The Upsides of Having a Mental Breakdown
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ก.พ. 2022
- One of our greatest fears is to suffer a mental breakdown. Yet, in the long run, a breakdown might just be the most beneficial thing that will ever happen to us.
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“One of the saddest and most puzzling phenomena of psychological life are the incidents commonly known as ‘breakdowns’, in which people find themselves suddenly unable to carry out their normal duties - and fall silent, take to bed and cannot stop crying…”
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After almost 25 years being pressured in a toxic family where mental health is seen as a joke, I finally went to a psychologist. I did this because I had a massive breakdown for the first time. It was honestly the best thing I have ever did to myself.... :)
My breakdown happened when I got kidney stones while I was forcibly promoted to a position I didn't want and was dealing with a 5 year old injury that wouldn't heal. Giving up on everyone and leaning into medical help has been the best choice of my life. I too found a psychiatrist, the I found out I'm mentally disabled. Then it got worse. I might be dead if I hadn't broken down and cried at work that day.
My family is the same way, they dont believe that a persons can have mental illness.
@@SifernosRatLord Hope you're doing well! 💕
Same! Yesterday I finally went to a psychologist too and I think it was the best decision I've made in months to improve my mental health 💛
I want to do this too .But yet not able to ...due to my health going down as hell trying my best to keep myself fit
A strong disruption is always also an opportunity... at those times, the mind is very ready to change for the better and leaving bad habits behind becomes a strong possibility
Good analysis. I agree. 😊
yes hopefully
Only if resources are easily available at the critical juncture.....
...otherwise, the realizations are standing there naked, bruised, and left with no apparent path of healing. This can lead to an enduring and seemingly inconsolable grief.
...trust me, I know
@@WaterproofSoap Even if the ressources are not available, many people will start to search for solutions with unheard-of vigor!
@@WaterproofSoap beautifully written
One small crack does not mean that you are broken, it means that you were put to the test and you didn't fall apart👏
Little crack never hurt anyone.😅
Kintsugi. We are all imperfect wares.
No one is perfect.
it's the ones who've cracked that the light shines through
preach king
It’s interesting to call it a break down, because in reality, it’s your true self breaking through ❤️
Perfect analogy
That's a beautiful comment. Thanks
This is what it feels like to me, but society tells me what I want is wrong. I think that’s part of the stress of it, do I listen to my own heart and soul, or to society?
From childhood we all form a "self" to get through life, because the world is so overwhelming. That self is a protective structure and temporary, because life changes. At some point that self will constrict us and no longer suffice. Think of the hermit crab, which borrows a shell that fits perfectly. Until one day it doesn't, because he has grown. So he leaves the shell and is absolutely vulnerable until he finds a new fit.
OMG 😳 👏🏾, so me right now 😫
what about those who never had the chance to grow their self?
So perfectly put! Absolutely 🌹
Beautiful lucid explanation. Thanks.
Wow I love this quote
I had a breakdown in May 2021. I quit my job & had 9 months off. Rest, reflection, drawing, time outside, daily swimming, therapy, deleted all social media, cut all unhealthy friendships or connections which limited my healing. I am NOW the healthiest I have been my entire adult life. “Closest to sanity I have ever been” Striping everything back, loosing everything, falling so low & doing the work “therapy” has given me soo much. #hope
@@geneva5619 I am really fortunate to have a spouse with a really good job. We are very lucky. I don’t have kids & my past job paid well. I completely understand that’s not everyone’s story & how that’s unfair.
Update: 2 months later than original post & I just wanted to say sadness has returned. Not as a deep depression but it’s there. For those who know black dog maybe it’s good to think of life as seasonal not a straight line. All is well & will be well.
@Creating Kelsi sending peace across the seas from Australia. Much rest & healing
I had a breakdown in 2009 at age 34. I'm 48 now and even though I have my ups and downs, I believe it happened so I could learn more about myself. The little things count, and I'm not materialistic anymore
@@MXRiderFiftyTwoI wish I could ask you some questions. I am a 28 male who just had a complete breakdown 5 days ago. Before this, I had never faced such a thing.
