I'll take the honors away this time: 0:57 she doesn't initiate anything with you 2:05 she won't hang out with you 3:54 she flakes last minute 4:53 The 24-48 hour rule And bonus tips on the menu this time!! 6:10 NEVER beg for anyone's time, effort, or attention 6:39 Do not try to be manipulative or play mind games 7:55 Do not be the aggressive, irate person. Feeling angry or upset is okay but these emotions should be handled without aggression or making the other person uneasy. Thank you for sharing this, amazing content as usual!
Make sure you lay pipe as soon as possible, just because they tend to lose interest in 2024 if you spend too much time in _talking phase._ She needs to experience the elephant in the room.
The worst feeling has never been being turned down, even with admittedly one-itis. It has always been the cycle of teasing attention every now and then, followed with ghosting, then scheduling to do something and not showing up.
@@SaturnVII it’s old news now. If anything I would thank her now. I was just saying I much prefer breaking up or telling me they’re not interested then the stupid games.
@@chriseash6497 had the same happen to me brother very recently. This girl been giving me attention for months and the past 2 weeks nothing, it’s like we don’t know each other now. But I liked to thank her too cause she help me level my game and realize majority of these chicks just want attention
Sometimes the attraction for that woman can be very strong and I've made that mistake of either feeling obsessed or chasing with the hope that something good may happen. It's tough, thanks for the advice.
As long as your not in a relationship always try to spin plates if possible, weigh your options then pick the girl you like from there. This will help you have options, lose that oneitis and also make you lose that obsession over her. Lastly just remember one thing if a girl is hot about you at first then loses interest later on you are accountable for that. If you wanna be interesting watch the video down below. Hope it help. You'll get there King. th-cam.com/video/rNyZWq6b854/w-d-xo.html
_"Never, ever, ever, never beg for someone's time or attention."_ Courtney with the quotable one-liners. I wish these videos were part of a required course when I was in college.
... and then you give them a taste of their own medicine and don't contact them anymore and they freak out ... Awesome. Borderline narcissistic whores. (... there also enough guys like that) This is what happens, when a society looses moral standards and things like integrity. And everything eventually is just about "doing your own thing .. bla bla" .. again .. just awesome
Actually if a girl like u , there is still a hell lot of chance that she might not initiate..But if u stop talking to her for like a day and she don't even ask u or say anything, then that's a red flag...
3:24 I hate when girls do that. If you're not interested in me, just tell me. We're all adults and getting rejected is a part of life. If a girl isn't straight about that, I know it's not a good match. Great advice, Courtney!
She’s prolly done that before, and more than once then been stalked and creeped on by some weird butthurt guy who couldn’t handle the rejection. So now she operates in this covert manner to protect herself.
Women, for obvious anatomical reasons, avoid direct confrontation with men that could make them upset and angry. 20 years of recent dating culture doesn’t undo 20,000 years of evolutionary hard wiring.
The only thing you can do is make yourself clear with what you want and if she isn't giving you that, just move on because if she likes you as much as you do, believe me it will reciprocate and be much easier to progress with naturally
I experienced this with two different women in the past three months. I didn't try reaching out, just walked away. Nice to be reassured I made the right move.
This hits me in the feels.. I been through it and got stuck in the middle of it.. playing games is always bad no matter which side you are on.. both people lose if both decide to play the game..
Courtney is right Guys! "What you allow is what will continue" Fellas Walk away from the BS!! Being respected is way more important than being liked! Great video Courtney!!
I respect what you do young lady. You are saving my grandson from depression. You are saving the young mens lives. You are a good mentor to these young men. You Are like a mother figure to these young men. Generation z needs you.
Courtney, as you are introvert and so am I, it will really be great if you can make a video about traits that introverted guys do that girls love or things that introvert guys do that makes them attractive🇵🇭
You described this one girl I'm kind of talking to now who wants to text all day but has flaked on plans I've made to get together multiple times. Thank you so much for your content Courtney!
My older sisters never gave me the same advice you give your followers...I wish they did, it would have saved me from a lot of grief! Take care and keep up the good work!
If someone says that they don't deserve you, you are too good for them. Just accept it without being cocky and don't try to change their mind. They are literally saying you that they can't be the person you want, that they can't give you what you want. Believe me, I tried to change her mind and it was of no work at all.
This is EXACTLY my situation, had to great dates with this girl and we were planning a third, but for some reason I can't figure out the energy dropped off a cliff. I tried to rescue it, but the conversation became platonic, she stopped flirting and asking me questions. I've stopped trying now and I'm focussing on other girls, but there is still a part of me that wishes I could rekindle what I had at the beginning with this girl
Thank you for your honesty on this channel 🙏 I feel like so much of my time is wasted because I don’t understand the true motivations behind a female’s reaction. I’ve learned to not take it personally, but it’s important to know my value in those situations. Really appreciate your content!
