Straight guy here.. There isn't anything wrong with you bro. Remember, there will always be douche bags in the world. Your not one of them... Well unless you do something that actually makes you one, and sexual orientation doesn't qualify.
I came out 46 years ago... I'm 63 now. I just can't imagine not being true to yourself and others for so long. 60 years?? That must have been horrible for you. I'm not trying to mean or rude... it's just unfathomable to me to be in such a shroud for so long. I'm so glad you finally did it and I am definitely proud of you Larry!!
Your best friend is right, to call you brave, & right to be proud of you for taking that huge step. But I want to advise you on something...when you come out to people, don't think about them "accepting it", as you put it. Think about it as them accepting YOU. Being gay isn't bad. Being gay isn't a choice, so you are being YOU. And since you are not an IT, but a human being, accepting "IT" just sounds wrong to me. I'm not gay, but I go to a church that is all inclusive & welcomes all, so there are many homosexual couples in our congregation, our pastor (before she moved on ) came out to us, and we have a young teen who is transgender. Be strong, be brave, and be YOU. God blesses EVERYONE.
Good news is statistically homophobes are dying out. Far more positive comments than negative, far more people don't give a shit about sexual orientation. Smile, it's getting better. Cry all you like Tankin, you lose.
***** nothing brave about bashing people because of who they're attracted to or love either. Maybe YOUR problem is, you don't have HALF of what they have and wonder why. Maybe you're just envious that they can be themselves & love themselves & you can't. Anyone spewing that much hate, is unhappy with their own life. Too bad for you...YAY THEM. Get over yourself. YOU'RE the abomination for trying to judge someone. YOU'RE 10 times the threat that they'll ever be, because all you're doing is spreading your venomous hate around. You know what hate does? It festers & eats awsy at people. THAT'S why you're
Hey man, I am a gay male and still have yet to come out to friends, Thank you for giving me the courage to do it . as I will do it this week to the rest of the family. My mom knows but that is about it. I am terrified , However I am not out at work but I am doing it after this. I dont care . I love you bro. I wish i lived closer so we can be friends and I could have someone to talk to . Thank you . You are such an inspiration.
You coming out to your best friend and him accepting you for who and what you are is a true friend. He is someone who will let you have total freedom to be yourself and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with him. That's what real love amounts to-letting a person be what he really is.
Good video Jesse, and more power to you. Came out to my sister about a year ago. Everyone else in the family have already passed on, so she and her family are the only ones that know.
It's moments like that that tell you who your true friends are. And it looks like you have a pretty true friend :) it takes a huge amount of guts to tell someone that. You're awesome
Things get better. I am 47 now , I denied being gay to please the family until I was in my mid twenties. I excepted who I was and finally told my family after I left my hometown. it may take your family some time to adjust but it's better for you to be honest than for them to hear it from someone else
Dude, what a beautiful soul you are. "You moved me like the mountains, you moved me like the sea." That's a song, and it fits you perfectly. Take care, and, be proud of yourself and be HAPPY!!!
Well done mate!! I came out when I was 14 back in 1971 and it was very tough. I lost a couple of friends but I guess they were not real friends. My parents were great about it though. Yes, you are very good looking but I don't understand why guys have to comment when it is irrelevant to the conversation. A lot of gay guys are very judgemental when it comes to looks and physiques. Crazy......like someone for who they are and what's inside.
Jessie Calvillo You. Are. A. Great. Friend. It's. Hard. To. Trust. People. With. Your. Life. I. Have. Had friends. Turn. On. Me. ,. Use. Me financially. ,. Hurt.me. ,. Don't. Care. About. Me ,. Verbally. Abuse. Me a. And. Physically. Abuse. Me,. Lie. To. Me. ,.then. Leave. Me. . I. Just. Needed.a. Friend. They. Took. Advantage. Of. Me. . Until. I. Found. God. To. Help. Me. Overcome. .
Your 'coming out' is one of the best I've seen here. You are articulate, mature and convey the emotion without the drama. I had a similar experience telling a good friend. I hope to see more of you. God bless you !
Your best friend is truly a good friend. You appear and act so unassuming, straightforward, and matter of fact, that unless you have some bad luck I think most of your friends and your family too, will take the news without much fuss. Those who do, you have to realize, also have "problems," and those problems are theirs, not yours. All good fortune to you.
Dude!! Nice tour of the woods! Holy crap you live in the middle of nowhere. With that said, Kudos to you. Life is riddled with Ups and downs! Thing is...you dont ever exit the ride before it's over. You are gonna have the naysayers, and the "real people," on your life ride. Always be you!
Thank you so much for this video, you are giving hope to a lot of people who can find coming out to friends and family very difficult, your a very fine person, well done!!
Good self care , and good for you . Staying in the closet would only drive you deeper into that empty closet where you tried to feel safe. Glad you told your best friend, that's a huge second step. Admitting it to your self was the first step. There will be day's when being out you will face adversity, but you are out on your terms and speaking your truth. Life will be a mixture of good and not so good people. Take what you need and leave the rest. Best wishes to you . Tom in Minneapolis, MN 10/14/19
you're a beautiful, loving, strong person. hold your head up and be proud of who you are. and the friend you came out to is probably one of your best friends ever. just love yourself and be who you are.... you have my respect dude
Thank you for posting this! It just appeared today on my feed and I agree with you. Once people see nothing ya changed about you and that the person you were will always be is a reassuring feeling. It’s great seeing someone who isn’t afraid to live their truth before years passed them by.
Kevin Long maybe, hopefully someday he will realized his mistakes,,, i knew it for the 1st time that some things going wrong until i discover one day,, huhuhu :( i want to forget those bad mem’ries and i dont wanna cry either,....
hey, I'm straight, but I don't think there is anyone more tolerant than me. there have been multiple people that have come out to me and I've helped one of my very good friends come out to his parents. I've taken part in multiple gay pride events with a lot of my friends. equal rights and gay marriage is the one thing that I believe in 4000% lol. I'm really proud of you and it does take guts dude. sexual orientation does not define who you are. it enhances it. I don't know I've started so many fights and ending multiple friendships because of my beliefs and it is just something I will always fight for. I'm glad your friend was very accepting. I hope your coming out process goes as well :)
It's really nice to see people such as yourself supporting those that need encouragement in the gay community. Although I think you meant well, the word "tolerant" is probably not the best way to describe your position on supporting gays. Tolerant has the connotation that "although this behavior may irritate you, you will tolerate it" and the actual dictionary definition is "showing willingness to allow the existence of opinions or behavior that one does not necessarily agree with". You are not the only one who uses this word when referring to supporting gay culture. A better word to use would be "accepting" or just "support". I just wanted to point this out so that other readers would not use the same notation when referring to supporting gays and gay rights. Thanks again for all the support you give the gay community.
