As a child I was naturally very sensitive and nurturing. Instead of these traits being cultivated, I was told I'm weak because of my sensitive traits. I feel like a lot of my softness was beat out of me.
Being sensitive also means being compassionate. You care about what you and other people feel so you're likely a person who doesn't like to hurt others. It's your strength, not everyone can possess such characteristic.
I’m a guy that found this video looking for examples of positive masculinity. Just commenting to say that it seems like both men and women are trying to ‘find our way back’ and become more in tune with our gender roles. Femininity is beautiful; thanks for sharing it.
As to masculinity my Grandfather always said a man has to be strong and decent. Many of the values and morals from the 60s and 70s were very good.. not all of course. Im a traditional man. Its good your looking at both sides.. The ying and the yang... woman and men...
It feels like the proverbial pendulum has swung quite hard in favour of abandoning traditional gender roles...it would be so nice to see a return to more of a balanced society in the future, where women can be respected and celebrated as both motivated CEOs and supportive mothers, and vice-versa/similar for men too. I've lived as both a tough, androgynous tomboy, and now as a feminine woman, and honestly I find it more natural and relaxing to lean into the softer aspects of womanhood. 🌷
That's true ! Well said ,I like that too 👏🥰 bc if you come from that perspective then you aren't coming from the inside. It's like trying to cover a wound with make up to make it look pretty but deep down the wound hasn't been addressed. The core issue ;)
I’ve grown so much because I used to pride myself on being very rude, outspoken and independent. I thought it made me powerful, although it was detrimental to my well-being, I’m learning that being gentle and kind is powerful too. Thank you 🌷💌
It's the same with me. My mother is a very loud, hostile, masculine woman as are my sister's. My mother and sisters are so masculine that they are frequently mistaken for men. I had a really bad example but I've grown into my femininity.
@@richasf3533 Why should being dependant mean the relationship should turn abusive ? We all cant stem the World and need one another. Effetively there are hardly any really true independent people, as we all rely on other people in society. A partner is there to support, not to abuse.
@@richasf3533 Dear Sasa, I think its normal in life and in a relationship a give and take. The person you are describing should also give, not only take. For example when having children one person has to stay at home and look after the kids. In the old days or in nature the nurturing person would be vunerable and reliant on the provider in that moment and could not be independent.. one needed each other. Today life has become much easier. In a relationship I see it more as teamwork, but reliant on each other. When you can trust someone you can rely on them. A good relationship works like that. You are right any form of abuse is terrible and should not be tolerated. Love and Respect.
I had a friend like that. She pushed so many men away but she pushed me away as well. No longer friends. I love a soft and feminine friend. It’s rare. I want a good bff one day.
When she said “gentleness is how young girls play with their dolls” : I was reminded of 6 year old me breaking my dolls limbs in an effort to make it confess that it’s real like in Toy story 😭
A feminine Woman is in no way weak. She is beautiful fragile like a flower.. a rose. Do we therefore consider a rose as weak ? No, but as truely valuable and honour, cherish, protect and love it for its true beauty. Femininty is the true power Woman have over men.
@@Notawesomeatall7 Yass. I never understood why people said life isn't like a bed of roses, I always ask myself "doesn't roses have thorns?" Life can be beautiful but there are some thorns we gotta face.
Your comment about kindness disarming people while in conflict is so true. I used to work at a restaurant where the cook was just hostile to everyone. One day it was just him and I and he YELLED at me when I made a mistake and gestured to me and was just speaking very aggressively to me and I just calmly apologized for my mistake and that I'd be more careful next time and he shut up for the rest of the shift. At the end of the night he PRAISED me for how I handled his anger. He said that he struggles with anger issues and that all the other waitresses just yell back at him and work becomes very hostile and unpleasant. He said I was graceful and so mature and he felt so sorry for talking to me that way. We were great friends after that up until I left town.
I mean I totally get what you did and I think you reacted well. BUT if he has anger issues that doesn’t mean everyone around him should walk on eggshells so they don’t make him angry. What I’m trying to say if you have an issue with dealing with people you go and try to solve it and better yourself not ask everyone to act a certain way around you because you have an “issue” Everyone deserves respect, he was blaming the rest of the waitresses for yelling back at him while HE started yelling and disrespecting them! I will never just accept being disrespected for such a stupid mistake I made, I don’t agree with yelling in any situation and i agree with the point about kindness, but that doesn’t mean letting people treat me with disrespect!
I’ve tried this technique with my father. All the calm apologizing may of calmed him down temporarily but it never led to an apology. The last time I tried this, I said “I’m sorry that I forgot, it was a genuine mistake. I had no intention of trying to ruin your vacation” He slapped me and said he was tired of the B.S apologizing. He accused me of lying and secretly hating him. In that moment what he said became true. The closest thing to an apology I ever got from him was “I’m sorry, but…” What you did may work the first time, but if you have to do it repeatedly it’s probably not worth it
@@farahalsabbagh9740 THIS!!! this is why I struggle so freaking hard. Because I am feminine and soft unless I’m dealing with someone who is consistently toxic and hurtful to me. And it so hard to be gaslit and told you’re argumentative when I’m reality the person really needs to work on themselves. Have no idea how to handle these situations
I have the same situation, when someone says something hurtful and stupid to me, criticising my every move and then when I say something back it is always ‘you always moan and make arguements’. My usual reply now is: ‘Before you call me difficult, look at the way you treat me first and what you do to cause it’ then I just walk away. Some people will never get it. Don’t let them ruin your day, just write them off as lower IQ.
An observation: that rock you were holding in the beginning of this video looked rather smooth. In the natural world, rocks get like that not because of other rocks, but because of water. Softness really is powerful!
I pray for you today that the SOVEREIGN LORD in HIS mercy will guide you through the Paths of life and make you a blessing. I pray above all that you may know HIM intimately and the power of HIS Resurrection. And that you may be made conformable unto HIM.
“Softness enchants, and invites people to let their guard down, because you don’t have to be defensive in the presence of what is soft.” Beautiful presentation! Thank you so much for articulating in such lucid detail, "The Art of Softness" :-) (minor concern that the background music may be a little too loud)
@@JasmyneTheodora I'm looking forward to watching more of your videos. You have a very pleasant demeanor and clear, organized information. You're a bright light in the world and we're lucky to have you 💕
For a long time I’ve had to muscle through many challenges in life that I feel like I’m beginning to lose touch with my softness. It’s been very exhausting and lately I’ve decided to get back in touch with my feminity. This video is a good start and I’m so grateful to have found it.
Channels like this are an incredible gift for women of all ages. I’m 57 and just now truly discovering how to return to femininity. Thank you so very much. 🌺
Same here. Life got mean for a bit so did I. I’m finding me again at 54. I’ve actually missed me. Thank you sweet girl for sharing your wisdom with us. 💕
I use to be a very "feminine" and gentle person, very soft spoken and always Polite, I still am but unfortunately I am stuck in an abusive household and if has taken away some of my gentleness because in order for me to survive in this environment until I can get out, I need to be rougher... This video is very helpful, and I cannot wait until I am out of here to go back to the person I truly am inside ♥️
I’ve been independent for so long… when it comes to my relationship, it’s tricky because he is very in tune with his masculinity and there’s an imbalance. I’m still learning to be more in my feminine energy. I notice that when I am, it’s amazing how we interact with each other. It flows so nicely. This video is super helpful, thank you.
This is the kind of femininity that needs to be talked about in modern society, and not trying to turn women into men. You don't have to be a man or act like one to be powerful.
YESS, THIS IS ALWAYS IN MY MIND, LIKE IS IT REALLY NECESSARY TO SACRIFICE YOUR FEMININITY IN ORDER TO FEEL POWERFUL? When you're truly powerful (feel) you don't need to change yourself because you know who you are, where you come from. If you as a women need others to validate your strength by acting manly, then that's really sad, and I think recently a lot of women have been forced to do this in order to protect themselves physically and emotionally, I hope we all can learn to embrace our femininity and be able to recognise that our vulnerability and tenderness is what makes us the strongest, because we are not hiding, we are not afraid to be ourselves, and we are ready to give and to love.
A women of natural angelic beauty. And by that I mean inside and out. Its like love itself. They move you instantly. A day without beauty is like a life without love. You have to be in the light to receive the light. Love your spiritual empowerment. You shine so bright
Such a wonderfully enlightened perspective on femininity. Thank you for being in the world and celebrating women's strength. I'd love more content specifically about communicating effectively and productively.
