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Ladies listen to Mat, write down that approach, make it your own and rehearse it out loud in front of the mirror. The best loving thing you can do for yourself is to communicate your standards up front. "As much as I am enjoying our connection, I reserve sexual intimacy for the man I am in a committed relationship with." Do you still want to meet up?
Great advice. Keep in mind that a man’s age doesn't really provide any exceptions to this advice. One would think that an older man would be more emotionally /mentally mature but that is not always true. 🤓
The older man may have been through the financial wringer with a previous divorce and owns little now and is probably a bit bitter (issues not resolved in his head) and is therefore looking for sex for his ego.
I had this experience 11 months ago with my present boyfriend. He came on strong the first time we met. I didn't know him well but I thought our first meet-up went well and I felt something. Later in the day, he sent me a text claiming our astrology signs were a match sexually. I told him I knew that but I wasn't in a hurry. I said I wanted to get to know him more before we went any further. He's very sexual and so am I. I told him that I wanted to make sure that sex wasn't the only thing he wanted from me. He proved to me that it wasn't and we are going strong. Thanks, Mat for all of the wonderful advice you give. It has taught me a lot about relationships.
How did he prove to you that sex wasn’t the only thing he wanted? I’m trying to figure this guy out who got sexual (no sex just foreplay) on the third date
@@Abianco952 we talked about it. I told him what I wanted and it was more than sex. He said he wanted more too. So we continued and we are still together.
I find early sexual advances off putting. I have been in situations in the past where a guy agreed that it was too early for that and then pressed for sex the moment we met. It’s like he would agree to anything you say just to try his luck again the moment an opportunity arises
I can’t even get to an actual date, immediately in the text they say stuff like you should be at my place cuddling with me, or you want to come over and watch a Netflix movie with me?......rolls her eyes EVERY TIME!! 😔🙄... then I give him my 2 cents before blocking him. Tired of it. 🤦🏽♀️
What is wrong with that? Life is stressful, difficult and expensive as it is already so nothing wrong with getting sex with as quickly, with as little effort, and as cheaply as possible! 🤣🤣🤣
Lord this happened to me recently I said to myself 3 strikes and you’re out 😂and that’s what I did he’s now blocked the craziest part is I’m 26 and he’s 40 🤦♀️😂😂
I told a guy i met online that i was looking for a connexion before any sexual activities,the guys was neutral and acted like he was not a perv and he asked me for a date ,said yes and one day before the date,he asked me to come to his place to CHILL,well ,haven't talk to him in 3 weeks and not regretting anything.
@@TeutonicTribeyea men on dating apps are like rhis. They obky wsnt sex ir wanna date casually for years no marriage. Orr dont wsnt to commit but expect sex too soon. Or just lie. Ugh.
I met my man online. When we were talking before meeting in person. In our conversations I made it a point to work into our conversations these expectations. Mat, you give great advice. This spot on. We are going on dating LDR 1 year and we are doing well.
When someone says something suggestive early on, I usually say something along the lines of "whoa there buddy, we're not there yet" so it's more playful!
Thank you for the suggestion! I don’t like it when they come on so sexually strong so early in the interaction...and I’m not dressed suggestively either🙄I prefer we start off in a friendly way first🤗🙂
He wanted to cook me dinner and watch a movie. I told him that I am attracted to him and I don't trust myself. I want to wait because sex changes the vibe, and we met (in person) 2 weeks ago and we need to get to know each other better. BTW, he asked: how long, forever? I said no. He said I was worth the wait.
Victoria, you stated you told him, "we need to get to know each other better." Stick to that. MEAN WHAT YOU SAY. (I wish you had not told him that you don't trust yourself. Don't state that 'weakness' outloud.) Especially to a man. You're stronger than that. Let God, Jesus, and The Holy Spirit be your Guide. Read God's Word. Be Blessed.
You'll be glad you're holding off. Trust me. This sex outside of marriage thing is almost always the beginning of the end. When you have given up your mystery, he has nothing to figure out. He won't know why he begins to think of you as if " She's not the one", but he will. Hands off! You're not a toy, & he should DESERVE you.
I’ve let the last guy I saw know that I really wanted to continue having a good time with him and wanted us to learn more about each other’s interests, thoughts and lifestyle. I asked if he felt the same way or had similar thoughts. At first he said yes, but he continued to pressure me for sex. When we were no longer seeing each other after only four dates and weeks of good conversations. He apologized for moving too fast. We remained friends but I no longer want to stay in contact since he’s truly out just for casual sex and no commitments. He just started hurting my feelings and it’s not worth it. Friends wouldn’t play games like that. I need a break. 😢
"What is wrong with getting to know someone? I am really enjoying this and more is certainly coming your way, but I really want to respect you and what we have going. It is meaning more and more to me everyday."
It sounds great. However, once the boundary is set and you give him something to work toward, who says he isn't going to play the part to get what he wants and move on?
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Exactly, whether you withold or not, he may play along while he screws other willing partners. Then get his cake at the end and bounce. I feel just go with your instincts, if he still comes back, then BINGO.
