The Importance of a Breakdown
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 9 เม.ย. 2018
- Having a nervous breakdown could seem like the ultimate calamity. Far from it. Handled correctly, it can be a unique opportunity to learn - and to get properly well.
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“One of the great problems of human beings is that we’re far too good at keeping going. We’re experts at surrendering to the demands of the external world, living up to what is expected of us and getting on with the priorities as others around us define them. We keep showing up and being an excellent boy or girl - and we can pull this magical feat off for up to decades at a time, without so much as an outward twitch or crack...”
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The School of Life this is incredible! Thank you, what about a shared psychosis? I had a breakdown due to one.
This video is exactly what my mind/heart was looking for! Thank you for that
It's just amazing how this channel touches my heart and mind.
The School of Life Thankyou for this incredible video .
It gives me hope
Where can one go for more help?
"When we hit our lowest point we are open to the greatest change"
-Avatar Aang
Ahh yes
this made me feel less guilty of what could be a major melt down. It made me start a vlog, which now has 100 subscribers today.
@@aissetousillah3283 no its aang
🥺
Yeah, but when the world needed him most where was he??? He was off penguin sledding in the south, that's where. 😒🐧🐧
A breakdown leads to a breakthrough. Got to feel it to heal it.
Idk it was meant to be like this, but this really felt reassuring and gave me a spark of hope. Thanks.
We need more considerate people like you. I had one in May of 2018 and I’ve been since referring to it as a “breakthrough” myself instead of a breakdown because of what I’ve learned from having one and every time you have one you become mentally and emotionally stronger as a result don’t ever loose hope brother because you are never alone Godspeed my friend!!!
Drug the breakdowns and be good little shits that want nothing but school and then work and kids.
Glad it happened I know kno I'm normal the world isnt
@@kelleybright3113 by definition most of the world is normal and you're not. I'm not saying they're better, they're idiots, but they're normal.
Having a major breakdown was amazing for me. Didnt feel like it at the time but I came out of it as the best version of myself and now I actually enjoy being alive
You didn't go through "a major breakdown" believe me. You may have grown though ..for other reasons.
@@metsot don't be so vague. some random person on the internet doesn't need your lies and coddling.
I had one, very intense (scared the cats), short in duration and I could feel it physically break. It has been like that beautiful day after a hurricane. I am very patient with myself and at 69 I finally feel love for myself. I have known to stand up for myself for a long while. Now I must be doing it correctly bcs it’s finally working. Difference between fearful defense and healthy pro activity?
@@metsot I like how you think you know everything about everyone else’s lives. You never saw what they went through. Obviously you have some growing to do.
@@cunningfox831 I don't know obviously ..it's all based on my life experience. I'm 50 ..the growing is done. I'm dying.
I have the habit of being nocturnal because of online studying and needing to monitor my grandma at night. I felt a void when she passed, and had some days not even seeing/talking to family members. After a breakdown, I had thoughts of 'I don’t want to feel sh*tty anymore, I want to feel fine'. I no longer wanted to do as people wanted/expected, cared less about what other ppl said and made some family members unhappy because I seem 'selfish' and more outspoken. Either I care more about my own happiness or be a people pleaser :/
Its insane how often it boils down to that tho isn't it? I know I believe in a middle ground, and I do what I can to walk that line hard. But from observations, you're either a people pleaser or looking after yourself first
I think you can absolutely please people and make them happy. As long as it’s not at a detriment to yourself. You wouldn’t want other people to do that for you, so why do it for them?
Hmm...
Are the annoyed family members possibly those who inculcated the(our) people pleasing?!
NB: Sam Vaknin's youtube on people pleasing v infomative on these psychodynamics.
I received the notification after my mental breakdown?? Man my FBI agent is caring
Anastasia Christina this comment is underrated
I understand. Fortunately my low self-esteem tells my paranoia that I'm not important enough to merit persecution.
peculiarlittleman that hit close to home
Hahaha same here! Thanks fbi lady
Mental breakdown = character development
That explains why im so different then I was before
Same
Exactly
Wait until you have 20 more.
Main Character potential?
@@bluebeka2458 Yes...
My doctor told me "you need to be kind to yourself. Expecting perfection is only going to set you up to fail. However, the one who did this to you, is yourself. So you also need to take responsibility for hurting yourself this way".
I'm on a slow route to recovery, and even though I don't think everything needs to be a lesson, this really has made me open my eyes to how much is to much and what I am truly capable of.
"We have not become ill, we were ill, already"
powerful
I had a professor from Russia who said people in U.S. were too concerned with mental health - that depression and even breakdowns were valuable. He also said that our expectation that everyone be happy all the time, greet each other with a smile and "fine" or "great" in response to "how are you?" was fake and inhumane.
@Chesapeake Bay 😂😂😂
@Chesapeake Bay I... uh... what?
@Chesapeake Bay lol, someone's been reading too many conspiracies
@Chesapeake Bay but you name yourself after that dirty ass bay. I'm from maryland too. You're not excluded from the smog in d.c regardless of whether you drink well water or not you're still contaminated lol.
Laugh if you want but I would urge yall to look up the side effects. Flouride has now been recognized as a neurotoxin.
*Me crying at 3 am*
TH-cam: **THE IMPORTANCE OF BREAKDOWN**
Hey yo - are u ok?? I want to tell u that u will be & I'm here for u alright👌 I know you're scared, confused & lonely but u are worth it, never give up - pls let me know how you're going?
@@beejaydee6126 not so good it feels like the whole world is against me these past few weeks and i feel so happy finally someone asked me if im ok
@@annoyingdoggo6913 - I won't say i know what yr going through but i will say u won't feel this way forever..that's a promise. Yr welcome to tell me what's going on in yr life that has u feeling so miserable, I'm happy to hear it☺
I went through a stage only a few years back where it felt like I was crying all day every day, I just wanted to sleep bc it was the only time I'd get to escape the misery & loneliness but my anxiety had become so intense that my mind wouldn't even let me sleep which after months of bare minimum sleep fatigue became a factor...which made everything all the worse for it. Worst part of it all was it seemed not one single soul in this world gave a toss...
I can tell u more if yr interested in hearing it but the bottom line is I am now happy, i have unknowingly learnt things that i hadn't in my 42yrs of life & know things that I'm not even sure how or why i know them? Everything that happens in my life & around it comes with crystal clear clarity & I feel an inner strength that is completely empowering. If u had of seen or known me & where my life was at not so long back u wouldn't believe I'm the same person...to give u some perspective how dark life had gotten for me I had begun to consider suicide as an option & it never had even been a thought to me before. All i knew is i couldn't go on the way i was feeling all day everyday..
Pls believe u are not alone, I think yr worth it & I care how yr feeling😉
@@beejaydee6126 i coudnt thank u enough for opening up to me even if im just a stranger u still made me feel like im important
Annoying Doggo right 😂 I don’t know I had one
I'm in a middle of a breakdown and thinking if I should quit my job to take a time for myself. This video put me into perspective
So what was your choice? Job or quitting
Not advice to do it, but I had one and dropped out of a funded masters program a few months after I started. Thought I was ready, switched schools and disciplines and dropped out of that one a month after. Moved home, did random things like stain wood on a construction site and become a UPS helper over the holidays just to stay busy.
Currently I’m a year out from finishing a PhD (after another discipline switch) and am planning a wedding for next year. I cannot see my life turning out this well if I did not have that period of “breaking down.”
