I've always been a hard person. Never had a strong male figure to make me feel safe and then I was repeatedly assaulted and honestly I don't trust men. I want to be more feminine and start trusting again, would you make a video on that? I'm not sure how but there's an idea. Love your content
First give your life to Christ Jesus,cry unto him pour your heart before your heavenly father and ask him to forgive you,then all these feminine things will come naturally to you.Just remember Jesus Christ loves you so much more than you can ever imagine
1. Presence- being delighted in a new space and experience. Things that make me smile, and adding to the experience. 2. Being true vs. Being Right - I'm still working on this, but what I have gained on this is that I love being wrong because my mind gets blown when I learn something I have never thought about or was ever educated on. Learning, is hella fun. 3. Letting people take care of me- sometimes it is beautiful, to see how the other values you and the things you care about. My father taught me to let a man walk you on the inside of the sidewalk or hold the door open for you, as a way to honor your safety. And my mother taught me, let a masculine feel masculine caring for you 4. Tactfulness - there is a time and place to say and do certain things, and respect the sensitivity of the environment. Unless you absolutely need, to shake "shit" up. My mother taught me, "Always find a graceful way to say things, without sarcasm." 5. Rest- Hard people, come for you when you are warm and kind. There will be a time when they break down, and need that compassion since they chased everyone else off. Show yourself, some compassion always. Feel your feels without judgement, and understand those feelings as my therapist would always say. Or my grandfather taught me to sit in silence, without extra stimulation 6. Harmful media - I stopped listening to alot of certain artists music, because I hated feeling like crap after. I'm Sensitive unapologetically, so I need safe stimulation unless there are certain times my moods require alignment with whatever art activities I will be engaging in. I prefer uplifting or mood balancing media outlets most times. I hate emo rap 7. Humility - humility keeps me safe from drama, and allows me to surrender to the process of strengthening my weaknesses and knowing how to cooperate with my strengths and coordinate successfully with others 8. I love masculine energy, because it allows me to comfortably soften and be as bubbly and comfortably subservient. I have a reason to wear more dresses. However, it needs to be earned. 9. Social Conflict - if you don't get ignored, or assisted with some love and support. You will get your ass dealt with, and compassion runs out when they continuously over step my boundaries seeing that I'm trying to respect their emotional space. 10. Boundaries, make great fences for social neighbors. It preserves the integrity, of our connection without disrespecting the other's individuality. I will apologize like a young gold hearted lady raised with some manners, and home training. I don't wanna hear "you apologize too much" *or don't worry about it" if I know, I did do something wrong even on accident. *I offer my Southern Belle etiquette, without being a pushover. I'm as soft as they come, I'm just not easily bullied. And there will be problems, if you try it.
Iove how you explore the topic of softness, without making me feel powerless as a woman. Being a hard person is exhausting, this is such an important message 🤲
I just wanted to say that I think the classical music in the background of your videos is so calming and helpful. I've been watching a few of your videos and I am definitely trying to work on being softer and opening up to the idea of vulnerability but also what u said about being present and not multitasking is a big one for me. I almost robotically never do just one thing at a time and thinking about it now, it has definitely distracted me away from feeling or responding to things correctly. Your spirit seems so peaceful and I wish I had more women like you around me physically to draw from. I hope you continue to bloom in life and that God really does something with this platform you created and the love he's given you to share. -Alana
I LOVE what you bring up about cultivating humility (12:03)! I literally just finished studying how Esther won favor with the king (both Xerses & God) through her natural obedience and humble submission. She was easily corrected, instructed and advised and always sought wisdom from those in authority before moving forward. Many “modern women” (including myself at one point) don’t realize how averse we are to any kind of humility, submission or obedience. As you said, these are all qualities essential to building value within ourselves and throughout every aspect of our lives. What I believe it comes down to is having poor examples of masculinity or authority (an expression of masculinity). When we have not fully healed our relationship to our masculine counterparts; men & fathers, we cannot fully submit to the essential instruction or direction that may help us advance in every aspect of life. Thank you for shedding light! Blessings 💕🕊
I relate so much with the media aspect you mentioned especially! I find myself enjoying watching\listening to more wholesome things and find it more helpful too
I’m Catholic and I’ve always been very traditional anyways, but I realized lately that I need to work on my feminist and put aside my pride. I never thought I struggled with letting men lead or take care of me bc of my value system, but it was humbling to see that it is something I need to work on. I think all women could benefit from this message.
I am a Catholic and appreciate your videos sooo much! They have slowly transformed me to the woman I've always dreamed of being :) I am from the North so my temperament can be rough and I had a very Neurotic pants wearing mother who taught me to not rely on men. I found myself a very masculine man who loves God and has shown me what true submission looks like. I still battle with softness and finding your chanel has helped me immensely! Even my husband is noticing a beautiful difference in me. Thank you so much for your feminine series, God bless you sister ❤️
I'm so veryyyy glad I came across your page!! I use to have softness instilled in me it was who I naturally was how I was taught to be but after after along term toxic relationship and also having to play the male and female role it caused me to become very guarded and hardened now my masculine man has found me and it has caused conflict and unintentional hurt bc I am not allowing him to walk in his role 😢 so I'm doing some soul searching and much prayer and watching videos like yours to get back in touch w my feminine softer side I appreciate you and your channel!! You exude grace and femininity!!
Just discovered your channel, this is the second video that I'm watching and I hear the word "Orthodox" and that made my eastern european heart happy!.☦️One more reason to follow your channel; I completely relate to that part, working to gain souls and not "being right"
This is often why men are far more cruel and cold because they don’t do that started crying and understanding and moving on and through things like a break up and understanding how it hurt them they can’t seem to admit it and sit down and cry even in private. I pray often and will continue to pray for men that they can still have their masculinity and move through all of that so they can be open and considerate of others
@4':40 i just re-started to follow you after i heard this. it's ok we are all human and do wrong. I used to love your approach, but when i saw you reply aggressively to a comment on other beliefs, i guess that it was no longer a channel that I wanted to follow. I clicked on this video recently and re-started to follow loool. sorry my english is not good
I am a very introverted and calm person. And can only be myself with people I click with. All my life people tell me in school and work that i am not good enough because i am too calm. this always hurts me because i feel rejected on my character. I now find it difficult to set boundaries and I quickly feel personally attacked and can quickly become angry or I don't say anything. now I'm in a healing process and now I'm starting to see I'm good the way I am. Thanks you for your videos🙏🏼
Even though I had been a Christian for 13 years, it wasn't until I found the Orthodox church that my heart was ready to see how much hardness and gender disorder I still harbored. I began wanting to become fully human in the way God intended - including fully woman. It's an ongoing journey! But as the Orthodox church has become such a healing place for me (truly a hospital for souls) I was encouraged to find a fellow Orthodox woman on the other side of a video that "randomly" popped up in my feed (a video that the old me never would have clicked on, btw ;)) Thanks for bringing this content, it is so vital in our times.