My favorite thing I've read in the comments is "that is a boyfriend level privilege and we're not there yet." I'm going to be using that Both my parents are from the medical background and I've had a couple of guys weird out on me the fact that I wanted to get an STD test and I've even said we can go together and to get the test. I just want to make sure we're both clean before we get there. Once we get the clear test result then we can plan a nice weekend to have this properly. Lost soooo many guys at that point. It's not like I'm accusing them of being horn dogs or whatever. I just don't want whoever he was with before affecting our possible future. Because STDs can be so much worse for women, when they're not that big a deal for guys. So many uneducated males out there trying to get some ass and even some nice guys they just don't understand that that's a level of respecting myself and protecting the relationship.
@@JayeVoyaging l always ask men to take a full STD panel test when they start asking for sex because men who are only looking for sex won’t bother taking one and it weeds out men who are only looking for sex.
I was asked what kind of relationship I'm looking for in the 1st week we met - My answer : "I am not looking for a relationship cause I'm not ready - just coming out from an abusive one - but a friend, at this time, would be nice" Thing is, though, he continued making sexual remarks & I had to tell him to "stop cause it made me uncomfortable to answer him, & if he wants to still be friends"!
I like coffee dates. LOTS of them. We talk & find out our interests, what's important to us, personal goals, & long range plans. I always tell the man: "Something about you fascinates me. I want to hear all your stories." THAT'S when he reveals himself. I keep it going. " I like listening to you & I appreciate learning about you. Could we do this again next week?" You don't have to be alone with a man in order to get him addicted to you. When the topic of sex comes up, " A connection like that is forged in a spiritual bond. I really can't imagine anything else." At that point, neither will he. # Marriage is the ultimate sex.
Thank you for sharing this! I just started an online long distance relationship. I want to make sure that we don't get so caught up in our chemistry that other areas don't grow as well. I will be using your advice.. I love the approach. ❤️ Fingers crossed it works out since I really like this guy
Really great advice. I like the approach. It makes it easier and more doable for women to say what we need to say regarding that particular issue. Women hate to reject guys they like and sometimes we may not know how to say what we really need to say. And sometimes we aren’t used to having to do that. Thank you for another great video.
Not really dear...cuz some pretend even though they really like the guy... I knew one girl then in college who had a crush on me,she didn't know I was aware..so I walked up to her one day and she acted so differently from what I expected...and I can still relate with some other experiences as well....
I think what perpetuates this is that some of the women they've talked to in the past were okay or down with the early sexual talk so they think they can talk like this with all women which is a huge mistake
Wow, thank you for this formula!! It’s very simple, easy as powerful. I would like to also learn of the 4 Types of connections (Physical, Mental, Emotional, Spiritual) & how a relationship evolves from 1 to the others. Thank you very much!! I’ve learned so much from your channel. Lessons, Advise that your mother never taught you growing up in forming a romantic relationship 🙏🙏
I met someone online ,and we chatted for a while then he invited me out but in his house I asked him why his house and he made an excuse of "corona" and he said " I'll just pick you we hang out ,watch a movie smoke shisha well I dont smoke shisha " I thought about it and I was like "ok o trusted him and due to what he said made sense but after we reach his house he was nice respectful for an hour or so then after he started making advances I felt uncomfortable and I asked him to drop me home or I take taxi which he did and I blocked him right after I came out of his car and I unmatched him In Tinder
I thought Tinder was for hookups??? I just started dating after 27 years. I always meet these guys in a public place for a few times and that after chatting/talking with them for months.
My answer to this kind is...if you feel the conversation is getting into a little bit on that situation, but not really suggesting directly into that matter, you can divert into a more interesting things to discuss with... But if he goes on with, then maybe you can directly tell him that you're not into that kind YET...AND be direct of what you like and what you don't...if he is a good man and really interested on you, then he will respect...but he doesn't, then cut it out...
I'm slightly different because of being an energy healer and aware of the spiritual ties and entity possession that occurs through sex too. So I'm looking for someone who is willing to wait until we are sure about marriage. This would ideally be easier within my own faith, but men are men I've realised and so still looking. I just tell them nothing before marriage and they all go cold 😂 more time for self healing and trying to figure out financial abundance and joy in the meantime, eh?
I do one better. First of all, I make coffee dates with him for awhile. I want to know if we're even on the same wavelength. AND I make sure that we're never alone. If he mentions it, I say, " Casey, I would love to be alone with you, but that would be unwise. I'm attracted to you & you THINK that you would hold me off, but no, let's not put that to the test." Men like a woman who speaks in logical terms, even when he's being told no.
Both people over 50, both people have been celibate for 9-12 years. Go with the flow? I think each situation is different. If you've been communicating for 4-5 months & are in different states (geographically) does this change things if both partners feel they want to connect on all levels & already have done so except the physical?
I used the Phrase... Hey I am so into you and I would love to do all sorts of stuff with you... But I don't do that early on when I don't know you and no idea if you want an actual relationship. Let's get to know each other and let's see if our intentions are the same. Coz I want a relationship not One Night Stand nor FWB. Think About It. Let me know when you do. Goodnight 🙂
Thank you for your great advice and input! I love your videos! I have to ask if you have had sex with a man and wanted a relationship yet he was interested in another woman. You set your boundaries clear and it worked! He is choosing you. But what do you do if youve now lost attraction to him because of all the extra drama and hurts from it?
Kick him to the curb. Tell him your interest could not outlast his interest in the other woman. Guys like him do not deserve the kid gloves treatment. Delete him from your phone and your life.
