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I can't do things without thinking what would be the worst case that could happen and because of that I don't have the chance to do many things Is it because I have Autsim?
Most oftentimes I'm anxious of the crowds & wut they offer & there's the pacing issues wut the going rates & details others miss why are they so oblivious for me & wut ways are there for comparison competition must i rank & wut does gittin an emoji means also a ton of silly things i come across throughout these journeys
And then your brain is not sure what to say so you say present and beat your self up for it and then you make failing grades on that really big test because you swear that one annoying kid flipped you off yet you know it way just then looking at their paper cut, or was it? Then your ocd kicks in and you freak out because his journal is on the right not left so you say something about it and then you stutter and your entire day is ruined and 3 months later I'm still mad at myself
This is kinda unrelated but do y'all ever have those nights where you can't sleep bc you're thinking too much about sleeping? You literally lay there and wait for the moment when you fall asleep but that's exactly what's keeping you up? Just me? Ok.
The worst part about high functioning anxiety is no one seems to be aware of it but yourself... you appear “normal” on the outside but you’re suffocating and suffering in the inside, it’s honestly the worst feeling.
Sometimes I Just wish I could forget things... Conversations, feelings, things I've done. I really wish I could forget, so i wouldn't worry as much. Anyone else?
Yes, all the time! I had an awkward conversation one time about brushing my teeth, well it was awkward to me. Now every time I brush my teeth I can't help to moan in agony of how anxious I am to have to remember that stupid conversation. Mind you, this conversation happened 15 years ago! It's a horrible way to start my morning!
1. You turn down things you want to go to. 2. You dislike having to meet new people. 3. You're uncomfortable with slow responses. 4. You get very little sleep. 5. You fixate on the tiniest details. 6. You get hung up on old conversations. 7. You're unforgiving. 8. You constantly compare yourself to others. 9. You're a constant people-pleaser. 10. You need to keep yourself busy all the time. 11. You get very anxious about the future. 12. You always focus on the worst case scenario. You're welcome :)
I fit into 9 of these categories. My anxiety is through the roof most when I go to work. I am so scared of messing up or saying the wrong thing or not picking up my job as fast as I should. I am scared of approaching people at work. My anxiety is most prevalent at work, why is that?
I am almost 70 yrs old and just watched this. My own experiences with anxiety, my inabilities to cope with people has now made me avoid all social contact. As difficult as it is I do everything alone and by myself. I realize there are multiple issues, mental health issues involved but I must say, if you are still young, please reach out to a trusted professional for some help. Working with someone, finding the right person may take a bit of time, like finding the right fit, but there is someone who can help...don't wait until you are almost 70...good luck.
1: You turn down things you actually want to go to 2: You dislike having to meet new people 3: You're uncomfortable with slow responses 4: You get very little sleep 5: You fixate on the tiniest details 6: You get hung up on old conversations 7: You're unforgiving to yourself 8: You constantly compare yourself to others 9: You're a constant people pleaser 10: You need to keep yourself busy all the time 11: You get very anxious whenever you think about the future 12: You always focus on the worst case scenario
@@reinaleyva2069 I don't know if there is any thing that can be done for the problem, as a cure not a pill for a crutch. Idk diagnosis is just putting a label in ink documenting the relating issues. Personally a pill works its just a crutch.
No one told me about my calmness because most people I talk to already know I have anxiety, and I'm not a very calm person. So, my closest friends and family memebers know I must be anxious when I am quiet because I'm not usually the quieter, less-excited type
I think that's the best way to ask someone who is critical of themselves, because a lot of the time we are nice to others but disgustingly rude to ourselves. It's a good way to get us to not lie to ourselves, initially think it's about someone else but it's actually about us.
Me: Why am I so much more relaxed in quarantine? Therapist: Because now you can avoid the hard work of learning how to set boundaries and put your own needs before others because the social distancing did that for you. Me: Oh.
Luis Medina Same...I feel I’m selfish about it though..especially since I want it to last long enough so things like band camp and school can be help off. They stress me out...
HAHAHA! Yes, but aren’t we superior because we’re actually HAPPY to stay home, away from people, getting those lists made & COMPLETED? I’m so satisfied I never want to leave the house! 😂
I've recently discovered through therapy that I have had high functioning anxiety my whole life without even realizing. I always thought worrying about every single future event or pondering upon every detail of every human interaction I've had all the time was just how everyone was. Thank you for making this video and increasing awareness!
Me too! I thought everyone around me worried about everything the way I did. I couldn't wrap my head around the people who spoke their minds or jumped up first to do things.
100%! I was just talking with my husband about this last night. I don't remember a time when I wasn't anxious. My lightbulb moment was telling my therapist about how when I was younger and my dad being older when he had me (45). When his contemporaries starting to pass away I started waking up the the morning to make sure he woke up and ok and then going back to sleep until I had to get up for school. I just assumed that this was something that all kids with older parents did. According to the therapist, HFA... yay... Unfortunately because I am HFA, I have now created two other young people with HFA and am trying to help them past it. It's going to be quite the long road.
I've known I've had high-functioning anxiety my whole life since I was 9. Mainly because my mom has it so she was able to tell me what I have before too long
@@angelal1923 omg! Ever since I can remember, I have always checked on my mom while she was sleeping to make sure she's still breathing. So not everyone does what we do?! This video and your comment is kind of my lightbulb moment right now. Has therapy helped you overcome it?
@@JazzyB9481 Its a work in progress. I started therapy to help me get past my extreme anxiety about getting a surgery I have been waiting for for years. Then continued to go because of the light bulb moment about having HFA. I make 2 steps forward and then I do something like sell my house and have to move the same month I start a new job and everything goes back 5 steps. The key is to do the work. CBT(cognitive behavioral therapy) helps, it gives you logical steps to think past the anxiety. After 45 years though its hard to change overnight. I do highly recommend a good therapist that knows how to help with HFA.
Most Of The Times People Ignore Anxiety and consider it to be A small thing , But Anxiety Leads You to Stress Rapidly which then transforms into Depression 😢 Hence we should Take care of our Very early symptoms of anxiety
exactly what happened to me, dude! currently going through therapy to figure out how to navigate my brain with ADD, anxiety and depression. i literally just put together that i've been suffering from high functioning anxiety my entire life and it has majorly impacted both my mental and physical health, not to mention college career. i feel like this video just gutted me alive
Depression is tough because it is caused by so many different things but mostly happens when you have an try blocking out one of your emotions too much
Living like this for years, if your mental cant handle it you get depressed... My mental got sharpened this way and dont act like you know whats gonne happen, every person is different sow the outcome is to
ASMR Izzy it feels like your fears and anxiety is just crushing you and you can’t escape. You feel like you have to make everyone happy so they don’t leave to the point that your not your self anymore.
Lol everyone IS like this, but I guess it's to a varying degree. If you're on the higher end of the spectrum then it's a problem. I'm everything up until number 9, and then I think I just shut down entirely to not feel the rest.
I relate to all these more than I though I did. It’s even sadder considering my sister is the one that asks strangers for directions while I need to wait for 20 minutes just must up enough courage to ask my teacher to go to the washroom :/
@@sharonapple6686 just think of it like this: you're letting them know you're going, but not really asking them. If they say no then just run out the door.
As someone who's friends with someone like this, I just want to say something important. When we were kids I'd take her last minute canceling personally and it put strain on our friendship. But in our 20s she told me she had anxiety and I was okay with it. She still cancels last minute sometimes, but she always reaches out a few days later to say her anxiety got bad. And I'm okay with it. If you honestly tell someone that your anxiety got to you, more than not, even if its days later or a week, a true friend will be understanding. So if you feel like it's too late to say something, it's never too late and the right people for you will understand without trying to change you. For those who needed to hear this, and know that there are people out there who will understand and love you just the same ❤ hang in there
Thank you for saying this. I have lost a lot of friends because I was literally under my desk shaking and sobbing…too embarrassed to admit that I have this problem…
That is kind and gives hope. And it’s true! Thank you❤ I have to say , that I haven’t been through anything worse than high functioning depression and anxiety that led to burn out, massive panic attacks and not recognise myself, too scared too worried, too insecure.. If you don’t have a support net, ask for a doctors help. Take the medication. It comes from a person who used to be completely against medication, Now I praise the lord for having scientists and can put all these worries , stress etc to sleep. THANK YOU ! #mentalhealthawareness
yeah i've had worse stuff,but a thing i found funny was when i wasn't feeling great the school nurse measured 37 degrees,let me go home,at home my mom basically told me ,you ain't sick lets check your temp,then 15 minutes after i went home(i lived like 5 minutes from school) i walked passed the nurse and principle being like oooh the thermometer was wrong,.... wasn't traumatic but idk why i felt real dumb about it.
Does anxiety also have to do with thinking everyone hates you, even though they don’t? Or if you feel very lonely but you have so many friends around you? I’ve been dealing with this and I want to understand what’s happening to me Update: I have anxiety :,) and it got worse over the 9 months aaaa
That was my experience too. Out of sight, I assumed that my friends were better off without me, and/or that they were just putting up with me and didn't want to hang out with me more than necessary. It made me question whether or not I was a good person, since I doubted my friends for no apparent reason. One thing that helped me a great deal is "flipping the script" and asking yourself if you actually secretly hate your friends when you're spending alone/down time. And if not...more than likely your friends are just spending their alone time too (hell, they might even be wanting to hang out). Anyway, I didn't mean to make this about me, only to say that it really does gets better and easier. Don't be too hard on yourself, and if you can bear it, open up to your friends sometimes about these feelings (ideally not in the heat of the moment). Those that care about you will stay, and those are ones worth keeping.
