Should I Quit My Job And Become A Stay-At-Home Dad?

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  • @melzerzvlogz6027
    @melzerzvlogz6027 2 ปีที่แล้ว +74

    He should be a stay at home dad if he wants to. Dad's can love raising their kids as much as moms do. They are just as capable.

    • @Scarface_445
      @Scarface_445 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      That wasn't the issue, Dave said he can. The issue at hand is he is capable of bringing in 200k a year, why not find, as Dave said, an analyst job that would provide 60-90k a year with reduced hours.

    • @Scarface_445
      @Scarface_445 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Also jumping from a stress filled job, and automatically just stopping. That is a huge crash on your routine and system. See it like people who have worked all their lives, who suddenly stop...Alot of em miss working. Routine runs our lives more than we wanna say it does.

    • @jfs5873
      @jfs5873 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@Scarface_445 The funny thing is that whenever a woman making a lot of money wants to be a stay at home mom, Dave always goes on about how noble it is of her and how she should do it with no hesitation!

    • @kgormankmhb
      @kgormankmhb 28 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      @@Scarface_445if he does it right, he won’t be just stopping….he will be way more stressed raising 2 girls as well as educating and socialising them for years and years of their lives most likely with not much of a break. It’s not an easy thing at all especially for a dad who is not female and will probably find it very hard to understand and communicate effectively with his daughters. Kids taken out of school, although potentially a good thing, takes some serious work , dedication and energy

  • @chickencharlie4539
    @chickencharlie4539 2 ปีที่แล้ว +220

    If the roles were reversed, Dave and Ken would say to the wife to quit today.

    • @bobbyb7672
      @bobbyb7672 2 ปีที่แล้ว +27

      Exactly!

    • @jimroscovius
      @jimroscovius 2 ปีที่แล้ว +37

      I like Dave, but he's 2-faced on this.

    • @Slipy300000
      @Slipy300000 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That was my feeling at first (like dude don’t give up your independence to watch kids all day and make PB and J sandwiches!) However if the wife was calling in as a high income earner. I think he would have advised her to keep her income. I am just not sure if she was lower income than her Husband if he would have advised her to keep her leg in the game but I kinda think he would have.

    • @aislcsales
      @aislcsales 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      Yes of course. Women are happier at home

    • @1jw298
      @1jw298 2 ปีที่แล้ว +26

      I would too. I like Gods version of the family instead of the culture of today

  • @elizabethdumas4147
    @elizabethdumas4147 2 ปีที่แล้ว +178

    Sounds like his wife works crazy hours and the kids would benefit from having a stay at home parent. Home schooling is the way to go if you're concerned about the education children are getting today. Either parent can perform this role and sometimes men do a better job. Children and family should come first before work and income.

    • @josephinesedillo6967
      @josephinesedillo6967 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I zfh c

    • @fatfullday
      @fatfullday 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Agreed. homeschool is the best way to reverse the damage in our country.

    • @ogduck461
      @ogduck461 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      People are supporting this?

    • @matthewgardner2144
      @matthewgardner2144 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@fatfullday Or...another way to further damage your kids. Many homeschooling parents don't have a clue.

    • @fatfullday
      @fatfullday 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@matthewgardner2144 oh shucks. 🤣 Im sure you are an expert!

  • @mitchieyy
    @mitchieyy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +52

    Sounds like he really doesn’t enjoy his work or he got burned out. He is just looking for a reasonable excuse to quit

    • @JamesCook76131
      @JamesCook76131 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I’m autistic, the amount of jobs I left for autistic burnout, could fill a book.

    • @sandradavis33
      @sandradavis33 29 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Exactly, looking for an excuse to stay home.

    • @littleme3597
      @littleme3597 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@sandradavis33 He thinks it will be easy......LOL LOL LOL. MOST MALES....DO.

  • @undecidedtoystore3003
    @undecidedtoystore3003 2 ปีที่แล้ว +146

    Wasn't there a call from a wife that just paid off something like $300k in student loans and didn't want to return to being a doctor like a month ago?

    • @jayjohnson4607
      @jayjohnson4607 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

      Yes!😆

    • @philipwhittle7193
      @philipwhittle7193 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      Yea but I think he told her to work on the side still.

    • @staceystrukel1917
      @staceystrukel1917 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      What does that have to do with this caller?

    • @ap3055
      @ap3055 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      didn’t y’all know that Dave’s a hypocrite?

    • @uah9
      @uah9 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Dave did talk about her ability to help and going through all that Training etc

  • @SH-ld7yd
    @SH-ld7yd 2 ปีที่แล้ว +54

    He mentioned wife’s salary but didn’t say if she was ok with him quitting to homeschool…Interesting that Dave didn’t ask what does his wife think about it… They can manage financially but they need to be in the same page on wanting for one parent to homeschool and he also needs to try to do it for sometime before quitting just to see if we would be good at it.