Breakdowns are some of the most debilitating things I've ever experienced. They made me feel incredibly vulnerable, even though I was alone.
After moving away from family, I had breakdowns every day for weeks (and it wasn't because I missed them). I had no idea why, but as this video states, I went looking for the truth, and I went to a psychologist.
6 sessions is all it took for me to realise that I had immense amounts of trauma bottled up from living with my family, and now that I had moved away, my body was cleansing itself. I haven't had a breakdown since.
Thanks for sharing. Your description of your experience resonated with me. I moved away from family and was really happy for 10 months or so. Then I was blindsided by a debilitating breakdown. I worked through the things it brought up, and now I'm more understanding and forgiving of myself and others and I feel much more calm and at peace. I really appreciate the insight of the content from School of Life!
@@faffrin5216 Thanks for sharing! I'm glad my experience resonated with you :)
Same
I feel like everything around me is collapsing after the breakup between me and my girlfriend. I was constantly hiding under her cover, became codependent and ran away from my feelings of anger, sadness, hopelessness, despair and now that I know she is no longer here to cover me, I feel like I have no cover anymore, I feel vulnerable, I feel small, I feel like i felt when I was little, when my parents left me alone in the house and I used to cry so hard until neighbours came to my door to tell me they will come back from work. I have so much fear of these intense feelings although I understand what is all about and what is going on. I fear that I might lose my mind and do reckless acts because of the pain.
@@entropeus5979 I'm very sorry to hear that. Breakups are so hard. Rest assured that you won't lose your mind, because you are still you. Stay strong, because these feelings will ease with time and you will find peace again
"We have fallen ill because we have been victims of a cruelty..."
"We cant date because your parents are too religous" after 5 years of depression i finally stood up and damm the breakdown felt like a action movie. My advice: try to feel the breakdown dont turn it down.
Well said, thank u
I don’t understand what the religious parents part has to do with the breakdown, please explain.
@@iiii4271 i overtought that phrase over and over again and went to faith crisis. Then i quit my career and everything came at once. I asked too many questions about religion bcs of that and became partly unreligous myself. Which is hard in a religous family. She was right tho haha
@@vat0LisT if I'm correct, ur male and a girl said this to you?
its a the 20th of april today. my advice, combat the breakdown with canbabinoids. after all if its evolution, or a loving God, or both. the plant knows how to calm our wild spirits.
A good cry feels quite like purifying.
"We may be closer to sanity than we have ever dared to be."
This video could not have come at a better time.
I've been on the bottom, but I survived and got up.
Today my inner strength are one of my best abilities.
What a perfect coincidence, just had a breakdown today after work. Cried my way home. Was tired of every workplace berating me, putting me down in front of juniors, it felt like a straw that broke the camel's back. This has given me courage to pursue my dream career and control the reigns of my life. Truly, a breakdown should always be felt, it has something to say to you about yourself.
I, ultimately, brought my mental breakdown on myself. 7 years after being betrayed and living with resentment and self-loathing, I imploded and I lost my relationship, my best friend, my mental wellbeing and physical wellbeing. 3 years later and I'm doing better, but life isn't quite the same any more.
I feel very self-aware and am far more empathetic than I ever was, but at least once a week I ask: what's the point of all this now? I had everything I needed 3 years ago, but lost it, so why bother? What am I living for?
Edit: I should note that I'm no longer depressed, but am empty and just getting by, occasionally doing things I love and dating again. But that sparkle I used to have for those things is no longer there.