I could just cry after watching this.... I feel seen. I feel understood and I also feel like I can change Being the rose that grew from the concrete I always had to be strong and wise and independent. But I never knew I could be all those things and still be soft... Thank You from my broken, yet healing heart❤️🩹
im a man who found your channel. literally brought tears to my eyes when i saw your channel. such a wholesome and beautiful message you preach hear. hope your message reaches more people, i wish you good luck and god bless
Girl!! I'm so loud literally everytime 😂 I'm editing this a few hours later (8 to be exact) just spoke to my bf over the phone he's never been so responsive before! I was able to get him to really talk to me and open up which he generally has a hard time doing. I was just speaking gently and softly and giving him time to respond, gently proving him. this works better than getting angry y'all 😅🤣
Immediately subscribed! As a stay at home mom of grade school kids I feel very judged for my traditional lifestyle but I am so so happy catering to my PHENOMENAL husband and kids. I love my life
“People are aware that they don’t ‘need’ to show up for you…they simply want to give you some goodness.” That is a beautiful thought. Allowing someone to express goodness is a gift I can give to them…and an act of humility on my part. Like accepting a tiny flower from my little granddaughter. Even if she just pulled off the blossom, even if she bent it, she is still showing her goodness to me.
It’s crazy bc the softer you are the stronger you get bc it brings endless opportunities to grow, (in other words brings endless opportunities for people to hurt you) which could make it hard to adapt the softness but ultimately once mastered, you could live in peace in a world that’s always at war.
Yess❤ Softness is definitely not a weakness, softness ≠ accept everything. You are ought to be soft yet firm, know when it times to be soft and know when it times to be firm. People now are way stranded from the actual meaning of softness, they see it as a weakness rather than a strenght. Truly, it takes a LOT of one's strength and wisdom to be soft and gentle 💕
I've been fragile, sensitive, and overly kind as a kid but when I was sent to the city to study high school, my parents always told me that I should change my personality because the city is not like the peaceful countryside. People won't go easy on me there and they would most likely prey on me because I'm too vulnerable. I was told to toughen up so I did. I still have a caring and nurturing side of me but I concealed them with being reserved and vigilant
i’ve always been feminine but was told i was too weak for being kind, nice and welcoming to other people. another factor is my skin tone, as a darker person i don’t get to fully be as feminine as i want. i’m hyperfeminine but so many people have told me that i’m masculine and have tried to force me to fit this strong, heavy hearted, independent black women when that’s not who i am at all. part of me has started conforming but i’m gonna stop listening to them and finally be comfortable in what i am, focus on the ones who see and admire my personality and aura.
As a black woman it annoys me that people try to force-feed stereotypes and think they have the monopoly on how we should act forgetting that only WE are the ones in control of OURSELVES.
I'm currently trying to reconnect with my feminine side after embracing masculine energy for so long, I've been ashamed of my womanhood for the longest time and I'm finding great value and information from your videos, thank you so much! Growing up in a male dominated society is hard, but I'm realising I don't have to be or act a certain way to be respected and noticed. Having balance is key 🥰
Girl girl girl girl!! At 1:59 when you started describing softness I literally got chills. The words you used, the softness of your voice, your smile and just your aura. Makes me want to be just like that. 🤍🤍😊 thank you for this video!
Ive been quite sensitive and caring for most of my life. (Both of my parents made a big deal about teaching me this stuff.) I'm also quite shy and quiet. In my community these traits in a women are usually seen as negative. Ive been called weak and even stupid multiple times :( so It's really nice to see ladies from everywhere coming together to celebrate them! You're very pretty and smart. ♡
Honestly, since I was a child I was always emotional. So emotional I got bullied ( without exactly knowing because I am too trusting ) and called a ‘crybaby’. I don’t know, I guess because of that my softness dropped significantly. My mama told me to grow a hard shell because the world will never be kind to me with the way I am. And she’s right. But I need to learn to flex the softness I still have. Thank you for showing me that through this ! ♥️
I love this ! I was raised by a strong black Woman and she is amazing ! That part of my life taught me survival skills but this !!!!! This is vulnerable, beautiful, and it pushes me ! I’m excited to embody these character traits.
This video made me cry. I feel at home, i feel seen. My softness, my views aren't well received. I've been called a pick me many times. I used to feel like I'm an introvert but I'm really just surrounded by people that refer to themselves as "boss b****es", by masculine women who think I'm weak for being gentle. Definitely going to subscribe after this video. Thank you for what you are doing.
And I made the comment too early. I've always said that independence is a fallacy. Nobody in a society is independent. Have a job or even your own business? You depend on others. Buying products? You depend on others. No matter what you do, you are never independent. Unless you live by yourself and off the land alone.
She is so intelligent. I feel like this woman stands out from the rest because she is providing so much valuable information and which makes this video so significant! Immediately subscribed
I can be rude at times when I am stressed out. I am also impatient with the people around me. It definitely affects me in a bad way. I also head that this attitude does not suit me at all. Thanks for your video and the message you spread.
Lately I have become very hard and tired, from needing to tend to three children and my home. This video was an amazing reminder to recapture that delicate and soft manner that attracted my husband seven years ago 💜 thank you
As a woman with full femenine energy, I love this video. The divine feminine is beautiful; we are not weak, we have inner strengh that the masculine can´t tap in. We are the queens and the high priestesses of the world. But, the masculine is our partner in crime, the person that can do what we can´t. Both energies deserve to exist and be praised.
This is the first channel I’ve found that discusses femininity in such a virtuous way. Most often, dating coaches teach how to act feminine in order to get a man. Nothing wrong with that necessarily, but I’d rather the dating aspect was part of a broader teaching! And you are doing it with so much grace and thoughtfulness. Thank you ♥️
i am one of the people who got told that my femininity and sensitivity is weak and will get taken advantage of until i created a shield to protect myself and on top of that this society and feminism being pushed on to me but deep down i knew that it’s not what i am or want and i wanted to get myself back from what was pushed out of me and this is honestly one of the most helpful videos ive seen. you’ve explained everything so profoundly and specifically to each problem and how to do deal with all of these things, genuinely thank you so much, this helps a lot 💗
You are doing God’s work with your femininity videos. Growing up and being a young teenage girl in this modern day time is not easy. Us girls are constantly being encouraged to be promiscuous, masculine, and unpleasant. Thank you for making videos like this for girls that would rather take the alternative route of embracing femininity. There are not many role models nowadays and I’m glad I’ve found your channel. Thank you!!
“Fierce” can have positive or negative connotations depending on the context. Here, I meant it in the more traditional sense meaning “ferociousness” or “aggression”. But people also use the term positively to mean “passionate”, “enthusiastic”, etc 💕
I’ve been on this journey for a while trying to reconnect with my feminine and I find it so hard to balance ‘pretending’ to be feminine and actually finding the root. My pride gets hurt and I get discouraged when I get bad reactions from people when I am ‘putting it on’ and when I’m fully in tune it feels like the world is my oyster! It was so profound for you to mention this!!!! Maybe you could do a video about what tools you use to encourage, feed, nurture and connect to your femininity? I love your content 💐💐
I’m tired of being overly masculine ! Real beauty lies in being authentically in my femininity and appreciation of what I am. Being Hispanic a lot of times you hear older women saying how they wish they were men, and how men have it easy etc because of my cultures male chauvinistic ways. Men always get away with everything and can do anything. I believe subconsciously I wanted to be free forgetting that freedom lies in me being authentic and appreciating and loving being a women no matter how the bad side of my culture sees it. I am no longer ashamed and I am working hard to balance out my energies! Thank you for this video ! I am a women and I am proud!
Gentleness- soothing and vulnerability “May I” Peaceful Vulnerability- authenticity and being unguarded - acknowledging what things they are Flexibility and cooperation- peace, safety and patience Bends instead of breaks Dealing with overthinking- pain and anxiety is inevitable so embrace it
You will never know how much I appreciate your videos in my effort to reawaken what was lost after years of the feminist attack on what I was instinctually born with , many thanks to you 🙏🏻 💖
@@JasmyneTheodora Thank you for responding & you are so welcome 🌷 P. S. had to replace that thumbs up with a flower , YT really should get hand symbols that resemble the size of us women .
