When No Contact DOES NOT Work | 3 Reasons No Contact Is A BAD IDEA!
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- I give you 3 reasons and scenrios that no contact does not work. It's important to understand the reason why you imply no contact rule before you actually do it. A lot of people do it for the wrong reasons and end up hurting the relationship more then anything else. It's important to understand the reason why and why the breakup occured. I know when you experience loss with an ex girlfriend your emotions are hightened but it's important to make sure no contact works if you do it so thats why I created this video. If you are having troubles with your relationship I highly encourage you to download my How To Save Your Relationship Product. This is a manual that will help you have a new understanding of relationships.
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In this video I give you tips on WHEN no contact does not work! I believe no contact is very powerful and works in a lot of situations. In this video I talk about when it shouldn’t be done. :) Enjoy!
So you think if she found out about something from the past about me and another girl I just give her space and try no contact or I should keep trying to talk to her even if she don't want to?
What if she said she needs space? Do I never contact her? I'm worried about her state of mind... she studies away. I think the attraction is gone.
@apollonia ponti what is your opinion on the red pill?
What if you been busy with work .
But she continues not to understand that you do try to reach out to her in between break times? Then gives u the silent treatment.
That's pretty much my predicament. I'm being accused of messing up when I'm not even trying to mess up. So should I be the first to make contact or I should I give her the silent treatment too?
Today I START THE "NO CONTACT" and I really mean it cause she hadn't respond to my Text about "New Orleans Nightmare " spooky event right.. so Iwill initiate it after she gives me a call later on today (if that happens) I'm texting or calling for about 30 or so days.., earlier today I was giving her calls since 2am over 30+ calls, after she said "Ill call you back" the pervious day (friday)But; my calls were literally going straight to vmail (so I'm thinking "man,wtf" she got moi block"?) til about 7am when we spoked briefly (that conversation was very brief, I mean she hung up abruptly and rudely "I'm going back to sleep Ill you back later" *click* I'm like "wtf" I hadn't had my Word" but I wasn't really trippn) my other numbers weren't going straight to vmail the phone would just ring I'm still feeling like "WTF" but we spoke on that during that brief. She was like "My phone was on silent from work" and that she was tired from the commuting back and forth from work, 1hr going 1hr coming back. I can only imagine how tired she's gonna be this coming week w/ Monday not being a holiday this week. But anyway, what I really wanted to say is I truly appreciate the knowledge Miss Apollonia, I'll be booking a session for sure!
If you’re putting in so much effort and the other person isn’t then I agree with no contact, and If someone doesn’t reach out to you over a certain period, they’re not worth your time.
Word.
True. Everything seems to be a mind game because she can be playing hard to get by not trying to reach out to you.
Yup
Best advice for me so far.
If someone does reach out, they're still not worth your time. You choose who is worth your time.
Lost her but found myself . Guys , the first day or two after a break up is hardest. Try working out and eating , Cleaning and resting . And of course Miss Ponti's videos
Continue on your personal development!
Finding yourself is the thing man it's so so goood
Ponti is a very average coach, its all basic stuff you find from all coaches. "abundance mindset" always makes me cringe. Western women are spoiled and thats why men need these videos to translate retarded spoiled female behavior. Men are treated bad and disposable by society and women so OFC men are going to be insecure. I would never fight to protect a modern woman or save her from life problems because they are nothing like previous generations of women. No expectation of honestly or decency. Just had a woman give me her number and then say "busy for two weeks" after a bit of flirting. OOO no I must have flirted the wrong way, I must be a dumb man. I think lying and treating women like trash is the best strategy, you feel good they feel disposable, for once.
@@Holypikemanz partially true,treat her as she deserves,if she sucks,move on,no need to keep her,simply put more value on yourself then you do on her
Ms. Ponti = 👍👍👍
Problem with no contact rule with person who was left is simply giving yourself false hope that your loved one will return. Odds are, he or she wil not .And you just prolong your misery of waiting and hoping where in reality it's time to cry, dust yourself up, stand up and move on.
Spent 9 years in relationship, we had a deal we will tak about month after break up, as you can imagine, we never did. She found new guy and i found new love and i guess both are way happier ( at least i know i am) than i ever was with her.
Don't end up being stuck in limbo of false hope and pinky-dream scenarios where your loved one will call you to tell you how wrong he was. Even if he or she is, their ego will probably stop them. People are too egoistic to admit mistake. Take a time to heal, learn how to love yourself more, improve and work on yourself and move on. Wish you luck.