    • @The-Oneness11
      @The-Oneness11 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I wondered about that too. I was curious if he asked his wife about it.

    • @littleme3597
      @littleme3597 19 วันที่ผ่านมา

      All males think, stay home is EASY and not work...lol.

  • @philipwhittle7193
    @philipwhittle7193 2 ปีที่แล้ว +58

    Just pay for a full time nanny/home school teacher. Come out way ahead that way.

    • @hebrews11vs5
      @hebrews11vs5 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      This could be a great solution. With that person lowering the burden of stress by helping with a few activities at home.

    • @gil5111
      @gil5111 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Not a bad idea but that's only a solution if you are okay with someone else raising/teaching your kids which it seems like they might be trying to avoid. We would come out way ahead financially paying for a nanny and the Mrs. working, but are very much against that choice.

    • @philipwhittle7193
      @philipwhittle7193 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@gil5111 He works at home. He can keep an eye on things.

    • @arthrodea
      @arthrodea 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@gil5111 They have been sending their kids to a teacher to raise/teach their kids and were seemingly ok with that. It would be just for school hours, the dad (and mom) could be with their kids the rest of the time. Having said that, I was homeschooled, so I understand if you don't want a school or nanny or anyone other than yourself teaching your kids.

    • @analyticalchick3064
      @analyticalchick3064 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I have worked as a homeschool nanny. One difference is that you can find someone with the same values as you have and then they are also devoting that same one on one, one on two or whatever ratio.

  • @leahaf808
    @leahaf808 2 ปีที่แล้ว +82

    The comments saying he shouldn't quit just show that if you have a certain mindset, no matter how much you earn it's never enough. Isn't the point of being wealthy to make your life better for you and your loved ones?
    Money is means to an end, not the end itself. This guy wants to prioritise family and has the cash to do so. Good luck to him, hope he gives his girls an amazing education and gets to spend more time with his wife.

    • @Nan-59
      @Nan-59 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I ABSOLUTELY AGREE WITH YOU!

    • @OH-sd8or
      @OH-sd8or ปีที่แล้ว +8

      That's wrong, if anyone needs to be staying home it should be his wife, not him. Being a stay-at-home dad is going to decimate his family dynamic and likely lead to infidelity. There are multiple studies on this dynamic and it's poisonous.

    • @leahaf808
      @leahaf808 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@OH-sd8or tell it to your therapist buddy

    • @nickstayner
      @nickstayner ปีที่แล้ว

      @@OH-sd8or”multiple studies” 😂how about you provide evidence for just one?

    • @OH-sd8or
      @OH-sd8or ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @Nick Stayner "When women out-earn their husbands, marriages struggle. Marriages of female breadwinners are 50% more likely to end in divorce, according to a University of Chicago study". This is from Kiplinger with the title "Women Who Make More Than Their Husbands Should Watch Out".

  • @rachelcrossen8136
    @rachelcrossen8136 2 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    Wonder how Dave’s response would have been different if a mom was asking this question? So, you can afford it, and it would benefit the kids, the marriage and the family unit. No brainer.

    • @nickolasvela6418
      @nickolasvela6418 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I wonder too, but I have seen that when a high earning woman calls in with a question like this, he suggests going part time with a side business with that same stewardship principle.

    • @rory644
      @rory644 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@nickolasvela6418 He is full on evangelical christian he still thinks family life should be like it was 100 years ago

    • @JamesCook76131
      @JamesCook76131 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@nickolasvela6418 Dave loves to keep stuff “traditional” yet he lives like a king while preaching terrible financial advise.

    • @nickolasvela6418
      @nickolasvela6418 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@JamesCook76131 It sounds like you're saying that his advice is terrible because it leads to living like a king. I guess I'd rather be a king that a clown like you.

    • @rebeccashields9626
      @rebeccashields9626 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@rory644 he has taken this same call from a female doctor who wanted to quit and his advice was to try part time work first. I do agree more that the guy should homeschool but he gave similar advice to the woman.

  • @cctypcc
    @cctypcc 2 ปีที่แล้ว +100

    If a male doctor's wife wants to quit her job to be a full-time mom, nobody will question her decision.

    • @kara2162
      @kara2162 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Exactly

    • @682Deano
      @682Deano 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Facts

    • @tkdevlop
      @tkdevlop 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      We live in a society

    • @Price8903
      @Price8903 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      He called to ask because he feels hesitant about it himself

    • @johntucker3693
      @johntucker3693 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Yes, because since the advent of agriculture, women have been the ones staying at home and men have been the bread-winners, why is this surprising to you?

  • @anthonyarrington6871
    @anthonyarrington6871 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    I will be honest. As an educator in the public school system my wife and I had this exact conversation. It's really something we are considering and i would be the home school educator as being a educator currently. Money pays the bills but the relationships with your kids and wife is more is what they will remember.

    • @jimroscovius
      @jimroscovius 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      My kids also remember the trips and vacations we took because we worked to afford them.