When you drink a glass of cool water, you are happy when it is being drunk, as you slake your thirst. You are happy to have drank it, and you know you'll never ever drink that same glass of water again. But you are not sad because you know you'll be able to drink another when you feel thirsty again. Why are you mourning that previous glass of water when you can have more? Thirst is a funny thing. Our bodies are not very good at telling us we're thirsty. We are often dehydrated, without out feeling thirsty. We may even feel hunger, but still not thirsty, only until we are severely dehydrated. You are not paying attention. You are not present in your own life, and so you are dehydrated and not responding to your needs in the here and now. You have water to drink but you thirst. Why? Why not go and get a glass of water? A breakdown is a sign of mindlessness, of not being present. In that state of mind you become a stranger to your self and others. Come back to the present, and appreciate what you have in the here and now. Be grateful for what was good, but let it go. You need to make room for the newer and ultimately more rewarding life you have yet to discover. If you shift your focus to the present and what is around you here, you will discover meaning and purpose here. A good example of this is Viktor Frankl. He wrote in his book "Man's Search For Meaning" about his experiences in the Nazi Death Camps. He had everything a middle class German could want. He was an up and coming psychologist, he had a wife and a family, and he was a published researcher. Then in one brief moment, that was gone and he was in Hell for several years. How he survived is better told by Frankl himself. Get a copy of this short book, and read how Frankl found meaning and purpose in his present. It will be the most compassionate thing you do for yourself.
I feel you. I went through something similar. But , I am telling myself it is worth it , doing a little kindness for someone without expecting anything in return . Maybe you will get an opportunity to meet your best friend and show him the better version of you. Maybe you don't have the same headspace that you used to have . But which one of us does ? Life is meant to change you . But do try to feel happiness in the small things in life . Like keeping a bird feeder , helping an old lady carry her groceries. Life doesn't have any meaning , we give it meaning .
I'm slowly learning to cherish that emptiness, it's new so it feels wrong or just out of place, because one is used to being filled with this and that emotion from them, because one relied on external people and certain pleasure to fill them. Emptiness is stillness, it's a chance to learn self sufficiency and a lot of self-awareness and mental clarity.
@@BigHenFor Great analysis 👏
Hey bud, Ik what its like. Best mate killed himself then gf left me. Never had two closer relationships in my whole life. Just know that life can change again in an instant, and you'll be even more receptive to it next time, and also have your eyes open for dangers, because you've done it before and know how good and bad it can be
Thank you so much, I needed to hear this today. Sometimes, going through a mental breakdown is the wake up call you need to change your life, and get it back on track.
I cracked after my Mom died and my boyfriend broke up with me three weeks before that happened. I was shattered, and went into self-seclusion for a few years. I barely left my apartment, but was able to pay bills, work out, and get out every few weeks. I somehow healed myself, started listening to music and books, sometimes didn't change clothes for days at a time. It was a blur. I reached out for mental health/counseling which helped me to get on track with goals and so forth (CBT), but my deep trauma has still not been addressed. I have been referred to a specialist group who does some type of new-fangled EMDR (spelling?) therapy that works by teaching you how to rapidly move your eyes around when the trauma is triggered or something like that. Anyway, I'm willing to give it a go. I realize that I'm Very Fortunate because I can still professionally "keep my shit together", but I dread crowds or noisy places. I Want to meet new people and have more friends, yet I withdraw and cancel at the last minute. It's a struggle to get myself together to greet the world and act like I'm okay...when all I really want to do is be home alone. My Dad is dying and he's never been anything but an A hole to me...that's a tough one. Role reversal stuff again, and it's triggering. I'm the parent now of my Dad, when he was never a parent to me. He took off when I was four, and I never heard from him unless he wanted or needed something. Thanks for "listening" if anyone has made it this far, and my best advice is to be grateful and appreciative of the family and friends you have who are there for you no matter what. I have money and stability because I'm good with numbers and investments, but I am clueless when it comes to relationships and interpersonal bonding. I am trying to improve this deficit in my life. I have my Super Star son to be grateful for, and I give him encouragement as often as possible. He's a BMOC (big man on campus in college), and I often wonder how this Fantastic person could have ever been created by my lousy ass.
@@gigi9301 much love ❤
I had a mental breakdown in traffic. I was working 2 jobs both night shift. I was almost homeless and my kids where away. I had to pull over and my brother had to pick me up cause my mind just wanted to cry.
Hope you are doing better❤
I work night shift too and it definitely impacts your overall health and well-being. I really hope you get some time for yourself and rest to feel better. ✌️🌻❤️🩹
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Rest is really important, I know sometimes we have to do sacrifices in order to survive but you should always prioritize your health man. I’m sure your family can understand. I come from a working class family and I know how hard life can get but sometimes we just need to stop put our pride away and ask for help. I hope you’re lucky enough to have a family that supports, I know that is not always the case but you can always join a positive community, you’ll be surprise how many people want to help you sometimes. Stay away from toxic people and try to eat healthy, I know it’s cliche but you’ll be surprise how clear our thoughts get when we put good fuel in our bodies. I wish you the best and keep fighting you’re not alone.