Bro I agree fully, I understanding your story, ego ego ego
The false hope part of no contact is the worst your right bro
Very true my friend false hope is the worst
I am dying to know how you are doing now and how is your ex doing, 9 years is like a marriage
Everybody is different. Plain & simple, if you really meant something to them then they'll come back at some point. Just no telling when. And it probably won't be in the time frame you want them to.
Facts
All facts
Seen this a couple of times myself,
When I reluctantly broke up with my ex, I didn't do it for ego or to mess with them. I just went no contact and worked towards moving on and that's even with the ex meaning something to me. I choose to never go back. Its been eleven years and I am married to my new husband Frank. I'm glad for being strong to walk away.
But maybe by that time we won’t want them anymore. After she been through everyone? Dated multiple guys? I’ll be good she can reach out but will be a waist of time for her.
People need to forget the games or "process" of relationships. Nothing beats honesty. If a woman is toxic dump her as fast as possible. If you are the jerk, either change or let her go.
I agree with you 100% 👏👏👏👏👏! Thank you sir!! I am glad you are strong!
Thank You! That has worked in the past and it still works now. Try playing games, I'm out!
TeeJae84 depends on how you define game. If games means intentionally manipulating I’m out. There are some core values of civilized humans which don’t depend on the gender. Honesty and integrity. Being honest doesn’t mean to cry and beg cause that would disregard integrity and self-respect. But nothing wrong in letting her know that you feel heartbroken or miss her without a hidden agenda of making her feel sorry for you or guilt trip. It’s actually a sign of courage and internal strength that despite your pain you can hold your frame. On the long term old fashioned values like honesty , integrity and patience will pay out. If it doesn’t with that specific woman she definitely wasn’t the one you want to be involved with for more than sex or an affair.
that's not how attraction works 🤦🏻♂️😂 although honesty is very important
I'm going to change. There's no fucking way I'm letting her go
This makes you wanna stay single. All of these tactics we have to be aware of just to date someone
I feel you so fucking exhausting. I’m just going to focus on me now.
You know that’s so true, I’ve been searching a long time for a mutually passionate women and it’s hard as hell to find. I’ll go to my grave single if I can’t find the perfect match.
I share a feeling with you... as if she's the road to paradise!
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Lol I agree. No one said relationships were easy. If you put in the work, you will reap the rewards.
She gone. I'm moving on seeking me. I am not looking for a lady friend. I'm seeking enhancement and employment now.
Good evening ms,how do you empower a woman as a man
Great indeed
Good Job
I'm sorry to hear that, I went thru the experience, and it's really disheartening and frustrating. A woman who leaves you and doesn't really respect you or appreciate your good qualities is an ingrate and cold hearted. A woman who won't take the time to get to know you either is not worth YOUR time. Best of luck to you, brudah. I'm about done with women myself, no matter how hard or how many ways you try to convince them that you love them, it's useless. They will never listen to you or your heart. It's the sad truth.
How did it turn out
I'm sorry but women should put in some effort period.
Josh Herrington lmao
lol
They feel their pussy is a prize to earn and work for
@@themadrapper101 ok incel
Any woman with self worth and knows what she wants, will, if you're worth it.
Get a dog: they're always loyal.
And they teach you how to handle women ;D
I've listened to a lot of dating gurus like this and just love these sort of comments, respect for this dating guru.
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@@mkschreder Those are cats for us men !!! BIG differene, dogs teach women how to handle men !
She took the dog with her :(
Once they go, let them go, if they come back put them in any other category, but not the "She's a keeper," one!!!
That's a good way to expend "no contact" time, caring of yourself. I like to think it's a way to put my feelings back together and see the things with a "cold down heart" and giving myself some space.
She lost her feelings for me.... so I lost her number
That's right! And you better keep it that way!
Damn if that doesn't sound like my experience.
So you would rather have someone lie to themselves and you just to stay in a relationship.... makes sense
Amen
That’s a good one and right about the lossing feelings part
A lot of things have been manifesting during this period of no contact. I’m learning how to do basic labor around the household. I got a new, better paying job. And I’m working on getting back into school.
I’ve also deleted all of my social media apps because I made a habit of checking in on (stalking) her different accounts; I realized that it was kinda clouding my mind and bringing out unnecessary anxiety for me. But things are looking up for me now. I really do pray that she reaches out.