  • @jaysmith6013
    @jaysmith6013 2 ปีที่แล้ว +97

    I 100% guarantee you if a woman called wanting to be a stay at home mom, in this same situation, even if they didn’t make this amount, Dave would absolutely encourage her to do so. If her husband had any objection, I guarantee you Dave would scold him for it.

    • @lilrog0909
      @lilrog0909 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Dave knows female nature

    • @brianking5208
      @brianking5208 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      That’s why I clicked just to see if there was more bias from the title of the video. He has SOME good information. But you switch certain roles he will always lean towards the woman. The co hosts are just as bad

    • @ignaciobravo1
      @ignaciobravo1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Not sure if it's just me but I am noticing Delony is changing his view point in some areas. Delony changing Ramsey's view point that is.

    • @aroncarvajal7080
      @aroncarvajal7080 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      A home stay dad is never a good idea an idle man is the devil's workshop every man. And men staying home are punks.

    • @KinggCornn
      @KinggCornn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@aroncarvajal7080 that’s just untrue. I’m sorry you think that way

  • @jenniekim-5155
    @jenniekim-5155 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

    This is where I think sexism against men start. People start to shame men who want to take up traditionally female jobs. Wife is a doctor and earns more than him, he doesn't like his job and wants to be a family man. People make fun of fatherless children but when a father wants to be involved then? Women are favoured more in court in divorces, and people's mentality is the reason why. I support stay at home dads and career moms. All the way.

  • @patty109109
    @patty109109 2 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    “I’m 39…”
    “Amazing. How old are you guys?”

    • @colleenduffy1139
      @colleenduffy1139 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Yeah they do that a lot. LIstening skills aren't there.

  • @albs1448
    @albs1448 2 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    Dude....never ever become a stay at home dad....when your wife gets tired of being the bread winner..you're going to regret it.

    • @MickMikeA
      @MickMikeA 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Facts better off get a new job and hiring a private teacher

    • @latashascott3503
      @latashascott3503 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Agreed

    • @EVPlays1
      @EVPlays1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Why is it ok for women to do it?

    • @MickMikeA
      @MickMikeA 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@EVPlays1 it’s biology.

    • @NeeNee_B.
      @NeeNee_B. 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@MickMikeA it's sexism

  • @ryankiel4895
    @ryankiel4895 2 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    In 2010 in the midst of the great recession, I left full time seminary. I had no where to go but my parent's basement, and could not get full time work in my field for over a year. It was a complete and utter shock. Dave is right when he talks about how there will be "shock and whiplash" in this total change of career for this guy. He needs to take it slowly. Being a homeschool teacher is not a cakewalk either; my wife tried it and it did not work for our family. Best of luck to him.

  • @YogiLogic
    @YogiLogic 2 ปีที่แล้ว +92

    Can't he hire a teacher who visits his home to homeschool for like 40k an year and continue his job of 200k ?

    • @chasyho
      @chasyho 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Yeh but finance ain't his passion

    • @Ladyerica54
      @Ladyerica54 2 ปีที่แล้ว +51

      He wants to raise his kids. Not hire a stranger to do it

    • @YogiLogic
      @YogiLogic 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @@chasyho Then in my view, he shouldn't hide behind excuses to leave the job.

    • @JamesCook76131
      @JamesCook76131 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@chasyho wife’s in finance, it’s crazy long hours. Unless you’re hungry for the money, it’s not worth it.
      Kudos to this guy for thinking about the bigger picture then just money.

    • @jenniekim-5155
      @jenniekim-5155 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Raising kids is different. He clearly doesn't like his job anyway

  • @hoademo965
    @hoademo965 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Dave is right. Even I was so sure about quitting everything and being a stay at home mom. It took me many years to settle and I did not make much but just shifting gear and make a sharp turn in life is challenging. Lots of prayers brother.

  • @ytr8989
    @ytr8989 2 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Yes, he should give it a try. But only if he’s serious about it. Stay at home dad means taking care of the kids, cleaning house, cooking dinner, running errands, getting groceries, etc. It’s a full time job in itself. It would also be a good opportunity to start a steady side business. On the other hand, if he’s just going to sit home all day playing video games, the probably a bad idea.

    • @zzzarkka
      @zzzarkka ปีที่แล้ว +3

      What if his side business is video games?

    • @literology1329
      @literology1329 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Bingo. That's exactly what he's going to do. Did you hear the "I want to create content".

    • @kgormankmhb
      @kgormankmhb 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

      While also taking 100% responsibility for their education. Not easy at all

  • @Thebootyrater
    @Thebootyrater 2 ปีที่แล้ว +80

    Dave is a Christian man that believes in gender roles. Idk why so many people are surprised by his answer 😂. I personally see nothing wrong with him being a stay at home dad though.

    • @dacianbonta2840
      @dacianbonta2840 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      No surprise. DRamsay always been a puritan humbug.

    • @JuryKing
      @JuryKing 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      He’s real and tells you how it is.

