The worst thing about unrequited love is that we have no support. We were never together, she is not my ex-girlfriend, so people don't take it seriously. The video is only correct when we talk about people that want love and they go find someone. For me, I first met her, then I decided I want her. She rejected me, I respect her wishes and leave her alone, but I will never move on, never search for other and love her forever.
This was nicely put but does not offer too much logical sense. If you are not choosing, and neither the other side, than who chooses? If we are mature adults, meeting with rejections, we hold space to our feelings, however big and we move one. But that feeling (however big) is actually called love. The other party (rejection) does not share the same (however big) feeling which means you get unrequited love.
So beautiful and so true! Thank you for this wisdom. We all need to look within for love first.. no matter how lonely we feel. Love that comes from the outside will never exist forever. I believe we pull these experiences to us to learn and grow from.. if we choose to do so. If you are reading this, you are worthy of love from the greatest person of all- YOURSELF! ❤😊❤
Been waiting for my unrequited love interest for almost 8 years now and still no answer. Even though it’s been a very depressing time for me up until now, throughout that time I’ve learned a lot about myself and the deep mysteries of life. All I can say is that each situation is different and there is no direct answer for unrequited love. Everyone experiences it differently. But one common thing is that the emotions and feelings is the same as love. Doesn’t matter what mainstream society says. If anything it is one of the most purest forms of love… Life is strange
I don’t agree with that. Unrequited love is something real because I’ve experienced it. Just because someone justifiably doesn’t want you (initially), that doesn’t mean they won’t ever like you, especially if you change.
No. 😂 That's like saying anger only exists if two people are fighting. Love not being reciprocated doesn't mean one doesn't love the other. One person having romantic feelings about someone also doesn't make them immature. Unrequited love is mischaracterized here as an immaturity rather than unfortunate, and love itself is misunderstood as something that can only exist in relationship.
There is a group of people, like the person in video, that seeks validation through love, so they go find someone. When they are rejected, they can easily move on, because they don't care about that person, they just seek self-validation. Other group, including me and you, don't need validation, we already know we are nice loveable people, we are truly in love with someone and, if unrequited, we are sad that we are not with that particular person we love.
I've been in a repetitive position of unrequited love ever since your early videos and they gotten me through each one these past 4 years and now I'm here again. But this time I'm trying my best and I'm choosing myself, I've never been wanted so I'm going to want myself
I completely disagree with this. Some times there is no moving on, there is just being stuck on a depressive limbo. It sucks, and there is no change in mentality that will make you move on. People with irreciprocal feelings already have enough shit on their lives to have to deal being gatepekt when searching online for their specific problem. Also moving on and finding someone else is considerably easier for females than it is for males, but there's nothing that can be done about that.
I agree. Someone that has felt love knows it doesn’t have to be reciprocated for it to exist. A sentiment exists whether its desires take action or not. The feeling is ours and ours alone. Hers was either a feeble attraction or she’s kidding herself. Maybe she wants to minimize the feeling to minimize the pain, because there’s no reason to feel excruciating pain if it wasn’t truly love.
I find it interesting that I find this video today (5/6/24), the day in which I get an “I don’t think I’ll be able to come” from a girl I was taking a liking to and had asked to my school’s dance. I believe what you say in this video, and it IS encouraging; thank you! ❤️ But if you could please pray for me, bc I am still feeling a little sad and in a little bit of emotional pain that I can’t ignore from the rejection right now. 😔💔 Don’t worry, I’ll be ok. I just needed to vent, bc I’d otherwise have nowhere else to vent.
I've focused on myself, but then last year i went through the stress, of not knowing how to cope with my mother's cancer treatment. Then i met someone, i have a weird emotional and mental connection with, but then at the end of the year, i went through emotional burnout, from trying to hard on pursuing her and other goals, after all life is short. I wish no one experiences unrequited love, especially mine in the past where at least your brain thinks, this connection with a person is one of a kind. So you feel like you have to rush things, but then the effort feels one sided.
i get what you’re trying to say but this is just based off of if someone was as mature as you suggested in this video. if you go back to reality, you’d realize that most of us are not mature adults, and we have our issues. it’s not as easy as you make it out to be. it’s definitely possible for someone to be in love and for another to not reciprocate it. imagine being in a serious relationship and your partner tells you they no longer have feelings for you. you’re not going to move on as fast as you say we should. i’m sorry but this isn’t a very good take.
