the feedback. I’m going to make that my goal
Perhaps he should step up and be a provider.
If she's willing to smile like a donut every night he gets home, maybe he would
Perhaps she should step up and be a provider too.
In prehistoric times, men generally hunted and women generally gathered. BOTH provided for their families. BOTH protected their families from starvation and other dangers.
Western housekeeping and childcare are WAY easier these days. We have electricity, HVAC, appliances, internet, and public schools.
For all the men who want their wives to provide and protect them, hey-we need more like you in the military 🤦🏼♀️🥴
Oh nonsense. You dont have to keep kids home until they go to school.
Wives actually do provide for them by holding down the house. That is like base camp of sorts. They are the healers before you go back out and hunt in the world.
I’m sorry but what? I’m not sure why in the US Stay Home Mom means you take care of the kids, house, dinner AND run a business while look good doing that? That’s insane. And the guy does what? Goes out to take few photos? Women have way too many expectations put on them.
If she wanted a man who was going to be the breadwinner and allow her to stay at home she should have picked a guy who makes good money like a tradesmen. Although her starting her own business will probably be a better long term strategy for her because it will mean she will have work after the kid(s) grow up.
Im a very busy mom, working outside of my home. Everytime I go home from work, I have no energy to take care of my kids and manage my household. Im just too tired and mentally exhausted. I want to stay home with my kids and have a nice and clean home. But my husband wants me to work and grind because he thinks that SAHM are lazy people. I earn money so much more than him and since he wants this equality, I let him do almost all the household chores because Im bringing more money than him and I just sit all day on the couch on my off days. He even wants me to do some side hustle, I told him that he should be the one who should bring the extra cash because hes the provider and the man of the family. Men nowadays are feminized and weak. When I had my kids, I never thought of wanting to be a SAHM this bad because my mind was so conditioned that being a career woman is the only way to go. I was wrong. I guess I just married the wrong guy because all he cares for is the money that I should be contributing to run our home. I have no respect left for my husband.
I would definitely call into the show with your situation. It might be scary, but you can do it!
There’s a difference between a mother having to work for the very basics of life, to working for more. Basics being a house just big enough to accommodate a family, basic food etc.
Tutoring will involve the baby being in some sort of childcare. Dave is so out of touch on this. He's asking her to start a tutoring business with a baby in tow?! I'm a mom myself and I wouldn't pay for that. The husband probably only makes 20k as a photographer. He needs to step up.
He does need to step up. But most tutoring is done during the evenings and on weekends. She can be with the kid during the day then he can take over and she can tutor in the evenings.
@@MCgrease08 Great point.
I was just joking with my parents the other day about how my old SAT tutor makes bank and how it's unfair because she works a fraction of the work required of a public-school teacher and never even had any professional qualifications for teaching (dropped out of med school because she was scared of blood). And all that for a stupid test that mean's very little in the grand scheme of things. But yeah, tutoring companies make a lot of money.
the companies make a lot of money, the tutors not so much. I worked for a company who was charging $135/hr and the tutor would only get $35/hr.
Photographer? Yeah, loser making 10k is probably the case. Every person in the world now is carrying a high quality camera in their phone so how much upside can there possibly be? Get a real job bud
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Photographers do events such as weddings, engagement photos, sweet sixteens, etc. No ones relying on their cell phone for professional photos of their wedding 🙄
Dave incorrectly assumes that the wife wants to work from home. She doesn't really want to though. If they start a tutoring business, it's going to be all the husband's work, so he should do what he's good at. The wife should consider working until the debts are paid off because otherwise they might not be.
I think she wants to work but the way the world is now they are strong arming these teachers
Dual income is always best but do what makes you happy
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Great video, thank you so much. Best regards Greg
Wife has to be a self-starter to do this. Notice how the husband is calling Dave not the wife. In my opinion not viable unless the wife commits to bringing in the same income. 80k combined with debt remaining is not going to allow for a great standard of living in the first place.
Agreed Especially living in one of the most expensive areas in the country
Sounds good. I worked for 30 years. I retired and now I’m a stay at home Husband. At 50 years old. Retired not working. EQUALITY! I, husband, can do what my wife did for 30 years. Love it!
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Lots of integrity and respect, I’m sure.
80k in NOVA? Wow.
She still needs child care. Obviously people make comments and have never taught children. Talking to them on Zoom is not teaching of tutoring. You needs in person interaction.
I see a lot of people arguing as if they don't understand companies hire some people on peenies for the dollar, that is the true reason why they don't want you to speak about wages. And most of these underpaying companies also try to treat you like dirt.
Have you thought of a business name yet ? It now exists .
You can’t tutor while the baby is at home. Baby now needs to go to Daycare during the day. Can the tutoring gig outpace the cost of daycare? Depends.
You've clearly never heard of Zoom.
Tutoring happens after school. Parents would need to coordinate caring for the child. It’s good for both. Mom gets a break and dad builds a bond.
Another caller who can’t get to the question without offering irrelevant information.
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Can I build a business with sewing but for beginners… are there people out there who want to learn how to sew basics
You can build a business teaching people anything. There are probably people out there who want to learn how to be a travelling yodeler.
I feel like this advice is so insensitive to the wife. The work of having a baby and keeping house is almost always, overwhelmingly, the woman's job and he wants her to add building a business on top of her 9 to 5? Sounds like a recipe for mental breakdown and burnout
She's a teacher but wants to be a stay at home mom? Umm.. you she has summers off and works 8-4.. do not let her quit!