Preferably sooner than later, but it’s all in God’s timing I guess lol
Social media is a waste of time it’s a big distraction
Im with you here brotha
did she reach out dude?
Did you all get back together?
Any update bro? I did the same thing finished my ged going to college got a better job deleted all social media
Cheated on me for 6 months emotionally and physically, after we lived together for 4 years I put her through school supported her low self-esteem esteem, she had no social skills and damn near no life skills. In short I was an idiot, SEE the signs gentlemen and protect yourself.
Next time dont give too much
Wow Travis that's painful, your story makes me appreciate being single
Matthew 11:28
Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.
Yeah, I'm learning right now, how to not give to much
You left her a better person that she was before...so no need to be bitter..
When a woman is independent and you give her long periods of no contact, it can show that you are your own man and make her want you more. It lets her have her identity yet confirms that you also own yours. This can actually strengthen the relationship and make time together more focus and intense!
I needed this advice, thank you.
No contact has never worked
@@robd1859 Well, it has. It just hasn't worked for you cuz you prolly fuck it up
Oh, this isn't about mental and emotional abuse. This is that glamorous thing called 'on a break' like in Friends. I still need to get to that stage of finding a significant other, before I decide to not be with them for a while...
I know one exactly like that where I work I gave her my number 2 days ago, she's not bothered to get back to me in that time, not even a quick hi in 36hrs. I understand people have commitments which is fine so I'll leave it a bit longer and unless she makes the effort to say hi in person then I will just ignore her also. Two can play at that game. I'm more than happy to let her have all the space she wants, there are so many attractive girls where I work. I've put a few weeks of effort in but more than prepared to walk away if she can't even find 30 secs to send a txt in 36hrs.
The gym has been my best friend while in NC ! I refuse to break NC
Any update. I'm in the gym too my man
Nice work keep it up ..when I lost a woman I didn’t no where to turn so instead of hitting the bottle like when I was 19 .. I just started building stuff with tools 🧰 ⚒️
Thank you so much, I took the time to breath, regroup my thoughts and I had to remember that before her I was doing things and I was happy. I also saw that she was going out and that made me feel good because she truly deserves it. We started talking, but I really want to take my time with it 🥰
Its about finding someone who's into you just as much as your into them. Don't look back when the other person comes around later, avoid them for your own sake. No one needs an emotional roller coaster its bad for one's self esteem.
You deserve a happy and healthy relationship!
I think so too
My ex and i broke up due to me being distant due to mental health issues i was unaware of. I got myself right, but she had started dating someone after a month or so. We tried to be friends but it didn't go so well partly due to my feelings and hers causing issues...we still have strong feelings for each other. After an argument recently, where she was basically picking at every thing I did, we blew up at each and she suggested no contact. Her reason was that we kept repeating the same cycle, falling back as friends, things would be great and then wed argue. Its been a week should i contact her? Thank you
No contact phase is an inc berg. What you see in youtube is just 20% to 30%
Its really something very very deep.
But as mam said, keep working on yourself. And if you were disrespected please walk out, there is no growth in it.
Respect is very important!
Thank Ponti for this great video, i needed to watch it like yestarday
No contact is hard, but you’re video’s make it easier. Thank you
This was a great video. I agree with everything you say here.
Thank you Apollonia 🤩.
Great tips 🤗
I think you can really read my mind.
This topic was on my head for so many days😁
Apollonia that was a great video. Thank you. You hit it right in the head. If the girl doesn't seek you out or contact you or even curious about you, that basically tells you everything.
You are my favorite relationship coach. Thanks for everything
Go no silent then come back with a bag full of money/success. This is the biggest combination for attraction. Trust me it works 110% of the time.
Ya you are right
Success with the same attitude you left with will still be a failure
You by far are the most in tune person when it comes to men and women. Great videos!
This is great information Apollonia. Really useful 💘
Great video. I like the fact you are honest that some women have already lost feelings for you even if they are in the relationship or near break-up stage. I think too many guys don't pick up on the lack of interest before the break-up
mav1877 the moment they lose interest there’s nothing you can do
Too many women are not honest with their feelings I find that even more saddening
Apollonia Ponti, YOU are cool...
You are becoming my favorite here on You Tube...
I am learning so much about relationships from your videos. I recently broke up with a woman and everything you say in your videos, practically word for word is what has seemed to have happened with me. I am taking notes for the next relationship. But first I am going to work on me. Keep up the good work, Apollonia.