I came across your video and I’m so glad that I took the time to watch it because it resonates with what I’m going through right now. In the beginning things were great and now she’s changed it’s gotten to where she doesn’t text me unless I text her first it’s gotten to where I’m the one making the first moves and also planning things. I’ve always been someone who listens to and trust my instincts and intuition. So watching this video helps me to decide that maybe it’s time to move on to someone new and not continue on putting more time and energy into what I have now because no matter how amazing I am to her it’s never going to be enough so it’s time for me to let it go and find someone who’s more valuable and will value me in return. I’ve gotten to the point where life is too short for me to be investing time with someone who isn’t grateful or thankful to have me in their lives. This day and time it’s tough trying to find that special someone who will accept you for you. I’ve also learned that if a relationship didn’t bring me what I want then it teaches me what I don’t want.
dont take it rude from me, see this as strong advice with woman. You did make the mistakes with this girl. I quarantee u with your potential next girl u get the exact same result. The mistake u have made = chase to much. It doesnt matter if u known this girl for a couple of month. U blowing things up by chasing her. Each iniating contact to her = 1 one chase. If u have to keep it 70/30. The woman chase the men. Your job is inviting. Inviting for a date, hang out with her and hook up, have a great time. No texting over phone. that is deadly at the end. Make only dates. When her attraction is growing she will reach out to you. Its your oppertunity to make again a date. Doing that for 2 month and she will start falling in love. I hope u get the hang of this. Your situation is probaly toasted by now, u never contact her anymore.. if she is contacting u out of the blue, set up a date, is she not willing, thats fine, come back to me when u have time.. That way the ball is at her side.. If there is any respect for u left, she will reach out. Trust me.
Most of the time you are just a distraction, a novelty. She will go after the next guy in line on her text message box. I think Courtney is right. Don't waste your time and attention anymore.
I know a true friend or partner when they initiate a conversation and ask me out too, not me them. And I've kept some good people in my life despite being drunk, upset around them etc. I am glad they exist.
I just discovered your channel.It’s so refreshing to see a young attractive lady with intelligence and who speaks common sense.That seems to be rarity these days.
Courtney, if you read this, I’ve been watching videos on your channel now for about a week and let me tell you you are the best relationship channel out there. Your advice is amazing and you obviously have our best interests at heart compared to other channels like marni kinneys. Please keep making great content.
This video is very well "SEASONED." Your WORD CHOICES are very rich and authentic, and I truly appreciate them. Definitely distinct from other channels out there. I've been watching your videos for a few months now. You are very well-versed in your material and calm about it. I am currently in this situation as of now, and trying hard to take the "Gentlemen's Road."
So very true! Whenever I have ever reached out to a girl, ones that know me too, not like I'm just messaging random strangers, it always feels as though its an interview and I'm the interviewer. Yeah they answer my questions (sometimes) but they certainly dont ask me anything and NEVER initiate contact
2:14 this is happening to me right now. We've actually hung out a few times and I'll say she had a good time. We text and even talk often but as of recently the last 2 weeks I'll ask her if she wants to hang out again and she'll dodge the question or say she's busy, working or just can't.
@@TimXMan1000 i think it's starting to happen to me with this girl i thought i was actually gonna be the one, i wanted to try to just show that i wanted to build something, but i failed terribly
It's amazing how many couples of older generations stayed married for years without all of this advise over the internet. It's just absolutely amazing.
The best thing u can do if u see any of these signs is drop back and be sparse. Disappear. Make her seem unimportant to you. Make her wonder what YOU'RE doing, who YOU'RE seeing, etc. The natural instinct is to text her and try to win her heart with being nice and telling them your feelings and nonsense like that but this is the final nail in your coffin if u do it.
This is the reason why I don't get into relationships anymore. It's far better being single than being in a half ass relationship where you own self worth and self esteem is compromised, and being constantly gaslighted for asking the bare minimum.
There's a difference between losing interest and lost interest. Courtney is framing this in terms of early interactions and dating. This is the period where the girl still has her guard up and is still sniffing a guy out and for this reason she's most likely to exhibit behaviors such as blowing hot and cold, shit testing, flaking etc. It's important to see these behaviors for what they fundamentally are, lack of interest/attraction. Then there is the question, is it recoverable? It's a absolute truth of attraction that once a girl decides she isn't attracted to you there is NOTHING you can or should do to change her mind. That energy is much better spent cultivating the next relationship. Next thought - do I like this girl? Is a lack of attraction or very inconsistent attraction (especially if there were ever some real highs) a red flag? Am I dealing with a girl who has mental issues or is simply too immature to straighten up and fly right, and again, that energy is better spent elsewhere?. Remember, the most attractive guy in the world can't keep a crazy chick. Final thought - are you still in the gray zone? She has low but not negative attraction. Only here does your "game" actually matter. Here is where you have to exhibit high- value behaviors such as keeping it light and funny, not chasing, ultimately not caring. Definitely not lighting up her phone but putting the ball in her court communication-wise and just having the balls to state your case, go quiet and see if SHE re-engages. Girls expect men to chase, especially if that girl is attractive. NEVER do that, be the ONE GUY who doesn't. You know your value and you know other women would see it too. If this chick can't, her loss. Online, this is where having good IG game helps. If she has any positive attraction to you she's checking out what you are doing on IG, or she'll find a way to check you out IRL. It's really easy to "spike" a girl's attraction with a bit of game in a social setting if you know how.
I appreciate your words; they're said with equanimity, and candor, a rare quality among the youth at present. You exhibit admirable characteristics for young women to imbibe should they choose to do so. You have my support.
Class and kind advice as always...and correct as well. We may not like hearing it but need to hear it...at the end of the day we should be honest with ourselves.
I agree with the 4 signs of her losing interest, but really, there is only one thing you can do that is the correct answer, and that is to let her go suddenly and without explanation. Of course, if you don't do this, all you've done is tried to repair a dying relationship with a band-aid and some gauze, but this stay of execution is only temporary, guys. Soon, it will be something else, and often, someone else. Never be afraid to leave. And don't take her back, later. This is the sort of behavior that is too deeply ingrained and is often encouraged. Just let them go.
