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I don't think I could go through this five more times
Not even 3😭
dude i cant even do this now wtf do you mean 5 more times
It gets easier each time, because you learn that feeling your feelings isn't dangerous and it gets them over with faster.
But you definitely will. 5 isn't an exact number. But time will most certainly heal you if you allow it to and trust me when I say this from experience, you will find another person you can love with the same intensity. It does feel impossible right after you had this experience, but it does indeed happen again.
that indeed sounds hopeful and wonderful. i just got out of my first relationship heartbroken, believing that I won't have such love ever again. but your message gives me hope.@@gauravbhalerao7420
The timing of this is LITERALLY a personal attack. Well played.
Haha, same
+1
litch
Broke up 3 days ago. Right on time id say
Literally
“Under the circumstances you did your best, and I’m proud of you” thanks now I’m crying
I didn't watch the video until the end, but when I saw this comment, I decided to watch it just to hear that quote with my own ears. That's how sorry I am...
dude i was scrolling as the video finished and i read this as it played by accident
I was holding it in right until that point then I realized I can't remember the last time I heard "I'm proud of you"
i read this way early on and i braced myself for it but it still broke me, the last time i heard "im proud of you" was from her, and before that it'd been decades.
I started crying like 5 times while watching the video haha
as someone at the end "acceptance" phase, I've started to cry a lot more, not out of desire or due to the ache that will always be there, but out of the contentment of having experienced them in the first place.
God I yearn for this, I fucked up so bad, I just want to forgive myself and be able to get to that stage too ... ugh curse my narcissism and BLESS you and I'm so glad for you friend
real
@@authaireme too honey we'll get there one day i hope, just gotta serve as most good as we can to the world from this point on
Stop I’m crying
I'm scared of reaching that point. A point where the same things that hurt now will fill me with satisfaction.
"Meeting the wrong person at the right time means that you are ripe for real relationship, but you are mistaking the identity of the person to whom you are attracted. This can lead you astray and cost you a great deal in terms of time and energy."
_Relationships and Higher Purpose_ by MV Summers.
This happened to me and I would have preferred meeting the right person at the wrong time.
Actually when I think about it - it wasn’t the right time either. It would have been the perfect time in my life to explore the world and myself and I spent it shoving hope into a black hole. It’s not too late though. As long as I live I can learn from mistakes and keep exploring. I just hope it’s true that we learn best from making mistakes.
@@NothingButThought thank you for this comment
I feel this deeply and it's exactly what ended up happening. I think admitting finally that they were not the right person it was just the right time has been a big step for me.
@guitarszeni feel like this approach has hurt me so much. we are social beings by nature, it's not wrong to crave or want a romantic connection, what's wrong is thinking that will erase all your problems and detach yourself from your own identity and self worth. those are two really different sentiments
Thank you for sharing this powerful quote!
"The important thing is that you tried, you were on this earth to connect under the circumstances you did your best" yuppp that hits beyond different
This hit me like a brick. Two years with the only person that has loved me for who I was and the last week without them felt like I was dead.
hows it holdin up?
Hope you’re well
@@smcheeto much better, though i made some mistakes recently, it gets better
@@mirok509 nice man, keep it up
Going through this now. 2.5 years. I'll miss him forever. It feels like a part of me has died. I was so happy for the first time in my entire life. 😞
"You opened yourself up entirely and things did not work out the way you expected them to. I'm sorry that this has happened" hit me hard and made me cry, but it felt like a good cry because I haven't felt seen or heard like this in a while (which is actually sad and probably the other reason why it made me so sad to hear these words coming from a strange person in a TH-cam video instead of a friend)
I hope that reminds you that we are going through this together.
This comment made me decide I don't want to watch this video lmao. I could barely handle this comment 🤣 I gotta leave
@@meowJACK oh noo I'm sorry, I didn't want to scare anyone off! And maybe sometimes it's important to feel those heavy feelings and let them out. But I understand if you don't want to feel this right now 🖤
Had to wipe a small tear from the corners of my eyes too
If I had the chance to go back and do it all again knowing this was how it was going to end.
I would do it in a heartbeat, just for the chance to be with you again.
Oh I wouldn't
There are less painful and time-consuming ways to learn the lessons I did
But hey, dwelling in "if-I-could-I-would's" is about as useless as waiting on time to go backwards
@@matheussanthiago9685 if that’s what you’re like, that’s fine. I for one choose to remain a hopeless romantic
this made me bawl
There's a couple of old songs with lyrics like that.
Total bullshit. Keep the trash were it belongs
The "This is happening to you 5 more times before you die" really destroyed me in a good way. Here in Brazil a long term love is so much hard to find and last week my girlfriend broke up with me I really needed this video to be posted, thanks.
why find a long term love is hard in Brazil?