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I had a panic attack at work 3 years ago and that set in motion a series of decisions to change my life. I’m in a better place now with no regrets.
I used to believe that my emotions were artificial. Something my mind would make up and something I wasn’t allowed to feel. I would punish myself for feeling the things I did and reinforced the ideation that something was wrong with me. I couldn’t have been more wrong. I was struggling alone, only myself to free me from my mental prison. I started to accept that I’m human and imperfect. You begin to realize that you know your own truth and worth. you are more than what people say or make of you. everything you need lies within you and healing is a process. love yourself when no one else will .
This resonates. Thanks for sharing
Did you do a self-therapy?
@@mahsafarah5510 No but I highly recommend trying therapy. it’s good to have an unbiased outlook on your situation and struggles. I also like to take the time to watch videos to help me better understand myself.
I've had several, and it is a miserable and cleansing experience. A mental reset of sorts. Once you get past the fragility you can focus on the things that really matter to you, and make improvements.
I had my first mental breakdown last year, and although I was absolutely desperate I am now very happy it happened.
I found strength and a sense of righteousness in myself I didn't know existed, and I'm very grateful for that experience
I was supporting two kids and a wife while starting a new career. My boss tried to use my fear of not providing for them to control me. After working 12 hour days for a couple years, I snapped. Began hyperventilating, heart palpitations, dissacciative states and thought I had congestive heart failure (for no reason). After a kind dr. gave me a large prescription of Xanax and told me to sleep for a couple days. I realized I had to let go of fear. Joined the gym and began running 7 miles per day. I reasoned that if I killed myself by running till I thought my heart would give out it would be a not too bad way to go. 10 years later I still run daily and lift weights for an hour. It reminds me of my minds primacy over my fears and my body.
It sounds like a long and hard experience. It's good that you found a way to channel it into taking care of your health.
Unfortunately we can have abusive people in our lives for no fault of our own. We end up losing trust in ourselves to handle circumstances and build walls which hide who we are, when really we need to heal, trust and genuinely respect ourselves.
I had a very serious breakdown November, December, January. It was a long time coming and in some ways was a relief. I was under a crisis team. I am now a lot better and so relieved that I am looking at life in a more measured and hopeful way because suffering is normal in our current civilisation . When we are free of intense suffering it is important to appreciate every moment. I find nature, painting, music very helpful and softens the stress of modern life.
Currently living this. Timing is uncanny, but undeniably helpful.
Mine are more anxiety based. Been in hell for 4 weeks but last night had a breakthrough moment where my anxiety subsided and my normal thoughts and emotions started coming back i was so happy. Feel fragile like ive just been through a massive trauma but it is a step in the right direction.
How are you now? Are you doing better?
Wow wow wow! I'm currently playing detective 🕵️♂️ in my own life to debunk what my breakdowns mean and why have they occurred. It's been painful because I have discovered people and realized I've placed people on pedestals. Ive harbored so much resentment and im slowly working through it all now. Thank you for this 🙏
people who aren't first:
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This is what I'm going through for almost 2 years (that I'm aware of). It's been very difficult and even more difficult at times but also very enriching. Becoming more aware of myself, learning about myself and accepting myself and trying to understand the big questions about the Universe and Life itself. It's a slow process of becoming more authentic, vulnerable, true to myself and more sincere, while getting rid of the 'societal' programming and false beliefs. It takes work but I'm getting there. I know there are many out there doing the same. I guess we are only as lonely as we feel we are.
Just had a mental breakdown a few days ago, this video came up just in time. Thank you.