I had a bad panic attack because lunch was served before the normal schedule...😫 P.S. I recently discovered that the lunch was not the reason..I was already suffering from anxiety since yrs ..which had gotten worse lately so I guess 😓
I had a bad trigger form at my job. Im a cashier, and our high traffic register had a malfunction in the card reader. I was on that register. My supervisors made me stay there and suspend every transaction with a card. 3 weeks later and I still can't go on that register, even though the card reader was replaced, without having to go home early or hide in the bathroom
I got a panic attack walking down a hallway in school 😅 I swear that is all that happened and nothing else was on my mind other than, "that stranger bumped into me"
I was just diagnosed with anxiety, but I am part of a lot of school events where I was to public speak. It's very hard but I'm proud of myself everytime I'm done.😁
Anna I have it too, but your lucky you can handle it well, I feel very tense at school but can keep it together, I’m shy so not many people talk to me, and I’m still kinda shy in my friend group, so I don’t talk to people much, and it gets really lonely, even tho I’m shy I still wanna talk to people, but I get scared I’d get in peoples way, and I’m bad at starting conversations, I get super depressed and want to commit suicide really bad, social situations really wear me out, but doing school work at home because of Corona has really helped me a lot😁
@@aperson8724 I can understand that, it took a long time to talk to my friends like others do. I felt like I needed to hide my true self. But I was able to find great people and a counselor who actually wanted to listen. One day you can find people like that too, or might take longer but when it comes you will be so happy and will never regret not coming this far. So just take it one day at a time till you get there.🧡
even though i'm diagnosed, there's so many people i would send this to just to show them that even if it doesn't seem like i have anxiety on the outside, you can never know what's going on on the inside.
exactly,, people think they're so "uwu quirky and relatable" because they have "anxiety" when they actually don't and they don't know what its like to live in constant hell
And...I’m the opposite... 🙄 I wouldn’t want to send this to people. I would feel like I’m getting attention and I just don’t wanna show people the real me. I put on a front and act like I’m confident, bubbly, outgoing and happy all the time. None of my friends even know I have anxiety. I never talk about my problems to friends and I have NEVER shown I am sad in front of them. People have even said to me, “how am I always happy?” Or “I have never seen you sad.” Only my family know, and they are the only ones that know I have anxiety. Am I just different to most people? urgh 😒
Kels X no that's totally ok!! some people are just more open about it and it's not something to be ashamed of! i didn't tell my friends for the longest time but i felt like they deserved to know why i act the way i act and what my triggers are and they're actually very helpful! they keep me calm and help me take a breath when i'm having an attack or getting a flare up.
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I had very high anxiety but it has been getting a whole lot better. I think sometimes the “waiting for someone to text back” and “old conversations in your head” might be something people deal with even if they don’t have anxiety. I used to turn down social events, even though I didn’t need to or know why. But I realize, anxiety is like walking around with an umbrella, waiting for it to rain (when it’s so sunny out!) I don’t know if you believe in the Bible or not, but Matthew 6:34 says, “Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.” Meaning, therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will take care of itself. And that was another problem I used to deal with, worrying about tomorrow. Phew. So much anxiety for no reason! Just take a deep breath in… and exhale. And I remember these things: I am alive. I see three things; my room door, my fan, and… hmm.. my pillow. I hear the rain outside, I hear the gentle tapping on my roof, and I can hear my little brother running around the house like a headless chicken for fun. I smell three things… my bed sheets smell like lavender, my shirt smells like food, and my room had a wood-y smell to it. I am healthy. I eat healthy, my body is strong, and I help it get strong by going for a walk each day, or doing a simple exercise every day. And lastly, I am beautiful. There’s inner beauty and outer beauty. I am both. I am kind, interesting, and funny, and unique. I like my eyebrows, and my crooked smile. Just little things like these can help, guys. And (again, I don’t know if you believe in God or not) I pray for God to help me with my anxiety. I go in detail what I get anxious for, and it’s funny; sometimes I don’t even know what I get anxious for! In those times, I tell the anxiety in my head “Oh, just stop it. You want me to get anxious for no reason? Whaaaaat? Nope! Go away.” It takes some practice, but you can train yourself to make it go away. I have been training myself little by little, and seeing results makes me really happy.
This makes it hard on some of us. I have a family member who tells me they don't enjoy social gatherings, they don't want to impose on "my family" by making me feel like I have to invite them for every birthday(they live next door). On the other hand said person gets hurt feelings when I do not invite them for birthday cake(even though they cannot eat it). I am between a rock and a hard place with them sometimes. Do any of you have any advice?
I am a veteran, served three tours overseas, Iraq & Afghanistan. I am now a civilian Firefighter/Paramedic. I check every one of these boxes. Some don’t believe that I have anxiety because I “hide it so well” and I’m extremely good at my chosen career, but sometimes it eats me up inside.
RIGHT?! Like I convince myself they are in a horrible car crash. Or if my parents come home late by like 30 min, I JUST KNOW that they got hurt and I may never see them again. I also know that I’m just paranoid so I don’t tell them which WOULDNT BE THAT HARD and THEY CAN TELL ME IF THEYRE GONNA BE A LITTLE LATE SO I DONT FREAK OUT!!! Anyways, anyone else wanna overshare on the Internet??
Me: Has literally all the symptoms Also me: It's fine, I'm fine I'll just keep watching vidoes at 4:15am to distract myself because quarentine has made me go crazy.
As someone who’s diagnosed with extreme anxiety, the first thing people say when I tell them is: “Woah, but you’re so calm?” “Are you sure?” “But you don’t seam like it-“ Like- How I suppose to respond to that??
You could remind them that is the point of a hidden disability/illness. I have had to remind alot of people of this on a regular basis, and still do. I would say it gets easier but that would feel like hearing a lie, so instead I will simply say that other people can't know what you are going through if they themselves haven't been through it so to help them be honest with yourself and them and they may at least begin to understand to a certain extent one day. Kia Kaha (stay strong /stand strong in māori)
Its like Elsa said, 🎵I've always been a fortress, cold secrets deep inside🎵 Elsa's powers are alot like Anxiety or have caused her to have it. She panics deep inside about everything, feeling like everything is her fault, that she'll hurt or has hurt someone, her emotions are swirling around in her and it hurts, and that's she's a stupid, dumb person that was born for no reason. Which is *not* who she is, she's *absolutely amazing,* I *love her* so much.
Over two decades of therapy and yet a 7 minute video can more effectively sum of everything I'm feeling and just totally gets me. *literal jaw to floor omg*
Same. "Wait, what was that name? Oh, I should look them in the face. Do they think I'm staring? Ugh, my posture sucks. Do they think I'm making fun of their posture? Should I tell them my relatable story, or will they think its stupid or I'm trying to get attention... Let me go refill my drink."
Despite relating to literally each and every single one of these, I can never say I have anxiety because i feel like self diagnosing myself without going to a doctor isn't valid. At some point i think giving myself that label will only hinder me from getting better because i would be too fixated on the things i can't do or the things i feel overwhelmed by. I feel like it would also be disrespecful to the many people who experience anxiety on a detrimental level, and find it difficult to cope with whereas my 'anxiety' is mostly manageable (with the occasional mental breakdown every now and then).
I think that a person can suffer from anxiety to a certain degree without being a diagnosed case, meaning that while you might not have it as far as the label goes, you might struggle with the same types of things, and in that case learning how people cope with diagnosed anxiety can still be really helpful even if you don't have it in a strong enough form to be diagnosed.
I have anxiety of this I am sure but I am not diagnosed because I never sought treatment. At first I did not want to use the label with others or myself because it felt fraudulent but using the label has been very positive for me and helped me to forgive myself for all the stuff I did or didn’t do due to anxiety and help me to understand myself and gain some steps to recovery. I still feel a bit fraudulent using the label with others but my anxiety is no less real than anyone else’s and I think helps people to understand me and that I didn’t turn down an invite out of some kind of rudeness or because I don’t like you and When my anxiety becomes too overwhelming to pull of high functioning I feel that because I’ve told people I have a mental health issue I don’t actually feel like people are looking at me like I’m that crazy insane girl that they should stay well clear of.
Everyone can and has anxiety but I personally believe that you should be diagnosed to say you have a disorder. I had my first panic/anxiety attack at eleven years of age I did not know what was happening to me, I was told I was being naughty for 'throwing a tantrum' which is something I'm am not pron to do and for the rest of my childhood I could not figured out why I was such a bad child and couldn't control my 'tantrums' which consisted of hyperventilating, crying and having the overwhelming feeling that I'm about to die. It wasn't until I was eighteen that I finally thought that I might not just be a bad person and that something was 'wrong' with me. I was diagnosed with social anxiety. For the last decade I have been learning how to deal with this disorder. I have found that by learning and understanding what is going on in my own head has helped my find ways to cope and manage my anxiety. I still have plenty of problems with silly things like going to the grocery store just to buy food but I now have the skill and mental tools to get me through it, instead of of just sitting at home crying because im a failure as a human being. I apologise I don't know why you comment struck a cord with me. I guess I just don't want you to feel that you just have to suffer with your anxiety like i used to and that there are ways and people out there to help make you life just a little bit easier. Now I'm going to go and obsess over that fact that I just posted this lol
I have had crippling anxiety my entire life. However, it seems as time goes on, I’m too exhausted to even have anxiety anymore. I probably still suffer from it, but I literally don’t have the mental or emotional capacity to process or analyze shit anymore. I don’t know if that’s a good or bad thing...I just know it’s nice not having to obsess over my thoughts, feelings or behaviors anymore.
I've had it all my life too. I didn't know "functioning anxiety" was a thing. Everyone always called me a "worry wart" all of my life. Now I know I have a problem.
Absolutely every single one of these things I do. I knew I had anxiety, but now I'm 100% overly sure. It might even outweigh my severe depression. I know the depression is sort of caused by being exhausted from my anxiety. Anyway, I'm glad TH-camrs have all kinds of good content to share.
I started crying to the last few ones, I didn't want to remember those thoughts and actions in the past, but I did and still do... I don't have diagnosed anxiety, but I'm sure I do by the way I'm basically scared to do anything mostly due to misjudgment from people who don't truly know me.
I feel like everyone is more beautiful than me sometimes even though I’m should be ok with how I look but I’m focused on what people think as they pass me on the street
So nervous when walking on the street now that I have a vast collection of fine clothes and shoes that I hardly ever wear just in case while travelling as a pedestrian who doesn't own a car some stranger thinks I am giving away free hugs and maybe more to strangers in the dark after 4:30 pm here in the winter still while I am already at over age 60 again. The nervousness that I might be getting seen the wrong way sometimes maybe finally started at age 45 or so when the local parish priest stopped and asked me once where I was going while I was out walking to church and then after I got in his vehicle after he asked me where I was going and then offered me a ride to church then looked at my heels and then said with over concern in his voice, "I was not going to let you walk all that way in THOSE kind of shoes."
others seem to think you mean looks/beauty but if you mean gait/ step stride. I do all the time. I feel like I'm being judged and I tense up so much that I feel like I must look like the nutcracker walking.
@@macdan22 ya that’s exactly what I mean. I didn’t mean beauty. I meant I start to overthink how I’m literally walking and then feel like I look even more weird 😂😂. I feel you
1. You turn down things you want to go to. Check! 2. You dislike having to meet new people. Check! 3. You're uncomfortable with slow responses. Check! 4. You get very little sleep. Check! 5. You fixate on the tiniest details. Check! 6. You get hung up on old conversations. Not so much 7. You're unforgiving. Not so much 8. You constantly compare yourself to others. Check! 9. You're a constant people-pleaser. Check! 10. You need to keep yourself busy all the time. Check! 11. You get very anxious about the future. Check! 12. You always focus on the worst case scenario. Check!