I think it's great you came out to your friend. I was always so hesitant to come out to anyone, but I feel like in order for me to be myself around the people who cares/loves me, they should see the real me, and not this alter persona! Great job Jesse!
I was a teenager had to ask my mom if older sister was gay? She said "what if she was?" I said " doesn't matter I still love her." Mom said " ok she is." My mom told her I knew & she freaked out but then we became closer because she didn't feel she needed to stay away. She stopped being depressed & my family felt complete. I wish you the best.
You’re an amazing guy for doing what you’re doing. You’re absolutely not alone, not even a little. I came out at 16 and, unfortunately, had a terrible experience. That said, coming out gave me epic relief and I’m glad I did. I was me. Not a fake. I was real. Not pretending. When things are real and you are you, who you are meant to be, the bonds are broken and you are free to start anew. Thank you for sharing.
if you were my son I would be proud of your bravery....... now go out there and give a good decent example of a gay man today ,jesse you can move mountains. no one can be you jesse. keep on keepin on! the truth shall set you free... now fly jesse... fly!
Hi Jesse. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I really enjoyed the video. It made me feel more human and accept-able just by watching and I have been out since 1996, but still lacking on as much self love as I see in your video. Looks like you might be living in a remote area with a low population and that makes friends even more important and what you did even more comendable. What I liked most about your story was that you shared about your process and struggle with self-acceptance and that it is just 'part' of who you are and that 'you're' still the same guy. Basically acknowledging that it is your sexuality and not your identity. Huge difference. Bro!! When you do that, you really lay claim to 'your' life and your place in the Universe and of the universe. I hope you begin to fully enjoy being fully you and the feeling of that light you just turned on inside of you which is liberating a lot of people from of a very common but a very unnecessary ignorance and/or lack of self-love. You're a handsome man btw, but your humility makes this video particularly powerful and beautiful, together in the wilds of nature and your personal dimension of human nature, where we all belong and all come from, and shining when we come-out!! :-)
Condēu̯i̯os Andīlixtos But I'm straight. At least I think so. And about your coming out You can do it. I know it's not easy, but do it when you feel comfortable doing so :)
Beautifully done. Thank you for sharing your story. I know a young man that watched this video almost a year ago. You helped him to not be afraid of himself, or of coming out to his best friend. He's now on the way to being the man he wants to be, because of your inspiration. You truly have helped another person (likely many) to be a better man. Thank you
I'm with you my man ! Got trough the same king of story in 2010 and yes, it does get better, but not magically! You have to let the bad energy from bad people behind you.. Negative people are never gonna bring anything good for you !
Jesse, this is a beautiful video, be proud of who you are. My coming out was very traumatic, it happened in 1980, I was outed to my family by my first boyfriend as revenge for breaking up with him, they didn't take it well at all. But it has gotten much better, with time they came around, and now it just is what it is. Good luck to you Jesse, I wish you well.
I’m proud of you Jesse! It takes a lot of courage to do what you did... I still remember when I first came out to one of my best friends, who was also my fraternity brother. He handled it just like your best friend did.
Jesse, WELL DONE!!! ..You're video had a unique quality to it, eventhough it was shaky at times, it added to the authenticity and emotion of your video. Loved the opening drive. Beautiful backdrop! You're story is unique, especially being from the rurals! It DOES GET BETTER! I'd love to see more vids- what's life like in your part of the province, has anything changed, etc... Cheers from California :)
It's almost 5 years later and I have just seen this. I hope you are well and you took a big step. Where you are at is beautiful, and I wish you the best in everything. Love to you and your best friend who knew you are YOU! That is a rare are true friendship!
Well Jesse, it's almost three years to the date. I'd love to know how you do. Remember: you are who you are. Loving a man doesn't define you who are! Don't let anyone judge you on the sole fact that it;s a man you feel attracted to. You are beautiful just the way you are|
Hello Jesse. I want to tell you that I admire you so much for what you have done. Thank you so much for sharing this video here. Sharing your more genuine and the deepest of your feelings with the ones closest to you is beautiful and extremely brave. You are a beautiful human being! I really wish I could do the same that you have done one day...I'm Luis, by the way.
We like your style buddy - enjoy the journey "Live your life in the sunshine - treat everyone you meet with kindness & take comfort in the arms of one you love"
dayton hamann HELLO, it is a time process of acceptance to yourself. Tell one person that you truly trust and that will not judge you, but accept you. By telling that one person, within time, you will find courage to come out and tell any one you decide to tell, because it is "OUR" decision on who we tell and no one else's decision.
💯👏💯👏💯👏💯👏💯👏💯💯💯💯as a masculine gay dude i never understood the "coming out" shit.... HELL "straight" people dont just come out the middle of nowhere an say I'm "straight." my thing is I'm GOING TO DO ME regardless so what I'm NOT going do is wait for some half calked MUTHAPHUCKA to tell me a damn thing....... I'm not waiting for no approval I APPROVE MY OWN PHUCKIN SELF END OF STORY...... trust me I've been disowned an I've cut muthaphuckas off before so I need you to show you true colors.... show me who you really are....