Again, not advice to quit your job or anything. But assurance that doing things that may seem “incorrect” at the time in order to take a step back and figure things out may be a good path, even if some people around you just fundamentally don’t understand.
Hope you are doing better now. Its a slow process and a lonely one but i hope for me i become a happier person eventually. 🦋🕊🙏
Thank you very much for your replies. I've quitted since february and I've felt better, relieved, I've also switch disciplines since college and I expect to go back to school next semester. I hope you all doing good.
But a fish in a toxic tank and it will get sick. You can take the fish out and put it in a new fresh tank for a while, it will get better. The moment you put it back in the first tank, it will go back to being sick.
This makes me feel less guilty about the times I’ve had break downs. I always thought there was something wrong with me, but I was really just not happy or struggling in the circumstances I was in.
Same
The subconscious mind is very patient.. until it is *Not.*
Mind to explain?
Humans are able to up hold A LOT of stress and pain, but it adds up.
Every Cup has a Limit and when there is no space left, the shit will Spill all over the place.
This screams to me
Very succinctly put
Spot on!
Sometimes you need a breakdown to realize what are the toxic and what are the good things in your life.
A breakdown is not a sunday park picnic.
Both of mine were caused by toxic people and me being a people pleaser. Thankfully my breakdowns moved me away from each of these people.
@@metsot i have it. It sucks!!!!!
Good mental health care allows you that safe space while you build up new support systems, so that the next time life gets you down, you have the right people in place to be with you through that time
to me, a breakdown is like a broken clock. clocks are very finely tuned instruments, and they have lots of little gears inside them. Because they have so many gears, sometimes some grease builds up between the cracks. normally, you don’t notice, the clock keeps ticking as usual, and life is good. but slowly, eventually, the grease builds up to a point where you start to notice. And then the clock stops working. The clock doesn’t stop because of some random, one off event, it’s a gradual build up that’s never been cleaned out. But nobody notices, because all they see is a broken clock
I suffered a breakdown earlier this year (at 33) and the way that my body responded was so scary. It literally stopped working. I ended up making some big decisions and my life took a complete 180. It took me a while to understand the purpose of the breakdown because of how guilt-ridden and ashamed I felt for having "failed" at life, but life is 100% better now. Listen to your body, reach out to your support system, and ask for professional help (social workers, counselors, your PCP) if needed. xo C
I never bought into the "Fail/succeed" bullsheet. Failed in comparison to whom? Bernie Madoff? "The Loser now will be later to win"- Bob Dylan
What do you mean your body stopped working? You got too depressed to move?
Congratulations:)
I just had my first breakdown in my life at the age of 32. It was tough and dark. But blessed, I learned to listen to my emotions better. I’m thankful for this new perspective on life. Let us remember that don’t forget to heal and love ourselves everyday. ❤ Know that you are not alone, wherever you are.
The problem is that not everyone can get past their breakdown phase...
Or are in control of what is causing it
Break out of the box society put us in, it's a break out not break down.
oldschoolman 144 THIS!
but crying helps man some times u just got to cry and then ull feel okay. crying is awesome man,
pray
"A crisis represents an appetite for growth that hasn't found another way of expressing itself". This caught my eyes.
ur ears* its ok tho, ur going thru a breakdown
@@kevinkim6664 thanks for pointing it out. Hahaha.
A crisis represents an appetite for growth that hasn't found another way of expressing itself.
Una crisis representa un apetito por el crecimiento que no ha encontrado otra forma de expresarse.
Beautiful, isn't it?
Same
After my breakdown I started living my life more and in an organized way , less toxic and I also eliminated many things to remain happy.
Just had a huge breakdown last March. 😢 I’m still healing. ❤️🩹
"People talk about caterpillars becoming butterflies as though they just go into a cocoon, slap on wings and are good to go.
Caterpillars have to dissolve into a disgusting pile of goo to become butterflies.
So, if you're a mess wrapped up in blankets right now - keep going."
- Jennifer Wright
Came across this yesterday, during a really bad episode of sudden, utter despair and hopelessness. Naturally I turned to the internet, partly to distract myself from myself, partly looking for answers.
I don't know about you, but that quote is the single most hopeful thing I've read in a long, long time.
Whatever works for you, embrace it . Don't let any lack of validity from others make you sad . You are of Worth , that's why You are Created by God
that's awesome, thank you.
i wanted to cry when i was reading this ❤ ty. its so true
thank you so, so much for sharing this
💖
Sometimes after a breakdown, most of the things which were hazy become clearer.
The Axis of Insight absolutely
I totally agree with you but it is annoying to hear that when you haven’t reached a stage where you can agree that it made you a better person after all.
Stephen Lee Gillis 🙂 I’ll take your word for it 😇
I just had mental breakdown and right after I felt better.
The Axis of Insight this is where I am right now. I was scared as fuck but am finding appreciation in the process of becoming whole again
“...That death might be preferable... “
Me: *nodding* *sipping coffee*
Hope you're still sipping coffee....or whiskey
Me: *nodding sipping bleach*
Me nodding drinking baileys
@@Tubeytime You still there?
@@decsterrobles8421 mkdf;ag m/uoiqo8ihr l;jnm
For everyone who needs to hear this, it’s *okay* to take medication if you need to get through your tough times. Sometimes our brains needs some help to deal with whatever it is you’re in. Never forget that everyone is different and different things work for different people!
Irrefutably evidence says, yeah ideally you've got all your lifestyle stuff in order, diet, exercise, therapy, interpersonal relations/support group wise, those all are great for mental health BUT when you're in the middle of the struggle, thats when its hardest to fix/initiate those things and meds are very useful in getting your baseline up to a point where we can take that multimodal approach.
eh
Very true. Not everyone is equipped to just "break down" and come out the other side improved, or even at all.
@@vystormI have bi polar disorder . I have to take meds or I go crazy
@@gordont1767 I just don't like SSRIs or similar, I'll agree more when medical microdosing replaces them, or at least comes along as an alternative, in more than just Canada
Break downs have followed up with the best decisions of my life.
Same
@yon can correct
I agree, I've learned best the hard way.
I like that and believe that
I hope I can say the same things in a year. Happy to hear your life became better!
That feeling of freshness after a breakdown - a certain kind of special relief, like when you go outside to breathe in the air after a storm, is incredible. Often, I think it's worth the pain.
Feels great! Hahaha I tend to have one once a year due to frustration but it feels so refreshing to let it all out 😂
I really appreciate that image right now. It's palpable in a way that helps me connect with my own breakdowns and reminds me to trust them a bit more. Anyway, thanks.
taigatayo
taigatayo if god is real he's such a sadistic pos.
slevinlindsay It’s been 9 years and I’m still waiting for this “freshness”.
This really gives so much hope.
For more than almost 5 months my life has stopped: everything I worked extremely hard to build has been destroyed, I lost my friends, my goals and ambitions are gone after I was so close to achieve them, l am so lonely and broke and lot more ... In a word I have got no more energy to keep living. I just wanna sleep forever and disappear .
I tried many times to get out of this and get back to what I have been before, but things are just getting worse.
The problem is that life does never wait for anyone to get better. Everyday, I lose more chances .
I feel really bad for the fact that when I see people everyday just going ahead, living their dreams, having the power and the energy I have had once and I lost, getting closer to my dreams and goals...I hate myself and I hate how I have got nothing left in me, except lot of shame, regret, sadness and the desire to die. It really seems unfair to me.