“you fixate on tiny details” “you get caught up in past convos” me: *thinking about the thing I said around my crush 1 year and a half years ago, how much i tipped at the ice cream shop last month, and how i cried when i got made fun of at a football game in 6th grade* me: well...
That and meeting new folks, feeling pressured to say something in conversations, even when there is no pressure, and focusing on the worst case scenario are the ones I to Identify with. Though I'm not convinced its due to high functioning axiety.
Laura Elizabeth I keep thinking about how I let my former best friend to have my McDonalds drink just to keep him happy and now I’m stressed that I waste too much money on making my friends happy
One thing about being hyper aware of having Anxiety-like symptoms is that you start questioning whether or not you actually do have Anxiety or if you're just unconsciously doing them to get people's attention. That's what I feel every time Anxiety and Depression gets brought up 🙃
Is it something that happens on occasion or a regular fixation b/c that’s where the difference lies. I will go over & over old conversations in my head, replaying & analyzing them, thinking of what I could’ve done differently, what did the other person really mean when they said such & such thing, etc. Also, it really doesn’t help that I have a pretty good memory, (not photographic or anything like that), and so I remember exact phrases, body language, etc.
i remember it was such a struggle for me to be diagnosed with anxiety because i was so used to anxiety, i thought everyone experienced it, so when i would do weird little things, my psychiatrist would end up being confused because i showed no external signs of anxiety, and i would never describe any internal feelings because i thought it was normal, luckily my psychiatrist is a smart man and tried an anxiety medication as a way of testing the waters, sure enough little things were easier, i could walk downstairs without being scared of my parents, i could communicate with others more frequently, and so on so forth
I sought help for depression and the social worker suggested I had anxiety. I never even considered it before but it makes sense in retrospect. It took some time to wrap my head around the idea though. It used to be.... normal. just the way things were. It's been a very Plato's cave kind of experience.
I've been wanting to reach out for help because I have a very strong suspicion, no certainty that I have anxiety but I don't know if it's anxiety or just regular fear that's stopping me. Like that doubt inside of me is thinking like "oh what if all this is normal" and "what if they don't believe you" or "what if you over exaggerate or undermine how bad it actually is"?
@@csillakaszas7285 yes exactly, it's such a strange concept until you realize- "oh.. i just had anxiety", and i'm glad you are able to recognize it because i agree, it can be very confusing haha
@@MelodySnowflakeVA from personal experience, people who focus in the field of psychology are pretty good at guiding you through these worries, and something an old therapist once told me: "everyone has their own things they need to work on, so there is really no risk in speaking to a professional", so if this has been something that you see affects your life, take a deep breath, and begin looking for professionals that fit your needs, because it can be anxiety inducing at first, and it can also change your life for the better in the end
lentil soup thank you, this is something that has really been worrying and affecting me for a very long time. It's nice to hear from someone who has actually been diagnosed and seeked help. At this point I'm seriously considering reaching out to a professional, I have for over a year now so I might actually do it
I’ve overcome a lot of these things in the past years. It did take counseling, and meds temporarily until I was able to learn breathing and exercises and how food and exercise affect moods. It was a total lifestyle change. Looking back, I can see I’ve come a long way. Thanks for sharing!
“You’re uncomfortable with slow response” or just no response at all. That’s completely accurate for me. I haven’t been diagnosed but I told my mom about this. One of my close friends told me I have anxiety. Whenever I want to text someone, I just couldn’t do it. My hands will shake, my heart will pound rapidly and my palms are going to get sweaty. I’d always think that they wont response to me because they’ll probably think I’m boring, useless, or unimportant.
Even for your friends? I mean if it's a crush I can get it. Your friends are your... friends! You can be silly around them. You can ask for stupid thing or send ridiculous gifs. They're not supposed to judge you and think of you as a weirdo. If you think they will or they already have, maybe they're not your true friends. I understand that slow answers are frustrating. But at the same time my self, I haaaate feeling pressured to answer right back.
@@NortheastGamer I'm not saying he should do this or that. Just saying facts that his friends are supposed to accept him no matter what. I was saying this in case he's with the wrong people who might judge him for small things.
I really felt that :'c Sometimes I think that, and is not nice, at all u.u 'Cause people might be busy or just forget (due to they tend to gett distracted very easily), if you think about is not that crazy, more rational I would say, then is th brain: "What if...?" And you just start overthinking again.
I relate to this WAY too much. I never been diagnosed with anxiety... I did struggle with depression at one time... I’ve been winning that battle thankfully. But all this with high functioning anxiety... I’m like this. All the time...
The gym teacher: say here when I call your name. Me: *says here* *contemplates if I said it to loud and wonders why people r looking at me when there not*
Once a teacher told my class to say "present" and not "here", I was so busy thinking about if I should risk saying "present" or staying with the good old "here" that he had to say my name twice and I was so embarrassed that I still think about it 2 years later.
yep, every time. of course, I often was told people can't hear me when I speak because I have a quiet voice, so yelling was sort of my only option if I wanted to be marked present 😂
I think something that people don't understand or realize is that high functioning anxiety is no less serious than low functioning anxiety. Most people (without an anxiety disorder) can relate to a few of these behaviors so they don't see high functioning anxiety as a real disorder and that's just not the case. It's a really misunderstood and underestimated disorder.
Excellent point. Whenever something appears less common, it always takes people forever to understand it. High functioning anxiety is easy for the outsider to downplay...your not hiding away in bed at 3pm, so to them it's "your fine, what's your problem?"
I agree. Everyone feels anxiety, so they will be able to relate to SOMETHING in this video. However, when it comes to high-functioning anxiety, (as someone who has it and has family memebers who have it) every little thing can start a panic attack or make breathing harder just because you are worried... It can get REALLY bad
Wow, I have been like this ever since I was little. Being hard one myself, comparing myself to others, helping others to the point where I'm like super tired, unable to sleep at night. Talk about hitting the nail on the head. Thank you so much now understand myself a whole lot better now.
#11 is one I have noticed appears most frequently as of late after losing family this year, and just generally being fearful of what will happen in the future because at the end of the day our lives are temporary. it’s an extremely scary thought, and I used to be very positive towards the future. i used to be excited about what I will do with my life, but now I’m just afraid of how time changes everything. glad i can finally rest easy knowing why I am the way that I am. thank you so much!
I get mad when people say, "Omg, I stayed up till 3 a.m. looking at memes, ahah" And then there's me, who stays up wondering if my friends are actually my friends or if they feel like they have to be. I also keep myself busy, because I know that if I get stressed with school then I'll go off on a tangent about how I'm so lazy why do I even try my teachers think I'm weird and they wish I was like my brother. So basically I have the anxiety that basically makes me question my worth based on how everyone sees me and what I do. HOORAY!!
Beatrice the theatre geek my twin sister and I had the same friends in high school so I spent all of high school wondering if they actually liked me or if they were just my friends bc of her, it was a struggle
“High functioning anxiety isn’t a diagnosable condition” *Proceeds to spend 7 minutes checking off a list of how to self diagnose high functioning anxiety*
By diagnosable, they mean that it’s not something that one can get an official diagnosis from a health care professional or that it’s not recognized in the DSM-5. But it’s good to spread awareness of these tendencies to help realize that.
@Jonesy Jonesy hope you're doing ok with whatever it may be you have problems with, and yeah people need to get more professional opinions, cause the number of people just using disorders as excuses is ridiculous. And besides, like you said, you can relate to certain aspects without being completely afflicted.
I have a worker in my team that is exactly like this and is SO EXHAUSTING! I can't say anything mildly negative or 2 days after he will ask me why did I told him that and if I think he is doing something wrong... or that he has been thinking about this little thing I said last week... always focusing on conflict... and what's worse that he says "well I tend to overthink stuff" and no, it's not just overthinking, he is causing trouble in the team because he double checks what anyone says and specially my instructions. So if any of you are experiencing this anxiety WORK ON IT, you may be causing trouble with your coworkers because no one is forced to understand or being empathic about your anxiety.
I didn't realize I was deep on anxiety until I noticed that every single day when I arrived to school, before I could talk to anyone, I had to lock myself in a restroom stall for at least 10 minutes which unknowingly was my way to prepare myself to face the day and if I had to interact with literally anyone before doing that I would feel a ridiculous urge to cry or go home for no reason at all.
Very relatable. I used to this during lunch, never realized at the time what I was up to, but now I get it. It's interesting how little things like that make sense further down the road.
You're probably just introverted. Instead of trying to hide your time spent by yourself make it an official event and make sure other people respect it.
@@budthecyborg4575 Not sure if you responded to me or MGR131, but I left out the part where I also had trouble breathing (aka building up to panic attack). Am also introverted though! I do think it's almost trendy now to be an introvert or at least to identify yourself as one. Maybe we're moving towards more acceptance though, it's hard to say- but you're right you can absolutely try and explain yourself to other people and hopefully they'll respect your space. In High school though this requires a certain level of maturity so who knows how that will be met by fellow students.
I just realized this is what I do and I was getting overwhelmed then she was like "you're unforgiving.. to yourself" I was like brooooo then my tears came the end
I feel so called out! 😢 I'm glad I stumbled upon this video. I just wish there are more videos about having HFD / HFA to watch this 2023. Thank you in advance! 🙏
About the people thing, I DO want to meet new people and have friends. The problem is, I can’t do that because of my anxiety. But then when someone comes along and tries being friendly, I shut them down. My brain wants it both ways where I can have a group of friends but also not talk to them ever. Obviously that’s not possible, which only stresses me out even more.
Serendipity I use the coping skills that I was taught in therapy. And I tell my therapist EVERYTHING. You need to tell them everything so they know what is bothering so they can help you. I have a friend who keeps secrets from hers and she hasnt gotten better. If you dont have a therapist heres some coping skills you can do: 1. Grounding. If you feel as if you are going to start crying in class or are about to have a mental breakdown get your mind off of your anxiety. Look at your environment, what do you see? How does the furniture you are sitting on feel? What color is it? What does the place you are in smell like? Etc. Coping skill #2 Think about what the usual aftermath is after you worry about something. Usually after I have a mental breakdown I realize a bit after that it wasnt as bad as I thought it was. So keep that in your mind. Its not as bad as you think it is. #3 try your best to surround yourself with people and/or pets. Try your best to not be alone with your thoughts. I get that it may be a bit difficult considering the quarintine rn so that one you dont have to do. #4 pick up a hobby. I am an artist and art calms me down a lot and it keeps my mind off of things :)
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I’m so grateful for this channel. I immediately shared it to a few loved ones to help gain their understanding of my ADHD! I even shared it to my Facebook page as well. Can’t wait for your next video. I even made sure to turn my notifications on hoping not to miss any of these informative videos.