Hey Jesse, I've met you through shep689, Will & RJ's channel. I find you just like the guy in the video. Loving the outdoors, I'm glad you're straight friend accepted you for who you are. My experience was just the opposite, and it was awful. My best friend at the time confronted me, and I told him the truth. It was the worse day of my life. I've moved on, both of my parents have passed away. I never had a chance to come out to them, but I thought my Mom knew. It was I she chose to live & spend the last few months of her life. I wish you all he best and look forward to watching your other videos. Josh
Very sad your mate reacted bad man, that's his loss, you exposed a very vunerable part of your felings to him if he has a problem with it, I would suggest he,s proberbly questioning his feelings, its usually a cover, , hope lifes better now for you man, live it enjoy life, be yourself, if anyone has an issue with that then stuff them I say!!! best regards
Joshplace100 - I agree / devonguy02 - "I would suggest he's probably questioning his feelings, it's usually a cover". ECKHART TOLLE, who a New York Times writer called "the most popular spiritual author in the United States" wrote: "Anything that you resent and strongly react to in another, is also in you." ...and Thank you JESSE for your vids. Inspirational to me and so many others!
J Raven Thanks mate I think we,re on to something here, straight guys who deffo are straight are usually fine with gays, its the undercover closet who try,s to project the focus off themselves, hope your good man
Taking that final step to be true to yourself and those you love is a big step in a positive direction. You're a great human being and I wish you all the best.
Hi Jesse. I’m a Midwest mom who watched your video and sees bravery, honesty, and freedom in you! Be proud of yourself, be true and kind. Follow your own path and please surround yourself with people who love and cheer for your successes, and hold onto you during your losses. ❤️
I am really happy you came out that you are gay and to tell you the truth i am gay to and being gay there nothing wroung with that and i hope you believe me on this... ps you are a very good looking guy :)
Congrats ! I'm so glad you have taken the plunge , accepting yourself, and your courage to start the coming out process. I truely hope it continues to get better ... Be proud. Melbourne, Australia.
Hey man, you are an inspiration to us all. You should be proud of yourself. The world needs more roll models like you for other guys who feel the same. Ignore the haters- time will prove them unimportant. Thanks dude. And yes, it gets much better. Be patient. Cheers!
What a lovely comment. You put into words exactly what I feel about this young man's experience and the way he describes it, so eloquently. I have watched a few of these "coming out" videos recently, and they all - without exception - bring me to tears. I am in my 60's now - I have never truly come out "officially", but just lived my life in the way I thought best. My closest friends know, but not the wider world. I wish so much that people who don't understand homosexuality, or who don't accept it, would appreciate that gay people do not make a choice to be gay. If fact in many instances they wish that they were not gay (this possibly includes me), because their lives are not easy, we live our lives sometimes in a sphere of pretence, and in a world of hidden feelings and emotions. Perhaps gay people don't always put this across very cogently, because the straight audience "sees" only Gay Pride marches on TV, or guys dressed effeminately, or drag queens on stage, etc., and they think that is our world. Of course it is not. The point I am trying to make is that we cannot help what we are - we were born this way, and whatever we do to cover it up or to try to ignore it throughout life, it just becomes so painful and stressful, even to the point of being unbearable. Even the most sympathetic straight person can never know how absolutely lucky they are to be born the way they are. Their lives are so much easier to deal with - there is no pretence to their nearest and dearest (for however long you choose that to last), and no covering-up of emotions all the time. I would truly like a straight person, who does not understand and is unsympathetic to gay life, to imagine what it must feel like to be told, for instance, that you are not allowed to kiss your girlfriend in public, let alone hold her hand or even touch her, because to do so might offend people. Just imagine what that would be like. But this is the life that many gay people live, or impose upon themselves, so as to avoid possible conflict. Obviously for younger gay people these days, they don't feel quite so inhibited, and feel they can indulge in these feelings, which of course are the most natural in the world. But why should these most natural feelings in the world only apply, in the vast majority of instances, to straight people? I am a big Coronation Street fan. Isn't it interesting that for 40 years after its inception in 1960, the producers would not dare include or indeed have mention of any aspects of homosexuality in their scripts. Now, all the soaps are falling over themselves to have as many gay, lesbian and transgender storylines as they can possibly cram into their 23-minute slot five times a week! Sometimes I say to myself... oh no, not another one! So times are changing and there is more acceptance than there used to be, but I would suggest that in the real world we cannot actually go quite as far as some of those who are portrayed on screen in the privacy of the TV production area! So many times throughout my life I have yearned to just hold the hand of a gay friend who was walking with me, but told myself that it is not allowed. Please, straight people, please try to understand what that must feel like, being inhibited every day of your life. So-called "Christian" do-gooders please note!
William Lynd904 I ended up on this video by surfing Ytube one video to the next. Started out on a news channel and now here I am. I'm not gay but that doesn't mean I don't have sympathy for someone who hurts. The statement you made about imagining not being able to show affection to my wife in public really strikes home. I want the world to know I love her and for a moment that statement took my breath... I can only try to imagine what that would be like not to publicly announce that I love her dearly and in fact it further seals our conviction for one another... I guess it's just hard for me to understand bc I'm not gay, but with that statement you really struck a nerve and if nothing else, broke my heart for a moment. But maybe that's what it takes sometimes to help someone understand. I'm sorry for anyone going through this and I hope you're able to find your way and be happy...
Jesse I am just seeing your video for the first time tonight. I was born in the early 60's and knew i was attracted to the same sex as early as the age of six or seven not even knowing what sex was. I knew somehow that it was not accepted in society and kept it to myself. after reaching puberty I knew I was gay and became petrified of my family and friends finding out and felt all alone and that I was an outcast and the only one who had these feelings. Growing up gay in the 70's and 80's was not easy. If it wasn't for a female childhood friend who I came out to in my early 20's and accepted me for who I was, I don't know where or if I would be alive today. Thankfully I am, but sadly she passed away in 2015. I miss her with all my heart and soul....♥
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!! Your face lit up when you were telling about your friend accepting you and being proud of you. I am so happy for you. 👍💋💘❤💓💕💖💗💙💚💛💜💝💞💟❣💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋💋
Awesome man! Proud of you and all that you have accomplished thus far. It only gets better from here! It was tough coming out for myself, but once I did the world became mine and I felt amazing. Keep your chin up and the smiles rolling.
Jesse, I like your style. You have what I've always called "masculine grace." Glad you were able to face and accept your reality, but also that your best friend did, too.
wonderful young man and story I have been out since 1966 and it has been a joy. With my college sweetheart since 1974. Sharing personal honesty is the best gift we can give to ourselves and others. We all get stronger and those that are against us lose out . Love to all . Stay safe.