I’m only 18 n the reason why I’m here is because I just met this guy online but I told him before that I was not ready for a relationship due to past experiences, but he’s still trying to convince me that we shld be. We played 21 questions n instead of asking things about me he’d ask sexual questions
its a double edged sword. Im a male and i was dating this woman that presented to be the type that would only show that type of interest once they got you commited and take things slowly but i found out she wasnt as reserved with other people and im not talking the past as in years ago but weeks ago. I know not all women are like that and they hold their values but its really hard to trust people.
I have my LDR,but he didn't ask for nude pictures. He always made a call when go went shopping, visiting with her daughter. He introduced me to his friends. From now we are happy.. He asked me something private part, I told him that I served for my future husband. He is says that he is my future husband... After that he didn't ask again but our relationship still great, from now. I hope is he my real soumate.
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the issue with stating this is getting to SEXUAL for me if he asks you to go to his place or yours is he will question why you think him asking that means he wants sex and there is a high potential for him to get defensive. Watch how he responds - or don't use the word sexual in that exact scenario. I think that some men really want to get to know you and might also get turned off by you making the assumption he wants sex. He might at that point want to only create an OPPORTUNITY for sex, so be very clear about how you feel about this.
I met one of my school friend after so long and just few days after the conversation he proposed me. I was surprised and made him clear that I don't feel the same sorry . Later he convinced me for relationship. I was prep. for competitive exam so I made him clear abt my priorities. Since it was my 1st relationship being immature I didn't knew much about relations and to my surprise I found him getting me involved in sexual chat on phone and trying to convince me for sex to build trust in relationship. He was actually a toxic person and so I ended the relationship asap getting to know his intentions.
Hi Mat, I'd say I feel a connection to you but I'd like to get to know you better first. Do you still want to go out on Saturday. Thanks Mat, great advice. Just be honest and lay it on the line xxx 💝
At 60+, I have found that going right to a sexual flirting conversation is very normal…even if we aren’t going to have sex right away…it’s like, why waste time, and it’s a great way to find out if ultimately we will be compatible…
In this situation right now, my own fault. But I already told him sex in a relationship. And set the boundary again it was too early talk. Thanks for this video, exactly what I needed
How can you set boundaries when you don’t know them yet. Im fine having sex if he genuinely likes me as a person but i dont know if he does or not so my boundaries very much depend on his intentions How can i pre set them???
I believe having to halt them is a red flag. All my exes who took me serious and committed to me never brought up sexual things until way later, monthS
I struggle with messages that say: babe, gorgeous...I have not even met the guy and these kind of stuffs somehow indicate that his approach is just for one purpose (maynI am overreacting or might be that I am not native speaker) Any thoughts?
That was then, this is now. You have spiritual goals & seeking the same. Re-connect over coffee a few times. You'll find out if you're the path of least resistance, or is there a genuine interest that's growing.
Look...maybe me it is the first one from Iraq following you... but please I hope you understand my problem. I raised up in a conservative house and I am Muslim. My fiance live outside Iraq... sometimes he asked for some flirtation a little bit like kisses or love talking. But I can't do it now because of my situation. So how can I treat this issue.
What if you’ve had sex on the second date but he’s still very expressive about him liking you a lot and wanting to see you again… do I stop having Sex with him? I wouldn’t say he’s overly sexual at all he even made sure I knew we didn’t have to if I didn’t want But I wanted toooo! I think it’s silly that I have to say no to sex to get a guy to care about me. I like sex to man. I don’t judge them for having sex with me to soon. Why do men do that?! Bs
I told the my man "we're not there yet" as we were just talking on the phone and still very new to each other. Followed by if he smells as good as he looks when the right time comes, I won't be able to keep my hands off of him. 😜
Never ever put out too early ladies. Things always change after the first time. Important convos never happen and will lead to disappointments, obsession and anxiety. This guy tried to get me to sleep with him I’ve know him for 4 weeks and he’s very Hot but I’m looking for long term marriage I really do not have time to exchange sexual energies for fun. I already have dudes for that if I wanted to hahahaha his Ego got hurt bad im making him get std tested too!!!
I hate when a guy does this, as soon as they start talking like that, I try to steer the conversation in another direction and then it goes back to sex, immediately, I will say It’s not a good idea that we talk anymore and I block him. I’ve had guys send me full explicit nudes the first day I meet them and talk to them. That is a guaranteed way of getting blocked.
I think you might be confusing me with the future me who has been on many more dates with you ;)” This might not be good to say if the sexual advance is an inappropriate one. In that case say bye and block him. 😁...that’s what I had to do.
What about someone who has been a friend for so long - so you have the mental connection - then it turned sexual - (for me emotional) - and you spent a week together and have been talking for 2 months non sexually - as you had to leave back home ( we are long distance) - then he tells me he’s been thinking about me every night and can’t wait to jump on me etc when he sees me next (in a couple of months). I was worried his intentions are only sexual - what do you think? He said he wants me to video call with his family - but also mentioned many sexual things he can’t wait to do. Can I trust this?
Now I am dating in my early 40s I met 2 guys who wanna physical intimacy right at the beginning. I rejected so for one I ended up sexting every time. Now I like him and asked if he wanna hook up, but he refused lol… he told me at the beginning he didnt just want to have hookup but I didnt believe him because he wanted to meet at my place for the first meeting . Now I am offering it, he didnt even want to… 🤔do you think some guys wanna physical intimacy first when they like that girl? Or they think their physical intimacy can make the girl stay?