I am really sick of this, I just want to get well before it is extremely late.
It's gonna be okay. Hang in there
you gotta keep on going! Don't lose hope! I send you a hug
I'm going through something remarkably similar. Mind, body, goals, friendships, so much deteriorated over the past few years, so many loved ones literally and figuratively lost. I have learned from this though that it's not healthy to bottle it up and hide it away, that I need to take the time to grieve and then it's okay to be sad in the face of so many tragedies. You have to take the time to grieve it, learn how to let your mistakes go instead of holding on to and living in regret. You can always approach and apologize to old friends and try to heal old wounds as well, and you've got the time to recognize now where your energy belongs and who is bad for you and who is good. Hold on to the good ones, make compromises, apologize, and step out of the old rolls and into the new ones that fulfill your need for belonging and love. Best of luck to you, I'm still struggling everyday as well. I was lucky enough to find a free counseling and I've been sticking to it, and it came at no small expense but I began ketamine therapy in 5 days as well that I hope will break me through my depression feedback loops. My counselor may have openings as well, contact me with a DM or simply reply to my comment and I can refer you to them.
Please do not take my words into action but take them into consideration. Perhaps trying to regain what you once had, be who you once were or do what you once did is not what you need. From my experiance of depression and a burnout i learned to listen to what i really needed or wanted and celebrated what i had gained instead of thinking about how much i still had to do. Im now in a different place then where i was before with new friends and new hobby's, and with the ability to listen to what i need and what my body needs.
This might have be a ver incoherent (if thats the right word) but these were the words that came to my mind first. Again, please dont take my words into action but take them into consideration.
I wish you all the best in your path to recover and hope you will be better someday :)
You sound a little bit like me. As people get older, they will add more important things into their lives; family, job, colleague, friend, money, love, etc. I was also like that, until i had a breakdown and can't get myself to work on anything i promised myself to do. I just sit down, not going anywhere, not doing anything. I kept pondering until i reached a conclusion: chasing two horses isn't getting me anywhere, so rather than adding things/goals into my life, how about i throw away and reduce them instead? And so i threw all things that i want, all things i thought i want, all goals that is reachable yet i haven't done, all the time to "socialize" with other people, etc. And i came to discover that ONE thing i truly want and truly desire with all my being. That thing at the bottom of my "things to throw away" list. It gets my heart and body running like a horse on fire. And from then on i started to work, FOR JUST THAT ONE THING. I was (hyper)focused, not thinking about anything or anyone, but just that single thing, day and night. And guess what, i find myself out of that standstill, regained my vigor, my brain and body works in sync, and i learned to keep myself away from reaching to things i wouldn't grab.
I needed to see this. I'd recently startedbinge drinking because the stress from college and expectations on me and the seemingly endless stream of adult responsibilities have simply become too much. So much to learn and remember, so much I expect myself to be perfect at, so many people I don't want to let down. I've made a recent desision to cut out drinking until my 21 birthday and after which develop a healthier relationship with alchohol and my mind. I hope that by sharing my experience I can help others in this comment section feel less alone.
Your comment is really beautiful and encouraging. I hope I can help you a bit with all the pressure you are feeling. Please don't feel a need to be perfect or to please others by being the perfect person. What is perfection anyway? Each person views perfection differently and if we try to please others, we will forever fall short. I have found that doing my best each day is good enough, otherwise we can make ourselves sick with all the stress. If I know that I got up each day and did my best, then that is good enough and it doesn't matter what others think. Strive for inner peace and joy from within instead of seeking it from the outside. It is always the simple things in life that lead to a more joyful life. Not being tied down feeling like you never achieve anything, but feeling like each day is new for you to achieve your best with no pressure, just joy and gratitude for life. Take nature walks and see the beauty all around. It's not always the striving that gets us places, but the calm and quiet times that help us grow the most. Just a thought on alcohol. You may want to strive for not drinking at all because it always leads to more troubles and causes many health problems, and is a depressant. Drinking almost always leads down a road of misery with nothing at the end of it. Strive to be sober and get joy out of living a good and healthy life by being an example of health to others. Hope you have a beautiful and abundant life.
Literally me except that I procrastinate on my studies. I really wish I knew what to do at this point. I feel like I’m so behind in my studies that I’m considering dropping out, but I’m worried about letting everyone down. I CHOSE to go to the college I’m at, and now I’m wasting my opportunity because of my inner struggles. And even if I did drop out, I don’t know where to go next. I can’t choose another college to go to, I already tried two other colleges and ended up the same way. And doing another part-time job might ruin my super-unpredictable schedule with my current part-time job. I feel like it should be an easy answer, but it’s not as clear-cut as it should…
Sorry for ranting on like that. I think I needed to vent. Anyways, I’m glad that someone had the same issue as me.
Hmm, I also just started college and I FEEL like I will break at somepoint as well... I chose to go to a college without my friends (which was a 6th form so everyone i know went there) and now I'm stranded without friends, and I'm starting to question if everything I've done is even my choice. Like I've been doing maths, and computer science but I feel so damn bored every lesson and i can see any job related to them being the same experience... Idk anymore
Hmm, one question: how are you getting your hands on alcohol in the first place if you’re under 21? It’s illegal to even be in possession of it before that age! Do you realize how many crimes you’re unintentionally committing right now? Not trying to be rude; just genuinely wondering what you’re doing here.
@@mbcommandnerd I'm guessing they live in a different country which has a lower age limit for alcohol
I've been in a perpetual breakdown for several years due to existential depression, and I just keep wondering what's wrong with everyone else for pretending there isn't anything wrong with the world.
@@hansderhalbe9229 I was about to ask the same
That's nirmal
Because WORLD must go ON. We men HAVE to pile up our but-hurt feelings get everything working . Water , food , internet , electric it all comes for someones hard work and pain. When you just do some real work and not think too much about it gets better.
Luis Unbekannt take a bunch of lsd and then you’ll know
I went through 6 months of existential crisis late 2016. I learned about myself .. I learned about the world and was interested in every subject out there, math and art which I never thought I'd be interested in. In the end I really got into psychology also a subject I never thought I'd like. I'd read throughout the day, exercise daily and the whole day I had this sixth sense where I could feel the universe as being part of me. I took plenty of notes about everything I was learning about myself. It's been almost 3 years since then and my life is going well, though there's always room for improvement of course. I sometimes wish I could experience what I experienced then, because of how I handled it and used the whole thing for my own advantage. If you are going through it and are not sure how to deal with it, here is a hint that'll transform the way it'll affect you in a positive manner: TAKE NOTES. Lots of them. Right goals, habits, things that need improvement. USE YOUR MEMORY. Most of us are going through this because of things that happened during or since our childhood. So think as far back as you can and connect every dot since then and make it VIVID. I also use my memorable childhood memories to cope with depression. It never disappoints. I envy people who are going through existential crisis because you're seeing the world as it is. For people who are not, there's this filter in our minds which is constantly filtering out all the metadata that is attached to everything we experience. Well, it makes since because the world is in a faster pace for most of us, though I prefer being able to slow things down.
As a video editor and motion graphics artist, The School of Life never ceases to amaze me with their presentation quality.
+BanditRants your videos are unreal!
tantbreathMAN2001 I agree they look great!
Thanks so much! We are blessed to work with some very brilliant people.
