Coming Out to My Conservative Christian Dad On Camera
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 10 ต.ค. 2014
- I decided to come out to my family in honor of National Coming Out Day and my 23rd birthday. I'm sharing the video so that it might help give courage and inspire anyone that may still be afraid to come out. I was terrified my whole life of people finding out I'm gay, especially with my extremely conservative parents so I know what it's like. My dad gave permission to share this as he feels the same.
These are the resources I gave to my family:
“Prayers for Bobby”-
• Video
“For the Bible Tells Me So”- Netflix
The Bible and Homosexuality-
whosoever.org/bible/
“Fish Out of Water”-
www.hulu.com/watch/678420
Here are links to support organizations for LGBT people:
www.TheTrevorProject.org
www.ItGetsBetter.org
www.GayChristian.net
Subscribe to follow my coming out journey.
My Twitter: / drew_b_carter
Its time for your dad to come out too. I know hes santa claus..
lolol bruh
Disabler 😂😂
Disabler loool
Disabler lmaooooo funniest comment I read I na while
Disabler LOL
He wasnt surprised at all. I think he already knew deep down.
Well if you watched the video you would already know that. Your opinion has already been validated, so why bother stating it?
damn salt big meech.
Big meech riding the salt train
+EsoTeric how would I be salty
big meech thousands of flavors to choose.. why??
He explained this so eloquently even when under the stress of coming out to his conservative father. Props to you man. Good for you.
He will find himself in Jahannam and is only trying to drag his father there with him
Sounds kinda gay
@@trannystomper88 care abt urself...
@@trannystomper88 I'm sure his father will be glad to be there, or anywhere, just for his son.
“dad, im gay”
“hi gay😤😳...im dad😪😎”
asdf reference
ED Clan why did u make me this way, why, why, whhyyyyyy
Does your name stand for Erectile Dysfunction Clan?
I literally search up “son comes out dad “ just to here that joke lmfao
Michael Giunto maybe
He was raised with the strong conviction that gays are bad, and put that aside for the love for his son. What a wonderful father, and much respect to you.
at first I questioned why he put "conservative" in the video title, but it explains his father's respect.
Being conservative means to hold true to traditional values. In this case, conservative father would mean: Father who is serious about his religion.
Teigue Kelly i meant conservatives are nice and respectful
theres nothing "democratic" about being gay. democracy has nothing to do with being gay.
Ryan Ferretti yes. very, very true. ive stressed that point for my entire life.
its sad that some people don't think that way, and how they pervert their own religion so much to say that it's okay
When I read "conservative Christian" I was thinking this is gonna go so badly. I'm happy that his dad is quite open-minded. And I shouldn't have a stereotype amongst a single label.
TheElementalSponges Same here. His dad was pretty chill.
You're right. And reeeally all the situation is is that certain people have just had Christians give them some sort of criticism (could be good or bad), and than they make it widespread the idea that Christians in general are judgemental, and that's all that people see because it is more surprising or attention-grabbing than the situation that wouldn't be shared abroad, where a Christian gives advice to a person, and a person is glad for their advice. Primarily the point is that Christians rarely are judgemental, but the judgemental ones are given representation for all of Christianity.
Also, people shouldn't say that Christianity is an false religion simply because Christians sin regardless of what the Bible says. If you told me that you and your family had a principle in your life that lusting after women is bad, and then I see your brother being flirty with multiple women, should I think that you and your family are completely immoral, and should be ignored no matter what you're saying? Of course not. Hypocrisy is one of the most common sinful judgements that a dude/female can commit. I do it all of the time, when I'm choosing to ignore what I know is right. However, I believe that I should strive to have moral principles in life that I should follow to the best of my ability. I just ignore the morals whenever I'm choosing to be sinful, which is obviously wrong.
This is the same predicament that every single human alive deals with. Although, one man may not have moral principles set in stone in his mind (and there may be moral principles he has wrong), whereas I have moral principles that are set in stone, because I have thought about them and decided that they should be true.
TheElementalSponges tbh it depends. My family's Christian and they hate gays. They go by the "old ways". Where they say how God made man to only be with women. However, the Christians who are open minded remember that there's another thing. That God loves everyone. No matter what, if they're gay, bi, trans, etc etc. I wish there were more christians like this. Especially in my church. Im not Christian myself, as I refuse to believe in what people in my church are forcing me to believe in but I've been going for awhile.
@Anime Kitten They're forcing you to believe things... yet you believe the opposite of them, and have been going there for a while? :P
I think that's the idea behind the title though; it serves its purpose by surprising us that his father wasn't cruel towards his son, despite the stereotype of "Conservative Christians".
Me: "Dad, I'm gay."
Dad: "He better be rich."
😂😂😂😭😭😭
Lmao
I was the 1000th like. Weed confirmed.
@@INAM1NUTE ĺ
xDDDDDDD pleeease let that be my family's reaction :D
I felt like he needed a hug.... Hes probably tortured himself for years not knowing how his family would react... It must have been a great relief to just finally say it....very brave! live you're life to the fullest and be happy 🤗
Dude did you even listen to the conversation? His father said he would basically okay with him because he didn't have a boyfriend. So I guarantee his father's opinion would have been totally different if he would have brought a boyfriend his coming out.
he needs to repent
@@BibleSamurai people who make their username their ideological agenda are sad human beings.
@@droptherapy2085 I'm happy. Drop the therapy, I don't need it 😁
The sad part is that his dad feels like the worst is yet to come. But it's probably the total opposite. I wonder if he realizes this by now.
