Ladies, no matter how hard you try, you can never change a man. A man will only change if he wants to, not because you want him to change. Also, NEVER EVER get into a relationship with a man who needs "fixing", that is NOT your calling and can definitely have a negative effect on your femininity and peace. How you found the man is how he is going to be for a big chunk of your relationship and maybe even forever as it is up to him to decide whether he wants to change. As a feminine woman, your peace of mind is important, you are not a rehabilitation center for broken men, nor are you a hospital ward. Accepting these building projects can have HEAVY NEGATIVE EFFECTS on your femininity, including, stress, trauma, and unnecessary hurt, and can even lead you to become more rigid and hard and lose your femininity as a result of being in a harsh relationship.
Thank you for sharing! What advice do you give when we have/decide to work in environments that require us to work w men and they don’t take our advice, even when we know that what we’re saying would help the group overall succeed? And it’s an important matter at hand? I’m a creative and work alongside different genders and even though parts of ur advice are right - I can’t just avoid working with men just bc they’re hardheaded (perfect world tho - am I right 🤣). Just wanted some feedback since you seem to be very knowledgeable as well. Thanks in advance 💘🙏🏽
@@Saint_Darius she didn't blame all men.. She is just giving advice to other women to not accept a man who would make her suffer and the same advice is given to men too, stay away from narcissistic women who would make you suffer 😊
@@DianaGarcia-jr7ve frame your advice as questions and inquiries, rather than advice and let them think out/discuss/decide the direction they are going to go and also ask if they have tried specific paths or people who may help guide him, lastly as this video said ask for his help deciding on what direction to take (can we discuss how to go about getting this going) and once you are having that conversation really listen to his suggestions and also bring in yours. He has to be receptive to your opinions for it to feel like opinion rather than authority which a lot of us instinctively rebel against (men and women).
I am a man and stumbled upon this channel and was completely surprised by the title, i almoast thought im imagining what a perfect youtube for women would be. It's just that so rarely do I see this traditional healthy relationship with masculine man and a feminine woman being talked about by women. Also i was surprised by the ammount of viewers you have which means that there must be much more beutiful traditional feminine woman out there than i thought.
"An effeminate man is not feminine just because he lacks masculinity." Jasmyne, this is why you're my favorite TH-camr right now. This point was so helpful on multiple levels, and answers several questions I have had about the whole femininity thing. I'll name two (sorry, this is going to be long): 1. It identifies a major difference between the new agey "divine feminine energy" philosophy and more traditional views on gender (I think). The new agey folks speak as though femininity and masculinity are modes that men and women can both step into and out of as needed. Traditionalists don't believe that, but rather believe that femininity is a trait that characterizes women who conduct their lives in accordance with their nature as women, and masculinity is the male version of that. Effeminacy is not a man stepping into his feminine energy, but is rather a corrosion of masculinity. Same goes for women who aren't feminine. 2. I've wondered for a while why a lot of your tips for how to be feminine could apply to men as well. A lot of your advice, e.g. "be humble", "be quick to listen and slow to speak", isn't necessarily gender-specific, but rather are just things people in general should do to correct character flaws. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think I just realized that's exactly the point: women who develop strong character will increase their femininity by allowing their innate nature to shine through, free from the bad habits that obscure it. Likewise, men who strengthen their character will see an increase in masculinity because it's those character flaws that cause them to be effeminate.
You hit the nail on the head. I think the rhetoric around “masculine women” and “feminine men” is a result of modern gender theory. Sure, there are women who function more in a masculine manner but they’re not masculine in essence. They’re not masculine the way that men are masculine (which is raw masculinity). And naturally, human beings, men and women, have a lot of similarities which is why a lot of what I say can be universally applicable. Humility should be embraced by everyone. But it’s expression is different… humility, for instance, allows a wife to be a better follower of her husband and humility allows a husband to be a better leader. Same virtue but different out-workings! The same virtues allow us to better function in our different roles.
@@JasmyneTheodora Yes, I think the gender theorists and new agers talking about energy confuse their imagination with reality. They try to impose their imagination on reality. They don't live spiritually and submit to reality. When you are humble in that way then you have a firm enough grasp of reality to be firm in what I experience in masculine ways and women experience in femine ways, not because we imagine it but because we are it.
I stopped dating for a while to work on my femininity. I understood that I would be alone most of the times . But the more I worked on myself, more masculine men persuaded me 😅 . I gracefully decline, but it really keeps them on their toes . This channel is one of the best decisions I made this year 😊 Thank you Jaysmne
Before you criticize feminism, just remember that it was feminists who won you the right to vote and the right to have bank accounts and take out loans without male co-signers. It was feminism that raised the status of women in society overall. Sorry, the church did not do it.
Jasmyne, you ATE this video 👏👏👏 I've been dealing with wanting my husband to step into his leadership role more, and your advice was spot on. What I'm working on right now is the point about focusing on building my own femininity (being a better homemaker, etc.) to create the best environment for him to thrive as a man. Wish me luck, haha.
I'm a man. He wants to be your hero, and that's the only way he knows to serve you. If you try to command him, he will either withdraw, lash out, or eventually break. If you give him the opportunity to be your hero, he will darn well try. Oh but you have to be direct. Half the time we can't even understand women's "hints", the other half the time it offends male honour because a woman expects him to serve them without the recognition that asking provides.
This is such an important video for those of us who chose our men while on hormonal birth control. My husband is now using they/them pronouns at work and it's such a balancing act to steer him back to his masculinity without driving him further down the gender confusion rabbit hole.
@@katherinepiece8808 she has an awesome video on the effects of birth control. that will answer your question. In short, hormones alter the way we think.
@@katherinepiece8808 there's evidence that women on hormonal birth control select for less masculine men and become less attracted to them if they come off it.