This is true. You have you be ruthles in fact, when you do so. Usually women are very passive-aggressive and indirect about their intentions, so if you feel like she is slipping (and it's a strong gut feeling we have), then drop her like a bad habit, and don't spend time feeling sorry about that fact that she didn't communicate better her wants and needs: that is entirely her fault for not having that mature set of skills. Beyond that, never EVER agree to be friends past the breakup, and cut all ties via social media; don't hover and think she will come around. If you weren't her first priority, then her mentality will not magically change. If you introduce dread game to spark interest and want to keep her around, then you lost, it's dead and a lost cause. Get on with your life.
I agree, it's almost like an alternate speed dating of sorts! All I know is life is short and non of us are promised tomorrow! I believe men and especially women are realizing this more and more!
Knew a girl back in college. Developed feelings for her based on she was the only girl EVER in my life to text as much as she did. Held on to such feelings for YEARS before coming to terms with they were not worth after seeing how flaky she was with me only a year ago. Now I am focusing on my career & getting in shape so I will find a girl better than her IN EVERY WAY. Looks AND personality... ... ...assuming such a girl even exists(not likely).
Another sign I received of a lady losing interest was that she hinted at how out of my league she was. The rude thing about it is that she did so when we met in person after chatting online.
You will both be drawn together easily if it's real mutual attraction. You know when this is or isn't happening, don't get emotionally invested if it's not.
I find it interesting in different cultures how women respond differently I married a woman from a vastly different culture, she firmly believed it was totally inappropriate to ever ask personal questions of the guy she was interested in. Even after I married her she never asked me personal questions. Now looking back after our divorce, I see this is a really big red flag. A hard lesson to learn, but I learned it well.
The real question is do I have any interest in this girl at all. Haha but correct never be obsessed or aggressive and sometimes us guys tend to overthink and at times overreact when a situation with a woman doesn’t go are way. Best thing to do when a girl starts losing interest I to go do things that make you happy completely forget about the person your interested in go fishing go hiking in the woods talk to more women if she’s not interested gents there’s plenty of beautiful women like Courtney and the will appreciate a gentleman like you just keep working on yourself men when you stop focusing on these women who lose interest in you and doing things that make you happy that’s when women start looking at you say damn Juan’s got a glow his happy doing something different and these will chase you. Haha great video Courtney I hope read this it’ll make my day ❤️
throw in past traumas and getting out of a bad marriage. it throws all of this into alot of questioning and doubts. if shes really losing interest, scared, overwhelmed its hard to decipher. should you be there for them or should you do it from a distance or just dont do anything at all?
the less u do, the more u get.. thats how it works.. the loss of respect she had for u , did kill your relation. Loss of respect is due to weak behaviour, not negoiating, standing ground and stick with it with under all cost.. Say and do what u want and dont change your mind because being afraid to lose something.. and dont chase the girl. no matter u have a 10 year relationship.... invite them for dates only.. that the goal.
It’s not a man’s job to maintain a woman’s interest and emotional state at all times. Grow up ladies, develop some conviction and integrity for yourselves.
I matched with someone on Facebook Dating and connected with her on Instagram where I slid into her DMs. She replied with a 'hi dear' and after I subsequently sent her 2 short texts, she never responded back. (Although she read my messages). Is it safe for me to assume that I should move on?
Would it be considered a red flag is she openly says that she’s scared to get close with someone because of the failed past relationships and that admits to purposely stalling to reply back?
When she lies to you and you catch her in the lie. While I have not had that in a relationship, I have had it happen in friendships. I had a "friend" tell me one thing, and later told me the exact opposite of the first statement. Throughout the time that I have known her, she has continually said, "I am not a liar."
I feel like accepting the fact that she lost interest although you felt it coming from a mile away is the hardest thing. To then just Walk away seems even harder to me, yet what choice do I have I hate dating nowadays man
This is exactly why I don’t even bother.. I don’t think it’s really necessary anymore , because I was talking to this one girl things where going great then it goes completely south. I just don’t understand and how she tells me “oh I like you , I’m still interested Im just not fully in that romantic mindset yet “ like I completely understand but why you lead me on like that ?
I realised she lost interest after the second date when I tried to set up the third date and she said "this week I'm really busy so I'll let you know next week if we can". She never got back to me on that.
Never thought I’d be here. But here we are, things were going great with this girl before New Year’s Eve. Now I can’t get the time of day, so I opened her text and went ghost.
I have a question. I have this friend and we're really close but we have a platonic relationship. but one time we went out to drink and did it. Now she's not replying or seeing my texts. What should I do? because I really like her as a friend and I don't want to lose our friendship
Should I confront her about this after we broke up? She said she still wants to be friends but it’s quite obvious that she doesn’t and I’m pretty tired of it.
3:54 she flakes last minute, found out she had a boyfriend, she continued texting then I stop, she flaked on going out etc, she then started complaining when she called it quits with her boyfriend, i told her listen i am not your emotional tampon she never spoke to me again, get rid of women like this asap
I found a girl with perfect personality, she loved me more than anything else but I didn’t give her as much attention and I lost her. I’m feeling so regretful😢
Good afternoon (here at least), another round of good advice. The one with you always being the one initiating any and all exchanges, even if she replies, is probably one of the easier red flags to detect and maybe still overlooked due to her replying.
