Life is a Game of Bullshit. This is How You Win | Genevieve Gregorich | TEDxColumbiaUniversity
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- Social scientist Genevieve Gregorich shares how learning how to win at the card game Bullshit helped her succeed in life. In both the card game and life, winning involves the same strategy. And, like any good strategy, it’s not what you expect. Learn the power of truth in a game of deception to unlock your true potential. Genevieve (Vivi) Gregorich is a PhD candidate in Management at Columbia Business School with a focus on Strategy. Her research examines the role of business in society, the interaction between social movements and organizations, organizational reputation management, nonmarket strategy, and zero- sum thinking. She has authored cases on personal strategy and innovation with a focus on the psychological conditions that generate innovative ideas and the political processes that push ideas through corporate and bureaucratic labyrinths. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
I'm reminded of a quote: "honesty is a privilege for the strong".
Being honest is what gives us strength. However, just like going to the gym, it requires ‘good form’ or else we risk injury. Right words. Right timing. Right intention.
Life is not a zero-sum game. When we are all honest and authentic, we are all better off.
Don't be afraid to be different. Your unique perspective is what makes you irreplaceable.
The most important thing is to find your own treasure. What lights you up? What gives your life meaning?
Don't be afraid to take risks and step outside of your comfort zone. That's where the real growth happens.
I was put on the "b" team. They chose the "a" team based on physical attributes. Us kids on the "b" team all became good friends. We ended up playing against the "a" team in a tournament and crushed them, and went on to win the tournament. We had a common ground which was being looked down on and used that to our advantage. We become the better team 😊
Sometimes glass glitters more than diamonds because it has more to prove.- Terry Pratchett
Great story there. I like to hear stories about underdogs overcoming obstacles and succeeding
We're you the mighty ducks?
@@robocombo Hah!
@@jimg398misfits or underdogs banding together to overcome the opposition is borderline cliché nowadays....
Wonderful! It reminds me of a poem called The Garden:
Roll up your Sleeves
Pull the Weeds
Plant the Seeds
See them Grow
Water the Seeds
Clip the Leaves
Trim the Trees
Let them Grow
Hear the Bees
Touch the Trees
Feel the Breeze
Enjoy the Show
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“When you do what lights you up, that’s treasure!”
Epic!
One of the best talks I ever listened to. Authentic and inspiring! Thank you!
You ARE joking right?
@@canonicalcriticBS!
This talk reminds me book called Why greatness cannot be planned: The myth of the objective (authors K.O.Stanley, J.Lehman). So i would like to recommend it to Genevieve Gregorich and also to you as a stepping stone to even greater discoveries.
This spoke directly to me and made me cry. Ever had a moment you know you'll remember for the rest of your life? This was one of mine. 🙏
Wow That’s incredible
In addition to all adults - and all parents - I think a lot of students in middle schools, high schools, and colleges need to hear these messages as part of their required curricula. It's what I think.
"...Can't help the hand we're dealt. But we can greatly improve on it...."
Wonderful talk. Im 62 and wonder after seeing all kinds of peoples stories I can only imagine if every 8th grader on revisits your take on honestly living our own life. So glad your team mate called BS. Enjoy the new year. I could not find any more of your talks.
I like this talk bc she explains how a game can teach a life lesson. I like doing the same thing. I have this card game called Hanabi. Each player plays with their hand facing outward, and they can’t see their own hand. I want to do a TED talk on Hanbi now 😂
This is one of the most powerful presentations I have ever seen. The choice of subject matter shows real genius.
People lie because they are scared. They are scared of themselves, either what they have done or what they might do. This irrational fear is a form of shame, which is the root cause of every lie ever told.
Really? People never lie out of greed. Seems I've heard a few.
I don't think shame is the root of every lie either. Greed, as the other commenter said, arrogance, compassion, hurt, anger all fuel lies too. I think you're closer with fear than shame & don't really see how they're linked? But I'd be intereested to hear your take on it if you want to discuss?
thats why trump lies. hardly fear is the motivator
16 minute definition of integrity
For the coach maybe…
We all aim to be the image accepted by others or hear them at least with clean Ears.... great speech!! (no Bs).
The econ god story is a classic of example of fixed mindset verse growth mindset. You were labeled econ God, praised by how smart you were, and so anything that exposed yourself as less than that was a risk you weren't willing to take. So it meant you stopped growing. Classic example of fixed mindset. But of course you broke through to the growth mindset. Great talk
What a great talk!
as an autistic person this is really true. very helpful talk!!