Disagree on a fundamental level. It's very selfish of you to say unrequited love is not "real" love or not love per se. Maybe you're happy person... so I got to say this: the least compassionate, understanding and helping persons are actually happy ones. They don't feel the pain you feel and they don't know how to respond not to get things even worse for the person in need.
What in the case if we are holding on because they showed us something flickering from their side and they held our hand of friendship in kindling way in the beginning and they gave us a slightest hint of hopes and interest towards us and that we became hopeful and started getting deeper into attachments with them whilst they kept giving importance to our friendship and then when the time was late to realize we got even nore so deep in love that now we are not in the place to accept that they never had a chemistry with us at all and it was all just us in delusion and now we are so heartbroken and unable to cope with it and so stuck with them??
Wow.. I think you are incredibly naive. I don't think you can ever have been in love with someone who didn't love you back. There is no logic to it as you suggest. Of course it isn't mutual love.. it's one-sided love. But it's still love. Pray you never experience it.
I am 100% with you. It is the worst feeling ever and l have felt it for the last 2 months. No, we don't want to hear people say "move on" because we do not want to, our feelings still run deep and moving on too quickly means we have pushed that person aside which is the last thing we want.
And btw I don’t disagree with you I look at it like when your hurt your hurt but when you recover and become stronger from it you look at the situation differently. Unrequited love is very real but when you find true love it feels very different almost like it changes what you thought love was before because the love you now have has meaning.
That's not what I needed or wanted to hear, I always knew she would not be mine and the inevitable day would come, for 15 or maybe 20 years I am thinking of her, praying for her daily.... I can't close my heart to her... But, I am finding a way to re-open my heart to the world and find a way to keep living on.
Very helpful and sincere point of view. I thought she was the one and only but i fooled myself and now decades later i am over her. I expect too much from others which is a Long Term recipe for disaster. When we are enraged with Lust we fall into a hole of depression. The pity party is for Losers who don't appreciate the Rain.
The lion kingdom never achieved requited love, but 40% of men don't either. You figure out if you're going to fit in the social order by a certain age & move on.
Everyone should seek balance please you don’t live forever in each life, leave people at peace don’t hate them for loving you cuz that is the stupidest thing ever, gratitude is important
This looks a video not for unrequited love, but for a rejection. They are different things, maybe in the first there was love, but they simple not happen, the suffering about something that pass and will never came back. The advice about love yourself is beautiful, but u ever loved unconditional for years?
There’s some animosity in these comments that I think is misaligned with your message here You’re right that we make space for our feelings and we move on. But we have no choice if moving on means that those feelings fade. That goes for all feelings Some of us genuinely just loved a person. And the part of us that did never went away. Some people leave a lasting mark, and that’s just life
She has her personal life that she priorities. I respect and appreciate her sharing when the time is right for her. Just want to my thought as I read your comment
This might be a bold thing to say, but I really don't believe that unrequited love really is a Real thing. Ya know? If it's unrequited, it probably isn't Love. Because when mature adults are met with rejection, they hold Space for their feelings, however big, and they move on. Because someone not wanting you, is a fundamental incompatibility. And instead of personalizing it and thinking that there is something wrong with you and that you're bad, you can literally say, "Thank you so much for showing me where my energy no longer belongs. I won't try to convince you to love me, because I believe I am very lovable, and want that for my Self." Because the people you are meant to have in your life, won't need convincing or persuading. The truth is, you choosing someone, and running after someone who doesn't want to be with you, is not Them rejecting You. It's You rejecting your Self. And the only way out, is to choose your Self, before waiting for someone Else to.
Its the child like love that many carry into adult hood. Immaturity causes us to fail our intuition or power to grasp a love that is deep in internal feelings, so we idealize. We have to explicitly know how our heart feels, self blamelessly and to learn feeling external love, sensing love. That is far off from the actual pov, of unrequited love. So yeah love is a hard emotion to grasp, in this digital fast paced age. Understanding and empathy, a care for the other person garners true love, and that’s where it comes back to understanding our actions no matter the pain, to forgive and to move on with true wisdom.
Is this some kind of feminist bs? Its so wrong that it couldn be wronger. #1 if you want to talk about love ist honesty and this video is tge complete opposite thing of honesty.