Thank you for the great advice. I have a quick question for anyone who wants to answer. Is it alright to follow up with a person who hasn’t responded between 24-48? For example, I recently went on a date with someone and it went pretty great. They didn’t respond for 2 days and I followed up with “hey, haven’t heard from you in a while. I thought we connected really well not sure what went wrong. I just want to know if you’re alright?” Was this ok? She did eventually respond basically saying she wasn’t interested.
I don't think it really matters but I wouldn't have used the phrase "I thought we connected really well, not sure what went wrong". It's slightly negative/presumptive. If you just wanted to reconnect I would have just texted more neutrally like "hey, haven’t heard from you in a while, how are you doing?" and leave it at that. It's just about possible that being a tiny bit negative with "what went wrong" turned her off, but more likely is she just wasn't attracted after 1st date. Good news is you got an answer out of her. That said after 1st date If you are going to wait a few days your next text should really be simply to ask her out again, not just reconnect. Or CALL HER ideally. Everybody texts, be the guy who CALLS. No idle chit chat, try for the date, if she's wishy washy you have your answer, she's out. I'm a big fan of the post date gentleman text btw "Hey, just wanted to say I had a great time tonight, hope you got home ok" if you like the girl. If a girl doesn't answer that text you know you are on very thin ice.
@@jleano609 Right, I hear you. Next time I’ll go about it in a more positive way. I wouldn’t call since I believe that’s something you do with someone you know well. But, I appreciate your feedback it helped a lot. Thank you.
@@chrisg5352 One thing I learned a long time ago is you can build more rapport via phone than text. Communication is in three parts. Words, tone and body language. Lyrics, music and dance. Text is just lyrics, with the phone you add music, on the date you add dance. That’s why dates are powerful in attraction terms, but phone is a halfway house. Plus it’s spontaneous, she has to talk to you there and then, and you can gauge her attraction level better, flirt, make her laugh in real time. Much better than dry text and stupid emojis. Those are for kids.
I would love a video on how to tell she has little to no self-worth, which would've saved me wasting all of that energy and time and passion on my ex who just gave up on herself, telling me she feels she's standing in the way of me being happy and had no faith essentially in ever being able to give back
I'll take the honors away this time:
0:57 she doesn't initiate anything with you
2:05 she won't hang out with you
3:54 she flakes last minute
4:53 The 24-48 hour rule
And bonus tips on the menu this time!!
6:10 NEVER beg for anyone's time, effort, or attention
6:39 Do not try to be manipulative or play mind games
7:55 Do not be the aggressive, irate person. Feeling angry or upset is okay but these emotions should be handled without aggression or making the other person uneasy.
Thank you for sharing this, amazing content as usual!
Not sure if you read into that but courtney knows that cuz she does it
You've earned a slow clap from me good sir. *clap...clap...clap...clap...clap*
Why thank you for the kind gesture sir!
Yup. If she loses interest, let her go. She was the wrong girl for you.
Make sure you lay pipe as soon as possible, just because they tend to lose interest in 2024 if you spend too much time in _talking phase._
She needs to experience the elephant in the room.
The worst feeling has never been being turned down, even with admittedly one-itis. It has always been the cycle of teasing attention every now and then, followed with ghosting, then scheduling to do something and not showing up.
There ain't no friend zone in the end zone bud, focus on the career and finances and fitness
@@SaturnVII it’s old news now. If anything I would thank her now. I was just saying I much prefer breaking up or telling me they’re not interested then the stupid games.
I feel you man same also
Story of my Life 😔
@@chriseash6497 had the same happen to me brother very recently. This girl been giving me attention for months and the past 2 weeks nothing, it’s like we don’t know each other now. But I liked to thank her too cause she help me level my game and realize majority of these chicks just want attention
@@cjc4426 Unfortunately some girls force themselves to like a guy, until the point where they give up. Sounds stupid but its a thing
Sometimes the attraction for that woman can be very strong and I've made that mistake of either feeling obsessed or chasing with the hope that something good may happen. It's tough, thanks for the advice.
As long as your not in a relationship always try to spin plates if possible, weigh your options then pick the girl you like from there. This will help you have options, lose that oneitis and also make you lose that obsession over her. Lastly just remember one thing if a girl is hot about you at first then loses interest later on you are accountable for that. If you wanna be interesting watch the video down below. Hope it help. You'll get there King.
th-cam.com/video/rNyZWq6b854/w-d-xo.html
_"Never, ever, ever, never beg for someone's time or attention."_
Courtney with the quotable one-liners.
I wish these videos were part of a required course when I was in college.
Yes! 100%
#1: she doesn't initiate anything
80%of the male population: well, shit
... and then you give them a taste of their own medicine and don't contact them anymore and they freak out ... Awesome.
Borderline narcissistic whores.
(... there also enough guys like that)
This is what happens, when a society looses moral standards and things like integrity. And everything eventually is just about "doing your own thing .. bla bla"
.. again .. just awesome
Actually if a girl like u , there is still a hell lot of chance that she might not initiate..But if u stop talking to her for like a day and she don't even ask u or say anything, then that's a red flag...
@@aaroroka there isnt a lot of a chance she likes you only a verd small chance
more like 95%
95% 3yrs later
When a girl ignores me I assume it's because she is so nervous by my good looks that she can't do anything. And that's ok.