It was weird, I suppose my suicide attempt, luckily I was blackout drunk when the cops broke down my door. I suppose it was also a mental breakdown. Afterwards when I was in the observation center for a few days. My perception of reality was weird. I had mild hallucinations but eventually, I had this tranquility and clarity. I decided I needed to try again, I was able to open my eyes and realized I had support from friends and family who cared. It was as if a load of darkness left me and I was emptish and new but at least I was able to start again. I'll always appreciate those who were there for me. 😌
good cus drinking and doing drugs isint the way.
@@medievaltrap7285 I never did drugs. Just drank.
To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️. Just allow grace to let it in.
I like your reply. I just subscribed to your channel.
I can understand how having a mental breakdown and realizing you need help is a good thing for some. But there is a fine line between that, and something like a psychotic break. Psychotic breaks hold no epiphany or realization, they are a reflection of a person who isn’t themselves. The world is warped around them beyond recognition, beyond what is real. It’s horrible, and the worst part is that it brings no benefit. It is a cycle of suffering.
A breakdown is a prelude to a breakthrough. Jordan Peterson
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For those who can accept the painful challenge of facing their realities, and doing the hard work required to overcome.
Not just what others have done to us…..also what we have done to ourselves.
I once had a mental breakdown so strong it disassembled parts of my sense of self.
I caused it myself by asking too many questions (like who am I) and digging too deep in my unconscious.
It’s been close to a year and smaller breakdowns have been plaguing since, but it allowed to dissolve who I was and build everything from scratch, now I’m truly becoming who I want to be. The more the breakdowns the greater the change.
Some were strong though - and almost caused me to take my own life - but it’s because the lie they were trying to unfold reached deep into all layers of the self and necessitated the biggest efforts to “fish it out”.
Good thing is that I feel better than ever now and can’t imagine how my life would be if I hadn’t had these key breakdowns.
Wow ! As a person who have witnessed mental breakdown in family and myself i can say that this video holds truth.. it took almost a year or two but after getting out of it things became clearer and that breakdown almost felt like a good friend who was giving us reality check and insight of our own self.
My breakdown last summer was the lowest I've ever felt, broke me, but gave me the opportunity to rebuild myself into a stronger more resilient version of me
Wow. I had a breakdown the day before this came out. Took me 10+ years to realize I was non-binary. Forcing myself to be someone I'm not. Pretending to be okay with my family shaming me, bullying me and my LGBT friends, acting hateful in the name of Christianity. It took me this long to tell my mom about the religious trauma I've faced and came out officially on Valentine's Day. I'm not sure who will read this but I hope you can be honest with yourself. Even if it's unsafe to come out, love yourself in private. Don't let others tell your story.
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Wow, good work on the courage to come out! Sending warm wishes for your better journey now ,💗💜💙
@@LilThreat88 thank you for the kind words, I appreciate it!
If you have a Y chromosome you are a male. If you don't have a Y chromsome you are a female. It's okay if you don't fit stereotypes. There's no such thing as "nonbinary."
@@ElizabethDMadison its not about biology. Its about identity and personal feelings. We can agree to disagree on this.
what about when the lie comes not from a person, but society as a whole? how do you break free from knowing the truth of reality. How do you untangle your mind from something so massive?
Google positive nihilism.
There is no meaning purpose that your looking for
Stay off media and create your own reality. I took my TV off the wall, I only listen to music and have candles in my house now. I started a new Instagram account that’s only what I want to see. Motivation travel and animals. No friends no nothing because then their contact gets suggested to you. That’s an immediate step you can take is just getting rid of access to media.
you would need to live staying true and morally loyal to yourself. in my life, once i started being open about my sexuality, a lot of adults and even people i knew deeply, started telling me how "i can change" and just said that this concept of homosexuality is very bizarre to them. I also faced homophobia and was told to just change myself. I did not, nor could i fake it. I had to stay true to myself because at the end of the day, i will be by myself and i will be the person tucking myself into my bed, and not society and their rules
@@imputinandihaveasmallpeepe9165 I'm already past looking for purpose or meaning, brother. I know mine and I know the value and worth of Life.
There is a bigger picture yet. Earth isn't meant to be a paradise. Watch a few hypnosis therapy videos. Alba weinman, Laura Whitworth and QHHT cape Town are good channels on TH-cam.