@@Mel.me. The Orthodox church is eternally beautiful & is enriched with so many time tested tools & traditions for spiritual growth. I went from Protestant TO Orthodox for years TO Jesus Christ & the church is bigger than Protestant vs Catholic vs Orthodox. The Orthodox church is amazing & eternally beautiful. Jesus Christ can transform & show you his transforming love weither or not there is an close Orthodox church. Praying for you sis! 💗
It’s so wonderful you’re interested in Orthodoxy. I encourage you to read “The Orthodox Way” & use the Orthodox Study Bible & get an Orthodox prayer book. Also, some authentic Orthodox icons to set up an icon/prayer corner (you can order them online). If you can ever make time to visit an Orthodox church, get into contact with the priest ahead of time. Even if you’re only able to go a couple times a year, it can greatly help. It could even be considered a pilgrimage! 💕☦️ Blessings to you & yours
This was such an eye opening video! Thank you for bringing these points to light. I really enjoyed hearing these perspectives and can see how valuable they are! I will definitely be implementing them into my life and striving to be more soft. So well said 💕
I love your videos and have been watching them daily now to remind and courage myself of how beautiful it is to be a woman and to know that my identity is in Christ alone.
Im so sorry 🥺🥺 it takes me 5ever to plan & film a video, it’s a pretty long process. Im hoping to get faster with time but in the meantime, thank you for your patience ❤️❤️
I love your voice and how you explain things!! Very relaxing and informative. I was wondering if maybe you could post your skincare routine? Your skin is practically glowing!
Yes being present is what ive been working on.. Ive actually learned to slow down and enjoy the moment.. Especially when im with my kids doing stuff like cooking or cuddling I take a moment to thank God for that exact moment that he allows me to just relax love on and enjoy my kids 💕👣👶 its blissful 😍
you slightly favor the actress Yara Shahidi. lovely eyes btw❤️ your voice is very melodic and nice to listen to. as one lady to another, softness is indeed powerful
Hahah I come from a Catholic/Coptic Orthodox background and that's how I used to be about debating Protestants as I'm passionate about Church history and Theology. Now, I just rest in my truth and spend my energy in loving other fellow Christians and being the best Catholic/Orthodox I can be. Only the Holy Spirit converts anyways. P.S. love your channel. We need more of this.
You're so right with 15:43. I didn't know this back when I was younger but started realising it as I got older! It helped me a ton with interactions with people who go out of their way to offend me. I still can't quite bring myself to feel pity for them (I lack empathy in that regard) but even knowing at 'rational' level that they are probably insecure makes me feel stronger emotionally and respond calmly.
Could you please make a video on how to increase your sensuality before marriage? I feel like as virgins/Christians sometimes it's hard to get in touch with our sensual side. But it's an important aspect not only for femininity but in preparation for marriage. How do you balance being a godly woman without being a prude? I hope that makes sense
Involve all your senses and take pleasure in it. Eating your food, pay attention to how it tastes in your mouth. Slow down and just savor the experience. Move your hips, dance practice your own walk too. Hope this helps.
Im just saying this from the place of kindness only , the changes you mentioned especially regard to media you shouldnť watch , lets say you only watch hello kitty for example and nothing else and you love that show a lot, when you mature up and grow up your whole perspective changes on how you see that and you start to question things about it , now if someone has not watched a single cartoon in their whole life suddenly watches hello kitty, that person might get heavily influenced by that and even try to be that, what Im saying is stunting your own growth by not gaining experince is more disastrous and damaging than just simply go through that and gaining knowledge and also one more thing , when you heal yourself and address your issues you become softer cause you feel more at ease but it doesnť mean you have to be society soft so that everyone feel better disrespecting you. You need to have healthy boundaries and masculinity so people wonť treat you like a doormat.
Where’s your top from?😭Honestly we need an outfit ideas/try on haul video because I got rid of a lot of my immodest, masculine clothing and I’m struggling trying to build a more feminine wardrobe and I love your style😭💗
I just read your description and saw that you were married. Initially I was like : 😵😵😵 After the shock , I was like “ of course she would be married, I could listen to her videos all day “ love your energy 💆🏾♀️🤎☺️
Thank you for this very informative video! I have to agree that most aggressive, rude or otherwise "hard" people have to emotionally purge. More often than not negtive emotions boil down to fear. Fear of not being good enough, of being abandonned, of being recognised even, of being ridiculed or viewed negatively, so they act preemptively as in "rather i give them a reason to view me negatively on purpose rather than them viewing me negatively for who I am" I've been hard myself and tried to guard myself from judgement, but in reality, people will judge anyways, so I'd much rather be soft and vulnerable and find strength in my weaknesses instead of giving away my strength in exchange for coldness
This is so beautiful. Due to circumstances I became hardened. I have been praying to God for answers. This is so helpful. It is beautiful and godly to have humility and be feminine.
When you started the video about being present, you made me put my phone in airplane mode, get cozy, and just focus on the video and self reflect. It was very refreshing. I really enjoy your videos and am very happy to have found your channel! I will share with my friends. Thank you so much!
Hey! I was just wondering if you could touch on how you switched the media you consumed to be more beneficial for your feminine identity? Like what shows, movies, music, you started consuming instead? and recommendations and such! Thank you!
We women always working on ourselves. That itself is being humble. In a world where you’re forced to be masculine and Damned if you’re not you’re also damned if you are. It’s no win. I find myself quiet feminine but I am also strong. I came from a violent upbringing and being poor everything I am and have healed myself is because of me. That makes me proud so naturally I have some strength and wisdom now. I don’t want to downplay myself to be feeling feminine but In a world where most men just like to drink, party, choose the easy way rather than the right way I feel more courageous or brave than them. I would feel more masculine in a relationship with such a man. I am sure he would find himself cheating on me because he wouldn’t feel enough. I strive for more in life but struggle to meet a man that also does feel this way. That’s an equal man for me. I also met a men a while ago that had build something for himself and because I don’t have the same social status I was accused of his friends that I was being a gold digger. How do you even win in this kind of world?