When I was watching your video, in every sentence I was able to relate to my mother. She is the one who showers softness & affection every time. I feel so lucky to have her in my life. Thank you Ms. Theodora for this lovely video. ❤️🫂
I just found your videos. It feels so relaxing to listen to what you say. I’m softening just because of the way you talk. Thank you very much. I have a problem with being a rather harsh person because of my upbringing (my mom was a single mother and had to do everything on her own, she was always stressed out and tense). I wish to be more feminine. I became just like my mum but I feel like that’s not the real me. I’m a sensitive person. I don’t feel like myself. I’m very grateful for videos like this about softening and femininity. ♥️
I understand where you are coming from . I was also brought up with a mom who was frustrated with my presence . I wished nothing than to be kinder and more loving and its all start with embracing your truth . ❤❤ and understanding ❤ hope we outgrow the behaviours we were brought up with and choose differently!❤❤ take care 🌻
I have gone through dozens of videos on femininity in an effort to reconnect with my own, but this may be the first one that has actually *clicked* with me. It seems I've spent so much time in the "faux feminine" trap, whereby I was caught up more in the superficial aspects of femininity than in the essence, or way of being, itself. Thank you so much for making and sharing these videos. They are so refreshing and enlightening.
Same, as a trans woman I felt a lot of societal pressure to meet standards of feminine appearance and voice in order to avoid negative treatment by others, when really femininity is about who we are inside and our orientation to life, not how our shell looks.
I had a traumatic experience as a child that made me defensive and very angry at a young age. I used harsh words and vicious actions to protect myself. I used to be a gentle kind kid with a mischievous streak, and I want to be that again. I’m really trying to heal the side of me that was excited and comfortable in feminine dresses and soft things.
I wanna share a little bit of my journey on connecting with my own feminity, I was rude brat growing up, arrogant and stubborn, but as I started to age, I decided to change how I view myself and started to keep in touch with my own feminity, never been happier than now, I'm glad I found myself in this journey, for women out there struggling, I believe you can find your own self too💞💞
You took all the words right out of my mouth! Thank you so much for your content . The attack on Women and femininity in recent years has been so discouraging and dangerous for the future
I agree; women have been attacked by double standards in romantic, onslaught of gaslighting by corporate America, and religious teachings that focus on women submitting to men. As human beings above all else, how can we not be hardened?
I get alot of women hating me because I'm feminine and dress nicely with a little makeup. They seem to resent me for it. Men love me though. I bring out their masculinity.
I love your video and you address the very thing that I'm suffering through, anger and knowing how to handle it in a productive manner and allowing my feminine self to be without hardening myself. I feel I have suppressed myself so much because I've had to constantly defend myself. And that's not me. So glad to be able to find someone who explains it well
Thank you so much. I thank God that he led me to this video, because you have concisely pointed out all my flaws in one go. I'm not too sure why I have such a masculine personality or just a personality that is so far far away from this feminine essesence that I do have inside of me. I crave for that and I hope I can let myself be vulnerable as I start to change myself.. Thank you
Be yourself imo we all have softness and hardness in us balance them out and don’t become something you’re not. Just my humble opinion. Very good content 💖💕👏🏼
I find your videos an extension of my therapy. I thoroughly enjoy them, sometimes I feel like femininity is something I’m struggling to practice…and I just want to say to any woman who feels like I do. It’s ok that you don’t get it off the bat keep learning about yourself and why you default to your masculine because it’s most likely rooted in trauma. I feel like me learning about femininity has started to set me free xx
As a child, i have been described as soft, gentle. Kind and considerate. But as i grew , i looked around and saw how these traits were looked as weak. And then came an era of trying to be tomboy. I truly tried to reconnect with my feminity lately , and alot discussed in this video really opened my eyes. A woman can do anything ❤❤
I hope more women see this video. It's a big help when learning to mingle with people. Years of social frustration has turned me into an anomaly. I used to be a consistently extroverted kid but now I'm bouncing between being a stiff rock or a hypebeast with not much in between. It probably has to do something with me being afraid to 'reveal' myself in fear of being taken advantage of that has led me to rely so much on masculine energy for my protection. So thank you for reminding me that softness is powerful too and can create the change we seek.
This is the first time I’ve seen one of your videos, and I want to share how much I love your cadence and pattern of speech 💕 your voice and use of vocabulary is so lovely!
It’s my first time today and I’m just like Wow! What a beautiful women with such insight. I appreciate this so much. I appreciate Her❤️ I love being a Woman
I absolutely love your channel. I’ve watched so many channels that focus on the “appearance” of feminity and not the essence of feminity. You’re an excellent example of true feminity.
I actually consume a lot of feminine energy content, beacause I feel so lost in this world where I'm around of men all the time. This is the first video that actually spoke about a femininity my body and heart is able to understand. Thank you for taking the time to explain every aspect and even pointing that we should not be "femenine" all the time.
I really enjoy the way you express yourself. There are so many videos on youtube on how to be a feminine woman that plays into "tricks to get the man" or doing behaviors that aren't authentic to your true self. I can see that you have really thought about this and are coming at it from a perspective of truly understanding what it is to be a woman and expressing yourself in ways that bring more joy into your life and connection with a strong sense of self, through a feminine lens. I subscribed and look forward to more of your content.
First I would like to say thank you. I am struggling with masculine energy. Just listening to your words, I felt rebellion and opposition inside my chest. I want to be feminine. I am crying because I am not sure if I can turn myself around. I feel at a lost. Just thank you.
I'm trying I feel growing up in the hood it made me hard to protect myself but I have a soft side that wants to blossom thanks for this video some of us just dont know and have to learn thanks for the help beautiful
Wow this is an amazing video. I'm going to rewatch and write notes. You're a blessing thankyou. I've always been pretty feminine but I've been taken advantage of and traumatized a lot and it has caused me to harden. I sometimes feel like a princess trapped in a tower I built for myself to protect myself. I've been fighting to get out bc my protection has turned into my prison.
I love your energy and your vibes. There is something so calming about you. I TH-cam searched soft feminine podcast and just felt so drawn to your video. ❤❤ I look forward to watching more of your videos.
As a woman I always nurture my femininity, actually I enjoy being a woman( this might sound cliché but who cares). I'm soft and an empath but people often misinterpret that I'm a weak woman because I'm not loud and can't speak for myself. I was getting worried if I'm not strong enough, because people were getting benefitted from me. But I understood that these two are two different issues. Thanks for the video, I'll keep enjoying my femininity and will never change the way I'm but only be the better version of myself🙂💖.
It’s hard to put into words how much I appreciate everything you’re saying. There is so much light in you, you’re channeling the word of God! This content is invaluable for women in our current culture. When you are discussing catastrophizing - This was something that I’ve been in particular working through as a trait when I find myself hardening. It felt like you were talking right to me! Especially because you use that word specifically LOL thank you for all that you do… Keep going! God willing
I love how your videos show how to fully embody femininity, beyond just liking pink. I also started my Christian journey recently and am finding natural makeup, hairstyles and clothing for my body, so I really resonate with your channel and am learning a lot of amazing information from you! 💗 What type of music do you use for your video backgrounds? So relaxing and classic, yet fun 💗 Btw, you’re gorgeous!
Oh thank you so much for such a wonderful comment!! You are so kind. The music I get from a royalty-free website - by Million Voices (songs are called Lily's Dance, There Will Be Rain, Mercy of the Wind and In Your Dreams), Franz Gordon (Altostratus, Two Weeks in July & Following a Dark Boat) & Gavin Luke (Haze). I mainly use those songs but am looking for more versatility. Anything soothing & cute with piano. ♡
Makeup is never natural you are hiding your true face and insulting the creator telling him you are not satisfied with your true self. How would you feel if someone pierced your child's ears without permission or paints your house with color you didn't want?
I’m so glad you became a Christian! It’ll be hard but SO worth it, so I encourage you to keep it up! 💜 I’ll be praying for you, too 🙏 Also yes! I love TH-cam channels like this because part of Christianity is being feminine!
(@ Grethel Edwards) All of the women I’ve met wear makeup to enhance their natural beauty, not cover it up. You can also look at it as a form of art and expression. It’s similar to wearing lovely clothing. 💕 I don’t think wearing makeup is inherently sinful at all - especially if it’s done tastefully and modestly
I think an important point to discuss is the role of beauty in embodying & expressing femininity. I’ve realised that it is almost exclusively classically beautiful women that put out these kinds of videos. And there is a reason… It is easier for these women to sail through life being “soft” because they have high social currency, & that is beauty. If an unattractive, overweight, extremely tall woman were to apply these principles, the results would be very different for her. In fact I am yet to see a woman who doesn’t fit the beauty norm create videos on soft life & femininity. If beauty & attraction are removed from the equation, where does this modern take on “femininity” stand??