"hey dad I'm gay"
"Yeah I know"
The end
Jimbo Jones / "hey Dad I'm gay ". Yes son, I know you are & so am I. Will you marry me ?
JA Joyride wtf
Agent Jens / No sense of humor ? Are you gay ?
JA Joyride ...........(continuing your sentence) Now Bend over and relax and see if your still gay afterwards
KhI Bunor / Ha, haaaaaaaa.......... Yeah.....
Being gay isn't really "out there" anymore. If my kid came out I wouldn't be all that upset but if he/she said they are a gendervoid foxkin demiqueer or some stupid shit like that then I'd go through the roof.
Wahaha
lol
Great!
I'd kick mine out of my house.
I'd tell them they don't exist. Milo Yiannopolous says it the best.
AgentAndroid hahahahaha fuck you all
Your dad is an ABSOLUTE UNIT
Facts
gay
Max Sidhu
Massive
T H I S D A D I S C H O N K Y
UNIT
“As all us old, bigoted, single-minded people drop off the face of the Earth, you’ll have a whole different generation of people who are more accepting.” Yesss! That’s where we’re headed. Love that your Dad said this. You both handled it so well!
Yeah and we are so much better off now huh? How much to fill your cars gas tank? How much for eggs or milk? Pride flags flying over the capitol while the president is sworn in surrounded by barbed wire lmao
Martial medical law. Curfews. Conservative children locked in time out rooms for having different views. Etc
I wouldn’t be too hyped about the direct we are heading lol if you study history or facts of the past… it’s literally the last breaths of an empire when it’s people devolve into degeneracy like drag queen shows for kids and public nudity in the streets during June, cuck0lds, polyamory, etc etc
That's so true though. Being Gen Z makes me feel proud, kinda, since we are way more accepting than older gens.
@@crazybabuskaman3923 you should not be proud of being gen z. People like you are crazy
Not really. Now we just have more concerning issues that we can come together to hate. 👀
I remember when my dog came out to me as gay. I was shocked to begin with but then I realised that he’s still a good boy, even though the future may be ruff for him.
❤🌈😭👏❤
HAHAH
Glass case of Emotion this comment brings me joy at the same time as it makes me want to die
@@leemlord6793 same
I literally laughed out loud
I hate when people refer to being gay as a "lifestyle". It's not a lifestyle, it's a sexual orientation. A lifestyle is being a celebrity or something, geez.
Jay Alford yeah youre right... its not like i decided to be straight as my lifestyle .... retarded way of thinking
The thing is though as they were saying about the generations it's hard to change what people have learnt for an entire life and as much as people who call sexuality a lifestyle are wrong they can't help having been brought up to believe certain things that are only just becoming realized with open eyes
And the most ridiculous thing is that if it's a lifestyle then who would choose one that is stigmatized by the society?
My orientation is straight.
My lifestyle is incel
Damn. He definitely did not see this coming. Like honestly this is like a dog sitting you down and being like bro... im a dog
Good analogy.
@@harrisonbuckley3189 he is not comparing gays to dogs but the situation itself
Hugh Mungus T’was a joke
@obi juice 5 months late buddy'o
I don't think people realize that parents don't want to believe anything they think is bad or going to make life hard for their children is happening. Parents aren't just like "Oh, my son's voice is a little different. He must be gay!"
I'm from Brazil and I tried to come out to my parents but they didn't accept me, they're VERY conservatives. Sometimes they say things against gays in front of me and it breaks my heart, so I decided to study a lot, focus in my future and when I move for my own home to have my own life I'll live by myself and do what I think is better.
Mantente fuerte! 💖💪
I'm sorry your parents did you that way. May you have a happy and successful life. Know that you are loved by people that you don't even know.
I believe in you! I hope you're already there and have your own life!
Ooof meanwhile your family is splintered because you fell for the political programming of the west… which has a history of corrupting Brazil Guatemala Colombia Peru Etc Etc
Good luck…
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Your dad looks like every southern sheriff in every movie ever.
Chris Schmidt LMAO
Chris Schmidt lmfao
My kids will grow up without the idea of "coming out". If you are queer or not, that's just the way you are. It's how you were born. Basically my son will say, "Mom. This is my boyfriend Tom." or my daughter with, "Mom. This is my girlfriend Janet." or however it plays out. My kids could come to me telling they want to be a different gender or nonbinary. As long as they are not hurting anyone or themselves. I don't care who they are. I will love them for who they are as people. And every parent should do the same. I want them to grow up open minded. To be compassionate and understanding of other people and themselves.
Why can't you be my parent :/
Yukine Yato
You couldn't disappoint me. The only way you could disappoint me, is but treating other people or yourself cruelly. Be kind to yourself and others, love.
Yersinia Pestis LIKE I SAID, WHY CAN'T YOU BE MY PARENT D:
Janet and Tom? Those are such random names! lol
ebear
lol just an example.
12:07 - he called himself an 'old, bigoted, single-minded person'. Your dad admitting that and accepting you means he is no longer a bigoted, single-minded person. Tell him I'm proud of him.
So basically not true free will if his only other option was to be an old bigoted singleminded person…. How could he do anything BUT accept his son ESPECIALLY considering it’s his son
Truly diabolical agenda…
From one gay man to another, my dead cat knew you were gay.
XD yeah
... 😂
gay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Lmao
🤣😭😂
This conversation was a little gay.
Reinier van Ramshorst this comment is so right but so wrong!!!
Reinier van Ramshorst rightttt
Don't be a ass
Just a tad
This comment made my day hahaha
I'm conservative. I love gay people and I am glad they can be more open these days about things. People feel what they feel and are what they are.