The audio could be better though . Too much plosives.
I'm a scientist and I'm always envious of you creative types
I kinda doubt it was intentional, but I found something symbolic in the last clip. They took apart the TOXIC lego pieces, and reformed it into life. When all was said and done -- There were a few pieces left to discard.
Sometimes it's not what's missing. It's what has to go.
I broke, attempted suicide 😢 it was the worst and the best thing to ever happen to me as I’m now in recovery and finding myself 🙏🏻🙏🏻 learning every day 🙏🏻
A blessing in disguise! Hoping for the best for you.
School of Life - the only school I never get bored of.
Eli Contassot I know right?!! I'm hooked
Eli Contassot this comment is so accurate...
Eli Contassot and the only school who doesnt threaten you with jail for not being here and watching pretty cool school if I do say so myself
When you get over it, suddenly everything is clearer. You see the truths. You see everything. You accept everything. And everuthing is fresh like clean slate...
and like others sometimes i think the pain is worth it.
Queen yes I learned to slow down a lot
What does getting over it really means ?
I hope i get to this point someday
It surely is!
Queen i hope so..
I have breakdowns after breakdowns sometimes on the daily and sometimes just weekly. No matter how hard I’ve been trying to work on myself, no matter how much support I’ve got from my loved one and no matter how much I’ve been trying to get out of this state...I just can’t. It’s been going on for years now and I feel like I’m slowly losing myself as the days go by. I truly wish this is just a phase and not something that will stick to me on the daily or weekly because I can’t go on like this anymore
Have you tried neurofeedback treatment? They really helped me 💗
YT Dr Eric Berg - depression. Sounds like you're short on B vitamins and a few other things.
Ooh I love dr.Berg! He makes nutrition so easy to understand and follow!!!
stop trying to stop the breakdowns. stop trying to push them under the rug, and just have a moment to let it all out. cut your hair, punch a wall, cry into a pillow, do everything all at once and let your anger and sadness and rage out in a big mess, you can clean it up later.
Kelly Brogan has a book called " A mind of Your own" and a youtube channel that might help. Check her out
I had a breakdown last week, it was at a comic con and everything just hit me. But this is true, I am doing way way better right now than I have ever been
Comic con? You're a comic clown
@@SteveVi0lence and? I choose to be myself because that's who I want to be, I'm not gonna pretend to be someone I'm not anymore.
Instead of insulting random people online try to reflect on yourself, and perhaps you can be happy too my friend.
@@voornaamachternaam8559 what did he say? He deleted the message...
@@p0dushhka tried to just discredit my entire message and simply insult me, he failed miserably
You probably don't know how you saved a life today but I think i was going to vanish in thin air and nobody is going to notice...i feel nothing, want nothing....need nothing....i just wanted everything to stop and just cry shamelessly....the person I need at these times....a truly good friend was busy....I thought the time has come....the world is giving me signs to stop....but believe me as exaggerated it sounds....I came across this video
...and I learnt....i regained my calm....yes...a lil part of me was still tangled mess....but i got what I needed the most...even in such amount....I am thankful
I'm glad you're still here and hope you're feeling well today
Happy for you, Josaya. 👍🏽🙏🏾
even when it gets hard you gotta keep fighting, im so happy you're still alive
Josya Mitra same
We love you💓
I had a breakdown in my car tonight and saw this in my recommended 30 mins later. I’m not mad; thank you FBI agent
Catherine Duong stop copying for likes
@@danielishere734 As if, man. It was the first thing that came to my mind when I watched. It's a common joke. You good though? Monitoring some rando's comments on videos? Maybe this is just a projection and you're the one fishing for likes.
penelope pittstop Hey, thanks for the enlightenment, Penelope👍🏼
Phone hackers or nah? Enlighten me...Please... I dont get this joke...
Lashun A. Sure! So there was a conspiracy theory circulating that the government can actually view & keep track of our actions/activities through the little cameras on our phones, laptops, etc. (that’s why some folks put band-aids or opaque tape over their lenses). The joke is that every person is assigned their own personal FBI agent to monitor their every move. Part of the joke is to use this as the reason we often will find adverts on social media or internet browsing of things we looked up or talked about needing or wanting to get. The internet has personified these “personal FBI agents” as friendly who look out for us and recommend things that would help us out or give us indirect advice. Kind of like a guardian angel of sorts, if you will😂
I came to this conclusion many many years ago after an emotional breakdown. I have never took meds for any of the bouts of depression I’ve had. I believe depression is a pressure gauge it tells you when things are out of whack. It causes you to stop and take stock of your life. Depression is not a demon to be exercised but rather a messenger that should be listened to
Yes! And if you don’t, it’s probably going to show up in physical symptoms.
@@anxylum true
THIS. 👏👏👏 If only I knew what my depression is telling me. Kinda annoying that’s it’s not a clear and direct message. 😕
@@NaviNeku24 to start with it’s telling you to pay attention and look deeper into your own needs and desires and perceptions. That’s what it told me
I don’t think this can be said for everyone. For many people, depression comes as a result of a chemical imbalance in their brain, not from any kind of internal or external conflict. While there often is a very real reason for why someone is feeling unwell, there are also many instances where there isn’t one, and meds are important to help someone recover from their body making a mistake. It’s very important to identify when medication is necessary and take action.
I just want to tell you how grateful I am because I have come across this channel. You are a blessing to many people who are struggling in processing their thoughts & feelings... Please continue being a source of healing,love & light to millions of people! Thank you so much! Love from the Philippines 🇵🇭
Glad to have a fellow Filipino here in this channel!
True story: I had a breakdown at work and couldn’t stop crying. Took short-term leave to try to heal. One month later, I tried to return to work. Instead, my employer fired me.
I have been through something similar and am so sorry 💗
Rebecca Waychunas Thank you. I am sorry for what you went through too.
I'm so sorry. I'm sure youll find a job where they'll value your health more
at work that never works!
@@beckywaytoomuch I'm so sorry for what happened to you , this is what I fear , I'm growing up and soon to be expected to find a job , and as someone who has many breakdowns or needs time to heal , I'm not sure I'll make it...
"we haven’t become ill, we are ill already"- absolutely love these videos. At 17 I had a breakdown and it took me a LONG time wallowing in depression and seeking suicide as an option to finally realise that it was an opportunity to grow and learn. Love the explanation of our brain trying to tell us something but as our conscious minds are lazy it takes urgent action. Our brains are so clever in seeking health but often we ignore the signposts given by our body until its too late.
so well put.
How do you go about it? Words of advice would really help. Lately been digging my head into stuff around the house (since I quit my job, and am rediscovering myself). But I want to also achieve things and not just wallow in my feelings. I notice strong headaches for the past three days and unsure why.
Thanks for sharing your inspiring story.
I’m so glad you’re still here ❤️
@@GayleCreates Have you tried the Mood Gym website? There is also a book available from Amazon (also called Mood Gym) available in paperback or on Kindle. Amazon also have a huge selection of books about building self esteem and confidence. It sounds like you are already on the right path by prioritising self care. Good nutrition, regular sleep, fresh air and exercise are essential for our wellbeing. Reading fiction and listening to gentle meditative music (available on TH-cam) can also be helpful. A short course of anti depressants may be helpful in lifting your mood if you feel unable to cope initially. Everyone is different but art, music and nature are all wonderful healers. Write down 3 things you are grateful for each day and build from there. Best wishes 😊💕
@@GayleCreates I'm no professional, but trying to figure out what your mental health really needs by looking inside and discovering what your body really wants (even if contrary to social opinion, like hard work or a passion) is a good way to start.