NEW SUBBIE!!!🫶🏾i mean this wholeheartedly when i say pleaseeeee never stop making these videos… i desperately needed this because i too have been attacked and corrupted by the aggressive feminist culture and i became such a defensive, smart/quick mouthed, bossy/sassy female to the point where i thought women who acted soft were cringey lol and i’m still to this day unlearning some of those negative traits… it wasn’t until i decided to stop following my bad influence friends and truly strengthened my relationship with God that i started realizing what it really means to be a woman and to be feminine and to find these videos in my recommended it’s like God placed these videos in plain sight for me to see!!😭 thank you sooo soooo much for these videos girl you don’t understand how helpful they’ve been in helping me embrace my feminine side and how grateful i am to watch them!!💗💗💗💗🫶🏾🫶🏾
I love this whole video ; I'm not the most feminine when it comes to what i wear and a lot of the time I felt a constant push to have to wear dresses or a skirt's to be feminine ( by the way I don't have a problem with either, i just prefer baggy jeans or sweatpants cause of comfort) and I'm so glad you emphasized character and emotions instead of the physical appearance 😊
Femininity is an attitude. A belief system. I'd wear dresses or more tailored clothes if on a date though. I'd wear them anyway..you never know if your future spouse is watching you.
Awesome content! 🙏🏻❤️ I really feel the beauty and strength of a lady being feminine has been long forgotten, and as you said, that many strive to be a "fierce boss babe" in today's modern society. It's the way we're taught in schools, uni, the workplace etc, but it just reminds of the saying "trying to take a man's place, is a waste of a woman".
Even as a Pagan, and a non Christian, I feel connected to your words because they were soft and gentle. I feel you are right about everything you commented on in regards to what it means to be a real woman and to show some sort of compassion and what it means to be appealing. I love your videos. Please keep posting. Bless you!
As a man who’s spiritual, I had a feeling that you were a Christian woman even before you mentioned it. I appreciate women who take religion and spirituality seriously; they do tend to value things such as femininity. I appreciate you for making this video and I’ve shown it to some women I know. Thank you.
Feminine doesn't mean weak or vulnerable. Many mother Goddesses also have a protective and destructive side. Being Feminine is embracing the nurturing, compassionate, and creative energy, but also being capable of the strong protective force that will destroy anything that threatens their children and loved ones. Men protect women and women protect their children.
My relationships are sometimes ruined because I'm not "feminine enough". I don't feel safe enough to be vulnerable due to childhood issues. It's hard to let my wall down because I feel the need to protect that side of myself that was torn down and ridiculed, but I won't give up! Thank you for this video 🩷
Sometimes being a taller woman i feel i exude masculine dominance. Not sure if it’s solely due to height or my upbringing. I was so excited to see you are 5’9! Can you share a video on how you display softness and femininity even though you’re tall
I’m 5’9, and don’t feel nor am I perceived as masculine at all. Why do a lot of tall women think this way? Not judging, but I want to understand it. I feel sexy being tall. It’s hot!
@@true4585 ugh i really don’t know! I constantly try to affirm myself and i do often feel beautiful and feminine but the feeling creeps up on me wondering if somehow i take on other peoples feelings when they say ‘wow your big’ or maybe something in my upbringing!?! Wish i knew 🫤🤷🏾♀️
@@true4585 I'm 5'8'. I've been always taller than ALL my female friends to the point I don't feel feminine at all. Even boys consider me as '' one of the boys '' You don't understand how much I'm despondent because of it.
@@true4585 i actually am perceived that way and I’m only 5’7, I hear a lot that I’m intimidating or people equate me being tall to masculinity and so bc of the environment I’ve come up in, I do think that way sadly , everybody’s experience is different
I know this video is a year old but I am so happy I found it. I had to pause when you talked about the neuroticism because that is totally me. I overthink basically everything and always go 50 steps ahead to whatever the worst thing is. I’m so grateful that you shared how this is something that happens with you as well because often I’m left feeling like I’m the only one. Thank you for this and all of your other videos. I just subscribed and am excited to dive into your catalog and catch up on all of the wisdom you have to offer.
This was awesome I truly appreciate you making this video I have been trying to embrace my true femininity I have fought against it for years. I was molested at the age of nine after that I dared to never appear weak or vulnerable I saw femininity as a weakness so I practiced being mean and looking mean now honestly I don’t like how mean I come across because deep inside I know that my heart is so beautiful I truly want to let go of that false image and mask I have been portraying for so many years. I can honestly say having masculine energy has made a lot of men uncomfortable around me but having sweet gentle energy men will protect you.
I deeply appreciate you from the bottom of my heart! Thank you so much for sharing! I really needed to find you. I've been in a constant mental battle, always wondered if my 4B/C natural hair was 'feminine' enough. I've seen so many women refer to straight/long hair as the 'real feminine' hairstyle to have on, and it has always left me conflicted because I want to be extra comfortable wearing my natural hair. So seeing a beautiful, gorgeous, feminine woman like you wear yours is inspiring. Thank you so much! And your voice is soo soothing and Refreshing to listen to❤️❤️❤️
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As a child I was naturally very sensitive and nurturing. Instead of these traits being cultivated, I was told I'm weak because of my sensitive traits. I feel like a lot of my softness was beat out of me.
Same here
I’m sorry. I hope you take this beautiful gift you were born with back with pride and joy.
Me to!
Thats what feminism does... This kind of judgement should apply to men not women
Being sensitive also means being compassionate. You care about what you and other people feel so you're likely a person who doesn't like to hurt others. It's your strength, not everyone can possess such characteristic.
I’m a guy that found this video looking for examples of positive masculinity. Just commenting to say that it seems like both men and women are trying to ‘find our way back’ and become more in tune with our gender roles. Femininity is beautiful; thanks for sharing it.
As to masculinity my Grandfather always said a man has to be strong and decent. Many of the values and morals from the 60s and 70s were very good.. not all of course. Im a traditional man. Its good your looking at both sides.. The ying and the yang... woman and men...
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! I totally agree.
@@JasmyneTheodora Thank you for your kind words.
It feels like the proverbial pendulum has swung quite hard in favour of abandoning traditional gender roles...it would be so nice to see a return to more of a balanced society in the future, where women can be respected and celebrated as both motivated CEOs and supportive mothers, and vice-versa/similar for men too.
I've lived as both a tough, androgynous tomboy, and now as a feminine woman, and honestly I find it more natural and relaxing to lean into the softer aspects of womanhood. 🌷
Find way back to what?
She’s so sweet. She sounds like she gets a lot of sleep. And it’s rested and she speaks so clearly. Loved this video.
Yes...lots of sleep and sunshine she truly radiates beauty and gentleness.
Never realized how bad I want to be seen as someone who “gets enough sleep” haha what a specific and great compliment
Lol that’s specific
Yes she definitely seems well rested 😂
😂😂😂 exactly
“Prioritising the appearance of something and not the essence always leads to a disaster” So profound 🌷 so necessary
So happy to hear that it resonates!
Yesss
!!!!! listen my girl reads books or writes or something
That's true ! Well said ,I like that too 👏🥰 bc if you come from that perspective then you aren't coming from the inside. It's like trying to cover a wound with make up to make it look pretty but deep down the wound hasn't been addressed. The core issue ;)
Profound but you run asap to the gram
I’ve grown so much because I used to pride myself on being very rude, outspoken and independent. I thought it made me powerful, although it was detrimental to my well-being, I’m learning that being gentle and kind is powerful too. Thank you 🌷💌
Yes! I hope more women come to have that realization, as well. May God bless you 💕
It's the same with me. My mother is a very loud, hostile, masculine woman as are my sister's. My mother and sisters are so masculine that they are frequently mistaken for men. I had a really bad example but I've grown into my femininity.
@@richasf3533 Why should being dependant mean the relationship should turn abusive ? We all cant stem the World and need one another. Effetively there are hardly any really true independent people, as we all rely on other people in society. A partner is there to support, not to abuse.
@@richasf3533 Dear Sasa, I think its normal in life and in a relationship a give and take. The person you are describing should also give, not only take. For example when having children one person has to stay at home and look after the kids. In the old days or in nature the nurturing person would be vunerable and reliant on the provider in that moment and could not be independent.. one needed each other. Today life has become much easier. In a relationship I see it more as teamwork, but reliant on each other. When you can trust someone you can rely on them. A good relationship works like that. You are right any form of abuse is terrible and should not be tolerated. Love and Respect.