We win by continuing to work on ourselves and by celebrating who we continue to become. We take great care of ourselves because we love ourselves and in this we are also setting the standard for what we accept from others. Those men you describe are not fully matured and are not fit to fill a role in your life. A man is not swayed. A man knows what he wants, sees that you are a rare beautiful treasure, and seeks you out. He does all that he can to show you that he is worthy of your magnificence. It is his gift to you. And it is your gift to him that you graciously receive it. In the meantime, we live richly and beautifully. We enjoy our friends, our families, our hobbies/interests.. we enjoy our own company. We treat ourselves wonderfully.. We buy gorgeous flowers for ourselves and prepare our favorite dish (just for us).. we revel in the time we have for and with ourselves. And when a mature man shows up, we make space for him so that he can show that he's worthy. This takes time. Anyone can put on a charade for a short time. But when we allow things to progress slowly, we learn critical things that let us know whether we will let him in..... things like he has a quick temper or he's cheap or he has wandering eyes or he chews with his mouth open... or that he's affectionate and generous and that although he misses you when you take a girl's trip, he appreciates that you live a balanced life and he lovingly caresses you when you return. When we wait, we discover all the things we need to determine if he's a good fit. In this way, we protect ourselves and we safeguard our value. I'm not a religious person but I do find tremendous wisdom in the bible. One of my favorite verses is Matthew 7:6 when Jesus said "do not cast your pearls before swine".
We don't really win but we get glimpses of joy through God's holy spirit which is irreplaceable, the holy spirit is how we make it through this world God is how we make it, praying and asking God to help me is often the one thing that makes everything better no matter how bad the situation and I know when I am weak he is strong!
The way you speak I can clearly tell your a high value woman. This world is messed up. People who want genuine lovable relationships are almost non existant. I'm a young man who's working on himself. Hopefully I meet a high value girl like you one day
Are we talking about a grown man or a child? I shouldn't have to give him compliments and baby him. There are methods that are "right" when loading a dishwasher from a "will they get clean" standpoint, same thing for other chores. 😂😂
Excited to implement your last bit of advice! Really struggle with finding the right words to use instead of a harsh reaction. I'm always looking for phrases to help me soothe over tence situations. I'm definitely going to, in the future tell, somebody when I felt the way they worded something was harsh and that I felt disrespected.
I love the level of your speech! You are truly Powerful on a soft and stable way. Such an inspiration. Gob bless you my orthodox sister . Greetings from greece
I think allowing people to take care of me even in small gestures is something I struggle with. I know I'm too much of a people pleaser and I don't know how this mindset even developed, but even when people offer to do THE SMALLEST thing for me, I feel like a burden and often try to do things for myself. Your words are so comforting though it made me emotional to realize this mindset is so healthy and positive. I hope I can take this into practice a bit more and open up to accept people's thoughtful help
🌸Thank you for your gentle and wholesome videos. I can appreciate the tone, the pace and calmness presented. 🦋This rarity among woman like us are like soft yellow and pink orchards in a field🧚♀️
Hi, I discovered your videos not too long, and I really like your content ! You are very inspiring. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I look forward to your future videos 💕
I’m so glad I came across this video!! Instantly subscribed! This video is such a breath of fresh air because so many women find it “old-fashioned” to be submissive or humble nowadays and then they wonder why men don’t want to be with them. No, it’s not about getting/keeping a man in your life but there is a correlation. In general, I feel my most beautiful when I’m feminine (with my softness, my soft way of dressing and style of hair) so it makes sense to learn even more about having a soft and feminine disposition. I’m also excited to see someone from your generation teaching on this…you’d think that only older women would understand this but it’s great you live this way and can influence and/or teach your generation. So excited for your teachings!
I want to thank you for the difference between "true" and "right". I was in a situation just this morning where I spoke my truth and people challenged it -- but I stopped, took a deep breath, and thought, I've spoken my truth. I don't need to persuade these people I am also right. God knows, and God will sort it out, and God is who matters most in the end. Being right would have taken me into a space that is not Christlike at all. God doesn't want that for his daughters.
Thank you, so very much, for making your videos. I'm very grateful that I've found them❤️. I consider myself to be very soft spoken, but I lack the gentle, feminine confidence that I feel I need in order to dissuade my people pleasing habits. Everything in life is a balance, and I feel as though I haven't quite found that balance yet. But you've motivated me to keep trying. You've motivated me not to connect with my feminine side in order to garner favour with those around me...but to heal, and come to peace with who I am, and who I'm meant to be. Thank you so, so, very much for this❤️. Your channel is greatly underappreciated.
Wow. I'm curious on your thoughts on theology as an orthodox vs catholic theology. As a catholic of course we believe we are on the right and true side of history..however you feel the same about orthodoxy...
I don’t want to alienate my Catholic audience. I love my Catholic brothers & sisters. ☺️ But yes, we Orthodox do believe the papacy to be a heresy as well as other things like the immaculate conception, original sin, indulgences, purgatory, among others. We do have a lot in common though like the importance of holy tradition, communion, baptism, iconography, saintly intercessions, etc. ❤️❤️
I don’t normally comment on videos , but I would just like some advice. I’m just about to graduate high school, and I will be going to college in a few months. Looking back, I was too forward and came off a bit too strong in school, if that makes sense. I think I was too into my masculine energy. I know that’s not my true nature though, and I want to change that. It caused me a lot of problems, like attracting the wrong guys and overworking myself. Any general advice for being more feminine and soft going into college and adulthood? Also, keep up the good videos Jasmyne :)
Hello! I could go off on a super long tangent about that but I am actually working on a "how to begin your feminine journey" video right now (next upload, hopefully up this coming weekend) which hopefully will help you. Please stay tuned for that!