To those reading this, please know that everything will be alright. Here.... Have a virtual hug 🤗
Thanks, love ya 💖
Ok **sends virtual hug back**
*Hugs and cries*
Hugs 💕
Im only 22, and recently, sadly I had a really bad breakdown. I kept the "mail" at the door for much longer than it should've ever been there. It got so bad that I would go briefly catatonic. Luckily I finally feel on the path to healing and this video is a beautiful thing to see, so thank you.
Hope you are in a better place now and on a good road to recovery it takes a while but its supposed too. I know im going through this now its a lonely painful journey. Big hug to you. 🦋🕊🙏💗
Currently watching this while having a breakdown
Currently having a breakdown while watching this
@@Spookspek y u do him like that?
@@alisalehi6991 Sounds like SpectralBacon is having a breakdown too...
Sylvie the whalien me too
same😞
I think the conscious mind ignores these pleas for attention from the emotional self not because it’s lazy, but because it has deemed other things in our environment (e.g. being a good employee, living up to societal standards and family expectations, etc.) more important than our mental and emotional needs that might be seen as “inconvenient” to tend to by the conscious mind and frankly, society as a whole. The conscious mind seems to register that this is an important thing to listen to, but other “needs” take priority, and that’s why when the emotional revolution happens, the conscious mind seems to have simply run out of energy to keep up the facade of being a “good” __________ (employee, husband, wife, daughter, etc.), in favor of surrendering and actually listening to ourselves and what we truly need.
I tend to think some of it is EGO driven, I can muster through, I am to strong to cry about this or that or worse yet I don't need help I can do it all myslef I also think that there is disconnect from our spiritual side. As we are spiritual beings having a human experience we sometimes forget to connect to ourselves on a deep level, to take a breath and experience the joy life has to offer vs running on the wheel or chasing our tail for material gains. Just my two cents.
TsiroGant I’m so glad! Thank you for reading!
Jess Yates I definitely agree that it feels like it’s ego driven for sure. I think that plays into the idea that we’re told from a young age how to be as ourselves and how to be in the world, and sometimes that means not crying or putting up some sort of emotional front, when our true selves feel really differently.
Edit to add: and I absolutely agree, we could all stand to enjoy our lives in the moment more and spend less mental energy pushing ourselves toward some ideal that may not actually be ours in the first place :)
Is been a long time now since money has become more important than anything else, I think this has damaged our species tremendously, we are truly amazing and have soooo much to offer the planet, we could make this our dream planet if we wanted to, but this society we live in has made us selfish and money hungry and left us on a really though spot. I believe that with the sweet arrival of the internet everything could change though, I don´t think we´re completely doomed by any means.
Christina Schreiner I agree . This video was amazing until it called the conscious mind lazy. If anything it's fear. We are taught what is important and it seems like everyone around us follows that , so will learn to distrust ourselves. With that means to supress our feelings . Avoiding pain and confusion and grief or whatever word you relate to must is not lazy . It's scary. Terrifying , when everyone around you thinks you should live by a certain norm yet your emotional needs are screaming out at you , it's no wonder we will be scared . We aren't taught how to cater for our emotions properly so of course we push it away because we don't understand it and that scares us
yes
4 years ago I had a breakdown. A really bad one. This video is the most accurate description of what it felt like, and what the subsequent recovery was like. Thanks for making this.
This JUST happened to me. Over the past 8 weeks, this very thing. The unhandled lifelong problems. The crisis that comes from nowhere. I was compelled to find the answers, to address the problems, to figure out who I really am and who I really want to be.
It's lasted 8 weeks, was near to suicide and it resolved like a fever breaking. Over a 2 day period, it went from completely overwhelmed to all the pieces coming together and a clear direction, plan, sense of how I want to live, who I want to be. A complete calmness has settled and the future feels bright.
The molting animation is right. It's transformative. It was a ride I couldn't get off despite wanting to so badly. In the end, the ride did come to stop. Thankfully I had a LOT of frequent professional help and it was resolved in about 4 weeks. It was definitely a process where a lot is worked through and skilled help significantly improved the situation.
Thank you. I will fix my life tomorrow. Please pray for me to get things done.
I hope you succeed :)
So, how did thing turn out?
Hey Brian how are things going now
Fix it now not tomorrow because then it will always be tomorrow
Praying!
“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.”
-Jiddu Krishnamurti
Breakdowns appear (to me) to be an almost unavoidable consequence of humans having evolved socially to the point that our own subconscious minds demand a better and more meaningful reality to that which we are being served.
Thank you for the vid. Superbly put together and uncannily prescient for many.
And now, due to its utterly toxic premise, the culture itself is breaking the world down and when enough supports have fallen it will go down too, probably fairly soon. The only thing that can save humanity is to dissolve the artificial boundary imposed between it and nature. That can only occur through conscious awakening. I don't know if it can happen en masse.
Jiddu Krishnamurti's aphorism is relevant on all levels that I can think of.
Socity still haven't figured out the true nature of reality, and deep down, they know that life has more to it then they believe
You can't be truly happy when you're so deeply deceived about the greatest metaphysic truths
Jonathan Wholohan very well said!
God how I needed to hear this. Been feeling a lot if anxiety and guilt around the fact that I'm on sickleave, this helped.
Me too.
Hope you're able to take as much time as you need. It's hard to not feel guilty but just trust yourself and know that you're worth it.
Every time me too even though I know I need it 😭
After going through two severe breakdowns, I knew I wouldn't survive a third. Acknowledging is a huge step to take. Going through the changes isn't easy, but there is a sort of release at the end. I sympathize with those dealing with such emotions.
I can't believe how accurately timed this video is. Thanks a lot!
A video about having a mental breakdown is always well timed
Indeed same here
Water Molecule I am down by tinnitus and face palsy, I agree every word in this video
YES!!! OMG IT IS !!! A couple of days ago, i started to pick up the pieces of my broken life ....
Oliver OAP haha u got tinnutus too?
"Tired of being what you want me to be,
Feeling so faithless, lost under the surface"
Dont know what you're expecting of me.
Put under the pressure of walking in your shoes
Every step that I take is another mistake to youuuuu
Caught in the undertow, just caught in the undertow.
I become so numb. I can't feel you there
Become so tired, so much more aware
There were so many parts of this I needed to hear. The importance of falling before you're able to get up; the reassurance that a breakdown can last a long time and that one is not necessarily going insane; the beauty of the complete collapse of mind and its rebuilding in better, more loving terms. In a way it made me feel grateful for the pain I've endured and how I would still be suffering if I didn't have these extremely painful periods of just looking, and coming to terms with. A big thank you to this channel for its beautiful content that has seen me through some of the not so good parts of my life so far.