    • @theunkownmr.562
      @theunkownmr.562 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I wouldn't mind being a stay at home Dad, but at the same time I'd feel castrated. Knowing my Wife I'd be emasculated and I am not cool with that at all.

    • @DavidKirtley
      @DavidKirtley 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      I don't see anything wrong either. Sure seems odd when people think it is great if a woman stays home as a full time care giver for the family but it is a bad idea for the man to stay home. The guy is smart enough to carry a $200K/yr. job. I am pretty sure once he hits his stride at home he will find ways to work from home to contribute to the household. But even if not, taking care of a home and home schooling is nothing to sneeze at as far as contribution.

    • @SarahR2D2
      @SarahR2D2 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@DavidKirtley that is not manly

  • @marcenelj
    @marcenelj 2 ปีที่แล้ว +68

    I think he really hates his job and he's miserable. He's using the "kids using laptop in school" as an excuse to quit.

    • @paulaaquino
      @paulaaquino 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Couldn't agree more

    • @darrenruben4108
      @darrenruben4108 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Spot on he omitted some info

    • @edb484
      @edb484 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Yep and no point I’m working if the wife is making $300k

    • @JamesCook76131
      @JamesCook76131 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I think he’s afraid of the stigma for a man to be a stay at home dad vs a Mom. So he feels the need to justify it.
      Money isn’t everything, especially if your wife’s brining in that much bacon. You could invest and live off investments in 10 years.

  • @Rahbinah
    @Rahbinah 2 ปีที่แล้ว +43

    I have a feeling that this guy will get burnt out from homeschooling rather quickly. Then he will regret his decision to quit that $200K job. Teaching is a profession and not everyone is built for it--even when it comes to one's own children. This guy needs to get real and find his passion since finance isn't it.

    • @philipwhittle7193
      @philipwhittle7193 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Probably the most logical comment here.

    • @greg_216
      @greg_216 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Amen. There's a reason the children of teachers are the worst. By the time the teachers get home, they're tired of being in charge of kids and discipline goes out the window. This guy is basically jumping into spending every waking moment with his kids, and that's probably not the best idea for anyone. I'm not anti-homeschooling, but there's a definite social cost to it: both in terms of kids not socializing with their peers, and parents not getting a break from their children.

    • @jesuslover5968
      @jesuslover5968 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Preach

    • @joyaustin6581
      @joyaustin6581 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      I would like his job

  • @JesusGonzalez-uh3sl
    @JesusGonzalez-uh3sl 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    I totally relate to this caller.. my job is becoming real stressful and Im just trying to find excuses to leave.. i Dont blame the guy at all

    • @alp.9672
      @alp.9672 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Lot of people can relate to this

  • @tellytighe
    @tellytighe 2 ปีที่แล้ว +39

    “Nobody ever said on their deathbed that they should have spent more time at the office”
    Leave the job

    • @eckankar7756
      @eckankar7756 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Not true. I was a hospice nurse for 17 years. I saw so many dying patients regretting leaving their family in poor financial situations. So much anguish not providing for them.

  • @untouchable360x
    @untouchable360x 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    Why don't they just pay for a full time nanny?

    • @Carolina_Berean
      @Carolina_Berean 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Because he wants to live off her.

    • @jimroscovius
      @jimroscovius 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@SonicCloudLink He wants to homeschool them. Nothing wrong with that.

    • @jimroscovius
      @jimroscovius 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@saulgoodman2018 I hate to say it, but I agree with Saul on this.

    • @monie3558
      @monie3558 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      People raise their own children

    • @wmurray003
      @wmurray003 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@Carolina_Berean ..which is worst than her living off him huh?

  • @front331
    @front331 2 ปีที่แล้ว +84

    "The kindergarten is putting kids on ipads and I don't like the idea, therefore I'm going to sacrifice $200k a year so the kids aren't using iPads." Couldn't think of a lamer excuse to not be working and staying home all day.

    • @TSammut0219
      @TSammut0219 2 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      You couldn’t think of a lamer excuse than taking care of your children?

    • @DaveW74TVN
      @DaveW74TVN 2 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      No doubt. Caring about the Developmental and Psychological wellbeing of your children instead of your bank account is lame AF...

    • @SarahR2D2
      @SarahR2D2 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      @@TSammut0219 better to show them the example of being a man and working

    • @front331
      @front331 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@SarahR2D2 exactly.

    • @brianwalker8759
      @brianwalker8759 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I'd agree if thier family didn't already have plenty of money. Of what use is a drop of water to an already full cup.

  • @lvluptoaverage52
    @lvluptoaverage52 2 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    What Dave tried to say with a steward of your capacity is this.
    Make sure whatever you end up doing you keep the your frame of been the leader man of the house because your wife sees a winner and if you are not careful and she sees you lose that manhood you will lose your wife and family

    • @darylbaptie5159
      @darylbaptie5159 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Lol, ok 1950.