Keep it positive & upbeat ✅
You have to show different behaviors ✅
and actually do the work ✅
This is gonna be a hard pill to swallow but if she went out of that relationship hurt she’s getting a rebound. Not necessarily by choice but because she’ll be extremely vulnerable and just about any attractive man that comes her way that will listen to her grief will spark an interest in her. It’ll pass guys. I went through it, she didn’t love him just used him to get over me. It still hurt because it was barely a month or two after the breakup. But the rebound guy will be there. And as far as no contact. Don’t do the 30 days. You’ll both be doing it for different outcomes. Her, to move on from you and you, to get her back. You’ll essentially be helping her move on. I did 2 weeks MAX. Don’t let her forget you. Give her her space but not so much that you’ll be shooting yourselves in the foot.
I let my ex go coz she was emotionally immature. Damn near 40 years old stonewalling and throwing temper tantrums like a child. 😳
Agree. Many of us men have already had past experiences with women's tantrums .... "tantrumic" women.
I'm trying to look into myself to objectively determine what happened, to me, it's because my neediness and nice guy syndrome, I thank her for dumpping me, she gave the courage to finally kill old me and start living.
@@drunkenfr nice. I did the same thing a few years ago. Life changing.
Awesome message, Apollonia. Many tks for the unique & highly valuable insights!
You're helping me so much with what I'm going through. I get the impression I may have been needy and after this really Passionate relationship is tough getting ignored.
Did it work?
Thanks Ponti for the amazing videos and keep up the good work. I would like to request, is it possible to do a video on maintaining a long distance relationship?
Very true thanks for the knowledge Apollonia I have tried no contact like a final bet then found out she had lost feelings for me way long before the break up then started calling me out of curiosity I guess!...Moved on anyway focusing on becoming the best version of a man the world needs and like you say I realised she's not the woman for me forever.Keep up the good work ponti.
Thank you for your comment and support!
Im astounded by the negative comments on these videos. Great advice!
Never really thought about it like that....you addressed some good points.
It must be so convinient to be a woman! It's never their fault when a relationship ends, If she's cheating it's your fault for whatever reason. If she breaks up it's because you either gave her too much power or too little power. It's not worth it anymore.
I felt this on many levels
Fax
Welcome to the real world
That's why we are the men, we take responsibility for anything that happens to us.
That’s why I finally understand the old saying old guys would say
Women can’t live with them can’t live without them I didn’t understand that til 32
Through no contact my ex went back to her ex but still hangs with my family ... I set boundaries and went into no contact with everyone ... it was very painful and it has been 4 months since I’ve heard from her ... I haven’t dated anyone since ... I’ve learned to love myself and also learned how to help others get over past wounds during my singleness ... Your videos have been a great help to me ... Thank you.
Thanks for posting these videos. I find them invaluable. I should have watched before torpedoing my chances
Great articulation of when and why after no contact. 👍
I think you have a great explanation. I’m in a so called no contact situation because I am done with the relationship!! . Because the sooner I move on the quicker I’ll heal. She lead me into a relationship that has absolutely no future! I’m 10 days in and still feeling the loss. It’s almost as intense as a loved one dying. But I’m taking my energy to the gym for self improvement. I’m 59 yrs old and it hurts as much as it did when I was 19. I will be fine, it just takes time.
How are you ? ...a year later ...
14 years with her, engaged for 4 years, she ended it... stumbled on a journal of her enjoying sleeping with a random guy within 45 days of officially ending it. this destroyed me.
on top of all this her family was trying to set her up with some guy at the gym they own.
People you know and loved and saw as allies can turn so quickly.
Life can be cruel, ive been in no contact for 2 months and she has never once reached out to see how i was doing. it blows my mind how things changed so quickly, the trajectory of our planned lives changed within a few rocky months.
this video has helped me realize, its truly over... no hope. my best friend of 14 years, gone! absolutely fucking insane to think about the chain of events.
Damn bro that’s horrible. It’s scary how fast life can change! Hope you’re good
Im really sorry, mate. I hope you can recover from that.
Damn that really blows. From what you're saying it sounds like she already moved on a long time ago. I hope you feel better.