beautiful video , thank you for sharing! The heart of my podcast is being in your divine feminine which holds so much softness. One of my first episodes is about being a soft woman! Keep sharing your light ✨
Hi Jasmyne! Thanks for this insightful talk 🤗 I would love and appreciate hearing your views on how to approach the - for lack of a better term- push and pull between a man and woman at the very start of dating like you alluded to here! 😊
Your content is so inspiring. Moving from “feminist” to “feminine” has changed my life, I’m so grateful for the women standing up and bravely embracing their femininity. 💕
I would appreciate more practical tips on how to stand up for yourself. Im naturally introverted and aggreeable. But I find the only way I know how to stand up for myself is with anger. I try to patiently respond to others but they dont listen until I lose my temper. Help please:) ❤
My journey and growing relationship with God, with Christ beyond religion has healed my in sooo many ways and gently undressed layers of hardness. I've been learning and growing into much of what you shared. I look back sometimes and I don't recognize myself. My pain had become my fortress and I was it's hardened prisoner. I can also vouch especially for the content that I consume and being humble. Oh the joys and beauties of being woman 🥰 thank you for this precious, illuminating video 🙏🤍
Hey.. this is totally out of context but i really enjoy the background Music.. does someone know the song or the Playlist that plays in the background... that would be so nice!! thx
I loved what you said about being influenced by media. As women, we have the capacity for extreme empathy, and when we direct that empathy toward immoral characters in literally fantastical and imaginary situations, it can mess with your head.
Hi! I have a question, what part of myself should I show in fist dates? To attract masculine partners I guess the correct question is, how could I inspire guys to act that with me. I understand people are very complex and show different parts of themselves to different people. I don’t think it’s intentional or hypocrite, I think that’s the nature or human relationships. I sure hope my partner doesn’t behave the same way with other women as he does to me. So I was wondering, how would that look like. I think in one of your other videos you mentioned you let your current husband peruse you for a couple months? How would that look like? When am I giving too much or too little? This questions are coming from someone who has never dated anyone, sorry if my questions sound confusing.
I’m not her Ofcourse but what I can say about being with a masculine man is that, you’ll feel his masculine presence whenever you’re with him and that will make you automatically relax in your feminine. The man is the doer so don’t go to a date with the energy of what you should do.
Hello there dear, I don’t mean to rudely intrude in your comment section… I was just wondering if you possibly had an email that I could reach out to you at…. If not I understand. God bless 💕
This is true tho. Not having a father growing up i felt i needed to protect myself and i had to toughen up for me and my mother. Seeing many friends as well right now who are the same because their fathers were not good protector and providers. It really does matter having a loving father be there for you.
ugh you're right, my weaknesses, and strengths are mine and they contrast well with others in my life, all of our strengths and weeknesses are unique to us, and make us special for each other.
Wow the more truth instead of right is so amazing. I love that and I love when you said for conflict..I have an issue with speaking back out.of anger cause of someone insulting me..
I've been thinking a lot about the "harmful media" I consume lately. Can you make a video about your favorite music to listen to or some nice movies or series you would recommend to watch? :)
Yes i am happy this video exists because now a days media shows femininity in a wrong way they call them feminist n supports a woman who can rule over man . Whereas it's actually about equality n we can be strong n bold with our feminity too
I am hard ..because I have had to be...no man could be depended on. ..I have always done what I had to do..sad. I would like to be married to someone who is stronger than I am. 😪
Thank you so much! this was so helpful especially 17:42 I am facing difficulty with some rued people in my life and I am a very sensitive and emotional person and lashing out on them not only takes a toll on my relationship them but my mental health.
I relate to all of this so intimately. Right down to watching OITNB/ similarity salacious media and absorbing many strange ideas from then. I too had to eschew many of my former TV habits! There’s a reason it’s called programming. I appreciate your wisdom, sister! ☦️🙏🏼🌸💕
As a Catholic, I really admired your words about the difference between being true vs right I. Regards to theology. Before I was Catholic that was something I really struggled with when I’d talk with others about theological differences, and even in my personal life up to about a week ago, it was revealed to me just how prideful and stubborn I am. I’m working earnestly to transform with the strength of God and His grace. Thank you for your content, from one believer to another, you are inspiring!
Few days back a man from my own building offered me help with my luggage I was grateful but he end up asking for my number. This thing pisses me off that some people help and then they feel entitled to get something in return. I thought he was just genuinely trying to help me.
Haha the part where you said about debating Catholics. I'm converting to Catholicism and I really think the whole conflicts is not necessary. We can all agree to disagree. It's also really sad what I see in most Catholic circles. Basically just a case of 'you're wrong, because I believe you are' no factual arguments to back it up. Just a case of personal convictions
I've always been a hard person. Never had a strong male figure to make me feel safe and then I was repeatedly assaulted and honestly I don't trust men. I want to be more feminine and start trusting again, would you make a video on that? I'm not sure how but there's an idea. Love your content
I love that you’re trying ❤️ we women are so strong…
Blessings for your journey in being being blissfully softened.💝
sending you so much positive energy
First give your life to Christ Jesus,cry unto him pour your heart before your heavenly father and ask him to forgive you,then all these feminine things will come naturally to you.Just remember Jesus Christ loves you so much more than you can ever imagine
@@rachaelbempomaaapenteng4888 thank you
“You dont realize how bad something is until you start doing better” so so true and relatable to me, wow
Such a wonderful point.. this world doesn’t prime us to be soft.. it teaches us to be hard and self serving.. lean in to the softness
"Garbage in Garbage out" was my dad's favorite saying. I totally agree about watching and consuming trash media.
Good saying!!
My mom said that too! I need to focus on it more ❤️
1. Presence- being delighted in a new space and experience. Things that make me smile, and adding to the experience.
2. Being true vs. Being Right - I'm still working on this, but what I have gained on this is that I love being wrong because my mind gets blown when I learn something I have never thought about or was ever educated on. Learning, is hella fun.
3. Letting people take care of me- sometimes it is beautiful, to see how the other values you and the things you care about. My father taught me to let a man walk you on the inside of the sidewalk or hold the door open for you, as a way to honor your safety. And my mother taught me, let a masculine feel masculine caring for you
4. Tactfulness - there is a time and place to say and do certain things, and respect the sensitivity of the environment. Unless you absolutely need, to shake "shit" up. My mother taught me, "Always find a graceful way to say things, without sarcasm."