I had a breakdown at 44 when I finally stopped repressing my childhood trauma.
While that was a very dark and difficult period of my life, I've been able to come through it, begin to heal, learn to love myself for the first time ever, and also discover that I'm trans.
Never knew losing my mind could feel so good
This is the best episode I have watched so far! It is succinct, raw, and healing all at once - a snapshot of all I have been grappling with for the last few years. Blessings on the School of Life team who put this together. Thank you so much.
I had a first breakdown when I was 19 followed by two more if you've gone through it don't panic it's completely normal
Physical pain with it?
The cracks in life are where the light gets in...
Nice 👍🏻
Im in the middle of a breakdown because i was accused of doing something really bad that i didnt do. But what is surprising me is the need for change that im feeling now is actually giving me hope to live a life that is better than before and it's nice to embrace de adventure of change
Beautiful! Just what I needed. There are too many negative messages about breakdowns and I believe it is in part that negativity in which many of us frame everything that precipitates and creates the circumstances for breakdowns. I am happily writing this 4.5 months since the start of my existential crisis. I still experience some weird, scary and uncomfortable feelings, but I've become a great husband, son and brother. I am experiencing new joys for the first time in my life and I'm facing scary thoughts with self compassion and self love. The seeds of self love are just sprouting and I feel like, even if I am not there yet, life is just going to get so much happier later on :) I love myself, I love whoever took the time to read this. I wish all of us love, happiness, joy and freedom from suffering.
Thank you for the this uplifting video SoL!
My only breakdown up to this point In My life helped me realize that no matter what I was told in childhood, no I am not at all that important and neither are most people
You are in for another one...
At 25 I started working as a diplomat, my parents didn't even finish university, this was for me a great achievement. At 27 I had a mental breakdown, I couldn't do any work, I stopped my job and I was feeling paranoia, anger, depression. I started seeing a therapist and my life has changed, now it's been 5 years of therapy and I learned I was living a life to please others, my parents abandoned me and because of that I have a lot of personality problems and I'm trying to improve my life and I am succeeding but sometimes I just don't see the point of doing this, I'm tired.
They bred this trait out in Japan hence “Karoshi”
(Japanese word for literally dropping dead while working)
I've learned , at least for myself, mental breakdowns aren't hospital visits and outbursts. I feel like I've had breakdowns slowly occur over a month or week instead of suddenly. Each time Bringing me to a new self- realization
I actually had a breakdown, it was hideous. Took 4 years before I could function. It's not a panic attack, nor a low day, it's a black tunnel.
4 years? How come? Better now… physical pain too? Hope you’re good!
@@robbieanderson227 it took 4 years because I was totally broken. Two of those, I can't remember.
Now I do have physical pain, as I suppose it took its toll on my body.
Today I'm healthy and accept the life I've been given. Swimming in the sea every day helps too.
@@ghengis430 sorry to hear this, at the end of the day you only have you, stay happy 😀
I really find this explanation of mental illness very beautiful as well as truthful 😢
It's true we sometimes see our illness as misfortune and we wish it to go away and go back to "normal", but what truly happens is that this "normality" is no longer sustainable and our illness and suffering is actually telling us that.
I often feel bad because i tend to question so much things and i feel stuck in a trap of uncertainty, but i am actually grateful of being questioning things so much right now (even though it feels painful) because it is better to be unsure than think you are sure of what is "right" but it's actually a lie. I mean, it's better to be someone who questions everything than being someone who assumes things easily, yeah, unceirtainty might be hard to bear but the questions are what lead you to answers.
So a breakdown is not just a breakdown but a breakthrough.
Let it hurt, understand your suffering, the causes of it and how it affects you, and then start to heal it.
Sometimes my family forces me to act as if i were "good", and they try to rush me into just healing and be okay (they think i can delude mysef into happiness, which is not healthy, we humans are not made to feel happy all the time) They think I can just snap out of it, and they keep on telling me that i am lazy. They see my pain as nothing but misfortune and shame, but i think otherwise. This pain is trying to protect me by telling me that there's something causing it, and there's something threatening me. Though it's not easy to face the truth we must do it and accept it in order to change our reality.