Another 1000 ways to lost time !!! 14 years is a lot
Ayo you Good Man?? How’s life doing
This exactly what I'm talkin about someone with real knowledge and not lying I believe it doesn't work either thank t so much Ms. Appollonia for being real much love to you and your family 🌹
It's all sooo relative. Thanx Apollonia. We had to trust our feelings and act accordingly. With power but also love and respect. Less manipulation, more from the heart. Pray also, this helps ! Greetings.
avoiding is better than no contact...
you will find a better person...
"When Avoiding DOES NOT Work | 1 Reason Avoiding Is A BAD IDEA!"
1. Friends and Family cannot find you and you end up the subject of an AMBER ALERT...
:)
Avoiding means ignoring your feelings tho
I could literally write a book on this subject; not because I'm a pro at relationship advice, I'm not implying that at all.
But i went through so much with a narcissist and realized a lot of my own shortcomings after i ended that relationship that i agree with everything Apollonia said.
It's so hard when you're in it, but so clear and easy when you look back
I am going through this right now bin with my baby mother over 8 years on she just moves on like that on it seems like she Falling in Love with this person she only knows 9 months
Absolutely, AP. Another great video.
Thanks AP. Now I know how to gently end a relationship. Yes, it still hurts.
Thank you Apollonia, I've learnt so much from watching your youtube videos. My relationship with my girlfriend is so sweet ,loving and caring. Today, or, should I say yesterday was the best day of all with my girl. I was round at her place, wow. I couldn't believe it. It was so special, not in that way, but in the way we spent good quality time together. She said I love you too. I've waited so long to hear those words from her. Thanks for all the advice Apollonia, you're the best! Take care always. x
No contact = no genuine interest / you're not important enough. So don't waste your emotion & move on cos he/she has. 👣
Actually, that's no what no contact necessarily means. Sometimes no contact is used to show someone who took advantage of you that your life has meaning...you're independent and you can move on without them if needed. This isn't an absolute one meaning fits all here. I know a couple that's been married for 25 years strong...and it was a no contact by one of them when they were dating that saved their relationship. It works if one person realizes they took the other for granted and is willing to change . It doesn't work if there was no reason for no contact to begin with.
Wow. The video is spot on!
You're thorough, that's why I like your advices.
I love this topic it's very open & honest I never though about counting the days I just thought about getting on my purpose but I walked away from my son's mother after 5yrs but I don't know why but I did & I feel much better about it thank you ms. Apollonia great video as always 🌹
Thank you for your support!
I'm trying it an I'm going on day three, so I don't know, but I'm trusting everything into God, what you're teaching and coaching, and my guts. Thank you Apollonia
As always, great insight and advice.
Great points! Great video!
Thanks for breaking this down Apollonia. Many dating coaches make it seem as if No Contact is the answer to all problems but as with anything there are times when certain “rules” don’t apply....particularly when dealing with a woman’s emotions. If she felt neglected in the first place, walking away from her won’t make the situation any better, especially if she knows her worth. Aside from any rule, I’ve learned that the best technique is learning to read your woman’s moods and emotions. Kind of difficult for men but super valuable in the long term!
Michael A. What would suggest if neglected a women?
@@justamannothingmore1999Michael doesn’t know!!
No contact rule works when you been pursuing. So she will end up thinking about the guy who been hitting her line. And woman fear of losing someone whos always been good to them when dating. This now will lead to reciprocation. Women will now pursue. At this stage a man MUST play the card right otherwise it will just start all over again.
💯💯💯
Well said👏💯
Hi Apollonia! Technical info. Love this...
badass. great advice. keep it up my friend.
No contact doesn't work because everyone knows that is what they are doing, and once you know, it causes any attraction left you may have had to fly out the window. No one likes to be manipulated.
Thiiiiissss
And that's why more guys are just not bothering with women. No time for little kids.
I was doing LDR (seeing each other once every two months) and I felt like the sparks are just fading away these three months. She has depression so our interaction has basically been me cheering her up and that's it. Due to the pandemic, my trip to visit her got canceled several times and she broke up with me, saying that she has been losing hope for this relationship for months and now we can't even meet up. Since I have also been exhausted by her being cold and distant as well so I accepted it. However, she keeps texting me random stuff, making me think that the breakup wasn't real because she did fake breakups a lot, but she would just constantly remind of that this time is real, we are no longer together. I feel disrespected and embarrassed so I went full NC.
Proud of you. Good job.
Quality product from Apollonia.