I forgot it was Autism Awareness Month. I'm on the spectrum, and I am one of the high functioning people with autism. It might not seem like I have autism, but there are times that one could tell.
This video basically explains me. Sometimes I replay embarrassing or upsetting moments in my head until the make me cry, I tell myself I hate myself when I make the tinyest mistake, and I prepare for the worst possible scenario, even if it's just asking my mom for more screen time.
I'm not afraid of meeting new people because they have no expectations of me. I feel more anxious around family because they know me and I feel like I've never measured up to their expectations.
The one with thinking about the future, I LITERALLY JUST THOUGHT ABOUT IT. I thought about how the future will be and how technologie will take over and if we still have a long time living on this earth.. i'm so currious tbh
This was well done. Especially the pessimist part. People constantly call us or myself negative. When actually preparing for what was logical n actually happened. Her voice was perfect.
This video arrives at the best timing! I was having an anxiety attack yesterday after starting my new job while WFH and having to contact new people. Honestly, it's the smallest thing for most people, but to me being the one who makes the first move just turned up my fright level. I have to tell my self to calm down and write a detailed script on how to say hi to my new coworkers. This pandemic really got me to know a lot more about my psychological fears and personality I haven't diagnosed before.
@@bloodymary6365 yeah I have had anxiety for ages but scince the start of this year it's just gotten way worse. I'm never happy and I dont think it helps that my mother dosent let me have social media (other than YT) and she dosent let me have friends unless she approves of them I have also never been to a friends house and no friends have come to my house.
Number 11 is a BIG problem for me. Anytime something "major" comes up I literally cannot stop worrying about it. I mean, staying up all night, rethinking and overthinking and bothering my friends and family for reassurance that it'll be alright. But even after revisiting every bad and good outcome in my head for hours I still can't stop stressing until that "major event" is over. 99% of the time it's usually just a small deadline, social interaction, or event. I literally cannot do anything productive the days leading up to it though. And after it's over, when I finally feel like I can wind down and relax, something new comes up and it's the same cycle over and over again. At this point I don't remember the last time I wasn't incredibly anxious all day. This has been going on for a while and I have no idea what to do..
4:12 “perfectionism” reminds me that as a kid I didn’t answer or even guess true/false questions on a test if I didn’t know because I didn’t want to be wrong.
I swear. Though I had a good academic life but I wouldn't answer a question mainly because of giving a wrong answer or being called out wrong. I didn't know this until today that it was the anxiety.
I still can't get over a spelling mistake I made two weeks ago that a person pointed out AND I COULDNT CHANGE and hhhhhhnghhhhh Nobody cares anymore, of course, but;;;;
As someone who was diagnosed with severe aniexty both general and social but seeing this video made me realize that I struggle with all of these even when others doubt if I even struggle with any of these issues. This video has helped me feel better because I honestly thought I was a horrible person for canceling plans due to aniexty or not being able to forgive anyone truly or my self for things that a honestly nit picky at times. I feel seen and also feel like I am not the only one who replays conversations for hours in my head and so on. Thanks for sharing this, it really helps :)
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I can't buy thinfs because I'm everytime anxious that it wouldn't pay it off
and that sometimes turn into real problems
please help me
The animation is really cute! I love it!! ❤️
I can't do things without thinking what would be the worst case that could happen and because of that I don't have the chance to do many things
Is it because I have Autsim?
I am diagnosed with anxiety, and I fucking hate it.
Most oftentimes I'm anxious of the crowds & wut they offer & there's the pacing issues wut the going rates & details others miss why are they so oblivious for me & wut ways are there for comparison competition must i rank & wut does gittin an emoji means also a ton of silly things i come across throughout these journeys
Dear TH-cam,
Stop calling me out through the recommendations.
yeah,all the point i either agree or agreed fully to :| fudge me
Lol same
Y e s.
Riiiight?!
mejai israa yeah
Me calculating whether I should say “here” or “present” during attendance
And then your brain is not sure what to say so you say present and beat your self up for it and then you make failing grades on that really big test because you swear that one annoying kid flipped you off yet you know it way just then looking at their paper cut, or was it? Then your ocd kicks in and you freak out because his journal is on the right not left so you say something about it and then you stutter and your entire day is ruined and 3 months later I'm still mad at myself
Anyone else?
Oh god same
@@leopitre7907 Hey wouldn't be the first time
Omg sammmeee
This is kinda unrelated but do y'all ever have those nights where you can't sleep bc you're thinking too much about sleeping? You literally lay there and wait for the moment when you fall asleep but that's exactly what's keeping you up? Just me? Ok.
Asiah Hunt 🖐
This keeps happening to me! It's so annoying
Yes all the time!!!
Thankfully Seroquel and Effexor with a side of Valium knocks me out. :-/ lol
“Can’t sleep because I’m anxious about whether or not I’m going to fall asleep” is like my personal motto lol
This whole thing actually kind of got me.
"You're unforgiving"
Wait, no, I'm actually too forgiving.
"to yourself"
...oh...
Yeah. Like"Hey, the first thing that is not me!
Wait...
Orr...."
Corect
The same happened to me
Same thought I had! I was like oh that's not me I'm....oh. yeah. That's true. Can't stand myself and harp on All of my mistakes 🙄🤦🏾♀️
“Oh”😂
The worst part about high functioning anxiety is no one seems to be aware of it but yourself... you appear “normal” on the outside but you’re suffocating and suffering in the inside, it’s honestly the worst feeling.
yep
Yes
That is one of the most relatable things I've ever read.
@@DutchThroat you're lucky.
Welcome to the club friend ❤
"Do you get hung up on past conversations?"
me, wanting to curl up under my blankets after remembering something I said over 4 years ago: ... no
...then, later, you rehash that entire conversation in the shower
Omg I really thought I was the only one
I still can't sleep because of things I said 10 years ago
@@deltagee01 Exactly... Like EVERY SINGLE FUCKING NIGHT
Bing Bing Bing exactly
Sometimes I Just wish I could forget things... Conversations, feelings, things I've done. I really wish I could forget, so i wouldn't worry as much. Anyone else?
Yup. Forget or at least move on. Not hit the repeat button a hundred times.
Yes, all the time! I had an awkward conversation one time about brushing my teeth, well it was awkward to me. Now every time I brush my teeth I can't help to moan in agony of how anxious I am to have to remember that stupid conversation. Mind you, this conversation happened 15 years ago! It's a horrible way to start my morning!
Some things in my life I feel like I have got to live with it...
Only every second of every minute of every hour of every day
Carolina de Moura Azevedo T. Farah “It’s a blessing.....and a curse.”
I’m so happy I’m not alone. Wassup to all my high functioning anxious people!
Hi! 👋 :’)
Hello, wish I could meet you in real life.
Hola
Wassup ma 😂🤞🏼
Hello
1. You turn down things you want to go to.
2. You dislike having to meet new people.
3. You're uncomfortable with slow responses.
4. You get very little sleep.
5. You fixate on the tiniest details.
6. You get hung up on old conversations.
7. You're unforgiving.
8. You constantly compare yourself to others.
9. You're a constant people-pleaser.
10. You need to keep yourself busy all the time.
11. You get very anxious about the future.
12. You always focus on the worst case scenario.
You're welcome :)
Thank you
Thank you
all of this is me wtf
Frick... I got high functioning anxiety
I fit into 9 of these categories. My anxiety is through the roof most when I go to work. I am so scared of messing up or saying the wrong thing or not picking up my job as fast as I should. I am scared of approaching people at work. My anxiety is most prevalent at work, why is that?
This narrator’s voice is literally lowering my blood pressure 😌
Funny, because it was literally raising mine.
I wish she could make an asmr cause I'd fall asleep to her voice
This video hit so home, I think she is knocking my door
@@kukalakana same here. i clicked 'pause' within seconds.
Funny that for me it causes me to feel anxious
Being shy and having high functioning anxiety is a whole new level .
I'm on that level and I do almost all of the things in this video
Very true! 🥺
Tocoah Daniel me to 😓😥
Having high functioning anxiety, atelophobia, severe depression, ADHD, PTSD, BPD and panic disorder is a whole new level too. :D
I've been shy my whole life ;-;
I am almost 70 yrs old and just watched this. My own experiences with anxiety, my inabilities to cope with people has now made me avoid all social contact. As difficult as it is I do everything alone and by myself. I realize there are multiple issues, mental health issues involved but I must say, if you are still young, please reach out to a trusted professional for some help. Working with someone, finding the right person may take a bit of time, like finding the right fit, but there is someone who can help...don't wait until you are almost 70...good luck.
1: You turn down things you actually want to go to
2: You dislike having to meet new people
3: You're uncomfortable with slow responses
4: You get very little sleep
5: You fixate on the tiniest details
6: You get hung up on old conversations
7: You're unforgiving to yourself
8: You constantly compare yourself to others
9: You're a constant people pleaser
10: You need to keep yourself busy all the time
11: You get very anxious whenever you think about the future
12: You always focus on the worst case scenario
Thank you a lot for commenting this, I can't focus well so this makes me understand the video better
I feel targeted here
@Gloomy_Gloober I can echo your words lol
all of these are accurate for me. More than ever this year. Should I try to get diagnosed?
@@reinaleyva2069 I don't know if there is any thing that can be done for the problem, as a cure not a pill for a crutch.
Idk diagnosis is just putting a label in ink documenting the relating issues.
Personally a pill works its just a crutch.
"You get very little sleep"
Me: *slowly remembers it's 3am*
Same... wait
We're in the same boat, pal
and then wake up at 8am because of online classes
Oh Boy 3am 🍔
Queen Quizian yep, it’s 2 am here- not 3 but 2 am. Similar tho
"7. You're unforgiving"
Me: wait what!?
"to yourself"
Me: better
Pyrotechnic 17 This.
Yeah, same here.
Yes.
And yet you apologize about everything
😂 So right
This was me! When I struggled with high functioning anxiety, people used to tell me how calm I looked, but that’s not at all how I felt on the inside.
Ditto.