Dude EXCELLENT!!!! I WON'T SAY IT GETS ANY EASIER AND NOT EVERYONE WILL BE AS ACCEPTING AS YOUR FRIEND BUT DON'T Worry about it do it for yourself (sorry bout the caps eyes are not what they use to be)take care of yourself and if you have to let some people go because they don't accept you don't worry , it's there problem not yours. God bless , big hug , you are awesome!😁
I, too, came out to my straight best friend first. It only brought us closer. Since then, I've been coming out to several people in my life. Most still don't know, but the fact that I know that I, for sure, have a handful of people who love me and support me for who I am is enough for now.
Good for you, happy for you, as long as you are at the place when you find out who you are and are happy with you, that's the best start in life, then the big jump forward is telling a good friend and they take you as you and still love you, that is the best feeling in the world, that's a true friend and a good one to have, little steps as you go and life in its own way gets better and better and makes you stronger. great video and I only just found it, so I hope life is good for you still and now....
You are adorable, good for you for coming out. I remember when I came out to my dad, it was the best thing I ever did. Love my dad loads for supporting me and living me.
When you said "im alone out here" the words popped out. I know you meant out there in the wilderness. However there is thst inner wilderness of self-discovery,Self-realized and beyond. Let's just say you found the mountain of God and now your starting the climb. Though there are others with you it's a lonely one. Thats neither good or bad. It's a climb we all must make as individuals whether gay or straight. You'll get to the top of the mountain. It's your birth right to do so. There you'll discover even more so of the best of who you are.💕🤣💕 Have a blessed and safe journey my beautiful ONE. 💖🙏💖
Hey Jesse, Thanks for being an authentic person...not too many on social media. I see this was 7 years ago. I'll watch more to get current. Congrats. Iuv the freedom I feel when I watch these videos showing the real person. Best wishes.
Good for you Jesse, you live in an amazingly beautiful place, I hope all your coming out experiences are as positive as that with your buddy, sounds like a great guy too!
This was awesome. Blessings to you. This made me emotional - I know you hope that others will get it, but know that’s their issue. Live in your truth and if others want to be a part of your journey great, if not, that’s their issue. #lionsandbearsohmy Please, more videos of your journey, Jesse!
Takes real guts to do what you did. I'm impressed, not many people can do that, at least not without spending days, or even months planning out how to tell their best friend. I'm glad for you that your friend accepted you, and wish you the best of luck.
The hardest part is over, coming to grips with yourself, and coming out to the first person. It will get easier, but there will be tough times and those that will not accept you, brush them both off and keep making yourself happy. I know the feeling and what you are going through. As a gay man myself we all take somewhat of a journey of identity. I was always scared never thought life would be as good as the so called normal people, I was wrong! I just celebrated my 31st year with my partner in crime. The world ahead is yours, be strong, make yourself happy, love others as you want to be loved, celebrate baby steps, and most of all stand tall and be proud of you! Good luck buddy may your future be everything you make it. Great video I am glad people like you share these kinds of videos because they help others people sitting in their basements that may be confused... be the best you that you can be
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Straight guy here.. There isn't anything wrong with you bro. Remember, there will always be douche bags in the world. Your not one of them... Well unless you do something that actually makes you one, and sexual orientation doesn't qualify.
I hope you share that with all the str8s around you. We need allies like you, Randolph.
I do my part
Carry on.
Respect.
***** Respect bro
Proud of you, It took me 60 years to accept it...I am finally me....Thanks so much for posting
Took me 35yrs to come out
I came out 46 years ago... I'm 63 now. I just can't imagine not being true to yourself and others for so long. 60 years?? That must have been horrible for you. I'm not trying to mean or rude... it's just unfathomable to me to be in such a shroud for so long. I'm so glad you finally did it and I am definitely proud of you Larry!!
Larry Froemming same here
what crap im straight as and i would never want to be gay
+dan davies well, dan. here's how I see it. I'm gay, and I never would want to be straight. no offense
Your best friend is right, to call you brave, & right to be proud of you for taking that huge step. But I want to advise you on something...when you come out to people, don't think about them "accepting it", as you put it. Think about it as them accepting YOU. Being gay isn't bad. Being gay isn't a choice, so you are being YOU. And since you are not an IT, but a human being, accepting "IT" just sounds wrong to me. I'm not gay, but I go to a church that is all inclusive & welcomes all, so there are many homosexual couples in our congregation, our pastor (before she moved on ) came out to us, and we have a young teen who is transgender. Be strong, be brave, and be YOU. God blesses EVERYONE.
Good news is statistically homophobes are dying out. Far more positive comments than negative, far more people don't give a shit about sexual orientation. Smile, it's getting better. Cry all you like Tankin, you lose.
^^Right...THAT PART!
***** I'm an openly gay male. WHAT UP! TELL ME I'M AN ABOMINATION! "Fucktard
***** nothing brave about bashing people because of who they're attracted to or love either. Maybe YOUR problem is, you don't have HALF of what they have and wonder why. Maybe you're just envious that they can be themselves & love themselves & you can't. Anyone spewing that much hate, is unhappy with their own life. Too bad for you...YAY THEM. Get over yourself. YOU'RE the abomination for trying to judge someone. YOU'RE 10 times the threat that they'll ever be, because all you're doing is spreading your venomous hate around. You know what hate does? It festers & eats awsy at people. THAT'S why you're
^...a threat to humanity
Best friends like this are like angels walking the earth.
You are who you are. Being gay, straight, Catholic, Jew, Hindu, Buddhist, Muslim etc.. In the end we are all blood, flesh and bones.
Preach
abdulla noor What if your a skeleton???
Penelope Lagshare whoever you are, your sense of humour is terrible. Lol
ive already been drafted for the skeleton war man, hard times
Only you, im made of pixie dusts! :p
Just found this in 2019 but a really nice video. Looks like your enjoying life to the fullest
Hey man, I am a gay male and still have yet to come out to friends, Thank you for giving me the courage to do it . as I will do it this week to the rest of the family. My mom knows but that is about it. I am terrified , However I am not out at work but I am doing it after this. I dont care . I love you bro. I wish i lived closer so we can be friends and I could have someone to talk to . Thank you . You are such an inspiration.