    • @And1one757
      @And1one757 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Big fax if he does that his wife will be taking the lead and that could a utter disaster... just the female nature🤷‍♂️

    • @chelo9882
      @chelo9882 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh yes, based on the amount of tireless research you've done and not just you hearing it told to you over and over again. You must be right 🙄🙄

    • @lilrog0909
      @lilrog0909 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@darylbaptie5159 modern women want traditional men. Don't believe me just watch most females actions

  • @ImTheChallenger
    @ImTheChallenger 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    I never recommend any male or female to give up their career. Sometimes people will feel trapped because of the economic dependency or feel like they can do better. I’ve seen it go south in which one party gives up their high paying career and end up losing their relationship and now have no career.

    • @jesuslover5968
      @jesuslover5968 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I agree

    • @chelo9882
      @chelo9882 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That is the most sense anyone has made in this comment section.

    • @jusplay7309
      @jusplay7309 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      No it only works when it is the female giving up the job and not the male. This is something that no matter how much social engineering goes into it won’t change. The female will lose the respect for her mate knowingly or unknowingly if he is not functioning as the bread winner. If you have level headed couples who are intune with one another and are team players then it might possibly work but it is really hard to override those role plays based on biological programming.

  • @MakeAMark1755
    @MakeAMark1755 2 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    Comon Dave if this was a woman who called asking the same question it would be a automatic yes... now your giving him pushback when his wife is making 300k...? What about what he wants.

    • @RealGalaxyGamers
      @RealGalaxyGamers 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      The man is the bread winner, is stronger, and is supposed to be the leader of the family.

    • @Thebootyrater
      @Thebootyrater 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      He is a Christian man that believes in gender roles. Caller should have known that before calling in 😂

    • @CountHarryLime
      @CountHarryLime 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Whether or not you agree with traditional gender roles, they still weigh on us psychologically. Even a lot of women in similar situations struggle with being beholden to another person for everything and it creates resentment. I don't think this guy going from making $200k per year in a respectable career field to having to rely on his wife's income to go buy groceries is going to work out well. Some people make it work, but I think they are the exception.

    • @Ronyron3053
      @Ronyron3053 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      A man shouldn’t stay at home. His purpose is to work.

    • @darrengeorgetown6758
      @darrengeorgetown6758 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Remember that when she files for divorce from you and sticks you with child support and alimony. Quit being a simp and acting like your only useful as a paycheck. Have some self respect

  • @pscih7149
    @pscih7149 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    The caller sounds like a great, smart, sound individual. I really like the callers demeanor.

  • @bessiedalton891
    @bessiedalton891 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Great advice Dave👍🏽

  • @altratronic
    @altratronic 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    The wife-as-breadwinner dynamic often spells relationship trouble.

  • @SUGAH92
    @SUGAH92 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Very good advice

  • @shawn1869
    @shawn1869 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Hi Dave, can you make a video on rental property depreciation and the pros and cons of taking depreciation on taxes. I would like to know how to navigate that and just get a better understanding from you...thanks!!

  • @bobclucas8167
    @bobclucas8167 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Dave, it would be very interesting if you and Dr. Jordan Petersen could do 1.5 hours together.

  • @csmay
    @csmay 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That stewardship principle is the most important part about this whole video. Thank you for teaching it Dave!

  • @bobbyb7672
    @bobbyb7672 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I've been waiting years for this call. Bring HIM home!!!

    • @MakeAMark1755
      @MakeAMark1755 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Sam LOL always wanted to see what Dave has to say if roles were reversed

    • @bobbyb7672
      @bobbyb7672 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      @@MakeAMark1755 Yeah, me too! He always encouraged the women to "come home". Even with a husband with a much lower income.

    • @jimroscovius
      @jimroscovius 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      I did it for a short time after I left IBM. It was cheaper to stay home with the kids and get unemployment than continue to work for $8.25 an hour (this was a while ago). However, I got a job elsewhere and we moved. Best move ever!!

    • @nancyt6895
      @nancyt6895 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      There are so many good options for this family. Good luck! And great response by Ken and Dave.

  • @TheDjcarter1966
    @TheDjcarter1966 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Or just work for two more years pay off the house and save another 500k. Then quit and let her cut back to part time. These guys are set up to FIRE if they want to, they could work for five years then just coast to retirement/side hustle/part time/to whatever you want.

  • @dlakersnation2379
    @dlakersnation2379 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    Whelp I am sure if it was the wife, Dave would have straight up told her to take a break to homeschool the kids and be a great mom! Even though he is making great money, this guy is clearly starting to hate his job and I think he’s using the homeschool as a reason/story to quit.

    • @tmusa2002
      @tmusa2002 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      EXACTLY! Double standard with Dave and his clones, 100%.