So awesome, Jasmyne! I’ve been in many unhealthy relationships with immoral, effeminate men in the past, so I have very strong defenses up against this kind of thing with my husband. We’ve been married for about 10 months and I’ve been working on myself, and realizing that he truly IS masculine. Not “my idea of the ideal masculine man,” but a true masculine man in his own right. Recognizing the masculine traits that ARE (very) present in my husband has helped me to let my guard down, and I appreciate these tips on how to *encourage* certain desirable masculine traits without forcing them… and to be ok with allowing our men to find their own “flavor” of virtuous masculinity :) Thank you Jasmyne, as always, and may God bless you and your family!
Girl! Why I see God in you? Your face, your voice, your energy, your choice of words... I see a pure woman of God! 🤍✨️🙏🏼 keep spreading goodness dear, this world needs you! I'm so glad I found your channel🥰 greetings from 🇲🇰 ❤
I had a very controlling husband who demanded allegiance and servitude. My sons don't demand but are now very passive, expecting me to do everything, like he did. Yet they are clearly not happy either. In fact, they seem lost and frustrated. Thank you, Jasmyne, for helping me learn how to inspire masculinity in my sons. I want them to be who God made them to be, yet I haven't had a tangible plan for how to achieve that until now. I appreciate you more than I can express 💖
Perhaps asking them to plan activities for you guys to do together? Ask them to help you with something (like taking out the trash, or grocery shopping, etc.) and thank them and tell them how much you appreciate it when they help. Any time they take initiative, praise them.
@@rachelhayhurst-mason7846 God will show you. With my son I spent time with him doing the things he enjoyed. Healthy things. Listening to him and not pushing him to communicate. Gradually he changed for the better and recently got baptized.
Jasmyne keep up the Godly work you are doing. You are the voice this generation needs! Your videos have taught me so much and they give the advice that truly works and appeals to God over the world. It can contradict and fight against this toxic way of thinking the new generation is trying to implement. Keep it up! ❤️
Wonderful video! I just want to note that non verbal cues are risky. Men are not clueless but they also are not mind-readers. Most men appreciate a respectful voiced opinion/ boundary. (And a man on the spectrum will require verbal instruction as they do not pick up on social cues!) My way of approaching this is … (when I’m in disagreement) very calmly and politely saying “Babe, I respect you so much but I don’t prefer xyz” and leave it at that! (When I want something) I say “I love it when you xyz” Very simple and effective. In the dinner example I might say something like “Im happy to order if you want because i respect you so much, but it really does make me feel so feminine when you order for us.” A respectful man who loves you and wants you to be happy will hear you loud and clear!
This was truly inspiring and encouraging to hear, thank you. It’s crazy to me that there are some women would take this information as “encouraging abuse”. This information is incredibly valuable to creating harmony as God designed. I’ve been in a handful of relationships with emasculate men and I definitely ended up being more controlling and emasculating them even further. I definitely want to embrace and grow in my femininity and allow that to be my strength, instead of trying to take on the “masculine role”… as someone who’s reverted to that before, it is definitely exhausting and fruitless. This is something I take to heart and have been praying about and want to study.
Thank you, J. As a man, I am already feeling inspired to step up, lols. Really, I find the approach irresistable; it is one that would cause a man to effortlessly desire to change and be better.
I found the perfect channel for me. I love Jesus and I'm learning a lot about femininity lately but some of them heavily rely on manifestation and the Universe which is not really my cup of tea. But this feels like the right thing for me. Thank you ❤
OMG thank youuuu ❤️ I just was about to look for such a video because I'm struggling with this issue with my partner and I don't want to break up before trying something.
Girl! Take it from a 29 year old woman who saw the 20% of the lack of masculinity in my man and was so fixated on that for months and but didn’t know how to inspire him and let my masculinity down and ask for help from him and make him feel needed. I was so blind and negatively focused. I STOPPED SEEING HIM. I broke up with him and the next day I was flooded with his greatness and how good he was to me. A week later I wanted to get back together but it was so muddied and he had honestly had enough of me telling him he didn’t love me enough simply because he was taking charge being masculine and taking care of me.😢😢. But he was the same with his dearest mother and little sister. HE NEEDED ME TO SHOW HIM THE WAY. But I was so needing to work on myself and my over masculinity and that by the time I was seeing fully and regretting leaving him and asked for him back 7days later. He was too confused with me saying “you don’t love me enough and that’s why you don’t do this and that for me” I CONVINCED THE MAN THAT I LOVE THAT HE DOESNT LOVE ME AND OUR RELATIONSHIP WAS SO PURE AND GOD GIVEN AND HE WAS SO LOYAL AND RESPECTFUL. He regretted me and I have been in so much pain for the past three weeks reconciling IT ALL with myself. I pray for the day god blesses me with him again. I know the self work we are both doing while we are apart is what we needed but couldn’t do together BUT THIS BREAK FEELS SO PAINFUL. LISTEN TO ME ELYNA! Listen good girl! DO NOT. I repeat. DO NOT LEAVE YOUR MAN if you Troy love him and believe he loves and respects you. Search for all solutions and find a way to inspire him and grow with him. I wish I could share my everyday and thoughts with my Teddy. I PRAY GOD BLESSES ME WITH HIM AGAIN. (Open to new love but I KNOW HE IS MY MAN. The love and understanding I feel now for him is a million times more that I thought there was. So unconditional.) Fight with you mr man don’t fight with him and push him away. Lol and please gurl! Pllleeeeaaae pray for my relationship too. God bless
Hey Jasmyne! I am newly engaged and me and my fiancé are Christian. we are fairly young, me being 18 and him being 21, we really try to fall more into our Godly roles daily. It is hard considering the fact he was raised mostly by his mother and I, by both parents. So he didn't really have many quality masculine roles in his life to raise him. At the beginning of our relationship he was very insecure and somewhat codependent of me because I came into the relationship confident and whole in myself and he came in needed to be nurtured from his past. This confused the relationship a bit because it felt like I had to take charge in the dynamics of us. He was more sensitive and emotional and I was more practical and supportive. I had to bring the masculinity out of him and become somewhat of a teacher to him, showing him videos like yours and listening to sermons on how a Godly man should be. Now that he has discovered his sense of oneness and masculinity, it's hard for me to fully respect his decision making and control of this relationship even though it's what I've always wanted. I find myself irritated and upset when he doesn't do things my way, and I also find myself more sensitive to the things he does that are considered normal. Because he was so codependent of me at first, now anytime he hangs with friends or doesn't rush to see me I feel he doesn't want me. We have been through a lot already, and we love each other so much and want to be together. But I just want to embrace my femininity and I do want him to be the masculine foundation to sustain our relationship. I see women like you seeming to be so comfortable in their feminine and i think it's so incredibly beautiful. In this situation, how can I trust him wholeheartedly in all aspects and be secure in knowing that he is the Godly man I am to be with and that can lead me and a potential family?