I miss thinking this way.
Maybe I should look at it that way! (I am ugly and extremely uninteresting)
@@bastidfacewhy did you stop
3:24 I hate when girls do that. If you're not interested in me, just tell me. We're all adults and getting rejected is a part of life. If a girl isn't straight about that, I know it's not a good match. Great advice, Courtney!
So you think in western society women will be honest and upfront? 😅🤣😅🤣
She’s prolly done that before, and more than once then been stalked and creeped on by some weird butthurt guy who couldn’t handle the rejection. So now she operates in this covert manner to protect herself.
Women, for obvious anatomical reasons, avoid direct confrontation with men that could make them upset and angry. 20 years of recent dating culture doesn’t undo 20,000 years of evolutionary hard wiring.
The only thing you can do is make yourself clear with what you want and if she isn't giving you that, just move on because if she likes you as much as you do, believe me it will reciprocate and be much easier to progress with naturally
We are told women mature faster than men. I've seen the exact opposite in reality.
Number 1 advice no women will tell you because they don’t know about it. Hold your seed, focus on yourselves king’s 👑 🙏
I experienced this with two different women in the past three months. I didn't try reaching out, just walked away. Nice to be reassured I made the right move.
Whoa.. I've never been this early to a video drop.
"What you allow is what will continue" aka "we train others how to treat us"
This hits me in the feels.. I been through it and got stuck in the middle of it.. playing games is always bad no matter which side you are on.. both people lose if both decide to play the game..
Courtney is right Guys! "What you allow is what will continue" Fellas Walk away from the BS!! Being respected is way more important than being liked! Great video Courtney!!
I respect what you do young lady. You are saving my grandson from depression. You are saving the young mens lives. You are a good mentor to these young men. You Are like a mother figure to these young men. Generation z needs you.
Courtney, as you are introvert and so am I, it will really be great if you can make a video about traits that introverted guys do that girls love or things that introvert guys do that makes them attractive🇵🇭
You described this one girl I'm kind of talking to now who wants to text all day but has flaked on plans I've made to get together multiple times. Thank you so much for your content Courtney!
Ugh I’m sorry that’s happening to you! It’s much more common than you’d think lol happy to help! ❤️
You’re spot on Courtney! I love how sharp you’ve gotten in your niche lately. Love to see you succeed and grow.
My older sisters never gave me the same advice you give your followers...I wish they did, it would have saved me from a lot of grief!
Take care and keep up the good work!
If someone says that they don't deserve you, you are too good for them. Just accept it without being cocky and don't try to change their mind. They are literally saying you that they can't be the person you want, that they can't give you what you want. Believe me, I tried to change her mind and it was of no work at all.
Actually, that is a common phrase to let you down easy without hurting your feelings. It's a different take on "it's not you, it's me!"
@@ScubaSteveCanada It's both things. They are inadvertently telling the truth at the same time.
I got rejected today so thank you for the bonus tips of handling rejection with grace and not be aggressive
When she realises you are a good man is when she loses interest.
So fkd yo
Unfortunately you can never settle in this world, you have to reciprocate otherwise there is no point being with that person
Not even that, it's when you dont make your intnetuons
Nope. You need to lose this negative thinking or confirmation bias is going to enroot you in this self-fulfilling prophecy
that’s because good men are “boring” to them. you can do all to a woman except bore her.
This is EXACTLY my situation, had to great dates with this girl and we were planning a third, but for some reason I can't figure out the energy dropped off a cliff. I tried to rescue it, but the conversation became platonic, she stopped flirting and asking me questions. I've stopped trying now and I'm focussing on other girls, but there is still a part of me that wishes I could rekindle what I had at the beginning with this girl
There is nothing more enjoyable than having a cup of coffee ☕ with a dessert in peace 😌
This video has come at just the right time for me. Courtney has so much wisdom
Thank you for your honesty on this channel 🙏 I feel like so much of my time is wasted because I don’t understand the true motivations behind a female’s reaction. I’ve learned to not take it personally, but it’s important to know my value in those situations. Really appreciate your content!
I came across your video and I’m so glad that I took the time to watch it because it resonates with what I’m going through right now. In the beginning things were great and now she’s changed it’s gotten to where she doesn’t text me unless I text her first it’s gotten to where I’m the one making the first moves and also planning things. I’ve always been someone who listens to and trust my instincts and intuition. So watching this video helps me to decide that maybe it’s time to move on to someone new and not continue on putting more time and energy into what I have now because no matter how amazing I am to her it’s never going to be enough so it’s time for me to let it go and find someone who’s more valuable and will value me in return. I’ve gotten to the point where life is too short for me to be investing time with someone who isn’t grateful or thankful to have me in their lives. This day and time it’s tough trying to find that special someone who will accept you for you. I’ve also learned that if a relationship didn’t bring me what I want then it teaches me what I don’t want.
dont take it rude from me, see this as strong advice with woman. You did make the mistakes with this girl. I quarantee u with your potential next girl u get the exact same result. The mistake u have made = chase to much. It doesnt matter if u known this girl for a couple of month. U blowing things up by chasing her. Each iniating contact to her = 1 one chase. If u have to keep it 70/30. The woman chase the men. Your job is inviting. Inviting for a date, hang out with her and hook up, have a great time. No texting over phone. that is deadly at the end. Make only dates. When her attraction is growing she will reach out to you. Its your oppertunity to make again a date. Doing that for 2 month and she will start falling in love. I hope u get the hang of this. Your situation is probaly toasted by now, u never contact her anymore.. if she is contacting u out of the blue, set up a date, is she not willing, thats fine, come back to me when u have time.. That way the ball is at her side.. If there is any respect for u left, she will reach out. Trust me.
