Your Path to Success Opens When You Heal These Trauma Wounds
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Many of us who were abused or neglected as kids are forced to keep our lives small, neglecting the best part of all we can become. Going for big goals takes vulnerability, persistence and the ability to connect with people with calm emotions. If you have CPTSD, any one of these can feel impossible. In this video I respond to a letter from a woman who can only be successful if she's willing to promote herself and be SEEN. Hear my advice to break through the wounds of trauma so she can shine!
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Thank you Anna, and your daily practice is scientifically proven now.
It allows the thoughts to be managed by another part of the brain. See Arthur Brooks discuss this in his discussion with Peter Attia, M.D.
It's pretty cool to have a scientific explanation now and understanding how the Brain works to help us organize and manage our lives and nervous system. I love your channel.
I have a graduate degree in Psychology.
Yes! Professor Andrew Hubermann has been talking about it on his podcast, as well. Pretty profound stuff!
Yes, I did a video about the podcast a few weeks ago. His podcast and my courses references the work of James Pennebaker at Univ. of Texas, Austin
@CrappyChildhoodFairy I think you missed her question in this one, and I hope you'll consider making a video that answers how you hold both your private and public personalities together when CPTSD symptoms can sometimes override everything.
Fantastic! I am going to incorporate the DP into a graduate degree somehow ❤ It’s just a matter of time that this great lady gets a big spotlight. Brain science is So fascinating
Fantastic! I am going to incorporate the DP into a graduate degree somehow ❤ It’s just a matter of time that this great lady gets a big spotlight. Brain science is So fascinating
I would appreciate it deeply if anyone could pray for me I'm very Sick from long time illness please pray for me I'm Suffering praying for everyone everyday God bless you all
Please seek help 😢 you have my prayers
Praying 🙏 for you ❤
God bless always
May you be Healed, May you be Loved, May you be Supported by the Divine and Embraced by the loving arms of God / Higher Power. 🙏🏼
Prayers for you & everyone going through these issues
My wife kicks butt in a male dominated industry. She’s full of integrity, does great work that can’t be ignored, she plays zero games but doesn’t get taken advantage (strategic), and she’s kind but not overly so. You can do it.
needed this
This is exactly where I'm at.
I started a youtube channel, it got to 25k subscribers, and i started making decent money.... but then my CPTSD and depression caused me to lose focus, lose inspiration, etc
It's been well over a year since I was posting regularly. Please pray I get my drive back to continue 🙏
Post something
Small world! I watch car camping / nomad / stuff to keep in your car videos and have seen some of your’s. You have good content. Thank you for sharing your videos!
Why did you start ? Go back to the basic
hey good luck getting back out there, we need nore nature❤
Same
Trust me - CPTSD and mean people will follow you to every job and industry
Yes, even in the Psychology Industry, even there we encounter very damaged disturbed souls. We become educated to protect ourselves here and through other exceptional channels.
I’m cptsd with a horrible sight -4/20 so it’s much worst for me working with people with my slow motion it’s just like hell
Hi Anna ! I recently quit my job of 4 years to pursue my actual employment goals! I took a small pay cut but it is so worth it!!! I am a little nervous but I know I can do it!! Thank you❤
That is awesome!
The best job I ever had was as an assistant for a major Hollywood star. I believed in myself. I was treated so well, and my talents were appreciated. Since his passing, I have gone back to a nursing carrer where I get treated like a janitor. ( I was also a janitor earlier in my life.) Shoot for the stars and your dreams if you can. The higher you go, with your own beautiful personality and qualities yhe better you will be treated. I struggle now with the low treatment from these jobs. But I will always remember that at one time, people who had the freedom to choose the best, chose me.
Try going back to Hollywood.... Nursing is already hard plus it's probably less rewarding to the ego
Try to get back if thats what you enjoyed❤
Thank you for this topic, it's something I've been experiencing as well. I wonder if some of our tendency to stay small is because the people who were "big" in our lives were our abusers. We were always shrinking ourselves to survive, but to thrive we have to get out up front. Putting the fear aside to do this is hard - much respect to Anna for making those cold calls!
Yes! I remember whenever I was feeling more confident about myself- it would bring the attention of my mother who then worked extra hard to tear me back down again.
Yes! To you both.... we're sure not alone!
Happy Anniversary, Anna and Mr. Fairy. 💐
I relate to these reasons but also there's a fear of the rug being pulled out from under me.