I just had a breakdown yesterday for the first time in a long time. I was depressed and severely anxious for 2 years which lead to sleepwalking and starving myself because food made me nauseous. It took a ton of work and time to get better and I make a daily conscious effort to manage my stress so I don't fall back into the rabbit hole, which is why my breakdown was especially upsetting. But I've come to the realization that it was my job stressing me out that led to this. Although I love being a painter, my paycheck was due over a week ago and I still haven't received my payment. It's made me realize that I don't only need to be happy in my career, but also stable. I need to be able to rely on my pay coming in on time so that I can pay for gas, insurance, groceries and bills. Having fun isn't always going to be enough, and working a job that I cannot depend on isn't any fun at all. It was a hard pill to swallow, as I was really looking forward to completing my apprenticeship and I had what seemed like a solid 3 year plan. I needed that mental breakdown to realize that my struggles are the exact reason why painters are so high in demand and why no one wants to work as a painter, even though on paper it's a solid, stress-free and easy-going job.
I’m convinced I had a breakdown that lead to the greatest awakening, self healing, growth and self development of my life. You embrace the breakdown (I know that’s very difficult) ask what it wants to teach you.
like Jordan Peterson says-ask yourself what you should be doing, that you could be doing, that you would do. You'll get an answer so fast it will make you hair curl. You know. You know what things you should be doing. But it isn't just saying the question. You have to really be asking. somehing like that!
thank you so much for sharing
Definitely! Same here.
I call that bs. If i don't get some sorth of supernatural power and an interensing life (except the deaths) like in a anime, i still think it was all for nothing. I feel like i had become dummer and dummer by the breakdown to breackdown since i make the same mistakes as before. So if isin't the first case, miss me with that crap. I'm tired of this freaking life that gives me nothing more than stress. I want something with value in return.
And before you say, that i'm selfish. Is because i'm tired to be selfless anymore.
@@bluebeka2458 I recommend you reading: “Be Calm” by Jill P. Weber - online free available. Mind changing 😉
I now want to have a breakdown. I’m going to start by quitting my job which I’ve hated for 17 years. Wish me luck humans!
How did it go?
@@shaun7517 ☹
Is it too late to wish him luck? Hello, qwargy. You there?
Poor quarry. I mean- poor qwerty. Oh, nevermind.
🤗🤗🤗
I am going through a rough phase of panic attacks, and really didn't understand what was happening, until I realized that I had/have way too many things on hold in my life, very important things that I just swept under the rug. I decided to take action and now the panic attacks are so light and scarce, and after watching this video I realized that I did the right thing, TAKE ACTION, rather than take meds as some friends and family suggested. Lesson learned, our body is way more intelligent than we are, and will always let us know that enough is enough, listen to it, embrace the sadness and despair, and use them as fuel for your changes, it has worked wonders with me, I am sure it will with anyone else as well.
After I had my breakdown in college, I...
1. cut off all ties with my crappy and only friends (two kept trying to ask me out despite me saying no, and the other was a philosophical weirdo who tried to convince me to stop school)
2. left computer science (because I subconsciously hated it, but didn't listen to myself) and went into nursing and Spanish (I always wanted to learn a language, but thought I couldn't do it in college)
3. applied for a study abroad in China (people told me it was an insane decision, but thank god I didn't listen to them)
4. stopped going to those cult-like bible study groups and extracurricular religion things (religion can really mess you up)
Now I'm headed to nursing school and have plans to one day teach English in Spain. I can't imagine how terrible my life would have been if I hadn't had a nervous breakdown in college. My best advice is to every once in a while think to yourself and think "what do I want?" Be selfish, don't put other people's needs above your own wellbeing. Also, don't wait. Do things that you want to do now before you're stuck in life (i.e. married, bought a home, etc.).
Hey!
Good luck to you!
Also, I want to enquire more about teaching english in Spain, is it possible to connect ?
Thanks !
I made the mistake to graduate and work in computer science field. I dont hate it but it never brought me joy tbh. Srsly dont know what to do. College again is not an option amymore
A nervous breakdown is a mandatory call for one to go back and mend their foundations.
Mercy Mburu I had one the other day
spellthemagicword Honestly I'm not sure, it forced me to reflect and I realized that I'm just going through life one day at a time. I don't know if that makes sense because we all are but I feel different it's pretty hard to explain.
mervin814 you should rest Mervin, just chill.
I fucking love this , thank you so much
Mercy Mburu and it is really good to look at what is before us-like it or not-and get away from those who intentionally try to make you crazy. This is a good thing.
A lot of people out here are struggling so I wanted to say this; I don’t know if it will reach anyone but I hope it will. Even if your will to live might be small and fleeting, the fact you’re watching this video means you’ve not completely given up hope. That will can grow, if you nurture it and take the time needed to understand what has kept it small. If there’s a will, there’s a way. You have the power take control of your life again. Just like the video says, you just might have to listen to what is blocking you from having that power.
Stay strong, you amazing individual ^^
Bad moods can be thought of as storm clouds that will pass.
thank you so much
Idk you but i love you thx
My goals are beyond this world. So i'm not expecting much. Honestly idk what i'm expecting anymore...
Thank you. You don’t know how much your words helped
I was trying to avoid a emotional and mental break down for so long I had forgotten why. Then when I finally let myself break down and build back up I felt more relieved than I had in so long.
I just wish I had done it sooner
This is exactly what I needed today.
I know I'm 6 years too late but this perfectly explains my burnout.
This got me a bit emotional... I've felt like that a long time till I really took the time to look at the probem and pay proper attention to understand what was goin on.
Luny & Milky yeah it was hard to click on it knowing that well... It was going to bring some stuff up.
But the deft advice is appreciated all the same.
This is a great channel.
yep, it sure has a great deal of intense messages!
Omg.. I thought the same.. I wish this was an event in my life rather than a phase. But I am glad that after a decade I have made the decision to get out of it. All the best to you! Lots of blessings and best wishes :) you are about to start a beautiful life!
Luny & Milky true
Thank you; best to you too x')
I'm a year out from a nervous breakdown after being miserable for a decade in tech.
I'm starting graduate school for social work in September.
John Choi what was wrong with tech????
@@dbsk06 It wasn't for me and I knew it -- it didn't interest me, it didn't line up with my values, it burned me out -- but I stayed for the paycheck and fear of trying something new.
The breakdown made me realize that I can't live the next 30 years of my professional life in the same way that I lived my first 10.
Congrats and good luck! I wish you all the best for your SW degree. I'm sure you will make some people's lives better.
Just don't drink the Socialist Injustice Koolaid and start hating.
@@TheJeremyKentBGross For sure, man. I'm all for personal accountability and self agency.
This was a timely recommendation. I just quit my high paying career after years of anguish. I'm not quite sure what I'm doing next, but I don't think I'll regret the decision.
I had my breakdown this year in April, now 6 months later I feel so much better, stronger, clear headed and honestly "". This channel helped me a lot when I was navigating many emotions that I didn't understand. Thank you for all the people who work on these incredible videos, you are making a difference in people's lives.
Damn my phone must’ve been listening to me having a breakdown
Same I was just chatting with a friend who reached out after seeing a facebook status I wrote.I am bi polar self medicated this year has been awful and I'm not feeling like I can handle a breakdown every month I hit the wall yesterday she shared shes been feeling same.My son took his life 13 years ago at 25 years old i never recovered or had any positive change on that breakdown.Iim thinking more and more like i want to join him but I would fuck it up like everything else Hang in there I'm going to give it a while longer I have had depression all my life but not like this.
@@twistedthrifterb6220 I’m sending your positivity, prayers, love and strength. May you heal 🙌🏾❤️
Very relatable. Suffered personal and work stress for many years until I started getting panic attacks 3 years ago. Quit my job cut off all relationships and been focusing on myself and my health since. Learned so much and getting ready to do life again - properly - the way I want it.