On the same boat, lol. Whatever i regret nothing
@@ojobruma cuz brazil is a country where kiss and relationships doesnt mean a thing, its the pinnacle of bauman's liquid love. here is so easy to kiss someone and then the other day u are kissing another person like nothing even happen before. imo, its a fun stuff :)
The fact that not only Brazil, its the same in Germany too. Long term love has become a joke in many countries now. I am sure more people will watch this video soon as time passes
@guitarszenexactly. if i'm destined to have this happen 5 more times, count me out of the game then please. my body literally cannot take it.
7 years now she’s a stranger with amazing memories we had , happy she found someone (: I hope nothing but the best for her
2.5 years now, a month has passed and shes recovered. happy for her but i feel like a shell, how do you do it
@@climboutofhell thats beautiful, thank you. i wish you all the same
What fucks me up is I didn’t even have them in the first place and it still hurt like hell when they left
I feel you. I feel like my imaginary girlfriend broke up with me and I'm embarrassed at how hard I'm taking it. There was something there but I made it into more than it was. Chin up. We're doing our best.
Glad it’s not just me with this kinda thing. She was my best friend for the past 2 years and we got close to getting together until she started to attack me, lie straight to my face, and just declined in quality as a person. I tried to communicate with her, but she was incapable I guess. We still interact on occasion (she has a partner now while I’m still single), but seems upset with the idea with me being happy with someone else, even going out of her way to be vicious to the current girl I’m interested in. I’m not sure what she wants from me, but I’m fairly certain it’s not in my best interest and I’m ready to move on.
5-6 month situationship, i knew she was married and it would end poorly, yet i still replay all the affirmations and empty promises she said to me.
worst thing ever because you still hold onto hope that one day you’ll be with them. But you just need to wake up and move on (still haven’t gotten to that part yet and its been ten years help what do i do)
@@catminecraftyasbrother she texted me the other day that shes moving back home in another state, asked to see me again, but I just wished her the best and to take care of herself. I cried last night if im bein honest. Ill miss her, she is a beautiful person
"Meeting the right person at the wrong time means that you recognize someone, but you do not have the capacity to participate with him or her. This will be a very difficult experience."
_Relationships and Higher Purpose_ by MV Summers.
I think it can still work and not end in a breakup. It's very difficult as it takes insight to notice what's going on and hard work to grow
Thank you.
It doesn't always have to necessarily be that. Circumstances count, culture counts, family counts, race counts, backgrounds count. And many more...
No the person (guy)got handsome. Stop w the pixar cuck muhh love cesspool
Do you recommend reading this book? How was it? Did it help you cope in any way?
kinda similar story,
I was cheated on with my longest relationship actually about a year ago today.
Post breakup I went full into self improvement and I fell deep. Completely changed myself and perspectives I once had. It was a beautiful metamorphosis. I was at my peak happiest self in terms of confidence and overall lifestyle around February. When I went to the gym I’d see this girl, something about her sparked my brain. Fast forward, I get to know her and we get really close. It was just, the puzzle piece we both needed. We went on crazy adventures, Yosemite and beach trips in San Diego. The sad part is she was moving for college, We ran the course of our connection to the fullest extent. It was beautiful.
She’s gone now, haven’t heard from her. That is perfectly fine, after some reflection I realized that is the kind of partner I want. I’m headed in the right direction.
Even if it wasn’t her.
“I’m headed in the right direction. Even if it wasn’t her” damn.
Similar story as you, but the moving for work hasn’t happened yet. It’ll come next year or maybe 2-3, and it already breaks my heart knowing what’s to come. I’m starting to believe that right person, wrong time is real because of her
It’s been a year, but I really like your mindset and hope you find the partner in life you’re looking for 👏🍀
watching this video every day because it makes me cry. it just hurts so much. but also, i’m so proud of myself. for really truly loving someone, for finally letting myself be vulnerable again, and for being everything that person could want in a partner. i tried so hard, cared so much, and did my absolute best to show someone how much they mean to me. i truly did my best. is a relationship what they need in their life right now? no. am i in pain every day? yes, but after losing my best friend to heroin in 2016, i hadn’t had a single close relationship with another person, platonic or romantic. i have a lot of healing and work to do, but i finally feel worthy of love again, and i finally feel like i actually deserve the work it takes to get better. it’s going to suck, it’s going to hurt, and it’s going to take a long time, but i don’t think i’m fundamentally broken anymore, and i do finally think i deserve to heal. thank you for this video :)
Wow. Involuntary tears started coming on when you said “Im proud of you”. Im in the midst of exactly this, and I just wish the person, one time, would have said “I see youre trying and it means a lot.” Never an honest word of support. Hurts so much.