No one told me about my calmness because most people I talk to already know I have anxiety, and I'm not a very calm person. So, my closest friends and family memebers know I must be anxious when I am quiet because I'm not usually the quieter, less-excited type
Was? How did you dial it back!? 🙏
You were probably drained from anxiety, no energy left
“you’re unforgiving”
me: psh WRONG
“to yourself”
me: o
Exactly
I think that's the best way to ask someone who is critical of themselves, because a lot of the time we are nice to others but disgustingly rude to ourselves. It's a good way to get us to not lie to ourselves, initially think it's about someone else but it's actually about us.
ME
SAME!
LMAO literally
The best text on a Saturday morning "the party is canceled "
Its not news at all if you weren't even planning on showing!
*finger guns*
i felt guilty for relating
And thats on a periodt
@@themayo2713 what do you mean?
@@littlenightmare3481 i mean that if you had already planned on not going then the news doesn't matter
I will confess that I was relieved about the cancellations of events in my life due to covid19. Gosh, this video is making me question my whole life
Me too 😬
Me too:/
Me: Why am I so much more relaxed in quarantine?
Therapist: Because now you can avoid the hard work of learning how to set boundaries and put your own needs before others because the social distancing did that for you.
Me: Oh.
Luis Medina Same...I feel I’m selfish about it though..especially since I want it to last long enough so things like band camp and school can be help off. They stress me out...
HAHAHA! Yes, but aren’t we superior because we’re actually HAPPY to stay home, away from people, getting those lists made & COMPLETED? I’m so satisfied I never want to leave the house! 😂
I've recently discovered through therapy that I have had high functioning anxiety my whole life without even realizing. I always thought worrying about every single future event or pondering upon every detail of every human interaction I've had all the time was just how everyone was. Thank you for making this video and increasing awareness!
Me too! I thought everyone around me worried about everything the way I did. I couldn't wrap my head around the people who spoke their minds or jumped up first to do things.
100%! I was just talking with my husband about this last night. I don't remember a time when I wasn't anxious. My lightbulb moment was telling my therapist about how when I was younger and my dad being older when he had me (45). When his contemporaries starting to pass away I started waking up the the morning to make sure he woke up and ok and then going back to sleep until I had to get up for school. I just assumed that this was something that all kids with older parents did. According to the therapist, HFA... yay...
Unfortunately because I am HFA, I have now created two other young people with HFA and am trying to help them past it. It's going to be quite the long road.
I've known I've had high-functioning anxiety my whole life since I was 9. Mainly because my mom has it so she was able to tell me what I have before too long
@@angelal1923 omg! Ever since I can remember, I have always checked on my mom while she was sleeping to make sure she's still breathing. So not everyone does what we do?! This video and your comment is kind of my lightbulb moment right now. Has therapy helped you overcome it?
@@JazzyB9481 Its a work in progress. I started therapy to help me get past my extreme anxiety about getting a surgery I have been waiting for for years. Then continued to go because of the light bulb moment about having HFA. I make 2 steps forward and then I do something like sell my house and have to move the same month I start a new job and everything goes back 5 steps. The key is to do the work. CBT(cognitive behavioral therapy) helps, it gives you logical steps to think past the anxiety. After 45 years though its hard to change overnight. I do highly recommend a good therapist that knows how to help with HFA.
Most Of The Times People Ignore Anxiety and consider it to be A small thing , But Anxiety Leads You to Stress Rapidly which then transforms into Depression 😢
Hence we should Take care of our Very early symptoms of anxiety
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exactly what happened to me, dude! currently going through therapy to figure out how to navigate my brain with ADD, anxiety and depression. i literally just put together that i've been suffering from high functioning anxiety my entire life and it has majorly impacted both my mental and physical health, not to mention college career. i feel like this video just gutted me alive
Depression is tough because it is caused by so many different things but mostly happens when you have an try blocking out one of your emotions too much
Get a diagnosis pls
Living like this for years, if your mental cant handle it you get depressed... My mental got sharpened this way and dont act like you know whats gonne happen, every person is different sow the outcome is to
Wait I thought everyone was like this.....
Fr. What does it feel like to not be like this??
ASMR Izzy it feels like your fears and anxiety is just crushing you and you can’t escape. You feel like you have to make everyone happy so they don’t leave to the point that your not your self anymore.
@@Absterwabster20 Oh I felt that,,I meant that I wondered how it felt to not have anxiety lmao
Lol everyone IS like this, but I guess it's to a varying degree. If you're on the higher end of the spectrum then it's a problem. I'm everything up until number 9, and then I think I just shut down entirely to not feel the rest.
I would do anything not to feel like this all the time
The way I can relate to each and every points they meant. This hurts.
Everybody here does. I don't think it's uncommon. We're just "social" and the world isn't. We crumble
I relate to all these more than I though I did. It’s even sadder considering my sister is the one that asks strangers for directions while I need to wait for 20 minutes just must up enough courage to ask my teacher to go to the washroom :/
@@sharonapple6686 just think of it like this: you're letting them know you're going, but not really asking them. If they say no then just run out the door.
I know...
Yep
As someone who's friends with someone like this, I just want to say something important. When we were kids I'd take her last minute canceling personally and it put strain on our friendship. But in our 20s she told me she had anxiety and I was okay with it. She still cancels last minute sometimes, but she always reaches out a few days later to say her anxiety got bad. And I'm okay with it. If you honestly tell someone that your anxiety got to you, more than not, even if its days later or a week, a true friend will be understanding. So if you feel like it's too late to say something, it's never too late and the right people for you will understand without trying to change you. For those who needed to hear this, and know that there are people out there who will understand and love you just the same ❤ hang in there
Thank you for saying this. I have lost a lot of friends because I was literally under my desk shaking and sobbing…too embarrassed to admit that I have this problem…
That's so sweet 🥺
That is kind and gives hope. And it’s true! Thank you❤ I have to say , that I haven’t been through anything worse than high functioning depression and anxiety that led to burn out, massive panic attacks and not recognise myself, too scared too worried, too insecure..
If you don’t have a support net, ask for a doctors help. Take the medication. It comes from a person who used to be completely against medication, Now I praise the lord for having scientists and can put all these worries , stress etc to sleep.
THANK YOU !
#mentalhealthawareness
Thank you very much for saying this 💜
😊 thank you
Still think about stuff I did when I was a little kid sometimes, and I'm almost 30.
Me too and I'm 60.
Rach Wait, fetal?
yeah i've had worse stuff,but a thing i found funny was when i wasn't feeling great the school nurse measured 37 degrees,let me go home,at home my mom basically told me ,you ain't sick lets check your temp,then 15 minutes after i went home(i lived like 5 minutes from school) i walked passed the nurse and principle being like oooh the thermometer was wrong,.... wasn't traumatic but idk why i felt real dumb about it.
And feel terribly embarrassed by them. Still.
Me too and I’m 32
Does anxiety also have to do with thinking everyone hates you, even though they don’t? Or if you feel very lonely but you have so many friends around you? I’ve been dealing with this and I want to understand what’s happening to me
Update: I have anxiety :,) and it got worse over the 9 months aaaa
Yup!
same :-,/
Yes
That was my experience too. Out of sight, I assumed that my friends were better off without me, and/or that they were just putting up with me and didn't want to hang out with me more than necessary. It made me question whether or not I was a good person, since I doubted my friends for no apparent reason. One thing that helped me a great deal is "flipping the script" and asking yourself if you actually secretly hate your friends when you're spending alone/down time. And if not...more than likely your friends are just spending their alone time too (hell, they might even be wanting to hang out).
Anyway, I didn't mean to make this about me, only to say that it really does gets better and easier. Don't be too hard on yourself, and if you can bear it, open up to your friends sometimes about these feelings (ideally not in the heat of the moment). Those that care about you will stay, and those are ones worth keeping.
Angela Mou i’ve only been open to one of many friends, and i feel like its time to be open to more, thanks to your comment :)
_this was a personal callout, and that's on having a panic attack over buying milk_
i had a panic attack because i walked away from my mum in the street and couldn't find her not even a minute later-
I had a bad panic attack because lunch was served before the normal schedule...😫
P.S. I recently discovered that the lunch was not the reason..I was already suffering from anxiety since yrs ..which had gotten worse lately so I guess 😓
I had a bad trigger form at my job.
Im a cashier, and our high traffic register had a malfunction in the card reader. I was on that register. My supervisors made me stay there and suspend every transaction with a card.
3 weeks later and I still can't go on that register, even though the card reader was replaced, without having to go home early or hide in the bathroom
I also once had a panic attack because of milk, but it was because I couldn't find it in the aisle it usually was. They rearranged the shop.
I got a panic attack walking down a hallway in school 😅
I swear that is all that happened and nothing else was on my mind other than, "that stranger bumped into me"
It starts getting ridiculous how relatable every single point is
It's like they just described all the habits, I hate so much about me...
Same
Same but it’s not a good mindset to have
I was just diagnosed with anxiety, but I am part of a lot of school events where I was to public speak. It's very hard but I'm proud of myself everytime I'm done.😁
That's amazing Anna. Despite your anxiety, you are doing so much. What advice do you have for someone in your shoes?
@@Psych2go probably that it will pass no matter how many times you think about it. It happened, you did your best, you did great, and it is over.
Anna I have it too, but your lucky you can handle it well, I feel very tense at school but can keep it together, I’m shy so not many people talk to me, and I’m still kinda shy in my friend group, so I don’t talk to people much, and it gets really lonely, even tho I’m shy I still wanna talk to people, but I get scared I’d get in peoples way, and I’m bad at starting conversations, I get super depressed and want to commit suicide really bad, social situations really wear me out, but doing school work at home because of Corona has really helped me a lot😁
@@aperson8724 I can understand that, it took a long time to talk to my friends like others do. I felt like I needed to hide my true self. But I was able to find great people and a counselor who actually wanted to listen. One day you can find people like that too, or might take longer but when it comes you will be so happy and will never regret not coming this far. So just take it one day at a time till you get there.🧡
That's really inspiring. Thank you Anna! :)
even though i'm diagnosed, there's so many people i would send this to just to show them that even if it doesn't seem like i have anxiety on the outside, you can never know what's going on on the inside.