I had a friend like that. She pushed so many men away but she pushed me away as well. No longer friends. I love a soft and feminine friend. It’s rare. I want a good bff one day.
Femininity is strength through softness. Love that
🥰🥰🤗👏 YES!
Thats so sweet
When she said “gentleness is how young girls play with their dolls” : I was reminded of 6 year old me breaking my dolls limbs in an effort to make it confess that it’s real like in Toy story 😭
OMG😂😂
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😂😂😭i was so triggered when she said that bc i literally use to smack my dolls around
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Whettt??!😮
A feminine Woman is in no way weak. She is beautiful fragile like a flower.. a rose. Do we therefore consider a rose as weak ? No, but as truely valuable and honour, cherish, protect and love it for its true beauty. Femininty is the true power Woman have over men.
Beautifully said. Pinning! ♡
Roses also have thorns.
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@@richasf3533 What do you mean with setting you back ?
@@Notawesomeatall7 Yass. I never understood why people said life isn't like a bed of roses, I always ask myself "doesn't roses have thorns?" Life can be beautiful but there are some thorns we gotta face.
Your comment about kindness disarming people while in conflict is so true. I used to work at a restaurant where the cook was just hostile to everyone. One day it was just him and I and he YELLED at me when I made a mistake and gestured to me and was just speaking very aggressively to me and I just calmly apologized for my mistake and that I'd be more careful next time and he shut up for the rest of the shift. At the end of the night he PRAISED me for how I handled his anger. He said that he struggles with anger issues and that all the other waitresses just yell back at him and work becomes very hostile and unpleasant. He said I was graceful and so mature and he felt so sorry for talking to me that way. We were great friends after that up until I left town.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this!!
I mean I totally get what you did and I think you reacted well. BUT if he has anger issues that doesn’t mean everyone around him should walk on eggshells so they don’t make him angry. What I’m trying to say if you have an issue with dealing with people you go and try to solve it and better yourself not ask everyone to act a certain way around you because you have an “issue”
Everyone deserves respect, he was blaming the rest of the waitresses for yelling back at him while HE started yelling and disrespecting them! I will never just accept being disrespected for such a stupid mistake I made, I don’t agree with yelling in any situation and i agree with the point about kindness, but that doesn’t mean letting people treat me with disrespect!
I’ve tried this technique with my father. All the calm apologizing may of calmed him down temporarily but it never led to an apology. The last time I tried this, I said “I’m sorry that I forgot, it was a genuine mistake. I had no intention of trying to ruin your vacation”
He slapped me and said he was tired of the B.S apologizing. He accused me of lying and secretly hating him. In that moment what he said became true. The closest thing to an apology I ever got from him was “I’m sorry, but…”
What you did may work the first time, but if you have to do it repeatedly it’s probably not worth it
@@farahalsabbagh9740 THIS!!! this is why I struggle so freaking hard. Because I am feminine and soft unless I’m dealing with someone who is consistently toxic and hurtful to me. And it so hard to be gaslit and told you’re argumentative when I’m reality the person really needs to work on themselves. Have no idea how to handle these situations
I have the same situation, when someone says something hurtful and stupid to me, criticising my every move and then when I say something back it is always ‘you always moan and make arguements’. My usual reply now is: ‘Before you call me difficult, look at the way you treat me first and what you do to cause it’ then I just walk away. Some people will never get it. Don’t let them ruin your day, just write them off as lower IQ.
An observation: that rock you were holding in the beginning of this video looked rather smooth. In the natural world, rocks get like that not because of other rocks, but because of water. Softness really is powerful!
@@maryangelica5319 That’s a beautiful analogy!
I love your videos bc as a 15 yrs old girl becoming a women, I needed this, please if you have time please pray for me.
it's great youre doing what you want to do, just remeber to not push urself, u have a lot of time
The Lord will guide you through life in Jesus name
I pray for you today that the SOVEREIGN LORD in HIS mercy will guide you through the Paths of life and make you a blessing.
I pray above all that you may know HIM intimately and the power of HIS Resurrection.
And that you may be made conformable unto HIM.
Prayers and faith out to you mama 💕 share with your friends too and grow with love and strength
In Jesus' name, I pray that God guides your path and that you dwell in the Word of God always. Amen !
“Softness enchants, and invites people to let their guard down, because you don’t have to be defensive in the presence of what is soft.”
Beautiful presentation! Thank you so much for articulating in such lucid detail, "The Art of Softness" :-)
(minor concern that the background music may be a little too loud)
Ugh it is too loud in this video! You’re right! I’ve gotten better with sound mixing since then. Glad you were able to enjoy the video regardless 💕
@@JasmyneTheodora I'm looking forward to watching more of your videos. You have a very pleasant demeanor and clear, organized information. You're a bright light in the world and we're lucky to have you 💕
For a long time I’ve had to muscle through many challenges in life that I feel like I’m beginning to lose touch with my softness. It’s been very exhausting and lately I’ve decided to get back in touch with my feminity. This video is a good start and I’m so grateful to have found it.
Channels like this are an incredible gift for women of all ages. I’m 57 and just now truly discovering how to return to femininity. Thank you so very much. 🌺
I’m so glad you like it! 💕 Thank you so much for watching
Same here. Life got mean for a bit so did I. I’m finding me again at 54. I’ve actually missed me. Thank you sweet girl for sharing your wisdom with us. 💕
Me too, 57, retired from a very masculine driven career. Just returning to my feminine energy! Love it!
Me too ! 66 and been on feminine journey for last few years.....so happy
@@loveyforlaughs me too. 58 and loving a return to femininity.
I use to be a very "feminine" and gentle person, very soft spoken and always Polite, I still am but unfortunately I am stuck in an abusive household and if has taken away some of my gentleness because in order for me to survive in this environment until I can get out, I need to be rougher... This video is very helpful, and I cannot wait until I am out of here to go back to the person I truly am inside ♥️
You literally glow. The way you present yourself and speak so smoothly and softly, you are the epitome of femininity, thank you so much for the video
I’ve been independent for so long… when it comes to my relationship, it’s tricky because he is very in tune with his masculinity and there’s an imbalance. I’m still learning to be more in my feminine energy. I notice that when I am, it’s amazing how we interact with each other. It flows so nicely. This video is super helpful, thank you.
I'm so glad it's helpful!
God will show you how to be more feminine. It's precious to the Lord.
@@danilaroche1156 how do u know
@@polpol1005 Because the Lord is able to help us in every way. The Lord can do it, if we ask.
@@danilaroche1156 how can u be so sure?
This is the kind of femininity that needs to be talked about in modern society, and not trying to turn women into men.
You don't have to be a man or act like one to be powerful.
I absolutely agree. Thank you!!
Dats exactly where we go wrong as a society
Yess; embody who you are at your essence ,be authentic and real you that will get to better places than you could imagine. 👏
Agree🙌💗🥺🤗
YESS, THIS IS ALWAYS IN MY MIND, LIKE IS IT REALLY NECESSARY TO SACRIFICE YOUR FEMININITY IN ORDER TO FEEL POWERFUL? When you're truly powerful (feel) you don't need to change yourself because you know who you are, where you come from. If you as a women need others to validate your strength by acting manly, then that's really sad, and I think recently a lot of women have been forced to do this in order to protect themselves physically and emotionally, I hope we all can learn to embrace our femininity and be able to recognise that our vulnerability and tenderness is what makes us the strongest, because we are not hiding, we are not afraid to be ourselves, and we are ready to give and to love.
A women of natural angelic beauty. And by that I mean inside and out. Its like love itself. They move you instantly. A day without beauty is like a life without love. You have to be in the light to receive the light. Love your spiritual empowerment. You shine so bright
Wow, thank you so much! Such kind words
You really are one of kind
Such a wonderfully enlightened perspective on femininity. Thank you for being in the world and celebrating women's strength. I'd love more content specifically about communicating effectively and productively.
I could just cry after watching this.... I feel seen. I feel understood and I also feel like I can change
Being the rose that grew from the concrete I always had to be strong and wise and independent. But I never knew I could be all those things and still be soft...
Thank You from my broken, yet healing heart❤️🩹
im a man who found your channel. literally brought tears to my eyes when i saw your channel. such a wholesome and beautiful message you preach hear. hope your message reaches more people, i wish you good luck and god bless
Jesus help me😭😭😭 I am trying. I don’t even know if my voice can be this sweet and soft.