Very nice video. This is an important basic knowledge before going into no contact
HI , I have been watching some of your videos. I came too Realize its sad that couples have to play games in order too stay together... i feel like that point where I really don't want anyone other than friends with benefits, but then I truly love this women for 7 years now never got married but we live together . It's a Rollercoaster.
My girlfriend of 5 years "fell out of love" with me. And I have been so lost. She said 6 months ago her feelings started to fade. But made no effort to communicate this with me and for us to work on things . I've never felt more betrayed and just hurt ...I'm hurt.
I never knew I could hurt this much and...she just seems so cold and doesn't care. 5 years. My youth gone.
It me
Update?
Same shit. BU for a month now
Wow thanks apollo,love this topic x
Apollonia, you are actually so helpful!
I usually go no contact right after a breakup, sometimes I have to actually verbalize it if it’s not implied within context at the time of parting ways.
Thank you Apollonia for this video because I was dating this girl and I had a feeling she took advantage of me and now I have to change my behavior and detach myself and show her I’m not the same no more
Don't show her that way because she still not going to take you serious. The best thing to do is let her go! The next woman you date, don't do too much for her at the beginning. For example, if you are dating a new woman and you decided to take her out for dinner, let her pay for her own and you pay for yours. Stop doing everything for a woman because that will make her become a gold digger and she will get mad and leave when you stop doing things for her. Take it slow and don't always say yes for everything she asked you to do. When a man do everything for a woman, that will give her a reason to cheat on you with a guy who doesn't have anything going on for himself. Then, she will take everything that you give her and give it to him because she will think that you are a good fool. That is why a woman sometimes choose to have a good man and a bad one on the side which is her ex or someone she met on mad days and he won't leave her alone. Be careful next time man.
It's over.
Well said,and nice to see a different outlook on no-contact.Most videos i've seen are about how no contact is successful.Great that you highlight showcasing change.You had the body language and guy mannerisms nailed when you were talking about the man being[overly] in control.Made me laugh(the mannerisms) the content i took seriously.Thanks again.
Contact or no contact, if a woman like you, she will show you! No contact is immature and deceiving. Why would you apply a no contact rule to pretend like you dislike someone knowing that you think about them?! If you keep applying yourself to the no contact rule without communicating to her, she will cheat on you within the no contact rule and come back to you like nothing happens. And you will fall for that all of time, and she will constantly do the same thing to you over and over again!
So many of your videos are catered to keeping existing relationships alive and exiting. I have a really hard time attracting women I just met or even if a woman is really really into me I can never seem to make the moves I need to so I can make something more out of it. There has been a lot of missed opportunities in my life because I'm just a prude who doesn't know how to flirt.
It's always good to listen from a woman's perspective, because you girls require a manual to be understood. You are complex (and sometimes overly complicated beings) Thanks for the video, Apo.
That's like saying you speak to a fish to know how to be a fisherman. You don't do that.
Did it work
I just wanna say thank you for your honesty from a woman's perspective. Long story short - I lied to my ex about "materialistic things" that I didn't have in the beginning of a 1 year relationship but my heart in reference to how I feel about her was undeniably true!!!
For some strange reason she couldn't seem to overlook something that I thought was so small to a point of her not being able to forgive me.
She knows that I love her and I guess because I didn't end up being the rich guy that I portrayed. Her love oddly changed to a point of name calling and being very disrespectful to me.
I understand trust but at the same time. I found that she's a narcissist so at the end of the day...... we ended up playing each other.
This was some good video to learn from
She always makes alot of sense . good work girl
This was an excellent video !
Thanks for elaborating this topic so clearly once again Apollonia !
I needed to hear this and work on things in positive light ! 🙏
AP, i needed your knowledge & videos sooo bad in my life!! Got back into the dating game, im older, need polishing, and rusty af after 10 years. Battling emotions like a mf, heart dying with sorrow for a girl that’s shown little affection which has never happened to me before. Really needed the infos from your videos, they make me feel better and back to being that super confident guy that i naturally am! Thank you so much!! 💕
Thank you for this video Apollonia. It spoke a lot to my situation. I'm going to watch your other videos and probably call you eventually!
Did it work?
I'm always supporting you "cause I believe you a great person,,thanks for all...
I just think it’s all games. It should never be that hard.
A game of constant leverage...
And that's why both sides are walking away.
600 days no contact - she still didn't call. Am I doing it right?
Oof
Mikhail Vasilevsky Get a new girl. Be happy. If she comes back U may not want her
1000 days into no contact she still hasn't contacted me what am I doing wrong
LOL!