Insightful. Let's celebrate divergent thinking and diversity so we can learn something from everyone. That's my treasure. Be well.
Life’s journey has turned into a chase for success over living in peace with oneself. It’s all about getting ahead , which reminds me of the story of the rabbit and the turtle. No big wonder why there are so many people with mental problems.
Good TEDX, good insight, good presentation, good philosophy, good media.
Scratch good, GREAT.
Yes! Haven't heard a TED Talk this great in a long time! ❤
I don’t get it, why can’t people just be honest? People are over thinking life, Just follow your intuition and your heart and you will get there without bs
UCB “If you are not idealistic before 21 years of age your are heartless; if you are idealistic after 21 years of age you don’t have a mind.
It's the status quo to not do so.
@@SandraMartinez-ko5qx do you think it’s possible for people to change?
@@chrisencelan4021 for how long before people wake up ?
Agree, just simplify things n you will find wisdom
I was lucky enough to see this talk live - and it’s just as good the second time. It motivates, affirms, and offers a great guide for navigating life. Thank you!!
Lol Dave Chappelle...I knew you were here!
@@canonicalcriticBS!
@@CesarGamezT you’ve scanned through the comments and called “BS” on every one of my comments. It’s done nothing for you except make you validate the notion that you’ve adapted to this girl’s strategy and rubbed in it my (critical) face as some sort of brilliant slam dunk. You psychologically are rewarding yourself in ignorance instead of being introspective to determine what you and this girl could have actually done better. You will never “call BS” to anyone outside the confines of this short lived gimmick for the rest of your natural life, meaning that although you’re outwardly displaying a varying support for the girl, your future actions support her message less and less as time passes. Why? Because you’re intellectually lazy, a follower, and because the message is so bad there is nothing to take away from it but just that: a short lived trendy gimmick you can use on intellectually-based critics in the comment sections so that you don’t have understand anything that people who work hard are actually trying to tell you.
Hey, if denial gets you through the night, then so be it; but you might want to listen very carefully to make sure the ice isn't breaking under your feet. One day you might fall out of your depths and out of your mind with your fear flowing out behind you as you claw the thin ice.
Those in power do not like people calling BS on them. It has cost me a couple jobs. It has been a very hard path ... for me.
I feel you!
Ha, me too. Remember that other people do build success on a foundation of deception, and many don't want that pointed out. Be diplomatic.
Really great! This is exactly why I refused and continue to refuse to attend any class reunion ever! The same Highschool mentality was still present, reminding me why I was disgusted then and now!
my higschool reunion is great, my people are just.. open minded now.... thankfully
This talk is absolutely brilliant! This is coming from a 61 year old female. I’m sending to my 20 some thing daughter. Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom!
If you love your "20 something daughter" and want her to succeed...don't send her this.
@@canonicalcriticBS!
@@CesarGamezT you’ve scanned through the comments and called “BS” on every one of my comments. It’s done nothing for you except make you validate the notion that you’ve adapted to this girl’s strategy and rubbed in it my (critical) face as some sort of brilliant slam dunk. You psychologically are rewarding yourself in ignorance instead of being introspective to determine what you and this girl could have actually done better. You will never “call BS” to anyone outside the confines of this short lived gimmick for the rest of your natural life, meaning that although you’re outwardly displaying a varying support for the girl, your future actions support her message less and less as time passes. Why? Because you’re intellectually lazy, a follower, and because the message is so bad there is nothing to take away from it but just that: a short lived trendy gimmick you can use on intellectually-based critics in the comment sections so that you don’t have understand anything that people who work hard are actually trying to tell you.
@@canonicalcriticwhy?
20 something? Tsk tsk...
BIG TALK! 🗣️ overcoming the Ego that religion, parenting and schooling brought upon us.