One thing that can help him is to surround himself with other Godly men. Join a mens bible study and encourage friendship with other brothers in Christ.
Women are externally inspired and men are internally influenced. This is where the Holy spirit comes into play. You may not wholehearted agree with every decision he makes but if God is directing him then there should be no issue. However, if hes making a decision that is going to crash course, go to your prayer room and ask the Holy spirit for wisdom and to fix it. The Holy Spirit will literally change his mind and change his steps back on the right path. Because you do not want to end up being a Sapphira going along with a bad decision like the one Ananias made. I have literally prayed to the Holy spirit on decisions my boyfriend has made that I ,personally didnt think was a good idea because I knew if I tried to change his mind about everything he will never learn from his mistakes and learn to lead me.
Pray concerning this matter. Understand the weight of responsibility that a man of God must bear that you are not required to carry by looking at examples of the great men of faith i.e. their struggles and weaknesses. Build your fiancee up and do not tear him down. Empower him to forge his own path provided that it is glorifying to God and help him when he makes mistakes. There are reasons why certain verses are directed to men vs women. May God guide you and your fiancee on your walk together. A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands. Proverbs 14:1
My husband def is not struggling in the masculinity game, he ain’t got no emotion lmao j/k but fr. I need help tho with submitting. My husband is the leader of our home and I want to so much to be more connected with my femininity and I struggle. I have a long line of strong women that I come from with the “can’t tell me nothing.” attitude and I wanna change it. I’ve been doing better but sometimes those feelings come up where I wanna fight his ass LOL! I need help 😞 I don’t wanna get butthurt either when he tells me i need to improve my cooking 😒 LOL also I would love that dressing modesty video! Love ya girl! Love your videos and congrats on your new baby ❤
Fighting, in the right context, may actually be the healthiest way to get past this instinct. You want to challenge him to test whether he is worthy of trust. This is a problem, but the solution is easy. An actual fight, a little wrestling should make you feel very submissive when he pins you with minimal effort. The knowledge that you can struggle as hard as you want and he wont fail should give you a feeling of security.
You are so inspiring in both your relationship with God and with your husband. Ive been following you for a while now and even just coming into my feminine has been really pushing me to get back in touch with God (who would have known haha)
I love your videos Jasmyne. They really do not compare to other videos I see on TH-cam. You speak with so much depth and meaning. It really enlightens many important topics on womanhood. Thank you! :)
It is so wierd, I have been thinking of asking you to recommend books to read because I love how you speak so eloquently and have a vast vocabulary. I am so pleased to hear about a book club. I will gladly join.
You have no idea how many times I would wish that my mom or various girls I came across should adopt this. This would've solved numerous issues with my mom who is pretty much a nag and kinda controlling. Worse she offers a false sense of free choice, "you can choose to help me with the grossarys or not" *chooses not* mom: *angry huff*
@@Amira-z6k That's not what I mean, I don't want to be nagged or borderline bullied into doing things just to make sure she doesn't have a bad event. I don't expect my mom to behave like a girlfriend at all, but I would like her to be far more caring and compassionate. This would at least incentivize spending quality time which as of now is nonexistent and has been so for years on numerous things, even car pooling I'm against due to the numerous times she'd push my buttons or scream when I'm driving or not driving. (I still have those memories seared in my brain of non-stop screaming and nitpicking judgments)
@@ellenahs5911 I don't mean to sound like an ahole but I tried to and yet she continues to say "why bother focusing on the past" (from the mistakes she made). To me it's a big middle finger to my situation. I can't tell you how many times my dad and I called her out on her bad attitude, loud and or bad tone, only to be met with "this is who I am." Also noted is the only time I heard her apologizing was when I orced an apology from her via my therapist. Even then I still don't believe her because she's regressing in th attitudes.
@@ythatesfactsI totally understand you. My mom is 600 fireworks and has the force of a thousand soldiers. I'm not built like that. I tried to show her she isn't truly built like that either. It's difficult to get them to see the other side (understand boundaries, virtues, Christlikeness etc) . I'm tired of trying anyway, so I can't wait to be financially independent enough to move away and start my own family. I'm working on it though.😊 Hugs 🤗
Awesome that you uploaded this video. Yes, men are human beings too I never understood why some women treat their men as if they are in this universe to do nothing but serve their woman. There is nothing better than a relationship with love and respect. You both built each other. Thanks again for spreading this to the universe.
so excited for the book club..You have that new mother glow by the way...very lovely🥰🥰🥰congrats again..I appreciate a peaceful space like yours on youtube
im just afraid that the man I'll marry in the future will not even acknowledge the love i give him. men's psychology is weird, they'll leave for no reason and i feel powerless already. I'd rather be single but i still want kids and im afraid that they'll grow without a father if he'll leave
I'm here because I want to be more feminine to my husband. I am feminine with how I dress. But my words are my struggle. I really want to be more feminine not for him, but for me. I truly believe that I'll be happier.