Most of the time you are just a distraction, a novelty.
She will go after the next guy in line on her text message box.
I think Courtney is right. Don't waste your time and attention anymore.
This is why I would rather break their hearts than let them break mine. Pull their tactics against them to yield results.
I know a true friend or partner when they initiate a conversation and ask me out too, not me them. And I've kept some good people in my life despite being drunk, upset around them etc. I am glad they exist.
Genuinely appreciate you saying “Do not get aggressive.”
This is great info Courtney... its good reminder info even for us older guys who have been through almost everything. Keep up the good work.
180K subscribers, wow Courtney congratulations! Bravissima 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I just discovered your channel.It’s so refreshing to see a young attractive lady with intelligence and who speaks common sense.That seems to be rarity these days.
You have to pay attention to the little details and patterns. Thank you!💚
Courtney, if you read this, I’ve been watching videos on your channel now for about a week and let me tell you you are the best relationship channel out there. Your advice is amazing and you obviously have our best interests at heart compared to other channels like marni kinneys. Please keep making great content.
I’ve watched many coaching videos and I think Courtney and Coach Lee are my top. Advice seems solid, experienced and not so cynical.
This video is very well "SEASONED." Your WORD CHOICES are very rich and authentic, and I truly appreciate them. Definitely distinct from other channels out there. I've been watching your videos for a few months now. You are very well-versed in your material and calm about it.
I am currently in this situation as of now, and trying hard to take the "Gentlemen's Road."
Courtney!!! please do a video on signs she’s losing interest in you but for those in a long term relationship 🙏🙏🙏
Always nice to get a good piece of advice from my big sis Courtney. She's the best!
If she looses interest, drop and move on. She is not worth the effort. Women have a biological clock.
So very true! Whenever I have ever reached out to a girl, ones that know me too, not like I'm just messaging random strangers, it always feels as though its an interview and I'm the interviewer. Yeah they answer my questions (sometimes) but they certainly dont ask me anything and NEVER initiate contact
2:14 this is happening to me right now. We've actually hung out a few times and I'll say she had a good time. We text and even talk often but as of recently the last 2 weeks I'll ask her if she wants to hang out again and she'll dodge the question or say she's busy, working or just can't.
Happening to me just now… Time to walk away I’m afraid….
@@michaelmagyar3041 I’m afraid so my dawg
@@TimXMan1000 i think it's starting to happen to me with this girl i thought i was actually gonna be the one, i wanted to try to just show that i wanted to build something, but i failed terribly
@@_alexmuerto_ let her go dawg don’t even text her anymore
@@TimXMan1000 ive been numbing around the pain anyway, thanks for the advice! i'll take it
It's amazing how many couples of older generations stayed married for years without all of this advise over the internet. It's just absolutely amazing.
The best thing u can do if u see any of these signs is drop back and be sparse. Disappear. Make her seem unimportant to you. Make her wonder what YOU'RE doing, who YOU'RE seeing, etc. The natural instinct is to text her and try to win her heart with being nice and telling them your feelings and nonsense like that but this is the final nail in your coffin if u do it.
I wish I had this video over the last 10+ years. It could have helped to prevent all the heartbreak over a dozen women who had no interest in me.
This is the reason why I don't get into relationships anymore.
It's far better being single than being in a half ass relationship where you own self worth and self esteem is compromised, and being constantly gaslighted for asking the bare minimum.
Thank you for taking the time to make these videos for us! I find them all to be very helpful!
When you wake up next to her and she has a ring....she's losing interest
In her husband
Been there..
There's a difference between losing interest and lost interest. Courtney is framing this in terms of early interactions and dating. This is the period where the girl still has her guard up and is still sniffing a guy out and for this reason she's most likely to exhibit behaviors such as blowing hot and cold, shit testing, flaking etc. It's important to see these behaviors for what they fundamentally are, lack of interest/attraction.
Then there is the question, is it recoverable? It's a absolute truth of attraction that once a girl decides she isn't attracted to you there is NOTHING you can or should do to change her mind. That energy is much better spent cultivating the next relationship.
Next thought - do I like this girl? Is a lack of attraction or very inconsistent attraction (especially if there were ever some real highs) a red flag? Am I dealing with a girl who has mental issues or is simply too immature to straighten up and fly right, and again, that energy is better spent elsewhere?. Remember, the most attractive guy in the world can't keep a crazy chick.
Final thought - are you still in the gray zone? She has low but not negative attraction. Only here does your "game" actually matter. Here is where you have to exhibit high- value behaviors such as keeping it light and funny, not chasing, ultimately not caring. Definitely not lighting up her phone but putting the ball in her court communication-wise and just having the balls to state your case, go quiet and see if SHE re-engages. Girls expect men to chase, especially if that girl is attractive. NEVER do that, be the ONE GUY who doesn't. You know your value and you know other women would see it too. If this chick can't, her loss. Online, this is where having good IG game helps. If she has any positive attraction to you she's checking out what you are doing on IG, or she'll find a way to check you out IRL. It's really easy to "spike" a girl's attraction with a bit of game in a social setting if you know how.