5. Rest- Hard people, come for you when you are warm and kind. There will be a time when they break down, and need that compassion since they chased everyone else off. Show yourself, some compassion always. Feel your feels without judgement, and understand those feelings as my therapist would always say. Or my grandfather taught me to sit in silence, without extra stimulation
6. Harmful media - I stopped listening to alot of certain artists music, because I hated feeling like crap after. I'm Sensitive unapologetically, so I need safe stimulation unless there are certain times my moods require alignment with whatever art activities I will be engaging in. I prefer uplifting or mood balancing media outlets most times. I hate emo rap
7. Humility - humility keeps me safe from drama, and allows me to surrender to the process of strengthening my weaknesses and knowing how to cooperate with my strengths and coordinate successfully with others
8. I love masculine energy, because it allows me to comfortably soften and be as bubbly and comfortably subservient. I have a reason to wear more dresses. However, it needs to be earned.
9. Social Conflict - if you don't get ignored, or assisted with some love and support. You will get your ass dealt with, and compassion runs out when they continuously over step my boundaries seeing that I'm trying to respect their emotional space.
10. Boundaries, make great fences for social neighbors. It preserves the integrity, of our connection without disrespecting the other's individuality. I will apologize like a young gold hearted lady raised with some manners, and home training. I don't wanna hear "you apologize too much" *or don't worry about it" if I know, I did do something wrong even on accident.
*I offer my Southern Belle etiquette, without being a pushover. I'm as soft as they come, I'm just not easily bullied. And there will be problems, if you try it.
Even the way you dress is so soft and feminine. You radiate peace.
She is so adorable !
I agree!
Iove how you explore the topic of softness, without making me feel powerless as a woman. Being a hard person is exhausting, this is such an important message 🤲
I just wanted to say that I think the classical music in the background of your videos is so calming and helpful. I've been watching a few of your videos and I am definitely trying to work on being softer and opening up to the idea of vulnerability but also what u said about being present and not multitasking is a big one for me. I almost robotically never do just one thing at a time and thinking about it now, it has definitely distracted me away from feeling or responding to things correctly. Your spirit seems so peaceful and I wish I had more women like you around me physically to draw from. I hope you continue to bloom in life and that God really does something with this platform you created and the love he's given you to share.
-Alana
20 minutes of softness, love and femininity. I Thank God for allowing me to learn from someone like you!
Amen 🩷
I LOVE what you bring up about cultivating humility (12:03)! I literally just finished studying how Esther won favor with the king (both Xerses & God) through her natural obedience and humble submission. She was easily corrected, instructed and advised and always sought wisdom from those in authority before moving forward. Many “modern women” (including myself at one point) don’t realize how averse we are to any kind of humility, submission or obedience. As you said, these are all qualities essential to building value within ourselves and throughout every aspect of our lives.
What I believe it comes down to is having poor examples of masculinity or authority (an expression of masculinity). When we have not fully healed our relationship to our masculine counterparts; men & fathers, we cannot fully submit to the essential instruction or direction that may help us advance in every aspect of life.
Thank you for shedding light! Blessings 💕🕊
Thank you 💕
i appreciate you so much im 17 and i aspire to be feminine like you at some point in my life.😁💕
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I'm 17 too ! Do you want to be friends for starting our journey together? 💕
@@twice.supremacy yessss i would love that how should we connect.? Sorry I'm only seeing this now
Thanks for putting out this content ❤ I am just beginning my inner feminine healing journey, and your content has been so helpful
I relate so much with the media aspect you mentioned especially! I find myself enjoying watching\listening to more wholesome things and find it more helpful too
I’m Catholic and I’ve always been very traditional anyways, but I realized lately that I need to work on my feminist and put aside my pride. I never thought I struggled with letting men lead or take care of me bc of my value system, but it was humbling to see that it is something I need to work on. I think all women could benefit from this message.
Humility isn't about thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself, less.
I am a Catholic and appreciate your videos sooo much! They have slowly transformed me to the woman I've always dreamed of being :) I am from the North so my temperament can be rough and I had a very Neurotic pants wearing mother who taught me to not rely on men. I found myself a very masculine man who loves God and has shown me what true submission looks like. I still battle with softness and finding your chanel has helped me immensely! Even my husband is noticing a beautiful difference in me. Thank you so much for your feminine series, God bless you sister ❤️
I’m in the north too and women are so aggressive here. I felt out of place for not having that but now I know I’m just who I need to be!
Just watched 2 videos of yours and you're already helping me a lot. Thank you so much! I love your soft spoken voice.
I'm so veryyyy glad I came across your page!! I use to have softness instilled in me it was who I naturally was how I was taught to be but after after along term toxic relationship and also having to play the male and female role it caused me to become very guarded and hardened now my masculine man has found me and it has caused conflict and unintentional hurt bc I am not allowing him to walk in his role 😢 so I'm doing some soul searching and much prayer and watching videos like yours to get back in touch w my feminine softer side I appreciate you and your channel!! You exude grace and femininity!!
Just discovered your channel, this is the second video that I'm watching and I hear the word "Orthodox" and that made my eastern european heart happy!.☦️One more reason to follow your channel; I completely relate to that part, working to gain souls and not "being right"
This is often why men are far more cruel and cold because they don’t do that started crying and understanding and moving on and through things like a break up and understanding how it hurt them they can’t seem to admit it and sit down and cry even in private. I pray often and will continue to pray for men that they can still have their masculinity and move through all of that so they can be open and considerate of others
@4':40 i just re-started to follow you after i heard this. it's ok we are all human and do wrong. I used to love your approach, but when i saw you reply aggressively to a comment on other beliefs, i guess that it was no longer a channel that I wanted to follow. I clicked on this video recently and re-started to follow loool. sorry my english is not good
I am a very introverted and calm person. And can only be myself with people I click with. All my life people tell me in school and work that i am not good enough because i am too calm. this always hurts me because i feel rejected on my character.
I now find it difficult to set boundaries and I quickly feel personally attacked and can quickly become angry or I don't say anything. now I'm in a healing process and now I'm starting to see I'm good the way I am. Thanks you for your videos🙏🏼
Even though I had been a Christian for 13 years, it wasn't until I found the Orthodox church that my heart was ready to see how much hardness and gender disorder I still harbored. I began wanting to become fully human in the way God intended - including fully woman. It's an ongoing journey! But as the Orthodox church has become such a healing place for me (truly a hospital for souls) I was encouraged to find a fellow Orthodox woman on the other side of a video that "randomly" popped up in my feed (a video that the old me never would have clicked on, btw ;))
Thanks for bringing this content, it is so vital in our times.