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@@yzma6142 🤣🤦🏽♀️
@@butterflyygyrlsworld5106 😂😂 this is too funny! But you got it sis. I had the same thought. When we really want a change, we make it ✨
@@Digitaldesss ok sis…from your mouth to Gods ears… 😩🙏🏽😂
Girl!! I'm so loud literally everytime 😂
I'm editing this a few hours later (8 to be exact) just spoke to my bf over the phone he's never been so responsive before! I was able to get him to really talk to me and open up which he generally has a hard time doing. I was just speaking gently and softly and giving him time to respond, gently proving him. this works better than getting angry y'all 😅🤣
Immediately subscribed! As a stay at home mom of grade school kids I feel very judged for my traditional lifestyle but I am so so happy catering to my PHENOMENAL husband and kids. I love my life
Thank you so much for subscribing! And so happy to hear another woman loving her traditional lifestyle 🙌
“People are aware that they don’t ‘need’ to show up for you…they simply want to give you some goodness.” That is a beautiful thought. Allowing someone to express goodness is a gift I can give to them…and an act of humility on my part. Like accepting a tiny flower from my little granddaughter. Even if she just pulled off the blossom, even if she bent it, she is still showing her goodness to me.
Yes, absolutely! 💕
It’s crazy bc the softer you are the stronger you get bc it brings endless opportunities to grow, (in other words brings endless opportunities for people to hurt you) which could make it hard to adapt the softness but ultimately once mastered, you could live in peace in a world that’s always at war.
Wow that’s so powerful thank you for sharing. Food for thought
Yess❤ Softness is definitely not a weakness, softness ≠ accept everything. You are ought to be soft yet firm, know when it times to be soft and know when it times to be firm. People now are way stranded from the actual meaning of softness, they see it as a weakness rather than a strenght. Truly, it takes a LOT of one's strength and wisdom to be soft and gentle 💕
Absolutely!!
I've been fragile, sensitive, and overly kind as a kid but when I was sent to the city to study high school, my parents always told me that I should change my personality because the city is not like the peaceful countryside. People won't go easy on me there and they would most likely prey on me because I'm too vulnerable. I was told to toughen up so I did. I still have a caring and nurturing side of me but I concealed them with being reserved and vigilant
i’ve always been feminine but was told i was too weak for being kind, nice and welcoming to other people. another factor is my skin tone, as a darker person i don’t get to fully be as feminine as i want. i’m hyperfeminine but so many people have told me that i’m masculine and have tried to force me to fit this strong, heavy hearted, independent black women when that’s not who i am at all. part of me has started conforming but i’m gonna stop listening to them and finally be comfortable in what i am, focus on the ones who see and admire my personality and aura.
As a black woman it annoys me that people try to force-feed stereotypes and think they have the monopoly on how we should act forgetting that only WE are the ones in control of OURSELVES.
I'm currently trying to reconnect with my feminine side after embracing masculine energy for so long, I've been ashamed of my womanhood for the longest time and I'm finding great value and information from your videos, thank you so much! Growing up in a male dominated society is hard, but I'm realising I don't have to be or act a certain way to be respected and noticed. Having balance is key 🥰
I used to hate being a woman. Now I love it.
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Girl girl girl girl!! At 1:59 when you started describing softness I literally got chills. The words you used, the softness of your voice, your smile and just your aura. Makes me want to be just like that. 🤍🤍😊 thank you for this video!
Awww!! 🥹 Thank you so much for watching!!
Remember...We need to become the woman we were created to be. :)
Ive been quite sensitive and caring for most of my life. (Both of my parents made a big deal about teaching me this stuff.) I'm also quite shy and quiet. In my community these traits in a women are usually seen as negative. Ive been called weak and even stupid multiple times :( so It's really nice to see ladies from everywhere coming together to celebrate them! You're very pretty and smart. ♡
Honestly, since I was a child I was always emotional. So emotional I got bullied ( without exactly knowing because I am too trusting ) and called a ‘crybaby’. I don’t know, I guess because of that my softness dropped significantly.
My mama told me to grow a hard shell because the world will never be kind to me with the way I am. And she’s right. But I need to learn to flex the softness I still have. Thank you for showing me that through this ! ♥️
I love this ! I was raised by a strong black Woman and she is amazing ! That part of my life taught me survival skills but this !!!!! This is vulnerable, beautiful, and it pushes me ! I’m excited to embody these character traits.
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This video made me cry. I feel at home, i feel seen. My softness, my views aren't well received. I've been called a pick me many times. I used to feel like I'm an introvert but I'm really just surrounded by people that refer to themselves as "boss b****es", by masculine women who think I'm weak for being gentle. Definitely going to subscribe after this video. Thank you for what you are doing.
And I made the comment too early. I've always said that independence is a fallacy. Nobody in a society is independent. Have a job or even your own business? You depend on others. Buying products? You depend on others. No matter what you do, you are never independent. Unless you live by yourself and off the land alone.
She is so intelligent. I feel like this woman stands out from the rest because she is providing so much valuable information and which makes this video so significant! Immediately subscribed
I can be rude at times when I am stressed out. I am also impatient with the people around me.
It definitely affects me in a bad way. I also head that this attitude does not suit me at all.
Thanks for your video and the message you spread.
Thank you so much for watching. I'm glad you liked it! （╹◡╹）
this is something i really struggle with:(
Lately I have become very hard and tired, from needing to tend to three children and my home. This video was an amazing reminder to recapture that delicate and soft manner that attracted my husband seven years ago 💜 thank you
As a woman with full femenine energy, I love this video. The divine feminine is beautiful; we are not weak, we have inner strengh that the masculine can´t tap in. We are the queens and the high priestesses of the world. But, the masculine is our partner in crime, the person that can do what we can´t. Both energies deserve to exist and be praised.
I love the way she speaks. It’s very intellectual and clear. It’s refreshing to hear a woman speak in such a way
Yes i wish i can speak like her ❤
This is the first channel I’ve found that discusses femininity in such a virtuous way. Most often, dating coaches teach how to act feminine in order to get a man. Nothing wrong with that necessarily, but I’d rather the dating aspect was part of a broader teaching! And you are doing it with so much grace and thoughtfulness. Thank you ♥️
i am one of the people who got told that my femininity and sensitivity is weak and will get taken advantage of until i created a shield to protect myself and on top of that this society and feminism being pushed on to me but deep down i knew that it’s not what i am or want and i wanted to get myself back from what was pushed out of me and this is honestly one of the most helpful videos ive seen. you’ve explained everything so profoundly and specifically to each problem and how to do deal with all of these things, genuinely thank you so much, this helps a lot 💗
you’re very beautiful as well and your hair is gorgeous 😊🥰
You are doing God’s work with your femininity videos. Growing up and being a young teenage girl in this modern day time is not easy. Us girls are constantly being encouraged to be promiscuous, masculine, and unpleasant. Thank you for making videos like this for girls that would rather take the alternative route of embracing femininity. There are not many role models nowadays and I’m glad I’ve found your channel. Thank you!!
🌻 being fierce doesn’t make you less feminine for any fierce ladies, you don’t hide that side to be in your feminine energy.
“Fierce” can have positive or negative connotations depending on the context. Here, I meant it in the more traditional sense meaning “ferociousness” or “aggression”. But people also use the term positively to mean “passionate”, “enthusiastic”, etc 💕
I’ve been on this journey for a while trying to reconnect with my feminine and I find it so hard to balance ‘pretending’ to be feminine and actually finding the root. My pride gets hurt and I get discouraged when I get bad reactions from people when I am ‘putting it on’ and when I’m fully in tune it feels like the world is my oyster! It was so profound for you to mention this!!!! Maybe you could do a video about what tools you use to encourage, feed, nurture and connect to your femininity? I love your content 💐💐
I can't get over how right you are in the disclaimer. I'm going to *softly* excel in college🌻
I’m tired of being overly masculine ! Real beauty lies in being authentically in my femininity and appreciation of what I am. Being Hispanic a lot of times you hear older women saying how they wish they were men, and how men have it easy etc because of my cultures male chauvinistic ways. Men always get away with everything and can do anything. I believe subconsciously I wanted to be free forgetting that freedom lies in me being authentic and appreciating and loving being a women no matter how the bad side of my culture sees it. I am no longer ashamed and I am working hard to balance out my energies! Thank you for this video ! I am a women and I am proud!