Some guys actually want something meaningful and don’t like women who just want to hook up. There are men who genuinely want a woman of substance. And perhaps he has good boundaries where he can meet privately in person without it immediately turning into something physical.
I’ve been raped this way. Men think they are owed sex right away after like a day or two of first meeting him & listening to me talk for a while. It’s ridiculous. I don’t know him. And the moment i get to know him i find out i am attracting controlling narcissistic partners who are also abusive. Because my parents are that way. So that’s all i know subconsciously. I don’t seem to ever be around men who are good people i don’t know why. No matter how much i work on myself i feel i may never find a healthy partner who waits for me
Dear Mat, I think I trapped... I have this guy-friend. He's handsome, he is kind, I like him a lot. We both like hanging out, I feel so comfortable around him. He told me that he is not looking for a relationship because he is not ready. I WANT HIM TO BE READY. The problem is, that I feel like I am waiting for nim to turn around and look at me as a girlfriend material. But he is giving me mixed signals... Do you think I should just leave, or stop initiating meetings? Yes, mainly I am The one which initiates contact and he like a it, but he is more responsive than active in this relation. I think that I am losing respect :( Love, Natt
It sounds like he’s stringing you along. There is a channel called Karine Alourde, and she’s also very insightful. I was in a situation like this, once. Not anymore!
That's a bit too soon lol after the first date lol. Some ppl are just players another notch on the belt. Be direct is what you're saying. I prefer making love and the emotional connection I prefer it with someone I love I don't want something It's just sex and it's not meaningful not interested in that why am I watching these lol Maybe cuz it's informative? I've learned plenty from life as well,but love learning new tools
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I would be honest and forward and say im not interested because we started to get to know each other and all you want to do is use me for sex. Take care and move on and you just walk away.
I don’t understand why some men feel like it’s okay to be super vulgar. I do block them but I’m just curious as to why? You ruined any chance you had to get to know me. I know I dodged a bullet but being vulgar and too forward is incredibly unattractive and disrespectful.
I met a guy on a dating site. And i like him, he looks nice but mentions about cuddling then kissing and then sexual thingy. But mentions of planning life in the future and coming over to visit and marriage. Its mix honestly but i dont know the real or true intentions of this british man. 🤷🏻♀️
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Ladies listen to Mat, write down that approach, make it your own and rehearse it out loud in front of the mirror.
The best loving thing you can do for yourself is to communicate your standards up front. "As much as I am enjoying our connection, I reserve sexual intimacy for the man I am in a committed relationship with." Do you still want to meet up?
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Thank you
Great advice. Keep in mind that a man’s age doesn't really provide any exceptions to this advice. One would think that an older man would be more emotionally /mentally mature but that is not always true. 🤓
How true!
The older man may have been through the financial wringer with a previous divorce and owns little now and is probably a bit bitter (issues not resolved in his head) and is therefore looking for sex for his ego.
Yes, there are older men who are in midlife crisis and younger men who have future plans like career and family. The age is just a number.
@@TheSharronW reflecting back on some things that were said, I believe you have a valid point...
@@LearnGermanwithMarzipanfrau it's the state of mind whether young or old what they are looking for/what they will be happy with
I had this experience 11 months ago with my present boyfriend. He came on strong the first time we met. I didn't know him well but I thought our first meet-up went well and I felt something. Later in the day, he sent me a text claiming our astrology signs were a match sexually. I told him I knew that but I wasn't in a hurry. I said I wanted to get to know him more before we went any further. He's very sexual and so am I. I told him that I wanted to make sure that sex wasn't the only thing he wanted from me. He proved to me that it wasn't and we are going strong. Thanks, Mat for all of the wonderful advice you give. It has taught me a lot about relationships.
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How did he prove to you that sex wasn’t the only thing he wanted? I’m trying to figure this guy out who got sexual (no sex just foreplay) on the third date
@@Abianco952 we talked about it. I told him what I wanted and it was more than sex. He said he wanted more too. So we continued and we are still together.
1. Affirm your interest
2. Set a boundary
3. Set an expectation
‘As much as IM Really attracted to you, I Dont Go that fast. ID prefer it if we take things slow and get to know each other more first ‘ 🙂
Good advice I will use that one, thanks.
Perfect...Thanks 🙂
@@bean1077 You value your self and know your worth, good for you.
I said this And he told me I'm too much and I'm crazy smh
@@khadijahislambey2476 Loll gaslighting. Big red flag . Clear sign you shouldnt be with him
I find early sexual advances off putting. I have been in situations in the past where a guy agreed that it was too early for that and then pressed for sex the moment we met. It’s like he would agree to anything you say just to try his luck again the moment an opportunity arises
Agreed 👍💯💖
Good point
I get that. Especially on dating sites. It doesn't matter what you say, Sex Drone doesn't hear it. NEXT!
exactly.