Ryan Pro You're extremely ignorant.
Okay. I'm allowed to have an opinion. I see nothing wrong with being gay. Are you a homophobe?
born2biscuit Nah I get it. I don't agree with it but I do believe people can't help it. That's all.
born2biscuit And so mature of you to say someone needs help because of an opinion. I think the ones who need help are the ones who can't be open minded and understand not everyone is perfect.
1. Lesbians exist, one is talking to you right now, hi
2. That's fucking false. I have never met a gay person "dedicated to spreading HIV", I don't have HIV, I have many male gay friends who don't have it but do infact dedicate a large part of their lives to raising awareness and doing work to increase donations and help to organizations that want to find cures and make treatment more available. The reason it grew to such a strong dominance within the gay male community was because there was no need to wear condoms, they can't get pregnant and diseases being able to be sexually transmitted weren't common knowledge. Now, because it is known, people do desire protection and are much safer, and encourage others to be safer.
3. For your information, lesbians have the smallest amount of HIV and AIDS rates of any sexuality or minority. www.aidsmap.com/Female-to-female-sexual-transmission/page/1323529/
4. It's a wonderful lifestyle. You get a relationship with the consentual partner you actually love, or have sex with your preferred gender, you have a proud and loving community that stands with you. +you are a little extra fabulous and strong for standing against hate c:
5. Lesbians are literally stereotyped for having longgggg and stable relationships and committing intensely quickly
6. While those statistics are biased and badly generalize gay people, What's wrong with an open relationship if they're happy? Then no cheating or hurt or jealous feelings because there's simply consent. They have a deep and loving relationship while having sex with other people. It's better to have an open relationship instead of a "monogamous" relationship where one or both partners cheat on the other, like with many straight couples. I'm in a monogamous long distance lesbian relationship because I love her and polyamory wouldn't work for me or her.
His dad low key roasting him.
"The whole world knows you're gay"
"I knew you were gay"
BEJDJSH
It’s nice to see the Dad handle it so well. The media loves to play on Christianity hating homosexuality, but what it fails to understand is the Christianity is that we should accept and love others.
The Bible is clear on what sin is, personally I think it is crystal clear on what is sinful and immoral. But regardless of what a sin is, all of others are classed as sinners in God’s eyes - nobody [except Jesus] measures up.
So the best thing we can do is our best, then we need to LOVE ONE ANOTHER; Jesus said that along with LOVING OUR FATHER, it is the greatest command.
Sending love to yourself and your father for a heartfelt video.
Finally an actual good christian! Christians should be like you and learn not to use religion as an excuse to hate each other. Christianity is about love and always has been.
@@neoniix7889 i totally agree! so many people try to say that the “sin of being gay” is worse than any other sin. like just love others for who they are. not everyone can help who they love and who they feel that they are.
I don't find the whole "being gay is a sin like any other". You're still damning my natural sexual orientation. Something that is loving and harmless with real evil that create victims like abuse and murder.
No thank you. There is no middle ground to this. I say and will just part ways. These kind of people just bring heavy negativity into my life. It says everything that when I get away from them, my life gets lighter and positive. Its like they try to spoonfeed me honey laced with poison.
al3siya uh but y’all remember we aren’t supposed to love the sin right….. so dad shouldn’t approve of the gay… he can accept his son and love his son BUT NOT HIS SIN
NeoNiix sounds more like a politically correct Christian tbh
Dammit. I have the same sweater. I guess I have to go talk to my dad.
LMFAO
He already knows LOL
Best comment!
Tyler Russin lmfaooooooo
Tyler Russin OoF BruH hE WEaK
*Normal person* - This is a very personal moment I should do this privately
*TH-camr* - Welcome back guys today...
Lmao
And?
ЖMMED 23Ж they commit suicide at a higher rate mainly because everyone treats them like shit......
Yes, because of bigots like you talking about them like theire sick. Your sexual orientation is not an illness, how can people still believe that shit??
Mobbingsocke sorry statistics hurt your feelings
“A recovered homosexual”, when the dad said this my heart sank. You recover from sickness or addiction. The anxiety in the young guys voice is the thing I take away from this.
I would love to see an update on this and see if he still believes that. Be hilarious if he was a deacon at a gay church now lol
11:52 "It doesn't even break my heart because I've kind of known all the time. What hurts is knowing, what you're facing I had to feel. And as all us old bigoted, single-minded people drop off the face of the earth you'll have a whole different generation of people who are more accepting." That part was very touching.
He forgot to say no homo and now look what happened
OriginalRice W
OriginalRice underrated comment 👌
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All things considered, I really think the dad reacted quite well actually. He kept saying that he loves him and that nothing will change and I thought it was really sweet and I nearly cried. I just wanns say that this dude is very, very brave for doing this and coming out so publicly. And I'm glad you're, like, overcoming these inner struggles and battles between you and your religion and I'm happy for you and wish you the best of luck.
***** he really did. He was very kind and open to discussion and agreed to watch the documentaries his son asked him to watch. I have seen way, way worse reactions.
***** Yeah, I think some people seem aggravated that the dad was so hesitant and somber about it, but it's actually pretty fantastic. He doesn't just flip flop his beliefs because of his son, but he actually wants to hear what his son has to say. One of the hardest things about breaking free from religious ideas is fear for yourself. It's completely understandable that this is hard for the dad, but he knows something's up, and he's ready to be challenged, because he loves his son, and love him well, even if that has an affect back on him.