G Same here. Glad to know others can relate. I'm slowly but surely getting to a better place. Live YOUR best life.
all the best. kind of in that 'me' cocoon too.
G How have you done that?It feels daunting to change all the things one wants to change even if they know it will make them happier?
Darima2: Everyone's situation is different of course, I was relatively lucky because my problems (stemming from adoption and immigration) actually forced me to think and fend for myself so from a young age I started learning about suffering (via Buddhism), mental and physical health and success. I had also gained years of skills and experience in tech so was able to take time off - personal and financial independence was KEY for me. I needed my own space to just be with myself, listen to my mind and body and act honestly according to them rather than faking it for my job or social circles. However I would not recommend prolonged isolation - if you have supportive family/friends around you, ask them for help. Trying to think your way out of your own mind can become a vicious trap in itself.
G I completely understand this and went through this too and now looking back it all makes sense why panic attacks started to happen. That’s why I’ve come to understand that panic attacks are the body’s way of really alerting us and getting our attention because we haven’t been paying attention for so long. Once I started to embark on the difficult journey of self discovery, the panic attacks slowly started leaving me. It is crazy how it works, but it all makes sense
Joseph Campbell wrote about “going into the abyss” - in my experience it was catastrophic, a collapse into the abyss. As this excellent video says, it happens at a most inconvenient time. I realised too that people usually cannot help - they stare blankly at the unfolding mess. Worse, they may meddle in this natural process by forcing medication on you. As Carl Jung advised, it is best to withdraw, be a recluse for as long as necessary, and eventually we will discover a Life giving treasure. There is help and support available, sometimes in the form of furry therapists like a dog or cat. Being close to nature helps too.
My breakdown was the worst then best thing to ever happen to me. I literally rebuilt my life, slowly, one brick at a time. I’m still building four years on but knowing that true darkness and pain, new challenges no longer scare me as much. It was horrible at the time but I’m glad I leaned in, accepted I was not well and started to accept working from scratch again. I leaned on friends and family and took meds when I needed them. I’m now in a new (not toxic) job, studying for my masters, lost weight, learning to drive, have hobbies, and a career goal. Best of all I talked about it all and opened doors for others who felt like they couldn’t. Life is not a linear line of progress go easy on yourself and listen to your needs x
having battled depression, alcoholism and botched attempts at suicide for years I was given the advice to just 'give up' and embrace the pain. So when I was facing financial and personal ruin that's exactly what I did. I stopped trying to cope and collapsed into a heap of tears and crying in a public place. Then I got the peace and clarity of mind that enabled me to pick up the pieces and put my life back together. Doing really well now and in control of my life. The mental health professionals that were supposed to be helping me ran away in fright. I thought that was very interesting :)
If my professionals hadn't stuck with me I would have killed myself. I've stopped trying to cope many times and it did nothing but get me into an even worse mess.
Humans are complex, minds are complex. Much more so than this video lets on.
Had my third infront of over 50 students.
to rise first you have to hit the bottom...
It's like looking at a broken mirror and trying to fix it, while your fixing the shards you realize some make you bleed some hurt more than others. I am still trying to pick up the pieces. From my experience of botched attempts to kill the pain.... I felt stupid that it didn't work, I could even do that right. Got made fun of by people for using it for attention. I'm going to sound old a.f right now but I think social media really plays a big part in breakdowns depression and suicide.... I wish I was still young and pick up the land line and hear the God awful sound of the modem. I can't keep up with this world. I shut EVERYONE out.... I don't know how to open the door in my head to let the pain out.
Debbie Hatton third what?
1:22 "The tears have stopped and it's safe to go outside"
Damn I felt that
I recall when I had a meltdown I was walking along a not too bust street and just started crying....it prompted me to see a counsellor and help in the form of just someone who'd listen to me
mood, indeed
Yes! In my practice I called this a “fall apart” all of the pieces that you’ve been trying to put together at some point were going to come tumbling down and that’s OK because that’s how we know that some of those pieces weren’t meant to be put together. And a good therapist will listen to you so that you both can determine what those pieces are and which get to stay and which to pitch or change. A good therapist needs to be a very good listener. Thanks so much for this video it is exactly right. So beautifully illustrated.
What a beautiful way to reframe a mental breakdown and the reasoning behind it. Due to recent spike in mental health illnesses it is becoming less taboo to begin to discuss our mental health and how we are to begin to repair it. Well done and thank you. 🙏🏽
When you have a breakdown, you essentially identify what area/s of your life (relationships/work/habits/etc.) you need to break out of to heal...you get a breakthrough when you're finally able to take steps to take control of your emotional and mental wellbeing.
This be the literal school of life. What our current education system never taught us
Solutionist ' exactly. Fucking schools.
The word "Education" is plain sarcasm in that monumental misnomer
I've been having mental breakdowns for a month now. my guardian angel really is concerned of me
💜
How are you doing ? Lol I’ve been having a very hard time :(
This is so true, I had a major breakdown a month ago just pure emotion, frustration, sadness pouring out of me and I knew right then that I’d had enough, I have to change and I have to do something about it all
I feel like I have a breakdown every couple of months. I try to pay attention to my emotional health and deal with internal issues as I become aware of them, but I still have a breakdown when life gets too overwhelming or stressful. The stress just makes me hyperaware of all the shitty aspects of my life. At this point I’ve just accepted it as a normal cycle for me.
My nervous breakdown makes me sick because I cry a lot during the breakdown.
They're likely too small and too weak to prompt the change needed to fix the major issue. You'll either get a really big one at some point or live the rest of life out in your current broken state.
That, or you harshly overreact. Which would be a preferable reality haha.
Same
Remember that, every time you've hit a terrible period, you've managed to recover (at least to a limited extent). I, too, go through these cycles regularly but have drawn some strength by recognizing that I am able to come out the other side, not perfectly happy but able to press on for at least a while longer.
William Evans your comment has really helped me see one more day through. Thank you, all the best to you 🙏🏻
i had a nervous breakdown in 2012 ...worst thing ever i was trembling 24 seven, sweating all the time but felt like ice no matter how many clothes i put on , i develpoed a stutter, could not stop crying and eventually after some very out of charactor beahviour i attempted suicide.
thank god for the medical teams intervention
its over its done , im living and to everyone who reads this , u wil get through it .get help
Now that sounds a little more like a real "a breakdown".
I’m glad I found this. Its satisfying to understand that there’s something positive that can come out of a breakdown.... when you get through it. And you must get through it.
I've always known myself as a person that manages stress well. But lately college has been saying otherwise. It's my first time getting overwhelmed and it literally sucks. I shaved my hair in order to have a daily reminder for months that I need to do better. It sucks that I had to experience burnout and mental fatigue due to academics but I need to be thankful for that challenge since I'm in the process of converting that breakdown into a breakthrough!
"I don't know how I'd ever have gotten WELL if I hadn't fallen ILL"
PROFOUND!