Yes they would tell you what you want to hear and then do whatever they want
I can’t even get to an actual date, immediately in the text they say stuff like you should be at my place cuddling with me, or you want to come over and watch a Netflix movie with me?......rolls her eyes EVERY TIME!! 😔🙄... then I give him my 2 cents before blocking him. Tired of it. 🤦🏽♀️
Yes i'm so sick of this too. They want it easy & low effort
What is wrong with that? Life is stressful, difficult and expensive as it is already so nothing wrong with getting sex with as quickly, with as little effort, and as cheaply as possible! 🤣🤣🤣
That's it, you actually understand they're interested only in sex even before the first date, from their messages
Lord this happened to me recently I said to myself 3 strikes and you’re out 😂and that’s what I did he’s now blocked the craziest part is I’m 26 and he’s 40 🤦♀️😂😂
Unlike other relationship advisors you're calmer and that helps stay longer watching your videos and you're on point
I told a guy i met online that i was looking for a connexion before any sexual activities,the guys was neutral and acted like he was not a perv and he asked me for a date ,said yes and one day before the date,he asked me to come to his place to CHILL,well ,haven't talk to him in 3 weeks and not regretting anything.
This sort of thing’s happening more ☠️ often since dating apps 😤
Why is he a perv for wanting sex? Are you a prude for wanting to wait?
He sounds kind of rapey-y.
Yes
@@TeutonicTribeyea men on dating apps are like rhis. They obky wsnt sex ir wanna date casually for years no marriage. Orr dont wsnt to commit but expect sex too soon. Or just lie. Ugh.
I met my man online. When we were talking before meeting in person. In our conversations I made it a point to work into our conversations these expectations. Mat, you give great advice. This spot on. We are going on dating LDR 1 year and we are doing well.
When someone says something suggestive early on, I usually say something along the lines of "whoa there buddy, we're not there yet" so it's more playful!
I like that!
Thank you for the suggestion! I don’t like it when they come on so sexually strong so early in the interaction...and I’m not dressed suggestively either🙄I prefer we start off in a friendly way first🤗🙂
@@user-zd5lq2tm4z you’re welcome!!! Yea I don’t get why some people automatically talk sexually!! I get so thrown off
@@SamEllebecause men have different interests than you, biologically speaking
He wanted to cook me dinner and watch a movie. I told him that I am attracted to him and I don't trust myself. I want to wait because sex changes the vibe, and we met (in person) 2 weeks ago and we need to get to know each other better. BTW, he asked: how long, forever? I said no. He said I was worth the wait.
Hello there, how are you doing?
Victoria, you stated you told him, "we need to get to know each other better." Stick to that. MEAN WHAT YOU SAY. (I wish you had not told him that you don't trust yourself. Don't state that 'weakness' outloud.) Especially to a man. You're stronger than that. Let God, Jesus, and The Holy Spirit be your Guide. Read God's Word. Be Blessed.
You'll be glad you're holding off. Trust me. This sex outside of marriage thing is almost always the beginning of the end. When you have given up your mystery, he has nothing to figure out. He won't know why he begins to think of you as if " She's not the one", but he will. Hands off! You're not a toy, & he should DESERVE you.
I dont know how it went for you but you made a mistake by telling him you dont trust yourself, dont ever show a man your weakness.
How did it go? Are you still together?
I’ve let the last guy I saw know that I really wanted to continue having a good time with him and wanted us to learn more about each other’s interests, thoughts and lifestyle. I asked if he felt the same way or had similar thoughts. At first he said yes, but he continued to pressure me for sex. When we were no longer seeing each other after only four dates and weeks of good conversations. He apologized for moving too fast. We remained friends but I no longer want to stay in contact since he’s truly out just for casual sex and no commitments. He just started hurting my feelings and it’s not worth it. Friends wouldn’t play games like that. I need a break. 😢
Hmm he's too screwed up/too young to be looking for a full time relationship/settling down, with view to matrimony/family
Nothing wrong with sex for the sake of sex (and the resulting pleasure)! 🤣🤣🤣
"What is wrong with getting to know someone? I am really enjoying this and more is certainly coming your way, but I really want to respect you and what we have going. It is meaning more and more to me everyday."
It sounds great. However, once the boundary is set and you give him something to work toward, who says he isn't going to play the part to get what he wants and move on?
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Exactly, whether you withold or not, he may play along while he screws other willing partners. Then get his cake at the end and bounce. I feel just go with your instincts, if he still comes back, then BINGO.
I'd wait until we're exclusive to have that discussion! And yes, I do agree it should be a boyfriend privilege!
I did this with the guy I'm talking to and it worked.
I use the term.... that chat is boyfriend privilege and we are nowhere near that yet
My favorite thing I've read in the comments is "that is a boyfriend level privilege and we're not there yet."
I'm going to be using that
Both my parents are from the medical background and I've had a couple of guys weird out on me the fact that I wanted to get an STD test and I've even said we can go together and to get the test. I just want to make sure we're both clean before we get there. Once we get the clear test result then we can plan a nice weekend to have this properly. Lost soooo many guys at that point. It's not like I'm accusing them of being horn dogs or whatever. I just don't want whoever he was with before affecting our possible future. Because STDs can be so much worse for women, when they're not that big a deal for guys.
So many uneducated males out there trying to get some ass and even some nice guys they just don't understand that that's a level of respecting myself and protecting the relationship.
i thought the same and thx for letting me know i am not the only one hhhh
@@JayeVoyaging l always ask men to take a full STD panel test when they start asking for sex because men who are only looking for sex won’t bother taking one and it weeds out men who are only looking for sex.
This is how it should be done
I am like you. First test results, then we set the date.
In NYC, many guys had told me that no one had made that request...sad to hear.
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I was asked what kind of relationship I'm looking for in the 1st week we met - My answer : "I am not looking for a relationship cause I'm not ready - just coming out from an abusive one - but a friend, at this time, would be nice" Thing is, though, he continued making sexual remarks & I had to tell him to "stop cause it made me uncomfortable to answer him, & if he wants to still be friends"!