***** Thanks for a rare dose of humble objectivity. Not much said here about giving appropriate honor to a very loving Dad who knows from having experienced much more of life that his son is bound up in self gratification that separates him from God's loving guidance...and that if he won't listen to God's eternal Word for his own benefit, he certainly won't listen to his Dad. Letting loved ones make self-destructive choices while carefully measuring what little love they will accept from me is the hardest thing I have ever had to do...when in so many other ways I have been responsible for their total well-being and protection from harm. What is amazing is how much is at stake with our flippant choices...scary, looking back. I think accepting the simple humility of Romans 1:20 is the vital key that makes some of the harder spiritual wisdom make sense...which is the reason that such simple truth has so many detractors in this dark world.
*Behind the scenes
*guy strapped on a bed*
Dad: *THE POWER OF GOD COMPELS YOU*
OMG that's hilarious
XD
Lol
Thank God you didn't say what I was expecting
"I didn't wanna go where I wasn't invited".. dad is a poet. Also amazing. You can hear he's just "but why" at first, then quickly just starting to accept it, even tho it's so far from what he believes in. I love that dad, he's just awesome. And coming out was brave, it's always brave but with parents who have strong beliefs against it, it's even more brave. Dad is totally loving, it's obvious he just cares about his son being happy. Lovely video.
Your dads sound pretty cool. He reacted really well considering his age and beliefs.
And his gender (men tend to be less accepting than women).
So his beliefs tell him to get super angry at his kid?
I mean his son talks pretty gay, he probably had an inkling. Also the dude is a lawyer so probably ratoinal
bullshit
If he's Christian hate the sin not the sinner
He doesn't seem very surprised
Well, you can tell from his mannerisms that he's not the straightest guy ever.
yeah. It's pretty obvious he's gay.
Elton John acts like a manly man compaired to this guy.
Some of the comments here just go to show how some people think it's a joke. They're very disrespectful and ignorant. I think this was a touching video. His dad was very accepting for a conservative Christian. It had to be so hard so open up and tell his dad. There's nothing to joke about. People have died, rather than accept who they are. Show some compassion.
Sandra Buechner Relax, every joke I’ve read so far has been lighthearted with a supportive energy behind it.
Ok boomer
K snowflake
Sandra Buechner I agree. These jokes are for the most part inappropriate.
@@JohnDoe-fm6md no most of them are inappropriate and they use gay as an insult. It's fucked up
Your father scares ME!!!! He has such strong energy and an authoritative presence.
I am amazed that you had the bravery to do this!!! - especially in person like this!
This is such a beautiful display of love, understanding and compassion
you need to educate your brainwashed mind and stop calling people "faggot" you moron
Fuckgirl Wonder Me too. I'm like "TH-cam, I already came out."
Man, I used to not understand the gay lifestyle and hated it. However, it really shocked me how you struggled with this so much and even went as far as to try to change your sexuality. You opened my eyes, and I'm finally beginning to understand the gay community. Believe it or not, not too long ago, I was as homophobic as you can get.
Oh, and your dad is really cool for understanding. However, there is proof that ex-gay therapy does work on some homosexuals, but not all.
My friend you are a very good Christian like me we believe in the god that loves all and does not reject a type of people. Now I do not believe I am a perfect Christian but I believe it is one step closer to equality.
+StokersDipper It's not my aim to start a discussion, but I strongly believe that such a "therapy" does not "work" in any way. First of all therapists who offer that kind of "therapies" have not studied this subject properly, a therapist is supposed to lift you up, to help you in each and every situation, and not make you feel bad or wrong. Secondly I, must say that people sometimes do lie. We usually do this to avoid certain questions or consequences for being honest. I surely cannot speak for everyone, but I can tell from my own experiences that lying sometimes gets you out of tricky situations. I would even go so far as to say that lying is a form of self protection. Considering this, it would be pretty reasonable to say that lgbt+ folks are most likely to lie when forced into these so-called therapies.
I'm glad you understand that being gay is, in fact, not wrong! :)
PS: wearing a clown costume everyday is a lifestyle, being gay isn't. :)
This little rant was just to make you think and now I hope you have a nice day! 🌞
You sir are a good man
this is the kind of change I like to see
I can totally relate to this poor kid. I was in his same shoes back in the 1980’s. It gradually got easier as time went by and society became more accepting.
Yeah the pendulum swing so far it’s now in vogue and trendy AF and more of a contagion type thing… it’s really sad
Why is this showing up in my recommended....
TH-cam is trying to tell you something...
Better call your dad
Cuz you're bi sexual
xd i got it in my recommended section too. I think it just went viral two days ago for some reasons
Cuz ur gay
Hey this is a great video. your dad seemed to be very understanding. he may not agree. but he understands and that's whats important. I'm glad that you are finally accepting yourself.
Johnny B. 🙏🙏🙏🙏ikr❤❤bless his heart
Thats most true Christians..
Dan Mcknight if there are more of these "true Christians" then I hope more show, because I personally hate religion because of people that use it to further their own hate
GateWayOf TheMind. You hate religion just because some people are assholes? Theres nothing wrong with religion, its the people who follow it. There are alot of christians and muslims and so on that do really great things, but there are some people that are just sick. Christianity teaches that you should love everyone, as jesus would have. Unfortunatley there are some "christians" that dont understand. You shouldnt hate it based on a few people dude, thats like saying I hate all drivers cause one lady cut me off.
no dude you should just hate women drivers because... women drivers!!🙀 (and yes i'm of the lumpy jumper variety myself) 🙈🙉🙊
“Everyone else is the world knows...uhh you’re gay”
Couldn’t keep myself from giggling
I love how professional and mature they are having this conversation it’s not an easy one.❤️
This has motivated me to come out as trans to my dad tonight, I'm a tad bit scared but I'm hopeful.