Lilium Louise 😻
"It's times like these you learn to live again
It's times like these you give and give again
It's times like these you learn to love again
It's times like these time and time again"
🥰🙏🏾
🎶Dj got us in love agaiiinnn🎶 (Love again)
Foo fighters
I love this video. A month or so ago I had a breakdown after feeling like I was really getting things together and growing. Turns out I was avoiding somethings just to make myself feel better. I remember hearing Alain's voice at that time saying "A breakdown is the first step a break through." It really helped me to accept everything and actually work through them rather than avoid them. This channel has really changed my life. I wished everyone watched these videos. I always feared therapy because a bad therapist can literally be the difference between life and death. Alain is so amazing at this. I have been healing and growing through every video. My only regret is not discovering this channel sooner. Shout out to everyone at School of Life! You guys are doing work that is so desperately important in today's society. I love you guys ❤❤❤
Just had a convo with someone abt how I feel right on the edge of a legitimate and total breakdown- maybe if I go batshit professionals will finally agree I'm autistic and we can start getting somewhere
Shoutout to all yall undiagnosed adhd/autistic folks who can't change things bc your health is in the hands of people who don't believe you're sick. It's the fastest and most complete drainer of hope I've ever felt.
Keep going my loves. You don't have to stay strong, just stay alive
I dont understand people not interested in personal growth.... They live the full life unchanged... I just dont understand.
And why are so many of them...
Depression makes you do only the bare minimum. Depression is everywhere.
ignorance can be bliss, but also many are just unaware what you even are suggesting. They'd say "I go to the gym. I read nonfiction books. I watch the news. I go on vacations to exotic places. What else is personal growth?"
informitas 0 That doesn’t mean to do nothing to improve, or use cognitive reappraisal etc etc.
Most people don’t even attempt to do anything and just brag or place in comments on TH-cam like a disorder is quirky.
They are ignorant or just the plato prisoners
Depression is a serious thing, there was even something that said depression is the 3d popular mental illness in the world, and why can't people who feel as if nothing's worth it any more it can be for more then one reason why there not doing personal growth, to even do personal growth you have to be aware of your situation and want to do better for yourself and a lot of the time people feel, ashamed to tell anyone, think it's there fault, scared, and sometimes the people around them don't understand, or refuse to, in a lot of cases they feel like there's nothing more for them here.
Exactly my case. Had to go through a breakdown to live more authentically. Enough of that persona didacted by society. No more bullshit to endure. My choices now not anybody's else's
"Enough of that persona didacted by society."
Then what happens if you don't have a choice? Like you work from 9 to 5, everyday on a job you don't like, but because the governments around the world made sure this so-called "capitalist" system is depended on governments to function by creating a central currency, working-class regulations, increasing taxes, all that makes it nearly unbearable to live with a minimum wage because everything is hella expensive thanks to all that intervention... You are limited. Your creativity is fucked because you have too much shit going on. I always wanted to be a musician, a producer, live off my art, but this bullshit system enslaves us to the point of getting anxious if we don't get a job asap; overvaluing a fucking major diploma that for a large number of people goes to the locker. This world man, I don't know.
@@thedarkestlotus Get a job, work it, plan and have fun.
AIWATE me too
Ever since my breakdown I've been experiencing a total lack of interest in purchasing things or keeping up the trends on Instagram. It makes me wonder, am I broken? I catch myself second guessing the little actions I take when I venture outside. It's terrifying and reassuring at the same time. The breakdown is over, but how long more until I feel back to normal? What can I do to make myself feel not so out of place anymore?
miele hina it just takes time but you’ll get there I’m 2 years into one and I’m almost back to normal sometimes it takes longer for some people but you have to do what works best for your growth maybe church and prayer? That’s what helps me most are you religious at all?
I always search for this clip everytime I feel that I may fall to a breakdown. It's very helpful to me since this allows me to understand the significance of this stage. Thank you very much. 💗
Oh wow.... All of this. These words are encouraging. My break down began about 8 years plus ago along with my awakening. Throughout, no matter how far down I sunk into the darkness and away from the life I'd been living, something within was encouraging me. And I knew it didn't matter how hard and dark the road got. I was on the right path. The utterly messy and often scary road to our true selves. ❤❤❤
It took me 30 some years to keep juggling, while riding a unicycle, being a daughter, then student, teacher, wife, Mom of 6 adult children and 9 grandchildren, and in between all of that go through sexual abuse as a teenager, my Mom’s death, a car accident, and finally ending up with Lupus, to break down with PTSD, Anxiety, and Mild Depression. My body felt exhausted at age 51. Thank you for this video. It was Wonderful. If I could use my life and this video to help others to slow down I will.
Myrna Figueroa isn’t that how life is? Everything you listed seems very average. Death, life, survival, etc? Isn’t that what we’re all bound to go through?
I think you are very strong 💪
Wowww...you sound like a very strong person to go through that much adversity and still raise children and grandchildren! They must really look up to you. Yesss...self care time is so important. Time to sit down with yourself and do what makes you happy and brings you joy. Thank you for posting your testimony :)
Sounds like my mom
I hope you're doing better 💕
I bless the breakdown I had a few years back. Now I am stronger, smarter, faster and above all more 'free' then I could ever imagine.
Be brave face your demons, you only become happier afterwards
thank you so much for sharing
False adertising. Breakdowns are that time when i question my actions and my importance as a human being. I had so many yet i failed to get to the conclusion to the question wtf am i here for. Meybe things are good now, but in the future who knows? We tend to fill our life with delusions of importance, but in the universe scale we are just dust on a tiny particle that floats in the vacum of space. Where i was going with this? Idk what my point is. Oh yeah, i'm useless. Idk about you guys but for me seems true.
@@bluebeka2458 Well you can also draw different conclusions from the fact that we're nothing on a cosmic scale. None of it really means anything according to that logic, but then why would you spend your time feeling sad about that fact? And why would you care about other people's opinion if none of it actually matters? I thought of life as a dream: it doesn't really "matter" but you still ejoy/try to enjoy it regardless because it can be fun.
Absolutely spot on and exactly what I needed to hear and be reminded of. I’ve broken down but I’m not broken… there is so much growth from these profoundly transformative “crises” and we are becoming our strongest and best selves by being at our weakest
This is exactly it! I definitely agree with this video.
A few months ago the breakdown that had lasted for about a year has finally ended, I didn’t even realize it was a breakdown
Please listen to this video, the future is bright, I would have never gotten to where I am now without my breakdown
Who’s having a breakdown in 2019 🤚
I had mine in 2014. Enjoy the ride ! And do the work !
Exotic_ Dummy 2014,2015.......right through to today June 7, 2019 this is a big one
momsazombie1 what needs to breakdown in your life ? What do you dream of at night ? These things will help you know where to go next. Mostly it is a journey inside yourself. Sometimes there is a purifying effect from the terror and pain. It’s getting your attention. What do you need to let go of or forgive ? Are you in places that are not right for you ? Or are you around people who hurt you or take advantage of your kindness ? Take it into a place of understanding and meaning. Don’t disconnect through meditations, but do do things that calm your nervous system like take walks in nature and baths and massages or watch comfy movies. But ask yourself - Who is this familiar visitor that comes in rags, croaking? He smells bad and is telling you bad news but you have ignored him long enough. That’s doing the work. It can’t be business as usual anymore. Seriously, get good sleep and record you’re dreams. Don’t take sleeping pills.
2016 and 2017
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The benefits I might have gained from my breakdown were hindered by the shame and fear I felt as others judged me for being a failure and weak.
The healing started when I mixed with people who accepted and tried to understand. This relieved me from my internal shame so I could start accepting myself and using the breakdown as a (re) starting point for future growth and fulfllment.
So very thankful for this series and for the accent that it is read in. Oddly soothing to hear and adds comfort the words are already bringing me.