You coming out to your best friend and him accepting you for who and what you are is a true friend. He is someone who will let you have total freedom to be yourself and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with him. That's what real love amounts to-letting a person be what he really is.
Good video Jesse, and more power to you. Came out to my sister about a year ago. Everyone else in the family have already passed on, so she and her family are the only ones that know.
It's moments like that that tell you who your true friends are. And it looks like you have a pretty true friend :) it takes a huge amount of guts to tell someone that. You're awesome
Things get better. I am 47 now , I denied being gay to please the family until I was in my mid twenties. I excepted who I was and finally told my family after I left my hometown. it may take your family some time to adjust but it's better for you to be honest than for them to hear it from someone else
Dude, what a beautiful soul you are. "You moved me like the mountains, you moved me like the sea."
That's a song, and it fits you perfectly. Take care, and, be proud of yourself and be HAPPY!!!
Well done mate!! I came out when I was 14 back in 1971 and it was very tough. I lost a couple of friends but I guess they were not real friends. My parents were great about it though. Yes, you are very good looking but I don't understand why guys have to comment when it is irrelevant to the conversation. A lot of gay guys are very judgemental when it comes to looks and physiques. Crazy......like someone for who they are and what's inside.
Beautiful Video, Great Scenery, Handsome Guy!!
That's one hell of a best friend
Proud of you too man. Stay strong. We are all here for you.
Jessie Calvillo You. Are. A. Great. Friend. It's. Hard. To. Trust. People. With. Your. Life. I. Have. Had friends. Turn. On. Me. ,. Use. Me financially. ,. Hurt.me. ,. Don't. Care. About. Me ,. Verbally. Abuse. Me a. And. Physically. Abuse. Me,.
Lie. To. Me. ,.then. Leave. Me. .
I. Just. Needed.a. Friend. They. Took. Advantage. Of. Me. . Until. I. Found. God. To. Help. Me. Overcome. .
Your 'coming out' is one of the best I've seen here. You are articulate, mature and convey the emotion without the drama. I had a similar experience telling a good friend. I hope to see more of you. God bless you !
I love how unscripted and natural this is...great..you're a stronger man for sharing this very personal and intimate part of yourself. :) Way to go
This is the best coming out story ever. And I've watched them all. Thank you for sharing this.
Your best friend is truly a good friend. You appear and act so unassuming, straightforward, and matter of fact, that unless you have some bad luck I think most of your friends and your family too, will take the news without much fuss. Those who do, you have to realize, also have "problems," and those problems are theirs, not yours. All good fortune to you.
Dude!! Nice tour of the woods! Holy crap you live in the middle of nowhere. With that said, Kudos to you. Life is riddled with Ups and downs! Thing is...you dont ever exit the ride before it's over. You are gonna have the naysayers, and the "real people," on your life ride. Always be you!
Thank you so much for this video, you are giving hope to a lot of people who can find coming out to friends and family very difficult, your a very fine person, well done!!
Good self care , and good for you . Staying in the closet would only drive you deeper into that empty closet where you tried to feel safe. Glad you told your best friend, that's a huge second step. Admitting it to your self was the first step. There will be day's when being out you will face adversity, but you are out on your terms and speaking your truth. Life will be a mixture of good and not so good people. Take what you need and leave the rest. Best wishes to you . Tom in Minneapolis, MN 10/14/19
I'm glad to hear that your friend was accepting. Much love
you're a beautiful, loving, strong person. hold your head up and be proud of who you are. and the friend you came out to is probably one of your best friends ever. just love yourself and be who you are.... you have my respect dude
You say thank you for watching, I say thank you for sharing. Thank you
Yes, indeed. THANK YOU.
Thank you for posting this! It just appeared today on my feed and I agree with you. Once people see nothing ya changed about you and that the person you were will always be is a reassuring feeling. It’s great seeing someone who isn’t afraid to live their truth before years passed them by.
Me and my partner just celebrated 40 years together and I can tell you that it just keeps getting better.
Michael Chavez congratulations to you both.
Michael Chavez awwwww
Congrats, but me and my boyfriend weve been together for 2 years but things getting worse and worse
it's "worse and worse" ... you're young, there may be someone else, just don't do things, or be someone you may later regret.
Kevin Long maybe, hopefully someday he will realized his mistakes,,, i knew it for the 1st time that some things going wrong until i discover one day,, huhuhu :( i want to forget those bad mem’ries and i dont wanna cry either,....
I came out to my best friend last year. Everything worked so fine. This video helped me a lot. Thanks Jesse. You saved me.
hey, I'm straight, but I don't think there is anyone more tolerant than me. there have been multiple people that have come out to me and I've helped one of my very good friends come out to his parents. I've taken part in multiple gay pride events with a lot of my friends. equal rights and gay marriage is the one thing that I believe in 4000% lol. I'm really proud of you and it does take guts dude. sexual orientation does not define who you are. it enhances it. I don't know I've started so many fights and ending multiple friendships because of my beliefs and it is just something I will always fight for. I'm glad your friend was very accepting. I hope your coming out process goes as well :)
It's really nice to see people such as yourself supporting those that need encouragement in the gay community. Although I think you meant well, the word "tolerant" is probably not the best way to describe your position on supporting gays. Tolerant has the connotation that "although this behavior may irritate you, you will tolerate it" and the actual dictionary definition is "showing willingness to allow the existence of opinions or behavior that one does not necessarily agree with". You are not the only one who uses this word when referring to supporting gay culture. A better word to use would be "accepting" or just "support". I just wanted to point this out so that other readers would not use the same notation when referring to supporting gays and gay rights. Thanks again for all the support you give the gay community.
I think it's great you came out to your friend. I was always so hesitant to come out to anyone, but I feel like in order for me to be myself around the people who cares/loves me, they should see the real me, and not this alter persona! Great job Jesse!
I was a teenager had to ask my mom if older sister was gay? She said "what if she was?" I said " doesn't matter I still love her." Mom said " ok she is." My mom told her I knew & she freaked out but then we became closer because she didn't feel she needed to stay away. She stopped being depressed & my family felt complete. I wish you the best.
Good on you mate nice to hear!
Good story thanks.