Nope... just keep stroking your ego, bud. Who can go the longest. *sarcasm* 🙄
Right as rain
You nail it hon 👍 your a brilliant coach 😇 thank you 🙏
this is really Useful
The only way it’s successful is when you do the work to move on. It’s not what anyone wants to hear but when it’s all said and done they either come back or they don’t. Either way you will be okay because you put the work into yourself.
When things are going like a train wreck with their actions, even though we are holding to your advice, it negates, they need corrective council as well!
Apollonia you are awesome!! Best real advice i have ever been told about women. Thankyou always
Yes I agree with the sentiments expressed here. It is already working. The woman I'm interested in was aloof . I was the one messaging on facebook and writing prose and poetry for her. I've not contacted her for nearly a week and now she is following my every post. I'll wait until she makes her intentions clear or if nothing concrete I'll move on. Being weak and needy on my part probably ruined the relationship which never really got started. Thank You Apollonia for showing me the way ahead.
Man I got feelings for a girl too damn quick. Now I am having a hard time not to talk to her. Yet she still manages to reach out to me and respond. How ever this is true I have back up a little and just analyze myself.
The problem with no contact is if you recognise that your relatively new significant other (SO) is judgemental & convinced she's right and that you are wrong. If she's willing and able to communicate about what bugs her about you, you may have a chance to at least open the discussion to her taking a broader, less rigid approach to what you have to say but if the Dunning Kruger effect is strong in her, she'll be sure that she's an expert in relationships, despite her not even being aware of how much she doesn't know about you or perhaps about relationships overall. If your S.O. refuses to talk about an issue and demands space, my experience is that her demand has often been expressed because she intended not to let calm re-enter the picture but to punish you for disagreeing or not changing fast enough. In other words, she sees no need to contemplate what has happened because it's all your problem. That attitude combined with her refusing to engage in adult discourse is a situation I've struck too often and it infuriates me, because there may be many positive things about the relationship that are blocked from proceeding due to her unwillingness or refusal to even consider that she may be wrong. If that manifests as refusal to discuss an issue, rapid dismissal of your opinion or distancing, the chances of a successful relationship is unlikely and no contact is likely to simply entrench in the S.O.'s mind that she is right and that she doesn't need to be with anyone who disagrees fundamentally with her point of view. I welcome challenge when supported by some rational discussion & evidence rather than opinion alone, especially if I know that evidence runs entirely contrary to her views. In situations like these I have persisted, looking for flexibility, agreeing to disagree and welcoming diverse ways of thinking and checking myself to avoid lecturing, pontificating or being a smart-ass. All too often these days, I strike amazing stubbornness, blinkered thinking and a "my way or the highway" attitude. I've even been instructed not to talk about the topic again, an attitude that if complied with, leads to an ever growing list of "off limits topics". For me, the list can become so long that I've literally been left with nothing I wish to converse about!!!
🤣 dude you're like me man. You explained it in detail, as I would. We think so deeply and explain thoroughly on these things, and when there's some problem, they can't take this approach and it annoys them.
I totally agree with you on your no contact outlook.. my solution to this, with this girl I'm dealing with now - I'm writing a letter 🤣 . I finish leveling up, which she will see since she watches me on social media - I'll personally deliver her the letter.. Which I know she will read. The letter breaks down my failures.. but also the only version of her I'd accept - even though SHE initiated no contact... And in the end, the letter will instruct her this is the last contact I'm making, as I then delete her from social media. 🤔
Thank u ....I'm going thru a time out session tight now. I'm fine with it because I see what has happened!!....
Thanks for bringing clarity to understanding her thinking!!
I'm gonna focus on healing and the journey along the way!!......GOD Bless...☺
This video really helped me✨✅
So. She fell out of love and just moved out. 2 months ago. NC will rule for my own focus and goals.
Awesome video. This is always what male coaches miss with coaching men.
It’s not about getting the upper hand. Once they get it they are clueless what to do with it.
Distance, abuse of power and control will not get your woman back.
Men who behave this way are wishing to change the dynamic of the relationship. What they’re saying is is this is the only way I’d consider being with you again. If I can be completely irresponsible and casual with my behavior. Low expectations.
My opinion of no contact is that it should be used when you're completely walking away and done and not an attempt to win anyone back. Go on with your life and embrace new paths, challenges but don't do it to hold onto the past or bring it back.
Thanks so much for the tips