Yea, I got diagnosed a few months ago and I just thought I was shy and it was normal for the longest time.
exactly,, people think they're so "uwu quirky and relatable" because they have "anxiety" when they actually don't and they don't know what its like to live in constant hell
ikr! sometimes i feel like my friends think im faking it
And...I’m the opposite... 🙄 I wouldn’t want to send this to people. I would feel like I’m getting attention and I just don’t wanna show people the real me. I put on a front and act like I’m confident, bubbly, outgoing and happy all the time. None of my friends even know I have anxiety. I never talk about my problems to friends and I have NEVER shown I am sad in front of them. People have even said to me, “how am I always happy?” Or “I have never seen you sad.” Only my family know, and they are the only ones that know I have anxiety. Am I just different to most people? urgh 😒
Kels X no that's totally ok!! some people are just more open about it and it's not something to be ashamed of! i didn't tell my friends for the longest time but i felt like they deserved to know why i act the way i act and what my triggers are and they're actually very helpful! they keep me calm and help me take a breath when i'm having an attack or getting a flare up.
I'm crying for how accurate this is.
same ❤️
Dont cry hun , I have herbal solution that you can take by mouth.
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Lol i have the same name as you
@@srcrz718 Oh! I'm surprised to find someone with a same name as mine. Where're you from?
Me too :")
I had very high anxiety but it has been getting a whole lot better. I think sometimes the “waiting for someone to text back” and “old conversations in your head” might be something people deal with even if they don’t have anxiety. I used to turn down social events, even though I didn’t need to or know why. But I realize, anxiety is like walking around with an umbrella, waiting for it to rain (when it’s so sunny out!) I don’t know if you believe in the Bible or not, but Matthew 6:34 says, “Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.” Meaning, therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will take care of itself. And that was another problem I used to deal with, worrying about tomorrow. Phew. So much anxiety for no reason! Just take a deep breath in… and exhale. And I remember these things:
I am alive. I see three things; my room door, my fan, and… hmm.. my pillow. I hear the rain outside, I hear the gentle tapping on my roof, and I can hear my little brother running around the house like a headless chicken for fun. I smell three things… my bed sheets smell like lavender, my shirt smells like food, and my room had a wood-y smell to it.
I am healthy. I eat healthy, my body is strong, and I help it get strong by going for a walk each day, or doing a simple exercise every day.
And lastly, I am beautiful. There’s inner beauty and outer beauty. I am both. I am kind, interesting, and funny, and unique. I like my eyebrows, and my crooked smile.
Just little things like these can help, guys. And (again, I don’t know if you believe in God or not) I pray for God to help me with my anxiety. I go in detail what I get anxious for, and it’s funny; sometimes I don’t even know what I get anxious for! In those times, I tell the anxiety in my head “Oh, just stop it. You want me to get anxious for no reason? Whaaaaat? Nope! Go away.”
It takes some practice, but you can train yourself to make it go away. I have been training myself little by little, and seeing results makes me really happy.
Thank you for this because I truly needed it today 😊
This comment is beautiful man... thank you for this!!!
“you’re unforgiving”
me: ha to myself
“to yourself”
me: i-
Haha the exact reaction I had
Me: I’m definitely not going.... but I still want to be invited.
Same
Yes, it's even worse if you can't say no! So true.
Right?!
Yeah, it's like "I don't want to socialize but I want friends"
This makes it hard on some of us. I have a family member who tells me they don't enjoy social gatherings, they don't want to impose on "my family" by making me feel like I have to invite them for every birthday(they live next door). On the other hand said person gets hurt feelings when I do not invite them for birthday cake(even though they cannot eat it). I am between a rock and a hard place with them sometimes. Do any of you have any advice?
“Do you relate with anything listed here?” Actually I relate to *every single one*
Which one was the most relatable to you?
sameeeee.
@@Psych2go Yes.
Same!
Same
I am a veteran, served three tours overseas, Iraq & Afghanistan. I am now a civilian Firefighter/Paramedic. I check every one of these boxes. Some don’t believe that I have anxiety because I “hide it so well” and I’m extremely good at my chosen career, but sometimes it eats me up inside.
I'm so confused. I thought everyone felt like this all the time.
Everybody does to different degrees
Some what yes
EXACTLY!!!
I did too
Most people do but it might be cos of other reasons like low self-esteem or just laziness
“Don’t worry that your friends aren’t texting back... there probably asleep and their phones on mute!”
My brain: “but what if?”
so truee
I get so scared they're not okay haha
@@periwinkle1651 Me too and i end up spamming them with ARE YOU OKAY YAH WHERE ARE YOU HELLO EXCUSE ME
RIGHT?! Like I convince myself they are in a horrible car crash. Or if my parents come home late by like 30 min, I JUST KNOW that they got hurt and I may never see them again. I also know that I’m just paranoid so I don’t tell them which WOULDNT BE THAT HARD and THEY CAN TELL ME IF THEYRE GONNA BE A LITTLE LATE SO I DONT FREAK OUT!!! Anyways, anyone else wanna overshare on the Internet??
Literally me
“Do you relate to any of the things listed here?”
*Literally every single one*
Me: ooookay then...
HopelessWanderer same
HopelessWanderer literally
Sameeee
Yep I do all that too
ALL‼️
This video absolutely describes me. I exhibit every action and trait. It's so hard to get folks that do not suffer from it to understand.
Whoever is reading this...keep going. Trust the process and never give up on you. 🙏❤
beautiful of you to write this in the midst of us anxious people relating to everything listed.
process?
"the process" is responsible for it all in the first place. personal agency is necessary.
@@Rin-ig3ci yes nothing is fixed. The only possible way is if you think it so
What is the process? How do you dial it back?
Me: Has literally all the symptoms
Also me: It's fine, I'm fine I'll just keep watching vidoes at 4:15am to distract myself because quarentine has made me go crazy.
Same here! Quarantine has been making many of us feel down. What do you plan to do when this is over?
@@Psych2go Honestly probably get help, I'm currently suffering
Wbu?
I think I might go to a coffee shop and people watch for the whole day!
@@Psych2go How about a video on how to cope with Quarantine when you have Anxiety and/or Depression?
Me too.
As someone who’s diagnosed with extreme anxiety, the first thing people say when I tell them is:
“Woah, but you’re so calm?”
“Are you sure?”
“But you don’t seam like it-“
Like- How I suppose to respond to that??
Well, as you know, it is something going on inside you. You're constantly struggling with yourself and your actions. I would tell them that. :')
You could remind them that is the point of a hidden disability/illness. I have had to remind alot of people of this on a regular basis, and still do. I would say it gets easier but that would feel like hearing a lie, so instead I will simply say that other people can't know what you are going through if they themselves haven't been through it so to help them be honest with yourself and them and they may at least begin to understand to a certain extent one day. Kia Kaha (stay strong /stand strong in māori)
Its like Elsa said, 🎵I've always been a fortress, cold secrets deep inside🎵
Elsa's powers are alot like Anxiety or have caused her to have it. She panics deep inside about everything, feeling like everything is her fault, that she'll hurt or has hurt someone, her emotions are swirling around in her and it hurts, and that's she's a stupid, dumb person that was born for no reason. Which is *not* who she is, she's *absolutely amazing,* I *love her* so much.
Holy, I wasn’t expecting to get genuinely helpful responses- Thanks! :)
“Well, you see, sometimes I let the little rat on my head move around my hair like in Ratatouille, and I don’t get to choose what my face looks like.”
Over two decades of therapy and yet a 7 minute video can more effectively sum of everything I'm feeling and just totally gets me. *literal jaw to floor omg*
"it sucks any enjoyment or intrigue out of meeting someone new"
Me: Wait, people find that enjoyable??
Same. "Wait, what was that name? Oh, I should look them in the face. Do they think I'm staring? Ugh, my posture sucks. Do they think I'm making fun of their posture? Should I tell them my relatable story, or will they think its stupid or I'm trying to get attention... Let me go refill my drink."
!!!!
So they say...
Can't believe it either. Must be some conspiracy theory, I suppose...
Despite relating to literally each and every single one of these, I can never say I have anxiety because i feel like self diagnosing myself without going to a doctor isn't valid. At some point i think giving myself that label will only hinder me from getting better because i would be too fixated on the things i can't do or the things i feel overwhelmed by. I feel like it would also be disrespecful to the many people who experience anxiety on a detrimental level, and find it difficult to cope with whereas my 'anxiety' is mostly manageable (with the occasional mental breakdown every now and then).
I think that a person can suffer from anxiety to a certain degree without being a diagnosed case, meaning that while you might not have it as far as the label goes, you might struggle with the same types of things, and in that case learning how people cope with diagnosed anxiety can still be really helpful even if you don't have it in a strong enough form to be diagnosed.
I have anxiety of this I am sure but I am not diagnosed because I never sought treatment. At first I did not want to use the label with others or myself because it felt fraudulent but using the label has been very positive for me and helped me to forgive myself for all the stuff I did or didn’t do due to anxiety and help me to understand myself and gain some steps to recovery. I still feel a bit fraudulent using the label with others but my anxiety is no less real than anyone else’s and I think helps people to understand me and that I didn’t turn down an invite out of some kind of rudeness or because I don’t like you and When my anxiety becomes too overwhelming to pull of high functioning I feel that because I’ve told people I have a mental health issue I don’t actually feel like people are looking at me like I’m that crazy insane girl that they should stay well clear of.
I have a learning disability anxiety and depression I know how you feel I also fix-at on the things that I can’t do
Everyone can and has anxiety but I personally believe that you should be diagnosed to say you have a disorder. I had my first panic/anxiety attack at eleven years of age I did not know what was happening to me, I was told I was being naughty for 'throwing a tantrum' which is something I'm am not pron to do and for the rest of my childhood I could not figured out why I was such a bad child and couldn't control my 'tantrums' which consisted of hyperventilating, crying and having the overwhelming feeling that I'm about to die. It wasn't until I was eighteen that I finally thought that I might not just be a bad person and that something was 'wrong' with me. I was diagnosed with social anxiety. For the last decade I have been learning how to deal with this disorder. I have found that by learning and understanding what is going on in my own head has helped my find ways to cope and manage my anxiety. I still have plenty of problems with silly things like going to the grocery store just to buy food but I now have the skill and mental tools to get me through it, instead of of just sitting at home crying because im a failure as a human being. I apologise I don't know why you comment struck a cord with me. I guess I just don't want you to feel that you just have to suffer with your anxiety like i used to and that there are ways and people out there to help make you life just a little bit easier. Now I'm going to go and obsess over that fact that I just posted this lol
What's the difference between you checking off a checklist and a doctor checking off a checklist?
I have had crippling anxiety my entire life. However, it seems as time goes on, I’m too exhausted to even have anxiety anymore. I probably still suffer from it, but I literally don’t have the mental or emotional capacity to process or analyze shit anymore. I don’t know if that’s a good or bad thing...I just know it’s nice not having to obsess over my thoughts, feelings or behaviors anymore.