    • @irvin_rodriguez
      @irvin_rodriguez ปีที่แล้ว

      @@tmusa2002 of course it’s a double standard men and women are not the same . Being a stay at home dad is unacceptable as a man , but being a stay at home mom makes a woman high value . Very simple

    • @tmusa2002
      @tmusa2002 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@irvin_rodriguez Yeah, don’t most working women wish they didn’t have to work. I don’t know many with that luxury but I’m happy you’re able to provide that for your family.

    • @Jakkaribik1
      @Jakkaribik1 วันที่ผ่านมา

      My Husband Makes $975,000 and Won't Let Me Stay Home!
      The wife can just Leave her work just like that while the man gets told he should work..

  • @HopefulDarkness
    @HopefulDarkness 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I’d say it honestly depends and it’s something you need to discuss together. Something I’m working towards due to my aspirations is having my future hubby be a stay at home dad whereas I’d work long hours and stuff. Haven’t brought it up to him yet because I don’t know how it’d turn out. But if you’re both okay with it I think it’d be a phenomenal thing!

  • @JasonGroom
    @JasonGroom 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    This is ridiculous, if this was a woman calling in Dave's exact words would to a wife whose husband makes 300k+ a year, and wanted to stay home with her kids would be "sweety, he makes more than enough money for y'all to live on, what's the problem". This guy is basically being told he is not holding up his end of the bargain if he isn't working and earning to his full potential.

  • @kytoga
    @kytoga 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I wish Dave would have asked if the Dr. Mom has any desires to homeschool? Why not cut her hours down? What the other parent wants wasn't even addressed by them.

  • @linuxsurfer2002
    @linuxsurfer2002 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Oh wow, I saw the title and knew I had to click in and see - Dave is not going to encourage a man to stay at home.

  • @riumudamc4686
    @riumudamc4686 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Find a high-quality private school that meets your demands or connect with some other high-earners and hire a few teachers. You can still explore another career, but solo home-schooling may be difficult.

  • @offerskirksey2255
    @offerskirksey2255 2 ปีที่แล้ว +20

    It’s dumb to flush $200k/yr. Don’t be dumb.

    • @KEP1983
      @KEP1983 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Not if you still make 300k. If I could stay home and not have my kids have to hear garbage from CRT racists who hate their own country at school-- and yes, it will be in every private school soon enough-- then that would be worth the loss in income.

    • @rachelcrossen8136
      @rachelcrossen8136 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Some thing (kids, marriage) are more important than money. Especially when you still have 300k household income.

    • @jenniekim-5155
      @jenniekim-5155 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Does 200k an year matter or kids. Think about it.

  • @kfooteschool5365
    @kfooteschool5365 2 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    I’ve seen a 25 year marriage end in divorce because the man retired early and wife was the bread winner… she found a coworker to bond with… women have a natural tendency to want a provider. Don’t get me wrong I respect my husband for the hands on father he is and provider which gives me the luxury for part time work. Although I would feel odd if I did the full time and he did part time and we have the same career

    • @staceystrukel1917
      @staceystrukel1917 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I would feel the opposite. If my husband stayed home I would be so proud and connected to him for putting our children first.

    • @sami-9233
      @sami-9233 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Coming from someone supposedly highly educated in these modern times
      If you weren't a woman that would be called Sexist!!!

  • @ViaScientifica
    @ViaScientifica 2 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    I wonder what his wife's boyfriend thinks about all this.

  • @rachelharrison7961
    @rachelharrison7961 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    THIS is why you shouldn’t choose a career simply because it’s lucrative. You don’t have to absolutely love your job, but you should at least be doing something that you have some underlying interest in. This guy picked a career because a Top 10 list said it paid well and here we are.

  • @ldv02
    @ldv02 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Quit and homeschooling!!!!
    I did back in 2015 and do not regret it
    Still homeschooling and we loooove it!!!!!

  • @kathyann9643
    @kathyann9643 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    The kids are more important than the money. Quit the job and start working on your dreams.

  • @jusplay7309
    @jusplay7309 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The best choice for the kids would be to have a parent around more but I am afraid the wife will soon turn to resenting you for staying home with the kids while she works all those hours. So keep your job to save your marriage.

  • @ricotrejo4125
    @ricotrejo4125 2 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Being a stay-at-home parent can be a necessity or a Privilege depending on how you look at it. It's all about perspective especially when there's kids involved

  • @EVPlays1
    @EVPlays1 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Dave says the dads going from working full time to not working at all. Being a stay at home dad full time is harder than any job I can think of. A Bit delusional

    • @TheWedeShow
      @TheWedeShow 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sounds like you’re incapable of doing much thinking

    • @EVPlays1
      @EVPlays1 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@TheWedeShow elaborate

    • @TheWedeShow
      @TheWedeShow 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@EVPlays1 point proven

    • @EVPlays1
      @EVPlays1 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@TheWedeShow ah, you can't.

  • @ethannaka1822
    @ethannaka1822 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    wife will build resentment that her husband isn't working. don't quit the job, just hire help at home. Let them go to public school and teach them life lessons as their "home schooling".