"I am accepting my fate with open arms, but that doesn't mean I am surrendering, it just means I am taking in the reality and using this knowledge to turn the situation to my own favor"
-Unknown
Had one last year and it finally opened my mind to getting therapy and learning more about myself.
This really made me cry... It's just so clear and so on the point
Two years ago, as covid hit, after some traumatic personal changes I moved in with family in another state far from my own. Over that summer I had several mental breakdowns, lost A LOT of weight and the only thing that kept me sane was hiking/walking ten miles every single night for months. My family, did not even notice. My clothing was falling off me, I was barely speaking to anyone, barely eating and they carried on like nothing happened. A neighbor couple noticed and befriended me. Several months later I packed up what I can after selling off half of my possessions and drove back to my home state and was almost homeless. I spent the most of that winter in an abandoned house with very little heat and hot water. That's how bad I wanted to be away from my family. It was either that or die down there in that forsaken place they live in (Florida). I barely interact with them now. It's almost two years later and I've finally been able to process many things in my life, especially how dangerous my childhood actually was and how close I came to death on several occasions by the hands of my parents. I tell people bits and pieces of my childhood experiences and they cannot believe that at least one of my parents is not in jail. I have a long road to any sort of recovery and may never recover in this lifetime. It has affected me in every way including my behavior in personal relationships etc.
These videos always come out at the perfect time. I was sitting here contemplating the mental breakdown I’m going through and trying to resist it…. And then this video came up on my feed.
you said something so profound that i just experienced too. "trying to resist it"....i surrendered to it a few moments before i saw your comment.
Before allowing my current perspective to be influenced, I'm going to comment before watching the video and then see if anything has changed.
Seems that the upside of having one, providing you are fully aware of it, either during or afterwards, is that you have a chance to realise that you have no further to fall. This is it. You have nowhere to go but up from here. Such events can be utilised to inspire your own best effort in recovering from them. And in recovering, gain enough momentum to surpass where you were before. You can do great things if you're able to realise that this is the lowest you can possibly get and that something has to change for something to change. You almost utilise the weight of it all as an energy source. Become a bit of a masochist.
You get a chance to use the sheer scale of your own calamity to almost view yourself from distance. It's gotten so bad that you can't even despair anymore. Just get busy living or get busy dying, as one quote goes.
Nicely said, thank you :)
So what's your thoughts after watching the video? :)
Amazingly well articulated! This mirrors my endeavor out of a depth of despair so wisely
Watching this hours after a mental break down is kinda eye opening
The human reset button. For some, it fails to reset fully, and for others, it can have fatal consequences.
I have never heard such profound truths. Thank you ❤
I've worked nonstop for my entire adult life with a heap of baggage I've been avoiding to address. This last winter I shutdown my business and took three months to have a full midlife crisis and it really helped. I spent the past two years researching and discovering why I hold onto habits or beliefs, but it wasn't ever enough time to fully process any of it. I now have a new sense of direction and goal orientation that is healthy, no longer applying myself in unhealthy ways for people who will never give me validation. I let in a lot of toxic people unto my life because I was never taught to respect myself, now I feel I am closer to following my gut instinct, instead of putting up with small red flags that eventually turn into toxic problems, all for the sake of an imaginary goal for a parent that themselves is not emotionally mature enough to validate even my attempt at appeasing them.
My life has almost always been rocky and it never got the better of me until it just did. I was strong and defiant. But that was then. Now I'm weaker and less able to deal with the chaos. I had a breakdown a few days ago. It didn't reveal anything to me. It made me feel worse about myself. Two days of not functioning and I'm continually teetering on the edge of another with no way to stop it. External pressures are killing my psyche. I need something like a vacation, a break from my world. That isn't coming, though. The breakdown made me feel worse and even more out of control of my life.
Oh, well. Somewhere inside my head I know the chaos is temporary, but this is certainly the longest it ever lasted, and I'm at my most fragile from being beaten down by life's hard knocks for so many years.
Good hope for anyone feeling the same.