It's funny I teard up there too, I mean the cadence of his voice just has that impact but also I think there's something to being told someone is proud of you that brings on a certain kind of feeling, idk I never got that a lot from my parents growing up so the few times I heard it authentically stick out in memory, and so him saying it with the delivery of the perfect fatherly figure in that moment haha, it lights up all those same neurons or something.
give yourself the support you are looking for.
anything else is just another reason why you think you both should be in contact while truly you are not.
you have yourself to be in contact with, all those beautiful and real feelings, resonances, ideas, moves, all the richness and the silence behind it that is you. Don't wait for anything while being your pure simple magical breathing self.
Thank you for these magical and inspiring words friend@@TaliaMellifera
I see you are trying and it means a lot ❤
Same. My life for the past few months has been this video. To see so many people relate and find a community of people that experienced the same under this video feels...nice. After the longest time something feels... nice.
It is kind of comforting to know that this is such a universal situation to be experienced by so many people... On the other hand it makes finding real, lasting love, feel so unachievable.
This video perfectly describes my situation right now down to the absolute details... Its already helping me get through all of this way easier, thank you so much! ❤
PS: thanks for the "happy end" of this video 😂
I really did laugh at the ending, even though I’m just 3 weeks post the end of a 3 year relationship
I take it to mean that it’ll happen a couple times until it finally manages to be the right person for the right time
funny this is this isn’t just for romance but friendship too going through a breakup with friends and i can see all the stages of grief im going through in this video
I relate to this immensely. There was once a time where I had this person who I would do anything for, sacrifice my time and attention for whenever she's presented. When we got closer, she told me that she felt safe to be around me, as if I was someone who she trusted dearly. I felt moved by her words. All those times I spent with her gave me the motivation to go to school everyday, to wake up early everyday and to stay up late everyday in hopes that we may talk again.
One day however, I decided to confess my feelings towards them. It was a day where the sky was blue and clear, the weather wasn't all hot, nor too cold. It felt great, it felt like a good day, but she rejected me. Her words felt like a knife at first, but then a bandage for the wound that it done. I understand the things she'd said as the response to my confession, and we remained as friends till now.
We don't talk much as before, frankly she probably doesn't feel safe to interact with me, but it was the consequence to my confession.. and I don't hate it. I had only chose to spoke with honesty, and her accepting wasn't what I searched for. Being honest with myself and her was what I yearned, and I'm glad I confessed to her.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful story kind stranger, i found it very inspiring and i really like your writing style. You were very brave to confess your feelings and held on to it by accepting honesty, be it in a form of rejection. Although bittersweet, it sounds like a lovely experience. Hope you have a great day/night. Stay awesome.
A friendship dies the moment one person begins to have feelings for the other
Not telling your inner feelings is like not allowing your yet unrealized self be born. You spoke thruthfully and that is never wrong.
Based
Congratulations on having the guts to tell her how you felt, live a life to its fullest and there's no regrets❤
the way you speak and emphasize every word with so much meaning is beautiful. your videos have done so much for me, thank you.
I'm so sorry this happened to you but I can't take you seriously from your profile picture
@@Pocd953 the most random ass reply i've ever seen in this channel and yet so true
@@Pocd953 LMAOOO no you’re right i completely forgot that was my picture
@guitarszenyour behaviour is intolerable. please refrain from the HOARD of hate comments, they aren't needed nor appreciated. this is a safe space for people to open up and your bitterness is not accepted here. please leave swiftly and silently
@guitarszen what is wrong with you 😭
Being able to watch this video and smile at moments that once felt like dying. It really is wonderful how powerful the human spirit is 🥀
This is the Anxious-Avoidant trap, and it can be avoided by forming a more secure attachment style.
How do u do that?
The video doesn't exist discuss attachment style.
Thanks for sharing this term with us. Explains the issues in my last relationship
I have felt this exact thing, pain in the way and order you described to a tee. But I just want to add that times change, people change too but not as much. After experiencing this, I ended up meeting the person again, when the timing was a bit better. Now I’m in the happiest relationship I ever could have imagined. Don’t give up hope that you deserve love and that you will know it when you feel it.
There was this girl who I dated for almost 3 years, it all was bliss till it wasn't. It's been almost an entire year and in that year I was the most miserable slob I was. Till she reached out and we tried to talk, she had already moved on and found someone new, and stupidly I didn't. I would never tell her but I wish I still had a chance with her even though that chance slipped away a long long time ago. But soon, as we spoke less and less, the thought of her started to fade, each time someone would mention her name it wouldn't sting as much, all the dreams I've had of growing up with her slowly faded, I was healing. It's been awhile since I've even thought about her but this video brought back good and bad memories. I've moved on, but the memories still linger, but safe to say? I look back at it fondly, and now I don't think I'd change anything.
thank you for sharing; your words give me the hope that i'll eventually find peace with my situation too. ❤
you didnt have to kill me with that last line 😂
I'm going through this exact same process right now. Long-term relationship with someone I felt was my forever. We are both still young, both 24, but it felt like my entire future was taken away from me without having any say in it. It's been over 3 weeks now and I still think about him everyday. It's getting better, and I am learning to find myself once again. Thank you for putting out these videos that speak to so many of us.