You’re an amazing guy for doing what you’re doing. You’re absolutely not alone, not even a little. I came out at 16 and, unfortunately, had a terrible experience. That said, coming out gave me epic relief and I’m glad I did. I was me. Not a fake. I was real. Not pretending. When things are real and you are you, who you are meant to be, the bonds are broken and you are free to start anew. Thank you for sharing.
if you were my son I would be proud of your bravery....... now go out there and give a good decent example of a gay man today ,jesse you can move mountains. no one can be you jesse. keep on keepin on! the truth shall set you free... now fly jesse... fly!
Yes, Jesse. You can move mountains, Now go do it.
Your story brought tears to my eyes. You are such a precious guy, Jesse.
He Jesse, please make a update! We miss you! Love from Amsterdam
Hi Jesse. Thank you so much for sharing your story. I really enjoyed the video. It made me feel more human and accept-able just by watching and I have been out since 1996, but still lacking on as much self love as I see in your video. Looks like you might be living in a remote area with a low population and that makes friends even more important and what you did even more comendable. What I liked most about your story was that you shared about your process and struggle with self-acceptance and that it is just 'part' of who you are and that 'you're' still the same guy. Basically acknowledging that it is your sexuality and not your identity. Huge difference. Bro!! When you do that, you really lay claim to 'your' life and your place in the Universe and of the universe. I hope you begin to fully enjoy being fully you and the feeling of that light you just turned on inside of you which is liberating a lot of people from of a very common but a very unnecessary ignorance and/or lack of self-love. You're a handsome man btw, but your humility makes this video particularly powerful and beautiful, together in the wilds of nature and your personal dimension of human nature, where we all belong and all come from, and shining when we come-out!! :-)
brought me to tears. god bless you. you are a good person. we just happen to be gay.
Such a great story. Telling your best friend is just as hard as telling your parents. Thanks for sharing.
Beautiful story :) so much respect for you
Bro. You inspired me and saved others by sharing your story. Much peace and love.
hey man, this vídeo is great and the veiw is amazing , nice story by the way. congratulation for your atitude.
It gets better when you stop caring what other people think and you find the right people to surround yourself with
why am I watching all these coming out videos?
Thinking about coming out? I know I am, but I'll never do it.
Condēu̯i̯os Andīlixtos
But I'm straight. At least I think so.
And about your coming out
You can do it. I know it's not easy, but do it when you feel comfortable doing so :)
Josh Taylor I think this coming out thing should change too. Straights don't need to come out so why would lgtbtq people need to come out?
Condēu̯i̯os Andīlixtos same here
a Bear I used to think I was straight until I found out that there was such thing as being bi/ pan and I watched a bunch of videos.
Beautifully done. Thank you for sharing your story. I know a young man that watched this video almost a year ago. You helped him to not be afraid of himself, or of coming out to his best friend. He's now on the way to being the man he wants to be, because of your inspiration. You truly have helped another person (likely many) to be a better man. Thank you
The opening scene of your video is beautiful. Thanks for sharing your story. ☺
I'm with you my man ! Got trough the same king of story in 2010 and yes, it does get better, but not magically! You have to let the bad energy from bad people behind you.. Negative people are never gonna bring anything good for you !
Where is this? I need to live there. I am seriously enamored with the opening scene of the mountains engulfed in those beautiful white clouds.
+ZamfirChannel when trump is president I'm moving there
+ZamfirChannel right 😂😂 lets hope I got all the supplies I need
+ZamfirChannel let's think positive here now 👌🏾
+ZamfirChannel were all gonna be oppressed and stuff... Freak.. Whelp
+ZamfirChannel I honestly thought it was in Newfoundland, Canada. Being from there, It totally reminded me of home. Now i'm homesick lol
Jesse, this is a beautiful video, be proud of who you are. My coming out was very traumatic, it happened in 1980, I was outed to my family by my first boyfriend as revenge for breaking up with him, they didn't take it well at all. But it has gotten much better, with time they came around, and now it just is what it is. Good luck to you Jesse, I wish you well.
"Oh my" hahahahaha the Dorothy humour it keeps on giving, well done and thank you for sharing your story
I’m proud of you Jesse! It takes a lot of courage to do what you did... I still remember when I first came out to one of my best friends, who was also my fraternity brother. He handled it just like your best friend did.
This is awesome and you have given me strength to be who I am thank you for this
Hi Jesse! Your video was one of many videos I was looking at about 4 years ago or so that helped me gain the courage to come out. Thank you!
WHY IS THIS ON MY RECOMMENDATION? *AND I'M GLAD IT IS*
such an awesome genuine & humble video....thanks for sharing this with the world....guess ur really out now! God bless you dude!
when i came out to my best friend he said, i already knew, lets go for a beer congrats on your comming out dude
Jesse, WELL DONE!!! ..You're video had a unique quality to it, eventhough it was shaky at times, it added to the authenticity and emotion of your video. Loved the opening drive. Beautiful backdrop! You're story is unique, especially being from the rurals! It DOES GET BETTER! I'd love to see more vids- what's life like in your part of the province, has anything changed, etc... Cheers from California :)
I haven't liked a video so much in a long time.
I wish this I could fill in 5 stars out of five for your post, Xaver. Bravo!
Thanks for sharing your story Jesse. It may help others out there to be honest with themselves and life a life without shame.
I think I've found my Ennis del Mar. ♡
Frank Morfa you just had to mention it dont you? **fucking cries like a bitch**
Yessssssss, I was thinking the same thing, holy he is gorgeous
It's almost 5 years later and I have just seen this. I hope you are well and you took a big step. Where you are at is beautiful, and I wish you the best in everything. Love to you and your best friend who knew you are YOU! That is a rare are true friendship!
For some reason the music made me want to cry my lungs out :c Yes, I just said cry my lungs out.
me too, bro...
Riley Fuller Yas! ARTPOP!
Very happy for you. I told my best and he didn’t want to be friends anymore. That hurt me a lot. I still haven’t gotten over it.