I like coffee dates. LOTS of them. We talk & find out our interests, what's important to us, personal goals, & long range plans. I always tell the man: "Something about you fascinates me. I want to hear all your stories." THAT'S when he reveals himself. I keep it going. " I like listening to you & I appreciate learning about you. Could we do this again next week?" You don't have to be alone with a man in order to get him addicted to you. When the topic of sex comes up, " A connection like that is forged in a spiritual bond. I really can't imagine anything else." At that point, neither will he. # Marriage is the ultimate sex.
Thank you for sharing this! I just started an online long distance relationship. I want to make sure that we don't get so caught up in our chemistry that other areas don't grow as well. I will be using your advice.. I love the approach. ❤️ Fingers crossed it works out since I really like this guy
@@jammiejams1319 How long was the distance? Did it work out?
Really great advice. I like the approach. It makes it easier and more doable for women to say what we need to say regarding that particular issue. Women hate to reject guys they like and sometimes we may not know how to say what we really need to say. And sometimes we aren’t used to having to do that. Thank you for another great video.
Not really dear...cuz some pretend even though they really like the guy... I knew one girl then in college who had a crush on me,she didn't know I was aware..so I walked up to her one day and she acted so differently from what I expected...and I can still relate with some other experiences as well....
I think what perpetuates this is that some of the women they've talked to in the past were okay or down with the early sexual talk so they think they can talk like this with all women which is a huge mistake
I hate when you’ve set the boundaries and they think you’re “playing hard to get”….
I love this one. This is my problem all the time. Thank you for sharing 🙏🌸
Wow, thank you for this formula!! It’s very simple, easy as powerful.
I would like to also learn of the 4 Types of connections (Physical, Mental, Emotional, Spiritual) & how a relationship evolves from 1 to the others.
Thank you very much!! I’ve learned so much from your channel. Lessons, Advise that your mother never taught you growing up in forming a romantic relationship 🙏🙏
I met someone online ,and we chatted for a while then he invited me out but in his house I asked him why his house and he made an excuse of "corona" and he said " I'll just pick you we hang out ,watch a movie smoke shisha well I dont smoke shisha " I thought about it and I was like "ok o trusted him and due to what he said made sense but after we reach his house he was nice respectful for an hour or so then after he started making advances I felt uncomfortable and I asked him to drop me home or I take taxi which he did and I blocked him right after I came out of his car and I unmatched him In Tinder
85% of men on Tinder are there just for sex what I have experienced in 2016 and the testimonials that I have read .
I thought Tinder was for hookups??? I just started dating after 27 years. I always meet these guys in a public place for a few times and that after chatting/talking with them for months.
@@Joy-mm3cz Tinder is also just for dating or getting to know someone
@@Lana.a_ See, I’m so out of the loop. Lol
@@zegemishemagdalene9639 Nigerian I guess
It takes time for me to really be open when it comes to sex. I need to feel comfortable with a guy.. this is what I would say
"We can talk more about that when we get closer"
Best advice I heard so far. Thanks.
Your advices are always helpful
I don’t need help
@@essienisaac2106 yes please .Keep moving please
This is great. I really needed the language to set boundaries
My answer to this kind is...if you feel the conversation is getting into a little bit on that situation, but not really suggesting directly into that matter, you can divert into a more interesting things to discuss with...
But if he goes on with, then maybe you can directly tell him that you're not into that kind YET...AND be direct of what you like and what you don't...if he is a good man and really interested on you, then he will respect...but he doesn't, then cut it out...
Great advise!
Said all of those and he asked me “Are you playing hard to get?”
I'm slightly different because of being an energy healer and aware of the spiritual ties and entity possession that occurs through sex too. So I'm looking for someone who is willing to wait until we are sure about marriage. This would ideally be easier within my own faith, but men are men I've realised and so still looking. I just tell them nothing before marriage and they all go cold 😂 more time for self healing and trying to figure out financial abundance and joy in the meantime, eh?
It’s biblical that of the ties
The Bible tells to wait till marriage
I usually say " Calm down it's to early for that or relax we're not at that point yet..!! " Especially if we just met...!!
I do one better. First of all, I make coffee dates with him for awhile. I want to know if we're even on the same wavelength. AND I make sure that we're never alone. If he mentions it, I say, " Casey, I would love to be alone with you, but that would be unwise. I'm attracted to you & you THINK that you would hold me off, but no, let's not put that to the test." Men like a woman who speaks in logical terms, even when he's being told no.
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Nice tips or advice.
I keep saying no to them for my sanity.
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Loved your example!
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Be watchful of the red flags!!!!! Be careful pay attention 🙏🏾🤎awesome Video !!!!
Thanks for the advice !
The Bible says to wait till marriage
Exactly
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Both people over 50, both people have been celibate for 9-12 years. Go with the flow?
I think each situation is different. If you've been communicating for 4-5 months & are in different states (geographically) does this change things if both partners feel they want to connect on all levels & already have done so except the physical?
Wonderful advices thanks Matt
Thanks friend
I used the Phrase...
Hey I am so into you and I would love to do all sorts of stuff with you...
But I don't do that early on when I don't know you and no idea if you want an actual relationship.
Let's get to know each other and let's see if our intentions are the same.