Sounds like you’re doing very well for 3 weeks! Give yourself time, I’m on month four almost but I’m starting to see glimpses of light :)
I’m in the same boat. 23, 2 months out and got totally blindsided. Somehow doing ok since this isn’t my first rodeo but damn this hits home! Losing the future you worked towards together is difficult. Stay strong, you’re not in this alone 😅
seems like this is something that’s happening to a lot of us :’-) been 1.5 years since my breakup & i still stumble from time to time but it hurts less. stay strong 🖤
Samesies. I'm 24 as well and it's been 3 painful months so far. This video is word for word everything I've had to experience. I'm moving away, I've had to deal with visa issues and health issues. I'm glad to have found a community of people here who can relate and show me that I'm not alone in my experiences. I wish you and everybody the best of luck. I hope we all find love within ourselves, with another person and never have to deal with this again. You better be wrong Sisyphus 55. It better not be 5 times but just this one.
@@zentek5989I’m on month 6 and I’m just now starting to not think about him as much. I’m at the acceptance stage but it’s been so many times where I thought I truly did move on , but would slip up and feel that hurt again. Made me realize that healing is linear and that wound will always be there, I just had to learn how to cope with it better which makes it easier to deal with as time goes on :)
this came at a very convenient and weird time, i think i've just gone through a breakup with the right person. I hope that life throws up back together again one day
Love the quiet strumming of Remember Me from Coco. Sets the bittersweet/nostalgic tone well.
Not every interaction is like this. With experience you can find the person again but don’t lose yourself keep each other motivated and progressing! Y’all are supposed to build more not conjoin 😼
That part about moving for one more chance sent my stomach to the floor. My partner and I have been in a tense state ever since we got back together. So much has changed and we only really have each other. I have a feeling we both know it's time, but we're not ready. We have talks almost every month asking if we're really ok with all the changes we've made to continue to be together. I don't want to hurt my boy, but I don't know how long we'd have to stay together to not feel like we're just one stressful week away from calling it.
I'm reading this one month after, how's it going now?
Take a break for a month or more if agreed by both parties.
i feel like nobody’s talking about how absolutely gorgeous the editing is for these. the combination of animation, old video, and still photos is genius! kudos to you and your editor
Distance & time away from them allows you to heal & learn & grow to become wiser so hopefully you dont make the same mistakes of your past..
If some is truly meant to be in your life.. you can never loose them
If someone is not meant to be in your life.. they'll only be in it for a short season to teach you valuable life lessons.
This hits home. I'm so close to fully accepting, yet it feels so far away. Thanks for that, friend. Means a lot to know that others are human too and will go through this 💗
Not sure how this video found me when I'm literally going through this exact thing right now. This is the worst pain I've ever felt. 5 more times? God I can't imagine that. This is the worst. What's weird is, he's talking on the time scale of months. It feels like I've been though each one of these stages multiple times in only a few days' time. In any case, I really needed this. Thank you
It's crazy how well timed this video is for me. I'm currently in denial. Even yesterday I begged and begged like a childish idiot. I searched this channel up just to find a video about loneliness and this one really just fits so perfectly. Every word felt like it was directed at me personally.
You're amazing. Thank you.
So sorry to hear that. No one deserve to
This is a dummy account, but if you want I can help you to set up on some dates. You're doing well in solving the rubik cube.
you are not a childish idiot. i did the same thing recently. you are full of love and unfortunately that love was misdirected. we will heal and find love again, this time hopefully directed inwards. i have been practicing to fall in love with myself everyday.
@@steeyul Me too. Learning to give myself priority and love, right now. Trying to be happy. Trying to work hard to build a better future for myself. Good luck to you and hopefully to me also.
Literally went through this last weekend. Stay strong boys, we're all gonna make it ❤️
Reading this two months after. I hope you're doing better, king ❤
@@06alejandro02 Life gets better every day. Stay after it my brother 💪😎
This is me not even a full week ago. Just short of 10 years together. Feeling a lot of things to say the least.
just focus on o3 and stop wondering about girls
It’s been one week since this happened to me. Hope your doing well👑
Got together at 17 got married at 21.
I used to think it was what I had to do if I wanted kids early. but I realized too late that the person you have kids with matters more than a time line you created for yourself.