💯 in my 50s!! Finallly made it.. albeit with mindfulness.. but found that calm!!! Don’t give up! Ever! Late bloomers always on the up and up!
This hit home as a singer songwriter myself. I used to cling to my trauma, thinking it gave me great writing material. From watching Anna’s videos, I learned my trauma was holding me back in so many ways. Thank you for you videos they have allowed me to be vulnerable enough to find the courage to share my work
This was completely beautiful and oh, so timely. Thanks Anna for sharing so much today about your rise to CCF. With your help I'm managing my CPTSD much better.
I'm actively planning a huge, huge endeavor for this fall wherein I will no longer be able to hide. Playing small & hiding never helped me in any way. It took me almost 60 years but I'm finally ready to ditch my turtle shell & go for something big. That's a win in itself. Thanks for everything. 💛
Yay, you go girl! I'm doing the leap, too, at 61. :))
You got this! -Calista@TeamFairy
@@kikki2012 It's our time. I wish you all the best.
@@karlareadstheclassics217 Thank you, it is a good year to take off the shackles and start shining.
I'm doing the same at 63 🤎
Ok, now I'm really curious: how many people here notice an incredible timing between the relevant topics of their life asking for attention and engaging an inner talk with Anna's videos?? It happens to me regularly: every 3/4 videos (all actually related to the issues I'm dealing with) there's one exactly on what I was focusing my attention last weeks, days and even a few hours earlier, like today (singing/writing and exposing myself publicly - acknowledging longterm, suppressed toxic shame).
that's how God Jesus works! all the time! God bless.
Same!
This letter moved me, especially the burnt skin part. I know that feeling. I've contemplated on it a lot in the past. You know, if your skin is burned and bruised even joyful and tender things like a summer breeze or a loving touch, a kiss, a drop of parfume, warm winter's sun, all of that becomes equally painful to their opposites. To actual hurt and burning.
Thank you so much, Anna. The work that you have done on yourself as well as the work you do here and elsewhere has really helped me over the past few years. I was lucky to have found your channel when I did and you’ve become like my online “mom” who always makes my problems more manageable.
You’re a great gift to so many of us who struggle with CPTSD 💕
Now that you mention it, super kudos for not running ads!
This is 10000% the video for me TODAY! I’m thoroughly enjoying this discussion, thank you Anna!!
I am about to live on my own for the first time in my life and I’m 52. I don’t even know if I’m going to make it financially or emotionally. I am hoping to make more progress in my healing but I may get worse. I’m a survivor of 19 years of CSA. I’ve been in therapy since I was 18 except the last 2 years. I’m scared.
Living alone rocks!! You get to do whatever you want and no annoying people and their annoying habits will annoy you. I love it. I have a cat and he's great company.
"The daily practise" became my daily practise and it works wonders in terms of growing a more calm, confident Self. It is a relief from all the internal and external stress, so I don't get so confused but more with myself - and yes, I also experience ideas, like being guided from good forces so to say.
Needed to see this today big time, bigger time than I can write here.
Thank you for being, Anna. 💚
Also, meditation is chatty for people even without C-PTSD. It's part of being human! That's why it's a practice. A lot of people think they are doing it "wrong" because they are not all blissed out or it's not easy to get their mind to quiet down. At first especially, it can be noisy in our minds because really l it's about being with what's there and it can be more about learning to be present with that stuff and learn to keep your center, observing and seeing that it's your mind doing mind things. This little bit of distance between us and the thoughts helps us see we can change them. Same thing happens with other mindfulness practices or with yogic practices or receiving bodywork.
I only found out i had CPTSD from finding u on TH-cam, Anna and now i have largely recovered. Which is amazing! Thank u for what u do! Therapists had no clue. I never expected to get over this thing. Largely. I find myself delaying a very exciting work project and I thought it was worry about the economy but i've realised it's triggering too. Going it alone, stepping out into the world once more, reminders. I should be good at this. I guess i need to do your fears writing practice!
God lord, yes!!! I am 31 and exactly at the same place. So pleasantly surprised finding this subject being discussed here, thank you so much Anna!!!
I really needed this, I’m about to showcase some of my work at a very veryyyy big music + arts industry event thank u sm❤
Thank you so very very much for being here.