A hospital for souls! So true. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment this. God Bless you! Christ is risen! 💝
@@JasmyneTheodora Truly He is risen!!!
Oh! Which country do you reside in if I may ask?
@@Mel.me. The Orthodox church is eternally beautiful & is enriched with so many time tested tools & traditions for spiritual growth. I went from Protestant TO Orthodox for years TO Jesus Christ & the church is bigger than Protestant vs Catholic vs Orthodox.
The Orthodox church is amazing & eternally beautiful. Jesus Christ can transform & show you his transforming love weither or not there is an close Orthodox church. Praying for you sis! 💗
It’s so wonderful you’re interested in Orthodoxy. I encourage you to read “The Orthodox Way” & use the Orthodox Study Bible & get an Orthodox prayer book. Also, some authentic Orthodox icons to set up an icon/prayer corner (you can order them online). If you can ever make time to visit an Orthodox church, get into contact with the priest ahead of time. Even if you’re only able to go a couple times a year, it can greatly help. It could even be considered a pilgrimage! 💕☦️ Blessings to you & yours
This was such an eye opening video! Thank you for bringing these points to light. I really enjoyed hearing these perspectives and can see how valuable they are! I will definitely be implementing them into my life and striving to be more soft. So well said 💕
You’re so beautiful, eloquent and intelligent. I just subscribed 💕
I love your videos and have been watching them daily now to remind and courage myself of how beautiful it is to be a woman and to know that my identity is in Christ alone.
My face when you post:😊
My face after enjoying your video but realizing you .might not post for weeks:😢
Im so sorry 🥺🥺 it takes me 5ever to plan & film a video, it’s a pretty long process. Im hoping to get faster with time but in the meantime, thank you for your patience ❤️❤️
@@JasmyneTheodora no problem JT, I understand you have a new "development" going on
I love your voice and how you explain things!! Very relaxing and informative. I was wondering if maybe you could post your skincare routine? Your skin is practically glowing!
Yes being present is what ive been working on.. Ive actually learned to slow down and enjoy the moment.. Especially when im with my kids doing stuff like cooking or cuddling I take a moment to thank God for that exact moment that he allows me to just relax love on and enjoy my kids 💕👣👶 its blissful 😍
It feels so good to hear this information, thank you!
you slightly favor the actress Yara Shahidi. lovely eyes btw❤️ your voice is very melodic and nice to listen to.
as one lady to another, softness is indeed powerful
Hahah I come from a Catholic/Coptic Orthodox background and that's how I used to be about debating Protestants as I'm passionate about Church history and Theology. Now, I just rest in my truth and spend my energy in loving other fellow Christians and being the best Catholic/Orthodox I can be. Only the Holy Spirit converts anyways. P.S. love your channel. We need more of this.
If you didn´t multitask while baking the blueberry muffins, how come you have pictures? 🤣
Made them again for the B-roll 😋
You're so right with 15:43. I didn't know this back when I was younger but started realising it as I got older! It helped me a ton with interactions with people who go out of their way to offend me. I still can't quite bring myself to feel pity for them (I lack empathy in that regard) but even knowing at 'rational' level that they are probably insecure makes me feel stronger emotionally and respond calmly.
Could you please make a video on how to increase your sensuality before marriage? I feel like as virgins/Christians sometimes it's hard to get in touch with our sensual side. But it's an important aspect not only for femininity but in preparation for marriage. How do you balance being a godly woman without being a prude? I hope that makes sense
Involve all your senses and take pleasure in it. Eating your food, pay attention to how it tastes in your mouth. Slow down and just savor the experience. Move your hips, dance practice your own walk too. Hope this helps.
@@anastasiaz7784 Thank you so much. That was very helpful
Im just saying this from the place of kindness only , the changes you mentioned especially regard to media you shouldnť watch , lets say you only watch hello kitty for example and nothing else and you love that show a lot, when you mature up and grow up your whole perspective changes on how you see that and you start to question things about it , now if someone has not watched a single cartoon in their whole life suddenly watches hello kitty, that person might get heavily influenced by that and even try to be that, what Im saying is stunting your own growth by not gaining experince is more disastrous and damaging than just simply go through that and gaining knowledge and also one more thing , when you heal yourself and address your issues you become softer cause you feel more at ease but it doesnť mean you have to be society soft so that everyone feel better disrespecting you. You need to have healthy boundaries and masculinity so people wonť treat you like a doormat.
Where’s your top from?😭Honestly we need an outfit ideas/try on haul video because I got rid of a lot of my immodest, masculine clothing and I’m struggling trying to build a more feminine wardrobe and I love your style😭💗
I stopped watching those housewives shows and listening to rap music. Just too toxic for me.
I just read your description and saw that you were married.
Initially I was like : 😵😵😵
After the shock , I was like “ of course she would be married, I could listen to her videos all day “ love your energy
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Thank you for this very informative video!
I have to agree that most aggressive, rude or otherwise "hard" people have to emotionally purge. More often than not negtive emotions boil down to fear. Fear of not being good enough, of being abandonned, of being recognised even, of being ridiculed or viewed negatively, so they act preemptively as in "rather i give them a reason to view me negatively on purpose rather than them viewing me negatively for who I am"
I've been hard myself and tried to guard myself from judgement, but in reality, people will judge anyways, so I'd much rather be soft and vulnerable and find strength in my weaknesses instead of giving away my strength in exchange for coldness
This is so beautiful. Due to circumstances I became hardened. I have been praying to God for answers. This is so helpful. It is beautiful and godly to have humility and be feminine.
When you started the video about being present, you made me put my phone in airplane mode, get cozy, and just focus on the video and self reflect. It was very refreshing. I really enjoy your videos and am very happy to have found your channel! I will share with my friends. Thank you so much!
Thank you so much for sharing my channel!! I'm so glad you enjoy the content.
I want to thank you for changing my life
Hey! I was just wondering if you could touch on how you switched the media you consumed to be more beneficial for your feminine identity? Like what shows, movies, music, you started consuming instead? and recommendations and such! Thank you!
We women always working on ourselves. That itself is being humble. In a world where you’re forced to be masculine and Damned if you’re not you’re also damned if you are. It’s no win.