  • @et5895
    @et5895 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    My dad stayed home. Do it dude!!! Please have a parent around for those babies!!!

  • @jasonk8793
    @jasonk8793 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Dave went Osteen at the end and said "best life". Penalty point awarded.

  • @bobdenver7126
    @bobdenver7126 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    smart guy, great call

  • @nancypicchi9224
    @nancypicchi9224 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Is there a private school in his area that follows a “Classic” education curriculum? Arithmetic, Grammar, History, Reading, writing. Do some research. Home schoolers can offer this type of curriculum as well.

  • @traceejohnson290
    @traceejohnson290 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That is a sexist answer. If that were a woman calling & saying she wanted to quit her job & home school & her husband made 300K with savings & no debt, he would right away say, yes you should stay home, you have enough money to live comfortably, not convience her she should still work.

  • @tracyhunt492
    @tracyhunt492 2 ปีที่แล้ว +15

    If this was a lady Dave Ramsey would tell her to quit immediately. Smh

    • @johnanjichi
      @johnanjichi 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      No problem with that

  • @edb484
    @edb484 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I have a friend who’s married to a nurse and he’s a stay at home dad. They met while she was finishing nursing school and had a kid.
    It works out fine. Dave would have no problem if the woman was asking the question

    • @cashkitty3472
      @cashkitty3472 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Very sexist of you to assume that. Dave doesn't have a problem with it

  • @cutlerylover
    @cutlerylover 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This is a question for his wife not Dave clearly they are fine financially but it seems as though shes not into the idea of being the sole breadwinner it puts pressure ion her he may not realize...making 300K a year is great but making 500K is better...

  • @annatar6453
    @annatar6453 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    When the wife makes more than the husband, there is a high risk for divorce. Men should think about that before becoming a stay at home dad.

  • @sandradavis33
    @sandradavis33 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    How come he can’t Homeschool in the morning, evening and weekends and continue to work? He’s just looking for an excuse to quit working, he plainly stated working in finance wasn’t what he wanted to do. He also stated they had college funds started, is he going to homeschool them through college as well?

  • @beachy4444
    @beachy4444 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    DR doesn't like caller's idea. A hard-charging finance guy trapped inside with kids in a long snowy Maine winter?
    Yeah, no. Team with other families to make a learning pod. You can afford it. Hire a tutor, organize parent volunteer hours, take field trips...etc.
    [There is more to remote learning than staring at iPads.]

  • @Meagan2302
    @Meagan2302 2 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    Having the option to stay home is an opportunity most moms & esp dads do not get these days. It would be silly for them to not take it. They have the financial freedom to try it out. Maybe it works, maybe it doesn’t. But one thing’s for sure - you don’t regret time spent with your kids.

    • @hebrews11vs5
      @hebrews11vs5 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Kids are great. But this guy also needs to find a job he is excited about. It'd help his life in my opinion.

  • @theOneThatWas
    @theOneThatWas 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Why not just hire a homeschooling teacher/tutor? That way you can still do what you want and keep more control on the kids.

  • @nataliazakula3400
    @nataliazakula3400 2 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    His idea is great actually. He has the heart of a teacher and is passionate about traditional approaches and what works in learning. Go be a teacher to not just your own kids but look at developing a curriculum for desperate parents needing to escape our sinking ship.

  • @David-wo9un
    @David-wo9un 2 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    Would the answer be the same if the wife wanted to stay at home?

    • @Carolina_Berean
      @Carolina_Berean 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      No. Men and women are different.

    • @jenniekim-5155
      @jenniekim-5155 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Carolina_Berean They are, but it depends on personality. Ambition exists in both genders. Social condition is a whole other issue.

  • @lynnebucher6537
    @lynnebucher6537 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    What does his wife think of his idea? Also is it possible for his wife to reduce her hours and him staying employed? He's already WFH and that's a sweet salary.

  • @alqoshgirl
    @alqoshgirl 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    He said homeschooling his kids! So a private teacher and homekeeper. He also said he wants to change careers to make it work better for his family. Nothing wrong with that. It’s very important that families decide together what is best for them. Sure naturally it falls on the woman to stay home because we get pregnant and nurse etc. But their kids are older. He isn’t going to be home while his pregnant nursing wife is out working🤷🏻‍♀️ I see nothing wrong with that. He seems to have a good plan and seems to already know how to plan for his day with his experience in working from home

  • @timbaze5207
    @timbaze5207 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    They just completely dismissed teaching your kids from home they didn’t even ask. Are they in a private school and how much that cost per year also they didn’t ask how are things with your relationship because if you need to rekindle that fire, then staying at home is absolutely 100% the best decision.

  • @jennyberger6688
    @jennyberger6688 2 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Yeah I think Dave isusing the income example to try to explain that men need to be working because they’re built to provide and they’re built to sustain their family.