Gentleness- soothing and vulnerability
“May I”
Peaceful Vulnerability- authenticity and being unguarded - acknowledging what things they are
Flexibility and cooperation- peace, safety and patience
Bends instead of breaks
Dealing with overthinking- pain and anxiety is inevitable so embrace it
You will never know how much I appreciate your videos in my effort to reawaken what was lost after years of the feminist attack on what I was instinctually born with , many thanks to you 🙏🏻 💖
I am so happy to hear this. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment!
@@JasmyneTheodora Thank you for responding & you are so welcome 🌷
P. S. had to replace that thumbs up with a flower , YT really should get hand symbols that resemble the size of us women .
When I was watching your video, in every sentence I was able to relate to my mother. She is the one who showers softness & affection every time. I feel so lucky to have her in my life. Thank you Ms. Theodora for this lovely video. ❤️🫂
love how you emphasized authenticity and not performance which is what so many people are doing nowadays !
Thank you!!
in exactly 10 seconds of starting the video I knew you will speak FACTS. You radiate so much love I'm here for it. Thank you for sharing! 🫶
This is also like therapy for those dealing with anxiety and negative emotions. Nice one !
I just found your videos. It feels so relaxing to listen to what you say. I’m softening just because of the way you talk. Thank you very much. I have a problem with being a rather harsh person because of my upbringing (my mom was a single mother and had to do everything on her own, she was always stressed out and tense). I wish to be more feminine. I became just like my mum but I feel like that’s not the real me. I’m a sensitive person. I don’t feel like myself. I’m very grateful for videos like this about softening and femininity. ♥️
Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. Your words are so motivating for me!
I understand where you are coming from . I was also brought up with a mom who was frustrated with my presence . I wished nothing than to be kinder and more loving and its all start with embracing your truth . ❤❤ and understanding ❤ hope we outgrow the behaviours we were brought up with and choose differently!❤❤ take care 🌻
@@lindakhanyile3252 🌸 ♥️😊
I have gone through dozens of videos on femininity in an effort to reconnect with my own, but this may be the first one that has actually *clicked* with me. It seems I've spent so much time in the "faux feminine" trap, whereby I was caught up more in the superficial aspects of femininity than in the essence, or way of being, itself.
Thank you so much for making and sharing these videos. They are so refreshing and enlightening.
Same, as a trans woman I felt a lot of societal pressure to meet standards of feminine appearance and voice in order to avoid negative treatment by others, when really femininity is about who we are inside and our orientation to life, not how our shell looks.
I had a traumatic experience as a child that made me defensive and very angry at a young age. I used harsh words and vicious actions to protect myself.
I used to be a gentle kind kid with a mischievous streak, and I want to be that again. I’m really trying to heal the side of me that was excited and comfortable in feminine dresses and soft things.
I pray that you’ll reach yours goals
I wanna share a little bit of my journey on connecting with my own feminity, I was rude brat growing up, arrogant and stubborn, but as I started to age, I decided to change how I view myself and started to keep in touch with my own feminity, never been happier than now, I'm glad I found myself in this journey, for women out there struggling, I believe you can find your own self too💞💞
This is off topic but can we just admire the beauty of this woman and her natural hair!
You took all the words right out of my mouth! Thank you so much for your content . The attack on Women and femininity in recent years has been so discouraging and dangerous for the future
Thank you so much for watching! Yes, the world desperately needs feminine women
Sapphire Blue agree with your comment from the bottom of my heart. Love and blessings from the U.K.
I agree; women have been attacked by double standards in romantic, onslaught of gaslighting by corporate America, and religious teachings that focus on women submitting to men. As human beings above all else, how can we not be hardened?
Maybe we need to focus on men and their problematic behaviors or communication instead of telling women they aren’t soft enough
I get alot of women hating me because I'm feminine and dress nicely with a little makeup. They seem to resent me for it. Men love me though. I bring out their masculinity.
I love your video and you address the very thing that I'm suffering through, anger and knowing how to handle it in a productive manner and allowing my feminine self to be without hardening myself. I feel I have suppressed myself so much because I've had to constantly defend myself. And that's not me. So glad to be able to find someone who explains it well
Thank you so much. I thank God that he led me to this video, because you have concisely pointed out all my flaws in one go. I'm not too sure why I have such a masculine personality or just a personality that is so far far away from this feminine essesence that I do have inside of me. I crave for that and I hope I can let myself be vulnerable as I start to change myself.. Thank you
She honestly looks like a princess, so I'm going to listen to Her
we need to unpack this. what physical qualities makes you say this?
She had elegance she speaks so gracefully she is radiant and has a charm about her and obviously her beauty shines in her appearance
Be yourself imo we all have softness and hardness in us balance them out and don’t become something you’re not. Just my humble opinion. Very good content 💖💕👏🏼
I find your videos an extension of my therapy. I thoroughly enjoy them, sometimes I feel like femininity is something I’m struggling to practice…and I just want to say to any woman who feels like I do. It’s ok that you don’t get it off the bat keep learning about yourself and why you default to your masculine because it’s most likely rooted in trauma. I feel like me learning about femininity has started to set me free xx
As a child, i have been described as soft, gentle. Kind and considerate. But as i grew , i looked around and saw how these traits were looked as weak. And then came an era of trying to be tomboy. I truly tried to reconnect with my feminity lately , and alot discussed in this video really opened my eyes. A woman can do anything ❤❤
My spirit has been calling for this lesson. Thank you
Thank you for watching!!
I hope more women see this video. It's a big help when learning to mingle with people.
Years of social frustration has turned me into an anomaly. I used to be a consistently extroverted kid but now I'm bouncing between being a stiff rock or a hypebeast with not much in between. It probably has to do something with me being afraid to 'reveal' myself in fear of being taken advantage of that has led me to rely so much on masculine energy for my protection. So thank you for reminding me that softness is powerful too and can create the change we seek.
I don't know why youtube suggested this video, but I really needed this. I'm so tired of women needing to be smaller men. We're not men.
Yes❤
This is the first time I’ve seen one of your videos, and I want to share how much I love your cadence and pattern of speech 💕 your voice and use of vocabulary is so lovely!
Thank you so much!!
!!!ditto ..now I'm about to binge on her
It’s my first time today and I’m just like Wow! What a beautiful women with such insight. I appreciate this so much. I appreciate Her❤️ I love being a Woman
I absolutely love your channel. I’ve watched so many channels that focus on the “appearance” of feminity and not the essence of feminity. You’re an excellent example of true feminity.
Happy Women's Day, ladies! 🌸🌸
I actually consume a lot of feminine energy content, beacause I feel so lost in this world where I'm around of men all the time. This is the first video that actually spoke about a femininity my body and heart is able to understand. Thank you for taking the time to explain every aspect and even pointing that we should not be "femenine" all the time.
I really enjoy the way you express yourself. There are so many videos on youtube on how to be a feminine woman that plays into "tricks to get the man" or doing behaviors that aren't authentic to your true self. I can see that you have really thought about this and are coming at it from a perspective of truly understanding what it is to be a woman and expressing yourself in ways that bring more joy into your life and connection with a strong sense of self, through a feminine lens. I subscribed and look forward to more of your content.
Your voice, hair, and personality 👸🏽
Thank you so much!!
First I would like to say thank you. I am struggling with masculine energy. Just listening to your words, I felt rebellion and opposition inside my chest. I want to be feminine. I am crying because I am not sure if I can turn myself around. I feel at a lost. Just thank you.
Wow. Thank you for the reminder to submit our insecurities to Christ. I enjoyed this video. I am smiling with gratitude.
Glad you enjoyed it!
I'm trying I feel growing up in the hood it made me hard to protect myself but I have a soft side that wants to blossom thanks for this video some of us just dont know and have to learn thanks for the help beautiful
Wow this is an amazing video. I'm going to rewatch and write notes. You're a blessing thankyou. I've always been pretty feminine but I've been taken advantage of and traumatized a lot and it has caused me to harden. I sometimes feel like a princess trapped in a tower I built for myself to protect myself. I've been fighting to get out bc my protection has turned into my prison.
I love your energy and your vibes. There is something so calming about you. I TH-cam searched soft feminine podcast and just felt so drawn to your video. ❤❤ I look forward to watching more of your videos.
As a woman I always nurture my femininity, actually I enjoy being a woman( this might sound cliché but who cares). I'm soft and an empath but people often misinterpret that I'm a weak woman because I'm not loud and can't speak for myself. I was getting worried if I'm not strong enough, because people were getting benefitted from me. But I understood that these two are two different issues. Thanks for the video, I'll keep enjoying my femininity and will never change the way I'm but only be the better version of myself🙂💖.