I find myself quiet feminine but I am also strong. I came from a violent upbringing and being poor everything I am and have healed myself is because of me. That makes me proud so naturally I have some strength and wisdom now. I don’t want to downplay myself to be feeling feminine but In a world where most men just like to drink, party, choose the easy way rather than the right way I feel more courageous or brave than them. I would feel more masculine in a relationship with such a man. I am sure he would find himself cheating on me because he wouldn’t feel enough. I strive for more in life but struggle to meet a man that also does feel this way. That’s an equal man for me. I also met a men a while ago that had build something for himself and because I don’t have the same social status I was accused of his friends that I was being a gold digger. How do you even win in this kind of world?
We win by continuing to work on ourselves and by celebrating who we continue to become. We take great care of ourselves because we love ourselves and in this we are also setting the standard for what we accept from others. Those men you describe are not fully matured and are not fit to fill a role in your life. A man is not swayed. A man knows what he wants, sees that you are a rare beautiful treasure, and seeks you out. He does all that he can to show you that he is worthy of your magnificence. It is his gift to you. And it is your gift to him that you graciously receive it. In the meantime, we live richly and beautifully. We enjoy our friends, our families, our hobbies/interests.. we enjoy our own company. We treat ourselves wonderfully.. We buy gorgeous flowers for ourselves and prepare our favorite dish (just for us).. we revel in the time we have for and with ourselves. And when a mature man shows up, we make space for him so that he can show that he's worthy. This takes time. Anyone can put on a charade for a short time. But when we allow things to progress slowly, we learn critical things that let us know whether we will let him in..... things like he has a quick temper or he's cheap or he has wandering eyes or he chews with his mouth open... or that he's affectionate and generous and that although he misses you when you take a girl's trip, he appreciates that you live a balanced life and he lovingly caresses you when you return. When we wait, we discover all the things we need to determine if he's a good fit. In this way, we protect ourselves and we safeguard our value. I'm not a religious person but I do find tremendous wisdom in the bible. One of my favorite verses is Matthew 7:6 when Jesus said "do not cast your pearls before swine".
We don't really win but we get glimpses of joy through God's holy spirit which is irreplaceable, the holy spirit is how we make it through this world God is how we make it, praying and asking God to help me is often the one thing that makes everything better no matter how bad the situation and I know when I am weak he is strong!
The way you speak I can clearly tell your a high value woman. This world is messed up. People who want genuine lovable relationships are almost non existant. I'm a young man who's working on himself. Hopefully I meet a high value girl like you one day
Are we talking about a grown man or a child? I shouldn't have to give him compliments and baby him. There are methods that are "right" when loading a dishwasher from a "will they get clean" standpoint, same thing for other chores. 😂😂
Excited to implement your last bit of advice! Really struggle with finding the right words to use instead of a harsh reaction. I'm always looking for phrases to help me soothe over tence situations. I'm definitely going to, in the future tell, somebody when I felt the way they worded something was harsh and that I felt disrespected.
I love the level of your speech! You are truly Powerful on a soft and stable way. Such an inspiration. Gob bless you my orthodox sister . Greetings from greece
You’re so soft and dainty!!!! If I can give up the kind or energy you’re giving I’ll be soooo fulfilled
I think allowing people to take care of me even in small gestures is something I struggle with. I know I'm too much of a people pleaser and I don't know how this mindset even developed, but even when people offer to do THE SMALLEST thing for me, I feel like a burden and often try to do things for myself. Your words are so comforting though it made me emotional to realize this mindset is so healthy and positive. I hope I can take this into practice a bit more and open up to accept people's thoughtful help
You remind me of Yara Shahidi so much
I've heard this so many times! I see it a little bit haha
🌸Thank you for your gentle and wholesome videos. I can appreciate the tone, the pace and calmness presented.
🦋This rarity among woman like us are like soft yellow and pink orchards in a field🧚♀️
your videos are so helpful🥺💞
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Hi, I discovered your videos not too long, and I really like your content ! You are very inspiring. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I look forward to your future videos 💕
Me too
Beautiful. :) Would you share where your dress is from?
I’m so glad I came across this video!! Instantly subscribed! This video is such a breath of fresh air because so many women find it “old-fashioned” to be submissive or humble nowadays and then they wonder why men don’t want to be with them. No, it’s not about getting/keeping a man in your life but there is a correlation. In general, I feel my most beautiful when I’m feminine (with my softness, my soft way of dressing and style of hair) so it makes sense to learn even more about having a soft and feminine disposition. I’m also excited to see someone from your generation teaching on this…you’d think that only older women would understand this but it’s great you live this way and can influence and/or teach your generation. So excited for your teachings!
I want to thank you for the difference between "true" and "right". I was in a situation just this morning where I spoke my truth and people challenged it -- but I stopped, took a deep breath, and thought, I've spoken my truth. I don't need to persuade these people I am also right. God knows, and God will sort it out, and God is who matters most in the end. Being right would have taken me into a space that is not Christlike at all. God doesn't want that for his daughters.
Thank you, so very much, for making your videos. I'm very grateful that I've found them❤️. I consider myself to be very soft spoken, but I lack the gentle, feminine confidence that I feel I need in order to dissuade my people pleasing habits. Everything in life is a balance, and I feel as though I haven't quite found that balance yet. But you've motivated me to keep trying. You've motivated me not to connect with my feminine side in order to garner favour with those around me...but to heal, and come to peace with who I am, and who I'm meant to be. Thank you so, so, very much for this❤️. Your channel is greatly underappreciated.
Embracing a life of ease and softness has been a game changer for me. I love it 💕💕
Wow. I'm curious on your thoughts on theology as an orthodox vs catholic theology. As a catholic of course we believe we are on the right and true side of history..however you feel the same about orthodoxy...
I don’t want to alienate my Catholic audience. I love my Catholic brothers & sisters. ☺️ But yes, we Orthodox do believe the papacy to be a heresy as well as other things like the immaculate conception, original sin, indulgences, purgatory, among others. We do have a lot in common though like the importance of holy tradition, communion, baptism, iconography, saintly intercessions, etc. ❤️❤️
I don’t normally comment on videos , but I would just like some advice. I’m just about to graduate high school, and I will be going to college in a few months. Looking back, I was too forward and came off a bit too strong in school, if that makes sense. I think I was too into my masculine energy. I know that’s not my true nature though, and I want to change that. It caused me a lot of problems, like attracting the wrong guys and overworking myself. Any general advice for being more feminine and soft going into college and adulthood?