  • @wokecenterleft7473
    @wokecenterleft7473 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    They should look for a local Waldorf school, they share the same beliefs about screens being very harmful for very small children

  • @Buggu3
    @Buggu3 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    I wish I had some ppl problem😂… I have my child n I’m struggling, I can’t stay at work to make overtime any more …. That means no saving n no extra money to do anything… I feel stuck

  • @musicpro7278
    @musicpro7278 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Ik it shouldn't matter if a dad stays at home but idk it just doesn't feel right. Ik we are equal but man should aways be the provider is human nature

  • @subjecttochrist
    @subjecttochrist 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    that's a crazy household income!

  • @mikesmith-wk7vy
    @mikesmith-wk7vy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    working from home sounds boring to me but for 200 grand sounds pretty awesome. sounds like he just doesnt like the job anymore

  • @Nan-59
    @Nan-59 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Please don't put "The" before the word WIFE.
    Just sayin!
    In case you don't realize what I'm talking about, it's much kinder to say Your Wife.

  • @peanutbutterisfu
    @peanutbutterisfu ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Why not put the kids in a nice private school or hire someone to home school. If u can afford to not make 200k I would work and save that 200k

  • @bigeric8334
    @bigeric8334 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This guy has the voice of a stay at home dad

  • @chantre17ms
    @chantre17ms 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Quit and be a stay at home dad. If the roles were reversed they would be OK with it. They are doing fine financially. Raise the kids how you want. Those years are something you can never get back.

  • @matthewwaters9742
    @matthewwaters9742 หลายเดือนก่อน

    We have seen Dave on countless occasions say women should become stay at home mums when the partner earns this much.

  • @Nan-59
    @Nan-59 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    It's a wonderful place to be, to quote D. R.
    So please homeschool your girls!
    Do it tomorrow! Congratulations 🎈🎉 🎈🎉
    I'm so happy for you & your family!

  • @ceciliapreziose3783
    @ceciliapreziose3783 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    why can't he still home school and still work?

  • @Carnelian21
    @Carnelian21 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Keep the burn for one more year to pay off the mortgage and then do it.

  • @Jakkaribik1
    @Jakkaribik1 วันที่ผ่านมา

    My Husband Makes $975,000 and Won't Let Me Stay Home!
    The wife can just Leave her work just like that while the man gets told he should work..

  • @FredDogification
    @FredDogification 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    For how much they make they should have more in retirement. That is a great household income.

  • @mhow7024
    @mhow7024 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    How do I find a doctor to marry?

  • @thedopplereffect00
    @thedopplereffect00 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    He might as well. Half his income is probably going to income taxes anyway between 300k-500k.

  • @boatenthusiastandexplorer6961
    @boatenthusiastandexplorer6961 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    This is crazy we’re leading toward a future we’re men are staying at home and the woman are working this is a formula for disaster

    • @MyCatsChannel841
      @MyCatsChannel841 8 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Men are pushing the agenda 😂to

  • @newmexicoballer3867
    @newmexicoballer3867 2 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    Do what makes you feel happy. There's nothing wrong with being a stay at home dad. Dave favors women more in the relationship. I'm starting to notice that.

    • @koaladoeseverything
      @koaladoeseverything 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      I wouldn't say "nothing" wrong though.

    • @1jw298
      @1jw298 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      It’s a biblical thing. Men should go out and earn a living.

    • @superblump87
      @superblump87 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      He takes the Bible literally (when he feels like it).

    • @monie3558
      @monie3558 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      There is no “favoring”. He believes it’s a mans job to provide and you all in the comments keep pretending you don’t know this

  • @ceciliapreziose3783
    @ceciliapreziose3783 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    how old are the kids???????? that will determine alot

  • @Hallowsaw
    @Hallowsaw ปีที่แล้ว

    Why dont they just get an au pair.....
    Its 25k a year, they live in the home and you dont have to worry about daycare for your child. You make 500k a year..... put them in a private school where typically education is better. I dont see why you would give up 100-200k only to homeschool. I would personally build that wealth up for you children. That being said, if you and your wife are not getting quality time with your family that is a different story?

  • @ivanvargas2425
    @ivanvargas2425 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wish I could

  • @lionheart93
    @lionheart93 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Someone connect me with this man and I can teach his kids.

  • @mitchieyy
    @mitchieyy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I wonder how their conversation will change if this is a wife called instead

  • @jeniferdankyi8487
    @jeniferdankyi8487 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Anytime a woman says she is considering being a stay at home mom, they say yes, do it. Why is the answer to being a stay at home dad different?

  • @ibarix
    @ibarix 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    this call shows that money won't always make you happy

  • @randomselections
    @randomselections 2 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Hire a live-in nanny for $60k/year so you can keep $140k. Problem solved.

    • @aolvaar8792
      @aolvaar8792 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      a "sister" Wife

    • @randomselections
      @randomselections 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@aolvaar8792 😀, a sister wife costs more than $60k. A well educated live-in nanny can home school the child for less.