I would be careful of the language being used here. Men can be feminine and should be. Femininity and Masculinity has to do with energy. Men and women have both of these energies because it takes both genders to create life. If I as a women were to say that I am not masculine I would be disowning my father and disowning myself. This goes for men too. To deny his femininity removed men from empathizing with their mother’s and removes them from tapping into their own emotions. I agree with you in terms of a men being a leader in a partnership because as a man he is gifted with in strength, structure, stability. Women are gifted leaders in creativity, comfort, and wonder. These are gifts that have manifested in our different genders and have then passed down. Even a woman who is “chronically” vulnerable it is dangerous. I love your videos, and I agree on a lot of your points
I’m actually doing a video on this on Sunday! But I disagree, I don’t think men have a “feminine” side. Femininity is not performative - it’s about who you are (and then we should behave in accordance with our internal essence). We are not androgynous beings. We’re either male or female - either feminine or masculine beings. Yes, we as women should integrate traits that you could place into the opposite category but it should be in a way that serves to supplement your internal essence. Not in a way that compromises it. Like compassion is a feminine trait although a good man should integrate compassion into his character in order to be a better leader (a better masculine figure). I go a lot more into this in my video though, stay tuned!
This is also a slippery slope. We’ve gone from “men can be feminine” to “men can be real women and can infiltrate female spaces” to “men can have uterine implants and potentially give birth.” I’ve only met effeminate men, not men who are feminine as femininity has to do with biological makeup + inward spirit. We as women behave feminine as a reflection of who we intrinsically are but we’re not feminine merely because we behave as feminine. Hope that translates well💖
Lol exactly me I thought I was to special and nearly lost him and now he tries to hold back and not show how much he loves me like he did in the past 💔
I'd like to challenge your intro. If approached right I'd love feedback from my significant other. Hear what's attractive to them gives me something to work with. If I had ever been given the complement that they like when I'm more masculine and that it's attractive to them I would have done anything to better embody it.
Hmmm this is really good advice. I need to apply everything. Thank you for this. I had a feeling but wasn’t sure about the proper steps and actions. Amazing video
I absolutely love this video and thank you so much for using scripture to back some of this up. I absolutely needed this thank you my beautiful friend 😍😇
When I ask for help from my bf, he will listen, promise to help me, sometimes even gives me speech... But in the end, never helps me... He forgets and get busy with other stuff... How do I change this behaviour?
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"A masculine man is not controlling, a masculine man is IN control" 🙌⛪
Damn! That's just ... so true
Absolutely true
Absolutely correct!!!
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Is, this a joke? I mean I understand what you mean, but to be in control is to control something.
Ladies, no matter how hard you try, you can never change a man. A man will only change if he wants to, not because you want him to change. Also, NEVER EVER get into a relationship with a man who needs "fixing", that is NOT your calling and can definitely have a negative effect on your femininity and peace. How you found the man is how he is going to be for a big chunk of your relationship and maybe even forever as it is up to him to decide whether he wants to change. As a feminine woman, your peace of mind is important, you are not a rehabilitation center for broken men, nor are you a hospital ward. Accepting these building projects can have HEAVY NEGATIVE EFFECTS on your femininity, including, stress, trauma, and unnecessary hurt, and can even lead you to become more rigid and hard and lose your femininity as a result of being in a harsh relationship.
Thank you for sharing! What advice do you give when we have/decide to work in environments that require us to work w men and they don’t take our advice, even when we know that what we’re saying would help the group overall succeed? And it’s an important matter at hand? I’m a creative and work alongside different genders and even though parts of ur advice are right - I can’t just avoid working with men just bc they’re hardheaded (perfect world tho - am I right 🤣). Just wanted some feedback since you seem to be very knowledgeable as well. Thanks in advance 💘🙏🏽
Biggest facts!!!
I like how you came to this video to somehow blame men for women not being feminine
@@Saint_Darius she didn't blame all men.. She is just giving advice to other women to not accept a man who would make her suffer and the same advice is given to men too, stay away from narcissistic women who would make you suffer 😊
@@DianaGarcia-jr7ve frame your advice as questions and inquiries, rather than advice and let them think out/discuss/decide the direction they are going to go and also ask if they have tried specific paths or people who may help guide him, lastly as this video said ask for his help deciding on what direction to take (can we discuss how to go about getting this going) and once you are having that conversation really listen to his suggestions and also bring in yours. He has to be receptive to your opinions for it to feel like opinion rather than authority which a lot of us instinctively rebel against (men and women).
“If you want to bring the exceptional out of your man, you need to bring the exceptional out of yourself.” 🔑
Christ is Risen!
He is Risen indeed Amen
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Amen!
Indeed he is risen ☦️♥️
Indeed he is risen!!! ☦️🤍
I am a man and stumbled upon this channel and was completely surprised by the title, i almoast thought im imagining what a perfect youtube for women would be. It's just that so rarely do I see this traditional healthy relationship with masculine man and a feminine woman being talked about by women. Also i was surprised by the ammount of viewers you have which means that there must be much more beutiful traditional feminine woman out there than i thought.
Just remember though, it's not a man's place to demand control, to demand to be in charge. Those are huge red flags.