Also, keep up the good videos Jasmyne :)
Hello! I could go off on a super long tangent about that but I am actually working on a "how to begin your feminine journey" video right now (next upload, hopefully up this coming weekend) which hopefully will help you. Please stay tuned for that!
oh shoot I need this, I've always valued being tough and now in my adult years I feel self conscious about it I feel i'm scary.
beautiful video , thank you for sharing! The heart of my podcast is being in your divine feminine which holds so much softness. One of my first episodes is about being a soft woman! Keep sharing your light ✨
The so-called "divine feminine" is a demon in disguise, that makes women selfish and narcissistic.
Hi Jasmyne! Thanks for this insightful talk 🤗 I would love and appreciate hearing your views on how to approach the - for lack of a better term- push and pull between a man and woman at the very start of dating like you alluded to here! 😊
Just came across your channel, I love this content thank you for reminding us of who we are supposed to be as women.
Can you make a video about femininity and working in this modern world? How do we get the balance right?
Your content is so inspiring. Moving from “feminist” to “feminine” has changed my life, I’m so grateful for the women standing up and bravely embracing their femininity. 💕
Yayyyy, I need another video abou4 being soft ☺️
Could you make a video about finding a masculine man? Great video!
Definitely!
I would appreciate more practical tips on how to stand up for yourself. Im naturally introverted and aggreeable. But I find the only way I know how to stand up for myself is with anger. I try to patiently respond to others but they dont listen until I lose my temper. Help please:) ❤
Wow #2 convicted my heart. Lord forgive me. Thank you for this truth girl! “Truth>right”
My journey and growing relationship with God, with Christ beyond religion has healed my in sooo many ways and gently undressed layers of hardness. I've been learning and growing into much of what you shared. I look back sometimes and I don't recognize myself. My pain had become my fortress and I was it's hardened prisoner. I can also vouch especially for the content that I consume and being humble. Oh the joys and beauties of being woman 🥰 thank you for this precious, illuminating video 🙏🤍
Hey.. this is totally out of context but i really enjoy the background Music.. does someone know the song or the Playlist that plays in the background... that would be so nice!! thx
thank you for your inspiring and eye-opening content.
It would be amazing if you could relate your points to biblical passages, like mentioning them
I loved what you said about being influenced by media. As women, we have the capacity for extreme empathy, and when we direct that empathy toward immoral characters in literally fantastical and imaginary situations, it can mess with your head.
Hi! I have a question, what part of myself should I show in fist dates? To attract masculine partners
I guess the correct question is, how could I inspire guys to act that with me. I understand people are very complex and show different parts of themselves to different people. I don’t think it’s intentional or hypocrite, I think that’s the nature or human relationships. I sure hope my partner doesn’t behave the same way with other women as he does to me. So I was wondering, how would that look like. I think in one of your other videos you mentioned you let your current husband peruse you for a couple months? How would that look like? When am I giving too much or too little? This questions are coming from someone who has never dated anyone, sorry if my questions sound confusing.
I’m not her Ofcourse but what I can say about being with a masculine man is that, you’ll feel his masculine presence whenever you’re with him and that will make you automatically relax in your feminine. The man is the doer so don’t go to a date with the energy of what you should do.
He will be masculine no matter what you do. You don’t have to do anything.
Hello there dear, I don’t mean to rudely intrude in your comment section… I was just wondering if you possibly had an email that I could reach out to you at…. If not I understand. God bless 💕
This is true tho. Not having a father growing up i felt i needed to protect myself and i had to toughen up for me and my mother. Seeing many friends as well right now who are the same because their fathers were not good protector and providers. It really does matter having a loving father be there for you.
ugh you're right, my weaknesses, and strengths are mine and they contrast well with others in my life, all of our strengths and weeknesses are unique to us, and make us special for each other.
I never thought I needed this change. So glad to have found your channel! 🙏🏻💕
Need a whole video on TACT because I can’t help but be sassy and cold sometimes
do you have any movie recommendation to enhance our femininity & softness?
My unpopular opinion: God is good, even when my curcumstance is not.
I hate being called masculine…. I’m watching these videos to do better
I want to be softer. My belly is softer from having many children but I have found I have become harder due to menopause.😅
Wow the more truth instead of right is so amazing. I love that and I love when you said for conflict..I have an issue with speaking back out.of anger cause of someone insulting me..
Loved this 🥰
I've been thinking a lot about the "harmful media" I consume lately. Can you make a video about your favorite music to listen to or some nice movies or series you would recommend to watch? :)
Yes i am happy this video exists because now a days media shows femininity in a wrong way they call them feminist n supports a woman who can rule over man . Whereas it's actually about equality n we can be strong n bold with our feminity too
I am hard ..because I have had to be...no man could be depended on. ..I have always done what I had to do..sad. I would like to be married to someone who is stronger than I am. 😪
Can you make your homemaking vlogs too? I would love to see
Thank you so much! this was so helpful especially 17:42 I am facing difficulty with some rued people in my life and I am a very sensitive and emotional person and lashing out on them not only takes a toll on my relationship them but my mental health.
I relate to all of this so intimately. Right down to watching OITNB/ similarity salacious media and absorbing many strange ideas from then. I too had to eschew many of my former TV habits! There’s a reason it’s called programming. I appreciate your wisdom, sister! ☦️🙏🏼🌸💕
Thank youuuu 😍😍
As a Catholic, I really admired your words about the difference between being true vs right I. Regards to theology. Before I was Catholic that was something I really struggled with when I’d talk with others about theological differences, and even in my personal life up to about a week ago, it was revealed to me just how prideful and stubborn I am. I’m working earnestly to transform with the strength of God and His grace. Thank you for your content, from one believer to another, you are inspiring!
Love is a verb.🇧🇼
Thank you Jasmyne for this content, Just subscribed to your channel 😍..following you all the way from China 🇨🇳 🥰
From China, wow!! Thank you for subscribing
Few days back a man from my own building offered me help with my luggage I was grateful but he end up asking for my number. This thing pisses me off that some people help and then they feel entitled to get something in return. I thought he was just genuinely trying to help me.
Haha the part where you said about debating Catholics. I'm converting to Catholicism and I really think the whole conflicts is not necessary. We can all agree to disagree.
It's also really sad what I see in most Catholic circles. Basically just a case of 'you're wrong, because I believe you are' no factual arguments to back it up. Just a case of personal convictions
Thank you for this really nice video Jasmyne🤍🕊God bless you