Coz I want a relationship not One Night Stand nor FWB.
Think About It.
Let me know when you do.
Goodnight 🙂
He said “why won’t you test drive a car before you buy it?” How do I even respond?
I'm not desperate to buy ! Especially if it's going to make me unhappy down the road.
Thank you for your great advice and input! I love your videos! I have to ask if you have had sex with a man and wanted a relationship yet he was interested in another woman. You set your boundaries clear and it worked! He is choosing you. But what do you do if youve now lost attraction to him because of all the extra drama and hurts from it?
Block and forget.I could never be a second option
Kick him to the curb. Tell him your interest could not outlast his interest in the other woman. Guys like him do not deserve the kid gloves treatment. Delete him from your phone and your life.
I’m only 18 n the reason why I’m here is because I just met this guy online but I told him before that I was not ready for a relationship due to past experiences, but he’s still trying to convince me that we shld be. We played 21 questions n instead of asking things about me he’d ask sexual questions
I immediately shut it down n made it clear that I was uncomfortable but a few days later he’s still trying to test the water
Run 🏃🏾♀️ 💨
Run fast!
@@1maybeline I’m 20 now, I can’t even remember making this comment but I dropped him that same year and now I’m engaged to the kindest soul
Delete him from your phone; you should have no further communication with him.
its a double edged sword. Im a male and i was dating this woman that presented to be the type that would only show that type of interest once they got you commited and take things slowly but i found out she wasnt as reserved with other people and im not talking the past as in years ago but weeks ago. I know not all women are like that and they hold their values but its really hard to trust people.
Love the video!! 😉 ❤️
Thanks Mat 🙏🏻
I have my LDR,but he didn't ask for nude pictures. He always made a call when go went shopping, visiting with her daughter. He introduced me to his friends. From now we are happy.. He asked me something private part, I told him that I served for my future husband. He is says that he is my future husband... After that he didn't ask again but our relationship still great, from now. I hope is he my real soumate.
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Thank you SO much!
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I say: „I have a habit of taking things slow. Do we share this habit?“
the issue with stating this is getting to SEXUAL for me if he asks you to go to his place or yours is he will question why you think him asking that means he wants sex and there is a high potential for him to get defensive. Watch how he responds - or don't use the word sexual in that exact scenario. I think that some men really want to get to know you and might also get turned off by you making the assumption he wants sex. He might at that point want to only create an OPPORTUNITY for sex, so be very clear about how you feel about this.
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Whatzap him immediately..
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Great advice
This is exactly what John Gray has been saying for ages!
Isn’t he that black preacher who cheated on his wife?
@@klickingkayasmr7585 No, thats Derrick Jaxn.
John Gray is the author of and Men are from Mars and women are from Venus.
@@klickingkayasmr7585 No. Guy who wrote Men are from Mars and women from Venus!
I met one of my school friend after so long and just few days after the conversation he proposed me. I was surprised and made him clear that I don't feel the same sorry . Later he convinced me for relationship.
I was prep. for competitive exam so I made him clear abt my priorities. Since it was my 1st relationship being immature I didn't knew much about relations and to my surprise I found him getting me involved in sexual chat on phone and trying to convince me for sex to build trust in relationship. He was actually a toxic person and so I ended the relationship asap getting to know his intentions.
Hi Mat,
I'd say I feel a connection to you but I'd like to get to know you better first. Do you still want to go out on Saturday. Thanks Mat, great advice. Just be honest and lay it on the line xxx 💝
I’ve definitely found that when A woman introduces the notion of comfort ability. I back off of anything sexual in respect to her boundaries.
At 60+, I have found that going right to a sexual flirting conversation is very normal…even if we aren’t going to have sex right away…it’s like, why waste time, and it’s a great way to find out if ultimately we will be compatible…
In this situation right now, my own fault. But I already told him sex in a relationship. And set the boundary again it was too early talk. Thanks for this video, exactly what I needed
Thanks, Mat for everything - what do you mean when you say men form spiritual connections with women?
Thanks Mat.
Very nice
How can you set boundaries when you don’t know them yet.
Im fine having sex if he genuinely likes me as a person but i dont know if he does or not so my boundaries very much depend on his intentions
How can i pre set them???
I believe having to halt them is a red flag. All my exes who took me serious and committed to me never brought up sexual things until way later, monthS
Wonderful
What is too early? First time meeting?
What if you do want to just have sex too…but he rarely responds when I am interested in hooking up…?
I said I just want to get to know you better. His response was I understand.
I tried this but they usually say they really find early sex important 😂
The response I use is Are you out of your mind .
I struggle with messages that say: babe, gorgeous...I have not even met the guy and these kind of stuffs somehow indicate that his approach is just for one purpose (maynI am overreacting or might be that I am not native speaker)
Any thoughts?
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i agree
What if a man you were involved with 20 years ago remembers every little detail of the first time you were together and wants to see you again
That was then, this is now. You have spiritual goals & seeking the same. Re-connect over coffee a few times. You'll find out if you're the path of least resistance, or is there a genuine interest that's growing.
You too??? Something must be in the air...
Look...maybe me it is the first one from Iraq following you... but please I hope you understand my problem. I raised up in a conservative house and I am Muslim. My fiance live outside Iraq... sometimes he asked for some flirtation a little bit like kisses or love talking. But I can't do it now because of my situation. So how can I treat this issue.