"An effeminate man is not feminine just because he lacks masculinity." Jasmyne, this is why you're my favorite TH-camr right now. This point was so helpful on multiple levels, and answers several questions I have had about the whole femininity thing. I'll name two (sorry, this is going to be long):
1. It identifies a major difference between the new agey "divine feminine energy" philosophy and more traditional views on gender (I think). The new agey folks speak as though femininity and masculinity are modes that men and women can both step into and out of as needed. Traditionalists don't believe that, but rather believe that femininity is a trait that characterizes women who conduct their lives in accordance with their nature as women, and masculinity is the male version of that. Effeminacy is not a man stepping into his feminine energy, but is rather a corrosion of masculinity. Same goes for women who aren't feminine.
2. I've wondered for a while why a lot of your tips for how to be feminine could apply to men as well. A lot of your advice, e.g. "be humble", "be quick to listen and slow to speak", isn't necessarily gender-specific, but rather are just things people in general should do to correct character flaws. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think I just realized that's exactly the point: women who develop strong character will increase their femininity by allowing their innate nature to shine through, free from the bad habits that obscure it. Likewise, men who strengthen their character will see an increase in masculinity because it's those character flaws that cause them to be effeminate.
You hit the nail on the head. I think the rhetoric around “masculine women” and “feminine men” is a result of modern gender theory. Sure, there are women who function more in a masculine manner but they’re not masculine in essence. They’re not masculine the way that men are masculine (which is raw masculinity). And naturally, human beings, men and women, have a lot of similarities which is why a lot of what I say can be universally applicable. Humility should be embraced by everyone. But it’s expression is different… humility, for instance, allows a wife to be a better follower of her husband and humility allows a husband to be a better leader. Same virtue but different out-workings! The same virtues allow us to better function in our different roles.
Very good.
@@JasmyneTheodora Yes, I think the gender theorists and new agers talking about energy confuse their imagination with reality. They try to impose their imagination on reality. They don't live spiritually and submit to reality. When you are humble in that way then you have a firm enough grasp of reality to be firm in what I experience in masculine ways and women experience in femine ways, not because we imagine it but because we are it.
It’s about being a virtuous man or woman
It's an erosion of masculinity. And the stripping of true femininity. It's disgusting.
I stopped dating for a while to work on my femininity. I understood that I would be alone most of the times . But the more I worked on myself, more masculine men persuaded me 😅 . I gracefully decline, but it really keeps them on their toes . This channel is one of the best decisions I made this year 😊
Thank you Jaysmne
Same here. I wanted to work on my femininity and focus on my relationship with Christ. I took a 3 year break. Now I have numerous suitors.
Feminism took this peace from us but I am happy to see that each day more and more men & women are waking up.🌸
Before you criticize feminism, just remember that it was feminists who won you the right to vote and the right to have bank accounts and take out loans without male co-signers. It was feminism that raised the status of women in society overall. Sorry, the church did not do it.
Jasmyne, you ATE this video 👏👏👏 I've been dealing with wanting my husband to step into his leadership role more, and your advice was spot on. What I'm working on right now is the point about focusing on building my own femininity (being a better homemaker, etc.) to create the best environment for him to thrive as a man. Wish me luck, haha.
I'm a man. He wants to be your hero, and that's the only way he knows to serve you. If you try to command him, he will either withdraw, lash out, or eventually break. If you give him the opportunity to be your hero, he will darn well try.
Oh but you have to be direct. Half the time we can't even understand women's "hints", the other half the time it offends male honour because a woman expects him to serve them without the recognition that asking provides.
How EXACTLY does a woman do that?
This is such an important video for those of us who chose our men while on hormonal birth control. My husband is now using they/them pronouns at work and it's such a balancing act to steer him back to his masculinity without driving him further down the gender confusion rabbit hole.
Bless your heart. I’ll pray for you and your husband 💖
what’s wrong with choosing man on birth control? should i be concerned?😮
@@katherinepiece8808 she has an awesome video on the effects of birth control. that will answer your question. In short, hormones alter the way we think.
@@katherinepiece8808 there's evidence that women on hormonal birth control select for less masculine men and become less attracted to them if they come off it.
@@katherinepiece8808 Being on birth control can make you attracted to less masculine men.
So awesome, Jasmyne! I’ve been in many unhealthy relationships with immoral, effeminate men in the past, so I have very strong defenses up against this kind of thing with my husband. We’ve been married for about 10 months and I’ve been working on myself, and realizing that he truly IS masculine. Not “my idea of the ideal masculine man,” but a true masculine man in his own right. Recognizing the masculine traits that ARE (very) present in my husband has helped me to let my guard down, and I appreciate these tips on how to *encourage* certain desirable masculine traits without forcing them… and to be ok with allowing our men to find their own “flavor” of virtuous masculinity :) Thank you Jasmyne, as always, and may God bless you and your family!
I’m not even in a relationship but this was so helpful!
So happy to hear 💯
Girl! Why I see God in you? Your face, your voice, your energy, your choice of words... I see a pure woman of God! 🤍✨️🙏🏼 keep spreading goodness dear, this world needs you! I'm so glad I found your channel🥰 greetings from 🇲🇰 ❤
"Baby's awake....gotta go...bye!" is my favorite youtube closeout so far.
My life is changing in real-time, for the better, because of your videos! Thank you so much! God is good!
I had a very controlling husband who demanded allegiance and servitude. My sons don't demand but are now very passive, expecting me to do everything, like he did. Yet they are clearly not happy either. In fact, they seem lost and frustrated.
Thank you, Jasmyne, for helping me learn how to inspire masculinity in my sons. I want them to be who God made them to be, yet I haven't had a tangible plan for how to achieve that until now.
I appreciate you more than I can express 💖
Perhaps asking them to plan activities for you guys to do together? Ask them to help you with something (like taking out the trash, or grocery shopping, etc.) and thank them and tell them how much you appreciate it when they help. Any time they take initiative, praise them.