I know I’m late, but what does moving on mean to you? I’ve never taken the rejection to heart, I continued to live my life, found new passions, revived old ones and all around just became happy again. But even now a year later I still feel a little pang in my chest when she talks about someone else. I still have to take breaks from talking to her so I don’t have to be confronted with her dating life too much. I’m confused because I’m not sure if moving on is the same as healing ❤️🩹 I’d love your perspective on this :)
Just because someone doesn't love you back doesn't unqualify it from being love.
The worst thing about unrequited love is that we have no support. We were never together, she is not my ex-girlfriend, so people don't take it seriously.
The video is only correct when we talk about people that want love and they go find someone. For me, I first met her, then I decided I want her.
She rejected me, I respect her wishes and leave her alone, but I will never move on, never search for other and love her forever.
"Thank you so much for showing me where my energy no longer belongs". This really makes have a epiphany!
This was nicely put but does not offer too much logical sense. If you are not choosing, and neither the other side, than who chooses? If we are mature adults, meeting with rejections, we hold space to our feelings, however big and we move one. But that feeling (however big) is actually called love. The other party (rejection) does not share the same (however big) feeling which means you get unrequited love.
So beautiful and so true! Thank you for this wisdom. We all need to look within for love first.. no matter how lonely we feel. Love that comes from the outside will never exist forever. I believe we pull these experiences to us to learn and grow from.. if we choose to do so.
If you are reading this, you are worthy of love from the greatest person of all- YOURSELF! ❤😊❤
Been waiting for my unrequited love interest for almost 8 years now and still no answer. Even though it’s been a very depressing time for me up until now, throughout that time I’ve learned a lot about myself and the deep mysteries of life. All I can say is that each situation is different and there is no direct answer for unrequited love. Everyone experiences it differently. But one common thing is that the emotions and feelings is the same as love. Doesn’t matter what mainstream society says. If anything it is one of the most purest forms of love… Life is strange
8 years is insane, you should have let go long ago for yourself.
Bro thx for your text, I'm in the same for 12y, I love the last phrase bro and I totally believe on you❤
I don’t agree with that. Unrequited love is something real because I’ve experienced it. Just because someone justifiably doesn’t want you (initially), that doesn’t mean they won’t ever like you, especially if you change.
The longer you believe that your feelibgs are returned, the more dissapointed you'll get when you realize that was never the case......
No. 😂 That's like saying anger only exists if two people are fighting. Love not being reciprocated doesn't mean one doesn't love the other. One person having romantic feelings about someone also doesn't make them immature. Unrequited love is mischaracterized here as an immaturity rather than unfortunate, and love itself is misunderstood as something that can only exist in relationship.
Spoken like a mature person who has felt true scorn. I pity you, because I am you. May we find peace
There is a group of people, like the person in video, that seeks validation through love, so they go find someone. When they are rejected, they can easily move on, because they don't care about that person, they just seek self-validation.
Other group, including me and you, don't need validation, we already know we are nice loveable people, we are truly in love with someone and, if unrequited, we are sad that we are not with that particular person we love.
@@goranmilic442^^^^
I've been in a repetitive position of unrequited love ever since your early videos and they gotten me through each one these past 4 years and now I'm here again. But this time I'm trying my best and I'm choosing myself, I've never been wanted so I'm going to want myself
@jondavidg3155 sorry to hear bro
I feel so similar!! We deserve to love ourselves, have a wonderful day❤❤❤
Damn.. there's poetry and song in your words. I'm right there with you.
I completely disagree with this. Some times there is no moving on, there is just being stuck on a depressive limbo. It sucks, and there is no change in mentality that will make you move on. People with irreciprocal feelings already have enough shit on their lives to have to deal being gatepekt when searching online for their specific problem.
Also moving on and finding someone else is considerably easier for females than it is for males, but there's nothing that can be done about that.
Couldn’t finish this bc obviously she hasn’t really experienced unrequited love 🙄
I agree. Someone that has felt love knows it doesn’t have to be reciprocated for it to exist. A sentiment exists whether its desires take action or not. The feeling is ours and ours alone. Hers was either a feeble attraction or she’s kidding herself. Maybe she wants to minimize the feeling to minimize the pain, because there’s no reason to feel excruciating pain if it wasn’t truly love.
I find it interesting that I find this video today (5/6/24), the day in which I get an “I don’t think I’ll be able to come” from a girl I was taking a liking to and had asked to my school’s dance.
I believe what you say in this video, and it IS encouraging; thank you! ❤️
But if you could please pray for me, bc I am still feeling a little sad and in a little bit of emotional pain that I can’t ignore from the rejection right now. 😔💔
Don’t worry, I’ll be ok. I just needed to vent, bc I’d otherwise have nowhere else to vent.