I appreciate your words; they're said with equanimity, and candor, a rare quality among the youth at present.
You exhibit admirable characteristics for young women to imbibe should they choose to do so.
You have my support.
Class and kind advice as always...and correct as well. We may not like hearing it but need to hear it...at the end of the day we should be honest with ourselves.
5:58 Do you mean 24 to 48 hours without a reply? or without texting in general?
Remember y’all she didn’t leave you on seen, you left her speechless. Stay up everyone 🤙🏽
I agree with the 4 signs of her losing interest, but really, there is only one thing you can do that is the correct answer, and that is to let her go suddenly and without explanation. Of course, if you don't do this, all you've done is tried to repair a dying relationship with a band-aid and some gauze, but this stay of execution is only temporary, guys. Soon, it will be something else, and often, someone else. Never be afraid to leave. And don't take her back, later. This is the sort of behavior that is too deeply ingrained and is often encouraged. Just let them go.
You can always reapproach later, or vice versa, but I agree. Reciprocation is most important.
The thing to always remember is she is never "entitled" to anything. It goes a long way.
This is true. You have you be ruthles in fact, when you do so. Usually women are very passive-aggressive and indirect about their intentions, so if you feel like she is slipping (and it's a strong gut feeling we have), then drop her like a bad habit, and don't spend time feeling sorry about that fact that she didn't communicate better her wants and needs: that is entirely her fault for not having that mature set of skills. Beyond that, never EVER agree to be friends past the breakup, and cut all ties via social media; don't hover and think she will come around. If you weren't her first priority, then her mentality will not magically change. If you introduce dread game to spark interest and want to keep her around, then you lost, it's dead and a lost cause. Get on with your life.
Bruh Dating in 2021 in a nutshell.... Hyrergamy and stuff the moment she fels no attraction shes gone,no interest shes gone 😂
Right 😭
I agree, it's almost like an alternate speed dating of sorts! All I know is life is short and non of us are promised tomorrow! I believe men and especially women are realizing this more and more!
Knew a girl back in college. Developed feelings for her based on she was the only girl EVER in my life to text as much as she did.
Held on to such feelings for YEARS before coming to terms with they were not worth after seeing how flaky she was with me only a year ago.
Now I am focusing on my career & getting in shape so I will find a girl better than her IN EVERY WAY. Looks AND personality...
...
...assuming such a girl even exists(not likely).
She does exist ask God for a wife he will provide you one. God Bless!!
@@marlindavis3155bull fucking shit. He never helped me do shit
Another sign I received of a lady losing interest was that she hinted at how out of my league she was. The rude thing about it is that she did so when we met in person after chatting online.
Damn Courtney! Your channel is blowing up! Great job and thanks for your vids!
Love your advice and hard work keep posting again love your advice 💯
You will both be drawn together easily if it's real mutual attraction. You know when this is or isn't happening, don't get emotionally invested if it's not.
She sends you an invitation to her wedding.
I find it interesting in different cultures how women respond differently I married a woman from a vastly different culture, she firmly believed it was totally inappropriate to ever ask personal questions of the guy she was interested in. Even after I married her she never asked me personal questions. Now looking back after our divorce, I see this is a really big red flag. A hard lesson to learn, but I learned it well.
The real question is do I have any interest in this girl at all. Haha but correct never be obsessed or aggressive and sometimes us guys tend to overthink and at times overreact when a situation with a woman doesn’t go are way. Best thing to do when a girl starts losing interest I to go do things that make you happy completely forget about the person your interested in go fishing go hiking in the woods talk to more women if she’s not interested gents there’s plenty of beautiful women like Courtney and the will appreciate a gentleman like you just keep working on yourself men when you stop focusing on these women who lose interest in you and doing things that make you happy that’s when women start looking at you say damn Juan’s got a glow his happy doing something different and these will chase you. Haha great video Courtney I hope read this it’ll make my day ❤️
you are the greatest Courtney, we needed your advice!
Courtney girl. You rock! Thank you for your honesty. Keep up the good work!!
throw in past traumas and getting out of a bad marriage. it throws all of this into alot of questioning and doubts. if shes really losing interest, scared, overwhelmed its hard to decipher. should you be there for them or should you do it from a distance or just dont do anything at all?
the less u do, the more u get.. thats how it works.. the loss of respect she had for u , did kill your relation. Loss of respect is due to weak behaviour, not negoiating, standing ground and stick with it with under all cost.. Say and do what u want and dont change your mind because being afraid to lose something.. and dont chase the girl. no matter u have a 10 year relationship.... invite them for dates only.. that the goal.
It’s not a man’s job to maintain a woman’s interest and emotional state at all times. Grow up ladies, develop some conviction and integrity for yourselves.
I matched with someone on Facebook Dating and connected with her on Instagram where I slid into her DMs. She replied with a 'hi dear' and after I subsequently sent her 2 short texts, she never responded back. (Although she read my messages). Is it safe for me to assume that I should move on?
Would it be considered a red flag is she openly says that she’s scared to get close with someone because of the failed past relationships and that admits to purposely stalling to reply back?
When she lies to you and you catch her in the lie. While I have not had that in a relationship, I have had it happen in friendships. I had a "friend" tell me one thing, and later told me the exact opposite of the first statement. Throughout the time that I have known her, she has continually said, "I am not a liar."
I feel like accepting the fact that she lost interest although you felt it coming from a mile away is the hardest thing.