The CROSS is for us to bear now🙏🏾💪🏾
Hello. When I was little I was bullied in school. At home. I didn't know where I could turn to. I learned that I couldn't depend on anyone for anything. I learned to depend on myself for everything. I learned about the games people play. The manipulations of others were so visible. Once you gave attention you were taken for a ride. You get played with. Teased, and mocked. A game not for the weak of heart. Many times I contemplated committing suicide, because life didn't have meaning, or wasn't useful. Many times I wondeted why my mother gave birth to me if I was going to be a burden on to this world. I thought of myself being the lowest. Others told me so, and still do. This game is being played today by many. I learned too late in life that to win this battle it would take me a mental break down that lasted me 4 months in an asylum when I was 15. I learned the power my brain had over me. Also that words had meaning, and could break you. I broke when I was 15. Died, and rose when I was 26. Learned that the struggles of life are just in your head. I learned to be strong.
Thank you! You eloquently expressed absolute Truth! 🙏
Aim for the highest good, choose to cultivate good values, let go of the outcome, put actions to words, trust the process, and enjoy the ride. 😊
Good talk.
Wish more people could focus just on themselves and be truthful in their experience. Surely they would get farther, but if not further, they would land in a more peaceful place. And peace is more valuable than any amount of material or monetary belonging.
Hey, hey, now. That’s reserved for those of us that aren’t living to impress other people. 😂
The problem is too many people focusing on nothing BUT themselves, and having to moral line in the sand they won't cross to get their petty, selfish wants and twisted desires. They'll run the people who love and trust them most over like speed bumps to get it too.
@@RecycledSoul there is a way to focus on your own issues that don’t involve others while still being caring to those around us.
But I agree in the way that you stated it. Many people focus on themselves in a very self involved fashion too which isolates people around them
That was an amazing talk. Loved every second of it. It is never easy to shade yourself to prove that the old you was wrong, but you did that. Honest and Humble- it really made me rethink what I stand for in this world, rather than what I contribute. Cheers for a wonderful life ahead Gene.
😊😊
She is brilliant. I’d love to meet her and chat. Her perspective is wonderful and really struck me. Thank you
This is the best Ted Talk (for me of course) I have ever heard.
Wow, the intelligence she embodies, the manner of speaking, her passionate delivery, and those amazingly curious eyes of hers are all clear indicators that she's definitely all about knowledge, expanding understanding, and spiraling into any given direction seeking out new possibilities. If nothing is gained from this video, I hope her curiosity and love for information, understanding, and sharing these concepts are adopted at least partially by viewers. Love how she was called econ-god and realized the pitfalls of allowing ego to stand in our way, this woman is truly remarkable and will surely have much more to offer the world as the days and years pass by, her understanding and passion being stoked with each breath.
Well said Matt
Just what I needed to hear today. Thank you for sharing your journey. You have definitely played a part in mine.
For those of us who have dominated at something, this is an exhilarating message. Not all of us are getting, will ever get top grades on an exam, and that’s normal. Don’t forget to celebrate normal.
Awesome presentation. Left me wanting to hear more of your life work. Thank you for sharing your life experiences
Simply brilliant! Wonderful and inspiring talk!
this conversation can help someone whoever is willing to learn
I can tell she was expanding her boundaries in order to give this talk and did a great job! I think she is phenomenal. 👏
Me too.
She obviously gave this a lot of thought and did a great job delivering her message.
This was absolutely brilliant! So many creative connections to help us understand our own treasures & purpose as well as all of the nuance that life holds. Thank you for sharing your creativity with the world!
Loved that card game who knew I could have applied this to my every day life… I will now
I love this TED Talk. What a beautiful soul!
9:05 while I’d’ve agreed with you well into mid end of 2007, everything since has only shown that bullshitters win as I continuously continually lose.
Right
You are not alone. There seems to be no decent place for decent people nowadays.
🙌💯❤️@@Bellasie1
This was one of the most validating and motivating talks I've heard in years. Thank you for sharing.
It was absolutely terrible.
@@canonicalcriticare you this speaker's coach, by any chance?
@@tonibojones no. I’m a highly accredited academic scholar with 3 academic books published, a minority stake in a fortune 2000 company, 5 degrees, and a successful career. This Ted Talk was worth a half cent coin being divided into thirds.
@@canonicalcritic seems like he didn’t pass the audition.
@@canonicalcriticwhat books?
The moment you come to realize that loving others the way we want to be loved above all other priorities and that what others think of us is not our business, we become successful in our souls. Happiness and success comes frim following your true heart. It has nothing to do with our self doubt or the opinions of others.