I don’t agree, and I don’t think you have truly felt unrequited love if it’s that easy for u to get over
I've focused on myself, but then last year i went through the stress, of not knowing how to cope with my mother's cancer treatment.
Then i met someone, i have a weird emotional and mental connection with, but then at the end of the year, i went through emotional burnout, from trying to hard on pursuing her and other goals, after all life is short.
I wish no one experiences unrequited love, especially mine in the past where at least your brain thinks, this connection with a person is one of a kind.
So you feel like you have to rush things, but then the effort feels one sided.
i get what you’re trying to say but this is just based off of if someone was as mature as you suggested in this video. if you go back to reality, you’d realize that most of us are not mature adults, and we have our issues. it’s not as easy as you make it out to be. it’s definitely possible for someone to be in love and for another to not reciprocate it. imagine being in a serious relationship and your partner tells you they no longer have feelings for you. you’re not going to move on as fast as you say we should. i’m sorry but this isn’t a very good take.
Disagree on a fundamental level. It's very selfish of you to say unrequited love is not "real" love or not love per se. Maybe you're happy person... so I got to say this: the least compassionate, understanding and helping persons are actually happy ones. They don't feel the pain you feel and they don't know how to respond not to get things even worse for the person in need.
Thank you! She couldn’t have really experienced it to be so casual about it.
@@cassaundramariac9075 Casual with a smirk thrown in.
Nice sentiment. But, I think I'll continue being miserable.
What in the case if we are holding on because they showed us something flickering from their side and they held our hand of friendship in kindling way in the beginning and they gave us a slightest hint of hopes and interest towards us and that we became hopeful and started getting deeper into attachments with them whilst they kept giving importance to our friendship and then when the time was late to realize we got even nore so deep in love that now we are not in the place to accept that they never had a chemistry with us at all and it was all just us in delusion and now we are so heartbroken and unable to cope with it and so stuck with them??
I love this... Thank you for this in this moment...
Wow.. I think you are incredibly naive. I don't think you can ever have been in love with someone who didn't love you back. There is no logic to it as you suggest. Of course it isn't mutual love.. it's one-sided love. But it's still love. Pray you never experience it.
I am 100% with you. It is the worst feeling ever and l have felt it for the last 2 months. No, we don't want to hear people say "move on" because we do not want to, our feelings still run deep and moving on too quickly means we have pushed that person aside which is the last thing we want.
She’s speaking from a point of clarity once you are free from this unrequited love it will all make sense.
And btw I don’t disagree with you I look at it like when your hurt your hurt but when you recover and become stronger from it you look at the situation differently. Unrequited love is very real but when you find true love it feels very different almost like it changes what you thought love was before because the love you now have has meaning.
Cute, but without clarity.
She got some good advice still
Thanks for this. I wish I could believe it more than I currently do, but I appreciate your beliefs on the topic.
That last line is all I need to hear.
I'm 14 yo and that's deep
That's not what I needed or wanted to hear, I always knew she would not be mine and the inevitable day would come, for 15 or maybe 20 years I am thinking of her, praying for her daily.... I can't close my heart to her... But, I am finding a way to re-open my heart to the world and find a way to keep living on.
Beautifully said. ❤
It was real love I felt. I know it. But I don’t love myself and don’t know if I ever will
Beautiful! This is so correct. Thank you. X
The only thing I needed to hear♥️
Very helpful and sincere point of view. I thought she was the one and only but i fooled myself and now decades later i am over her. I expect too much from others which is a Long Term recipe for disaster. When we are enraged with Lust we fall into a hole of depression. The pity party is for Losers who don't appreciate the Rain.
The lion kingdom never achieved requited love, but 40% of men don't either. You figure out if you're going to fit in the social order by a certain age & move on.
This video need to be heard by everyone who has same situation. Do your thing, youtube algorithm
Beautiful to hear it,but it doesn't work in real life.
what about, from this vision i am now taken?
...the hell I agree with you.
Beautifully said. Thank you Sarah!!!
what should i feel when it turns out to be unrequited love everytime? Am i that much unlovable ?😢
Everyone should seek balance please you don’t live forever in each life, leave people at peace don’t hate them for loving you cuz that is the stupidest thing ever, gratitude is important
That does not help.