Welcome to DepResSiOn :D ... Sucks I know. - When you don't even have the spoons to be upset anymore.
life has always been so exhausting honestly
Same thing here, but I feel like I'm getting dumber as time goes on as well
RustySpoons This offers hope, thank you.
I've had it all my life too. I didn't know "functioning anxiety" was a thing. Everyone always called me a "worry wart" all of my life. Now I know I have a problem.
Absolutely every single one of these things I do. I knew I had anxiety, but now I'm 100% overly sure. It might even outweigh my severe depression. I know the depression is sort of caused by being exhausted from my anxiety. Anyway, I'm glad TH-camrs have all kinds of good content to share.
I started crying to the last few ones, I didn't want to remember those thoughts and actions in the past, but I did and still do... I don't have diagnosed anxiety, but I'm sure I do by the way I'm basically scared to do anything mostly due to misjudgment from people who don't truly know me.
The courage to be disliked is a good book for this problem x
Same here
Them: you'd keep yourself busy, maybe not productive, but busy
Me: FUU-
yeah,me trying to make some dumb project reading on it for a bit and then not doing it cause i slip on it(way too many)
I distract myself all the time and I know I do because I catch myself doing it and then I stare into space thinking about things that kinda hurt
Ugh I really hate this and I'm doing it now
All the time, I can't stand sitting still but when I try to stay busy doing things I enjoy, it just gets me down.
that's so me expesaly latley. my therapist told me to destract myself when stressed but i took that to an unhealthy level
Does anyone ever get nervous about how they look when they’re walking in public🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
I feel like everyone is more beautiful than me sometimes even though I’m should be ok with how I look but I’m focused on what people think as they pass me on the street
Me , Everytime I'm outside home
So nervous when walking on the street now that I have a vast collection of fine clothes and shoes that I hardly ever wear just in case while travelling as a pedestrian who doesn't own a car some stranger thinks I am giving away free hugs and maybe more to strangers in the dark after 4:30 pm here in the winter still while I am already at over age 60 again. The nervousness that I might be getting seen the wrong way sometimes maybe finally started at age 45 or so when the local parish priest stopped and asked me once where I was going while I was out walking to church and then after I got in his vehicle after he asked me where I was going and then offered me a ride to church then looked at my heels and then said with over concern in his voice, "I was not going to let you walk all that way in THOSE kind of shoes."
others seem to think you mean looks/beauty but if you mean gait/ step stride. I do all the time. I feel like I'm being judged and I tense up so much that I feel like I must look like the nutcracker walking.
@@macdan22 ya that’s exactly what I mean. I didn’t mean beauty. I meant I start to overthink how I’m literally walking and then feel like I look even more weird 😂😂. I feel you
1. You turn down things you want to go to. Check!
2. You dislike having to meet new people. Check!
3. You're uncomfortable with slow responses. Check!
4. You get very little sleep. Check!
5. You fixate on the tiniest details. Check!
6. You get hung up on old conversations. Not so much
7. You're unforgiving. Not so much
8. You constantly compare yourself to others. Check!
9. You're a constant people-pleaser. Check!
10. You need to keep yourself busy all the time. Check!
11. You get very anxious about the future. Check!
12. You always focus on the worst case scenario. Check!
it`s kinda scary that i can realate to almost everything in this list...
Seriously this is freaky 😳
Its mostly textbook symptoms
“you fixate on tiny details”
“you get caught up in past convos”
me: *thinking about the thing I said around my crush 1 year and a half years ago, how much i tipped at the ice cream shop last month, and how i cried when i got made fun of at a football game in 6th grade*
me: well...
That and meeting new folks, feeling pressured to say something in conversations, even when there is no pressure, and focusing on the worst case scenario are the ones I to Identify with. Though I'm not convinced its due to high functioning axiety.
Not really anxiety. That's natural to be fair
Laura Elizabeth I keep thinking about how I let my former best friend to have my McDonalds drink just to keep him happy and now I’m stressed that I waste too much money on making my friends happy
>1 year
I'm still thinking about high school
Arosaki I feel like that too sometimes.
Narrator: "You're unforgiving..."
Me: *shaking my head* "No, actually I'm very forgiving-"
Narrator: "To yourself."
Me: "Ow"
One thing about being hyper aware of having Anxiety-like symptoms is that you start questioning whether or not you actually do have Anxiety or if you're just unconsciously doing them to get people's attention.
That's what I feel every time Anxiety and Depression gets brought up 🙃
I be doodooin in my shorts
“6: You get hung up on old conversations”
wait, DOESN’T EVERYBODY DO THAT OR DO I JUST HAVE HIGH FUNCTIONING ANXIETY-
lizlimethelemon this can actually happen to everyone. it becomes a problem if it prevents you from having a "normal" life.
Nah most people have it at some point.
Is it something that happens on occasion or a regular fixation b/c that’s where the difference lies. I will go over & over old conversations in my head, replaying & analyzing them, thinking of what I could’ve done differently, what did the other person really mean when they said such & such thing, etc. Also, it really doesn’t help that I have a pretty good memory, (not photographic or anything like that), and so I remember exact phrases, body language, etc.
i remember it was such a struggle for me to be diagnosed with anxiety because i was so used to anxiety, i thought everyone experienced it, so when i would do weird little things, my psychiatrist would end up being confused because i showed no external signs of anxiety, and i would never describe any internal feelings because i thought it was normal, luckily my psychiatrist is a smart man and tried an anxiety medication as a way of testing the waters, sure enough little things were easier, i could walk downstairs without being scared of my parents, i could communicate with others more frequently, and so on so forth
I sought help for depression and the social worker suggested I had anxiety. I never even considered it before but it makes sense in retrospect. It took some time to wrap my head around the idea though. It used to be.... normal. just the way things were. It's been a very Plato's cave kind of experience.
I've been wanting to reach out for help because I have a very strong suspicion, no certainty that I have anxiety but I don't know if it's anxiety or just regular fear that's stopping me. Like that doubt inside of me is thinking like "oh what if all this is normal" and "what if they don't believe you" or "what if you over exaggerate or undermine how bad it actually is"?
@@csillakaszas7285 yes exactly, it's such a strange concept until you realize- "oh.. i just had anxiety", and i'm glad you are able to recognize it because i agree, it can be very confusing haha
@@MelodySnowflakeVA from personal experience, people who focus in the field of psychology are pretty good at guiding you through these worries, and something an old therapist once told me: "everyone has their own things they need to work on, so there is really no risk in speaking to a professional", so if this has been something that you see affects your life, take a deep breath, and begin looking for professionals that fit your needs, because it can be anxiety inducing at first, and it can also change your life for the better in the end
lentil soup thank you, this is something that has really been worrying and affecting me for a very long time. It's nice to hear from someone who has actually been diagnosed and seeked help. At this point I'm seriously considering reaching out to a professional, I have for over a year now so I might actually do it
I’ve overcome a lot of these things in the past years. It did take counseling, and meds temporarily until I was able to learn breathing and exercises and how food and exercise affect moods. It was a total lifestyle change. Looking back, I can see I’ve come a long way. Thanks for sharing!
“You’re uncomfortable with slow response” or just no response at all. That’s completely accurate for me. I haven’t been diagnosed but I told my mom about this. One of my close friends told me I have anxiety. Whenever I want to text someone, I just couldn’t do it. My hands will shake, my heart will pound rapidly and my palms are going to get sweaty. I’d always think that they wont response to me because they’ll probably think I’m boring, useless, or unimportant.
You're not alone
Even for your friends? I mean if it's a crush I can get it.
Your friends are your... friends! You can be silly around them. You can ask for stupid thing or send ridiculous gifs. They're not supposed to judge you and think of you as a weirdo. If you think they will or they already have, maybe they're not your true friends.
I understand that slow answers are frustrating. But at the same time my self, I haaaate feeling pressured to answer right back.
@@Nesterou Believe it or not, it's not actually helpful for a person with anxiety to tell them how they are supposed to feel.
@@NortheastGamer I'm not saying he should do this or that. Just saying facts that his friends are supposed to accept him no matter what. I was saying this in case he's with the wrong people who might judge him for small things.
I really felt that :'c
Sometimes I think that, and is not nice, at all u.u
'Cause people might be busy or just forget (due to they tend to gett distracted very easily), if you think about is not that crazy, more rational I would say, then is th brain: "What if...?" And you just start overthinking again.
“Which of these do you relate to most?”
Well cluck man it’s kinda hard to choose when I *relate to all of them on a spiritual level*
"...c'mon! You're gonna meet so many new people!"
Me: "that's the problem..."
I relate to this WAY too much.
I never been diagnosed with anxiety... I did struggle with depression at one time...
I’ve been winning that battle thankfully. But all this with high functioning anxiety... I’m like this. All the time...
Me: I-I'm not anxious...
Also me: **thinking about if I should say hi or hello to my classmate for 10 minutes**
The gym teacher: say here when I call your name. Me: *says here* *contemplates if I said it to loud and wonders why people r looking at me when there not*
I hated thissss
Same, bro
Once a teacher told my class to say "present" and not "here", I was so busy thinking about if I should risk saying "present" or staying with the good old "here" that he had to say my name twice and I was so embarrassed that I still think about it 2 years later.
yep, every time. of course, I often was told people can't hear me when I speak because I have a quiet voice, so yelling was sort of my only option if I wanted to be marked present 😂
This is sooooooo true😁😂😂👍
I think something that people don't understand or realize is that high functioning anxiety is no less serious than low functioning anxiety. Most people (without an anxiety disorder) can relate to a few of these behaviors so they don't see high functioning anxiety as a real disorder and that's just not the case. It's a really misunderstood and underestimated disorder.
Excellent point. Whenever something appears less common, it always takes people forever to understand it.
High functioning anxiety is easy for the outsider to downplay...your not hiding away in bed at 3pm, so to them it's "your fine, what's your problem?"
I agree. Everyone feels anxiety, so they will be able to relate to SOMETHING in this video. However, when it comes to high-functioning anxiety, (as someone who has it and has family memebers who have it) every little thing can start a panic attack or make breathing harder just because you are worried... It can get REALLY bad
Wow, I have been like this ever since I was little. Being hard one myself, comparing myself to others, helping others to the point where I'm like super tired, unable to sleep at night. Talk about hitting the nail on the head. Thank you so much now understand myself a whole lot better now.
6:27 this and the perfectionism and low self esteem/comparing myself to other work together to make my life hell every hour of my day
*has anxiety*
*watches this video, has a ton of these*
me: surprised pikachu face
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This^^^
this comment genuinely made me happy 😁
You have the most amazing, calming voice ever.