23 now (no kids) and the mess I have to clean now is overwhelming
Don’t rush into things please
Especially when it comes to the person you spend your life with
Sisyphus back with another post that'll make me think,cry and eventually feel calm in ways I can't fully explain
just a few months ago I had a relationship move very fast out of nowhere. within a month of meeting, we met each others parents, spent hours together doing literally anything, and it was good. then one day I was awoken to being blocked on everything. I kept wondering, what did I do? only a few weeks later she reached out and told me everything she was going through and needed to be alone. it was reassuring to know I wasn’t at fault, but it still hurt. eventually you get over it though, you will find someone who is ready when you are. after awhile you are able to look at that relationship with honesty, and realize that it in fact, wasn’t for you. time heals all things
I can't belive how such a short video can condense all of what I'm feeling right now... thank you for making it. Thank you, it arrived exactly when I needed it.
So many video essayists on this platform and you're the only video poet.
This was crafted beautifully and with so much honesty.
FIVE MORE TIMES? NO, THANK YOU SIR.
i went through this 5 years ago, decided "well i never want to do that ever again" and I haven't since
Sisyphus.
What you create is extremely beautiful.
I write as a hobby sometimes, and once in a while, I feel a sudden envy of your work.
Envy of your iconic artstyle,
envy of your irreverent soft voice,
but above all...
I feel a deep envy of your mind,
of your dazzling words.
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Enjoy Life, You Deserve It
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Non-native English Speaker
Admiration and wanting to be so
@@mfgee they said it perfectly
What's your native language? You have a very poetic way of writing
you, my friend, not noob
very important to mention not being a native speaker
The most impressive part of the video is how eloquently these thoughts were put, it takes an impressive amount of self refection to achieve this level of clarity and it's something we should all strive for
Sometimes I see videos on the internet tell me that "If its right for you it will come back to you" and people talking about how their person eventually came back with time. Other times I see videos telling me that I'm stupid for the things that I do. I'm always back and forth between the option of holding on to hope that the person I lost will come back to me and having to let go because its the right thing for me. Before they left they had told me what feels like empty promises saying "I know time will bring us back together" and "You are SO right for me" or "I'm sure time will bring us back together if you're willing to allow it to happen". I really really like holding onto those empty promises they gave me and thinking about how other people got their person back with a little bit of time. I also think that there is no right option to choose and that I'll have to keep ping ponging between these two feelings until they either come back or I eventually let go. This video summed up the experience almost to a tee. It even gave a summary of what may happen for the future and how I'm going to feel then. I still wonder if its true what people say?
that If its right it will come back to you. I'm young. I have a lot of the world and people to experience. I've had relationships before. And yet this one felt different. still feels different. Maybe I'm hopelessly in love. Do right people/wrong time ever get a right time?
It’s almost scary how perfectly he captures these feelings in this video. And amazing timing, as always. Thank you.
Read one referring about this topic it said that if you feel exactly like this then it's the wrong person for you because if it's the right one it will always feel like everything is right, every piece falls into place, never a slight feeling of you caught between this thought. It just seem like a self-justification to lessen the pain of not working out.
Bro got me with the “you did your best. I’m proud of you”.
ur timing is impeccable. i've accepted the fact that she'll never feel the same way again, and am learning to come to peace with it. i just wish i can tell her everything i've learned to let her know i'll be okay, and with that maybe what i've learned will help her out too.
Thanks for being the comfort I never thought I needed, especially through a time like this
Perfectly outlined. I was lucky to live through extreme anxiety as a child. Music was my foundation for meaning growing up, and that search and loss for meaning is almost exactly the same as love and loss. I find myself lucky to have loved and lost not only people, but my own foundations, three times over. I feel thankful for my suffering now, as it has lead me to be a better person, because I truly wanted to be better. Love is the same, and why understanding, not knowledge, is the true foundation for all things.
All of this sounds painful, terrible and I have no idea why someone would willingly put themselves through this.
no one puts themselves willingly through this. Sadly this just happens.
I went through a breakup very similar to what you described (except it started out long-distance and stay long-distance throughout the whole "relationship.") It took me so long to understand that I deserved to be in love without all of the pain attached to what we had. This video has strengthened my resolve to keep moving forward.
This is exactly what I went through. The “it took me so long to understand that I deserved to be in love without all of the pain” hit home hard.
i'm in the same boat and it's agonizing. i'm almost four months out from a long distance relationship/breakup that changed my whole life. i am in this weird limbo state of accepting it and still hoping she comes back to talk one day. our situation isn't typical and it's hard to know what's happening.
The time this notified me I didn't watched it immediately because the timing was brutal and knowing this guy; I would cry pool of tears and watching it now is so weird its so accurate.
me and the "right person" are slowly coming back together now ^^ fixing our flaws and forgiving each other
I believe in right person wrong time, but if its really the right person, right time will come for them.
Hi, can I ask what break you two up and how much time apart if took for y’all to come tg again?