Well Jesse, it's almost three years to the date. I'd love to know how you do. Remember: you are who you are. Loving a man doesn't define you who are! Don't let anyone judge you on the sole fact that it;s a man you feel attracted to. You are beautiful just the way you are|
Hello Jesse. I want to tell you that I admire you so much for what you have done. Thank you so much for sharing this video here. Sharing your more genuine and the deepest of your feelings with the ones closest to you is beautiful and extremely brave. You are a beautiful human being! I really wish I could do the same that you have done one day...I'm Luis, by the way.
Congrats bro!
We like your style buddy - enjoy the journey "Live your life in the sunshine - treat everyone you meet with kindness & take comfort in the arms of one you love"
You are so cute and I really like you, you are so sympathic :) ❤
Hi
i have always loved this.......what a great guy.....and his "best friend" is lucky to know
him......
I'm not brave enough to come out yet
Me either, I plan on coming out to my mother and brothers tomorrow. If I can do it you can do it.
Green Your comment + your profile picture = Perfection.
Green He hasn't replied yet, I think he was murdered...
dayton hamann HELLO, it is a time process of acceptance to yourself. Tell one person that you truly trust and that will not judge you, but accept you. By telling that one person, within time, you will find courage to come out and tell any one you decide to tell, because it is "OUR" decision on who we tell and no one else's decision.
💯👏💯👏💯👏💯👏💯👏💯💯💯💯as a masculine gay dude i never understood the "coming out" shit.... HELL "straight" people dont just come out the middle of nowhere an say I'm "straight." my thing is I'm GOING TO DO ME regardless so what I'm NOT going do is wait for some half calked MUTHAPHUCKA to tell me a damn thing....... I'm not waiting for no approval I APPROVE MY OWN PHUCKIN SELF END OF STORY...... trust me I've been disowned an I've cut muthaphuckas off before so I need you to show you true colors.... show me who you really are....
Definitely want to see more of you Outdoors mountains beautiful country, beautiful guy. Good combo.
Hey Jesse, I've met you through shep689, Will & RJ's channel. I find you just like the guy in the video. Loving the outdoors, I'm glad you're straight friend accepted you for who you are. My experience was just the opposite, and it was awful. My best friend at the time confronted me, and I told him the truth. It was the worse day of my life. I've moved on, both of my parents have passed away. I never had a chance to come out to them, but I thought my Mom knew. It was I she chose to live & spend the last few months of her life. I wish you all he best and look forward to watching your other videos. Josh
Very sad your mate reacted bad man, that's his loss, you exposed a very vunerable part of your felings to him if he has a problem with it, I would suggest he,s proberbly questioning his feelings, its usually a cover, , hope lifes better now for you man, live it enjoy life, be yourself, if anyone has an issue with that then stuff them I say!!! best regards
Sorry to hear about what happened between you and your friend... I hope you are better now... I wish you the best in life... wherever you are. :-)
Joshplace100 - I agree / devonguy02 - "I would suggest he's probably questioning his feelings, it's usually a cover". ECKHART TOLLE, who a New York Times writer called "the most popular spiritual author in the United States" wrote:
"Anything that you resent and strongly react to in another, is also in you."
...and Thank you JESSE for your vids. Inspirational to me and so many others!
J Raven Thanks mate I think we,re on to something here, straight guys who deffo are straight are usually fine with gays, its the undercover closet who try,s to project the focus off themselves, hope your good man
J Raven ow and read Randolph Williams below he makes our point beautifully
Taking that final step to be true to yourself and those you love is a big step in a positive direction. You're a great human being and I wish you all the best.
love the intro ..... wish I was there.... can I come visit ?? haha
I hope it all works out better and better the more you continue to express who you are. You seem to be genuine and good hearted. Good video.
Hi Jesse. I’m a Midwest mom who watched your video and sees bravery, honesty, and freedom in you! Be proud of yourself, be true and kind. Follow your own path and please surround yourself with people who love and cheer for your successes, and hold onto you during your losses. ❤️
This video gets me every time, I am sorry for your lost may Patrick soul rest in peace. Love all the way from South Africa
I am really happy you came out that you are gay and to tell you the truth i am gay to and being gay there nothing wroung with that and i hope you believe me on this... ps you are a very good looking guy :)
Congrats ! I'm so glad you have taken the plunge , accepting yourself, and your courage to start the coming out process. I truely hope it continues to get better ... Be proud.
Melbourne, Australia.
Cool !! wish I had a gay child so I could show how cool I am with it ,,,,, but straight is good too ,,, best wishes S xxx
Hey man, you are an inspiration to us all. You should be proud of yourself. The world needs more roll models like you for other guys who feel the same. Ignore the haters- time will prove them unimportant. Thanks dude. And yes, it gets much better. Be patient. Cheers!
What a lovely comment. You put into words exactly what I feel about this young man's experience and the way he describes it, so eloquently. I have watched a few of these "coming out" videos recently, and they all - without exception - bring me to tears. I am in my 60's now - I have never truly come out "officially", but just lived my life in the way I thought best. My closest friends know, but not the wider world. I wish so much that people who don't understand homosexuality, or who don't accept it, would appreciate that gay people do not make a choice to be gay. If fact in many instances they wish that they were not gay (this possibly includes me), because their lives are not easy, we live our lives sometimes in a sphere of pretence, and in a world of hidden feelings and emotions. Perhaps gay people don't always put this across very cogently, because the straight audience "sees" only Gay Pride marches on TV, or guys dressed effeminately, or drag queens on stage, etc., and they think that is our world. Of course it is not. The point I am trying to make is that we cannot help what we are - we were born this way, and whatever we do to cover it up or to try to ignore it throughout life, it just becomes so painful and stressful, even to the point of being unbearable. Even the most sympathetic straight person can never know how absolutely lucky they are to be born the way they are. Their lives are so much easier to deal with - there is no pretence to their nearest and dearest (for however long you choose that to last), and no covering-up of emotions all the time. I would truly like a straight person, who does not understand and is unsympathetic to gay life, to imagine what it must feel like to be told, for instance, that you are not allowed to kiss your girlfriend in public, let alone hold her hand or even touch her, because to do so might offend people. Just imagine what that would be like. But this is the life that many gay people live, or impose upon themselves, so as to avoid possible conflict. Obviously for younger gay people these days, they don't feel quite so inhibited, and feel they can indulge in these feelings, which of course are the most natural in the world. But why should these most natural feelings in the world only apply, in the vast majority of instances, to straight people? I am a big Coronation Street fan. Isn't it interesting that for 40 years after its inception in 1960, the producers would not dare include or indeed have mention of any aspects of homosexuality in their scripts. Now, all the soaps are falling over themselves to have as many gay, lesbian and transgender storylines as they can possibly cram into their 23-minute slot five times a week! Sometimes I say to myself... oh no, not another one! So times are changing and there is more acceptance than there used to be, but I would suggest that in the real world we cannot actually go quite as far as some of those who are portrayed on screen in the privacy of the TV production area! So many times throughout my life I have yearned to just hold the hand of a gay friend who was walking with me, but told myself that it is not allowed. Please, straight people, please try to understand what that must feel like, being inhibited every day of your life. So-called "Christian" do-gooders please note!