Omg, I relate to ‘Aviva’ so much! My songs are directly related to my own childhood trauma, and at one point I couldn’t even sing them without triggering myself. I have 4 out in the world now but to promote, to ask people for gigs, even going to an open mic sometimes triggers all the BS we were conditioned to believe, like why should I, what’s the point, etc. I’ve been in a funk not wanting to release the latest song I’ve recorded, and this video helped me a lot. ♥️Thank you!!
We're all sending you encouragement! -Calista@TeamFairy
@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Thank you! Just started the Daily Practice. 🤞🏻
I never had any goals other than survival without being hurt anymore. Not one of my natural talents ever went anywhere or made my life better.
Dear Cindy this is from a 33 year old man from India who is going deaf. Had a horrible childhood. A lot happened. I am starting to make my choices now.i want you to start too. At whichever age we are we can always give it a try. And keep trying. Best of luck 👍
So glad you shared about your kids re your name. In my heart and so so grateful, I call you Crappy for short! It's like an in term between all of us. But I also admire the well mannered folks who see you as The Fairy.
Thank you Anna, you said something in this one that unlocked some understanding about my mother. She is a covert narc, but also a triving and functional person; she's always been very keen on providing favors for people, and she always seems to be genuinely nice and giving, but these would later be used to say "look at all I do for you and you don't love/appreciate/care for me enough." I have had trouble squaring that away in my mind, that she's not that much of an actor, and the help for people does seem real in the moment. I know she was heavily neglected as a child, and had to raise herself in a very toxic and disfunctional household, and I think the "taking charge" and doing so many favors for people really is her way of feeling like she finally 'fits in' or has 'a place in the group.'
Wow, time to update the mind model and my understanding, lol. Thanks again.
To further clarify, I have been sitting here for three years since I cut off contact wondering if her favors were simply some diabolical tool she used to lure people in for the drama and "hall of distorted mirrors" to come. But I think this makes more sense, that she wants some kind of acceptance from the people around her, even if she ruins it later with her impulsive self-pity, gossiping, and tyring to belittle and embarrass people in order to feel she is in control.
I encourage you to get the focus on your own healing.
Ok....I am literally 22 seconds into this....and you've nailed it for me. Staying small...not willing to be VULNERABLE. No risks please. Stay safe. Ugh....HATE this. 😢
Ok..I'll finish the video now...
Thank you God for another day watch over my family and friends and whoever is reading this bless them in a way they've never known before praise God praying for Everyone everyday God bless you all
Ego syntonic is a common psychology/psychotherapy term. “Ego syntonic refers to the behaviors, values, and feelings that are in harmony with or acceptable to the needs and goals of the ego, or consistent with one's ideal self-image.”
I'm so done with big goals.
I can relate to that...
Have belief in yourself, and you will definitely do better 👍
Anna I love your downloads! Keep going with them, and the courses too. I think CCF was very well set up and it has helped me a bunch.
I'm so glad our resources have been helpful! Thanks for sharing :) -Calista@TeamFairy
Love your heartfelt wisdom and the courage that fueled it.❤ I related a lot to Aviva’s experience. In the past when I had success, I powered through until I became misaligned. I used to suppress the feelings when they were too much. I have gone through many highs and lows. I am an award winning and bestselling author who sabotaged myself at the top of my success. It was very painful. I was offered another book deal but couldn’t follow through. I felt dread for the 6 weeks of radio interviews that had been scheduled by my publisher. I appreciate your reminder of the benefits of a daily self care practice.🙏❤🌟
This freaks me out because it means that our inner bullshit doesn't get better even once we've :made it". I hope you are finding your way back up.
I do this . A small safe unexciting world. I wont drive by myself more than 2 hours out of town. I'm too paranoid about danger. Somedays I don't get out of bed because I'm afraid to do anything
Thank you for watching. You may like Daily Practice. It is a great way to process fears and resentment. You can try it free here: bit.ly/CCF_DailyPractice
Nika@TeamFairy
Thank you. I needed to hear this. I just was granted a great opportunity that could lead to others and I was a little worried about how to approach it.
💐Happy 🕯Anniversary, Anna & Hubby! 🎉Congratulations on 10 years🎉👏🏼🎆
Super interesting. I am wishing the writer the courage she needs and all the success ❤ happy anniversary Anna ❤
Thank you!