@@valeriapazmino338bro let it go
@@valeriapazmino338Also asking. Lol.
Never in my life have I related to a video as much as this thank you for making me realize everything I'm feeling is normal
Haven't felt this seen or understood since we split. It's been 5 months now and I have finally experienced those moments of realization that I haven't thought about her.
Thank you.
It is very comforting to see the swaths of people commenting how much they relate to this video. In a time where one can feel so alone, it’s comforting to know that this is an almost universal experience.
This is just perfect, the images and animations, the voice, the topic, the timing, the somewhat hopeful message. We’ll get through it, this is only temporary :)
This happened to me a little over a year ago. It happened near perfectly described- and having spent the last year truly working on myself- having finally begun to *be* myself, it feels as though the same thing is happening all over. A different person- and rather than the relation of "right person/wrong time" in hindsight- it was reversed. It had already been the wrong time *when* I found them as the right person. Truly.
Forming a best friend from the introduction of another best friend- and though the purposeful listlessness of my love is done so for this reason- the wrong time having been five years prior- I learned from my past mistakes.
Just because you've found your soulmate doesn't mean you must di what you can to form the loving intimate relation that American pop culture as idealized, rather you should just allow them to be happy with what they themselves have done for themselves. Celebrate the fruits of their labor, rather than frantically having the need to be "theirs".
When you find your soulmate, bring nothing to the table save for yourself with no expectation. Do not do anything for them to get something from them. No quid pro quo. Rather than your relationship with then becoming an exchange of dependency, offer your gratitude and encourage their lives- thriving with or without you. Be there for them in need but do not solely provide it all for them. In turn- they may offer their gratitude in their own way. And through *that* is how you love them. And that is how true love can be between souls and without body.
Beautifully said.
the amount of guilt i feel for making someone go through this... whilst I am glad I didn't let them wait, it hurts my soul to know she's going through even a bit of this.
I was dating someone who I felt it was like this. The condition of our breakup however, prevented me from going through most of the pain as I zipped right through to acceptance.
My mother had just broken a bone, and needed some serious assistance so I cancelled the dinner plans we had for my birthday, a week in advance, to make it to my mum's surgery and look after her while she stabilized.
One day after I told her about my mum, we broke up.
Initially, I was angry but about 30 minutes later, I realized I could never be with someone who would force me to chose between spending time with them and helping my mum.
She eventually texted again to mend things, and I gently said no.
Met her at work, she was going through a really rough spot so I was there for her and we became friends during a tough spot and we dated, I was skeptical but I let myself become vulnerable for her. I always think of her, 2 months was how long it lasted, to this day I still love and care about her.
I'm at a loss for words. This is exactly what happened to me, except I met her from mutual friends. I was there for her, she fell for me, I was skeptical, but eventually gave it a shot. Like you, it only lasted 2 months, but it was lovely and unfortunately she needed to cut me out for her health 4 days ago. Thank you for your comment and I hope things have gotten better
Same here, meet her at work and she was going rough time. Something kick in me, I was worried for her and always thinking if she was alright. One day her parent kick her out when she turn 18 so she had to live with some friends but it was to far from our job so she had to quit. We didn't loose contact and one day things turn south and she call me crying, she was on the street again. I brougth her to my place and she came back working with me. We got together for 6 months, I gave her all the love I had but she felt lost and trap. I didn't see the sign so she brokeup so she can concentrate on herself and me on myself. It been almost 2 mouths and will still live together cause we both have nowhere to go, she want us to stay friends but I don't know if I can, I still love her and it hurt almost everyday.
We aren’t alone man, I’m 17 and met her 5 months ago in Econ class. Something sparked in me about her and that’s when I decided to give it a shot even tho I was in doubt. Things worked out and got together. It only lasted 2 months. It hurts when the other person already got ready to those feelings of breakup pain. While on the other hand (me or you) have to deal with it once it ends. But remember, you tried your best.
Stop being a nice guy looking for vulnerable women to fix, you say if I fix her, she’s mine forever. That comes from a place of low self worth. Find someone who is happy, they won’t suck the soul out of you.
@@TheMrBackgroudyou can’t live with an ex. What if she wants to bring a guy home to sleep with?
Good thing is, nothing can get me to avoid something like telling me "it will happen to you"
i miss him so much. every time we are in class together i can’t help but think of the way he made me feel.
This is incredible. This video talked directly to all the pain I have inside and hurt me, but at the same time it made me feel so understood.
And, I just find out about this video, but the craziest thing is that it came out exactly the day when I broke up with the person I thought I would spend all my life with.
I still feel lost.
Thank you.
While watching this I had a strange thought, that this video was probably the right video/wrong time for me. Acknowledging that in the future someone is going to make me feel so bad that this video would seem ultra relatable. I've had a few 'heartbreaks' but not my first real one yet. It's kind of a scary thought that it is basically inevitable no matter how self-aware you are of your own situation.