How’d it go????
@@maxiapalucci2511 not very well to put it into lighter terms. But I'm still supported by a majority of my family so I'm still able to transition. The perks of having divorced parents! I was kinda expecting this but now this just means I can finally get on hormones. Bittersweet really. I hope my relationship with him gets better in the future
How are you doing? Are things going well ?
I hope you’re doing well! I’m sending you positivity!🫶🏻
How did it go? Let us know. Be safe.
"Cool your gay son, whatever, NOW CAN WE PLEASE GO TO KFC?"
Clay I told my dad I'm bi and he was like "I know, we can tell, can I go to bed now"😂
Lol im sure most good parents already know these sort of things.
Apple Cider so angry, are you in the closet?
i think Apple cider is a little bi-curious, especially when hes chronically watching "coming out" videos.
Apple Cider ....I don't think you get it. I date boys and girls. So I hold girls hands, too
as an LGBT daughter of a strict conservative father, this is actually really open minded! he obviously doesn't understand exactly, but he's willing to read what his son is wanting to send him, and I think that says alot.
I've personally known kids that were kicked out and disowned for less than this.
Rachel Winn mhhm like the muslim child that lost her nose or something like that?
“I have had strong suspicions” lmao
Son: Dad I'm gay
Dad: Me too son
*Po..hub intro plays*
lmao
😂😂😂😂
*Porn*
That's... gay...
Dude.... little gay
This is incredible. If only every "Coming Out to My Conservative Christian Dad" story could go so well.
here here
A good DAD, good to see a guy listening and talking to his son in a calm and sensible way, best wishes to his whole family,
Im sure there are Conservative parents that accept it because love is greater than blind faith
I know... I know when I say to my dad, "I'm bisexual," he's not going to say, "Okay," and wait for for me to continue. He's going to go ballistic....
Daniel Walker Sounds like you want to tell your parents off and make it hurt so they know how you feel when they're negative at you. I can't say that you should or shouldn't do it depending on your situation but I'm willing to bet you'd feel a lot better if they felt a bit of the hurt they made you feel. Of course you probably don't want to hurt your parents but at the same time somethings gotta change there. They gotta meet you at least half way and I hope they do. I wish you the best. =)
Call me rude but how did he not already know you were gay?
Well since he didn't tell them and most likly didn't bring anyone over when they were home they were clueless of the fact that he's gay.
I guess this is a troll comment but whatever.
dejlislive not really dude looks and acts gay af
Well he said he had his suspicions
Little Matty furious pete is gay?!?
Gay people have to tell you that they are gay. Why? Nobody knows. Nobody cares.
Can hear the raw tone in the voice. Thanks for sharing and inviting me us in. Also, I hope your Dad and you have developed a stronger relationship.
The dads actually pretty chill. Good for him. Also, good for the kid. That was probably super hard
You are so brave. Don't mind me cutting onions over here...
I am impressed by the father's reaction. Not a fan of religion, at all, but he was a lot more civil in the conversation than I was expecting.
I don't see the big deal. When my daughter came out to me and her mom, she didn't feel the need to tape it and we didn't make a big deal... oh, wait, that's right... We're not conservative religious fucktards.
Never mind.
Probably not a bad idea, to tape it if the parents are religidicks though.
religious or not, those are two great parents.
jack ball Well said mate, he,ll be fine, once he gets comfy with things
Basing your life on a book, obviously written by men and influenced by the biases of the times, showing the primitive middle eastern desert tribesmen mentality from 2000 years ago, is a WASTE OF A LIFE. it's 2014, here in the civilized world, we should know better.. I mean the very same book says its a sin to eat shellfish, you cant grow crops next to eachother, you cant wear clothes of different fabrics, and the punishment for rape is for the rapist to marry his victim and pay her father 50 sheckles of silver. . I mean, what kind of god would write that?? if this was all true, then this world would just wouldnt make sense
Can't agree more, yesterday I grabbed the Bible, you know just to give it another try (aha) then the illogical mistakes started coming out...Cain,Abel story, after cain kills abel he goes on with his life and finds himself a wife??? Isnt abel and cain sons of Adan and eve???? So did god create more people other than abel and cain??? Like wut lol....
Ri Ji
yeah and then they just went into a town???? LOL wth . . 4 people in the whole world. they could have just written "and then God dideth that shit all over again and created like 2 billion people and some towns!" or some shit. . I guess they didnt go to creative writing school
Bear Kuma Either that or Cain has been fucking his mom all this time aAHAHAH!!!
Bear Kuma, the bible has always reminded me of one episode of RECESS, very old animated show don't know if you'll have heard of it, where they find an old copy of the rules of the playground for that time period. They decide to apply them to their current playtimes and realise they just make no sense because the rules were written for a different time! Sound familiar? The bible just doesn't make sense to this time period, some teachings I'm sure will be last because they're based on the most primitive moral rights and wrongs but as the world changes so should our moral compasses. :) I highly recommend watching that particular episode of Recess because even as a kid it got me thinking of the parallels between the playtime rules and the bible scriptures.
Random Guhh... um and your point makes sense to this conversation how? Just because I dislike the bible does not mean I don't read, it just means I have a good taste in literature.
Accepting yourself and how you really are is the only " repairative " therapy there is. Im happy your father disnt reject you. But the bottom line is you have to be true to you regardless of what family and friends think. You are so brave coming out to your father face to face.
Love is love. You can't help who you fall in love with ❤❤❤
so true.