Best. Ted Talk. Ever.
this is such a unique ted talk! i definitely related to this all the way. knowing the cheat codes of life i.e the persona you have to put on to get what you want, does put you fiercely ahead. But, it sets you back eventually. I think what she is speaking to means finding mentors in all sorts of your life to enhance your hand of cards.
Well done! Thank you for sharing your treasures with us.
Vivi! You are Awesome! Such a great talk. So proud of you!
Be better at life! Good Presentation! Another Great Ted Talk! Many. Thanks. MS. Lady!🎈
Love everything about the message in this talk!😊
This is a great Ted Talk! Definitely a favorite. The presenter has great public speaking skills and is very inspiring.
That was just great. I didn’t have high expectations from the title. I didn’t know what direction it was going to go. She was both brilliant and captivating. That’s definitely getting forwarded!!
Agree. Definitely ideas worth sharing!
So incredibly insightful for a young person. Loved it!
Agreed!!!!
I never thrived if I tried to fit into society. I thrive the most and the best doing things my way. Not be wise it’s better because it’s who I’m and as you say it lights me up. It’s like having wings to fly.
Great talk. Love how candid and logical the concepts are.
❤ Well done! Much admiration for the young folk of today ❤
This was really good. There are some real truths for living life here. It isn't mere platitudes. Thank you.
Brilliant! 💫
a life of worth has gems and jewels leading you onwards.
Headline made me annoyed…but glad I watched! Wise thoughts, easy to relate to. Thank you! ❤😊
Nice work G.G., I'm going to send to my 2 nieces in their early twenties, I think they'll be receptive to listen & learn from you. THANKS!
Thank you for sharing this.
Excellent video / talk. More people need this.
I kinda cried because this is exactly what my Son and every child needs to hear! Well done!! Brilliant!!!!
It’s what everyone needs to hear.
Amazing speech great job Vivi!!!! I’m never playing BS against you
Amazing session!!! Go after your treasures!!!
Brilliant metaphor.
Genevieve, you are a treasure. This is gold, and I suspect you have a heart of gold. Your concept here is beyond exceptional, your delivery outstanding, and honestly this talk brought tears to my eyes. I absolutely love this. Search for the treasure. In every move, in every moment, there is treasure. Priceless. Well done 👏 and thank you so much!!! 💎👑❤
I couldn’t agree more!
So young and yet so wise. It should give all of us more hope for the future knowing that young people like her will be stepping up to lead when we need them to.
Greatness
Great speech! Always gotta be true to yourself.
This is the best Ted Talk that I can remember. Bravo.
Agreed 100%
Thank you! Great video and good message.
Amazing talk! Resonated with me deeply.
Genius! Thanks for this unique approach.
An awesome and very profound speech from a beautifl lady. Thanks for sharing.
Awesome! Such a great talk!!!!❤❤❤❤
You can not control the hand you are dealt, you are correct.... but yo "Can" make the best of what is dealt to you and still come out better than what what you expect. ....look up to yourself, there is no one more important ❤
Impressive!!!! This was really useful for me to hear! THANK YOU! I have been collecting treasures and it feels good when I finally get to play them. ❤
Everything she said had a point. Besides the joke on “it’s a poodle a show dog” everything she said if u listened carefully will benefit u tremendously. What she was ultimately saying “ is how can I ask for directions for a path that’s only destined for u” pick ur cards wisely in this game of life.
Not really. You just pick your cards. Whether or not you lay them down or keep them, and have the same attitude about either, is the game.
She referenced the Show Poodle dog due to her acknowledging that people are trying to be a copy and pasted version of what we believe is the most ideal type of person we can be according to society.
This was a great talk. Thank you❤
Well spoken. 🎉
Great mind, great talk!
This was freaking awesome!
You are wise beyond your years! Great talk can’t wait for more as I figure out how to play these cards…. Lol!
That was awesome, Vivi!
Good job
I didnt know you'd make that connection
Thanks!
Well said.
Agreed
Very eloquent, informative and focused topic speaker! :-)
Amazing talk!!!!
fantastic talk. interesting perspective
Thank you.
Thank you!
Great talk!
Amazing of planning for the games
Absolutely right
Good insight. Thank you.
LOVE!!!
Seems like nowadays part of the template for how to starting a TED Talk is:
1. Start with: So...
2. Insert rest of text
😉
So
I agree about using So - it's a crutch word. Still and all, she gave an insightful speech- good points.
Wow. This is awesome!
LOVE LOVE LOVE