You have to look at people for who they are and fully accept them or walk away. people don’t change and we create a false perception of others expecting them to change (regardless if it is for the better), and end up hurting ourselves by letting our imagination take the wheel.
i often wonder if i’ll even be able to go through it again a second time… not that i won’t be strong enough, but if i’ll even be capable to let myself go through it
Infatuation isn't real love, it's a shadow cast by the projection of your own unexamined values and desires onto the person who acts like a canvas for them. It's a symptom of narcissistic thinking and behavior. It's not about accepting "imperfections". The other person's own will, individuality and dynamism aren't flaws. But, acceptance of them -- however uncomfortable -- will constitute a much more authentic love. It's important to remember that love and authenticity are as potentially fatal as they are life affirming.
The timing on this coincides with my recent breakup, so my heart was heavy listening to this. I cried because these are the exact thoughts I’ve been having the past few weeks, and it makes me emotional to hear them so eloquently said.
Completely honest here. This is art. This whole thing you created, the script, the animation, the background music, your own voice… those alone, but especially combined, they form an art piece. Thank you.
The timing of this video is uncanny. Just ended a 3 year relationship and I'm currently in the depression stage. I can't even think of being over it. I know I will, but I guess that won't be me, in the sense I mean it is now. The gut punch of this video was hearing I have to do this 5 more times apparently. Not looking forward to that lol.
It does change you, fuck knows it changed me. But it can be for the better
Currently going through it, and definitely feels like shit. I knew that relationship wouldn’t last in the end but I want the comfort back, which i know I’ll never get.
Strangely enough the last line that itll happene 5 more times, makes me feel like this was necessary for me to learn about myself, and how to deal with loosing someone so close to you. Ik my capabilities of love, how much im willing to forget just so that the person i love can thrive. Ik it sounds silly, and perhaps thwres some denial, which ill see when things hurt less and it settles, but besides the mistakes i made that caused its end, there is a lot in me that makes me glad, my principles, my love, everything. I dont know why this video is so accurate, i cant even comprehend how, but i suppose it feels better to know that its common
Not every strong connection is meant to be long-term.
I hate everything that happened, I hate that I’m feeling all these things, it’s awful
But I thank you for making this. I think I, as well as a lot of other people, really needed this video
The timing on this one is.. Yeah. It's amazing. And depressing at the same time.
"This exact situation will happen to you 5 more times until you die" 😭😭😭
this is simultaneously so painful but so helpful to me, i have recently broken up with my girlfriend after we spent 1,5 year together and seeing this has made me understand what she has been trying to explain to me for weeks. i feel so awful for making this decision...
Same, brother. How are you doing now?
Doing better, I hope
You both shall find peace and happiness, just not so soon. 1 day all of it will be let go and both of you shall be joyful like the young children we were
pain is a part of life, not the end of it. i went through this and we got back together, but she recognized I wasn’t ready and ended things for my own good. Even though it hurts, i know she’s right. I am still grateful.
This video has showed exactly how every "relationship" has gone for me.. Goes amazing at the start, you feel great, you destroy yourself and give everything for the person just to get told they need more time, that its too fast eventho they moved the same.. Romance is dead at this point for me...
In another life, I would have really liked just doing laundry and taxes with you.
A year ago this month I had broken up with someone and seen this video, it's helped so much, I found someone I truly love and now they've left me too, and I am back watching this very video and tho the pain is still so fresh, this video is something I really needed, ik I'll find a way to accept my loss once more, ik this pain will fade, certainly not today, or tomorrow, but one day this pain will be nothing but a distant memory
0:15 nah, doesn't happen to me
First few times this video made me emotional, now I just smile a bit.
The fact that I get to experience this 5 more times in my life, excites me, I get to learn things even more. I know its painful but things will get better, eventually. The most important thing about it is I get to try and feel it, even if for the short time. Life isn't about who you are, but making who you are, it'll have pain and heartbreaks but it will also have joy and happiness.
I love your diary-entry type of video-making. Your sincere videos and the cozy conversation in the comments remind me why expression is important. We can't really know who needs to hear what we will express in the spesific manner of how we express it. And it's important to create and share if there is a radiant restless excitement within us, for the sake of not betraying that beautiful feeling and ourselves.
Lots of love to everyone
I wish I could like this video a thousand times. You gave words to some emotions I could feel, but not explain. Thank you
I feel like we never truly let go of the one's we love. I feel as though there's always a little home we leave for them in our hearts, hoping that one day they will return. It's difficult to admit to one's self that the home will never again be filled. Yet over time instead of feeling the pain of the void, we embrace the beauty of what was once there.