Sending you moral support 🤗
@@Lucy-iw1xf thank you. All the best
Aww you're welcome, your words really touched my heart I can relate to how you feel, I truely hope you can find the healing you need & deserve 💖
The tide always turns.
needed this thank u
It breaks you. At some point you have to decide to make positive mental strides to pick your self up. At the time you won't know who you are and you won't have that grip on a personality to use as a foundation. It's scary but don't worry. Small wins. Make yourself have small social encounters. The person at a shop till for example. Small steps and think no further than hour by hour, min by min. Do not take anti depression medication as this is a downward spiral. It cuts out the low emotions but also the high, happy ones and you need those to get better. Be honest with yourself as to the cause and deal with it. You will probably wake up most mornings and your first thought is, I wish I died last night. You will get better, you will but you will not be the same person out the other side. You will be harder, tougher because of it but you will come out the other side but you have to make the effort. Ultimately this is something only you can do for yourself.
My breakdown was necessary for my growth. 🦋
I experienced this when a charity which had promised to help me with an addiction to Prescription opiates, after a complete failure of care by my GP, decided they could not help me anymore. I am still taking opiates, even though I have worked very hard to reduce them.
I feel hopeless and am relying on the NHS pain team at the local hospital to try and come up with a solution. This medication has ruined my life and I just hope I can stop it before it’s too late.
I was just having a mental breakdown and this video got uploaded... Whoa.
My breakdown made me clean myself up and apply myself to my MSc. I am now at the end of my dissertation and so proud of the person that I have become. Without my breakdown I would never have finished the course. I have still to pass but I am more optimistic of this than at any other point over the past year. Breakdowns can definitely be break throughs.
One will only find true happiness when they have been through the worse
That's a quote I made myself, not sure if it'll be well known but I'll leave it here
I would just like to say, don't make the mistake of assuming that a very insightful person or group of people, like School of Life have the answers to everything, only look at what wise people say as offering a different pair of glasses to see the world through, which may help you understand and manage it better, that's all.
Fair and true.
Thank you for this
This came at the right time. Thank you.
I needed that reminder. Thank you!
Thank you. I needed this. 🙏🏻
Needed this to understand finally some things that are never articulated 🙌
I felt the heaviness of my sarrows.
Built around me like a thick layer of rock.
I cracked the layer, little by little.
Set myself free.
Then I came across this video...
Thank you for posting
Thank you for this!
great video and much needed in this time
This channel makes me happy, thank u :)
Superb videos!! Dont let anyome drag you down!!!
This explains moving away from a toxic narcissistic monster mother who wants to control my life.
Thank you 🍀
Thank you
Guys, at this point I have to share with complete honesty, that no matter how interesting the topics of the videos are, I just cannot listen carefully to anything the specific narrator says. I don't know if the problem is her voice or the apathy in her tone, but it's not possible to stay focused and get the value of the video.
Yeah I feel the same way...there are many interesting videos but after watching them I don't seem to recall...
I agree, they really need to change the narrator, her voice has this sympathetic tone that puts you off.
I’ve seen people breakdown and it’s heartbreaking.
I recognise the signs in myself and hopefully I can take action before things get too serious.
Thank you so much for this (:
Much needed
Such a soothing voice, thank you :)
Thank you, kind soul.
Obrigada
Thanks
Wow this is so helpful 🌸 Thank you
As someone who had a child when I was 17 and had a breakdown during my 20's, my experience with someone close to me was - You should try your hardest to be a good mother while I reject and shame you for your choice of being a mother
Progress is rarely linear! What feels like an end (a breakdown) is often a beginning.
This is an excellent explanation
So true and to the point
Having a mental breakdown doesn’t mean you have an illness, just means your having a human experience. We need those challenges, or how else are we gonna have any real stories to tell or how others going to learn anything real.
I usually have a hard time accepting some things about myself, even if I'm very good at it for everything else and I know those things already. When it comes to myself, I have many hypotheses, and it's rare any of them feel real. So I am pretty much paralysed in analysis until I have a mental breakdown, which sort of gives me the power to connect to my emotions and make choices. I'm not sure if something is wrong with me, but I feel this need of change regularly. I have a huge mental breakdown around once a year
This was very powerful