Glad to find this video..back in the dating world and always could use some refinement.
What if you’ve had sex on the second date but he’s still very expressive about him liking you a lot and wanting to see you again… do I stop having Sex with him? I wouldn’t say he’s overly sexual at all he even made sure I knew we didn’t have to if I didn’t want But I wanted toooo! I think it’s silly that I have to say no to sex to get a guy to care about me. I like sex to man. I don’t judge them for having sex with me to soon. Why do men do that?! Bs
Too late. You already went there,
I told the my man "we're not there yet" as we were just talking on the phone and still very new to each other. Followed by if he smells as good as he looks when the right time comes, I won't be able to keep my hands off of him. 😜
Never ever put out too early ladies. Things always change after the first time. Important convos never happen and will lead to disappointments, obsession and anxiety. This guy tried to get me to sleep with him I’ve know him for 4 weeks and he’s very Hot but I’m looking for long term marriage I really do not have time to exchange sexual energies for fun. I already have dudes for that if I wanted to hahahaha his Ego got hurt bad im making him get std tested too!!!
I hate when a guy does this, as soon as they start talking like that, I try to steer the conversation in another direction and then it goes back to sex, immediately, I will say It’s not a good idea that we talk anymore and I block him. I’ve had guys send me full explicit nudes the first day I meet them and talk to them. That is a guaranteed way of getting blocked.
If he gets too sexual just slap him and leave
😂😂😂 some deserve slaps pliz
I think you might be confusing me with the future me who has been on many more dates with you ;)”
This might not be good to say if the sexual advance is an inappropriate one. In that case say bye and block him. 😁...that’s what I had to do.
Oh, this line Matthew Hussey is great, isn’t it!
What about someone who has been a friend for so long - so you have the mental connection - then it turned sexual - (for me emotional) - and you spent a week together and have been talking for 2 months non sexually - as you had to leave back home ( we are long distance) - then he tells me he’s been thinking about me every night and can’t wait to jump on me etc when he sees me next (in a couple of months). I was worried his intentions are only sexual - what do you think? He said he wants me to video call with his family - but also mentioned many sexual things he can’t wait to do. Can I trust this?
Now I am dating in my early 40s I met 2 guys who wanna physical intimacy right at the beginning. I rejected so for one I ended up sexting every time. Now I like him and asked if he wanna hook up, but he refused lol… he told me at the beginning he didnt just want to have hookup but I didnt believe him because he wanted to meet at my place for the first meeting . Now I am offering it, he didnt even want to… 🤔do you think some guys wanna physical intimacy first when they like that girl? Or they think their physical intimacy can make the girl stay?
Some guys actually want something meaningful and don’t like women who just want to hook up. There are men who genuinely want a woman of substance. And perhaps he has good boundaries where he can meet privately in person without it immediately turning into something physical.
Lord I am grateful for this video!!!
I’ve been raped this way. Men think they are owed sex right away after like a day or two of first meeting him & listening to me talk for a while. It’s ridiculous. I don’t know him. And the moment i get to know him i find out i am attracting controlling narcissistic partners who are also abusive. Because my parents are that way. So that’s all i know subconsciously. I don’t seem to ever be around men who are good people i don’t know why. No matter how much i work on myself i feel i may never find a healthy partner who waits for me
You will!
Dear Mat, I think I trapped... I have this guy-friend. He's handsome, he is kind, I like him a lot. We both like hanging out, I feel so comfortable around him. He told me that he is not looking for a relationship because he is not ready. I WANT HIM TO BE READY. The problem is, that I feel like I am waiting for nim to turn around and look at me as a girlfriend material. But he is giving me mixed signals... Do you think I should just leave, or stop initiating meetings? Yes, mainly I am The one which initiates contact and he like a it, but he is more responsive than active in this relation. I think that I am losing respect :( Love, Natt
Oh, I found your video "he's just not that into you". Got it ❤
Whatzap him immediately..
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It sounds like he’s stringing you along. There is a channel called Karine Alourde, and she’s also very insightful. I was in a situation like this, once. Not anymore!
I should've watched this video 5 days ago. I straight snapped, demoted, insulted, and rejected this man. Smdh...damn.
That's a bit too soon lol after the first date lol. Some ppl are just players another notch on the belt. Be direct is what you're saying. I prefer making love and the emotional connection I prefer it with someone I love I don't want something It's just sex and it's not meaningful not interested in that why am I watching these lol Maybe cuz it's informative? I've learned plenty from life as well,but love learning new tools
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I would be honest and forward and say im not interested because we started to get to know each other and all you want to do is use me for sex. Take care and move on and you just walk away.
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Sex with no intimacy is just sex. Create intimacy first otherwise you will get stuck in the sex only zone.
I don’t understand why some men feel like it’s okay to be super vulgar. I do block them but I’m just curious as to why? You ruined any chance you had to get to know me. I know I dodged a bullet but being vulgar and too forward is incredibly unattractive and disrespectful.
I met a guy on a dating site. And i like him, he looks nice but mentions about cuddling then kissing and then sexual thingy. But mentions of planning life in the future and coming over to visit and marriage. Its mix honestly but i dont know the real or true intentions of this british man. 🤷🏻♀️
Hey same I don't know what to do
Well each couple's situation is dramatically different. Just trust your gut not this "apply to all situations" strategy..
Its creepy and disgusting if an unattractive man wants sex and any point in any relationship... All women think that