Anna ❤❤❤❤ thank you for who you are and what you do x
Honestly I work in a regular old sales job and I feel like the working world is already invalidating, filled with rejection invalidating people and constant pushing. I guess we may as well Chase our dreams since we have to deal with all that crap regardless
Wow! I haven't even heard the letter to the end but I find Aviva to be WONDERFUL. As you noticed severl times she has knack for finding the appropriate metaphores and has enormous wits about her. I can't wait to hear how you will find the words to encourage and support her while cautioning her about the pit-falls. Years ago my therapist spoke about an artist who just couldn't sell her own stuff. She had her "pretend" that she was selling someone else's work which mde a fortune until the artist was able to stand by her art.
I think I might just become an Aviva-fan. Love.
I enjoyed your video, Anna. Thanks.
Imagine a songwriter whose greatest hits are based on happy tunes and lyrics about "sunshine, lollipop and... rainbows all around" 😂 i guess it cannot hurt the songwriting to have some deep feelings and insights about the human nature. Also for comedians this is valuable material I think !
Every time I start a new project or job or anything I have to make it to the top and very quickly at that. Then I have to go to another project or something and keep doing everything perfectly.
I wish I had just a sliver of that tendency.
You can find it
Super interesting, I get it! Constantly battling the push and pull between "see me" but don't look at me. Very hard to allow a limelight.
Anna, this was a great video. You were on fire and I needed the flames.
So great! Lots of love back to you!
What a beautiful message for the writer!! 🥰
Thank you Anna!
Thank you thank you thank you 😊❤🎉
Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment :) -Calista@TeamFairy
I've been waiting for this video for so long! Thank you, Anna!
Absolute gem.💎
Felt like you were talking directly to me ❤ Thank you for sharing
You help me a lot. Thank you.
Thankyou ❤🙏
Thank you
Greetings beloved 💕I hope you don’t feel I’m bothering you,I can’t just inbox for no reason,if I’m permitted i can tell you what I sensed
Thank you dance 💃
Honestly I also had the same question. This is ❤
Heal heal heal heal heal
Happy anniversary.
How do you do it when you can’t function
I'm kind of like that. I'm trying to learn to calm my nervous system. I figure it's firing hot all the time. So I'm learning a bit about polyvagal theory to gain understanding. I'm doing something called Human Garage to help my body pain that is likely caused by my emotional turmoil. It's oddly excellent. I'm also trying Bowsprings yoga to get on top of these body issues and calm my nervous system. I might take the cheaper or free course that Irene Lyon does. I learned Reiki and that has taught me how to calm my dysregulation and is tricking me into finally trying meditation. All these things are getting me closer to being a more consistently functional human. And the more I learn the more it seems to lead me to more things I didn't know about previously. It's building on itself. The trick is creating consistent habits with this stuff. I'm REALLY trying this time.
This is interesting and kind of hits home, Thank you.
I might write you an email if that’s ok.
Sounds good!
10y .. congratulations❤🎉
Thank you!
Yup
I just want to know, is this for us man too. A fellow subscriber here👍
Yes, this is for anyone who wants it.
My goal is to work with women and children who have expierience abuse and help them create a new beginning. One of my goals is to sing but do get embarrised easily 😂
I would like to join
How long are the letters that people send that you read? Does anyone know of any examples to be viewed?
I prefer they are not so long. 3-5 parapraphs.
What if trauma is constant? Such as tinnitus so severe.
I appreciate your laughter yet not when it's done in a way that's inappropriate. The person writing a letter and US listening want to be appreciated, supported and being able to move forward in a confident way. Thanks for understanding.
What do I say or think when a parent says “Some people we know have been in more dangerous situations and they were able to finish school and they have a great relationship with their parents.”
Thank you
Not only parents... i would say good for them. Everybodys journey is different. This is my journey and i am trying my best. If its not enough for you then that is your problem
It seems I have a big case of CPTSD, is it abnormal that I have been working 400 hour months for the past 10 years without burning out? O_o
❤🧡💛
Sia is that you?
As an expert on trauma why don't you talk about EMDR?
Jesus Christ died for our Sins according to the scriptures and that he was Buried and that he Rose again the third day praise God praying for everyone everyday God bless You All
Thank you so much for this video (too) 🙏🏻❤️being a creative with cptsd i really can relate to this, it's really hard to get yourself out there with so many wounds... But I always try to remind myself that we might be wounded but damn we can fight!! ❤️🌤️
Amazing content thank you so much CrappyChildhoodFairy you really are a Fairy 🧚♀️💜💗
Yes, we can heal! Keep up the positive thinking and good luck on your healing journey. You can do it!
Nika@TeamFairy