I want to talk it all out to a therapist but they're god amn expensive, but saying "it is what it is" costs $0
It's been exactly a year and 5 days since I was dumped after a 2-year friends-to-lovers relationship with one of the closest people I know from college. A lot has happened since then, and frankly I never thought I would currently experience acceptance compared to how sad and miserable I was a year ago. Don't know why I started tearing up at the very end when they mentioned gratitude for having experienced such a connection/getting to know them. I guess some things are meant to happen for a reason, even if things don't come into fruition the way you wanted/expected them to.
i’m finally starting to want to love and be loved again, even if it’s someone other than them. i still find that horrifying, but at least it’s progress, i think. wonderful video as always, thank you for the reassurance that the hurt is both real and impermanent. :)
i loved her. i had never felt that way before. she was perfect.
What is meant for you will never pass you by. ❤
And sometimes what is meant for you is a life alone.
@@Thechristiangodisajoke depends on how you define being alone I suppose. One should always keep an open mind. Sometimes it’s easy after many failed attempts to conclude that a life “alone” is the best option. Each failed attempt should be seen independently of each other. For instance, I’ve always wanted to finish writing books. If I looked at every time I failed to finish one instead of how much progress I’ve made on each one … then surely my mindset would not be fit to try again. But instead, if I focus on what I have managed to accomplish in combination with my desire, it feels therefore it is a little more likely I will finish one in the future…
@@Thechristiangodisajokethis is the harsh reality that many refuse to, and will never accept even on their death beds. Unfortunately, life doesn’t owe you anything. Learn to navigate, and embrace the suck, and most of all stop swearing the small things, because just when you least expect it, something big, and shitty is gonna happen to you. Save the anxiety, and stress for the real shit when it inevitably happens, BECAUSE IT WILL!!!
@@Samadhikissmeditationhe’s obviously referring to a romantic life partner/spouse.
@@honkhonk1555 sure. Maybe some of us are meant to be alone. Who knows. But if it’s not what you want, I don’t think anyone should just lie to themselves. That’s not going to help. It’s okay to take a break but soon or later the heart wants what the heart wants. No use in pretending we are machines. It’s okay to want and need someone. And there are a lot of people in the world. It’s ridiculous when people act like there is no one out there for them. They are just blind and unreasonable.
just woke up and saw this vid and it kinda applies to me. i’m in my first longer term relationship my final year of college w someone who had graduated a year before me. it has literally only gone well-adventures, close nights, meeting family. it’s been like a ripe peach, so sweet. their family will send them things about me, and my family will send me stuff about her.
but I also recognize that with my career I’m undertaking, I will be moving a lot and very suddenly for the first few years of it. a seasonal/internship here, back to this place for a short job, until maybe i find a place to start a PhD. it’s a lot of flux, and change, and something that I feel I need to go at alone. and I care about them so so so so so so so much, and really want the best for them, and truly feel like since this is something I need to go at alone, that constant change won’t be good for them, when they have a career predicated on making connections with people. I feel guilty for feeling like i will inevitably end up destroying something so good, stomping out something that has seemed to have no issues. and I care about them so much. it’s just not the right time
I’m 4 years your junior (can you use the expression that way? lol). Similar situation, but I’m going to college instead. I’m sorry about your partner. If things do not work out now, perhaps they will in the future if you are both still available
@@flitefulwantssubs402 Yeah its a hard situation :( my friend went thru it too, and she says looking back on ti she's glad she handled it how she did! if u got the feeling, trust ur gut :)
This is the first breakup video I've watched that encapsulated my thoughts exactly, down to every thought that passed through my mind.
I'm so used to opening up to others about my ex only for them to break out into assumptions and demonize my former partner beyond any reason, and I'm also used to watching youtube videos that do the same thing.
At the very least, I'm glad to know that there are others out there who loved in the same way I had, lost in the same way I had, and now greive in the same way I do now. For the first time, I feel entirely seen and understood. I am not alone.
My heart can’t take it anymore dude
It can. Though only you can decide, if you are willing to try again for something greater than yourself.
I suffered the death of a partner recently. I didn't know how deep in the closet they were. As they got sicker they began to cut contact with me as their family began to become their care takers. Large parts of this video apply. Thank you
I’m going through the depression state rn
I can believe TH-cam somehow figured out a way to recommend this to be but thank you, I really needed to hear this
Coming out of an 8 month relationship where i was living w a girl 8 months later. Always make sure the reason you get into a relationship is based on mutualism. A relationship tattered in selfishness will create a rift stronger than you realize. Fighting on-off, makeup sex, the last push then the fall. Love with intention people don’t sabotage yourself.
Super p.s. Do NOT confuse love for loyalty. Anybody can love you. But a person that will have your back no matter what is more valuable than spoken emotion. Take care of yourselves folks 🫂