You upload just as I finish my bible study session. One of the best sensations yet 😆
Wow, thank you for such a kind comment! 💕
I discovered that I'm feminine and I think that's why people describe me with kindness
It’s hard to put into words how much I appreciate everything you’re saying. There is so much light in you, you’re channeling the word of God! This content is invaluable for women in our current culture.
When you are discussing catastrophizing - This was something that I’ve been in particular working through as a trait when I find myself hardening. It felt like you were talking right to me! Especially because you use that word specifically LOL thank you for all that you do… Keep going! God willing
I love how your videos show how to fully embody femininity, beyond just liking pink. I also started my Christian journey recently and am finding natural makeup, hairstyles and clothing for my body, so I really resonate with your channel and am learning a lot of amazing information from you! 💗 What type of music do you use for your video backgrounds? So relaxing and classic, yet fun 💗 Btw, you’re gorgeous!
Oh thank you so much for such a wonderful comment!! You are so kind.
The music I get from a royalty-free website - by Million Voices (songs are called Lily's Dance, There Will Be Rain, Mercy of the Wind and In Your Dreams), Franz Gordon (Altostratus, Two Weeks in July & Following a Dark Boat) & Gavin Luke (Haze). I mainly use those songs but am looking for more versatility. Anything soothing & cute with piano. ♡
Makeup is never natural you are hiding your true face and insulting the creator telling him you are not satisfied with your true self. How would you feel if someone pierced your child's ears without permission or paints your house with color you didn't want?
I’m so glad you became a Christian!
It’ll be hard but SO worth it, so I encourage you to keep it up! 💜 I’ll be praying for you, too 🙏
Also yes! I love TH-cam channels like this because part of Christianity is being feminine!
(@ Grethel Edwards) All of the women I’ve met wear makeup to enhance their natural beauty, not cover it up. You can also look at it as a form of art and expression. It’s similar to wearing lovely clothing. 💕 I don’t think wearing makeup is inherently sinful at all - especially if it’s done tastefully and modestly
I think an important point to discuss is the role of beauty in embodying & expressing femininity. I’ve realised that it is almost exclusively classically beautiful women that put out these kinds of videos. And there is a reason…
It is easier for these women to sail through life being “soft” because they have high social currency, & that is beauty.
If an unattractive, overweight, extremely tall woman were to apply these principles, the results would be very different for her. In fact I am yet to see a woman who doesn’t fit the beauty norm create videos on soft life & femininity.
If beauty & attraction are removed from the equation, where does this modern take on “femininity” stand??
when u said soft i didnt expect your voice to be literally so soft i had to turn my volume all the way up …..
Yeah, the audio isn’t great on this video, sorry about that! I’ve gotten better with it thankfully
NEW SUBBIE!!!🫶🏾i mean this wholeheartedly when i say pleaseeeee never stop making these videos… i desperately needed this because i too have been attacked and corrupted by the aggressive feminist culture and i became such a defensive, smart/quick mouthed, bossy/sassy female to the point where i thought women who acted soft were cringey lol and i’m still to this day unlearning some of those negative traits… it wasn’t until i decided to stop following my bad influence friends and truly strengthened my relationship with God that i started realizing what it really means to be a woman and to be feminine and to find these videos in my recommended it’s like God placed these videos in plain sight for me to see!!😭 thank you sooo soooo much for these videos girl you don’t understand how helpful they’ve been in helping me embrace my feminine side and how grateful i am to watch them!!💗💗💗💗🫶🏾🫶🏾
I love this whole video ; I'm not the most feminine when it comes to what i wear and a lot of the time I felt a constant push to have to wear dresses or a skirt's to be feminine ( by the way I don't have a problem with either, i just prefer baggy jeans or sweatpants cause of comfort) and I'm so glad you emphasized character and emotions instead of the physical appearance 😊
Femininity is an attitude. A belief system. I'd wear dresses or more tailored clothes if on a date though. I'd wear them anyway..you never know if your future spouse is watching you.
Fantastic! I wish I had heeded these words as a young Christian woman. Please please put this in a BOOK!
Awesome content! 🙏🏻❤️ I really feel the beauty and strength of a lady being feminine has been long forgotten, and as you said, that many strive to be a "fierce boss babe" in today's modern society.
It's the way we're taught in schools, uni, the workplace etc, but it just reminds of the saying "trying to take a man's place, is a waste of a woman".
May be off topic, but I love your hair!
Thank you so much! Used a tonnnnn of gel haha
Even as a Pagan, and a non Christian, I feel connected to your words because they were soft and gentle. I feel you are right about everything you commented on in regards to what it means to be a real woman and to show some sort of compassion and what it means to be appealing. I love your videos. Please keep posting. Bless you!
As a man who’s spiritual, I had a feeling that you were a Christian woman even before you mentioned it. I appreciate women who take religion and spirituality seriously; they do tend to value things such as femininity. I appreciate you for making this video and I’ve shown it to some women I know. Thank you.
Thank you so much for sharing it!! God Bless!
GIRL you're so well spoken 🌸🌸
Feminine doesn't mean weak or vulnerable. Many mother Goddesses also have a protective and destructive side. Being Feminine is embracing the nurturing, compassionate, and creative energy, but also being capable of the strong protective force that will destroy anything that threatens their children and loved ones. Men protect women and women protect their children.
My relationships are sometimes ruined because I'm not "feminine enough". I don't feel safe enough to be vulnerable due to childhood issues. It's hard to let my wall down because I feel the need to protect that side of myself that was torn down and ridiculed, but I won't give up! Thank you for this video 🩷
Sometimes being a taller woman i feel i exude masculine dominance. Not sure if it’s solely due to height or my upbringing. I was so excited to see you are 5’9! Can you share a video on how you display softness and femininity even though you’re tall
I’m 5’9, and don’t feel nor am I perceived as masculine at all. Why do a lot of tall women think this way? Not judging, but I want to understand it. I feel sexy being tall. It’s hot!
@@true4585 ugh i really don’t know! I constantly try to affirm myself and i do often feel beautiful and feminine but the feeling creeps up on me wondering if somehow i take on other peoples feelings when they say ‘wow your big’ or maybe something in my upbringing!?! Wish i knew 🫤🤷🏾♀️
Tall is beautiful. Embrace it. I'm 5'6. Wish I were taller & height has nothing to do with softness.
@@true4585 I'm 5'8'. I've been always taller than ALL my female friends to the point I don't feel feminine at all. Even boys consider me as '' one of the boys ''
You don't understand how much I'm despondent because of it.
@@true4585 i actually am perceived that way and I’m only 5’7, I hear a lot that I’m intimidating or people equate me being tall to masculinity and so bc of the environment I’ve come up in, I do think that way sadly , everybody’s experience is different
I know this video is a year old but I am so happy I found it. I had to pause when you talked about the neuroticism because that is totally me. I overthink basically everything and always go 50 steps ahead to whatever the worst thing is. I’m so grateful that you shared how this is something that happens with you as well because often I’m left feeling like I’m the only one. Thank you for this and all of your other videos. I just subscribed and am excited to dive into your catalog and catch up on all of the wisdom you have to offer.
I have way too many “boyish” traits and im trying to be more feminine! I appreciate this video💕 also you are a gorgeous girl🩷🩷
Oh thank you so much! Im so glad you found it helpful!
This was awesome I truly appreciate you making this video I have been trying to embrace my true femininity I have fought against it for years. I was molested at the age of nine after that I dared to never appear weak or vulnerable I saw femininity as a weakness so I practiced being mean and looking mean now honestly I don’t like how mean I come across because deep inside I know that my heart is so beautiful I truly want to let go of that false image and mask I have been portraying for so many years. I can honestly say having masculine energy has made a lot of men uncomfortable around me but having sweet gentle energy men will protect you.
I deeply appreciate you from the bottom of my heart! Thank you so much for sharing! I really needed to find you. I've been in a constant mental battle, always wondered if my 4B/C natural hair was 'feminine' enough. I've seen so many women refer to straight/long hair as the 'real feminine' hairstyle to have on, and it has always left me conflicted because I want to be extra comfortable wearing my natural hair. So seeing a beautiful, gorgeous, feminine woman like you wear yours is inspiring. Thank you so much! And your voice is soo soothing and Refreshing to listen to❤️❤️❤️