Thank you! :)
#11 is one I have noticed appears most frequently as of late after losing family this year, and just generally being fearful of what will happen in the future because at the end of the day our lives are temporary. it’s an extremely scary thought, and I used to be very positive towards the future. i used to be excited about what I will do with my life, but now I’m just afraid of how time changes everything. glad i can finally rest easy knowing why I am the way that I am. thank you so much!
I get mad when people say,
"Omg, I stayed up till 3 a.m. looking at memes, ahah"
And then there's me, who stays up wondering if my friends are actually my friends or if they feel like they have to be.
I also keep myself busy, because I know that if I get stressed with school then I'll go off on a tangent about how I'm so lazy why do I even try my teachers think I'm weird and they wish I was like my brother.
So basically I have the anxiety that basically makes me question my worth based on how everyone sees me and what I do.
HOORAY!!
Beatrice the theatre geek my twin sister and I had the same friends in high school so I spent all of high school wondering if they actually liked me or if they were just my friends bc of her, it was a struggle
“High functioning anxiety isn’t a diagnosable condition”
*Proceeds to spend 7 minutes checking off a list of how to self diagnose high functioning anxiety*
It helps people get to know and recognize the symptoms.
Mongoloid
Leviathan 😂 thank you for this obscure detail I’ll keep it in mind
By diagnosable, they mean that it’s not something that one can get an official diagnosis from a health care professional or that it’s not recognized in the DSM-5. But it’s good to spread awareness of these tendencies to help realize that.
@Jonesy Jonesy hope you're doing ok with whatever it may be you have problems with, and yeah people need to get more professional opinions, cause the number of people just using disorders as excuses is ridiculous. And besides, like you said, you can relate to certain aspects without being completely afflicted.
@@helen1538 yeah true. It's just something I wanted to point out in a bit of good fun.
The amount of times 'high functionning anxiety' is repeated here is making me anxious
SAME
I was like how many times r they gonna say it? is this brain washing? It's the title of the video OKAY WE GET IT 😂😂😂
My ocd wasn't happy lol
I have a worker in my team that is exactly like this and is SO EXHAUSTING! I can't say anything mildly negative or 2 days after he will ask me why did I told him that and if I think he is doing something wrong... or that he has been thinking about this little thing I said last week... always focusing on conflict... and what's worse that he says "well I tend to overthink stuff" and no, it's not just overthinking, he is causing trouble in the team because he double checks what anyone says and specially my instructions.
So if any of you are experiencing this anxiety WORK ON IT, you may be causing trouble with your coworkers because no one is forced to understand or being empathic about your anxiety.
I didn't realize I was deep on anxiety until I noticed that every single day when I arrived to school, before I could talk to anyone, I had to lock myself in a restroom stall for at least 10 minutes which unknowingly was my way to prepare myself to face the day and if I had to interact with literally anyone before doing that I would feel a ridiculous urge to cry or go home for no reason at all.
Very relatable. I used to this during lunch, never realized at the time what I was up to, but now I get it. It's interesting how little things like that make sense further down the road.
wow, i’m kind of just realizing that i did the same thing. i got diagnosed just this february ://
You're probably just introverted.
Instead of trying to hide your time spent by yourself make it an official event and make sure other people respect it.
@@budthecyborg4575 Not sure if you responded to me or MGR131, but I left out the part where I also had trouble breathing (aka building up to panic attack). Am also introverted though! I do think it's almost trendy now to be an introvert or at least to identify yourself as one. Maybe we're moving towards more acceptance though, it's hard to say- but you're right you can absolutely try and explain yourself to other people and hopefully they'll respect your space. In High school though this requires a certain level of maturity so who knows how that will be met by fellow students.
@@gracef8067 Hope you got some support and that the diagnosis might help. Be kind to yourself stranger!
This video actually made me cry because I've been feeling so stuck in all of the things you described …
I just realized this is what I do and I was getting overwhelmed then she was like "you're unforgiving.. to yourself" I was like brooooo then my tears came the end
Me tooooo 🥺😭🥺😭
That's my same reaction...
I feel so called out! 😢 I'm glad I stumbled upon this video. I just wish there are more videos about having HFD / HFA to watch this 2023. Thank you in advance! 🙏
About the people thing, I DO want to meet new people and have friends. The problem is, I can’t do that because of my anxiety. But then when someone comes along and tries being friendly, I shut them down. My brain wants it both ways where I can have a group of friends but also not talk to them ever. Obviously that’s not possible, which only stresses me out even more.
I get you :(
Watching a video to learn about my anxiety gives me anxiety.
Okay I am diagnosed with Anxiety and this is very accurate I feel so called out bruh.
Apple Tree how do you deal with it?
Serendipity I use the coping skills that I was taught in therapy. And I tell my therapist EVERYTHING. You need to tell them everything so they know what is bothering so they can help you. I have a friend who keeps secrets from hers and she hasnt gotten better. If you dont have a therapist heres some coping skills you can do: 1. Grounding. If you feel as if you are going to start crying in class or are about to have a mental breakdown get your mind off of your anxiety. Look at your environment, what do you see? How does the furniture you are sitting on feel? What color is it? What does the place you are in smell like? Etc. Coping skill #2 Think about what the usual aftermath is after you worry about something. Usually after I have a mental breakdown I realize a bit after that it wasnt as bad as I thought it was. So keep that in your mind. Its not as bad as you think it is. #3 try your best to surround yourself with people and/or pets. Try your best to not be alone with your thoughts. I get that it may be a bit difficult considering the quarintine rn so that one you dont have to do. #4 pick up a hobby. I am an artist and art calms me down a lot and it keeps my mind off of things :)
Same aa
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I’m so grateful for this channel. I immediately shared it to a few loved ones to help gain their understanding of my ADHD! I even shared it to my Facebook page as well. Can’t wait for your next video. I even made sure to turn my notifications on hoping not to miss any of these informative videos.
I never really hate meeting new people, in fact I love meeting new people. I’m just really nervous while meeting these people
Same. Im anxious about that they are going to hate me 😅
One would say... anxious
An extrovert with anxiety...
@@jean_the_bean Right 😂😅
@@buntekarotte makes it all kinda odd 😂😕
Happy World Autism Day
Happy World Autism Day! :)
Happy World Autism Day!
A day were hopefully people start to learn more about that effects a lot of people
Happy World Autism Day!
I forgot it was Autism Awareness Month. I'm on the spectrum, and I am one of the high functioning people with autism. It might not seem like I have autism, but there are times that one could tell.
This video basically explains me. Sometimes I replay embarrassing or upsetting moments in my head until the make me cry, I tell myself I hate myself when I make the tinyest mistake, and I prepare for the worst possible scenario, even if it's just asking my mom for more screen time.
I'm not afraid of meeting new people because they have no expectations of me. I feel more anxious around family because they know me and I feel like I've never measured up to their expectations.
"you constantly compare yourself to others"
*Omg you got me* :')
*same* 😔
Yay.
@@Sara-kl3lk It's fun, isn't it?
@@lolno2327 yeah
Me too lmao
The one with thinking about the future, I LITERALLY JUST THOUGHT ABOUT IT. I thought about how the future will be and how technologie will take over and if we still have a long time living on this earth.. i'm so currious tbh
Her: you get very little sleep
*Me at 3AM watching TH-cam*
its 4AM i beat you
Galaxy SPLAT it’s literally 3:49 am
3:50 for me
Omg 3:55
3:10 AM for me
This was well done. Especially the pessimist part. People constantly call us or myself negative. When actually preparing for what was logical n actually happened. Her voice was perfect.
This video arrives at the best timing! I was having an anxiety attack yesterday after starting my new job while WFH and having to contact new people. Honestly, it's the smallest thing for most people, but to me being the one who makes the first move just turned up my fright level. I have to tell my self to calm down and write a detailed script on how to say hi to my new coworkers.
This pandemic really got me to know a lot more about my psychological fears and personality I haven't diagnosed before.
The quickest time I’ve got here! I love this channel!!! So informational, keep it up!!
Nice was literally trying to find some anxiety videos because my anxiety seems to be getting worse lately and I relate to all of these
same... I think it's the quarantine or something.. because you're not doing your daily routine (I think that's what it is, at least for me)
@@bloodymary6365 yeah I have had anxiety for ages but scince the start of this year it's just gotten way worse. I'm never happy and I dont think it helps that my mother dosent let me have social media (other than YT) and she dosent let me have friends unless she approves of them I have also never been to a friends house and no friends have come to my house.
@@rachaelanderson3928 0-0... aweh I wish I could talk to you so you can have more friend but you dont have social media ;-; and you mom-
@@bloodymary6365 we can talk on youtube but that's about it I wont tell her and it would be nice to at least have someone to talk to during quarantine
@@rachaelanderson3928 oki!..... but how do you do that .-.
Number 11 is a BIG problem for me. Anytime something "major" comes up I literally cannot stop worrying about it. I mean, staying up all night, rethinking and overthinking and bothering my friends and family for reassurance that it'll be alright. But even after revisiting every bad and good outcome in my head for hours I still can't stop stressing until that "major event" is over. 99% of the time it's usually just a small deadline, social interaction, or event.
I literally cannot do anything productive the days leading up to it though. And after it's over, when I finally feel like I can wind down and relax, something new comes up and it's the same cycle over and over again. At this point I don't remember the last time I wasn't incredibly anxious all day. This has been going on for a while and I have no idea what to do..
4:12 “perfectionism” reminds me that as a kid I didn’t answer or even guess true/false questions on a test if I didn’t know because I didn’t want to be wrong.
I swear.
Though I had a good academic life but I wouldn't answer a question mainly because of giving a wrong answer or being called out wrong. I didn't know this until today that it was the anxiety.
Which if these do you relate to the most?
Me: iM oNlY sUpPoSeD tO pIcK oNe?
I still can't get over a spelling mistake I made two weeks ago that a person pointed out AND I COULDNT CHANGE and hhhhhhnghhhhh Nobody cares anymore, of course, but;;;;
I still can't get over a joke I made 2 years ago, and it wasn't that bad, and nobody got offended by it, and probably nobody remembers it
I still can't get over a word I pronounced wrong about 2 years ago during a presentation..
As someone who was diagnosed with severe aniexty both general and social but seeing this video made me realize that I struggle with all of these even when others doubt if I even struggle with any of these issues.
This video has helped me feel better because I honestly thought I was a horrible person for canceling plans due to aniexty or not being able to forgive anyone truly or my self for things that a honestly nit picky at times. I feel seen and also feel like I am not the only one who replays conversations for hours in my head and so on.
Thanks for sharing this, it really helps :)