I like how rather than having a fixed position, the dad lets his son talk about his own experiences and opinions. Shows that people can change.
Imagine "coming out" becoming obsolete, something that doesn't even have to happen anymore. Just seeing kids growing up without having to hide anything, being open about who they can potentially fall in love with. I believe that could happen.
Yeah that would be awesome!!
One day lets hope
Just the same way religion will disappear into the mists of time, the Christians have traded in the old daddy god for the more so called modern model, they are trying to distance themselves as much as possible from the old psychopathic tyrant.
LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL
dont you wish ..maybe christians will dissappear ..ISLAM WILL REMAIN STRONG >> for all you fuck boys who think otherwise
It's so strange hearing these people talk about "God" like he's just some dude. "Oh yeah, I talked to God the other day, and he's doing well."
It's a special kind of relationship... you get your answers through faith, and he's always listening. Don't expect a literal message like "Lol okay son".
What about ALLAH AKKBAR
DontNeedToKnow84 I'm a Christian and I do agree it's strange. However I talk to a picture of my dead friend everyday. I think talking to God is the same as me talking to my friend. You can talk to them and express your feelings, which is a huge stress reliever for some, it can also give you insight on your life problems. You know they're there but you can't see them or hear them. I believe God answers some people by influencing their own conscious, logic and morality. I've seen physical things that I would call his miracles, but I don't believe he can vocally speak to you. If you contradict this I'm cool with it, I love seeing other people's thoughts on religion! In my opinion it's all about what you believe is right. No one can be right or wrong because it has to do with YOU. It's your choice to believe in what you believe is right and you should never let anyone try to persuade you otherwise. I grew up forced into Christianity and the way it was portrayed to me by the church, some family members and the media made hate it. They acted as if it was a cult and it is no such thing. I was surrounded by people who were using a sick, twisted version of something that I now believe is good. It's your journey as a person. Find what's best for you, whether it be Judaism, Muslim, Christian etc or atheism.
Dangerous Joy unless you're dead you have no idea what is "right". It is your choice to put faith in what you believe in and power to you! But it's ignorant to believe that you know what comes afterwards. There's nothing wrong with having faith, faith is great but none of us know for sure what comes after this
Dangerous Joy alright dude just think what you wanna think.
Bro thank you so much for posting this. Most heartfelt words I've heard from a father and son. I didn't get so lucky with having deep conversations as these with my Dad passing away when I was 16. Just watching this touched my heart. Thank you for posting this and I love how it popped up in my newsfeed. Congratulations on coming out and good luck on your future endeavors bud
Thank you for sharing this. Was interesting to see how your dad processed this. Working against unaccepting beliefs to prioritise the relationship with his son & his happiness. I hope it continues to grow
Think he knew it was coming...
Ben Dover its always funny to me when guys with flamboyant tendencies like this guy think they’re fooling anyone
BarfyMan 362 he wasnt trying to fool anyone he just wasnt ready to tell
He said that in other words actually. Blatantly in the video says he already had his suspicions... Congrats on your speculative and intuitive prowess...
**reads name** oh.......OH OKAY
I mean he could’ve had a girlfriend or sumn. We rlly don’t know his story
Your story is so very similar to mine just in a different time, I remember as a young teen being outside one night and looking at a very big full moon. I had spent many years praying to God to change me, to heal me to be straight. This night I prayed even harder for that healing. I guess I expected a loud voice from heaven or something but again I got nothing. I remember getting angry that He would not answer so I finished that prayer with my asking that if He would not heal me then take me out of this world this very night because I just can't take it anymore. God never did heal me and years later I realized why. After finally accepting myself many many years later, my life suddenly began to bloom. It was then that I realized that God did not heal me because there was nothing to heal, I was exactly as He had made me. For this I will be forever grateful. Best Wishes.
+Michael Roy
Does Chance Pemberton deserve the same full civil rights as you Michael Roy?
I low key wanna give your dad a hug. I wish my dad was half as accepting as yours. ❤️
Bravo dude! Very brave and selfless of you to share this. I am sure it will help so many get the courage to do this themselves, and also show parents that even with strict conservative background the most important thing is to love your child.
This guys dad seems like a hard worker.
Ω 😂😂 I love the sarcasm because he's fat 😂😂
@T.K. Brown Because he's fat? That's not nice to say...
Firelight157 there was no query over integrity of the truth...
I love the sarcasm because you look quite tubby yourself mate...
He thicccc 👁👄👁
Good on you Dad. I'm a Christian, was raised in the Baptist Church. My kids were raised the same, even went to a Christian school. NOT CATHOLIC. I was against it too...til I saw the pain in my daughters eyes when she told me. She too struggled n talked to God. I really don't believe God will send her to Hell, as He knows her heart ♥
Anyone against this, I TRULY HOPE YOU HAVE A CHILD THAT TURNS OUT GAY. Think before speaking!
God Bless 😀
This was absolutely amazing! I am so proud of you & your dad too!
Well done! You can hear the trembling in your voice.
My heart hurt for you to hear that you’ve kept your family at a distance in case you had to leave the family. I can’t even imagine making that type of choice as a young person.
I hope now you are close again and are getting to experience the love and acceptance of your family you always wanted.
And I’m sure that if your family accepted this, I’m time they will accept a partner who loves you and wants the same things in life. And judging by this convo that’s all your dad wants for you too.
Much love from Australia!
Life is short, Drew. I know you're still conflicted with these outside pressures concerning whether or not you can be with someone, but if you waste your young life trying to avoid connecting with people, you may well come to regret that in your later life.