William Lynd904
I ended up on this video by surfing Ytube one video to the next. Started out on a news channel and now here I am. I'm not gay but that doesn't mean I don't have sympathy for someone who hurts. The statement you made about imagining not being able to show affection to my wife in public really strikes home. I want the world to know I love her and for a moment that statement took my breath... I can only try to imagine what that would be like not to publicly announce that I love her dearly and in fact it further seals our conviction for one another... I guess it's just hard for me to understand bc I'm not gay, but with that statement you really struck a nerve and if nothing else, broke my heart for a moment. But maybe that's what it takes sometimes to help someone understand. I'm sorry for anyone going through this and I hope you're able to find your way and be happy...
Stumbled across his today. Thank you for your story. Happy to hear your best friend is still by your side.
This is how the word BRAVERY should be written.
Thank you shared your story with us.
Jesse I am just seeing your video for the first time tonight. I was born in the early 60's and knew i was attracted to the same sex as early as the age of six or seven not even knowing what sex was. I knew somehow that it was not accepted in society and kept it to myself. after reaching puberty I knew I was gay and became petrified of my family and friends finding out and felt all alone and that I was an outcast and the only one who had these feelings. Growing up gay in the 70's and 80's was not easy. If it wasn't for a female childhood friend who I came out to in my early 20's and accepted me for who I was, I don't know where or if I would be alive today. Thankfully I am, but sadly she passed away in 2015. I miss her with all my heart and soul....♥
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!
Your face lit up when you were telling about your friend accepting you and being proud of you.
I am so happy for you.
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Awesome man! Proud of you and all that you have accomplished thus far. It only gets better from here! It was tough coming out for myself, but once I did the world became mine and I felt amazing. Keep your chin up and the smiles rolling.
Jesse, I like your style. You have what I've always called "masculine grace." Glad you were able to face and accept your reality, but also that your best friend did, too.
wonderful young man and story I have been out since 1966 and it has been a joy. With my college sweetheart since 1974. Sharing personal honesty is the best gift we can give to ourselves and others. We all get stronger and those that are against us lose out . Love to all . Stay safe.
Dude EXCELLENT!!!! I WON'T SAY IT GETS ANY EASIER AND NOT EVERYONE WILL BE AS ACCEPTING AS YOUR FRIEND BUT DON'T Worry about it do it for yourself (sorry bout the caps eyes are not what they use to be)take care of yourself and if you have to let some people go because they don't accept you don't worry , it's there problem not yours. God bless , big hug , you are awesome!😁
I, too, came out to my straight best friend first. It only brought us closer. Since then, I've been coming out to several people in my life. Most still don't know, but the fact that I know that I, for sure, have a handful of people who love me and support me for who I am is enough for now.
Good for you, happy for you, as long as you are at the place when you find out who you are and are happy with you, that's the best start in life, then the big jump forward is telling a good friend and they take you as you and still love you, that is the best feeling in the world, that's a true friend and a good one to have, little steps as you go and life in its own way gets better and better and makes you stronger. great video and I only just found it, so I hope life is good for you still and now....
You are adorable, good for you for coming out. I remember when I came out to my dad, it was the best thing I ever did. Love my dad loads for supporting me and living me.
man i love you jessie you are inspirational and amazing i wish you all the happiness and blessings in the world.
ive never seen a more mature group of young men successfully coming to terms with who they are. YOU SHOULD BE SO PROUD!
When you said "im alone out here" the words popped out. I know you meant out there in the wilderness. However there is thst inner wilderness of self-discovery,Self-realized and beyond. Let's just say you found the mountain of God and now your starting the climb. Though there are others with you it's a lonely one. Thats neither good or bad. It's a climb we all must make as individuals whether gay or straight. You'll get to the top of the mountain. It's your birth right to do so. There you'll discover even more so of the best of who you are.💕🤣💕 Have a blessed and safe journey my beautiful ONE. 💖🙏💖
Hey Jesse, Thanks for being an authentic person...not too many on social media. I see this was 7 years ago. I'll watch more to get current. Congrats. Iuv the freedom I feel when I watch these videos showing the real person. Best wishes.
Good for you Jesse, you live in an amazingly beautiful place, I hope all your coming out experiences are as positive as that with your buddy, sounds like a great guy too!
This was awesome. Blessings to you. This made me emotional - I know you hope that others will get it, but know that’s their issue. Live in your truth and if others want to be a part of your journey great, if not, that’s their issue. #lionsandbearsohmy
Please, more videos of your journey, Jesse!
Being true to yourself is always the best way to go hard sometimes but way worth it congratulations for being you all the best
Takes real guts to do what you did. I'm impressed, not many people can do that, at least not without spending days, or even months planning out how to tell their best friend. I'm glad for you that your friend accepted you, and wish you the best of luck.
The hardest part is over, coming to grips with yourself, and coming out to the first person. It will get easier, but there will be tough times and those that will not accept you, brush them both off and keep making yourself happy. I know the feeling and what you are going through. As a gay man myself we all take somewhat of a journey of identity. I was always scared never thought life would be as good as the so called normal people, I was wrong! I just celebrated my 31st year with my partner in crime. The world ahead is yours, be strong, make yourself happy, love others as you want to be loved, celebrate baby steps, and most of all stand tall and be proud of you! Good luck buddy may your future be everything you make it. Great video I am glad people like you share these kinds of videos because they help others people sitting in their basements that may be confused... be the best you that you can be