To then just Walk away seems even harder to me, yet what choice do I have
I hate dating nowadays man
This is exactly why I don’t even bother.. I don’t think it’s really necessary anymore , because I was talking to this one girl things where going great then it goes completely south. I just don’t understand and how she tells me “oh I like you , I’m still interested Im just not fully in that romantic mindset yet “ like I completely understand but why you lead me on like that ?
Guys just remember they leave you have more money and more time to work out. And less stress sounds like a good deal to me.
I realised she lost interest after the second date when I tried to set up the third date and she said "this week I'm really busy so I'll let you know next week if we can". She never got back to me on that.
Another very Timely video from Courtney. I swear, sometimes Courtney maybe peeping my life! lol
You just opened my eyes @Courtney Ryan
I have been watching your videos for awhile. You give amazing advice!
We need the signs for us in long term relationships
Keep up the good work!
Love the content and your open mindedness!
Never thought I’d be here. But here we are, things were going great with this girl before New Year’s Eve. Now I can’t get the time of day, so I opened her text and went ghost.
These videos are a godsend! Thank you!
I have a question. I have this friend and we're really close but we have a platonic relationship. but one time we went out to drink and did it. Now she's not replying or seeing my texts. What should I do? because I really like her as a friend and I don't want to lose our friendship
You're a treasure of humanity ❤️
Should I confront her about this after we broke up? She said she still wants to be friends but it’s quite obvious that she doesn’t and I’m pretty tired of it.
Listening to you a question came to my mind, why does love have to be that/so complicated? I would love to see things more simple! 🤦♀️
Blame the woman most of the time for making things complicated and never knowing what they want ever.
@@ericv5435 I was like that, and after a huge love pain I had to wake up! I understand completely what you are saying!
Totally agree! 😂 I wish it was too.
Mihaela were you the chaser or the chasee lol
@@jacksonscully2537 more the chasee but the last time (when I most care about) I was the chaser but lost the fight! 😪
She starts to lose interest, say bye bye to her and that's it
2nd point,/sign kinda destroyed Me, years ago. So sad i didnt realised it at the time
Good suggestions, will keep them in mind
Always right on time with these vids. Was wondering the same
3:54 she flakes last minute, found out she had a boyfriend, she continued texting then I stop, she flaked on going out etc, she then started complaining when she called it quits with her boyfriend, i told her listen i am not your emotional tampon she never spoke to me again, get rid of women like this asap
I found a girl with perfect personality, she loved me more than anything else but I didn’t give her as much attention and I lost her. I’m feeling so regretful😢
There is always someone loses interest first, or has less interest. Make sure it’s you. Because if it’s not, it’s her.
Good afternoon (here at least), another round of good advice. The one with you always being the one initiating any and all exchanges, even if she replies, is probably one of the easier red flags to detect and maybe still overlooked due to her replying.
If talking to someone on a dating site when is it appropriate to give out your number? As it is easier usually than going to the site ?
Courtney really relate to my own problem but I will overcome it
Thank you for the great advice. I have a quick question for anyone who wants to answer. Is it alright to follow up with a person who hasn’t responded between 24-48? For example, I recently went on a date with someone and it went pretty great. They didn’t respond for 2 days and I followed up with “hey, haven’t heard from you in a while. I thought we connected really well not sure what went wrong. I just want to know if you’re alright?” Was this ok? She did eventually respond basically saying she wasn’t interested.
I don't think it really matters but I wouldn't have used the phrase "I thought we connected really well, not sure what went wrong". It's slightly negative/presumptive. If you just wanted to reconnect I would have just texted more neutrally like "hey, haven’t heard from you in a while, how are you doing?" and leave it at that. It's just about possible that being a tiny bit negative with "what went wrong" turned her off, but more likely is she just wasn't attracted after 1st date. Good news is you got an answer out of her.
That said after 1st date If you are going to wait a few days your next text should really be simply to ask her out again, not just reconnect. Or CALL HER ideally. Everybody texts, be the guy who CALLS. No idle chit chat, try for the date, if she's wishy washy you have your answer, she's out.
I'm a big fan of the post date gentleman text btw "Hey, just wanted to say I had a great time tonight, hope you got home ok" if you like the girl. If a girl doesn't answer that text you know you are on very thin ice.
@@jleano609 Right, I hear you. Next time I’ll go about it in a more positive way. I wouldn’t call since I believe that’s something you do with someone you know well. But, I appreciate your feedback it helped a lot. Thank you.
@@chrisg5352 One thing I learned a long time ago is you can build more rapport via phone than text. Communication is in three parts. Words, tone and body language. Lyrics, music and dance. Text is just lyrics, with the phone you add music, on the date you add dance. That’s why dates are powerful in attraction terms, but phone is a halfway house. Plus it’s spontaneous, she has to talk to you there and then, and you can gauge her attraction level better, flirt, make her laugh in real time. Much better than dry text and stupid emojis. Those are for kids.
2 differnt girls flat out ignored my asking to go out so i guess that settles it. also im always reaching out no matter who it is so...
I think people in general today DO lose interest more frequently due to the number of options readily available.
*women
100%
I would love a video on how to tell she has little to no self-worth, which would've saved me wasting all of that energy and time and passion on my ex who just gave up on herself, telling me she feels she's standing in the way of me being happy and had no faith essentially in ever being able to give back
Usually they're not that logical.
Amazing advice once again, thank you 💪🏽😎
Thanks Courtney! Very helpful.