@@faa1412Thank you. I do all that. There are just deeper things that I haven't thought of until Jasmyne suggested them on this video 😊
@@rachelhayhurst-mason7846 God will show you. With my son I spent time with him doing the things he enjoyed. Healthy things. Listening to him and not pushing him to communicate. Gradually he changed for the better and recently got baptized.
Sounds like you divorced?
@@danilaroche1156 yes
Jasmyne keep up the Godly work you are doing. You are the voice this generation needs! Your videos have taught me so much and they give the advice that truly works and appeals to God over the world. It can contradict and fight against this toxic way of thinking the new generation is trying to implement. Keep it up! ❤️
You knew I needed this one didn’t you 😅😢❤
Wonderful video! I just want to note that non verbal cues are risky. Men are not clueless but they also are not mind-readers. Most men appreciate a respectful voiced opinion/ boundary. (And a man on the spectrum will require verbal instruction as they do not pick up on social cues!) My way of approaching this is … (when I’m in disagreement) very calmly and politely saying “Babe, I respect you so much but I don’t prefer xyz” and leave it at that! (When I want something) I say “I love it when you xyz” Very simple and effective. In the dinner example I might say something like “Im happy to order if you want because i respect you so much, but it really does make me feel so feminine when you order for us.” A respectful man who loves you and wants you to be happy will hear you loud and clear!
OMG I am an Ethiopian Orthodox as well and I looooooooovvvvvvvveeeeee your vedios💞💞💞💞💞
This was truly inspiring and encouraging to hear, thank you. It’s crazy to me that there are some women would take this information as “encouraging abuse”. This information is incredibly valuable to creating harmony as God designed. I’ve been in a handful of relationships with emasculate men and I definitely ended up being more controlling and emasculating them even further. I definitely want to embrace and grow in my femininity and allow that to be my strength, instead of trying to take on the “masculine role”… as someone who’s reverted to that before, it is definitely exhausting and fruitless. This is something I take to heart and have been praying about and want to study.
Thank you, J.
As a man, I am already feeling inspired to step up, lols. Really, I find the approach irresistable; it is one that would cause a man to effortlessly desire to change and be better.
Thanks for watching 😃
Please Jasmyne, can you do a video about modest fashion ? Thank you ❤
this is so off topic but you look absolutely stunning! would absolutely love to see a makeup or beauty routine video 😊
Ohh thank you so much!! I’m planning to do one soon!
Super cute! Looking forward to book club. ☺️
God is amazing. How he design us it's just amazing.
I found the perfect channel for me. I love Jesus and I'm learning a lot about femininity lately but some of them heavily rely on manifestation and the Universe which is not really my cup of tea. But this feels like the right thing for me. Thank you ❤
That was a heart warming ending.
You seem so smart and you articulate yourself so well❤️
OMG thank youuuu ❤️ I just was about to look for such a video because I'm struggling with this issue with my partner and I don't want to break up before trying something.
Girl! Take it from a 29 year old woman who saw the 20% of the lack of masculinity in my man and was so fixated on that for months and but didn’t know how to inspire him and let my masculinity down and ask for help from him and make him feel needed. I was so blind and negatively focused. I STOPPED SEEING HIM. I broke up with him and the next day I was flooded with his greatness and how good he was to me. A week later I wanted to get back together but it was so muddied and he had honestly had enough of me telling him he didn’t love me enough simply because he was taking charge being masculine and taking care of me.😢😢. But he was the same with his dearest mother and little sister. HE NEEDED ME TO SHOW HIM THE WAY. But I was so needing to work on myself and my over masculinity and that by the time I was seeing fully and regretting leaving him and asked for him back 7days later. He was too confused with me saying “you don’t love me enough and that’s why you don’t do this and that for me” I CONVINCED THE MAN THAT I LOVE THAT HE DOESNT LOVE ME AND OUR RELATIONSHIP WAS SO PURE AND GOD GIVEN AND HE WAS SO LOYAL AND RESPECTFUL. He regretted me and I have been in so much pain for the past three weeks reconciling IT ALL with myself. I pray for the day god blesses me with him again. I know the self work we are both doing while we are apart is what we needed but couldn’t do together BUT THIS BREAK FEELS SO PAINFUL.
LISTEN TO ME ELYNA! Listen good girl!
DO NOT. I repeat. DO NOT LEAVE YOUR MAN if you Troy love him and believe he loves and respects you.
Search for all solutions and find a way to inspire him and grow with him.
I wish I could share my everyday and thoughts with my Teddy. I PRAY GOD BLESSES ME WITH HIM AGAIN.
(Open to new love but I KNOW HE IS MY MAN. The love and understanding I feel now for him is a million times more that I thought there was. So unconditional.)
Fight with you mr man don’t fight with him and push him away.
Lol and please gurl! Pllleeeeaaae pray for my relationship too.
God bless
Hey Jasmyne! I am newly engaged and me and my fiancé are Christian. we are fairly young, me being 18 and him being 21, we really try to fall more into our Godly roles daily. It is hard considering the fact he was raised mostly by his mother and I, by both parents. So he didn't really have many quality masculine roles in his life to raise him. At the beginning of our relationship he was very insecure and somewhat codependent of me because I came into the relationship confident and whole in myself and he came in needed to be nurtured from his past. This confused the relationship a bit because it felt like I had to take charge in the dynamics of us. He was more sensitive and emotional and I was more practical and supportive.
I had to bring the masculinity out of him and become somewhat of a teacher to him, showing him videos like yours and listening to sermons on how a Godly man should be. Now that he has discovered his sense of oneness and masculinity, it's hard for me to fully respect his decision making and control of this relationship even though it's what I've always wanted. I find myself irritated and upset when he doesn't do things my way, and I also find myself more sensitive to the things he does that are considered normal. Because he was so codependent of me at first, now anytime he hangs with friends or doesn't rush to see me I feel he doesn't want me. We have been through a lot already, and we love each other so much and want to be together. But I just want to embrace my femininity and I do want him to be the masculine foundation to sustain our relationship. I see women like you seeming to be so comfortable in their feminine and i think it's so incredibly beautiful.