The best of luck to you in however you proceed.
Great post ZdPheonix, hope he finds someone great out there for him, that would be awesome
Horsethief666
If God were real, who would you be to say what sin is or isn't? You're just repeating what you've been taught, which is all based in the work of man. You might believe that your way is the correct way, you may overlook the changes/rewordings/errors of what is known of the Bible and say it is divinely inspired, word for word, but that's still just faith in what you happen to have accepted or been told is true.
The idea of a God who likes to torture his creations so has always seemed a bit perverse to me. If there really was a truly omnipotent being who genuinely loved us, I don't see why they'd have the need for the petty and psychotic behaviour - he wouldn't act like a despotic king: he'd understand human experience.
From an Atheist perspective, this is life, not a celestial waiting room - experience it and make the most of it now. Not quite the same as 'who cares, you won't remember not being happy when you're dead'.
Horsethief666
That's all very nice, but tbh I don't see it as relevant as to what I was saying. Also you're trying to apply theist logic to what I stated was an Atheist position, which obviously will never go together.
Horsethief666 If you don't understand an atheistic view of life, then don't pretend you know what an atheistic view of life is. I'm an atheist. I agree that the objective value of everything is zip. However, I am a human being with a body and living in the world and it's simply not rational to expect that not believing in god means all of the things I was built to care about are going to mean nothing to me just because I know there is a future I will not be aware of. It literally is against my nature, unlike the idea that homosexuality is against nature.
But I guess the point is, if there are flaws in the Bible, then how can you really distinguish the flaws from the non-flaws? All I know is there are objective ways to live a happy life, which generally means a good life, because happiness comes from connection, stability, feeling productive and valued, etc (pretty much universal for humans as we are social creatures). If the bible says that anything that gets people more of those things is bad, then the bible is nonsense. If the bible tells this guy the love he might share with another person(s) if it is consensual and therefore equally happy-making for all involved, is wrong, then how could the bible be moral? How could it describe sin in a way that is relevant to living a good life?
Horsethief666 you're the one subscribing to a system of belief that is in no way reflected in reality. Open your mind. Or at least give me something reasonable to open my mind up to.
ur dad wasn't even surprised! He already knew lol.
Manuel his sons mannerisms were a dead giveaway
What an amazing dad. I wish my dad where alive so I could tell him. It’s truly heartbreaking. And I live every day and see how happy these brave men are.
Big up to you, Drew! That was very courageous of you. I can hear the nerves in your voice, but you still mastered the strength to carry on. I hope you're living your best life and inlove! ☺
a lot of hate for Christians in the comments. its not really related to the video. this older Christian man who is finding this situation very hard is trying his best to understand something alien to him for his sons (and ultimately his own) benefit. he is dealing with it admirably. I am happy his son is free to be himself and his father and him can grow and move on together.
+jasminejo2424 Maybe because they're all followers of a false unproven fairy tale...
No but it'd be better then reading from the no good toilet paper worthy fairy tale you call the bible...
@@theproudenglishman4461 The Bible has thousands of years of collective wisdom and history. Very little of the Bible is mystical and much of that pre-dates Christianity. Generations of Christians worked to build the western world. Hospitals are a Christian tradition. Charity is a Christian tradition. Christians made slavery illegal in Europe and America. Christians stopped the muslim occupation of europe saving millions from slavery and death. As a fellow atheist I hope you've had time the past few years to take a little time to learn the history of the west and the good people that made it possible.
It doesn't matter so much that his dad pretty much knew beforehand so much as it matters that he was able to set his personal beliefs aside in support of his son. Great dad he has there.
I think most parents know. Even before their kid comes out.
I remember my cousin coming out....we all looked at eachother and said ....we know!!!!!!
God Bless You!! Above all else, God says to Love!! He loves you and I love and respect you and your courage for coming out in a strict Christian family!! God Bless!!💜
which God though? Or is it all of them?
@@stevencruickshank1846 True God
I'm a conservative but I am not racist or homophobic and won't want to associate with people who are like that, I'm a conservative, but I'm not a Neanderthal. Your Dad's a good man.
CONservatism is obsolete.
I've never even used Tumblr. Now get back to church!
Justin Graziano I think it's actually on a rise due to people like you lol
Well said💖💜
Reading your comment somehow calmed me down too. I enjoyed reading this, it was very well put together especially for a TH-cam comment. Good on you for being able to write a constructive and resourceful comment instead of spewing bullshit.
I kind of think you were after an argument because after several times of your father saying "I am ok with it and kind of knew", even right up to the end you were saying things like "I have had my entire life to get used to it and now I need for you to get used to it". I think you were being pretty hard on your father there as he (at least in this clip) was coming to terms with it extremely well. Just my two cents! I hope you both embraced afterwards because I think the way he handled it showed what an amazing dad you have!!
Veggie Gamer Well, like my own priest says, homosexuality isn't a sin, in a world full of theives and murderers God will not send you to hell for finding love. He always says, and I quote. "The bible says to love your neighbor, not your straight neighbor, God is love, denying a homosexual love is denying God's will"
zac That's how I've always thought of it. I always say a similar thing to that "God is love. Love is love. Therefore love is God.".
Love and Sex are different animals.
Gamersare2Crazy Leviticus says all sorts of retarded shit along with the rest of the Bible. It's literally the most cherry picked gospel. Have you even bothered to familiarize yourself with every Leviticus law? Do me a favor and read the whole stupid thing and tell me you don't just pick and choose which ridiculous rule to follow. Go ahead, goober. Read ALL of it.