This looks a video not for unrequited love, but for a rejection. They are different things, maybe in the first there was love, but they simple not happen, the suffering about something that pass and will never came back. The advice about love yourself is beautiful, but u ever loved unconditional for years?
There’s some animosity in these comments that I think is misaligned with your message here
You’re right that we make space for our feelings and we move on. But we have no choice if moving on means that those feelings fade. That goes for all feelings
Some of us genuinely just loved a person. And the part of us that did never went away. Some people leave a lasting mark, and that’s just life
I think a lot of people in this comment section conflate love with infatuation.
What happens if they come back months later but you moved on. Moving on is hard enough, do you go back because you love them?
Good point.
No , if someone is showing u that u r not priority, u should accept their decision. Don't treat these people like seasons n open ur door for them
Thank you.
For uploading the video ..very much needed.
This 😅😢❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉 i love this so much. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for this. Almost shed a tear yo
Place ❤ ?
Epiphany ❤
It's a real thing but the person you have that with may not be your real love.
Damn I just realized, I memorized the entire thing, so many times I am back here.
You are vital to mystical awe. Beam on!
So glad you're back
I love this, thank you!
i feel like you're my sister
I wish i could meet you someday...
Why the condescending tone and framing?
I would have washed those first before eating them hahaha
Beautifully said
I seriously love you beautiful
❣️🌺❣️
I always wanna be with you
I'm with you ❣️🌺🌼🌸❣️
thank you!
You are an angel. Thank you
Love this.❤
Hello! You eat plum very good.
Couldn't have said it better ❤️
Easy to say...
Talent with inconsistencies
My personal observation but I could be wrong. I do not know what's happening in your life. But I wish the best for you:-)
She has her personal life that she priorities. I respect and appreciate her sharing when the time is right for her. Just want to my thought as I read your comment
It's true. Trying to be more consistent :) Had to heal a lot first.
@@SarahSnows I wish nothing but the best. You've got the skills and I hope you share more with the world after healing ✌️
☹️☹️☹️☹️☹️
Thank you Sarah
Love this❣️❣️🙂🙂👏👏
യേശു ക്രിസ്തു വുമായുള്ള ബന്ധമേ സ്നേഹ ത്തിന്റെ പൂർണ വ്യക്തിത്വം മനസിലാക്കി തരുകയുള്ളു,.
I respectfully disagree
Is there anyway i can work work with you? I mean even promoting your social media handle?
Thank you 💗
This might be a bold thing to say, but I really don't believe that unrequited love really is a Real thing. Ya know? If it's unrequited, it probably isn't Love. Because when mature adults are met with rejection, they hold Space for their feelings, however big, and they move on. Because someone not wanting you, is a fundamental incompatibility. And instead of personalizing it and thinking that there is something wrong with you and that you're bad, you can literally say, "Thank you so much for showing me where my energy no longer belongs. I won't try to convince you to love me, because I believe I am very lovable, and want that for my Self." Because the people you are meant to have in your life, won't need convincing or persuading. The truth is, you choosing someone, and running after someone who doesn't want to be with you, is not Them rejecting You. It's You rejecting your Self. And the only way out, is to choose your Self, before waiting for someone Else to.
Its the child like love that many carry into adult hood. Immaturity causes us to fail our intuition or power to grasp a love that is deep in internal feelings, so we idealize. We have to explicitly know how our heart feels, self blamelessly and to learn feeling external love, sensing love. That is far off from the actual pov, of unrequited love. So yeah love is a hard emotion to grasp, in this digital fast paced age. Understanding and empathy, a care for the other person garners true love, and that’s where it comes back to understanding our actions no matter the pain, to forgive and to move on with true wisdom.
Nah
❤🎉😊
So good.
Beautiful ❤
Thank you
Is this some kind of feminist bs? Its so wrong that it couldn be wronger. #1 if you want to talk about love ist honesty and this video is tge complete opposite thing of honesty.
❤
You seem totally dead inside, cold, fake. Where is your fire?
You are clueless. Please show me your PHD credentials this subject.
I know I’m late, but what does moving on mean to you?
I’ve never taken the rejection to heart, I continued to live my life, found new passions, revived old ones and all around just became happy again. But even now a year later I still feel a little pang in my chest when she talks about someone else. I still have to take breaks from talking to her so I don’t have to be confronted with her dating life too much.
I’m confused because I’m not sure if moving on is the same as healing ❤️🩹
I’d love your perspective on this :)
Wow, you make the hardest truths so clear and soft, thank you so much 💖