In this situation, how can I trust him wholeheartedly in all aspects and be secure in knowing that he is the Godly man I am to be with and that can lead me and a potential family?
One thing that can help him is to surround himself with other Godly men. Join a mens bible study and encourage friendship with other brothers in Christ.
Women are externally inspired and men are internally influenced. This is where the Holy spirit comes into play. You may not wholehearted agree with every decision he makes but if God is directing him then there should be no issue. However, if hes making a decision that is going to crash course, go to your prayer room and ask the Holy spirit for wisdom and to fix it. The Holy Spirit will literally change his mind and change his steps back on the right path. Because you do not want to end up being a Sapphira going along with a bad decision like the one Ananias made. I have literally prayed to the Holy spirit on decisions my boyfriend has made that I ,personally didnt think was a good idea because I knew if I tried to change his mind about everything he will never learn from his mistakes and learn to lead me.
Pray concerning this matter. Understand the weight of responsibility that a man of God must bear that you are not required to carry by looking at examples of the great men of faith i.e. their struggles and weaknesses. Build your fiancee up and do not tear him down. Empower him to forge his own path provided that it is glorifying to God and help him when he makes mistakes.
There are reasons why certain verses are directed to men vs women. May God guide you and your fiancee on your walk together.
A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.
Proverbs 14:1
If he came out of a single mom situation and turned into that that's awesome. You just have to trust God with it. His will above all. Proverbs 3:5-6.
My husband def is not struggling in the masculinity game, he ain’t got no emotion lmao j/k but fr. I need help tho with submitting. My husband is the leader of our home and I want to so much to be more connected with my femininity and I struggle. I have a long line of strong women that I come from with the “can’t tell me nothing.” attitude and I wanna change it. I’ve been doing better but sometimes those feelings come up where I wanna fight his ass LOL! I need help 😞 I don’t wanna get butthurt either when he tells me i need to improve my cooking 😒 LOL also I would love that dressing modesty video! Love ya girl! Love your videos and congrats on your new baby ❤
Fighting, in the right context, may actually be the healthiest way to get past this instinct. You want to challenge him to test whether he is worthy of trust. This is a problem, but the solution is easy.
An actual fight, a little wrestling should make you feel very submissive when he pins you with minimal effort. The knowledge that you can struggle as hard as you want and he wont fail should give you a feeling of security.
Oh my God, I needed this video!! It came literally at the right time!! Thank you
You are so inspiring in both your relationship with God and with your husband. Ive been following you for a while now and even just coming into my feminine has been really pushing me to get back in touch with God (who would have known haha)
“Stop it. Get some help” sent me 😂
Awesome video, Jasmyne!! So looking forward to the book club 📚
Me too!! And thank you!
Yes!! Can't wait for book club.
I love your videos Jasmyne. They really do not compare to other videos I see on TH-cam. You speak with so much depth and meaning. It really enlightens many important topics on womanhood. Thank you! :)
Wow, thank you so much for your support and kind words 🥹
I really appreciate these insights sis..such things are not being taught commonly and are so valuable! Keep up the good work 🙏👍
Jasmyne you are a Godsend! I needed this today. 💗
What a great video, thank you! Changing the world one relationship at a time❤
It is so wierd, I have been thinking of asking you to recommend books to read because I love how you speak so eloquently and have a vast vocabulary. I am so pleased to hear about a book club. I will gladly join.
So true
As a guy, I would love a girl that could do these things. Great video!
love this!! could you do a video on modesty? especially with todays culture it’s very difficult to discern what modest even means.
Breathe of fresh air.
I wanted to know if there are such videos for guys like this is so helpful to simply calm down and lead to a right path
Please consider doing a video on what you think a high-quality/high-value woman is.
You have no idea how many times I would wish that my mom or various girls I came across should adopt this. This would've solved numerous issues with my mom who is pretty much a nag and kinda controlling. Worse she offers a false sense of free choice,
"you can choose to help me with the grossarys or not"
*chooses not*
mom: *angry huff*
Your mom shouldn’t have the same behavior as a girlfriend would towards you.
Your mother is supposed to be mothering.
@@Amira-z6k That's not what I mean, I don't want to be nagged or borderline bullied into doing things just to make sure she doesn't have a bad event. I don't expect my mom to behave like a girlfriend at all, but I would like her to be far more caring and compassionate. This would at least incentivize spending quality time which as of now is nonexistent and has been so for years on numerous things, even car pooling I'm against due to the numerous times she'd push my buttons or scream when I'm driving or not driving. (I still have those memories seared in my brain of non-stop screaming and nitpicking judgments)
Honestly it just sounds like everyone in the house should be helping your mother more. Have a little empathy.
@@ellenahs5911 I don't mean to sound like an ahole but I tried to and yet she continues to say "why bother focusing on the past" (from the mistakes she made). To me it's a big middle finger to my situation. I can't tell you how many times my dad and I called her out on her bad attitude, loud and or bad tone, only to be met with "this is who I am." Also noted is the only time I heard her apologizing was when I orced an apology from her via my therapist. Even then I still don't believe her because she's regressing in th attitudes.
@@ythatesfactsI totally understand you. My mom is 600 fireworks and has the force of a thousand soldiers. I'm not built like that. I tried to show her she isn't truly built like that either. It's difficult to get them to see the other side (understand boundaries, virtues, Christlikeness etc)
. I'm tired of trying anyway, so I can't wait to be financially independent enough to move away and start my own family. I'm working on it though.😊 Hugs 🤗
Thank you so much for this. OMG!!! I needed this ! Literally watching it again.