I totally agree. This guy was looking for a fight with his dad right off the bat. I applaud his bravery but he was definitely trying to get a reaction out of his dad.
Drew, bless your heart. You are so well spoken and so gentle. That must have been the relief of your life. While it's a relief that your dad didn't respond negatively, I was really hoping for a big hug and an immediate "I'll love you no matter what." Hopefully your family has adjusted. ❤
This is the second time I've seen this over the years, and I'm crying. I hope you're happy today, Drew. Much love.
I found this to be quite moving because I can see the father already was starting to think differently. Slowly at first, of course, but you can see the wheels spinning. It is a long process for some people.
A long process for what?
CSA Rebel
A long process to understand that being gay is not necessarily fatal and will not necessarily get you thrown into hell. Perhaps just loving all people, whether they be gay or not, is the right answer. For some people this is a very long process because they are challenged to take everything they learned throughout their life and see it in a new way.
Chris Thorton People say you have to be good to get into heaven but honestly the only way is to be born again. We are born sinners which is why we need to be born again, and when we do we throw out our old sinful life for Jesus.
CSA Rebel
I agree. But is it a sinful life to be gay? Perhaps a gay person is called to chastity, I am not sure...but even so is the orientation itself something that is part of that "old sinful life?" I don't think so.
CSA Rebel
You haven't addressed my last point -- what about a person who has the orientation but is chaste?
Why is this in my recommended
It's trying to help you when you finally get the courage to come out to your parents
Lol cos everyone is gay right? xD
Bwt It's a hint
Mr Gaudy .... Blahhhahahahahaaaaaa!!!!!
maybe you have some coming out to do :)))
This is how you handle with your kid coming out. You reassure them that no matter your thoughts on them, you still love them, no matter what.
I love this on such a personal level... I came out to my parents for a different reason. and I’m so happy you got this response. I got something similar and I realize not everyone does.
Son tells dad something he's already known for years....on camera.
I can't wait until I'm a mom and when my kids come home from kindergarten and say "I have crush on someone" I can ask "a boy or girl?" so they'll know I'll always be accepting of who they are.
MY KIDS STARTIN EARLY LMAO BYEEE
Charlotte Kok you dumb bitch, what kid is going to say that they're gay in kindergarten?
Hawkins Smith fr😂
kids have those feeling very early in life. so i think it's a great idea.
I have had the exact same idea actually😄😄
This made me cry. Hits home. You are so brave and I don't know you at all but I'm so proud of you
OMG...I just seen this and started crying in the end. Reminds me of the conversation I had with Dad. A hardcore marine...and he still accepted me ❤️
His dad is very respectful and honest.
You may have been in the closet, but there was an N'Sync poster on the door bro.
John Marston! My man! I love you dude, how's Jack doing?
John Marston lmao
John Marston Rest In Peace my brother
“Blessed are the peacemakers”
@@dwightschrute3721 That's right my brother!
1873-1911
Im Arthur Morgan, I got your back John
Kudos, both to you for eventually having had the strength and courage to tell your religious folks, and to your Dad for having kept it so well together, in spite of everything he had probably been taught up to that point.
I’m very happy it went well for you.
My Dad and I have a great relationship nowadays. Have had it for many years now. And yes, I came out to him (and Mom and everyone else) many years ago.
We are both very comfortable nowadays, talking about me in an openly manner. Little, is any, discomfort.
Lmao Is that my boi Hershel
Edgar The Bird r.i.p Hershel
I was looking through ever comment like "how the fuck is no one saying this dude looks like fucking hershel???" Lmfao
i was subconsciously thinking of him as hershel and didnt even realize lol
Edgar The Bird lmao
I'm dead 😂
The way you talk, I'm sure he knew tbh. But +100 for your parents!
aids
Xeaxos what does thu mean?
Xeaxos what does TBH mean?
It means "To Be Honest"
What a beautiful kid this man has. He should be happy and proud and thankful to God to have given him the honor to be parents of such a loving soul. His love and caring comes through the video. Homophobia is such a horrid and destructive thing. I'm glad new winds of wisdom are blowing.
That took lots of courage of you to come out to your dad hopefully he comes to terms and just keeps loving you and being your dad and supporting you
This is great that your farther supports you he is very respectful it’s great to appeasing viewpoints respect each other so refreshing to see.
Wow this dad was so supportive, even though it's against his views. He really loves his son and is a good dad :)
Gluttony is a sin too. Stop. Eating. Pop tarts.
have you even put butter on a poptart? it is so FRICKEN GOOD
im so sorry
+ElianaGamingAndVlogs Hahahaha I'M cRyinG!! Best. Comment . yet
+ElianaGamingAndVlogs lol you had to make it worse xD *backs away from the chocolate*
+Sarah Bucket lol
This is so sweet. I came out to my Christian pastor dad when I was 19. It’s been eight years and though I love him a lot we don’t talk anymore. I’m happy to see such a kind response from a religious conservative father. Thanks for sharing. ❤️
Wow… ya know when I hear stuff like this and entertain the whole Christian thing it’s straight up diabolical how sons are radicalized against what their fathers wished for them… literally going GAY and y’all celebrating it yet the reality is y’all don’t even talk anymore…
But hey at least you’re being your true authentic self and do as thou whilst (Satanist beliefs coincidentally)
With this country being the way it is. I very much needed this right now. There were so many aspects of this, that I appreciate. I'm not gay, but very much am for you are how you are, you love how you are. What you did was so brave. And, although I don't know what went on before or after this video, your dad did it right in this video. He was not in himself, but with you as a connected love. I really needed this. Just randomly tripped on it.