The wife needs a better husband. She would be better off marrying someone who can support her and her child financially
Maybe he need a better wife. She can work 60 hours a week. And he can be a stay a dad.
@@az21bob666Men provide. Don’t forget that.
I’ll be honest: having just ONE breadwinner at home is very burdensome. Plus, once the kids go to school, what will the mom do all day long?
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I would love a copy of that book you mentioned! can you send a link?
Nah no more excuses tons of stay at home jobs now
It doesn't work well to work from home while trying to take care of your children too. While you're working, you need childcare. Otherwise, you're either going to have tons of work interruptions, or you're risking unsafe children because they're not fully supervised.
This is why the man has to always be prepared to cover a woman’s job. People do this 50/50 bs and women will switch up on you real quick and then shame you about what you’re unable to do if you can’t cover things.
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This is really a problem for a lot of women who have babies and then decide they don’t want to work anymore. It’s not fair to husbands/father’s to put the financial burden of being the sole provider on his shoulders, especially when neither of you makes that much money to begin with. If she can build a successful business, she’s going to find that she can’t do it with a baby around. She will still have to hire help or use daycare. She is going to be stressed out - taking care of a baby all day, do the day to day home thing - dinner, bills, laundry, cleaning, etc and run a business.
Hold up, Patti. There are more variables to to consider before saying who’s being fair to whom. It’s very possible that the wife is the one making most of the money. He said their combined income is $80k and the average teacher pay in VA is around $60k which means he’s probably earning peanuts for his work and she’s the breadwinner. If that’s the case then he is the one who needs to step it up and make money. It would have been interesting to know the breakdown of the debts. Again, it would be a totally different story if it turns out it’s mostly his debt when he’s probably not making the bulk of the income.
Dave is wrong on this one . So u let the bread winner just transition to something else and not have a plan to keep income level during transition? Nightmare waiting to happen but ok lol
I have no husband or kids but I wanna stay home w my kid baby if I have etc. But im a reseller ill strap my baby on me n take photos and list of needed
As long as she's earning, OK. Anyone who depends on another adult for their income and their pension is taking a massive, reckless risk.
Because in 2021 there is no work from home jobs available…..
It’s almost impossible to work at home with a child running around. Most employers don’t allow it.
Any tips on how to get through to the Ramsey line? I never have any success!
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Now a days the rebels are the one who actually want to stay at home and raise their kids.
Right now with shortages and the hostile political environment there are huge opportunities. All the opportunities are to start businesses. There are not American made products on those boats and people who work for themselves work for the greatest boss in the world.
First mistake you got married. Second mistake you had a child. Don't make the third mistake and let her stay home. Alimony buddy. These broads know what they are doing.
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No, he needs to be a stay at home dad and she needs to work outside the home.
I wondered about that. His schedule seems more flexible.
No, just put the kids in the microwave during business hours
Good suggestion but this assume she is a good teacher. I have gone through the American public school system. It is pretty stink. I learned nothing until I enrolled in a good university.
You know Lara went through everything with this guy, make sure you’re in a good reception area, take it off speaker, speak clearly into the phone, etc.
Most women I know want to Become sahm
Until their kids go to college
She can teach on cambly as she is a teacher
I always found these advice crazy he should work harder so she can do less.
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It’s crazy how sexist this is he has to go get another job because she want to stay home what about if it was the other way around they would have call him all sort of things and say he can’t stay home
Man... that haircut is rough!
Tell me again why women go into post secondary education if their final intention is to be a stay at home mom? What a waste of money, time, and effort! I can't believe some of the latest RS highlights where you have doctors/teachers/etc (female) where the mom wants to leave her position permanently. (admirably)
Maybe because of all the risk and turmoil of this pandemic! We are living in uncertain times - very upsetting hope it all ends soon!!!!
Probably for a similar reason that guys will spend $200k on degrees in fields they never work in.
how stupid
Please don't "tutor" in public areas of public libraries. It's obnoxious and poor form.
Find space, conduct business. Done.
"Poor form" is libraries not having designated space/rooms for tutoring.
Are there even people in libraries to interrupt anymore?
HE needs to get a side hustle if he’s a photographer😂
What the name of the book he said again
You can't rewatch a 4 minute video?
Get her working other when the divorce comes she gets more because you are her provider lol
"... ish". The words of a beta.
Woah what happened to women equality and pay gap shinanegans.
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Let us all be woke: what is the male role at this point in time?
Moms should quickly throw their babies to day care, right? She you can sit and do video games? While she works to support you? Get real.
Women are the only people that would think "hey I got a husband and a new baby at home and I wanna stay home with the baby. We make 80k combined which spoiler alert is not that much. And second that's cut in half if she stays home." I got nothing.
Sorry need not needs
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Kinda misleading title.
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Why are we losing our best servants in every area?
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Ooof, I always feel iffy with SAH partners. If it is serious medical conditions, retirement, or they can make independable income, then they can be SAH. Just being a SAH is just not wanting to work 9-5 job and depend on the partner/spouse to do all the work and earn a stable income.
Would love to see the genders reversed.
No, those procedures are expensive. They couldn't afford that.
Teacher lol sbes making no money dhe can do teach online.... or teach English over seas. Online
Clock in clock out job? That man doesn’t need that. This dude on the side with that dough bag haircut feeling himself cause he paid a little debt off and gets to set next to Ramsey
Honestly, it should be a crime in this day and age to be a stay at home. The charge should be "putting a burden purposely on a breadwinner to produce way above his potential".
Tell us you fail as a man without telling us
@@Sara-9865 No, the men who negotiated feminist laws did not know what they were doing.
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