I am so glad I found your channel, you are literally what I needed right now
inspire him to have quality brother hood
the channel of my dreams
Exactly never try to change a man i make the mistake and off course he didn Change a man only change when he really want too
Awesome that you uploaded this video. Yes, men are human beings too I never understood why some women treat their men as if they are in this universe to do nothing but serve their woman. There is nothing better than a relationship with love and respect. You both built each other. Thanks again for spreading this to the universe.
You got it right on!
Thank you Jasmyne xx you are an absolute angel
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This was extremely well put together. Tons of information and memorable quotes, if you're listening to understand. Thank you so much for this! 😊
so excited for the book club..You have that new mother glow by the way...very lovely🥰🥰🥰congrats again..I appreciate a peaceful space like yours on youtube
This video is so helpful!!! Thank you🤍
im just afraid that the man I'll marry in the future will not even acknowledge the love i give him. men's psychology is weird, they'll leave for no reason and i feel powerless already. I'd rather be single but i still want kids and im afraid that they'll grow without a father if he'll leave
This video is golden!
Thank you!! 💖
would love to join your book club!!!!
I noticed the change in thumbnail. I like it
Thank you!! Sorry to disappoint with the lack of feminine grace video lol I have sooo much on my schedule 😖
CHRIST IS RISEN!! Blessed Pascha sister
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@@JasmyneTheodora Y'all need to come to Japan one day. You'd love it.
Hristos vaskrse!
Can't wait for your book club Jasmine!
I just love listening to you talk lol
Pshhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
stahp 🥹😩❤️❤️
Jasmine this is GOLD ladies take notes! Thank you x
I'm here because I want to be more feminine to my husband. I am feminine with how I dress. But my words are my struggle. I really want to be more feminine not for him, but for me. I truly believe that I'll be happier.
I would be careful of the language being used here. Men can be feminine and should be. Femininity and Masculinity has to do with energy. Men and women have both of these energies because it takes both genders to create life. If I as a women were to say that I am not masculine I would be disowning my father and disowning myself. This goes for men too. To deny his femininity removed men from empathizing with their mother’s and removes them from tapping into their own emotions. I agree with you in terms of a men being a leader in a partnership because as a man he is gifted with in strength, structure, stability. Women are gifted leaders in creativity, comfort, and wonder. These are gifts that have manifested in our different genders and have then passed down. Even a woman who is “chronically” vulnerable it is dangerous. I love your videos, and I agree on a lot of your points
I’m actually doing a video on this on Sunday! But I disagree, I don’t think men have a “feminine” side. Femininity is not performative - it’s about who you are (and then we should behave in accordance with our internal essence). We are not androgynous beings. We’re either male or female - either feminine or masculine beings. Yes, we as women should integrate traits that you could place into the opposite category but it should be in a way that serves to supplement your internal essence. Not in a way that compromises it. Like compassion is a feminine trait although a good man should integrate compassion into his character in order to be a better leader (a better masculine figure). I go a lot more into this in my video though, stay tuned!
This is also a slippery slope. We’ve gone from “men can be feminine” to “men can be real women and can infiltrate female spaces” to “men can have uterine implants and potentially give birth.” I’ve only met effeminate men, not men who are feminine as femininity has to do with biological makeup + inward spirit. We as women behave feminine as a reflection of who we intrinsically are but we’re not feminine merely because we behave as feminine. Hope that translates well💖
Lovely conversation 🎉
I just found your channel. I adore you! I love the way you speak and the beautiful message you share x
Excited about the book club!!
I needed this 💛💛💛
Lol exactly me I thought I was to special and nearly lost him
and now he tries to hold back and not show how much he loves me like he did in the past 💔
Most of us have done that mistake but it’s not too late to fix it ❤️
@@SerpicoVendemion Sure thanks
cant wait for the book club!
Thanks for always sharing such inspiring and insightful contents.
❤I love it, I’m so excited for the book club 🙌
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This was AWESOME Theodora🌸❤️ Thank you so much you this! ❤️🌸
Thank you so much!!! This spoke to me so much!!! Amen! 💛🙏🏽
So glad!
I'd like to challenge your intro. If approached right I'd love feedback from my significant other. Hear what's attractive to them gives me something to work with. If I had ever been given the complement that they like when I'm more masculine and that it's attractive to them I would have done anything to better embody it.
Love this and love you great video once again❤️
You're the best! Thank you!!
Thank you for the practical tips ❤
Thank you for speaking your truth. THE TRUTH!
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Very well said! ❤
Read the book “Fascinating Womenhood”, y’all ❤️
I love this channel but Gorman, am I the only one that has no love life, no feminist or softness but still watch?
Hmmm this is really good advice. I need to apply everything. Thank you for this. I had a feeling but wasn’t sure about the proper steps and actions. Amazing video
I absolutely love this video and thank you so much for using scripture to back some of this up. I absolutely needed this thank you my beautiful friend 😍😇
Love this! I really needed this advice as I prepare to get married in November.
It's funny watching your videos as a guy. You are very encouraging
Appreciate your idea jasmyne , least you found women want changes too🗿
100k Q&A soon?
I love this video & the way you express yourself
I love this video. So easy to understand. Thanks Jasmyne.
Glad it was helpful!
So excited for the book club!!!
Get readyyyy
Is no one gonna talk about Michael Jordan lol. I'm crying tears.
i need this!!!
“Bread” that made me laugh. Hope you enjoy the video 💖💖
I cannot thank you enough for this information ❤
I love your videos so much 🤍 I wanted to ask can you talk about femininity and intimacy in a celibate relationship.
When I ask for help from my bf, he will listen, promise to help me, sometimes even gives me speech... But in the end, never helps me... He forgets and get busy with other stuff... How do I change this behaviour?